1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,200 Speaker 1: Would I be the a hole if I didn't contact 2 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: my ex after having my new baby. Hopefully it's not 3 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: a baby you have together, because that wouldn't make sense. 4 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: And this is to answer when does biological relation to 5 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:18,240 Speaker 1: a kid matter? This comes from remarkable AD forty nine 6 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: to fifty three, who says my thirty female x N 7 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: will call her or call him thirty Mail and I 8 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: split up over a disagreement in February of twenty twenty A. 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: Something destroyed their relations something rocked the world of their relationship, 10 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 1: right before the world is rocked of something else. What 11 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: timing I found out he had been doing. There is 12 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 1: nothing that I was like a thing of. Hopefully it 13 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:51,599 Speaker 1: doesn't get tag down. 14 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:52,520 Speaker 2: He crystal M. 15 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: Crystal Oh thank you, Sophia. 16 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 2: It's okay. It's a it's a it's a recorded episodes. 17 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: It's true. Is yes for Crystal M the Crystal M. 18 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: You know what I'm talking about. And I disagreed and 19 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: broke up with him. Hey, I don't like how you've 20 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: been taking ice lately. 21 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: That's another good one. 22 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: Yes, could you not do that? Sorry, babe, I'm committed 23 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: to doing this. I might have to leave you. 24 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 2: Oh well, I'm not committed to this relationship anymore. Okay, 25 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 2: freaking great timing, So such great timing. If this had 26 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 2: happened literally like one month, one month later, she would 27 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 2: have been stuck with this crystal m head. 28 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:38,320 Speaker 1: Big facts, Big facts. I moved out of a house 29 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,279 Speaker 1: with thirty people in February of twenty twenty. 30 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 2: He would have had COVID every day. 31 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 1: I would have been saying he did have He did 32 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: COVID so much, he's the king. Yeah, I'm read once. Wow, 33 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna double knock him. I'm gona knock wit you. Yeah. 34 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 2: And I only had it last year in May, So 35 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 2: it was after literally after all the stuff was going on. 36 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: It was my stupid brother. 37 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 2: It was someone I was doing a show and someone 38 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 2: in the cast. 39 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: Hannant sang, sucks to suck. 40 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 2: What's happening with this couple? 41 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: Well, we had a one year old daughter at the time. Oh. 42 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: I asked him to go no contact and he said 43 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: he didn't have a problem. And since he wasn't willing 44 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: to work on himself, I wasn't willing to try and 45 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: work it out. I allowed him to stay in my 46 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: home that I solely own, as it was inherited so 47 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: he could be close to his daughter. As he said 48 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: he was as he said he wasn't doing it anymore, 49 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: but inevitably kicked him out in March of twenty twenty 50 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: because of COVID. In fact, he was still doing it. 51 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: Oh what different reasons, different reason? Where did he go? 52 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,399 Speaker 1: That's the question. I feel like he didn't care. 53 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, he had other things on his mind. 54 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 1: He had other things on his mind. He went to 55 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:57,560 Speaker 1: stay with a relative who made him go to rehabit 56 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: because she didn't want that mess around her children. Good 57 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: two weeks into the rehab he left in the middle 58 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 1: of the night and a hitchhike an hour to my 59 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 1: house and showed up at one am, saying he just 60 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: wanted to see our daughter. Uh no. I let him 61 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: in and to her room, where he looked at her 62 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,239 Speaker 1: for two seconds and went to lay on the couch. 63 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: I asked him what he was doing, and he said 64 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: he was going to sleep, as it was late and 65 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: he had traveled so far. 66 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 2: No, for no, he literally used the daughter to get 67 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 2: a free place to stay. 68 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: Liar, liar. 69 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 2: Cast him out. 70 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 1: You sit on a throne of lies. I told him 71 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: no and kicked him out. He showed up at my 72 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: work the next day, but had just bought a drink 73 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: and left. This man really keeps you on your toes. 74 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: Never my next movie. 