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Speaker 1: This is Let's be clear, who's Shannon Dohrny? Well, Hi everybody,

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Speaker 1: my name is Brooke Burke, and I just want to

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Speaker 1: kick things off by saying hello to all of the

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Speaker 1: Let's be clear listeners. This is a really special opportunity

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Speaker 1: for me because I consider Shannon to be a friend,

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Speaker 1: a forever friend, and I want to take I guess

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Speaker 1: a short and sentimental walk down memory lane with all

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Speaker 1: due respect and just a love for this community that

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Speaker 1: has continued to stay on board and to connect and

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Speaker 1: to supports. It was really honored when Shannon's producers reached

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Speaker 1: out to me and asked me to do this podcast,

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Speaker 1: So it was a very easy yes for me and

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Speaker 1: I I was laying in bed last night really thinking

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Speaker 1: about my relationship with Shannon and where this could go,

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Speaker 1: and what I have to offer all of you, and

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Speaker 1: how I can make you smile and yet still honor her.

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Speaker 1: And it was a little bit of a sentimental journey

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Speaker 1: that I took down the road last night. But let

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Speaker 1: me just start with a little bit about me in

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Speaker 1: case you don't know who I am. Shannon and I

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Speaker 1: were both born in nineteen seventy one. I'm also a

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Speaker 1: cancer survivor, so I feel particularly connected to just raising

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Speaker 1: awareness and being an advocate for women's health, and particularly

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Speaker 1: connected to her in her journey. I'm also a mother

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Speaker 1: of four actually now six because I have some step children,

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Speaker 1: and I did have the privilege of spending time with

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Speaker 1: Shannon and her mother, and I'll tell you about that

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Speaker 1: a little bit later, but their relationship really touched me

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Speaker 1: as a mother and a daughter. Witnessing their bond and

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Speaker 1: their connection, it was really really beautiful, which is I

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Speaker 1: think what initially started my friendship with Shannon. But we

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Speaker 1: have a lot in common. Actually, I mean she was

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Speaker 1: sort of the bad all of the nineties. That wasn't me.

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Speaker 1: But I did a host a wildly popular series called

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Speaker 1: wild on On around that same time in life, so

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Speaker 1: our paths crossed many, many, many times. And I just

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Speaker 1: want to say that it's an honor to be here

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Speaker 1: to connect with all of you, and hopefully I can

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Speaker 1: honor her as well. We have a lot of mutual friends.

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Speaker 1: I live in Malibu, and she definitely represented all things

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Speaker 1: about this small hometown that we share and that we

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Speaker 1: love and dinners at NOBU. We have mutual friends. I

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Speaker 1: met Shannon and her mom at a studio that I

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Speaker 1: used to teach fitness classes called Dance Star here in Malabu,

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Speaker 1: and I remember knowing her admiring her, following her journey,

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Speaker 1: following her very controversial celebrity life, and being in the

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Speaker 1: business myself, I never really took any of that to

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Speaker 1: And I want to just go on the record to

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Speaker 1: say that Shannon was everything that her reputation was not.

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Speaker 1: And I say that with a giggle. And she and

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Speaker 1: I have had many conversations about how crazy this entertainment

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Speaker 1: business is, but being in it, I know how to

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Speaker 1: separate truth from reality. So I want to tell you

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Speaker 1: a little bit about how I know Shannon and what

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Speaker 1: the relationship was like and who she really was just

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Speaker 1: as a girl and a woman, because I never really

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Speaker 1: knew her as a celebrity. I only know Shannon as

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Speaker 1: my Malibu kind of HOMEI and who she was and

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Speaker 1: what she represented. She is so kind, she was so compassionate,

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Speaker 1: so connected to her mother. She was a fantastic daughter

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Speaker 1: and friend. She was a fantastic partner to our wonderful

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Speaker 1: mutual friend Chriscurtazo that we have they were actually sort

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Speaker 1: of married in many ways innocently, because well, that's a

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Speaker 1: whole other story. I won't even get into that. But

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Speaker 1: if you know Chris Kurtaso, you know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: She was sort of his day wife and lover of

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Speaker 1: how I knew Shannon, and I wish that I would

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Speaker 1: have spent more time with her, and I wish I

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Speaker 1: would have carved out that time in life and in business.

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Speaker 1: We were both wildly busy, and I think we would

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Speaker 1: have been very, very, very very good friends. She's somebody

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Speaker 1: that I really responded to in so many different ways.

