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Speaker 1: Bernie Calcote sitting with us again, dude, thanks for being back.

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Speaker 1: Happy New Year, Happy new Year. Yeah twenty twenty two. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think we should go for a month and then reevaluate,

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Speaker 1: go to coffee in a month, And if he's the

427
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Speaker 1: right one and if you truly loves you, he's gonna

428
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Speaker 1: be like, babe, whatever it takes. You want to go

429
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Speaker 1: a month, you want to go a year. I love you,

430
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Speaker 1: I want you. I'm gonna be here for you. I'll wait. Okay, great,

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Speaker 1: but then hold him to that month. You might want

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Speaker 1: to do two months just to make to be sure.

433
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Speaker 1: But if he's the right one and he truly cares

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Speaker 1: about you, then he's gonna easily wait. But if he's

435
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 1: conflicted himself and he's like, I don't know, I mean,

436
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Speaker 1: I might find someone else in a month. Bye. Right.

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00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that, because that is exactly

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Speaker 1: what Leslie and I did before we got back together.

439
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 1: There was this period of time where you have to

440
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Speaker 1: let the emotions similar settled down a little bit, because

441
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Speaker 1: if you just have this emotional response of like, oh,

442
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Speaker 1: I don't want to be a lot, I gotta be

443
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: with you, instead of like, man, we took time apart

444
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Speaker 1: and we didn't communicate at all. I happened to be

445
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Speaker 1: on the road, which was kind of like helpful to

446
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:59,399
Speaker 1: be away, but we didn't talk, and really we just

447
00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 1: prayed and prayed and prayed, like, God, is is this

448
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,880
Speaker 1: the one? Because we don't want to do this whole

449
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 1: thing again, and we got past the point of man

450
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Speaker 1: I miss her. This is an emotional response of like, man,

451
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:17,679
Speaker 1: I really am overwhelmingly in love with this woman, and

452
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Speaker 1: I'll wait as long as I need to until it's reciprocated,

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Speaker 1: and then that's what happens. So I think if you

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Speaker 1: have these thoughts conflicting thoughts again, I'm gonna go back

455
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Speaker 1: to communication. I think Granger's right. I think you give

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Speaker 1: that space and just see kind of where he's at

457
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Speaker 1: and see where you're at process everything. But after that, regardless,

458
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Speaker 1: I think you got to come back together and communicate,

459
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Speaker 1: because otherwise she's gonna be filling in that narrative with

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Speaker 1: assumptions instead of talking with him and hearing exactly where

461
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 1: his heart's at and on as many things as you

462
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: feel like I don't know where he's at with this,

463
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: write it down so that when you guys get back together,

464
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Speaker 1: you can talk and really kind of establish Okay, here's

465
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Speaker 1: our baseline, and from my perspective, this isn't this isn't it. No,

466
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 1: there's not enough of these answers that are line up

467
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 1: with mine and and so I'm gonna move on and

468
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 1: vice versa for him. So so good, Morgan. I think

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Speaker 1: you have a question. You have a lot to think about.

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Speaker 1: It's a great question, and yeah, we wish the best.

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Speaker 1: We take a break and be right back, all right.

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Speaker 1: If you have a question for me, email Grangersmith Podcast

473
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Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. We'll get answered on this podcast.

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Speaker 1: I ask one thing, just don't make it too long.

475
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Speaker 1: It's really hard to read a multiple page email. I

476
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Speaker 1: sit here on my iPhone and read these and about

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Speaker 1: about the size of the screen of the iPhone. Is

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Speaker 1: that that's good? That's a good length, hopefully shorter if

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Speaker 1: you send me a novel, although it might be really

480
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Speaker 1: well written in an incredible story, it's almost impossible for

481
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Speaker 1: me to sit here and read a novel. So if

482
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 1: you can just try to make it short, so can

483
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: I ask a question. Everybody out there is wondering, sure,

484
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Speaker 1: when are we going to live? Call in questions? I

485
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: think it'd be great. Man. I've got something. I have

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Speaker 1: a piece of equipment here that I could actually do

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Speaker 1: that with. Now, okay, so we'll set it up. That

488
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Speaker 1: would be great. Actually, this next next question that look

489
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Speaker 1: has a phone number at the bottom, So this question

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Speaker 1: comes from Grant and the subject line is mother in

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Speaker 1: law and kids. Hey God, your my name is Grant.