75 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 2: Baby, Okay, I need a drink. O'll get back. 76 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: A few days later, his mother messaged me, asking if 77 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: I had heard from him, because the family hadn't in 78 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: a few days. I told her I hadn't seen them 79 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: since he showed up at my home and work a 80 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: few days prior. She asked me to file a missing 81 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:19,479 Speaker 1: persons report because she was several states away. I didn't 82 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 1: want to be in the middle of it, but I 83 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:24,359 Speaker 1: filed the stupid report where the officer treated me like 84 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: a crazy ech, like a crazy X, even though I 85 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,160 Speaker 1: gave his mother's number for the contact info and told 86 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: the officer I wanted no part of it. He eventually 87 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: contacted his mother and let her know that he was 88 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 1: in a mental facility a few hours away from me. 89 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: In June or twenty twenty, he was released and was 90 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: set to travel to his mother's state to live with her, 91 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: and we arranged a visit for him and our daughter 92 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:48,559 Speaker 1: at his aunt's house. We were there for a couple 93 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: of hours, while he didn't play with our daughter and 94 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 1: just sat sulking in his chair. That's the last time 95 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:58,119 Speaker 1: they physically saw each other. Since then, there's been any, 96 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: barely any contact. He didn't call her the rest of 97 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:05,039 Speaker 1: twenty twenty and most of twenty twenty one, because, according 98 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 1: to him, she wouldn't know. And she's a baby, because 99 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 1: this is your baby. 100 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 2: What am I gonna talk about her? 101 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 1: Babe? And I'm gonna talk about Crystal m Oh my god, she. 102 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 2: Does not have any teeths. I don't have any deed. 103 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 2: I guess we can relate this. 104 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 1: It's the only thing we haven't common. Oh my god. 105 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: In twenty twenty two, they were about six calls for 106 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: a total of four hours, Like four hours total for 107 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:34,719 Speaker 1: the whole year of talking to each other. In twenty 108 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: twenty three, about nine calls for two hours total for 109 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: our our call time is rapidly, yeah, slightly shorter calls. 110 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 1: Throughout the years, I've asked him several times to contact 111 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,039 Speaker 1: her more, and twice he agreed to call more, but 112 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 1: with ridiculous demands. Once in twenty twenty two, he wanted 113 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 1: to call every night at ten pm when he got 114 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: off work, and I told him that wouldn't work. As 115 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: she went to bed at eight, and he said he's 116 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 1: a she was just a baby. Uh, And he said fine, 117 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: and that he wouldn't bother calling. 118 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 2: Honestly, let this man loose, make him pay child support. 119 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 1: But yeah, keep them away. 120 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:13,799 Speaker 2: From your child. 121 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: It's I don't think it's worth it. 122 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 2: It is not worth it to keep him around because 123 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 2: he seems like awful and I would not want him 124 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 2: around my child. 125 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, if anything, I feel like that the contact might 126 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: even like make things worse. I think so versas just like, hey, 127 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 1: let's like insulate ourselves and be able to just focus 128 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: and build one on ourselves. Keep keep them away all 129 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 1: I'm saying. Another time, in twenty twenty three, I asked 130 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: again for him to contact her more, and he said 131 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: he would call her every morning at nine, And I 132 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:44,279 Speaker 1: asked him to pick another time, as she was in 133 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 1: school at that time, and he said that's the only 134 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: time he was willing to call. So obviously it didn't happen. 135 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 1: If he cared, he would find a time. Yeah. 136 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 2: No, he doesn't care, even on. 137 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 1: The weekends or something something. 138 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 2: He clearly does not care about this child at all. 139 00:06:57,800 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: I think he's like saying that just to be able 140 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,680 Speaker 1: to be like, oh, oh, well, you know you're just 141 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: trying to keep me away, because that's when I can 142 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:03,839 Speaker 1: call and you're not. 143 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:06,920 Speaker 2: I can only call it midnight or four in the morning. 144 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, oil. 145 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 2: Before me. 146 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: And if you can't accommodate that, you're ridiculous. 147 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 2: At your vaults. You're kidding me wherever my daughter appariently. 148 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: You GF you smoke guys say you can't doc to 149 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: your daughter anymore. Apparently, Oh my god. Well, in October 150 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: of twenty twenty one, I met a man. Oh, a man. 151 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: Let's call him two ice. Oh, let's let's pray. 152 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 2: Let's dear Lord, please don't let this man have ice. 153 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 1: Don't let him hit the pipe, but let him lay 154 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: the pipe. 155 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 2: I'm gonna take that out of my prayer. 156 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: Got him, I'm keeping in. I met a man will 157 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,119 Speaker 1: call him Jay at my work and we hit it off. 158 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: He's an amazing man and loves my daughter. She loves Jay, 159 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: and it didn't take long for her to start calling 160 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: him daddy j and eventually really just daddy. 