WEBVTT - Don't Just Be Grateful

0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.640
<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:09.240
<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:12.880
<v Speaker 2>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:14.120
<v Speaker 2>who talks.

0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:19.400
<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:22.200
<v Speaker 1>new episode of We Talked Back, a show dedicated to

0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:29.680
<v Speaker 1>you dreamers and chasers. Y is your co host a

0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:33.000
<v Speaker 1>j Holiday. What's up? Tam Bam?

0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:45.560
<v Speaker 2>Y'all is Tam Bam? I love y'all, girl. They nothing

0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:47.320
<v Speaker 2>I didn't. How was your weekend? What did you do?

0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:52.760
<v Speaker 1>Nothing? It's cold outside, Like I really am emriminating this weekend.

0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.800
<v Speaker 1>I had the bed to myself mm hmm, me and

0:00:56.880 --> 0:01:00.360
<v Speaker 1>a cat, So yeah, I really enjoyed that. You know.

0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:05.560
<v Speaker 1>It's the small things, right, like having space to yourself,

0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.080
<v Speaker 1>the small things.

0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:12.800
<v Speaker 2>What did I do? It was a Washington weekend for me?

0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:15.920
<v Speaker 2>What so a Washington weekend?

0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:16.560
<v Speaker 1>Does that mean?

0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:21.679
<v Speaker 2>I went to see Gladiator with Denzel Washington and then

0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:26.160
<v Speaker 2>I also watched the Piano Lesson with John David Washington

0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:31.400
<v Speaker 2>produced by Malcolm Washington. So it was definitely a Washington week.

0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:35.119
<v Speaker 1>In Washington weekend. Interesting. How was Gladiator? I can't wait

0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:37.240
<v Speaker 1>to see it, but I want to see it in

0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:39.560
<v Speaker 1>the house. I want to watch it.

0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.280
<v Speaker 2>I would always rather watch a movie in the house.

0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:46.560
<v Speaker 2>It's just the comfort of free drugs and alcohol that

0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:51.000
<v Speaker 2>just makes it better. When I say drugs, I mean

0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:55.120
<v Speaker 2>we y'all. Let me be let me be very clear, right.

0:01:56.480 --> 0:02:00.160
<v Speaker 2>Gladiator was good. I enjoyed the movie. I don't I

0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.880
<v Speaker 2>can't say too much without giving it away. I enjoyed

0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:07.440
<v Speaker 2>the storyline how so much. It was connected to the

0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:09.639
<v Speaker 2>storyline from two thousand with Russell Crowe.

0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:13.400
<v Speaker 1>So he's not what.

0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:16.400
<v Speaker 2>I guess he died.

0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:21.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he died in the last one. Yeah, so that's

0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:22.280
<v Speaker 1>why he wasn't there.

0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:25.280
<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean they have ghosts and all kinds of

0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:28.480
<v Speaker 2>ship like there was a way to throw that nigga

0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:29.519
<v Speaker 2>in there that they really wanted to.

0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:30.120
<v Speaker 1>They did not.

0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:35.120
<v Speaker 2>But Denzel was excellent in it. You know, he's just

0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:35.880
<v Speaker 2>such a phenomenal.

0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:39.040
<v Speaker 1>It looks like just from the like the pictures we saw,

0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.280
<v Speaker 1>I knew it was going to be lit and I love, love,

0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.520
<v Speaker 1>love Gladiator.

0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:48.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're gonna enjoy it. And then also the piano

0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.160
<v Speaker 2>lesson that was good. It's a play adapted to a movie.

0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:55.639
<v Speaker 2>Some people don't like plays when they're adapted to movies

0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:57.880
<v Speaker 2>because there isn't a whole lot of movement. You know,

0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:01.480
<v Speaker 2>a play is usually on a set. I mean, you're

0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.480
<v Speaker 2>not gonna get a lot of movement, and people get

0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.680
<v Speaker 2>it can be a bit mundane if you're not into

0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:08.919
<v Speaker 2>a bunch of monologues, which is what happens in a

0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:12.800
<v Speaker 2>play adapted to the movie. But it was good story.

0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.720
<v Speaker 2>It's an August Wilson play. I don't know if you'll

0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:21.280
<v Speaker 2>familiar with August Wilson Fences. His dad did that one

0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:24.919
<v Speaker 2>with Viola Davis. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So that came out

0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:27.280
<v Speaker 2>like a couple of Christmases ago. That was a good one.

0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:31.400
<v Speaker 2>But I think this story, this plot was much better

0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:34.600
<v Speaker 2>than No Shade Defenses. But I think the way this show,

0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:38.320
<v Speaker 2>this movie was presented was through a very youthful lens,

0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:42.640
<v Speaker 2>Malcolm Washington. He's a young dude, so the way he

0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.360
<v Speaker 2>presented it was youthful. And it's got like a horror

0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:49.360
<v Speaker 2>element to it. So if you like scary stuff, I mean,

0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:53.680
<v Speaker 2>it's not hugely horrific. It's more a tale of like

0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:58.320
<v Speaker 2>family and our trials and our woes and how trauma

0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:02.640
<v Speaker 2>can be passed down. And this piano represents a lot

0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:06.000
<v Speaker 2>of that. So it's a good story, y'all. It's on Netflix.

0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:10.320
<v Speaker 2>Watch it if you got some time. The piano lesson,

0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.320
<v Speaker 2>piano lesson interesting.

0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:14.240
<v Speaker 1>Can I learn something in there?

0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:21.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean yeah, you might learn something something about resiliency,

0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:26.880
<v Speaker 2>something about family and being one and sticking together, you know.

0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:31.160
<v Speaker 2>So definitely watch it with your family, especially if y'all

0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:34.800
<v Speaker 2>not getting along, sit down and hold hands and watch

0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:35.440
<v Speaker 2>that movie.

0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I'd be getting along because I don't be talking to

0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:41.920
<v Speaker 1>nobody can get along with my God damn matter of fact, No,

0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:44.359
<v Speaker 1>my sister didn't did call me. One of my sisters

0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:46.920
<v Speaker 1>called me this morning. It seemed like every time we

0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:49.200
<v Speaker 1>talk is like, I don't be knowing as a problem

0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:52.599
<v Speaker 1>until she says something not between me and her, not

0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:56.279
<v Speaker 1>between me and her, but h just with other people

0:04:57.600 --> 0:05:02.320
<v Speaker 1>because I be in my little like, yeah, listen, let

0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:08.400
<v Speaker 1>me tell y'all one thing you will realize, man, Like,

0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:11.640
<v Speaker 1>there's a real there's a lot of power and detachment.

0:05:11.680 --> 0:05:14.599
<v Speaker 1>And I'm not just saying like to leave people or not,

0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:16.880
<v Speaker 1>but you got to meet people where he at and

0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:21.160
<v Speaker 1>understand who they are and you can't have emotions attached

0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.800
<v Speaker 1>to that shit. And that's just where I'm at I

0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:28.080
<v Speaker 1>practice detachment along with a lot of other things, but

0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:30.960
<v Speaker 1>I definitely practice detachment a lot.

0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.159
<v Speaker 2>Me and my family. I was just I was on

0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.440
<v Speaker 2>the phone with one of my friends last night and

0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:41.080
<v Speaker 2>he was talking about his family dynamic, and y'all, it

0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:43.240
<v Speaker 2>was a mess. He got a lot, and it's a

0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:46.640
<v Speaker 2>lot about money, you know, him being a magor breadwinner

0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:48.720
<v Speaker 2>in a family and trying to help people as much

0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:50.640
<v Speaker 2>as he can, but it never being good enough, and

0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:54.359
<v Speaker 2>people like looking at him like do more, do more,

0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:55.440
<v Speaker 2>and it's just only so much.

0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:59.760
<v Speaker 1>They want you back where they're comfortable with you being at.

0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:02.159
<v Speaker 1>You know, they want you back on their level. I

0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:04.080
<v Speaker 1>never understand that, so you know how people would be

0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.719
<v Speaker 1>like the money change them? No, I think the money

0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:10.680
<v Speaker 1>changes the people around you a lot of times, you know.

0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:16.440
<v Speaker 2>And it just made me have so much gratitude for

0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:18.760
<v Speaker 2>the space I am in with my family right now,

0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:22.039
<v Speaker 2>because I mean, my childhood was tumultuous, Like you know,

0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:24.839
<v Speaker 2>it was not an easy time. It was hard, but

0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:28.200
<v Speaker 2>now we just kind of like smooth sailing, everybody getting along.

0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:33.120
<v Speaker 2>Were very close knit. So I'm grateful for that. But

0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.400
<v Speaker 2>there once was a time, you know, so.

0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:39.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think my family does. We do pretty good,

0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:41.479
<v Speaker 1>and you know, it's just I don't know, y'all. We

0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:48.000
<v Speaker 1>got communication issues in my family. We can't always have

0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.200
<v Speaker 1>conversations about stuff. And I won't even say it's just

0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:52.120
<v Speaker 1>meat like between me and my sisters, because I feel

0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:54.080
<v Speaker 1>like I can talk to them about just about anything.

0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:58.120
<v Speaker 1>But I think equally we all would feel like we

0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:01.320
<v Speaker 1>probably can't talk to our mom about shit out of

0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:04.839
<v Speaker 1>being like a big problem argument, you know. So I

0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.000
<v Speaker 1>would like for us to work on communication better. I

0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.080
<v Speaker 1>remember I saw this video on Instagram and it was saying,

0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:16.600
<v Speaker 1>how you know children are your karma karma right and

0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:19.560
<v Speaker 1>his child or depending on the zodiac, they come to

0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.920
<v Speaker 1>teach the parent a lesson. Some people don't see it

0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:25.160
<v Speaker 1>that way, right, because I feel like we choose our parents,

0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:29.680
<v Speaker 1>they don't choose us. So based on my zodiac, I'm

0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:35.360
<v Speaker 1>supposed to teach my mom communication, but it's hard. It's

0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:40.280
<v Speaker 1>hard when the adult I won't say the adult because

0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:42.960
<v Speaker 1>we all adults, right, but I'm the child right when

0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:47.560
<v Speaker 1>the parent doesn't feel like they can learn anything from

0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:49.000
<v Speaker 1>the child.

0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:51.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I mean, what kind of.

0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:54.160
<v Speaker 1>Be learning your whole life? Like I feel like you're

0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.440
<v Speaker 1>never too old to learn anything.

0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:00.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're always learning. Once you stop learning and you

0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:01.920
<v Speaker 2>start dying, that's how I feel, like.

0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:07.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like I still learning and growing, yes, because that's

0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:10.280
<v Speaker 1>Earth is a school. So you are here to learn lessons,

0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.160
<v Speaker 1>right and if you don't learn them, you keep coming

0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:15.280
<v Speaker 1>back until you do it again. Until you do, you're

0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:18.760
<v Speaker 1>gonna come back with them same transgressions, that same depression,

0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:24.760
<v Speaker 1>the same issues, until you learn the lessons. Yeah, that's it.

0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:26.160
<v Speaker 1>That's it, is what it is.

0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:31.000
<v Speaker 2>Let's get it and see.

0:08:33.360 --> 0:08:41.199
<v Speaker 1>What happened. Anyway, y'all, Thanksgiving is coming up.

0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:43.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeamn.

0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:49.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. But anyway, so y'all Friday, Kendrick Lamar drop the

0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:52.280
<v Speaker 1>album on you niggas. I was at the gym. Yeah,

0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:55.319
<v Speaker 1>I had got a text message that said Kendrick dropping

0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:57.760
<v Speaker 1>an album at in a couple of minutes at twelve o'clock.

0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:02.720
<v Speaker 1>I immediately then went to Apple and the ship was already there,

0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:03.760
<v Speaker 1>already up.

0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:07.920
<v Speaker 2>Yep, Yes, I'm the album. I mean, he's brilliant. He's brilliant,

0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:11.960
<v Speaker 2>and he's lyrical. It's a good album. It's definitely got

0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:15.520
<v Speaker 2>some songs that make you feel boastful, you know, like

0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:19.040
<v Speaker 2>popular ship, you know, and I love energy like that,

0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:23.160
<v Speaker 2>especially in the gym. So I definitely enjoyed an album.

0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:26.360
<v Speaker 1>You know, I usually don't like like California rap, but

0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:28.440
<v Speaker 1>I like when Kendrick do it. You know that sound

0:09:28.520 --> 0:09:29.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about that.

0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:33.080
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, like the first two songs that went straight

0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:37.440
<v Speaker 2>to Cali vibes. When he said squabble listen, I sent

0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:40.760
<v Speaker 2>one of my old niggas from LA right the Future

0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.120
<v Speaker 2>the Future, texting the X. You know that picture where

0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:50.160
<v Speaker 2>he texted me, Yeah, I was listening to Kendrick squabble up.

0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:59.920
<v Speaker 2>I remember when we used the horizontal squabble. I was

0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:03.160
<v Speaker 2>just fucking around there. I don't I'm not really missing

0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:06.160
<v Speaker 2>no space. Yeah no, I don't miss nobody, but it

0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:06.880
<v Speaker 2>was just funny.

0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.439
<v Speaker 1>I was. I'm so happy when like good music dropped

0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.440
<v Speaker 1>because there's a lot of trash out there, man, so

0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:16.959
<v Speaker 1>when somebody drops some real life luxury music, I'm always

0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:20.400
<v Speaker 1>to it. Yes, so it says the project. They said.

0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:23.800
<v Speaker 1>The project seemingly dropped out of the sky without warning

0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:28.360
<v Speaker 1>around twelve pm Eastern Standard Time on Friday. Filled with

0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:32.559
<v Speaker 1>twelve tracks, g n X boast a pair of assist

0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:37.240
<v Speaker 1>from former TD running mate Damn Sis ain't with td

0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:43.520
<v Speaker 1>No more Interesting Sam Do, as well as emerging artists

0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:51.680
<v Speaker 1>such as Deira Dera, Bia Bireau, Dera, Ink, Dotty six,

0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:56.040
<v Speaker 1>as Check and more A girl Child Listen.

0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:59.239
<v Speaker 2>Y'all got some names on y'all got damn.

0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.280
<v Speaker 1>It says, with the super Bowl on the horizon, Kado

0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:06.160
<v Speaker 1>will have new music with him when he leads excuse

0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.880
<v Speaker 1>me when he heads the New Orleans, when he has

0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:13.040
<v Speaker 1>the new when he heads to New Orleans to take

0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:17.200
<v Speaker 1>the super Bowl. Whatever numberus is? What the fuck is

0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:20.560
<v Speaker 1>l in numerica? What what? What?

0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.559
<v Speaker 2>It don't matter? Halftime again?

0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:26.560
<v Speaker 1>So I can't wait. I cannot wait for the super Bowl.

0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:28.520
<v Speaker 1>And he did have like a low line and one

0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:33.400
<v Speaker 1>of the songs, whacked Murals, which is the first song

0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.839
<v Speaker 1>on the album, and people saying he'd taken shots at

0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.600
<v Speaker 1>low Wayne and snoop. I don't really feel like he's

0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.600
<v Speaker 1>taking shots. He just just said something. He was like,

0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:45.240
<v Speaker 1>he said, I used to bump the Carter three. I

0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:49.080
<v Speaker 1>held my roly chain, proud the irony. I think my

0:11:49.160 --> 0:11:52.560
<v Speaker 1>hard work let low Wayne down. Kadot wraps on album

0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:56.079
<v Speaker 1>opener and Whacked Out Murals, referring to wheezy posts and

0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:59.320
<v Speaker 1>a video about how hurt he was about not being

0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:03.320
<v Speaker 1>chosen to headline in Super Bowl in his hometown. I

0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:05.520
<v Speaker 1>mean it could have been like a situation where Kendrick

0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:07.120
<v Speaker 1>would have brought him out or something like that. Now

0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:09.760
<v Speaker 1>y'all just thought, y'all made this shit so fucking awkward,

0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:13.680
<v Speaker 1>Like it's the people. Kendrick Lamar is a performer. Have

0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:16.440
<v Speaker 1>y'all ever seen him perform at like the Grammys and

0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:19.480
<v Speaker 1>stuff like that, Like that nigga should be lit.

