Speaker 1: You don't just want that car. You want confidence that
Speaker 1: you think comes with that car. You don't want that home,
Speaker 1: you want safety that you believe comes with that home.
Speaker 1: You don't just want that business, you want the self
Speaker 1: esteem that you believe comes from that business building it.
Speaker 1: And so as you're creating your vision board, it's important
Speaker 1: that you also create a verbal board, a verbal board
Speaker 1: of the emotions that you're hoping those things translate into
Speaker 1: the number one health and wellness podcast set Jay Shed. Everyone,
Speaker 1: welcome back to On Purpose. Here we are weak two
Speaker 1: of the year, and I really really hope that you're
Speaker 1: feeling clear about your goals this year. I hope you
Speaker 1: feeling clear about what you're trying to manifest this year.
Speaker 1: Last week, I gave you the hacks, the habits, the tools,
Speaker 1: the practices in order to make sure you achieve your goals.
Speaker 1: I gave you my tried and tested, proven method. And
Speaker 1: today I want to give you that shift in your mindset. See,
Speaker 1: achieving your goals is both an external and an internal
Speaker 1: aspiration and method. What I mean by that is externally,
Speaker 1: you need the strategies, the steps, the habits, the hacks,
Speaker 1: the tools. Everything I gave you last week, And what
Speaker 1: you need today is the mindset, the internal belief system,
Speaker 1: the ability to visualize, to create from within your mind.
Speaker 1: The power that exists within our mind is so underestimated
Speaker 1: and so underrated, and a lot of people will discard
Speaker 1: it as woo woo, or they'll discard it as esoteric
Speaker 1: or whatever it may be. But the truth is, there's
Speaker 1: enough research now to prove that the power of the
Speaker 1: mind is unbelievable. And I think we watch people do
Speaker 1: incredible things every day, whether it's athletes, musicians, singers, performers.
Speaker 1: We have to recognize that the ability to stretch and
Speaker 1: build our minds to achieve unbelievable things exist within all
Speaker 1: of us. And today I want to walk you through
Speaker 1: that manifestation mindset. If you are going to make this
Speaker 1: year the year that you attract what you deeply desire
Speaker 1: and want in life, then I want to help you
Speaker 1: get there through the right mindset. Sometimes you can get
Speaker 1: somewhere by pushing, and sometimes you get somewhere by feeling pulled.
Speaker 1: I want you to have both inside your toolkit. Right.
Speaker 1: I think we know we need to push forward, we
Speaker 1: need to work hard. I'm not going to sit here
Speaker 1: and say Hey, you'll just receive and you'll just attract.
Speaker 1: I don't believe in that, and I don't think that's
Speaker 1: a healthy idea to have out there. At the same time,
Speaker 1: I know lots of people who keep pushing, but they
Speaker 1: never feel pulled by what they're building. So let's start
Speaker 1: with step one of the manifestation mindset. Step one is
Speaker 1: deeply know why you want what you want, and how
Speaker 1: are you going to use it to serve and improve
Speaker 1: the lives of others. This is such an important point
Speaker 1: that is often overstepped. We always make it about us,
Speaker 1: and just think about that for a second. When you
Speaker 1: make something about you and you alone, you've actually limited
Speaker 1: the energy. Manifestation is all about abundance. It's about creating beyond,
Speaker 1: it's about impacting beyond. Peter de Amande's put it best.
Speaker 1: He said, I want to redefine the word billionaire to
Speaker 1: be someone who impacts a billion people. That's really what
Speaker 1: someone's doing. When someone creates something large, big, humongous, they've
Speaker 1: done it because they've affected a lot of people. They've
Speaker 1: directly or indirectly improved the lives or affected the lives
Speaker 1: of lots of people. And therefore the size of their
Speaker 1: success is equivalent to the size of the problem they've solved.
Speaker 1: If our only wise to solve our problem, which, by
Speaker 1: the way, in the beginning, survival is totally fine as
Speaker 1: a method of manifestation. But if we can extend it
Speaker 1: a little bit further, for it to be about improving
Speaker 1: the lives of others, for it to be about representing
Speaker 1: and creating an impact, for it to be about service,
Speaker 1: incredible things can happen. Think about it. Are you trying
Speaker 1: to change the life of your kids. Are you trying
Speaker 1: to change the life of your partner or your parents.
