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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in. Mike was not on.

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Speaker 3: Mike was not on.

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Speaker 4: Today is a Dear Bonia episode. Email advice?

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Speaker 3: Yep, you know what.

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Speaker 2: I have this thing where I see people on like

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Speaker 2: podcast clips on TikTok of people giving advice, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: why everyone feel like.

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Speaker 4: Entitled to have advices? And I was like, because we

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Speaker 4: have like full episodes when we do that. But we

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Speaker 4: also know we're not We're not really like we're sitting here.

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Speaker 3: We're not sitting here saying we're clinically proven to solve all.

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Speaker 2: Your We don't act like we're like full philosophical or anything.

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Speaker 2: We're just like we're acting as your friends who would

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Speaker 2: give you, Like if you were coming to us and

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Speaker 2: you're like, hey, BECs, Hey Becks and ton.

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Speaker 4: I have a problem. What do you think about this?

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Speaker 4: That's how we see it.

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Speaker 3: And sometimes it's is nice to just bounce ideas off

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Speaker 3: other people. It's not like we're saying this you should

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Speaker 3: take this advice and do it. It's just like this is

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Speaker 3: what we would do, right, yeah, and then make your

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Speaker 3: own decision.

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Speaker 1: M hm, exactly so there are deer Banya episodes and ask.

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Speaker 3: I'm glad you asked Mark.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm glad we can clear this up for everybody.

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Speaker 3: So dear Bonya is more of like an email response.

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Speaker 3: Ask Bonya is more of like an a m fire

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Speaker 3: rapid fire. Yeah, like, what's your favorite taco season?

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Speaker 4: Wait? Speaking of really really.

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Speaker 3: Human?

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Speaker 4: Oh, I just like a little blend, like taco season,

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Speaker 4: like blend. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So on the plane, not from Florida, yeah, but from Canada,

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Speaker 2: I'm sitting with my headphones in listening to music, just

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Speaker 2: in my own world. I think my eyes were even closed,

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Speaker 2: and the guy next to me taps my shoulder great and.

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Speaker 4: I was like Hi. He's like hi, so are you?

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Speaker 4: Are you from here? Like starts a full conversation. I

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Speaker 2: Didn't have the it to be like, okay, my shoulders.

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Speaker 4: I was like, this is so Tanya, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, it's very funny. On Robbie's flight to New York,

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Speaker 3: I texted him and I was like, hey, like, how's

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Speaker 3: it going or what are And I was like, do

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Speaker 3: you have someone next to you that you could talk to?

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Speaker 3: And he sent me a picture of literally the two

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Speaker 3: he was like, no, chatter is in my and on

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Speaker 1: Yeah, mine too. I don't want to talk to anybody.

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Speaker 1: I just want to put in my earbuds and watch

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Speaker 1: sit and watch movies all the time. Oh it's bliss.

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Speaker 2: I this was like an hour flight because I had

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Speaker 4: This, like I felt like we were this close to

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Speaker 3: Was so like, yeah, you're very well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but didn't he like this guy was like flirting

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Speaker 2: was like, oh, I'm visiting my girlfriend. So the whole

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Speaker 2: with my girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: Well, and so at the end of the.

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Speaker 2: And I hadn't said anything about being single, and I

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Speaker 3: I know, but that's what I'm saying because like people

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Speaker 2: So I'm talking about going to visit my girlfriend. I'm

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Speaker 1: And but it was at the end of the flight

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Speaker 2: Yes, like for an hour we had a conversation and

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Speaker 4: He was married. He was like talking about his wife.

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Speaker 3: So he was very like, oh yeah, that doesn't feel

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Speaker 3: I flew out there alone. Robbie met me out there,

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Speaker 3: and then when we flew back home, somehow Robbie sat

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Speaker 3: isn't that so wild? Yeah, he ended up switching with

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Speaker 3: was very nice and kind, but love for Robbie. You're

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Speaker 3: you and your silent flyers.

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Speaker 4: You got me. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So today we have some emails that are really seeking

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Speaker 2: the hard hitting advice from the Where's Easton?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Becca?

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Speaker 3: Three days to figure that out?

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Speaker 4: Well, I saw.

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Speaker 2: Him sitting at the computer, and then when we were

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Speaker 3: He is doing other podcasts right now. The true Yeah,

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Speaker 1: The podcast load around here is a lot lately, and

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Speaker 1: Easton is in high demand.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but should not scrubbing in get number one priorities?

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Speaker 1: Should But you know, we don't think that's his choice.

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Speaker 3: We are flesh and blood in Burbank.

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Speaker 1: I can handle scrubbing in from a technical element, where

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Speaker 1: these other shows require Easton because nobody else knows how

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Speaker 3: Well, then don't take our time slot, understood, take that

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Speaker 3: back to the powers that be you.

