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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 2: who talks.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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Speaker 1: new episode of We Talked Back, a show dedicated to

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Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. Y is your co host a

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Speaker 1: j Holiday. What's up? Tam Bam?

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Speaker 2: Y'all is Tam Bam? I love y'all, girl. They nothing

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Speaker 2: I didn't. How was your weekend? What did you do?

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Speaker 1: Nothing? It's cold outside, Like I really am emriminating this weekend.

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Speaker 1: I had the bed to myself mm hmm, me and

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Speaker 1: a cat, So yeah, I really enjoyed that. You know.

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Speaker 1: It's the small things, right, like having space to yourself,

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Speaker 1: the small things.

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Speaker 2: What did I do? It was a Washington weekend for me?

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Speaker 2: What so a Washington weekend?

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Speaker 1: Does that mean?

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Speaker 2: I went to see Gladiator with Denzel Washington and then

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Speaker 2: I also watched the Piano Lesson with John David Washington

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Speaker 2: produced by Malcolm Washington. So it was definitely a Washington week.

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Speaker 1: In Washington weekend. Interesting. How was Gladiator? I can't wait

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Speaker 1: to see it, but I want to see it in

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Speaker 1: the house. I want to watch it.

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Speaker 2: I would always rather watch a movie in the house.

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Speaker 2: It's just the comfort of free drugs and alcohol that

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Speaker 2: just makes it better. When I say drugs, I mean

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Speaker 2: we y'all. Let me be let me be very clear, right.

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Speaker 2: Gladiator was good. I enjoyed the movie. I don't I

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Speaker 2: can't say too much without giving it away. I enjoyed

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Speaker 2: the storyline how so much. It was connected to the

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Speaker 2: storyline from two thousand with Russell Crowe.

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Speaker 1: So he's not what.

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Speaker 2: I guess he died.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he died in the last one. Yeah, so that's

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Speaker 1: why he wasn't there.

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean they have ghosts and all kinds of

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Speaker 2: ship like there was a way to throw that nigga

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Speaker 2: in there that they really wanted to.

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Speaker 1: They did not.

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Speaker 2: But Denzel was excellent in it. You know, he's just

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Speaker 2: such a phenomenal.

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Speaker 1: It looks like just from the like the pictures we saw,

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Speaker 1: I knew it was going to be lit and I love, love,

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Speaker 1: love Gladiator.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're gonna enjoy it. And then also the piano

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Speaker 2: lesson that was good. It's a play adapted to a movie.

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Speaker 2: Some people don't like plays when they're adapted to movies

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Speaker 2: because there isn't a whole lot of movement. You know,

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Speaker 2: a play is usually on a set. I mean, you're

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Speaker 2: not gonna get a lot of movement, and people get

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Speaker 2: it can be a bit mundane if you're not into

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Speaker 2: a bunch of monologues, which is what happens in a

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Speaker 2: play adapted to the movie. But it was good story.

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Speaker 2: It's an August Wilson play. I don't know if you'll

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Speaker 2: familiar with August Wilson Fences. His dad did that one

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Speaker 2: with Viola Davis. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So that came out

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Speaker 2: like a couple of Christmases ago. That was a good one.

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Speaker 2: But I think this story, this plot was much better

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Speaker 2: than No Shade Defenses. But I think the way this show,

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Speaker 2: this movie was presented was through a very youthful lens,

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Speaker 2: Malcolm Washington. He's a young dude, so the way he

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Speaker 2: presented it was youthful. And it's got like a horror

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Speaker 2: element to it. So if you like scary stuff, I mean,

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Speaker 2: it's not hugely horrific. It's more a tale of like

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Speaker 2: family and our trials and our woes and how trauma

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Speaker 2: can be passed down. And this piano represents a lot

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Speaker 2: of that. So it's a good story, y'all. It's on Netflix.

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Speaker 2: Watch it if you got some time. The piano lesson,

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Speaker 2: piano lesson interesting.

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Speaker 1: Can I learn something in there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean yeah, you might learn something something about resiliency,

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Speaker 2: something about family and being one and sticking together, you know.

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Speaker 2: So definitely watch it with your family, especially if y'all

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Speaker 2: not getting along, sit down and hold hands and watch

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Speaker 2: that movie.