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Speaker 1: But going back about I don't know, a decade or

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Speaker 1: And I love that. I'm raising four daughters. I tried

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Speaker 1: And then I really admired the relationship that she had

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Speaker 1: like already in it in her her cancer struggle and journey,

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Speaker 1: and I loved that she was ever a victim. I

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Speaker 1: love that she just fought the fight, sometimes silently, sometimes

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Speaker 1: she surrounded herself with a very small, intimate inner circle,

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Speaker 1: deep friends that were real friends, like Chris. In my opinion,

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Speaker 1: the relationship with her mother, which is invaluable and unconditional

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Speaker 1: her I'm also a daughter to a woman that I

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Speaker 1: share the same type of relationship with who is like

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Speaker 1: my ride or died with me through thick and thin,

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Speaker 1: has loved me unconditionally and supported everything I've ever done

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Speaker 1: in my career, both good and bad. I know Shannon

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Speaker 1: can relate to that, and Mama too, if you're listening.

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Speaker 1: I really admired that. And we also had the same

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Speaker 1: doctor that guided us through our cancer journey. His name

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Speaker 1: sneakers to be compy chargers. I've got plastics, credit cards.

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Speaker 1: You're going to need them when the shit goes down here.

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Speaker 1: I've been displaced for weeks at a time time here

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Speaker 1: they're not going to talk to you. Have access to

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Speaker 1: all your banks, like, have everything in order. I have

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Speaker 1: so many people who find themselves in an unexpected situation

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Speaker 1: a purposeful plan. We need it. I went through it,

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Speaker 1: I have all my documents, all my account numbers, all

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Speaker 1: insurance cards for my kids to when they need something.

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Speaker 1: I pull up in ten seconds, here's my kid album.

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Speaker 1: Pulls up Boom or here you go, Shire, or here

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Speaker 1: you go Sarah or Rain? You lost? This so easy

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Speaker 1: saving grace right here you can organize everyone. I'm so

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Speaker 1: honored to be able to do this podcast. I'm so

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Speaker 1: honored to be able to take a walk down memory

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Speaker 1: laying with Shannon mad respect for her, I miss her.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you reach out to people you love. Make

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Speaker 1: sure you book that lunch, make sure you call your mom,

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Speaker 1: make sure you call your friend. Don't wait. Life is

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Speaker 1: so precious. We don't know what's going to happen. I

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Speaker 1: don't believe them. Should have, could have, would of. So

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Speaker 1: sure every day is precious. Make sure you share your

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Speaker 1: love and open your heart no matter what you're going through.

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Speaker 1: Don't hold on to loving feelings. You got to open

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Speaker 1: your heart so you can receive more love and give

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Speaker 1: did that, So thank you everybody for listening to this

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Speaker 1: episode of Let's Be Clear. I can only hope my

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Speaker 1: stories have inspired you in some way. I wish you

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Speaker 1: all lots of love, deep deep, deep love, and health

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Speaker 1: and wellness and healing. I'm really easy to find. I

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Speaker 1: have a wellness app. It's called Brook Broke Body. The

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Speaker 1: first week is even free. I do a digital meetup

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Speaker 1: where we can connect. We can do Q and as.

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Speaker 1: I have an incredible community of like minded people, mostly women,

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Speaker 1: but also men. If you're looking for a way to start,

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Speaker 1: if you don't know where to begin, if you're a

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Speaker 1: woman like me, and maybe you don't even love fitness,

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Speaker 1: I do. If you're in your forties, if you're in

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Speaker 1: a fifties, if you're struggling with menopause, let me be

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Speaker 1: your homegirl. Let me show you how to train your body,

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Speaker 1: how to meet your body, how to fuel your body.

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Speaker 1: I have an incredible community at brook Broke Body, and

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Speaker 1: we connect. We do yoga, we do mindfulness, we do breathwork, meditation,

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Speaker 1: body sculpting. That's the easy part. The fitness part of

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Speaker 1: what I do is really easy. But most importantly, we

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Speaker 1: have a community. That's where I reconnected with Shannon and

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Speaker 1: her mom. I teach classes, I do digital meetups, I

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Speaker 1: do live streams. I'm really easy to find. You can

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Speaker 1: find me on Brookbork dot com. You can find me

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Speaker 1: on social media at brook Work, you can find me

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Speaker 1: at brook Bork Body. But most importantly, you can be

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Speaker 1: part of my community that's built on love and mindfulness

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Speaker 1: and intentional wellness. So follow me, dm me, reach out

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Speaker 1: to me. I would love to connect. I'd love to

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Speaker 1: help you on your journey. I'd love to continue to

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Speaker 1: share stories because my stories become part of your stories,

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Speaker 1: and your stories will become part of mine. And I

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Speaker 1: love that possibility of connecting. It's sort of a sisterhood, right,

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Speaker 1: It's a language that we speak as women. So I

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Speaker 1: would love to know you. So reach out to me.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for listening, thank you for connecting, and thank

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Speaker 1: you for continuing to support Shannon and her family. She

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Speaker 1: deserves that, and we're also worthy of just carrying on

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Speaker 1: this legacy. I have a beautiful day, everybody. Bye,