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Speaker 1: I'm not taking anything anyway. You're welcome. You know them,

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Speaker 1: you have their number.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So we have some email advice questions and Mark's

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Speaker 2: gonna take it away.

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Speaker 4: We have a we have a hefty and they're good.

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Speaker 1: They're good ones. Where let's start with Angelica. I have

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Speaker 1: been an avid listener of your podcast from the beginning,

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Speaker 1: and I have always appreciated the insightful advice and perspectives

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Speaker 1: you all provide. As my fiance and I are preparing

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Speaker 1: I discovered a collection of pictures featuring my fiance and

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Speaker 1: his ex from a previous relationship nearly eight years ago.

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Speaker 1: I'm torn between two options, and one hand, I could

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Speaker 1: assuming he's genuinely forgotten about them. What should I do?

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Speaker 2: Do you know what's so interesting? For a long time,

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Speaker 2: But I cannot imagine in my relationship now not bringing this.

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Speaker 4: Up to Haley.

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Speaker 3: No, I never I.

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Speaker 4: Would not be able to to have any piece.

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Speaker 2: Correct, absolutely, and it might be as simple as.

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Speaker 3: Like, I feel two things tell us he probably has

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Speaker 3: I just don't think that he's like holding on to

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Speaker 3: I just don't believe that. So my option is either A,

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Speaker 1: Guys like to document, Guys like to archive. Guys for

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Speaker 1: this is not cool. Totally would have done that. I

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Speaker 1: still have some it's like an old photo album of

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Speaker 1: some ex girlfriends and stuff, but it's not like this

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Speaker 1: where it's you know, all these photos of them together.

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Speaker 1: But he's not looking at those photos going oh, how

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Speaker 1: I miss her? Oh she was so wonderful. It's not

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Speaker 3: He, right in his mind, right, guys are weird.

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Speaker 1: No, they're weird, They're just different.

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Speaker 3: They're weird.

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Speaker 2: I think if it was something to be worried about,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's not hiding it from you. I think it's

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Speaker 1: Interesting from anonymous Hi Becka an Tanya and Mark and Easton.

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Speaker 1: Of course, what happened?

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Speaker 3: I lost an earring?

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Speaker 4: I read this song last night.

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Speaker 1: To make a long story short, my husband will not

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Speaker 4: This don't this is this is tough.

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Speaker 2: First of all, Anonymous, I love you because you're your

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Speaker 3: Yes, so was it a belt?

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Speaker 2: It's just that when you have this, when this is

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Speaker 1: It's hary that we talked about this a few weeks ago.

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Speaker 1: The zigzag we make kids? Do you know? Kids love

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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess it's just like an old narrative

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Speaker 1: I just never wanted to teach preach anything to my kids.

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Speaker 4: I just hate that.

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Speaker 2: That's that's such a complicated that's so complicated.

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Speaker 1: Like, I feel like everything's got a character that's somewhere

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Speaker 1: It's harder to teach the hate than it is to

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Speaker 3: About so many things too. It's like just so many things.

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Speaker 2: I think it's just my biggest thing is not being

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Speaker 4: But good luck. We love you, and I love.

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Speaker 3: You can get through anything. Yeah, you can get through

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Speaker 1: Right, should we take a break and think about it? Here, Oh,

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Speaker 1: let's tease. It's a radio technique. As we tease, let's see.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, here, I'll just read it. Here's a little

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Speaker 4: Wow, we left you with the teaser teaser of the century.

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Speaker 4: All right, get to it Mark.

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Speaker 1: Thank you from Sarah. Hi Tan, you're back at Mark

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Speaker 1: and Easton. I love the pod and I have been

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Speaker 1: I feel like we would be great friends.

443
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Speaker 3: Me too.

444
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:26,199
Speaker 1: I'm getting married soon, but my fiance got into a

445
00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 1: heated discussion with his father a month ago when his

446
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,320
Speaker 1: dad found out one of his sisters was not invited

447
00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:33,200
Speaker 1: to the wedding. We're having a somewhat intimate wedding, only

448
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 1: seventy people, lots of ants and uncles on all four

449
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:39,160
Speaker 1: sides are not invited. This escalated and my father accusing

450
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,720
Speaker 1: him of being embarrassed of him and his family. My

451
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 1: fiance is an only child of divorced parents, and his

452
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:47,120
Speaker 1: father has been known to be stubborn and difficult. He's

453
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:49,440
Speaker 1: been stewing over the argument that he texted us both

454
00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:51,760
Speaker 1: individually at three am to tell us he would not

455
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,639
Speaker 1: be coming to our wedding. My fiance keeps telling me

456
00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,800
Speaker 1: he'll handle it, but I know it would kill him

457
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,240
Speaker 1: not to have his father at our wedding. What should

458
00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:00,879
Speaker 1: I do? Should I still out of it? Should I

459
00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:02,040
Speaker 1: say something to his dad?

