Speaker 1: Here it is the groove slightly transformed, just a bit
Speaker 1: of a break from the norm, just.
Speaker 2: A little something to break the monotony.
Speaker 1: Of all that hardcore dance that it's gotten to be
Speaker 1: a little bit out of control.
Speaker 3: It's cool to dance.
Speaker 1: But what about a groove the souves and moves romance.
Speaker 1: Give me a soft, subtle mix. And if it ain't broken,
Speaker 1: don't try to fix it, and think of the summers
Speaker 1: of the past, or just the face and let the
Speaker 1: Alpine last pop in my CEDDN. Let me run around
Speaker 1: and put your car on cruise and lay back because
Speaker 1: it's the summer time.
Speaker 2: Welcome back for good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 2: I'm Mela, and this is episode sixty six.
Speaker 3: Sixty six, sixty six. I think I'm pretty sure it is.
Speaker 4: If we've been counting correctly, it is crazy, it is right, Wow,
Speaker 4: sixty six sixty six recorded therapy session for.
Speaker 2: Real, for real.
Speaker 3: I'm pretty proud. I'm proud too. Yeah, I'm happy.
Speaker 2: Like I've done this. I've sat come to sit down
Speaker 2: at this table sixty six times, well, sixty five because
Speaker 2: one time we recorded somewhere else one time. But okay, oh, yeah, sure,
Speaker 2: wait have we Yeah wait ware new.
Speaker 3: York deep because York Wait right right, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: I'm high. Either way, we sat somewhere, we sat down,
Speaker 2: We used our brains, had intelligent conversations, also very high,
Speaker 2: and we probably said a lot of dumb shit too.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but we put that all out on the internet.
Speaker 2: So oh yeah, that's cool. That's cool. We also have
Speaker 2: some new merch on our side, guys. We have our
Speaker 2: new good Moms, Bad Choices, nameplate necklaces. They're so cute,
Speaker 2: so cute. And I've been wearing wine every day. I've
Speaker 2: gotten the I'm keep getting compliments on my Yeah. Also
Speaker 2: they've like last really.
Speaker 3: Well yeah's actually really nice quality, good quality. I'm into it.
Speaker 2: I've been wearing working out in one ship. Yeah, not
Speaker 2: really taking care of it.
Speaker 4: Two guys asked me for bad choices and silver. I'm like,
Speaker 4: we don't have silver?
Speaker 3: Were they white?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: What's the bastian? You only wore silver?
Speaker 2: Like, I don't like I don't think silver looks good
Speaker 2: on me.
Speaker 3: I don't think.
Speaker 4: I don't think silver looks good on brown people. I
Speaker 4: mean it looks good.
Speaker 3: I just like gold better. I'm just being extra gold
Speaker 3: of the Pyramids.
Speaker 2: I only love gold because it's African, pretty much of Africa.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, so we haven't.
Speaker 4: We have fucking been pre recording for so long that
Speaker 4: we haven't even really discussed anything. Right.
Speaker 2: We haven't even done a New York recap, which feels
Speaker 2: like it happened so fucking long ago, because it did
Speaker 2: and I barely remember it. It was such a blur. Oh,
Speaker 2: let me fill you in. Okay, recapy recap me.
Speaker 3: It wasn't. Okay, it wasn't a blur.
Speaker 2: It wasn't a blur. Okay. We did some really great interviews.
Speaker 4: We did some really great interviews. If you have not
Speaker 4: checked them out, you must. Mela's Dope. Alex Undone is
Speaker 4: dope as fuck. Mela Murders Let's Talk Mother is coming
Speaker 4: up if you're in La.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's on July seventh, and definitely go follow her
Speaker 2: and also her community page on Instagram at Let's Talk
Speaker 2: Mother so you can learn more about it. It's basically
Speaker 2: like this amazing safe space that she creates for single
Speaker 2: moms to come and just kind of like lay all
Speaker 2: their shit out there. It's kid friendly. They're gonna have
Speaker 2: like play shit for the kids, free it's free. It's
Speaker 2: just like, if you feel like you just need to
Speaker 2: relate to another mother, whether your single mom or not,
Speaker 2: just come come because it's gonna be dope when we'll
Speaker 2: be there.
Speaker 3: Yes, what else we do in New York? Okay, so
Speaker 3: we met up in New York.
Speaker 4: We obviously were trying to rage because that's what we do.
Speaker 2: There's no kids, there's time for raging.
Speaker 4: Yes, and self care for us is raging. You know,
Speaker 4: people coming here who does who don't know us. Everybody
Speaker 4: has their own shit. Everybody's different, but for us, you know,
Speaker 4: raging is a form of self care.
Speaker 3: That's what we do.
Speaker 2: I agree, you.
Speaker 4: Know, not all the time, but we're ragers by nature.
Speaker 4: Everybody may not rage.
Speaker 3: Don't force it. If you're not a rager, don't do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but honestly, I don't feel like raging all the time,
Speaker 2: but when I do, we do do it.
Speaker 3: We had a Oh, we had a dope little meetup.
Speaker 4: We had a couple of moms come out shout out
Speaker 4: to our friends that came to see us.
Speaker 3: That was really cool. We had. We went to a
Speaker 3: dope ass.
Speaker 4: Bar, the Honeywell in Harlem. We had some friends meet us.
Speaker 4: We oh yeah, I forgot.
Speaker 3: Anthony met us smold people.
Speaker 4: Then we walked to Red Rooster and continued to get
Speaker 4: done first meeting it.
Speaker 2: Like, I love Red Rooster. I was so excited to
Speaker 2: bring you guys there. I'm so glad. It was like
Speaker 2: a dope night ycause they have like some other nights
Speaker 2: are cool, but like that night specifically is the one
Speaker 2: I always go to. And it's just like, I'm sure
Speaker 2: if you guys live in New York, you know Red
Speaker 2: Rooster and Harlem, like they have the live music, live singing.
Speaker 2: It's just it's just good energy.
Speaker 3: Everybody was super talented who just picked up the mic?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you just pop over to Salavanas and
Speaker 2: do some weird shit in there normally.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's what we did. That's exactly what we did.
Speaker 4: And it was like it was like a Monday night.
Speaker 4: The moms kicked it. I'm coming, baby, I'm coming.
Speaker 3: Oh. And then to top it off, we had seafood.
Speaker 2: Your mom's right here.
Speaker 4: We had seafood in Harlem, a twenty four our seafood place,
Speaker 4: which you know, my fat ass goes to religiously every ding.
Speaker 2: It was bomb.
Speaker 3: It's bomb. What was that place?
Speaker 4: Called. It was like, I can't remember when a Spanish
Speaker 4: name or yeah it's bomb.
Speaker 3: What else did we do?
Speaker 2: I also fell in love that night.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you had like a little serious makeout session. When
Speaker 4: Erica falls in love, she sees nothing else.
Speaker 3: She sees rat. She only sees It's like tunnel visions
Speaker 3: that person, is it? Yeah?
Speaker 4: That so okay. So we went to Harlem bar. We
Speaker 4: walked to another bar because someone had to charge their phone.
Speaker 4: Remember that, not a shot and a phone charge. Then
Speaker 4: we went to Red Rooster BUGGI down. And then I
Speaker 4: think somewhere between the the charging spot and Red Rooster
Speaker 4: we met.
Speaker 2: I met at the charging spot from the shot was
Speaker 2: the charging spot before after Red Rooster.
Speaker 3: After okay, so it was Red Rooster the charging spot.
