WEBVTT - "Male Actors" w/ Hari Nef 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:23.239 Podcast starts now, Hello, we are coming at you live 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:27.080 from New York City, where we are roughly one half 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:30.000 hour late, which is so. 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:33.440 So being gas lit because both of us saw major 0:00:33.479 --> 0:00:36.640 train delays that were allegedly citywide. We get here thinking, oh, 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:39.479 everyone's going to be late. They are major citywide train delays. 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:40.440 We get here, everyone is. 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:42.199 Here, everyone's fine, everyone's sitting around with. 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:44.920 Both of us coming from different places, are both late. 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:46.000 Well, we were targeted. 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:50.519 I do think do you think it's part of Trump's 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:54.319 terror related actions? Of course he is saying we are 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:58.120 doing no more in studio gay podcasting in this new 0:00:58.160 --> 0:00:59.639 era of America. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.000 You silence of the A podcasters, you silence truth. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:03.800 Well, I do think that's actually there's something to that, 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:05.600 because if you think about it, you know, we're sort 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:06.800 of the bottom of the totem pole. 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:07.959 Start with us. 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:10.560 It's kind of like starting with public universities and working 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:12.480 her way up to Harvard. You know, we are kind 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.120 of like the test subject of all State. Yeah, and 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:19.360 then you know, next thing, you know, where's Michelle Obama's podcast? 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:21.039 Wow? 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:23.959 Why isn't she talking to Sofia Bush about being empowered? 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:26.360 It's so nice to refer to ourselves as the bottom 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:27.400 of the zone pole. 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:28.520 Well, you know, of. 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:33.559 Course I feel I have to say. You know, last 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:35.760 night I was I was, I mean New York, and 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.600 I was like, God, New York is just like Paris. 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:41.559 Never been to Paris, but still the sentiment was there. 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:44.119 And then today I'm like, you know what, I needed this. 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:46.720 I needed to be like brought down a few pegs 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:49.440 because by the subway, by the subway, because I was 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:51.600 really like, what am I doing with my life? 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:52.400 Yeah? 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:54.600 And now here I am a half hour late, sweaty 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:55.120 as hell. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.320 I mean, there really is very seeing me about being humbled. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.400 There's nothing like running twenty minutes late and then texting 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:02.880 is there a food in the office because I haven't 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:04.960 had breakfast and being told yeah, there is a single 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:09.240 string cheese. There you go, there's a string cheese. 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:11.600 I actually really respected that you asked. 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.600 That, and I am now I'm in this dilemma. If 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:16.720 you're not watching on video, I'm holding the string cheese. 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:18.920 It is check off string cheese, and it might be 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:20.480 eaten by the end of the episode, or it might not. 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:22.560 I think you should have why didn't you eat it 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:23.359 before recording? 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:26.200 Because there is something about admitting defeat. You know what 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:31.080 it is. It's like, imagine I'm Lady Gaga okay, and 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.120 I'm running late, and I'm saying, is there anything there? 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.800 And they give me one string cheese? Would Lady Gaga 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:36.840 eat the string cheese? 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:42.120 Yes, this logic game is not working for no. She 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:44.200 would say, well, she would eat it in three bites. 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:46.680 She wouldn't string it, she'd eat it in three bites. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.639 She would eat it in one bite because might Donna 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:53.680 a documentary style? She would say truth or dare say 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:56.359 truth or dare put this string cheese in your mouth 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:57.919 one fucking bite. 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:00.280 I think I think you should have eaten it. I 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:01.600 think Lady guy I would have eaten it. I think 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:05.560 Madonna would have gagged upon it. Yeah. I think if 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:09.800 I think there's something about you know, being so in 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.680 need where then you have to perform how needy you 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.680 were when you get here, or you almost need to 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:17.000 scarf at and be like God, I was about to die. 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.960 Here's what so okay related to this, h Here's what 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:24.480 I'm struggling with. Obviously we're late, and obviously we're talent. 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:28.880 Now you're now you're forced. Now you're forced to decide 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:33.080 are you going to be so apologetic and humble or 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.480 are you going to walk in and pretend nothing happened 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:38.000 and say this is how I operate? 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:40.680 Well, what did you do? I missed your entry because. 