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Speaker 2: Welcome back for good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 2: I'm Mela, and this is episode sixty six.

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Speaker 3: Sixty six, sixty six. I think I'm pretty sure it is.

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Speaker 4: If we've been counting correctly, it is crazy, it is right, Wow,

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Speaker 4: sixty six sixty six recorded therapy session for.

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Speaker 2: Real, for real.

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty proud. I'm proud too. Yeah, I'm happy.

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Speaker 2: Like I've done this. I've sat come to sit down

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Speaker 2: at this table sixty six times, well, sixty five because

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Speaker 2: one time we recorded somewhere else one time. But okay, oh, yeah, sure,

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Speaker 3: York deep because York Wait right right, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: I'm high. Either way, we sat somewhere, we sat down,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but we put that all out on the internet.

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Speaker 2: So oh yeah, that's cool. That's cool. We also have

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Speaker 2: new good Moms, Bad Choices, nameplate necklaces. They're so cute,

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Speaker 3: Well yeah's actually really nice quality, good quality. I'm into it.

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Speaker 2: I've been wearing working out in one ship. Yeah, not

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't like I don't think silver looks good

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Speaker 2: I only love gold because it's African, pretty much of Africa.

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Speaker 4: We did some really great interviews. If you have not

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Speaker 4: checked them out, you must. Mela's Dope. Alex Undone is

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Speaker 4: dope as fuck. Mela Murders Let's Talk Mother is coming

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Speaker 4: We obviously were trying to rage because that's what we do.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, factor New York.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I broke my celibacy maybe a couple of days,

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Speaker 3: With the young bag because I'm weak and men have

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I'm a maker outer I will make out

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Speaker 4: I'm down to me that tongue. Yeah, I met out

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Speaker 3: So Erica called me Melord of Town.

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Speaker 4: And she's like, oh, you know, we're talking about sex

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Speaker 3: It was amazing. His tongue was fine.

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Speaker 2: But then I said, wait, I didn't even have sex.

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Speaker 3: It was just like oral and like and everything else.

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Speaker 4: So one of my greatest, one of our greatest quotes

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Speaker 3: You know, girls like us, Girls like us.

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Speaker 4: So like like in booty holes and playing in butts,

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Speaker 4: This is everybody. Everybody's not gonna get it and we

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Speaker 4: I was like, whoah, true.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just true. I don't want to admit it.

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Speaker 2: I think like after that experience, I was like, what, oh,

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Speaker 2: I'm not giving up for a mediocre ass penis or

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Speaker 4: Mouth or goals like like, I'm not goals, Like I

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Speaker 2: You had many boundaries.

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Speaker 2: And of course, like you don't have to like everything,

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Speaker 2: his mouth vibrated like, oh my god, his mouth is

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Speaker 2: a vibrator, like I've never he was singing. He was

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Speaker 3: I know he's also an R and B singer. They

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Speaker 3: shut up. That is so general. Nobody knows that could

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Speaker 2: I'm never liking one photo of his ever again.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean, I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 2: Okay, he is an ARMB singer. And he literally was

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Speaker 2: like like the vibrato it was like I don't know,

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Speaker 2: he did it. It was like, no, it wasn't even

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Speaker 3: Was he making it? Nois? Yes, he was singing.

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Speaker 2: That's what I mean.

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Speaker 3: Yes, sound was coming out of his mouth. Dud. Did

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Speaker 2: And just so like that sound good? But this isn't

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Speaker 2: It was even stronger than that. So I don't know.

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Speaker 3: What's gonna make me try to teach my niggas how

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna come get it.

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Speaker 3: That's gonna be me. Try to show my niggas, like,

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Speaker 2: Stop that that was good. I felt it. I felt it. Okay, guys,

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Speaker 2: get home or if you're in the car driving right now,

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Speaker 2: and just go. Actually, now I feel it. It's a

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Speaker 4: Now, you're gonna have all of us out here single,

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Speaker 4: because no one does that. Let me searching for this

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Speaker 2: So I've been dreaming of that ever since. And I honestly,

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Speaker 2: And I was like what, I love how this sounds,

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I took a lot of advice from Daphney's

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Speaker 4: I'm not about dating because obviously you have to date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I just but I know I'm not afraid to

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Speaker 4: If I felt like it's someone that I could see

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Speaker 2: And you're not scared that that might scare the person

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Speaker 3: If you can't take directness, you're not gonna like me.

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Speaker 4: In general, if you don't like someone who's gonna be direct,

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Speaker 3: So that's cool.

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Speaker 4: If you want to beat around the busher, it's not

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Speaker 3: So no, I'm not afraid anymore.

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Speaker 4: Like I think there was a place where I would

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Speaker 4: I'm all like I'm.

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Speaker 4: Like, you know, there was a time where I would

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Speaker 3: I would be down, like sure, sign me up.

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Speaker 2: I don't you don't think you'll ever go back to

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Like maybe if I get in a committment relationship with

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Speaker 2: Like the the rule for you to do that now

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Speaker 2: you've realized is you have to be the main girl.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I don't want to be who wants to

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Speaker 2: I don't commitment.

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Speaker 3: I don't okay, I'm good. I'm good.

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Speaker 4: I've had that, Like I could fuck if I wanted

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Speaker 4: just fuck. You know it, it's old. Even if you're fine,

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Speaker 4: because I got some you know, fine, even fine doesn't

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Speaker 3: My Yes, and okay, this cloes free and I'm over

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Speaker 5: Are you gonna push pause? I'll be right back. You're right, Sorry,

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Speaker 2: Irie has her fruit and Jamila has her soup.

