1 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 1: Cauliflower is absolutely the new kale. It's undeniable. Kale is 2 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:22,920 Speaker 1: now the caesar salad. Kale's famous. It's not the new star. 3 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: It has a Hollywood star on the Walk of Fame, 4 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,479 Speaker 1: and it's in all it's it's it's by the way 5 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:30,319 Speaker 1: kales now in all see that they just take the 6 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: limited caesar salad with chicken. They don't even say kale. 7 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: It's just part of the salad. Now. Kale is part 8 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: of that lettuce family. It's just like it lives and 9 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: breeds and is like cohabitating with romane, which I applaud 10 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:44,600 Speaker 1: because romane doesn't have a ton of nutritional value. I 11 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: love them together. Kale can be aggressive great, but so 12 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 1: kale is off. You know, it's not psychotic where everything's 13 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 1: about kale, but the it's psychotic about cauliflower. As famous 14 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: as a vegetable can be, you can't. You can't think 15 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: of a more famous vegetable. Brussels sprouts has taken a 16 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: real back seat on menus. It's not Mushrooms are absolutely 17 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,399 Speaker 1: someone needs to revitalize mushroom's career. They're not as big 18 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 1: as they were. Um a rugolas kale now too, it's 19 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: just one of those, one of those greens. So somebody 20 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: needs to make a new green famous. And I feel 21 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:28,400 Speaker 1: like there's room for vegetables. I feel like lima bean 22 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: is really one of those ones, because the theme here 23 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 1: is things that when you were a kid you were 24 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 1: sad to have to eat. Brussels sprouts made kids cry, 25 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: pease make kids cry. Colliflower way more than brussels, I mean, 26 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: way more than broccoli made kids cry. So if you 27 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: think about the kids crying vegetables, you could be onto something. 28 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:51,560 Speaker 1: And I feel like the only untapped kids crying vegetable 29 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: is lima beans. So I think I'm gonna bring lamy 30 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:57,560 Speaker 1: beans back and don't walk around with me and copy me. 31 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: I will come for you, okay. And it's not because 32 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: sucotash is lima beans and corn um corn is very 33 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: popucorn street corn is You're being salted by it all times, 34 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: but it's still corn is not that popular over I'm 35 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: not gonna lie. I'm not gonna make up things that 36 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:12,679 Speaker 1: aren't true. Corn has always been somewhat popular in the 37 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: summer summer, and that street corn thing is the thing 38 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 1: in Mexican restaurants, but it's not it's not famous like 39 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: like cauliflower. Lima beans are only really used it with 40 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: some succotash, which is like little peppers and carrots, and 41 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: it's I don't like it. It's burpie. So I'm gonna 42 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: look up ways to use lima beans. I feel like 43 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: snow peas have had there's they're not like they weren't 44 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: tortured for most kids. What are other torch beats? But 45 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:36,360 Speaker 1: beets are sort of popular. But beets are two beats. 46 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: And pomegranates can never be cauliflower. I know the pomegranates 47 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 1: are famous, and I know that they're like pomegranate juice 48 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: is famous. Pomegranate as the little seed can never be 49 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: as famous as Kim Kardashian and cauliflower because of the 50 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: stain factor and beats beats upstairs on it makes some 51 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:58,679 Speaker 1: beats just it's just sad for them. Turnips I could 52 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 1: bring to I can make turnips popular Lima beans and 53 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: those are turn parsnips. I know they do parts of 54 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 1: pure I'm not trying to trying to leaks. Egg Plant 55 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: is a classic and it's it's it goes to parmesan. 56 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:12,959 Speaker 1: It doesn't need it's had its moment eg plants like Frank, 57 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: like Frank Sinatra, like it's it's always gonna be very relevant. Um, 58 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 1: I'd like to represent leaks, lima beans, turnips, parsnips, and 59 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,519 Speaker 1: green peppers. I'd like to represent them, not red Red's 60 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: low hanging for it. Everyone knows, like that's fine. I'd 61 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: like to represent those on popular vegetables. I thought of Okra, 62 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: but I just thought like, let's not try to do 63 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,119 Speaker 1: things we can, like, let's not try to aim too high. Okay, 64 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: I'm not going to discover Justin Bieber. I'm just trying 65 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 1: to like make something about all those greens, those beat greens, 66 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: colar greens. Okay, you'll remember, we'll write them down. I'd 67 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: like to be the representative of loser vegetables and make 68 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: them popular. So we're gonna think of some more loser vegetables. 