WEBVTT - Just B Rant: Meghan Markle's Identity Crisis

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I saw Megan Fox who looked so beautiful on

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<v Speaker 1>Drew Barrymore and I guess it was a poem she

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<v Speaker 1>wrote or something she wrote. But basically, I've been on

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<v Speaker 1>like relationship talk and self help talk, and like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>seeing a lot of different things about dating and just

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<v Speaker 1>like things are coming through. Maybe because I have a

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<v Speaker 1>dating podcast or I do dating rants, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>a lot it's coming through. But there was something where

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<v Speaker 1>Drew kind of asked her what her motivation was in

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<v Speaker 1>this piece she had written, and she was basically saying,

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<v Speaker 1>and it sounded like she was talking about her acts.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter. I'm not going to sign anything to her.

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<v Speaker 1>That she fell in love with someone's unrealized potential. Meaning

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<v Speaker 1>often we fall in love with someone's potential, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not that we just are fixers and we think someone

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<v Speaker 1>can change. It's just like you could see the island

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<v Speaker 1>and you can't imagine not being able to swim to it,

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<v Speaker 1>and some people can't swim to it. So she was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about someone that she had been in a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with and it just broke her heart that she could

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<v Speaker 1>just see what they could be but it wasn't possible.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a heartbreak. That's heartbreaking, you know, And there

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<v Speaker 1>was nothing negative about the way she said it. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just very relatable. You could fall in love with

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<v Speaker 1>someone and it's not like I said, it's not just

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<v Speaker 1>that you're a fixer. You could just it's just you

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<v Speaker 1>see potential. You know how someone can be, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like chasing the dragon. You're chasing the dragon.

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<v Speaker 1>You've seen them be a certain way, maybe in a moment,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe in their best light, maybe in the beginning, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>in the honeymoon phase, maybe in the infatuation stage and

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<v Speaker 1>the attraction stage and the sexual pheromones oxytocin stage, and

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<v Speaker 1>then it just like dissolves, and it really is like

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<v Speaker 1>chasing the dragon because you just know you've seen it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not and you just think that someone's potential is

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<v Speaker 1>to be like that all the time, and people just

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the bandwidth, you know. And then there's the

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<v Speaker 1>whole question. I talk to a lot of people on

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast about a lot of experts about if people

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<v Speaker 1>can change, and they definitely can, but it takes such

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<v Speaker 1>effort and wherewithal to do so. So I did a

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<v Speaker 1>take on Megan Markel today because Apparently she has a

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<v Speaker 1>brand called as Ever that she's partnered with Netflix on

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<v Speaker 1>It was called American Riviera Orchard, which I guess they

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<v Speaker 1>call Santa Barbara or Montecito the American Riviera. And I

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<v Speaker 1>learned from someone on social media that she wasn't able

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<v Speaker 1>to get the intellectual property or the trademark for that

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<v Speaker 1>because it's it's something that is synonymous with that area,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can't own that as a brand. But I

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<v Speaker 1>guess she didn't realize that, and that happens a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, you guys have to dot your eyes

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<v Speaker 1>and cross your t's. I literally was dealing with HBO

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<v Speaker 1>Max and the show The Big Shot. They we were

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<v Speaker 1>about to launch it and release I think the art

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<v Speaker 1>or the name, and they hadn't secured the IP, but

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<v Speaker 1>I had because I very much think in that way.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, Megan Markle hadn't secured the IP. But when

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<v Speaker 1>she told the audience why she changed the name to

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<v Speaker 1>as Ever, it wasn't that story. It was another story,

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<v Speaker 1>just saying it's more aligned with who she is, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 1>And she was in a more no makeup, fresh out

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<v Speaker 1>of bed aesthetic as a reaction to the public thinking

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<v Speaker 1>that her trailer was too glossy and too perfect Alah

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<v Speaker 1>Martha Stewart or real simple. And I think the issue

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<v Speaker 1>I said in a TikTok that the issue is I

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<v Speaker 1>think that they're having an identity crisis because Harry and

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<v Speaker 1>Meghan don't know in a post royal world who they're

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to be to everybody, and they keep listening to

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<v Speaker 1>the audience to try to decide who they are, when

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a mistake because it to be who

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<v Speaker 1>you intrinsically are. The problem is that the they they

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<v Speaker 1>sort of chee a pet their identity in the sense

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<v Speaker 1>that now they're you know, they they're philanthropists and they're

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<v Speaker 1>doing They did the whole podium tour when they were

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<v Speaker 1>doing their Netflix show and the books, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of a lot of them and that didn't land.

