Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya ret An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody. We are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3: Yes we are. It's gonna be one of those episodes
Speaker 3: where I'm a little tired.
Speaker 4: We are straight from the mountains, yeah, Colorado into.
Speaker 3: The or into the or how you where do.
Speaker 2: We even start? It was just like such an amazing weekend.
Speaker 3: It really was, And like, you know what's so funny
Speaker 3: because I was in a sorority. I love being in
Speaker 3: spaces with people. I like sleeping with a bunch of people.
Speaker 3: I like that. I don't know that like togetherness. And
Speaker 3: I was thinking about it. I'm like, had we not,
Speaker 3: like we shared a cabin together, had we not been
Speaker 3: given that assignment for the weekend, we probably would have
Speaker 3: shared like gone separate cabins or whatever or separate rooms,
Speaker 3: and it would have been such an experience. And I'm
Speaker 3: so happy that we had that experience, the four of us.
Speaker 2: It was really fun. Like I think we were all kind.
Speaker 4: Of worried about the well, first of all, we didn't
Speaker 4: know what the cabin layout was, so we didn't know it.
Speaker 2: Like Tanya was really on one and.
Speaker 4: She was looking at the website and she was like,
Speaker 4: I think this is our room, which is a real
Speaker 4: it's just like a bed, and then there's a pullout couch.
Speaker 2: So she's like, Robbie and I will take the pull
Speaker 2: out couch.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, there's no way that there's not two
Speaker 4: rooms if they put us in the same cabin, like
Speaker 4: that makes no sense.
Speaker 2: So room, yeah, I did. Yeah, that was another.
Speaker 4: Suggestion that it was like one so it's two rooms.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So.
Speaker 4: Haley and I had the room and we just had
Speaker 4: twin beds pushed together, which I will say that was
Speaker 4: we essentially slept separate because twin beds pushed together there's
Speaker 4: a large crevice in the middle.
Speaker 3: Even still just a little hack, a life hack for everybody.
Speaker 3: If you take two twin beds, you push them together
Speaker 3: and you just take a full sheet, you can basically
Speaker 3: make like one bed.
Speaker 4: Right, But they were all they were like separate main beds.
Speaker 4: So like then he's twin had it separate cover, you know.
Speaker 4: So it was like if I wanted to be not cold,
Speaker 4: I had to be on my little bed section. Haley
Speaker 4: slept great. She was like I was in the corner
Speaker 4: by myself whatever, So it was totally fine. And then
Speaker 4: there was another bedroom that was like they weren't right
Speaker 4: next to each other.
Speaker 2: No, it was a small cabin.
Speaker 4: But and then we had the one bathroom correct, And
Speaker 4: I really appreciated Robbie. Halen and I were saying that
Speaker 4: Robbie it was a game changer because he would just
Speaker 4: go if he needed to. I believe the word Ryan
Speaker 4: used on the Morning show was aroma. If he needed
Speaker 4: to create aroma, he would go to like the main
Speaker 4: lodge or like the bathrooms the general like public bathrooms
Speaker 4: that were part of the main lodge.
Speaker 3: I'd like feel him getting up out of bed at
Speaker 3: like five thirty and where are you go? And he's
Speaker 3: like zipping up his winter coat. He's like I have
Speaker 3: to go to the bathroom.
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, what a guy.
Speaker 4: Guy.
Speaker 2: But the thing was we were like, we're so tired,
Speaker 2: like we want to have.
Speaker 3: Especially if you think Becka and Hayley are waking up
Speaker 3: in any close to any sort of hour from.
Speaker 2: Now, you're very over time.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we had a full door. So but he was
Speaker 4: just like very He never made it a big deal.
Speaker 4: He's just like, all right, I'm going to go to
Speaker 4: the bathroom. And he and and you did say he
Speaker 4: was in his he was in his element and he
Speaker 4: was like becoming you know.
Speaker 2: Robbie was is a Beverly Hills guy.
Speaker 4: Grew up in the hills of Beverly, Yes, and he
Speaker 4: was thriving in the mountain nature.
Speaker 3: Is he's such a nature mountain man. Like it's very funny,
Speaker 3: like he likes he's like likes that that. I don't
Speaker 3: know like.
Speaker 2: That he's not though he's not, but he loves it. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And so he really wants to.
Speaker 3: Throw the axe and he wants to fish, and he
Speaker 3: wants to like hike, and he wants to like be
Speaker 3: mister wilderness. It's so cute.
Speaker 4: I did get a great video of him attempting to
Speaker 4: chop the wood. Yeah, there was a outside there was
Speaker 4: already chopped wood like by the fireplace, so it wasn't
Speaker 4: like we needed it, but he really wanted.
Speaker 2: To see if he could chop it.
Speaker 4: And I really gave him a really great angle because
Speaker 4: it made it look like the log was huge.
Speaker 2: It looked like he was cutting like.
Speaker 3: A tree stump and it was his videos, so it
Speaker 3: made the tree really fall and like.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like set him up for success. So that
Speaker 4: was really fun. We had a really great time. We
Speaker 4: all had like portable mirrors that had little lights on
Speaker 4: them that you had beca Tobin had posted, so we
Speaker 4: all ordered them and yeah, we just sat at the
Speaker 4: table and got ready together the girls, which is really cute.
Speaker 3: So cute, Like when when would we ever do that?
Speaker 3: Whenever we go like travel places for the podcast, like
Speaker 3: we always get separate rooms.
Speaker 4: Yeah no, and I think that that's obviously like great,
Speaker 4: but it was I felt like it. It was it
Speaker 4: was really special this weekend to be able to do that,
Speaker 4: and yeah, it was really fun. And we did have
Speaker 4: one day We're like the water went out or something.
Speaker 4: We don't know what happened, but Tanya had asked because
Speaker 4: Haley and I got there on Thursday night, so we
Speaker 4: were there by ourselves before y'all got there the next afternoon,
Speaker 4: and we had had no problem like taking shower and
Speaker 4: like it was like it wasn't oh my gosh, this
Speaker 4: pressure is incredible, but it was like decent water pressure,
Speaker 4: and so Tony goes that could come here, I need
Speaker 4: to I need to rinse off.
Speaker 2: Is this what the water pressure was last night? And
Speaker 2: I go in it's like drips like it's literally like.
Speaker 3: Drip drip out of the faucet and I sit in
Speaker 3: the tub like I don't even know what and I'm
Speaker 3: like birdying myself clean. It was actually very comical.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so once that got situated, we were smooth sailing
Speaker 4: with sailing.
Speaker 2: It was great.