69 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: If you have any suggestions, I'm open and I'm going 70 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 1: to start getting really serious about making loser or peas 71 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: of is a vegetable. I I gotta I'm very busy. 72 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: I'm very busy. I Um, I'm managing vegetables. So if 73 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: you are, if you represent a vegetable, if you work 74 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: for a farm, if you have a vegetable store, if 75 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: you um or chef, if you just have some of 76 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: your vegetarian if you're um interested in the representation and 77 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: fame of vegetables like I am. I have a fascination 78 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: with the fame of vegetables and grains and grains. Keima's 79 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: as famous as it was for a minute, Kima was 80 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 1: fucking bumping. Kima is still very famous. Please don't get 81 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: upset with me. And Kima hasn't yet gotten its store 82 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: on the Walk of a but it's it's earned it. 83 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: Brown rice was famous for a while. I'll tell you 84 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 1: one that has not been famous, and you might not 85 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: even know about it. Millet. It looks like ques coust, 86 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: but it's like a healthy yellow grain. It's called millet. 87 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: Look it up and we'll see the benefits. Um spelt, 88 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: which is the same as farrow, which is off on 89 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: Italian menus. These are grains and they're very healthy. By 90 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 1: the way, I'm trying to keep this all healthy because 91 00:04:57,720 --> 00:04:59,480 Speaker 1: you could say polenta, but like I'm not, No, I 92 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 1: don't need to make corn meal popular, but like farrow 93 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 1: is very healthy. Um also bulger bulgar wheed is not 94 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:09,640 Speaker 1: popular at all. It's often in like that soup like 95 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:12,359 Speaker 1: barley I'd like to make. I'd like to work on 96 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 1: the grains the popularity of those those grains too, So 97 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: I think I can open my agency up to greens 98 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: and grains condiments. So rache is fucking massive. Seaweed is 99 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: through the goddamn ruth. I've been eating seaweed for years, 100 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: seaweeds through the roots like I've been eating sewed like, 101 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: but seaweed seaweeds salads, like different kinds of salad. Seeds 102 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: are not popular. Only those little sheets that that grow 103 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,600 Speaker 1: with the salmon recipe made popular. But like seaweed as 104 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: a whole as a category is not. There's combo, which 105 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: is very healthy for you. Seaweed could be a whole 106 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,679 Speaker 1: thing for me. I could become such a huge seaweed manager. 107 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:47,799 Speaker 1: So rachet man is just like over it's it's already 108 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: it's already peaked. What are other people using truffles? It's overexposed. 109 00:05:52,839 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm opening up my vegetable my agency to vegetables, grains, condiments. Oh, 110 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: non dairy milks are so famous and crazy and like 111 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 1: non peanut butters are massive, huge, huge. The milk Macadamian milk. 112 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,440 Speaker 1: Cash you milk? Why is there no brazil nut milk? 113 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: Let's make a brazil nut milk. Why is there no 114 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: hazel nut milk? Maybe they're not like milk. May they 115 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 1: don't like give off enough milk juice or something. But 116 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 1: that's a big one. Dairy free cheese is through the 117 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 1: fucking they have dairy free mozzarellaa. That's actually soft, like 118 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: it's not like a garbage rubbage rubber thing. Like dairy 119 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 1: free milks are huge, beyond beyond beyond. What about like 120 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,919 Speaker 1: do she is an assaibold breakfit? As I used, like 121 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,039 Speaker 1: a super berry? Right, it's like a like it's not 122 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: a goji berry, but it's like a super berry cheese. 