161 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 2: Wait, really calling him daddy Jay. 162 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: Daddy his name Oh, okay, Jay is his bake acronym name. 163 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 2: That's still funny. 164 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 1: It's just like daddy, Daddy j Is that my name? Y? Yeah? 165 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: What's up? Yeah, it's daddy Jay co promoke his doortowns studio, 166 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 1: completely sober, not a drunkle glinergy at all. He proposed 167 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: in May of twenty twenty two, and in January of 168 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, we officially started trying for a baby 169 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:45,679 Speaker 1: and it didn't take long to conceive. 170 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 3: YO. 171 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: So fast forward to Christmas of twenty twenty three and 172 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:55,960 Speaker 1: my ex'es mom comes to visit our daughter. She tries 173 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: to visit once a year and sends gifts every holidays, 174 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:01,679 Speaker 1: every holiday, but never or calls her. We met her 175 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,319 Speaker 1: at our We met her at her cousin's home, and 176 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: while there, her cousin's wife, who's a good friend of mine, 177 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 1: let it slip that I was six months pregnant. She 178 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:16,959 Speaker 1: asked questions and congratulates me. I thought it was all 179 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: fine until I start getting messages from and basically complaining 180 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: that I'm knocked up and whatnot. 181 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 2: Not your problem, Palnock knock yourself out, Knock yourself out. 182 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: There's a bunch of back and forth where he's trying 183 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: to make me mad and accusing me of not letting 184 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 1: him talk to his daughter, which isn't the case as 185 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: I've always asked him to call her more. But whatever. 186 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: After checking my blood pressure and seeing that it was 187 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:49,320 Speaker 1: one sixty over one twenty, I eventually tell him I 188 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 1: won't be responding and he was stressing me out and 189 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 1: making my blood pressure rise. Damn, you're literally making me sick. 190 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 1: Pal sick. He informed me that he doesn't give f 191 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: about my blood pressure and hopes to have the most 192 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: stressful day in diss He sucks. I told him that 193 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: sense he was wishing harm on me and my baby, 194 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: that I won't be responding to him until after I 195 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: give birth. He got mad and said we'll see, but 196 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 1: thankfully left me alone. Kick him out, get him out. 197 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 1: We already get him out. We already kicked him out 198 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: of the house. Now we had to get him life. 199 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: We got to kick him out of the universe. Please 200 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:30,079 Speaker 1: go on a. 201 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 2: Go through a wormhole and never come back. 202 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:34,679 Speaker 1: Grow on a frozen rock where you can do your 203 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: frozen rocks in space like a comet. Get out there, AnyWho. 204 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:42,760 Speaker 1: I forgotten to mention this earlier, but when I had 205 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:45,560 Speaker 1: my first daughter, she was delivered by emergency C section, 206 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 1: because I suddenly developed pre at glampsia. Preclampsia, of course 207 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,679 Speaker 1: I am, I'm an expert in that. But just to 208 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: just to pop quiz me, Riley, why don't you let 209 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 1: us know what a pre eclipses. 210 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 4: The tradition in which one or more in convulsions occur 211 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 4: in a pregnant woman suffering from high blood pressure, often 212 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 4: followed by a coma, imposing a threat to the health 213 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 4: of a mother and baby. 214 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:22,040 Speaker 1: I love the way I proposing a threat mother and baby. 215 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: Love that so dangerous, very dangerous. So I developed preclampsia, 216 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: and during my surgery my oxygen also dropped and I 217 00:11:31,120 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: had to be put on oxygen for four days and 218 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:37,479 Speaker 1: had to stay in extra two days in the hospital 219 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,600 Speaker 1: to be monitored. And our baby was in then I 220 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: see you for three weeks. 221 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:43,600 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 222 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,599 Speaker 1: So going into the second pregnancy, there were already concerns 223 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: as my blood pressure was high the whole time, and 224 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:55,560 Speaker 1: I had to be medicated and monitored. Thankfully, the hospital's 225 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: racking right now. 226 00:11:57,480 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 2: It's already expensive to have. 227 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: A baby, yeah, and then. 228 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:03,319 Speaker 2: To also have to pay all of those medical bills. 