WEBVTT - His Mouth was a Vibrator

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<v Speaker 1>Here it is the groove slightly transformed, just a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a break from the norm, just.

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<v Speaker 2>A little something to break the monotony.

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<v Speaker 1>Of all that hardcore dance that it's gotten to be

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit out of control.

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<v Speaker 3>It's cool to dance.

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<v Speaker 1>But what about a groove the souves and moves romance.

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<v Speaker 1>Give me a soft, subtle mix. And if it ain't broken,

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<v Speaker 1>don't try to fix it, and think of the summers

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<v Speaker 1>of the past, or just the face and let the

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<v Speaker 1>Alpine last pop in my CEDDN. Let me run around

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<v Speaker 1>and put your car on cruise and lay back because

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<v Speaker 1>it's the summer time.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back for good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Mela, and this is episode sixty six.

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<v Speaker 3>Sixty six, sixty six. I think I'm pretty sure it is.

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<v Speaker 4>If we've been counting correctly, it is crazy, it is right, Wow,

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<v Speaker 4>sixty six sixty six recorded therapy session for.

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<v Speaker 2>Real, for real.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty proud. I'm proud too. Yeah, I'm happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I've done this. I've sat come to sit down

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<v Speaker 2>at this table sixty six times, well, sixty five because

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<v Speaker 2>one time we recorded somewhere else one time. But okay, oh, yeah, sure,

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<v Speaker 2>wait have we Yeah wait ware new.

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<v Speaker 3>York deep because York Wait right right, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm high. Either way, we sat somewhere, we sat down,

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<v Speaker 2>We used our brains, had intelligent conversations, also very high,

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<v Speaker 2>and we probably said a lot of dumb shit too.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but we put that all out on the internet.

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<v Speaker 2>So oh yeah, that's cool. That's cool. We also have

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<v Speaker 2>some new merch on our side, guys. We have our

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<v Speaker 2>new good Moms, Bad Choices, nameplate necklaces. They're so cute,

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<v Speaker 2>so cute. And I've been wearing wine every day. I've

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<v Speaker 2>gotten the I'm keep getting compliments on my Yeah. Also

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<v Speaker 2>they've like last really.

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<v Speaker 3>Well yeah's actually really nice quality, good quality. I'm into it.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been wearing working out in one ship. Yeah, not

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<v Speaker 2>really taking care of it.

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<v Speaker 4>Two guys asked me for bad choices and silver. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>we don't have silver?

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<v Speaker 3>Were they white?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>What's the bastian? You only wore silver?

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<v Speaker 2>Like, I don't like I don't think silver looks good

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<v Speaker 2>on me.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think silver looks good on brown people. I

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<v Speaker 4>mean it looks good.

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<v Speaker 3>I just like gold better. I'm just being extra gold

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<v Speaker 3>of the Pyramids.

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<v Speaker 2>I only love gold because it's African, pretty much of Africa.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, oh, so we haven't.

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<v Speaker 4>We have fucking been pre recording for so long that

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<v Speaker 4>we haven't even really discussed anything. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>We haven't even done a New York recap, which feels

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<v Speaker 2>like it happened so fucking long ago, because it did

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<v Speaker 2>and I barely remember it. It was such a blur. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>let me fill you in. Okay, recapy recap me.

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<v Speaker 3>It wasn't. Okay, it wasn't a blur.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't a blur. Okay. We did some really great interviews.

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<v Speaker 4>We did some really great interviews. If you have not

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<v Speaker 4>checked them out, you must. Mela's Dope. Alex Undone is

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<v Speaker 4>dope as fuck. Mela Murders Let's Talk Mother is coming

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<v Speaker 4>up if you're in La.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's on July seventh, and definitely go follow her

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<v Speaker 2>and also her community page on Instagram at Let's Talk

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<v Speaker 2>Mother so you can learn more about it. It's basically

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<v Speaker 2>like this amazing safe space that she creates for single

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<v Speaker 2>moms to come and just kind of like lay all

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<v Speaker 2>their shit out there. It's kid friendly. They're gonna have

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<v Speaker 2>like play shit for the kids, free it's free. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just like, if you feel like you just need to

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<v Speaker 2>relate to another mother, whether your single mom or not,

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<v Speaker 2>just come come because it's gonna be dope when we'll

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<v Speaker 2>be there.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, what else we do in New York? Okay, so

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<v Speaker 3>we met up in New York.

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<v Speaker 4>We obviously were trying to rage because that's what we do.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no kids, there's time for raging.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, and self care for us is raging. You know,

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<v Speaker 4>people coming here who does who don't know us. Everybody

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<v Speaker 4>has their own shit. Everybody's different, but for us, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>raging is a form of self care.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what we do.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know, not all the time, but we're ragers by nature.

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<v Speaker 4>Everybody may not rage.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't force it. If you're not a rager, don't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but honestly, I don't feel like raging all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>but when I do, we do do it.

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<v Speaker 3>We had a Oh, we had a dope little meetup.

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<v Speaker 4>We had a couple of moms come out shout out

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<v Speaker 4>to our friends that came to see us.

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<v Speaker 3>That was really cool. We had. We went to a

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<v Speaker 3>dope ass.

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<v Speaker 4>Bar, the Honeywell in Harlem. We had some friends meet us.

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<v Speaker 4>We oh yeah, I forgot.

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<v Speaker 3>Anthony met us smold people.

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<v Speaker 4>Then we walked to Red Rooster and continued to get

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<v Speaker 4>done first meeting it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, I love Red Rooster. I was so excited to

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<v Speaker 2>bring you guys there. I'm so glad. It was like

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<v Speaker 2>a dope night ycause they have like some other nights

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<v Speaker 2>are cool, but like that night specifically is the one

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<v Speaker 2>I always go to. And it's just like, I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>if you guys live in New York, you know Red

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<v Speaker 2>Rooster and Harlem, like they have the live music, live singing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just it's just good energy.

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<v Speaker 3>Everybody was super talented who just picked up the mic?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and then you just pop over to Salavanas and

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<v Speaker 2>do some weird shit in there normally.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and that's what we did. That's exactly what we did.

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<v Speaker 4>And it was like it was like a Monday night.

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<v Speaker 4>The moms kicked it. I'm coming, baby, I'm coming.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh. And then to top it off, we had seafood.

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<v Speaker 2>Your mom's right here.

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<v Speaker 4>We had seafood in Harlem, a twenty four our seafood place,

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<v Speaker 4>which you know, my fat ass goes to religiously every ding.

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<v Speaker 2>It was bomb.

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<v Speaker 3>It's bomb. What was that place?

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<v Speaker 4>Called. It was like, I can't remember when a Spanish

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<v Speaker 4>name or yeah it's bomb.

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<v Speaker 3>What else did we do?

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<v Speaker 2>I also fell in love that night.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you had like a little serious makeout session. When

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<v Speaker 4>Erica falls in love, she sees nothing else.

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<v Speaker 3>She sees rat. She only sees It's like tunnel visions

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<v Speaker 3>that person, is it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>That so okay. So we went to Harlem bar. We

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<v Speaker 4>walked to another bar because someone had to charge their phone.

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<v Speaker 4>Remember that, not a shot and a phone charge. Then

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<v Speaker 4>we went to Red Rooster BUGGI down. And then I

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<v Speaker 4>think somewhere between the the charging spot and Red Rooster

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<v Speaker 4>we met.

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<v Speaker 2>I met at the charging spot from the shot was

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<v Speaker 2>the charging spot before after Red Rooster.

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<v Speaker 3>After okay, so it was Red Rooster the charging spot.

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<v Speaker 4>And then we went to Silvana's and along the way

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<v Speaker 4>she picked up the love of her life of that night.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't think I saw her.

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<v Speaker 2>I like looked I apparently remember he told me that

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<v Speaker 2>he was adopted, he was raised by two white parents.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a lawyer.

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<v Speaker 2>His name was his name? I already forgot it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't remember. Fuck he was a lawyer. Though he

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<v Speaker 3>was a.

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<v Speaker 2>Lawyer and he was going to Spain. He was gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be in France when I was there. Then we text

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<v Speaker 2>a few times. Then he just stopped texting me. So

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<v Speaker 2>we're divorced already.

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<v Speaker 3>This is w I was like, I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I was so confused though. I thought he like he

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<v Speaker 2>was the one adamant about I saw you're gonna give

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<v Speaker 2>me your number, and I'm like, he asked me a

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<v Speaker 2>few times and I was like, okay, and then maybe

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<v Speaker 2>he lost his phone. I don't know what the fuck.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't stand these.

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<v Speaker 3>I know guys are dead. My grandmother said they're dance

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<v Speaker 3>and that's accurate.

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<v Speaker 2>They're so dense their brain is this? I just can't.

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<v Speaker 2>If anyone saw my rant the other day on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 2>I later wondered like, oh my god, what the men

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<v Speaker 2>that would listen to my rant? Like do they think

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<v Speaker 2>I met man bashing? Yes? The answers yes, because you

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<v Speaker 2>guys are dumb, you have smart my son. Then I

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<v Speaker 2>started thinking, when I was thinking really deep into this,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, what about the women that listen that

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<v Speaker 2>have sons talking shit about their future adult men? I

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<v Speaker 2>mean they have I stop.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh can you close that door for me too?

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<v Speaker 2>Please?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I mean I thought about that it's easy for

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<v Speaker 4>us to bash men because we don't have daughters.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I literally thought about that.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, but you know, I did think about

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<v Speaker 3>I was.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, well, hopefully they're teaching their sons not to do

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<v Speaker 2>this dumb shit.

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<v Speaker 4>I also thought, Damn, I don't want lit they keep

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<v Speaker 4>hearing me say, God, men are dumb, gus. Men are

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<v Speaker 4>fucking stupid, stupid. I say it all the time because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, they're dumb. But then I'm like, damn, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>going to program her to just.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not dumb. Okay, first of all, let me break

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<v Speaker 2>this down for you. Are obviously they're smart. Okay, obviously

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<v Speaker 2>like they you know, they can whole job some ship

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<v Speaker 2>we take out the We know what's their dumb They

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<v Speaker 2>know what the dumb part of men is. Not all men,

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<v Speaker 2>but most and it's almost not even their fault. Emotional intelligence.

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<v Speaker 2>That's where it is, and that's what we are talking about. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>when I say a man is done, that's what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>talking about, the emotional intelligence. And don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of emotionally unintelligent women out there, for sure,

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<v Speaker 2>am I am I like the most emotionally intelligent person. No,

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<v Speaker 2>but am I emotionally intelligent? Yeah, I would say I am.

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<v Speaker 2>But I just feel like I don't know if society

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<v Speaker 2>has fucked them over. I don't know how it's an undoing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it just starts with like the mothers Now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's all it's on us.

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<v Speaker 4>The patriarchy, making them think that they just have to

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<v Speaker 4>exist and not do much else.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, factor New York.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, I broke my celibacy maybe a couple of days,

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<v Speaker 4>shy of six months.