123 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,279 Speaker 1: Seeds have benefits. We've learned that. So should I be 124 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: chia ng and flaxing and hemping or is it too 125 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: much seed lifestyle? It's too much of a seed like like, 126 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: let's try, right, let's start a whole thing where we 127 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 1: start making weirdo non pot Let's be friends with the 128 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 1: cool the non cool kids. As a bowls are famous, 129 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 1: smoothie bulls are famous, which is different than an osa 130 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: ble in what way I don't know. Grenola balls are 131 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: big and famous. Boba is huge. I feel like Boba's 132 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: a cousin of us a bowl. I don't know. I 133 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: just want to get into two food trends. I'm obsessed 134 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: with them. As you guys now have any food has 135 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: been canceled. Milk has been canceled. Ladies and gentlemen. You 136 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 1: you go somewhere and they say they don't have like 137 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 1: a non dairy milk. Paul gets a little ornery. You 138 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: don't have i'm a milk. I'm like, okay, Madonna, like 139 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: if that was somebody had oat milk the other day, 140 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: like we have oat milk. He's like, oh, I'm like 141 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: they have all milk. Like, milk has been canceled. I 142 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: apologize for your loss. Sorry for your lost milk. Um 143 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: no milks, milks over and it's been canceled. Sorry, sorry 144 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 1: for your loss. Spunt is canceled, milk is canceled. What 145 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: foods are canceled? More soon? Milke has been canceled. So 146 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: there are these it's cold, and there are these bugs 147 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: that get into the house and they look like ladybugs. 148 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: And my daughter and I keep talking about them as 149 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: ladybugs and then people are telling me on social media 150 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: they're not ladybugs. They have spots, they're red with spots, 151 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: but there's some sort of beetle okay, and that they 152 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: can be dangerous. I'm sure they're not really dangerous, but 153 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: for a while in the fall I saw them so, 154 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: and we keep thinking their ladybugs, which ladybugs. Everyone thinks 155 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 1: they're cute ladybugs, like some version of a stuffed animal, 156 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 1: because they make children's books about them. So what a ladybug? 157 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: I guess must be part of a beetle. It's called 158 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 1: I think it's part of the beetle family, but I 159 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: don't actually know. I don't know if a beetle is 160 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 1: a bug, or a bug is a beetle, or square 161 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:46,560 Speaker 1: is a rambus or ramas is a square. But I'm 162 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: gonna assume that a ladybug is a beetle. If this 163 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 1: other thing is a beetle, we have to look this up. 164 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: Someone look this up. But why is that beetle bad 165 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: and a ladybug is okay? Like are people putting leashes 166 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: on the ladybug and making them home pets? And that 167 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: that beetles bad? And then why is like a water 168 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,440 Speaker 1: bug okay, but a cock roach is not okay? Like 169 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: why are certain bugs okay and others aren't? Like we're 170 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: just like, yeah, ladybug, come on in, but if an 171 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 1: ant or like some beetle comes in, You're like, get 172 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,359 Speaker 1: the funk out of here. I need to get an exterminator. 173 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: So I just want to understand who's deciding about the bugs. 174 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: I really do. I don't know why certain bugs are 175 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: okay and certain ones aren't. But I mean, a fly 176 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 1: seems filthy and dirty. A bumblebee, you know, is scary. 177 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 1: But I think the bumblebees are the ones that don't sting, 178 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: but like they're you know, in movies as cute little 179 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:38,199 Speaker 1: fuzzy bumblebee. Bumble bee, you're a cute little bumblebee. But no, 180 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: you know, So I just want to understand why the 181 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: fly is the villain. The bumblebee can be in a 182 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: cute little kid's room. No one's putting like a fly 183 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: in their kids baby nursery. But bumblebees are everywhere. Ladybugs 184 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: are everywhere. Beetles no such thing, you know how deep 185 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: I like to get on this show. So that's something 186 00:09:55,200 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: else I'd like to discuss, you know. I talked about 187 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:12,680 Speaker 1: Kanye a lot. I haven't kept up at all with 188 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 1: the Kanye Sheens lately. I have not. It's been days. 189 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: I don't know what they're doing. I don't know if 190 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: they're sold together. I think I saw, like just scrolling 191 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: a picture of Kanye and his girlfriend, uh tongue kissing. 