Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady. I am Jaselle Bryant.
Speaker 2: What's up? What's up? My people? This is Robin, Miss
Speaker 2: Cleo Dixon. Okay, we're gonna get to that in a minute. Okay,
Speaker 2: Miss Cleo. I'm so glad y'all are here. But you
Speaker 2: knew that they were going to be here because you
Speaker 2: are Claire Willance of course. Yes, yes, did you know
Speaker 2: that you were gonna have? People told me? Your people
Speaker 2: told you that they were going to be here. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Did your people talk to you about lateness? M I
Speaker 2: ain't asked them about that about your Okay? Well, first
Speaker 2: and foremost, happy belated Mother's Day. Oh, yes, yes, Other's Day. Yes,
Speaker 2: Mother's Day. Thank you saying to you Happy Mother's Day.
Speaker 1: Happy Mother's Day to all the mama's out there, all
Speaker 1: the grandma's and auntie yes and mother figures right, this
Speaker 1: God's mother's.
Speaker 2: But there in their mothers are not all created equally. Okay,
Speaker 2: So some people you really don't want to say Happy
Speaker 2: Mother's Day too, right? What do you mean not my mother?
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, some mother's son okay, well, true, true, true, true?
Speaker 2: Right? So do all mothers deserve a happy Mother's Day?
Speaker 2: You know that is true?
Speaker 1: Like, so if you have a shitty mother, like, what
Speaker 1: do you say to her?
Speaker 2: Yeah? How do you celebrate Mother's Day for that shitty mother?
Speaker 2: I don't know you figured it, don't you don't? Who
Speaker 2: knows anyway? But you know there was there was a
Speaker 2: guy like.
Speaker 1: You send a text Happy Mother's Day, not even with
Speaker 1: it to your mom.
Speaker 2: You just sent a text Happy Mother's Day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, not even no call, no call, no exclamation points,
Speaker 1: no flower, no emoji flower, not even an emoji flower.
Speaker 2: It's just like you, a shitty mom, Happy Mother's Day. Okay,
Speaker 2: but we don't want to, you know, dwell on the
Speaker 2: shitty one.
Speaker 1: I know, yes, the amazing ones. Listen, we our job
Speaker 1: is his art beyond so hard, yes, so much. It's
Speaker 1: I didn't realize what I signed up for being a mom.
Speaker 2: Really?
Speaker 1: No? Did you realize everything that went into being a
Speaker 1: mom before you had children? Now, to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: I think I didn't think about it. No, right, and
Speaker 1: then and what's crazy to me is like I know,
Speaker 1: you know, knowing what we know now, I'm like I
Speaker 1: do feel bad that as a child, I was like horrible,
Speaker 1: not as appreciative, you know what I mean? Like I was,
Speaker 1: I was a good I was a good child, you
Speaker 1: know when I was being good.
Speaker 2: But you weren't being a juvenile yes most of the time.
Speaker 1: But like I look back and I'm like, just think
Speaker 1: about all the sacrifices my parents would make and everything
Speaker 1: they would have to do to just make sure that
Speaker 1: their kids were.
Speaker 2: Great and yeah whatever.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, we as children did not know.
Speaker 2: Well, you're not supposed to, I guess, yeah, yeah, I
Speaker 2: think that's how it's working. You're not really supposed to.
Speaker 1: But you know now, but right, no, right, we know
Speaker 1: now we're not supposed to. But I think some children,
Speaker 1: if they knew, then they would act a little better.
Speaker 2: True, do you know what I mean? True? True, true, true.
Speaker 2: I believe that.
Speaker 1: Because there's some children that are just like ungrateful and
Speaker 1: you know, just problem children, and if they actually knew
Speaker 1: the things that their parents had to deal with and
Speaker 1: the stress that it adds on top of them. It's
Speaker 1: like on top of having to go to work every
Speaker 1: day and having to whatever, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I think my kids see like how hard, like I
Speaker 2: grind and work and all that, and they so they
Speaker 2: have there's a level of appreciation there, yeah with it.
Speaker 2: They forget occasionally, but like they always are like, we
Speaker 2: appreciate who you are. Yeah, which I'm sure your kids
Speaker 2: feel the same way about you. Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, I mean my kids are amazing, Like I don't
Speaker 1: have any problems with them. They're you know, it's so weird,
Speaker 1: Like my relationship with my kids is very different than
Speaker 1: my relationship with some.
Speaker 2: Moms, you know. And I guess is that a sign
Speaker 2: of the times. I don't know. Well, it's a different
Speaker 2: it's a different way of life. These are different kids
Speaker 2: than us as kids. Yeah, so yeah, it's different. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So my kids like appreciate my grind. But then they
Speaker 1: also like anytime I leave the house till like when
Speaker 1: it looks like I'm you know, I'm dressed up and
Speaker 1: I'm made up and stuff, and they're like, you're leaving.
Speaker 2: Again, tell me to get over it. I'm like, dude,
Speaker 2: do you want some new nikes or not?
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: He's like a job, like, okay, be safe, I'll see
Speaker 2: you when you get back. But and then then he
Speaker 2: goes and sends you a link because he says. Yes.
Speaker 2: I always want to thank that baby daddy of mine
Speaker 2: because without him, I would not have the children that
Speaker 2: I have. So thank you Jamal Bryant forget me all
Speaker 2: pregnant and stuff I am. He ay, he's very appreciative
Speaker 2: of me. On Mother's Day, which I typically we always
Speaker 2: go out to dinner, he wasn't able to do that
Speaker 2: this year, so he called me. He was like, all right,
Speaker 2: I'm sending a chef to your house. I was like, no,
Speaker 2: the hell you not, because I don't want to see
Speaker 2: a chef.
Speaker 1: Tell the chef to chef it up wherever he chefs
Speaker 1: off and drop it off drop it off. Yes, so
Speaker 1: he in the year after year, I feel like he
Speaker 1: gets more and more appreciative of the of the mother
Speaker 1: that I am to the girls because he's you know,
Speaker 1: they don't cuss him out right, and he appreciates that.
Speaker 1: You know what would make him like super uber duber
Speaker 1: most appreciative. What if he had to do your job,
Speaker 1: like you know, if y'all switch places.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, the girl's not having that.
Speaker 1: Right, no, I know, but but I'm telling you because
Speaker 1: even in this short little period of time like since
Speaker 1: Wan hasn't been working like he's been, you know, doing
Speaker 1: a lot for the boys. And he's like, man, yes,
Speaker 1: like I didn't really realize, yes, how much I went
Speaker 1: into Yes, Yes, while I put.
Speaker 2: On some mom pants. Yes, okay, yeah, so that's how
Speaker 2: they really going to know. Yeah, what it takes.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I hope everyone had a beautiful Mother's stay.
Speaker 2: Yes, indeed, but we we need to reasonably shady. Moment
Speaker 2: of the week, Robin. Okay, no shade, but you've been
Speaker 2: married for how long?