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<v Speaker 3>With the young bag because I'm weak and men have

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<v Speaker 3>magical powers. Those powers are called dick.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean I'm cool with that decision. I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>to go back to it now. I'm got some active crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>Now I'm back on, back on. I'm cool with being

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<v Speaker 4>celibate again. I feel like I had a good ten

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<v Speaker 4>days and now I crack.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you sound like. I binged for ten days straight,

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<v Speaker 2>never left, and now I'm sober again. Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, pretty much.

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<v Speaker 2>I have not had sex and I don't. The thing

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<v Speaker 2>is is, like I think I for me, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>not putting it. I'm not saying I'm celibate because but

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<v Speaker 2>I I am, but I am, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think also I'm not opposed to having sex.

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<v Speaker 2>I just actually don't want to have any for the

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<v Speaker 2>first time. And like since I probably have really been single,

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<v Speaker 2>like pretty much my my singleness was like navigated through sex,

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<v Speaker 2>Like that's what I that's what I craved, that's what

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like I needed. After my relationship, I kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like remembered that how much I enjoy it again

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<v Speaker 2>because I wasn't really like fulfilling like my I wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>fulfilled sexually all the way. So I just think that

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<v Speaker 2>that's where I've been and now I'm in a place

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<v Speaker 2>now where it just feels like I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 2>a waste to just be giving my sex away lately.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's not that I'm down, I'm DTF okay, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just want I'm hard just like giving it away casually.

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<v Speaker 2>And and you guys know, like I don't. If you're

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<v Speaker 2>doing that right now, fucking go for that whatever, that's

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<v Speaker 2>totally cool. It's just I'm not in that space right now.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you have to be in a space for it,

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<v Speaker 4>and you have to recognize if you're in this because

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<v Speaker 4>it's it's what you need at that moment, or if

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<v Speaker 4>you do, then when I start.

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<v Speaker 2>When it starts hurting, that's when you know, maybe you're

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<v Speaker 2>not in that space anymore. Maybe the space isn't right

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<v Speaker 2>for you anymore because you want something more or different,

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<v Speaker 2>or it's not it's not doing what it was before.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because even even participating will you know, like with

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<v Speaker 4>Young Bay, after like like consciously making decision not to

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<v Speaker 4>do it, I mean, there was some disappointment, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>like not like I obviously knew what I signed myself

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<v Speaker 4>up for, but I was like, damn, what should I

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<v Speaker 4>have done that?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, like you're I'm gonna leave here, You're still

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<v Speaker 3>gonna be fucking.

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<v Speaker 4>Other bitches and like not that, Like it's not that

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<v Speaker 4>I own him, but it was just like it was

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<v Speaker 4>it made me feel like it was really casual and

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<v Speaker 4>it wasn't for me, you know what I'm saying. And

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<v Speaker 4>of course I know like we love each other, but

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<v Speaker 4>I was just like, I'm a Christian, I'm waiting to marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel you, I mean and I have. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not that I'm not hooking up with not like

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<v Speaker 2>making out or doing other things.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I'm a maker outer I will make out

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<v Speaker 3>out out.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm down to me that tongue. Yeah, I met out

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<v Speaker 4>with a bartender. I met out with the guy I

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<v Speaker 4>met at the Hookah restaurant. I was making out.

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<v Speaker 3>But anything past that just seems too much.

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<v Speaker 2>Although there is someone that I've been thinking of, I

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<v Speaker 2>think I need to just vibrating tongue, vibrating mouth.

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<v Speaker 3>So Erica called me Melord of Town.

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<v Speaker 4>And she's like, oh, you know, we're talking about sex

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<v Speaker 4>because that's what we do. And she's like, I had

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<v Speaker 4>some great sex last night.

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<v Speaker 3>It was amazing. His tongue was fine.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I said, wait, I didn't even have sex.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yes, I thought, because.

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<v Speaker 2>I keep whenever I talk about the story, I keep

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<v Speaker 2>saying that I've had sex, But then I remember I

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<v Speaker 2>have sex.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just like oral and like and everything else.

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<v Speaker 4>So one of my greatest, one of our greatest quotes

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<v Speaker 4>ever I think of our friendship is bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, girls like us, Girls like us.

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<v Speaker 4>So like like in booty holes and playing in butts,

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<v Speaker 4>and we're nasty, like to be choked.

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<v Speaker 3>We can't just settle for anybody. We can't.

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<v Speaker 4>This is everybody. Everybody's not gonna get it and we

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<v Speaker 4>deserve to be with someone who understands us sexually. And

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, whoah, true.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's just true. I don't want to admit it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think like after that experience, I was like, what, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not giving up for a mediocre ass penis or

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<v Speaker 2>any or medio grass.

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<v Speaker 4>Mouth or goals like like, I'm not goals, Like I

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<v Speaker 4>don't I don't want too many boundaries.

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<v Speaker 2>You had many boundaries.

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<v Speaker 3>You need to be free, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And of course, like you don't have to like everything,

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<v Speaker 2>but at least try try it, try it. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>his mouth vibrated like, oh my god, his mouth is

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<v Speaker 2>a vibrator, like I've never he was singing. He was

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<v Speaker 2>sinking to my vagina.

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<v Speaker 3>I know he's also an R and B singer. They

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<v Speaker 3>shut up. That is so general. Nobody knows that could

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<v Speaker 3>be anyone. David.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm never liking one photo of his ever again.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I mean, I'm just kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>No one's following.

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<v Speaker 3>What They just follow some other R and B s

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<v Speaker 3>What the fuck?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, he is an ARMB singer. And he literally was

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<v Speaker 2>like like the vibrato it was like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>it was like the sound was like I was trying

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<v Speaker 2>to show someone like on my hand, like what it

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<v Speaker 2>what it was, But I still don't really know how

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<v Speaker 2>he did it. It was like, no, it wasn't even

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<v Speaker 2>the tongue, girl, it was his like lips were like,

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<v Speaker 2>give me wait?

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<v Speaker 3>Was he making it? Nois? Yes, he was singing.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, sound was coming out of his mouth. Dud. Did

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<v Speaker 3>it sound good?

0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.800
<v Speaker 2>And just so like that sound good? But this isn't

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<v Speaker 2>gonna sound good. I'm not an ARMB singer. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>feel the vibration?

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<v Speaker 5>Though?

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<v Speaker 2>It was even stronger than that. So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>What's gonna make me try to teach my niggas how

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<v Speaker 3>to do that. Let me, let me, let me showed me.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm gonna come get it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's gonna be me. Try to show my niggas, like,

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<v Speaker 3>let me show you what I need you to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop that that was good. I felt it. I felt it. Okay, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>get home or if you're in the car driving right now,

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<v Speaker 2>put your hand to in a circular show. I put

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<v Speaker 2>it on your like the back of your your hand

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<v Speaker 2>and just go. Actually, now I feel it. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>vibration and that's what he was doing.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, you're gonna have all of us out here single,

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<v Speaker 4>because no one does that. Let me searching for this

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<v Speaker 4>kind of vibrating, singing mouth, and it's gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've been dreaming of that ever since. And I honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, when we hooked up, I told him that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not having sex right now, and he was cool

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<v Speaker 2>with it, and then when he was vibrating and singing

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<v Speaker 2>to it, I was like, fuck this, I'm about to

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<v Speaker 2>have sex. I don't give a fuck. I don't care

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<v Speaker 2>what I say, and he wouldn't. He was like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>you said no, then stick to that. And he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>just let me, please, you just let me just enjoy this.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like what, I love how this sounds,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, and also made me like kind of angry

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, I'm like I don't like to be

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<v Speaker 2>told no. And but then it turned me on even

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<v Speaker 2>more and I was like, oh my god, so there's

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<v Speaker 2>I might have sex. I just don't. I'm just not

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<v Speaker 2>even even then even like, well I probably would've had

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<v Speaker 2>he said no, but I just don't not really in

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<v Speaker 2>that space right now.

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<v Speaker 4>So yeah, I took a lot of advice from Daphney's

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<v Speaker 4>episode and just realizing I'm just not about the open

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<v Speaker 4>relationship life and I'm not about like I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not about dating because obviously you have to date.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about dating for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I just but I know I'm not afraid to

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<v Speaker 4>tell someone like long time, I want like a long

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<v Speaker 4>term partnership, like kind of like monogamous.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you say that on like the like very soon

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<v Speaker 2>into like the first few dates.

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<v Speaker 4>If I felt like it's someone that I could see

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<v Speaker 4>a potential with, yeah, m if it's someone I don't

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<v Speaker 4>even care about, I'll be like, yeah, whatever, I'm just

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<v Speaker 4>not called.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're not scared that that might scare the person

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<v Speaker 2>of that person away, even if even if he could

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<v Speaker 2>be ready for them, I'm too old at some point.

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<v Speaker 3>If you can't take directness, you're not gonna like me.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true in general.

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<v Speaker 4>In general, if you don't like someone who's gonna be direct,

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<v Speaker 4>you're just not gonna like me.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's cool.

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<v Speaker 4>If you want to beat around the busher, it's not

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not really like they don't have a type of mouth.

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<v Speaker 3>So no, I'm not afraid anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I think there was a place where I would

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<v Speaker 4>be like I would never say that, and I would

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<v Speaker 4>be like I would never but I'm like, bitch, got kid,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm all like I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Not old, not old, but older like I'm not. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just not.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, you know, there was a time where I would

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<v Speaker 4>be down to be the third person in an open relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>I would be down, like sure, sign me up.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't you don't think you'll ever go back to

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<v Speaker 2>that now, like this is this is who you are now?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>Like maybe if I get in a committment relationship with

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<v Speaker 4>someone I really fuck with and really love and really

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<v Speaker 4>have a bomb.

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<v Speaker 2>Like the the rule for you to do that now

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<v Speaker 2>you've realized is you have to be the main girl.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Like I don't want to be who wants to

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<v Speaker 4>be number two in any situation.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't commitment.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't okay, I'm good. I'm good.

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<v Speaker 4>I've had that, Like I could fuck if I wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to fuck. I'm not fucking because I don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>just fuck. You know it, it's old. Even if you're fine,

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<v Speaker 4>because I got some you know, fine, even fine doesn't

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<v Speaker 4>get you that far. Because I didn't even realize that

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<v Speaker 4>because after I broke it, I had like lined up

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<v Speaker 4>some situations in.

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<v Speaker 3>My Yes, and okay, this cloes free and I'm over

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<v Speaker 3>the lineup.

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<v Speaker 5>Are you gonna push pause? I'll be right back. You're right, Sorry,

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<v Speaker 5>We're back.

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<v Speaker 2>Irie has her fruit and Jamila has her soup.

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<v Speaker 4>Not the most silent meal I could have prepared, the

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<v Speaker 4>clinking of.

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<v Speaker 2>Sim anyway, Is that it for New York?

