Speaker 1: You're not good enough, man. You you will never be
Speaker 1: good enough. You cannot do good enough. You will fall
Speaker 1: short every time. This is this is you're talking about religion.
Speaker 1: Erase that word from your vocabulary, because religion is man made.
Speaker 1: What's up, guys, Welcome back to the podcast. Thank you
Speaker 1: for joining us each and every Monday morning. Returning guest
Speaker 1: Bernie Calcote sitting with us again, dude, thanks for being back.
Speaker 1: Happy New Year, Happy new Year. Yeah twenty twenty two. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're here, dude. Thank you for guys. Bernie drives like
Speaker 1: an hour to come here to do this, and you've
Speaker 1: done countless episodes helping me through this, walking through this,
Speaker 1: So dude, just thank you for coming up here on
Speaker 1: a weekday. I know you have family and work and
Speaker 1: a lot and every thing else you got going on
Speaker 1: in your life. And you choose to drive an hour,
Speaker 1: be on the podcast for an hour, drive back for
Speaker 1: an hour. That's a really big deal to me. I
Speaker 1: was thinking about that this morning, So thank you. Yeah. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: It's a privilege, man, It's a privilege, and I don't
Speaker 1: take it lightly either. So you know, every time that
Speaker 1: an opportunity kind of presents itself, you got to take
Speaker 1: advantage of it because you never know when the next
Speaker 1: one will come. You know. Yeah, we're Bernie and I
Speaker 1: go back two decades at least. Now we're over two
Speaker 1: decades of being friends. I trust him. I trust him
Speaker 1: with any question I have in life. And so that's
Speaker 1: why I like to bring him on the podcast, because
Speaker 1: I trust that he's going to give you guys, the
Speaker 1: same advice that he would give me. And that's what
Speaker 1: we do here. That's the nature of this podcast is
Speaker 1: we answer your questions as if we're sitting around a campfire.
Speaker 1: We're just you know, the night's getting late. Bernie and
Speaker 1: I are sitting in you know, on two stumps, and
Speaker 1: you walk up, you the listener, walk up and go, hey,
Speaker 1: could I could I ask you guys something? And we
Speaker 1: don't have a timeframe, we don't have a limit of
Speaker 1: how quick we have to say it. We just go, yeah,
Speaker 1: what you got and you could ask us anything. It
Speaker 1: could be about life or love or careers or money
Speaker 1: or whatever the subject might be you ask us. We'll
Speaker 1: walk through it. We're not always right, but we'll give
Speaker 1: it to you straight. We'll shoot you straight. Sometimes it
Speaker 1: might be a little tough, love, but we'll give it
Speaker 1: to you the best that we know. How, take that
Speaker 1: with a grain of salt. If you have a question,
Speaker 1: email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. I've noticed over
Speaker 1: the last year, and maybe even you know prior to that.
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys are bringing the heat with your
Speaker 1: questions these days, some hum dingers and we're like, whoa, Okay,
Speaker 1: we got more of that today. Okay, well that's great.
Speaker 1: I haven't done I haven't looked at these very much
Speaker 1: besides just skim them and throw them into a folder.
Speaker 1: And Bernie, you have your own folder now because people
Speaker 1: love you on this podcast. But that's what we do.
Speaker 1: I throw them in here. We don't have notes. You
Speaker 1: could see our table if you're watching on Spotify or YouTube,
Speaker 1: you see we don't have notes or quotes or anything
Speaker 1: like that. So we're just gonna walk through it as
Speaker 1: it comes. So let's get into it. So before we
Speaker 1: get started, I had this thought as I was driving
Speaker 1: up here, which that space you know, on the drive here,
Speaker 1: on the drive back, you know, it's really a time
Speaker 1: of just solitude and the road and anybody out there
Speaker 1: who's you know, driving trucks overnight or just has a
Speaker 1: long commute. You understand what it can be like to
Speaker 1: just be out on the road, have nothing but the
Speaker 1: road in front of you and your thoughts, and be
Speaker 1: able to just kind of sit and think and process
Speaker 1: and everything. So I was listening to the podcast of
Speaker 1: this buddy of mine who's a country singer, and he
Speaker 1: did it by himself last week as you but as
Speaker 1: you were answering these questions, and I know we've talked
Speaker 1: about this before, I started to wonder if each one
Speaker 1: of these questions could be answered with three answers and
Speaker 1: the first one, and they happened to all start with C.
Speaker 1: I didn't plan that, but community, communication, and communion. So
Speaker 1: what's happening in these questions is there's either a lack
Speaker 1: of communication, there's a lack of community, or there's a
Speaker 1: lack of communion with God with the scripture, right, So
Speaker 1: I don't know if this is true. I just thought
Speaker 1: about it coming up. So as we're going to go
Speaker 1: into it today, we're gonna see, like, hey, maybe burns
Speaker 1: way off, maybe there's something to those three and maybe
Speaker 1: we can kind of dig in and wrestle with that
Speaker 1: a little one. Let's dig into that and we'll call
Speaker 1: it C one, C two, C three all right, and
Speaker 1: see if it falls And if any question or all
Speaker 1: the questions fall into one of those three categories. I
Speaker 1: think that's interesting. Yeah, And I think I think you're
Speaker 1: absolutely right whether there's three or there's four, or there's
Speaker 1: two or I but I do think there are you
Speaker 1: could you could list on one hand. I think you're right,
Speaker 1: you could list on one hand the answer to every
Speaker 1: question in life. Yeah, there were some questions last week
Speaker 1: that were good, the one about the blue check mark
Speaker 1: and like did you comment to the people? I thought
Speaker 1: that was really good. And there's some other kind of
Speaker 1: like higher level questions, surface level questions that I think
Speaker 1: we would love for you guys to ask, right, because
Speaker 1: before we jump into the deep end, sometimes it's good
Speaker 1: to be like, oh yeah, and it's good information for
Speaker 1: everybody to know. And they want to know, you know
Speaker 1: about Granger. Like, hey, so twenty twenty two, here we are.
Speaker 1: What are you excited about this year? Yeah? I got
Speaker 1: I have a that you can talk about because I
Speaker 1: know it's I've got some secret things going on and
Speaker 1: tell you what about Yeah, but what can you tell
Speaker 1: us that you're excited about? So? By the way the
Speaker 1: blue check question you're talking about, that would be communication, right,
Speaker 1: you could put that under that category. Yep. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm man, I'm I'm super excited one for this podcast
Speaker 1: going into going into twenty twenty two, with this podcast
Speaker 1: really sizzling as far as you know, it's always ranked
Speaker 1: really high on all the podcast rankings now and all
Speaker 1: the all the platforms, and it wasn't in twenty twenty one.