Speaker 4: And then we went to Silvana's and along the way
Speaker 4: she picked up the love of her life of that night.
Speaker 3: And I don't think I saw her.
Speaker 2: I like looked I apparently remember he told me that
Speaker 2: he was adopted, he was raised by two white parents.
Speaker 3: He's a lawyer.
Speaker 2: His name was his name? I already forgot it.
Speaker 3: I don't remember. Fuck he was a lawyer. Though he
Speaker 3: was a.
Speaker 2: Lawyer and he was going to Spain. He was gonna
Speaker 2: be in France when I was there. Then we text
Speaker 2: a few times. Then he just stopped texting me. So
Speaker 2: we're divorced already.
Speaker 3: This is w I was like, I didn't.
Speaker 2: I was so confused though. I thought he like he
Speaker 2: was the one adamant about I saw you're gonna give
Speaker 2: me your number, and I'm like, he asked me a
Speaker 2: few times and I was like, okay, and then maybe
Speaker 2: he lost his phone. I don't know what the fuck.
Speaker 3: I can't.
Speaker 2: I can't stand these.
Speaker 3: I know guys are dead. My grandmother said they're dance
Speaker 3: and that's accurate.
Speaker 2: They're so dense their brain is this? I just can't.
Speaker 2: If anyone saw my rant the other day on Instagram,
Speaker 2: I later wondered like, oh my god, what the men
Speaker 2: that would listen to my rant? Like do they think
Speaker 2: I met man bashing? Yes? The answers yes, because you
Speaker 2: guys are dumb, you have smart my son. Then I
Speaker 2: started thinking, when I was thinking really deep into this,
Speaker 2: I was like, what about the women that listen that
Speaker 2: have sons talking shit about their future adult men? I
Speaker 2: mean they have I stop.
Speaker 3: Oh can you close that door for me too?
Speaker 2: Please?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I mean I thought about that it's easy for
Speaker 4: us to bash men because we don't have daughters.
Speaker 2: I know, I literally thought about that.
Speaker 3: I was like, but you know, I did think about
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 2: Like, well, hopefully they're teaching their sons not to do
Speaker 2: this dumb shit.
Speaker 4: I also thought, Damn, I don't want lit they keep
Speaker 4: hearing me say, God, men are dumb, gus. Men are
Speaker 4: fucking stupid, stupid. I say it all the time because
Speaker 4: I'm like, they're dumb. But then I'm like, damn, I'm
Speaker 4: going to program her to just.
Speaker 2: They're not dumb. Okay, first of all, let me break
Speaker 2: this down for you. Are obviously they're smart. Okay, obviously
Speaker 2: like they you know, they can whole job some ship
Speaker 2: we take out the We know what's their dumb They
Speaker 2: know what the dumb part of men is. Not all men,
Speaker 2: but most and it's almost not even their fault. Emotional intelligence.
Speaker 2: That's where it is, and that's what we are talking about. Well,
Speaker 2: when I say a man is done, that's what I'm
Speaker 2: talking about, the emotional intelligence. And don't get me wrong,
Speaker 2: there's a lot of emotionally unintelligent women out there, for sure,
Speaker 2: am I am I like the most emotionally intelligent person. No,
Speaker 2: but am I emotionally intelligent? Yeah, I would say I am.
Speaker 2: But I just feel like I don't know if society
Speaker 2: has fucked them over. I don't know how it's an undoing.
Speaker 2: I think it just starts with like the mothers Now,
Speaker 2: it's all it's on us.
Speaker 4: The patriarchy, making them think that they just have to
Speaker 4: exist and not do much else.
Speaker 3: Anyway, factor New York.
Speaker 4: Oh, I broke my celibacy maybe a couple of days,
Speaker 4: shy of six months.
Speaker 3: With the young bag because I'm weak and men have
Speaker 3: magical powers. Those powers are called dick.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I'm cool with that decision. I'm going
Speaker 4: to go back to it now. I'm got some active crazy.
Speaker 4: Now I'm back on, back on. I'm cool with being
Speaker 4: celibate again. I feel like I had a good ten
Speaker 4: days and now I crack.
Speaker 2: That's what you sound like. I binged for ten days straight,
Speaker 2: never left, and now I'm sober again. Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 2: I have not had sex and I don't. The thing
Speaker 2: is is, like I think I for me, I don't
Speaker 2: not putting it. I'm not saying I'm celibate because but
Speaker 2: I I am, but I am, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: But I think also I'm not opposed to having sex.
Speaker 2: I just actually don't want to have any for the
Speaker 2: first time. And like since I probably have really been single,
Speaker 2: like pretty much my my singleness was like navigated through sex,
Speaker 2: Like that's what I that's what I craved, that's what
Speaker 2: I felt like I needed. After my relationship, I kind
Speaker 2: of like remembered that how much I enjoy it again
Speaker 2: because I wasn't really like fulfilling like my I wasn't
Speaker 2: fulfilled sexually all the way. So I just think that
Speaker 2: that's where I've been and now I'm in a place
Speaker 2: now where it just feels like I feel like it's
Speaker 2: a waste to just be giving my sex away lately.
Speaker 2: Like it's not that I'm down, I'm DTF okay, but
Speaker 2: I just want I'm hard just like giving it away casually.
Speaker 2: And and you guys know, like I don't. If you're
Speaker 2: doing that right now, fucking go for that whatever, that's
Speaker 2: totally cool. It's just I'm not in that space right now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to be in a space for it,
Speaker 4: and you have to recognize if you're in this because
Speaker 4: it's it's what you need at that moment, or if
Speaker 4: you do, then when I start.
Speaker 2: When it starts hurting, that's when you know, maybe you're
Speaker 2: not in that space anymore. Maybe the space isn't right
Speaker 2: for you anymore because you want something more or different,
Speaker 2: or it's not it's not doing what it was before.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because even even participating will you know, like with
Speaker 4: Young Bay, after like like consciously making decision not to
Speaker 4: do it, I mean, there was some disappointment, you know,
Speaker 4: like not like I obviously knew what I signed myself
Speaker 4: up for, but I was like, damn, what should I
Speaker 4: have done that?
Speaker 3: You know, like you're I'm gonna leave here, You're still
Speaker 3: gonna be fucking.
Speaker 4: Other bitches and like not that, Like it's not that
Speaker 4: I own him, but it was just like it was
Speaker 4: it made me feel like it was really casual and
Speaker 4: it wasn't for me, you know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 4: of course I know like we love each other, but
Speaker 4: I was just like, I'm a Christian, I'm waiting to marriage.
Speaker 2: I feel you, I mean and I have. I mean,
Speaker 2: it's not that I'm not hooking up with not like
Speaker 2: making out or doing other things.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I'm a maker outer I will make out
Speaker 3: out out.
Speaker 4: I'm down to me that tongue. Yeah, I met out
Speaker 4: with a bartender. I met out with the guy I
Speaker 4: met at the Hookah restaurant. I was making out.
Speaker 3: But anything past that just seems too much.
Speaker 2: Although there is someone that I've been thinking of, I
Speaker 2: think I need to just vibrating tongue, vibrating mouth.
Speaker 3: So Erica called me Melord of Town.
Speaker 4: And she's like, oh, you know, we're talking about sex
Speaker 4: because that's what we do. And she's like, I had
Speaker 4: some great sex last night.
Speaker 3: It was amazing. His tongue was fine.
Speaker 2: But then I said, wait, I didn't even have sex.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yes, I thought, because.