192 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: I think she used to went out with Drake Drake before, 193 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 1: which is amazing because like this is just a scripted 194 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: series now, she went out with Drake, who I think 195 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:35,960 Speaker 1: is or was Kanye's nemesis, like public tweets or post 196 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 1: back and forth about albums and and I guess Drake 197 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: worked with Kanye and something, and I guess there wasn't 198 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: credit given, or he went off and did it on 199 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:47,960 Speaker 1: his own, or I'm I'm mixing the story, so please 200 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 1: do not quote me on the Kanye Drake thing. But 201 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:54,199 Speaker 1: the fact that she dated Drake before, it's just amazing. 202 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 1: Why didn't Drake kind of try to make her relevant 203 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 1: like Kanye did? I mean, but she this girl, work 204 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:06,200 Speaker 1: it girl. But with the stuff that comes out about 205 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: Kanye every day and how he just decides how he 206 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: wants to handle everything and just somehow keeps on winning, 207 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 1: I think he should do live stream psychoanalysis therapy. I think. 208 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 1: I mean, I would pay to have some world renowned, 209 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 1: award winning psych psych psychoanalyst just go through with him 210 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:31,120 Speaker 1: where all of this comes from. So I just I'm 211 00:11:31,200 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 1: lobbying for and I'll do it on here. I'm not 212 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,679 Speaker 1: a psychoanalysis, but I'd love to analyze him. I would 213 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 1: like to live stream Kanye's therapy. I was away with 214 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: Paul and Brynt and we were staying in this room 215 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: that was really an actually really crappy room. It was 216 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:58,959 Speaker 1: marketed as a renovated room. It was absolutely it was 217 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:02,560 Speaker 1: absolutely terrible. And then you see the video come on 218 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: with like that music on your television advertising the property 219 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: that you're in. These gorgeous people with perfect skin, you know, 220 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: their bodies like in a bathing suit, floating in a pool, 221 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:18,200 Speaker 1: going into the spa, sliding down the water slide with 222 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: their families, just having the greatest old time, you know, 223 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: eating that gorgeous big shrimp buffet and sitting at the 224 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: restaurant having amazing bespoke cocktails with edible flowers coming out 225 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:32,559 Speaker 1: of it. And you look around in your room and 226 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: you look at the people that are on the vacation 227 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 1: you're on, and you're like, this is a commercial for 228 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:40,559 Speaker 1: a hotel that includes people that you will never see. 229 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: Don't worry, You'll never see any of these people on 230 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 1: this vacation, and we're going to show you a hotel 231 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: room that you will actually never be staying in. So 232 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:54,000 Speaker 1: none of these people in this commercial nor the accommodations 233 00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: that they are experiencing are remotely similar to anything that 234 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: you personally will be experiencing on your vacation ship. It's 235 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: almost like they should market that to the outside world, 236 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: so once you get in there, you forget what you 237 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: saw and what actually got you to stay at this 238 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 1: ship hole. So then when you get there, you're not 239 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 1: disappointed when you're actually looking at the television at these 240 00:13:14,040 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: people coming down a tube in the most beautiful aqua 241 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 1: pool water, when in reality it's not quite the same. 242 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 1: Is there are people like with kids with soggy diapers 243 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,640 Speaker 1: inside the same pool that you're in and in your 244 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:30,200 Speaker 1: room does not look anything like that room. So gotta 245 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: love false vacation advertising. Can somebody tell me what the 246 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:44,959 Speaker 1: silica gel is in every product that you order? It's 247 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 1: not a joke, I don't understand what are we supposed 248 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:50,959 Speaker 1: to do with it? What is it? What does it do? 249 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: And why is it so prevalent? And who owns it? 250 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: Who makes billions of dollars off the silica gel? And 251 00:13:58,559 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 1: it's got such a generic packaging, the white little balls 252 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:03,840 Speaker 1: in there. I don't notice anyone on here know what 253 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:06,160 Speaker 1: that stuff does, that silica gel, those little balls. We 254 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:09,720 Speaker 1: ask about everything. We ask every ingredient, We ask everything 255 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,560 Speaker 1: everywhere we go. Everybody knows the weather all day, every 256 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 1: minute of the day. How many followers they have? Everything? 