460
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 2: Weddings are so complicated, the invite list and people.

461
00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:12,160
Speaker 3: I don't I might just be like on a different planet.

462
00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:15,919
Speaker 3: But like, I don't care if somebody doesn't bring me

463
00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 3: a gift to my wedding. I'm not going to be

464
00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:19,040
Speaker 3: thinking about that in ten years.

465
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:20,920
Speaker 1: Like I feel like people say that now.

466
00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:23,440
Speaker 3: It's true, I say it now, but like I just don't.

467
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 3: I just I don't know, Like I think people just

468
00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:29,200
Speaker 3: get so wound up over so many things about weddings

469
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:31,520
Speaker 3: when it's just like it doesn't need to it's not

470
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:32,120
Speaker 3: that serious.

471
00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:33,800
Speaker 1: I that were worked out because we talked about this

472
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 1: on the radio show with Sisany. Sisney remembers everybody who

473
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,159
Speaker 1: didn't give a gift at their wedding, and so do

474
00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 1: I really yes, uh, And it's not that we despise them.

475
00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 1: It's just always on the back of your mind. My

476
00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 1: uncle Rick may he rest in peace, did not give

477
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,439
Speaker 1: us a wedding gift, but he was at our wedding

478
00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:54,880
Speaker 1: drank from the free bar all night long. No gift

479
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:59,880
Speaker 1: from Uncle Rick. Okay, oversight, who knows honest mistake loft

480
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,159
Speaker 1: in the mail. I don't know, but it's always in

481
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,879
Speaker 1: the back of my mind. Uncle Rick didn't give us

482
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Speaker 1: a gift, so that is so interesting.

483
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't. I don't know that.

484
00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 1: I don't wish ill upon him.

485
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:10,720
Speaker 3: I know, I know, but it's like, but it's that,

486
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 3: it's that like I don't know what the word is.

487
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 3: It's just not yeah, but it's something. It's something just there.

488
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:24,159
Speaker 3: It's something like if I was a little yeah, right,

489
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,000
Speaker 3: but I feel like people just get so it's like

490
00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 3: they're having a seven Do you know how small seventy

491
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 3: people are?

492
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, seventy was like I think Dean and Kalin's.

493
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 3: That is nothing, especially when you have large families like

494
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 3: that could literally be I don't even think that would

495
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 3: be our immediate family would be seventy more than that. Yeah,

496
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 3: Rob and I combined, seventy is very intimate. So the

497
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 3: fact that they're not inviting who is it his brother's

498
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 3: uncle or.

499
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:58,479
Speaker 2: Something, her father in law, her father in law sister.

500
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Speaker 1: The group's dad. Sister is not invited and Dad's making

501
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 1: a big deal.

502
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,159
Speaker 3: Lot, Okay, but it's not it's their wedding.

503
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, But also, like my parents wanted to invite all

504
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 1: kinds of people, and we relented because they were helping

505
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 1: pay for it. So fine, you can bring your friend

506
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: from mom's friend from work came, Yeah, dad's cousin.

507
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 2: But what if they're not paying for sure, But if

508
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 2: they're not paying for it, that we don't have that information.

509
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,160
Speaker 3: We don't have that. That is critical information.

510
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,480
Speaker 1: But here's the bottom line. To me, I think you

511
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,159
Speaker 1: got to stay out of it. I think this is

512
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 1: between your husband, your fiance, and his father. I don't

513
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 1: think you get involved here.

514
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:36,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree.

515
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Speaker 2: I don't think there's anything you can do to make

516
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 2: it better. I mean, unless you invite the sister.

517
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 3: But yeah, just just say that, Just say invited her.

518
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:46,959
Speaker 3: It's not worth but it's not worth not having his

519
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 3: dad there, like, truly, one more person make it seventy one.

520
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that opens the whole Pandora's box, doesn't.

521
00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:56,920
Speaker 4: The other aunts and uncles are invited.

522
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,200
Speaker 3: If he's making us, if he makes a think about one,

523
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,159
Speaker 3: you get the one and that's it.

524
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: And then you get a plus one and could be

525
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: a sister instead of.

526
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:08,120
Speaker 3: His plus one and come give him a plus one

527
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:13,360
Speaker 3: and come, I don't like, that's.

528
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 1: Not as good as Ringer.

529
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 3: No, Ringer, that might be that was a good suggestion.

530
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,720
Speaker 3: If she wants to suggest to him, just screw it,

531
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:21,680
Speaker 3: just added to the list.

532
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 4: Squeeze her and squeezer.

533
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 1: But dad's having this temper tandrum. Do you want to

534
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 1: reward such a temper.

535
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,360
Speaker 4: If it's based off of him not going to.