Speaker 1: It was like just starting to get heat. So now
Speaker 1: going ahead and fulfilling that the you know, knowing that
Speaker 1: it's a high ranked podcast, fulfilling that and and just
Speaker 1: establishing that more. I think. I don't want to say
Speaker 1: there's pressure in that, but there's a responsibility and you
Speaker 1: kind of that's what you said earlier. There's there's there's
Speaker 1: a responsibility to fulfill that it's worth of this podcast.
Speaker 1: So I'm super excited about that. And actually, to help
Speaker 1: a little bit, the next question, the one I have
Speaker 1: queued up first, will help with all this, Okay, but yeah,
Speaker 1: so let's dive into it. Your questions Grangersmith podcast at
Speaker 1: gmail dot com. The first one, subject line, this is
Speaker 1: the only one I've read. Subject line says question for
Speaker 1: the best podcast ever, like, yeah, yeah, you got me man,
Speaker 1: click bait, you got me, says Hey Granger, I'm wondering
Speaker 1: why you left your record label and moved to a
Speaker 1: new one. I love listening to the podcast every Monday
Speaker 1: morning on my way to work. I've listened to every episode.
Speaker 1: Your answers are always so good to help me because
Speaker 1: the best version of myself understand the best version of myself.
Speaker 1: Thank you. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. This comes
Speaker 1: from Mason in Wisconsin. Ye ye, So Mason has heard
Speaker 1: me talk about somewhere that I left the record label,
Speaker 1: but I did not join a new record label, so
Speaker 1: that Yeah, so I left my record label. And this
Speaker 1: is going to kind of connect to your question Burns,
Speaker 1: but I I just wanted to I've been with the
Speaker 1: record label for for several years. Now. Did you knew this? Right?
Speaker 1: You knew this. I I've actually been talking to you
Speaker 1: speaking of advice for probably three years, because it was
Speaker 1: before RIV I remember talking to you about this. I
Speaker 1: would I was just going, Bernie, I don't know if
Speaker 1: I should stay on a record label, and some people
Speaker 1: would think why. I mean, that's like a dream to
Speaker 1: get a record deal and it is, and it was
Speaker 1: a dream, and it was a great label and great friends,
Speaker 1: and they worked really hard and I have great relationships
Speaker 1: there still at that label. But I felt like overall
Speaker 1: my life and my career was taking a shift. And
Speaker 1: the record deal primarily is there to get you on
Speaker 1: the radio, and with that comes a radio game that
Speaker 1: you need to play, that you need, you need to
Speaker 1: satisfy radio. And ironically this year I have a radio job. Now.
Speaker 1: It's so ironic how the tables have turned. But but
Speaker 1: I left because I needed to free up some space.
Speaker 1: One for this podcast, one for the preaching opportunities that
Speaker 1: that I'm trying to get, and I'm writing a book
Speaker 1: or just started the process of that and needed to
Speaker 1: free up some time for that. This. I didn't know
Speaker 1: this radio gig was going to come, but that happened
Speaker 1: right after I left the label. I got this this
Speaker 1: radio job, which is going to take up time, so
Speaker 1: I'm thankful for that. And then there's there's some other
Speaker 1: projects that I just have going on that I just
Speaker 1: felt like I needed to free up some space because mentally,
Speaker 1: it takes a lot of effort, a lot of time,
Speaker 1: and a lot of travel to push a radio single
Speaker 1: up the chart. It's more than just a good song.
Speaker 1: It's it's saying the right things to the right people
Speaker 1: and and you know, going going out to dinner in
Speaker 1: their hometown and doing free things for them constantly. And
Speaker 1: like radio tours, right, you have to be promoting it all.
Speaker 1: You have to always be so like if I go
Speaker 1: to a tour dight in Saint Louis, I got to
Speaker 1: show up early and go meet the guy at the
Speaker 1: station and be super nice to him. And that's a
Speaker 1: young man's game. And I've loved it in the past.
Speaker 1: I love the personal aspect to that of getting to
Speaker 1: know someone at a personal level. But after doing it
Speaker 1: for so long, I just I need to free up
Speaker 1: my space. I need to free that up. And so
Speaker 1: that was a decision I had to make, and I
Speaker 1: was talking to Bernie about it for years. It first,
Speaker 1: when I first approached you about it, it was, Man,
Speaker 1: I feel like writing a letter. Do you remember I
Speaker 1: told you that, like a long time ago. It's like,
Speaker 1: I want to write a letter and just express the
Speaker 1: way I feel and the way I feel about radio
Speaker 1: and the way that songs go up charts. And it's
Speaker 1: not in a jaded way. It's just it's not about
Speaker 1: a good song, right is it some level? But it's
Speaker 1: some level you once you hit a certain threshold. All
Speaker 1: the songs are good above a certain threshold. And then
Speaker 1: that's thousands and thousands of them, and the charts are
Speaker 1: only going to get forty of them. So I needed
Speaker 1: to free up space. So yeah, Mason in Wisconsin, that's
Speaker 1: the best scenario I can give you. Now what it
Speaker 1: doesn't mean. It doesn't mean I'm gonna stop making music,
Speaker 1: stop making album stop touring. None of that's gonna change,
Speaker 1: which is the great thing about it. And part of
Speaker 1: this decision was based on, well, I don't have to
Speaker 1: give up making music. In fact, I'll make more of
Speaker 1: it and different kinds of it. I could put out
Speaker 1: a gospel record and not skip a beat. I could
Speaker 1: write a new song and have it out to you
Speaker 1: guys in two weeks. There's no more red tape that
Speaker 1: would come with the record label. That's a big deal.
Speaker 1: So touring wouldn't change. Making music wouldn't change, makeing albums
Speaker 1: wouldn't change. In fact, it would be more of it.
Speaker 1: So it's a benefit to you guys. And if I
Speaker 1: wasn't even talking about it at all. You wouldn't even
Speaker 1: know any difference, right, So yeah, so that's gonna be
Speaker 1: a big part going into twenty twenty two record label lists.
Speaker 1: So of all of those things that you just mentioned,
Speaker 1: making a new record, writing a book, touring, what is
Speaker 1: the most exciting to you? What are you most excited about?
Speaker 1: What's the most appealing to like, kend of this next year?
Speaker 1: The book? For sure? The book. It's a it's a
Speaker 1: it's above and beyond all the other things writing this book.
Speaker 1: Have you talked to you know, folks about it, like publicly? No,
Speaker 1: I know we have, but not really. I just started
Speaker 1: just announce this like right now. Yeah, I haven't really
Speaker 1: even announced it. But I'm with a literary agent, so
Speaker 1: we don't have a publisher. So I got with a
Speaker 1: really good agent and through the recommendation of lots of
Speaker 1: authors that are that have success that I know on
Speaker 1: Instagram and you know, dm them, and got some really
Speaker 1: good advice to get an agent first before we get
Speaker 1: a publisher. So then I work with the agent on
Speaker 1: refining my thoughts so that I'm not just looking at
Speaker 1: a blank page. Because it seems impossible to look at
Speaker 1: a blank page. So I talked to this literally and
Speaker 1: they were able to sit down with me. We had
Speaker 1: coffee two or three times for two or three hours
Speaker 1: each time and just refined everything that's in my head
Speaker 1: and go, okay, well, here that they could give me
Speaker 1: suggestions on here's how you start, here's where you're gonna go,
Speaker 1: here's where it's gonna climax, and then here's how you finish.