257 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,120 Speaker 1: Does anybody fucking know what silica gel does? How many 258 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 1: times a week do you see silica gel? And it's like, 259 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 1: what could it possibly be doing? Is it maybe against 260 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:27,960 Speaker 1: like anthrax or something? Because it's what is it doing 261 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: next to a curling arm that you own? It's not 262 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: like it's you know what I mean, like if it 263 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: went next to sheets and you thought it was like 264 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 1: a cousin of a mothball, that it was sort of 265 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: aerating it or make it keeping it fresh. Okay, But 266 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:39,720 Speaker 1: I mean it doesn't come with food, I don't think, 267 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: But I mean silica gel comes with everything, and everyone 268 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:43,840 Speaker 1: just like you just look at it and you you 269 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: put then you put it down, like, why why do 270 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 1: you do that? With nothing else in your life? Do 271 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 1: you not look at it and be like, what is that? 272 00:14:51,000 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 1: It's crazy? Right? I have been really disciplined about my sleep. 273 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 1: I've still been on my sort of cleanse detox in January. 274 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:12,000 Speaker 1: Not obsessive or any sort of one size fits all 275 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: rule to it, but I've definitely been more conscious about 276 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:18,120 Speaker 1: being healthy and making my sleep a priority, but not 277 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 1: just saying I want to get sleep, really trying to 278 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 1: go to bed a similar time and putting my phone 279 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:27,800 Speaker 1: in another room. That's very activating, even if you're not 280 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 1: on it, just having it in your room and then 281 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 1: the second you wake up looking at it, I think 282 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: it's good. It's just a sort of cleanse. It's a 283 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:36,920 Speaker 1: tech lens. And then you could probably go even earlier, 284 00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: maybe do it at like eight or seven or something. UM. 285 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: So I've been trying to have more balance at work 286 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: and even with my staff and with my phone. UM. 287 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 1: And I have this app called Sleeptracker that goes under 288 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:52,200 Speaker 1: your bed and it's sort of you wake up and 289 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:55,800 Speaker 1: it tells you what went down with your sleep. So 290 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: sometimes I'll do my lavender and I haven't. I always 291 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: have a weighted blanket in UM. I like ritual. I 292 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 1: feel like sleep is part of a ritual, and I 293 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 1: like the ritual. But so the sleeve tracker will say 294 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:10,440 Speaker 1: to you in the morning, you wake up and you 295 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: look at it. Sometimes you thought you slept, and it'll 296 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: say slept like six hours. You thought you had a 297 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: great night's sleep, and it'll tell you deep sleep, rem sleep, 298 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 1: light sleep, whatever. So I'll wake up and it'll say 299 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: you slept eight hours and twenty one minutes. And then 300 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:26,680 Speaker 1: I'll say that's eighty one of your sleep goal out 301 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 1: of a hundred. And I'm like, what the how is 302 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 1: it only eighty one out of a hundred sleeping eight 303 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: and eight hours and twenty minutes, Like that's what's dead? 304 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:37,200 Speaker 1: Is dead? A P I just don't. I don't. I 305 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 1: don't know how I can do better, but I've been 306 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: trying trying to do better, and UM make sleep an 307 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: absolute priority. And oh another thing, I always have my 308 00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: best ideas between sleep and wake in the morning. That's 309 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: sort of hazy time. And someone once told me two 310 00:16:55,720 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 1: breathe in through your nose and in and out through 311 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: your nose, which is sort of is yoga is twenty 312 