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Speaker 1: I'm in my mid twenties. I live in West Michigan,

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Speaker 1: Greater grand Rapid AIA shout out to Michigan. I started

494
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: listening to your podcast a couple of months ago, and

495
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,719
Speaker 1: it's really changed how I process decisions. I've been a

496
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 1: lifelong follower believer of Christ, but listening to you and

497
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 1: your guest work through other people's question since has shown

498
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Speaker 1: me a way to critically evaluate situations and apply Christ's

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Speaker 1: teachings to them. Thank you. My wife and I have

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Speaker 1: a son that is nearly two years old and we're

501
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: trying for another. I was raised as a Christian, and

502
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:16,239
Speaker 1: my wife came to Christ in high school and has

503
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: since become a God fearing woman. Along with myself, we

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00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 1: have plans to raise our children in a Christian home. However,

505
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: my mother in law was raised Catholic, but she does

506
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 1: not participate in any kind of religion. Currently, I think

507
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Speaker 1: she believes they're a god, there is a God, but

508
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,919
Speaker 1: does not actively pursue a christ sinnered life. She is

509
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: also gay and quite expressive about that part of her.

510
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: My wife and I have discussed that we need to

511
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Speaker 1: explain to our children that we are to hate the

512
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Speaker 1: sin but not the sinner at an early age, but

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Speaker 1: I'm worried that that may not be enough. My concern

514
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: is that my mother in law may impress some of

515
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Speaker 1: her unbiblical beliefs onto them and or confuse them. Phil

516
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: it's important that she is a part of their life.

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00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 1: I believe grandparents can be very influential to children, as

518
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 1: they were from me, but my dad passed away several

519
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: years ago, leaving my mother and mother in law, who

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00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: are opposites in many ways, to be that influence. Wise,

521
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 1: counsel I could turn to does not have the experience

522
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: like this, which makes it very hard to get advice

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Speaker 1: based on experience. Do you or Bernie have any ideas

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Speaker 1: on how to approach this proactively other than our current plan. Also,

525
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Speaker 1: when our kids do have questions about faith, regarding the

526
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Speaker 1: origin of the questions, how do we encourage them to

527
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 1: turn to us the Church or the Bible for answers

528
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 1: rather than other bad influences. Thank you so much, Grant Man,

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Speaker 1: I have some answers for you, Grant and Bernie and

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00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: not could be some wise counsel or I don't know wise,

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Speaker 1: E don't know if that's quite the word. We could

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00:29:55,240 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 1: be counsel for you. Grant and I too, like your

533
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 1: other friends, have not personally experienced this. But that's okay

534
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: because we could fall on the Bible and that could

535
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: be our experience all wrapped into one. There's so many

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00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: things in your email. There's a lot, and so let's

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00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 1: kind of just start chopping away like it's a big

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00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 1: tree and we've got a sharp axe, and we'll just

539
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: go slowly into all of this. First of all, you

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00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: don't congratulations. You're rocking life. You're in your mid twenties,

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Speaker 1: you're trying for a second baby. That's awesome. You've got

542
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Speaker 1: a great wife. It sounds like I want to start

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Speaker 1: with this. I want to start with this. You're in

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Speaker 1: protection mode already as a young dad, and that's understandable.

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Speaker 1: You are in your mid twenties. You're new to this

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Speaker 1: dad thing. Not that I'm any farther down the road

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00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: at all. You know, I'm forty two, so I don't

548
00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 1: want to speak like that, but I do want to

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Speaker 1: say the protection mode that you're in as natural. You're

550
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 1: just wanting to protect them from the world from the world,

551
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: but you'll learn through time that it's better to prepare

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00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 1: them for the world instead of constantly protect them from it.