0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:24.960
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I don't think. I don't feel like Kendrick Lamar

0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.240
<v Speaker 2>took a shot at Wayne. I don't think Wayne took

0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:30.240
<v Speaker 2>a shot at Kendrew Lamar. I don't think neither one

0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:31.840
<v Speaker 2>of them shot at each other. I think it's the

0:12:31.920 --> 0:12:34.040
<v Speaker 2>people who are saying, oh, this is a shot to

0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:36.640
<v Speaker 2>that person, and this is a shot to that person. No,

0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:40.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't believe that he said I let

0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.760
<v Speaker 2>Lil Wayne down. You know, he didn't say, like fuck

0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:43.360
<v Speaker 2>little Wayne.

0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:45.360
<v Speaker 1>Now he said, I guess I let him down because

0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.480
<v Speaker 1>he ain't congratulate me either, because he goes on to

0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:49.719
<v Speaker 1>say won the Super Bowl and Nad's the only one

0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:54.080
<v Speaker 1>who can who congratulate me. All these niggas weren't agitated.

0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:56.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm just glad they show on their faces.

0:12:57.720 --> 0:13:01.679
<v Speaker 2>But why, I don't understand why he looking for congratulations

0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:04.000
<v Speaker 2>from people that he don't talk to. You know, do

0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.680
<v Speaker 2>the people who love you congratulate you. That's who you

0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:07.440
<v Speaker 2>should be looking for.

0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:11.400
<v Speaker 1>Me. They're all peers, so they probably do have some

0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:15.199
<v Speaker 1>type of relationship. No, Kendrick Lamar one of the biggest people.

0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:19.400
<v Speaker 2>How often do they call each other?

0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:20.040
<v Speaker 1>You know?

0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:22.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't. Maybe they do have a maybe they do talk.

0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:25.920
<v Speaker 2>But I just be feeling like you should only expect

0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.120
<v Speaker 2>because you'll be let down every time if you're waiting

0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:30.240
<v Speaker 2>on people who you don't talk to to congratulate you

0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:30.920
<v Speaker 2>on some shit.

0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:34.320
<v Speaker 1>About them not even talking, just them being in the

0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:38.000
<v Speaker 1>same arena right as far as their careers. And this

0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:40.800
<v Speaker 1>is a this is a big milestone for Kendrick Lamar.

0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.320
<v Speaker 1>I feel like everybody should have been a little bit more,

0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:48.400
<v Speaker 1>had a little bit more. What is the word I'm

0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:53.320
<v Speaker 1>looking for? Congratulatory? Is that a word? Yeah? Like they

0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.800
<v Speaker 1>should have congratulated him more. So I feel him on

0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:59.520
<v Speaker 1>that shit because if you don't say nothing like I nigga,

0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:03.520
<v Speaker 1>you hating y'all have all the negative ship him a

0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:06.840
<v Speaker 1>Nigi Minaj just talking shit, Wayne, Nicki Minaj was talking ship,

0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:10.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, Drake, he don't even want to say Kendrick

0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:15.120
<v Speaker 1>martinin no more, okay, but they all they this is

0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:15.839
<v Speaker 1>not the first time.

0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:18.599
<v Speaker 2>Heavy is the head that wears the crown. Heavy is

0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:20.640
<v Speaker 2>the head that wears the crown. Right now, You're on top,

0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:25.080
<v Speaker 2>you know. But that's why I just say, don't did

0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.560
<v Speaker 2>when when good things were happen have been happening, especially

0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:31.440
<v Speaker 2>for us with this podcast, where people that you were

0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:34.000
<v Speaker 2>expecting to hear from something something from that you just

0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:35.280
<v Speaker 2>did not know.

0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:38.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't care everybody. You I don't be caring them.

0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:40.800
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying. You shouldn't care. You shouldn't care.

0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.160
<v Speaker 2>The people who love you will be there and the

0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:47.400
<v Speaker 2>people who who don't just won't. And that's okay. Like

0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:50.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't like it's given very sensitive, like you know,

0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:53.400
<v Speaker 2>which is okay. You know, it's okay to be sensitive

0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:57.560
<v Speaker 2>and want people to support you, but you just don't

0:14:57.560 --> 0:14:59.560
<v Speaker 2>want to do it from Yeah, you just ain't gonna

0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:02.240
<v Speaker 2>get it from it everybody. And it seems that little

0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:06.920
<v Speaker 2>way Lil Wayne has his feelings about not being included

0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:12.040
<v Speaker 2>and how you it's hard to expect support from somebody

0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:13.080
<v Speaker 2>who want what you got.

0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:18.120
<v Speaker 1>I seen the video. I guess it's a recent concert

0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:21.360
<v Speaker 1>that Lil Wayne did and it was fucking gibberish. We're

0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.760
<v Speaker 1>gonna do that at the super Bowl? Like he needs

0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:28.120
<v Speaker 1>to clean himself up first. I do think that Little

0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.600
<v Speaker 1>Wayne could definitely carry a super Bowl like he got

0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:34.440
<v Speaker 1>all of but he has to be able to perform

0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:38.000
<v Speaker 1>him and I just don't think he is the same

0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:39.680
<v Speaker 1>little Wayne that we remember.

0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:41.440
<v Speaker 2>And I definitely don't want to hear all of his

0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:43.920
<v Speaker 2>in a rock and roll version. That shit pisso that.

0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:46.880
<v Speaker 1>Might even be lit if it's like, you know, organized

0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:49.120
<v Speaker 1>properly for a super Bowl, you know what I'm saying.

0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:51.280
<v Speaker 1>He could have the guitars and all that shit going on,

0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.640
<v Speaker 1>the fire flames coming up, all that shit, but it

0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:59.720
<v Speaker 1>got to be done nicely, you know what I'm saying. Child. Anyway,

0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm happy for the new album, and I heard he

0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:05.080
<v Speaker 1>might be dropping some other shit, but we'll see, we'll see,

0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:07.400
<v Speaker 1>we'll see. We assume this is an album, right.

0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:11.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And as for like, I just like want to

0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:13.560
<v Speaker 2>little say a little something about Drake because they're saying

0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:20.400
<v Speaker 2>Drake took a shot at Kendrake by saying facts can

0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:23.520
<v Speaker 2>kill me, not fairy tales. What y'all want that man

0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:25.720
<v Speaker 2>to do? What y'all want him to, like, just crumble

0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:29.440
<v Speaker 2>and die. Y'all was so hard on Drake, especially some

0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:31.520
<v Speaker 2>of y'all who used to be fans. I know, some

0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:33.800
<v Speaker 2>of y'all who'll be talking bad about him, got pictures

0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:36.880
<v Speaker 2>with him, you know, and now now you hate his guts?

0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:40.400
<v Speaker 2>Come on, now, is it really that deep? I think

0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:46.720
<v Speaker 2>people like be too invested in a rap battle. It's

0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:47.840
<v Speaker 2>rap Relax.

0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't talk about when it's relevant, Like I

0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:54.880
<v Speaker 1>really am not, Like I don't know. I never was

0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:57.600
<v Speaker 1>a super Drake fan. Like if y'all been following this

0:16:57.680 --> 0:17:03.160
<v Speaker 1>podcast first, I was saying, how Drake is the motherfucking

0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:05.879
<v Speaker 1>white man that infiltraded hip hop and I'm a stand

0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.840
<v Speaker 1>by that. Okay, y'all be talking about Eminem and whoever

0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:13.760
<v Speaker 1>else that dude, that dude, man, I see I see Drake,

0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:14.800
<v Speaker 1>I see him.

0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.600
<v Speaker 2>I was a fan then, I'm still a fan now.

0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.879
<v Speaker 2>He gave us hits after hits, summer after summer. I

0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:22.879
<v Speaker 2>know a lot of us, even people who didn't like

0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.800
<v Speaker 2>him dance tom right with me. You was at a

0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:27.280
<v Speaker 2>Drake concert with me, as a matter of.

0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:29.360
<v Speaker 1>Sure it was. And I saw you not know half

0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:30.040
<v Speaker 1>his songs?

0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:33.000
<v Speaker 2>Fan, No I did. I did know his songs.

0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:35.480
<v Speaker 1>No bit, you was like, am I right? I was like,

0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:37.720
<v Speaker 1>am I really a fan? Because I don't know none

0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:38.960
<v Speaker 1>of these fucking lyrics.

0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.480
<v Speaker 2>It was like three songs I didn't know, but I

0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:43.040
<v Speaker 2>knew a lot.

0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:48.480
<v Speaker 1>Was like repeating that shit word for word. It's real fans.

0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.600
<v Speaker 2>Whatever, bit, I am a real fan. I don't know

0:17:51.640 --> 0:17:54.439
<v Speaker 2>anybody rap songs word for word. I'm a grown ass woman.

0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:59.000
<v Speaker 2>So but that don't make me not a fan. I

0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:02.560
<v Speaker 2>am and I and I'm not a bandwagoner. I'm loyal

0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:05.240
<v Speaker 2>to people even when they down. I don't flip. So

0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:08.640
<v Speaker 2>there's that. But I do love Kendrick Lamar as well.

0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:10.440
<v Speaker 2>And two things can be true at the same time.

0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't have to pick a side, and I didn't,

0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.720
<v Speaker 2>I never did, and I ain't. I want both of

0:18:15.760 --> 0:18:22.120
<v Speaker 2>them to be successful. So next sying what you want

0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:26.240
<v Speaker 2>to say, bitch saying you was.

0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:28.920
<v Speaker 1>Wasn't that sin? That's all I'm saying is put your

0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:31.120
<v Speaker 1>mouth from the damn mic a little bit. You sound

0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.200
<v Speaker 1>like you're eating it the hell.

0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:39.040
<v Speaker 2>Hally Berry talks about wanting to be recognized for things

0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:43.240
<v Speaker 2>other than her beauty. So a video came out this

0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:47.080
<v Speaker 2>weekend Oscar When They're Holly Berry has opened up about

0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:51.360
<v Speaker 2>aging in Hollywood. The Never Let Go actress talked candidly

0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:53.400
<v Speaker 2>about what it feels like to age as a woman,

0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:57.720
<v Speaker 2>especially under intense media scrutiny, and she says, and I quote,

0:18:57.760 --> 0:18:59.879
<v Speaker 2>I have longed for someone to say something to me

0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:02.960
<v Speaker 2>other than oh gosh, you're so pretty. I long to

0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:06.679
<v Speaker 2>hear other words, she told News Not Noise founder Jessica

0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:09.679
<v Speaker 2>Yelling during the interview. The interview took place at the

0:19:09.720 --> 0:19:12.440
<v Speaker 2>Fortune Most Powerful Women, Some Men in October, but has

0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:15.280
<v Speaker 2>since been released online. Holly says it's a shame that

0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.920
<v Speaker 2>women are told that they have to stay forever thirty.

0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:20.840
<v Speaker 2>I know I'm more than this, So I've aged. I've

0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:23.919
<v Speaker 2>been determined to age gracefully. And naturally we're born to

0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:26.080
<v Speaker 2>age and die, but somehow, as a woman we have

0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:28.560
<v Speaker 2>to be do the unthinkable. We have to figure out

0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:31.520
<v Speaker 2>a way to do it, and unfortunately we're turning ourselves

0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:33.040
<v Speaker 2>into monsters trying to do that.

0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:35.320
<v Speaker 1>I cannot agree more. And I don't know if she

0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:40.520
<v Speaker 1>men monstertily figuratively or physically, but both of them shit

0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:45.160
<v Speaker 1>is valid. Okay, I agree, And I think women are

0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:51.120
<v Speaker 1>actually even harder on women about about how they look.

0:19:51.280 --> 0:19:53.240
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. I see people comments online.

0:19:53.240 --> 0:19:55.760
<v Speaker 1>A lot of times it's women saying crazy things like girl,

0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:58.359
<v Speaker 1>you know you ain't gonna be young forever, right, And

0:19:58.440 --> 0:20:00.520
<v Speaker 1>a lot of these you're thirty forty fifth year olds

0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:02.120
<v Speaker 1>looking to fuck good. I mean I don't even put

0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:05.760
<v Speaker 1>thirties in that because I mean that's yeah, it's very young.

0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:09.680
<v Speaker 1>So forty fifty sixty year old bitches on Instagram look

0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:10.760
<v Speaker 1>very good.

0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:15.640
<v Speaker 2>And right and healthy. Yeah, so it is a lot.

0:20:15.680 --> 0:20:18.120
<v Speaker 2>But I think the world there is like such a

0:20:18.160 --> 0:20:23.720
<v Speaker 2>pressure from the world on women on the aesthetic, Yeah,

0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:27.320
<v Speaker 2>on our aesthetic, Like we're just pressured to be beautiful

0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.320
<v Speaker 2>and young forever, and it's just so hard to Like

0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:33.760
<v Speaker 2>you are fighting a battle that you will never win.

0:20:34.440 --> 0:20:36.800
<v Speaker 2>That's why you know you can't win. You can't be

0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:39.720
<v Speaker 2>father time. There is no way to do it.

0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:42.679
<v Speaker 1>You can you can delay it a little bit, you know,

0:20:42.800 --> 0:20:46.080
<v Speaker 1>with diet. And last week we talked about skincare, you know,

0:20:46.160 --> 0:20:48.000
<v Speaker 1>taking care of you, taking care of yourself from the

0:20:48.000 --> 0:20:52.200
<v Speaker 1>inside out. You can definitely definitely delay it a little bit.

0:20:52.240 --> 0:20:56.439
<v Speaker 1>But we all have an expiration expiration day. Yeah, but

0:20:56.520 --> 0:20:59.359
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to look like you're expiring. Okay, that's

0:20:59.400 --> 0:21:01.560
<v Speaker 1>what you said. Answer, she's trying to do it naturally.

0:21:02.080 --> 0:21:05.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm with that. And you're saying people do so much

0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:07.600
<v Speaker 1>to their faces nowadays, like they don't even look like

0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:10.199
<v Speaker 1>themselves anymore. Like that's not you, right, And guess what,

0:21:10.240 --> 0:21:13.520
<v Speaker 1>your kids gonna still have your DNA, so you can't.

0:21:13.480 --> 0:21:14.960
<v Speaker 2>They're gonna come out with your old face.

0:21:15.240 --> 0:21:19.639
<v Speaker 1>You can't do what the healthcare credit care credit. You

0:21:19.640 --> 0:21:25.400
<v Speaker 1>can't do credit care credit on your DNA.

