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Speaker 1: First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Nicky is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Josh.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if his house why is ghostinger and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Nikki, how long has it been

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Speaker 2: since you heard from Josh.

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Speaker 3: It's been a few days now, Okay?

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Speaker 4: Is that really ghosting? Is that unusual?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 1: I think so because he acted like he wanted to

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Speaker 1: see me again.

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Speaker 3: So I texted him and it's been I.

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Speaker 1: Don't know, maybe like four or five days without any response.

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Speaker 4: Okay, all right, Nikki, why don't you tell us about

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Speaker 4: how you met Josh and how the date went.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we met at this really cool cafe with like

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Speaker 1: old books and candles, and it was a really cool vibe,

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Speaker 1: like he seems to know a lot about places like that,

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Speaker 1: and it was a cool idea. And behind the books,

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Speaker 1: felst there was.

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Speaker 4: A speakeasy Oh cute, Oh that's cool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So when I got there, he showed me that,

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Speaker 1: and so we went.

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Speaker 3: In there and it was kind of like a dark

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Speaker 1: Of romantic and like sort of eerie, but in a

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Speaker 4: Sexy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was fun. It's like I'd never been to

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Speaker 1: a place quite like that. And at one point the

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Speaker 1: lights kind of flickered and Josh kind of leaned in

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Speaker 1: and said, asked if I felt the energy shift?

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Speaker 3: Ergy shift?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Was that like now you know?

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Speaker 1: Well, he wanted to tell me this story about a

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Speaker 1: ghost that apparently has been haunting that building since prohibition

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Speaker 1: times and only reveals itself to people.

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Speaker 4: Who believe that's kind of cool. A ghost.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a ghost, so he like it could

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Speaker 1: have been creepy, but it felt kind of exciting, like

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Speaker 1: he was making an effort and like putting on a

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Speaker 1: show for me. I kind of laughed and played along.

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Speaker 1: We had espresso martinis that were really good, and after

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Speaker 1: the he walked me to an uber and we were

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Speaker 1: hunging and kissing like no tongue but like still a

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Speaker 1: passionate kiss and kind of like you know, touching each other.

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Speaker 4: That's hot.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I think he's exciting and interesting and so cute

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Speaker 1: and just like he's different from anyone I've ever met.

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Speaker 1: And I felt a really strong chemistry and I just

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Speaker 1: want more.

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Speaker 4: So why do you think he's ghosting?

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Speaker 6: Then?

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Speaker 4: If it sounds like you want pretty well.

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Speaker 1: Well I think that he might be ghosting me because

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Speaker 1: I don't believe in ghosts.

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Speaker 4: Wait, so is that real to him?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, And like sometimes guys get insulted, I

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Speaker 1: guess to be like, he felt like I was laughing.

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Speaker 1: But I told him after we kissed that, you know,

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Speaker 1: him that he was a great storyteller.

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Speaker 3: And then he asked if I believed.

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Speaker 1: In ghosts, and I said no, and then his tone

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Speaker 3: But I didn't really think anything of it.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if why that would be worth ghosting

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Speaker 4: somebody over because the date sounded like it went really well,

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Speaker 4: So I don't know that feels that feels weird?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess.

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Speaker 1: I guess it's been more like I don't know, time

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Speaker 1: goes by so fast. I guess it's been more like

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Speaker 1: six or seven days, you know. But he told me

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Speaker 1: to text him when I got home, which was really sweet,

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Speaker 3: And then he hasn't reached out since then?

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Speaker 4: What game is this guy playing? Does it kind of

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Speaker 4: feel like there's something weird? I don't know. Could he

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Speaker 4: just like be busy? That doesn't That doesn't feel right either.

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Speaker 4: What do you think, Nikki?

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Speaker 2: What is there any other things going through your head

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Speaker 2: on why it could be that he's ghosting you?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: I really can't think of anything.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I thought that, you know, I just thought

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Speaker 1: that we had a really good time and so, you know,

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Speaker 1: that's the That's the only thing I can think of.

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Speaker 4: I mean, the laughing at him might be an issue.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe it wasn't really laughing at him. I was

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Speaker 1: But I mean it's kind of like a kid thing,

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Speaker 1: you know, just being honest, like I don't feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm being haunted.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, well we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 4: out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll plus song come back and then call him and

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Speaker 2: see if Hotels why is ghosting you? Maybe get you

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Speaker 2: another date? Okay, Okay, thank you, Okay, well plays song

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Speaker 2: come back and get your first day follow up next

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us. NICKI is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Josh, and

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Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if hotel us.

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Speaker 4: Why is ghosting or real? First, NICKI, why don't you

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Speaker 4: catch us up on your situation?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Well, I went out on the state with this guy Josh,

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Speaker 1: like about.