Speaker 1: That way, I'm not looking at a blank page anymore.
Speaker 1: I'm looking at a template. I'm like, great, so that's
Speaker 1: where I am right now. I finished the template, We
Speaker 1: finished the proposal, and then once I actually start diving
Speaker 1: into the writing, then I'll be talking about it a
Speaker 1: lot more cool. But that's that's what I'm most excited about.
Speaker 1: And that takes That's gonna take a lot of time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so as it should. Yeah, do y'all hear that, Guys,
Speaker 1: get excited. Twenty twenty two Granger Smith's first book title
Speaker 1: to be determined, worked on in twenty twenty two, probably
Speaker 1: most likely released in twenty twenty three. Okay, yeah, dang,
Speaker 1: that is a lot of time. I know, I know. Okay,
Speaker 1: back to these questions. All right, let's see, where was
Speaker 1: that one I gotta go back to that one and
Speaker 1: delete it. I'm gonna turn my Chick fil A water
Speaker 1: this way in case I need to take a drink.
Speaker 1: I guess you have this right here too. Yeah, they
Speaker 1: noticed my coffee cup today. Parker got me this for Christmas.
Speaker 1: Nice wretched center. That's my coffee cup today. Do you
Speaker 1: want to go, Bernie? You want to go deeper? You
Speaker 1: want to go another surface level? I want to go
Speaker 1: wherever you want to take us, Griz, I got a
Speaker 1: feeling where you're gonna say this, But well, let's look
Speaker 1: at this one. There's not many light ones on here today.
Speaker 1: So the subject line of this one says, I'm confused.
Speaker 1: Hey Grande, I'm a new listener to the podcast and
Speaker 1: I love them. My boyfriend now X and I recently
Speaker 1: broke up after dating for almost a year. We've been
Speaker 1: seeing each other for about two years. He came back
Speaker 1: two weeks after breaking up with me. Wanted to start
Speaker 1: from the beginning and go slow but remain exclusive. There's
Speaker 1: a voice inside my head that keeps trying to tell
Speaker 1: him that I'm conflicted. What should I do? By the way,
Speaker 1: I love him unconditionally and he does me in return. Sincerely,
Speaker 1: Morgan from Florida, and she's twenty years old. A couple
Speaker 1: things jump out at this one, one that the unconditional
Speaker 1: love that she has for him is impossible and he
Speaker 1: has for her. It's impossible. Yeah, Morgan, that's impossible. I
Speaker 1: get the sentiment. It's like, I love you forever, unconditional.
Speaker 1: It's like no matter what. Right, Yeah, but it's not true.
Speaker 1: I could sit here with you, Morgan and give you
Speaker 1: some conditions to make it unc to make it not unconditional.
Speaker 1: You know, he puts a gun to your head and says,
Speaker 1: love me or die. Yeah, Okay, Yeah, I think you
Speaker 1: just broke a condition of the unconditional love. I don't
Speaker 1: think you're going to say I love you unconditionally. So yeah,
Speaker 1: and we can go on and on, but your love
Speaker 1: for another human is not unconditional. Be careful with saying that, right.
Speaker 1: I do believe though, as far as unconditional love, I
Speaker 1: do believe a parent love for a child should be unconditional.
Speaker 1: I don't believe a child's love for a parent should
Speaker 1: be unconditional. Right. It's interesting. Yeah, I think about this
Speaker 1: a lot. It's like a parent when you bring a
Speaker 1: child into the world. As a parent, you are responsible
Speaker 1: forever for loving that child no matter what they do,
Speaker 1: no matter how they reject you, no matter what they
Speaker 1: say to you. You love. Your job is to love
Speaker 1: them back to you, right like the prodigress son. But
Speaker 1: a kid doesn't have to feel that way because there
Speaker 1: are things a parent can do to the kid to say,
Speaker 1: you know what, I think I've fallen out of love
Speaker 1: with you, dad or mom. And that's okay, it's interesting,
Speaker 1: do you think So let's stress test this a little bit.
Speaker 1: So do you think that? Because really it's the definition
Speaker 1: of love, Like what are they saying? Unconditional love? What
Speaker 1: does that love look like? Because there can be times
Speaker 1: when a child has a parent that is abusive, like
Speaker 1: maybe not in the earliers, but starts lying to him,
Speaker 1: deceiving of all of these things. Can that child still
Speaker 1: love them as man, that's my dad, I love him
Speaker 1: unconditionally as my dad, but as a person, as a friend,
Speaker 1: as a someone in my sphere of influence, I now
Speaker 1: have to extend further boundaries to that person in order
Speaker 1: to love them from a distance. Like what, Yeah, that's interesting,
Speaker 1: And the same thing you could flip the script on,
Speaker 1: like if a kid is if your child, you know,
Speaker 1: goes off the deep end and like starts killing people
Speaker 1: and starts you know, this is like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: this is not the kid I raised. What in the
Speaker 1: world happened? I still love you, but one there has
Speaker 1: to be boundaries. First because you're in jail, yeah, and
Speaker 1: I'm scared of you. But secondly, emotional boundaries is there's
Speaker 1: still the ability for a child to love a parent
Speaker 1: in the midst of that same thing unconditionally, with the
Speaker 1: boundaries kind of help that sentiment at all. I think
Speaker 1: that's a great point. And it's this idea that you know,
Speaker 1: first and foremost that the parent brings the child into
Speaker 1: the world and the child doesn't have a choice in
Speaker 1: the matter. That's true. Yep, that's a good point. But
Speaker 1: I totally understand the idea of loving as you would
Speaker 1: love any other human or love love your enemy, or
Speaker 1: love your neighbor. There's that kind of love. And then
Speaker 1: there's the parental love that you have when you when
Speaker 1: you lose a father and you grieve and grieve and
Speaker 1: grieve because of how much you loved him or if
Speaker 1: you didn't really and he dies and you go, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't really know my dad. I'm not really affected
Speaker 1: by this loss. You could still love him like you
Speaker 1: would love a neighbor or an enemy, like a biblical love.
