Speaker 1: Oh Carolina, Oh honey, how are you? How are you feeling?
Speaker 1: I know we are still quarantined. Carolina is still in
Speaker 1: your house. I am still in my house. But we're
Speaker 1: seeing each other on zoom yes, and we're giving you
Speaker 1: these episodes because we don't want you to feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, we just jumped ship and then we abandoned you.
Speaker 1: Because it's like, we get so many d m s,
Speaker 1: and every time somebody would tack me like can we
Speaker 1: get a new episode, I'm like, do they not understand
Speaker 1: the pandemic is happening? But then I'm like, let me
Speaker 1: just be nice. Okay, soon, We're gonna get here soon,
Speaker 1: you know. So I'm happy we're here and that we're back. Well,
Speaker 1: I do. I do think that, you know, just a
Speaker 1: lot of people are misunderstanding just because you're working from
Speaker 1: home doesn't mean that you have a lot of free
Speaker 1: time on your hands. You know. So when I explained
Speaker 1: my schedule to people, they sit back and and here's
Speaker 1: the other thing too, you know, Um, when I explained
Speaker 1: my schedule, I always say, this is just me, this
Speaker 1: is not you know, everybody else has their own individual
Speaker 1: thing that they are going through. But like legitimately, I
Speaker 1: am more tired looking from home and doing everything that
Speaker 1: I'm doing. Then when I actually physically had to go
Speaker 1: into the city and come back home, I said, have
Speaker 1: some time to decompress. I don't have time to decompress.
Speaker 1: I go to the bathroom and I try to like
Speaker 1: find some time for myself. These children, they find me everywhere.
Speaker 1: They're like little snoop dogs. You know that no one
Speaker 1: has now dubbed himself snoop DOGG because he was just
Speaker 1: like he is all up in my business, Like he'll
Speaker 1: be laying with me. He's a career. You texting and
Speaker 1: I'll say, nobody snoop dog, don't worry about it. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean my snoop dog. If I asked you too
Speaker 1: many questions, I said yes, because you're being a detective.
Speaker 1: You know, so welcome to life in sp English. You know,
Speaker 1: we have been just trucking along. I've been talking to Honey.
Speaker 1: We've been talking about like the different dynamics now that
Speaker 1: we are at home, and you were telling me something
Speaker 1: and I howled when you said it. You were talking
Speaker 1: about Noonie taking a nap. Oh my god, god, when
Speaker 1: I let him take the six hour nap, so that
Speaker 1: he would be disappeared from my life. Listen, you know
Speaker 1: what's happening. It's like he works, but by the time
Speaker 1: he gets off of work, I'm getting up. So it's
Speaker 1: like he's back at home at eight am, and that's
Speaker 1: when I wake up. So it's like, yeah, he gets
Speaker 1: to like go to work, he gets to like take
Speaker 1: a shower, drive around, come back, do his thing. I
Speaker 1: wake up and he's here, so there is absolutely zero
Speaker 1: alone time for me period. So it's like when he
Speaker 1: does take a nap, I'm like, oh, oh, let's him
Speaker 1: take his nap. Yesterday he took the other day he
Speaker 1: took a six hour nap and I was just so
Speaker 1: quiet and I was just like, Okay, I can do
Speaker 1: whatever I want and he's not gonna ask any questions,
Speaker 1: and it was absolutely amazing. Well, no, this is some myself,
Speaker 1: because I want you just help people, the real deal,
Speaker 1: and she said, she goes, girl, I've been tiptoing for
Speaker 1: six hours around this place because I do not want
Speaker 1: this man to wake up and start. He's so mad
Speaker 1: when he woke up, was like, why did you let
Speaker 1: me sleep all day? I'm like, yeah, you look so peaceful.
Speaker 1: Why would I wake you. But girl, I whatever I wanted,
Speaker 1: I wanted. We're finding your piecetogram. I wi just stole
Speaker 1: my thing. Nobody was asking me no questions. It was
Speaker 1: it was amazing. And you know, navigating being quarantined with
Speaker 1: your significant other, um, it's different, it is, you know.
Speaker 1: So there have been many studies that have happened that
Speaker 1: talk about like whether or not your relationship has been
Speaker 1: strengthened by the quarantine or if it has been damaged.
Speaker 1: And so there are a lot of couples who are
Speaker 1: going through the rediscovery of each other. And I think
Speaker 1: that that's kind of what has happened with Mark and I.
Speaker 1: I used to always say to you, Mark and I
Speaker 1: are like two ships passing in the night, because much
Speaker 1: like your relationship. I get up in the middle of
Speaker 1: the night and I would go into the city. I
Speaker 1: wouldn't see Mark until seven o'clock at night. I maybe
Speaker 1: get one phone call. This is prior to COVID nineteen.
Speaker 1: I would maybe get one phone call. These for he
Speaker 1: would go to lunch because he would check in just
Speaker 1: say like, hey, how are you. But that was like yeah,
Speaker 1: that was like before I would go into yoga. So
Speaker 1: it would be like a quick phone call. So literally,
Speaker 1: I would not see my husband until seven o'clock at night.
Speaker 1: Now I'm with this mofo twenty four different. And you
Speaker 1: know what it is. I said to him, I go,
Speaker 1: I forgot how much I like you like. I forgot
Speaker 1: how much I like my husband like I lost a
Speaker 1: little bit of that for a while. That's so cool.
Speaker 1: It's like you're dating again. But it is in the
Speaker 1: house dating again, I know. But he gets to hit
Speaker 1: it whenever he wants. I have no excuses. Now you
Speaker 1: don't at exactly, but no, for me, we were having
Speaker 1: some issues prior to um, you know this whole, this
Speaker 1: whole situation with communication and the workload, because I have
Speaker 1: always been the person to take care of the family
Speaker 1: and the home and you know, so much so that
Speaker 1: he would ask me, where is the pasta in this place?
