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Speaker 1: First Date is follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Leah is on the phone today for a first Date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she is getting ghosted by a guy

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Speaker 2: named Jackson. So in a few seconds, we'll call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her a second date if she still

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Speaker 2: wants one. But before we do that, Leah, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Jackson?

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Speaker 3: Hey?

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Speaker 4: Wow, it's probably been about a month.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, Okay, and you still.

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Speaker 4: Want to get ahold of them?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I had a lot of fun, and

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Speaker 5: I really thought that there was like a vibe and

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Speaker 5: I'm just kind of surprised that it's been maybe it's

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Speaker 5: been like three weeks, but yeah, like almost a month,

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Speaker 5: and I'm just kinda, I don't know, still still wondering.

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Speaker 6: Huh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So you feel like you're definitely being ghosted. You

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Speaker 1: just want to know why?

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Speaker 4: Yes, exactly.

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Speaker 2: Okay, have you tried to reach out to him at all?

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Speaker 5: I have?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, send a few pecks if you like Instagram, like

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Speaker 4: ha ha, you know, sending the heart. Yeah, but yeah, no,

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Speaker 4: no real response.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, can I ask why, like, why did you

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Speaker 1: wait three weeks.

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Speaker 2: To try it?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 5: I mean I have been contacted him without in the

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Speaker 5: three weeks.

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Speaker 4: Got yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's always hope, Victoria, I know, I yeah, have none.

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Speaker 2: Okay, why don't you tell us about the date then? Leah?

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Speaker 4: Sure? So, Yeah, his name is Jackson. I really really

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Speaker 4: liked him. He was not he was He was very handsome.

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Speaker 5: But like put together, disciplined, like this quiet masculine energy,

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Speaker 5: which is very much my type. And he seemed very

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Speaker 5: just like grounded, Like he walked outside on the sidewalks,

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Speaker 5: you know, be a gentleman and open doors and didn't.

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Speaker 4: Talk over me. It was just like, yeah, very did

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Speaker 4: all the right things. Very attractive.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. So he took me to this like casual but

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Speaker 5: upscale place. We had some drinks and it was like

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Speaker 5: a late day nerve vibe. We'd just both finished work

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Speaker 5: and it just felt like very playful and thirty and

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Speaker 5: kind of effortless. It was a very fun date, which

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Speaker 5: is why it's so confusing. Why why he's ghosted?

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Speaker 2: Did anything weird happen?

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Speaker 1: Like, I mean, if you were to take a guess,

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Speaker 1: why do you think he is ghosting you?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? There was one moment that I think might be it.

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Speaker 5: So while we were like laughing at a joke, I

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Speaker 5: very playfully like grabbed his butt, like smacked his butt

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Speaker 5: and like like what, yeah, that's completely normal, flirting, light, harmless.

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Speaker 4: But then after I.

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Speaker 5: Did that, there was just a total shift that I

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Speaker 5: could feel pretty much immediately. And then after that he

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Speaker 5: would not walk in front of me. He kept slowing down, insisting.

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Speaker 4: That I go first.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you know, might have made him uncomfortable. So if

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Speaker 2: he's not willing to present you with his butt again, right, Sorry,

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Speaker 2: that's kind of a weird way to say it, I know,

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Speaker 2: but you know you won't walk walk in front of

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Speaker 2: you and show you his butt and probably no more present.

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Speaker 1: I mean, did you just like pat it.

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Speaker 2: Poke it or like handful.

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Speaker 4: That was a grab?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just curious to see, like how you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to say the word and face it,

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Speaker 1: but maybe he might have felt that.

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Speaker 5: It was there's a little light slap and then a grab.

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Speaker 5: I don't know how to drink.

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Speaker 2: But like it's okay.

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Speaker 4: But to me it was playful and fun and flirty.

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Speaker 5: But I guess maybe not to him the same about

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Speaker 5: me I have, like, I have a dirty sense of humor,

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Speaker 5: so most most guys love that, and I'm used.

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Speaker 4: To just like, I don't know, being a crazy fun one.

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Speaker 5: So maybe he just didn't doesn't laugh the same way

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Speaker 2: Well, we'll see. We'll play a song and then come

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Speaker 2: back and call him and see if you'll tell us

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Speaker 2: he's ghosting you and maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll get your first date follow up next.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: Leah is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a guy named Jackson. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her a second date if she still

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Speaker 2: wants one. But before we make our phone call, Leah,

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Speaker 2: why don't you break down your date again for us

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Speaker 2: real quick?

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Speaker 3: Sure?

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Speaker 5: So we went on a really fun date, good vibe, playful, fun,

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Speaker 5: lots of laughing, and at one point I like lightly

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Speaker 5: slapped and grabbed his butt, and right after that beat,

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Speaker 5: the vibe totally changed. And then you know, I haven't

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Speaker 5: heard of him since.

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Speaker 2: He wouldn't present his butt in front of you again. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: all right, here we go. Are you ready for us

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Speaker 2: to call him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak to Jackson.

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Speaker 2: Please speaking. Who is this hey, Jackson? How are you?

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Speaker 2: This is a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 2: Hi Jackson. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name

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Speaker 2: is Jewbell.

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Speaker 3: Wait. Is that you guys have me on the radio

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Speaker 3: right now?

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Speaker 2: Or yes you are? How are you doing?

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Speaker 3: I'm good. I've never never been on the radio before.

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Speaker 3: What you guys? What are you guys calling about?