Speaker 1: Are you trying to change the life of your community.
Speaker 1: Are you trying to inspire future generations. It's not that
Speaker 1: you think you're that big, it's not that you think
Speaker 1: you're that important. It's that you know you're being driven
Speaker 1: by more than just numbers and data. I think so
Speaker 1: many people give up on their goals because their only
Speaker 1: motivation is to do it for themselves, and their only
Speaker 1: motivation is to provide for a limited capacity. But if
Speaker 1: we truly want to align with abundance, we also have
Speaker 1: to think abundantly. Now, how do we do this? Step
Speaker 1: number two is mastering the subconscious moments. There are two
Speaker 1: two times of the day where we're most in our subconscious,
Speaker 1: that state between being awake and being asleep. Notice how
Speaker 1: when you're just about to fall asleep, maybe having a
Speaker 1: conversation with someone. You're talking to someone and you can
Speaker 1: still hear your voice, but you can hear it get
Speaker 1: quieter and then slowly it turns off. Or in the morning,
Speaker 1: when you wake up and you allow yourself to just
Speaker 1: settle for a few moments, you haven't fully opened your eyes,
Speaker 1: you haven't grabbed for your phone yet. You know you're
Speaker 1: awake and you're not fully asleep. These two times of
Speaker 1: the day are such a powerful time to manifest because
Speaker 1: what we're doing is we're planting ideas deep in our
Speaker 1: subconscious that then have the ability to grow fruits and
Speaker 1: bear fruits as they grow throughout the day. So what
Speaker 1: I've been practicing for a few years now is that
Speaker 1: in these subconscious moments, I will implant my affirmations, and
Speaker 1: so I will affirm the mindset I want to live by.
Speaker 1: I am living a life of service and impact. I'm
Speaker 1: doing it because I believe that everyone deserves the tools,
Speaker 1: and I am so grateful to have the opportunity to
Speaker 1: share it with billions of people across the world. When
Speaker 1: you use those moments, what happens is that cynical, doubtful
Speaker 1: part of you is a bit quieter, that part of
Speaker 1: you that's always challenging, maybe even having negative self talk
Speaker 1: towards your ideas, is a little bit more silenced, and
Speaker 1: you have the ability almost to sneak past that cynical
Speaker 1: god and plant that thought. And all you have to
Speaker 1: do is just stop yourself from reaching for your phone
Speaker 1: for that thirty seconds to one minute. Have three affirmations
Speaker 1: that you've rehearsed, that you know off by heart, that
Speaker 1: you remember to say just in that moment. And hey,
Speaker 1: by the way, when you first start this, you're going
Speaker 1: to get it wrong. You're going to reach for your phone.
Speaker 1: And what I want you to do is just let
Speaker 1: go of your phone and maybe even make it the
Speaker 1: background of your phone. Make your three affirmations the background
Speaker 1: of your phone so you see them, Put your phone down,
Speaker 1: close your eyes again, and read them to yourself. I
Speaker 1: am followed by whatever it is that you wish to be,
Speaker 1: that you wish to become. Now, what does this do.
Speaker 1: It's not magic in the sense that all of a
Speaker 1: sudden you wake up and the thing you asked for
Speaker 1: is there. That's not how manifestation works. What we're doing
Speaker 1: is we're training our subconscious that is already being pulled
Speaker 1: towards a negativity bias, that's already being distracted by everything
Speaker 1: else that's going wrong. Right, what we find for a
Speaker 1: lot of us is we want to solve the easiest issue,
Speaker 1: even if it's not the deepest issue. Right. You want
Speaker 1: to solve the problem that makes you feel like you're busy,
Speaker 1: as opposed to solve the problem that actually makes your
Speaker 1: life easy it's really interesting. And our mind does the
Speaker 1: same thing. It rushes towards the things we can solve
Speaker 1: and make us feel productive, even though the thing we're
Speaker 1: actually trying to solve is something we're ignoring. And in
Speaker 1: these subconscious moments, you get to rewire that. You get
Speaker 1: to rewire your attention, your energy, and your focus subconsciously
Speaker 1: towards the things that really matter, towards the things that
Speaker 1: you want to be immersed in. If you say that
Speaker 1: in the morning, I promise you when it gets to midday,
Speaker 1: you'll still be thinking of it subconsciously and you'll actually
Speaker 1: make the right decision. If you repeat I am happy,
Speaker 1: I'm healthy, and I'm healing, you will make choices that
Speaker 1: day to be happier, to be healthier, to be healing.