0:21:23.520 --> 0:21:27.200
<v Speaker 2>Right, And then, I mean, it's a lot of stuff

0:21:27.200 --> 0:21:29.760
<v Speaker 2>out there that's just fucking what our mental even the filters,

0:21:29.800 --> 0:21:33.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, the filters. You I remember like being very

0:21:33.680 --> 0:21:36.240
<v Speaker 2>extremely happy with my face. I mean, I still like

0:21:36.280 --> 0:21:38.520
<v Speaker 2>my face. I still think I'm a beautiful woman, but

0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:41.160
<v Speaker 2>I will filter, you know. I'm like, oh, that filter

0:21:41.240 --> 0:21:44.760
<v Speaker 2>got me looking extra cute, and I was extra cute

0:21:44.800 --> 0:21:47.840
<v Speaker 2>before the few filter, you know. So I think it's

0:21:47.880 --> 0:21:51.760
<v Speaker 2>a lot of things that subconsciously affect these things, and

0:21:51.800 --> 0:21:54.200
<v Speaker 2>it's having it to women younger and younger. You got

0:21:54.320 --> 0:21:59.359
<v Speaker 2>girls in their twenties getting fillers, getting botox and all

0:21:59.400 --> 0:22:02.760
<v Speaker 2>this stuff. Girl, you're you barely you still got good

0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:04.960
<v Speaker 2>collagen in your face. Why are you even doing that?

0:22:05.040 --> 0:22:07.680
<v Speaker 2>It's too soon, and I'm concerned with how it will

0:22:07.720 --> 0:22:09.160
<v Speaker 2>affect them when they are old.

0:22:09.400 --> 0:22:14.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, yeah, I I really, you know, I am

0:22:14.920 --> 0:22:18.080
<v Speaker 1>considering going back to Android because I do think that

0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:21.880
<v Speaker 1>Apple be fucking with our perception. Bitch, I look way

0:22:21.920 --> 0:22:25.840
<v Speaker 1>better on an Android phone, Like I really, I really

0:22:25.880 --> 0:22:28.840
<v Speaker 1>feel like Apple be intentionally making you look fucked up

0:22:28.880 --> 0:22:30.600
<v Speaker 1>so you could use the filter, so you could feel

0:22:30.640 --> 0:22:33.159
<v Speaker 1>some type of fucking way. I really feel like they

0:22:33.240 --> 0:22:35.800
<v Speaker 1>be fucking our perception because when I look on the

0:22:35.880 --> 0:22:37.720
<v Speaker 1>Android phone and I look in the mirror, I'm like, okay,

0:22:37.800 --> 0:22:41.119
<v Speaker 1>this match, bitch, Apple, how your ass looking a fucking mess?

0:22:41.160 --> 0:22:45.520
<v Speaker 1>Like why is this happening? Like who is that? Like

0:22:46.040 --> 0:22:47.560
<v Speaker 1>that is not my hand?

0:22:48.160 --> 0:22:49.720
<v Speaker 2>Wouldn't my hair? Get that point?

0:22:51.080 --> 0:22:53.199
<v Speaker 1>I feel like they're doing something with the camera. I

0:22:53.200 --> 0:22:56.119
<v Speaker 1>swear to god, you don't feel like that when the

0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:58.200
<v Speaker 1>last time you had an Android.

0:22:58.280 --> 0:23:01.439
<v Speaker 2>I've never had a I don't know I don't have

0:23:01.520 --> 0:23:03.080
<v Speaker 2>an Android, So.

0:23:03.119 --> 0:23:05.000
<v Speaker 1>None of your friends got an Android? Like, damn that

0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:06.879
<v Speaker 1>camera good as hell, like in a group chat, a

0:23:06.960 --> 0:23:07.679
<v Speaker 1>group picture.

0:23:07.960 --> 0:23:11.360
<v Speaker 2>No, I don't be fucking with bitches with androids.

0:23:11.000 --> 0:23:15.240
<v Speaker 1>Girl bye. First of all, I'm joking.

0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:16.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm joking. I'm joking, joking.

0:23:16.960 --> 0:23:19.680
<v Speaker 1>Apple put the same phone out and be charging people

0:23:19.720 --> 0:23:23.359
<v Speaker 1>with the same all this fucking money. Android technology is

0:23:23.440 --> 0:23:27.000
<v Speaker 1>actually better and Android phones actually cost more than Apple phones.

0:23:27.280 --> 0:23:29.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if people realize that or not, but

0:23:29.080 --> 0:23:33.040
<v Speaker 1>they cost well way more than an Apple phone.

0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:36.159
<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's just marketing, that's all it is.

0:23:36.240 --> 0:23:38.959
<v Speaker 1>And then like you're tied to this fucking thing, all

0:23:39.040 --> 0:23:42.680
<v Speaker 1>your apps, everything like face Time and all that shit tied.

0:23:42.720 --> 0:23:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I really only had gotten Apple because like the FaceTime

0:23:46.560 --> 0:23:49.080
<v Speaker 1>shit like, and then trying to do business. Most people

0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:52.280
<v Speaker 1>have the Apple phone. Apple. Yeah, but I do want

0:23:52.280 --> 0:23:56.119
<v Speaker 1>to disconnect. I've been I've been wanting to get me.

0:23:56.240 --> 0:23:58.800
<v Speaker 2>Did you see there's a video going around right now

0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:01.399
<v Speaker 2>of this girl and her mom are in the h

0:24:02.280 --> 0:24:05.959
<v Speaker 2>some cellular phone store and she's disconnecting her daughter's service.

0:24:06.520 --> 0:24:11.120
<v Speaker 2>And this girl had a meltdown and people were like, oh,

0:24:11.160 --> 0:24:12.760
<v Speaker 2>my mom would have slapped the shit out of me,

0:24:12.800 --> 0:24:14.520
<v Speaker 2>and my mama would have knocked my teeth out and

0:24:14.520 --> 0:24:17.120
<v Speaker 2>that was all Like the black comments were just basically

0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:21.560
<v Speaker 2>what their mama would have done. But that was the

0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:24.160
<v Speaker 2>same behavior we had when we were told we could

0:24:24.160 --> 0:24:27.160
<v Speaker 2>not go outside. You know, it's just different. These kids

0:24:27.520 --> 0:24:30.680
<v Speaker 2>are so connected to their technology now.

0:24:30.840 --> 0:24:33.800
<v Speaker 1>All are, so it does feel like you're being untethered,

0:24:34.000 --> 0:24:36.040
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. That could be devastating.

0:24:37.040 --> 0:24:38.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, I felt bad.

0:24:38.600 --> 0:24:40.200
<v Speaker 1>That goes out right now.

0:24:40.240 --> 0:24:42.159
<v Speaker 2>If somebody put my phone from me right.

0:24:42.040 --> 0:24:46.120
<v Speaker 1>Now, if the internet right now, people gonna be wilding out.

0:24:46.359 --> 0:24:49.040
<v Speaker 1>There's gonna be a lot of people like really having

0:24:50.520 --> 0:24:52.760
<v Speaker 1>meltdown withdrawn Yeah.

0:24:52.320 --> 0:24:54.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, withdraw like a drug withdrawal. I don't know if

0:24:54.960 --> 0:24:57.719
<v Speaker 2>it would be that bad for me. I think COVID

0:24:57.720 --> 0:25:00.800
<v Speaker 2>taught me something about disconnection that was so healthy and

0:25:00.840 --> 0:25:03.200
<v Speaker 2>beautiful for me, And now it did not start off

0:25:03.240 --> 0:25:05.719
<v Speaker 2>that way. I was scared. I made the only Fans

0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:07.760
<v Speaker 2>page like, I don't know how I'm about to survive.

0:25:07.840 --> 0:25:10.920
<v Speaker 2>I might have theo a real nigga on the Internet,

0:25:11.080 --> 0:25:13.240
<v Speaker 2>and I was praying that did not happen. You know,

0:25:14.600 --> 0:25:19.560
<v Speaker 2>everybody got it did not, But I felt so much.

0:25:19.840 --> 0:25:22.119
<v Speaker 2>I felt free, you know, I felt free for a

0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:24.359
<v Speaker 2>little while. I was out riding bikes and doing all

0:25:24.359 --> 0:25:27.120
<v Speaker 2>these things. So this connection was not a bad thing

0:25:27.160 --> 0:25:31.920
<v Speaker 2>for me. So if the Internet completely disappeared, I don't

0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:35.240
<v Speaker 2>think I would be I mean, well, it would be easy,

0:25:35.320 --> 0:25:36.360
<v Speaker 2>it wouldn't be devastating.

0:25:36.400 --> 0:25:38.640
<v Speaker 1>So y'all know how the Simpsons has been predicting shit

0:25:38.760 --> 0:25:42.359
<v Speaker 1>since forever, right, So there's a Simpson episode where Lisa

0:25:42.480 --> 0:25:45.280
<v Speaker 1>was trying to warn everybody about the sharks eating the

0:25:45.320 --> 0:25:48.560
<v Speaker 1>fiber cables and the ocean, and it caused the Internet

0:25:48.640 --> 0:25:53.960
<v Speaker 1>to go out why and the Baltic c two cables

0:25:54.000 --> 0:25:57.159
<v Speaker 1>just got clipped. They're trying to say that Russia is

0:25:57.160 --> 0:26:03.040
<v Speaker 1>trying to sabotage Europe, but it literally just happened, So

0:26:03.359 --> 0:26:07.520
<v Speaker 1>I all know, man, it might happen the symptoms. The

0:26:07.560 --> 0:26:10.040
<v Speaker 1>Simpsons be right about a lot of shit. I don't

0:26:10.080 --> 0:26:13.920
<v Speaker 1>know if it's if it's like no, because these do

0:26:14.080 --> 0:26:16.800
<v Speaker 1>be past episodes, so I can't even say that is it.

0:26:16.840 --> 0:26:20.560
<v Speaker 1>Is it art imitating life or vice versa, Like it

0:26:20.560 --> 0:26:24.000
<v Speaker 1>looks like the predictions or they're acting it out. They're

0:26:24.040 --> 0:26:28.159
<v Speaker 1>acting out what the Simpsons be doing. Maybe that's the

0:26:28.200 --> 0:26:33.040
<v Speaker 1>script for the world stage. I don't know anyway, y'all.

0:26:33.040 --> 0:26:40.720
<v Speaker 1>So Peter is accusing Butterball of producing sexually violated turkeys.

0:26:41.200 --> 0:26:45.920
<v Speaker 1>So somebody from Peter went undercover at a Butterball plant

0:26:46.440 --> 0:26:49.160
<v Speaker 1>and it said it says. In the video on Instagram,

0:26:49.160 --> 0:26:52.840
<v Speaker 1>the investigator, who remains anonymous, describes his under His little

0:26:52.840 --> 0:26:57.200
<v Speaker 1>Blood describes his undercover experience at the facility. He claims

0:26:57.200 --> 0:27:02.280
<v Speaker 1>to have seen workers sexually a salting turkeys before they

0:27:02.400 --> 0:27:07.359
<v Speaker 1>were slaughtered. So your turkey might have a little extra

0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:12.880
<v Speaker 1>frozen sauce this year, you know, a little bags I got,

0:27:12.920 --> 0:27:16.160
<v Speaker 1>like the kidneys and stuff all at this there might

0:27:16.200 --> 0:27:19.400
<v Speaker 1>be some extra shit in it, says. The investigator. Details

0:27:19.440 --> 0:27:23.880
<v Speaker 1>instance where work is allegedly humped, shackled turkeys and inserted

0:27:24.040 --> 0:27:31.919
<v Speaker 1>fingers into the birds. Clickosa, Yeah, it's basically like the

0:27:31.920 --> 0:27:36.760
<v Speaker 1>birds vagina right. While the production line was halted, footage

0:27:36.760 --> 0:27:39.320
<v Speaker 1>from the plant shows one work or roughly handling a

0:27:39.400 --> 0:27:43.000
<v Speaker 1>turkey while another appears to be kicking a bird, saying

0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:46.600
<v Speaker 1>I kicked the fuck out that motherfucker. In another shot

0:27:46.800 --> 0:27:49.840
<v Speaker 1>is a worker seemingly sitting on a turkey.

0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:52.560
<v Speaker 2>That terrible this is.

0:27:53.200 --> 0:27:55.320
<v Speaker 1>It just shows you how weird humans are, Like, why

0:27:55.320 --> 0:27:57.480
<v Speaker 1>do y'all want to abuse something so bad? Even like

0:27:57.520 --> 0:27:59.399
<v Speaker 1>the videos with people like what they're gonna do with

0:27:59.440 --> 0:28:02.320
<v Speaker 1>they robot when they get it? Why do y'all want

0:28:02.359 --> 0:28:03.640
<v Speaker 1>something to abuse so bad?

0:28:04.760 --> 0:28:09.719
<v Speaker 2>Right? Like what people her? People hurt people, that's what

0:28:09.760 --> 0:28:15.160
<v Speaker 2>it is. And you just got to pray. If you're

0:28:15.200 --> 0:28:18.000
<v Speaker 2>not growing your own food, you just don't know what

0:28:18.200 --> 0:28:20.000
<v Speaker 2>happens to it before it gets to your table. You

0:28:20.040 --> 0:28:23.760
<v Speaker 2>just gotta pray over it, you know. But yeah, yeah,

0:28:23.800 --> 0:28:27.000
<v Speaker 2>people are sick. People are mentally ill. Anybody who's sticking

0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:31.879
<v Speaker 2>their finger in the turkey's pussy for enjoyment is sick.

0:28:32.200 --> 0:28:34.760
<v Speaker 2>You know, that's a sick individual. All these people are

0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:35.320
<v Speaker 2>really sick.

0:28:35.440 --> 0:28:38.200
<v Speaker 1>And they said if one person was humping and I'm wondering,

0:28:38.240 --> 0:28:40.720
<v Speaker 1>like did he penetrate the turkey?

0:28:41.400 --> 0:28:42.640
<v Speaker 2>That's just disgusting.

0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:45.520
<v Speaker 1>And y'all know, it's still like illegal in some states

0:28:45.520 --> 0:28:48.640
<v Speaker 1>for people, if you're not a married man, to own

0:28:48.720 --> 0:28:51.520
<v Speaker 1>sheep because apparently sheep vagina is like real close to

0:28:51.600 --> 0:28:55.680
<v Speaker 1>human vagina to a women's vagina, So people be out

0:28:55.720 --> 0:28:57.400
<v Speaker 1>here having sex with sheep.

0:28:58.280 --> 0:29:02.880
<v Speaker 2>That's so sad. And it's not people, it's men. It's men.

0:29:03.560 --> 0:29:04.760
<v Speaker 2>Women ain't fucking sheep.

0:29:04.960 --> 0:29:05.920
<v Speaker 1>They fuck horses.

0:29:05.960 --> 0:29:11.360
<v Speaker 2>Though, anybody who let a horse put in them needed

0:29:11.440 --> 0:29:13.200
<v Speaker 2>to take it out in the bag and put down.

0:29:13.320 --> 0:29:15.440
<v Speaker 2>Because have you ever seen a horse?

0:29:15.560 --> 0:29:19.640
<v Speaker 1>Yes? I have, yes, and I've seen the people who've

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:28.000
<v Speaker 1>taken them, and yeah, beige in color. Yeah, don't nobody.

0:29:28.000 --> 0:29:30.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't see why you ever want first of all,

0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:34.000
<v Speaker 2>an animal to hump you, and then of all animals

0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:37.400
<v Speaker 2>a horse. So I don't know. People are just weird.

0:29:37.520 --> 0:29:39.440
<v Speaker 1>It's nuts. And then one more thing, y'all before we

0:29:39.440 --> 0:29:41.920
<v Speaker 1>get off of sin. So Thanksgiving this is a lie.