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 1: five times before you go to bed and before you 313 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:06,679 Speaker 1: wake up, which is effectively like a meditation. And I 314 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 1: definitely don't always do it, and even if you started 315 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:12,160 Speaker 1: and you don't get to it does sort of set 316 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 1: the tone for the day and calm you down and 317 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: relax and certainly at the end. And um, there's another 318 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: one that you breathe in for you hold the breath 319 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:23,000 Speaker 1: that it gets seven or eight, it doesn't matter, and 320 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:25,440 Speaker 1: then you let it go. Take seven or eight to 321 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:29,359 Speaker 1: let it go, and that literally you will fall asleep. 322 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:31,760 Speaker 1: You can't do that more than five or six times. 323 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 1: You won't even be able to count. You'll already be asleep. 324 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:37,959 Speaker 1: So I think these little changes. Um, I do a 325 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:40,640 Speaker 1: h an app like a meditation app. And I'll either 326 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 1: do a sleep story with Brin where it's some you 327 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: don't know. It could be like Matthew McConaughey telling some 328 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:49,000 Speaker 1: a Laddin story, or they just have a woman with 329 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 1: a very soft tone or a man actually telling you 330 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 1: like letting go into sleep. And now you know, it's 331 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:59,479 Speaker 1: like you're being hypnotized effectively, but it really works. So 332 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:01,640 Speaker 1: just makes sleep a priority. I just wanted to talk 333 00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: about sleep because it's been something I've been really focusing 334 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 1: on and excited about. So um I've wanted to talk 335 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 1: about family dynamics and evolving as we get older, um My, 336 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:28,960 Speaker 1: because I have a daughter now. You know, you always 337 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:31,160 Speaker 1: want to know where you came from. You always see 338 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 1: on TV stories of kids who are adopted and they 339 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: really want to find their birth parents. And so my 340 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:42,600 Speaker 1: daughter is just really curious about my mother. And they're 341 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:45,720 Speaker 1: so pure kids and you don't want to taint their 342 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 1: spirit or get them involved in things that are too complicated. 343 00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: So I've talked to her a little bit about my 344 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 1: relationship with my parents. My father passed away, so it's 345 00:18:56,040 --> 00:18:57,480 Speaker 1: not something I have to discuss with her. I don't 346 00:18:57,520 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 1: have to tell her that it wasn't always the greatest. 347 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 1: But I have said to her before, my mom wasn't, 348 00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:04,919 Speaker 1: you know, a traditional mother, and it wasn't always it 349 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 1: wasn't the same experience she's had, and but I just 350 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:09,359 Speaker 1: wouldn't just like I would never say that about her 351 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: father or anyone else. I don't say anything negative because 352 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: you just don't know how that's going to affect a child, 353 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 1: and her emotional health is very important to me, and 354 00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:23,840 Speaker 1: there's just no reason for her to hear about unpleasant things. 355 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:26,480 Speaker 1: I just don't mean, my childhood was not a childhood 356 00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:30,639 Speaker 1: and it was fairly taken away from me, but and 357 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: I was an adult as a child. But I don't 358 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 1: want that for her. And it's not that I want 359 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: her to be totally innocent. I mean, she's got her 360 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: own little attitude and her own intelligence, and she's my daughter, 361 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:44,639 Speaker 1: so she's definitely uh learned a bit or two just 362 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 1: from being around me. But I like that innocence. But 363 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:54,399 Speaker 1: it's funny how life will just change family dynamics based 364 00:19:54,400 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 1: on getting married, based on um, people getting sick, based 365 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 1: on different events. And then you have a child who's 366 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:04,960 Speaker 1: asking you a question. And my daughter was asking about 367 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 1: my mother and can we call your mama? And this 368 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 1: has been going on for years. And I used to 369 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 1: talk to therapists and say, um, you know, that's something 370 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:15,160 Speaker 1: I want to sort of keep in the drawer because 371 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 1: I don't want to open it up. And my life 372 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:18,920 Speaker 1: is going fairly