Speaker 1: But when the mindset we wake up with is oh God,
Speaker 1: I'm just so tired, I'm just exhausted, I just I
Speaker 1: wish I didn't have to go to work today. Now
Speaker 1: that's what you're feeling throughout the day. I call it
Speaker 1: the rule of your most repeated thought. You will manifest
Speaker 1: your most repeated thought. You can even monitor. This is
Speaker 1: step three. What are your most repeated words to someone?
Speaker 1: If someone says, hey, what are you excited about for
Speaker 1: this year? And your answer is, oh, I don't know, really,
Speaker 1: I haven't really thought about it, and you keep saying that,
Speaker 1: what ends up happening. You keep saying it, and you
Speaker 1: keep thinking it, and you keep believing it. What we say,
Speaker 1: we think, we believe what we think. We say it
Speaker 1: and then believe it. Our beliefs are based on what
Speaker 1: we think and say consistently and repeatedly. Your most repeated
Speaker 1: thought comes your reality. The thought that you say the most,
Speaker 1: the thought that you think the most, is the thought
Speaker 1: that you will believe the most and some of the
Speaker 1: things we've said to ourselves for weeks, months, years, and
Speaker 1: decades define our trajectory without us even knowing. We have
Speaker 1: to shift at a subconscious level to transform our reality.
Speaker 1: I know you can do this. I believe you can
Speaker 1: do this. And when you repeat these affirmations and these thoughts,
Speaker 1: I want you to mean it in your mind. I
Speaker 1: want you to feel it in your heart, and I
Speaker 1: want you to believe it in your body. It's really key,
Speaker 1: and in these sub conscious times, you're actually able to
Speaker 1: do that. Mean it in your mind, believe it in
Speaker 1: your body, and feel it in your heart. Step four.
Speaker 1: Visualize the process, not the result. I'll explain what I
Speaker 1: mean if I ever say to someone, hey, close your
Speaker 1: eyes and visualize who you want to be, where you
Speaker 1: want to be. We often visualize the podium, not the process.
Speaker 1: We visualize winning, not training. You visualize achieving not building.
Speaker 1: You visualize the ending, not the starting. If you want
Speaker 1: manifestation to work for you, if you want to attract
Speaker 1: the life that you truly desire, it's about visualizing the process,
Speaker 1: not perfection. So many of us wegte so much time
Speaker 1: and energy focused on what it will look like when
Speaker 1: we get there. And while it's important to feel that
Speaker 1: in our body, it's more important to also train ourselves
Speaker 1: to visualize the process waking up early, meditating, working on
Speaker 1: our health, building that skill. What does that look like,
Speaker 1: because that's the life we have to live. We have
Speaker 1: to visualize the life we have to live in order
Speaker 1: to get to the place we want to be. And
Speaker 1: it's the life that we live that makes us great enough.
Speaker 1: That's what greatness is. Greatness is not achieving the trophy
Speaker 1: or winning the award, or getting top of the list.
Speaker 1: That's not greatness. Greatness is the discipline you developed. Greatness
Speaker 1: is the energy you harnessed. Greatness is the effort you
Speaker 1: put in. Greatness is the skills you learned, the iterations
Speaker 1: you made, the improvements and changes you worked hard to
Speaker 1: deliver on. That's greatness. So visualize that process. I would
Speaker 1: program when I lived in the monastery what I wanted
Speaker 1: my thoughts to be in the morning. I see as coding.
Speaker 1: At night, I would code my mind to say I
Speaker 1: will wake up fresh, healthy, energized and enthusiastic to meditate.
