Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
Speaker 2: who talks.
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
Speaker 1: new episode of We Talked Back, a show dedicated to
Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. Y is your co host a
Speaker 1: j Holiday. What's up? Tam Bam?
Speaker 2: Y'all is Tam Bam? I love y'all, girl. They nothing
Speaker 2: I didn't. How was your weekend? What did you do?
Speaker 1: Nothing? It's cold outside, Like I really am emriminating this weekend.
Speaker 1: I had the bed to myself mm hmm, me and
Speaker 1: a cat, So yeah, I really enjoyed that. You know.
Speaker 1: It's the small things, right, like having space to yourself,
Speaker 1: the small things.
Speaker 2: What did I do? It was a Washington weekend for me?
Speaker 2: What so a Washington weekend?
Speaker 1: Does that mean?
Speaker 2: I went to see Gladiator with Denzel Washington and then
Speaker 2: I also watched the Piano Lesson with John David Washington
Speaker 2: produced by Malcolm Washington. So it was definitely a Washington week.
Speaker 1: In Washington weekend. Interesting. How was Gladiator? I can't wait
Speaker 1: to see it, but I want to see it in
Speaker 1: the house. I want to watch it.
Speaker 2: I would always rather watch a movie in the house.
Speaker 2: It's just the comfort of free drugs and alcohol that
Speaker 2: just makes it better. When I say drugs, I mean
Speaker 2: we y'all. Let me be let me be very clear, right.
Speaker 2: Gladiator was good. I enjoyed the movie. I don't I
Speaker 2: can't say too much without giving it away. I enjoyed
Speaker 2: the storyline how so much. It was connected to the
Speaker 2: storyline from two thousand with Russell Crowe.
Speaker 1: So he's not what.
Speaker 2: I guess he died.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he died in the last one. Yeah, so that's
Speaker 1: why he wasn't there.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean they have ghosts and all kinds of
Speaker 2: ship like there was a way to throw that nigga
Speaker 2: in there that they really wanted to.
Speaker 1: They did not.
Speaker 2: But Denzel was excellent in it. You know, he's just
Speaker 2: such a phenomenal.
Speaker 1: It looks like just from the like the pictures we saw,
Speaker 1: I knew it was going to be lit and I love, love,
Speaker 1: love Gladiator.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're gonna enjoy it. And then also the piano
Speaker 2: lesson that was good. It's a play adapted to a movie.
Speaker 2: Some people don't like plays when they're adapted to movies
Speaker 2: because there isn't a whole lot of movement. You know,
Speaker 2: a play is usually on a set. I mean, you're
Speaker 2: not gonna get a lot of movement, and people get
Speaker 2: it can be a bit mundane if you're not into
Speaker 2: a bunch of monologues, which is what happens in a
Speaker 2: play adapted to the movie. But it was good story.
Speaker 2: It's an August Wilson play. I don't know if you'll
Speaker 2: familiar with August Wilson Fences. His dad did that one
Speaker 2: with Viola Davis. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So that came out
Speaker 2: like a couple of Christmases ago. That was a good one.
Speaker 2: But I think this story, this plot was much better
Speaker 2: than No Shade Defenses. But I think the way this show,
Speaker 2: this movie was presented was through a very youthful lens,
Speaker 2: Malcolm Washington. He's a young dude, so the way he
Speaker 2: presented it was youthful. And it's got like a horror
Speaker 2: element to it. So if you like scary stuff, I mean,
Speaker 2: it's not hugely horrific. It's more a tale of like
Speaker 2: family and our trials and our woes and how trauma
Speaker 2: can be passed down. And this piano represents a lot
Speaker 2: of that. So it's a good story, y'all. It's on Netflix.
Speaker 2: Watch it if you got some time. The piano lesson,
Speaker 2: piano lesson interesting.
Speaker 1: Can I learn something in there?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean yeah, you might learn something something about resiliency,
Speaker 2: something about family and being one and sticking together, you know.
Speaker 2: So definitely watch it with your family, especially if y'all
Speaker 2: not getting along, sit down and hold hands and watch
Speaker 2: that movie.
Speaker 1: I'd be getting along because I don't be talking to
Speaker 1: nobody can get along with my God damn matter of fact, No,
Speaker 1: my sister didn't did call me. One of my sisters
Speaker 1: called me this morning. It seemed like every time we
Speaker 1: talk is like, I don't be knowing as a problem
Speaker 1: until she says something not between me and her, not
Speaker 1: between me and her, but h just with other people
Speaker 1: because I be in my little like, yeah, listen, let
Speaker 1: me tell y'all one thing you will realize, man, Like,
Speaker 1: there's a real there's a lot of power and detachment.
Speaker 1: And I'm not just saying like to leave people or not,
Speaker 1: but you got to meet people where he at and
Speaker 1: understand who they are and you can't have emotions attached
Speaker 1: to that shit. And that's just where I'm at I
Speaker 1: practice detachment along with a lot of other things, but
Speaker 1: I definitely practice detachment a lot.
Speaker 2: Me and my family. I was just I was on
Speaker 2: the phone with one of my friends last night and
Speaker 2: he was talking about his family dynamic, and y'all, it
Speaker 2: was a mess. He got a lot, and it's a
Speaker 2: lot about money, you know, him being a magor breadwinner
Speaker 2: in a family and trying to help people as much
Speaker 2: as he can, but it never being good enough, and
Speaker 2: people like looking at him like do more, do more,
Speaker 2: and it's just only so much.
Speaker 1: They want you back where they're comfortable with you being at.
Speaker 1: You know, they want you back on their level. I
Speaker 1: never understand that, so you know how people would be
Speaker 1: like the money change them? No, I think the money
Speaker 1: changes the people around you a lot of times, you know.
Speaker 2: And it just made me have so much gratitude for
Speaker 2: the space I am in with my family right now,
Speaker 2: because I mean, my childhood was tumultuous, Like you know,
Speaker 2: it was not an easy time. It was hard, but
Speaker 2: now we just kind of like smooth sailing, everybody getting along.
Speaker 2: Were very close knit. So I'm grateful for that. But
Speaker 2: there once was a time, you know, so.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think my family does. We do pretty good,
Speaker 1: and you know, it's just I don't know, y'all. We
Speaker 1: got communication issues in my family. We can't always have
Speaker 1: conversations about stuff. And I won't even say it's just
Speaker 1: meat like between me and my sisters, because I feel
Speaker 1: like I can talk to them about just about anything.
Speaker 1: But I think equally we all would feel like we
Speaker 1: probably can't talk to our mom about shit out of
Speaker 1: being like a big problem argument, you know. So I
Speaker 1: would like for us to work on communication better. I
Speaker 1: remember I saw this video on Instagram and it was saying,
Speaker 1: how you know children are your karma karma right and
Speaker 1: his child or depending on the zodiac, they come to
Speaker 1: teach the parent a lesson. Some people don't see it
Speaker 1: that way, right, because I feel like we choose our parents,
Speaker 1: they don't choose us. So based on my zodiac, I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to teach my mom communication, but it's hard. It's
Speaker 1: hard when the adult I won't say the adult because
Speaker 1: we all adults, right, but I'm the child right when
Speaker 1: the parent doesn't feel like they can learn anything from
Speaker 1: the child.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I mean, what kind of.
Speaker 1: Be learning your whole life? Like I feel like you're
Speaker 1: never too old to learn anything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're always learning. Once you stop learning and you
Speaker 2: start dying, that's how I feel, like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I still learning and growing, yes, because that's
Speaker 1: Earth is a school. So you are here to learn lessons,
Speaker 1: right and if you don't learn them, you keep coming
Speaker 1: back until you do it again. Until you do, you're
Speaker 1: gonna come back with them same transgressions, that same depression,
Speaker 1: the same issues, until you learn the lessons. Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1: That's it, is what it is.
Speaker 2: Let's get it and see.
Speaker 1: What happened. Anyway, y'all, Thanksgiving is coming up.
Speaker 2: Yeamn.
Speaker 1: Yeah. But anyway, so y'all Friday, Kendrick Lamar drop the
Speaker 1: album on you niggas. I was at the gym. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I had got a text message that said Kendrick dropping
Speaker 1: an album at in a couple of minutes at twelve o'clock.
Speaker 1: I immediately then went to Apple and the ship was already there,
Speaker 1: already up.
Speaker 2: Yep, Yes, I'm the album. I mean, he's brilliant. He's brilliant,
Speaker 2: and he's lyrical. It's a good album. It's definitely got
Speaker 2: some songs that make you feel boastful, you know, like
Speaker 2: popular ship, you know, and I love energy like that,
Speaker 2: especially in the gym. So I definitely enjoyed an album.
Speaker 1: You know, I usually don't like like California rap, but
Speaker 1: I like when Kendrick do it. You know that sound
Speaker 1: I'm talking about that.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like the first two songs that went straight
Speaker 2: to Cali vibes. When he said squabble listen, I sent
Speaker 2: one of my old niggas from LA right the Future
Speaker 2: the Future, texting the X. You know that picture where
Speaker 2: he texted me, Yeah, I was listening to Kendrick squabble up.