536
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 3: Then yeah you do. I mean, I can't imagine my

537
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 3: parents ever acting like this, but if it were, if

538
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 3: they weren't going to come to my wedding because I

539
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 3: didn't invite like Sally Sue, I was just feeling.

540
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 4: My mom's sister's name, so.

541
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 3: It could be further from my parents siblings like truly,

542
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:52,520
Speaker 3: But if they if they wanted me to invite Sally

543
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 3: Sue or they're not coming, I would just throw her in.

544
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.

545
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 3: I would.

546
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 2: I would stay out of it one hundred percent, and

547
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:01,480
Speaker 2: I would just offer your husband your fiance, like, hey,

548
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: I want your dad. I know it's important that your

549
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: dad comes to the wedding. So if this is between

550
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 2: I'm inviting one more person or not, let's just have

551
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 2: her come be her plus one.

552
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: Sure, and then back off and let your husband figure

553
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 1: it out. His family suck.

554
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 2: So I this is why, this is, this is why

555
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 2: the wedding thing. I'm just like, I don't know if

556
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,719
Speaker 2: I can do it. I have so many I have

557
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:25,120
Speaker 2: so many people that would be upset.

558
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know it's very stressful. I don't like it.

559
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 3: I must feel like that's why I'm like pushing it

560
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 3: away so far, because I.

561
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: Better have a plus seven to Tanya upset. Yeah, I

562
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,200
Speaker 1: got seven people that want to come. My neighbors down

563
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 1: the streets. They're fans.

564
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:39,639
Speaker 3: You're invited, but like it was close that.

565
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 1: I'm sure.

566
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 4: He made the cut.

567
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: But I made both lists.

568
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're on both lists.

569
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, because there's a smaller list. I didn't. I

570
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:52,439
Speaker 1: wasn't try to make the smaller list.

571
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 3: There's a smaller breaking news. Well it's in case we

572
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 3: do this one venue, it has to be forty people less.

573
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:04,120
Speaker 3: Oh wow yeah big cut. Yeah, Godrick gets ruthless in there,

574
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 3: like I all six of you? Bye.

575
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 4: Yeah.

576
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: From anonymous. My husband and I've been trying to conceive

577
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: for five months. We're in our late twenties, taking all

578
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,640
Speaker 1: the steps, changing our diets, vitamins, no success yet. I'm

579
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: a grooms woman in my best friend's wedding in the spring.

580
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,479
Speaker 1: That's a whole other. By the way, that's not what

581
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 1: his email is about, but that's fascinating me. I'm a

582
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: grooms woman. I'm my best friend's wedding in the spring,

583
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 1: and I was hoping the timeline would play out that

584
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,239
Speaker 1: I would have a baby prior to the wedding. At

585
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,399
Speaker 1: this point, that timeline is unrealistic. We've been friends for

586
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: over twenty years. He was also in my wedding. I'd

587
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 1: really love to be there. Getting to the wedding requires

588
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: flying or a ten plus hour car ride. Either would

589
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 1: be tricky with a newborn or in my third trimester.

590
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 1: So my question is should my husband continue trying to conceive,

591
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 1: knowing if I do get pregnant in the next few months,

592
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: I may have to miss my best friend's wedding. Or

593
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,360
Speaker 1: do we take a couple of months off from trying

594
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: so that I can't attend the wedding? For sure, my

595
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 1: hesitation with waiting is that I want to lose out

596
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 1: on a valuable time when we've already he had five

597
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 1: months of trying with no success.

598
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: I mean, you already know my answer.

599
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 1: I have a strong opinion.

600
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 4: Oh oh really, what are your strong opinions.

601
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: I think you wait, oh, I think you keep trying.

602
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 3: You have the rest of your life to she's they're

603
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 3: in their twenties, late twenty but this is this is.

604
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 1: The phase they're in right now. They are trying. They're

605
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: actively trying. I don't think you stop trying just for

606
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 1: a wedding. You have no idea what's going to happen.

607
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:30,639
Speaker 3: This is a rest friend of over twenty years that

608
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 3: was in her wedding.

609
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,120
Speaker 1: In my opinion, well let's how about this. I give mine,

610
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: she gives yours, then you to clear away.

611
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, okay.

612
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 3: Well you have to pick a side then yeah, okay.

613
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 1: I just feel like if you do get pregnant, how glorious.

614
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 1: What if this is your opportunity get pregnant, live your life.

615
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 1: Don't base it on someone else's wedding. That's so odd.

616
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 3: This isn't somebody else. This is her best friend of

617
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 3: twenty years, so they're in their late twenties. You cannot

618
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 3: try for two or three months and then continue trying

619
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,040
Speaker 3: in two or three months for another.