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Speaker 4: Not the most silent meal I could have prepared, the

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Speaker 2: Sim anyway, Is that it for New York?

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Speaker 4: I was just there for like four thousand years. I

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Speaker 4: Smithsonian bomb.

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Speaker 3: Really sad though.

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Speaker 4: It was really sad that unfortunately we haven't really come

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Speaker 4: and it was hard for my grandma. It was.

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Speaker 3: It was a good trip though overall. But I eat crabs,

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Speaker 2: Oh how was the food there was? Everyone keeps finding

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Speaker 2: the food that was bombed. My brother told me that yesterday.

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Speaker 3: Oh the museum, Yeah, food is bombed. Sulfood.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like catfish. There's fried chicken, greens, mac and cheese,

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Speaker 4: hush puppies, corn bread.

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Speaker 3: It was actually good. Oh, your brother went yeah, I

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, I know, so good for him though, I know,

442
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 2: I'm so excited for him.

443
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:44,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, he needs that, he needs Howard, which I was

444
00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:45,479
Speaker 4: going to Howard.

445
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:47,960
Speaker 3: Where'd you go New York?

446
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:55,879
Speaker 2: H yes, baby, Okay, we'll just leave it there. Okay,

447
00:21:55,920 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 2: but that's fine. I heard you. There's water over there

448
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:02,439
Speaker 2: on your table.

449
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 3: Okay, Grama, all right, what else is new with you?

450
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 2: Knew with me? Irie? Stop lock the door please? Okay,

451
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 2: we'll stop kicking it, thank you girl. Nothing just work

452
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 2: and shit. I mean, you know, I've been I feel

453
00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 2: like for months I've been.

454
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 3: Wait did you go to Paris?

455
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 5: Oh?

456
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:35,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I went to Paris after you went to

457
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 3: New York. Oh wow?

458
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:36,360
Speaker 5: Yeah?

459
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 3: And she went to Paris?

460
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,640
Speaker 2: Oh right, go ahead, I did. I went to France

461
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 2: and I had work out there and then I brought

462
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 2: Iri because I only had one work thing to do

463
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 2: there really, and my one of my best friends, he

464
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,520
Speaker 2: lives in Berlin. He flew out there to help me

465
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 2: with her, but like I didn't really need his help.

466
00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 2: It was just like an excuse to come and we

467
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 2: went to We were chilling in Paris and then we

468
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 2: went to took the train three hours to Marseilles and

469
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:14,639
Speaker 2: Merseie ver Sailles, Marseille for sci Merceille. I never remember

470
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 2: how to say it, which is like the south of France,

471
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 2: but it's kind of like it's not as bougie as

472
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 2: like the rest of the South of France. It's almost

473
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:25,080
Speaker 2: kind of reminds me of like a little more like Grungey.

474
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 2: There's like a lot of graffiti. There's really nice beaches,

475
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 2: fine assmen in Paris.

476
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,720
Speaker 3: Really girl floy those accents.

477
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:40,639
Speaker 2: And I know what they're so fine, like what I

478
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,119
Speaker 2: didn't even know, And like I get it now. I

479
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 2: get why Paris is like the place people like like

480
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 2: it's it's romantic, it's beautiful. The food is great, desserts.

481
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 2: The people are not that great, but there they look good.

482
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:57,640
Speaker 2: They're actually kind of rude, Like actually, I also bought

483
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 2: this bitch on the plane I was about to go

484
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 2: off on one of the flight attendant.

485
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 3: Yeah's she friend? Yes.

486
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:07,439
Speaker 2: So, like I was on the plane and we were

487
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 2: about were we had landed. We were I was flying

488
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 2: from Mercelle to Paris, and because I was then a

489
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 2: flying Paris back to La So the flight from Mercede

490
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 2: to Paris is like, I don't know, like an hour

491
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 2: and a half. And Irie went to the bathroom before,

492
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,440
Speaker 2: but you flew that, yeah, And when we were landing,

493
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 2: she's like, Mommy, I have to pee. I can't hold it.

494
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, we're almost there, we're about to land,

495
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 2: and so I was trying to distract her or distract her.

496
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 2: And then like we were taxing forever and ever and ever,

497
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,119
Speaker 2: just sitting on the run. We already landed, we had

498
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 2: already landed. So I was like, fuck this, I'm about

499
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 2: to just get up and take her to the bathroom fully there.

500
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,359
Speaker 2: And so I got up and I started walking to

501
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 2: the back of the plane and this lady's like so

502
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 2: it's just like just no, man, no, no, And she

503
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 2: starts to like undosse her seatbelt, starts walking towards me.

504
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 2: You need to sit down in her French accent, which

505
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna try and imitate because no one

506
00:24:56,880 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 2: needs to hear that. And she's like, you need to

507
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 2: sit down, and I was like, my daughter has to pee.

508
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 2: We're not moving, and she's like, no, no, I will

509
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 2: call security. I will call security call and I was like, well,

510
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 2: she's gonna pee. At first, I said I don't care,

511
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 2: and I kept walking and then she got all like

512
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 2: crazy and shit, and then.

513
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: She was like, there's not another fun attendant to defend.

514
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 2: No one said anything on this plane. They just were silent,

515
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:21,439
Speaker 2: not even the past one person. And I said, well,

516
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 2: she's gonna pee on your plane. She's gonna pee on

517
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 2: your seat. And she's like, you need to go sit down,

518
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 2: go sit down, just tell it, kept telling me you

519
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 2: need to sit down, go sit down, go sit down.

520
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,119
Speaker 2: I was like, little do you don't want to just

521
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 2: watch when they see us? You don't want to tell

522
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 2: me what the fuck to do? Okay, ma'am, Okay, ma'am.