Speaker 2: I remember when we used the horizontal squabble. I was
Speaker 2: just fucking around there. I don't I'm not really missing
Speaker 2: no space. Yeah no, I don't miss nobody, but it
Speaker 2: was just funny.
Speaker 1: I was. I'm so happy when like good music dropped
Speaker 1: because there's a lot of trash out there, man, so
Speaker 1: when somebody drops some real life luxury music, I'm always
Speaker 1: to it. Yes, so it says the project. They said.
Speaker 1: The project seemingly dropped out of the sky without warning
Speaker 1: around twelve pm Eastern Standard Time on Friday. Filled with
Speaker 1: twelve tracks, g n X boast a pair of assist
Speaker 1: from former TD running mate Damn Sis ain't with td
Speaker 1: No more Interesting Sam Do, as well as emerging artists
Speaker 1: such as Deira Dera, Bia Bireau, Dera, Ink, Dotty six,
Speaker 1: as Check and more A girl Child Listen.
Speaker 2: Y'all got some names on y'all got damn.
Speaker 1: It says, with the super Bowl on the horizon, Kado
Speaker 1: will have new music with him when he leads excuse
Speaker 1: me when he heads the New Orleans, when he has
Speaker 1: the new when he heads to New Orleans to take
Speaker 1: the super Bowl. Whatever numberus is? What the fuck is
Speaker 1: l in numerica? What what? What?
Speaker 2: It don't matter? Halftime again?
Speaker 1: So I can't wait. I cannot wait for the super Bowl.
Speaker 1: And he did have like a low line and one
Speaker 1: of the songs, whacked Murals, which is the first song
Speaker 1: on the album, and people saying he'd taken shots at
Speaker 1: low Wayne and snoop. I don't really feel like he's
Speaker 1: taking shots. He just just said something. He was like,
Speaker 1: he said, I used to bump the Carter three. I
Speaker 1: held my roly chain, proud the irony. I think my
Speaker 1: hard work let low Wayne down. Kadot wraps on album
Speaker 1: opener and Whacked Out Murals, referring to wheezy posts and
Speaker 1: a video about how hurt he was about not being
Speaker 1: chosen to headline in Super Bowl in his hometown. I
Speaker 1: mean it could have been like a situation where Kendrick
Speaker 1: would have brought him out or something like that. Now
Speaker 1: y'all just thought, y'all made this shit so fucking awkward,
Speaker 1: Like it's the people. Kendrick Lamar is a performer. Have
Speaker 1: y'all ever seen him perform at like the Grammys and
Speaker 1: stuff like that, Like that nigga should be lit.
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't think. I don't feel like Kendrick Lamar
Speaker 2: took a shot at Wayne. I don't think Wayne took
Speaker 2: a shot at Kendrew Lamar. I don't think neither one
Speaker 2: of them shot at each other. I think it's the
Speaker 2: people who are saying, oh, this is a shot to
Speaker 2: that person, and this is a shot to that person. No,
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't believe that he said I let
Speaker 2: Lil Wayne down. You know, he didn't say, like fuck
Speaker 2: little Wayne.
Speaker 1: Now he said, I guess I let him down because
Speaker 1: he ain't congratulate me either, because he goes on to
Speaker 1: say won the Super Bowl and Nad's the only one
Speaker 1: who can who congratulate me. All these niggas weren't agitated.
Speaker 1: I'm just glad they show on their faces.
Speaker 2: But why, I don't understand why he looking for congratulations
Speaker 2: from people that he don't talk to. You know, do
Speaker 2: the people who love you congratulate you. That's who you
Speaker 2: should be looking for.
Speaker 1: Me. They're all peers, so they probably do have some
Speaker 1: type of relationship. No, Kendrick Lamar one of the biggest people.
Speaker 2: How often do they call each other?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: I don't. Maybe they do have a maybe they do talk.
Speaker 2: But I just be feeling like you should only expect
Speaker 2: because you'll be let down every time if you're waiting
Speaker 2: on people who you don't talk to to congratulate you
Speaker 2: on some shit.
Speaker 1: About them not even talking, just them being in the
Speaker 1: same arena right as far as their careers. And this
Speaker 1: is a this is a big milestone for Kendrick Lamar.
Speaker 1: I feel like everybody should have been a little bit more,
Speaker 1: had a little bit more. What is the word I'm
Speaker 1: looking for? Congratulatory? Is that a word? Yeah? Like they
Speaker 1: should have congratulated him more. So I feel him on
Speaker 1: that shit because if you don't say nothing like I nigga,
Speaker 1: you hating y'all have all the negative ship him a
Speaker 1: Nigi Minaj just talking shit, Wayne, Nicki Minaj was talking ship,
Speaker 1: you know, Drake, he don't even want to say Kendrick
Speaker 1: martinin no more, okay, but they all they this is
Speaker 1: not the first time.
Speaker 2: Heavy is the head that wears the crown. Heavy is
Speaker 2: the head that wears the crown. Right now, You're on top,
Speaker 2: you know. But that's why I just say, don't did
Speaker 2: when when good things were happen have been happening, especially
Speaker 2: for us with this podcast, where people that you were
Speaker 2: expecting to hear from something something from that you just
Speaker 2: did not know.
Speaker 1: I don't care everybody. You I don't be caring them.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. You shouldn't care. You shouldn't care.
Speaker 2: The people who love you will be there and the
Speaker 2: people who who don't just won't. And that's okay. Like
Speaker 2: I don't like it's given very sensitive, like you know,
Speaker 2: which is okay. You know, it's okay to be sensitive
Speaker 2: and want people to support you, but you just don't
Speaker 2: want to do it from Yeah, you just ain't gonna
Speaker 2: get it from it everybody. And it seems that little
Speaker 2: way Lil Wayne has his feelings about not being included
Speaker 2: and how you it's hard to expect support from somebody
Speaker 2: who want what you got.
Speaker 1: I seen the video. I guess it's a recent concert
Speaker 1: that Lil Wayne did and it was fucking gibberish. We're
Speaker 1: gonna do that at the super Bowl? Like he needs
Speaker 1: to clean himself up first. I do think that Little
Speaker 1: Wayne could definitely carry a super Bowl like he got
Speaker 1: all of but he has to be able to perform
Speaker 1: him and I just don't think he is the same
Speaker 1: little Wayne that we remember.
Speaker 2: And I definitely don't want to hear all of his
Speaker 2: in a rock and roll version. That shit pisso that.
Speaker 1: Might even be lit if it's like, you know, organized
Speaker 1: properly for a super Bowl, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: He could have the guitars and all that shit going on,
Speaker 1: the fire flames coming up, all that shit, but it
Speaker 1: got to be done nicely, you know what I'm saying. Child. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I'm happy for the new album, and I heard he
Speaker 1: might be dropping some other shit, but we'll see, we'll see,
Speaker 1: we'll see. We assume this is an album, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And as for like, I just like want to
Speaker 2: little say a little something about Drake because they're saying
Speaker 2: Drake took a shot at Kendrake by saying facts can
Speaker 2: kill me, not fairy tales. What y'all want that man
Speaker 2: to do? What y'all want him to, like, just crumble
Speaker 2: and die. Y'all was so hard on Drake, especially some
Speaker 2: of y'all who used to be fans. I know, some
Speaker 2: of y'all who'll be talking bad about him, got pictures
Speaker 2: with him, you know, and now now you hate his guts?
Speaker 2: Come on, now, is it really that deep? I think
Speaker 2: people like be too invested in a rap battle. It's
Speaker 2: rap Relax.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't talk about when it's relevant, Like I
Speaker 1: really am not, Like I don't know. I never was
Speaker 1: a super Drake fan. Like if y'all been following this
Speaker 1: podcast first, I was saying, how Drake is the motherfucking
Speaker 1: white man that infiltraded hip hop and I'm a stand
Speaker 1: by that. Okay, y'all be talking about Eminem and whoever
Speaker 1: else that dude, that dude, man, I see I see Drake,
Speaker 1: I see him.
Speaker 2: I was a fan then, I'm still a fan now.
Speaker 2: He gave us hits after hits, summer after summer. I
Speaker 2: know a lot of us, even people who didn't like
Speaker 2: him dance tom right with me. You was at a
Speaker 2: Drake concert with me, as a matter of.
Speaker 1: Sure it was. And I saw you not know half
Speaker 1: his songs?
Speaker 2: Fan, No I did. I did know his songs.
Speaker 1: No bit, you was like, am I right? I was like,
Speaker 1: am I really a fan? Because I don't know none
Speaker 1: of these fucking lyrics.
Speaker 2: It was like three songs I didn't know, but I
Speaker 2: knew a lot.
Speaker 1: Was like repeating that shit word for word. It's real fans.
Speaker 2: Whatever, bit, I am a real fan. I don't know
Speaker 2: anybody rap songs word for word. I'm a grown ass woman.