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<v Speaker 4>I was just there for like four thousand years. I

0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:49.600
<v Speaker 4>stayed three weeks and I went to DC. I visited

0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.920
<v Speaker 4>the New Museum, the National African American History Museum, the

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<v Speaker 4>Smithsonian bomb.

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<v Speaker 3>Really sad though.

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<v Speaker 4>It was really sad that unfortunately we haven't really come

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<v Speaker 4>that far. There's still so much work to be done,

0:21:02.800 --> 0:21:05.399
<v Speaker 4>and it was hard for my grandma. It was.

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<v Speaker 3>It was a good trip though overall. But I eat crabs,

0:21:09.240 --> 0:21:10.440
<v Speaker 3>which is always a highlight of place.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh how was the food there was? Everyone keeps finding

0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:14.320
<v Speaker 2>the food that was bombed. My brother told me that yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh the museum, Yeah, food is bombed. Sulfood.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's like catfish. There's fried chicken, greens, mac and cheese,

0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:23.680
<v Speaker 4>hush puppies, corn bread.

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<v Speaker 3>It was actually good. Oh, your brother went yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy it.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm okay, yeah, he's about to go to My

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<v Speaker 2>brother's going to Howard in August. He's leaving so soon.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, I know, so good for him though, I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so excited for him.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, he needs that, he needs Howard, which I was

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<v Speaker 4>going to Howard.

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<v Speaker 3>Where'd you go New York?

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<v Speaker 2>H yes, baby, Okay, we'll just leave it there. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>but that's fine. I heard you. There's water over there

0:22:01.760 --> 0:22:02.439
<v Speaker 2>on your table.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Grama, all right, what else is new with you?

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<v Speaker 2>Knew with me? Irie? Stop lock the door please? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll stop kicking it, thank you girl. Nothing just work

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<v Speaker 2>and shit. I mean, you know, I've been I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like for months I've been.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait did you go to Paris?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, I went to Paris after you went to

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<v Speaker 3>New York. Oh wow?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>And she went to Paris?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh right, go ahead, I did. I went to France

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<v Speaker 2>and I had work out there and then I brought

0:22:48.560 --> 0:22:50.399
<v Speaker 2>Iri because I only had one work thing to do

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<v Speaker 2>there really, and my one of my best friends, he

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<v Speaker 2>lives in Berlin. He flew out there to help me

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<v Speaker 2>with her, but like I didn't really need his help.

0:22:57.840 --> 0:23:01.040
<v Speaker 2>It was just like an excuse to come and we

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<v Speaker 2>went to We were chilling in Paris and then we

0:23:04.760 --> 0:23:09.919
<v Speaker 2>went to took the train three hours to Marseilles and

0:23:10.480 --> 0:23:14.639
<v Speaker 2>Merseie ver Sailles, Marseille for sci Merceille. I never remember

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<v Speaker 2>how to say it, which is like the south of France,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's kind of like it's not as bougie as

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<v Speaker 2>like the rest of the South of France. It's almost

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<v Speaker 2>kind of reminds me of like a little more like Grungey.

0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:28.440
<v Speaker 2>There's like a lot of graffiti. There's really nice beaches,

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<v Speaker 2>fine assmen in Paris.

0:23:32.040 --> 0:23:35.720
<v Speaker 3>Really girl floy those accents.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know what they're so fine, like what I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't even know, And like I get it now. I

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<v Speaker 2>get why Paris is like the place people like like

0:23:45.880 --> 0:23:50.280
<v Speaker 2>it's it's romantic, it's beautiful. The food is great, desserts.

0:23:50.280 --> 0:23:53.359
<v Speaker 2>The people are not that great, but there they look good.

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<v Speaker 2>They're actually kind of rude, Like actually, I also bought

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<v Speaker 2>this bitch on the plane I was about to go

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<v Speaker 2>off on one of the flight attendant.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah's she friend? Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>So, like I was on the plane and we were

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<v Speaker 2>about were we had landed. We were I was flying

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<v Speaker 2>from Mercelle to Paris, and because I was then a

0:24:12.440 --> 0:24:16.000
<v Speaker 2>flying Paris back to La So the flight from Mercede

0:24:16.000 --> 0:24:17.359
<v Speaker 2>to Paris is like, I don't know, like an hour

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<v Speaker 2>and a half. And Irie went to the bathroom before,

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<v Speaker 2>but you flew that, yeah, And when we were landing,

0:24:24.480 --> 0:24:26.280
<v Speaker 2>she's like, Mommy, I have to pee. I can't hold it.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, we're almost there, we're about to land,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I was trying to distract her or distract her.

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<v Speaker 2>And then like we were taxing forever and ever and ever,

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<v Speaker 2>just sitting on the run. We already landed, we had

0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:38.080
<v Speaker 2>already landed. So I was like, fuck this, I'm about

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<v Speaker 2>to just get up and take her to the bathroom fully there.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I got up and I started walking to

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<v Speaker 2>the back of the plane and this lady's like so

0:24:46.560 --> 0:24:49.520
<v Speaker 2>it's just like just no, man, no, no, And she

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<v Speaker 2>starts to like undosse her seatbelt, starts walking towards me.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to sit down in her French accent, which

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not even gonna try and imitate because no one

0:24:56.880 --> 0:25:01.000
<v Speaker 2>needs to hear that. And she's like, you need to

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<v Speaker 2>sit down, and I was like, my daughter has to pee.

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<v Speaker 2>We're not moving, and she's like, no, no, I will

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<v Speaker 2>call security. I will call security call and I was like, well,

0:25:07.600 --> 0:25:09.600
<v Speaker 2>she's gonna pee. At first, I said I don't care,

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<v Speaker 2>and I kept walking and then she got all like

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<v Speaker 2>crazy and shit, and then.

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<v Speaker 3>She was like, there's not another fun attendant to defend.

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<v Speaker 2>No one said anything on this plane. They just were silent,

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<v Speaker 2>not even the past one person. And I said, well,

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<v Speaker 2>she's gonna pee on your plane. She's gonna pee on

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<v Speaker 2>your seat. And she's like, you need to go sit down,

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<v Speaker 2>go sit down, just tell it, kept telling me you

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<v Speaker 2>need to sit down, go sit down, go sit down.

0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:33.119
<v Speaker 2>I was like, little do you don't want to just

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<v Speaker 2>watch when they see us? You don't want to tell

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<v Speaker 2>me what the fuck to do? Okay, ma'am, Okay, ma'am.

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<v Speaker 2>I have seen too many things on the internet this

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<v Speaker 2>week that I am highly livid and.

0:25:43.760 --> 0:25:45.160
<v Speaker 3>I don't need I don't go off.

0:25:45.640 --> 0:25:54.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't need anyone your shade telling me what I

0:25:54.040 --> 0:25:57.520
<v Speaker 2>can't cannot do it as it pertains to my child.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's crazy. She's a child.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's one thing like I've gone through about them

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<v Speaker 4>all landing while taxing all the.

0:26:05.600 --> 0:26:09.000
<v Speaker 2>I get protocol, but there's a way you do shit, Okay,

0:26:09.160 --> 0:26:10.919
<v Speaker 2>Like if you want me to sit down like I

0:26:11.000 --> 0:26:13.200
<v Speaker 2>was still probably been pissed. You can't like the way

0:26:13.320 --> 0:26:13.720
<v Speaker 2>she did it.

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<v Speaker 4>She cannot stop you from going to the bathroom. It's

0:26:16.600 --> 0:26:19.160
<v Speaker 4>not it's she can't do it physically. She cannot stop

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<v Speaker 4>from the bathroom. You call security the fuck if you want.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, what if I was dying? Girl, Like,

0:26:22.720 --> 0:26:24.399
<v Speaker 2>what the fuck I'm choking? You're telling me how to

0:26:24.440 --> 0:26:28.840
<v Speaker 2>sit down? Shut the fuck up? Okay. So yeah, and

0:26:28.880 --> 0:26:31.040
<v Speaker 2>speaking of that, all that stuff, like, girl, there's just

0:26:31.040 --> 0:26:34.680
<v Speaker 2>been so much like stuff on the internet every day.

0:26:34.880 --> 0:26:37.639
<v Speaker 2>I'm just like, I'm exhausted, but I want to know,

0:26:37.720 --> 0:26:40.800
<v Speaker 2>I want to stay aware. But I'm also like getting

0:26:40.880 --> 0:26:43.600
<v Speaker 2>like oppression fatigued.

0:26:44.240 --> 0:26:47.320
<v Speaker 4>I know, because it's it's it's it's so much. It's

0:26:47.359 --> 0:26:49.600
<v Speaker 4>not and it's not. The fucking part is like it's

0:26:49.600 --> 0:26:50.080
<v Speaker 4>not rare.

0:26:51.200 --> 0:26:53.560
<v Speaker 2>It's just because we have access to it now.

0:26:53.640 --> 0:26:57.800
<v Speaker 4>It's just it's always existed, even like the family and

0:26:57.800 --> 0:27:01.480
<v Speaker 4>the dollar store in Arizona and the cops pulled she's

0:27:01.560 --> 0:27:03.639
<v Speaker 4>pregnant with her four year old and her boyfriend or

0:27:03.800 --> 0:27:06.840
<v Speaker 4>husband whatever. They the little girl walked out of the

0:27:06.840 --> 0:27:10.000
<v Speaker 4>store with the doll and apparently the cops were called.

0:27:10.240 --> 0:27:13.000
<v Speaker 4>The police pull up on them, draw their guns, with

0:27:13.080 --> 0:27:16.320
<v Speaker 4>her holding her child yelling at them, I'll fucking shoot

0:27:16.359 --> 0:27:18.000
<v Speaker 4>you no.

0:27:18.760 --> 0:27:24.639
<v Speaker 6>And it's just crazy fine that any grown man in

0:27:24.720 --> 0:27:28.640
<v Speaker 6>any power of position, like any position of power, would

0:27:29.960 --> 0:27:30.520
<v Speaker 6>you feel.

0:27:30.400 --> 0:27:32.920
<v Speaker 3>Threatened by a family, by a pregnant woman.

0:27:33.119 --> 0:27:35.080
<v Speaker 2>The way he was talking to her. He said, I'm

0:27:35.080 --> 0:27:37.879
<v Speaker 2>gonna put a cap in your ass. No he did it, yes, girl,

0:27:38.800 --> 0:27:40.760
<v Speaker 2>he said I will put a cap in your ass.

0:27:41.080 --> 0:27:43.919
<v Speaker 2>He was cursing at her, like, oh my god, it

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:47.639
<v Speaker 2>was her child and her child. It was cray z.

0:27:48.240 --> 0:27:51.560
<v Speaker 2>It was insane. I couldn't I couldn't believe that video.