Speaker 4: I can't go, like to the bathroom, I can't go
Speaker 4: in public places like it's like I have to be
Speaker 4: very much alone. So at one point we were sitting
Speaker 4: at at the main lodge and I like looked around
Speaker 4: and I was like, there's Tanya, Robbie and Hailey. No
Speaker 4: one's in the cabin. I'm going. I just was like
Speaker 4: gotta go. Yeah, don't come in, please, don't.
Speaker 2: Sit here, don't sit here.
Speaker 4: I don't even know where to begin with the wedding festivities,
Speaker 4: because it was one of the most beautiful wedding locations
Speaker 4: and setups.
Speaker 2: But also everyone was on the.
Speaker 4: Property, so yeah, I think like sixty five people or
Speaker 4: something were actually on the property staying in the cabins
Speaker 4: on location, and it was so cool to just spend
Speaker 4: time with everybody and be together and like have the
Speaker 4: whole weekend. But also there was everyone could kind of
Speaker 4: do your own thing. They were like hikes, you get fish.
Speaker 3: It was so nice and I actually, like I want,
Speaker 3: like I feel what they created was such a it
Speaker 3: was like it was they called it camp Bell, but
Speaker 3: it felt like a little summer camp get away for
Speaker 3: just a bunch of adults, a lot of couples. And
Speaker 3: we didn't have service outside of the main lodge, so
Speaker 3: we would just like walk down to the main lodge
Speaker 3: see who was there and what they were doing, and
Speaker 3: then like if we wanted to do that with them,
Speaker 3: we would go, and like if somebody was doing something else,
Speaker 3: we'd go with them. And there was a sense of
Speaker 3: like community and camaraderie and just like good old fashioned
Speaker 3: fun as like silly as it sounds like playing chess
Speaker 3: and games and.
Speaker 2: By the fires.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I love that. And actually, you know, that's
Speaker 3: like the first time Robbie ever spent time with Dean
Speaker 3: and Kaylin was. It was one of the trips we
Speaker 3: were supposed to do was like a podcast trip up
Speaker 3: in Napa.
Speaker 4: M hm.
Speaker 3: You ended up getting COVID and so we had to
Speaker 3: end up like we didn't record the podcast there, but
Speaker 3: we didn't cancel the trip. And so it was like
Speaker 3: the first weekend that Robbie Ever spent time with them,
Speaker 3: and we spent the whole weekend like playing fish bowl
Speaker 3: and playing games and like doing dinner and just kind
Speaker 3: of like having that same kind of feel, and so
Speaker 3: it was just really nice because it kind of felt
Speaker 3: this the same way this weekend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're just It was really cool because it.
Speaker 4: Was very much Dean in the sense that it was
Speaker 4: like rustic and mountaine and that vibe, but then Kaylen
Speaker 4: brought this sense of like beauty and elegance to this
Speaker 4: location that was very like rustic, and it.
Speaker 2: Was just the perfect combo.
Speaker 4: That we had field day on Friday, y'all weren't there yet,
Speaker 4: but we all got separated into teams and they just
Speaker 4: pulled him out of hat so like everyone was just
Speaker 4: paired with people and it was fun because we got
Speaker 4: to know people outside of the people we've known forever.
Speaker 2: And it was really cute because.
Speaker 4: Haley was on ended up being on the winning team,
Speaker 4: which was I think Dean's team, and she has like
Speaker 4: an injured shoulder, so she hasn't like she was a
Speaker 4: little bit nervous about field day because she was like,
Speaker 4: I want to I want to be a part of
Speaker 4: the team.
Speaker 2: But like, I don't.
Speaker 4: I can't risk like injuring myself more for field day,
Speaker 4: you know. But they had a flip cup game where
Speaker 4: it was like flip cup tic tac toe, and she
Speaker 4: volunteered to do that and she ended up winning, and
Speaker 4: it was it's like the most like purror reaction because
Speaker 4: I didn't think anything of it. I looked over and
Speaker 4: she was like celebrating with their like hands in the air,
Speaker 4: and I was.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, babe, good job.
Speaker 4: But she was like, I just it felt like I
Speaker 4: thought they were gonna like lift me up and chant
Speaker 4: my name, and she was like, I think, I just
Speaker 4: I didn't know that I was gonna be able to contribute,
Speaker 4: and to be able to get one of the points
Speaker 4: for my team by doing that was like the coolest thing.
Speaker 2: So everyone would like come up and be like our
Speaker 2: flip cup champ. So it was like really cute.
Speaker 3: All weekend, people kept coming up to Haley being like, yeah,
Speaker 3: good job, like what the heck did she do? And so.
Speaker 4: And then one of the nights when we were sitting
Speaker 4: in the fire or by the in the lodge, Haley
Speaker 4: started the fire like all these guys were standing around
Speaker 4: and Haley literally started the fire and it was like huge.
Speaker 2: Tanya said it would win, would have.
Speaker 3: Won her the million dollars on Survivor, like if she
Speaker 3: had to go into the fire making competition and it
Speaker 3: would have burned right through that rope and she would
Speaker 3: have gone on.
Speaker 2: She loves she loves building a fire.
Speaker 4: So it was fun having her there and just getting
Speaker 4: to spend time with everybody. I love Ashley and Jared,
Speaker 4: I love Ben and Jazz, Debbie and Josh and Sarah
Speaker 4: and Wells.
Speaker 2: It was like it was so fun.
Speaker 3: It was and like, honestly, I haven't I've known Debbie
Speaker 3: Debbie Ryan. I've known her for years, Like I met
Speaker 3: her years and years and years ago, and I hadn't
Speaker 3: seen her since before the pandemic, So what's that now,
Speaker 3: like three or four years And I didn't even know
Speaker 3: she was gonna be at the wedding, and so I
Speaker 3: saw her and it was just like so sweet, and
Speaker 3: she was like congratulating Robbie I on the engagement, and
Speaker 3: I got to spend time with her husband, who's like
Speaker 3: this was so awesome, so sweet and so kind and
Speaker 3: just like such a gem. Yeah, I mean it was
Speaker 3: just like really just awesome awesome people. There was a
Speaker 3: girl there who started Yellow the label who's friends with Kaylin.
Speaker 3: Her name's MK, and Robbie and I went on like
Speaker 3: the hike. We were kind of like in the back
Speaker 3: with her, so we spent like hours with her and
Speaker 3: we just chatted about marriage and life and being a
Speaker 3: female entrepreneur and like I'm so obsessed with her now,
Speaker 3: and like she doesn't live in LA, unfortunately, I feel
Speaker 3: like we're gonna have to be like long distance friends.