Speaker 1: And whenever I would do that and set that intention
Speaker 1: at night, I saw that it programmed and coded my
Speaker 1: mind to wake up with that in the morning, and
Speaker 1: if I decided to skip that, I could force myself
Speaker 1: to feel that in the morning. But it was so
Speaker 1: much easier to code that the night before. You set
Speaker 1: your alarm the night before to wake you up the
Speaker 1: next morning. You don't set it when you want to
Speaker 1: wake up. You set your intention, you set your coding,
Speaker 1: you set your energy the night before. Visualize the process.
Speaker 1: Visualize yourself doing the hard things. Visualize yourself strengthening your body,
Speaker 1: lifting those weights, going on that run, starting that podcast,
Speaker 1: recording an episode. Visualize the parts that are the hard parts,
Speaker 1: because those are the parts that your life will be
Speaker 1: made up of. Visualize the discomfort, not the comfort, because
Speaker 1: that's what your life will be made up of. Visualize
Speaker 1: the hard, not that easy, because that's what your mind
Speaker 1: and heart and life will be made up of. Now,
Speaker 1: when we talk about visualization, people often talk about vision boards.
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan of vision boards. Why because again,
Speaker 1: we're giving data to the mind. When I was growing up,
Speaker 1: I remember my wall was covered in lyrics, posters of rappers,
Speaker 1: music lines from interviews. It was surrounded I was fully
Speaker 1: immersed by musicians, lyricists, poets. I would stick up all
Speaker 1: this stuff with tac on my wall. My mum it
Speaker 1: drove her crazy because it would ruin the wallpaper or
Speaker 1: the paint or whatever she had under it. But I
Speaker 1: loved it. And what happened that was my life. Everything
Speaker 1: that I said sounded lyrical, everything that I felt affected me,
Speaker 1: Everything I listened to was transforming my life. That's what
Speaker 1: vision boards are, not an activity you do for two
Speaker 1: hours and then just stick it up there. It's something
Speaker 1: that allows you to immerse. And it's also picking things
Speaker 1: that really motivate you. I think sometimes we do a
Speaker 1: vision board very theoretically, but does that specific thing, does
Speaker 1: that specific feeling mean something to you? And if it
Speaker 1: is just a thing, a material thing, we have to
Speaker 1: realize what does it stand for? What am I really
Speaker 1: looking for? Because sometimes you're not really wanting that car.
Speaker 1: You're wanting confidence. You're not really wanting that home. You're
Speaker 1: wanting safety. Let's think about that for a second. You
Speaker 1: don't just want that car. You want confidence that you
Speaker 1: think comes with that car. You don't want that home.
Speaker 1: You want safety that you believe comes with that home.
Speaker 1: You don't just want that business, you want this self
Speaker 1: esteem that you believe comes from that business building it.
Speaker 1: And so as you're creating your vision board, it's important
Speaker 1: that you also create a verbal board, a verbal board
Speaker 1: of the emotions that you're hoping those things translate into.
Speaker 1: This is the biggest mistake people make with vision boards.
Speaker 1: They only have things, and then when they get the thing,
Speaker 1: they're unhappy, and when they don't get the thing, they're unhappy.
Speaker 1: But when you recognize that that thing represented a deeper
Speaker 1: feeling that you were craving, that you were chasing, that
Speaker 1: you are pursuing, that becomes a worthy pursuit. Pursuing confidence
Speaker 1: is greater than pursuing the car, and the car will
Speaker 1: come anyway. Pursuing safety is greater than pursuing that home,
Speaker 1: and the home will come anyway. Pursuing joy and abundance
Speaker 1: will attract more than pursuing a material thing that may
Speaker 1: look like it stands for that. As much as you
Speaker 1: pursue and have a vision board, have a verbal board
Speaker 1: of emotions and emotional vocabulary that you're pursuing. Our purpose
Speaker 1: in life is to pursue that vocabulary, is to pursue
Speaker 1: those emotions, is to pursue those feelings and figure out
Speaker 1: where they come from and where they arise. The next
Speaker 1: step as you're manifesting is you have to ask yourself,
Speaker 1: what's multiplying in my life? So what's going well? Because
Speaker 1: you need to zone into that. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of the time we only focus on what's going wrong.