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:44.360
<v Speaker 1>First of all, This next part is just really some

0:29:44.400 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 1>stupid Internet news. It says Thanksgiving dinner allegedly historically affordable

0:29:48.880 --> 0:29:52.280
<v Speaker 1>in twenty twenty four. Believe it or not. It says

0:29:53.200 --> 0:29:55.000
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna choose not to believe it, but it says

0:29:55.120 --> 0:29:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Thanksgiving dinner will be more affordable in twenty twenty four.

0:30:00.040 --> 0:30:04.680
<v Speaker 1>American Farm Bureau of Federation AFBF said the average cost

0:30:04.720 --> 0:30:08.360
<v Speaker 1>of Thanksgiving dinner this year will be about fifty eight

0:30:08.400 --> 0:30:12.720
<v Speaker 1>dollars and eight cents for a ten person meal, or

0:30:14.000 --> 0:30:17.120
<v Speaker 1>about five dollars and eighty one cents a person. The

0:30:17.280 --> 0:30:21.640
<v Speaker 1>AFBF noted if your dollar had the same overall purchasing

0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:24.600
<v Speaker 1>power as a consumer in nineteen eighty four, this would

0:30:24.640 --> 0:30:28.560
<v Speaker 1>be the least expensive Thanksgiving meal in the thirty nine

0:30:28.600 --> 0:30:32.800
<v Speaker 1>year history of the AFBF Thanksgiving Survey, other than the

0:30:32.840 --> 0:30:37.520
<v Speaker 1>outlier of twenty twenty. Yeah, the forgotten year twenty twenty,

0:30:37.520 --> 0:30:40.320
<v Speaker 1>it says. While many people are still feeling financial stress,

0:30:40.400 --> 0:30:45.280
<v Speaker 1>the AFBF says this shows that wage inflation is an

0:30:45.320 --> 0:30:49.280
<v Speaker 1>issue that needs to be addressed. So I saw, I mean,

0:30:49.320 --> 0:30:51.080
<v Speaker 1>I was at Costco yesterday.

0:30:51.640 --> 0:30:52.440
<v Speaker 2>And of course you.

0:30:54.080 --> 0:30:57.560
<v Speaker 1>Twice this week, well one for your ass bitch, and

0:30:57.600 --> 0:30:59.480
<v Speaker 1>went there looking for some liquor for this bitch.

0:30:59.800 --> 0:31:01.880
<v Speaker 2>I said.

0:31:02.080 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 1>My daddy's birthday today, is said, I definitely would have

0:31:05.040 --> 0:31:06.440
<v Speaker 1>been a birthday gift for him.

0:31:07.000 --> 0:31:07.720
<v Speaker 2>Happy birthday?

0:31:07.760 --> 0:31:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Been wrong Rome my daddy's seventy four seven? Assing, yeah, man, many.

0:31:17.280 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Costco pack.

0:31:18.800 --> 0:31:21.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, these people got money. And then you look

0:31:21.040 --> 0:31:23.800
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram and you see how people waste food for

0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:30.760
<v Speaker 1>content obviously isn't high enough. It's obviously not high enough

0:31:30.760 --> 0:31:31.520
<v Speaker 1>for people.

0:31:32.160 --> 0:31:34.440
<v Speaker 2>It is it is high enough for me. I was

0:31:34.480 --> 0:31:39.040
<v Speaker 2>in there on my I definitely go to the store

0:31:39.160 --> 0:31:41.400
<v Speaker 2>and I use the scooter and I'll be scooting all

0:31:41.440 --> 0:31:45.120
<v Speaker 2>over their place with a little wheelchair and it is high.

0:31:45.120 --> 0:31:47.920
<v Speaker 2>I left with three bags of stuff that we needed.

0:31:48.520 --> 0:31:51.440
<v Speaker 2>We purchased a lot of our Thanksgiving goods earlier in

0:31:51.480 --> 0:31:53.240
<v Speaker 2>the month, but you know, some ship you just got

0:31:53.240 --> 0:31:54.920
<v Speaker 2>to wait till the week of or it's gonna go bad,

0:31:55.120 --> 0:32:00.760
<v Speaker 2>like the perishables. And I spent eight dollars and I

0:32:00.800 --> 0:32:03.000
<v Speaker 2>only had three bags of things, you know, So it's

0:32:03.040 --> 0:32:06.280
<v Speaker 2>just like, where, how is it fifty eight dollars? I

0:32:06.440 --> 0:32:08.880
<v Speaker 2>spent over two hundred earlier in the month and now

0:32:08.920 --> 0:32:11.719
<v Speaker 2>another eighty. And I'm not making differ by myself.

0:32:11.800 --> 0:32:14.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know what they're calculating, Like who, what

0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:16.600
<v Speaker 1>groceries can you buy for fifty You can't even get

0:32:16.600 --> 0:32:20.000
<v Speaker 1>a turkey for that much. The small turkeys they like

0:32:20.160 --> 0:32:21.440
<v Speaker 1>ten dollars a pound or some shit.

0:32:22.440 --> 0:32:23.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know.

0:32:23.280 --> 0:32:28.640
<v Speaker 1>No, Like I did look at turkeys, butter ball turkeys,

0:32:28.720 --> 0:32:30.360
<v Speaker 1>just to see like how much this stuff called I

0:32:30.360 --> 0:32:30.960
<v Speaker 1>don't eat it.

0:32:31.080 --> 0:32:35.240
<v Speaker 2>You know, that's bullshit. And I don't know. Nobody's believing that.

0:32:34.800 --> 0:32:38.280
<v Speaker 1>The turkey cost fifty eight dollars by itself, even if

0:32:38.320 --> 0:32:41.160
<v Speaker 1>you buy turkey wings. My nigga, you're paying ten dollars

0:32:41.200 --> 0:32:42.760
<v Speaker 1>or three of them.

0:32:42.960 --> 0:32:45.120
<v Speaker 2>You don't have to get a boards a turkey sandwich

0:32:45.320 --> 0:32:47.880
<v Speaker 2>in a pack of bread and call it Thanksgiving.

0:32:47.360 --> 0:32:48.959
<v Speaker 1>And split it between ten people.

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:51.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's it.

0:32:51.360 --> 0:32:54.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they they're playing in Americans' faces. Man, they really

0:32:54.640 --> 0:32:56.400
<v Speaker 1>be playing. I feel like we don't know no better,

0:32:57.160 --> 0:33:01.960
<v Speaker 1>Like we don't actually live and feel the economy for

0:33:02.040 --> 0:33:06.200
<v Speaker 1>this economy right now. Yeah. But anyway, speaking on the

0:33:06.240 --> 0:33:08.800
<v Speaker 1>economy and all the things, y'all, I don't think we've

0:33:09.040 --> 0:33:14.840
<v Speaker 1>practiced gratitude much. We haven't talked about it anyway. So

0:33:15.200 --> 0:33:20.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, Thanksgiving is a great time, right to remind

0:33:20.520 --> 0:33:23.920
<v Speaker 1>people to be grateful and how do you do that?

0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:28.440
<v Speaker 2>Though, we're going to get into it after this commercial break,

0:33:29.400 --> 0:33:30.160
<v Speaker 2>we'll be back.

0:33:34.600 --> 0:33:39.440
<v Speaker 1>And we're back. So we wanted to talk about gratitude

0:33:39.600 --> 0:33:41.920
<v Speaker 1>and you know some of the things you can do

0:33:42.000 --> 0:33:45.040
<v Speaker 1>to stay grateful through the holidays, And we actually want

0:33:45.040 --> 0:33:48.360
<v Speaker 1>to challenge y'all to a thirty days of gratitude. What

0:33:48.520 --> 0:33:52.720
<v Speaker 1>we talk back period, so every episode to the end

0:33:52.760 --> 0:33:55.960
<v Speaker 1>of the year will mention like something we're grateful for

0:33:56.640 --> 0:33:59.360
<v Speaker 1>and then y'all can also I need to make a

0:33:59.360 --> 0:34:02.240
<v Speaker 1>post so y'all can leave us some messages and let

0:34:02.280 --> 0:34:03.840
<v Speaker 1>us know what y'all grateful for. We could play it

0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:07.080
<v Speaker 1>on the show, Child Girl with the Yes with the People.

0:34:09.040 --> 0:34:11.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we definitely want to hear what you guys are

0:34:11.080 --> 0:34:15.160
<v Speaker 2>grateful for because that will encourage gratitude and others. I think,

0:34:15.920 --> 0:34:18.440
<v Speaker 2>you know, to be reminded of all the good things

0:34:18.480 --> 0:34:22.040
<v Speaker 2>that you have despite and sometimes knowing the bad shit

0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:24.560
<v Speaker 2>will make you grateful for all the good shit going

0:34:24.600 --> 0:34:25.480
<v Speaker 2>through it too.

0:34:25.800 --> 0:34:27.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because you know they tell you don't want to

0:34:27.920 --> 0:34:32.239
<v Speaker 1>just forget about stuff, because you forget how far you come, right,

0:34:32.440 --> 0:34:36.520
<v Speaker 1>you don't remember where the fuck you're at. Like, I'm

0:34:36.640 --> 0:34:41.439
<v Speaker 1>definitely this year could have been better, but it could

0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:45.440
<v Speaker 1>have definitely been worse. I am looking forward to twenty

0:34:45.480 --> 0:34:51.680
<v Speaker 1>twenty five, Child, the year number nine. Okay, twenty twenty five.

0:34:52.640 --> 0:34:56.800
<v Speaker 2>Me too. I'm definitely this year. I'm gonna get a

0:34:56.800 --> 0:35:00.359
<v Speaker 2>little vulnerable right now with y'all. This year has been

0:35:02.600 --> 0:35:05.600
<v Speaker 2>a hard one for me, you know, like just trying

0:35:05.640 --> 0:35:10.359
<v Speaker 2>to be fearless, trying to do the things that I've

0:35:10.400 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 2>been scared to do my entire life, you know, just

0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:18.399
<v Speaker 2>stepping out on faith. And earlier I was like I'm

0:35:18.440 --> 0:35:21.920
<v Speaker 2>gonna pack all my shit. I'm gonna move to LA

0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:26.840
<v Speaker 2>despite all the naysayers, despite what anybody thinks for me,

0:35:27.000 --> 0:35:32.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do it. But I realized that I was just,

0:35:33.080 --> 0:35:35.759
<v Speaker 2>you know, kind of running from something. You know, I

0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 2>wasn't and I took the something with me, you know,

0:35:39.080 --> 0:35:41.520
<v Speaker 2>I took whatever that was I was running from, got

0:35:41.560 --> 0:35:43.880
<v Speaker 2>on the plane, sat in the seat right next to me.

0:35:43.920 --> 0:35:44.880
<v Speaker 1>You bought a ticket.

0:35:45.719 --> 0:35:50.839
<v Speaker 2>I bought that motherfucker a ticket when I took all

0:35:50.880 --> 0:35:54.560
<v Speaker 2>of that with me, And you know, when I was

0:35:54.560 --> 0:35:57.600
<v Speaker 2>sitting there with this broken foot and like, just you know,

0:35:57.640 --> 0:36:01.719
<v Speaker 2>I can't do nothing. I had to sit with that thing,

0:36:01.960 --> 0:36:04.080
<v Speaker 2>you know. I had to sit with that thing. I

0:36:04.120 --> 0:36:05.640
<v Speaker 2>had to lay in bed with that thing. I had

0:36:05.640 --> 0:36:07.680
<v Speaker 2>to feel that thing. And I had to realize that

0:36:08.280 --> 0:36:12.920
<v Speaker 2>I can't run from my own healing, right. I can't

0:36:13.000 --> 0:36:18.560
<v Speaker 2>run from my shame. I can't run from my guilt.

0:36:18.719 --> 0:36:21.720
<v Speaker 2>I have to sit in those things, and I actually

0:36:21.800 --> 0:36:24.960
<v Speaker 2>have to work on me. I have to work on

0:36:25.000 --> 0:36:27.160
<v Speaker 2>how I communicate with people. I have to work on

0:36:27.280 --> 0:36:33.279
<v Speaker 2>my tone. I have to work on understanding that my

0:36:33.360 --> 0:36:35.680
<v Speaker 2>words hurt. You know, I can't hurt people with my

0:36:35.719 --> 0:36:37.760
<v Speaker 2>words and just because I can't feel the hurt doesn't

0:36:37.800 --> 0:36:40.279
<v Speaker 2>mean it don't hurt that other person, you know. So

0:36:41.560 --> 0:36:43.360
<v Speaker 2>those are the things I have to I have to.

0:36:43.520 --> 0:36:47.520
<v Speaker 2>I had to forgive myself for things that I had,

0:36:48.160 --> 0:36:55.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, and I had to, you know, really decide

0:36:55.080 --> 0:36:59.240
<v Speaker 2>to take care of myself and not ignore things concerning

0:36:59.280 --> 0:36:59.640
<v Speaker 2>my health.

0:36:59.680 --> 0:37:00.399
<v Speaker 1>I have to like.

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:04.480
<v Speaker 2>Not say oh, I just don't want to talk about it.

0:37:04.520 --> 0:37:07.839
<v Speaker 2>I just don't want to focus on that, thinking like saying, oh,

0:37:07.840 --> 0:37:09.839
<v Speaker 2>if I don't focus on it, it ain't real. It's

0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:13.440
<v Speaker 2>very real. And I need to like be very present

0:37:13.680 --> 0:37:19.480
<v Speaker 2>with my health, you know. So God will sit you down, baby,

0:37:19.680 --> 0:37:25.040
<v Speaker 2>let in a real way and make you deal with

0:37:25.200 --> 0:37:29.240
<v Speaker 2>the ship that. And I'm so and I'm so grateful.

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:33.799
<v Speaker 2>Like in August September, y'all, I just was like, I

0:37:33.880 --> 0:37:40.160
<v Speaker 2>was so I'm about to cry. I was so sad

0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:43.719
<v Speaker 2>and just trying to laugh through the pain, y'all. I

0:37:43.760 --> 0:37:45.640
<v Speaker 2>get on here and I'll be telling jokes and all

0:37:45.680 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 2>that shit, but for real, I was hurt. I was

0:37:49.000 --> 0:37:52.640
<v Speaker 2>so hurt, and I just can't believe, like God, why me,

0:37:52.880 --> 0:37:54.879
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to do all the things that I'm trying

0:37:54.920 --> 0:37:57.560
<v Speaker 2>to walk in your life and trying to be the

0:37:57.600 --> 0:38:01.279
<v Speaker 2>best version of myself. But I had to realize that

0:38:01.320 --> 0:38:03.520
<v Speaker 2>he didn't want to be a better version of myself.

0:38:03.520 --> 0:38:07.160
<v Speaker 2>He wanted to renew me and that and I had

0:38:07.239 --> 0:38:11.919
<v Speaker 2>to let go of what was and that that was hard.

0:38:12.000 --> 0:38:15.160
<v Speaker 2>Letting go of people, letting go of place, is letting

0:38:15.160 --> 0:38:18.319
<v Speaker 2>go of things and attitudes. I had to, really and

0:38:18.360 --> 0:38:20.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm not done yet. I'm still working out at me.

0:38:20.680 --> 0:38:23.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm still yeah, I'm still letting.

0:38:23.239 --> 0:38:25.640
<v Speaker 1>Stallion her album, like with the Snakes shedding, like people

0:38:25.640 --> 0:38:27.839
<v Speaker 1>saw it as a negative thing. People see snakes as

0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:30.200
<v Speaker 1>a negative thing, but it's actually a good omen because

0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:32.880
<v Speaker 1>it's changed. You know what I'm saying, You shedding that

0:38:33.000 --> 0:38:36.759
<v Speaker 1>old skin and to get to the new place you

0:38:36.880 --> 0:38:39.360
<v Speaker 1>got to get rid of to owe you, you gotta

0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:42.319
<v Speaker 1>do things that's never done, you know. So I do

0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:44.919
<v Speaker 1>a lot of reflection too, man. And it's.