0:27:52.760 --> 0:27:55.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm glad it didn't end up worse, honestly because the

0:27:55.520 --> 0:27:59.520
<v Speaker 2>way he how reactive he was, it was scary, Like

0:27:59.600 --> 0:28:02.159
<v Speaker 2>I could have ended way worse. But I mean it

0:28:02.440 --> 0:28:05.320
<v Speaker 2>still wasn't great. But like I mean, I guess that's

0:28:05.400 --> 0:28:06.960
<v Speaker 2>kind of sad too that I'm now like, oh, it

0:28:06.960 --> 0:28:10.280
<v Speaker 2>could have been worse, well right, But I don't mean

0:28:10.320 --> 0:28:10.680
<v Speaker 2>it that way.

0:28:10.760 --> 0:28:14.480
<v Speaker 4>No, It's just it's just the climate and how scary

0:28:14.920 --> 0:28:18.480
<v Speaker 4>these niggas are. Yeah, Like the fuck that part is

0:28:18.480 --> 0:28:21.160
<v Speaker 4>it could end up any way, like nobody's safe and

0:28:21.200 --> 0:28:23.600
<v Speaker 4>like even as a woman, even with a child, even

0:28:23.680 --> 0:28:28.000
<v Speaker 4>being pregnant. It doesn't matter if you're black or if

0:28:28.000 --> 0:28:31.159
<v Speaker 4>you're a person of color, and they feel threatened, they're threatened.

0:28:31.200 --> 0:28:32.679
<v Speaker 3>And furthermore, first.

0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:37.639
<v Speaker 4>Of all, Arizona's fucking racist as fuck, and they obviously,

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:39.600
<v Speaker 4>I mean, just like it doesn't matter if you're a

0:28:39.600 --> 0:28:40.719
<v Speaker 4>woman or you're a child.

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:45.640
<v Speaker 3>They see us as I don't know, like predators.

0:28:46.840 --> 0:28:50.160
<v Speaker 4>And that's what's scary if you're if you're a police

0:28:50.200 --> 0:28:53.280
<v Speaker 4>officer and you're getting paid by literally tax dollars and

0:28:53.360 --> 0:28:56.680
<v Speaker 4>you're bullying people and acting like you're in a goddamn

0:28:56.760 --> 0:28:57.520
<v Speaker 4>rap video.

0:28:57.480 --> 0:28:59.640
<v Speaker 2>Or how much money is that? Because I'm officer that now.

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<v Speaker 4>So there was another instance in Baltimore's in Baltimore where

0:29:04.520 --> 0:29:07.680
<v Speaker 4>a man was being detained by the sheriff and another officer.

0:29:08.000 --> 0:29:11.400
<v Speaker 4>He was sitting on the floor in like a bystander

0:29:11.440 --> 0:29:13.640
<v Speaker 4>who just was walking by was like, y'all should y'all

0:29:13.640 --> 0:29:15.440
<v Speaker 4>are wrong, y'all need to get him off the ground,

0:29:15.920 --> 0:29:18.880
<v Speaker 4>continued to cross the street. The sheriff yealls, you didn't

0:29:18.880 --> 0:29:21.000
<v Speaker 4>mind your fucking business. It's like, y'all are wrong. You

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:23.480
<v Speaker 4>needed to get him off the ground. Then they grab

0:29:23.560 --> 0:29:25.600
<v Speaker 4>him from He's literally his back is to them. He's

0:29:25.640 --> 0:29:31.400
<v Speaker 4>turning around while saying this. Grab him, detain him, tell

0:29:31.440 --> 0:29:33.520
<v Speaker 4>him you're getting you're getting arrested because you don't know

0:29:33.520 --> 0:29:34.480
<v Speaker 4>how to act.

0:29:34.680 --> 0:29:35.600
<v Speaker 3>He's recording it.

0:29:35.640 --> 0:29:37.640
<v Speaker 4>Thank god, you don't know how to act as what

0:29:37.680 --> 0:29:40.640
<v Speaker 4>the sheriff says, and take this charge like a man.

0:29:41.000 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 4>So basically because he walked by and stated his opinion.

0:29:44.640 --> 0:29:47.800
<v Speaker 4>Nothing violent, no no, no weapons.

0:29:48.600 --> 0:29:50.880
<v Speaker 3>Come to find out the shareff. Oh and they have

0:29:51.040 --> 0:29:51.520
<v Speaker 3>on tape.

0:29:51.560 --> 0:29:54.240
<v Speaker 4>The other guy, like another police officer pulls up and

0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:56.520
<v Speaker 4>tells the shriff like, basically, you need to chill. I said,

0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:58.080
<v Speaker 4>you don't fucking tell me how to do my job.

0:29:58.360 --> 0:30:01.120
<v Speaker 4>Come to find out this sheriff, this motherfucker made two

0:30:01.200 --> 0:30:04.680
<v Speaker 4>hundred and forty seven thousand.

0:30:04.120 --> 0:30:05.560
<v Speaker 3>Dollars last year.

0:30:05.720 --> 0:30:09.680
<v Speaker 4>Two hundred and forty seven thousand dollars last year, primarily

0:30:09.720 --> 0:30:10.960
<v Speaker 4>mostly in overtime.

0:30:11.600 --> 0:30:13.920
<v Speaker 3>And that's all tax dollar payments.

0:30:13.920 --> 0:30:14.479
<v Speaker 2>That's insane.

0:30:14.600 --> 0:30:15.600
<v Speaker 3>And you you.

0:30:15.560 --> 0:30:18.600
<v Speaker 4>Think you have the right to tell someone that you

0:30:18.600 --> 0:30:23.160
<v Speaker 4>don't know how to act. That's blatant racism, that's blatant

0:30:23.560 --> 0:30:24.520
<v Speaker 4>abusive power.

0:30:25.000 --> 0:30:26.640
<v Speaker 3>And you know, Baltimore has had a.

0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:31.000
<v Speaker 4>Lot of issues with corrupt police officers, and I think

0:30:31.120 --> 0:30:35.400
<v Speaker 4>they recently got a new black commissioner police commissioner, so

0:30:35.440 --> 0:30:39.040
<v Speaker 4>I think some black man is the police commissioner now,

0:30:39.480 --> 0:30:44.120
<v Speaker 4>and so you know, I think he was removed immediately,

0:30:44.320 --> 0:30:45.520
<v Speaker 4>was suspended with pay.

0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:46.760
<v Speaker 3>I guess the union does that.

0:30:47.800 --> 0:30:51.280
<v Speaker 4>There was another instance, I want to stay in California

0:30:51.680 --> 0:30:55.080
<v Speaker 4>at like a Costco with a man with who.

0:30:55.160 --> 0:30:56.480
<v Speaker 3>Had mental illness.

0:30:56.720 --> 0:30:58.520
<v Speaker 4>He was something like maybe he's something is wrong with him,

0:30:58.520 --> 0:31:02.240
<v Speaker 4>but apparently from everybody knows, very harmless, very like mild

0:31:02.240 --> 0:31:03.800
<v Speaker 4>tempered with his parents.

0:31:04.200 --> 0:31:05.920
<v Speaker 3>The parents are like fifty something years old.

0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:08.640
<v Speaker 4>Some an off duty police officer said that the man

0:31:08.720 --> 0:31:10.960
<v Speaker 4>attacked him, which other people said they he did not,

0:31:11.560 --> 0:31:14.800
<v Speaker 4>shot him, killed him and shot his both his parents.

0:31:15.600 --> 0:31:18.320
<v Speaker 2>The parents died too. I don't know he killed the

0:31:18.320 --> 0:31:21.040
<v Speaker 2>parent because the parents probably started attacking him. Fuck, I

0:31:21.080 --> 0:31:21.840
<v Speaker 2>am a child.

0:31:21.920 --> 0:31:25.440
<v Speaker 3>I'm not really clear, but it's.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh.

0:31:27.280 --> 0:31:28.360
<v Speaker 3>And then I saw another video.

0:31:28.600 --> 0:31:32.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't I don't take it.

0:31:33.400 --> 0:31:34.880
<v Speaker 3>This one like all these.

0:31:34.720 --> 0:31:36.920
<v Speaker 4>Police they had to be like five police cars surrounding

0:31:36.920 --> 0:31:38.920
<v Speaker 4>a man and a gat like maybe at the gas station,

0:31:38.960 --> 0:31:41.600
<v Speaker 4>and a girl was she was maybe just pumping gas

0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:44.280
<v Speaker 4>and she started filming and was yelling at them put

0:31:44.320 --> 0:31:46.840
<v Speaker 4>your guns down. Put your guns down. He didn't do anything,

0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:50.120
<v Speaker 4>he has nothing, and she starts crying. She gets hyper

0:31:50.160 --> 0:31:53.200
<v Speaker 4>ban say they killed they killed my boyfriend in twenty

0:31:53.400 --> 0:31:54.440
<v Speaker 4>fifteen or something.

0:31:54.600 --> 0:31:55.400
<v Speaker 3>They will kill you.

0:31:55.400 --> 0:31:57.240
<v Speaker 4>You don't kill him, you could, And I could just

0:31:57.480 --> 0:32:00.440
<v Speaker 4>hear the trauma in her voice.

0:32:00.480 --> 0:32:02.720
<v Speaker 2>She was like, don't move, please, don't move. They'll kill you.

0:32:02.760 --> 0:32:04.440
<v Speaker 3>They kill my boyfriend in twenty foot I was just

0:32:04.480 --> 0:32:06.720
<v Speaker 3>like yeo, like between.

0:32:06.400 --> 0:32:10.040
<v Speaker 4>These like random not random events in different places with

0:32:10.160 --> 0:32:13.720
<v Speaker 4>law enforcement, and then visiting that museum and then watching

0:32:13.800 --> 0:32:16.080
<v Speaker 4>when they see us like in the last.

0:32:16.000 --> 0:32:22.360
<v Speaker 3>What too weak or two? It's really it's really sad

0:32:22.560 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 3>and scary to be black like you. It's impossible to.

0:32:28.520 --> 0:32:33.120
<v Speaker 4>Like live in this space and not be like aware

0:32:33.160 --> 0:32:36.320
<v Speaker 4>of it. Even I was thinking because conversations I have

0:32:36.360 --> 0:32:40.000
<v Speaker 4>around Lona like am I being too you know, racial?

0:32:40.160 --> 0:32:42.800
<v Speaker 4>Or is she too exposed? But I'm like, fuck, there's

0:32:42.800 --> 0:32:45.959
<v Speaker 4>no avoiding it. This is real life for us every day.

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.680
<v Speaker 4>These are the conversations that are gonna be had around

0:32:48.680 --> 0:32:52.600
<v Speaker 4>her because this is our environment.

