1 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: You're not spotted in me. We've so moved on. Hey, listen, 2 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: coming up at about forty one after the hour, it's 3 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: gonna be like our Power Hour. We're gonna talk about 4 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: the TV show Power Carla. Yes, yes, it's gonna be good. 5 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: Did you see it last night? Yes? Lamar Jay, it's 6 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:38,519 Speaker 1: not exactly what he said, Jay, he did his thing. 7 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 1: I'm sure more movie roles will be coming his way. Yeah, 8 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: he's a very talented young man. Well, now it is 9 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice 10 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, on parenting, 11 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 12 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: at m dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. All right, 13 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: let's go Noway, well, let's do it. Buckle up and 14 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: held on tight. We got it full you here. It 15 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 1: is the straw Bearing. Number one question we're asked, do 16 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 1: you make these letters up? The number one answer is 17 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: absolutely not. Absolutely a very active imagination, but no, who 18 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: has this kind of time? Subject I start in a 19 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:33,040 Speaker 1: steamy video and didn't know it. All right, we'll get 20 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: to you. Hang on, nephew, Dear Stephen Shirley, I need 21 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: your help. My fiance and I have been at a 22 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:42,039 Speaker 1: great relationship for four years, and things were great until 23 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: recently when I happened to scroll across the steamy video 24 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: of us on his phone. We have our own YouTube 25 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: channel with a lot of followers that love our funny 26 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: videos of the two of us doing silly things, and 27 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 1: I edit all of our videos for the channel. The 28 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: other day, I had his phone so I could edit 29 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 1: a recent video of us on a shopping sp As 30 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: I scroll through his videos, I saw one that was 31 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: a total shocker. The video was only twenty seconds long, 32 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: but it was twenty seconds of one of our hottest 33 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: intimate moment. I never even knew he was recording us 34 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: at the time, so you can imagine how shocked I was. 35 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: This could very well be a simple mistake, but he's 36 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: got some explaining to do. We have talked about making 37 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: a video of our intimate moments before, and he is 38 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: fully aware that I don't agree with it. I am 39 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: focused on getting my degree and securing a good job, 40 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: so I don't need any videos out there that could 41 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: come back to haunt me. I'm so upset and I 42 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: may never trust him again. I'm hoping he is only 43 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: using the video for his personal pleasure, and he doesn't 44 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: plan to use it for anything else. I love this man, 45 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,079 Speaker 1: but I'm no fool. Now I'm wondering if he's recorded 46 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:53,119 Speaker 1: other things that I don't think about that I don't 47 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: know about. I have to compose myself before I even 48 00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: talked to him about it. Stephen Shirley, How should I 49 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: handle this? What if there are other videos that I 50 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: don't know about? Please help? You are exactly right, one 51 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: pent right on all levels everything you're thinking. He is 52 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: wrong for him to tape you without your consent or 53 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: without your knowledge. It's deceitful. It is wrong. Uh and 54 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:18,239 Speaker 1: some places is probably against the law. How about that? 55 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: And uh? What what did he? Um? What did he 56 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: think that if he leaks it or something accidentally, that 57 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: you would become an instant reality TV star? Did he 58 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: think that? I don't know, but I'm sure this goes 59 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: on more than we know. But I'm with you. Yes, yes, yes, 60 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:39,839 Speaker 1: he broke some major trust issues with you. And how 61 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: can you ever trust this guy again? I mean, anything 62 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: he says or does, I would definitely let him know that. Um, 63 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: you saw it, you're upset by it, and you need 64 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: him to take that one down and any others he 65 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: might have. His attitude, his truthfulness or lack there up 66 00:03:55,840 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: will determine if you guys go forward with the rest 67 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: of your relationship. And really, I don't see how you can. 68 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: This is a mistake. He may only have you know 69 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: this one of you, but the fact that he did 70 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: it without your consenter knowledge, like I said earlier, that 71 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: that's the part that I would have trouble coming back from. 72 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: All Right, Jay Shirley, this is one of the few 73 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: times I totally totally agree with you. No, no, no, no. 74 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: He is so wrong for doing this, not letting her 75 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: know that he is that he is so wrong and 76 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:39,599 Speaker 1: he's short of getting his behind book doing something like this. 77 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: This is so low down. And here's the reason being. 