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Speaker 1: Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Hey, Christine, welcome.

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Speaker 2: Hey, how's it going.

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Speaker 1: You know we're doing okay waiting by the phone? Actually no, no,

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Speaker 1: we're doing fantastic right right everywhere? Yeah, yes, that's right.

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Speaker 1: So that's early whatever. What's going on with this guy rider?

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Speaker 1: Because of course we're trying to figure out why you

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Speaker 1: may have been ghosted, so we got to know kind

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Speaker 1: of the setup. How did you meet? Tell us about

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Speaker 1: any dates that you've been on all that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was. I was in Kankun a friend got

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Speaker 2: married there, and so I met him while we were there

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Speaker 2: at the resort, and you know, after the wedding, like

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Speaker 2: we kept in touch, touching each other and you know,

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Speaker 2: all forty stuff. And then you know, we actually facetimed

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Speaker 2: a couple of times too because we live in different states.

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Speaker 2: And then finally, you know, I invited him to come

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Speaker 2: stay with me for the weekend.

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Speaker 3: Okay, and yeah, because you know, it was going good.

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Speaker 2: So we had a really great time, Like, you know,

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Speaker 2: we went out, we you know, just when the dinner

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Speaker 2: when to die.

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Speaker 3: You know, it was great.

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Speaker 4: He was a total gentleman.

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Speaker 2: But then like after the weekend.

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Speaker 1: Was over.

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Speaker 2: He just kind of disappeared and I don't I don't

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Speaker 2: know what happened.

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Speaker 1: Huh. Okay, So this dude came to you, he stayed

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Speaker 1: with you. Uh yeah, wow, and the whole deal, the

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Speaker 1: whole weekend, and you really felt good about it. There

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Speaker 1: was no awkward moment or anything that you felt great.

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Speaker 1: And yet he's left and you haven't heard from him since.

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Speaker 1: That's not good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's weird because like, I feel like everything

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Speaker 2: went really great and just nothing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, let's call this guy Ryder. We'll see if

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Speaker 1: we can get him on the phone, ask these questions

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Speaker 1: for you, and you'll be on the phone at the

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Speaker 1: same time, and hopefully we can straighten this out and

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Speaker 1: uh and get you guys connected again. I don't know

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Speaker 1: about airfare and all that, but we do have quite

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Speaker 1: an extensive budget for this because we'd never do it,

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Speaker 1: so I don't know. Maybe who knows send you to

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Speaker 1: the fantasy suite. I don't know what we're going to do,

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Speaker 1: but anyway, I'm on a Golden Bachelor kick. Even though

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Speaker 1: I haven't watched one second of it, I'm gonna watch it.

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Speaker 1: I think Maybe I don't know anyway. Yeah, well, let's

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Speaker 1: see if we can fix this relationship, and then we'll

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Speaker 1: move on to that one Hang on one second, Christine,

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Speaker 1: Let's see what happens next. We'll do part two of

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Speaker 1: waiting by the phone after Dochi. The Frend Show is

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Speaker 1: on back in two minutes, don't she It's the Frend Show,

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Speaker 1: almost an hour commercial free fread show. Right now. Hey, Christine, yep,

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Speaker 1: I'm here. Let's call this guy Ryder. You guys, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you met in Kang Kun, of all places, and then

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Speaker 1: you kept in touch and he came to see you recently,

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Speaker 1: and you had a great weekend, you thought, But you

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Speaker 1: haven't heard from this guy. He's ghosted you since coming

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Speaker 1: to visit, and you want to know why. Yeah, all right,

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Speaker 1: let's call Ryder now? Good luck? Hi is this writer?

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Speaker 1: Hey rider, Good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling

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Speaker 1: from the Fred Show, the Morning radio show, and I

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Speaker 1: have to tell you that we are on the radio

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Speaker 1: right now now, and I need your permission to continue

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Speaker 1: with the call. Can which have for a couple of

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Speaker 1: minutes your mind?

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Speaker 4: Ah?

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Speaker 1: Sure? Well, thank you very much. I think I would

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Speaker 1: respond the same way. Actually no, I wouldn't hang out,

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Speaker 1: but anyway.

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Speaker 4: You know, I'm intrigued.

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Speaker 1: Well, I can understand why we're calling out behalf of

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Speaker 1: a woman named Christine, who I think you know pretty well.

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Speaker 1: You met her and visited her recently, do you remember,

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Speaker 1: hopefully Christine?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, I do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, she reached out to us. I guess she's

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Speaker 1: a listener and she's heard waiting by the phone before,

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Speaker 1: and she wanted to know why you haven't reached out

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Speaker 1: or responded to her since you went to see her.

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Speaker 1: What's that about?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, I totally blocked her.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, you blocked her. That's that's a whole different

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Speaker 1: that's in an additional step right there. I mean, it's

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Speaker 1: one thing not to call an answer, but it's a

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Speaker 1: blocking her? You know?