0:38:46.680 --> 0:38:50.600
<v Speaker 2>And I had to humble myself in a significant way.

0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:53.000
<v Speaker 2>I had to move back home with my mama. Then

0:38:53.160 --> 0:38:56.160
<v Speaker 2>I had to go back home with my mama.

0:38:56.480 --> 0:38:58.920
<v Speaker 1>Been there, girl.

0:38:59.200 --> 0:39:01.959
<v Speaker 2>And the crazy part is it's not that I can't

0:39:02.000 --> 0:39:04.080
<v Speaker 2>afford to go get another spot. I can go get

0:39:04.080 --> 0:39:06.680
<v Speaker 2>a place right now, But I can't, I couldn't walk.

0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:10.759
<v Speaker 2>I needed my support system. I needed I had to

0:39:10.800 --> 0:39:13.880
<v Speaker 2>say I need y'all, right now, I need your help.

0:39:14.280 --> 0:39:17.960
<v Speaker 2>And my attitude was like prior, I don't need nobody.

0:39:18.000 --> 0:39:20.120
<v Speaker 2>I got money, I can do whatever I need for myself.

0:39:20.160 --> 0:39:24.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't need nobody. God was like, oh, that's what

0:39:24.480 --> 0:39:27.400
<v Speaker 2>you think. I'm gonna make you need people with your money.

0:39:29.120 --> 0:39:33.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna make you need them. And I was like, Lord,

0:39:34.400 --> 0:39:36.640
<v Speaker 2>because me and my mama will bump heads. But it's

0:39:36.680 --> 0:39:41.520
<v Speaker 2>been so smooth, it's been so peaceful. It's been so joyous,

0:39:41.560 --> 0:39:44.160
<v Speaker 2>like we just being there, laughing and enjoying each other.

0:39:44.200 --> 0:39:47.440
<v Speaker 2>And I'm just so grateful for that space to know

0:39:47.560 --> 0:39:51.000
<v Speaker 2>that it's possible, you know, like who would have thought

0:39:51.000 --> 0:39:53.239
<v Speaker 2>that me and you could exist in this space like that?

0:39:54.800 --> 0:40:00.680
<v Speaker 2>And nobody did. So I'm so grateful for that, you know,

0:40:01.400 --> 0:40:05.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm grateful for that. I'm sorry, I'm rambling, I'm let

0:40:05.800 --> 0:40:08.400
<v Speaker 2>you go, but I just wanted to share that with y'all,

0:40:08.480 --> 0:40:12.960
<v Speaker 2>Like whatever storm that you're experiencing, we all gonna have

0:40:13.040 --> 0:40:15.920
<v Speaker 2>them highs and lows. And I never saw this coming.

0:40:16.000 --> 0:40:17.840
<v Speaker 2>I went to a wedding, you know, I went to

0:40:17.880 --> 0:40:20.160
<v Speaker 2>a wedding, think I'm just gonna drink and be merry.

0:40:21.040 --> 0:40:24.520
<v Speaker 2>And that situation, just in the blink of them not

0:40:24.840 --> 0:40:29.279
<v Speaker 2>changed my life significantly. And it just wasn't physically, it

0:40:29.320 --> 0:40:31.680
<v Speaker 2>was emotionally and it was something I had to go

0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:34.160
<v Speaker 2>through and I'm not through it. I'm still sitting in

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:35.799
<v Speaker 2>here in the boot. I go to the doctor of

0:40:35.800 --> 0:40:40.000
<v Speaker 2>December fourth, and I need y'all to pray for my

0:40:40.080 --> 0:40:42.399
<v Speaker 2>foot that when I go in that they don't tell

0:40:42.440 --> 0:40:45.080
<v Speaker 2>me I need a pin in it. But if I do,

0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:46.920
<v Speaker 2>it is what it is. I'm gonna have to, you know,

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:51.799
<v Speaker 2>weather that storm. But I know I can do it.

0:40:52.080 --> 0:40:56.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, man, all the things you could do, all the things, man, Yeah,

0:40:56.440 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 1>life will have a way of setting your ass to

0:40:58.239 --> 0:41:01.440
<v Speaker 1>fuck down. I have been sat down, and I feel

0:41:01.440 --> 0:41:04.359
<v Speaker 1>like my whole thing began like the age of thirty three,

0:41:04.440 --> 0:41:08.839
<v Speaker 1>which is a significant number. Right, So from thirty three

0:41:09.000 --> 0:41:12.399
<v Speaker 1>up until now, I have been fighting for me. I've

0:41:12.440 --> 0:41:18.240
<v Speaker 1>been fighting for my sanity, for my mental health, and bitch,

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:24.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm about to cry, but I'm grateful. I'm still grateful

0:41:24.160 --> 0:41:29.239
<v Speaker 1>for the struggle, right because remembering the struggle, remembering where

0:41:29.239 --> 0:41:33.600
<v Speaker 1>I was, I do see the progress right, And I

0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:36.440
<v Speaker 1>have a lot of gratitude for where I was, and

0:41:36.480 --> 0:41:40.440
<v Speaker 1>I have a lot more gratitude for where I'm headed at.

0:41:40.560 --> 0:41:42.239
<v Speaker 1>I do a lot of shadow work, which I'd be

0:41:42.280 --> 0:41:46.080
<v Speaker 1>sitting in the bathroom with a candlelight looking at myself

0:41:46.440 --> 0:41:49.800
<v Speaker 1>because that's where it starts at. Is never anything outside

0:41:49.840 --> 0:41:51.480
<v Speaker 1>of you, even the people that you meet that you

0:41:51.560 --> 0:41:53.640
<v Speaker 1>think you have problems with. I had a little relationship

0:41:53.719 --> 0:41:59.920
<v Speaker 1>go recently and I had to realize that that person

0:42:00.120 --> 0:42:03.760
<v Speaker 1>is an aspect of me, right, or was an aspect

0:42:03.760 --> 0:42:07.120
<v Speaker 1>of me that I let go. So now that relationship

0:42:07.200 --> 0:42:10.880
<v Speaker 1>no longer can exist, and it's okay. And I still

0:42:10.880 --> 0:42:15.080
<v Speaker 1>remember that that person. I still remember who I was

0:42:15.200 --> 0:42:18.399
<v Speaker 1>when in the friendship with that person, but I'm not

0:42:18.400 --> 0:42:21.200
<v Speaker 1>there anymore, and that and these people will keep trying

0:42:21.200 --> 0:42:23.800
<v Speaker 1>to tug you back there, right.

0:42:24.080 --> 0:42:28.520
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, girl, you preach it to the choir with that one.

0:42:28.520 --> 0:42:31.160
<v Speaker 2>I had a similar situation, and I was saying to

0:42:31.200 --> 0:42:36.120
<v Speaker 2>myself last night, like I argue with this woman because

0:42:36.280 --> 0:42:39.759
<v Speaker 2>we have that same we can she.

0:42:39.840 --> 0:42:42.080
<v Speaker 1>Knows these people know where to come at for that

0:42:42.120 --> 0:42:44.840
<v Speaker 1>thing that they need, that fix, the fixing them that

0:42:44.920 --> 0:42:47.839
<v Speaker 1>wants the confrontation, Like I know bitch. I'll argue your

0:42:47.880 --> 0:42:50.080
<v Speaker 1>ass down all day. So you want that smoke, come

0:42:50.280 --> 0:42:52.240
<v Speaker 1>come over here. But I don't be wanting to smoke.

0:42:53.200 --> 0:42:56.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's the thing. I don't want to don't want

0:42:56.160 --> 0:42:59.080
<v Speaker 2>to do it. I argued this bitch down the other

0:42:59.120 --> 0:43:01.279
<v Speaker 2>day and then after it was done, I did not

0:43:01.400 --> 0:43:04.560
<v Speaker 2>feel good. My vibration was low. I was like, this

0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:06.920
<v Speaker 2>is not who I am anymore. This is everything that

0:43:06.960 --> 0:43:11.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm fighting not to be. I can't be what I

0:43:11.560 --> 0:43:13.879
<v Speaker 2>want to be in a friendship with you right now,

0:43:14.640 --> 0:43:16.520
<v Speaker 2>so I have to exit, you know, I have to

0:43:16.560 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 2>exit so I can be this thing I'm trying to be.

0:43:19.719 --> 0:43:23.120
<v Speaker 2>And when you have some people in your life for

0:43:23.160 --> 0:43:26.200
<v Speaker 2>so long, you feel like they're supposed to be there

0:43:26.680 --> 0:43:29.640
<v Speaker 2>because they've been there so long, But that's not true.

0:43:30.400 --> 0:43:33.120
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you got to let go and love people from

0:43:33.160 --> 0:43:37.120
<v Speaker 2>a distance and understand that that chapter was a chapter

0:43:37.320 --> 0:43:38.960
<v Speaker 2>and it's closed and that's okay.

0:43:39.840 --> 0:43:43.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know I used to. Really it's some relationships

0:43:43.200 --> 0:43:45.799
<v Speaker 1>that I feel like I like grieved from, you know,

0:43:45.880 --> 0:43:49.040
<v Speaker 1>grieved over for years. Right. These are friendships with women,

0:43:50.360 --> 0:43:52.960
<v Speaker 1>because I'll always be saying like I don't lose friends,

0:43:53.000 --> 0:43:55.399
<v Speaker 1>like I literally be taking other people friends, not taking them,

0:43:55.440 --> 0:43:57.319
<v Speaker 1>but I'll make friends with other people. Friends and all

0:43:57.320 --> 0:43:58.799
<v Speaker 1>the people that I love, I like them to all

0:43:58.840 --> 0:44:02.879
<v Speaker 1>be together. But I do have some relationships that ended right,

0:44:03.239 --> 0:44:06.680
<v Speaker 1>and I grieve the loss of this person, but I

0:44:06.719 --> 0:44:11.279
<v Speaker 1>can't I can't perceive their experience in the relationship with me.

0:44:12.040 --> 0:44:15.200
<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't know. Maybe I was a horrible

0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:15.839
<v Speaker 1>person to.

0:44:15.840 --> 0:44:18.840
<v Speaker 2>Them, right. You might be a villain in the story.

0:44:18.719 --> 0:44:21.480
<v Speaker 1>And I'm okay with that too, because what I do

0:44:21.640 --> 0:44:27.080
<v Speaker 1>know that I do in relationships is my best every time,

0:44:27.239 --> 0:44:30.600
<v Speaker 1>no matter what the relationship with my family, the relationships

0:44:30.600 --> 0:44:33.640
<v Speaker 1>with my friends, co workers, if I'm workers somewhere like

0:44:33.680 --> 0:44:35.240
<v Speaker 1>I an't working nowhere. But you know what I'm saying,

0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:38.920
<v Speaker 1>my my romantic relationships, I do my best, so I

0:44:38.960 --> 0:44:43.719
<v Speaker 1>could feel okay with however it is and if it

0:44:43.800 --> 0:44:47.640
<v Speaker 1>even has to be right, And that's all you could

0:44:47.640 --> 0:44:50.960
<v Speaker 1>do is your best, right, that's all you get.

0:44:51.239 --> 0:44:54.160
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes does fall short, and that's okay. We're human and

0:44:54.160 --> 0:44:58.360
<v Speaker 2>we're having a human experience and you can just try

0:44:58.400 --> 0:45:00.680
<v Speaker 2>to be better the next time, you know, the next

0:45:00.680 --> 0:45:04.920
<v Speaker 2>go around. Change behavior is always the best. I'm sorry,

0:45:05.239 --> 0:45:11.399
<v Speaker 2>you know, So you can't have no rest this man, Yeah,

0:45:11.400 --> 0:45:14.000
<v Speaker 2>I mean that's what I'm saying. I been thinking about, like, damn,

0:45:14.160 --> 0:45:17.440
<v Speaker 2>if I had made this choice, then I would be

0:45:17.560 --> 0:45:21.200
<v Speaker 2>doing this now or you just you can't live there.

0:45:21.280 --> 0:45:24.799
<v Speaker 1>You can change the past by doing better in the future, though,

0:45:25.239 --> 0:45:27.239
<v Speaker 1>that's why you change your past, like you can't you

0:45:27.280 --> 0:45:30.400
<v Speaker 1>can change the past. You got to do it in

0:45:30.400 --> 0:45:33.239
<v Speaker 1>the present. In the future, though, and you look at

0:45:33.280 --> 0:45:36.759
<v Speaker 1>it differently. You'll look at the past differently, So you

0:45:36.840 --> 0:45:39.440
<v Speaker 1>just got to focus on the present. So we focused

0:45:39.480 --> 0:45:40.520
<v Speaker 1>on I just look at it like.

0:45:40.800 --> 0:45:46.000
<v Speaker 2>Even even those mistakes, even those are just in all failures,

0:45:46.040 --> 0:45:48.800
<v Speaker 2>all of those are just steps to where you're supposed

0:45:48.840 --> 0:45:50.759
<v Speaker 2>to be. You know, these things were meant to happen

0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:53.640
<v Speaker 2>for a reason so you could get to your greatness,

0:45:53.680 --> 0:45:54.480
<v Speaker 2>whatever that is.

0:45:54.960 --> 0:45:56.920
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like you can't get to your greatness

0:45:57.000 --> 0:45:59.920
<v Speaker 1>without being everything stripped away to owe you. You can't.

0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:06.600
<v Speaker 1>You like, you have to lose everything, hm to even

0:46:06.640 --> 0:46:09.120
<v Speaker 1>get your mind in the space that needs to be

0:46:09.320 --> 0:46:11.040
<v Speaker 1>so you can get to where you want to be.

0:46:11.600 --> 0:46:13.120
<v Speaker 1>You do have to lose everything.

0:46:14.120 --> 0:46:14.560
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

0:46:15.520 --> 0:46:21.880
<v Speaker 3>Bitch, that's what I was about to be, like so big,

0:46:23.200 --> 0:46:29.120
<v Speaker 3>so huge, because I was stripped the material things friendships,

0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:37.920
<v Speaker 3>relations romantic relationships, finances, everything, everything, even walking.

0:46:38.440 --> 0:46:44.400
<v Speaker 2>God stripped me down to the bare minimal baby, But

0:46:44.480 --> 0:46:45.960
<v Speaker 2>you made it through.

0:46:46.200 --> 0:46:48.160
<v Speaker 1>You making it through that you die.

0:46:49.600 --> 0:46:53.720
<v Speaker 2>I did not. I did not die. And the woman

0:46:53.760 --> 0:46:57.000
<v Speaker 2>who's coming up out of the ashes is so much better.

0:46:57.320 --> 0:47:02.680
<v Speaker 2>It is so more, much more grateful, and not for things,

0:47:03.080 --> 0:47:06.960
<v Speaker 2>for relationships, for people, for the network that I have.

0:47:07.920 --> 0:47:11.960
<v Speaker 2>I have a renewed gratitude for the things that really matter.

0:47:12.400 --> 0:47:18.040
<v Speaker 1>You know, relationships is worth more than gold. It's just

0:47:18.120 --> 0:47:23.399
<v Speaker 1>about man. That's my religion, music and relationships. Yeah, that's

0:47:23.440 --> 0:47:24.400
<v Speaker 1>what I subscribe to.