553
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: Prepare instead of protect. And you could do that in

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00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: several ways, but but mainly right there in your house,

555
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 1: you prepare them. I know Bernie does the same thing.

556
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: We can't. We can't just put up shields and protect

557
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 1: our children from anything they might see or be influenced by.

558
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: We need to be the main influence coming into them

559
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 1: in their house. That's our job, in a preparation way,

560
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 1: so that they can go out and go. I see this.

561
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: I expected to see this because Dad told me I

562
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 1: would expect to see this. Stop me, Bernie, if I'm

563
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: getting too far without you have no thoughts, great man,

564
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 1: keep going, and I want to. I want to dive

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Speaker 1: into something that I read right in here at the

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00:31:55,880 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 1: top here you said I want to. I have been

567
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: a lifelong father believer of Christ, and you've taught me

568
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: how to critically evaluate My wife and I have a

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Speaker 1: son nearly two years old, trying for another we have

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00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 1: play here. It is we have always had plans to

571
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: raise our children in a Christian home, and you want

572
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Speaker 1: to make sure that this is a christ centered home.

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Speaker 1: And what I don't like about what you said is

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Speaker 1: I don't like hate the sin, not the sinner. I

575
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: don't think that that's something you need to explain to

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00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: your children. I understand the concept. I understand what you're saying.

577
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 1: But we're all sinners. Yeah, and kids, we're all that's

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00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: a higher level concept for you know, I don't know

579
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 1: how those kids are, but it's a ways until he

580
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 1: has to. You know, grands sitting here, got my cup, man,

581
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: I got my cup right here for you, wretched sinner

582
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 1: coffee cup because that's me, and that's Bernie and that's you,

583
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 1: and guess what, that's also your kids. Amber and I

584
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 1: look at Maverick and it's a it's a it's a

585
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 1: funny joke that we say, but it's true when we say, oh,

586
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: you little wretched hearted sund because that's how we're born.

587
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: We're born into this world as rebellious sinners. Do we

588
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 1: need it? Do we need to prove that. Have you

589
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 1: ever seen a two year old? They will lie, steal, cheat,

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00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: They would kill you if they weren't so small, and

591
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 1: you would probably kill them if they weren't so cute.

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00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 1: That's the way it is. Man. You hold a little

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00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 1: two year old in your arms, and when he wants something,

594
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: when he wants that piece of candy and you take

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00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: it away from him, he looks at you like he

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00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: would kill you if he was one hundred pounds heavier. Yeah,

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00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 1: he would shake you. There's nothing about shaking adults. If

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00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 1: he had the muscles to do it. Yes, you They

599
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: grab you at your eyes and your nose with their

600
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:09,720
Speaker 1: little fingernails and they squeeze. And so from the very beginning,

601
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: when we pop out of the womb, we are not innocent.

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00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 1: We are guilty, guilty upon birth right. And so that's

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00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 1: that's something that we we could start at an early age.

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Speaker 1: Breathing into the children is through discipline, showing them that

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00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:32,399
Speaker 1: we are inherently sinners. Instead of looking at oh, mother

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Speaker 1: in law. Mother in law is gay and we don't

607
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: want to be like that. It's more like, look at yourself,

608
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: look at who we are. We're all broken. We all

609
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 1: have our vices, and we all have things that we

610
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 1: shouldn't be doing, and so we can't we can't look

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Speaker 1: at this as a protection like, oh, don't don't look

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00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 1: at mother in law. Don't don't look at her, she's gay.

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00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: We got it. We have to protect. We have to

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00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 1: protect because this is you know, we're supposed to hat

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00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: the sin and we want to be a God centered life. Hey,

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00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: Jesus went to the sinners. He didn't come to Earth

617
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 1: to to make laws for us to follow. He came

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00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 1: to save sinners because we already broke the law. It

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00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 1: was too late, right now, that's a good point. A

620
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:25,760
Speaker 1: lot of people think that everything that Jesus talks about

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00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: in the New Testament, all the red letters, this is

622
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 1: Jesus just a good teacher on like and he's our example.