229 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 1: Hopefully there was some it's like, uh, disastrous care or 230 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 1: whatever it is called for the pregnancy where it's like, okay, 231 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:16,520 Speaker 1: when extreme complications occur, there is at least covered up 232 00:12:16,520 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: to a deductible hopefully, but who knows healthcare? What are 233 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:23,839 Speaker 1: you gonna do? Thankfully, thankfully she was born in March 234 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: without emergency intervention and we were fine. Okay. We love 235 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: to hear that I haven't reached out to my ex 236 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:30,840 Speaker 1: and honestly don't want to. 237 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 2: Don't gut don't. 238 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: My daughter honestly doesn't know this man and hated when 239 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,199 Speaker 1: I made her talk on the phone to him. More 240 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:41,200 Speaker 1: evidence you should go away. He brings nothing positive to 241 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: our lives. Sorry, it's so long, and if things aren't 242 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 1: worth it, well or if I left anything out as 243 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:48,040 Speaker 1: I'm writing this between customers while I work, willing to 244 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: answer anything in the comments. Quick edit to add, as 245 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 1: far as I know, he's clean, but he did have 246 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:57,319 Speaker 1: a DUI in twenty twenty find of. 247 00:12:58,160 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 2: Just get get out of your lives. 248 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,880 Speaker 1: Look, if if he's off the ice, that is definitely 249 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 1: a major improvement just for him and his health. Well, 250 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: but he is still the stinkiest of stinkiest man's get 251 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: him out of here. 252 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 2: I think the situation is if he comes back to 253 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:14,719 Speaker 2: you and says, hey, I want to be in my 254 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:18,200 Speaker 2: daughter's life. I'm willing to make changes. I will prove 255 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:20,959 Speaker 2: to you, yeah that I want to be in your life, 256 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 2: and I'm going to do all that. But until then, 257 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 2: I don't think you should force it on him, because 258 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:29,720 Speaker 2: he's just gonna make you and your daughter's life worse. 259 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:31,440 Speaker 2: Like it's gonna make it worse. 260 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 1: Classic case of like you think adding more people my help, 261 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 1: adding the extra person will make it worse. 262 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, get rid of the the freaking useless bits. 263 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 1: He's the useless bit. Get him out of here. 264 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:50,400 Speaker 2: I don't know. 265 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:53,079 Speaker 1: So we've pretty much already said this, but to be 266 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:58,200 Speaker 1: crystal clear, go no contact. To be crystal clear, Oh 267 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,720 Speaker 1: did not even mean to do that. But thank god 268 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 1: I have such an intelligent, hardworking, incredible co host such 269 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: as Sophia to give me the assist. Thank you. What. 270 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 1: I hate to be this way? 271 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 4: What what do you but if someone was in order, 272 00:14:16,800 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 4: like you know, going to be on the Crystal voting 273 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:25,200 Speaker 4: you for some reason. I don't know why, but because 274 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 4: I think it's just because you're from Florida, not really sure, 275 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 4: but I was like, who in our group. 276 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you're like. 277 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 2: I hate I hate to be this way. 278 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 4: I do. I really I hate that that thought went 279 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 4: in my head. But you know how I am with 280 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 4: thoughts that come into my head have to say them. 281 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 1: The most beautiful thing is that Riley did not actually 282 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: have to share any of this, but but he actually 283 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 1: does because it is the the impulse that builds inside 284 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: of him that he can't guys the amount of times 285 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:56,160 Speaker 1: he's had he has either existential crises or crazy thoughts 286 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:58,280 Speaker 1: that just like we're just sitting there and he'll just 287 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:00,560 Speaker 1: like say it is I'm never there. He just just 288 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 1: say things he truly does. 289 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:04,880 Speaker 4: I feel bad for keeping it in because like, oh 290 00:15:04,920 --> 00:15:06,160 Speaker 4: I feel bad that I thought this. 291 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:07,040 Speaker 1: I gotta let him know. 292 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, He's like, oh, I need to tell you this 293 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:10,240 Speaker 2: right now. 294 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 1: But you know, Riley, sometimes it is okay to have 295 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 1: to yourself. 296 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 2: It's true. 297 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: Sometimes you don't. 298 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 2: You don't need to. 299 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 1: Tell Sometimes actually benefits the people around us to not 300 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: share those thoughts. And while it might be getting off 301 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: of your chest, it might be uh. 302 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 4: You know, it's so heavy and I need to like 303 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 4: let it go, Like do you you. 304 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: See what he just did? Y? 305 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 4: But like I have to like, I just can't like 306 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 4: keep it on me anymore. I gotta get like, oh, 307 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 4: I need you to hold this now. 308 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: See. 309 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:52,360 Speaker 2: This is why I don't think the other story that 310 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:55,160 Speaker 2: Riley didn't let me tell you about, the person was 311 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 2: supposed to keep a secret from her partner, and Riley 312 00:15:58,160 --> 00:15:59,960 Speaker 2: was like, I would keep it a secret to the grind. 313 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 4: I would you couldn't. I would call my buddy Rex 314 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 4: and be like, Hey, this is what happened. He'd be like, yeah, 315 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:07,760 Speaker 4: you just listen, this is what happened. 