78 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: When you don't let people know you're not taping you, 79 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,679 Speaker 1: you you don't get you don't get to set up lighting, 80 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: you don't get to set up shading and all that 81 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: that the atmosphere is not the ambiance that you know. 82 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,799 Speaker 1: If you do it wrong, only you can take to 83 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: do it again. For him not to let her know 84 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 1: that he's taping and not have the leg that's that 85 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 1: could not be her lighting that to not be her 86 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 1: good side. I mean, what is wrong with him? This 87 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: is one of many, many, many, many times, and I 88 00:05:16,520 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 1: totally professional. In words of Kenney Lamar, nasty. He's very 89 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 1: nast because he didn't get the lighting right. Crazy. All right, 90 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,800 Speaker 1: we're gonna hear from We're gonna hear from Junior when 91 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 1: we come back. We're also gonna hear from the nephew. 92 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of the guy's responses at twenty 93 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: three after the hour. Jay, you're crazy. You're listening to 94 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, coming up in 95 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: twenty minutes, we're gonna do some power talking, talk about 96 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 1: power in Kendrick Lamar with Carla. We're going to do 97 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 1: all of that. That was a great show last night. 98 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: It really my inard, my inward. Kendrick Lamar, while he 99 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 1: didn't think he's an actor, he is. Okay, here's a 100 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: recap of today's Strawberry Letter. The subject I started in 101 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,599 Speaker 1: a steamy video and didn't even know it. We still 102 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: have to hear from Junior. We still have to hear 103 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: from the nephew. Oh god, I can almost imagine what 104 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: the nephew is gonna say, right, now. But anyway, it's 105 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: from a young lady. She needs our help. She's engaged 106 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: to this man. They've been in a relationship for four years. 107 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: Things were great until recently when she happened to um 108 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: the a steamy video of her and him on his phone. 109 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: They do, um, they do a YouTube channel showing them, 110 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:37,479 Speaker 1: you know, as a couple doing things, going shopping, just 111 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 1: doing silly things together and she edits the videos. So 112 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: she has to go on his phone to get the 113 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: video to edit it to put it on YouTube. Well, 114 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: this is just one particular day she happened to see 115 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: a really hot, steamy video of the two of him, 116 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 1: two of them. Well, the problem is she did not 117 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:56,719 Speaker 1: consent and she had no knowledge that he took the video. 118 00:06:57,080 --> 00:07:01,680 Speaker 1: So she's very very upset about she she doesn't think 119 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: she can trust him anymore. Um. You know, she wants 120 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,040 Speaker 1: to approach him, but she has to come him way 121 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: down before she does, and she definitely has trust issues 122 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: with the young man. Now. UM, I think she's right. 123 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: I agree with him. Um, I agree with her. He 124 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: should not have done that without her consent and it 125 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: is causing a major trust issue in their relationship. She 126 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: should bring it up she should deal with it. I 127 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: think his attitude is going to determine whether or not 128 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: they go any further in this relationship any further. Of course, 129 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: Jay said that he agrees with me for the but 130 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: for the wrong reasons. Uh. Jay says he shouldn't have 131 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: done it. The young man shouldn't have done it without 132 00:07:40,400 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 1: her knowledge, because you want to get the lighting right 133 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: when you're doing videos. Okay, of course that was ignorant. 134 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 1: Now let's hear it. But let's get over because I'm 135 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: gonna tell you that right now. I think she's very unappreciative. 136 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: Okay it Why are we worried about it? If we 137 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:04,800 Speaker 1: got the tape in case? Only twenty second? Okay, it's 138 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: not a whole lot. But your response is wrong. Why 139 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: don't you say, baby, what's happ that to meet that? 140 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: What's happened you know, saying send me that? Get that 141 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:20,119 Speaker 1: on your phone and you can have the same twenty 142 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: seconds he got. So when you're feeling it, only you 143 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: can turn yours on. You got to pick up his phone. 144 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: What's happ that to me? It's all by the way 145 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 1: to send videos? Why what's wrong with that? She's a 146 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: young woman, she's going places she doesn't want to. She's 147 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: not going right now. She doesn't want this video to 148 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: turn up in the wrong hands or for the wrong 149 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 1: eyes to see it. If she's trying to get a job, 150 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: you know, she's doing her thing professionally and she doesn't 151 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: want this ever to come up. They thinking about being 152 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: professional when they were making the video. Well, she didn't 153 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 1: know she was making it, that's the thing. He only 154 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: knew that, but she she saw it. Why you don't 155 00:08:55,280 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 1: want it on your phone? What's that to me? Right? Thinking? 