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00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: That's how we need to live. And it's like, no,

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00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: that was not the main point of why he came

625
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: and what he said. You got to go back and

626
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:44,439
Speaker 1: read it. So like grant, here's here's here's my two cents, man,

627
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: And again, I'm a parent to try and figure this

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00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 1: out in a world that is just like falling apart

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00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 1: around us, depraved as it has ever been. So I'm

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00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: with you, man, and what I think is that this

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00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:06,400
Speaker 1: can apply to any parent, regardless of what you believe. Okay,

632
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,399
Speaker 1: what your belief system, what your worldview is, this still

633
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: can apply to you. But I'm going to speak to

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00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: Grant from a Bible believing disciple of Jesus to another. Okay,

635
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: the things that not just your mother in law, but

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Speaker 1: anyone that they come in contact with, they're going to

637
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Speaker 1: have to learn how to discern is this holy? Is

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Speaker 1: this godly? Is it not? How do I make decisions

639
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Speaker 1: based on what I'm seeing? You have the privilege and

640
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 1: the responsibility to guide them, not to yourself and not like,

641
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 1: hey look what dad does, because you're going to fail

642
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:06,359
Speaker 1: them just like everybody else. But hey, son, man, I

643
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: am broken and busted just like everybody else, including you.

644
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Speaker 1: But what we believe is that there's this book, these

645
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: holy scriptures that are truth. These are true, and we

646
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Speaker 1: are going to wrestle with them and stress test them

647
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 1: and open them up and they're always going to come back.

648
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Speaker 1: And I can't wait to walk through all these different

649
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Speaker 1: situations in your life. And so, like Granger said, you're

650
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Speaker 1: preparing them for the journey so that when they get

651
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Speaker 1: in these situations, they have in their mind these words,

652
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:51,839
Speaker 1: these true words, these tested and faithful words, that they

653
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Speaker 1: can then discern what they're seeing and then make decisions

654
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Speaker 1: based on that. In nowhere in the scripture, I believe,

655
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Speaker 1: are you going to find a place that says we

656
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Speaker 1: just need to isolate and only be here and just protect, protect, protect, protect.

657
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Speaker 1: That's not really the mission of the Gospel. That's not

658
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Speaker 1: really with the intent of the Bible. I think if

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Speaker 1: you think about sin that Granger is talking about in

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Speaker 1: all of us as a disease, yeah, then we're born

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Speaker 1: with it. Yeah, We're born like this. We're born with

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Speaker 1: this disease. So let's say that your son has a

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Speaker 1: disease like how much and it starts to flare up.

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Speaker 1: When it does and you see him in that pain,

665
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Speaker 1: you're going to just like go even closer to him

666
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Speaker 1: and be like, man, I think this is what you're saying. Man,

667
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Speaker 1: I hate this cancer. I can't believe. Oh son, my

668
00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: heart breaks for you, Like I wish that I could

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Speaker 1: take this on for you. I wish I could bear

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00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:04,919
Speaker 1: it for you, But I am here with you. This

671
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: is a great way to think about Jesus and his

672
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Speaker 1: perspective of you, of your son, of your mother in law,

673
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Speaker 1: of all of us. If we are his people, we

674
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Speaker 1: are his son, his daughter. He doesn't see our sin

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Speaker 1: and separate us. He sees it and he comes even

676
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Speaker 1: more so to us. So I don't know what that's helpful,

677
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Speaker 1: but I love it. I hope that you take what

678
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:37,279
Speaker 1: Grange's saying and that I'm emphasizing to you have to

679
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Speaker 1: be the one that is initiating the conversations, initiating the

680
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Speaker 1: dialogue so when they get in situations and they see

681
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Speaker 1: things they don't understand. Hey, Dad, I saw this today,

682
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Speaker 1: and you're like, oh yeah, hey, remember when we talked

683
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Speaker 1: about this is kind of that thing. And you keep

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Speaker 1: that conversation going. That is huge. You know what the

685
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Speaker 1: problem is with your mother in law? I wish you're

686
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 1: around the campfire right now. I could ask you straight up,

687
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Speaker 1: you know what the problem is with your mother in law?