Speaker 2: I keep whenever I talk about the story, I keep
Speaker 2: saying that I've had sex, But then I remember I
Speaker 2: have sex.
Speaker 3: It was just like oral and like and everything else.
Speaker 4: So one of my greatest, one of our greatest quotes
Speaker 4: ever I think of our friendship is bitch.
Speaker 3: You know, girls like us, Girls like us.
Speaker 4: So like like in booty holes and playing in butts,
Speaker 4: and we're nasty, like to be choked.
Speaker 3: We can't just settle for anybody. We can't.
Speaker 4: This is everybody. Everybody's not gonna get it and we
Speaker 4: deserve to be with someone who understands us sexually. And
Speaker 4: I was like, whoah, true.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just true. I don't want to admit it.
Speaker 2: I think like after that experience, I was like, what, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm not giving up for a mediocre ass penis or
Speaker 2: any or medio grass.
Speaker 4: Mouth or goals like like, I'm not goals, Like I
Speaker 4: don't I don't want too many boundaries.
Speaker 2: You had many boundaries.
Speaker 3: You need to be free, yeah.
Speaker 2: And of course, like you don't have to like everything,
Speaker 2: but at least try try it, try it. But anyway,
Speaker 2: his mouth vibrated like, oh my god, his mouth is
Speaker 2: a vibrator, like I've never he was singing. He was
Speaker 2: sinking to my vagina.
Speaker 3: I know he's also an R and B singer. They
Speaker 3: shut up. That is so general. Nobody knows that could
Speaker 3: be anyone. David.
Speaker 2: I'm never liking one photo of his ever again.
Speaker 3: No, I mean, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2: No one's following.
Speaker 3: What They just follow some other R and B s
Speaker 3: What the fuck?
Speaker 2: Okay, he is an ARMB singer. And he literally was
Speaker 2: like like the vibrato it was like I don't know,
Speaker 2: it was like the sound was like I was trying
Speaker 2: to show someone like on my hand, like what it
Speaker 2: what it was, But I still don't really know how
Speaker 2: he did it. It was like, no, it wasn't even
Speaker 2: the tongue, girl, it was his like lips were like,
Speaker 2: give me wait?
Speaker 3: Was he making it? Nois? Yes, he was singing.
Speaker 2: That's what I mean.
Speaker 3: Yes, sound was coming out of his mouth. Dud. Did
Speaker 3: it sound good?
Speaker 2: And just so like that sound good? But this isn't
Speaker 2: gonna sound good. I'm not an ARMB singer. Do you
Speaker 2: feel the vibration?
Speaker 5: Though?
Speaker 2: It was even stronger than that. So I don't know.
Speaker 3: What's gonna make me try to teach my niggas how
Speaker 3: to do that. Let me, let me, let me showed me.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna come get it.
Speaker 3: That's gonna be me. Try to show my niggas, like,
Speaker 3: let me show you what I need you to do.
Speaker 2: Stop that that was good. I felt it. I felt it. Okay, guys,
Speaker 2: get home or if you're in the car driving right now,
Speaker 2: put your hand to in a circular show. I put
Speaker 2: it on your like the back of your your hand
Speaker 2: and just go. Actually, now I feel it. It's a
Speaker 2: vibration and that's what he was doing.
Speaker 4: Now, you're gonna have all of us out here single,
Speaker 4: because no one does that. Let me searching for this
Speaker 4: kind of vibrating, singing mouth, and it's gonna.
Speaker 2: So I've been dreaming of that ever since. And I honestly,
Speaker 2: you know, when we hooked up, I told him that
Speaker 2: I'm not having sex right now, and he was cool
Speaker 2: with it, and then when he was vibrating and singing
Speaker 2: to it, I was like, fuck this, I'm about to
Speaker 2: have sex. I don't give a fuck. I don't care
Speaker 2: what I say, and he wouldn't. He was like, no,
Speaker 2: you said no, then stick to that. And he's like,
Speaker 2: just let me, please, you just let me just enjoy this.
Speaker 2: And I was like what, I love how this sounds,
Speaker 2: I know, and also made me like kind of angry
Speaker 2: because you know, I'm like I don't like to be
Speaker 2: told no. And but then it turned me on even
Speaker 2: more and I was like, oh my god, so there's
Speaker 2: I might have sex. I just don't. I'm just not
Speaker 2: even even then even like, well I probably would've had
Speaker 2: he said no, but I just don't not really in
Speaker 2: that space right now.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I took a lot of advice from Daphney's
Speaker 4: episode and just realizing I'm just not about the open
Speaker 4: relationship life and I'm not about like I'm not saying
Speaker 4: I'm not about dating because obviously you have to date.
Speaker 2: I'm about dating for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just but I know I'm not afraid to
Speaker 4: tell someone like long time, I want like a long
Speaker 4: term partnership, like kind of like monogamous.
Speaker 2: Did you say that on like the like very soon
Speaker 2: into like the first few dates.
Speaker 4: If I felt like it's someone that I could see
Speaker 4: a potential with, yeah, m if it's someone I don't
Speaker 4: even care about, I'll be like, yeah, whatever, I'm just
Speaker 4: not called.
Speaker 2: And you're not scared that that might scare the person
Speaker 2: of that person away, even if even if he could
Speaker 2: be ready for them, I'm too old at some point.
Speaker 3: If you can't take directness, you're not gonna like me.
Speaker 3: That's true in general.
Speaker 4: In general, if you don't like someone who's gonna be direct,
Speaker 4: you're just not gonna like me.
Speaker 3: So that's cool.
Speaker 4: If you want to beat around the busher, it's not
Speaker 4: I'm not really like they don't have a type of mouth.
Speaker 3: So no, I'm not afraid anymore.
Speaker 4: Like I think there was a place where I would
Speaker 4: be like I would never say that, and I would
Speaker 4: be like I would never but I'm like, bitch, got kid,
Speaker 4: I'm all like I'm.
Speaker 3: Not old, not old, but older like I'm not. I'm
Speaker 3: just not.
Speaker 4: Like, you know, there was a time where I would
Speaker 4: be down to be the third person in an open relationship.
Speaker 3: I would be down, like sure, sign me up.
Speaker 2: I don't you don't think you'll ever go back to
Speaker 2: that now, like this is this is who you are now?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Like maybe if I get in a committment relationship with
Speaker 4: someone I really fuck with and really love and really
Speaker 4: have a bomb.
Speaker 2: Like the the rule for you to do that now
Speaker 2: you've realized is you have to be the main girl.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I don't want to be who wants to
Speaker 4: be number two in any situation.
Speaker 2: I don't commitment.
Speaker 3: I don't okay, I'm good. I'm good.
Speaker 4: I've had that, Like I could fuck if I wanted
Speaker 4: to fuck. I'm not fucking because I don't want to
Speaker 4: just fuck. You know it, it's old. Even if you're fine,
Speaker 4: because I got some you know, fine, even fine doesn't
Speaker 4: get you that far. Because I didn't even realize that
Speaker 4: because after I broke it, I had like lined up
Speaker 4: some situations in.
Speaker 3: My Yes, and okay, this cloes free and I'm over
Speaker 3: the lineup.
Speaker 5: Are you gonna push pause? I'll be right back. You're right, Sorry,
Speaker 5: We're back.
Speaker 2: Irie has her fruit and Jamila has her soup.
Speaker 4: Not the most silent meal I could have prepared, the
Speaker 4: clinking of.
Speaker 2: Sim anyway, Is that it for New York?