Speaker 2: So but that don't make me not a fan. I
Speaker 2: am and I and I'm not a bandwagoner. I'm loyal
Speaker 2: to people even when they down. I don't flip. So
Speaker 2: there's that. But I do love Kendrick Lamar as well.
Speaker 2: And two things can be true at the same time.
Speaker 2: I don't have to pick a side, and I didn't,
Speaker 2: I never did, and I ain't. I want both of
Speaker 2: them to be successful. So next sying what you want
Speaker 2: to say, bitch saying you was.
Speaker 1: Wasn't that sin? That's all I'm saying is put your
Speaker 1: mouth from the damn mic a little bit. You sound
Speaker 1: like you're eating it the hell.
Speaker 2: Hally Berry talks about wanting to be recognized for things
Speaker 2: other than her beauty. So a video came out this
Speaker 2: weekend Oscar When They're Holly Berry has opened up about
Speaker 2: aging in Hollywood. The Never Let Go actress talked candidly
Speaker 2: about what it feels like to age as a woman,
Speaker 2: especially under intense media scrutiny, and she says, and I quote,
Speaker 2: I have longed for someone to say something to me
Speaker 2: other than oh gosh, you're so pretty. I long to
Speaker 2: hear other words, she told News Not Noise founder Jessica
Speaker 2: Yelling during the interview. The interview took place at the
Speaker 2: Fortune Most Powerful Women, Some Men in October, but has
Speaker 2: since been released online. Holly says it's a shame that
Speaker 2: women are told that they have to stay forever thirty.
Speaker 2: I know I'm more than this, So I've aged. I've
Speaker 2: been determined to age gracefully. And naturally we're born to
Speaker 2: age and die, but somehow, as a woman we have
Speaker 2: to be do the unthinkable. We have to figure out
Speaker 2: a way to do it, and unfortunately we're turning ourselves
Speaker 2: into monsters trying to do that.
Speaker 1: I cannot agree more. And I don't know if she
Speaker 1: men monstertily figuratively or physically, but both of them shit
Speaker 1: is valid. Okay, I agree, And I think women are
Speaker 1: actually even harder on women about about how they look.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I see people comments online.
Speaker 1: A lot of times it's women saying crazy things like girl,
Speaker 1: you know you ain't gonna be young forever, right, And
Speaker 1: a lot of these you're thirty forty fifth year olds
Speaker 1: looking to fuck good. I mean I don't even put
Speaker 1: thirties in that because I mean that's yeah, it's very young.
Speaker 1: So forty fifty sixty year old bitches on Instagram look
Speaker 1: very good.
Speaker 2: And right and healthy. Yeah, so it is a lot.
Speaker 2: But I think the world there is like such a
Speaker 2: pressure from the world on women on the aesthetic, Yeah,
Speaker 2: on our aesthetic, Like we're just pressured to be beautiful
Speaker 2: and young forever, and it's just so hard to Like
Speaker 2: you are fighting a battle that you will never win.
Speaker 2: That's why you know you can't win. You can't be
Speaker 2: father time. There is no way to do it.
Speaker 1: You can you can delay it a little bit, you know,
Speaker 1: with diet. And last week we talked about skincare, you know,
Speaker 1: taking care of you, taking care of yourself from the
Speaker 1: inside out. You can definitely definitely delay it a little bit.
Speaker 1: But we all have an expiration expiration day. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you don't have to look like you're expiring. Okay, that's
Speaker 1: what you said. Answer, she's trying to do it naturally.
Speaker 1: I'm with that. And you're saying people do so much
Speaker 1: to their faces nowadays, like they don't even look like
Speaker 1: themselves anymore. Like that's not you, right, And guess what,
Speaker 1: your kids gonna still have your DNA, so you can't.
Speaker 2: They're gonna come out with your old face.
Speaker 1: You can't do what the healthcare credit care credit. You
Speaker 1: can't do credit care credit on your DNA.
Speaker 2: Right, And then, I mean, it's a lot of stuff
Speaker 2: out there that's just fucking what our mental even the filters,
Speaker 2: you know, the filters. You I remember like being very
Speaker 2: extremely happy with my face. I mean, I still like
Speaker 2: my face. I still think I'm a beautiful woman, but
Speaker 2: I will filter, you know. I'm like, oh, that filter
Speaker 2: got me looking extra cute, and I was extra cute
Speaker 2: before the few filter, you know. So I think it's
Speaker 2: a lot of things that subconsciously affect these things, and
Speaker 2: it's having it to women younger and younger. You got
Speaker 2: girls in their twenties getting fillers, getting botox and all
Speaker 2: this stuff. Girl, you're you barely you still got good
Speaker 2: collagen in your face. Why are you even doing that?
Speaker 2: It's too soon, and I'm concerned with how it will
Speaker 2: affect them when they are old.
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, I I really, you know, I am
Speaker 1: considering going back to Android because I do think that
Speaker 1: Apple be fucking with our perception. Bitch, I look way
Speaker 1: better on an Android phone, Like I really, I really
Speaker 1: feel like Apple be intentionally making you look fucked up
Speaker 1: so you could use the filter, so you could feel
Speaker 1: some type of fucking way. I really feel like they
Speaker 1: be fucking our perception because when I look on the
Speaker 1: Android phone and I look in the mirror, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: this match, bitch, Apple, how your ass looking a fucking mess?
Speaker 1: Like why is this happening? Like who is that? Like
Speaker 1: that is not my hand?
Speaker 2: Wouldn't my hair? Get that point?
Speaker 1: I feel like they're doing something with the camera. I
Speaker 1: swear to god, you don't feel like that when the
Speaker 1: last time you had an Android.
Speaker 2: I've never had a I don't know I don't have
Speaker 2: an Android, So.
Speaker 1: None of your friends got an Android? Like, damn that
Speaker 1: camera good as hell, like in a group chat, a
Speaker 1: group picture.
Speaker 2: No, I don't be fucking with bitches with androids.
Speaker 1: Girl bye. First of all, I'm joking.
Speaker 2: I'm joking. I'm joking, joking.
Speaker 1: Apple put the same phone out and be charging people
Speaker 1: with the same all this fucking money. Android technology is
Speaker 1: actually better and Android phones actually cost more than Apple phones.
Speaker 1: I don't know if people realize that or not, but
Speaker 1: they cost well way more than an Apple phone.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's just marketing, that's all it is.
Speaker 1: And then like you're tied to this fucking thing, all
Speaker 1: your apps, everything like face Time and all that shit tied.
Speaker 1: I really only had gotten Apple because like the FaceTime
Speaker 1: shit like, and then trying to do business. Most people
Speaker 1: have the Apple phone. Apple. Yeah, but I do want
Speaker 1: to disconnect. I've been I've been wanting to get me.
Speaker 2: Did you see there's a video going around right now
Speaker 2: of this girl and her mom are in the h
Speaker 2: some cellular phone store and she's disconnecting her daughter's service.
Speaker 2: And this girl had a meltdown and people were like, oh,
Speaker 2: my mom would have slapped the shit out of me,
Speaker 2: and my mama would have knocked my teeth out and
Speaker 2: that was all Like the black comments were just basically
Speaker 2: what their mama would have done. But that was the
Speaker 2: same behavior we had when we were told we could
Speaker 2: not go outside. You know, it's just different. These kids
Speaker 2: are so connected to their technology now.
Speaker 1: All are, so it does feel like you're being untethered,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That could be devastating.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I felt bad.
Speaker 1: That goes out right now.
Speaker 2: If somebody put my phone from me right.
Speaker 1: Now, if the internet right now, people gonna be wilding out.
Speaker 1: There's gonna be a lot of people like really having
Speaker 1: meltdown withdrawn Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, withdraw like a drug withdrawal. I don't know if
Speaker 2: it would be that bad for me. I think COVID
Speaker 2: taught me something about disconnection that was so healthy and
Speaker 2: beautiful for me, And now it did not start off
Speaker 2: that way. I was scared. I made the only Fans
Speaker 2: page like, I don't know how I'm about to survive.
Speaker 2: I might have theo a real nigga on the Internet,
Speaker 2: and I was praying that did not happen. You know,
Speaker 2: everybody got it did not, But I felt so much.
Speaker 2: I felt free, you know, I felt free for a
Speaker 2: little while. I was out riding bikes and doing all
Speaker 2: these things. So this connection was not a bad thing
Speaker 2: for me. So if the Internet completely disappeared, I don't
Speaker 2: think I would be I mean, well, it would be easy,
Speaker 2: it wouldn't be devastating.
Speaker 1: So y'all know how the Simpsons has been predicting shit
Speaker 1: since forever, right, So there's a Simpson episode where Lisa
Speaker 1: was trying to warn everybody about the sharks eating the
Speaker 1: fiber cables and the ocean, and it caused the Internet
Speaker 1: to go out why and the Baltic c two cables
Speaker 1: just got clipped. They're trying to say that Russia is
Speaker 1: trying to sabotage Europe, but it literally just happened, So
Speaker 1: I all know, man, it might happen the symptoms. The
Speaker 1: Simpsons be right about a lot of shit. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's if it's like no, because these do
Speaker 1: be past episodes, so I can't even say that is it.