688
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Speaker 1: No that the answer is not she's gay. The answer

689
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: is she's not a believer. That's it. She's a sinner,

690
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Speaker 1: and so are you, and so is your kids, and

691
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Speaker 1: so am I. That's not a problem. That's how we're born.

692
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Speaker 1: But the only way we could eradicate that problem is

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Speaker 1: through Christ. He does it for us. That's why he

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Speaker 1: came to the earth, That's why we pursue a relationship

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Speaker 1: with him. The problem with your mother in law is

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Speaker 1: she's not following Christ. That's it. So don't look at

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Speaker 1: anything else. You shouldn't be surprised by anything else that she,

698
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Speaker 1: or you or anyone does, because did you lie today

699
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Speaker 1: or maybe not today? Did you lie this week? A

700
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Speaker 1: white lie? Have you ever stolen anything in your life?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever looked at another woman with lust? Have

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Speaker 1: you ever said the Lord's name in vain in any way?

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Speaker 1: Including O MG? The answer to all those questions is yes,

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Speaker 1: a sinner to and you were born with it, just

705
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: like your mother in law. So we don't look at

706
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Speaker 1: her in that way, at her sin. We look at

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Speaker 1: her as without Christ. That's the only thing that matters

708
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Speaker 1: to you. That's the only thing that should matter to

709
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Speaker 1: your kids is she's without Christ. And so that's what

710
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: you pour into your kids, is that we radically pursue Jesus.

711
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: We pursue Him with all our heart, and we admit

712
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Speaker 1: our sins. We admit that we are beyond help. We

713
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Speaker 1: cannot be helped, and so when we radically pursue him,

714
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Speaker 1: he takes care of everything for us. That's it. I

715
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Speaker 1: hope that this helps. I know that you there was

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Speaker 1: a long question you asked, and it was it was

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Speaker 1: very loaded. But I hope that helps. I hope that helps. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and Grant email back in Man. I was asking Granger earlier,

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Speaker 1: like some of these questions that we answer, like we'd

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Speaker 1: love to kind of follow these storylines of like you know, Grant,

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Speaker 1: you know a couple of years from now, like what

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Speaker 1: happened with your relationship with your mother in law? Is

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Speaker 1: kids grew up? And like, yeah, we'd love to hear. So, yeah,

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Speaker 1: thank you buddy, thanks for the question. Let's see, here's

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Speaker 1: a question, subject line spiritual advice. Hey, my name is Weston.

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Speaker 1: I'm from Forest, Virginia. I need some advice on how

727
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Speaker 1: to be a better Christian. Here we go. I was

728
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Speaker 1: baptized September fifth, and it was amazing, but I always

729
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Speaker 1: feel like I disappoint the Lord. I try to be

730
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Speaker 1: a good Christian. I normally pray every day and I

731
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Speaker 1: try to keep up with my church's live stream. It's

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Speaker 1: hard to go to church with a two week year

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Speaker 1: old and a two year old. Would you have any

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Speaker 1: kind of advice on why I'm feeling like I could

735
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Speaker 1: never be good enough to enter heaven? Oh, that's an

736
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: easy question. Goodness, You're not good enough? Yes, and you

737
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Speaker 1: never will be. Why is this our culture, especially the

738
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Speaker 1: Christian culture, we have to do the stuff like worrying

739
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Speaker 1: about doing all the stuff. Guys like, you're not good enough? Man,

740
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Speaker 1: you you will never be good enough. You cannot do

741
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Speaker 1: good enough, you cannot pray enough, you cannot see enough

742
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 1: church live streams to go to heaven. You will fall

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Speaker 1: short every time this is this is you're talking about religion.