Speaker 1: And when you only focus on what's going wrong, you're
Speaker 1: not able to double down on what's going well. So
Speaker 1: first start with what's multiplying in my life, what's cascading,
Speaker 1: what's just growing in my life and doing extremely, extremely well?
Speaker 1: And then what's actually needing to be subtracted from my life?
Speaker 1: And then and what do I need to edit in
Speaker 1: my life. One of the things I love, which I
Speaker 1: learned about through speaking to some of my friends who
Speaker 1: are therapists, is the seven seven seven method. The seven
Speaker 1: seven seven method evolves writing down what you are trying
Speaker 1: to manifest seven times in the morning and seven times
Speaker 1: at night for seven days in a row. Again, what
Speaker 1: are we doing here? What we're doing is we're programming
Speaker 1: your mind to be focused, We're programming your energy to
Speaker 1: be directed. I speak to so many people who say, Jay,
Speaker 1: I want to start a podcast, I want to start
Speaker 1: a business, And when I say to them, well, what
Speaker 1: have you been reading about for the last seven days?
Speaker 1: They go politics. I go, got it, all right, Well
Speaker 1: that isn't align. There is an alignment there. Someone will
Speaker 1: say to me, Jay, I already want to write a book,
Speaker 1: and I go, great, what have you been reading recently?
Speaker 1: What have you been learning about recently? And they say, oh,
Speaker 1: I've just been watching the football and I go okay,
Speaker 1: Well that is an align. Gandhi said it better. He
Speaker 1: said that you experience harmony when what you think, what
Speaker 1: you say, and what you do are in alignment. And
Speaker 1: I think a lot of us are misaligned. And so
Speaker 1: I want you to really reflect on how are you
Speaker 1: spending your free time? Is your free time does it
Speaker 1: sound like the life you want to live? When your
Speaker 1: free time becomes immersed in the life you want to live,
Speaker 1: your non free time becomes that life, And so you
Speaker 1: want to practice, You actually want to build that skill,
Speaker 1: You want to build that life that you so want
Speaker 1: to live in that free thirty minutes you have per day,
Speaker 1: rather than say I really want to do that, but
Speaker 1: that's not what I'm focused on. I really want to
Speaker 1: build that, but that's not where my energy is. And
Speaker 1: I think so many of us are living a misaligned life,
Speaker 1: and that's actually what's causing our challenges. Our stress and
Speaker 1: challenges are not created because we don't have good intentions,
Speaker 1: we don't have God, we don't have clear ideas. It's
Speaker 1: because our energy and our focus are misaligned and distracted.
Speaker 1: You can't attract the life you want if you live
Speaker 1: a distracted life. You can't create alignment if you're living
Speaker 1: a misaligned life. If your energy is all over the
Speaker 1: place and your focus is dispersed, it won't suddenly shift
Speaker 1: into feeling like an arrow. It just doesn't work that way, right,
Speaker 1: It doesn't work that way if you're shooting lots of arrows,
Speaker 1: or if you're looking everywhere, like let's say you're saying
Speaker 1: this is how it actually goes. You're saying, I want
Speaker 1: this arrow to hit the bull's eye. I wanted to
Speaker 1: hit that red dot in the middle. But I'm actually
Speaker 1: looking around at the leaves. I'm looking around at the trees.
Speaker 1: I'm looking around at the person over there who's kicking
Speaker 1: a soccer ball around football, looking over that side because
Speaker 1: someone's playing with their child and looking over that. You know,
Speaker 1: it's like, but my energy is so distracted, how can
Speaker 1: I attract that goal? And then, by the way, when
Speaker 1: you take the shot, you miss the target. Every ounce
Speaker 1: of our being has to be focused and fixated on
Speaker 1: that target. And you say, well, Jay, how can I
Speaker 1: because I have so many other responsibilities, And you're right,
Speaker 1: you do and you have to do all those responsibilities.
Speaker 1: But at the same time you're thinking about that target.