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Speaker 1: I'd be getting along because I don't be talking to

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Speaker 1: nobody can get along with my God damn matter of fact, No,

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Speaker 1: my sister didn't did call me. One of my sisters

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Speaker 1: called me this morning. It seemed like every time we

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Speaker 1: talk is like, I don't be knowing as a problem

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Speaker 1: because I be in my little like, yeah, listen, let

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Speaker 1: me tell y'all one thing you will realize, man, Like,

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Speaker 1: there's a real there's a lot of power and detachment.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not just saying like to leave people or not,

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Speaker 1: to that shit. And that's just where I'm at I

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Speaker 1: practice detachment along with a lot of other things, but

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Speaker 1: I definitely practice detachment a lot.

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Speaker 2: Me and my family. I was just I was on

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Speaker 2: the phone with one of my friends last night and

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Speaker 2: he was talking about his family dynamic, and y'all, it

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Speaker 2: was a mess. He got a lot, and it's a

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Speaker 2: lot about money, you know, him being a magor breadwinner

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Speaker 2: in a family and trying to help people as much

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Speaker 2: people like looking at him like do more, do more,

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Speaker 2: and it's just only so much.

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Speaker 1: They want you back where they're comfortable with you being at.

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Speaker 1: You know, they want you back on their level. I

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Speaker 1: never understand that, so you know how people would be

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Speaker 1: like the money change them? No, I think the money

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Speaker 1: changes the people around you a lot of times, you know.

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Speaker 2: And it just made me have so much gratitude for

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Speaker 2: the space I am in with my family right now,

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Speaker 2: because I mean, my childhood was tumultuous, Like you know,

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Speaker 2: it was not an easy time. It was hard, but

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Speaker 2: now we just kind of like smooth sailing, everybody getting along.

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Speaker 2: Were very close knit. So I'm grateful for that. But

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Speaker 2: there once was a time, you know, so.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think my family does. We do pretty good,

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Speaker 1: and you know, it's just I don't know, y'all. We

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Speaker 1: got communication issues in my family. We can't always have

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Speaker 1: conversations about stuff. And I won't even say it's just

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Speaker 1: But I think equally we all would feel like we

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Speaker 1: probably can't talk to our mom about shit out of

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Speaker 1: would like for us to work on communication better. I

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Speaker 1: remember I saw this video on Instagram and it was saying,

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Speaker 1: how you know children are your karma karma right and

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Speaker 1: his child or depending on the zodiac, they come to

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Speaker 1: teach the parent a lesson. Some people don't see it

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Speaker 1: supposed to teach my mom communication, but it's hard. It's

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Speaker 1: hard when the adult I won't say the adult because

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Speaker 1: we all adults, right, but I'm the child right when

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I mean, what kind of.

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Speaker 1: Be learning your whole life? Like I feel like you're

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Speaker 1: never too old to learn anything.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're always learning. Once you stop learning and you

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Speaker 2: start dying, that's how I feel, like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I still learning and growing, yes, because that's

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Speaker 1: Earth is a school. So you are here to learn lessons,

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Speaker 1: right and if you don't learn them, you keep coming

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Speaker 1: back until you do it again. Until you do, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna come back with them same transgressions, that same depression,

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Speaker 1: the same issues, until you learn the lessons. Yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 1: That's it, is what it is.

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Speaker 2: Let's get it and see.

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Speaker 1: What happened. Anyway, y'all, Thanksgiving is coming up.

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Speaker 2: Yeamn.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. But anyway, so y'all Friday, Kendrick Lamar drop the

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Speaker 1: album on you niggas. I was at the gym. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I had got a text message that said Kendrick dropping

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Speaker 1: an album at in a couple of minutes at twelve o'clock.

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Speaker 1: I immediately then went to Apple and the ship was already there,

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Speaker 1: already up.

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Speaker 2: Yep, Yes, I'm the album. I mean, he's brilliant. He's brilliant,

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Speaker 2: and he's lyrical. It's a good album. It's definitely got

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Speaker 2: some songs that make you feel boastful, you know, like

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Speaker 2: popular ship, you know, and I love energy like that,

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Speaker 2: especially in the gym. So I definitely enjoyed an album.