620
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: The priority is the baby and your family. You keep trying,

621
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 1: and by the way, what are the odds that exactly,

622
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: it's going to be in your third trimester, or you're

623
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 1: going to have a newborn. None of this may happen.

624
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: So I think you keep trying, you keep the process

625
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 1: going in whatever that means, and then when it happens,

626
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 1: it happens. You can't base it on somebody else's life.

627
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 1: Basic focus on you.

628
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 3: This is a life, your memory. This is like your

629
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 3: best friend's wedding of twenty years that you want. You're

630
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: gonna have that memory for the rest of your life. Sure,

631
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 3: and she doesn't know it's gonna like I think.

632
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: She can still go. She may be in her second trimester,

633
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: maybe the kid is six months old. We don't know.

634
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 3: I mean, okay, Rebecca, so hold on, hold on, hold on,

635
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 3: hold on. Do you agree with somebody.

636
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: I'm sure think of great?

637
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 4: Do you want to start the drum roll again?

638
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 1: Okay, here we go.

639
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 3: I have a feeling this is not gonna go well

640
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 3: for me.

641
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: I say, keep trying for a baby. Janya says, go

642
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 1: to this.

643
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 2: Wedding, take a break.

644
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 3: If your friend's wedding, drink some alcohol, party it up,

645
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:31,959
Speaker 3: live it up.

646
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 1: Alcohol should not be your priority.

647
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 3: That's not it's her best friend's wedding. That's the priority.

648
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: Becca.

649
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 2: I think that you wait, and I think that you

650
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 2: I think that you have sex with your husband and

651
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 2: just have fun and not try and if it happens,

652
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 2: it happens. But I don't think I think you take

653
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: a break because I think also you're probably very stressed

654
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 2: not getting pregnant at like they and trying.

655
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 4: So if you take the pressure off and wait, don't

656
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 4: you just.

657
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 2: Happen bull In, Yeah, don't have any protection and like

658
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 2: do what you do, but don't make it like intentional

659
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 2: where you're like, you know, following a schedule where you're

660
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 2: you know, putting in the effort and work into like

661
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 2: when you're having sex. Not But I think that you

662
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 2: take the pressure off yourself, you wait a few months,

663
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: just kind of do what you do.

664
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 4: If it happens, amazing.

665
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 2: Your friend is going to be so happy for you,

666
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 2: because that's also a huge part of life, is you know,

667
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 2: making that next step and if it doesn't happen, then

668
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 2: you get to go to your best friend's wedding and

669
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 2: enjoy yourself and it.

670
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 3: You know, it's kind of a hybrid and not really

671
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 3: it's more my side of the kind of.

672
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: Hybrid kind of what I said, she said, keep going,

673
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: keep having sex. She said, wait, basically half and half.

674
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 1: But I like what you're saying about taking away the

675
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 1: stress of it. The stress of it is a lot

676
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: is the ovulation timers and all that stuff that take.

677
00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 4: That, the vitamins, the diet.

678
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 3: Just like, oh my gosh, I'm already stressed that about

679
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 3: that stuff. And I'm not even trying for baby until

680
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 3: after we get married, and I'm already stressed doing blood

681
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 3: work in this and that. It's very I.

682
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 2: Know, and I stress a lot of times when people

683
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 2: either go Okay, we're not going to do that anymore,

684
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: they end up getting pregnant.

685
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: Absolutely, so Becca has the best advice.

686
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 4: Wow it guys, really my Also, it was.

687
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 1: A hybrid of the exactly fifty to fifty, but it

688
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: was a team effort.

689
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 3: More so much it was a team effort.

690
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: Let's see, this is from a scrubber in need, which

691
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: one a scrubber in need.

692
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 4: Which aims from a scrubber in need?

693
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 1: Okay, Hi, Becca, Tanya Marcern Easton, I'm a longtime listener

694
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: and found of the podcast. Thank you for brightening up

695
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: so many of my days over the years. That's my

696
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 1: favorite part of that first line. I moved into a

697
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: house with my friend and her boyfriend over a month ago.

698
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: I love the house, love the location, love the rent,

699
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,959
Speaker 1: and the friends. After two years of travel nursing, It's

700
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: the first place I've called home in a while, and

701
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: I'm very grateful for it. That being said, two story house,

702
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: all the bedroom's upstairs, and I can hear my roommates

703
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: doing it at least three to four times a week.

704
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 1: It's even woken me up before. I'm happy for them,

705
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: and they're presumably fantastic sex life, but boy, it really

706
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: makes me feel weird. Do I say something? What do

707
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: I even say? I've lived with other couples before this

708
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 1: has never been an issue, and for reference, were on

709
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: her late twenties and early thirties.

710
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 3: Definitely need to say something.

711
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 4: It's so funny because like, if this was you, I'd

712
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 4: be like.

713
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 2: Yo, yeah, I heard everything.