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:55.200
<v Speaker 2>Right, I think, I think, you know, especially because of

0:32:55.280 --> 0:32:58.560
<v Speaker 2>Iri telling people that her mommy doesn't like white people,

0:32:58.600 --> 0:33:04.200
<v Speaker 2>which you know is not Okay, I've tried to think about. Yes,

0:33:05.000 --> 0:33:07.120
<v Speaker 2>I want her to be aware, but I also want

0:33:07.120 --> 0:33:09.120
<v Speaker 2>her to be able to come to her own conclusions

0:33:09.160 --> 0:33:11.280
<v Speaker 2>because I have to give her that, you know what

0:33:11.280 --> 0:33:14.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean, within reason, and not adopt whatever it is

0:33:14.960 --> 0:33:19.520
<v Speaker 2>that I feel like, adopt my anger, adopt my distaste

0:33:19.680 --> 0:33:25.480
<v Speaker 2>for certain things and people, but with but also educating

0:33:25.520 --> 0:33:29.320
<v Speaker 2>her in a way that she's also not dumb and

0:33:29.360 --> 0:33:32.960
<v Speaker 2>she's like aware that, Okay, my mommy told me something

0:33:33.000 --> 0:33:33.800
<v Speaker 2>like this might happen.

0:33:33.880 --> 0:33:36.720
<v Speaker 3>I have to be more socially aware, and we do.

0:33:36.840 --> 0:33:38.320
<v Speaker 3>We have to be socially aware.

0:33:38.640 --> 0:33:41.760
<v Speaker 2>And I'm clearly I'm not doing a great job at all,

0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:44.720
<v Speaker 2>but but I'm I'm mindful of it now because I

0:33:44.720 --> 0:33:48.040
<v Speaker 2>didn't realize, like, oh my god, yeah, I have to

0:33:48.160 --> 0:33:51.640
<v Speaker 2>like chill, like I don't want her coming to conclusion

0:33:51.840 --> 0:33:57.480
<v Speaker 2>like she's already understanding color, you know, she it's such

0:33:57.480 --> 0:34:00.680
<v Speaker 2>a fine line because like not even a fine line.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so it's just it's hard. It's interesting because you know,

0:34:05.120 --> 0:34:07.520
<v Speaker 2>I want her to know she's a beautiful black girl, right,

0:34:08.040 --> 0:34:11.120
<v Speaker 2>but I also don't want her to I want her

0:34:11.160 --> 0:34:15.240
<v Speaker 2>to not think that different colors are different, are different

0:34:15.840 --> 0:34:19.319
<v Speaker 2>even though they are treated differently. At our core, we're

0:34:19.360 --> 0:34:23.840
<v Speaker 2>all human, you know, and you know, we're a product

0:34:23.880 --> 0:34:26.040
<v Speaker 2>of a lot of things, a lot of situations, a

0:34:26.040 --> 0:34:31.280
<v Speaker 2>lot of abuses of power, a lot of you know, miseducation,

0:34:32.200 --> 0:34:37.719
<v Speaker 2>no education, too much information. Like it's it's just it's

0:34:37.880 --> 0:34:40.120
<v Speaker 2>it's just like a really hard place to be in

0:34:40.200 --> 0:34:43.759
<v Speaker 2>because I it's not like I would never tell her, like,

0:34:43.880 --> 0:34:45.520
<v Speaker 2>you're a beautiful black girl. But then I'm also like

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:47.239
<v Speaker 2>do I always have to say that? Or can she

0:34:47.400 --> 0:34:50.239
<v Speaker 2>just be a beautiful girl? You know, because it is

0:34:50.600 --> 0:34:53.200
<v Speaker 2>we feel like we have to go so hard because so.

0:34:53.480 --> 0:34:57.680
<v Speaker 3>Much society that goes against well, yeah, are what are

0:34:58.200 --> 0:35:01.920
<v Speaker 3>the definitions of beauty? So are your cool opposite of

0:35:01.920 --> 0:35:02.359
<v Speaker 3>what we are?

0:35:02.640 --> 0:35:04.280
<v Speaker 2>What European beauty standards?

0:35:04.719 --> 0:35:09.440
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and you know what the other day, Luna, Luna's

0:35:09.440 --> 0:35:11.960
<v Speaker 4>obsessed with Halloween and she has talked about her Halloween

0:35:12.000 --> 0:35:15.919
<v Speaker 4>costume literally every day since October. Now she wants last

0:35:15.920 --> 0:35:17.160
<v Speaker 4>week's want to be a Barbie And she's like, I

0:35:17.239 --> 0:35:19.600
<v Speaker 4>want to be like a Barbie, like make put makeup

0:35:19.640 --> 0:35:22.280
<v Speaker 4>on me, like white skin and like a red wig

0:35:22.360 --> 0:35:24.080
<v Speaker 4>or like a white wig. She thinks blonde hair is

0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:24.920
<v Speaker 4>called white wig.

0:35:25.600 --> 0:35:27.880
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, why would know?

0:35:28.560 --> 0:35:33.200
<v Speaker 4>Like you like, it bothered me, but also I realize

0:35:33.520 --> 0:35:37.480
<v Speaker 4>it's confusing, growing like it's confusing, and.

0:35:37.400 --> 0:35:39.080
<v Speaker 3>She's a four year old. She doesn't get it. Like

0:35:39.560 --> 0:35:40.560
<v Speaker 3>I know she's into herself.

0:35:40.600 --> 0:35:43.600
<v Speaker 4>I know she loves herself, but unfortunately we have to

0:35:43.640 --> 0:35:46.759
<v Speaker 4>just beat us and then they'll navigate, you know, and

0:35:46.960 --> 0:35:49.200
<v Speaker 4>I tell them to like we're about love, Like do.

0:35:49.160 --> 0:35:51.840
<v Speaker 2>You like would you ever just say okay? Fine?

0:35:52.239 --> 0:35:55.000
<v Speaker 4>Never like okay, if I'm gonna paint your face white, yeah,

0:35:55.040 --> 0:35:57.759
<v Speaker 4>I'm no, not fainting your face, I.

0:35:57.719 --> 0:35:58.360
<v Speaker 2>Mean not white.

0:35:58.400 --> 0:36:00.880
<v Speaker 3>But like if she wanted to be a white Barbie,

0:36:01.200 --> 0:36:01.560
<v Speaker 3>don't I.

0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:04.600
<v Speaker 2>Just don't know, Like no, not that. I just mean though, like,

0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:06.399
<v Speaker 2>then how do we find that battle?

0:36:06.440 --> 0:36:11.799
<v Speaker 4>I mean, I bought her that fucking princess whatever I mean,

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:12.719
<v Speaker 4>because I mean.

0:36:14.960 --> 0:36:18.440
<v Speaker 2>Her hair white bitch, because of a little of of

0:36:18.440 --> 0:36:20.640
<v Speaker 2>of a little white girl wanted to be black Barbie

0:36:20.680 --> 0:36:22.440
<v Speaker 2>and her mom paint and her black. You better believe them.

0:36:22.440 --> 0:36:26.920
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't do that. I mean, I lose battles, you

0:36:27.000 --> 0:36:27.799
<v Speaker 3>know what I'm saying, Like.

0:36:27.800 --> 0:36:30.480
<v Speaker 4>Sometimes I'll buy her the princess she wants, because am

0:36:30.520 --> 0:36:33.480
<v Speaker 4>I gonna argue with a four year old, But if

0:36:33.480 --> 0:36:35.480
<v Speaker 4>it's up to me, I'm going to encourage her and

0:36:35.560 --> 0:36:37.920
<v Speaker 4>buy what I want what looks like her. Because I

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:40.920
<v Speaker 4>realized it's so deep seated. We all experienced it. We

0:36:40.920 --> 0:36:43.600
<v Speaker 4>grew up in a white ass place. There was probably

0:36:43.640 --> 0:36:46.560
<v Speaker 4>till I was fucking in like fourth grade. I was like, Damn,

0:36:46.560 --> 0:36:48.520
<v Speaker 4>I wish my hair was like this. Damn this, damn

0:36:48.520 --> 0:36:50.920
<v Speaker 4>that I noticed I was different than the majority of

0:36:50.960 --> 0:36:51.799
<v Speaker 4>the people around me.

0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:56.080
<v Speaker 3>They're as as children and as a product of.

0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:59.000
<v Speaker 4>A social environment. There is no avoiding it. We cannot

0:36:59.640 --> 0:37:02.040
<v Speaker 4>protect them from every image from every movie.

0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:03.200
<v Speaker 3>Like it's impossible.

0:37:03.360 --> 0:37:04.759
<v Speaker 4>You know, I think I was gonna let my kid

0:37:04.760 --> 0:37:06.080
<v Speaker 4>watch Disney because it's cultish.

0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:07.960
<v Speaker 3>It is. What am I gonna do? I watch the shit?

0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:11.240
<v Speaker 3>I'm fine. You know, you can't avoid the brainwashery. It exists.

0:37:11.239 --> 0:37:11.680
<v Speaker 3>It's real.

0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:14.400
<v Speaker 4>It's much even deeper and larger than we are aware of.

0:37:14.920 --> 0:37:16.759
<v Speaker 4>But you know, I think you have the pick and

0:37:16.800 --> 0:37:20.040
<v Speaker 4>choose your battles. And I think that as long as

0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:22.560
<v Speaker 4>we are aware that we're good people and that we

0:37:22.680 --> 0:37:25.440
<v Speaker 4>love people, and that we have a plethora of friends,

0:37:25.840 --> 0:37:28.720
<v Speaker 4>we probably have more non black friends than black friends.

0:37:29.040 --> 0:37:31.279
<v Speaker 4>So it's not like our kids don't understand and don't

0:37:31.280 --> 0:37:33.800
<v Speaker 4>know that we love people, you know, so.

0:37:33.680 --> 0:37:37.480
<v Speaker 2>It's just maple. But sometimes they don't. They think you

0:37:37.560 --> 0:37:42.040
<v Speaker 2>love those people that everybody else. I've even seen how

0:37:42.080 --> 0:37:49.440
<v Speaker 2>I sometimes react to like white men. She's not comfortable

0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:52.040
<v Speaker 2>around them. What do you mean, I don't know. It's

0:37:52.080 --> 0:37:54.960
<v Speaker 2>different like black men. I think maybe because it's familiar

0:37:55.000 --> 0:37:58.400
<v Speaker 2>because of her daughter, but white men is like a

0:37:58.400 --> 0:38:01.759
<v Speaker 2>little more strangery. Strangery you kind of I know.

0:38:01.760 --> 0:38:02.799
<v Speaker 3>This is bad, This is bad.

0:38:02.840 --> 0:38:04.400
<v Speaker 4>I shouldn't say it, but it kind of makes me

0:38:04.560 --> 0:38:09.919
<v Speaker 4>feel good to hear that, because you know how many

0:38:09.960 --> 0:38:12.319
<v Speaker 4>little white kids I've seen get scared of just black eyes.

0:38:12.600 --> 0:38:16.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sure, yeah, and I noticed that.

0:38:17.000 --> 0:38:17.120
<v Speaker 5>Well.

0:38:17.120 --> 0:38:19.200
<v Speaker 4>I guess I guess in general, as children, we're gonna

0:38:19.200 --> 0:38:21.600
<v Speaker 4>be less what we're what we see less, We're gonna

0:38:21.600 --> 0:38:24.400
<v Speaker 4>be less familiar with. It's gonna be less uncomfortable. So

0:38:24.440 --> 0:38:26.239
<v Speaker 4>I guess it's our jobs to expose them.