well and my daughter is so amazing 373 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:21,720 Speaker 1: and I don't want to kind of mess with the 374 00:20:22,119 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 1: secret sauce of life right now, how happy she is 375 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:30,720 Speaker 1: and how great it is and so um, she's she 376 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: in the past. You know, my mother and I share 377 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: a birthday, and then it'll be Mother's Day and my 378 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,640 Speaker 1: daughter will say, we should call your mama. So we've 379 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: called her and I've just said hi, brand daughter, Bryn 380 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:41,840 Speaker 1: would like to say hello to you, and you know, 381 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 1: make it nice. And Bryan so so sweet and like 382 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:46,439 Speaker 1: so positive about it. And it's almost like she's in 383 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 1: this movie and you know, my grandma, and she fantasizes 384 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,439 Speaker 1: about it, because kids fantasize about things in a different way. 385 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 1: We become jaded as we're older, and they really want 386 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:55,880 Speaker 1: to be connected. And it makes her happy to feel 387 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:59,200 Speaker 1: like she's connected to a family beyond myself, even if 388 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 1: I didn't have the ideal relationship. And I also feel 389 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 1: like in some weird way, she's matchmaking me myself and 390 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:08,439 Speaker 1: my mother. Um, and it even can change relationships that 391 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:13,199 Speaker 1: you're in. Meaning in the past year, I've seen my 392 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:17,680 Speaker 1: mother twice. Once was just with Brian, last year ironically 393 00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: or symbolically around the new year, and this year again. 394 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: And my daughter is so patient with her. And she 395 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:25,640 Speaker 1: has a walker and has health issues, and my daughter 396 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:27,359 Speaker 1: follows her to the bathroom and doesn't want to go 397 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: swimming because we're in Florida, and wants to be with 398 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 1: her and hold her hand and to art with her. 399 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,400 Speaker 1: You realize different things. My mother is an artist. I mean, 400 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 1: she's an interior designer, but she's she's got an art 401 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 1: background and brand. My daughter is an artist, so for 402 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 1: them to connect on that in the patients. And my 403 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 1: mother told my daughter that school work is art and 404 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 1: to treat your schoolwork like and make it artistic meaning. 405 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:54,159 Speaker 1: And so my daughter makes her homework assignments. Uh, the 406 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 1: way that she kind of organizes them is very artistic 407 00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:58,639 Speaker 1: and by color and things like that, and she's been 408 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,960 Speaker 1: more motivated in school. And also, you know, it's not 409 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 1: just grandparents, because everyone says that grandparents get to be 410 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 1: different with the grandkids and they were with their own kids, 411 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:10,399 Speaker 1: which is true and I'm seeing that, but it's just 412 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: a different relationship. And it's good for my daughter because 413 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,200 Speaker 1: the more people that love my daughter, the better. And 414 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 1: whenever people get divorced and they don't like that there's 415 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 1: a new spouse or girlfriend or something in their ex 416 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: is life, I always think it's more people that love 417 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:30,000 Speaker 1: your kid. So it's a relationship. It's happening with my daughter. 418 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 1: And while I don't need to be dead center in 419 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:33,280 Speaker 1: it because it's bring up a lot of stuff for 420 00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 1: me and it's not perfect for me. UM, it's also 421 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,360 Speaker 1: something I shared with Paul, and so he at least 422 00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:41,200 Speaker 1: got to meet my mother and understands where I came from. 423 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:42,720 Speaker 1: For better or for worse. I mean, there are some 424 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:46,040 Speaker 1: negative things that happened during this dynamic in the last 425 00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 1: year that Paul really understands a lot more, and that's 426 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,680 Speaker 1: validation to like, now you understand why I'm a little 427 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: bit like this, Um. But it's positive and I guess 428 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,000 Speaker 1: I'm just talking about the shifting of family dynamics that 429 00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:03,560 Speaker 1: will surprise you, and also just not holding on where 430 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,720 Speaker 1: for years I've said I just wanted to be I 431 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,640 Speaker 1: would like I want people to be happy, whether it's 432 