Speaker 1: Well, which like in total or the first one? No,
Speaker 1: the first wedding, the second one, I mean the second.
Speaker 2: Wedding, the second one that I wasn't invited to.
Speaker 1: Okay, yes, so it would, so that would be a
Speaker 1: year in all gifts.
Speaker 2: Okay, So can you get an annoment? I'm just curious.
Speaker 2: I don't know, because your car is not in the
Speaker 2: garage and I'm having issues, yes, divorce please? Yes, like
Speaker 2: why because like all things, Yes, that is annoying. Yes.
Speaker 1: And every week at the top of the week he says,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get the garage clean, I'm.
Speaker 2: Gonna get the garage, I'm gonna straighten the garage up.
Speaker 1: I'm straighten the garage up every week at the top
Speaker 1: of the week, okay, and then the days go by
Speaker 1: and the garage is not done.
Speaker 2: It's been like a month now, it's been longer than
Speaker 2: a month. It's been long okay, Yeah, spend longer than
Speaker 2: a month. Okay, look up the annulment. Yes, okay, because
Speaker 2: we might be able to get that done. I'm saying,
Speaker 2: I know you should present them to Wine like this
Speaker 2: is grounds for an annulment, and then put at the
Speaker 2: bottom dirty garage.
Speaker 1: I can't get my garage back. I need my garage back.
Speaker 1: So yes, we need to annul and you need to leave. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's and I know it's so funny. I was going
Speaker 1: to say, like every week on the podcast, I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna update everyone and let them know the right cars
Speaker 1: still in the garage, and then no, it's still not.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, it's still in the driveway. Yes. When I
Speaker 2: pulled up, I was like, oh, I saw Robbins car
Speaker 2: on the driveway. I was like, oh no, yes, Wine
Speaker 2: is in trouble again.
Speaker 1: It is so annoying because I am like, dude, outside.
Speaker 2: Of going to the gym, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, you know, I don't want to you know,
Speaker 1: of course, we don't want to minimize. Right, you got
Speaker 1: any laundry, you's gotta you know, make brush his teeth,
Speaker 1: make phone calls.
Speaker 2: Right, Yes, he's gotta eat, but like comet, you gotta
Speaker 2: go number two. Yes, he has to do that. Let's
Speaker 2: sit there.
Speaker 1: You gotta do you know, I mean, you know, he's
Speaker 1: got a good two hours out of his day that
Speaker 1: are accounted for.
Speaker 2: Okay, there's twenty four hours, so he's got to sleep.
Speaker 2: Yeah wow, Yeah, listens, gotta play the video game. He
Speaker 2: could have the boys help him. He can make it
Speaker 2: a game.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you his method of cleaning this garage.
Speaker 1: I've probably shared this before. He's going to throw everything away, Fine,
Speaker 1: get done. That's not fine with me because like it's
Speaker 1: literally like stuff that is could be useful. So his
Speaker 1: thing is like he just I don't know, he don't
Speaker 1: want to bring all that stuff in the house, and
Speaker 1: he just feels like he has to like dispose of it,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, no.
Speaker 2: It's not trash. Yeah, okay, well good luck with you know,
Speaker 2: what is that your reason to be shading home?
Speaker 1: No, it's okay, Okay, one day I'm gonna end up
Speaker 1: moving the ship myself, and then that's going to be really.
Speaker 2: Bad, right, that's really when you're gonna look up a moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, or anyway, okay, okay, So my recently shady moment,
Speaker 1: and you know you probably have your shady moment related
Speaker 1: to this as well. But I recently was traveling. I
Speaker 1: was in a hotel. Yes, I was on the sixteenth
Speaker 1: floor at a corner unit. There's glass everywhere. As I
Speaker 1: went to your room, it was beautiful. Yes, yeah, my
Speaker 1: room was not. All rooms on this trip were not
Speaker 1: created people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry mine.
Speaker 1: Was disturbing, but go ahead. Sorry, but mine was like,
Speaker 1: you know, super nice. I had like the bedroom, the
Speaker 1: living room area like it was you know, it's corner units. Yeah,
Speaker 1: glass everywhere, blah blah blah. So the hotel were in
Speaker 1: there's like construction everywhere you look right, left, front, back, up, down,
Speaker 1: Like I've never seen this much construction in my life.
Speaker 2: Like now you do know that the construction on one
Speaker 2: side was a building that's going to be eighty stories
Speaker 2: whoa eighty Really they're gonna be They're gonna be doing
Speaker 2: this built, working on this building for the next six years. Wow. Yes,
Speaker 2: I found that out, which.
Speaker 1: Is even more disturbing because it's like, yes, oh that
Speaker 1: is problematic, thank.
Speaker 2: You, thank you. Six years. So let's say you're the hotel.
Speaker 2: You've got to deal with this shit and and your
Speaker 2: guests have to deal with this for the next six years.
Speaker 1: It's not but the hotel. I mean, like my the
Speaker 1: hotel was really cute. I really liked the hotel. I
Speaker 1: like the area, like it was just it's really cute.
Speaker 1: So like outside of the construction, it's a cute hotel.
Speaker 1: There's like walking distance, there's like a lot of little
Speaker 1: like restaurants and live music stuff and has a cute
Speaker 1: little pool deck all that type of stuff.
Speaker 2: Was it was it a chain? I can't remember. Was
Speaker 2: it a chain? No, I can't remember the name of you.
Speaker 1: They said it used to be a Kempton but someone
Speaker 1: else took it over.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like boutiki, yes, okay, very much. So anyway,
Speaker 1: so I'm so I've been in the room, like you know,
Speaker 1: two three days whatever, and so finally on like the
Speaker 1: last the second to last day, I'm at the pool deck, okay,
Speaker 1: and I look up at the hotel and I noticed,
Speaker 1: like I can I can see in the.
Speaker 2: Rooms, right, Okay.
Speaker 1: And that was the moment when I realized, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I have been giving these construction.
Speaker 3: Workers a shave freaking show the whole entire week. Like
Speaker 3: I was like, wait a minute, because the.
Speaker 1: Construction workers are up high. Because another building, an eighty
Speaker 1: story building. I guess, I don't know, maybe it was
Speaker 1: the building that was right next to my room, but yes,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you've got to be getting me. Well, I
Speaker 1: can literally see, like I thought the glass was like
Speaker 1: one of those you know, like the one way glass
Speaker 1: or whatever, like you I can see out, but they
Speaker 1: can't see in, or maybe there was some sort of
Speaker 1: like mirrored effect or something like. No, these these windows
Speaker 1: were so so clear and bright. You could literally see
Speaker 1: the When I was laying on the pool deck, I
Speaker 1: could literally see like the lamp in somebody's room.
Speaker 2: Okay, So the reason, Okay, two things. One in the morning,
Speaker 2: I was up in the morning. Yeah, the construction workers
Speaker 2: have a meeting on the ground level. I saw them
Speaker 2: as like fifty of them. Yeah, major meeting. I'm sure.