Speaker 1: But it's not the kind of love that would make
Speaker 1: you grieve and make you say I'll do anything to
Speaker 1: have for my dad. Yeah, and it's not. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: not the same kind of love typically associated with the
Speaker 1: phrase unconditional love. Yeah. Right, So here's another. So let's
Speaker 1: flip the script on that. So now you have a
Speaker 1: parent that loses a child and says, you know, I
Speaker 1: didn't really know my child. It doesn't really affect me
Speaker 1: that they died. That's weird. That sounds weird. It doesn't
Speaker 1: sound weird for a daughter to go my dad died. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he lived in Arizona. I didn't really know him, so
Speaker 1: I don't really care. Yeah, but you would never say
Speaker 1: that as a parent. Yeah, my son died. He lived
Speaker 1: in Arizona. I didn't really know him, and I don't
Speaker 1: really care. Yeah, what's the difference in that? But there
Speaker 1: is one. There is one. There definitely is one. So okay, sorry, Morgan,
Speaker 1: back to your question. But I will I will say
Speaker 1: with with Morgan Mason, who is this, This is Morgan. Morgan.
Speaker 1: Mason was last Morgan. I feel like this may fall
Speaker 1: into the communication bucket. Yep. I feel like her and
Speaker 1: her boyfriend, yeah, that there are things that they're not
Speaker 1: communicating well with each other about and as far as
Speaker 1: the future and what needs to happen and where their
Speaker 1: heart's at and all that stuff, And I think it's
Speaker 1: a Morgan. This is what we call the rebound. What
Speaker 1: happened to you? He came back two weeks after breaking
Speaker 1: up and wanted to start from the beginning. That's not uncommon.
Speaker 1: That's that's called a rebound. You know, you you date
Speaker 1: for a year and then you go, you know what,
Speaker 1: I think we should see other people, and then you
Speaker 1: go for two weeks and you go, I don't think
Speaker 1: there's anybody else out there. I'ma I'm gonna go back
Speaker 1: to what was comfortable and what I what I really loved,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go back. And so two weeks comes back.
Speaker 1: That's normal. But the trend is that's gonna happen again.
Speaker 1: As soon as you guys get comfortable again, he's gonna
Speaker 1: leave again. That's just that's what's gonna happen. He says,
Speaker 1: he wants to start from the beginning and go slow
Speaker 1: this time, as if this would be a different scenario,
Speaker 1: and it's not. No, it's changed. I would be interested
Speaker 1: to know what did they do the first time that
Speaker 1: was fast because it said they were they dated, they
Speaker 1: were together for a year, and then dated a year
Speaker 1: after that year, because it says, well, wait, they were together,
Speaker 1: we were dating for almost a year. But we've been
Speaker 1: seeing each other for over for about two years. That's
Speaker 1: pretty slow. If you're so, let me let me just
Speaker 1: tell you, because again I'm gonna I'm gonna stress test
Speaker 1: this a little bit. Leslie and I my wife of
Speaker 1: seventeen years, we met each other and we're in a
Speaker 1: circle of friends and we weren't really attracted to each other.
Speaker 1: We weren't, it was it just wasn't like that. But
Speaker 1: we both love to play sports, basketball, volleyball, so we
Speaker 1: would go and just like play and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden we had a friendship. And that was like nine
Speaker 1: months to a year before there was like a night,
Speaker 1: a night where we both realized like whoa, this this
Speaker 1: is like who I want to hang out with the
Speaker 1: rest of my life, and that the veil was dropped
Speaker 1: I was like, WHOA, I saw her in a different
Speaker 1: light after that time, though probably maybe six eight months
Speaker 1: into that, we I mean you could say we broke
Speaker 1: up or we were on a break or however you're
Speaker 1: gonna phrase it, right, But that lasted for probably a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks. Yeah, and then but we did that
Speaker 1: in a different way. And that's why I'm wondering, like,
Speaker 1: what what is the Yeah, it's Morgan. This rebound thing
Speaker 1: could totally work. He could come back and you could
Speaker 1: get married. Absolutely, like Bernie's saying, I would suggest to you,
Speaker 1: and I think I think Bernie would to, not knowing
Speaker 1: your full story, that go with the part of you
Speaker 1: that's conflicted instead of the part the voice you said,
Speaker 1: there's a voice in my head saying keep trying with him,
Speaker 1: but there's another side of me that's conflicted. I would go.
Speaker 1: I would lean on the conflicted side and tell him, hey,
Speaker 1: just to avoid the rebound, right, to avoid the problem
Speaker 1: of the of just a rebound. It's not you, it's
Speaker 1: the rebound that's bringing him back, go with that side
Speaker 1: and go, hey, I actually feel the same way. I
Speaker 1: love you, I feel like we have a connection. But
Speaker 1: we did break up and to avoid us just falling
Speaker 1: into a rebound that has nothing to do with each other.
Speaker 1: I think we should go for a month and then reevaluate,
Speaker 1: go to coffee in a month, And if he's the
Speaker 1: right one and if you truly loves you, he's gonna
Speaker 1: be like, babe, whatever it takes. You want to go
Speaker 1: a month, you want to go a year. I love you,
Speaker 1: I want you. I'm gonna be here for you. I'll wait. Okay, great,
Speaker 1: but then hold him to that month. You might want
Speaker 1: to do two months just to make to be sure.
Speaker 1: But if he's the right one and he truly cares
Speaker 1: about you, then he's gonna easily wait. But if he's
Speaker 1: conflicted himself and he's like, I don't know, I mean,
Speaker 1: I might find someone else in a month. Bye. Right.
Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that, because that is exactly
Speaker 1: what Leslie and I did before we got back together.
Speaker 1: There was this period of time where you have to
Speaker 1: let the emotions similar settled down a little bit, because
Speaker 1: if you just have this emotional response of like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a lot, I gotta be
Speaker 1: with you, instead of like, man, we took time apart
Speaker 1: and we didn't communicate at all. I happened to be
Speaker 1: on the road, which was kind of like helpful to
Speaker 1: be away, but we didn't talk, and really we just
Speaker 1: prayed and prayed and prayed, like, God, is is this
Speaker 1: the one? Because we don't want to do this whole
Speaker 1: thing again, and we got past the point of man
Speaker 1: I miss her. This is an emotional response of like, man,
Speaker 1: I really am overwhelmingly in love with this woman, and
Speaker 1: I'll wait as long as I need to until it's reciprocated,
Speaker 1: and then that's what happens. So I think if you
Speaker 1: have these thoughts conflicting thoughts again, I'm gonna go back
Speaker 1: to communication. I think Granger's right. I think you give
Speaker 1: that space and just see kind of where he's at
Speaker 1: and see where you're at process everything. But after that, regardless,
Speaker 1: I think you got to come back together and communicate,
Speaker 1: because otherwise she's gonna be filling in that narrative with
Speaker 1: assumptions instead of talking with him and hearing exactly where
Speaker 1: his heart's at and on as many things as you
Speaker 1: feel like I don't know where he's at with this,
Speaker 1: write it down so that when you guys get back together,
Speaker 1: you can talk and really kind of establish Okay, here's
Speaker 1: our baseline, and from my perspective, this isn't this isn't it. No,
Speaker 1: there's not enough of these answers that are line up
Speaker 1: with mine and and so I'm gonna move on and
Speaker 1: vice versa for him. So so good, Morgan. I think
Speaker 1: you have a question. You have a lot to think about.