744
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:21,440
Speaker 1: And I see that that word pop up on my

745
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 1: podcast all the time on these questions religion, religion, religion

746
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Speaker 1: a race. If you're listening to this podcast, if you're

747
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 1: writing in erase that word from your vocabulary. Because religion

748
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: is man made. Let's all say that together, if you're listening,

749
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 1: religion is man made, right. It's the pursuit of God

750
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Speaker 1: from man to try to get into heaven, to try

751
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 1: to get approval from God, to try to do enough

752
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:48,399
Speaker 1: things on a checklist on Santa Claus good and good

753
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 1: and naughty list that you can finally go to the

754
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:55,800
Speaker 1: North Pole and get a toy that is totally man made.

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00:43:56,280 --> 00:44:01,479
Speaker 1: You cannot be good enough to enter heaven. Every other

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00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 1: religion besides Christianity says that this is what you do.

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Speaker 1: Every other religion. I'm talking about Mormons, I'm talking about Muslims,

758
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:18,160
Speaker 1: I'm talking about Jews, any other branches of the Abrahamic religions.

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00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 1: I'm talking about Buddhism and hindu When it's not totally God,

760
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: but it's a nirvana, it's what can man do to

761
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Speaker 1: get there, to get to either peace or heaven or

762
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,439
Speaker 1: paradise or euphoria, or what can man do to get there?

763
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 1: And Christianity is christ He that's what it is. Or

764
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Speaker 1: he goes, come to me, Come to me, and I

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Speaker 1: will bring you. I will clean up your life around you.

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Speaker 1: You go to him with your dirty room and he

767
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:56,640
Speaker 1: cleans up your dirty room and makes it clean. Go

768
00:44:56,680 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 1: to him, pursue him a relationship, a personal relationationship with him.

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Speaker 1: That's what you do. Do you think that we're just

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00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: like really dumb human arrogant beings, And it's like we

771
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,720
Speaker 1: can't because the law was established to make us conscious

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Speaker 1: of sin, to like show us, hey, here's this law.

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00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: Here's these things you're going to do to live to

774
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Speaker 1: be holy? Right, Oh wait, we can't do those things.

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Speaker 1: No human being except Jesus that's lived on the surf

776
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 1: has ever done it. We can't do It's impossible. That's

777
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: why the law's established. We can do it. But when

778
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 1: Jesus came and he was like, hey, I've come to

779
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 1: put into all this like you are clean in me.

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00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 1: You don't have like this this law that you're trying

781
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 1: to keep to restore your relationship with God. You don't

782
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 1: have to do that. I'm the conduit. Trust in me,

783
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 1: and I will take care of it. But we're like, nah,

784
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Speaker 1: we got to keep doing all the stuff right, Like, okay,

785
00:45:57,800 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 1: we believe in the Jesus, but still we got to

786
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 1: It's like the law these days that has been in

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00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: all these other religions in within Christianity is still, well

788
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 1: did you have your devotional man? Well? Did you go

789
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 1: to church? Well? Did you tithe? Well? Did you do

790
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 1: these things? Now? I'm not saying that there is an

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Speaker 1: outpouring of good fruit and holiness and righteousness that will

792
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 1: come out just go naturally, but for the love, like,

793
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: can we stop with this works based can I say

794
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: works based Christianity, because I think that's kind of other

795
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 1: religions say that that Christianity is like no Parker calls

796
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 1: it a plus religion. And members of the LEDs Church

797
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 1: and Islam and their man their fingers are getting so

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00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 1: tired right now because they're burning me up an email

799
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Speaker 1: right now, just about to burn me to the ground.

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Speaker 1: And Hey, this is not about this is not about

801
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 1: singling out that. This is about defending, defending the Christian

802
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 1: faith and and and separating it from the others. And

803
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 1: so if you're mad at me, if you're Mormon and

804
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 1: you're mad at me, it wouldn't be the first time

805
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 1: that I've gotten your emails. And I want to tell you, truly, truly, truly,

806
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Speaker 1: I love you, I absolutely love you. And I want

807
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Speaker 1: the truth. I want the truth to hurt, and I

808
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 1: want it to I want it to burn a little bit.