Speaker 2: In the meeting, yeah, they said feel free to look
Speaker 2: at Robin number one, number two. I didn't. I didn't.
Speaker 2: I wasn't on that side of the hotel. I was
Speaker 2: on the bullshit side of the hotel where I looked
Speaker 2: out to. I don't know what I was looking out to,
Speaker 2: but yeah, I didn't have that that okay, okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: well oh we got some shorts. Thank you.
Speaker 1: Oh my delivery man brought my my.
Speaker 2: No, not this second, thank you. I appreciate it. No,
Speaker 2: leave it there, leave it yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you,
Speaker 2: thank you delivery man. Yes, okay, so right now I
Speaker 2: think he's going to go clean the garage. I'm convinced
Speaker 2: he had that look in his eyes. He did, like
Speaker 2: he's gonna go clean mission and complete my mission. Okay,
Speaker 2: so my recently shady moment is similar to you, not
Speaker 2: similar to yours. Yeah, but it happened on the trip. Okay.
Speaker 2: Speaking of the pool, I'm in the pool and I've
Speaker 2: decided because they know, they just know, they had a meeting.
Speaker 2: Birds hate me. I mean like they had a meeting,
Speaker 2: they went to a convention. They went to a bird convention.
Speaker 2: They're like, we hate z L. Bright. I'm in the
Speaker 2: pool and I see the bird come at me and
Speaker 2: he poops. Oh literally one inch from my mind. Oh
Speaker 2: my god. And the ship is laying on top of
Speaker 2: the water.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I lost my mind, lost my freaking mind.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I started screaming at the top of
Speaker 2: my lungs. And I was and I was with some
Speaker 2: other friends and they were like, oh my god, move,
Speaker 2: just help move. I was like, you don't have to
Speaker 2: tell me to move. I was renting out the pool.
Speaker 2: Can you imagine a sprint out the pool? That was
Speaker 2: a disaster And I never want to see that pool again,
Speaker 2: Oh my god. And I want to go to the
Speaker 2: next bird convention and tell them I'm nice. Yeah, stop
Speaker 2: trying to poop on me. Maybe, isn't that like good
Speaker 2: luck or something? No, no, somewhere, Yeah, there's no trees.
Speaker 2: There will be poop on my car.
Speaker 1: They know they had a convention and they said, get
Speaker 1: that bitch, get that bit.
Speaker 2: Bird bird. Twitter was lighting you up. It is so meny.
Speaker 2: I want to tell them whatever y'all think I did,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, leave me alone. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: want to approach this from a different perspective. Okay, because
Speaker 2: we're gonna talk about ebidy k Williams because a minute
Speaker 2: ago she she gave her opinion about dating. Yes, Okay.
Speaker 2: So she was talking to Alanya Van's aunt who said,
Speaker 2: would you date a bust right, and Abide said, would
Speaker 2: you date a bus driver?
Speaker 3: You if he owns the bus, if he owns it.
Speaker 2: If he owns the.
Speaker 1: Bus, that's a problem.
Speaker 2: And that caused everybody to just lose Ay, damn mine.
Speaker 2: Now I don't necessarily want to debate that, right, but
Speaker 2: the question is, Robin, would you date a bus driver? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have those type of stipulations that she has.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I have never known myself to be like, oh, I
Speaker 1: would never date that type of person or a person
Speaker 1: that does that type of work.
Speaker 2: Well, were strictly because this for me was strictly about money.
Speaker 2: So would you date a dude? Well, yeah, because you're married?
Speaker 2: Because so I think.
Speaker 1: So what I what I gathered from her, it was
Speaker 1: it was less about like the money in his bank
Speaker 1: account and more about.
Speaker 2: His drive. I took it like it was the money
Speaker 2: in his bank account and they're not financially equally yoked. So,
Speaker 2: and what Elanya was trying to say to her, I
Speaker 2: think my opinion is, let's take money out of the
Speaker 2: equation when you're dating, Like, let's remove that that factor, okay,
Speaker 2: and let's just deal with people that are good to you,
Speaker 2: that are nice to you, to treat you like a
Speaker 2: queen that respects you, that are honest, Like, let's deal
Speaker 2: with those elements and take money out of it. That's
Speaker 2: why I think she was trying to say, which I get. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and at this time in my life, that's all I want.
Speaker 2: I want somebody who's gonna treat me nice, tell me
Speaker 2: the truth, have great sex to keep it pushing.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I get that too, And I feel like, unfortunately,
Speaker 1: I feel like Ebony was sounding elitist a bit.
Speaker 2: However, I understood what she was saying. She's not at
Speaker 2: the place in her life, I think, and unfortunately, and
Speaker 2: somebody's probably gonna kill me for saying this. I think
Speaker 2: it has to do with children, and like, like I
Speaker 2: have my kids, I have my money. I'm not looking
Speaker 2: at a man to grow and build with from that perspective, right,
Speaker 2: she doesn't, Right, So she's looking at a relationship a
Speaker 2: little differently, Like she wants a man that the two
Speaker 2: of them can build a family and shit, kids expensive, right,
Speaker 2: And I understand that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I understand that, but it's it's so
Speaker 1: the question. I mean, yeah, there's like that the question
Speaker 1: has multi levels and because it's like, okay, would you
Speaker 1: date a bus driver?
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, yeah, okay, I can go date a bus
Speaker 2: driver like whatever. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So but then the question is would you be open
Speaker 1: to marrying a bus driver? And for me, I mean,
Speaker 1: my answer still wouldn't change. I think it would literally
Speaker 1: be about that person, that relationship, how they make me feel,
Speaker 1: you know, as long as they have a job, right
Speaker 1: and they are working an honest job. And I don't know,
Speaker 1: I think it's just I think that's really unfair to
Speaker 1: just to make that broad blanket statement. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: I can see why people were offended by her comment.
Speaker 1: For sure, not everyone in a certain time of their
Speaker 1: life has that type of opportunity.
Speaker 2: To maybe own the bus. Maybe the bus driver.
Speaker 1: Maybe the man is a bus driver and he's a
Speaker 1: hard working bus driver and he's working to save his
Speaker 1: money so that he can own something at some point.
Speaker 2: Yes, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I just I would never if I was in
Speaker 1: a dating space, if I met a man that said
Speaker 1: he was a bus driver, I wouldn't like poo pool
Speaker 1: on that. No.
Speaker 2: And it's like I feel like if you're a woman,
Speaker 2: and you're a good woman, you can make that man
Speaker 2: into Barack Obama, right, you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 2: when when Jamal and I got married, he didn't have nothing, right,
Speaker 2: I don't want to say nothing, but like he he
Speaker 2: was starting a church right with four d people. Right,
Speaker 2: So if I looked at him like, okay, you're you
Speaker 2: have no potential, You're just I look at you for today. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you broke right. I think that's unfair to anyone. I
Speaker 2: don't want anyone to look at me that way. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then and then it's like okay, well, Ebony, So
Speaker 1: would you date a lawyer that doesn't own the firm
Speaker 1: like that sounds like crazy? You know what I'm saying, Like, Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you don't have a problem dating a lawyer.