523
00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 2: I have seen too many things on the internet this

524
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 2: week that I am highly livid and.

525
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,160
Speaker 3: I don't need I don't go off.

526
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:54,000
Speaker 2: I don't need anyone your shade telling me what I

527
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 2: can't cannot do it as it pertains to my child.

528
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 3: Okay, that's crazy. She's a child.

529
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 4: And it's one thing like I've gone through about them

530
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 4: all landing while taxing all the.

531
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 2: I get protocol, but there's a way you do shit, Okay,

532
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:10,919
Speaker 2: Like if you want me to sit down like I

533
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 2: was still probably been pissed. You can't like the way

534
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 2: she did it.

535
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 4: She cannot stop you from going to the bathroom. It's

536
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 4: not it's she can't do it physically. She cannot stop

537
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 4: from the bathroom. You call security the fuck if you want.

538
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:22,719
Speaker 2: I was like, what if I was dying? Girl, Like,

539
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 2: what the fuck I'm choking? You're telling me how to

540
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 2: sit down? Shut the fuck up? Okay. So yeah, and

541
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 2: speaking of that, all that stuff, like, girl, there's just

542
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 2: been so much like stuff on the internet every day.

543
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I'm exhausted, but I want to know,

544
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 2: I want to stay aware. But I'm also like getting

545
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 2: like oppression fatigued.

546
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 4: I know, because it's it's it's it's so much. It's

547
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 4: not and it's not. The fucking part is like it's

548
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 4: not rare.

549
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 2: It's just because we have access to it now.

550
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 4: It's just it's always existed, even like the family and

551
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 4: the dollar store in Arizona and the cops pulled she's

552
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:03,639
Speaker 4: pregnant with her four year old and her boyfriend or

553
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 4: husband whatever. They the little girl walked out of the

554
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 4: store with the doll and apparently the cops were called.

555
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 4: The police pull up on them, draw their guns, with

556
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 4: her holding her child yelling at them, I'll fucking shoot

557
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 4: you no.

558
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:24,639
Speaker 6: And it's just crazy fine that any grown man in

559
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 6: any power of position, like any position of power, would

560
00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 6: you feel.

561
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 3: Threatened by a family, by a pregnant woman.

562
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 2: The way he was talking to her. He said, I'm

563
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 2: gonna put a cap in your ass. No he did it, yes, girl,

564
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 2: he said I will put a cap in your ass.

565
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 2: He was cursing at her, like, oh my god, it

566
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 2: was her child and her child. It was cray z.

567
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 2: It was insane. I couldn't I couldn't believe that video.

568
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 2: I'm glad it didn't end up worse, honestly because the

569
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 2: way he how reactive he was, it was scary, Like

570
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 2: I could have ended way worse. But I mean it

571
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 2: still wasn't great. But like I mean, I guess that's

572
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 2: kind of sad too that I'm now like, oh, it

573
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 2: could have been worse, well right, But I don't mean

574
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 2: it that way.

575
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 4: No, It's just it's just the climate and how scary

576
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 4: these niggas are. Yeah, Like the fuck that part is

577
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 4: it could end up any way, like nobody's safe and

578
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 4: like even as a woman, even with a child, even

579
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 4: being pregnant. It doesn't matter if you're black or if

580
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 4: you're a person of color, and they feel threatened, they're threatened.

581
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 3: And furthermore, first.

582
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 4: Of all, Arizona's fucking racist as fuck, and they obviously,

583
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 4: I mean, just like it doesn't matter if you're a

584
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:40,719
Speaker 4: woman or you're a child.

585
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 3: They see us as I don't know, like predators.

586
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 4: And that's what's scary if you're if you're a police

587
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 4: officer and you're getting paid by literally tax dollars and

588
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 4: you're bullying people and acting like you're in a goddamn

589
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 4: rap video.

590
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 2: Or how much money is that? Because I'm officer that now.

591
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 4: So there was another instance in Baltimore's in Baltimore where

592
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 4: a man was being detained by the sheriff and another officer.

593
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 4: He was sitting on the floor in like a bystander

594
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 4: who just was walking by was like, y'all should y'all

595
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 4: are wrong, y'all need to get him off the ground,

596
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 4: continued to cross the street. The sheriff yealls, you didn't

597
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 4: mind your fucking business. It's like, y'all are wrong. You

598
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 4: needed to get him off the ground. Then they grab

599
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 4: him from He's literally his back is to them. He's

600
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 4: turning around while saying this. Grab him, detain him, tell

601
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 4: him you're getting you're getting arrested because you don't know

602
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 4: how to act.

603
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 3: He's recording it.

604
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 4: Thank god, you don't know how to act as what

605
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 4: the sheriff says, and take this charge like a man.

606
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 4: So basically because he walked by and stated his opinion.

607
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 4: Nothing violent, no no, no weapons.

608
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 3: Come to find out the shareff. Oh and they have

609
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 3: on tape.

610
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 4: The other guy, like another police officer pulls up and

611
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 4: tells the shriff like, basically, you need to chill. I said,

612
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 4: you don't fucking tell me how to do my job.

613
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 4: Come to find out this sheriff, this motherfucker made two

614
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 4: hundred and forty seven thousand.

615
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 3: Dollars last year.

616
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 4: Two hundred and forty seven thousand dollars last year, primarily

617
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 4: mostly in overtime.

618
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 3: And that's all tax dollar payments.

619
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:14,479
Speaker 2: That's insane.

620
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 3: And you you.