0:47:25.440 --> 0:47:28.120
<v Speaker 2>But what are the four a's of gratitude.

0:47:28.880 --> 0:47:34.080
<v Speaker 1>So let's see what it says here. Appreciation You just

0:47:34.080 --> 0:47:36.160
<v Speaker 1>said we were appreciative for a lot of things. So

0:47:36.200 --> 0:47:41.120
<v Speaker 1>it says recognize and value the positive aspects of your life,

0:47:41.520 --> 0:47:49.799
<v Speaker 1>including people, experiences, and blessings. The second A is acknowledgment.

0:47:51.760 --> 0:47:55.400
<v Speaker 1>Consciously recognize the good things in your life and feel

0:47:55.480 --> 0:47:57.920
<v Speaker 1>thankful for them. I think a lot of times when

0:47:57.920 --> 0:48:02.400
<v Speaker 1>people be threatened about like one little small thing that

0:48:02.480 --> 0:48:06.360
<v Speaker 1>don't really matter, they're not you're not practicing gratitude. Like

0:48:06.400 --> 0:48:09.719
<v Speaker 1>if you just see the negative about everything.

0:48:11.280 --> 0:48:14.080
<v Speaker 2>Right and you can't find no space of nothing to

0:48:14.080 --> 0:48:18.000
<v Speaker 2>be happy about. But baby, I get you know, when

0:48:17.960 --> 0:48:20.319
<v Speaker 2>you're in the thick of it, it'd be hard to

0:48:20.360 --> 0:48:23.440
<v Speaker 2>find that gratitude sometimes when people be.

0:48:23.440 --> 0:48:25.440
<v Speaker 1>Like, oh, somebody else got it worse, but this is

0:48:25.480 --> 0:48:28.320
<v Speaker 1>the bottom for me. I can't comparing my bottom to

0:48:28.360 --> 0:48:32.160
<v Speaker 1>other people. This is my bottom. So yeah, somebody else

0:48:32.200 --> 0:48:34.120
<v Speaker 1>might have it worse, and yes, I can probably think

0:48:34.120 --> 0:48:36.400
<v Speaker 1>about that to make me feel better about my situation,

0:48:36.480 --> 0:48:38.600
<v Speaker 1>but this is still I'm still in it.

0:48:39.600 --> 0:48:41.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm still in it right now, and it's hard to

0:48:41.440 --> 0:48:43.719
<v Speaker 2>see the light at the end of the tunnel. Yeah,

0:48:43.760 --> 0:48:46.960
<v Speaker 2>I get it, But you gotta dig for that gratitude, baby,

0:48:47.120 --> 0:48:49.960
<v Speaker 2>You gotta dig somewhere deep to find it, because if

0:48:50.000 --> 0:48:52.399
<v Speaker 2>you sit in that space for too long, you can

0:48:52.440 --> 0:48:55.200
<v Speaker 2>turn it to a bitter ass motherfucker. Do you know

0:48:55.239 --> 0:48:59.080
<v Speaker 2>people that's just like walking around? Yes, very close to.

0:48:59.040 --> 0:49:07.960
<v Speaker 1>Me, absolutely got everything, got everything mad, just mad, just upset,

0:49:08.160 --> 0:49:10.880
<v Speaker 1>just angry because you're not practicing gratitude. You mean to

0:49:10.920 --> 0:49:13.000
<v Speaker 1>tell me there's nothing in your life that you're grateful for.

0:49:13.440 --> 0:49:15.640
<v Speaker 1>If we just got a name, one thing for thirty days,

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:19.000
<v Speaker 1>I got a million things for each day too, Like

0:49:19.080 --> 0:49:22.680
<v Speaker 1>I wake up feeling great. My feet you're hurting a

0:49:22.719 --> 0:49:24.560
<v Speaker 1>little bit because I don't get a couple of pounds.

0:49:24.600 --> 0:49:29.319
<v Speaker 1>But other than talking about now, I think I got

0:49:29.719 --> 0:49:35.839
<v Speaker 1>what is that called flashy itis. Flash I got that,

0:49:36.600 --> 0:49:38.960
<v Speaker 1>and you know, I had it some years ago and

0:49:38.960 --> 0:49:43.600
<v Speaker 1>and just randomly went away. But it's that, my fucking friend, bitch,

0:49:43.640 --> 0:49:48.080
<v Speaker 1>I might be feeling your pain. I might be feeling

0:49:48.080 --> 0:49:52.080
<v Speaker 1>your pain a little bit. The third A is admiration

0:49:52.440 --> 0:49:57.000
<v Speaker 1>compliment people on their traits, skills, or accomplishments. That's one

0:49:57.000 --> 0:50:02.440
<v Speaker 1>way like giving somebody else a Yeah, like, you know,

0:50:02.560 --> 0:50:05.080
<v Speaker 1>tell somebody else how what you think of them and

0:50:05.120 --> 0:50:08.640
<v Speaker 1>how wonderful they are, how amazing they are today. Can

0:50:08.640 --> 0:50:09.040
<v Speaker 1>we do that?

0:50:09.480 --> 0:50:14.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? And do it when not looking for a compliment

0:50:14.320 --> 0:50:18.960
<v Speaker 2>in return, right, do it just because you know, I

0:50:19.040 --> 0:50:19.759
<v Speaker 2>never know what.

0:50:19.680 --> 0:50:21.719
<v Speaker 1>To say when somebody says something nice to me. I

0:50:21.800 --> 0:50:22.640
<v Speaker 1>just always like.

0:50:23.600 --> 0:50:25.800
<v Speaker 2>You are the worst at taking a compliment.

0:50:26.200 --> 0:50:27.759
<v Speaker 1>And that's one of the things I'd be working on.

0:50:27.920 --> 0:50:30.239
<v Speaker 1>I'd be working on it, just trying to and I

0:50:30.280 --> 0:50:32.560
<v Speaker 1>don't that doesn't come from a place of not feeling

0:50:32.600 --> 0:50:33.399
<v Speaker 1>deserving though.

0:50:33.840 --> 0:50:37.160
<v Speaker 2>It just feels to me you be just trying to

0:50:37.200 --> 0:50:39.680
<v Speaker 2>be so humble. Stop. You don't have to be humble,

0:50:39.760 --> 0:50:42.880
<v Speaker 2>so humble all the time. But I really I'm.

0:50:42.760 --> 0:50:45.799
<v Speaker 1>Really not that humble though, Like I'm humble. I have

0:50:45.880 --> 0:50:48.600
<v Speaker 1>a nice I feel like I have a nice level

0:50:48.640 --> 0:50:53.000
<v Speaker 1>of all the things. Like it's just like, yeah, if.

0:50:52.880 --> 0:50:56.560
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, that's a pretty dress, this whole thing,

0:50:56.680 --> 0:50:58.840
<v Speaker 2>I had it forever, Like you don't have to do that,

0:50:59.000 --> 0:51:02.320
<v Speaker 2>just say thank you. You don't have to minimize whatever

0:51:02.400 --> 0:51:03.920
<v Speaker 2>it is that's being complimented.

0:51:04.239 --> 0:51:05.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I still got to work on it

0:51:05.520 --> 0:51:07.600
<v Speaker 1>because I still do that, and I feel like that's

0:51:07.640 --> 0:51:11.239
<v Speaker 1>something that hasn't passed down to me. That's not my thing,

0:51:11.520 --> 0:51:13.800
<v Speaker 1>that's not my own thing. A lot of things aren't

0:51:13.800 --> 0:51:19.920
<v Speaker 1>our things, but we picked them up somewhere. Yeah, so

0:51:20.080 --> 0:51:27.840
<v Speaker 1>recognize them and fix them. And the last a is attention.

0:51:28.160 --> 0:51:32.160
<v Speaker 1>Listen to others with patience and attention. I gotta work

0:51:32.200 --> 0:51:35.640
<v Speaker 1>on that. I got to work on not responding, smiling

0:51:35.680 --> 0:51:40.160
<v Speaker 1>and nodding more often, you know, just you're right, I

0:51:40.200 --> 0:51:41.320
<v Speaker 1>hear you, period.

0:51:42.800 --> 0:51:45.800
<v Speaker 2>I see my attitude toward that is what I'm doing

0:51:45.840 --> 0:51:51.080
<v Speaker 2>now or I'm trying to do more of is listening

0:51:52.440 --> 0:51:59.640
<v Speaker 2>to here and not to respond. Listening to actually be

0:51:59.760 --> 0:52:03.759
<v Speaker 2>open into a different perspective and not just listening. So

0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:07.920
<v Speaker 2>my till it's my turn to talk, you know, especially

0:52:07.920 --> 0:52:11.279
<v Speaker 2>when it's something I'm passionate about, I be like, yeah, yeah,

0:52:11.280 --> 0:52:13.399
<v Speaker 2>I already know what you're gonna say, but I do

0:52:13.440 --> 0:52:15.799
<v Speaker 2>I really no, I don't. You know, Just let this

0:52:15.880 --> 0:52:21.640
<v Speaker 2>person express themselves because you might learn something. You might

0:52:21.760 --> 0:52:24.520
<v Speaker 2>get a new perspective, you might get a new idea

0:52:24.560 --> 0:52:27.800
<v Speaker 2>about something. So I just try to be more open

0:52:27.960 --> 0:52:32.400
<v Speaker 2>to being objective to other perspectives and shut up. Just

0:52:32.400 --> 0:52:34.440
<v Speaker 2>shut up. I know I talked back, but I can

0:52:34.480 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 2>shut up too.

0:52:36.600 --> 0:52:39.880
<v Speaker 1>So I definitely listen, and I like to know other

0:52:39.960 --> 0:52:44.120
<v Speaker 1>people's perspective about stuff, but I also be wanting people

0:52:44.160 --> 0:52:47.319
<v Speaker 1>to hear my perspective. Now, my ego isn't big enough

0:52:47.320 --> 0:52:50.080
<v Speaker 1>to want to beat some shit into somebody's brain. So

0:52:50.120 --> 0:52:51.920
<v Speaker 1>how I might do it? I might follow up with

0:52:52.040 --> 0:52:55.680
<v Speaker 1>additional information. If you are more of a visual learner,

0:52:55.719 --> 0:52:59.880
<v Speaker 1>if you need to see something and I feel like

0:53:00.440 --> 0:53:03.399
<v Speaker 1>wanting to understand somebody else, that comes with like if

0:53:03.400 --> 0:53:06.840
<v Speaker 1>you actually love them and respect them, right, if you

0:53:07.120 --> 0:53:11.160
<v Speaker 1>just readily just ready to discard somebody because you don't

0:53:11.239 --> 0:53:13.680
<v Speaker 1>understand their perspective. You're not trying to hear what they say.

0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:15.200
<v Speaker 1>You're not trying to you're not trying to see it.

0:53:15.239 --> 0:53:17.239
<v Speaker 1>They wait because we don't have to see each other

0:53:17.320 --> 0:53:19.879
<v Speaker 1>shit the same way. We don't have to. But there's

0:53:19.920 --> 0:53:24.560
<v Speaker 1>a level of understanding that comes with love and respect though, right,

0:53:24.640 --> 0:53:26.920
<v Speaker 1>I want to understand where you're coming from because I

0:53:26.960 --> 0:53:30.040
<v Speaker 1>respect you and I respect your perspective. I want to

0:53:30.080 --> 0:53:35.360
<v Speaker 1>see you, but I want the same thing back too, though, right. Yeah,

0:53:35.680 --> 0:53:37.520
<v Speaker 1>So that's I feel like that's what i'd be fighting for.

0:53:37.600 --> 0:53:39.719
<v Speaker 1>But the thing is, I gotta be okay with them

0:53:39.760 --> 0:53:42.879
<v Speaker 1>not seeing my perspective and not seeing it my way,

0:53:42.920 --> 0:53:45.240
<v Speaker 1>and it's fine, right.

0:53:45.280 --> 0:53:51.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've definitely I feel like I've mastered that now,

0:53:51.360 --> 0:53:53.879
<v Speaker 2>Like I would just be quiet real quick, you got,

0:53:55.120 --> 0:53:57.560
<v Speaker 2>and let people say what they how they feel. It's okay,

0:53:58.040 --> 0:53:58.319
<v Speaker 2>you know.

0:54:01.480 --> 0:54:05.279
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So how do you practice gratitude? And this is

0:54:05.320 --> 0:54:09.839
<v Speaker 1>for this is going to be fire. Thirty days of gratitude.

0:54:09.960 --> 0:54:12.839
<v Speaker 1>So from what we want, it's over thirty days, so

0:54:12.920 --> 0:54:16.359
<v Speaker 1>from here to the end of the year, basically until

0:54:16.440 --> 0:54:18.680
<v Speaker 1>January one, because then we get into goal setting and

0:54:18.719 --> 0:54:21.200
<v Speaker 1>all that year. Bitch, Look, I got the same goals

0:54:21.200 --> 0:54:26.040
<v Speaker 1>from last year. You get this motherfucking patron Okay, when

0:54:26.080 --> 0:54:27.959
<v Speaker 1>I tell you I got so many, there are one

0:54:28.040 --> 0:54:36.280
<v Speaker 1>two three million dollar houses on my fucking zoo search. Okay, listen,

0:54:36.640 --> 0:54:38.759
<v Speaker 1>and I'm getting one of them. That's just it is

0:54:38.880 --> 0:54:42.720
<v Speaker 1>what it is because I said so. So this says

0:54:42.800 --> 0:54:46.000
<v Speaker 1>practicing daily gratitude. Ten ways to practice daily gratitude. This

0:54:46.080 --> 0:54:51.399
<v Speaker 1>is from mindful dot org. Okay, so the first thing

0:54:51.440 --> 0:54:54.560
<v Speaker 1>it says, keep a gratitude journal. We know this. Write

0:54:54.600 --> 0:54:55.759
<v Speaker 1>down all your things right down.

0:54:56.000 --> 0:54:58.040
<v Speaker 2>I bought you one.

0:55:00.040 --> 0:55:02.600
<v Speaker 1>I have it. It's on the side of my bed. Okay,

0:55:02.719 --> 0:55:06.000
<v Speaker 1>so maybe I'll write in it.

0:55:07.600 --> 0:55:07.839
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:55:07.880 --> 0:55:10.680
<v Speaker 1>It says keep a gratitude journal. Establish a daily practice

0:55:10.719 --> 0:55:15.759
<v Speaker 1>in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits,

0:55:16.239 --> 0:55:21.120
<v Speaker 1>and good things you enjoy. Recalling moments of gratitude associated

0:55:21.200 --> 0:55:26.080
<v Speaker 1>with ordinary events, personal attributes, or valued people in your

0:55:26.120 --> 0:55:30.480
<v Speaker 1>life gives you the potential to interweave a sustainable theme

0:55:30.680 --> 0:55:36.120
<v Speaker 1>of gratefulness into your life. So write it down. Write

0:55:36.160 --> 0:55:38.480
<v Speaker 1>that shit down. Like a couple of weeks ago, I

0:55:38.520 --> 0:55:43.719
<v Speaker 1>attended a friend of ours. She had a zoom thing

0:55:43.800 --> 0:55:48.280
<v Speaker 1>what her group of people is called. Write that shit down. Now.

0:55:48.600 --> 0:55:51.799
<v Speaker 1>I wrote that shit down now, and I revisited since

0:55:51.840 --> 0:55:56.000
<v Speaker 1>I wrote that shit down, So I gotta do better.

0:55:56.719 --> 0:55:59.520
<v Speaker 1>I gotta do better with just being consistent with all things.