Speaker 3: I feel she might come to LA a lot though
Speaker 3: social media friends. Yeah, but it just kind of had
Speaker 3: that like that feeling of just like meeting people that
Speaker 3: I really loved and want to like stay in touch with,
Speaker 3: and just like such a good fun vibe and everybody
Speaker 3: was like so like it makes me emotional because everybody's
Speaker 3: so welcoming to Robbie because he is kind of like
Speaker 3: the newest person around, Yeah, and like everybody always takes
Speaker 3: him under their wings, and like he always kind of
Speaker 3: bros out with the guys and they have these like
Speaker 3: moments together and it like makes me really emotional.
Speaker 4: It was just it's and Robbie and Haley had an
Speaker 4: emotional chat. It was just cute like I talked to someone.
Speaker 4: But you know, we talked a little bit about this
Speaker 4: on Ben and Ashley's Almost Famous podcast. But Ben was
Speaker 4: saying that he was like dealing with some anxiety over
Speaker 4: certain things he said, And I had that moment for
Speaker 4: some reason when I woke up this morning.
Speaker 2: I was like, did I overshare? Did I say something uncomfortable?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Is it weird that I don't have that?
Speaker 2: No, I think it's weird that we do have it. Like,
Speaker 2: I think it's weird that, like I question.
Speaker 4: I know I didn't do anything that was weird, you know,
Speaker 4: But in my mind, I'm like, did I was I nice?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Did I was I a good wedding guest?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: I was like, should I have asked Kaylin if she
Speaker 2: needed stuff?
Speaker 3: Your weekend? Kaylen is like are you having a good time?
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh you are? This is your weekend? What
Speaker 3: are you talking about me having good time? Are you
Speaker 3: having good time?
Speaker 4: But I was gonna say I noticed that her two
Speaker 4: best friends that gave the speech at the rehearsal dinner,
Speaker 4: which we'll get to the Mountain Chic Attire soon, they
Speaker 4: said that about Kaylen. They were like, you know, Kaylan
Speaker 4: is the most thoughtful, giving person and even we imagine
Speaker 4: even tomorrow on her wedding day, she's going to be
Speaker 4: asking if anyone needs anything. And I was like, Kaylen
Speaker 4: is obviously like very physically beautiful, you can just see
Speaker 4: that in her photos and videos, But she has the
Speaker 4: sweetest heart that No, she's like the best.
Speaker 2: She's just so kind and caring and.
Speaker 3: It's genuine, Like it's like it's like in her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not like a front. She's just like that.
Speaker 4: And then Dean is just he's still the same, but
Speaker 4: she has her coming into his life has made him
Speaker 4: a better person.
Speaker 3: Yea.
Speaker 4: Just like the way he speaks about her and talks
Speaker 4: about her and what she's done for him is just
Speaker 4: it was really emotional. The wedding was like so sweet
Speaker 4: and intimate.
Speaker 3: It felt really personal. Yeah, like it felt very personal.
Speaker 3: It just felt really intimate is the right word. There
Speaker 3: was so much love coming from them and like just
Speaker 3: like little things that they were saying in their vows
Speaker 3: that are so nuanced that I was picking up on
Speaker 3: that are just so special. You just feels like, you know,
Speaker 3: they like they really complete each other. Yeah, and they
Speaker 3: make each other a better person, and I don't know,
Speaker 3: it's just really special.
Speaker 2: It just felt very much like the both of them,
Speaker 2: which was cool.
Speaker 3: I do want to say. I feel like because we
Speaker 3: were talking about like the we were scared to go
Speaker 3: out with one bathroom and stuff, and I'm like, I
Speaker 3: don't want Caitlin to feel like, oh yeah, we're like
Speaker 3: making fun of anything is obviously like totally a joke
Speaker 3: and like all fun because I'm honestly grateful that we
Speaker 3: shared that cabin because I like have that memory forever,
Speaker 3: the four of us, Like you know.
Speaker 4: Me too, I feel the same, and I I would
Speaker 4: do it again, like if they did it like a reunion, annis.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't want my like every time we travel. Now
Speaker 3: you know we're getting a big like four of us.
Speaker 4: Okay, well that'll be a different day to talk about that.
Speaker 3: No, it's just how it's gonna be.
Speaker 2: I'm uncomfortable. No, it worked out.
Speaker 4: No, it was great, I really And then the last night,
Speaker 4: so the whole time we were kind of like, oh,
Speaker 4: are we gonna see animals? Like I was really scared
Speaker 4: about bears and like making sure.
Speaker 3: So Ben texted us like two days before we came
Speaker 3: out and was like, make sure, you guys, don't eat
Speaker 3: any stickers bars before you come out, and like just
Speaker 3: really induce the panic. Yeah.
Speaker 4: And then luckily Jess stepped in and was like, Ben
Speaker 4: is being so mean, Like you are fine if you've
Speaker 4: had snickers or any sweets, but don't you know, just
Speaker 4: be aware of where you keep the food, which I appreciated.
Speaker 4: So I was very much on the lookout for bears,
Speaker 4: but we didn't see neither were Did you all know
Speaker 4: chipmunks are really really small?
Speaker 2: I didn't know this.
Speaker 1: We had chipmunks in Wisconsin growing up.
Speaker 5: Yeah, did you think they were like chippendale size?
Speaker 2: Like no, I thought they were like squirrel size.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but are they not?
Speaker 2: Pointed them out? Like every time I saw them, they're
Speaker 2: like this big.
Speaker 3: You saw chipmunks.
Speaker 4: They were everywhere.
Speaker 2: Maybe I don't.
Speaker 1: Know, maybe they're about half the size of squirrels, maybe
Speaker 1: a little less than that.
Speaker 2: They're so cute. I think there might be my new
Speaker 2: favorite animal.
Speaker 3: Well, I think there was one a chipmunk in our
Speaker 3: kitchen one morning.
Speaker 4: I will well, we did see some of our avocados
Speaker 4: had a couple of nibbles, all of them, so we
Speaker 4: do think there was a little something rumbing around a.
Speaker 3: Little country grammar, running around our kitchen country.
Speaker 4: So the last night, we're kind of packing up and uh,
Speaker 4: Haley goes, oh no.
Speaker 2: Oh, no, no no, And I was like, what what is it?
Speaker 4: And she's like, there's there's there's mice droppings in my suitcase.
Speaker 2: And I'm like what.
Speaker 4: And I go look and I see little like black
Speaker 4: dots and I'm like, oh no. And in my mind,
Speaker 4: I'm like, I knew I heard something wrestling around. Like
Speaker 4: one the first night, I was like, babe, she was
Speaker 4: half asleep and I'm like, do you hear something's in
Speaker 4: the cabin, like something's wrestling And she's like, no, you're
Speaker 4: hearing outside. It's fine. So in my mind I was like,
Speaker 4: I knew it. I heard something. So she comes out
Speaker 4: and tells Robbie and Tanya and they're both like no.