621
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 4: Think you have the right to tell someone that you

622
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 4: don't know how to act. That's blatant racism, that's blatant

623
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 4: abusive power.

624
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 3: And you know, Baltimore has had a.

625
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 4: Lot of issues with corrupt police officers, and I think

626
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 4: they recently got a new black commissioner police commissioner, so

627
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 4: I think some black man is the police commissioner now,

628
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 4: and so you know, I think he was removed immediately,

629
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 4: was suspended with pay.

630
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 3: I guess the union does that.

631
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 4: There was another instance, I want to stay in California

632
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 4: at like a Costco with a man with who.

633
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 3: Had mental illness.

634
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 4: He was something like maybe he's something is wrong with him,

635
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 4: but apparently from everybody knows, very harmless, very like mild

636
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 4: tempered with his parents.

637
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 3: The parents are like fifty something years old.

638
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 4: Some an off duty police officer said that the man

639
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 4: attacked him, which other people said they he did not,

640
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 4: shot him, killed him and shot his both his parents.

641
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 2: The parents died too. I don't know he killed the

642
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 2: parent because the parents probably started attacking him. Fuck, I

643
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 2: am a child.

644
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 3: I'm not really clear, but it's.

645
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 6: Oh.

646
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 3: And then I saw another video.

647
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 2: I don't I don't take it.

648
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: This one like all these.

649
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 4: Police they had to be like five police cars surrounding

650
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 4: a man and a gat like maybe at the gas station,

651
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 4: and a girl was she was maybe just pumping gas

652
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 4: and she started filming and was yelling at them put

653
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 4: your guns down. Put your guns down. He didn't do anything,

654
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 4: he has nothing, and she starts crying. She gets hyper

655
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 4: ban say they killed they killed my boyfriend in twenty

656
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 4: fifteen or something.

657
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 3: They will kill you.

658
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,240
Speaker 4: You don't kill him, you could, And I could just

659
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 4: hear the trauma in her voice.

660
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 2: She was like, don't move, please, don't move. They'll kill you.

661
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 3: They kill my boyfriend in twenty foot I was just

662
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 3: like yeo, like between.

663
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 4: These like random not random events in different places with

664
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 4: law enforcement, and then visiting that museum and then watching

665
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 4: when they see us like in the last.

666
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 3: What too weak or two? It's really it's really sad

667
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 3: and scary to be black like you. It's impossible to.

668
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 4: Like live in this space and not be like aware

669
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 4: of it. Even I was thinking because conversations I have

670
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 4: around Lona like am I being too you know, racial?

671
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 4: Or is she too exposed? But I'm like, fuck, there's

672
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:45,959
Speaker 4: no avoiding it. This is real life for us every day.

673
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 4: These are the conversations that are gonna be had around

674
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 4: her because this is our environment.

675
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 2: Right, I think, I think, you know, especially because of

676
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 2: Iri telling people that her mommy doesn't like white people,

677
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 2: which you know is not Okay, I've tried to think about. Yes,

678
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 2: I want her to be aware, but I also want

679
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 2: her to be able to come to her own conclusions

680
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 2: because I have to give her that, you know what

681
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 2: I mean, within reason, and not adopt whatever it is

682
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 2: that I feel like, adopt my anger, adopt my distaste

683
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 2: for certain things and people, but with but also educating

684
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 2: her in a way that she's also not dumb and

685
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 2: she's like aware that, Okay, my mommy told me something

686
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 2: like this might happen.

687
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 3: I have to be more socially aware, and we do.

688
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 3: We have to be socially aware.

689
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 2: And I'm clearly I'm not doing a great job at all,

690
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 2: but but I'm I'm mindful of it now because I

691
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 2: didn't realize, like, oh my god, yeah, I have to

692
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 2: like chill, like I don't want her coming to conclusion

693
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 2: like she's already understanding color, you know, she it's such

694
00:33:57,480 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 2: a fine line because like not even a fine line.

695
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 2: It's so it's just it's hard. It's interesting because you know,

696
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 2: I want her to know she's a beautiful black girl, right,

697
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: but I also don't want her to I want her

698
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:15,240
Speaker 2: to not think that different colors are different, are different

699
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:19,319
Speaker 2: even though they are treated differently. At our core, we're

700
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:23,840
Speaker 2: all human, you know, and you know, we're a product

701
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 2: of a lot of things, a lot of situations, a

702
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:31,280
Speaker 2: lot of abuses of power, a lot of you know, miseducation,

703
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 2: no education, too much information. Like it's it's just it's

704
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 2: it's just like a really hard place to be in

705
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 2: because I it's not like I would never tell her, like,

706
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 2: you're a beautiful black girl. But then I'm also like

707
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 2: do I always have to say that? Or can she

708
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 2: just be a beautiful girl? You know, because it is

709
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 2: we feel like we have to go so hard because so.

710
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 3: Much society that goes against well, yeah, are what are

711
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 3: the definitions of beauty? So are your cool opposite of

712
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:02,359
Speaker 3: what we are?

713
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,280
Speaker 2: What European beauty standards?

714
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know what the other day, Luna, Luna's

715
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 4: obsessed with Halloween and she has talked about her Halloween

716
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:15,919
Speaker 4: costume literally every day since October. Now she wants last

717
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 4: week's want to be a Barbie And she's like, I

718
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 4: want to be like a Barbie, like make put makeup

719
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:22,280
Speaker 4: on me, like white skin and like a red wig

720
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 4: or like a white wig. She thinks blonde hair is

721
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 4: called white wig.

722
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 3: And I was like, why would know?

723
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 4: Like you like, it bothered me, but also I realize

724
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 4: it's confusing, growing like it's confusing, and.

