Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to Tommy Talk. And today's topic is
Speaker 1: let's have a hot boy or a hot girl summer. Now.
Speaker 1: I know you know the phrase, howt girl summer. I'm
Speaker 1: opening it up. Let's have a hot boy summer too.
Speaker 1: It's for everybody. We all need to have a hot
Speaker 1: boy girl summer. Let's do it. So. I wanted to
Speaker 1: have this episode today because summer is here or almost here,
Speaker 1: depending on when the strops. I love the summertime. I
Speaker 1: you know, I think I like it a lot now
Speaker 1: because for some reason this time of year it makes
Speaker 1: me really nostalgic. I don't know. I have so many
Speaker 1: memories from growing up in the nineties and early two
Speaker 1: thousands and having those summers, these quintessential, amazing, amazing summers
Speaker 1: like here a few for example. I know you probably
Speaker 1: are thinking of some that make you smile. My grandpa
Speaker 1: had a beach house in Lavaette, New Jersey, and I
Speaker 1: have all these great memories down at the beach house,
Speaker 1: having Italian dinners on the patio with sauce and meat
Speaker 1: balls and spaghetti, going to the boardwalk at the Jersey Shore,
Speaker 1: and going on all the rides, watching movies under this
Speaker 1: insanely fast spinning ceiling fan while laying on the floor
Speaker 1: because you know Grandpa and don't like putting on the
Speaker 1: ac on, performing plays and concerts outside and then getting
Speaker 1: older and swimming until way after the sun goes down,
Speaker 1: and my cousins are driving around in my blue Toyota
Speaker 1: camera with windows down blasting music. I was in like
Speaker 1: a hip hop phase or rock and roll phase. We
Speaker 1: covered it all. I loved rollerblading. Yeah, those are all
Speaker 1: from my Jersey days. And now I love summers in
Speaker 1: New York City now too, because, yeah, it is hot.
Speaker 1: Summers in the city can be hot, but it feels
Speaker 1: a bit quieter, especially in the late summer like August,
Speaker 1: which I love, and I love walking around Central Park.
Speaker 1: It's a dream in the summer. I'm there almost every
Speaker 1: weekend or just a long city walks. In general, it
Speaker 1: makes me so happy, especially along the water. There's magical
Speaker 1: outdoor dining, sunsets over the city. It is just a
Speaker 1: beautiful time of year. I could go on and on
Speaker 1: and on and look, we all work so damn hard
Speaker 1: all year. We finally have daylight and longer days where
Speaker 1: the sun doesn't go down at four forty five so
Speaker 1: you know what we need to enjoy it. We need
Speaker 1: to have a hot girl and a hot boy summer.
Speaker 1: So let's break down what this means. I think the
Speaker 1: rapper Megan the Stallion kind of coin that term in
Speaker 1: one of her songs, and what it means is it's
Speaker 1: living authentically. It's radiating self confidence. It's hypen up your
Speaker 1: friends and being their best hype man or hype woman.
Speaker 1: It's a mindset. It's a mindset of self empowerment, of
Speaker 1: self love, of feeling your best. It is pure, pure joy.
Speaker 1: And I think there are a few buckets to having
Speaker 1: that hot boy or hot girl summer. One. You gotta
Speaker 1: be unapologetically confident, yes you do. You gotta love exactly
Speaker 1: who you are. You got to ignore what others think.
Speaker 1: You gotta live your truth, exude that confidence. You need
Speaker 1: to be unapologetic about it. You also want to have
Speaker 1: positivity in your life and practice self care. You know,
Speaker 1: you got to prioritize your own happiness, your own goals,
Speaker 1: your own wealth well being. We are all selfless, hopefully
Speaker 1: and doing so much for other people in our lives.
Speaker 1: You can't forget about you. You deserve to feel good
Speaker 1: and take care of yourself too, and you don't need
Speaker 1: a lot of time to do it. There are simple
Speaker 1: things to do to make you feel good. I think. Also,
Speaker 1: empowering your circle is so important. You want to lift
Speaker 1: up your friends, You want to hype them up to
Speaker 1: feel their best. I love making my friends feel special
Speaker 1: or good. That to me brings me so much joy.