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Speaker 2: Well? I don't know if you've ever listened to the

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Speaker 2: show before, but we do a segment on the show

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Speaker 2: called the First Daid follow Up. That's where if you're

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by somebody, they can email us to call

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Speaker 2: the person who's ghosting them and ask why. So, we

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Speaker 2: got an email about you from somebody that you're ghosting.

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Speaker 2: You know, might beg.

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Speaker 3: I do I know why you guys are calling now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Okay, who are you ghosting?

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Speaker 6: I know you're calling about Leah and.

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Speaker 3: Uh yeah, I mean what do you guys need to know?

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Speaker 3: I mean, what do you what are you looking for?

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Speaker 2: She told us about your day and said she really

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Speaker 2: liked you. We're just wondering if you could tell us

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Speaker 2: why you've been ghosting for about a month now.

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Speaker 6: Well, I mean, I I genuinely liked Leah. I mean

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Speaker 6: I thought she was, you know, confident intelligence, she had

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Speaker 3: But she's just she's just she's very bold to me,

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Speaker 3: very bold.

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Speaker 2: Okay, how so the bad.

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Speaker 3: Thing like immediately bold.

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Speaker 2: And what does that mean?

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Speaker 3: So we were we.

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Speaker 6: Were we were laughing, having dreams, having fun, and the

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Speaker 6: next thing, I know, you know, she she lops my

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Speaker 6: thought it was like whoa, Like we're not here here yet.

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Speaker 3: But then it then then after.

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Speaker 6: That, it was like she kind of kept just mentioning

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Speaker 6: it and like talking about my butt, and I was

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Speaker 3: It just felt kind of like like it's weird.

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Speaker 2: How was she talking about your butt like like trying

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Speaker 2: to like say, I don't have a long discussion about it, or.

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Speaker 3: She was just kind of like she was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: you're mushy butt.

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Speaker 6: Like I felt it like it felt, you know, it

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Speaker 6: I want to slap it again.

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Speaker 3: And I was just like it's like it was just

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Speaker 6: Kind of it was just bizarre and and and then

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Speaker 6: like the next thing, I know, the rest of the

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Speaker 6: date's going on and she's like, oh hey, mushy butt,

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Speaker 6: and I'm like what, like what, Like, it was just

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Speaker 2: And it's like, does she just keep calling you mushy

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Speaker 2: button over and over and over? What a nickname?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was weird. She just kept calling me mushy.

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Speaker 3: But it's strange, weird, strange.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, all right, well mushy butt. I'm sorry. Leah

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Speaker 2: is actually on the other line listening and wants to

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Speaker 6: Oh gosh, I mean, hello, Hi, this kind of this

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Speaker 6: kind of awkward, I mean.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, this is so ridiculous. You go to

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Speaker 4: me over that over a buck grab. It was a

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Speaker 4: placeful butt crab, not a felony. We were flirting, we

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Speaker 4: were having fun.

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Speaker 3: You you you're you're joking is aggressive. It's just it's cruel.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so that you don't have a sense of humor, so.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I mean it's just you're you're very I

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Speaker 3: kind of crass. And just what did you what did

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Speaker 3: you grow up in a trailer park and what. Let

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Speaker 3: me tell you something, Leah, I work out a lot,

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Speaker 3: and my butt is not Let me be clear on that.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I really did.

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Speaker 3: A lot of squats. I work. I do a lot

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Speaker 3: I look, I have a I have a firm butt here. Okay.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know what like where you're getting this

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Speaker 3: mushy butcher. It was just weird and gross. Okay.

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Speaker 2: So had she said something else, like had she grabbed

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Speaker 2: could crack an egcorn between there is a firm moody,

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Speaker 2: it would have been more okay, you know what I think.

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Speaker 3: So, because here's the thing she acted. It was like

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Speaker 6: It was just like, you know, here, I am this

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Speaker 6: making like these like childish, weird.

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Speaker 3: Jokes about it. And it was just very weird. It

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Speaker 3: just it was so awkward and strange.

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Speaker 6: And look, let me tell you guys something, I am

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Speaker 6: extremely self aware and I know I do not.

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Speaker 3: Have mushy booty back here.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So let me just be clear on that and

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Speaker 6: just set the record street Leah.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well I felt a mushy booty. It felt like

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Speaker 4: you don't work out at all.

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Speaker 5: So I'm sorry for just calling out I see it

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Speaker 5: and that you don't have a sense of humor. And yeah,

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Speaker 5: I did grow up in a trailer park and now

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Speaker 5: I'm a lawyer and I make more money than you.

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Speaker 3: So I also like you're just delusional, is what I

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Speaker 3: think about you.

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Speaker 4: Okay, mushy butt.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, here we go, miss trailer park turned lawyer.

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Speaker 3: Here we go.

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Speaker 5: At least I'm not a grown man that's upset about

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Speaker 5: someone calling them mushy butt, like you're so upset about it,

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Speaker 5: and you're just not fun.

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Speaker 3: I don't have a mushy booty. I work ortally. Okay,

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Speaker 3: mushy booty, mushy buddy, I do not have a mushy booty.

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Speaker 2: Jackson, would you like to go with Lee again on

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Speaker 2: a second day? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: I'll let you guys be the judge of that.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna guess yes. So mushy is eight all right? Well, sorry,

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Speaker 2: le no second date for you and Jackson. Thank you

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Speaker 2: for your time.

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Speaker 3: I don't want one either anymore, guys, just so people

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Speaker 3: can see that I don't have a mushy booty, can I?

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Speaker 3: Can I? Can you put out my Instagram for me