Speaker 1: He don't have to own the firm like that. That
Speaker 1: sounds it just sounds crazy. Because that bus driver could
Speaker 1: also own real estate. He could have rental property. He
Speaker 1: could be doing other.
Speaker 2: Things all kinds.
Speaker 1: It's not fair to just judge a person by, you know,
Speaker 1: their job or their day job. They could have ambitions.
Speaker 1: He could be shoot a trading stocks and making crazy money.
Speaker 1: He could have inherited something, right exactly. You don't know
Speaker 1: he could ann not somebody over the head and got something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I agree, Like, if, y'all, if this is a
Speaker 1: great man and he makes you happy and you can
Speaker 1: in turn bring something to him and make him better
Speaker 1: or encourage him and he's open to that, then then
Speaker 1: go for it. That's actually amazing. Actually, it would be
Speaker 1: amazing to be like, yeah, when I started dating my
Speaker 1: my husband, he was a bus driver and now he
Speaker 1: owns you know, he's a real estate developer.
Speaker 2: Yes, whatever, right, But I don't want to take away
Speaker 2: from Ebone's preferences. Like everyone should have the right to
Speaker 2: their own preference. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I do hate it when people get attacked for speaking
Speaker 1: for what works for them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, get it, Ebony, Yeah, go for it. Get
Speaker 2: that bus driver who owns his own business. Now, okay,
Speaker 2: Carl you don't like that. This is what I think.
Speaker 2: We're gonna let Carley live over here. This is what
Speaker 2: I think people, This is what abone should do when
Speaker 2: she starts dating. She should take some magic mushrooms because
Speaker 2: which I've never done, by the way, but studies say
Speaker 2: that they can cure color blindness. Oh, so do you
Speaker 2: know anybody who's color blind, because my dad is kind
Speaker 2: of colorblind, not really really Okay, I think like he
Speaker 2: doesn't know browns from blacks from blues. Really, yes, like
Speaker 2: he would have to have like when he puts socks together.
Speaker 2: I would help him put his socks. Okay. So you
Speaker 2: know what I'm telling my daddy start taking some from mushrooms. Okay.
Speaker 2: Can you imagine my all on mushrooms.
Speaker 1: That would be amazing when when you give them to
Speaker 1: him and bite me over please, thank you?
Speaker 2: Okay, And mushrooms like like I've seen TV shows, it's
Speaker 2: like your vision is get small psychedelic. It's psychedelic and
Speaker 2: your vision that's what's going to be in your head.
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, Well we can't ask my brother. My brother's
Speaker 1: all into this type of stuff.
Speaker 2: Oh, he takes mushrooms all the time. It takes a
Speaker 2: lot of stuff. He just does stuff.
Speaker 1: Now I miss seeing on the internet and I have
Speaker 1: to repent, y'all.
Speaker 2: This is probably what you need to do. Okay. Two things.
Speaker 2: So you know, Janet Jackson's on tour right now, And
Speaker 2: when they said she was going to be going on tour,
Speaker 2: I was like, Dan it stop. You do not need
Speaker 2: to be doing this. You just need to just chill
Speaker 2: out and bask in your Jackson nests.
Speaker 1: Yes, and in like the Saudi billionaire that just paid
Speaker 1: you like a half a billion dollars or something.
Speaker 2: Oh he did, I might be making this. I think
Speaker 2: you made that up her baby daddy. Yeah, she got it.
Speaker 2: She got a lot of money. She got a chunk
Speaker 2: of change from him, Okay, which is nothing to him. Yes, yes, exactly.
Speaker 2: But I've been seeing clips Janet is doing the damn thing. Yes,
Speaker 2: you don't think so. I saw a couple of clips
Speaker 2: on the sea. I'm not gonna be a hater sorry
Speaker 2: right now, because you're about to hate on Beyonce too,
Speaker 2: because clips of Beyonce. I sell my ticket, y'all.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, So I since seen the content already, first
Speaker 1: and foremost.
Speaker 2: First and foremost, Janet girl, do your thing. Okay, I
Speaker 2: appreciating what I'm seeing on the Instagram. Now let's get
Speaker 2: to the queen bee.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, Well, Janet Jackson, I will say, fine, Yes,
Speaker 1: she's doing her thing for where she is in life,
Speaker 1: her stage in life. I have been and I say
Speaker 1: that because I have been to a Janet Jackson concert
Speaker 1: me years and years and years ago, and it's not
Speaker 1: quite the same. But I don't expect it to be
Speaker 1: the same. But she, I would say, is moving. She's
Speaker 1: doing way more than like Mariah Carey does on stage.
Speaker 1: Mariah does nothing exactly, Okay, but Mariah can sign.
Speaker 2: Jannet can't sing like Mariah. True that, so you can't
Speaker 2: you can't put them in the same category. That, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's true. But I'm appreciating what Janet is doing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, I appreciate that too. I mean, neither
Speaker 1: one of us can get up there and do any
Speaker 1: of that. So I'm not gonna take that away from her,
Speaker 1: but it's just.
Speaker 2: Don't take it away from the Queen Bee doesn't motivate
Speaker 2: me to go. So Queen Bee.
Speaker 1: Yes, the Renaissance tour has started, y'all. We have seen
Speaker 1: the whole thing on Instagram already, y'all. So you know,
Speaker 1: thank you, Beyonce. That show was amazing. Your outfits are amazing.
Speaker 1: I mean, the song, the set list, Okay, like a
Speaker 1: couple of them I could have skipped, but like you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, that was an amazing concert.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad I went. Okay, Okay, so a couple
Speaker 2: of things. For Robin, who's that Beyonce hater to the
Speaker 2: day she dies? So are you selling your tickets? Yeah,
Speaker 2: because she's not coming to us until months from Yeah.
Speaker 1: So imagine by August fifth, right, I would have seen
Speaker 1: every single moment.
Speaker 2: That happens now and keeps growing. No. No, if he
Speaker 2: keeps going, I'm gonna the.
Speaker 1: Mute hashtag Beyonce, hashtag Renaissance tour.
Speaker 2: Yes, mutants, yes, the mutant. Well, okay, but I saw
Speaker 2: that the people on the people out there are saying that,
Speaker 2: you know, she's not dancing enough, and you know, we
Speaker 2: don't understand why she's not moving because.
Speaker 1: She mostly criticizing criticism of people who are watching the
Speaker 1: clips or people who were there, No watching the clips.
Speaker 1: I want to know from the people were there how
Speaker 1: it was. But I don't want to know any of that.
Speaker 1: I'm cool with whatever the.
Speaker 2: Hell she's doing, right, because you know, I'm gonna get
Speaker 2: to my concert. I don't care how many clips I see.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get to my concert as if I'm seeing
Speaker 2: it for the first time.