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:12,160 Speaker 1: my mother or my stepfather who you know. I've had 433 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,119 Speaker 1: situations I've I've I've lent family members money and then 434 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:19,719 Speaker 1: them accidentally text me as if I'm a basketball bookmaker 435 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:22,159 Speaker 1: minutes later with that exact money that I've lent. Like 436 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:23,719 Speaker 1: I've been I've seen it all. I mean, it's been 437 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 1: documented on the show. I really haven't talked about it 438 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,440 Speaker 1: to the extent that it was. It's I've I've lived 439 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: in a crazy, crazy movie. But the point is I 440 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 1: want everyone to just be happy. You know, I am 441 00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:36,399 Speaker 1: who I am because of the way that I grew up, 442 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 1: for better or for worse. And you know, we all 443 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,879 Speaker 1: know that someone's going to get sick, and you have it. 444 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:44,480 Speaker 1: You have a situation. You haven't spoken to your parents, 445 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,280 Speaker 1: you haven't spoken a family member. They're gonna get sick, 446 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,280 Speaker 1: they're gonna be in the hospital, You're gonna go You're 447 00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 1: gonna feel guilty. That's the time that you're gonna try 448 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,240 Speaker 1: to say all the things you never said, or to 449 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,920 Speaker 1: make amends or whatever, and you know it's it's maybe 450 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 1: too late. Try to keep things just sort of at bay. 451 00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,920 Speaker 1: You don't have to Everything doesn't have to be perfect. 452 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: Then it won't be the same Issues as you had 453 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:04,160 Speaker 1: as a kid will come up, but just put them 454 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:08,400 Speaker 1: in a different place, especially if you're an adult. Um 455 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,120 Speaker 1: because you know, I remember going to see my father 456 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 1: when he was dying and they had like a nanny 457 00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 1: cam on him. He was in hospice and going into hospice, 458 00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,879 Speaker 1: and I was in the other room talking to his friend, 459 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 1: and then I went in to see my father, and 460 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: his friend still could hear the cam, you know that, 461 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:24,840 Speaker 1: like you can hear the person and it's like a 462 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 1: nanny camp. And my father was saying nasty things to 463 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:32,359 Speaker 1: me on his deathbed, like just being short and nasty 464 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,400 Speaker 1: and impatient. And my friend Louis was like, wow, everything, 465 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 1: because he used to get your father. And I like, 466 00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,560 Speaker 1: he doesn't treat me well and he never has, and 467 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: he was like wow everything. Just it was so clear 468 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:44,960 Speaker 1: to me he felt bad for me. Not that I 469 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 1: was looking for that. I'm just saying dynamics, and there 470 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:52,879 Speaker 1: are people that you'll come into. You could be the 471 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,359 Speaker 1: chairman of a multibillion dollar company and you'll have a 472 00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,960 Speaker 1: dynamic with a parent that will go on for your 473 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: entire life. It will be the same dynamic is when 474 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: you were a kid and you're dealing with other people 475 00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 1: running industries and so in charge, and this person will 476 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,679 Speaker 1: make you sort of wilt like a flower. And you 477 00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:10,840 Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's funny because I used to 478 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:12,640 Speaker 1: be like that with Martha Stewart. I mean, I'm a 479 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 1: badass boss, but if I when I used to be 480 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,080 Speaker 1: around Martha Stewart. I went reverted back to as if 481 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 1: she was a parent who I wasn't getting the love 482 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 1: that I wanted. I kept going back and doing it 483 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: in a different way. So you keep coming back trying 484 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 1: to repeat the same behavior and expect different results. Um, 485 00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 1: but you know, shift with the dynamics is effectively what 486 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:34,240 Speaker 1: I'm saying, because things will change. And so if you 487 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 1: hold someone says holding onto anger is like drinking poison 488 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: and hoping the other person dies. So that's what I 489 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,800 Speaker 1: have to say about that. Let us know about your 490 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,480 Speaker 1: family dynamics. I would love to hear about it. Thank you, 491 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:53,520 Speaker 1: Remember to rate, review and subscribe and have a great day.