Speaker 1: I'm Linda, you don't even know where the pasta is? Like,
Speaker 1: go to the second drawer, it's right there. So I
Speaker 1: think that it has brought an awareness to him of
Speaker 1: everything that goes in to keep the household running and
Speaker 1: and that, you know what, I think that's amazing because
Speaker 1: it's like out of sight, out of mind. But it's
Speaker 1: like now he sees like you're working all day from
Speaker 1: the morning till the nighttime, and now it's just like
Speaker 1: it gives you an added value, you know. It's like
Speaker 1: you know when when your parents are watching you and
Speaker 1: they're watching you work hard, and you're like, they're going
Speaker 1: to be proud of me. Kind of like the same
Speaker 1: situation with like marriage. Now it's like when he sees
Speaker 1: me cleaning and cooking and working, like now, before he
Speaker 1: used to be like, oh, your job is fun, you
Speaker 1: don't do anything. Now he's like, you work too much.
Speaker 1: Get up computer. So now it's like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: Now he finally sees the amount of work that I
Speaker 1: put in and he doesn't just think I'm hanging out
Speaker 1: at a radio station having fun. Well, I think the
Speaker 1: awareness was there before, but now the awareness is heightened
Speaker 1: and he's more um sympathetic to everything that I'm juggling.
Speaker 1: It's a very sincere thing. But if you think that
Speaker 1: I haven't looked at him sideways because he's breathing too hard,
Speaker 1: or if he's opening up the chips and he's too
Speaker 1: fucking loud because I'm watching TV and I have to
Speaker 1: rewind Housewives three times because he was so loud when
Speaker 1: he eats chips. It is not all roses over here,
Speaker 1: trust me, it is not. There have been times where
Speaker 1: I banished him and I'm like, no, no, no no, no no,
Speaker 1: you stay in the living room. I'm going to the
Speaker 1: bedroom and I want my time, you know, because you
Speaker 1: do need a little bit of that separation. You do,
Speaker 1: you definitely do. It's like it took away kind of
Speaker 1: like my freedom. You know, I was I was very independent.
Speaker 1: It's like I was married, but then everything I just
Speaker 1: I did it by myself. From the moment I woke up,
Speaker 1: he was gone, and then I wouldn't again to like
Speaker 1: seven o'clock at night. But now it's just I do
Speaker 1: want to watch TV together that do you want to
Speaker 1: sit together? Do you want to eat together? It's like
Speaker 1: before I had my breakfast by myself and I what
Speaker 1: I wanted and I as long as I wanted it.
Speaker 1: Now it's just like what are we eating? I'm like,
Speaker 1: we since when the breakfast become a wee thing? I
Speaker 1: eat what I want, You eat whatever you want. So
Speaker 1: now it's like more compromising. What time are we gonna
Speaker 1: have lunch? I'm like, I can't take away from this
Speaker 1: computer like I. I just just it's nothing. You make lunch,
Speaker 1: he's try, Well, we've we've split it. So it's like
Speaker 1: he does like the breakfast every single day when he
Speaker 1: gets home from work and then lunch and dinner. I
Speaker 1: kind of like do it myself, but no, because then
Speaker 1: later on he's gonna be expecting that lunch already breakfast.
Speaker 1: I told them today, I said, I said, listen, I'm
Speaker 1: not cooking again. After outside is open. This kitchen ain't
Speaker 1: never seen me like these pots. I'm wasting the pots. Carolina.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, look at the pots. They look they're
Speaker 1: used now, but you look for a new Do you
Speaker 1: know that? I noticed that when you first started showing
Speaker 1: like your cooking skills, I said, did she get a
Speaker 1: brand new setup? Positive? Because I just never used them.
Speaker 1: They got like the flame thing. I was, No, It's
Speaker 1: just I wasn't cooking like that because maybe I would
Speaker 1: cook once a week, we would eat breakfast and lunch
Speaker 1: out six days a week. To be to be fair
Speaker 1: to you, though, you were actually doing a lot of
Speaker 1: things for work at night, so it wasn't like you
Speaker 1: weren't just not cooking because you didn't want to. Like
Speaker 1: you were doing a lot of like your music programming
Speaker 1: things that I didn't like. So we were out together. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: we were. We were out together a lot. So he
Speaker 1: would come with me to industry events and it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, label dinner and this dinner and that dinner.
Speaker 1: So we were just always eating out. It's not like,
Speaker 1: oh we were just home starving. But um, I told him,
Speaker 1: I'm like, after this, I'm not doing this anymore. And no,
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed cooking, and I
Speaker 1: love to see the joy in people's faces when they're like, yes, delicious, Yes,
Speaker 1: but it's a lot, and then you gotta clean the
Speaker 1: kitchen after that. My back hurts, girl, I need a bachotomy.
Speaker 1: My back hurt. I can't stand right now. It's final.
Speaker 1: I'm exhaustive, that's the thing. So I'm gonna put you
Speaker 1: on something. Okay, And I think that I've talked about
Speaker 1: this before, but you need to if you're so like
Speaker 1: over cooking. I cannot believe I'm bringing myself to say
Speaker 1: this because I feel like I'm becoming one of those people.
Speaker 1: Please tell me you need the instant pot, girl, You
Speaker 1: need this instant pot I made that is that the
Speaker 1: situation where you just throw stuff in it. Girl, you,
Speaker 1: I swear to you. I just put a bunch of
Speaker 1: meat in there. I put a can of crushed tomatoes,
Speaker 1: I put the I did um all of the different seasonings,
Speaker 1: and you put it on and an hour later that
Speaker 1: ship is popping so hard. Everything cooks in one pot.
Speaker 1: Everything cooks in one pot, and it's like one hour
Speaker 1: and it's like as if it was cooking all day long. Now.
Speaker 1: The only thing that I will say, it's like you
Speaker 1: become it's almost like becoming part of a cult because
Speaker 1: then you start looking at recipes. Now I don't want
Speaker 1: to use my pots and pants anymore. Now I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: what what can I make that I can throw on
Speaker 1: the instant pot. You'll be looking for the different type
Speaker 1: of stuff. Oh yeah, these hot dogs and these potatoes
Speaker 1: they can go together. I means and cabbage. The other day, cabbage,
Speaker 1: cabbage with a beef boo you on cube and boom.