Speaker 1: Okay, however, really see, that's hard for me to do.
Speaker 1: But you know what she does, she does change her outfits.
Speaker 2: A thousand times. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I feel like she just her outfits for the whole show,
Speaker 1: like halfway through the tour. So I feel like the
Speaker 1: outfits that we're seeing now we might might be like
Speaker 1: completely different, but we're still going to see them regardless.
Speaker 1: So you've been as many Beyonce concerts as I have, Okay, Like,
Speaker 1: what if you do get there and it's underwhelming in
Speaker 1: on Beyonce.
Speaker 2: Level levels, which okay, so underwhelming on Beyonce level is
Speaker 2: still great. It's I feel like it's still great. Okay.
Speaker 2: And they said she had foot surgery, so apparently she's
Speaker 2: not doing her eight counts. She's just doing She's not
Speaker 2: doing her sixteen counts, she's doing an eight count.
Speaker 1: Oh I see, Yes, okay, you know what honestly, and
Speaker 1: let me, I'm okay, I'm just being like a funny
Speaker 1: hater because I'm not really hating, but I am like seriously,
Speaker 1: like I think I need to mute the whole. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, it's need the hashtacks because like I don't
Speaker 1: want to see.
Speaker 2: All that's yeah, and it's unfair for people that are
Speaker 2: gonna be going yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: The whole it's you know, Yes, Beyonce is amazing. Her
Speaker 1: dancing amazing, her singing is amazing. The songs are great.
Speaker 1: It's just the whole production itself, like the set, the everything,
Speaker 1: you know, all the screens and the digital stuff. You know,
Speaker 1: like that stuff also contributes to the experience, and so
Speaker 1: I think that's something that you can really only feel
Speaker 1: and appreciate.
Speaker 2: When you're in the building.
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm gonna keep my ticket show thank God. Still
Speaker 1: might sell two of them. So if somebody needs one
Speaker 1: hundred level tickets DM Robin on August fifth, d x Field,
Speaker 1: let me know.
Speaker 2: Yes, d M Robin. Okay, so have you heard about Oh,
Speaker 2: before we get into this, I do want to say that,
Speaker 2: you know, we got to give some love to the
Speaker 2: Real Housewives of Atlanta Ladys. They did premiere there on
Speaker 2: Bravos Sunday nights, eight o'clock The Peach. I did see
Speaker 2: their first episode, their season premiere, and it was good. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I was into it. That's great. I haven't watched it yet.
Speaker 1: I will I will watch it at some point, yes,
Speaker 1: but it's it's great to have them back on on
Speaker 1: I know television. I heard, you know, people enjoyed it,
Speaker 1: so I really hope that the season is amazing for them.
Speaker 2: And I feel like, you know, if we're not on,
Speaker 2: then Atlanta needs to be on. Really just go Yeah,
Speaker 2: if there's fifty two weeks in the year, they need
Speaker 2: to be on twenty thirty six, No, twenty what fifty two?
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, fifty two four? No? Whoa two? Oh no,
Speaker 2: you're wrong to me, fifty two.
Speaker 1: That would be twenty six, twenty I said thirty six.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, and you try to say I can't. Well,
Speaker 2: you said twenty four. That's twenty four is closer than
Speaker 2: thirty two.
Speaker 1: I said thirty six, Okay, okay, yeah, I mean I
Speaker 1: said twenty I meant to say twenty six.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay. Well, anyway, I think they should be on
Speaker 2: for twenty whatever weeks in twenty six, we should be
Speaker 2: on for twenty six. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: I feel like, well, we had twenty episodes including the reunion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we almost made us.
Speaker 1: And then there's like a six week period and then
Speaker 1: I feel like they usually have at least that so
Speaker 1: hm hmm.
Speaker 2: So there's a whole possible twelve weeks. Yeah that people
Speaker 2: are bored to tiars because it's not us or Atlanta. Yeah,
Speaker 2: board to tears. Okay. So California has decided they have
Speaker 2: a reparations panel and they've approved payments up to one
Speaker 2: point two million dollars for black residents plus an apology.
Speaker 2: So they get an I'm sorry and money. Yes, but
Speaker 2: the money is like broken down, so it goes a
Speaker 2: little something like this. Okay, Okay, So black residents that
Speaker 2: were affected by banks redlining them, they get like three
Speaker 2: thousand some dollars, okay, and then hold on, if it's
Speaker 2: a black resident who were victims of over policing, policing,
Speaker 2: i'm sorry, over policing, and mass incarceration, they get two
Speaker 2: thousand dollars for each year that they lived in California
Speaker 2: between nineteen seventy and twenty twenty.
Speaker 1: Why wow, Okay, wait, so these reparations are so nineteen seventy,
Speaker 1: So the reparations are not related to I guess because
Speaker 1: in California they didn't really have like slavery in California
Speaker 1: because because the boats couldn't get all the way over there, right,
Speaker 1: So I guess that land wasn't even like I don't know,
Speaker 1: it wasn't even occupied or well, probably the Native Americans.
Speaker 2: Were rebably there. Right, So but if that's to these
Speaker 2: reparation the Native Americans, yes, well they do. Okay, So
Speaker 2: long story short, you can some people are getting up
Speaker 2: to one point two million dollars.
Speaker 1: That's you're gonna have to have a lot of boxes checked.
Speaker 2: Well to get one to one.
Speaker 1: You're talking about three thousand for this, two thousand for that,
Speaker 1: damn you gonna have.
Speaker 2: You have to have.
Speaker 1: Had the hardest life ever to get to the one
Speaker 1: million dollars.
Speaker 2: I'm just excited that it's happening. Something's happening.
Speaker 1: Well, that's good, right Exactly, I'm trying to figure out
Speaker 1: my residence in California, Like how do we get that changed?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: And I'm sure there's residency criteria as well.
Speaker 2: What does that mean?
Speaker 1: Like you have to have been a California resident for
Speaker 1: since a certain year and for a certain amount of time,
Speaker 1: Like you can't just have lived in California for the
Speaker 1: last two years, or you can't have grown up in
Speaker 1: Ioware your whole life and decide you want to be
Speaker 1: an actress and moved to California.
Speaker 2: Right, true, Okay, so we have to figure all that
Speaker 2: thing out, right, But I'm I'm gonna get up in
Speaker 2: this this this payment situation. I'm trying to figure it out. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm just here to let y'all know, and how do
Speaker 2: we do this? But how do we get this like
Speaker 2: in Maryland? How do we get this in other states? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Maybe because Maryland, Yes, y'all had slaves. Y'all dropped them
Speaker 1: off right here, and governor let me hit out, Hey,
Speaker 1: we need our reparations, y'all, we need something. But you
Speaker 1: know what, I appreciate that, of course. I just hope
Speaker 1: that they maybe have some sort of programs that maybe
Speaker 1: help people put their reparations to good use.
Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: Because the whole thing is like the you know, African
Speaker 1: Americans were discriminated against and prevented from creating generavenues for
Speaker 1: generational wealth. Yes, so instead of just handing people a
Speaker 1: bunch of money and they just you know, spend it.
Speaker 2: I'm really I.
Speaker 1: Really hope there's a way for people to like put
Speaker 1: their money to great use and to build something.
Speaker 2: Okay, I get that, but like, after all of this time,
Speaker 2: if y'all treat me back, y'all not gonna tell me
Speaker 2: how to spend my money Okay, if I want to
Speaker 2: spend it frivoriously. Fivoriously is that a word? Yeah, whatever,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do that. You can't tell me how to
Speaker 2: spend money. I don't want to.
Speaker 1: They don't have to tell them how, but they can say,
Speaker 1: you know, okay, maybe maybe they can work closely with
Speaker 1: the Small Business Administration or something and say, okay, we're
Speaker 1: helping to establish businesses and here are programs and grants,
Speaker 1: you know, like those are the types of things that
Speaker 1: would be extremely helpful because so that's been the effect
Speaker 1: of of you know, all of discrimination and African Americans
Speaker 1: being pretty much treated as a second class citizen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, we have had no way to build
Speaker 2: generational wealth. Right. First of all, we couldn't buy houses
Speaker 2: until whenever, I don't know what the year is, and
Speaker 2: that's really important. Like we got to be able to
Speaker 2: own property, right, Yes, right, we gotta pass stuff down.
Speaker 2: But let's let's give California some CODs. But yes, California,
Speaker 2: that's awesome, get into it. Yeah with a little fine.
Speaker 2: Governor Newsome was his name. Yes he is a cutie. Yes,
Speaker 2: let's let that wife slip up. I'm coming okay, So
Speaker 2: now speaking of not gonna have any more money. Okay,
Speaker 2: So Donald Trump was found guilty. Yes, yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 2: because you know what this is. It's coming like one
Speaker 2: time you've you're found guilty.
Speaker 1: All the other cases that just gonna be like guilty, guilty, guilty.
Speaker 1: So I was shocked that yes, because I mean it
Speaker 1: is something that's like, how do you well, he wasn't
Speaker 1: guilty of actual rape. He would guilty of of like
Speaker 1: a sexual assault or something, grab the pussy.
Speaker 2: Listen, he said, did you see the deposition? This man
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, all the stars can do it. No,
Speaker 2: he said what he said. So in the deposition, the
Speaker 2: lady says to him, so you said that because you're
Speaker 2: a star, you can just lean into a woman and
Speaker 2: grab them by the pussy. And he says, yeah, all
Speaker 2: the stars do it. They've been doing it since the
Speaker 2: beginning of time. Oh my god, what, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: So that's that's crazy. That's what got the guilty. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's what.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're guilty, sir, and you owe her five million dollars.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you say it again. This has become very famous.
Speaker 4: In this video. I just started kissing them. It's like
Speaker 4: a magnet, just kiss I don't even wait. And when
Speaker 4: you're a star, they let you do it. You can
Speaker 4: do anything, grab them by the you can do anything.
Speaker 4: That's what you said.
Speaker 2: Well, historically that's true.
Speaker 1: Ours, it's true.
Speaker 4: What starts they're thinking, grab women by the Well, that's
Speaker 4: what that's If you look over the last million years,
Speaker 4: I guess that's been largely true, not always, but largely true.
Speaker 1: Unfortunately or fortunate.
Speaker 4: And you consider yourself to be a star.
Speaker 1: I think you can say that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you think he's got five million dollars cash?
Speaker 1: Yes, because shoot, when he was all that money he
Speaker 1: raised from from when he was arrested. You know, they
Speaker 1: raised so much money and like such a short perioce.
Speaker 1: I know, I know he's gonna use that money. He's
Speaker 1: gonna use So this.
Speaker 2: Is his slush fund. Yes, okay, So there's gonna be
Speaker 2: more cases coming up. This is civil so he don't know,
Speaker 2: no jail time, right, But yes, sir, they'll be grabbing
Speaker 2: people by the pussy, right. I want to get to
Speaker 2: know you, Robin, Okay, So before we get into that, yes,
Speaker 2: we just have to say.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we got to talk about you. Yes, yes, okay,
Speaker 1: what do you have to say? You know you have
Speaker 1: a lot to say.
Speaker 2: Okay, So guys, I was minding my business, sitting on
Speaker 2: my couch as I love to do in my house,
Speaker 2: and I was scrolling through the Instagram. And you know,
Speaker 2: if I go to Instagram Robin, anytime Robin posts something,
Speaker 2: she pops up first, right, That's just how the matrix works. Okay.
Speaker 2: So I was scrolling through and I see Robin lost.
Speaker 2: I was lost. I wanted to know where I was.
Speaker 1: Robin was walking around aimlessly, lost on the beach and
Speaker 1: on a boardwalk, and I.
Speaker 2: Was like, what is happening to my friend? Who is kidnapped?
Speaker 2: My friend? So I said to myself, let me scroll
Speaker 2: down and read what the hell she talking about? And
Speaker 2: so she said, all of a sudden, I saw something
Speaker 2: about she found peace. And then I scrolled a little
Speaker 2: bit more and she said, California Psychics. The California psychics gave.
Speaker 1: You peace as you were aimlessly walking on a boardwalk.
Speaker 2: Yes, that hell are you talking about. I was so perplexed,
Speaker 2: and Borderline was like, I don't know this person. Who
Speaker 2: is this person?
Speaker 1: She is looking over the boardwalk into the water, she
Speaker 1: is walking on the sands.
Speaker 2: It's just I'm confused. Okay, please explain. Yes, I will explain.
Speaker 1: So you are not the only person that got a
Speaker 1: kick out of that, Okay, but I will explain. So, Yes,
Speaker 1: I was not aimlessly lost walking on the beach.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I was enjoying my vacation. Okay, Okay in the Bahamas,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm taking in all the beautiful nature, the
Speaker 1: beauty of the world, right and just at peace because
Speaker 1: I yes, talked to two psychics, Okay, recently. I actually
Speaker 1: talked to three. But I talked to two California psychics recently.
Speaker 1: And you know, it's funny. I feel like people if
Speaker 1: you've never experienced the psychic and and you know, if
Speaker 1: you watched The Real Households of Potomac for a long time,
Speaker 1: what season was it?
Speaker 2: Season three?
Speaker 1: I think you saw Wan and I talk to a
Speaker 1: psychic medium. Yes, And when I tell you, that man
Speaker 1: was the most that was the That was one of
Speaker 1: the most amazing experiences I've had on the show and
Speaker 1: just in life. Just talking to that man was so
Speaker 1: comforting and so enlightening.
Speaker 2: Like so, I'm.
Speaker 1: Open to people who have that type of skill.
Speaker 2: I'm talent. Okay, I like that, and me too. I
Speaker 2: appreciate it, and I don't look at them.