Speaker 1: You're thinking about how what you're learning here applies to
Speaker 1: that target. You're not seeing it as a space of friction,
Speaker 1: like these things are against each other. You're actually saying,
Speaker 1: if I solve that target, I'll actually be better at
Speaker 1: all these things I'm distracted by, right, I'll actually make
Speaker 1: better decisions. I was saying this to a friend recently,
Speaker 1: where he was trying to solve something for his family,
Speaker 1: and he's also trying to build his business, and I said, well,
Speaker 1: if you've built that business, you'd be able to solve
Speaker 1: that problem for your family. But while you think you're
Speaker 1: trying to solve the problem for your family, you actually
Speaker 1: just creating longer term issues because you're not solving the
Speaker 1: root of the problem. Often, if you look at a tree,
Speaker 1: you can try and spray the leaves, you can take
Speaker 1: care of the branches. But if we're not watering and
Speaker 1: nourishing the roots, it's not going to survive. One of
Speaker 1: my other favorite methods is keeping books open in random places.
Speaker 1: A book near my bedside table, which is all about sleep,
Speaker 1: a book on my office table, which is all about creativity.
Speaker 1: A book in my living room, which is all about
Speaker 1: community and relationships. Even if you read one paragraph while
Speaker 1: you're walking through that room, I promise you it's enough.
Speaker 1: I've spent years reading, you know, trying to read a
Speaker 1: book a day, trying to read a book a week.
Speaker 1: It's been amazing. I've learned a lot. But that's just
Speaker 1: not practical for most people. But if you just read
Speaker 1: one paragraph a day, one line a day, here's the thing.
Speaker 1: You can read a whole book and it will don't
Speaker 1: change your life until you live one line. Read one
Speaker 1: line of a book and try to live it. Then
Speaker 1: read the next line and try to live it. Not
Speaker 1: only will this make you want to read the next line,
Speaker 1: it will make you realize how powerful every line is,
Speaker 1: and you won't just understand it, you live realized how
Speaker 1: knowledge can transform your life because you applied it. Read study, apply,
Speaker 1: read study, apply, read study, apply, read, study, apply, apply
Speaker 1: what you're reading. Keep books open in random places. Read
Speaker 1: one line. I promise you if you keep them open
Speaker 1: on a page, your eyes will be drawn to it,
Speaker 1: rather than this idea of well, I'm scrolling on my
Speaker 1: phone walking through this place. Books on a shelf, haven't
Speaker 1: opened it, don't know what the first page is about,
Speaker 1: right it just you keep putting it off. This is
Speaker 1: how manifestation works. You're surrounding yoursel in that space with
Speaker 1: the energy that you want it to have. Remember, as
Speaker 1: I said in things like a monk, location has energy,
Speaker 1: time has memory. And the final step I want to
Speaker 1: share with you today is write things down on post
Speaker 1: it notes near your mirror, your bedside, and on your laptop.
Speaker 1: Those affirmations, those belief systems, the ideas, they have to
Speaker 1: be around you so that your subconscious is just absorbing
Speaker 1: them like a sponge. Our subconscious is like a child.
Speaker 1: It absorbs whatever atmosphere it's in. And what ends up
Speaker 1: happening is we often say, oh, when I'm at home,
Speaker 1: that's when I get immersed, but when I'm at work,
Speaker 1: I'm not there. We want to stay connected and rooted
Speaker 1: to that energy at all times throughout the day. I
Speaker 1: really hope, actually, I know, this will help you manifest
Speaker 1: the life that you desire. If you practice these principles,
Speaker 1: share them with me on Instagram, on TikTok, share your clips,
Speaker 1: share your stories. I want to see what you're learning,
Speaker 1: how you're growing this year. I'm with you all the way.
Speaker 1: I'm with you all the way. I'm rooting for you
Speaker 1: on forever in your corner. We're building this together. Twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five is your year. This is the year on
Speaker 1: Purpose is going to help you there. I'm going to
Speaker 1: help you get there. Stay committed, stay connected here, and
Speaker 1: I'll be back. Thank you so much. If you love
Speaker 1: this episode, you will also love my interview with Charles
Speaker 1: Douhig on how to hack your brain, change any habit effortlessly,
Speaker 1: and the secret to making better decisions. Look, am I
Speaker 1: hesitating on this because I'm scared of making the choice,
Speaker 1: because I'm scared of doing the work, Or am I
Speaker 1: sitting with this because it just doesn't feel right yet