Speaker 1: It's a great question, and yeah, we wish the best.
Speaker 1: We take a break and be right back, all right.
Speaker 1: If you have a question for me, email Grangersmith Podcast
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. We'll get answered on this podcast.
Speaker 1: I ask one thing, just don't make it too long.
Speaker 1: It's really hard to read a multiple page email. I
Speaker 1: sit here on my iPhone and read these and about
Speaker 1: about the size of the screen of the iPhone. Is
Speaker 1: that that's good? That's a good length, hopefully shorter if
Speaker 1: you send me a novel, although it might be really
Speaker 1: well written in an incredible story, it's almost impossible for
Speaker 1: me to sit here and read a novel. So if
Speaker 1: you can just try to make it short, so can
Speaker 1: I ask a question. Everybody out there is wondering, sure,
Speaker 1: when are we going to live? Call in questions? I
Speaker 1: think it'd be great. Man. I've got something. I have
Speaker 1: a piece of equipment here that I could actually do
Speaker 1: that with. Now, okay, so we'll set it up. That
Speaker 1: would be great. Actually, this next next question that look
Speaker 1: has a phone number at the bottom, So this question
Speaker 1: comes from Grant and the subject line is mother in
Speaker 1: law and kids. Hey God, your my name is Grant.
Speaker 1: I'm in my mid twenties. I live in West Michigan,
Speaker 1: Greater grand Rapid AIA shout out to Michigan. I started
Speaker 1: listening to your podcast a couple of months ago, and
Speaker 1: it's really changed how I process decisions. I've been a
Speaker 1: lifelong follower believer of Christ, but listening to you and
Speaker 1: your guest work through other people's question since has shown
Speaker 1: me a way to critically evaluate situations and apply Christ's
Speaker 1: teachings to them. Thank you. My wife and I have
Speaker 1: a son that is nearly two years old and we're
Speaker 1: trying for another. I was raised as a Christian, and
Speaker 1: my wife came to Christ in high school and has
Speaker 1: since become a God fearing woman. Along with myself, we
Speaker 1: have plans to raise our children in a Christian home. However,
Speaker 1: my mother in law was raised Catholic, but she does
Speaker 1: not participate in any kind of religion. Currently, I think
Speaker 1: she believes they're a god, there is a God, but
Speaker 1: does not actively pursue a christ sinnered life. She is
Speaker 1: also gay and quite expressive about that part of her.
Speaker 1: My wife and I have discussed that we need to
Speaker 1: explain to our children that we are to hate the
Speaker 1: sin but not the sinner at an early age, but
Speaker 1: I'm worried that that may not be enough. My concern
Speaker 1: is that my mother in law may impress some of
Speaker 1: her unbiblical beliefs onto them and or confuse them. Phil
Speaker 1: it's important that she is a part of their life.
Speaker 1: I believe grandparents can be very influential to children, as
Speaker 1: they were from me, but my dad passed away several
Speaker 1: years ago, leaving my mother and mother in law, who
Speaker 1: are opposites in many ways, to be that influence. Wise,
Speaker 1: counsel I could turn to does not have the experience
Speaker 1: like this, which makes it very hard to get advice
Speaker 1: based on experience. Do you or Bernie have any ideas
Speaker 1: on how to approach this proactively other than our current plan. Also,
Speaker 1: when our kids do have questions about faith, regarding the
Speaker 1: origin of the questions, how do we encourage them to
Speaker 1: turn to us the Church or the Bible for answers
Speaker 1: rather than other bad influences. Thank you so much, Grant Man,
Speaker 1: I have some answers for you, Grant and Bernie and
Speaker 1: not could be some wise counsel or I don't know wise,
Speaker 1: E don't know if that's quite the word. We could
Speaker 1: be counsel for you. Grant and I too, like your
Speaker 1: other friends, have not personally experienced this. But that's okay
Speaker 1: because we could fall on the Bible and that could
Speaker 1: be our experience all wrapped into one. There's so many
Speaker 1: things in your email. There's a lot, and so let's
Speaker 1: kind of just start chopping away like it's a big
Speaker 1: tree and we've got a sharp axe, and we'll just
Speaker 1: go slowly into all of this. First of all, you
Speaker 1: don't congratulations. You're rocking life. You're in your mid twenties,
Speaker 1: you're trying for a second baby. That's awesome. You've got
Speaker 1: a great wife. It sounds like I want to start
Speaker 1: with this. I want to start with this. You're in
Speaker 1: protection mode already as a young dad, and that's understandable.
Speaker 1: You are in your mid twenties. You're new to this
Speaker 1: dad thing. Not that I'm any farther down the road
Speaker 1: at all. You know, I'm forty two, so I don't
Speaker 1: want to speak like that, but I do want to
Speaker 1: say the protection mode that you're in as natural. You're
Speaker 1: just wanting to protect them from the world from the world,
Speaker 1: but you'll learn through time that it's better to prepare
Speaker 1: them for the world instead of constantly protect them from it.
Speaker 1: Prepare instead of protect. And you could do that in
Speaker 1: several ways, but but mainly right there in your house,
Speaker 1: you prepare them. I know Bernie does the same thing.
Speaker 1: We can't. We can't just put up shields and protect
Speaker 1: our children from anything they might see or be influenced by.
Speaker 1: We need to be the main influence coming into them
Speaker 1: in their house. That's our job, in a preparation way,
Speaker 1: so that they can go out and go. I see this.
Speaker 1: I expected to see this because Dad told me I
Speaker 1: would expect to see this. Stop me, Bernie, if I'm
Speaker 1: getting too far without you have no thoughts, great man,
Speaker 1: keep going, and I want to. I want to dive
Speaker 1: into something that I read right in here at the
Speaker 1: top here you said I want to. I have been
Speaker 1: a lifelong father believer of Christ, and you've taught me
Speaker 1: how to critically evaluate My wife and I have a
Speaker 1: son nearly two years old, trying for another we have
Speaker 1: play here. It is we have always had plans to
Speaker 1: raise our children in a Christian home, and you want
Speaker 1: to make sure that this is a christ centered home.
Speaker 1: And what I don't like about what you said is
Speaker 1: I don't like hate the sin, not the sinner. I
Speaker 1: don't think that that's something you need to explain to
Speaker 1: your children. I understand the concept. I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 1: But we're all sinners. Yeah, and kids, we're all that's
Speaker 1: a higher level concept for you know, I don't know
Speaker 1: how those kids are, but it's a ways until he
Speaker 1: has to. You know, grands sitting here, got my cup, man,
Speaker 1: I got my cup right here for you, wretched sinner
Speaker 1: coffee cup because that's me, and that's Bernie and that's you,
Speaker 1: and guess what, that's also your kids. Amber and I
Speaker 1: look at Maverick and it's a it's a it's a
Speaker 1: funny joke that we say, but it's true when we say, oh,
Speaker 1: you little wretched hearted sund because that's how we're born.