Speaker 4: I was just there for like four thousand years. I
Speaker 4: stayed three weeks and I went to DC. I visited
Speaker 4: the New Museum, the National African American History Museum, the
Speaker 4: Smithsonian bomb.
Speaker 3: Really sad though.
Speaker 4: It was really sad that unfortunately we haven't really come
Speaker 4: that far. There's still so much work to be done,
Speaker 4: and it was hard for my grandma. It was.
Speaker 3: It was a good trip though overall. But I eat crabs,
Speaker 3: which is always a highlight of place.
Speaker 2: Oh how was the food there was? Everyone keeps finding
Speaker 2: the food that was bombed. My brother told me that yesterday.
Speaker 3: Oh the museum, Yeah, food is bombed. Sulfood.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like catfish. There's fried chicken, greens, mac and cheese,
Speaker 4: hush puppies, corn bread.
Speaker 3: It was actually good. Oh, your brother went yeah, I
Speaker 3: enjoy it.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm okay, yeah, he's about to go to My
Speaker 2: brother's going to Howard in August. He's leaving so soon.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, I know, so good for him though, I know,
Speaker 2: I'm so excited for him.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he needs that, he needs Howard, which I was
Speaker 4: going to Howard.
Speaker 3: Where'd you go New York?
Speaker 2: H yes, baby, Okay, we'll just leave it there. Okay,
Speaker 2: but that's fine. I heard you. There's water over there
Speaker 2: on your table.
Speaker 3: Okay, Grama, all right, what else is new with you?
Speaker 2: Knew with me? Irie? Stop lock the door please? Okay,
Speaker 2: we'll stop kicking it, thank you girl. Nothing just work
Speaker 2: and shit. I mean, you know, I've been I feel
Speaker 2: like for months I've been.
Speaker 3: Wait did you go to Paris?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I went to Paris after you went to
Speaker 3: New York. Oh wow?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: And she went to Paris?
Speaker 2: Oh right, go ahead, I did. I went to France
Speaker 2: and I had work out there and then I brought
Speaker 2: Iri because I only had one work thing to do
Speaker 2: there really, and my one of my best friends, he
Speaker 2: lives in Berlin. He flew out there to help me
Speaker 2: with her, but like I didn't really need his help.
Speaker 2: It was just like an excuse to come and we
Speaker 2: went to We were chilling in Paris and then we
Speaker 2: went to took the train three hours to Marseilles and
Speaker 2: Merseie ver Sailles, Marseille for sci Merceille. I never remember
Speaker 2: how to say it, which is like the south of France,
Speaker 2: but it's kind of like it's not as bougie as
Speaker 2: like the rest of the South of France. It's almost
Speaker 2: kind of reminds me of like a little more like Grungey.
Speaker 2: There's like a lot of graffiti. There's really nice beaches,
Speaker 2: fine assmen in Paris.
Speaker 3: Really girl floy those accents.
Speaker 2: And I know what they're so fine, like what I
Speaker 2: didn't even know, And like I get it now. I
Speaker 2: get why Paris is like the place people like like
Speaker 2: it's it's romantic, it's beautiful. The food is great, desserts.
Speaker 2: The people are not that great, but there they look good.
Speaker 2: They're actually kind of rude, Like actually, I also bought
Speaker 2: this bitch on the plane I was about to go
Speaker 2: off on one of the flight attendant.
Speaker 3: Yeah's she friend? Yes.
Speaker 2: So, like I was on the plane and we were
Speaker 2: about were we had landed. We were I was flying
Speaker 2: from Mercelle to Paris, and because I was then a
Speaker 2: flying Paris back to La So the flight from Mercede
Speaker 2: to Paris is like, I don't know, like an hour
Speaker 2: and a half. And Irie went to the bathroom before,
Speaker 2: but you flew that, yeah, And when we were landing,
Speaker 2: she's like, Mommy, I have to pee. I can't hold it.
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, we're almost there, we're about to land,
Speaker 2: and so I was trying to distract her or distract her.
Speaker 2: And then like we were taxing forever and ever and ever,
Speaker 2: just sitting on the run. We already landed, we had
Speaker 2: already landed. So I was like, fuck this, I'm about
Speaker 2: to just get up and take her to the bathroom fully there.
Speaker 2: And so I got up and I started walking to
Speaker 2: the back of the plane and this lady's like so
Speaker 2: it's just like just no, man, no, no, And she
Speaker 2: starts to like undosse her seatbelt, starts walking towards me.
Speaker 2: You need to sit down in her French accent, which
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna try and imitate because no one
Speaker 2: needs to hear that. And she's like, you need to
Speaker 2: sit down, and I was like, my daughter has to pee.
Speaker 2: We're not moving, and she's like, no, no, I will
Speaker 2: call security. I will call security call and I was like, well,
Speaker 2: she's gonna pee. At first, I said I don't care,
Speaker 2: and I kept walking and then she got all like
Speaker 2: crazy and shit, and then.
Speaker 3: She was like, there's not another fun attendant to defend.
Speaker 2: No one said anything on this plane. They just were silent,
Speaker 2: not even the past one person. And I said, well,
Speaker 2: she's gonna pee on your plane. She's gonna pee on
Speaker 2: your seat. And she's like, you need to go sit down,
Speaker 2: go sit down, just tell it, kept telling me you
Speaker 2: need to sit down, go sit down, go sit down.
Speaker 2: I was like, little do you don't want to just
Speaker 2: watch when they see us? You don't want to tell
Speaker 2: me what the fuck to do? Okay, ma'am, Okay, ma'am.
Speaker 2: I have seen too many things on the internet this
Speaker 2: week that I am highly livid and.
Speaker 3: I don't need I don't go off.
Speaker 2: I don't need anyone your shade telling me what I
Speaker 2: can't cannot do it as it pertains to my child.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's crazy. She's a child.
Speaker 4: And it's one thing like I've gone through about them
Speaker 4: all landing while taxing all the.
Speaker 2: I get protocol, but there's a way you do shit, Okay,
Speaker 2: Like if you want me to sit down like I
Speaker 2: was still probably been pissed. You can't like the way
Speaker 2: she did it.
Speaker 4: She cannot stop you from going to the bathroom. It's
Speaker 4: not it's she can't do it physically. She cannot stop
Speaker 4: from the bathroom. You call security the fuck if you want.
Speaker 2: I was like, what if I was dying? Girl, Like,
Speaker 2: what the fuck I'm choking? You're telling me how to
Speaker 2: sit down? Shut the fuck up? Okay. So yeah, and
Speaker 2: speaking of that, all that stuff, like, girl, there's just
Speaker 2: been so much like stuff on the internet every day.
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I'm exhausted, but I want to know,
Speaker 2: I want to stay aware. But I'm also like getting
Speaker 2: like oppression fatigued.
Speaker 4: I know, because it's it's it's it's so much. It's
Speaker 4: not and it's not. The fucking part is like it's
Speaker 4: not rare.
Speaker 2: It's just because we have access to it now.
Speaker 4: It's just it's always existed, even like the family and
Speaker 4: the dollar store in Arizona and the cops pulled she's
Speaker 4: pregnant with her four year old and her boyfriend or
Speaker 4: husband whatever. They the little girl walked out of the
Speaker 4: store with the doll and apparently the cops were called.
Speaker 4: The police pull up on them, draw their guns, with
Speaker 4: her holding her child yelling at them, I'll fucking shoot
Speaker 4: you no.