Speaker 1: You know, some people I think think it has it's
Speaker 1: like an anti Christ type of situation, which I actually
Speaker 1: believe that they kind of can communicate like God communicates
Speaker 1: through them, you know what I'm saying. So I don't
Speaker 1: look at talking to a psychic as not Also, you know,
Speaker 1: believe in my faith in God. Right, So anyway, So yes,
Speaker 1: I talked to these psychics. They were very comforting. I
Speaker 1: asked them specific questions. They answered me and gave me
Speaker 1: hope and they gave me comfort.
Speaker 2: And did they tell you how to get off the boardwalk? No?
Speaker 2: I didn't need to. I didn't need I didn't need that. Listen,
Speaker 2: I didn't need that. Okay, but have you read some
Speaker 2: of your comments? Because I saw one and it said,
Speaker 2: what is happening? I question Mark? I know it's so funny.
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I know like talking to psychics is
Speaker 1: controversy or whatever.
Speaker 2: But okay, let's talk about because obviously. Then I scroll
Speaker 2: down and it said if you if you want to
Speaker 2: use the psychics, use Robin's name and you get money off.
Speaker 2: So I got okay, I got that. Yeah, yeah, could
Speaker 2: we could we have done the promotional post in a
Speaker 2: different way to do what not walking aimlessly? As if
Speaker 2: you are aimlessly? Do you take walks on the beach? Yes?
Speaker 2: Do you stand on a on a on a boardwalk?
Speaker 2: You staying on a yes? Okay, fine, Robin?
Speaker 1: Do you stand on the borwalk by the ocean and
Speaker 1: just sit there and look look at the look at
Speaker 1: the people? Listen, look at this, look at the cat
Speaker 1: ski Does everybody go to California's like, just go to
Speaker 1: put it?
Speaker 2: Put in at what is it? What is your code?
Speaker 1: Robin twelve? Robin twelve twelve dollars? Off what you said, Curly?
Speaker 1: Carly got it. Carly got it, But everybody, the thousand
Speaker 1: people in the comments, they didn't get it. They got
Speaker 1: a kick out of it. It's fine, you know what,
Speaker 1: I don't care. This is the thing about me that
Speaker 1: like people should realize by now, I don't care.
Speaker 2: Like I really don't. I gotta I got a key, key,
Speaker 2: I take you a key.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: It's funny.
Speaker 1: So one called me I was out because I took
Speaker 1: the kids to like a basketball practice, and he called
Speaker 1: me dying laughing, yes, like yeah, I'm cracking up.
Speaker 2: I'm cracking up. Your post.
Speaker 1: I'm cracking up at these at your at these comments.
Speaker 1: He's like, and he was like, I'm about to comment.
Speaker 1: I said, no, do not comment.
Speaker 2: No he should, No, that would have been that got
Speaker 2: a lot of traffic. No what his comment gonna be.
Speaker 1: He would have he was gonna comment if he if
Speaker 1: he had commented, do you know how many times that
Speaker 1: ship would have been reposted?
Speaker 2: That had been great California side Robin twelve.
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 2: I did that amazing. Actually, I did not want that.
Speaker 2: I did not want that.
Speaker 1: I did not want to open my phone and then
Speaker 1: just see my ship with once comment reposted fifty times.
Speaker 2: Okay, but what but depends on what his comment was
Speaker 2: going to be.
Speaker 1: So he was gonna have some laughing emojis and I
Speaker 1: was like, no, you have to.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, fine, yes I don't do that.
Speaker 1: Yes, but anyway, I love talking to intuitive people me too.
Speaker 1: They are very Their spirits are so comforting, like I
Speaker 1: can't even explain it, it's so crazy. And then I'm
Speaker 1: telling y'all, I will tell you what they said when
Speaker 1: it comes true.
Speaker 2: Right, But did you ask him about me at all? Okay? Fine?
Speaker 2: So I need to I need to do I have
Speaker 2: to put in Robin twelve to get mine done. How
Speaker 2: much you said's a minute? Twelve dollars a minute.
Speaker 1: Well, there's different psychics you can choose from, so certain
Speaker 1: some of them are five dollars a minute, some of
Speaker 1: them are twelve dollars a minute. So you just got
Speaker 1: to pick what psychic you want. Who's bootleg? Does anyone
Speaker 1: boot leg? Everybody's good? Well, I mean they have like
Speaker 1: they have ratings how they do Yeah, and then you
Speaker 1: can see like, yeah, they're rated. You can see the
Speaker 1: number of readings that they've done. So some have done
Speaker 1: thousands of readings, you know, on this platform, and some
Speaker 1: have only done you know, a few hundred or whatever.
Speaker 1: And then there's some that like do tarot cards, and
Speaker 1: some that are mediums and talk to you know, the dead,
Speaker 1: and there's some that are just impaths.
Speaker 2: You know. It's just like different.
Speaker 1: Okay, It's really like, it's so funny why I thought
Speaker 1: I was crazy Because I would get off the phone
Speaker 1: with the psychic and I would like run to where
Speaker 1: he was and he was like, I talked to the
Speaker 1: psychic and this is what they said, and it was well,
Speaker 1: I talked to on California psychics. I talked to two
Speaker 1: different ones. Okay, so I hang up the phone with one.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I talked to a psychic. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: this is what she said and bo because I asked
Speaker 1: about him and his job and his all that in
Speaker 1: our lives and whatever, and he was like okay. So
Speaker 1: then I would hang up again, I would talk to
Speaker 1: another one. I hang up, and I talked to another
Speaker 1: psychic and they said the same thing.
Speaker 2: Okay, is any of it panning out? We gotta give
Speaker 2: it time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're right, We're not there yet yet. We gave
Speaker 1: us some time and everything. And then I talked to
Speaker 1: Ashley's friend Eve. She did my child's heart reading, and.
Speaker 2: Eve said the same stuff. Listen, this is don't knock it, y'all,
Speaker 2: it's fun. And I actually was like, this is fun. Okay,
Speaker 2: So we'll have one on the show. How about we
Speaker 2: we do a podcast with one of them and the
Speaker 2: next in coming. Maybe maybe Carly can set that up
Speaker 2: since she's yeah, okay, Carly, y'all. Carly, she's gonna get
Speaker 2: on that.
Speaker 1: And we probably could because like when you talk to
Speaker 1: them and then and so like if I asked something,
Speaker 1: say about one and his job, like he didn't have
Speaker 1: to be there or on the phone. They're like, okay,
Speaker 1: what's his full name? What is his birthday? Like that's
Speaker 1: what all they need and then you ask him like
Speaker 1: a specific question. So I'm thinking even if there's a
Speaker 1: listener that has something that they want us to ask, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: we could do that for them.
Speaker 2: I like that. Yeah, I got some questions from anyway.
Speaker 1: Yes, well, I am glad that I was able to
Speaker 1: entertain you and give you a key. Key If y'all
Speaker 1: want to go to my Instagram page and check it out,
Speaker 1: it's going to still be there.
Speaker 2: Okay. Just look for a robin walking on the beach.