725
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 3: She's a four year old. She doesn't get it. Like

726
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 3: I know she's into herself.

727
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 4: I know she loves herself, but unfortunately we have to

728
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 4: just beat us and then they'll navigate, you know, and

729
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 4: I tell them to like we're about love, Like do.

730
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 2: You like would you ever just say okay? Fine?

731
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 4: Never like okay, if I'm gonna paint your face white, yeah,

732
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 4: I'm no, not fainting your face, I.

733
00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 2: Mean not white.

734
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 3: But like if she wanted to be a white Barbie,

735
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 3: don't I.

736
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 2: Just don't know, Like no, not that. I just mean though, like,

737
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 2: then how do we find that battle?

738
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:11,799
Speaker 4: I mean, I bought her that fucking princess whatever I mean,

739
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:12,719
Speaker 4: because I mean.

740
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 2: Her hair white bitch, because of a little of of

741
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 2: of a little white girl wanted to be black Barbie

742
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 2: and her mom paint and her black. You better believe them.

743
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 3: I wouldn't do that. I mean, I lose battles, you

744
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like.

745
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 4: Sometimes I'll buy her the princess she wants, because am

746
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 4: I gonna argue with a four year old, But if

747
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 4: it's up to me, I'm going to encourage her and

748
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 4: buy what I want what looks like her. Because I

749
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 4: realized it's so deep seated. We all experienced it. We

750
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 4: grew up in a white ass place. There was probably

751
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 4: till I was fucking in like fourth grade. I was like, Damn,

752
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 4: I wish my hair was like this. Damn this, damn

753
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 4: that I noticed I was different than the majority of

754
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 4: the people around me.

755
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 3: They're as as children and as a product of.

756
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 4: A social environment. There is no avoiding it. We cannot

757
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 4: protect them from every image from every movie.

758
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 3: Like it's impossible.

759
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 4: You know, I think I was gonna let my kid

760
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 4: watch Disney because it's cultish.

761
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 3: It is. What am I gonna do? I watch the shit?

762
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,240
Speaker 3: I'm fine. You know, you can't avoid the brainwashery. It exists.

763
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 3: It's real.

764
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 4: It's much even deeper and larger than we are aware of.

765
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 4: But you know, I think you have the pick and

766
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 4: choose your battles. And I think that as long as

767
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 4: we are aware that we're good people and that we

768
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 4: love people, and that we have a plethora of friends,

769
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,720
Speaker 4: we probably have more non black friends than black friends.

770
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 4: So it's not like our kids don't understand and don't

771
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 4: know that we love people, you know, so.

772
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 2: It's just maple. But sometimes they don't. They think you

773
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 2: love those people that everybody else. I've even seen how

774
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 2: I sometimes react to like white men. She's not comfortable

775
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 2: around them. What do you mean, I don't know. It's

776
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 2: different like black men. I think maybe because it's familiar

777
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,400
Speaker 2: because of her daughter, but white men is like a

778
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 2: little more strangery. Strangery you kind of I know.

779
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 3: This is bad, This is bad.

780
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 4: I shouldn't say it, but it kind of makes me

781
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:09,919
Speaker 4: feel good to hear that, because you know how many

782
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,319
Speaker 4: little white kids I've seen get scared of just black eyes.

783
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, sure, yeah, and I noticed that.

784
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 5: Well.

785
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 4: I guess I guess in general, as children, we're gonna

786
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 4: be less what we're what we see less, We're gonna

787
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:24,400
Speaker 4: be less familiar with. It's gonna be less uncomfortable. So

788
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 4: I guess it's our jobs to expose them.

789
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you know what I redid it? The

790
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,760
Speaker 2: Oh my god. In France, we're on the boat and

791
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 2: for this is for the event, and there was a

792
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:39,720
Speaker 2: little person on the boat. Oh no, no, she pointed, mommy,

793
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 2: why is she so little like me? She was pointing

794
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:46,240
Speaker 2: at her. I was like, I don't know, Okay, don't point.

795
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 3: How do you deal with that?

796
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:51,319
Speaker 2: I said, She's not a kid, she's a woman. She's

797
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 2: just small. And she was like and she like thought

798
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:56,959
Speaker 2: about her for a while. I saw her like thinking

799
00:38:56,960 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 2: about that, and then she was like, okay, like okay.

800
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,879
Speaker 4: Luna said to our friend yesterday who got a little

801
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 4: sugar in his tank, why are you.

802
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:08,720
Speaker 3: Acting like a girl? Why do you sound like a girl?

803
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 3: She kept saying it. I was like, shut up.

804
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 4: She wouldn't stop, she would sup and this man looks

805
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 4: like a man. There's nothing that appears like but she

806
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 4: could hear in his voice that he and I was

807
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:24,920
Speaker 4: just like, that's crazy that she, even as a child,

808
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 4: she has a understanding, a small scope of understanding of

809
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,839
Speaker 4: what a female and a male sound like as far

810
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 4: as dialect goes. How deep is that? Because I don't

811
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 4: teach her that, you know, so, I was just like,

812
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 4: you can't sound like a girl. There's no that doesn't exist.

813
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 4: You can't sound like a boy.

814
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 2: You can't even like when we took them to come up.

815
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I ran to a friend a very eccentric, blonde

816
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 4: braid wearing man who sometimes were like long gowns.

817
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 3: And she's like, why are you dressed like a are

818
00:39:57,800 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 3: you a girl? A boy? Why do you dress like

819
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:01,720
Speaker 3: a girl? Did she say ugly?

820
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 2: No, no, but she kept saying it, and I was like, like, Luna.