Speaker 6: And it's just crazy fine that any grown man in
Speaker 6: any power of position, like any position of power, would
Speaker 6: you feel.
Speaker 3: Threatened by a family, by a pregnant woman.
Speaker 2: The way he was talking to her. He said, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna put a cap in your ass. No he did it, yes, girl,
Speaker 2: he said I will put a cap in your ass.
Speaker 2: He was cursing at her, like, oh my god, it
Speaker 2: was her child and her child. It was cray z.
Speaker 2: It was insane. I couldn't I couldn't believe that video.
Speaker 2: I'm glad it didn't end up worse, honestly because the
Speaker 2: way he how reactive he was, it was scary, Like
Speaker 2: I could have ended way worse. But I mean it
Speaker 2: still wasn't great. But like I mean, I guess that's
Speaker 2: kind of sad too that I'm now like, oh, it
Speaker 2: could have been worse, well right, But I don't mean
Speaker 2: it that way.
Speaker 4: No, It's just it's just the climate and how scary
Speaker 4: these niggas are. Yeah, Like the fuck that part is
Speaker 4: it could end up any way, like nobody's safe and
Speaker 4: like even as a woman, even with a child, even
Speaker 4: being pregnant. It doesn't matter if you're black or if
Speaker 4: you're a person of color, and they feel threatened, they're threatened.
Speaker 3: And furthermore, first.
Speaker 4: Of all, Arizona's fucking racist as fuck, and they obviously,
Speaker 4: I mean, just like it doesn't matter if you're a
Speaker 4: woman or you're a child.
Speaker 3: They see us as I don't know, like predators.
Speaker 4: And that's what's scary if you're if you're a police
Speaker 4: officer and you're getting paid by literally tax dollars and
Speaker 4: you're bullying people and acting like you're in a goddamn
Speaker 4: rap video.
Speaker 2: Or how much money is that? Because I'm officer that now.
Speaker 4: So there was another instance in Baltimore's in Baltimore where
Speaker 4: a man was being detained by the sheriff and another officer.
Speaker 4: He was sitting on the floor in like a bystander
Speaker 4: who just was walking by was like, y'all should y'all
Speaker 4: are wrong, y'all need to get him off the ground,
Speaker 4: continued to cross the street. The sheriff yealls, you didn't
Speaker 4: mind your fucking business. It's like, y'all are wrong. You
Speaker 4: needed to get him off the ground. Then they grab
Speaker 4: him from He's literally his back is to them. He's
Speaker 4: turning around while saying this. Grab him, detain him, tell
Speaker 4: him you're getting you're getting arrested because you don't know
Speaker 4: how to act.
Speaker 3: He's recording it.
Speaker 4: Thank god, you don't know how to act as what
Speaker 4: the sheriff says, and take this charge like a man.
Speaker 4: So basically because he walked by and stated his opinion.
Speaker 4: Nothing violent, no no, no weapons.
Speaker 3: Come to find out the shareff. Oh and they have
Speaker 3: on tape.
Speaker 4: The other guy, like another police officer pulls up and
Speaker 4: tells the shriff like, basically, you need to chill. I said,
Speaker 4: you don't fucking tell me how to do my job.
Speaker 4: Come to find out this sheriff, this motherfucker made two
Speaker 4: hundred and forty seven thousand.
Speaker 3: Dollars last year.
Speaker 4: Two hundred and forty seven thousand dollars last year, primarily
Speaker 4: mostly in overtime.
Speaker 3: And that's all tax dollar payments.
Speaker 2: That's insane.
Speaker 3: And you you.
Speaker 4: Think you have the right to tell someone that you
Speaker 4: don't know how to act. That's blatant racism, that's blatant
Speaker 4: abusive power.
Speaker 3: And you know, Baltimore has had a.
Speaker 4: Lot of issues with corrupt police officers, and I think
Speaker 4: they recently got a new black commissioner police commissioner, so
Speaker 4: I think some black man is the police commissioner now,
Speaker 4: and so you know, I think he was removed immediately,
Speaker 4: was suspended with pay.
Speaker 3: I guess the union does that.
Speaker 4: There was another instance, I want to stay in California
Speaker 4: at like a Costco with a man with who.
Speaker 3: Had mental illness.
Speaker 4: He was something like maybe he's something is wrong with him,
Speaker 4: but apparently from everybody knows, very harmless, very like mild
Speaker 4: tempered with his parents.
Speaker 3: The parents are like fifty something years old.
Speaker 4: Some an off duty police officer said that the man
Speaker 4: attacked him, which other people said they he did not,
Speaker 4: shot him, killed him and shot his both his parents.
Speaker 2: The parents died too. I don't know he killed the
Speaker 2: parent because the parents probably started attacking him. Fuck, I
Speaker 2: am a child.
Speaker 3: I'm not really clear, but it's.
Speaker 6: Oh.
Speaker 3: And then I saw another video.
Speaker 2: I don't I don't take it.
Speaker 3: This one like all these.
Speaker 4: Police they had to be like five police cars surrounding
Speaker 4: a man and a gat like maybe at the gas station,
Speaker 4: and a girl was she was maybe just pumping gas
Speaker 4: and she started filming and was yelling at them put
Speaker 4: your guns down. Put your guns down. He didn't do anything,
Speaker 4: he has nothing, and she starts crying. She gets hyper
Speaker 4: ban say they killed they killed my boyfriend in twenty
Speaker 4: fifteen or something.
Speaker 3: They will kill you.
Speaker 4: You don't kill him, you could, And I could just
Speaker 4: hear the trauma in her voice.
Speaker 2: She was like, don't move, please, don't move. They'll kill you.
Speaker 3: They kill my boyfriend in twenty foot I was just
Speaker 3: like yeo, like between.
Speaker 4: These like random not random events in different places with
Speaker 4: law enforcement, and then visiting that museum and then watching
Speaker 4: when they see us like in the last.
Speaker 3: What too weak or two? It's really it's really sad
Speaker 3: and scary to be black like you. It's impossible to.
Speaker 4: Like live in this space and not be like aware
Speaker 4: of it. Even I was thinking because conversations I have
Speaker 4: around Lona like am I being too you know, racial?
Speaker 4: Or is she too exposed? But I'm like, fuck, there's
Speaker 4: no avoiding it. This is real life for us every day.
Speaker 4: These are the conversations that are gonna be had around
Speaker 4: her because this is our environment.
Speaker 2: Right, I think, I think, you know, especially because of
Speaker 2: Iri telling people that her mommy doesn't like white people,
Speaker 2: which you know is not Okay, I've tried to think about. Yes,
Speaker 2: I want her to be aware, but I also want
Speaker 2: her to be able to come to her own conclusions
Speaker 2: because I have to give her that, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean, within reason, and not adopt whatever it is
Speaker 2: that I feel like, adopt my anger, adopt my distaste
Speaker 2: for certain things and people, but with but also educating
Speaker 2: her in a way that she's also not dumb and
Speaker 2: she's like aware that, Okay, my mommy told me something
Speaker 2: like this might happen.
Speaker 3: I have to be more socially aware, and we do.
Speaker 3: We have to be socially aware.
Speaker 2: And I'm clearly I'm not doing a great job at all,
Speaker 2: but but I'm I'm mindful of it now because I
Speaker 2: didn't realize, like, oh my god, yeah, I have to
Speaker 2: like chill, like I don't want her coming to conclusion
Speaker 2: like she's already understanding color, you know, she it's such
Speaker 2: a fine line because like not even a fine line.