Speaker 1: That was like lunch. It was so amazing. Can you
Speaker 1: put together these recipes by yourself? No, but that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You go online and you start looking and reading,
Speaker 1: it becomes this cult. Like you start following these different
Speaker 1: bloggers that all they do is instant pot and you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I know this blogger is good because I mean one
Speaker 1: of her recipes before, so I'm gonna do this one.
Speaker 1: But like, is there any dish that you have like
Speaker 1: perfected that you think is like the best now because
Speaker 1: you've done it. I'll tell you one thing. There's one
Speaker 1: dish or one particular thing that I'm never eating again
Speaker 1: after this because and that's imp on Outa's okay this
Speaker 1: and this man makes me in banada's everything in banaada
Speaker 1: case soada. I thought you were the one making it
Speaker 1: for him. No, he's making him for me. I'm never
Speaker 1: having in bananas after this. Child. He swears, he's like
Speaker 1: the banana came anything he could find and he could
Speaker 1: put it instead of an infananda, he's making it. I'll
Speaker 1: be like, bro, I've listened. I'm never eating in panadas
Speaker 1: after this. But you know what I made rasta pasta
Speaker 1: for the first time the other day, the one that
Speaker 1: you showed me on your Instagram, Yes that you got
Speaker 1: the recipe from the Okay, tell me about this? Is
Speaker 1: this like jerk chicken spices. So it's like jerk Caribbean
Speaker 1: jerk spices, so it's like a Jamaica dish and it's
Speaker 1: like pasta with chicken and shrimp and then you use
Speaker 1: Jamaican spices. And honestly, it was so good that I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: this about to be my signature dish when I go
Speaker 1: to parties. If anybody says I I got to bring
Speaker 1: a dish, I'm bringing rasta pasta. It was so was
Speaker 1: it so good? It really was so good. And I
Speaker 1: didn't go overboard with the jerk because no, he doesn't
Speaker 1: really like spices, and he was and he was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not eating that. I don't eat mastapasta girl. The
Speaker 1: day after he was, yeah, that was some good, listen.
Speaker 1: He was ready for the Jamaican food. The day after.
Speaker 1: I wasn't cooking again, but yeah, but I feel like
Speaker 1: that's that. And I made it with my sister. I
Speaker 1: think that's really what made me feel more like like, oh,
Speaker 1: I love this. I'm always going to make this because
Speaker 1: it's like she was the sus chef, so she told
Speaker 1: me what to do and I would do it, so
Speaker 1: it like bonded us. You know. Cooking for Latinos has
Speaker 1: always been like a bonding experience. You know, the center
Speaker 1: really er of the home for us, at least I
Speaker 1: know for you Tobe. You know, it's like that's where
Speaker 1: we all gravitate when we're together. Everybody goes and we
Speaker 1: have beautiful living rooms la you know the one, Yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: and it has the final over that we still have
Speaker 1: all of that, but like everybody congregates in the kitchen,
Speaker 1: that is where the heart is and Latino's love to
Speaker 1: watch other people eat call yes you know that way.
Speaker 1: It's it's just a thing. But what about you? What's
Speaker 1: your favorite dish that you that you've made during this quarantine.
Speaker 1: I okay, so this is hilarious because I have been
Speaker 1: known to make this one dish. It's called lemon chicken, right,
Speaker 1: but this lemon chicken is so bomb. It's so easy,
Speaker 1: and it's almost like a disservice for me not to
Speaker 1: share it. Like I'm not a selfish person. I used
Speaker 1: to tell my friends all the time, You've got to
Speaker 1: make this chicken. I'm telling you. So when I first
Speaker 1: started dating Mark, I went over to his place in
Speaker 1: Long Island, and I wanted to make this lemon chicken
Speaker 1: so bad because it was this guy I want to
Speaker 1: show this guy girl, this chicken was so raw. This
Speaker 1: this boy almost got food book. I didn't. It wasn't
Speaker 1: different of it, and I didn't do it well. So
Speaker 1: now I've perfected it. I have perfected this, and know
Speaker 1: what I mean, I'm really super proud of something. And
Speaker 1: you know, I've never wanted to blow myself up, but
Speaker 1: like I recorded myself, I got this equipment, I did
Speaker 1: the recipe and this is what's cooking. Carolina is like that.
Speaker 1: So I was like, this is so adorable. I loved it.
Speaker 1: You know what it was. I just said, there were
Speaker 1: all of these people who were doing all these amazing
Speaker 1: things that they've had time to do in quarantine. And
Speaker 1: I said, you know, if I get out of this
Speaker 1: quarantine and I didn't learn one thing that I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be super disappointed at myself. And so I reached out
Speaker 1: to someone and they said, why don't you just do
Speaker 1: it on I movie. I took a good two hours
Speaker 1: to just play around with I movie. And so finally
Speaker 1: my lemon chicken recipe is up for the world to see.
Speaker 1: Good make it, and you do. You have to because
Speaker 1: it is so easy and once you're perfect it, it
Speaker 1: will be your go to when people come over and say, oh,
Speaker 1: make my lemon chicken, you know, and then you say
Speaker 1: lemon chicken, and I'm thinking of like the chicken that
Speaker 1: was always that sabarrows with the pieces of lemon on
Speaker 1: top of it. No, child, it's like that's chicken front
Speaker 1: chaise or some ship. Okay, my fault. Listen, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know what lemon chicken is about. I gotta
Speaker 1: make this is good. You said some borrows. No, yeah,
Speaker 1: I remember they always in the window. It always had
Speaker 1: like a chicken and then it would have like lemons
Speaker 1: on top of it. So I figured I was lemon chicken.
Speaker 1: Maybe this is so much better. But you know what, honey,
Speaker 1: like this is the hard part. I have to think
Speaker 1: of breakfast, lunch, dinner. And now what I've been doing
Speaker 1: is I've been trying to like, you know, meat prices
Speaker 1: are going to go up. Have you heard about this
Speaker 1: whole thing and you know and all of this stuff. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know this has been going on for weeks. Caroline.