Speaker 1: Is it art imitating life or vice versa, Like it
Speaker 1: looks like the predictions or they're acting it out. They're
Speaker 1: acting out what the Simpsons be doing. Maybe that's the
Speaker 1: script for the world stage. I don't know anyway, y'all.
Speaker 1: So Peter is accusing Butterball of producing sexually violated turkeys.
Speaker 1: So somebody from Peter went undercover at a Butterball plant
Speaker 1: and it said it says. In the video on Instagram,
Speaker 1: the investigator, who remains anonymous, describes his under His little
Speaker 1: Blood describes his undercover experience at the facility. He claims
Speaker 1: to have seen workers sexually a salting turkeys before they
Speaker 1: were slaughtered. So your turkey might have a little extra
Speaker 1: frozen sauce this year, you know, a little bags I got,
Speaker 1: like the kidneys and stuff all at this there might
Speaker 1: be some extra shit in it, says. The investigator. Details
Speaker 1: instance where work is allegedly humped, shackled turkeys and inserted
Speaker 1: fingers into the birds. Clickosa, Yeah, it's basically like the
Speaker 1: birds vagina right. While the production line was halted, footage
Speaker 1: from the plant shows one work or roughly handling a
Speaker 1: turkey while another appears to be kicking a bird, saying
Speaker 1: I kicked the fuck out that motherfucker. In another shot
Speaker 1: is a worker seemingly sitting on a turkey.
Speaker 2: That terrible this is.
Speaker 1: It just shows you how weird humans are, Like, why
Speaker 1: do y'all want to abuse something so bad? Even like
Speaker 1: the videos with people like what they're gonna do with
Speaker 1: they robot when they get it? Why do y'all want
Speaker 1: something to abuse so bad?
Speaker 2: Right? Like what people her? People hurt people, that's what
Speaker 2: it is. And you just got to pray. If you're
Speaker 2: not growing your own food, you just don't know what
Speaker 2: happens to it before it gets to your table. You
Speaker 2: just gotta pray over it, you know. But yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: people are sick. People are mentally ill. Anybody who's sticking
Speaker 2: their finger in the turkey's pussy for enjoyment is sick.
Speaker 2: You know, that's a sick individual. All these people are
Speaker 2: really sick.
Speaker 1: And they said if one person was humping and I'm wondering,
Speaker 1: like did he penetrate the turkey?
Speaker 2: That's just disgusting.
Speaker 1: And y'all know, it's still like illegal in some states
Speaker 1: for people, if you're not a married man, to own
Speaker 1: sheep because apparently sheep vagina is like real close to
Speaker 1: human vagina to a women's vagina, So people be out
Speaker 1: here having sex with sheep.
Speaker 2: That's so sad. And it's not people, it's men. It's men.
Speaker 2: Women ain't fucking sheep.
Speaker 1: They fuck horses.
Speaker 2: Though, anybody who let a horse put in them needed
Speaker 2: to take it out in the bag and put down.
Speaker 2: Because have you ever seen a horse?
Speaker 1: Yes? I have, yes, and I've seen the people who've
Speaker 1: taken them, and yeah, beige in color. Yeah, don't nobody.
Speaker 2: I don't see why you ever want first of all,
Speaker 2: an animal to hump you, and then of all animals
Speaker 2: a horse. So I don't know. People are just weird.
Speaker 1: It's nuts. And then one more thing, y'all before we
Speaker 1: get off of sin. So Thanksgiving this is a lie.
Speaker 1: First of all, This next part is just really some
Speaker 1: stupid Internet news. It says Thanksgiving dinner allegedly historically affordable
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. Believe it or not. It says
Speaker 1: we're gonna choose not to believe it, but it says
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving dinner will be more affordable in twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1: American Farm Bureau of Federation AFBF said the average cost
Speaker 1: of Thanksgiving dinner this year will be about fifty eight
Speaker 1: dollars and eight cents for a ten person meal, or
Speaker 1: about five dollars and eighty one cents a person. The
Speaker 1: AFBF noted if your dollar had the same overall purchasing
Speaker 1: power as a consumer in nineteen eighty four, this would
Speaker 1: be the least expensive Thanksgiving meal in the thirty nine
Speaker 1: year history of the AFBF Thanksgiving Survey, other than the
Speaker 1: outlier of twenty twenty. Yeah, the forgotten year twenty twenty,
Speaker 1: it says. While many people are still feeling financial stress,
Speaker 1: the AFBF says this shows that wage inflation is an
Speaker 1: issue that needs to be addressed. So I saw, I mean,
Speaker 1: I was at Costco yesterday.
Speaker 2: And of course you.
Speaker 1: Twice this week, well one for your ass bitch, and
Speaker 1: went there looking for some liquor for this bitch.
Speaker 2: I said.
Speaker 1: My daddy's birthday today, is said, I definitely would have
Speaker 1: been a birthday gift for him.
Speaker 2: Happy birthday?
Speaker 1: Been wrong Rome my daddy's seventy four seven? Assing, yeah, man, many.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Costco pack.
Speaker 1: I'm like, these people got money. And then you look
Speaker 1: on Instagram and you see how people waste food for
Speaker 1: content obviously isn't high enough. It's obviously not high enough
Speaker 1: for people.
Speaker 2: It is it is high enough for me. I was
Speaker 2: in there on my I definitely go to the store
Speaker 2: and I use the scooter and I'll be scooting all
Speaker 2: over their place with a little wheelchair and it is high.
Speaker 2: I left with three bags of stuff that we needed.
Speaker 2: We purchased a lot of our Thanksgiving goods earlier in
Speaker 2: the month, but you know, some ship you just got
Speaker 2: to wait till the week of or it's gonna go bad,
Speaker 2: like the perishables. And I spent eight dollars and I
Speaker 2: only had three bags of things, you know, So it's
Speaker 2: just like, where, how is it fifty eight dollars? I
Speaker 2: spent over two hundred earlier in the month and now
Speaker 2: another eighty. And I'm not making differ by myself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what they're calculating, Like who, what
Speaker 1: groceries can you buy for fifty You can't even get
Speaker 1: a turkey for that much. The small turkeys they like
Speaker 1: ten dollars a pound or some shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: No, Like I did look at turkeys, butter ball turkeys,
Speaker 1: just to see like how much this stuff called I
Speaker 1: don't eat it.
Speaker 2: You know, that's bullshit. And I don't know. Nobody's believing that.
Speaker 1: The turkey cost fifty eight dollars by itself, even if
Speaker 1: you buy turkey wings. My nigga, you're paying ten dollars
Speaker 1: or three of them.
Speaker 2: You don't have to get a boards a turkey sandwich
Speaker 2: in a pack of bread and call it Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: And split it between ten people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they they're playing in Americans' faces. Man, they really
Speaker 1: be playing. I feel like we don't know no better,
Speaker 1: Like we don't actually live and feel the economy for
Speaker 1: this economy right now. Yeah. But anyway, speaking on the
Speaker 1: economy and all the things, y'all, I don't think we've
Speaker 1: practiced gratitude much. We haven't talked about it anyway. So
Speaker 1: you know, Thanksgiving is a great time, right to remind
Speaker 1: people to be grateful and how do you do that?
Speaker 2: Though, we're going to get into it after this commercial break,
Speaker 2: we'll be back.
Speaker 1: And we're back. So we wanted to talk about gratitude
Speaker 1: and you know some of the things you can do
Speaker 1: to stay grateful through the holidays, And we actually want
Speaker 1: to challenge y'all to a thirty days of gratitude. What
Speaker 1: we talk back period, so every episode to the end
Speaker 1: of the year will mention like something we're grateful for
Speaker 1: and then y'all can also I need to make a
Speaker 1: post so y'all can leave us some messages and let
Speaker 1: us know what y'all grateful for. We could play it
Speaker 1: on the show, Child Girl with the Yes with the People.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we definitely want to hear what you guys are
Speaker 2: grateful for because that will encourage gratitude and others. I think,
Speaker 2: you know, to be reminded of all the good things
Speaker 2: that you have despite and sometimes knowing the bad shit
Speaker 2: will make you grateful for all the good shit going
Speaker 2: through it too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you know they tell you don't want to
Speaker 1: just forget about stuff, because you forget how far you come, right,
Speaker 1: you don't remember where the fuck you're at. Like, I'm
Speaker 1: definitely this year could have been better, but it could
Speaker 1: have definitely been worse. I am looking forward to twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five, Child, the year number nine. Okay, twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: Me too. I'm definitely this year. I'm gonna get a
Speaker 2: little vulnerable right now with y'all. This year has been
Speaker 2: a hard one for me, you know, like just trying
Speaker 2: to be fearless, trying to do the things that I've
Speaker 2: been scared to do my entire life, you know, just
Speaker 2: stepping out on faith. And earlier I was like I'm
Speaker 2: gonna pack all my shit. I'm gonna move to LA
Speaker 2: despite all the naysayers, despite what anybody thinks for me,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it. But I realized that I was just,
Speaker 2: you know, kind of running from something. You know, I
Speaker 2: wasn't and I took the something with me, you know,
Speaker 2: I took whatever that was I was running from, got
Speaker 2: on the plane, sat in the seat right next to me.