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<v Speaker 1>People didn't like them just going around and accepting awards

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<v Speaker 1>at podiums. And then what happened during the California fires

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<v Speaker 1>and also at another incident, was they showed up somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>to do charity, but it had the energy of showing

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<v Speaker 1>up as royals as like part of a royal duty,

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<v Speaker 1>like just it just had the energy of like Princess

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<v Speaker 1>Diana coming and showing up, but they're no longer royal.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just not landing because there is a there

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<v Speaker 1>is a suspension of reality and there's a word I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking for, a term I'm looking for, But the audience

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<v Speaker 1>is not so like let's say it's like someone from

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<v Speaker 1>Jersey Shore or Housewives, or even someone on TikTok who's

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<v Speaker 1>like you've watched become very successful. It could be Alex Cooper,

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<v Speaker 1>could be Alex or Oh, it could be anyone. You're

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<v Speaker 1>kind of watched the trajectory michaelaw the beauty influencer. You

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<v Speaker 1>understand how it happened, like you've watched what's gone on

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<v Speaker 1>in their journey and so you know how they landed here,

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<v Speaker 1>and it feels authentic. I think the problem that people

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<v Speaker 1>have with the Meghan and Harry fame and its identity

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<v Speaker 1>is they haven't really watched any sort of trajectory, Like

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<v Speaker 1>you saw that Meghan was a successful actress on a show,

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<v Speaker 1>or an actress that was on a show on a

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<v Speaker 1>successful show, and I guess she had a website and

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<v Speaker 1>was like a cute young girl. Then you saw her

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<v Speaker 1>as a royal and that made sense. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>a girl that came from you know, that life and

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<v Speaker 1>was really a fairy princess, like whisked into this life

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<v Speaker 1>so amazing, so interesting, and that track. Then them leaving

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<v Speaker 1>was just jarring for everyone, and it was abrupt, and

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't it didn't necessarily flow, and so you would

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<v Speaker 1>think they left that because they wanted some privacy, and

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't. And if they had just gone away and

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<v Speaker 1>been private for a while and re emerged with something new,

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<v Speaker 1>it would have made sense. But what happened was they

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<v Speaker 1>left and did a lot of press about it, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about it. So it was like you're staying

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<v Speaker 1>in the fame lane, but like not with any actual merit, respectfully,

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<v Speaker 1>Like they weren't doing anything in that time to connect

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<v Speaker 1>the audience with the level of fame. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>you are famous because you are a royal, but now

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<v Speaker 1>you're over here in a different category, and no one

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<v Speaker 1>understands or trusts you in that category, respectfully. When I

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<v Speaker 1>started relief work, it took me a really long time

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<v Speaker 1>to get trust in that category because that wasn't where

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<v Speaker 1>I came from. And even a Jim Carrey when I

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<v Speaker 1>used to go from comedy to a serious role. People

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<v Speaker 1>don't buy it. They don't see you there. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to walk with them and then trust that process. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I feel like it took me a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>begging and working and establishing trust slowly to enter into

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<v Speaker 1>the philanthropic space to be a philanthropist that's credible and

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<v Speaker 1>build that brand. And people just don't trust Megan Markel

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<v Speaker 1>in this brand because we haven't seen what it took

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<v Speaker 1>to get there. So one day people just see a

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<v Speaker 1>glossy kitchen that looks perfect as if she's put in

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<v Speaker 1>the blood, sweat and tears that a Martha Stewart has,

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<v Speaker 1>or even to this point, I guess at Gwyneth Paltrow,

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<v Speaker 1>but we haven't seen her do that. So people resent

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that it's called you were just in the

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<v Speaker 1>royal family, and you were you know, you had fairy