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:43.120 I have I was apologetic. I will, but I stopped 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.840 myself from being overly apologetic because I think there was 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:48.280 a way I could have debased myself further. And I said, no, no, 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:52.320 you host an iHeart podcast, bitch, You host an iHeart 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:55.880 podcast and you have a free string cheese on your 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.800 person that you could eat it at any point. You 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:00.600 know what I did, and it's tax deductible. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:03.120 Okay, First of all, I also apologize, huh, But I also, 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:06.040 you know, tastefully not overboards that would have been so 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:08.160 bad that would have made it their problem. Not fine, 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:11.680 But I I had a half drank coffee and I 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:13.960 threw it away on the way in because I didn't want. 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:16.520 To want to walk in late with a coffee. Yeah, yeah, totally, 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:21.000 and I was like, that's enough coffee. I want to 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.520 get our guests taken on this whole debacle. 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:25.599 I can't wait to hear our guests perspective on this 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:27.320 entire debacle. 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.120 I have to say, we have been trying to get 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:31.839 this girl on. I feel almost like when we had 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:34.440 Kathy Griffin on, and not only because they're both ladies 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:38.880 in comedy that are not afraid to speak out about 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:39.600 Donald Trump. 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:43.679 That's right, That's very. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.240 True, because they were both no, no, she's not all 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:49.080 to speak yet, but because they have, they are both 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.720 people that have been like screamed for on the on 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:56.960 the discord, on the and the messages we're getting. Yeah, 0:04:57.120 --> 0:05:00.240 I'm When we did the pull, who do you want 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.159 to see on the pod? This person ranked above Lady Gaga, 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:08.440 all three, him, sisters, all three, all three, because there 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:12.360 were submissions for even Yeah, there were submissions for him, 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:14.599 and then there were multiple submissions for just st because 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:19.280 of course she's the comedian of the trio. So please welcome, actress, writer, model, 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:22.720 beautiful hair. Have Harry NEPV. 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:28.760 Hi boy, Hi, So Harry. How are we doing so far? Yeah, 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:30.880 you're doing great. I feel like you walked in late 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:34.599 and you apologized from a place of power. I feel 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:38.159 as though it's fine. I feel as though I was 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:40.200 in Midtown at eight thirty am today to get a 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.400 dry bar at Nordstrom, and I went to a whole 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.920 diner before I got here, I got the New Yorker 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:49.760 breakfast special at the Brooklyn Diner. Oh so that's who 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:51.520 I am today. But you relate and that's who you 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:52.800 are today. And I'll hold that again. 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:57.280 Are you mourning? Are you a morning diva? 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:58.360 I'm always in mourning. 0:05:59.160 --> 0:05:59.880 Are you in mourning? 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:02.640 Yeah, grief is just a part of grief is a. 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:03.240 Part of life. 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:07.720 I'm in morning for my life, totally speak of chekop string. 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.840 Yes, okay, so when you're when you arrive and they 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:15.880 say they're running, lay tell us what's going through your mind? 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:17.880 What's going through your mind? Walk us through that. 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:21.239 No, I already told George, like, somebody owes me something 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:25.159 like I've won. Like you are going to be apologetic. 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:27.320 You are going to lay it on a little thicker. 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:32.400 You are going to act like you owe me something 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.279 and you do. Yeah. Wow, it's great for me. 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:37.919 The thing is that's how I would feel too, because 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:41.320 you think I feel you think as the person apologizing 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:45.680 that you're in the that you're like humiliated and have 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:47.760 something to prove, and it's like you're just giving the 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:49.680 other person a gift of being in power in that 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:50.560 social situation. 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:52.279 What, George, I have to tell you something. I have 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:55.680 to come clean about something. Normally, I'm the one that's 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:57.560 like five minutes early, and you're the one that's like 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.159 five to ten minutes late, and you know me in 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:02.680 the squad here sort of look at each other and 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:05.560 go Wednesday, get here today, and we get to have 0:07:05.600 --> 0:07:10.200 this amazing little vibe, this connection, and I get to 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:14.280 have this power. And today it's been stripped away from 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:17.360 me in such a huge way, and I'm having an 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:18.760 identity crisis because of it. 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:21.160 That is one of the most shocking things you'd ever. 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:22.680 And even when I walked in I had to look 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:25.320 at everyone in the eyes and say, like, you guys know, 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:26.440 it's not normally like this. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:29.280 How would I know? 