0:55:59.520 --> 0:56:04.560
<v Speaker 1>Take them a fucking vitamins, Okay, eating properly, working out,

0:56:04.680 --> 0:56:07.719
<v Speaker 1>it's being consistent. But I do have gratitude that I

0:56:07.719 --> 0:56:10.760
<v Speaker 1>can wake up and choose if I'm doing it today

0:56:10.880 --> 0:56:16.160
<v Speaker 1>or not. Right, Thank you God, Thank you God.

0:56:16.239 --> 0:56:20.279
<v Speaker 2>I think another way a good practice is, you know,

0:56:21.960 --> 0:56:24.520
<v Speaker 2>instead of waking up and saying, I gotta go to work.

0:56:24.360 --> 0:56:25.520
<v Speaker 1>Today, I get to go.

0:56:25.680 --> 0:56:28.759
<v Speaker 2>I get to go. Yeah, you know, change the way

0:56:28.800 --> 0:56:31.080
<v Speaker 2>you even speak about the things in your life. You know,

0:56:32.080 --> 0:56:34.919
<v Speaker 2>some people don't get to go, you know, but you do.

0:56:35.160 --> 0:56:35.600
<v Speaker 2>You know, so.

0:56:37.080 --> 0:56:38.920
<v Speaker 1>Got changing your programming.

0:56:40.080 --> 0:56:42.760
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm. Yeah.

0:56:42.880 --> 0:56:45.680
<v Speaker 1>Number two is remember the bad We said that. So

0:56:45.840 --> 0:56:48.920
<v Speaker 1>to be grateful in your current state, it is helpful

0:56:48.960 --> 0:56:52.080
<v Speaker 1>to remember the hard times that you once experienced. When

0:56:52.120 --> 0:56:55.000
<v Speaker 1>you remember how difficult life used to be and how

0:56:55.040 --> 0:56:58.600
<v Speaker 1>far you have come, you set up an explicit contrast

0:56:58.719 --> 0:57:02.960
<v Speaker 1>in your mind. And this contrast is fertile ground for gratefulness.

0:57:03.040 --> 0:57:04.960
<v Speaker 1>So you almost got to trick your mind, Like is

0:57:04.960 --> 0:57:08.400
<v Speaker 1>your mind be tricking you? Your subconscious mind really be

0:57:09.200 --> 0:57:12.400
<v Speaker 1>holding on to a bunch of little small thoughts about nothing,

0:57:13.080 --> 0:57:18.040
<v Speaker 1>so not even intrusive, because we intrusive me, like you

0:57:18.040 --> 0:57:19.880
<v Speaker 1>want to do some bad ship, but it's just like.

0:57:19.920 --> 0:57:23.560
<v Speaker 2>Just But sometimes intrusive thoughts can be shipped against.

0:57:23.320 --> 0:57:27.960
<v Speaker 1>Your Yeah this negative yeah right right, negative thoughts about yourself,

0:57:28.000 --> 0:57:30.560
<v Speaker 1>So replace it with something positive. The minutes you start

0:57:30.600 --> 0:57:34.680
<v Speaker 1>thinking about some negative ship, replace it with a positive thought.

0:57:36.160 --> 0:57:38.920
<v Speaker 1>Just keep doing that until all your thoughts are positive. Like,

0:57:39.280 --> 0:57:44.400
<v Speaker 1>of course you're going to have bad things happen, but

0:57:44.480 --> 0:57:47.800
<v Speaker 1>you can't live there. You can't live there forever. I mean,

0:57:48.480 --> 0:57:52.400
<v Speaker 1>broke got a couple of weeks.

0:57:53.080 --> 0:57:56.480
<v Speaker 2>Listen, you can live there, but I advise against it. Man,

0:57:56.520 --> 0:57:58.400
<v Speaker 2>you get there, not a good place.

0:57:58.160 --> 0:58:02.920
<v Speaker 1>To get out of there. Number three says ask yourself

0:58:03.000 --> 0:58:10.760
<v Speaker 1>three questions, meditating your relationships with parents, friends, siblings, work, associates, children,

0:58:11.320 --> 0:58:17.040
<v Speaker 1>and partners. Using these three questions, what have I received

0:58:17.080 --> 0:58:23.400
<v Speaker 1>from blank? What have I given to blank? And what troubles,

0:58:23.600 --> 0:58:29.360
<v Speaker 1>troubles and difficulty have I caused? Are the three questions

0:58:30.000 --> 0:58:33.080
<v Speaker 1>you want to ask yourself about the people in your life,

0:58:33.560 --> 0:58:35.760
<v Speaker 1>about the relationships.

0:58:36.000 --> 0:58:39.440
<v Speaker 2>Yep, that's good, And then be like.

0:58:42.320 --> 0:58:44.880
<v Speaker 1>You got to find a way to be okay. Even

0:58:44.920 --> 0:58:48.200
<v Speaker 1>if you cause something, still be okay with it and

0:58:48.240 --> 0:58:55.360
<v Speaker 1>do bed and moving forward. Share your gratitude with others.

0:58:55.600 --> 0:58:59.600
<v Speaker 1>So research has found that expressing gratitude can strengthen relationships.

0:58:59.640 --> 0:59:02.520
<v Speaker 1>So the next time your partner, friend, or family member

0:59:03.200 --> 0:59:07.360
<v Speaker 1>does something you appreciate, be sure to let them know. Yeah,

0:59:07.360 --> 0:59:11.120
<v Speaker 1>I appreciate that, I tell them. So I appreciate them

0:59:11.160 --> 0:59:13.200
<v Speaker 1>all day long, you know what I'm saying. Like, if

0:59:13.200 --> 0:59:15.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm grocery shopping, somebody do, Okay, thank you, I appreciate you,

0:59:15.920 --> 0:59:19.280
<v Speaker 1>Like I think that does something for their day too.

0:59:20.960 --> 0:59:24.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And you can tell people you appreciate things that

0:59:24.200 --> 0:59:27.000
<v Speaker 2>haven't been done for you. I appreciate the things that

0:59:27.040 --> 0:59:32.480
<v Speaker 2>you're doing for others, you know, Like are our friend

0:59:32.520 --> 0:59:33.560
<v Speaker 2>Ebene from the.

0:59:34.200 --> 0:59:38.280
<v Speaker 1>Oh she's her Turkey drive. Yeah, I appreciate Professional home

0:59:38.520 --> 0:59:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Girl Okay, the Professional Homegirl podcast, y'all check her out.

0:59:42.400 --> 0:59:44.840
<v Speaker 1>She's also on Black Effect yep.

0:59:45.360 --> 0:59:47.800
<v Speaker 2>So that's you know, it doesn't have to be something

0:59:47.840 --> 0:59:52.800
<v Speaker 2>directly related to them doing things for you. Just knowledge

0:59:52.840 --> 0:59:54.600
<v Speaker 2>people for what they're doing for others as well.

0:59:54.680 --> 1:00:02.720
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, come to your sensesber five says, through our senses

1:00:03.320 --> 1:00:08.400
<v Speaker 1>the ability to touch sea, smell tasting. Here we gain

1:00:08.520 --> 1:00:12.080
<v Speaker 1>an appreciation of what it means to be human and

1:00:12.280 --> 1:00:15.320
<v Speaker 1>of what an incredible miracle it is to be alive.

1:00:15.440 --> 1:00:18.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't think y'all realized man could have been somebody

1:00:18.400 --> 1:00:21.640
<v Speaker 1>else would have made it to that damn egg right,

1:00:21.720 --> 1:00:24.360
<v Speaker 1>seeing through that the sperm that made it back, you

1:00:24.480 --> 1:00:27.400
<v Speaker 1>made it. Seeing through the lens of gratitude. The human

1:00:27.440 --> 1:00:31.520
<v Speaker 1>body is not only a miraculous construction, but it also

1:00:31.880 --> 1:00:35.680
<v Speaker 1>is a gift. So people, he.

1:00:35.800 --> 1:00:40.720
<v Speaker 2>May so sit with that for just a second. You

1:00:40.800 --> 1:00:44.240
<v Speaker 2>got the gift of life, Like, look, you got lucky,

1:00:44.280 --> 1:00:46.280
<v Speaker 2>you hit the lottery. How many sperm be shooting out

1:00:46.280 --> 1:00:47.120
<v Speaker 2>there for a.

1:00:47.080 --> 1:00:49.880
<v Speaker 1>Lot a lot?

1:00:50.120 --> 1:00:51.520
<v Speaker 2>And you know, I know.

1:00:52.880 --> 1:00:55.160
<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of gratitude for being alive. And

1:00:55.200 --> 1:00:58.280
<v Speaker 1>I do think my mom right, because she has reminded

1:00:58.320 --> 1:01:00.200
<v Speaker 1>me a couple of times how she was sitting an

1:01:00.280 --> 1:01:04.880
<v Speaker 1>abortion planet as a married woman with two children, about

1:01:04.880 --> 1:01:06.920
<v Speaker 1>to abort me. And maybe this is why I feel

1:01:06.960 --> 1:01:10.439
<v Speaker 1>so strongly about Yeah, she just told me that, right,

1:01:10.480 --> 1:01:12.800
<v Speaker 1>And I said, well, that's why i was breach stepping

1:01:12.800 --> 1:01:15.680
<v Speaker 1>out that pussy feet first, because I'm supposed to be here.

1:01:16.480 --> 1:01:18.560
<v Speaker 1>I know, I'm supposed to be here for this time,

1:01:20.040 --> 1:01:22.439
<v Speaker 1>all the things we experiencing now and the stupid shit

1:01:22.560 --> 1:01:25.160
<v Speaker 1>like I know my purpose on this planet. I think

1:01:25.200 --> 1:01:28.680
<v Speaker 1>you also could feel gain gratitude in that way too,

1:01:28.800 --> 1:01:32.560
<v Speaker 1>just figuring out what your purpose is, right, you know,

1:01:33.040 --> 1:01:36.760
<v Speaker 1>And a lot of times it takes you got to

1:01:36.800 --> 1:01:39.560
<v Speaker 1>go from from nothing to even to get to that

1:01:39.640 --> 1:01:42.800
<v Speaker 1>place to understand what is your purpose on this planet?

1:01:42.800 --> 1:01:46.440
<v Speaker 1>Why are you here? Are you just going to just

1:01:46.560 --> 1:01:51.720
<v Speaker 1>roam around your whole life like just just not knowing?

1:01:53.720 --> 1:01:54.640
<v Speaker 2>And that's unfortunate.

1:01:55.000 --> 1:01:59.240
<v Speaker 1>So because on this planet, unfortunately, this hell realm, if

1:01:59.280 --> 1:02:01.479
<v Speaker 1>you don't figure out what you want for your life,

1:02:01.480 --> 1:02:05.120
<v Speaker 1>somebody else will and judicial system to just put your

1:02:05.160 --> 1:02:09.360
<v Speaker 1>ass in jail for the rest of it. So be careful,

1:02:11.160 --> 1:02:18.360
<v Speaker 1>my man. That's you pay them taxes, bitch.

1:02:20.680 --> 1:02:21.439
<v Speaker 2>What else is meant?

1:02:24.640 --> 1:02:29.640
<v Speaker 1>Use visual reminders because the two primary obstacles to gratefulness

1:02:29.880 --> 1:02:35.280
<v Speaker 1>are forgetfulness and a lack of mindful awareness. Visual reminders

1:02:35.320 --> 1:02:39.400
<v Speaker 1>can serve as cues to trigger thoughts thoughts of gratitude. Oftentimes,

1:02:39.400 --> 1:02:43.720
<v Speaker 1>the best visual reminders are other people. I keep saying,

1:02:43.720 --> 1:02:46.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get me one like a big whiteboard and

1:02:46.920 --> 1:02:50.160
<v Speaker 1>just put it in my fucking living room and right

1:02:50.240 --> 1:02:53.000
<v Speaker 1>ship and remove ship as I knock shit off my

1:02:53.080 --> 1:02:56.560
<v Speaker 1>little list. It might not be for gratitude, but just

1:02:58.040 --> 1:02:58.680
<v Speaker 1>so I can stay.

1:02:59.160 --> 1:03:01.840
<v Speaker 2>You can for gratitude and half to do.

1:03:03.520 --> 1:03:06.320
<v Speaker 1>But I do be needing to see it because.

1:03:06.040 --> 1:03:06.960
<v Speaker 2>It is for real.

1:03:07.040 --> 1:03:09.040
<v Speaker 1>For real is out of sight, out of mind for me.

1:03:09.120 --> 1:03:11.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It might be my autism kicking in sometimes.

1:03:11.520 --> 1:03:12.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

1:03:13.120 --> 1:03:15.200
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm, I can believe it that up.

1:03:18.200 --> 1:03:21.480
<v Speaker 1>Make a vow to practice gratitude. Research shows that making

1:03:21.560 --> 1:03:25.560
<v Speaker 1>an oath to perform a behavior increases the likelihood that

1:03:25.600 --> 1:03:29.600
<v Speaker 1>the action will be executed. Therefore, write your own gratitude vowel,

1:03:30.040 --> 1:03:32.919
<v Speaker 1>which could be as simple as I vow I vow

1:03:33.040 --> 1:03:36.360
<v Speaker 1>to count my blessings each day and post it somewhere

1:03:37.560 --> 1:03:39.800
<v Speaker 1>where you will be reminded of it every day. You know,

1:03:39.840 --> 1:03:42.479
<v Speaker 1>people start putting the post its on the bathroom mirror

1:03:42.520 --> 1:03:45.400
<v Speaker 1>and so on. I could just see my cat now

1:03:45.640 --> 1:03:48.880
<v Speaker 1>snatching that shit down. Bitch, I'm trying to get us,

1:03:48.880 --> 1:03:51.120
<v Speaker 1>I Mansion, what you're doing doing.

1:03:51.680 --> 1:03:56.280
<v Speaker 2>I think another good way to perform some gratitude is

1:03:56.320 --> 1:03:59.320
<v Speaker 2>to kiss yourself in the mirror every day in the morning.

1:03:59.360 --> 1:04:01.160
<v Speaker 2>You don't really have to kiss the mirror and leave

1:04:01.280 --> 1:04:04.120
<v Speaker 2>all lipproots all over your mirror. I can't even get

1:04:04.160 --> 1:04:06.280
<v Speaker 2>close to my mirror without having to climb on the counter.

1:04:06.400 --> 1:04:10.960
<v Speaker 2>But start making love to yourself, you know, not physically.

1:04:11.040 --> 1:04:12.560
<v Speaker 2>I mean you could do that too, but I mean

1:04:14.800 --> 1:04:18.960
<v Speaker 2>being grateful is also showing love to yourself, you know.

1:04:19.960 --> 1:04:23.640
<v Speaker 2>I think it starts there. Yeah. I always like with

1:04:23.720 --> 1:04:28.840
<v Speaker 2>my friends sometimes when you be like talking shit to

1:04:28.840 --> 1:04:30.920
<v Speaker 2>yourself or talking ship, I'd be like, be nice to

1:04:30.960 --> 1:04:33.680
<v Speaker 2>my friend, and you be like, who are you talking about?

1:04:33.880 --> 1:04:36.680
<v Speaker 2>Bitch you talk about? You be nice to her. I

1:04:36.720 --> 1:04:37.280
<v Speaker 2>don't like that.