821
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 4: Is vocal, you know, like she's like me, so I

822
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,960
Speaker 4: can't like and I don't get my panties and ad bunch.

823
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 4: I just explained to her, as shit comes up, I

824
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 4: think we saw like a billboard and two guy or a.

825
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 3: Commercial two guys were kissing. She's like, ill, why are

826
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 3: two guys? What?

827
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 2: What?

828
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,359
Speaker 3: And I was just like, two guys can love each other.

829
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 2: But where do you think she got that ill from?

830
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 5: Dad?

831
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 3: Maybe shouldn't say ill.

832
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 2: Maybe she's just like even that it's not supposed to

833
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 2: be it because movies and she watches and she's not

834
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 2: used to it, or like, what's the distaste with it?

835
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 4: I think that we generally always in all movies all kids.

836
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean that's true. Do you think it's

837
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 2: anything else?

838
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 4: Besides no, I don't think anybody around her is homophobia

839
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 4: in any way.

840
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 2: Baby Daddy isn't.

841
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 3: No, No, he's really not like one time.

842
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 4: I one time cousin Chris, we're meeting them for lunch

843
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 4: and he's like, oh, by the way, I'm with his

844
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,400
Speaker 4: friend Mishall, who's a transgender.

845
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 3: So I was like, look bad, don't be acting strange.

846
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:06,919
Speaker 3: He's with transgender. So whatever, we all want to lunch,

847
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 3: ramp into it. But this bitch at the end, I

848
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 3: don't know if he was lying though.

849
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 4: He said when they shook hands by give me your hand,

850
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:17,959
Speaker 4: she did like a thumb.

851
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe maybe she did that to everyone and he

852
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: felt like he was special. You know, straight men be

853
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 2: always thinking that any get like a gay dude, because

854
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 2: they'd be reading into every little fucking thing, and also

855
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,960
Speaker 2: gay dudes being with them and not because they want them.

856
00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 3: But just to well, sometimes gay dudes could be disrespectful.

857
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 2: No, it's absolutely, absolutely, And it's.

858
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 3: Like, okay, nigga, you need to hill which I'm not.

859
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 4: You know, like respect everybody's ship, you know, be you,

860
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 4: but respect where people stand.

861
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 3: Don't make people extra uncomfortable anyway. How to get this topic?

862
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:56,479
Speaker 3: Oh like our kids, Yeah, I mean it's a struggle ship.

863
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 3: We don't know all the answers. We got programmed somehow. Now,

864
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 3: we're trying to. We're trying to, so let's get the

865
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 3: least programming for the kids.

866
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 4: Let's try and teach them what we know about what's

867
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,359
Speaker 4: real and what's not, and then you know what the fuck?

868
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 2: Today at work, we were doing our het We're shooting

869
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,800
Speaker 2: for a holiday campaign, and we were doing a photo

870
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,760
Speaker 2: where like we're holding one of our like cute gifts

871
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 2: behind our back, kind of like a Jared's commercial, you know,

872
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 2: like the like the diamond you know, like this, Yeah,

873
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 2: we're gonna propose and the diamonds behind your back. And

874
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 2: so we did one version with a guy, and then

875
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 2: we did one version with me in a pink suit

876
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 2: holding it behind me and I asked that. I said, so,

877
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 2: am I so I'm proposing? And she was like yeah,

878
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:40,280
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm like, so I proposing, Like I'm proposing

879
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 2: to my man or I'm proposing to my woman and

880
00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 2: she was like, yeah, it's kind of vague. Is in

881
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 2: my head? I was like, there's no mother fucking way

882
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 2: proposing to my man. And I was like then I

883
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 2: was like, wait, no, why am I program that way?

884
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 3: And is this?

885
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 2: Is that? Why am I feel so strongly about that?

886
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 2: Because one of the girls was like, I'm probably inside

887
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 2: of the wood. And I was like, are they like,

888
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 2: I was like, she lesbian? No, I was like, why

889
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: why is that the man's role?

890
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 3: I mean, I know, I get it. I'm I'm I mean,

891
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 3: I'm a hypocrite. I'm a hypocrite. There are I don't know.

892
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:24,800
Speaker 3: I mean, I get it. I know. There's no set

893
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:28,360
Speaker 3: things that are male or female. However, like Daphney said,

894
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 3: a male and.

895
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 4: A female, there's just no other combination, you know, Like

896
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 4: there are roles.

897
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 2: You know.

898
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 3: I'm not saying I decided that role. No one decided

899
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 3: it doesn't. It isn't. It isn't.

900
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 4: It's not for everyone. Not everyone will fall into these

901
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:46,720
Speaker 4: gender roles. However, I've been around some motherfucking babies, baby

902
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:49,439
Speaker 4: boys that could look like steer a car real good,

903
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 4: and I'm like, you're too. I've been around boys who

904
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:55,240
Speaker 4: just love boys shit and they want to wrestle.

905
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 3: They do like at our core. There are things that

906
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 3: are gender specific and I'm just wait, you.

907
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 2: Drive a car.

908
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 3: No in Philly, my girlfriend.

909
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 2: Wait, that's your example of like masculine. Wait. I was like,

910
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 2: where's she going with this?

911
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 3: Men are good at driving it's true.

912
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,720
Speaker 2: Okay, that is not true.

913
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:24,040
Speaker 3: That at its best, Yes, men has.

914
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 4: Like a coordination thing. I think they don't know like

915
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 4: where they're going because I'm fast.

916
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 2: They can get in that car. They have no fucking destination,

917
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 2: but they can drive it.

918
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 3: Well that's what they need it. I don't know.