714
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 3: I would too. I would say it too, because because

715
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 3: you don't want you don't want to be heard, just

716
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 3: as much as I don't want to hear you.

717
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 2: Right exactly, Yeah, Like I think your friend would be like,

718
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 2: oh my god, I am so sorry.

719
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 4: I had no idea.

720
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 2: I mean, the thing, the other option is that you

721
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 2: put your head noise canceling headphones in and.

722
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: How some white noise because honestly.

723
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, but here's the thing, this is their house. Yeah,

724
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 2: they should be able to have sex and be as

725
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 2: loud as they want.

726
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: They can't. They have to do it quietly from now on.

727
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 4: You would hate that.

728
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 5: First of all, put a pillow over your head and

729
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 5: call it a day every time whatever, if your if

730
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 5: your roommate is hearing it, and you can also they

731
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 5: can maybe try and have sex on nights when like

732
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 5: you're out partying on the town or maybe you're out

733
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 5: of town, or.

734
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 3: Like maybe they can cater to like waiting till you're

735
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 3: asleep or I don't know, like I would want to know.

736
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 3: I would want to know.

737
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 4: I definitely think you just let them know.

738
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, because they keep doing it, then do the white

739
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 3: noise and the noise counseling headphones whatever, but like you

740
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 3: have to let them know.

741
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 4: Yeah.

742
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 2: I wonder if her room is like right next to theirs,

743
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 2: like if there's another room option, you know, like further

744
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 2: down the hall or something like.

745
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 4: If they're sharing a wall. That's really hard because that means.

746
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 3: I used to hear my room. It wasn't even my roommates.

747
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 3: It was the apartment next to mine. I could hear.

748
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 4: Mine by the way wall.

749
00:33:56,080 --> 00:34:00,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, this was not was Cheeky's wall.

750
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 1: Morning show.

751
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

752
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 3: I would hear his TV like I could hear the

753
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,360
Speaker 3: TV on. I couldn't quite hear what they were saying,

754
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 3: but I could hear the TV on from my other

755
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 3: room against the Yeah, I was like, you know, if

756
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 3: I hung out in this room a lot, I might

757
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 3: hear something. Well.

758
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 2: I definitely think it's a conversation because I think she

759
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 2: would not want to. I don't think she'd want you

760
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 2: to suffer through hearing them have sex three to four times.

761
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 1: They could conscious.

762
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 2: It's really hard because it's like it'd be one thing

763
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 2: that she was just staying there for a couple of weeks.

764
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 4: But if she's a traveling nurse, she probably does.

765
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 2: But if there han't it three or four times a week,

766
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 2: that's not just like once here and there.

767
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 1: Definitely, Okay, this is from Ashley. Could we move on?

768
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 4: So the advice is that she should have a conversation

769
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:55,439
Speaker 4: with her friend.

770
00:34:55,640 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: Maybe, but I guess, yeah, maybe just her girlfriend, Yeah,

771
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 1: not the boyfriend. I agree, Yeah, that's good.

772
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,359
Speaker 2: Hey, did you know you can hear everything through these

773
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:08,760
Speaker 2: walls in this house?

774
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 1: Yeah? This is way to do it more subtly, or

775
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 1: you could record it.

776
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 3: It's yeah exactly.

777
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 1: From Ashley High, Scrubbing and Fham. I need your advice.

778
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 1: My best friend and I are major Swifties. I'm so

779
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,839
Speaker 1: grateful we're able to get tickets to the Eras tour

780
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 1: in October. We've been counting down the days since last August.

781
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 1: This week, my boyfriend's brother surprised his family me included

782
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 1: with tickets to the tour for the week before. My

783
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: friend and I are going. Oh my gosh, I said

784
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend, I don't think I can go, and

785
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: it has not gone over well. My boyfriend also likes

786
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift, and I can understand wanting him wanting to

787
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: have the experience together, but it feels wrong one of

788
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:57,959
Speaker 1: my best friend that I've been planning this for over

789
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 1: a year. Am I completely del lou side note, I

790
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,759
Speaker 1: feel incredibly lucky to have the opportunity to see this

791
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: show twice when most people can't get tickets at all.

792
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: If I could pass along my ticket to a fellow swifty,

793
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,600
Speaker 1: I wouldn't a heartbeat I love the podcast and thank

794
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 1: you so much for your advice.

795
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 4: Here's what this.

796
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 3: Happened to us. To us, Yeah, I have this situation

797
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 3: feels familiar to me.

798
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 1: It does.

799
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 4: Well, I wrent with Haley and then went with you

800
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 4: and the group that.

801
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 3: Were gone prior with Robbie as well, So it wasn't

802
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 3: necessarily this, but I do remember it.