Speaker 3: So then I'm panicking. I'm like, babe, get your suitcase
Speaker 3: off the floor, like, let's put it up on something.
Speaker 3: We don't want animals scurrying in your stuff. So Tania
Speaker 3: takes yeah, send in the modern woman to investigate. Investigate. Yes,
Speaker 3: I am brave. Thank you for saying that. I went
Speaker 3: into that suitcase with a tissue paper, and I was like,
Speaker 3: show me, you said droppings, Hayley. She points me over
Speaker 3: and there's three droppings in the thing. I take my
Speaker 3: little kleenex and I start moving it.
Speaker 2: It's hardy.
Speaker 3: A couple of nights, yeah, a couple of nights. I'm like,
Speaker 3: this doesn't feel right. So I pick it up with
Speaker 3: my kleenex and realize that they are rhinestones, three upside
Speaker 3: down rhinestones in her suitcase. That made us all. We
Speaker 3: were frantic, like, I was very uncomfortable for about an hour,
Speaker 3: like mistake, mistake.
Speaker 5: You see the tracker look at that investigating droppings.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm going to do this more often in
Speaker 3: my life. Inspect her gadget. Yeah, somebody says something, I'm
Speaker 3: going to be like, let me see it before I
Speaker 3: believe it.
Speaker 4: I'm really happy you took initiative because it really gave
Speaker 4: me peace of mind to move forward with the night.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Me tood to like move forward and like going to
Speaker 2: cabin again.
Speaker 3: Me too.
Speaker 4: If it was a chipmunk, I would have been like,
Speaker 4: that's so cute where rat rat crosses them?
Speaker 2: Yeah right, yeah, right across the life.
Speaker 6: Something Ben Higgins said about this venue. That made me
Speaker 6: laugh was he was talking about how like he's like,
Speaker 6: I've been to this place before. There's no cell signal.
Speaker 6: It's beautiful, So you know it's going to happen. Everyone's
Speaker 6: going to be present, just talking to each other and
Speaker 6: no one's gonna be on their phones. It's gonna be
Speaker 6: so nice. And actually it's like, so there's no Wi
Speaker 6: Fi or anything, and he's like, no, there's Wi Fi,
Speaker 6: but you know you have to like make a FaceTime
Speaker 6: call instead of like a phone call. And she's like, oh,
Speaker 6: so it's like not different than normal, and he's like, yeah,
Speaker 6: it's yeah, I guess so.
Speaker 3: Because the thing is that you only had Wi Fi
Speaker 3: in like the main lodge. So like when we were
Speaker 3: in our cabin, our phones were dead, like you could
Speaker 3: make a call FaceTime. Yeah, Like you're like in dead
Speaker 3: zone outside like the main so if you need to
Speaker 3: like make a FaceTime or you want to like check
Speaker 3: your emails and stuff, you had to walk to the
Speaker 3: main cabin And.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's very cool.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was very shut off. Like I did feel
Speaker 3: very detached this weekend.
Speaker 4: I loved it, though, Like at first I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: you know, I haven't done that in a while. But
Speaker 4: I loved not looking at my phone before bed. I
Speaker 4: loved like not waking up and immediately okurch.
Speaker 3: My phone in the kitchen. Who am I?
Speaker 4: It was just it was just so nice to not
Speaker 4: even like someone said something about Instagram and I was like,
Speaker 4: I haven't even looked. I haven't even even when I
Speaker 4: was in the main lodge. I wasn't like checking or
Speaker 4: posting or anything. It was just I loved it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Need I need to do that more often.
Speaker 3: I need to do that more often too, I am.
Speaker 3: I do spend a lot of time scrolling and U
Speaker 3: did not do that this weekend.
Speaker 4: Tanya also got a lesson on how to take photos,
Speaker 4: which was much needed because she'll be like, beccha, will
Speaker 4: you take a photo of me and Robbie And.
Speaker 3: I give her just like options like like oreads shoots,
Speaker 3: like I just get like these picturesque like cinematic videos.
Speaker 4: And then I asked Tanya to take a photo of
Speaker 4: me in Haley and I'm like, just snap it, like,
Speaker 4: just can't take it fast. We're going to be moving,
Speaker 4: something will be in their candid I get my phone back,
Speaker 4: there's like seven photos my portrait mode, which I'm.
Speaker 3: So proud of these photos. By the way, they're like
Speaker 3: sitting on the cabin, I'm below them. I was like
Speaker 3: like a like a wooden rod next to Haley, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, this is going to frame out so beautifully.
Speaker 3: I'm in portrait mode. I'm like thinking, I'm doing such
Speaker 3: a good job. And I had them back.
Speaker 4: It was so bad that I was like I kind
Speaker 4: of thought like was this a joke?
Speaker 2: Like there was a little bit of me that was like, oh,
Speaker 2: this is like kind of funny.
Speaker 3: And then I felt like the whole rest of the weekend,
Speaker 3: I need to make it up to her. So I
Speaker 3: was like following them everywhere taking photos.
Speaker 2: Which I didn't ask for. I didn't one. I wasn't
Speaker 2: looking for that at all.
Speaker 4: So I go the next night for the wedding, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: I'm going to show you how to take like to
Speaker 4: set it up so that you can get a good photo.
Speaker 4: So I gave her a lesson and she crushed it
Speaker 4: and thank you.
Speaker 2: Yeah. It was just like it was just some short
Speaker 2: and sweet lessons that you need it.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I could. I'm I'm a sponge, Just
Speaker 3: give me, give me give me the all of the advice.
Speaker 4: Should we take a break and come back and talk
Speaker 4: about mountain cheek attire? Yes, okay, we'll be here at that.
Speaker 4: All right, we're back. So we talked a lot about
Speaker 4: the attire being mountain cheek and what that meant, what
Speaker 4: we were gonna wear. I felt like you really nailed it.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much. I feel like you really nailed
Speaker 3: it as well. But mountain cheek is like the opposite
Speaker 3: of I would say my style. I'm more like city grunge,
Speaker 3: you know, like city gow. Oh my god, I.
Speaker 2: Feel like your city chic. That's hard to say city she.
Speaker 3: I'd say city grunge gal, okay, So mountain she was
Speaker 3: stress stressful for me.
Speaker 2: Well, I had bought my cowboy boots.
Speaker 4: I was already and then I was like, I feel
Speaker 4: like I need a hat, Like I felt upset that
Speaker 4: I didn't have a hat. So luckily in the main
Speaker 4: cabin they had like a little shop that had like
Speaker 4: boots and a tire and they had like not a
Speaker 4: tie clothes. I don't know if they could have a
Speaker 4: tire in there, so I just wanted to clarify. But
Speaker 4: they had hats, so I purchased a hat to wear,
Speaker 4: which I don't know, me asking where you got that hat.