156 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: You guys today? All right, let's hear from the nephew. 157 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: Uh huh. I can't help you if I don't see 158 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 1: the video. I'm have to see exactly what we're talking about. 159 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: You understand that I can't help you. I can't give you, 160 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: you know, some some wisdom or whatever it is you 161 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: want answers. I can't give it to you. Show me 162 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: this twenty seconds we're talking about. That's what I need 163 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 1: to start. Where go to time? Its tips two thousand 164 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: three At y'all who send me to twenty seconds? Let 165 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 1: me look at it, let me analyze it, let me 166 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 1: break it down, and then I can tell you how 167 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: to assess the problem. I can do that for you. 168 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: But here's what I do want you to understand. You 169 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:48,200 Speaker 1: ran across a twenty second video of you and your man. 170 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 1: You didn't run across twenty seconds of him and somebody else. 171 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 1: It's just you. It's y'all. Don't be upset about it. 172 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: If you want to do something, hey, guess what, get 173 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: some video on him when he not really knowing it 174 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:03,679 Speaker 1: is going on. Have your own set of videos so 175 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: that way you got your own and initiative. Anything else 176 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: it goes bad, you can release something on him. But 177 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 1: all in all, I really can't really help you till 178 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: I see that video. Can I see that video? Are 179 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: you talking like that? Because I want to get that 180 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: Send me your video. That's how Timmy can help you. 181 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: Don't normally help people, but I'm trying to help you. 182 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 1: But I can't help you if I don't see that 183 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: dog on video. I want to see that twenty second 184 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: and it'll just you and him that has seen it, 185 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: just us us. She says she's upset and she may 186 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 1: never trust him again. I agree with her. You can't 187 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,959 Speaker 1: do that without telling you you're done with your four 188 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: year fiance, that you my four year fiance that I 189 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: can no longer trust. Surely it's just y'all. Though it's 190 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 1: not put it on her phone without her knowledge. You 191 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: can't do that her phone. Put on his phone? Now, 192 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 1: I have a problem with him at having his phone. 193 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:13,680 Speaker 1: That's that's ignorance. No, he let her see it because 194 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 1: she edits the videos that they do together for their 195 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 1: YouTube channel. Why does she know how to get in 196 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:27,719 Speaker 1: your phone? That's the issue, because they're stupid every man 197 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: riding in their car right now, like, what is he? 198 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 1: What is she doing with any We are thinking that 199 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 1: because and if he's with his woman, he's saying all 200 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:38,839 Speaker 1: this to himself. To himself, he's saying, none of this 201 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: all right, guys, we gotta get out of here. Listen, 202 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:46,280 Speaker 1: email us her Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. 203 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: I started to see me video and I didn't know it. 204 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,360 Speaker 1: You know, you you should have a safe place, and 205 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 1: that safe place should be with your man. And if 206 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: you don't feel safe anymore with him because he did 207 00:11:56,960 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 1: something to break the trust, Okay, you build up that trust, 208 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: and trust is hard to rebuild. I have been in 209 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: the middle of it and pull it out. One of them, Um, 210 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: what's that that stick you put your had? The selfish 211 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:19,640 Speaker 1: stick I put on the show. You hear me, she 212 00:12:19,720 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: knew it, she knew you selfis yet Jay, I'm telling 213 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:27,319 Speaker 1: you missing something. You'll both get the whole in pass 214 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: it around? What's stupid? Different angles? I hain't everyone on 215 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: the show except you, Carla. Coming up to the top 216 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:37,320 Speaker 1: of You're welcome coming up to the top of the 217 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 1: Our nephew Tommy is here with weekend confessions called the 218 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 1: Nephew with your Confessions at eight seven seven twenty nine, Steve, 219 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: Because what nephew, I'm not here to help you. I 220 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 1: just want to hear what you going and coming up 221 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 1: in ten minutes power talk with Carla. Right after this, 222 00:12:55,840 --> 00:12:58,559 Speaker 1: you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.