803
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 1: I do recall well, we had an issue in my

804
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: family that my youngest got invited to go with her friends,

805
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 1: and so my oldest freaked out, not knowing that I

806
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 1: was working on getting tickets from the radio station, which

807
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 1: I did, and so we all went together, including the

808
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,319
Speaker 1: friend and her family, and so it worked out great.

809
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:53,760
Speaker 1: But for a couple of days, Oh, it was toxic

810
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 1: in our house. Yeah, that was bad.

811
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 4: Here's my thing.

812
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 2: If he knew that you had this plan with your

813
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 2: friend for a long time and he's still got tickets

814
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 2: for the week.

815
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 3: After, It's like if you say to a friend that

816
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: you're gonna watch a movie together, Like let's say we're

817
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 3: all waiting for like the Barbie movie to come out.

818
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 3: We're like, we're gonna watch it together. We're gonna go together,

819
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 3: and then you go with someone else the week before.

820
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 3: That's ft. You can't go go with who anyone else

821
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 3: besides the friend that you got the tickets? Well, and

822
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,839
Speaker 3: you're like so stoked to go together, Nick, you made

823
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 3: that like a thing. You can't go prior.

824
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:30,919
Speaker 2: I'm team if you have a team team friend, yeah,

825
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 2: because I think it's so nice that your boyfriend's brother

826
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 2: got y'all all the tickets. But I think that you've

827
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 2: been planning this with your best friend, and I don't

828
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 2: think it would be fair. I mean, my brain is like,

829
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 2: go to both, but I'm assuming there's a plane ticket

830
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 2: or something involved where it's gonna be more money or something,

831
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 2: or it's.

832
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:52,400
Speaker 3: A friend saying like what the hell, bro Like we

833
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:53,919
Speaker 3: were supposed to go together.

834
00:37:54,760 --> 00:38:00,359
Speaker 1: Before, and then if you said to Tanya, by the way,

835
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:06,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go Taylor the week before, Chill I did.

836
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 3: The Taylor movie. Remember, we were like, we're going to

837
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 3: see it, and you're like, I got the theater. I

838
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 3: rented out the theater for everybody and invited to the premiere.

839
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 3: I'm going a week before you. I was like, hmmm,

840
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 3: that's not nice.

841
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 4: Oh I'm sorry, I did that bigger better offer.

842
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:28,319
Speaker 3: It was, Yeah, that's like quintessential l a dilemma and

843
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 3: you fell trapping. I did. I didn't stick to your friends.

844
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 3: I took the shiny object. I did, and it was

845
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 3: not nice.

846
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 4: And she sat right in front of me.

847
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 3: It was not nice, right in front.

848
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 4: Of me with their dancer.

849
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 3: To betray your friends.

850
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 1: To sit in front with Taylor foot from you. Yes,

851
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

852
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 3: I shouldn't have been shocked by the fourth of July.

853
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:54,240
Speaker 4: Oh my god, it's a full circle.

854
00:38:54,600 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 2: This is so so. You're saying, ditch the fam, sick

855
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 2: with the BFF.

856
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: Friends wants to take her, he wants to go with her.

857
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 3: I know, but sorry, I already made a commitment. I

858
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 3: am a woman of my word, committed to my friend

859
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 3: to going the two of us together for the first time.

860
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 3: And it's important for me to keep my word. You

861
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 3: want me to be loyal as in a partner, as

862
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 3: a partner, this is me.

863
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 1: Your boyfriend's gonna go without you to Taylor Swift with

864
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,399
Speaker 1: his family a week before you go. Yeah, it would

865
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,399
Speaker 1: kill you that night that your boyfriend's at the show

866
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:23,879
Speaker 1: right now.

867
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, would kill me.

868
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 1: Songs he would get.

869
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 4: Oh that could be crazy.

870
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 2: I wonder if they could get just like an extra ticket,

871
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 2: squeeze the friend in for that night.

872
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,280
Speaker 1: But boyfriend's brothers seems very generous.

873
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:44,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, my gosh, yeah, it feels like a lot of

874
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 2: tickets the family. Yeah, fam got it tickets. Yeah, I

875
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 2: would say which seat is better?

876
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 1: That's actually a consideration. And that's a really good point.

877
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 3: Yes, mess up. I don't co sign to that.

878
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 4: Okay, So weird is about that?

879
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: What if the brother got them tickets that are like

880
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: down close to the stage, and your tickets with your

881
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:08,280
Speaker 1: girlfriend upper deck.

882
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:11,840
Speaker 3: Packed with her girlfriend to do this is the Monday

883
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 3: by the way, that's how I yes, Monday, the Monday energy,

884
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Speaker 3: that's the Saturday energy.