316 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: I called Rex. He'd be damn, that's crazy and that 317 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 1: it's done. But you've already told someone. Yeah, and it's Rex. 318 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 1: And do you know do you know what a find Rex? 319 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 2: I think I think that you would. I think that 320 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:19,400 Speaker 2: you would end up telling them. 321 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: I would not. 322 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 2: I don't think you could keep that secret. 323 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: I will. What was the secret? 324 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 2: Oh? It was that the father in law told Ope 325 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:36,520 Speaker 2: that her husband that his sisters weren't biologically his sisters, 326 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 2: they were her his. 327 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:41,240 Speaker 1: Uncle's classic case of not the real children, not the 328 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: real children, the biological children. That is it for this episode. 329 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 1: Right here we go over and out. If you love us, 330 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe. 331 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 2: We love you and see tomorrow. 332 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time 333 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 1: for okop free lash. I'm shaming my filthy sister for 334 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:06,640 Speaker 1: the distrusting act of getting a tattoo. 335 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:11,920 Speaker 3: He am I the a hole EO tattoo. All tattoos 336 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 3: equal tramp stamps, yes, which equals you a tramp. Actually, 337 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 3: your boys are definitely not patted up. Dude, I got 338 00:17:20,320 --> 00:17:22,200 Speaker 3: a tat No, you don't in my soul. 339 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:24,600 Speaker 1: I checked some guys again. 340 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:30,879 Speaker 3: Okay, stupid idiot that I had a god awful tattoo. 341 00:17:32,280 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 1: One day I'll figure something out. 342 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 3: We actually get a tattoo. 343 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I start liket just just like I just 344 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:44,520 Speaker 1: need to start to drop. Maybe on the thigh. Maybe 345 00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 1: it's the tear drop right where the only Oh god, okay, 346 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 1: let's read this story. My sister is twenty eight. I'm 347 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:57,399 Speaker 1: twenty six male. My siss and has always had a 348 00:17:57,440 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 1: strained relationship with our parents, especially my mom. I am 349 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 1: clearly not privy to the reasons because things are fine 350 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 1: with me and my parents. When Enn went to college, 351 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:08,679 Speaker 1: she met her creative writing professor as a freshman, and 352 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 1: they got close immediately. Ooh oh baby. They would do 353 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:18,760 Speaker 1: a lot together and worked closely on a few different 354 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 1: writing projects. Oh oh god, Oh the way you moved 355 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 1: that pin. 356 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 3: Oh the way you fold that paper. You make me 357 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:32,399 Speaker 3: want to fold me. God, the way you hold punch 358 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 3: I want you to punch my hole with your wiener. 359 00:18:36,400 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 1: Oh dear, this is this is Sam's pillow talk. Oh yeah. 360 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 1: They would do a lot together and work closely on 361 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: a few different writing projects, and never specifically said this, 362 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:50,280 Speaker 1: but it was obvious to anyone who saw them interact 363 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 1: that they had a substitute mother daughter type relationship. Okay, 364 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,879 Speaker 1: so who are we talking about again? So okay, I 365 00:18:58,920 --> 00:19:01,879 Speaker 1: think we completely miss read the signals. I think this 366 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 1: is actually like a mother figure. 367 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:07,439 Speaker 3: So who are the two people? 368 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 1: It's his sister and his sister's art professor. And how 369 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:15,760 Speaker 1: old is each The sister is now twenty. 370 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 3: Eight and the art professor is like probably enough to 371 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:22,200 Speaker 3: be an art professor. Oh yeah, drop me like one 372 00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:23,159 Speaker 3: of your French girls. 373 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 1: Fuck. 374 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 3: They were like, we totally misinterpreted it. Yeah, maybe you 375 00:19:31,280 --> 00:19:33,399 Speaker 3: can't stop us now. 376 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:37,680 Speaker 1: The mother daughter relationship, not the other relationship we were thinking. 377 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 1: It was that relationship hurt my mom a lot to 378 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,760 Speaker 1: see I always thought that she'd grow out of it, 379 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: or that the professor would move on. But ten years 380 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: later they're very close. Oh my goodness, I mean this 381 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:52,680 Speaker 1: just sounds like it sounds like a beautiful friendship, last 382 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 1: of last. 383 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 3: Of the year friendship. 