Speaker 3: From the blewipeup.
Speaker 2: No affiliate link for that one.
Speaker 4: So then Haley's like, wait, do I need a hat?
Speaker 4: And so we were talking about it. She's like, I
Speaker 4: just don't know if I want to buy one. I'll
Speaker 4: literally never wear a cowboy hat again. And Ben was like,
Speaker 4: I brought hats in case anyone needed a hat.
Speaker 2: I have hats.
Speaker 4: So we walk over to the car and he gives
Speaker 4: her a hat and it fits perfectly and goes with
Speaker 4: their outfit and really just like completed her look.
Speaker 2: So that was a really cute little moment.
Speaker 3: But not all heroes wear capes.
Speaker 2: No, they wear cowboy hats and cowboy boots. Yeah, Ben Higgins.
Speaker 3: Ben Higgy.
Speaker 4: But the star of the show obviously was Kaylin that night.
Speaker 4: I I was like, I gasped when I saw her.
Speaker 3: Her Every single outfit she wore was like crazy.
Speaker 2: She I mean, yeah, she.
Speaker 4: Could wear like a trash bag and bee stunning, but
Speaker 4: this was like a silk dress, like white dress with
Speaker 4: the white like cowboy hat.
Speaker 3: Is that a cowboy hat?
Speaker 2: I think so?
Speaker 4: Like a cowboy like a western white hat. She looked
Speaker 4: straight out of a magazine. Yeah, it was crazy.
Speaker 3: The whole wedding felt like every single part of it
Speaker 3: felt like it was straight out of a magazine. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I loved how the chairs are facing the aisle.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've never seen that before.
Speaker 2: It felt like a runways.
Speaker 3: So interesting because I feel like now when I go
Speaker 3: to weddings, I'm like looking at things and taking notes
Speaker 3: of like, yeah, like I really like that that everybody's
Speaker 3: like facing the aisle. I want to do that, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I want to have a tattoo artist at my wedding.
Speaker 2: Okay, So there was a tattoo artist at the reception, so.
Speaker 4: You had to put your name on the list and
Speaker 4: they had like pre it was like you chose from
Speaker 4: a sheet, so you couldn't just like say, oh I
Speaker 4: want this, and they do it. And I was about
Speaker 4: to get it because they had a little spicy pepper
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh, I could do a spicy margarita,
Speaker 4: like I love a spicy margarita. Do a little tiny
Speaker 4: little pepper. And they're like, yeah, you can't scale it.
Speaker 4: It's the size.
Speaker 2: And it was like this, it was this big giant.
Speaker 4: It was a huge and I was like, I don't
Speaker 4: even know where I could put that.
Speaker 2: Where wouldn't it be like why did I do that?
Speaker 2: Like regret central?
Speaker 4: And then I was like, maybe I'll get a little mounting.
Speaker 4: They had a little mountain like outline, which was really
Speaker 4: cute and small. I think Kalin got it, and I
Speaker 4: was like, I could do that because that would be
Speaker 4: a great memory of the weekend.
Speaker 2: But the line was so long at that point that
Speaker 2: I was like.
Speaker 3: It's okay, so long, like the amount of people that
Speaker 3: got tattoos, it's so cool.
Speaker 4: Though, Like I kind of woke up going, dang, did
Speaker 4: I make a mistake not doing it for the weekend,
Speaker 4: But it's okay, I don't have any.
Speaker 3: So I was like I don't have any either.
Speaker 2: You know. I think if I had already had tattoos,
Speaker 2: it would have been a no brainer.
Speaker 3: I would have like got a dot, oh, just the dots,
Speaker 3: like break myself in you're Phoebe.
Speaker 2: You're literally Phoebe from brind Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: This is the earth for a three million yeah yeah.
Speaker 2: But yeah.
Speaker 4: It was just I left being like this is if
Speaker 4: if if or when Haley and I get married, Like
Speaker 4: I would love.
Speaker 2: To do something like that.
Speaker 3: Everyone.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was so fun. I just loved the like togetherness.
Speaker 4: I loved that everyone was on the property, everyone ate together.
Speaker 2: Everyone.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was just everyone sat around and like but
Speaker 4: did their own things.
Speaker 2: Still, it was just perfect.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree. I loved the vibe they created, just
Speaker 3: such a great vibe, a great weekend. We're amazing hosts
Speaker 3: and couldn't be happier for them. Yeah, couldn't be happier
Speaker 3: for them. It was really really fun.
Speaker 4: Some big things happen though, while we were out of
Speaker 4: touch with pop culture and well.
Speaker 3: We were like borderline coming back into touch when it
Speaker 3: all went down. Because I remember Robbie was watching his
Speaker 3: fantasy football stuff and I'm seeing all this like Taylor
Speaker 3: Swift stuff in his feed, and that's when I saw
Speaker 3: the news.
Speaker 2: That's when you heard the news. That's when I heard
Speaker 2: Taylor Swift at the Chiefs game.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: What are your thoughts on this? I don't think it's real.
Speaker 2: Oh you think they're just like going along with it.
Speaker 3: I think they're maybe dating, But I don't think it's
Speaker 3: like because she it was with Joe for six years,
Speaker 3: and that girl likes to hide. She does not like
Speaker 3: her romantic life to be public. And I think the
Speaker 3: fact that these last couple guys have been public have
Speaker 3: shown that it's just like.
Speaker 2: But they're dating, you think, just as casual.
Speaker 3: Yeah, if they're even dating.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. A. Tony's very down on this
Speaker 1: whole thing. She's very poop pooing the.
Speaker 3: Whole pooing it. I just don't think that everybody thinks
Speaker 3: that they're like boyfriend girlfriend. I just don't think it's
Speaker 3: that far down.
Speaker 1: Maybe not, But I say, yesterday was a hard launch.
Speaker 3: Really I do, do you not?
Speaker 4: I like you said, everything she does is private, so like,
Speaker 4: regardless of what it means or what if it's just
Speaker 4: casual or whatever, she wanted everyone to know she was
Speaker 4: there exactly.
Speaker 3: I don't disagree.
Speaker 1: Why why if not they're sitting next to his mom
Speaker 1: watching him play football. Why what's the motivation if not
Speaker 1: a hard launch of the world that this is a thing,
Speaker 1: because the logistics of Taylor Swift attending a football game
Speaker 1: are not just a whim.
Speaker 3: But that's the same thing with Matty Healy too. Like
Speaker 3: that was very public. We all saw photos, paparazzi shots,
Speaker 3: and that girl when she wants to hide, like she
Speaker 3: knows how to hide, so it's like she wants to
Speaker 3: be seen. I don't know what that wanted.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's the motivation?