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<v Speaker 1>dust sprinkled all over you to be famous. So you

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<v Speaker 1>get to come in here and decide that you want

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<v Speaker 1>to be the glossed over Martha Stewart. So people weren't

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<v Speaker 1>having it, and then she pivoted because people weren't having

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<v Speaker 1>it to be I'm real and I'm just in the

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<v Speaker 1>backyard with my chickens making jam, and I decided as

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<v Speaker 1>ever is the brand name because that's more authentic to

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<v Speaker 1>me versus I didn't get the intel the ip like

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<v Speaker 1>it just never really fully tracks for many people because

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<v Speaker 1>people weren't involved in the process and they didn't see

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<v Speaker 1>how it went down, and so there's a suspension of

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<v Speaker 1>reality because people just don't buy it. And it's not

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<v Speaker 1>shade or hate, it's just people want to see you

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<v Speaker 1>get somewhere by putting one foot in front of the

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<v Speaker 1>other to arrive at that destination. And it's like Maggie Markle,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like Candyland. You basically got that card and went

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<v Speaker 1>from the very beginning to the end, and that's that

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<v Speaker 1>does happen. But the people resent not seeing steps, so

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<v Speaker 1>they don't buy her at the end of the game,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's she's gonna have to go back and stitch

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<v Speaker 1>that together. And I've gotten into trouble for saying things

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<v Speaker 1>about her at the wrong time. And I said crime

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<v Speaker 1>a River right before the Oprah interview when she talked

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<v Speaker 1>about racism and contemplating suicide, and it certainly didn't land

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<v Speaker 1>because it seemed like I was not compassionate about her

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<v Speaker 1>plight or I didn't believe her or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I just was like wow, to be thrust

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<v Speaker 1>into the Royal family and to just like eject so

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<v Speaker 1>quickly in that way. It was never the action, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like anything else. It was never the content, It was

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<v Speaker 1>the delivery. It was never you can want to leave

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<v Speaker 1>the Royal family. It was but how. It was never

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<v Speaker 1>you can do philanthropy or go up on a podium,

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<v Speaker 1>or launch a Netflix show or a book, or tell

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<v Speaker 1>the story. But how. The how is a b The

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<v Speaker 1>how is as important in any story as the why.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that we understand why Meghan and Harry

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<v Speaker 1>are making the choices they're making. I think that I've

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<v Speaker 1>always questioned the how. I don't I think the people

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<v Speaker 1>in twenty twenty five are ill advised because it's a

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<v Speaker 1>new world order. And I think I've said this so

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<v Speaker 1>many times. J Lo has been ill advised because she

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<v Speaker 1>has representation from a former era. They don't work in

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty five. Not everybody is a crossover artist, and

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<v Speaker 1>Blake Lively found out the hard way, and so did

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan Reynolds, that traditional celebrity doesn't land and play the

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<v Speaker 1>same way in twenty twenty five, and the same representatives

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<v Speaker 1>giving the same advice doesn't land. You have to understand

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<v Speaker 1>what goes on now. And Meghan and Harry, she's a

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<v Speaker 1>traditional actress that went into a traditional royal family and

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<v Speaker 1>they're trying to now make that institutional knowledge work in

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<v Speaker 1>a non traditional twenty twenty and it really doesn't land

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<v Speaker 1>because they don't because they're ill advised. That's the truth.

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to advise all of these people. And

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<v Speaker 1>the reason I know that I would be good at

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<v Speaker 1>it is because representatives from all the teams that I've mentioned,

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<v Speaker 1>not Megan's, but have reached out to me because they

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<v Speaker 1>are nervous about my take end or they know that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm spot on and have asked people in common with me,

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<v Speaker 1>like what does she think we should do? Or why

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<v Speaker 1>is she saying this? Like I know that I'm onto

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<v Speaker 1>something with the way that I view these people's choices

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<v Speaker 1>in this new world. Even trumpa Milania are acting very different.

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<v Speaker 1>Even Jeff Bezos, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, They're all acting different.

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<v Speaker 1>It's twenty twenty five. It's very different. We are in

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<v Speaker 1>the upside down to the coster, to the conster, to

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<v Speaker 1>the Conster