Speaker 1: I can actually question, do you have a freezer in
Speaker 1: your house? Full of stuffing? My freezer? I was like,
Speaker 1: I need a freezer. But then they were like a
Speaker 1: thousand dollars. I was like, we don't need a freezer. No,
Speaker 1: you don't need no, you know what it is. Um,
Speaker 1: we have a small and expert drawer, so we have
Speaker 1: our real freezer. And then we have one of those
Speaker 1: like little little refrigerators that go out like it's not
Speaker 1: a full size or anything. So it's almost like it's
Speaker 1: like a college refrigerator. It's bigger than what somebody would
Speaker 1: have in a dorm. It's almost like a mid size.
Speaker 1: It doesn't really hold a lot, but it's like first
Speaker 1: apartment type a refrigerator. I got exactly bare refrigerator, that
Speaker 1: type of refrigerator that my my twenties six year old refrigerator. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's what we have as an extra, so it
Speaker 1: doesn't really hold that much extra. But but yeah, like
Speaker 1: what I've been trying to do is if one night
Speaker 1: we have chicken, the next time we have beef. If
Speaker 1: the next set we have beef, then the next night
Speaker 1: we have like poor you know, just the variety of
Speaker 1: it all. There's just so much thought that has to
Speaker 1: go in it. So whenever my husband eats and I'm
Speaker 1: sitting there looking, you're right, let you know, say, look
Speaker 1: at you. They want to see they want to see
Speaker 1: the approval. Like, I just worked for three hours in
Speaker 1: this kitchen, and if you don't give me a damn,
Speaker 1: that's good. I'm just questioning you. This is delicious. I
Speaker 1: need that at least three times while you're and you
Speaker 1: know what, give me a rule of the eyes. Give
Speaker 1: me oh, this is so that means that you're truly
Speaker 1: enjoying it. Listen, once my husband knocks out after dinner,
Speaker 1: I'm like, he really enjoyed this. He went right to bed,
Speaker 1: Yes to sleep. Yes, he said all the time. There's
Speaker 1: gotta be some type of sedative in some of his
Speaker 1: food that you've been making, because I can't believe on
Speaker 1: that show. Thank god, he goes right to sleep after
Speaker 1: I could, because if not, I probably would be slipping
Speaker 1: some of that in there. But what are you? What
Speaker 1: are you indulging in? What are you just like? Okay,
Speaker 1: this is my comfort food. This is what I go
Speaker 1: to when I need like to just feel like, you
Speaker 1: know what, today was kind of yucky. I just need
Speaker 1: to feel better about it. You know what, I've been
Speaker 1: making cookies from scratch. Remember when I put the flower
Speaker 1: in my story and you're like, girl, that's like you
Speaker 1: can't find that anywhere. That's a hot commodity. You got flower,
Speaker 1: so you know what for whatever? I found this Martha
Speaker 1: Stewart like chocolate chip, like chewy cookie. My brother in law,
Speaker 1: he um, he likes the bake. He likes to cook.
Speaker 1: He's a boy. His name is John Tucker, and he's amazing.
Speaker 1: Every time. Every time I go to my sister's house,
Speaker 1: they have like these great cookies that he makes. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is your other sister, this is
Speaker 1: your Yeah. So I'm like, I'm like, Tucker, I need
Speaker 1: your recipe for those cookies. And he's like, oh, that's
Speaker 1: Martha Stewart's recipe. So I've been doing those cookies and
Speaker 1: then I make like three dozen and every time I
Speaker 1: feel like, oh my god, I hate Why do you
Speaker 1: have to make three dozen? I don't know the recipe.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to divide the recipe, you know
Speaker 1: what it's says. So it's like then it's like a
Speaker 1: million cookies and I'm like, Okay, I guess so I
Speaker 1: don't want to throw it out. And you do three
Speaker 1: dozen cookies because you don't know how to half the recipe. No,
Speaker 1: I don't want you. Why are you my sister I called.
Speaker 1: I called Mark the other day because I was doing recipe.
Speaker 1: I go, what's the half of the half? And he
Speaker 1: goes seriously and I go, yeah, what's the half of that?
Speaker 1: And he goes, are you being for real right now?
Speaker 1: And I go yeah, and he was it though it's
Speaker 1: a quarter, and it's like, oh my god, how do
Speaker 1: I not know that it's a quarter? I was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: it's an I'm not doing all that division. I'm not
Speaker 1: doing Google and Google. What is um? What is ounces?
Speaker 1: To leaders? Like if I get like a different type
Speaker 1: of recipe, that is the worst. I'm like sitting there
Speaker 1: trying to translate it. We're not doing that, that's me.
Speaker 1: It's like if it says one tablespoon and bacon soda,
Speaker 1: I am not doing half. I'm doing the whole thing.
Speaker 1: But cookies, I think those cookies and I feel good
Speaker 1: that I made them. I'm like, oh, I made these
Speaker 1: rooms scratch, Like I feel really accomplished when it comes
Speaker 1: to like a lot of different things, you know. And
Speaker 1: I think cooking has given me, uh a sense of like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I have a purpose, you know, Like I feed the family.
Speaker 1: It's an outlet. It's important. Yeah, yeah, yeah, most definitely.
Speaker 1: And I get to post stuff on Instagram because I'm
Speaker 1: not posting myself. I look crazy every single day. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, at least I can post my food, I
Speaker 1: can post my dog, I could post. Let you do that.
Speaker 1: I will, let you do that. You look absolutely beautiful,
Speaker 1: That's the thing. And again I'm giving advice and I
Speaker 1: don't take it myself because yes terday somebody gave me
Speaker 1: a compliment. I was like, oh my gosh, thank you.