384 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: Oh. Now, about a month ago, the professor died unexpectedly 385 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,200 Speaker 1: in a devastated Oh my gosh, she was really depressed 386 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:04,800 Speaker 1: over the holidays, which of course was all in front 387 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 1: of my mom, And it was a difficult reminder that 388 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:11,200 Speaker 1: Ann loved the professor as a mother way more than 389 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,679 Speaker 1: she ever loved my mom as a mother. Oh my, 390 00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:16,879 Speaker 1: I feel I mean, like I feel like we're extrapolating 391 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 1: a lot, Like yeah, like the sister is just just 392 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:24,159 Speaker 1: like devastated that this friend of ten years is gone. 393 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 1: And then like if the mom is interpreting that as 394 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 1: she doesn't love me, that feels kind of like a 395 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:32,720 Speaker 1: little fucked up, right. Also the brother, Like why is 396 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,679 Speaker 1: the brother interpreting it? Like, yeah, that's like unless Opie 397 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 1: literally directly said to you like I loved her as 398 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:40,160 Speaker 1: a mom, like I never loved our mom. I mean, 399 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,679 Speaker 1: I don't know. That seems a little bit of a stretch. Yeah, 400 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 1: it seems like a big stretch to me. She still 401 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:47,400 Speaker 1: talks to my parents and stuff, and they don't fight 402 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:50,400 Speaker 1: or anything, but n is very distant and doesn't tell 403 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:54,119 Speaker 1: them anything about her life beyond the bare minimum. My 404 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 1: mom tried to comfort End, but Enn was doing her 405 00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 1: distant thing and didn't want any comfort. Man. 406 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:05,920 Speaker 3: I mean, I don't like you know, some people grieve 407 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 3: in different ways. 408 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 1: I think you know, yeah, I think uh, I think 409 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:13,639 Speaker 1: you should let your hate for your mom just like 410 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:18,800 Speaker 1: fuel your your your you out of your grief process. Yes, agreed, 411 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: I am a therapist. 412 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,479 Speaker 3: In case your money, please subscribe to John's therapy sessions 413 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 3: on betterhelp dot com. 414 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:28,480 Speaker 1: No, it's not only fans. I thought it would be 415 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:32,120 Speaker 1: a much more appropriate medium to dispense my therapy wisdom 416 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:38,480 Speaker 1: and alledge. Cheek therapy is actually kind of a great 417 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 1: that's really I'm saving. I'm going to buy the domain 418 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:47,440 Speaker 1: or something. Only fans people cheek therapy or that's podcast, 419 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:47,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. 420 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,959 Speaker 3: Really a wholesome podcast about just making people smile. 421 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:58,680 Speaker 1: Now we're talking, No, we're talking, okay. Now. Something unfortunately 422 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:00,439 Speaker 1: that happened to End is that when she got the 423 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:04,040 Speaker 1: call that her professor had passed away. She was brewing 424 00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 1: tea and in shock of the news, she spilled the 425 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 1: boiling water on her arm, which burned her kind of 426 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:13,600 Speaker 1: badly on her wrists. I think the burn was on 427 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:17,320 Speaker 1: borderline second or third degree burn. Wow, and definitely still 428 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 1: looked pretty rough during the holidays, and said it was 429 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 1: especially hard because, in addition to the physical pain, every time. 430 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 3: She looks at it physical reminder. 431 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,720 Speaker 1: Reminded her of the moment she found out the professor died, 432 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 1: which I totally get. Gosh, Yeah, I was on FaceTime 433 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:35,640 Speaker 1: with En and she said that she talked to her 434 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 1: tattoo artist friend, who said that the burn should be 435 00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,840 Speaker 1: able to heal well enough to get a tattoo to 436 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 1: cover it. 437 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 3: Oh, that's kind of cool. 438 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,040 Speaker 1: I hope so, I mean, hopefully that doesn't hurt a lot. 439 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,040 Speaker 3: But well, I mean, that's probably great scar but it 440 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 3: will eventually they keel. 441 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:49,920 Speaker 1: That's true. 442 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,199 Speaker 3: I'd be a little sensitive, though, who knows. I have 443 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 3: no tattoos? 444 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,360 Speaker 1: Yeah? 445 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:54,679 Speaker 3: Do you? 446 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:57,960 Speaker 1: Why are you to talk? Why are you gatekeeping tattoos? 447 00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, all of. 448 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:04,600 Speaker 1: My tattoo themed intrusive thoughts are being gas lit right now. 449 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:08,400 Speaker 3: I feel like we're using all like the gen z buzzers. 450 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 1: All the terms until they're until they're and then excitedly 451 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,160 Speaker 1: told me about her tattoo idea, which is a type 452 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 1: of flower that the professor gave her a bouquet of 453 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 1: for her undergrad graduation. That is like the swiftest box 454 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,520 Speaker 1: are so nice thing ever, that is the sweetest thing ever. 455 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:30,119 Speaker 1: My mom was so embarrassed that day because, oh, because 456 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,160 Speaker 1: she didn't get En any flowers, but the professor did, 457 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 1: and N was parading around with them so happy, and 458 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,679 Speaker 1: it was a reminder of their connection. I guess N 459 00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,800 Speaker 1: and the professor exchanged these flowers for every special occasion 460 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:44,040 Speaker 1: like birthdays, et cetera. 