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Speaker 1: And that's why I say it, because because I say

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00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:24,840
Speaker 1: it out of love. If I was driving down a

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Speaker 1: road that I just saw that the bridge was out,

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Speaker 1: and I'm driving down the road and you're coming at

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Speaker 1: me in a car and I roll down my window

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Speaker 1: and I say, hey, the bridge is out ahead the

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Speaker 1: bridge is out and you say get out of here. Man,

816
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 1: you don't know what you're talking about. It would be

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00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:43,399
Speaker 1: love for me to say stop, the bridge is out.

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Speaker 1: That would be love. It would be hate for me

819
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Speaker 1: to go do what you want to keep on going, Bro,

820
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 1: you find out on your own. So that's so that

821
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Speaker 1: that I just want you guys to know my heart

822
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: that that's that's where it's coming from. And I don't

823
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 1: want to make people mad, but people are right now

824
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:00,880
Speaker 1: they're typing James two on some email to me, And

825
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 1: I want to tell you when when James says that

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Speaker 1: that faith without works is dead, he's talking about in

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Speaker 1: that whole chapter that works are a result. You should

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Speaker 1: see good fruits. Like Bernie said, good works should come.

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Speaker 1: They will come. If it was a real faith, if

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Speaker 1: it was a real relationship you have with Jesus, then

831
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Speaker 1: the outcropping of that. How do you know if it's

832
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 1: real because you'll see good works, You'll see an image

833
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: of Jesus coming out through that person and what they

834
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,479
Speaker 1: do in their daily lives. They're gonna hate their sin.

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Speaker 1: That's a different. That's another thing is when you have

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Speaker 1: a true relationship with Jesus, you start hating your own

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Speaker 1: sin and you want to eradicate it, and you still

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00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 1: do it and you still stumble. But now when you

839
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: do stumble, you go, oh, I hate that and I

840
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,920
Speaker 1: have to repent for it because I feel terrible that

841
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: I told that lie, or that I stole that song

842
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:56,360
Speaker 1: on napster, or you hate it, then you want to

843
00:48:56,440 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 1: eradicate it. But that's an outcropping of your faith. It's

844
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 1: it's not the beginning of your faith. It's not the

845
00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 1: works that you do that start the ball rolling, it's

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Speaker 1: the faith that starts the works rolling. Yeah. And like

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Speaker 1: he's saying that he's feeling this weight of guilt, right,

848
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Speaker 1: that is not from God at all. Yeah, that's a lie.

849
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Speaker 1: And so that's where these you know, the works associated

850
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Speaker 1: with faith, that's where it's got backwards because you wouldn't

851
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Speaker 1: be feeling if you had it the way you're talking about,

852
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:32,839
Speaker 1: where this is an outpouring, outcropping of that you your

853
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Speaker 1: trust and dependency on Jesus being the inner session is

854
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 1: the focus, and you're not going to feel the guilt

855
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:45,279
Speaker 1: over and over because every time he comes in and says, hey,

856
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: I got you, this is why I came. Hey, focus

857
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Speaker 1: on me, just focus on me, just trust in me,

858
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Speaker 1: and so that that guilt piece, I think that there's

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Speaker 1: you know, is there one of the seas that this

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Speaker 1: falls in. I'm kind of here in communion? Yeah, absolutely, communion. Yeah,

861
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: so lack of communion with God. And the scripture is like,

862
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Speaker 1: and so let me let me look at something real

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Speaker 1: quick some some forty hang on a second because this

864
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Speaker 1: is song or some sorry literally like on the fly,

865
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Speaker 1: I have to go day. You'll hear this with David

866
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Speaker 1: all the time. So why while Granger's looking that up

867
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Speaker 1: and he's fine, here, okay David and Psalm forty two.

868
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Speaker 1: Listen to what David says, why are you cast down?

869
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:55,759
Speaker 1: Oh my soul? Why are you in turmoil within me?

870
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 1: He's talking to himself like why am I so messed up?