Speaker 1: I look like a monster. I was like, oh my
Speaker 1: gotox all were off. And then I'm like thinking to myself, like,
Speaker 1: you know what, so fine, but you know what those
Speaker 1: are smiles. Those are smiles. You know, like even though
Speaker 1: I know I'm not like, you know, my tip top
Speaker 1: or whatever it is that I used to do to
Speaker 1: take care of myself, I'm healthy, my eyes can see,
Speaker 1: I can breathe, you know what I'm saying. So you
Speaker 1: know what I say, let's let's be grateful for what
Speaker 1: we do have. I know, but you know it's like
Speaker 1: with this, I kind of like came to the realization
Speaker 1: that I was just like very dependent on everything carely
Speaker 1: and that from my hair extensions, manicures, pedicures, massages, eyebrows,
Speaker 1: and then it's like now you're stripped of all of it,
Speaker 1: and it's it's that confidence of like owning it. It
Speaker 1: doesn't happen in like thirty days of being quarantined. So
Speaker 1: it's taking me a little bit of time to really
Speaker 1: feel comfortable and like catch up. We're like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: don't have long hair anymo more. Oh I don't have
Speaker 1: long I don't have long fingernails anymore. Oh I lost
Speaker 1: the arch to my eyebrow because I had become very
Speaker 1: like a perfectionist when it came to my look, when
Speaker 1: it came to my pictures, and you know, it's like
Speaker 1: makeup and yes, you've got a slay. So now it's
Speaker 1: just like, oh shit, I'll have none of that anymore.
Speaker 1: So it's taken me a little bit of time. You know.
Speaker 1: Don't you think that we're going to come back? I
Speaker 1: think I think women are going to come back. And
Speaker 1: this is my hope. My hope is that you can
Speaker 1: have a little bit of a furrier eyebrow and woman
Speaker 1: won't be as judgmental. You know. I think that we
Speaker 1: got into this cycle of just seeing Instagram influencers, models,
Speaker 1: you know, celebrities, and you know, even even I will
Speaker 1: say this, like, you know, there are women who have
Speaker 1: shamed other women for not being on their level, like
Speaker 1: for the women who don't have it all together. And
Speaker 1: I think that that's okay, Like it's okay to be
Speaker 1: forgiving and it's okay to understand it. Like you know what, mabe,
Speaker 1: this person chooses not to have their nails done every week.
Speaker 1: You know, No, I have to present some people. Oh
Speaker 1: look who they're Yes, Noah, again, this is my child
Speaker 1: in directing me. Well I'm doing work right now. But yes,
Speaker 1: my love glasses. Can you play your DS when you're outside? No,
Speaker 1: devices are not. You go outside and enjoy the fresh air.
Speaker 1: Go run around. No you haven't. You've been outside for
Speaker 1: exactly twenty minutes. Okay, so go outside and play. When
Speaker 1: it's five o'clock you can come inside. Okay, thank you,
Speaker 1: close the door. I love you, goodbye. And that work
Speaker 1: from home is exactly And I literally had I talked
Speaker 1: with them and I said, I'm gonna put on a
Speaker 1: show for you to go outside. I have the video here,
Speaker 1: I can look at them. I see them on the
Speaker 1: ring and I said, you can go and play outside,
Speaker 1: get some fresh air, because it's a beautiful day and
Speaker 1: I want you to enjoy the sunshine. But these fools
Speaker 1: keep coming in here and asking me for things, and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, they don't came in four times in
Speaker 1: one hour one like, seriously, oh my gosh, it's never ending.
Speaker 1: The requests from these children are never ending. I can't
Speaker 1: do enough for them. I can't, you know. And that's
Speaker 1: the other thing too, that I feel like it's going
Speaker 1: to be very challenging for me. I'm with them seven
Speaker 1: you guys. So I'm more concerned about them going back
Speaker 1: to school and not having me around because I think
Speaker 1: a lot of parents are going to face this when
Speaker 1: their kids go back because because like the possibility of
Speaker 1: contracting corona and you're not being able to supervise them. No,
Speaker 1: I'm more worried about them like wanting to be around
Speaker 1: me all the time, like separation, anxiety once outside is open.
Speaker 1: That could be a thing too. I go, you are
Speaker 1: going to have to go back to school. You will
Speaker 1: have to go on a bus, I said, Lena's I
Speaker 1: don't think for one second, no, But there are some
Speaker 1: parents that are like, you know, this is really amazing,
Speaker 1: and I'm not faulting them at all. If you have
Speaker 1: the capacity and the ability to do it, God bless you.
Speaker 1: I do not. I have a full time job with
Speaker 1: full time responsibilities and I cannot home school that I'm
Speaker 1: not capable of it. And that's the reason why teachers are.
Speaker 1: You know, I think the most underrated, underappreciated people that
Speaker 1: that work right now, and I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people are realizing it, so you know what's crazy. Teachers
Speaker 1: were the first ones that were like, we're not going
Speaker 1: to work close to schools, closing schools, close to schools.
Speaker 1: They were not playing. I feel like the first week
Speaker 1: teachers were like tapped out were close to schools. So
Speaker 1: props to them many they saw what we couldn't see.
Speaker 1: I guess that's why they're educators and we're not. Well.
Speaker 1: It has definitely I've always appreciated my kids teachers because
Speaker 1: I've said, like they are unsung heroes. The fact that
Speaker 1: they deal with these children every single day. Think about
Speaker 1: twenty six personalities, let's give or take. Let's say that
Speaker 1: twenty six kids in their classroom, twenty six little personalities
Speaker 1: do only with them on a day to day basis
Speaker 1: having to teach them. Oh also you got to try
Speaker 1: to kind of make it fun so that everybody has fun.
Speaker 1: There's a lot on their fleet. But now the teachers
Speaker 1: are at home and they're not only teaching our kids
Speaker 1: on zoom, but they're teaching their own kids. After that.
Speaker 1: Now they're taking care of their household. So, you know,
Speaker 1: big shoutouts to the teachers, man and the administrators, because
Speaker 1: you guys are doing the damn thing, and people who
Speaker 1: don't appreciate you, I hope their eyes have been opened,
Speaker 1: you know now that everybody's with at home, you know,
Speaker 1: with their kids, and they realize what it takes to
Speaker 1: actually like homeschool. Let's say two kids versus twenty kids.
Speaker 1: Like the appreciation for the teachers has been found all
Speaker 1: over again. How do you sent me a mean that
Speaker 1: as a first day of school and it's a mom
Speaker 1: that rolls up and she starts throwing her kids up.