0:38:26.400 --> 0:38:27.759
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, you know what I redid it? The

0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:30.760
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. In France, we're on the boat and

0:38:31.640 --> 0:38:33.480
<v Speaker 2>for this is for the event, and there was a

0:38:33.480 --> 0:38:39.720
<v Speaker 2>little person on the boat. Oh no, no, she pointed, mommy,

0:38:39.880 --> 0:38:42.880
<v Speaker 2>why is she so little like me? She was pointing

0:38:42.920 --> 0:38:46.240
<v Speaker 2>at her. I was like, I don't know, Okay, don't point.

0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:47.480
<v Speaker 3>How do you deal with that?

0:38:48.120 --> 0:38:51.319
<v Speaker 2>I said, She's not a kid, she's a woman. She's

0:38:51.400 --> 0:38:55.359
<v Speaker 2>just small. And she was like and she like thought

0:38:55.360 --> 0:38:56.959
<v Speaker 2>about her for a while. I saw her like thinking

0:38:56.960 --> 0:39:00.520
<v Speaker 2>about that, and then she was like, okay, like okay.

0:39:00.480 --> 0:39:03.879
<v Speaker 4>Luna said to our friend yesterday who got a little

0:39:03.880 --> 0:39:05.640
<v Speaker 4>sugar in his tank, why are you.

0:39:05.600 --> 0:39:08.720
<v Speaker 3>Acting like a girl? Why do you sound like a girl?

0:39:08.920 --> 0:39:11.719
<v Speaker 3>She kept saying it. I was like, shut up.

0:39:11.880 --> 0:39:15.360
<v Speaker 4>She wouldn't stop, she would sup and this man looks

0:39:15.400 --> 0:39:18.239
<v Speaker 4>like a man. There's nothing that appears like but she

0:39:18.360 --> 0:39:22.160
<v Speaker 4>could hear in his voice that he and I was

0:39:22.239 --> 0:39:24.920
<v Speaker 4>just like, that's crazy that she, even as a child,

0:39:25.040 --> 0:39:29.560
<v Speaker 4>she has a understanding, a small scope of understanding of

0:39:29.600 --> 0:39:32.839
<v Speaker 4>what a female and a male sound like as far

0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:36.200
<v Speaker 4>as dialect goes. How deep is that? Because I don't

0:39:36.239 --> 0:39:39.359
<v Speaker 4>teach her that, you know, so, I was just like,

0:39:39.840 --> 0:39:42.840
<v Speaker 4>you can't sound like a girl. There's no that doesn't exist.

0:39:43.120 --> 0:39:44.040
<v Speaker 4>You can't sound like a boy.

0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:47.759
<v Speaker 2>You can't even like when we took them to come up.

0:39:48.400 --> 0:39:51.960
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I ran to a friend a very eccentric, blonde

0:39:52.640 --> 0:39:55.680
<v Speaker 4>braid wearing man who sometimes were like long gowns.

0:39:56.040 --> 0:39:57.799
<v Speaker 3>And she's like, why are you dressed like a are

0:39:57.800 --> 0:39:59.640
<v Speaker 3>you a girl? A boy? Why do you dress like

0:39:59.680 --> 0:40:01.720
<v Speaker 3>a girl? Did she say ugly?

0:40:01.840 --> 0:40:08.080
<v Speaker 2>No, no, but she kept saying it, and I was like, like, Luna.

0:40:07.960 --> 0:40:10.840
<v Speaker 4>Is vocal, you know, like she's like me, so I

0:40:10.880 --> 0:40:12.960
<v Speaker 4>can't like and I don't get my panties and ad bunch.

0:40:13.000 --> 0:40:14.239
<v Speaker 4>I just explained to her, as shit comes up, I

0:40:14.280 --> 0:40:15.920
<v Speaker 4>think we saw like a billboard and two guy or a.

0:40:15.960 --> 0:40:18.560
<v Speaker 3>Commercial two guys were kissing. She's like, ill, why are

0:40:18.600 --> 0:40:20.120
<v Speaker 3>two guys? What?

0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:20.160
<v Speaker 2>What?

0:40:21.280 --> 0:40:23.359
<v Speaker 3>And I was just like, two guys can love each other.

0:40:23.440 --> 0:40:25.640
<v Speaker 2>But where do you think she got that ill from?

0:40:26.480 --> 0:40:26.640
<v Speaker 5>Dad?

0:40:26.760 --> 0:40:27.799
<v Speaker 3>Maybe shouldn't say ill.

0:40:27.880 --> 0:40:29.880
<v Speaker 2>Maybe she's just like even that it's not supposed to

0:40:29.880 --> 0:40:31.600
<v Speaker 2>be it because movies and she watches and she's not

0:40:31.680 --> 0:40:33.560
<v Speaker 2>used to it, or like, what's the distaste with it?

0:40:33.719 --> 0:40:39.000
<v Speaker 4>I think that we generally always in all movies all kids.

0:40:39.040 --> 0:40:40.520
<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, I mean that's true. Do you think it's

0:40:40.560 --> 0:40:41.080
<v Speaker 2>anything else?

0:40:41.120 --> 0:40:44.560
<v Speaker 4>Besides no, I don't think anybody around her is homophobia

0:40:44.600 --> 0:40:45.239
<v Speaker 4>in any way.

0:40:45.920 --> 0:40:46.719
<v Speaker 2>Baby Daddy isn't.

0:40:46.840 --> 0:40:49.120
<v Speaker 3>No, No, he's really not like one time.

0:40:49.120 --> 0:40:52.520
<v Speaker 4>I one time cousin Chris, we're meeting them for lunch

0:40:52.560 --> 0:40:55.040
<v Speaker 4>and he's like, oh, by the way, I'm with his

0:40:55.120 --> 0:40:57.400
<v Speaker 4>friend Mishall, who's a transgender.

0:40:57.880 --> 0:41:01.480
<v Speaker 3>So I was like, look bad, don't be acting strange.

0:41:02.760 --> 0:41:06.919
<v Speaker 3>He's with transgender. So whatever, we all want to lunch,

0:41:07.320 --> 0:41:11.520
<v Speaker 3>ramp into it. But this bitch at the end, I

0:41:11.520 --> 0:41:12.520
<v Speaker 3>don't know if he was lying though.

0:41:12.600 --> 0:41:15.040
<v Speaker 4>He said when they shook hands by give me your hand,

0:41:15.640 --> 0:41:17.959
<v Speaker 4>she did like a thumb.

0:41:18.560 --> 0:41:22.080
<v Speaker 2>Maybe maybe maybe she did that to everyone and he

0:41:22.120 --> 0:41:24.000
<v Speaker 2>felt like he was special. You know, straight men be

0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:27.319
<v Speaker 2>always thinking that any get like a gay dude, because

0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:30.520
<v Speaker 2>they'd be reading into every little fucking thing, and also

0:41:30.560 --> 0:41:33.960
<v Speaker 2>gay dudes being with them and not because they want them.

0:41:33.800 --> 0:41:36.480
<v Speaker 3>But just to well, sometimes gay dudes could be disrespectful.

0:41:36.520 --> 0:41:38.960
<v Speaker 2>No, it's absolutely, absolutely, And it's.

0:41:38.840 --> 0:41:42.799
<v Speaker 3>Like, okay, nigga, you need to hill which I'm not.

0:41:42.880 --> 0:41:45.759
<v Speaker 4>You know, like respect everybody's ship, you know, be you,

0:41:45.960 --> 0:41:47.239
<v Speaker 4>but respect where people stand.

0:41:47.239 --> 0:41:52.440
<v Speaker 3>Don't make people extra uncomfortable anyway. How to get this topic?

0:41:52.520 --> 0:41:56.479
<v Speaker 3>Oh like our kids, Yeah, I mean it's a struggle ship.

0:41:56.719 --> 0:41:59.400
<v Speaker 3>We don't know all the answers. We got programmed somehow. Now,

0:41:59.400 --> 0:42:01.680
<v Speaker 3>we're trying to. We're trying to, so let's get the

0:42:01.760 --> 0:42:03.160
<v Speaker 3>least programming for the kids.

0:42:03.200 --> 0:42:05.600
<v Speaker 4>Let's try and teach them what we know about what's

0:42:05.719 --> 0:42:08.359
<v Speaker 4>real and what's not, and then you know what the fuck?

0:42:08.600 --> 0:42:11.920
<v Speaker 2>Today at work, we were doing our het We're shooting

0:42:11.960 --> 0:42:14.800
<v Speaker 2>for a holiday campaign, and we were doing a photo

0:42:14.840 --> 0:42:17.760
<v Speaker 2>where like we're holding one of our like cute gifts

0:42:17.840 --> 0:42:20.200
<v Speaker 2>behind our back, kind of like a Jared's commercial, you know,

0:42:20.239 --> 0:42:22.920
<v Speaker 2>like the like the diamond you know, like this, Yeah,

0:42:22.920 --> 0:42:26.480
<v Speaker 2>we're gonna propose and the diamonds behind your back. And

0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:28.239
<v Speaker 2>so we did one version with a guy, and then

0:42:28.239 --> 0:42:30.480
<v Speaker 2>we did one version with me in a pink suit

0:42:30.560 --> 0:42:34.200
<v Speaker 2>holding it behind me and I asked that. I said, so,

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:36.960
<v Speaker 2>am I so I'm proposing? And she was like yeah,

0:42:37.000 --> 0:42:40.280
<v Speaker 2>She's like, I'm like, so I proposing, Like I'm proposing

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:42.120
<v Speaker 2>to my man or I'm proposing to my woman and

0:42:42.160 --> 0:42:44.799
<v Speaker 2>she was like, yeah, it's kind of vague. Is in

0:42:44.840 --> 0:42:47.920
<v Speaker 2>my head? I was like, there's no mother fucking way

0:42:48.600 --> 0:42:51.920
<v Speaker 2>proposing to my man. And I was like then I

0:42:52.000 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 2>was like, wait, no, why am I program that way?

0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:54.960
<v Speaker 3>And is this?

0:42:55.239 --> 0:42:57.920
<v Speaker 2>Is that? Why am I feel so strongly about that?

0:42:58.200 --> 0:43:00.880
<v Speaker 2>Because one of the girls was like, I'm probably inside

0:43:00.920 --> 0:43:03.400
<v Speaker 2>of the wood. And I was like, are they like,

0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:09.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, she lesbian? No, I was like, why

0:43:09.640 --> 0:43:11.080
<v Speaker 2>why is that the man's role?

0:43:11.640 --> 0:43:15.839
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I know, I get it. I'm I'm I mean,

0:43:15.920 --> 0:43:22.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm a hypocrite. I'm a hypocrite. There are I don't know.

0:43:22.680 --> 0:43:24.800
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I get it. I know. There's no set

0:43:25.080 --> 0:43:28.360
<v Speaker 3>things that are male or female. However, like Daphney said,

0:43:28.760 --> 0:43:29.440
<v Speaker 3>a male and.