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Speaker 3: A week ago, and we had a great time.

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Speaker 1: We had drinks and we went to this kind of

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Speaker 1: speakeasy place and he told me that, you know that

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Speaker 1: it's sort of haunted like by ghosts from the Prohibition era.

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Speaker 1: And I said, we had a great time, but I

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Speaker 1: did reveal later that I don't really believe it goes.

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Speaker 1: I think that's maybe why he's not reaching out.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, because you kids, and then you said

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Speaker 4: that and then he ghost you. Do you believe in ghosting?

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Speaker 1: Though?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: All right, are you ready for us.

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Speaker 1: To call on?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, thank you?

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Speaker 4: Yep, all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, may speak

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Speaker 4: to Josh. Please. This is hey Josh. How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Josh. Ar'mina also on the show him Victoria. Hello,

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Speaker 4: how's it going?

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Speaker 5: It's going greed.

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Speaker 4: H do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 3: Josh?

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's okay, that's fine. Well, Josh, we do a

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Speaker 2: segment on our show. It's called the first Date follow Up.

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Speaker 2: What that is is if you go out on a

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Speaker 2: date with's somebody and end up ghosting them, they can

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting. So we got an email about you

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Speaker 2: from somebody that you went out with. M Yes, okay,

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Speaker 2: any idea who would be?

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Speaker 3: Hm?

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Speaker 5: I maybe a Nikki?

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Speaker 2: It is a Nikki, and Nikki emailed us and told

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Speaker 2: us she had a really good time with you. But

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Speaker 2: she's confused and says you've been ghosting her for about

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Speaker 2: a week now.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I have.

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Speaker 4: Okay telling us why?

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Speaker 5: Well, honestly, she doesn't she doesn't believe believe in she

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Speaker 5: doesn't believe in ghosts. Okay, she doesn't believe in ghosts.

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Speaker 5: She doesn't believe in the spiritual world. She's not open.

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Speaker 5: I've been able to speak to ghosts, hear them, speak

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Speaker 4: So well, why is that a problem for you?

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Speaker 5: Hm, because anyone and everyone can speak and hear ghosts.

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Speaker 5: As long as you open yourself, you can.

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Speaker 4: What does that have to do with dating her?

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Speaker 5: Because if how am I.

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Speaker 3: Supposed to open.

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Speaker 5: My soul my spirits myself to someone who doesn't believe?

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Speaker 4: Okay, so well that makes because it's about your need yea.

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Speaker 6: More well, it's about it's honestly, never honestly, it's.

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Speaker 7: About I never meant you like Maybe I wouldn't have

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Speaker 3: I didn't know that it was more serious for you.

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 5: Could you not tell it was serious? I've been speaking

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Speaker 3: I didn't really know that. I mean, you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: It's just I I didn't know that you saw it

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Speaker 6: This is what I am, this is who I am?

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Speaker 4: Does that feel kind of rude?

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Speaker 5: I'm just speaking to a ghost. Is not speaking on

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Speaker 5: the phone to someone else. Relating what they're saying to

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Speaker 5: the other person who doesn't have the spiritual ability was exciting. Honestly,

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Speaker 5: I have taken so much time training women to interact

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Speaker 3: Well, I want to try that. I think that sounds exciting.

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Speaker 1: I want to go back to the speak easy and

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Speaker 1: I want you to teach me about this.

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Speaker 3: Fascinating, fascinating, that's a good thing.

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Speaker 5: I'm open, you know, I'd like, why are you willing

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Speaker 2: I'll ask, Josh, would you like to go on another

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Speaker 4: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 5: H will M? I think we can as long as

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Speaker 5: you understand. I will guide you only as far you

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Speaker 5: do understand that this is this is a journey with us.

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Speaker 3: I do.

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Speaker 5: I understand this is a journey. Not necessarily, I mean,

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Speaker 5: it is a date, but it's a journey.

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Speaker 4: So I think that was a yes?

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Speaker 3: Is that an for another journey?

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Speaker 5: Yes, it is a yes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, hear that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let us know how that goes to Nikki. You

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Speaker 4: got another date, Nikki?

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Speaker 5: We will have it. We will have a wonderful time.

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Speaker 6: There's there's a graveyard that I've just been. There's so many,

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Speaker 6: so many spirits there.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, it's a great it's a great crowd.

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Speaker 3: I would love to meet them.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I have a great time. Let us know

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Speaker 4: how it goes.

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Speaker 5: Thank you and and and thank you and uh my

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Speaker 5: friend Jefferson he approves your choices.

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Speaker 4: Well tell him I said, thank you and have a

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Speaker 4: good one, Josh, you have a.

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Speaker 3: Wonderful Thank you. Guys, you will first date, follow up