Speaker 1: You bought a ticket.
Speaker 2: I bought that motherfucker a ticket when I took all
Speaker 2: of that with me, And you know, when I was
Speaker 2: sitting there with this broken foot and like, just you know,
Speaker 2: I can't do nothing. I had to sit with that thing,
Speaker 2: you know. I had to sit with that thing. I
Speaker 2: had to lay in bed with that thing. I had
Speaker 2: to feel that thing. And I had to realize that
Speaker 2: I can't run from my own healing, right. I can't
Speaker 2: run from my shame. I can't run from my guilt.
Speaker 2: I have to sit in those things, and I actually
Speaker 2: have to work on me. I have to work on
Speaker 2: how I communicate with people. I have to work on
Speaker 2: my tone. I have to work on understanding that my
Speaker 2: words hurt. You know, I can't hurt people with my
Speaker 2: words and just because I can't feel the hurt doesn't
Speaker 2: mean it don't hurt that other person, you know. So
Speaker 2: those are the things I have to I have to.
Speaker 2: I had to forgive myself for things that I had,
Speaker 2: you know, and I had to, you know, really decide
Speaker 2: to take care of myself and not ignore things concerning
Speaker 2: my health.
Speaker 1: I have to like.
Speaker 2: Not say oh, I just don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 2: I just don't want to focus on that, thinking like saying, oh,
Speaker 2: if I don't focus on it, it ain't real. It's
Speaker 2: very real. And I need to like be very present
Speaker 2: with my health, you know. So God will sit you down, baby,
Speaker 2: let in a real way and make you deal with
Speaker 2: the ship that. And I'm so and I'm so grateful.
Speaker 2: Like in August September, y'all, I just was like, I
Speaker 2: was so I'm about to cry. I was so sad
Speaker 2: and just trying to laugh through the pain, y'all. I
Speaker 2: get on here and I'll be telling jokes and all
Speaker 2: that shit, but for real, I was hurt. I was
Speaker 2: so hurt, and I just can't believe, like God, why me,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to do all the things that I'm trying
Speaker 2: to walk in your life and trying to be the
Speaker 2: best version of myself. But I had to realize that
Speaker 2: he didn't want to be a better version of myself.
Speaker 2: He wanted to renew me and that and I had
Speaker 2: to let go of what was and that that was hard.
Speaker 2: Letting go of people, letting go of place, is letting
Speaker 2: go of things and attitudes. I had to, really and
Speaker 2: I'm not done yet. I'm still working out at me.
Speaker 2: I'm still yeah, I'm still letting.
Speaker 1: Stallion her album, like with the Snakes shedding, like people
Speaker 1: saw it as a negative thing. People see snakes as
Speaker 1: a negative thing, but it's actually a good omen because
Speaker 1: it's changed. You know what I'm saying, You shedding that
Speaker 1: old skin and to get to the new place you
Speaker 1: got to get rid of to owe you, you gotta
Speaker 1: do things that's never done, you know. So I do
Speaker 1: a lot of reflection too, man. And it's.
Speaker 2: And I had to humble myself in a significant way.
Speaker 2: I had to move back home with my mama. Then
Speaker 2: I had to go back home with my mama.
Speaker 1: Been there, girl.
Speaker 2: And the crazy part is it's not that I can't
Speaker 2: afford to go get another spot. I can go get
Speaker 2: a place right now, But I can't, I couldn't walk.
Speaker 2: I needed my support system. I needed I had to
Speaker 2: say I need y'all, right now, I need your help.
Speaker 2: And my attitude was like prior, I don't need nobody.
Speaker 2: I got money, I can do whatever I need for myself.
Speaker 2: I don't need nobody. God was like, oh, that's what
Speaker 2: you think. I'm gonna make you need people with your money.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make you need them. And I was like, Lord,
Speaker 2: because me and my mama will bump heads. But it's
Speaker 2: been so smooth, it's been so peaceful. It's been so joyous,
Speaker 2: like we just being there, laughing and enjoying each other.
Speaker 2: And I'm just so grateful for that space to know
Speaker 2: that it's possible, you know, like who would have thought
Speaker 2: that me and you could exist in this space like that?
Speaker 2: And nobody did. So I'm so grateful for that, you know,
Speaker 2: I'm grateful for that. I'm sorry, I'm rambling, I'm let
Speaker 2: you go, but I just wanted to share that with y'all,
Speaker 2: Like whatever storm that you're experiencing, we all gonna have
Speaker 2: them highs and lows. And I never saw this coming.
Speaker 2: I went to a wedding, you know, I went to
Speaker 2: a wedding, think I'm just gonna drink and be merry.
Speaker 2: And that situation, just in the blink of them not
Speaker 2: changed my life significantly. And it just wasn't physically, it
Speaker 2: was emotionally and it was something I had to go
Speaker 2: through and I'm not through it. I'm still sitting in
Speaker 2: here in the boot. I go to the doctor of
Speaker 2: December fourth, and I need y'all to pray for my
Speaker 2: foot that when I go in that they don't tell
Speaker 2: me I need a pin in it. But if I do,
Speaker 2: it is what it is. I'm gonna have to, you know,
Speaker 2: weather that storm. But I know I can do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, man, all the things you could do, all the things, man, Yeah,
Speaker 1: life will have a way of setting your ass to
Speaker 1: fuck down. I have been sat down, and I feel
Speaker 1: like my whole thing began like the age of thirty three,
Speaker 1: which is a significant number. Right, So from thirty three
Speaker 1: up until now, I have been fighting for me. I've
Speaker 1: been fighting for my sanity, for my mental health, and bitch,
Speaker 1: I'm about to cry, but I'm grateful. I'm still grateful
Speaker 1: for the struggle, right because remembering the struggle, remembering where
Speaker 1: I was, I do see the progress right, And I
Speaker 1: have a lot of gratitude for where I was, and
Speaker 1: I have a lot more gratitude for where I'm headed at.
Speaker 1: I do a lot of shadow work, which I'd be
Speaker 1: sitting in the bathroom with a candlelight looking at myself
Speaker 1: because that's where it starts at. Is never anything outside
Speaker 1: of you, even the people that you meet that you
Speaker 1: think you have problems with. I had a little relationship
Speaker 1: go recently and I had to realize that that person
Speaker 1: is an aspect of me, right, or was an aspect
Speaker 1: of me that I let go. So now that relationship
Speaker 1: no longer can exist, and it's okay. And I still
Speaker 1: remember that that person. I still remember who I was
Speaker 1: when in the friendship with that person, but I'm not
Speaker 1: there anymore, and that and these people will keep trying
Speaker 1: to tug you back there, right.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, girl, you preach it to the choir with that one.
Speaker 2: I had a similar situation, and I was saying to
Speaker 2: myself last night, like I argue with this woman because
Speaker 2: we have that same we can she.
Speaker 1: Knows these people know where to come at for that
Speaker 1: thing that they need, that fix, the fixing them that
Speaker 1: wants the confrontation, Like I know bitch. I'll argue your
Speaker 1: ass down all day. So you want that smoke, come
Speaker 1: come over here. But I don't be wanting to smoke.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the thing. I don't want to don't want
Speaker 2: to do it. I argued this bitch down the other
Speaker 2: day and then after it was done, I did not
Speaker 2: feel good. My vibration was low. I was like, this
Speaker 2: is not who I am anymore. This is everything that
Speaker 2: I'm fighting not to be. I can't be what I
Speaker 2: want to be in a friendship with you right now,
Speaker 2: so I have to exit, you know, I have to
Speaker 2: exit so I can be this thing I'm trying to be.
Speaker 2: And when you have some people in your life for
Speaker 2: so long, you feel like they're supposed to be there
Speaker 2: because they've been there so long, But that's not true.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you got to let go and love people from
Speaker 2: a distance and understand that that chapter was a chapter
Speaker 2: and it's closed and that's okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know I used to. Really it's some relationships
Speaker 1: that I feel like I like grieved from, you know,
Speaker 1: grieved over for years. Right. These are friendships with women,
Speaker 1: because I'll always be saying like I don't lose friends,
Speaker 1: like I literally be taking other people friends, not taking them,
Speaker 1: but I'll make friends with other people. Friends and all
Speaker 1: the people that I love, I like them to all
Speaker 1: be together. But I do have some relationships that ended right,
Speaker 1: and I grieve the loss of this person, but I
Speaker 1: can't I can't perceive their experience in the relationship with me.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't know. Maybe I was a horrible
Speaker 1: person to.
Speaker 2: Them, right. You might be a villain in the story.