0:43:29.400 --> 0:43:32.920
<v Speaker 4>A female, there's just no other combination, you know, Like

0:43:33.000 --> 0:43:34.040
<v Speaker 4>there are roles.

0:43:34.600 --> 0:43:34.799
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:43:34.840 --> 0:43:38.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm not saying I decided that role. No one decided

0:43:38.040 --> 0:43:39.440
<v Speaker 3>it doesn't. It isn't. It isn't.

0:43:39.840 --> 0:43:42.399
<v Speaker 4>It's not for everyone. Not everyone will fall into these

0:43:42.400 --> 0:43:46.720
<v Speaker 4>gender roles. However, I've been around some motherfucking babies, baby

0:43:46.719 --> 0:43:49.439
<v Speaker 4>boys that could look like steer a car real good,

0:43:49.600 --> 0:43:52.480
<v Speaker 4>and I'm like, you're too. I've been around boys who

0:43:52.560 --> 0:43:55.240
<v Speaker 4>just love boys shit and they want to wrestle.

0:43:55.360 --> 0:43:59.200
<v Speaker 3>They do like at our core. There are things that

0:43:59.760 --> 0:44:02.719
<v Speaker 3>are gender specific and I'm just wait, you.

0:44:03.000 --> 0:44:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Drive a car.

0:44:04.200 --> 0:44:07.080
<v Speaker 3>No in Philly, my girlfriend.

0:44:06.680 --> 0:44:10.560
<v Speaker 2>Wait, that's your example of like masculine. Wait. I was like,

0:44:10.560 --> 0:44:11.560
<v Speaker 2>where's she going with this?

0:44:12.440 --> 0:44:14.640
<v Speaker 3>Men are good at driving it's true.

0:44:15.200 --> 0:44:17.720
<v Speaker 2>Okay, that is not true.

0:44:18.560 --> 0:44:24.040
<v Speaker 3>That at its best, Yes, men has.

0:44:23.960 --> 0:44:26.080
<v Speaker 4>Like a coordination thing. I think they don't know like

0:44:26.080 --> 0:44:28.160
<v Speaker 4>where they're going because I'm fast.

0:44:28.680 --> 0:44:32.200
<v Speaker 2>They can get in that car. They have no fucking destination,

0:44:32.719 --> 0:44:33.799
<v Speaker 2>but they can drive it.

0:44:34.640 --> 0:44:37.520
<v Speaker 3>Well that's what they need it. I don't know.

0:44:37.560 --> 0:44:41.080
<v Speaker 2>And Okay, our attention to detail is different, I think women, But.

0:44:41.080 --> 0:44:44.240
<v Speaker 3>Then I mean different and not all the time.

0:44:44.360 --> 0:44:46.319
<v Speaker 2>That's not I don't think these things are true all the.

0:44:46.280 --> 0:44:48.520
<v Speaker 3>Time, bitch. I'm not proposing to anyone.

0:44:48.560 --> 0:44:50.359
<v Speaker 2>I know. I still feel the same way. But I

0:44:50.400 --> 0:44:52.120
<v Speaker 2>was like, do I here's it? But then I thought,

0:44:52.280 --> 0:44:54.319
<v Speaker 2>and then I was like, is this something I want

0:44:54.320 --> 0:44:57.560
<v Speaker 2>to unlearn I need to do? And then I was like, no,

0:44:57.800 --> 0:44:58.480
<v Speaker 2>not really.

0:44:58.239 --> 0:45:01.440
<v Speaker 3>I'm good certain things I don't want unlearn.

0:45:01.480 --> 0:45:04.000
<v Speaker 2>That's what I don't. I think there's other things higher

0:45:04.040 --> 0:45:04.600
<v Speaker 2>up on the list.

0:45:04.680 --> 0:45:04.879
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:45:04.920 --> 0:45:07.080
<v Speaker 2>There. Once I accomplish these and then we'll think about

0:45:07.080 --> 0:45:07.480
<v Speaker 2>that again.

0:45:08.200 --> 0:45:11.160
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I love pink. She proposed to her man,

0:45:11.400 --> 0:45:13.640
<v Speaker 3>I think he proposed to her and answer or something.

0:45:13.640 --> 0:45:18.560
<v Speaker 2>And then my high school sweetheart, his wife proposed to him,

0:45:19.040 --> 0:45:20.680
<v Speaker 2>and I remember like when that happened, I was like.

0:45:20.680 --> 0:45:21.560
<v Speaker 3>She gotta want knee here.

0:45:22.560 --> 0:45:25.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't quite know. I think she just like I

0:45:25.440 --> 0:45:27.239
<v Speaker 2>think know they're on the couch and she was just

0:45:27.280 --> 0:45:30.040
<v Speaker 2>like proposed to him with the ring. Uh huh.

0:45:30.480 --> 0:45:34.840
<v Speaker 3>I mean I think it's very face right now, that face.

0:45:35.200 --> 0:45:37.120
<v Speaker 3>I think it's very forward thinking.

0:45:37.160 --> 0:45:41.840
<v Speaker 2>I love it. Yeah, I mean no, it's no for me.

0:45:41.960 --> 0:45:43.360
<v Speaker 4>I just don't want to do it. I mean, I

0:45:43.600 --> 0:45:45.200
<v Speaker 4>don't know who knows they're gonna fall in love with it?

0:45:45.239 --> 0:45:46.000
<v Speaker 3>Like it was so dumb.

0:45:46.040 --> 0:45:47.719
<v Speaker 4>He doesn't understand that he wants me to be his wife,

0:45:47.760 --> 0:45:49.160
<v Speaker 4>and I'll do him the great face.

0:45:49.160 --> 0:45:51.600
<v Speaker 2>Look, I'm already obsessed with you. The least you can

0:45:51.680 --> 0:45:55.120
<v Speaker 2>do is proposed act like you want me, like I'm

0:45:55.239 --> 0:45:59.440
<v Speaker 2>already giving you everything you would desire, because that's how

0:45:59.440 --> 0:46:04.239
<v Speaker 2>I do. It's that's how I feel, that's how So

0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:06.839
<v Speaker 2>the least you can do is shower me too with

0:46:06.880 --> 0:46:11.040
<v Speaker 2>that diamond. It has to be something really interesting. I've

0:46:11.040 --> 0:46:12.680
<v Speaker 2>been looking at rings online for what.

0:46:13.040 --> 0:46:20.040
<v Speaker 4>I don't know, because it's my genetics, my anatomy.

0:46:19.640 --> 0:46:25.120
<v Speaker 3>That wedding, wedding, we engaging husband, Oh my god, sounds

0:46:25.160 --> 0:46:25.680
<v Speaker 3>so sad.

0:46:25.880 --> 0:46:27.680
<v Speaker 2>No, I don't want to. I don't. I don't know

0:46:27.719 --> 0:46:28.480
<v Speaker 2>if I want already.

0:46:28.560 --> 0:46:30.359
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I don't I want to ring.

0:46:30.480 --> 0:46:31.400
<v Speaker 2>I want to ring, but I don't know.

0:46:31.520 --> 0:46:33.000
<v Speaker 3>And the ceremony doesn't have to be legal.

0:46:33.520 --> 0:46:35.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't need it to be legal. I don't want

0:46:35.120 --> 0:46:37.520
<v Speaker 2>it to be legal. I don't. As a matter of fact,

0:46:37.560 --> 0:46:40.200
<v Speaker 2>I truly do not want to be married legally. I'm

0:46:40.239 --> 0:46:41.800
<v Speaker 2>totally cool not being married legally.

0:46:41.840 --> 0:46:44.160
<v Speaker 3>I'll change my last name. Maybe not. Maybe I'm not.

0:46:44.360 --> 0:46:46.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to change the last name. I'm good.

0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:50.040
<v Speaker 2>Mm hm no, I like that. I like the way

0:46:50.040 --> 0:46:51.680
<v Speaker 2>it looks like. I like my signature.

0:46:53.000 --> 0:46:53.200
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:46:53.320 --> 0:46:54.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't see a better name than me.

0:46:59.800 --> 0:47:01.239
<v Speaker 2>If you give me horror stories. Oh my god, oh

0:47:01.280 --> 0:47:08.640
<v Speaker 2>my god, we have we have a horror story. Who stories?

0:47:09.040 --> 0:47:12.719
<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, it's pretty nasty, filthy god, it's been a

0:47:12.719 --> 0:47:15.080
<v Speaker 2>while since we've shared a horror story. My brother's coming

0:47:15.120 --> 0:47:16.320
<v Speaker 2>in like ten minutes.

0:47:16.600 --> 0:47:18.399
<v Speaker 3>Okay, it will take less time.

0:47:18.400 --> 0:47:21.399
<v Speaker 2>We can sit in. We got a horror story from

0:47:21.480 --> 0:47:25.279
<v Speaker 2>one of our loyal listeners, our day one, one of

0:47:25.280 --> 0:47:30.440
<v Speaker 2>our day ones. She was so so generous, so generous,

0:47:30.560 --> 0:47:35.040
<v Speaker 2>she shared this horror to us. I had a lot

0:47:35.040 --> 0:47:36.960
<v Speaker 2>of questions that I messaged her about.

0:47:36.680 --> 0:47:38.799
<v Speaker 3>You did I think, I think I do you haven't

0:47:38.800 --> 0:47:39.640
<v Speaker 3>time some questions.

0:47:39.920 --> 0:47:41.440
<v Speaker 2>I was like, wait, I need clarity.

0:47:42.520 --> 0:47:44.560
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, where is it?

0:47:46.320 --> 0:47:47.000
<v Speaker 2>Her name is?

0:47:47.120 --> 0:47:47.440
<v Speaker 3>Oh that.

0:47:49.120 --> 0:47:51.640
<v Speaker 2>I was expecting that. I'm not expecting that.

0:47:51.719 --> 0:47:55.160
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh, okay, okay, are you guys ready

0:47:55.200 --> 0:48:01.480
<v Speaker 4>for this? Hey, ladies, please don't say my name, but man,

0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:02.920
<v Speaker 4>is this epic to me?

0:48:03.000 --> 0:48:03.360
<v Speaker 3>Anyway?

0:48:03.920 --> 0:48:05.840
<v Speaker 4>So I met this guy on tender last week and

0:48:05.840 --> 0:48:08.040
<v Speaker 4>we decided to go on a date Friday, since that

0:48:08.080 --> 0:48:10.640
<v Speaker 4>was when I would finally have a sitter. We chat

0:48:10.680 --> 0:48:13.239
<v Speaker 4>it all week and I was very impressed by him.

0:48:13.280 --> 0:48:17.200
<v Speaker 4>An athletic director for an elementary school, super witty and attentive.

0:48:17.600 --> 0:48:20.600
<v Speaker 4>I even sent him the episode with Bjay because of

0:48:20.640 --> 0:48:22.640
<v Speaker 4>the teacher stories, and he really listened.

0:48:23.040 --> 0:48:24.600
<v Speaker 3>Of course, we talked about.