Speaker 1: I don't want the people in my life, in my
Speaker 1: circles to feel bad or negative around me, like I
Speaker 1: want you to feel like a king or queen. That
Speaker 1: is my goal. If you were in my life, I
Speaker 1: want you to feel like a king or queen. So
Speaker 1: you want to empower your circle, and also you got
Speaker 1: to empower yourself. You've got to empower yourself. Not always
Speaker 1: easy to do, but I'm telling you, if you can
Speaker 1: call your friend a king or and a queen, you too,
Speaker 1: my friend are a king and a queen. So don't
Speaker 1: forget to empower yourself. This Hack Girl, Hop Boy summer
Speaker 1: is all about empowerment. So here are a few things that
Speaker 1: we can all do to really tap into this to
Speaker 1: live our best damn lives this summer. I feel like
Speaker 1: I should be doing this episode from like a kiddie
Speaker 1: pool filled up with water, drinking a fruity cocktail with
Speaker 1: an umbrella in it, in a bathing suit and sunglasses,
Speaker 1: and a big fan of me with a palm tree.
Speaker 1: That's where I wish I was recording this and not
Speaker 1: my office. But you know what we're gonna visualize and
Speaker 1: fantasize about that. That's where we're pretending I am right now. Okay,
Speaker 1: So here's how to have that hot girl, hot boy
Speaker 1: summer number one. Wear things that make you feel happy. Right,
Speaker 1: I promise you you look hot as fuck. I said it,
Speaker 1: And if you feel it, wear it. Wear it. Not
Speaker 1: for anyone else, but you, like, this is the time
Speaker 1: to really wear things that make you feel great. If
Speaker 1: you want to wear a cute little dress and you're like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I don't know. My body's not where
Speaker 1: I want it to be. But you know what, if
Speaker 1: you feel good, you wear it. You wear it for
Speaker 1: all my dudes out there. If you want to wear
Speaker 1: a muscle tank and you're like, ah, man, I'm not
Speaker 1: quite as built as I want to be. Wear that
Speaker 1: muscle tank. Wear that muscle tank if you feel good,
Speaker 1: and who cares what everybody says? No one's opinions matter
Speaker 1: What matters is you feel good wearing the outfit you chose,
Speaker 1: so rocket Rocket proudly. I promise you you're gonna feel so
Speaker 1: good stepping out in the world wearing what makes you
Speaker 1: feel good. I also think you gotta treat yourself. You
Speaker 1: gotta treat yourself. Do you want that burger at that
Speaker 1: Fourth of July barbecue or that ice cream cone on
Speaker 1: a really hot day? But you're like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna throw off my fitness game. Enjoy it. Enjoy it.
Speaker 1: If you are worried, you will go hit the gym
Speaker 1: a little harder the next day. But don't deprive yourself
Speaker 1: of something that brings you joy. If you want to
Speaker 1: indulge here and there. People make fun of me all
Speaker 1: the time. They're like Tommy, like, would you ever eat
Speaker 1: anything bad? Because I'm a huge health and wellness geek.
Speaker 1: It's just my lifestyle. And I'm like, yeah, like I
Speaker 1: love a chocolate chip cookie. I do. If I'm at
Speaker 1: a party and there's a cupcake, I'm gonna eat a
Speaker 1: cupcake and I'm not gonna feel bad about it. It's
Speaker 1: all about, you know, treating yourself here and there so
Speaker 1: that you don't feel like you're not living or you're
Speaker 1: depriving yourself, Like it's okay, especially in the summer, Especially
Speaker 1: in the summer. It's what you should be doing. It's celebratory.
Speaker 1: There's so many great outdoor parties and block parties and
Speaker 1: barbecues like half fun, half fun. Don't go there being
Speaker 1: like I'm only gonna eat a piece of lettuce with
Speaker 1: a tomato on it. Not the time, Not the time.
Speaker 1: You can do that when you're home and your meal
Speaker 1: prepping or planning your meals. But go enjoy what's out
Speaker 1: there when you can go be social with your friends
Speaker 1: and family. I also think it's so important to have
Speaker 1: a hot boy and a hot girl summer, to go
Speaker 1: outside your comfort zone, say yes to new opportunities. Do
Speaker 1: something you've always wanted to do before whatever reason you
Speaker 1: haven't yet. So for me, it's rollerblading in Central Park.
Speaker 1: I loved it as a kid. And yeah, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of afraid a taxi is gonna smash into me and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go flying across the West Side Highway and
Speaker 1: land in the Hudson River. But I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna hold myself to it this,
Speaker 1: you know, And in fact, I'm gonna check in on
Speaker 1: a future podcast telling you I bought roller blades and
Speaker 1: I did it in New York City. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: worry about what can go wrong. That's that's what I
Speaker 1: tend to do. I'm not gonna worry about the taxi
Speaker 1: hitting me, or city bike running me over, or me
Speaker 1: sliding down the streets, skinning my legs open. Maybe I
Speaker 1: need nee pads, Maybe I need pads on my elbows.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm need pads everywhere. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: feel like, you know what I want to do it,
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna go outside my
Speaker 1: comfort zone. And that is something we all should be doing. Uh.