Speaker 1: And I'm okay with that too, because what I do
Speaker 1: know that I do in relationships is my best every time,
Speaker 1: no matter what the relationship with my family, the relationships
Speaker 1: with my friends, co workers, if I'm workers somewhere like
Speaker 1: I an't working nowhere. But you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: my my romantic relationships, I do my best, so I
Speaker 1: could feel okay with however it is and if it
Speaker 1: even has to be right, And that's all you could
Speaker 1: do is your best, right, that's all you get.
Speaker 2: Sometimes does fall short, and that's okay. We're human and
Speaker 2: we're having a human experience and you can just try
Speaker 2: to be better the next time, you know, the next
Speaker 2: go around. Change behavior is always the best. I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: you know, So you can't have no rest this man, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean that's what I'm saying. I been thinking about, like, damn,
Speaker 2: if I had made this choice, then I would be
Speaker 2: doing this now or you just you can't live there.
Speaker 1: You can change the past by doing better in the future, though,
Speaker 1: that's why you change your past, like you can't you
Speaker 1: can change the past. You got to do it in
Speaker 1: the present. In the future, though, and you look at
Speaker 1: it differently. You'll look at the past differently, So you
Speaker 1: just got to focus on the present. So we focused
Speaker 1: on I just look at it like.
Speaker 2: Even even those mistakes, even those are just in all failures,
Speaker 2: all of those are just steps to where you're supposed
Speaker 2: to be. You know, these things were meant to happen
Speaker 2: for a reason so you could get to your greatness,
Speaker 2: whatever that is.
Speaker 1: And I feel like you can't get to your greatness
Speaker 1: without being everything stripped away to owe you. You can't.
Speaker 1: You like, you have to lose everything, hm to even
Speaker 1: get your mind in the space that needs to be
Speaker 1: so you can get to where you want to be.
Speaker 1: You do have to lose everything.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Bitch, that's what I was about to be, like so big,
Speaker 3: so huge, because I was stripped the material things friendships,
Speaker 3: relations romantic relationships, finances, everything, everything, even walking.
Speaker 2: God stripped me down to the bare minimal baby, But
Speaker 2: you made it through.
Speaker 1: You making it through that you die.
Speaker 2: I did not. I did not die. And the woman
Speaker 2: who's coming up out of the ashes is so much better.
Speaker 2: It is so more, much more grateful, and not for things,
Speaker 2: for relationships, for people, for the network that I have.
Speaker 2: I have a renewed gratitude for the things that really matter.
Speaker 1: You know, relationships is worth more than gold. It's just
Speaker 1: about man. That's my religion, music and relationships. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: what I subscribe to.
Speaker 2: But what are the four a's of gratitude.
Speaker 1: So let's see what it says here. Appreciation You just
Speaker 1: said we were appreciative for a lot of things. So
Speaker 1: it says recognize and value the positive aspects of your life,
Speaker 1: including people, experiences, and blessings. The second A is acknowledgment.
Speaker 1: Consciously recognize the good things in your life and feel
Speaker 1: thankful for them. I think a lot of times when
Speaker 1: people be threatened about like one little small thing that
Speaker 1: don't really matter, they're not you're not practicing gratitude. Like
Speaker 1: if you just see the negative about everything.
Speaker 2: Right and you can't find no space of nothing to
Speaker 2: be happy about. But baby, I get you know, when
Speaker 2: you're in the thick of it, it'd be hard to
Speaker 2: find that gratitude sometimes when people be.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, somebody else got it worse, but this is
Speaker 1: the bottom for me. I can't comparing my bottom to
Speaker 1: other people. This is my bottom. So yeah, somebody else
Speaker 1: might have it worse, and yes, I can probably think
Speaker 1: about that to make me feel better about my situation,
Speaker 1: but this is still I'm still in it.
Speaker 2: I'm still in it right now, and it's hard to
Speaker 2: see the light at the end of the tunnel. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I get it, But you gotta dig for that gratitude, baby,
Speaker 2: You gotta dig somewhere deep to find it, because if
Speaker 2: you sit in that space for too long, you can
Speaker 2: turn it to a bitter ass motherfucker. Do you know
Speaker 2: people that's just like walking around? Yes, very close to.
Speaker 1: Me, absolutely got everything, got everything mad, just mad, just upset,
Speaker 1: just angry because you're not practicing gratitude. You mean to
Speaker 1: tell me there's nothing in your life that you're grateful for.
Speaker 1: If we just got a name, one thing for thirty days,
Speaker 1: I got a million things for each day too, Like
Speaker 1: I wake up feeling great. My feet you're hurting a
Speaker 1: little bit because I don't get a couple of pounds.
Speaker 1: But other than talking about now, I think I got
Speaker 1: what is that called flashy itis. Flash I got that,
Speaker 1: and you know, I had it some years ago and
Speaker 1: and just randomly went away. But it's that, my fucking friend, bitch,
Speaker 1: I might be feeling your pain. I might be feeling
Speaker 1: your pain a little bit. The third A is admiration
Speaker 1: compliment people on their traits, skills, or accomplishments. That's one
Speaker 1: way like giving somebody else a Yeah, like, you know,
Speaker 1: tell somebody else how what you think of them and
Speaker 1: how wonderful they are, how amazing they are today. Can
Speaker 1: we do that?
Speaker 2: Yeah? And do it when not looking for a compliment
Speaker 2: in return, right, do it just because you know, I
Speaker 2: never know what.
Speaker 1: To say when somebody says something nice to me. I
Speaker 1: just always like.
Speaker 2: You are the worst at taking a compliment.
Speaker 1: And that's one of the things I'd be working on.
Speaker 1: I'd be working on it, just trying to and I
Speaker 1: don't that doesn't come from a place of not feeling
Speaker 1: deserving though.
Speaker 2: It just feels to me you be just trying to
Speaker 2: be so humble. Stop. You don't have to be humble,
Speaker 2: so humble all the time. But I really I'm.
Speaker 1: Really not that humble though, Like I'm humble. I have
Speaker 1: a nice I feel like I have a nice level
Speaker 1: of all the things. Like it's just like, yeah, if.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, that's a pretty dress, this whole thing,
Speaker 2: I had it forever, Like you don't have to do that,
Speaker 2: just say thank you. You don't have to minimize whatever
Speaker 2: it is that's being complimented.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I still got to work on it
Speaker 1: because I still do that, and I feel like that's
Speaker 1: something that hasn't passed down to me. That's not my thing,
Speaker 1: that's not my own thing. A lot of things aren't
Speaker 1: our things, but we picked them up somewhere. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: recognize them and fix them. And the last a is attention.
Speaker 1: Listen to others with patience and attention. I gotta work
Speaker 1: on that. I got to work on not responding, smiling
Speaker 1: and nodding more often, you know, just you're right, I
Speaker 1: hear you, period.
Speaker 2: I see my attitude toward that is what I'm doing
Speaker 2: now or I'm trying to do more of is listening
Speaker 2: to here and not to respond. Listening to actually be
Speaker 2: open into a different perspective and not just listening. So
Speaker 2: my till it's my turn to talk, you know, especially
Speaker 2: when it's something I'm passionate about, I be like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I already know what you're gonna say, but I do
Speaker 2: I really no, I don't. You know, Just let this
Speaker 2: person express themselves because you might learn something. You might
Speaker 2: get a new perspective, you might get a new idea
Speaker 2: about something. So I just try to be more open
Speaker 2: to being objective to other perspectives and shut up. Just
Speaker 2: shut up. I know I talked back, but I can
Speaker 2: shut up too.
Speaker 1: So I definitely listen, and I like to know other
Speaker 1: people's perspective about stuff, but I also be wanting people
Speaker 1: to hear my perspective. Now, my ego isn't big enough
Speaker 1: to want to beat some shit into somebody's brain. So
Speaker 1: how I might do it? I might follow up with
Speaker 1: additional information. If you are more of a visual learner,
Speaker 1: if you need to see something and I feel like
Speaker 1: wanting to understand somebody else, that comes with like if
Speaker 1: you actually love them and respect them, right, if you
Speaker 1: just readily just ready to discard somebody because you don't
Speaker 1: understand their perspective. You're not trying to hear what they say.
Speaker 1: You're not trying to you're not trying to see it.
Speaker 1: They wait because we don't have to see each other
Speaker 1: shit the same way. We don't have to. But there's
Speaker 1: a level of understanding that comes with love and respect though, right,
Speaker 1: I want to understand where you're coming from because I
Speaker 1: respect you and I respect your perspective. I want to
Speaker 1: see you, but I want the same thing back too, though, right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So that's I feel like that's what i'd be fighting for.
Speaker 1: But the thing is, I gotta be okay with them
Speaker 1: not seeing my perspective and not seeing it my way,
Speaker 1: and it's fine, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've definitely I feel like I've mastered that now,
Speaker 2: Like I would just be quiet real quick, you got,
Speaker 2: and let people say what they how they feel. It's okay,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: Okay, So how do you practice gratitude? And this is
Speaker 1: for this is going to be fire. Thirty days of gratitude.