919
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 2: And Okay, our attention to detail is different, I think women, But.

920
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:44,240
Speaker 3: Then I mean different and not all the time.

921
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 2: That's not I don't think these things are true all the.

922
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 3: Time, bitch. I'm not proposing to anyone.

923
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 2: I know. I still feel the same way. But I

924
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 2: was like, do I here's it? But then I thought,

925
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:54,319
Speaker 2: and then I was like, is this something I want

926
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 2: to unlearn I need to do? And then I was like, no,

927
00:44:57,800 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 2: not really.

928
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 3: I'm good certain things I don't want unlearn.

929
00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: That's what I don't. I think there's other things higher

930
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 2: up on the list.

931
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:04,879
Speaker 3: Yeah.

932
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 2: There. Once I accomplish these and then we'll think about

933
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 2: that again.

934
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 3: I mean, I love pink. She proposed to her man,

935
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 3: I think he proposed to her and answer or something.

936
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 2: And then my high school sweetheart, his wife proposed to him,

937
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 2: and I remember like when that happened, I was like.

938
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 3: She gotta want knee here.

939
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 2: I don't quite know. I think she just like I

940
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,239
Speaker 2: think know they're on the couch and she was just

941
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 2: like proposed to him with the ring. Uh huh.

942
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 3: I mean I think it's very face right now, that face.

943
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 3: I think it's very forward thinking.

944
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:41,840
Speaker 2: I love it. Yeah, I mean no, it's no for me.

945
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 4: I just don't want to do it. I mean, I

946
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 4: don't know who knows they're gonna fall in love with it?

947
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 3: Like it was so dumb.

948
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 4: He doesn't understand that he wants me to be his wife,

949
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 4: and I'll do him the great face.

950
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 2: Look, I'm already obsessed with you. The least you can

951
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 2: do is proposed act like you want me, like I'm

952
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 2: already giving you everything you would desire, because that's how

953
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 2: I do. It's that's how I feel, that's how So

954
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:06,839
Speaker 2: the least you can do is shower me too with

955
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 2: that diamond. It has to be something really interesting. I've

956
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 2: been looking at rings online for what.

957
00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 4: I don't know, because it's my genetics, my anatomy.

958
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 3: That wedding, wedding, we engaging husband, Oh my god, sounds

959
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 3: so sad.

960
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 2: No, I don't want to. I don't. I don't know

961
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 2: if I want already.

962
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:30,359
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't I want to ring.

963
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 2: I want to ring, but I don't know.

964
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 3: And the ceremony doesn't have to be legal.

965
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 2: I don't need it to be legal. I don't want

966
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 2: it to be legal. I don't. As a matter of fact,

967
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 2: I truly do not want to be married legally. I'm

968
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:41,800
Speaker 2: totally cool not being married legally.

969
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 3: I'll change my last name. Maybe not. Maybe I'm not.

970
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 2: I don't want to change the last name. I'm good.

971
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 2: Mm hm no, I like that. I like the way

972
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 2: it looks like. I like my signature.

973
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 5: Yeah.

974
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 3: I don't see a better name than me.

975
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 2: If you give me horror stories. Oh my god, oh

976
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 2: my god, we have we have a horror story. Who stories?

977
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 2: Oh yes, it's pretty nasty, filthy god, it's been a

978
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 2: while since we've shared a horror story. My brother's coming

979
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:16,320
Speaker 2: in like ten minutes.

980
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:18,399
Speaker 3: Okay, it will take less time.

981
00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:21,399
Speaker 2: We can sit in. We got a horror story from

982
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 2: one of our loyal listeners, our day one, one of

983
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 2: our day ones. She was so so generous, so generous,

984
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 2: she shared this horror to us. I had a lot

985
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 2: of questions that I messaged her about.

986
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 3: You did I think, I think I do you haven't

987
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 3: time some questions.

988
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:41,440
Speaker 2: I was like, wait, I need clarity.

989
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 3: Oh my god, where is it?

990
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 2: Her name is?

991
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 3: Oh that.

992
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 2: I was expecting that. I'm not expecting that.

993
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, okay, okay, are you guys ready

994
00:47:55,200 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 4: for this? Hey, ladies, please don't say my name, but man,

995
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:02,920
Speaker 4: is this epic to me?

996
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 3: Anyway?

997
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 4: So I met this guy on tender last week and

998
00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 4: we decided to go on a date Friday, since that

999
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 4: was when I would finally have a sitter. We chat

1000
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 4: it all week and I was very impressed by him.

1001
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:17,200
Speaker 4: An athletic director for an elementary school, super witty and attentive.

1002
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 4: I even sent him the episode with Bjay because of

1003
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 4: the teacher stories, and he really listened.

1004
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 3: Of course, we talked about.

1005
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 4: Sex, but nothing that ever seemed pushy or imposing. Disclaimer

1006
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 4: I'm not a big drinker. And also no, wait, wait, wait, okay,

1007
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 4: So Friday comes. So Friday comes and we go for

1008
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 4: tacos and disclaimer I'm not a big drinker.

1009
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,240
Speaker 3: And also don't judge my drinks of choice. I totally

1010
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 3: judged you. I have two Sangarius.

1011
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 4: We decided to go to a bar where I have

1012
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 4: a red Bull and vodka gross and the comfo is

1013
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 4: super flowing. Now with the music being loud, we have

1014
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 4: to get close and everything is right. We head to

1015
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 4: another bar where I take down two more red bull

1016
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 4: of vodkas. By now we were those people. We were

1017
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 4: making out, his hands on my ass, grinding all that.