Speaker 1: We're born into this world as rebellious sinners. Do we
Speaker 1: need it? Do we need to prove that. Have you
Speaker 1: ever seen a two year old? They will lie, steal, cheat,
Speaker 1: They would kill you if they weren't so small, and
Speaker 1: you would probably kill them if they weren't so cute.
Speaker 1: That's the way it is. Man. You hold a little
Speaker 1: two year old in your arms, and when he wants something,
Speaker 1: when he wants that piece of candy and you take
Speaker 1: it away from him, he looks at you like he
Speaker 1: would kill you if he was one hundred pounds heavier. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he would shake you. There's nothing about shaking adults. If
Speaker 1: he had the muscles to do it. Yes, you They
Speaker 1: grab you at your eyes and your nose with their
Speaker 1: little fingernails and they squeeze. And so from the very beginning,
Speaker 1: when we pop out of the womb, we are not innocent.
Speaker 1: We are guilty, guilty upon birth right. And so that's
Speaker 1: that's something that we we could start at an early age.
Speaker 1: Breathing into the children is through discipline, showing them that
Speaker 1: we are inherently sinners. Instead of looking at oh, mother
Speaker 1: in law. Mother in law is gay and we don't
Speaker 1: want to be like that. It's more like, look at yourself,
Speaker 1: look at who we are. We're all broken. We all
Speaker 1: have our vices, and we all have things that we
Speaker 1: shouldn't be doing, and so we can't we can't look
Speaker 1: at this as a protection like, oh, don't don't look
Speaker 1: at mother in law. Don't don't look at her, she's gay.
Speaker 1: We got it. We have to protect. We have to
Speaker 1: protect because this is you know, we're supposed to hat
Speaker 1: the sin and we want to be a God centered life. Hey,
Speaker 1: Jesus went to the sinners. He didn't come to Earth
Speaker 1: to to make laws for us to follow. He came
Speaker 1: to save sinners because we already broke the law. It
Speaker 1: was too late, right now, that's a good point. A
Speaker 1: lot of people think that everything that Jesus talks about
Speaker 1: in the New Testament, all the red letters, this is
Speaker 1: Jesus just a good teacher on like and he's our example.
Speaker 1: That's how we need to live. And it's like, no,
Speaker 1: that was not the main point of why he came
Speaker 1: and what he said. You got to go back and
Speaker 1: read it. So like grant, here's here's here's my two cents, man,
Speaker 1: And again, I'm a parent to try and figure this
Speaker 1: out in a world that is just like falling apart
Speaker 1: around us, depraved as it has ever been. So I'm
Speaker 1: with you, man, and what I think is that this
Speaker 1: can apply to any parent, regardless of what you believe. Okay,
Speaker 1: what your belief system, what your worldview is, this still
Speaker 1: can apply to you. But I'm going to speak to
Speaker 1: Grant from a Bible believing disciple of Jesus to another. Okay,
Speaker 1: the things that not just your mother in law, but
Speaker 1: anyone that they come in contact with, they're going to
Speaker 1: have to learn how to discern is this holy? Is
Speaker 1: this godly? Is it not? How do I make decisions
Speaker 1: based on what I'm seeing? You have the privilege and
Speaker 1: the responsibility to guide them, not to yourself and not like,
Speaker 1: hey look what dad does, because you're going to fail
Speaker 1: them just like everybody else. But hey, son, man, I
Speaker 1: am broken and busted just like everybody else, including you.
Speaker 1: But what we believe is that there's this book, these
Speaker 1: holy scriptures that are truth. These are true, and we
Speaker 1: are going to wrestle with them and stress test them
Speaker 1: and open them up and they're always going to come back.
Speaker 1: And I can't wait to walk through all these different
Speaker 1: situations in your life. And so, like Granger said, you're
Speaker 1: preparing them for the journey so that when they get
Speaker 1: in these situations, they have in their mind these words,
Speaker 1: these true words, these tested and faithful words, that they
Speaker 1: can then discern what they're seeing and then make decisions
Speaker 1: based on that. In nowhere in the scripture, I believe,
Speaker 1: are you going to find a place that says we
Speaker 1: just need to isolate and only be here and just protect, protect, protect, protect.
Speaker 1: That's not really the mission of the Gospel. That's not
Speaker 1: really with the intent of the Bible. I think if
Speaker 1: you think about sin that Granger is talking about in
Speaker 1: all of us as a disease, yeah, then we're born
Speaker 1: with it. Yeah, We're born like this. We're born with
Speaker 1: this disease. So let's say that your son has a
Speaker 1: disease like how much and it starts to flare up.
Speaker 1: When it does and you see him in that pain,
Speaker 1: you're going to just like go even closer to him
Speaker 1: and be like, man, I think this is what you're saying. Man,
Speaker 1: I hate this cancer. I can't believe. Oh son, my
Speaker 1: heart breaks for you, Like I wish that I could
Speaker 1: take this on for you. I wish I could bear
Speaker 1: it for you, But I am here with you. This
Speaker 1: is a great way to think about Jesus and his
Speaker 1: perspective of you, of your son, of your mother in law,
Speaker 1: of all of us. If we are his people, we
Speaker 1: are his son, his daughter. He doesn't see our sin
Speaker 1: and separate us. He sees it and he comes even
Speaker 1: more so to us. So I don't know what that's helpful,
Speaker 1: but I love it. I hope that you take what
Speaker 1: Grange's saying and that I'm emphasizing to you have to
Speaker 1: be the one that is initiating the conversations, initiating the
Speaker 1: dialogue so when they get in situations and they see
Speaker 1: things they don't understand. Hey, Dad, I saw this today,
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh yeah, hey, remember when we talked
Speaker 1: about this is kind of that thing. And you keep
Speaker 1: that conversation going. That is huge. You know what the
Speaker 1: problem is with your mother in law? I wish you're
Speaker 1: around the campfire right now. I could ask you straight up,
Speaker 1: you know what the problem is with your mother in law?
Speaker 1: No that the answer is not she's gay. The answer
Speaker 1: is she's not a believer. That's it. She's a sinner,
Speaker 1: and so are you, and so is your kids, and
Speaker 1: so am I. That's not a problem. That's how we're born.
Speaker 1: But the only way we could eradicate that problem is
Speaker 1: through Christ. He does it for us. That's why he
Speaker 1: came to the earth, That's why we pursue a relationship
Speaker 1: with him. The problem with your mother in law is
Speaker 1: she's not following Christ. That's it. So don't look at
Speaker 1: anything else. You shouldn't be surprised by anything else that she,
Speaker 1: or you or anyone does, because did you lie today
Speaker 1: or maybe not today? Did you lie this week? A
Speaker 1: white lie? Have you ever stolen anything in your life?