871
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: Why do I have this anxiety? Why I just churning

872
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: inside me? And then look what he says right off

873
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:07,399
Speaker 1: that hope in God, for I shall praise again, praise him,

874
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 1: my salvation and my God. He goes back always to

875
00:51:11,719 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 1: that praise him. And so that's that's that's something for

876
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 1: you to remember there, Weston, is is when your when

877
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 1: your soul is downcast and you're in turmoil. Just go God,

878
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,799
Speaker 1: I praise you. Why am I listening to myself? Why

879
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:28,800
Speaker 1: am I conflicting my own brain and myself and thinking

880
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:31,319
Speaker 1: that I have to work my way to you? And God,

881
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:34,840
Speaker 1: I can't take me. Take my soul. Breathe into me,

882
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 1: pull your spirit into me. I praise you. You created me,

883
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:40,880
Speaker 1: You gave me a purpose. Let me know that purpose.

884
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 1: Don't be quiet. Speak to me God. I mean I'm

885
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 1: talking on your knees in your bedroom right. Your elbows

886
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 1: are on your bed, and you're just you're just crying

887
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 1: out that you can't do it. Pour into me, and

888
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 1: then you wait on him and watch him fulfill this

889
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 1: to you, Watch him give this to you. Watch this

890
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:02,040
Speaker 1: peace well up inside of you where you no longer

891
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: feel like you have to pray a certain amount of

892
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 1: times in the day. You just do because you want to,

893
00:52:08,760 --> 00:52:12,280
Speaker 1: not because you have to. Yeah. I think, like anything,

894
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 1: the more that you probably study the scripture and engage

895
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: your mind, you're going to see your heart will follow

896
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 1: and you're gonna be like, oh my gosh, I had

897
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 1: no idea that this is what the scripture meant. And

898
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, this desire that Grangeer's talking

899
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Speaker 1: about as you're sitting kind of in this solitude and

900
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 1: stillness and you're you're thinking through the Verse that you

901
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 1: have read for the last two or three weeks and

902
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 1: studied and now and it's like God just starts to

903
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 1: put these things together. And then you can recall that

904
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 1: when you're in a conversation with your coworker and you're

905
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: being used, you're a vessel. You are not doing anything.

906
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:54,200
Speaker 1: Stop trying to do stuff and be a vessel. Okay, yeah,

907
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 1: I'm saying this to myself too, guys, right as we

908
00:52:58,200 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: need these reminders to every day me. And so the

909
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: last two questions, you know, we could kind of say

910
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 1: the same thing that from the last two questions. You

911
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 1: have to remember me speaking into this microphone on this

912
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Speaker 1: podcast right now. I am my wretched sinner. I'm a sinner,

913
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Speaker 1: so I don't I don't worry about hate the sin,

914
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 1: love the sinner. I don't worry about that kind of thing.

915
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 1: All I think of is my own sin, and it's

916
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 1: all in me. And it's like Bernie said, it's a

917
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 1: cancer and I want to get it out. I'm not

918
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 1: gonna worry about someone else's all with someone else. All

919
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna worry about is loving them and showing them Christ,

920
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 1: showing them their Savior. That's all I'm gonna worry about

921
00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:37,840
Speaker 1: with I'm not gonna worry about other people's sin. But

922
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Speaker 1: when it comes to me Weston, I just give it

923
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: all up and I go. I can't. I can't pray enough,

924
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 1: I can't watch enough live streams, I can't do I

925
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:52,319
Speaker 1: can't do anything that's good enough for you. Thank God,

926
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Speaker 1: Thank God I don't have to because I have Jesus. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, guys, we're at a time bro Amen, thanks

928
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 1: for having me. We got we got rough today. Man.

929
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:05,360
Speaker 1: I feel like it up on the last two of

930
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:10,840
Speaker 1: these things. I gotta go take a shower down. Thanks

931
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Speaker 1: for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate

932
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Speaker 1: all of you guys. You could help me out by

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934
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Speaker 1: like me to answer, email Graingersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Yi