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:33.680 Yeah, And that's true, And that's true. You would have 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:38.840 no way of knowing. So that's kind of funny. A 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:39.840 little peak behind the curtain. 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:45.320 It's okay, I forgive you. Why are you It's over. 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:46.280 It's over. It's over. 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:48.679 Punishment is over, and we are back in power. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:53.559 Okay, Okay, I have a new topic. 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:54.680 Okay, what's the new topic? 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:58.040 Okay, Today I've decided to wear white jeans. 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:02.640 Uh huh, what do you think about white jeans power 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:08.160 move resort, It's it's wealth. 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:13.320 It's like dirt will not be smirched me. I am 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:15.680 not in the dirt. My hands are not getting dirty, 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:20.840 neither on my legs. I'm white jeans. Yeah, and I 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:26.960 think it's even more bold and powerful before Memorial Day, Diva, Like, 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:31.160 is that the thing like Memorial Day to Labor Day 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:35.640 is like when it's permissible to wear white bottoms. 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:38.560 But that's the only time when it's okay to be 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:39.280 a white bottom. 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:41.199 How do you feel about white bottoms? 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.520 You know, it's complicated obviously because it is my community, 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:47.719 but I definitely feel like they've had enough time in 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:52.760 the sun. Really yeah wow, But I here's what I 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:56.120 think though, that don't you think that saying the whole 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:58.520 Memorial Day to Labor Day thing is now so passe 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:02.240 that it's almost like it's more of a power move 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:03.719 to wear it outside of that. 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:10.320 No, because I love rules, I love clothes rules. We 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:14.000 have been stuck in the TikTok algorithm of finding your 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:20.840 personal style. And everybody is beauty, everybody is fashion, every core. 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:24.040 Is bring back shoes have to match the belt? 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:25.760 Yeah, bring back Dogma baby. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:28.400 I said, this is one of our friends, and I 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:30.600 bet you can guess who based on the response. I 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:33.440 was like, he was trying to dress me, and I 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:35.720 was like, well, this is kind of weird, Like aren't 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:37.360 the shoes supposed to match the belt? And he's like, 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:40.040 I don't fucking care what you learned on what not 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:42.960 to wear in two thousand and three, like you don't 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:43.880 have to follow any of that. 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:44.720 Well. 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:46.679 I do think, though, Harry is right that it's like 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:49.960 things have gone so far in the other direction that 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:51.760 we need to rein it back and everyone has to 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:53.760 actually look like a route floor and ad we actually 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:55.400 just like three years to get back on track. 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:59.200 Yeah yeah, Arisa, Yeah yeah, it's like going on the 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:00.439 Brat diet style. 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:01.600 It's exactly like that. 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:06.120 I don't know about belt to shoes, but purse to 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:10.480 bag yeah, oh no, purse to shoes. 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:14.040 Shoe no, No matching no. 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:16.240 Never. 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:21.080 I didn't even know. Is that do you have to 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:22.920 Was that a rule that you had to match or 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:23.800 purse to your shoe? 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:27.960 No? But I think it's something that is done. I 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:29.880 see it. 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:34.800 It's Upper Eastside lady, yeah, or like I don't know 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:36.640 where that's I've never done it. 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:41.120 I actually I'm having a memory of trying to do 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:45.679 it once and having maybe like an elder queen or 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:50.440 an elder girl or someone really severe who I looked 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:53.080 up to, very severely and furiously punished me for that. 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:55.240 The first time I ever went out and heels, it 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:58.680 was like a Jeffrey campbellita, you know, like twenty eleven. 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:02.080 I was outside the but I was fighting for my life. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:05.320 I was leaning against a brick wall having a cigarette. 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:08.080 I could barely stand. And this drag queen sees it. 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:12.040 She cocks me, and she goes, don't let them see 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:12.840 you take your shoes off. 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:17.679 Oh my god, to be caught, for her to know 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:20.240 you were in pain just by the way you were 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:21.280 leaning on the wall. 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:25.440 Do not take them USh, do not take your shoes off. 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:28.600 And I have taken that so to heart. I think 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:31.400 it is disgusting when the girls do that at weddings 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:34.640 about Vitzma's. It's unlady like, it's unseemly. 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:37.480 What do you think of girl having sneakers in her 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:40.600 bag and putting them on at the after party. 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:43.760 I don't know, Like, who wants to have shoes in 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:44.240 their bag? 