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Speaker 1: Well Thursday talking over here that that's how we won

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Speaker 1: that with the friends is I got better tickets to

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Speaker 1: the radio station. By the way, I had to pay

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Speaker 1: for them. Now we didn't get freeviews or anything. Then

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Speaker 1: the family got family got upper deck tickets. My tickets

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Speaker 1: were down close. So week of those are the kids

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Speaker 1: and the parents set up above, And that's how it

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Speaker 1: all worked out. But that's a factor here. We cannot

893
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Speaker 1: pretend that's not a factor here.

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Speaker 3: It's irrelevant.

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Speaker 2: I think you say to your boyfriend, I love you

896
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Speaker 2: so much. And this is a really, really hard and

897
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 2: complicated decision. But I made these plans for this concert

898
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 2: to go with my best friend, and we've loved Taylor

899
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Speaker 2: Swift forever and this is going to be like a

900
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Speaker 2: very special night. And I would feel bad going and

901
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 2: seeing the concert, you know, a week before we're supposed

902
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 2: to experience it for the first time together, to be annoyed,

903
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Speaker 2: and he will be annoyed, and he I hope we'll

904
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Speaker 2: get over it and you can give the ticket. Maybe

905
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Speaker 2: there's someone else in the family who would love to go.

906
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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is hard. It's not that hard.

907
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Speaker 1: I think it is.

908
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,000
Speaker 3: I think it is too stay loyal and true.

909
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:21,879
Speaker 4: I think i'd go.

910
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Speaker 2: Before I think I think my I also would like

911
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 2: to think that my best friend would be like that

912
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 2: is so exciting that you get to go twice.

913
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: Like I get your friend's reaction.

914
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 2: Because a really really solid friend would be like, that's amazing.

915
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:39,800
Speaker 4: You get an opportunity.

916
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Speaker 2: Because like if you were like, oh, you get to

917
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Speaker 2: go and be in the same theater as Taylor Swift,

918
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Speaker 2: even though you're going to see it before me, that's

919
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 2: so epic.

920
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 4: I did.

921
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:47,479
Speaker 3: That's what I said.

922
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:48,839
Speaker 4: You're holding it against me.

923
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 3: Well, right, but I let you go. I did not stop.

924
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,279
Speaker 2: It's more of the support of like feeling like, oh,

925
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Speaker 2: I my friend, like understand, like Tanya, understand, I did deal.

926
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Speaker 1: I did right. If you'd just slash your tires to

927
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Speaker 1: stop exactly.

928
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Speaker 2: But maybe maybe you have a conversation with your friend

929
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 2: and you say, hey, this came up. I am so

930
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 2: torn because like I really wanted to experience it with

931
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Speaker 2: fresh eyes with you, but I have this opportunity to

932
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Speaker 2: go with the family.

933
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Speaker 4: I didn't know this was going to happen, Like.

934
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Speaker 3: How do our suggestion run it by the friend if

935
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Speaker 3: she's really hurt?

936
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Speaker 1: Stayed the right things, but inside you can tell her.

937
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Speaker 2: Friend, yeah all right, because it was the best advice

938
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Speaker 2: we gave the whole show. I feel like my my

939
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Speaker 2: pregnance like that was good too. But that was that

940
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Speaker 2: was ending. That was a good end.

941
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Speaker 3: That was also like piggybacking off of my combination, the

942
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 3: best of both, just like I took Monday and Thursday

943
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Speaker 3: and gave them Saturday.

944
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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Florida.

945
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:53,239
Speaker 3: Is that it I think that's it.

946
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Speaker 1: What a show?

947
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Speaker 4: What a show? Another dear Bonya.

948
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Speaker 3: And yeah, but you know how you listen to this.

949
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Speaker 3: If there are any suggestions that you may have to

950
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Speaker 3: us about, maybe guests, you would like to see, things

951
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 3: you would like us to talk about, maybe some in

952
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:12,720
Speaker 3: depth like I've you know, contrary to Marx beliefs, people

953
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 3: are into cycle sinking. And you know, if there's some

954
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:20,279
Speaker 3: some some topics that you would like us to hone

955
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 3: in on, let us know either DM us or send

956
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 3: an email to scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot.

957
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:29,760
Speaker 4: Com or DM Crystal.

958
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 1: You can post on the Facebook group.

959
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, we see it all.

960
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 3: I get lost in the Facebook group a little. I

961
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 3: don't know how you see all those.

962
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Speaker 4: Yeah, just go the page.

963
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 3: I can see when people tag me and stuff, but

964
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Speaker 3: if they if.

965
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Speaker 1: I'm not tagged, it's everything.

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Speaker 3: Please please tag me.

967
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Speaker 2: Give us suggestions. We love hearing from you. Love you

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Speaker 2: so much, Love you so much. Happy Thursday, Love you by.

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Speaker 4: Sam.

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Speaker 1: Listening to us, Sam dosed off about a half an

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Speaker 1: ho the shiit, what's the best