Speaker 1: I said, straight up. That is when it comes September
Speaker 1: and they are allowed to go back. I will slow
Speaker 1: the car down, but you're getting out. I'm not stopping.
Speaker 1: I won't make a fool stop because then you'll try
Speaker 1: to say um, and then somebody else sent me a
Speaker 1: mean and said, you lied. My child is not a
Speaker 1: joy of having class at all, at all. I saw
Speaker 1: the other one that you put, if you have two
Speaker 1: motherfucking apples, I'm like, Carolyn, Honey, you know what it is.
Speaker 1: I just don't have the patients. And it's hard because
Speaker 1: you know you also like, I don't want to damage
Speaker 1: my children. I want them to remember this experience as
Speaker 1: like a positive one, like I wanted to remember that,
Speaker 1: you know, mommy did this. And only until they're much
Speaker 1: much older will they understand the gravity of the situation,
Speaker 1: you know, having been a working mom and still you know,
Speaker 1: doing everything with them. And I think that a lot
Speaker 1: of parents who are listening right now will understand that too.
Speaker 1: It won't be until they're in their thirties that they'll
Speaker 1: look back and be like, well, damn, how did you
Speaker 1: do that? You know? But if I have to explain
Speaker 1: a word problem again, there are seven fucking apples. If
Speaker 1: I take two motherfucking apples away, how many do I
Speaker 1: have left? Cow that dude, I want to this is
Speaker 1: over here, ready to piste at pants, so go? My
Speaker 1: mom is evil, lose my mind? I mean that's my
Speaker 1: inner dialogue. But I'm like, no, sweetheart, try it again. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't think we're looking inner dialogue. Okay, I take
Speaker 1: that back, Take that back. I cannot. I cannot because
Speaker 1: you know what, my little one now as a parrot,
Speaker 1: he says everything that I say. So, no, that's no one.
Speaker 1: No is snoop dogg. He's snooping all up in my business.
Speaker 1: He wants to know what apps I'm playing with? Mommy,
Speaker 1: who are you talking to on Instagram? How do you
Speaker 1: know this person about your fending? Yeah? Yeah, he has
Speaker 1: all open my ship. And then the other one, the
Speaker 1: little one, just repeats everything I say, so I have
Speaker 1: to be super careful. And the other day he looks
Speaker 1: at me and he goes, fucking fucking and I go
Speaker 1: and he goes, I'm just treat to remember the word
Speaker 1: that you said, mommy, because I know it's not a
Speaker 1: nice word. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I didn't
Speaker 1: so much trouble with this kid. So they are definitely
Speaker 1: keeping me busy. But you know what I was gonna
Speaker 1: tell you is that, like my comfort thing that I've
Speaker 1: been reaching for is what girl, I got a delivery? Actually,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to get you a delivery. I almost
Speaker 1: don't want to tell you what it is. What does
Speaker 1: it tell me? This ice cream that's dangerous. This place
Speaker 1: is called Sip and Swirrel. It's in New Jersey, but
Speaker 1: they have a long Island delivery, and I sniffed that
Speaker 1: out and I found out that they could deliver to me.
Speaker 1: I'm in Jersey, so you gotta put me on because
Speaker 1: I am right here. I got you. I didn't even
Speaker 1: send you a delivery. And they have the most it's
Speaker 1: the creamiest, most delicious ice cream. So I said, Mark,
Speaker 1: I go, if I'm gonna get a delivery, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get like a bunch of it so that we don't
Speaker 1: have to keep on going back and forth. You know,
Speaker 1: of course, twelve points later, Well, but you know what
Speaker 1: it is. If you're from Jersey, girl, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: be trying to Yeah, no, of course, but twelve pints.
Speaker 1: You know, like he liked it, and we got different varieties.
Speaker 1: We got cookie Monster, I got your butter Pecan, I
Speaker 1: got your peanut butter Squirrel, I got your chocolate. We
Speaker 1: go like, oh, you've got different flavors. Oh hell yeah.
Speaker 1: So whenever having a bad night. I just mat sure
Speaker 1: that I go over freeze the freezer and I get
Speaker 1: myself a little cup. And that's where the three pounds
Speaker 1: came from. By the way, Okay, that's not bad. And
Speaker 1: you know what three pounds is not bad. I feel
Speaker 1: like we could lose three pounds in a week if
Speaker 1: we really set our minds to it. I'm thinking abouting
Speaker 1: a peloton, though I'm not gonna hold you, are you like?
Speaker 1: But it's like three thousand dollars right, it's you know,
Speaker 1: I heard they make great clothing hangers, because that's what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen. So are you just gonna put your clothes
Speaker 1: on it? After all? Oh? Good god? No, Well, my
Speaker 1: gym is closed. You know, the first six weeks of
Speaker 1: the quarantine, my gym was open in my building, so
Speaker 1: I was a yeah, So I worked out, and I
Speaker 1: got into this habit of working out every single day
Speaker 1: for an hour. And then one day they were like,
Speaker 1: you know, somebody caught the police and we have to
Speaker 1: close the gym. I'm like, for real, what hater? I
Speaker 1: know it wasn't anybody who used the gym, so it
Speaker 1: must have been somebody who was walking by the gym.
Speaker 1: And hating that we were still trying to maintain our
Speaker 1: weight down. And then after that, I literally cried the
Speaker 1: day they closed the gym. I felt like that was
Speaker 1: like my last little thing and it was taken from me,
Speaker 1: and I just that day, I felt like the world
Speaker 1: was unfair, life was unfair. I didn't want to continue.
Speaker 1: I was like, really really fucked up. I just felt
Speaker 1: like that was my one last little bit escaped. That's
Speaker 1: the only one place where I would go to I'll
Speaker 1: be back. I'm going to the gym, and I had
Speaker 1: my little routine. I would put on my right clothes,
Speaker 1: I would take another gym bag, I would watch an
Speaker 1: episode of Ozark, you know, while I was working out
Speaker 1: very lightly. But it was something you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: and it's just like it was taken from me, and
Speaker 1: that day. I cried. That day. I was just so frustrated.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what else is going to happen? Yeah, now
Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe I should get a peloton, But now
Speaker 1: you're telling me, I'm just I'm trying to be funny. No,
Speaker 1: not at all. You know what, I encourage you, but
Speaker 1: I only encourage you to get one if you're going
Speaker 1: to use it because you don't want to become that
Speaker 1: thing that just collects us um. You know. Personally, I
Speaker 1: will tell you I'm a workout fanatic that home workouts.