Speaker 1: So from what we want, it's over thirty days, so
Speaker 1: from here to the end of the year, basically until
Speaker 1: January one, because then we get into goal setting and
Speaker 1: all that year. Bitch, Look, I got the same goals
Speaker 1: from last year. You get this motherfucking patron Okay, when
Speaker 1: I tell you I got so many, there are one
Speaker 1: two three million dollar houses on my fucking zoo search. Okay, listen,
Speaker 1: and I'm getting one of them. That's just it is
Speaker 1: what it is because I said so. So this says
Speaker 1: practicing daily gratitude. Ten ways to practice daily gratitude. This
Speaker 1: is from mindful dot org. Okay, so the first thing
Speaker 1: it says, keep a gratitude journal. We know this. Write
Speaker 1: down all your things right down.
Speaker 2: I bought you one.
Speaker 1: I have it. It's on the side of my bed. Okay,
Speaker 1: so maybe I'll write in it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: It says keep a gratitude journal. Establish a daily practice
Speaker 1: in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits,
Speaker 1: and good things you enjoy. Recalling moments of gratitude associated
Speaker 1: with ordinary events, personal attributes, or valued people in your
Speaker 1: life gives you the potential to interweave a sustainable theme
Speaker 1: of gratefulness into your life. So write it down. Write
Speaker 1: that shit down. Like a couple of weeks ago, I
Speaker 1: attended a friend of ours. She had a zoom thing
Speaker 1: what her group of people is called. Write that shit down. Now.
Speaker 1: I wrote that shit down now, and I revisited since
Speaker 1: I wrote that shit down, So I gotta do better.
Speaker 1: I gotta do better with just being consistent with all things.
Speaker 1: Take them a fucking vitamins, Okay, eating properly, working out,
Speaker 1: it's being consistent. But I do have gratitude that I
Speaker 1: can wake up and choose if I'm doing it today
Speaker 1: or not. Right, Thank you God, Thank you God.
Speaker 2: I think another way a good practice is, you know,
Speaker 2: instead of waking up and saying, I gotta go to work.
Speaker 1: Today, I get to go.
Speaker 2: I get to go. Yeah, you know, change the way
Speaker 2: you even speak about the things in your life. You know,
Speaker 2: some people don't get to go, you know, but you do.
Speaker 2: You know, so.
Speaker 1: Got changing your programming.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Number two is remember the bad We said that. So
Speaker 1: to be grateful in your current state, it is helpful
Speaker 1: to remember the hard times that you once experienced. When
Speaker 1: you remember how difficult life used to be and how
Speaker 1: far you have come, you set up an explicit contrast
Speaker 1: in your mind. And this contrast is fertile ground for gratefulness.
Speaker 1: So you almost got to trick your mind, Like is
Speaker 1: your mind be tricking you? Your subconscious mind really be
Speaker 1: holding on to a bunch of little small thoughts about nothing,
Speaker 1: so not even intrusive, because we intrusive me, like you
Speaker 1: want to do some bad ship, but it's just like.
Speaker 2: Just But sometimes intrusive thoughts can be shipped against.
Speaker 1: Your Yeah this negative yeah right right, negative thoughts about yourself,
Speaker 1: So replace it with something positive. The minutes you start
Speaker 1: thinking about some negative ship, replace it with a positive thought.
Speaker 1: Just keep doing that until all your thoughts are positive. Like,
Speaker 1: of course you're going to have bad things happen, but
Speaker 1: you can't live there. You can't live there forever. I mean,
Speaker 1: broke got a couple of weeks.
Speaker 2: Listen, you can live there, but I advise against it. Man,
Speaker 2: you get there, not a good place.
Speaker 1: To get out of there. Number three says ask yourself
Speaker 1: three questions, meditating your relationships with parents, friends, siblings, work, associates, children,
Speaker 1: and partners. Using these three questions, what have I received
Speaker 1: from blank? What have I given to blank? And what troubles,
Speaker 1: troubles and difficulty have I caused? Are the three questions
Speaker 1: you want to ask yourself about the people in your life,
Speaker 1: about the relationships.
Speaker 2: Yep, that's good, And then be like.
Speaker 1: You got to find a way to be okay. Even
Speaker 1: if you cause something, still be okay with it and
Speaker 1: do bed and moving forward. Share your gratitude with others.
Speaker 1: So research has found that expressing gratitude can strengthen relationships.
Speaker 1: So the next time your partner, friend, or family member
Speaker 1: does something you appreciate, be sure to let them know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, I tell them. So I appreciate them
Speaker 1: all day long, you know what I'm saying. Like, if
Speaker 1: I'm grocery shopping, somebody do, Okay, thank you, I appreciate you,
Speaker 1: Like I think that does something for their day too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And you can tell people you appreciate things that
Speaker 2: haven't been done for you. I appreciate the things that
Speaker 2: you're doing for others, you know, Like are our friend
Speaker 2: Ebene from the.
Speaker 1: Oh she's her Turkey drive. Yeah, I appreciate Professional home
Speaker 1: Girl Okay, the Professional Homegirl podcast, y'all check her out.
Speaker 1: She's also on Black Effect yep.
Speaker 2: So that's you know, it doesn't have to be something
Speaker 2: directly related to them doing things for you. Just knowledge
Speaker 2: people for what they're doing for others as well.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, come to your sensesber five says, through our senses
Speaker 1: the ability to touch sea, smell tasting. Here we gain
Speaker 1: an appreciation of what it means to be human and
Speaker 1: of what an incredible miracle it is to be alive.
Speaker 1: I don't think y'all realized man could have been somebody
Speaker 1: else would have made it to that damn egg right,
Speaker 1: seeing through that the sperm that made it back, you
Speaker 1: made it. Seeing through the lens of gratitude. The human
Speaker 1: body is not only a miraculous construction, but it also
Speaker 1: is a gift. So people, he.
Speaker 2: May so sit with that for just a second. You
Speaker 2: got the gift of life, Like, look, you got lucky,
Speaker 2: you hit the lottery. How many sperm be shooting out
Speaker 2: there for a.
Speaker 1: Lot a lot?
Speaker 2: And you know, I know.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of gratitude for being alive. And
Speaker 1: I do think my mom right, because she has reminded
Speaker 1: me a couple of times how she was sitting an
Speaker 1: abortion planet as a married woman with two children, about
Speaker 1: to abort me. And maybe this is why I feel
Speaker 1: so strongly about Yeah, she just told me that, right,
Speaker 1: And I said, well, that's why i was breach stepping
Speaker 1: out that pussy feet first, because I'm supposed to be here.
Speaker 1: I know, I'm supposed to be here for this time,
Speaker 1: all the things we experiencing now and the stupid shit
Speaker 1: like I know my purpose on this planet. I think
Speaker 1: you also could feel gain gratitude in that way too,
Speaker 1: just figuring out what your purpose is, right, you know,
Speaker 1: And a lot of times it takes you got to
Speaker 1: go from from nothing to even to get to that
Speaker 1: place to understand what is your purpose on this planet?
Speaker 1: Why are you here? Are you just going to just
Speaker 1: roam around your whole life like just just not knowing?
Speaker 2: And that's unfortunate.
Speaker 1: So because on this planet, unfortunately, this hell realm, if
Speaker 1: you don't figure out what you want for your life,
Speaker 1: somebody else will and judicial system to just put your
Speaker 1: ass in jail for the rest of it. So be careful,
Speaker 1: my man. That's you pay them taxes, bitch.
Speaker 2: What else is meant?
Speaker 1: Use visual reminders because the two primary obstacles to gratefulness
Speaker 1: are forgetfulness and a lack of mindful awareness. Visual reminders
Speaker 1: can serve as cues to trigger thoughts thoughts of gratitude. Oftentimes,
Speaker 1: the best visual reminders are other people. I keep saying,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get me one like a big whiteboard and
Speaker 1: just put it in my fucking living room and right
Speaker 1: ship and remove ship as I knock shit off my
Speaker 1: little list. It might not be for gratitude, but just
Speaker 1: so I can stay.
Speaker 2: You can for gratitude and half to do.
Speaker 1: But I do be needing to see it because.
Speaker 2: It is for real.
Speaker 1: For real is out of sight, out of mind for me.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It might be my autism kicking in sometimes.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, I can believe it that up.
Speaker 1: Make a vow to practice gratitude. Research shows that making
Speaker 1: an oath to perform a behavior increases the likelihood that
Speaker 1: the action will be executed. Therefore, write your own gratitude vowel,
Speaker 1: which could be as simple as I vow I vow
Speaker 1: to count my blessings each day and post it somewhere
Speaker 1: where you will be reminded of it every day. You know,
Speaker 1: people start putting the post its on the bathroom mirror
Speaker 1: and so on. I could just see my cat now
Speaker 1: snatching that shit down. Bitch, I'm trying to get us,
Speaker 1: I Mansion, what you're doing doing.
Speaker 2: I think another good way to perform some gratitude is
Speaker 2: to kiss yourself in the mirror every day in the morning.