0:48:24.440 --> 0:48:28.000
<v Speaker 4>Sex, but nothing that ever seemed pushy or imposing. Disclaimer

0:48:28.080 --> 0:48:32.520
<v Speaker 4>I'm not a big drinker. And also no, wait, wait, wait, okay,

0:48:33.200 --> 0:48:35.600
<v Speaker 4>So Friday comes. So Friday comes and we go for

0:48:35.680 --> 0:48:37.880
<v Speaker 4>tacos and disclaimer I'm not a big drinker.

0:48:37.880 --> 0:48:40.240
<v Speaker 3>And also don't judge my drinks of choice. I totally

0:48:40.320 --> 0:48:43.000
<v Speaker 3>judged you. I have two Sangarius.

0:48:43.800 --> 0:48:45.400
<v Speaker 4>We decided to go to a bar where I have

0:48:45.440 --> 0:48:47.920
<v Speaker 4>a red Bull and vodka gross and the comfo is

0:48:48.040 --> 0:48:51.080
<v Speaker 4>super flowing. Now with the music being loud, we have

0:48:51.120 --> 0:48:53.239
<v Speaker 4>to get close and everything is right. We head to

0:48:53.280 --> 0:48:55.560
<v Speaker 4>another bar where I take down two more red bull

0:48:55.560 --> 0:48:58.920
<v Speaker 4>of vodkas. By now we were those people. We were

0:48:58.960 --> 0:49:01.719
<v Speaker 4>making out, his hands on my ass, grinding all that.

0:49:02.680 --> 0:49:04.880
<v Speaker 4>We decided to leave and go to my place. I

0:49:05.000 --> 0:49:09.239
<v Speaker 4>was smacked, y'all. So to get to my place and

0:49:09.280 --> 0:49:10.200
<v Speaker 4>I smoke a blunt.

0:49:10.600 --> 0:49:12.239
<v Speaker 3>Oh god, and I'm done.

0:49:12.520 --> 0:49:14.040
<v Speaker 2>That's what you went that's where you went wrong, the

0:49:14.120 --> 0:49:16.840
<v Speaker 2>right bitched.

0:49:17.120 --> 0:49:19.200
<v Speaker 4>I get in the bed and yell across the house

0:49:19.239 --> 0:49:21.520
<v Speaker 4>to come in my room, laugh out loud. So she

0:49:21.760 --> 0:49:24.359
<v Speaker 4>gets pop it and I'm the kind of drunk now

0:49:24.440 --> 0:49:28.040
<v Speaker 4>where everything is spinning, y'all. When I was giving him head,

0:49:28.280 --> 0:49:34.120
<v Speaker 4>I threw up all my tacos, bitch, and he says,

0:49:34.680 --> 0:49:40.080
<v Speaker 4>keep going, and I did. I kept going, and everything

0:49:40.239 --> 0:49:44.680
<v Speaker 4>was just wet and slippery. He was spitting in my mouth. Ooh,

0:49:44.719 --> 0:49:46.200
<v Speaker 4>I don't know how long it took him.

0:49:46.040 --> 0:49:55.719
<v Speaker 2>To almost five minutes. Yeah, close the door, please, thank you.

0:49:56.000 --> 0:49:57.680
<v Speaker 2>Read the last line before.

0:49:58.760 --> 0:50:00.600
<v Speaker 4>And he says to keep going, and I did. I

0:50:00.680 --> 0:50:03.600
<v Speaker 4>kept going, and everything was just wet and slippery, slippery.

0:50:03.719 --> 0:50:05.600
<v Speaker 4>He was spitting in my mouth. I don't know how

0:50:05.600 --> 0:50:07.640
<v Speaker 4>long it took him to come, because I found about

0:50:07.719 --> 0:50:10.719
<v Speaker 4>six condoms in my house the next day cleaning, but

0:50:10.800 --> 0:50:13.000
<v Speaker 4>I remember him coming on my boobs and then wiping

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 4>it like lotion. Apparently at some point we showered and

0:50:17.080 --> 0:50:19.759
<v Speaker 4>changed the sheets before passing out. Needless to say, I

0:50:19.760 --> 0:50:22.800
<v Speaker 4>spent Saturday with the hangover from hell. I've been wondering

0:50:22.800 --> 0:50:25.200
<v Speaker 4>where I was going to find someone to genuinely explore

0:50:25.239 --> 0:50:29.440
<v Speaker 4>that part of my wandering mind with me, and I've

0:50:29.480 --> 0:50:31.560
<v Speaker 4>met my match and this is one hell of a

0:50:31.560 --> 0:50:34.600
<v Speaker 4>first date story to have. Anyway, just spending the weekend

0:50:34.600 --> 0:50:36.839
<v Speaker 4>processing this experience and hoping to be able to share

0:50:36.880 --> 0:50:37.720
<v Speaker 4>more in the future.

0:50:38.000 --> 0:50:38.520
<v Speaker 3>Love y'all.

0:50:40.239 --> 0:50:42.840
<v Speaker 2>Wait, so what My first question was like, wait, so,

0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:45.400
<v Speaker 2>when he came on your chest and he smeared it,

0:50:45.600 --> 0:50:49.640
<v Speaker 2>did he also smear the throw up and they're just

0:50:49.719 --> 0:50:51.680
<v Speaker 2>throw up everywhere? She said yes.

0:50:52.120 --> 0:50:59.560
<v Speaker 7>I was like, oh my, that is disgusting. Bitch smiled

0:50:59.560 --> 0:51:02.120
<v Speaker 7>and every Oh my god, how girl?

0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:03.920
<v Speaker 4>Because I think I asked you the same thing like

0:51:06.719 --> 0:51:09.800
<v Speaker 4>he must he said, keep going. He's a little nasty freak.

0:51:09.880 --> 0:51:15.280
<v Speaker 4>Those teachers, Oh my god. Apartment of Education that's not freak.

0:51:15.360 --> 0:51:19.200
<v Speaker 3>That's just like nasty. It's nasty.

0:51:19.480 --> 0:51:21.600
<v Speaker 4>But you know the part is I've given head and

0:51:21.640 --> 0:51:24.480
<v Speaker 4>felt myself almost like swallow it back down.

0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:31.680
<v Speaker 3>He's Lord, no, no, Lord, Jesus never no. Please let

0:51:31.680 --> 0:51:33.080
<v Speaker 3>me stay right here at the top. Let me stay

0:51:33.120 --> 0:51:33.319
<v Speaker 3>right here.

0:51:34.320 --> 0:51:37.640
<v Speaker 2>Break, give it a break, all right, Like we're gonna

0:51:37.640 --> 0:51:44.080
<v Speaker 2>have to try and do something else. Yeah, bad hoary

0:51:44.280 --> 0:51:48.080
<v Speaker 2>level ten, level ten, horri that's the ship I'm talking about. Yeah,

0:51:48.120 --> 0:51:50.880
<v Speaker 2>and guys, please share more horriy.

0:51:51.000 --> 0:51:52.399
<v Speaker 3>We're not even gonna say your name.

0:51:52.920 --> 0:51:55.960
<v Speaker 2>No, just just share the wealth. Man, go back and

0:51:55.960 --> 0:51:58.400
<v Speaker 2>listen to some of ours, and you don't give you confidence.

0:51:58.400 --> 0:52:00.799
<v Speaker 3>You know, you probably need to tell of our own soon.

0:52:00.920 --> 0:52:01.239
<v Speaker 5>I'm not.

0:52:02.880 --> 0:52:05.919
<v Speaker 2>I mean no, I'm sure we have some. I'm starting

0:52:05.920 --> 0:52:07.680
<v Speaker 2>to have some in the vault something, right. I got

0:52:07.680 --> 0:52:09.360
<v Speaker 2>to rethink sometimes we should block those.

0:52:09.160 --> 0:52:12.040
<v Speaker 4>Out right, I'm good at blocking shit out, but clearly

0:52:12.160 --> 0:52:14.839
<v Speaker 4>for entertainment purposes, we needed to pull them out.

0:52:14.840 --> 0:52:16.240
<v Speaker 3>We've been slacking our horries.

0:52:16.760 --> 0:52:18.560
<v Speaker 4>And you know, I come to the conclusion because we

0:52:18.640 --> 0:52:22.040
<v Speaker 4>get hories and some of them were just leveled two

0:52:22.320 --> 0:52:24.680
<v Speaker 4>and rarely loved. And I come to the conclusion that

0:52:24.760 --> 0:52:29.120
<v Speaker 4>everybody listening actually is listening for our horri stories, like

0:52:29.160 --> 0:52:30.920
<v Speaker 4>maybe they're really scored. Like let's just listen to these

0:52:30.960 --> 0:52:34.279
<v Speaker 4>crazy bitches for entertainment, you know, like so or else.

0:52:34.320 --> 0:52:37.040
<v Speaker 3>You guys are just holding out, which I don't appreciate.

0:52:37.560 --> 0:52:41.759
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm gonna think hard hard this week. All right,

0:52:41.840 --> 0:52:46.120
<v Speaker 2>Well that concludes our episode. Make sure you go check

0:52:46.160 --> 0:52:49.799
<v Speaker 2>out our merch we are actually doing. We're about to

0:52:49.840 --> 0:52:52.799
<v Speaker 2>go to this meet up. We're not meeting. It's on

0:52:52.840 --> 0:52:55.800
<v Speaker 2>meet up. This event on Sunday and Lamert Park. You guys,

0:52:56.360 --> 0:53:01.320
<v Speaker 2>it's what is it called mask something. It's for kids.

0:53:01.360 --> 0:53:03.680
<v Speaker 2>Your kids are your kids can come and you can

0:53:03.680 --> 0:53:06.239
<v Speaker 2>come into arts and crafts and you can make these

0:53:06.280 --> 0:53:11.480
<v Speaker 2>masks that represent your ancestry. It's a good even though

0:53:11.520 --> 0:53:13.719
<v Speaker 2>maybe you don't know your ancestry because slavery, but your

0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:16.319
<v Speaker 2>home is gonna be Like I'm gonna go with like

0:53:16.960 --> 0:53:20.280
<v Speaker 2>what ancestry dot com told me, which is also probably

0:53:20.360 --> 0:53:21.880
<v Speaker 2>a lie since they switched.

0:53:21.760 --> 0:53:22.200
<v Speaker 5>Up on me.

0:53:23.680 --> 0:53:26.160
<v Speaker 2>But anyway, we're gonna post the details on our Instagram.

0:53:26.280 --> 0:53:27.960
<v Speaker 2>Remember I said I was Nigerian and then suddenly I

0:53:27.960 --> 0:53:31.440
<v Speaker 2>wasn't Nigerian at all anymore. No, you're what like Cameroon

0:53:31.680 --> 0:53:37.520
<v Speaker 2>and some other shit ivery coast anyway Sunday, Yes, and

0:53:37.560 --> 0:53:39.560
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0:53:40.280 --> 0:53:42.760
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