Speaker 1: I hate it. I hate But what if this is
Speaker 1: like a new life, You're gonna have to get with it.
Speaker 1: Then Mark's gonna have to make us a gym in
Speaker 1: the basement. Okay, you're gonna have to go down there.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to figure out that musty old basement
Speaker 1: that we got down there. Get me like, you know, rip,
Speaker 1: rip up the carpeting. Actually, yeah, you know. I we
Speaker 1: have discussed that because I am a yogi. I love bulates.
Speaker 1: I need it for my back, and I don't get
Speaker 1: the same release. I don't get the same endorphins that
Speaker 1: I do normally from what I'm like working out at
Speaker 1: a gym or at a studio, working out at home.
Speaker 1: I need a mirror to check my form. I mean,
Speaker 1: and I'm not being I'm not being narcissistic. It's more
Speaker 1: I do I need it your technolork because exactly, and
Speaker 1: that's what I'm used to. I'm accustomed to it. So
Speaker 1: for me, this has been the hardest part. You know,
Speaker 1: I will tell you the one time that I cried
Speaker 1: for something so insignificant, but it was so funny. There's
Speaker 1: a whole new system that I had to get to
Speaker 1: know with my son's schooling. It's called canvas, and so
Speaker 1: the teachers post all of the assignments on canvas. Right,
Speaker 1: So my child has gym, and the gym teacher posted
Speaker 1: a bunch of the different assignments, so I didn't see them.
Speaker 1: And I have been doing I do have to say this.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to prop myself up, but I have
Speaker 1: been doing every single assignment. These boys have gone to
Speaker 1: every single class. I've been consistent. They have not missed
Speaker 1: a thing. When the gym teacher marked my assignment late,
Speaker 1: I started crying. I lost it. I was so pissed.
Speaker 1: I was like what. I was like, Oh, no, he didn't.
Speaker 1: I pulled out my phone. I was like, um, I said,
Speaker 1: and what is his name? I was like trying to
Speaker 1: find his name and I was like, excuse me, sir,
Speaker 1: but I ain't just getting to know who canvas app
Speaker 1: and I am sorry, but we were not late with that.
Speaker 1: I tried to upload a good designment. I went on
Speaker 1: a whole ramp. You were on your whole Can I
Speaker 1: speak to the manager type of vibe? I was Karen,
Speaker 1: I had my freaking Kate Gosslin haircut, I had the
Speaker 1: robe on everything I was And the future writes back
Speaker 1: and says, Oh, it's not a problem, that's just a
Speaker 1: default setting. And I'm like, you need to tell me that.
Speaker 1: I got in this emotional space and a meltdown for nothing.
Speaker 1: And I went into my closet and I was bawling
Speaker 1: my eyes out, like how am I gonna do this? Like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is so hard. Yeah, it's weird because it's like
Speaker 1: that one moment, unlicious everything that you've been feeling. Because
Speaker 1: maybe it wasn't it serious that they closed the gym,
Speaker 1: but I just that was like my worst day. During
Speaker 1: the lockdown, I was like, Okay, that's it. I have nothing.
Speaker 1: I will go nowhere. I will just sit at my
Speaker 1: my workspace a day until you know, the Blasio and
Speaker 1: Cuomo decide I can come back outside. Okay. So here's
Speaker 1: my question for you. Are you one of the people
Speaker 1: who has watched every single Cuomo press conference or are
Speaker 1: you not? Because you know there is like a whole
Speaker 1: movement around Governor Cuomo and these crazy any heat women,
Speaker 1: the older ladies trying to marry Cuomo. I'm like, come on, mom, relax,
Speaker 1: Like it's not that deep. What did they call him?
Speaker 1: The love girl? Saw that. I saw a T shirt.
Speaker 1: It's that Cuomo sexual. I'm like, yeah, really take a Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'm like, y'all taking it to another level. Somebody I
Speaker 1: work with she's like, my mom is obsessed with Cuomo. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm not, Carolina. The first few weeks I watched, but
Speaker 1: then it's like he keeps saying the same thing over
Speaker 1: and over and over and over. Every day. They just
Speaker 1: say the same thing. At this point, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: just somebody tell me when we're going outside. Other than that,
Speaker 1: I just wait for like our I heart updates that
Speaker 1: come every single hour, and I we had a great now.
Speaker 1: They have been amazing. I just read that. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not watching the Blasio, Cuomo and Murphy ol day long.
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. So I'll tell you. I cried
Speaker 1: when I had a late jim assignment. So that was
Speaker 1: one time, and then the other time when I full
Speaker 1: blown No, I mean I've cried a couple of times.
Speaker 1: I've cried, like a couple of times just from feeling
Speaker 1: overwhelmed and you know, but like, um, I'm talking full
Speaker 1: blown ugly cry, you can't catch your breath, that type
Speaker 1: of cry. What the hell happened to make you feel
Speaker 1: this way? When Cuomo announced that school was over, I
Speaker 1: was like, I had hope for June, us for coming out.
Speaker 1: He said, I had hope of June. I had hope.
Speaker 1: I said maybe June. Come on, baby, come on, let's
Speaker 1: get them back in June. Only because I didn't want
Speaker 1: this to be the end before September for good. So
Speaker 1: when he said, as of this date, we are going
Speaker 1: to announce the schools will be closed, and I said no,
Speaker 1: I had no bella crying. It was just for the
Speaker 1: kids looking at you. No, Thankfully. I was in my
Speaker 1: room by thank god, because I was like, Mommy, wish wrong. No, No,
Speaker 1: you're gonna be with me thill September. That's what's wrong.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have the heart to tell them no, you
Speaker 1: know what it is like I said, it's been a joy.
Speaker 1: It's been a joy, but it's also been really really hard.