Speaker 3: I don't know, but I think it's not.
Speaker 4: Do you see the video of him like looking up
Speaker 4: and seeing her though, and he's like gets this like
Speaker 4: big smile and he's so.
Speaker 1: Cute and sweet. I'm so down too.
Speaker 4: But I can't tell what I think about him, Like
Speaker 4: sometimes I find him to be just kind of like obnoxious,
Speaker 4: Like I don't know, there's something about him that I
Speaker 4: just he's very arrogant and cocky.
Speaker 2: But I think that's the way people like him.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: I think it's an endearing arrogant and cocky for some reason.
Speaker 3: To me. It is.
Speaker 1: Anyway, when he hosted Saturday Night Live, which not a
Speaker 1: lot of athletes can pull off.
Speaker 2: That Saturday Night, he was great.
Speaker 4: And I think he's like swaggy. I think he has
Speaker 4: like this or about him that people are drawn to.
Speaker 3: He's he's like thinks he's cool.
Speaker 4: He knows well he is cool. I think he knows
Speaker 4: he's cool, and so you can feel that. And I
Speaker 4: think that in a way, Taylor Swift is also an
Speaker 4: athlete in her own right. If you've seen the aerostore
Speaker 4: and there's a quiet confidence that she has about her,
Speaker 4: So I think that the power of them works. It's
Speaker 4: just so random to me that I'm like, I don't
Speaker 4: know if it's like what the longevity of it is,
Speaker 4: but it's fun.
Speaker 3: Athletes understand her life more than other people would.
Speaker 1: I think that's great.
Speaker 4: Great.
Speaker 3: I think the way the athletes have to train and
Speaker 3: they have to live their lives is probably very similar
Speaker 3: to the way that Taylor has to like train for
Speaker 3: her tour and like live her life on tour.
Speaker 1: In life during a sports season are very similar.
Speaker 5: Ruined venues.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Like it just feels very parallel.
Speaker 2: Although I am really ready for the songs about him,
Speaker 2: whatever they will be.
Speaker 1: But don't you think he could be as simple as
Speaker 1: he shut he shot his shot, you know, he joked
Speaker 1: about putting his phone number on the bracelet when she
Speaker 1: was in Kansas City. Didn't get to meet her, but
Speaker 1: that got a lot of press, And couldn't you have
Speaker 1: just been like, hmm, I looked into this guy a
Speaker 1: little bit, thought he was handsome, enjoyed his vibe, watched
Speaker 1: I don't know his SNL or his commercials or whatever,
Speaker 1: and thought that's.
Speaker 3: Interesting, Yeah, which is what I think she's doing.
Speaker 1: Reached out, Yeah, went out a few times, and he's like,
Speaker 1: you got to come and see you for football. So
Speaker 1: he said, Okay, I will.
Speaker 3: That's what's happening.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's a relationship.
Speaker 2: Allegedly.
Speaker 4: I read somewhere that she shut down a whole restaurant.
Speaker 2: So that they could Are you sure I read she did?
Speaker 3: I read he did well.
Speaker 4: Either way, they shut down a whole rush on to
Speaker 4: go have like a dinner yeah after the game or something.
Speaker 3: Though I did. I was like watching I mean the content.
Speaker 3: I couldn't get enough so good. I was watching the
Speaker 3: There's like a photo of her in the suite and
Speaker 3: there's like a plate next to her and has like
Speaker 3: a piece of chicken and ketchup and ranch ranch, yeah,
Speaker 3: seemingly ranch. And like everybody's like, ah, she's so relatable.
Speaker 3: She's just like chicken, ranch and ketchup. I'm like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, it's too good.
Speaker 2: It's good.
Speaker 4: It's great for the NFL, it's great for tailors.
Speaker 3: Like everything makes me happy. If like she's involved with
Speaker 3: like football stuff on Sundays, that just makes my Sunday's
Speaker 3: least annoying having to like watch like my fake fantasy
Speaker 3: team and Robbie's fantasy team.
Speaker 4: Has there ever been a more powerful person that has
Speaker 4: the influence that she has, like genuinely like, has there
Speaker 4: ever been someone that has this hold on people?
Speaker 5: The Beatles?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the Beatles were I mean, yes, there are
Speaker 1: people that were as popular as she is, but they
Speaker 1: didn't they weren't in this era of constant twenty four
Speaker 1: to seven social media and news coverage. Like that convergence
Speaker 1: is interesting. It's kind of like what if Michael Jackson existed? Now, Yeah,
Speaker 1: what wouldn't be like, well, it'd be a lot like this.
Speaker 5: I think I saw a really great tweet about Kelsey.
Speaker 6: There was a picture of him just like staring into
Speaker 6: the camera as he walks by with Taylor and says,
Speaker 6: this is a man who knows he's in too deep
Speaker 6: and sees potential embarrassment around every corner. Millions of women
Speaker 6: are waiting to hate you, and your own fans are
Speaker 6: gonna call your situationship a distraction. But if he backs out,
Speaker 6: he's a coward.
Speaker 5: He can't win. It's fascinating, Oh my god, so true.
Speaker 3: I also saw somebody post this that it was during
Speaker 3: Taylor's Red tour, like Red and a fan brought like
Speaker 3: a Kelsey jersey to their meet and greet, So she's
Speaker 3: like holding it up and this is during her Red.
Speaker 5: Invisible string.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like an invisible string now like tying
Speaker 3: them back together after however many what is this? When
Speaker 3: was the Red album come out forever.
Speaker 5: Ago twenty twelve or something.
Speaker 3: She's holding up his jersey.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that is so cool.
Speaker 3: Are you all along? There was some shaky invisible stream
Speaker 3: tying you to.
Speaker 2: Me so much?
Speaker 1: Do we agree on this or we don't agree on this?
Speaker 1: What I'm saying this is a budding relationship. They've been
Speaker 1: out a handful of times, they've spent the night together
Speaker 1: a few times, and this is just what we saw
Speaker 1: yesterday was an escalation where she spends the day with
Speaker 1: his mom watches them play football. Maybe we'll see him
Speaker 1: with Taylor's mom at a concert in Belgium in the spring.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, It's all heading in this direction.
Speaker 1: Oh you're saying this is not what's happening.
Speaker 3: I don't think that's what's happening.
Speaker 1: Do you think this is some sort of publicity stunt.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think it's a publicity. I do think
Speaker 3: that they're dating or have gone on a date. I
Speaker 3: just don't think it's anything serious.
Speaker 2: This is what I think.
Speaker 4: I think Travis Kelsey is different than a Matt Healey
Speaker 4: in the sense that he's going to pursue her and
Speaker 4: he's going to put in the effort of like trying
Speaker 4: to like.