Speaker 1: Have you ever looked at another woman with lust? Have
Speaker 1: you ever said the Lord's name in vain in any way?
Speaker 1: Including O MG? The answer to all those questions is yes,
Speaker 1: a sinner to and you were born with it, just
Speaker 1: like your mother in law. So we don't look at
Speaker 1: her in that way, at her sin. We look at
Speaker 1: her as without Christ. That's the only thing that matters
Speaker 1: to you. That's the only thing that should matter to
Speaker 1: your kids is she's without Christ. And so that's what
Speaker 1: you pour into your kids, is that we radically pursue Jesus.
Speaker 1: We pursue Him with all our heart, and we admit
Speaker 1: our sins. We admit that we are beyond help. We
Speaker 1: cannot be helped, and so when we radically pursue him,
Speaker 1: he takes care of everything for us. That's it. I
Speaker 1: hope that this helps. I know that you there was
Speaker 1: a long question you asked, and it was it was
Speaker 1: very loaded. But I hope that helps. I hope that helps. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and Grant email back in Man. I was asking Granger earlier,
Speaker 1: like some of these questions that we answer, like we'd
Speaker 1: love to kind of follow these storylines of like you know, Grant,
Speaker 1: you know a couple of years from now, like what
Speaker 1: happened with your relationship with your mother in law? Is
Speaker 1: kids grew up? And like, yeah, we'd love to hear. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you buddy, thanks for the question. Let's see, here's
Speaker 1: a question, subject line spiritual advice. Hey, my name is Weston.
Speaker 1: I'm from Forest, Virginia. I need some advice on how
Speaker 1: to be a better Christian. Here we go. I was
Speaker 1: baptized September fifth, and it was amazing, but I always
Speaker 1: feel like I disappoint the Lord. I try to be
Speaker 1: a good Christian. I normally pray every day and I
Speaker 1: try to keep up with my church's live stream. It's
Speaker 1: hard to go to church with a two week year
Speaker 1: old and a two year old. Would you have any
Speaker 1: kind of advice on why I'm feeling like I could
Speaker 1: never be good enough to enter heaven? Oh, that's an
Speaker 1: easy question. Goodness, You're not good enough? Yes, and you
Speaker 1: never will be. Why is this our culture, especially the
Speaker 1: Christian culture, we have to do the stuff like worrying
Speaker 1: about doing all the stuff. Guys like, you're not good enough? Man,
Speaker 1: you you will never be good enough. You cannot do
Speaker 1: good enough, you cannot pray enough, you cannot see enough
Speaker 1: church live streams to go to heaven. You will fall
Speaker 1: short every time this is this is you're talking about religion.
Speaker 1: And I see that that word pop up on my
Speaker 1: podcast all the time on these questions religion, religion, religion
Speaker 1: a race. If you're listening to this podcast, if you're
Speaker 1: writing in erase that word from your vocabulary. Because religion
Speaker 1: is man made. Let's all say that together, if you're listening,
Speaker 1: religion is man made, right. It's the pursuit of God
Speaker 1: from man to try to get into heaven, to try
Speaker 1: to get approval from God, to try to do enough
Speaker 1: things on a checklist on Santa Claus good and good
Speaker 1: and naughty list that you can finally go to the
Speaker 1: North Pole and get a toy that is totally man made.
Speaker 1: You cannot be good enough to enter heaven. Every other
Speaker 1: religion besides Christianity says that this is what you do.
Speaker 1: Every other religion. I'm talking about Mormons, I'm talking about Muslims,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about Jews, any other branches of the Abrahamic religions.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about Buddhism and hindu When it's not totally God,
Speaker 1: but it's a nirvana, it's what can man do to
Speaker 1: get there, to get to either peace or heaven or
Speaker 1: paradise or euphoria, or what can man do to get there?
Speaker 1: And Christianity is christ He that's what it is. Or
Speaker 1: he goes, come to me, Come to me, and I
Speaker 1: will bring you. I will clean up your life around you.
Speaker 1: You go to him with your dirty room and he
Speaker 1: cleans up your dirty room and makes it clean. Go
Speaker 1: to him, pursue him a relationship, a personal relationationship with him.
Speaker 1: That's what you do. Do you think that we're just
Speaker 1: like really dumb human arrogant beings, And it's like we
Speaker 1: can't because the law was established to make us conscious
Speaker 1: of sin, to like show us, hey, here's this law.
Speaker 1: Here's these things you're going to do to live to
Speaker 1: be holy? Right, Oh wait, we can't do those things.
Speaker 1: No human being except Jesus that's lived on the surf
Speaker 1: has ever done it. We can't do It's impossible. That's
Speaker 1: why the law's established. We can do it. But when
Speaker 1: Jesus came and he was like, hey, I've come to
Speaker 1: put into all this like you are clean in me.
Speaker 1: You don't have like this this law that you're trying
Speaker 1: to keep to restore your relationship with God. You don't
Speaker 1: have to do that. I'm the conduit. Trust in me,
Speaker 1: and I will take care of it. But we're like, nah,
Speaker 1: we got to keep doing all the stuff right, Like, okay,
Speaker 1: we believe in the Jesus, but still we got to
Speaker 1: It's like the law these days that has been in
Speaker 1: all these other religions in within Christianity is still, well
Speaker 1: did you have your devotional man? Well? Did you go
Speaker 1: to church? Well? Did you tithe? Well? Did you do
Speaker 1: these things? Now? I'm not saying that there is an
Speaker 1: outpouring of good fruit and holiness and righteousness that will
Speaker 1: come out just go naturally, but for the love, like,
Speaker 1: can we stop with this works based can I say
Speaker 1: works based Christianity, because I think that's kind of other
Speaker 1: religions say that that Christianity is like no Parker calls
Speaker 1: it a plus religion. And members of the LEDs Church
Speaker 1: and Islam and their man their fingers are getting so
Speaker 1: tired right now because they're burning me up an email
Speaker 1: right now, just about to burn me to the ground.
Speaker 1: And Hey, this is not about this is not about
Speaker 1: singling out that. This is about defending, defending the Christian
Speaker 1: faith and and and separating it from the others. And
Speaker 1: so if you're mad at me, if you're Mormon and
Speaker 1: you're mad at me, it wouldn't be the first time
Speaker 1: that I've gotten your emails. And I want to tell you, truly, truly, truly,
Speaker 1: I love you, I absolutely love you. And I want
Speaker 1: the truth. I want the truth to hurt, and I
Speaker 1: want it to I want it to burn a little bit.
Speaker 1: And that's why I say it, because because I say
Speaker 1: it out of love. If I was driving down a
Speaker 1: road that I just saw that the bridge was out,
Speaker 1: and I'm driving down the road and you're coming at
Speaker 1: me in a car and I roll down my window
Speaker 1: and I say, hey, the bridge is out ahead the
Speaker 1: bridge is out and you say get out of here. Man,
Speaker 1: you don't know what you're talking about. It would be
Speaker 1: love for me to say stop, the bridge is out.
