1 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, EMILYA Baddy here coming to you live from 2 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: the Age Studio. You are listening to five Minute Friday 3 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: from Hurdle. Can I tell you? I will tell you 4 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: I get to make the rolls over here. I went 5 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: on a very long walk this morning and it was 6 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: completely unintentional. But I woke up after having two very 7 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:47,480 Speaker 1: full glasses of whiskey out of friend's last night and 8 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: woke up knowing that I wanted to get outside. But 9 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: it was not going to be one of those days 10 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: where I was moving aggressively, if you get what I'm saying. 11 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: And so I made the decision to go for a 12 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: little walk. And the walk started out with the intention 13 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:08,559 Speaker 1: of me heading on over to one of my favorite cafes. 14 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: It's an outpath, an out post, a lobby cy clet 15 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:16,839 Speaker 1: in Fork Green. I was gonna head over there, grab 16 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: some bread. They make the best fresh baked bread that 17 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:25,119 Speaker 1: has pumpkin seeds and cranberries and hazel nuts. It's so good, 18 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: and then maybe lap the park before going back to 19 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: my place. Instead, I thought to myself, you should walk 20 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:35,759 Speaker 1: around a little bit more like grabs really, you know, 21 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 1: get that fresh air. And so I started walking toward 22 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: Prospect Park. I bumped into a girlfriend who was there. Also, like, 23 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: when did I become the person that uses the word girlfriend? 24 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: Does that make me actually like seventy two years old? 25 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: I'm on sure, but I bumped into my friend. We 26 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: walked around Prospect Park and saw so many cute dogs 27 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: and I hung out with her dog. And by the 28 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: time it was all said and done, I probably walked 29 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: about two or three miles with her. I walked an 30 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: additional two miles on my own. By the time it 31 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 1: was done, I walked five and a half miles and 32 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: feels like twenty one degree weather. And on that last mile, 33 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: as I was walking back home, I was thinking to 34 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: myself or wondering, really, when was the last time I 35 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 1: got out and didn't have a plan. And this actually 36 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 1: kind of ties into where I am emotionally lately. If 37 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: you get the Weekly Hurdle, you have a little bit 38 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: of insight into it. For those of you that don't 39 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: know about the Weekly Hurdle, it's the newsletter that I 40 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: send out every Friday morning. If you want to get 41 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,079 Speaker 1: in on the newsletter, click on over the show notes. 42 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: There's a link to subscribe in there, and bonus it's free. 43 00:02:55,200 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: I I'm not having a plan, am a very plan 44 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: A plan B, Plan C kind of person. My life 45 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: coach tells me that I operate from a heavy thinker energy. Ps. 46 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: I just started seeing a life coach and it's going 47 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 1: really well, and I'll talk all about that at some 48 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 1: point soon, I digress. I have not made it a 49 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 1: priority over the last few years to sit in my 50 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: feelings and operate from a place of feeling. Because of 51 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: taking on this business and being my own boss and 52 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:39,280 Speaker 1: being in charge of my own livelihood and some of 53 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 1: my past personal experiences, what I have become quote unquote 54 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: good at doing is really just being like, Okay, I 55 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: can feel sad about this for one second, but after 56 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: that second is over, I'm gonna gather my I was 57 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: about to say the F word, I'm gonna get my 58 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: shit together and I'm I'm going to figure out what's 59 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: next because I'm in charge of my own happiness. So yeah, 60 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: that's well and good. That approaches one approach, But what if, 61 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: And this is something I'm working on right now. I 62 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 1: am less focused on seeking that immediate happiness and instead 63 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: focused on letting myself feel focused on having no plan 64 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:31,799 Speaker 1: at all instead of just like being on high alert 65 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,359 Speaker 1: and having all of my walls up and needing to 66 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:38,840 Speaker 1: have a plan at all times. What if I navigated 67 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: it as I go. Am I scared about doing that 68 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: because I'm scared of opening myself up and being vulnerable 69 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: with the world. Yes, yes, one hundred percent, one hundred 70 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 1: and twenty five percent. Yes, But sometimes really great things 71 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: can happen if you just kind of throw your hands 72 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 1: up in the air and say, let's just feel this out. 73 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 1: Feeling can be scary. I feel as though I am 74 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 1: very aware that I am doing a lot of that lately. 75 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: But if we don't take the time to feel then 76 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: well I'll tell you firsthand, it's going to catch up 77 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: to you. So the walk was good. Talking about this 78 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: feels good, and now you know, we'll feel out. What's next? 79 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:31,559 Speaker 1: I prompt for you this week? What is something that's 80 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: not working for you right now? Again? What is something 81 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 1: in your life that is not working for you right now? 82 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: That's it, Just identify it and now a listener question. 83 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, my name is Chrissy, and I'm sitting here 84 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 2: with my early morning coffee reflecting on the past few days. 85 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:55,840 Speaker 2: In order to mentally prepare for my upcoming work week. 86 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 2: The perspective I would love to hear from you is 87 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 2: what are some tips to protect your energy from negative coworkers? 