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:44.720 Right? 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:48.120 Those shoes are on the ground, they're inside of your purse, 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:49.680 your toe. Yeah. 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:54.600 This is actually something I noticed when I first sorry 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:57.920 moved to America is that American people when they pack, 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.760 will just put a toothbrush loose with their shoes in 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:01.600 their in their bag. 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:03.600 Do you know what I mean? 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:08.400 Well, I don't makes my toothbrush with my shoes, but 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.320 I will sort of throw my toothbrush in the dopkin't loose. 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:14.920 So whatever else is in that bag, it's touching. 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:16.840 And are the shoes loose with your clothes? 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:18.640 No, I put my shoes in a little bag now. 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:20.319 But that's kind of a newish development. 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:24.400 Yeah, Honestly, anytime you get a little dust bag, save it. 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.480 I have like a bag of the bags and it 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:29.199 just like sits in the corner of the closet you 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:31.720 fished out. Any time you have to travel, hold onto that. 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:32.080 Oh. 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:36.040 Also, anytime you're at a hotel, they have those bags 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:37.440 and the thing, I don't think they charge you if 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:38.880 you steal them. I always steal them. 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:41.760 I the secret is stealing things from a hotel. Don't 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.640 look at the bill afterwards. I have no idea if 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:45.360 I was ever charged for the robe that I stole 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.840 from that it's a really good secret I wear all 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.000 the time. I'm instaging myself in my little robe. 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:54.240 They charged the robes, you know, you know what my theory. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.120 There were three in my room, even though then you 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.040 I was just one person and I took one and 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:59.959 I was like, oh, they're not going to notice, because like, 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:01.640 why would they have three in there? But what I 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:04.360 think they do is they purposefully put three in there 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:07.120 so the guest thinks, oh, I can get away with it. 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.679 This is so finances according to George, which is just 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:11.040 like just don't look. 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:14.000 How many beds were in the room one. I think 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:17.319 it was like a king So they're putting three, they said, 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:19.200 maybe it's yeah. 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:23.480 They're being very progressive. What are they it's a hotel. 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:24.640 What do they want to happen? 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.360 I know, I know they're also making me feel like 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:28.840 a prude because I'm there by myself. 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:29.439 Where are you? 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:32.560 I wasn't even having one partner with me, let alone two. 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:34.600 I guess it's San Francisco. 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.600 I love re staying in a hotel room that I 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:39.439 know I've had sex and like. 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.880 I have really you specifically request it? 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:42.000 Well? 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:44.000 Yeah, I mean I stay at the Sunset Tower in 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:46.760 la like whenever someone else is paying for it, and 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:53.199 there are a couple rooms there where it's just like 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.760 the grinder flash. Yeah, life of ten years. 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.559 I do think there was a in my life where 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:02.280 I like never wanted to look back, and every time 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:04.560 I was somewhere where I had been before, I felt like, 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:05.640 take get. 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:06.040 Me out of here. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.280 And I'm actually in a very nostalgic phase right now 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:10.319 where I actually am like purposely like I'll go to 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:12.199 my high school reunion. I mean maybe not that I 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.000 wouldn't go that far, but like I'm in a high 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:15.000 school reunion place. 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:17.640 When it comes to hook ups, I'm very nostalgic. Like 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.200 I'll have hooked up with someone once in twenty thirteen, 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:22.280 and I'll like message them on Instagram. I'd be like 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:22.920 have you been. 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:32.720 I have a really distinct memory, probably like five or 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:36.680 six years ago, of like coming across your Instagram and 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.040 I saw your little mustache and you're a little like 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.080 kind of mullet, and I was like, what's that? 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:44.360 The moment era was huge for here? 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:45.280 Is it gay? 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:46.320 That's funny? 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.040 Is it kind of gay? Are you growing back? 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:51.160 I'm kind of going back to time. 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:53.520 I actually I like this length. 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:55.400 Well, it's a little more tasteful. 