461 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:47,280 Speaker 3: It just sounds like there, this sounds like I feel 462 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 3: like Op's trying to model this relationship is like bad. 463 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,520 Speaker 3: It just sounds like such a good friendship. Yeah yeah, 464 00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,200 Speaker 3: And like you know, it's on you if you don't 465 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,440 Speaker 3: get flowers for your kid. 466 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Sorry, So now she wants to get a 467 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 1: decent sized tattoo and a highly visible spot that will 468 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:08,080 Speaker 1: remind everyone of the professor. I told En, do. 469 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:12,000 Speaker 3: Remind every one of the professor. It's just it's freaking flowers. 470 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 1: You thought that sentence was give you a response. I 471 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 1: told En that it seemed really cruel to my mom, 472 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 1: who already felt cast aside and like she's in exile 473 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: from N. So no tattoo not allowed. 474 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 3: That's ridiculous, and. 475 00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: That's without the constant, permanent reminder. N kind of scoffed 476 00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: and said, I can't believe you think you have the 477 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:38,120 Speaker 1: right to tell me not to do this, which is correct. 478 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 1: She called me an ass and hung up and is 479 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,639 Speaker 1: still not talking to me, except for a very brief 480 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:46,320 Speaker 1: text saying congrats for promotion that I just got. My 481 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,359 Speaker 1: parents aren't commenting. My dad said I should have just 482 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 1: kept quiet, even though he agrees, and my mom made 483 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,480 Speaker 1: no comment but seemed grateful that I stood up for her. 484 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 1: I feel like I was just being protective of my mom, 485 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:00,359 Speaker 1: because you know, I'm a mom's boy trying to be 486 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:04,720 Speaker 1: picked out here. But am I a yes bro? 487 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 3: It's like so obvious, My god, how can you be 488 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 3: so blind to like this is? Is this a listener submission? 489 00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:17,960 Speaker 3: It's not a listener I wish sanitize them. Yeah, this 490 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:22,199 Speaker 3: is like this is I mean, one the sister just 491 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:25,679 Speaker 3: had a beautiful relationship with someone like a beautiful friendship. 492 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 3: And yeah, I know maybe the mother and her weren't 493 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:30,560 Speaker 3: that close, but just because. 494 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:32,160 Speaker 1: Like it doesn't mean anything. 495 00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean, like the relationships always varying closeness. 496 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,200 Speaker 3: It doesn't matter if it's blood related or a friendship. 497 00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 3: It's just based on like shared experience and just personality. 498 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 3: So he's being ridiculous, dude. 499 00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:52,359 Speaker 1: It's it's painful how fucking blind op is to like 500 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 1: this this whole situation. Let her get the tattoo, good gravy. 501 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: But and you know what else people should get sam. 502 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 3: A sub a subscription subscription to our slash Okop show. 503 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 1: So they can submit their stories. 504 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,920 Speaker 3: Of course, yeah, submit your story our slash Okop show 505 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 3: so we can read them. 506 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:10,680 Speaker 1: Sentiment a baby. 507 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,720 Speaker 3: Would I be the a hole if I got my 508 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 3: family friend fired for telling my mom that I was pregnant. 509 00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: That's a situation. That's a situation and a situation. No, 510 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,240 Speaker 1: not talking, Jim Tan Laundry Jersey Shore. 511 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:28,360 Speaker 3: I twenty female, recently found out I'm pregnant, which came 512 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 3: as a surprise because I'm on birth control. I made 513 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,119 Speaker 3: an appointment with an ob that's close to me with 514 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:36,400 Speaker 3: high ratings to confirm the pregnancy, and when I walked in, 515 00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,639 Speaker 3: I was immediately concerned because the woman behind the desk 516 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:42,440 Speaker 3: is a friend of my mom's, which is like concerning 517 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 3: because like what if you don't want to keep the baby? Yeah, 518 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,040 Speaker 3: you know, and if you're in a conservative state, Like, 519 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 3: they're not super close. I hadn't seen her in years, 520 00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,159 Speaker 3: but they've known each other since high school and I 521 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 3: know they sort of keep in touch. I didn't feel 522 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 3: ready to tell anyone other than my boyfriend and obviously 523 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:01,239 Speaker 3: doctor about the baby. I was freaking out a little bit, 524 00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,680 Speaker 3: but my boyfriend assured me that she wouldn't be able 525 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,359 Speaker 3: to say anything to my mom about the baby without 526 00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:09,080 Speaker 3: my consent, which is like you know, doctor patient. 527 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: Privilege, right, right, that makes sense? That makes sense. 528 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, and especially again especially in you know states like 529 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 3: like Texas where abortion laws are really. 530 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 1: Not on a billboard, not on a billboard. 