Speaker 2: Make the relationship work as long as she's in it.
Speaker 4: I see that him doing that, and I also have
Speaker 4: a vision of both of their moms hanging out.
Speaker 2: They both seem very like sweet and warm.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they do. They do seem sweet and warm. Only
Speaker 3: time will tell.
Speaker 4: Only time to tell. But it's fun. I will say
Speaker 4: it is exciting. And the weekends.
Speaker 6: Her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just.
Speaker 4: Something really funny that happened was that Robbie posted a
Speaker 4: photo of the two of you and said, like, what
Speaker 4: would our country music group be? And Easton said little
Speaker 4: big tongue. And I just thought that was one of
Speaker 4: the funniest.
Speaker 6: I submitted a lot of ideas, that was the one
Speaker 6: that made the story.
Speaker 5: It's a great photo.
Speaker 3: It's a great photo, thanks guys.
Speaker 4: So, yeah, that was a little bit of the weekend.
Speaker 4: It was wonderful. Taylor Swift and Travis were happy for
Speaker 4: you whatever it is.
Speaker 2: And do we miss anything?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do feel like we missed a lot. Oh,
Speaker 3: but it's okay.
Speaker 2: Do you have it?
Speaker 3: No, I'm trying to look back at photos. I feel
Speaker 3: like I was very drunk a lot of the weekend.
Speaker 3: So it's going to come back to me in spurts.
Speaker 2: Okay, not great for the podcast, but right, So.
Speaker 1: This week we'll do twenty mini podcasts as they come
Speaker 1: back to.
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, so if one comes up, you can just
Speaker 4: write it down and be like, oh I thought about
Speaker 4: this and.
Speaker 3: Next actually started doing that now.
Speaker 2: Okay, good, Yeah, but not for this episode.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the turnaround from last night's Yeah, it was very stressed.
Speaker 3: I was trying to get my training reports to Mark
Speaker 3: on time. Our flights were delayed and so I was
Speaker 3: like I had to pick up Sonny. There's like a lot, yeah,
Speaker 3: lot going on.
Speaker 2: I'm with you. I'm in recovery today. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Well, we are going to take a break and we'll
Speaker 4: be back with emails. So maybe something will come to
Speaker 4: you during the break. All right, we are back. What
Speaker 4: were you saying?
Speaker 3: There's something about Robbie and Haley bonding that like really
Speaker 3: does something to my heart, Like it really melts me.
Speaker 2: It's really cute.
Speaker 3: It's really cute.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know what they talked about.
Speaker 4: They talked about something at dinner, but they both I
Speaker 4: don't know what he told you, but she was like, yeah,
Speaker 4: Robbie made me really emotional at dinner, and I was like, what,
Speaker 4: like what about And I think he just like gave
Speaker 4: her some like really encouraging words and like it was
Speaker 4: just I think there's something about.
Speaker 2: Someone who's.
Speaker 4: I don't think they're as different as as like they
Speaker 4: seem like they would be, because I think he is
Speaker 4: like very passionate about art and has like a very
Speaker 4: similar personality and drive in certain ways. And I think
Speaker 4: there's something about someone who's so different and him being
Speaker 4: a man and like being very much in like a.
Speaker 2: Very hetero world.
Speaker 4: Like the way he thinks of her and speaks her
Speaker 4: is like really beautiful and like it's very sweet, you know,
Speaker 4: because it's like I don't know if in any other
Speaker 4: world he and Haley would have met or like hung out,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 2: So I think that's one of those things.
Speaker 4: That's just like really cool to watch as obviously their partners.
Speaker 2: It's really sweet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it is really sweet.
Speaker 2: Okay, we are going to get to emails.
Speaker 1: Mark take it away, all right, Becka, thank you very much.
Speaker 1: This is from anonymous. So my fiance comes from a
Speaker 1: country where weddings are not very culturally significant. It's common
Speaker 1: for people to live together with the intention of staying
Speaker 1: together forever pretty much and having children together without ever
Speaker 1: getting married. I'm not sure what country that would be.
Speaker 1: I've never heard of such a place. Therefore, the whole
Speaker 1: concept of a wedding ceremony and its traditions don't hold
Speaker 1: much weight in his eyes, and he finds many of
Speaker 1: the traditions over the expensive and on of his necessary.
Speaker 1: He also thinks engagement rings are too expensive for what
Speaker 1: they are, but it's still willing to exchange rings if
Speaker 1: they're reasonably priced. I settled for a gold band, but
Speaker 1: he said it was too basic. So I found to
Speaker 1: ring that were more interesting, but he said they're too expensive.
Speaker 1: I found cheaper alternatives in sterling silver that have pretty designs,
Speaker 1: but I prefer gold over silver, but getting solid gold
Speaker 1: is more expensive than sterling silver. Should I stop being
Speaker 1: picky and settled for silver? Should I go with gold plating,
Speaker 1: even though it will eventually fade. Sometimes I feel like
Speaker 1: he only thinks about his way and what he thinks
Speaker 1: is correct. But it may also be that I'm being
Speaker 1: too picky curious to hear your thoughts in this situation.
Speaker 1: This is a new one for us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that the last question of like.
Speaker 4: Should Sometimes I feel like it's only his way or
Speaker 4: he only thinks about his way or what he thinks
Speaker 4: is correct.
Speaker 2: That's a very that's a very.
Speaker 4: Telling sentence, because that seems like this isn't the first
Speaker 4: time where she hasn't felt like herd or it's just
Speaker 4: been his what he thinks. I think wanting a ring
Speaker 4: that you're going to wear forever, in wanting it to
Speaker 4: be something that you love and that is going to
Speaker 4: fade or tarnish, is a very valid thing. I think
Speaker 4: there's a way that you can like the fact that
Speaker 4: she settled for a gold band, but then he thinks
Speaker 4: it's too basic, But then she found something else that
Speaker 4: she liked.
Speaker 3: Me too, That whole paragraph made me so uncomfortable, because, Okay,
Speaker 3: I understand somebody like you know, weddings and traditions and
Speaker 3: stuff like, if you're not raised in that and not
Speaker 3: carrying so much weight. But if it means something to
Speaker 3: your partner, then that's important. And I just feel like
Speaker 3: he's just kind of doing it to just like appease you,
Speaker 3: but not really. It's like kind of half assing it
Speaker 3: in a way.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think that your expectations and what you want like
Speaker 4: this is just because it wasn't something he grew up
Speaker 4: in his culture. You did, and that's okay for you
Speaker 4: to want those things. And I think that there's a
Speaker 4: middle grad where it's like, hey, I know I can't
Speaker 4: have my dream ring right now, but this is like
Speaker 4: what I like, or or looking for options that maybe.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I think that you being you settling for something and
Speaker 4: then him saying no to that is just a.