Speaker 2: You don't really have to kiss the mirror and leave
Speaker 2: all lipproots all over your mirror. I can't even get
Speaker 2: close to my mirror without having to climb on the counter.
Speaker 2: But start making love to yourself, you know, not physically.
Speaker 2: I mean you could do that too, but I mean
Speaker 2: being grateful is also showing love to yourself, you know.
Speaker 2: I think it starts there. Yeah. I always like with
Speaker 2: my friends sometimes when you be like talking shit to
Speaker 2: yourself or talking ship, I'd be like, be nice to
Speaker 2: my friend, and you be like, who are you talking about?
Speaker 2: Bitch you talk about? You be nice to her. I
Speaker 2: don't like that.
Speaker 1: I know I'd be hard on myself. Man, I'd be
Speaker 1: real hard on myself. So I do have to replace
Speaker 1: some negative thoughts a lot throughout the day. Throughout the day,
Speaker 1: just as long as you're mindful, right, that's where it starts.
Speaker 1: You got to recognize the problem before you can fucking
Speaker 1: fix it. So Number A says, watch your language. Grateful
Speaker 1: people have a particular linguistic style that uses the language
Speaker 1: of gifts, givers, blessings, blessed, fortunate, fortunate, and abundance and gratitude.
Speaker 1: You should not focus on how inherently good you are
Speaker 1: but rather on the inherently good things that others have
Speaker 1: done on your behalf. M Anyway, I like all those words.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like the word blessed though, because
Speaker 1: it's be less. So I like bliss All other ones
Speaker 1: are bless Yeah, that's fine. I like the I like blissings,
Speaker 1: my blessings. Yeah, you got You definitely got to watch
Speaker 1: your mouth, man, you definitely got to watch your mouth.
Speaker 2: And I always tell people over yourself and everybody else.
Speaker 2: I always tell people that your tongue is a magic wine.
Speaker 2: When people are saying stuff like gative, stuff like I can't,
Speaker 2: I won't, I should.
Speaker 1: I'm dead.
Speaker 2: I hate that.
Speaker 1: I hate when I see that in the comments I'm dead.
Speaker 2: Like, don't speak good carry yourself? Yeah are also I
Speaker 2: don't like demon time don't I don't do nothing? Demon
Speaker 2: don't slowly? Yeah I've been going out. Yeah, don't do that.
Speaker 2: I hate that. Yeah. So your tongue is a wind.
Speaker 2: Remember that. Speak blessings over yourself, for blessings or whatever
Speaker 2: you have, speak that over yourself and everybody around you.
Speaker 1: So when people say have a blest day, it's usually
Speaker 1: them being real condescending and like they don't really mean
Speaker 1: for you to have a blessed day. That's why I'm like,
Speaker 1: don't tell me to have a blessed day, because you're
Speaker 1: telling me that, you're telling me to be less today.
Speaker 2: Well that's not how you come before the eat. Huh
Speaker 2: b less is b E l E S S.
Speaker 1: Well just b you're not putting the E in there,
Speaker 1: So B L E S S.
Speaker 2: This is all about perspective because.
Speaker 1: The English language was a big ass curse in itself.
Speaker 1: So a lot of times like people be talking about
Speaker 1: motherfucker saying grand rising or because people don't want to
Speaker 1: say good morning anymore because morning means morning, like you're
Speaker 1: waking up mourning some shit. M Oh you are I
Speaker 1: ng m Oh you are n I NG mourning. So
Speaker 1: I mean when I.
Speaker 2: Tell somebody, uh, be blessed or have a blessed day,
Speaker 2: I mean it in the most positive. Even when you.
Speaker 1: Argue with somebody, you ain't ever say have a blessing.
Speaker 2: I don't say that when I'm arguing a lot of
Speaker 2: people don't tell them to have a good day. Have
Speaker 2: a good day.
Speaker 1: Them church, But that means about a blessed day real quick,
Speaker 1: have a blessed day.
Speaker 2: And I'll say have a good day, good day, But
Speaker 2: do you really mean that? Yeah, because I'm about to go.
Speaker 2: That means I'm about to exit.
Speaker 1: I like to say, how the day you deserve? Yeah,
Speaker 1: go have the day you deserve to have.
Speaker 2: But I just even even still, it just I don't anytime.
Speaker 2: At this point, I feel like when I wish negative
Speaker 2: on people, I'm wishing it on myself. You know, when
Speaker 2: I offer negative people, I'm offering it to myself. So
Speaker 2: I having the day you deserve, I hope it's good
Speaker 2: because I want a good day. You know, be blessed
Speaker 2: because I want to be blessed. It's a circle everything
Speaker 2: I'm finding like when I do when I do bad shit,
Speaker 2: bad shit happened to me. When I do good shit,
Speaker 2: good shit happens to me. When I give, I get gotasy.
Speaker 1: That is that is so easy, isn't it. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a hard concept for a lot of people to grasp.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Number nine is go through the motions. Grateful emotions include smiling,
Speaker 1: saying thank you, writing letters of gratitude. By going through
Speaker 1: grateful emotions, you'll trigger the emotion of gratitude more often. Yeah, man, smout, smile.
Speaker 2: Be nice, be nice to be both they thank you.
Speaker 1: You know. I go to fast food restaurants and well,
Speaker 1: not for real, but just Chick fil a is the
Speaker 1: only place that it is nice. I like apple pies
Speaker 1: from Popeyes, and the customer service is deplorable. Like why
Speaker 1: am I saying thank you to you and I appreciate
Speaker 1: to you, but you slamming my fucking apple pies on
Speaker 1: the counter. They not practicing gratitude.
Speaker 2: They're not. They're not, but they might be having a
Speaker 2: hard day. I always just try to be like they
Speaker 2: might have Who knows they could have shipped their pasts
Speaker 2: this morning. Who knows what happened. I don't. I don't
Speaker 2: know what happened to them, So I'm not I don't
Speaker 2: take it personal. I just give the energy that I
Speaker 2: want in return and hopefully expread, you know.
Speaker 1: But I feel like that's a good example of why
Speaker 1: people aren't having the things they think they're supposed to
Speaker 1: have and aren't doing the things that they think they're
Speaker 1: supposed to be doing. Because your attitude sucks no matter
Speaker 1: what you're doing, like, you gotta do it happily.
Speaker 2: And I you know what, I talk to everybody like
Speaker 2: I know them, everybody our encounter. I treat them like
Speaker 2: I already met them a long time ago. How are
Speaker 2: your mama doing? I ain't never met your mama in
Speaker 2: the day in my life? You doing?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: So That's how I encountered the world, all right.
Speaker 1: And so the last one is think outside the box.
Speaker 1: If you want to make the most out of opportunities
Speaker 1: to flex your gratitude muscles, you must look creatively. Creativity.
Speaker 1: Creativity creatively is that what creating? What you're creatively creative? Like?
Speaker 1: Get you tongue coming in? Uh? Creatively for new situations
Speaker 1: and circumstances in which to feel grateful. Please share the
Speaker 1: creative ways you found to help you to help you
Speaker 1: practice gratitude. Think outside the box. If you want to
Speaker 1: make the most out of opportunities stuff like, you must
Speaker 1: look at them. I don't know, So how are you
Speaker 1: gonna think outside the box to? I don't know why
Speaker 1: they even added that number ten, but it's there. This
Speaker 1: is on mindful dot org Healthy mind, Healthy Life.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 1: Like that I wanted to they got that trademark. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I hope you all apply some of this to your
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving if you're listening today, because it is Thanksgiving. When
Speaker 2: you hear this, and I hope you apply this to
Speaker 2: your everyday life and at least the next thirty days,
Speaker 2: you know, while we practice gratitude for the rest of
Speaker 2: the year. Really, you know, we're gonna practice gratitude and
Speaker 2: we're gonna come on the show every Thursday and share
Speaker 2: something that we're grateful for. And we hope that you
Speaker 2: share your things with us, sliding our dms and tell us.
Speaker 1: Y'all better be grateful for me. I see a lot
Speaker 1: of y'all ain't, but you better be.
Speaker 2: Because I'm gonna say if I if they.
Speaker 1: Ain't, I'm had to save your life. I ain't the enemy.
Speaker 1: I'm had to save you, man.
Speaker 2: And I'm here to love you. You got any last last?
Speaker 1: That's it. That was it.
Speaker 2: That's your last last? All right, and be married, guys,
Speaker 2: enjoy your days, enjoy your week, and we love y'all
Speaker 2: and we'll see y'all next Thursday, for sure, God willing.
Speaker 1: So if you enjoy this episode, y'all tune in every
Speaker 1: Thursday on The Black Effect. iHeartRadio Apple Where but the
Speaker 1: fuck you get your podcast at? This is your mindful Queen.
Speaker 1: A J Holiday two point on Instagrams kicking Tam.
Speaker 2: Y'all is official Tam bam On and Christa Graham on Instagram.
Speaker 2: I love y'all so much. Speak now and never hold
Speaker 2: your gratitude, Amen Deuces.
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