531 00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,399 Speaker 3: When I got home, my mom was waiting for me 532 00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 3: because she already knew about the baby. Apparently her friend 533 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 3: had texted to congratulate her before I could even make 534 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:28,960 Speaker 3: it home. 535 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:32,439 Speaker 1: So she didn't even like think she was like ratting 536 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 1: on her. 537 00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, she was like, oh, congrats on the new baby. 538 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 3: Apparently her friend had texted to congratulate her before I 539 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 3: could even make it home. Everything is going to be okay, 540 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:45,760 Speaker 3: and my mom is being supportive, But honestly, I'm pissed 541 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,159 Speaker 3: at this lady and I want to report her to 542 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,280 Speaker 3: the ob Yeah, my family is supportive of the baby, 543 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,560 Speaker 3: but if she had opened her big mouth to someone 544 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,359 Speaker 3: with a different kind of family, the outcome could have 545 00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:57,440 Speaker 3: been really bad. 546 00:27:57,920 --> 00:27:58,280 Speaker 1: True. 547 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 3: My boyfriend agrees with me, thinks it's kind of caring ish. 548 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,000 Speaker 3: And on the other hand, my mom thinks her friend 549 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 3: crossed a few lines. But to report her and potentially 550 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 3: put her employment at risk would be a pretty a 551 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 3: whole move. I think my mom's friend is an a 552 00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,679 Speaker 3: whole and a potentially dangerous one of that, would I 553 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,240 Speaker 3: be the ahole for reporting her big mouth to her employer? 554 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,920 Speaker 1: Wow, that's it. Honestly for me, this is a tough one. Yeah, 555 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:23,520 Speaker 1: it is tough. 556 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 3: It is tough because it like a family friend and 557 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:26,680 Speaker 3: nothing bad happened. 558 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:27,920 Speaker 1: Nothing bad happened. 559 00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,400 Speaker 3: What if it was someone else? 560 00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,600 Speaker 1: I just I just don't like the fact of, Like, 561 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 1: even though she had the purest of intentions, I don't 562 00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 1: like the fact that it's like a medical professional telling 563 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 1: other people like my. 564 00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:45,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's something supposed to be confidential. That's a breach 565 00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 3: of patient, you know, doctor confidentiality. Definitely, And if one 566 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,520 Speaker 3: of your employees is doing that, like as a doctor, 567 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 3: I would want to know. But the confusing part is 568 00:28:56,840 --> 00:29:01,720 Speaker 3: it's a family friend and like nothing bad happened to you. Yeah, 569 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,080 Speaker 3: but it's also like, you know, you're probably gonna make 570 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:06,160 Speaker 3: things really uncomfortable. 571 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,480 Speaker 1: Oh for sure, I mean yeah, I mean it'll be 572 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,440 Speaker 1: it'll be on. It doesn't sound like they're super close 573 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 1: or anything, but like but still, yeah, it won't. It 574 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:15,520 Speaker 1: won't be responsible for. 575 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,200 Speaker 3: Anyone getting fired, is no, not like a fun thing 576 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,480 Speaker 3: to do, unless unless you're a Karen and you love 577 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 3: that kind of stuff. 578 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:28,040 Speaker 1: Live. Well, so what what would you say, dude? That's 579 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,920 Speaker 1: so hard? Honestly, I would be initially, I would be pissed. 580 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:35,760 Speaker 1: I would be super pissed. And maybe in that moment 581 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,560 Speaker 1: I just like pull the trigger and and call them 582 00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: and tell them, but maybe not. I don't know. I 583 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,320 Speaker 1: would have to. I would have to sit on it. 584 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 1: But honestly, I could I could see my DELI I 585 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 1: could see myself doing it. 586 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:50,320 Speaker 3: See like My rationale is, you know what, it didn't 587 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:55,960 Speaker 3: hurt me, right, yeah, but but it could hurt someone else. 588 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 3: So in the interest of the greater good and of 589 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,440 Speaker 3: that person that really could have their life messed up 590 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 3: by something like this, she should. She should be talked to. 591 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,960 Speaker 3: But I don't think it necessarily goes through talking to 592 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 3: the employer. I think she could give like a warning 593 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:19,080 Speaker 3: or a talk directly to that family friend. That's a 594 00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 3: responsible thing. Hey, this was not okay for you to do. Luckily, 595 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 3: my parents are supportive, but if you do this again, 596 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,520 Speaker 3: you could get fired. And you know, look out for 597 00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,160 Speaker 3: your best look out for your self interest but also 598 00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,160 Speaker 3: the self interro but but also the interests of the patients. 599 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 3: And I think that would actually be as good of 600 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:45,480 Speaker 3: a behavior preventive measure as calling the employer. 601 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,360 Speaker 1: That's the mature thing to do. Or you could just 602 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 1: blow up her freaking life large just buy them. 603 00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:54,239 Speaker 3: Yeah that's a story. But if you want to make 604 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:56,720 Speaker 3: sure you don't blow up this great relationship we have 605 00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 3: with you, the listen there, what should they do? 606 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,160 Speaker 1: John, guys, give us a follow wherever you're wherever you're 607 00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,480 Speaker 1: consuming this right now, just click. 608 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,320 Speaker 3: It and we love you you know, subscribe, have a 609 00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 3: few laughs, you know, stick around for a while. 610 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:11,560 Speaker 1: That's right, okay, op