Speaker 1: Make a summer playlist, you guys. I love a playlist.
Speaker 1: My favorite thing back in the day was making a
Speaker 1: mixed CD. Remember those CD h I love the CD
Speaker 1: and putting on all my fun summer songs. Make that
Speaker 1: on your Spotify or your Apple Music. Make a playlist
Speaker 1: that makes you feel good in the summer. I already started, mind,
Speaker 1: I have a great summer playlist, And dance in your
Speaker 1: apartment every day. Feel those good vibrations. Dance in your
Speaker 1: house every day, Like, just enjoy the music of summer.
Speaker 1: There's such great music that makes you feel good. There's
Speaker 1: such great music that makes you remember summers that you
Speaker 1: love so much. So enjoy those summer playlists. M this
Speaker 1: is a big one. Stay away from the drama. There
Speaker 1: is no time for drama in my life, especially in
Speaker 1: the summer. You want to surround yourself with people who
Speaker 1: uplift you, who want to sharing your wins in life,
Speaker 1: who want to have fun and not bring you down
Speaker 1: with constant complaining or raining on your parade and your plans.
Speaker 1: Live life with people who want to live it with you.
Speaker 1: Live is the key word, like we should all be
Speaker 1: living and enjoying life. It is short. Life is short.
Speaker 1: We don't want to waste it on bullshit and drama. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: stay away from the drama. If there are people who
Speaker 1: are always bringing you drama or sucking you into their
Speaker 1: drama or starting drama for no reason at no pro
Speaker 1: seed with caution like red light full stop. We don't
Speaker 1: need to do that, not in the summer. That is
Speaker 1: not A hot girl, hot boy summer hell no and HM.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, a hot girl and
Speaker 1: a hot boy summer to like wrap this all up
Speaker 1: and be a little corny, but find now you know
Speaker 1: I'm a little corny. Be kind to yourself. Be kind
Speaker 1: I mentioned self care earlier. Practice it remind your self
Speaker 1: that you deserve all the good things in life, including kindness,
Speaker 1: including respect, including love. We all deserve that, and you
Speaker 1: can't forget that you deserve that, because the minute you
Speaker 1: forget that you deserve that, people are gonna walk all
Speaker 1: over you and treat you like garbage. And that is
Speaker 1: not how to have a great summer. So you need
Speaker 1: to remind yourself, you know, make the summer what you
Speaker 1: want it to be, not what you think other people
Speaker 1: want it to be. For you. That's another important one, right,
Speaker 1: you want to remember to really live like yes, just
Speaker 1: because it's the summer and it's celibratory and there's more
Speaker 1: get togethers or outdoor parties. If you're someone who's not
Speaker 1: a big drinker, don't drink for other people. It's fine.
Speaker 1: Go have a mocktail, right, Go have something yummy that's
Speaker 1: not alcohol. It's all good. Like, don't sacrifice who you
Speaker 1: are to make other people feel like they need to
Speaker 1: have a good time. No, no, no, no, No, that's not
Speaker 1: being kind to yourself. So be kind to yourself. That
Speaker 1: is so, so so important. We only get so many
Speaker 1: summers in life, and I hate to say it like that.
Speaker 1: I don't mean to be like weird and emo, but
Speaker 1: we do. We only get so many summers. So you
Speaker 1: really want to make sure that you live how you
Speaker 1: want to live. So important, live the summer of your dreams.
Speaker 1: And we all have a different idea of what a
Speaker 1: dream summer is, so I can't tell you what that is.
Speaker 1: You know what that is. But when you picture your
Speaker 1: dream summer, you live it how you want to live it.
Speaker 1: You don't do things because this person over here on
Speaker 1: social media is posting what they're doing and you feel
Speaker 1: like you have to do that to have a great summer.
Speaker 1: If at the end of the day you're like, well,
Speaker 1: that's not a good summer to me, or that's not
Speaker 1: something that interests me, or I don't want to do that,
Speaker 1: then don't have the fomo over it. Don't have that
Speaker 1: fomo because you know in your core what you want
Speaker 1: to do to have a great summer. And I want
Speaker 1: all of us to have a hop boy hawt girl summer.
Speaker 1: Guys should we get crowns this summer. Maybe we need
Speaker 1: crowns or King and Queen crowns. All right, I am
Speaker 1: going off in all directions. Here's to having a hawk
Speaker 1: Girl and a hop boys summer. I've Never Said This
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