Speaker 1: So when he said that, that's when I let least
Speaker 1: I did. I was like, I don't know how I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do this, like how am I gonna work? How
Speaker 1: am I going to be able to do all of
Speaker 1: these things? Because I was really more concerned with us
Speaker 1: opening back up. But you know what, I just it's
Speaker 1: one day at a time, it really is. At this point,
Speaker 1: it's just like I just want to stay Corona free
Speaker 1: and employed. Those are the only two things I care
Speaker 1: about right now. If that ain't the truth, you know what,
Speaker 1: there are so many people who are like seriously in
Speaker 1: they're in trouble, you know, and it's your neighbors, it's
Speaker 1: your and that's why I say, please, please have a
Speaker 1: sympathetic art right now being or actually you know, be empathetic.
Speaker 1: You know, understand that people are really really going through
Speaker 1: some hard time. So you know, um, I said the
Speaker 1: other day, I think it was a couple of weeks
Speaker 1: ago that I did this thing for Rio's and Jersey Cares,
Speaker 1: and um, you know, I said, people want to contribute,
Speaker 1: and I know that they can't monetarily, but there are
Speaker 1: ways that you can do things like on social media,
Speaker 1: like for me, if you made that dinner and use
Speaker 1: the hashtag, they would give a dinner to a family.
Speaker 1: And need you know, there are a number of ways
Speaker 1: that you can help out your brothers and sisters, because
Speaker 1: I mean, this is this is the real deal, man.
Speaker 1: Even if it's just being being there for people. You know,
Speaker 1: people want to talk right now. People want to you know,
Speaker 1: let it all out. You know, if somebody fired, they
Speaker 1: might want to talk about that every single day, you know,
Speaker 1: because it's a huge thing for them. So just listening
Speaker 1: and you know, being empathetic and you know, allowing them
Speaker 1: to vent. I feel like even even then in itself,
Speaker 1: is a way to help those people around you. Like
Speaker 1: a new and he's very close friend, he contracted COVID
Speaker 1: and he was in the hospital and you know, at
Speaker 1: one point we were like we he might die and
Speaker 1: and you know, it was all about talking to him,
Speaker 1: face timing him, checking up on him, sending him messages.
Speaker 1: It was just being there for him. And he tells
Speaker 1: us now, he's like, if it wasn't for you, guys,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have made it. Wow. Wow. So so you
Speaker 1: being there for someone goes such a long way. You know,
Speaker 1: it's not just about money. It's more about like moral support,
Speaker 1: you know, and cheering people on, especially when when people
Speaker 1: are really in the dumps, like battling corona. You have
Speaker 1: to like you see fear in people's eyes, you know,
Speaker 1: and you have to tell them like you got this,
Speaker 1: are you crazy? You know, You're gonna be better, You're
Speaker 1: gonna go home. So just being there, you know, for
Speaker 1: people right now, I think it's it's crucial. Well, I
Speaker 1: just said, you know, my um, I think I've mentioned
Speaker 1: it before. My brother is a doctor. Both of my
Speaker 1: brothers are doctor. Two of my brothers rather our doctors.
Speaker 1: My dad is a doctor. And UM, I was talking
Speaker 1: to my one brother about it. He's a pulminologist and
Speaker 1: he it practices in Ohio and UM, we were just discussing.
Speaker 1: We were saying, you know, there is going to be
Speaker 1: a huge need for mental health awareness for the medical
Speaker 1: the medical society. I think a lot of people are
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of the nurses and the doctors,
Speaker 1: they're running on adrenaline, they are running on their survival skills.
Speaker 1: They are going to their some of them are in
Speaker 1: shock from what they've seen. They're just numb and they're
Speaker 1: just going through the motions. And you know, just so
Speaker 1: I think if you have a friend or if you
Speaker 1: have a family member who was a health care provider,
Speaker 1: who was a nurse, who is a you know whatever,
Speaker 1: anybody who was in that environment. Just definitely keep an
Speaker 1: eye on them, check in and make sure that you
Speaker 1: are really on point for them, because they're gonna need
Speaker 1: you and it might not even be now, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean we saw the effects of NONE eleven even
Speaker 1: years later on families, you know. And I'm not that
Speaker 1: I'm comparing this to NONE eleven, but um, traumatic experiences
Speaker 1: basically traumatic exactly. Yeah, So they're saying that, um, once
Speaker 1: we get through this, you know, what are gonna be
Speaker 1: It's almost like an aftershock of an earthquake. And I
Speaker 1: think that is going to be a major one is
Speaker 1: just mental health awareness and making sure that people feel
Speaker 1: like they can talk and they can get through that
Speaker 1: and work through those issues and stuff. So you know,
Speaker 1: um yeah, that's that's gonna be huge for for everybody.
Speaker 1: And I think in this country we've seen it and
Speaker 1: they're talking about it in Italy who went through a really,
Speaker 1: really tough time. So you know, just be aware and
Speaker 1: if you have neighbors or if we have people who
Speaker 1: you know that have been furloughed or people who you
Speaker 1: know that have been laid off, asked them, asked them, say,
Speaker 1: you know, if you can afford it, we're ordering takeout
Speaker 1: tomorrow night. You know, can we get you guys anything?
Speaker 1: I mean, just the gesture just you know, it definitely
Speaker 1: goes a long way. Yeah, definitely provide that support. But
Speaker 1: don't ask Honey to cook anything for you because she
Speaker 1: ain't cooking. Nah, I said, I said, I was done,
Speaker 1: and then yesterday again, so I'm just talking ship. Well,
Speaker 1: you know what, sent us your recipes. I'm at the
Speaker 1: Real care Abina on all social media and tell us
Speaker 1: what you're cooking too. Where are you hunting? I am
Speaker 1: on Instagram and it's I am Honey Jereman. Hit me up.
Speaker 1: I'll hit you guys back. Send me your food, some
Speaker 1: of your recipes. I love when people hit me with
Speaker 1: with the whole like and he is my food. I'm yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: you did good. I love that. And you know you
Speaker 1: can always reach out to us if you need somebody
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