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:57.720 Before it was like full, you. 0:14:57.680 --> 0:15:00.520 Know, trying to be country or something. Yeah, I'm going 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:01.680 paul as Cow. 0:15:01.880 --> 0:15:05.920 Yeah. I know you were giving the fantasy of like 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:10.480 the pitchforky like is it straight? Is it all like 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:16.080 tinder fantasy of twenty nineteen? That's what you were giving. 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:17.280 You look good then, and. 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:22.920 You know that's what you would you ever go country? 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:25.280 Yeah? Countdown to country? When is it? 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.240 If your career demanded it, if someone was like, you 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:29.800 have to go country. 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:36.040 Out of respect to the country, No, honey, I could 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:38.920 not be more coastal. I could not like it's it. 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:43.040 I am not opposed to the genre. I am not 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:45.680 opposed to the vibe. I'm not opposed to that. 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:50.680 You don't think it would be authentic. You don't think 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:52.520 if you were to go country you could pull it off, 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:53.280 is what you're saying. 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:56.400 Actually, now I want to try. 0:15:56.400 --> 0:15:58.360 I think I think you should. I can't think it's 0:15:58.640 --> 0:15:59.440 your next era. 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:02.560 I know. I don't mean like pull it as an 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:06.640 esthetic for like ladies and gentlemen. I mean like go 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.120 to Lake Okachoby and see if I can turn it, 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:13.520 because if I can turn it in like okachobe baby, Yeah, 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:14.120 I'm good. 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:16.600 Yeah, it's sort of like the equivalent. You know, if 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:18.640 you were a comedian, you would be like touring the 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:23.200 country seeing if your material worked on non coastal audiences. 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:25.040 You bring it back suddenly you're better than ever. 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.480 Yeah, I want access to that. I want to learn 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:29.200 how to do that. 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:34.680 Hmmmm, I want to. I wish time was unlimited. Let's 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:38.800 start there. Well, yeah, because I think, wait, really, I 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:40.320 wish I could like choose, like I wish I could 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:42.160 be like, Okay, now I'm going on vacation from real time, 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.840 and I'm going into fake time, sort of the waiting 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:45.480 room for. 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:50.200 Mining Granger, literally turning the time. We're huge Harry Potter 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:53.000 fans ever heard. Oh my god, I'm actually. 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:59.480 Not really, but because I would love to go work 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:00.960 on a farm and see if I could do it, 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:03.640 Like I want a simple life, my life just for 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:07.080 like a year, but not you lose a year. Okay, 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:08.840 hold on, because think about it if I worked on 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:10.760 a farm and I got what if like of course, 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.400 you know, think of the montage. Month one, I'm horrible. 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:16.600 Month three, I know where to get the pig slop. Yeah, totally, 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:19.240 and I oh, I'm good at carrying it. 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:20.840 I will say this time. 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:24.000 Sorry, go ahead, No, I think deserve but like you, 0:17:24.000 --> 0:17:27.720 you don't know, I'm assuming. Okay, wait where are we from. 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:31.560 I'm from the midwestern Virginia. Okay, yeah, I mostly grew 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:33.479 up in Greece, but I spent six years in New Jersey. 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:37.359 Okay, yeah, so okay Jersey high school. 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:38.840 Like middle school, end of elementary school. 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:40.720 So like, do you know any of like the coastal 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:44.240 kids who like, oh did farming gave up on the 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:46.720 semi charm kind of life? And then like, fully we're 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:50.200 like bio organic, they them farming like five years later 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:51.760 and like maybe are still there? 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:54.879 One of my greatest I wouldn't say regrets, because ultimately 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.160 I don't regret it, but I always would hear about 0:17:58.200 --> 0:18:00.760 those things. And by those things, I mean anything ranging 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:05.520 from peace Corps on one end and like organic farming Kibbutz. 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:08.399 Living organic non binary Jewish, non binary. 0:18:08.040 --> 0:18:11.119 Jewish farmer state brand, and I would always be like 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.880 sixty five percent interested, and I'd be like, yeah, if 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.080 I had just like a little an inkling more of 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:20.520 like the go getter attitude and like the you know, 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:23.320 less of a fear of disappointing my parents, who like 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:25.360 wanted me to be an engineer. I would do it. 0:18:25.520 --> 0:18:27.840 Oh, but it felt very much like doing that. The 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:29.920 whole point was to disappoint h Yeah. 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:31.200 Yeah, that's a great point. 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:34.399 I know. But the thing is I was playing the 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:36.040 long game because the number one way to dispoint your 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:41.560 parents is becoming a stand up comedian. You ate that, no, 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:43.320 but I was. Did you consider it? 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:46.560 No? I wanted to be an actress. 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:49.280 You wanted to be an actress, Sure, it's true, and 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:51.359 you also wanted to be in the big city. 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:55.160 Well, yeah, wait where are you from? 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:58.840