Speaker 2: It's so it's just it's hard. It's interesting because you know,
Speaker 2: I want her to know she's a beautiful black girl, right,
Speaker 2: but I also don't want her to I want her
Speaker 2: to not think that different colors are different, are different
Speaker 2: even though they are treated differently. At our core, we're
Speaker 2: all human, you know, and you know, we're a product
Speaker 2: of a lot of things, a lot of situations, a
Speaker 2: lot of abuses of power, a lot of you know, miseducation,
Speaker 2: no education, too much information. Like it's it's just it's
Speaker 2: it's just like a really hard place to be in
Speaker 2: because I it's not like I would never tell her, like,
Speaker 2: you're a beautiful black girl. But then I'm also like
Speaker 2: do I always have to say that? Or can she
Speaker 2: just be a beautiful girl? You know, because it is
Speaker 2: we feel like we have to go so hard because so.
Speaker 3: Much society that goes against well, yeah, are what are
Speaker 3: the definitions of beauty? So are your cool opposite of
Speaker 3: what we are?
Speaker 2: What European beauty standards?
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know what the other day, Luna, Luna's
Speaker 4: obsessed with Halloween and she has talked about her Halloween
Speaker 4: costume literally every day since October. Now she wants last
Speaker 4: week's want to be a Barbie And she's like, I
Speaker 4: want to be like a Barbie, like make put makeup
Speaker 4: on me, like white skin and like a red wig
Speaker 4: or like a white wig. She thinks blonde hair is
Speaker 4: called white wig.
Speaker 3: And I was like, why would know?
Speaker 4: Like you like, it bothered me, but also I realize
Speaker 4: it's confusing, growing like it's confusing, and.
Speaker 3: She's a four year old. She doesn't get it. Like
Speaker 3: I know she's into herself.
Speaker 4: I know she loves herself, but unfortunately we have to
Speaker 4: just beat us and then they'll navigate, you know, and
Speaker 4: I tell them to like we're about love, Like do.
Speaker 2: You like would you ever just say okay? Fine?
Speaker 4: Never like okay, if I'm gonna paint your face white, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm no, not fainting your face, I.
Speaker 2: Mean not white.
Speaker 3: But like if she wanted to be a white Barbie,
Speaker 3: don't I.
Speaker 2: Just don't know, Like no, not that. I just mean though, like,
Speaker 2: then how do we find that battle?
Speaker 4: I mean, I bought her that fucking princess whatever I mean,
Speaker 4: because I mean.
Speaker 2: Her hair white bitch, because of a little of of
Speaker 2: of a little white girl wanted to be black Barbie
Speaker 2: and her mom paint and her black. You better believe them.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't do that. I mean, I lose battles, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like.
Speaker 4: Sometimes I'll buy her the princess she wants, because am
Speaker 4: I gonna argue with a four year old, But if
Speaker 4: it's up to me, I'm going to encourage her and
Speaker 4: buy what I want what looks like her. Because I
Speaker 4: realized it's so deep seated. We all experienced it. We
Speaker 4: grew up in a white ass place. There was probably
Speaker 4: till I was fucking in like fourth grade. I was like, Damn,
Speaker 4: I wish my hair was like this. Damn this, damn
Speaker 4: that I noticed I was different than the majority of
Speaker 4: the people around me.
Speaker 3: They're as as children and as a product of.
Speaker 4: A social environment. There is no avoiding it. We cannot
Speaker 4: protect them from every image from every movie.
Speaker 3: Like it's impossible.
Speaker 4: You know, I think I was gonna let my kid
Speaker 4: watch Disney because it's cultish.
Speaker 3: It is. What am I gonna do? I watch the shit?
Speaker 3: I'm fine. You know, you can't avoid the brainwashery. It exists.
Speaker 3: It's real.
Speaker 4: It's much even deeper and larger than we are aware of.
Speaker 4: But you know, I think you have the pick and
Speaker 4: choose your battles. And I think that as long as
Speaker 4: we are aware that we're good people and that we
Speaker 4: love people, and that we have a plethora of friends,
Speaker 4: we probably have more non black friends than black friends.
Speaker 4: So it's not like our kids don't understand and don't
Speaker 4: know that we love people, you know, so.
Speaker 2: It's just maple. But sometimes they don't. They think you
Speaker 2: love those people that everybody else. I've even seen how
Speaker 2: I sometimes react to like white men. She's not comfortable
Speaker 2: around them. What do you mean, I don't know. It's
Speaker 2: different like black men. I think maybe because it's familiar
Speaker 2: because of her daughter, but white men is like a
Speaker 2: little more strangery. Strangery you kind of I know.
Speaker 3: This is bad, This is bad.
Speaker 4: I shouldn't say it, but it kind of makes me
Speaker 4: feel good to hear that, because you know how many
Speaker 4: little white kids I've seen get scared of just black eyes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sure, yeah, and I noticed that.
Speaker 5: Well.
Speaker 4: I guess I guess in general, as children, we're gonna
Speaker 4: be less what we're what we see less, We're gonna
Speaker 4: be less familiar with. It's gonna be less uncomfortable. So
Speaker 4: I guess it's our jobs to expose them.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you know what I redid it? The
Speaker 2: Oh my god. In France, we're on the boat and
Speaker 2: for this is for the event, and there was a
Speaker 2: little person on the boat. Oh no, no, she pointed, mommy,
Speaker 2: why is she so little like me? She was pointing
Speaker 2: at her. I was like, I don't know, Okay, don't point.
Speaker 3: How do you deal with that?
Speaker 2: I said, She's not a kid, she's a woman. She's
Speaker 2: just small. And she was like and she like thought
Speaker 2: about her for a while. I saw her like thinking
Speaker 2: about that, and then she was like, okay, like okay.
Speaker 4: Luna said to our friend yesterday who got a little
Speaker 4: sugar in his tank, why are you.
Speaker 3: Acting like a girl? Why do you sound like a girl?
Speaker 3: She kept saying it. I was like, shut up.
Speaker 4: She wouldn't stop, she would sup and this man looks
Speaker 4: like a man. There's nothing that appears like but she
Speaker 4: could hear in his voice that he and I was
Speaker 4: just like, that's crazy that she, even as a child,
Speaker 4: she has a understanding, a small scope of understanding of
Speaker 4: what a female and a male sound like as far
Speaker 4: as dialect goes. How deep is that? Because I don't
Speaker 4: teach her that, you know, so, I was just like,
Speaker 4: you can't sound like a girl. There's no that doesn't exist.
Speaker 4: You can't sound like a boy.
Speaker 2: You can't even like when we took them to come up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I ran to a friend a very eccentric, blonde
Speaker 4: braid wearing man who sometimes were like long gowns.
Speaker 3: And she's like, why are you dressed like a are
Speaker 3: you a girl? A boy? Why do you dress like
Speaker 3: a girl? Did she say ugly?
Speaker 2: No, no, but she kept saying it, and I was like, like, Luna.
Speaker 4: Is vocal, you know, like she's like me, so I
Speaker 4: can't like and I don't get my panties and ad bunch.
Speaker 4: I just explained to her, as shit comes up, I
Speaker 4: think we saw like a billboard and two guy or a.
Speaker 3: Commercial two guys were kissing. She's like, ill, why are
Speaker 3: two guys? What?
Speaker 2: What?
Speaker 3: And I was just like, two guys can love each other.
Speaker 2: But where do you think she got that ill from?
Speaker 5: Dad?