Speaker 2: Weird I don't know.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say manipulation because I don't know if
Speaker 4: it's that, but it's like, you.
Speaker 2: Can't win, right, it's not a partnership.
Speaker 4: You want a gold band and he says no, until
Speaker 4: you pick out something else and he says no, Yeah,
Speaker 4: so what do you do you can't win?
Speaker 1: You say bye, there's a compromise, I think, yeah, right,
Speaker 1: Like it's two separate arguments here spending fifty grand on
Speaker 1: a wedding or something. I understand the argument that it's
Speaker 1: ludicrous to spend that kind of money on one night.
Speaker 1: It's silly, we should do something small er whatever. I
Speaker 1: think that's fine. If you're buying something you're going to
Speaker 1: have for the rest of your life, you can drop
Speaker 1: a couple of bucks on it, right. I mean you're
Speaker 1: literally going to have I've had this ring on my
Speaker 1: finger for twenty one years now. You know, like this
Speaker 1: is something and that's going to be part of your
Speaker 1: life and part of your hand forever. I think you
Speaker 1: got to spend some money on that, and I think
Speaker 1: that's fine. I think he needs to understand that. And
Speaker 1: then I think that the trade off is, let's cut
Speaker 1: costs where we can for the wedding and make it
Speaker 1: more of a simple affair, since that's not a major
Speaker 1: part of his culture. If that's cool with you too,
Speaker 1: and if that's a deal breaker for you too, there's
Speaker 1: always got to be compromised. But yes, it does sound
Speaker 1: like his way or the highway.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like it doesn't even sound like they're
Speaker 2: doing doing a wedding, right.
Speaker 4: No, So if he's not willing to meet you and
Speaker 4: plan a wet and plan a wedding with you. Then
Speaker 4: he can at least buy you a ring that you love.
Speaker 4: And I agree there is compromise because you don't want
Speaker 4: him to go into debt because he can't afford your ring.
Speaker 4: But I think there's a way of doing something that
Speaker 4: you get what you want and that he.
Speaker 2: Can meet you at I don't know. I don't like it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't like it.
Speaker 1: It's not great.
Speaker 3: It's robbing me a really wrong way.
Speaker 1: But it's far farbi it from us to say don't
Speaker 1: marry this person who is clearly love of your life.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 4: I don't think you're being too picky, is all I'm saying.
Speaker 4: And I think that he I do think there's a
Speaker 4: conversation of saying, hey, I really I understand where you're
Speaker 4: coming from on the cost of things, and I want
Speaker 4: to be able to meet you in the middle, but
Speaker 4: I need you to also meet me in the middle,
Speaker 4: because we're two people trying to make this work, not
Speaker 4: one person.
Speaker 1: Well put yeah, so much And a one sentence question
Speaker 1: from Katie, what is your number one golden bit of
Speaker 1: a relationship advice you wish you knew sooner? This is
Speaker 1: good because now you both are kind of on the
Speaker 1: other side of this. You've been through it, you're engaged,
Speaker 1: you are deeply committed long term relationships. What is the
Speaker 1: relationship advice you wish you had been told when you
Speaker 1: were younger?
Speaker 3: So much I don't even know, I know where do
Speaker 3: I start? And I think I wish that I am engaged,
Speaker 3: engaged to a man that is very securely attached, so
Speaker 3: therefore he handles arguments very differently than I do. I'm
Speaker 3: anxiously attached. So when we would get into arguments and
Speaker 3: he would want like space, you know, he just want
Speaker 3: to like sleep on it and talk about it tomorrow,
Speaker 3: I would spiral, like I would think everything was the
Speaker 3: end of the relationship, because that's just how an anxious
Speaker 3: attached person kind of lives their life. And I lost
Speaker 3: a lot of sleep over some of these arguments and things.
Speaker 3: So I wish that. I guess my best piece of
Speaker 3: advice would be to learn so much about your partner
Speaker 3: and how they handle situations, and like, is this making
Speaker 3: andy sense? Okay? Learn your partner and like how they
Speaker 3: handle situations and adapt to that, because I wish that
Speaker 3: now whenever we have disagreements we do, we step away
Speaker 3: from it. We both step away from it for a minute.
Speaker 3: We just like watch TV and then like talk about
Speaker 3: the next day, and we're so much clearer headed and
Speaker 3: come to a compromise a lot quicker. And I feel
Speaker 3: like in the beginning of our relationship was met with
Speaker 3: like a lot of anxiety and it would create like
Speaker 3: a lot of turmoil in me that was so unnecessary.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so like kind of learning like how your partner
Speaker 4: communicates essentially, because yeah, I agree, there's times where Haley's
Speaker 4: ready to settle it right there and I'm like I
Speaker 4: can't even think straight because I'm so frustrated and I
Speaker 4: need space. And then she would be like, you're just
Speaker 4: abandoning me, and I'm like, no, no, no, I just
Speaker 4: want to be able.
Speaker 2: To for it to be productive.
Speaker 4: I would say that like focusing on your relationship and
Speaker 4: not listening to outside opinions. I mean, I think you
Speaker 4: have people that you respect in your life, and if
Speaker 4: they come to you and have like a concern or
Speaker 4: want to talk to you about something, and you can
Speaker 4: hear them and listen. But I think like knowing that
Speaker 4: you and your partner are the ones in the relationship.
Speaker 4: I think not listening to opinions on the outside of
Speaker 4: like if it's right, if they're the right person for you.
Speaker 4: Like I do think there's certain people in your life,
Speaker 4: Like if Tanya came to me and she was like,
Speaker 4: I just want to make sure that you're okay in
Speaker 4: this relationship.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: If Haley's like a great partner to you, I would
Speaker 4: be like, okay, Like I'm gonna think about that.
Speaker 2: But if there's people that.
Speaker 4: Don't know your partner or know you and they're having opinions,
Speaker 4: it's just like it's just outside noise sometimes. And I
Speaker 4: think it's like, you put in the work that you
Speaker 4: want to in this relationship, and I think it's important
Speaker 4: to focus on that and not just let other people's expectations.
Speaker 3: That's a great one. Not letting people's expectations or opinions into.
Speaker 2: Yeah, infiltrate the relationship. Well that's all for now.
Speaker 4: I'm sure we may have things that come to our
Speaker 4: mind that we miss. We're just both coming from the
Speaker 4: altitude and the long travel day. I genuinely have two
Speaker 4: brain cells that are actively fighting to work right now.
Speaker 4: So we love you all so much. Have a wonderful weekend.
Speaker 4: We have a fun episode this Thursday with Hunter March
Speaker 4: Yes and.
Speaker 2: We love so much. Week byes
Speaker 4: HM