1018
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:04,880
Speaker 4: We decided to leave and go to my place. I

1019
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 4: was smacked, y'all. So to get to my place and

1020
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 4: I smoke a blunt.

1021
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 3: Oh god, and I'm done.

1022
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 2: That's what you went that's where you went wrong, the

1023
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 2: right bitched.

1024
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 4: I get in the bed and yell across the house

1025
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 4: to come in my room, laugh out loud. So she

1026
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 4: gets pop it and I'm the kind of drunk now

1027
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 4: where everything is spinning, y'all. When I was giving him head,

1028
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 4: I threw up all my tacos, bitch, and he says,

1029
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 4: keep going, and I did. I kept going, and everything

1030
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 4: was just wet and slippery. He was spitting in my mouth. Ooh,

1031
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 4: I don't know how long it took him.

1032
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 2: To almost five minutes. Yeah, close the door, please, thank you.

1033
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 2: Read the last line before.

1034
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 4: And he says to keep going, and I did. I

1035
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 4: kept going, and everything was just wet and slippery, slippery.

1036
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 4: He was spitting in my mouth. I don't know how

1037
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 4: long it took him to come, because I found about

1038
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 4: six condoms in my house the next day cleaning, but

1039
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 4: I remember him coming on my boobs and then wiping

1040
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 4: it like lotion. Apparently at some point we showered and

1041
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 4: changed the sheets before passing out. Needless to say, I

1042
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:22,800
Speaker 4: spent Saturday with the hangover from hell. I've been wondering

1043
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 4: where I was going to find someone to genuinely explore

1044
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 4: that part of my wandering mind with me, and I've

1045
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 4: met my match and this is one hell of a

1046
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 4: first date story to have. Anyway, just spending the weekend

1047
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:36,839
Speaker 4: processing this experience and hoping to be able to share

1048
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:37,720
Speaker 4: more in the future.

1049
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 3: Love y'all.

1050
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,840
Speaker 2: Wait, so what My first question was like, wait, so,

1051
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 2: when he came on your chest and he smeared it,

1052
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:49,640
Speaker 2: did he also smear the throw up and they're just

1053
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 2: throw up everywhere? She said yes.

1054
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 7: I was like, oh my, that is disgusting. Bitch smiled

1055
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 7: and every Oh my god, how girl?

1056
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 4: Because I think I asked you the same thing like

1057
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:09,800
Speaker 4: he must he said, keep going. He's a little nasty freak.

1058
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:15,280
Speaker 4: Those teachers, Oh my god. Apartment of Education that's not freak.

1059
00:51:15,360 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 3: That's just like nasty. It's nasty.

1060
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 4: But you know the part is I've given head and

1061
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:24,480
Speaker 4: felt myself almost like swallow it back down.

1062
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 3: He's Lord, no, no, Lord, Jesus never no. Please let

1063
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 3: me stay right here at the top. Let me stay

1064
00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 3: right here.

1065
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 2: Break, give it a break, all right, Like we're gonna

1066
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 2: have to try and do something else. Yeah, bad hoary

1067
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:48,080
Speaker 2: level ten, level ten, horri that's the ship I'm talking about. Yeah,

1068
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 2: and guys, please share more horriy.

1069
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 3: We're not even gonna say your name.

1070
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 2: No, just just share the wealth. Man, go back and

1071
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 2: listen to some of ours, and you don't give you confidence.

1072
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:00,799
Speaker 3: You know, you probably need to tell of our own soon.

1073
00:52:00,920 --> 00:52:01,239
Speaker 5: I'm not.

1074
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,919
Speaker 2: I mean no, I'm sure we have some. I'm starting

1075
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 2: to have some in the vault something, right. I got

1076
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 2: to rethink sometimes we should block those.

1077
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 4: Out right, I'm good at blocking shit out, but clearly

1078
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,839
Speaker 4: for entertainment purposes, we needed to pull them out.

1079
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:16,240
Speaker 3: We've been slacking our horries.

1080
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 4: And you know, I come to the conclusion because we

1081
00:52:18,640 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 4: get hories and some of them were just leveled two

1082
00:52:22,320 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 4: and rarely loved. And I come to the conclusion that

1083
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 4: everybody listening actually is listening for our horri stories, like

1084
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:30,920
Speaker 4: maybe they're really scored. Like let's just listen to these

1085
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 4: crazy bitches for entertainment, you know, like so or else.

1086
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 3: You guys are just holding out, which I don't appreciate.

1087
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:41,759
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna think hard hard this week. All right,

1088
00:52:41,840 --> 00:52:46,120
Speaker 2: Well that concludes our episode. Make sure you go check

1089
00:52:46,160 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 2: out our merch we are actually doing. We're about to

1090
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,799
Speaker 2: go to this meet up. We're not meeting. It's on

1091
00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:55,800
Speaker 2: meet up. This event on Sunday and Lamert Park. You guys,

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Speaker 2: it's what is it called mask something. It's for kids.

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Speaker 2: Your kids are your kids can come and you can

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Speaker 2: come into arts and crafts and you can make these

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Speaker 2: masks that represent your ancestry. It's a good even though

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Speaker 2: maybe you don't know your ancestry because slavery, but your

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Speaker 2: home is gonna be Like I'm gonna go with like

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Speaker 2: what ancestry dot com told me, which is also probably

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Speaker 2: a lie since they switched.

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Speaker 5: Up on me.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, we're gonna post the details on our Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Remember I said I was Nigerian and then suddenly I

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Speaker 2: wasn't Nigerian at all anymore. No, you're what like Cameroon

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Speaker 2: and some other shit ivery coast anyway Sunday, Yes, and

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Speaker 2: then we have some really cool events coming up in July,

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