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Speaker 4: If you if you want to know, the whole weekend

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Speaker 4: that we had was kind of a waste. You know,

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Speaker 4: I wasted a lot of time and money. I got

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Speaker 4: a flight to go there, paid for everything else for

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Speaker 4: that weekend, and you know, we hung out, we talked,

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Speaker 4: but nothing else happened. We didn't hook up, didn't we

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Speaker 4: didn't do anything, and we've been talking for months, But like,

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Speaker 4: why would I go out there just for that.

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Speaker 3: I have plenty of friends. I'm not looking for that.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I see, so you're upset that she didn't sleep

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that I came out because we had

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Speaker 4: go out to do that if if it wasn't if

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Speaker 4: it wasn't going to lead up to cooking up.

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Speaker 3: At the end of the night.

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Speaker 1: I want to be clear. So the whole thing is

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Speaker 1: a waste. It was a waste of time, and it

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Speaker 1: was a waste of money to visit this woman you've

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Speaker 1: been connecting with now for for however long. Because she

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Speaker 1: I just want to be clear.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I feel like my intentions were really

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Speaker 4: we had talked about, you know, about being together, and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's just throw the whole thing away. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it Christine you're not gonna believe it, Christine is it's amazing.

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Speaker 1: How if you use another phone and get right through

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Speaker 1: three way calling everybody? We love it, Christine. So you

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Speaker 1: just you heard the man writer Christine's here. I'm so forgetful.

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Speaker 1: I forgot that part. So he's upset because it was

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Speaker 1: a big waste because you didn't sleep with him. That's

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Speaker 2: Wow, Okay, you know, I didn't think that I was

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Speaker 2: you know. I feel like that's.

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Speaker 1: Just just.

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Speaker 4: God'ren't you the one that they aren't you? The one

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Speaker 1: Though? But here's the thing, I'm not saying that you

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Speaker 1: Everyone does whatever they're comfortable with. That's fine. Did you

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Speaker 1: that was going to happen? And now someone's disappointed? I mean, Christine,

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Speaker 1: why do you think it didn't progress to the next level?

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Speaker 4: I mean, partially is that I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to just hook up with somebody. That's

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Speaker 2: the that's the point.

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't need anymore fires either, But I don't want

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Speaker 2: to just took up with somebody and like, so.

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Speaker 1: What is it just a one time cross state booty college?

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Speaker 4: But well, I don't want to just talk to a woman,

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Speaker 4: you know, I I want to make one. We had

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Speaker 4: talked about talk, we had talked, we had talked the

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Speaker 3: I don't I don't need another person to talk to.

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Speaker 1: I have plenty of their I understand that you you

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Speaker 1: want well, yes you're wrong. I understand that you wanted

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Speaker 1: a romantic connection, But no one owes you sex. No,

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Speaker 1: and it doesn't tell you went into this with the

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying I

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Speaker 4: there and to be, you know, there with you and

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Speaker 4: establish more of a connection.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess I don't see more of a connection

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't see it as a waste to get to

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Speaker 1: know somebody play the long game. You know who knows

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Speaker 1: you obviously were willing to talk to her with no

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Speaker 1: immediate payoff. So I guess I don't know what what's

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Speaker 1: waiting a little bit longer? If in fact, you think she's.

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Speaker 3: Worth because she was nice and we and we hit

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Speaker 4: It was it was a good weekend that we shared

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Speaker 4: at that wedding, and I thought that it was more

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Speaker 2: Whatever. It's good to know that you are sort of peated.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, and that you know, like I wasn't worse enough too.

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Speaker 2: I mean, this is basically our first gig for.

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Speaker 3: Real, Like, so I considered just hanging out of the

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Speaker 4: I don't know about that.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, let me put this out there, rider,

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Speaker 1: what if she really wanted to and for some reason

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Speaker 3: Well, that's something that she would have told me.

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Speaker 4: She should have told me about that.

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Speaker 1: No obligation to tell you that, nothing, no obligation. She

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Speaker 1: has no obligation to sleep with you. I agree with her.

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Speaker 1: This was the first time you guys ever had person.

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Speaker 4: I'm not saying that she has an obligation. I'm not

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Speaker 4: saying that it's an obligation.

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Speaker 1: I feel for you to waste time and money for

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Speaker 1: you whatever that you that you went out to invest

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Speaker 1: she wanted. So now we're blocking and we're calling it

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Speaker 1: a waste. I don't know how what do you think

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Speaker 1: is going to happen when you say stuff like that?

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Speaker 1: I guess you don't care. But hey, look, Christy, now

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Speaker 1: you know the story. Uh, And I'm sorry that it's

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Speaker 1: that way, but at least you know now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know better better that I didn't waste.

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Speaker 4: Any more of my time and money on him either, So.

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Speaker 1: Glad, Yeah, you didn't deserve it. That is one that's

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Speaker 1: not going against a body count, right there. Yeah, and writer,

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Speaker 1: that's one you'll never see a lot.

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Speaker 3: Thanks, have a good life.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, all right? Well rider by Christine mess of

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Speaker 1: luck to you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you