1:04:39.400 --> 1:04:41.440
<v Speaker 1>I know I'd be hard on myself. Man, I'd be

1:04:41.520 --> 1:04:43.640
<v Speaker 1>real hard on myself. So I do have to replace

1:04:43.680 --> 1:04:47.200
<v Speaker 1>some negative thoughts a lot throughout the day. Throughout the day,

1:04:48.960 --> 1:04:52.520
<v Speaker 1>just as long as you're mindful, right, that's where it starts.

1:04:52.800 --> 1:04:55.200
<v Speaker 1>You got to recognize the problem before you can fucking

1:04:55.200 --> 1:05:00.000
<v Speaker 1>fix it. So Number A says, watch your language. Grateful

1:05:00.200 --> 1:05:04.400
<v Speaker 1>people have a particular linguistic style that uses the language

1:05:04.440 --> 1:05:10.680
<v Speaker 1>of gifts, givers, blessings, blessed, fortunate, fortunate, and abundance and gratitude.

1:05:10.720 --> 1:05:13.520
<v Speaker 1>You should not focus on how inherently good you are

1:05:13.880 --> 1:05:17.160
<v Speaker 1>but rather on the inherently good things that others have

1:05:17.280 --> 1:05:25.040
<v Speaker 1>done on your behalf. M Anyway, I like all those words.

1:05:25.040 --> 1:05:27.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't like the word blessed though, because

1:05:27.400 --> 1:05:33.400
<v Speaker 1>it's be less. So I like bliss All other ones

1:05:33.400 --> 1:05:40.720
<v Speaker 1>are bless Yeah, that's fine. I like the I like blissings,

1:05:41.160 --> 1:05:45.440
<v Speaker 1>my blessings. Yeah, you got You definitely got to watch

1:05:45.480 --> 1:05:48.400
<v Speaker 1>your mouth, man, you definitely got to watch your mouth.

1:05:48.840 --> 1:05:54.920
<v Speaker 2>And I always tell people over yourself and everybody else.

1:05:54.960 --> 1:05:57.800
<v Speaker 2>I always tell people that your tongue is a magic wine.

1:05:58.480 --> 1:06:01.400
<v Speaker 2>When people are saying stuff like gative, stuff like I can't,

1:06:01.440 --> 1:06:02.640
<v Speaker 2>I won't, I should.

1:06:02.560 --> 1:06:03.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm dead.

1:06:03.640 --> 1:06:04.160
<v Speaker 2>I hate that.

1:06:05.320 --> 1:06:08.640
<v Speaker 1>I hate when I see that in the comments I'm dead.

1:06:09.240 --> 1:06:16.520
<v Speaker 2>Like, don't speak good carry yourself? Yeah are also I

1:06:16.560 --> 1:06:19.520
<v Speaker 2>don't like demon time don't I don't do nothing? Demon

1:06:19.560 --> 1:06:26.080
<v Speaker 2>don't slowly? Yeah I've been going out. Yeah, don't do that.

1:06:26.280 --> 1:06:29.680
<v Speaker 2>I hate that. Yeah. So your tongue is a wind.

1:06:29.800 --> 1:06:33.320
<v Speaker 2>Remember that. Speak blessings over yourself, for blessings or whatever

1:06:33.360 --> 1:06:37.880
<v Speaker 2>you have, speak that over yourself and everybody around you.

1:06:38.400 --> 1:06:42.600
<v Speaker 1>So when people say have a blest day, it's usually

1:06:42.600 --> 1:06:45.200
<v Speaker 1>them being real condescending and like they don't really mean

1:06:45.240 --> 1:06:46.920
<v Speaker 1>for you to have a blessed day. That's why I'm like,

1:06:46.960 --> 1:06:49.600
<v Speaker 1>don't tell me to have a blessed day, because you're

1:06:49.600 --> 1:06:52.840
<v Speaker 1>telling me that, you're telling me to be less today.

1:06:53.760 --> 1:06:59.840
<v Speaker 2>Well that's not how you come before the eat. Huh

1:07:00.280 --> 1:07:02.480
<v Speaker 2>b less is b E l E S S.

1:07:02.560 --> 1:07:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Well just b you're not putting the E in there,

1:07:04.680 --> 1:07:07.439
<v Speaker 1>So B L E S S.

1:07:08.000 --> 1:07:10.360
<v Speaker 2>This is all about perspective because.

1:07:10.040 --> 1:07:12.800
<v Speaker 1>The English language was a big ass curse in itself.

1:07:12.840 --> 1:07:15.000
<v Speaker 1>So a lot of times like people be talking about

1:07:15.040 --> 1:07:18.040
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker saying grand rising or because people don't want to

1:07:18.040 --> 1:07:22.280
<v Speaker 1>say good morning anymore because morning means morning, like you're

1:07:22.320 --> 1:07:25.600
<v Speaker 1>waking up mourning some shit. M Oh you are I

1:07:25.880 --> 1:07:33.360
<v Speaker 1>ng m Oh you are n I NG mourning. So

1:07:33.640 --> 1:07:34.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean when I.

1:07:34.720 --> 1:07:38.560
<v Speaker 2>Tell somebody, uh, be blessed or have a blessed day,

1:07:38.680 --> 1:07:40.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean it in the most positive. Even when you.

1:07:40.640 --> 1:07:42.920
<v Speaker 1>Argue with somebody, you ain't ever say have a blessing.

1:07:42.880 --> 1:07:45.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't say that when I'm arguing a lot of

1:07:45.360 --> 1:07:47.400
<v Speaker 2>people don't tell them to have a good day. Have

1:07:47.440 --> 1:07:48.040
<v Speaker 2>a good day.

1:07:47.920 --> 1:07:51.120
<v Speaker 1>Them church, But that means about a blessed day real quick,

1:07:51.560 --> 1:07:59.800
<v Speaker 1>have a blessed day.

1:07:56.600 --> 1:07:59.160
<v Speaker 2>And I'll say have a good day, good day, But

1:07:59.200 --> 1:08:02.680
<v Speaker 2>do you really mean that? Yeah, because I'm about to go.

1:08:02.760 --> 1:08:03.920
<v Speaker 2>That means I'm about to exit.

1:08:04.040 --> 1:08:08.120
<v Speaker 1>I like to say, how the day you deserve? Yeah,

1:08:08.360 --> 1:08:10.720
<v Speaker 1>go have the day you deserve to have.

1:08:12.560 --> 1:08:16.240
<v Speaker 2>But I just even even still, it just I don't anytime.

1:08:16.880 --> 1:08:18.759
<v Speaker 2>At this point, I feel like when I wish negative

1:08:18.800 --> 1:08:21.680
<v Speaker 2>on people, I'm wishing it on myself. You know, when

1:08:21.680 --> 1:08:24.920
<v Speaker 2>I offer negative people, I'm offering it to myself. So

1:08:25.040 --> 1:08:27.800
<v Speaker 2>I having the day you deserve, I hope it's good

1:08:28.200 --> 1:08:31.320
<v Speaker 2>because I want a good day. You know, be blessed

1:08:31.400 --> 1:08:34.639
<v Speaker 2>because I want to be blessed. It's a circle everything

1:08:35.000 --> 1:08:37.639
<v Speaker 2>I'm finding like when I do when I do bad shit,

1:08:37.760 --> 1:08:39.679
<v Speaker 2>bad shit happened to me. When I do good shit,

1:08:39.760 --> 1:08:42.240
<v Speaker 2>good shit happens to me. When I give, I get gotasy.

1:08:42.280 --> 1:08:46.519
<v Speaker 1>That is that is so easy, isn't it. Yeah, that's

1:08:46.560 --> 1:08:49.000
<v Speaker 1>a hard concept for a lot of people to grasp.

1:08:50.560 --> 1:08:51.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

1:08:51.880 --> 1:08:56.080
<v Speaker 1>Number nine is go through the motions. Grateful emotions include smiling,

1:08:56.640 --> 1:09:01.240
<v Speaker 1>saying thank you, writing letters of gratitude. By going through

1:09:01.520 --> 1:09:10.000
<v Speaker 1>grateful emotions, you'll trigger the emotion of gratitude more often. Yeah, man, smout, smile.

1:09:10.240 --> 1:09:14.240
<v Speaker 2>Be nice, be nice to be both they thank you.

1:09:14.240 --> 1:09:16.519
<v Speaker 1>You know. I go to fast food restaurants and well,

1:09:16.720 --> 1:09:20.800
<v Speaker 1>not for real, but just Chick fil a is the

1:09:20.800 --> 1:09:24.800
<v Speaker 1>only place that it is nice. I like apple pies

1:09:24.840 --> 1:09:27.960
<v Speaker 1>from Popeyes, and the customer service is deplorable. Like why

1:09:28.000 --> 1:09:31.520
<v Speaker 1>am I saying thank you to you and I appreciate

1:09:31.600 --> 1:09:34.920
<v Speaker 1>to you, but you slamming my fucking apple pies on

1:09:34.960 --> 1:09:41.240
<v Speaker 1>the counter. They not practicing gratitude.

1:09:42.080 --> 1:09:44.320
<v Speaker 2>They're not. They're not, but they might be having a

1:09:44.320 --> 1:09:46.040
<v Speaker 2>hard day. I always just try to be like they

1:09:46.120 --> 1:09:48.840
<v Speaker 2>might have Who knows they could have shipped their pasts

1:09:48.840 --> 1:09:52.679
<v Speaker 2>this morning. Who knows what happened. I don't. I don't

1:09:52.720 --> 1:09:54.439
<v Speaker 2>know what happened to them, So I'm not I don't

1:09:54.439 --> 1:09:56.800
<v Speaker 2>take it personal. I just give the energy that I

1:09:56.840 --> 1:09:59.400
<v Speaker 2>want in return and hopefully expread, you know.

1:10:00.240 --> 1:10:03.519
<v Speaker 1>But I feel like that's a good example of why

1:10:03.640 --> 1:10:07.000
<v Speaker 1>people aren't having the things they think they're supposed to

1:10:07.080 --> 1:10:10.639
<v Speaker 1>have and aren't doing the things that they think they're

1:10:10.680 --> 1:10:14.840
<v Speaker 1>supposed to be doing. Because your attitude sucks no matter

1:10:14.880 --> 1:10:18.679
<v Speaker 1>what you're doing, like, you gotta do it happily.

1:10:20.360 --> 1:10:22.400
<v Speaker 2>And I you know what, I talk to everybody like

1:10:22.439 --> 1:10:25.720
<v Speaker 2>I know them, everybody our encounter. I treat them like

1:10:25.720 --> 1:10:27.519
<v Speaker 2>I already met them a long time ago. How are

1:10:27.520 --> 1:10:29.559
<v Speaker 2>your mama doing? I ain't never met your mama in

1:10:29.560 --> 1:10:31.639
<v Speaker 2>the day in my life? You doing?

1:10:32.080 --> 1:10:32.320
<v Speaker 1>You know?

1:10:32.680 --> 1:10:35.800
<v Speaker 2>So That's how I encountered the world, all right.

1:10:35.800 --> 1:10:38.040
<v Speaker 1>And so the last one is think outside the box.

1:10:38.080 --> 1:10:40.880
<v Speaker 1>If you want to make the most out of opportunities

1:10:41.160 --> 1:10:45.960
<v Speaker 1>to flex your gratitude muscles, you must look creatively. Creativity.

1:10:46.600 --> 1:10:57.360
<v Speaker 1>Creativity creatively is that what creating? What you're creatively creative? Like?

1:10:57.439 --> 1:11:02.640
<v Speaker 1>Get you tongue coming in? Uh? Creatively for new situations

1:11:02.760 --> 1:11:07.640
<v Speaker 1>and circumstances in which to feel grateful. Please share the

1:11:07.720 --> 1:11:11.360
<v Speaker 1>creative ways you found to help you to help you

1:11:11.400 --> 1:11:15.680
<v Speaker 1>practice gratitude. Think outside the box. If you want to

1:11:15.680 --> 1:11:18.639
<v Speaker 1>make the most out of opportunities stuff like, you must

1:11:18.640 --> 1:11:20.920
<v Speaker 1>look at them. I don't know, So how are you

1:11:20.920 --> 1:11:25.360
<v Speaker 1>gonna think outside the box to? I don't know why

1:11:25.400 --> 1:11:28.439
<v Speaker 1>they even added that number ten, but it's there. This

1:11:28.560 --> 1:11:31.960
<v Speaker 1>is on mindful dot org Healthy mind, Healthy Life.

1:11:33.320 --> 1:11:33.679
<v Speaker 2>Amen.

1:11:33.880 --> 1:11:36.920
<v Speaker 1>Like that I wanted to they got that trademark. Yeah.

1:11:37.040 --> 1:11:39.200
<v Speaker 2>I hope you all apply some of this to your

1:11:39.240 --> 1:11:43.599
<v Speaker 2>Thanksgiving if you're listening today, because it is Thanksgiving. When

1:11:43.640 --> 1:11:46.599
<v Speaker 2>you hear this, and I hope you apply this to

1:11:46.760 --> 1:11:50.160
<v Speaker 2>your everyday life and at least the next thirty days,

1:11:50.920 --> 1:11:53.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, while we practice gratitude for the rest of

1:11:53.320 --> 1:11:55.640
<v Speaker 2>the year. Really, you know, we're gonna practice gratitude and

1:11:55.680 --> 1:11:58.679
<v Speaker 2>we're gonna come on the show every Thursday and share

1:11:58.760 --> 1:12:01.120
<v Speaker 2>something that we're grateful for. And we hope that you

1:12:01.160 --> 1:12:04.320
<v Speaker 2>share your things with us, sliding our dms and tell us.

1:12:04.320 --> 1:12:06.760
<v Speaker 1>Y'all better be grateful for me. I see a lot

1:12:06.760 --> 1:12:09.600
<v Speaker 1>of y'all ain't, but you better be.

1:12:08.760 --> 1:12:13.400
<v Speaker 2>Because I'm gonna say if I if they.

1:12:13.240 --> 1:12:16.120
<v Speaker 1>Ain't, I'm had to save your life. I ain't the enemy.

1:12:16.760 --> 1:12:20.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm had to save you, man.

1:12:20.640 --> 1:12:23.599
<v Speaker 2>And I'm here to love you. You got any last last?

1:12:23.680 --> 1:12:24.679
<v Speaker 1>That's it. That was it.

1:12:25.960 --> 1:12:30.200
<v Speaker 2>That's your last last? All right, and be married, guys,

1:12:31.080 --> 1:12:34.360
<v Speaker 2>enjoy your days, enjoy your week, and we love y'all

1:12:34.360 --> 1:12:37.439
<v Speaker 2>and we'll see y'all next Thursday, for sure, God willing.

1:12:37.520 --> 1:12:39.760
<v Speaker 1>So if you enjoy this episode, y'all tune in every

1:12:39.760 --> 1:12:42.280
<v Speaker 1>Thursday on The Black Effect. iHeartRadio Apple Where but the

1:12:42.280 --> 1:12:46.120
<v Speaker 1>fuck you get your podcast at? This is your mindful Queen.

1:12:46.640 --> 1:12:53.799
<v Speaker 1>A J Holiday two point on Instagrams kicking Tam.

1:12:52.240 --> 1:12:56.720
<v Speaker 2>Y'all is official Tam bam On and Christa Graham on Instagram.

1:12:56.840 --> 1:13:00.559
<v Speaker 2>I love y'all so much. Speak now and never hold

1:13:00.560 --> 1:13:05.920
<v Speaker 2>your gratitude, Amen Deuces.

1:13:05.960 --> 1:13:11.360
<v Speaker 1>For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

1:13:11.479 --> 1:13:13.600
<v Speaker 1>or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.