Speaker 3: Maybe shouldn't say ill.
Speaker 2: Maybe she's just like even that it's not supposed to
Speaker 2: be it because movies and she watches and she's not
Speaker 2: used to it, or like, what's the distaste with it?
Speaker 4: I think that we generally always in all movies all kids.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean that's true. Do you think it's
Speaker 2: anything else?
Speaker 4: Besides no, I don't think anybody around her is homophobia
Speaker 4: in any way.
Speaker 2: Baby Daddy isn't.
Speaker 3: No, No, he's really not like one time.
Speaker 4: I one time cousin Chris, we're meeting them for lunch
Speaker 4: and he's like, oh, by the way, I'm with his
Speaker 4: friend Mishall, who's a transgender.
Speaker 3: So I was like, look bad, don't be acting strange.
Speaker 3: He's with transgender. So whatever, we all want to lunch,
Speaker 3: ramp into it. But this bitch at the end, I
Speaker 3: don't know if he was lying though.
Speaker 4: He said when they shook hands by give me your hand,
Speaker 4: she did like a thumb.
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe maybe she did that to everyone and he
Speaker 2: felt like he was special. You know, straight men be
Speaker 2: always thinking that any get like a gay dude, because
Speaker 2: they'd be reading into every little fucking thing, and also
Speaker 2: gay dudes being with them and not because they want them.
Speaker 3: But just to well, sometimes gay dudes could be disrespectful.
Speaker 2: No, it's absolutely, absolutely, And it's.
Speaker 3: Like, okay, nigga, you need to hill which I'm not.
Speaker 4: You know, like respect everybody's ship, you know, be you,
Speaker 4: but respect where people stand.
Speaker 3: Don't make people extra uncomfortable anyway. How to get this topic?
Speaker 3: Oh like our kids, Yeah, I mean it's a struggle ship.
Speaker 3: We don't know all the answers. We got programmed somehow. Now,
Speaker 3: we're trying to. We're trying to, so let's get the
Speaker 3: least programming for the kids.
Speaker 4: Let's try and teach them what we know about what's
Speaker 4: real and what's not, and then you know what the fuck?
Speaker 2: Today at work, we were doing our het We're shooting
Speaker 2: for a holiday campaign, and we were doing a photo
Speaker 2: where like we're holding one of our like cute gifts
Speaker 2: behind our back, kind of like a Jared's commercial, you know,
Speaker 2: like the like the diamond you know, like this, Yeah,
Speaker 2: we're gonna propose and the diamonds behind your back. And
Speaker 2: so we did one version with a guy, and then
Speaker 2: we did one version with me in a pink suit
Speaker 2: holding it behind me and I asked that. I said, so,
Speaker 2: am I so I'm proposing? And she was like yeah,
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm like, so I proposing, Like I'm proposing
Speaker 2: to my man or I'm proposing to my woman and
Speaker 2: she was like, yeah, it's kind of vague. Is in
Speaker 2: my head? I was like, there's no mother fucking way
Speaker 2: proposing to my man. And I was like then I
Speaker 2: was like, wait, no, why am I program that way?
Speaker 3: And is this?
Speaker 2: Is that? Why am I feel so strongly about that?
Speaker 2: Because one of the girls was like, I'm probably inside
Speaker 2: of the wood. And I was like, are they like,
Speaker 2: I was like, she lesbian? No, I was like, why
Speaker 2: why is that the man's role?
Speaker 3: I mean, I know, I get it. I'm I'm I mean,
Speaker 3: I'm a hypocrite. I'm a hypocrite. There are I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean, I get it. I know. There's no set
Speaker 3: things that are male or female. However, like Daphney said,
Speaker 3: a male and.
Speaker 4: A female, there's just no other combination, you know, Like
Speaker 4: there are roles.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying I decided that role. No one decided
Speaker 3: it doesn't. It isn't. It isn't.
Speaker 4: It's not for everyone. Not everyone will fall into these
Speaker 4: gender roles. However, I've been around some motherfucking babies, baby
Speaker 4: boys that could look like steer a car real good,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, you're too. I've been around boys who
Speaker 4: just love boys shit and they want to wrestle.
Speaker 3: They do like at our core. There are things that
Speaker 3: are gender specific and I'm just wait, you.
Speaker 2: Drive a car.
Speaker 3: No in Philly, my girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Wait, that's your example of like masculine. Wait. I was like,
Speaker 2: where's she going with this?
Speaker 3: Men are good at driving it's true.
Speaker 2: Okay, that is not true.
Speaker 3: That at its best, Yes, men has.
Speaker 4: Like a coordination thing. I think they don't know like
Speaker 4: where they're going because I'm fast.
Speaker 2: They can get in that car. They have no fucking destination,
Speaker 2: but they can drive it.
Speaker 3: Well that's what they need it. I don't know.
Speaker 2: And Okay, our attention to detail is different, I think women, But.
Speaker 3: Then I mean different and not all the time.
Speaker 2: That's not I don't think these things are true all the.
Speaker 3: Time, bitch. I'm not proposing to anyone.
Speaker 2: I know. I still feel the same way. But I
Speaker 2: was like, do I here's it? But then I thought,
Speaker 2: and then I was like, is this something I want
Speaker 2: to unlearn I need to do? And then I was like, no,
Speaker 2: not really.
Speaker 3: I'm good certain things I don't want unlearn.
Speaker 2: That's what I don't. I think there's other things higher
Speaker 2: up on the list.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: There. Once I accomplish these and then we'll think about
Speaker 2: that again.
Speaker 3: I mean, I love pink. She proposed to her man,
Speaker 3: I think he proposed to her and answer or something.
Speaker 2: And then my high school sweetheart, his wife proposed to him,
Speaker 2: and I remember like when that happened, I was like.
Speaker 3: She gotta want knee here.
Speaker 2: I don't quite know. I think she just like I
Speaker 2: think know they're on the couch and she was just
Speaker 2: like proposed to him with the ring. Uh huh.
Speaker 3: I mean I think it's very face right now, that face.
Speaker 3: I think it's very forward thinking.
Speaker 2: I love it. Yeah, I mean no, it's no for me.
Speaker 4: I just don't want to do it. I mean, I
Speaker 4: don't know who knows they're gonna fall in love with it?
Speaker 3: Like it was so dumb.
Speaker 4: He doesn't understand that he wants me to be his wife,
Speaker 4: and I'll do him the great face.
Speaker 2: Look, I'm already obsessed with you. The least you can
Speaker 2: do is proposed act like you want me, like I'm
Speaker 2: already giving you everything you would desire, because that's how
Speaker 2: I do. It's that's how I feel, that's how So
Speaker 2: the least you can do is shower me too with
Speaker 2: that diamond. It has to be something really interesting. I've
Speaker 2: been looking at rings online for what.
Speaker 4: I don't know, because it's my genetics, my anatomy.
Speaker 3: That wedding, wedding, we engaging husband, Oh my god, sounds
Speaker 3: so sad.
Speaker 2: No, I don't want to. I don't. I don't know
Speaker 2: if I want already.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't I want to ring.
Speaker 2: I want to ring, but I don't know.
Speaker 3: And the ceremony doesn't have to be legal.
Speaker 2: I don't need it to be legal. I don't want
Speaker 2: it to be legal. I don't. As a matter of fact,
Speaker 2: I truly do not want to be married legally. I'm
Speaker 2: totally cool not being married legally.
Speaker 3: I'll change my last name. Maybe not. Maybe I'm not.