Speaker 1: That would be love. It would be hate for me
Speaker 1: to go do what you want to keep on going, Bro,
Speaker 1: you find out on your own. So that's so that
Speaker 1: that I just want you guys to know my heart
Speaker 1: that that's that's where it's coming from. And I don't
Speaker 1: want to make people mad, but people are right now
Speaker 1: they're typing James two on some email to me, And
Speaker 1: I want to tell you when when James says that
Speaker 1: that faith without works is dead, he's talking about in
Speaker 1: that whole chapter that works are a result. You should
Speaker 1: see good fruits. Like Bernie said, good works should come.
Speaker 1: They will come. If it was a real faith, if
Speaker 1: it was a real relationship you have with Jesus, then
Speaker 1: the outcropping of that. How do you know if it's
Speaker 1: real because you'll see good works, You'll see an image
Speaker 1: of Jesus coming out through that person and what they
Speaker 1: do in their daily lives. They're gonna hate their sin.
Speaker 1: That's a different. That's another thing is when you have
Speaker 1: a true relationship with Jesus, you start hating your own
Speaker 1: sin and you want to eradicate it, and you still
Speaker 1: do it and you still stumble. But now when you
Speaker 1: do stumble, you go, oh, I hate that and I
Speaker 1: have to repent for it because I feel terrible that
Speaker 1: I told that lie, or that I stole that song
Speaker 1: on napster, or you hate it, then you want to
Speaker 1: eradicate it. But that's an outcropping of your faith. It's
Speaker 1: it's not the beginning of your faith. It's not the
Speaker 1: works that you do that start the ball rolling, it's
Speaker 1: the faith that starts the works rolling. Yeah. And like
Speaker 1: he's saying that he's feeling this weight of guilt, right,
Speaker 1: that is not from God at all. Yeah, that's a lie.
Speaker 1: And so that's where these you know, the works associated
Speaker 1: with faith, that's where it's got backwards because you wouldn't
Speaker 1: be feeling if you had it the way you're talking about,
Speaker 1: where this is an outpouring, outcropping of that you your
Speaker 1: trust and dependency on Jesus being the inner session is
Speaker 1: the focus, and you're not going to feel the guilt
Speaker 1: over and over because every time he comes in and says, hey,
Speaker 1: I got you, this is why I came. Hey, focus
Speaker 1: on me, just focus on me, just trust in me,
Speaker 1: and so that that guilt piece, I think that there's
Speaker 1: you know, is there one of the seas that this
Speaker 1: falls in. I'm kind of here in communion? Yeah, absolutely, communion. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so lack of communion with God. And the scripture is like,
Speaker 1: and so let me let me look at something real
Speaker 1: quick some some forty hang on a second because this
Speaker 1: is song or some sorry literally like on the fly,
Speaker 1: I have to go day. You'll hear this with David
Speaker 1: all the time. So why while Granger's looking that up
Speaker 1: and he's fine, here, okay David and Psalm forty two.
Speaker 1: Listen to what David says, why are you cast down?
Speaker 1: Oh my soul? Why are you in turmoil within me?
Speaker 1: He's talking to himself like why am I so messed up?
Speaker 1: Why do I have this anxiety? Why I just churning
Speaker 1: inside me? And then look what he says right off
Speaker 1: that hope in God, for I shall praise again, praise him,
Speaker 1: my salvation and my God. He goes back always to
Speaker 1: that praise him. And so that's that's that's something for
Speaker 1: you to remember there, Weston, is is when your when
Speaker 1: your soul is downcast and you're in turmoil. Just go God,
Speaker 1: I praise you. Why am I listening to myself? Why
Speaker 1: am I conflicting my own brain and myself and thinking
Speaker 1: that I have to work my way to you? And God,
Speaker 1: I can't take me. Take my soul. Breathe into me,
Speaker 1: pull your spirit into me. I praise you. You created me,
Speaker 1: You gave me a purpose. Let me know that purpose.
Speaker 1: Don't be quiet. Speak to me God. I mean I'm
Speaker 1: talking on your knees in your bedroom right. Your elbows
Speaker 1: are on your bed, and you're just you're just crying
Speaker 1: out that you can't do it. Pour into me, and
Speaker 1: then you wait on him and watch him fulfill this
Speaker 1: to you, Watch him give this to you. Watch this
Speaker 1: peace well up inside of you where you no longer
Speaker 1: feel like you have to pray a certain amount of
Speaker 1: times in the day. You just do because you want to,
Speaker 1: not because you have to. Yeah. I think, like anything,
Speaker 1: the more that you probably study the scripture and engage
Speaker 1: your mind, you're going to see your heart will follow
Speaker 1: and you're gonna be like, oh my gosh, I had
Speaker 1: no idea that this is what the scripture meant. And
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, this desire that Grangeer's talking
Speaker 1: about as you're sitting kind of in this solitude and
Speaker 1: stillness and you're you're thinking through the Verse that you
Speaker 1: have read for the last two or three weeks and
Speaker 1: studied and now and it's like God just starts to
Speaker 1: put these things together. And then you can recall that
Speaker 1: when you're in a conversation with your coworker and you're
Speaker 1: being used, you're a vessel. You are not doing anything.
Speaker 1: Stop trying to do stuff and be a vessel. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm saying this to myself too, guys, right as we
Speaker 1: need these reminders to every day me. And so the
Speaker 1: last two questions, you know, we could kind of say
Speaker 1: the same thing that from the last two questions. You
Speaker 1: have to remember me speaking into this microphone on this
Speaker 1: podcast right now. I am my wretched sinner. I'm a sinner,
Speaker 1: so I don't I don't worry about hate the sin,
Speaker 1: love the sinner. I don't worry about that kind of thing.
Speaker 1: All I think of is my own sin, and it's
Speaker 1: all in me. And it's like Bernie said, it's a
Speaker 1: cancer and I want to get it out. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna worry about someone else's all with someone else. All
Speaker 1: I'm gonna worry about is loving them and showing them Christ,
Speaker 1: showing them their Savior. That's all I'm gonna worry about
Speaker 1: with I'm not gonna worry about other people's sin. But
Speaker 1: when it comes to me Weston, I just give it
Speaker 1: all up and I go. I can't. I can't pray enough,
Speaker 1: I can't watch enough live streams, I can't do I
Speaker 1: can't do anything that's good enough for you. Thank God,
Speaker 1: Thank God I don't have to because I have Jesus. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, guys, we're at a time bro Amen, thanks
Speaker 1: for having me. We got we got rough today. Man.
Speaker 1: I feel like it up on the last two of
Speaker 1: these things. I gotta go take a shower down. Thanks
Speaker 1: for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate
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