Speaker 2: You see me walking on the beach and my Rasachi
Speaker 2: bathe and suit. Yes Masachi okay, yes, Masaji Maasaki. Okay.
Speaker 2: So we have one reasonably shady before we get out
Speaker 2: of here. Is it reasonable or is it shady? This
Speaker 2: is well, this is actually advice needed. Hey, Rabina and Jizzy,
Speaker 2: who was Shamion? Oh do we know sha Marian? Yes?
Speaker 2: We know. That's all things to see. Oh we love her. Okay,
Speaker 2: So hey Rabina and Jizzy, it's your girl. Me me
Speaker 2: here and I need some advice to. So, I have
Speaker 2: a friend that I've been friends with since elementary school
Speaker 2: and we have been stuck like glue since. So now
Speaker 2: that we have graduated high school and we went our
Speaker 2: separate ways, but we still manage to spend time with
Speaker 2: each other. This is where I need some advice. So
Speaker 2: I'm always showing up to everything she has, like her
Speaker 2: baby shower, her birthday, her granddaddy's funeral, and basically everything
Speaker 2: she invites me to. But she never shows up to
Speaker 2: anything I have, Like when my birthday came around, she
Speaker 2: was a no show. When we plan trips it's the
Speaker 2: day before she always seems to cancel, or even when
Speaker 2: I plan us fun think fun outings, she never shows up.
Speaker 2: She complains her money is low, so I tell her
Speaker 2: just come and enjoy and I'll pick up the bill.
Speaker 2: But she's still a no show. So should I feel
Speaker 2: away and cut her off? Or should I tell her
Speaker 2: how I feel and move on? Because maybe I'm overreacting. Ooh, Okay,
Speaker 2: this is actual. This happens a lot. It does happen
Speaker 2: a lot. Yeah, I can vouch for that. Maybe I
Speaker 2: was thinking about you as I was reading it, Robin. No,
Speaker 2: I'm not that bad I'm not yet. Are you overreacting? No?
Speaker 1: Like this definitely, you definitely have the right to feel
Speaker 1: a certain type of way about this, for sure, Right,
Speaker 1: But but I say, okay, a lot of times, every
Speaker 1: friend can't be everything to you, right, Okay, So you
Speaker 1: know there are some friends that maybe I guess you
Speaker 1: have to wonder like what is your friendship good for
Speaker 1: with with her? Like, what are you getting out of
Speaker 1: the friendship? So if it's not her coming up, not
Speaker 1: showing up for you in the physical, yeah, do they
Speaker 1: have good conversations on the phone, does she offer good advice?
Speaker 1: Is she supportive? Does she you know, is that a
Speaker 1: shoulder you can cry on or whatever? So you gotta
Speaker 1: kind of wonder, ask like what are you getting out
Speaker 1: of this friendship?
Speaker 2: Robbie, you know you always see all sides. I tried.
Speaker 2: I was like, throw that bitch in a transcript, right, Okay,
Speaker 2: that bitch got to go.
Speaker 1: Okay, I try to, But but I'm saying, like, Mimi,
Speaker 1: you need to ask, like what is the friendship where?
Speaker 2: What are you getting out of the friendship?
Speaker 1: So if she's physically not showing up for you, like
Speaker 1: hopefully you're getting something out of the friendship. Yes, Now
Speaker 1: I do think she should say something.
Speaker 2: Though there's a conversation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, she should say something. The thing about the money.
Speaker 1: Maybe she feels guilt, or not guilt, but shame and
Speaker 1: embarrassment right that she doesn't have the money. And even
Speaker 1: though her friends say, oh no girl, we got you, like,
Speaker 1: she doesn't want to put her friends in that position
Speaker 1: because it's embarrassing for her.
Speaker 2: So which I actually wish I had friends like that,
Speaker 2: because they don't mind. They don't mind when I pick
Speaker 2: up the check. They just like, thanks girl. Right, I'm like,
Speaker 2: ain't nobody embarrassed here? I'm paid for all of y'all. No,
Speaker 2: I'm kidding.
Speaker 1: So so I'm gonna let you talk and finish this.
Speaker 1: So maybe also, Mimi, you can test. You can put
Speaker 1: out a little test and think of something that you
Speaker 1: all can do that.
Speaker 2: Does not require money.
Speaker 1: Oh I like that, okay, and then see how she
Speaker 1: responds or if she shows up I think that that's
Speaker 1: well No.
Speaker 2: I say, yes, no, she's not overreacting. This is a
Speaker 2: real feeling. I've been through this, not with Robin, but
Speaker 2: with another girlfriend of mine that over the years I
Speaker 2: had to realize either she doesn't feel comfortable hanging out
Speaker 2: like some people want feel comfortable like hanging out whatever
Speaker 2: that means.
Speaker 1: Right, So if she had something, you would go to
Speaker 1: something she had. Yeah, if you had something, she wouldn't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable maybe being incorporated into like your other friends
Speaker 1: and stuff.
Speaker 2: Right, So maybe it was that maybe she didn't feel
Speaker 2: comfortable with my other friends. I don't know, but I
Speaker 2: did state like, I don't get it, I don't understand
Speaker 2: why you don't hang out. Doesn't make any sense to me,
Speaker 2: and then I left it alone. But you're absolutely correct.
Speaker 2: What she does bring to me is the conversations that
Speaker 2: we have. And you know, she's always like a friend
Speaker 2: of mine that's very grounded, and you know, I'm out
Speaker 2: here sometimes making some bad decisions and she's like, no,
Speaker 2: don't do that because blah blah blah. So that's what
Speaker 2: she brings to my life currently. But as for us
Speaker 2: hanging out, Yeah, and then you get to a place
Speaker 2: where it's like these people that don't hang out no more,
Speaker 2: they don't know how to hang out, So you don't
Speaker 2: even want to hang out with that because they don't
Speaker 2: even know what they're doing, right, they don't even know
Speaker 2: what's cool and what's not cool? Right, exactly, you don't
Speaker 2: be responsible for them, No, leave them at home. Okay,
Speaker 2: they take one drink and a on the floor. Oh
Speaker 2: wait a minute. And then she did hang out with
Speaker 2: oh shit in New York. Oh my god, how can
Speaker 2: I forget this? And she did. She had like one drinking,
Speaker 2: she was like throwing up. Oh no, she fell asleep
Speaker 2: in the club or so. It was something crazy, And
Speaker 2: I was like, this is why you need to stay home, right, Yes,
Speaker 2: you're not even hang out. You're not even equipped to
Speaker 2: hang out anymore.
Speaker 1: The streets taped for you, right, Yeah, you don't want
Speaker 1: that responsibility, like she's holding you back when you go out.
Speaker 2: So yeah, no, you don't need that.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, so governed as you get older, you got
Speaker 1: to put your friends in boxes, so to speak. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and govern govern yourself accordingly with your friends.
Speaker 2: And that is our episode. Guys, we love y'all so much.
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