Speaker 2: I don't want to change the last name. I'm good.
Speaker 2: Mm hm no, I like that. I like the way
Speaker 2: it looks like. I like my signature.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I don't see a better name than me.
Speaker 2: If you give me horror stories. Oh my god, oh
Speaker 2: my god, we have we have a horror story. Who stories?
Speaker 2: Oh yes, it's pretty nasty, filthy god, it's been a
Speaker 2: while since we've shared a horror story. My brother's coming
Speaker 2: in like ten minutes.
Speaker 3: Okay, it will take less time.
Speaker 2: We can sit in. We got a horror story from
Speaker 2: one of our loyal listeners, our day one, one of
Speaker 2: our day ones. She was so so generous, so generous,
Speaker 2: she shared this horror to us. I had a lot
Speaker 2: of questions that I messaged her about.
Speaker 3: You did I think, I think I do you haven't
Speaker 3: time some questions.
Speaker 2: I was like, wait, I need clarity.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, where is it?
Speaker 2: Her name is?
Speaker 3: Oh that.
Speaker 2: I was expecting that. I'm not expecting that.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, okay, okay, are you guys ready
Speaker 4: for this? Hey, ladies, please don't say my name, but man,
Speaker 4: is this epic to me?
Speaker 3: Anyway?
Speaker 4: So I met this guy on tender last week and
Speaker 4: we decided to go on a date Friday, since that
Speaker 4: was when I would finally have a sitter. We chat
Speaker 4: it all week and I was very impressed by him.
Speaker 4: An athletic director for an elementary school, super witty and attentive.
Speaker 4: I even sent him the episode with Bjay because of
Speaker 4: the teacher stories, and he really listened.
Speaker 3: Of course, we talked about.
Speaker 4: Sex, but nothing that ever seemed pushy or imposing. Disclaimer
Speaker 4: I'm not a big drinker. And also no, wait, wait, wait, okay,
Speaker 4: So Friday comes. So Friday comes and we go for
Speaker 4: tacos and disclaimer I'm not a big drinker.
Speaker 3: And also don't judge my drinks of choice. I totally
Speaker 3: judged you. I have two Sangarius.
Speaker 4: We decided to go to a bar where I have
Speaker 4: a red Bull and vodka gross and the comfo is
Speaker 4: super flowing. Now with the music being loud, we have
Speaker 4: to get close and everything is right. We head to
Speaker 4: another bar where I take down two more red bull
Speaker 4: of vodkas. By now we were those people. We were
Speaker 4: making out, his hands on my ass, grinding all that.
Speaker 4: We decided to leave and go to my place. I
Speaker 4: was smacked, y'all. So to get to my place and
Speaker 4: I smoke a blunt.
Speaker 3: Oh god, and I'm done.
Speaker 2: That's what you went that's where you went wrong, the
Speaker 2: right bitched.
Speaker 4: I get in the bed and yell across the house
Speaker 4: to come in my room, laugh out loud. So she
Speaker 4: gets pop it and I'm the kind of drunk now
Speaker 4: where everything is spinning, y'all. When I was giving him head,
Speaker 4: I threw up all my tacos, bitch, and he says,
Speaker 4: keep going, and I did. I kept going, and everything
Speaker 4: was just wet and slippery. He was spitting in my mouth. Ooh,
Speaker 4: I don't know how long it took him.
Speaker 2: To almost five minutes. Yeah, close the door, please, thank you.
Speaker 2: Read the last line before.
Speaker 4: And he says to keep going, and I did. I
Speaker 4: kept going, and everything was just wet and slippery, slippery.
Speaker 4: He was spitting in my mouth. I don't know how
Speaker 4: long it took him to come, because I found about
Speaker 4: six condoms in my house the next day cleaning, but
Speaker 4: I remember him coming on my boobs and then wiping
Speaker 4: it like lotion. Apparently at some point we showered and
Speaker 4: changed the sheets before passing out. Needless to say, I
Speaker 4: spent Saturday with the hangover from hell. I've been wondering
Speaker 4: where I was going to find someone to genuinely explore
Speaker 4: that part of my wandering mind with me, and I've
Speaker 4: met my match and this is one hell of a
Speaker 4: first date story to have. Anyway, just spending the weekend
Speaker 4: processing this experience and hoping to be able to share
Speaker 4: more in the future.
Speaker 3: Love y'all.
Speaker 2: Wait, so what My first question was like, wait, so,
Speaker 2: when he came on your chest and he smeared it,
Speaker 2: did he also smear the throw up and they're just
Speaker 2: throw up everywhere? She said yes.
Speaker 7: I was like, oh my, that is disgusting. Bitch smiled
Speaker 7: and every Oh my god, how girl?
Speaker 4: Because I think I asked you the same thing like
Speaker 4: he must he said, keep going. He's a little nasty freak.
Speaker 4: Those teachers, Oh my god. Apartment of Education that's not freak.
Speaker 3: That's just like nasty. It's nasty.
Speaker 4: But you know the part is I've given head and
Speaker 4: felt myself almost like swallow it back down.
Speaker 3: He's Lord, no, no, Lord, Jesus never no. Please let
Speaker 3: me stay right here at the top. Let me stay
Speaker 3: right here.
Speaker 2: Break, give it a break, all right, Like we're gonna
Speaker 2: have to try and do something else. Yeah, bad hoary
Speaker 2: level ten, level ten, horri that's the ship I'm talking about. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and guys, please share more horriy.
Speaker 3: We're not even gonna say your name.
Speaker 2: No, just just share the wealth. Man, go back and
Speaker 2: listen to some of ours, and you don't give you confidence.
Speaker 3: You know, you probably need to tell of our own soon.
Speaker 5: I'm not.
Speaker 2: I mean no, I'm sure we have some. I'm starting
Speaker 2: to have some in the vault something, right. I got
Speaker 2: to rethink sometimes we should block those.
Speaker 4: Out right, I'm good at blocking shit out, but clearly
Speaker 4: for entertainment purposes, we needed to pull them out.
Speaker 3: We've been slacking our horries.
Speaker 4: And you know, I come to the conclusion because we
Speaker 4: get hories and some of them were just leveled two
Speaker 4: and rarely loved. And I come to the conclusion that
Speaker 4: everybody listening actually is listening for our horri stories, like
Speaker 4: maybe they're really scored. Like let's just listen to these
Speaker 4: crazy bitches for entertainment, you know, like so or else.
Speaker 3: You guys are just holding out, which I don't appreciate.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna think hard hard this week. All right,
Speaker 2: Well that concludes our episode. Make sure you go check
Speaker 2: out our merch we are actually doing. We're about to
Speaker 2: go to this meet up. We're not meeting. It's on
Speaker 2: meet up. This event on Sunday and Lamert Park. You guys,
Speaker 2: it's what is it called mask something. It's for kids.
Speaker 2: Your kids are your kids can come and you can
Speaker 2: come into arts and crafts and you can make these
Speaker 2: masks that represent your ancestry. It's a good even though
Speaker 2: maybe you don't know your ancestry because slavery, but your
Speaker 2: home is gonna be Like I'm gonna go with like
Speaker 2: what ancestry dot com told me, which is also probably
Speaker 2: a lie since they switched.
Speaker 5: Up on me.
Speaker 2: But anyway, we're gonna post the details on our Instagram.
Speaker 2: Remember I said I was Nigerian and then suddenly I
Speaker 2: wasn't Nigerian at all anymore. No, you're what like Cameroon
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