88 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 2: I work king to setting like many do, that is 89 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 2: stressed and strength from the pandemic. I'd love to hear 90 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 2: ways that I could help to support or work more 91 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 2: collaboratively with my coworkers who either wear the weight to 92 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,800 Speaker 2: the pandemic or appear to have different moral guidelines in 93 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 2: myself without me taking on their negative outlooks. Thank you 94 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 2: so much for taking the time to listen to this message, 95 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 2: and I love what you do for all of your hurdlers. 96 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:35,039 Speaker 1: Strong question everyone. Just a quick note here. I love 97 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: answering all types of questions, So a huge shout out 98 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:41,240 Speaker 1: to everyone that actually called in after I put a 99 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 1: call out for more last week. There's a link in 100 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: the show notes where you can click leave me a 101 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: voice message, and you can ask me your questions by 102 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:51,359 Speaker 1: clicking that. So pop in there ask me your questions. 103 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: They can literally be about anything, and I actually really 104 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: enjoy this one from Chrissy. Okay, so dealing with negative 105 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: energy at work be really taxing, right, because this is 106 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: an environment that you don't choose to get to be 107 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: in So when it comes to protecting yourself and your 108 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: energy and your boundaries, you have to identify what's actually 109 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: within your control and how you can do that while 110 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: still operating and getting your job done. Sounds complicated, right, 111 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 1: So something that's important in this scenario is understanding and 112 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: kind of re establishing with these individuals that you have 113 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: a mutual goal. You all hopefully have the company's betterment 114 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: in mind. Do you all have a common purpose which 115 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: is to do your job and execute on whatever your 116 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: tasks may be the best thing you can do to 117 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: protect your energy in a scenario where you don't really 118 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: have a say who is around you is to ask yourself, 119 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: what is it that I really need in this moment, 120 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 1: and this moment being the workday. So if you're dealing 121 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: with frustrating co workers, regularly surround yourself in your space 122 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 1: with some things that bring you calm and things that 123 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 1: bring you joy. Make sure you're finding small pockets of 124 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,679 Speaker 1: time throughout your day to give back to you, whether 125 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:13,559 Speaker 1: that's making some sort of a morning coffee routine, getting 126 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: up from your desk every so often, If you have 127 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: that opportunity taking time to breathe. That can be really important, 128 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: even if it's just five deep inhalations for inhale for 129 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: four seconds, hold for four seconds, exal for four seconds 130 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: and repeat. So a bunch of little self care rituals here. 131 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: But one of your strategy that I will highlight is 132 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: that oftentimes we kind of have this tendency to label 133 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 1: individuals or make them out to be a certain someone 134 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: without taking the opportunity to really try to get to 135 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: know them. I'm not saying you need to become or 136 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,680 Speaker 1: make an attempt to be best friends with your coworkers, 137 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: but what I am saying is because of the work 138 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:55,680 Speaker 1: that you do together, because of what you are forced 139 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 1: to do, you may not try to get to know 140 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 1: them beyond that capacity. But what if you do. What 141 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 1: if you set aside time to go get a coffee 142 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:08,719 Speaker 1: with someone that you are working with more regularly, and 143 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: if you happen to be remote, maybe that's a zoom 144 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 1: coffee one on one Try talking to someone that you 145 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,520 Speaker 1: work with regularly about something that has nothing to do 146 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 1: with work, and you may find that you have a 147 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:26,440 Speaker 1: different kind of appreciation or a new found understanding of 148 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 1: what makes them tick, and that can help you both 149 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: get the work done. Now again, I will reiterate this, 150 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: you do not need to become their best friend. But 151 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,440 Speaker 1: a big lesson that many of us have learned and 152 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: adopted throughout the pandemic is that being a little bit 153 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: vulnerable at times can actually do you a whole world 154 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 1: of good. Perfection at the office, it's just like not 155 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: a thing anymore, especially now that we see people's kids 156 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 1: running through zoom screens, and the Internet's going out and 157 00:09:56,120 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 1: there's all these technical difficulties. So just to you, try 158 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: to be kind to your co workers, come from a 159 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: place of compassion, and do the best you can with 160 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: what you have. You know, it's a lot of breathing 161 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 1: through it. It's a lot of removing yourself from a 162 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:14,840 Speaker 1: situation to try to understand where someone else might be 163 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:18,840 Speaker 1: coming from. And honestly, good on you for taking this 164 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: step back and thinking about how you can approach this 165 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: in a way that's good for you. That's awesome. We're 166 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 1: done here today. Make sure you're following along over on 167 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 1: social at Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at Emily a Body 168 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.