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Speaker 1: You know, I usually don't like like California rap, but

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Speaker 1: I like when Kendrick do it. You know that sound

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like the first two songs that went straight

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Speaker 2: to Cali vibes. When he said squabble listen, I sent

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Speaker 2: one of my old niggas from LA right the Future

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Speaker 2: the Future, texting the X. You know that picture where

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Speaker 2: he texted me, Yeah, I was listening to Kendrick squabble up.

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Speaker 2: just fucking around there. I don't I'm not really missing

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Speaker 2: was just funny.

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Speaker 1: I was. I'm so happy when like good music dropped

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Speaker 1: because there's a lot of trash out there, man, so

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Speaker 1: when somebody drops some real life luxury music, I'm always

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Speaker 1: to it. Yes, so it says the project. They said.

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Speaker 1: The project seemingly dropped out of the sky without warning

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Speaker 1: around twelve pm Eastern Standard Time on Friday. Filled with

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Speaker 1: twelve tracks, g n X boast a pair of assist

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Speaker 1: from former TD running mate Damn Sis ain't with td

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Speaker 1: No more Interesting Sam Do, as well as emerging artists

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Speaker 1: such as Deira Dera, Bia Bireau, Dera, Ink, Dotty six,

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Speaker 1: as Check and more A girl Child Listen.

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Speaker 2: Y'all got some names on y'all got damn.

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Speaker 1: It says, with the super Bowl on the horizon, Kado

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Speaker 1: will have new music with him when he leads excuse

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Speaker 1: me when he heads the New Orleans, when he has

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Speaker 1: the new when he heads to New Orleans to take

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Speaker 1: the super Bowl. Whatever numberus is? What the fuck is

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Speaker 1: l in numerica? What what? What?

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Speaker 2: It don't matter? Halftime again?

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Speaker 1: So I can't wait. I cannot wait for the super Bowl.

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Speaker 1: And he did have like a low line and one

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Speaker 1: of the songs, whacked Murals, which is the first song

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Speaker 1: on the album, and people saying he'd taken shots at

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Speaker 1: low Wayne and snoop. I don't really feel like he's

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Speaker 1: taking shots. He just just said something. He was like,

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Speaker 1: he said, I used to bump the Carter three. I

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Speaker 1: held my roly chain, proud the irony. I think my

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Speaker 1: hard work let low Wayne down. Kadot wraps on album

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Speaker 1: opener and Whacked Out Murals, referring to wheezy posts and

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Speaker 1: a video about how hurt he was about not being

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Speaker 1: chosen to headline in Super Bowl in his hometown. I

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Speaker 1: mean it could have been like a situation where Kendrick

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Speaker 1: would have brought him out or something like that. Now

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Speaker 1: y'all just thought, y'all made this shit so fucking awkward,

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Speaker 1: Like it's the people. Kendrick Lamar is a performer. Have

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Speaker 1: y'all ever seen him perform at like the Grammys and

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Speaker 1: stuff like that, Like that nigga should be lit.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I don't think. I don't feel like Kendrick Lamar

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Speaker 2: took a shot at Wayne. I don't think Wayne took

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Speaker 2: a shot at Kendrew Lamar. I don't think neither one

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Speaker 2: that person, and this is a shot to that person. No,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And as for like, I just like want to

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Speaker 2: Come on, now, is it really that deep? I think

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Speaker 2: He gave us hits after hits, summer after summer. I

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Speaker 1: Sure it was. And I saw you not know half

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Speaker 2: It was like three songs I didn't know, but I

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Speaker 1: Was like repeating that shit word for word. It's real fans.

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Speaker 2: Whatever, bit, I am a real fan. I don't know

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Speaker 2: to people even when they down. I don't flip. So

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Speaker 2: And two things can be true at the same time.

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Speaker 2: to say, bitch saying you was.

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Speaker 1: Wasn't that sin? That's all I'm saying is put your

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Speaker 2: weekend Oscar When They're Holly Berry has opened up about

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Speaker 2: Fortune Most Powerful Women, Some Men in October, but has

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Speaker 1: I cannot agree more. And I don't know if she

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Speaker 1: men monstertily figuratively or physically, but both of them shit

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Speaker 2: And right and healthy. Yeah, so it is a lot.

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Speaker 1: You can't do what the healthcare credit care credit. You

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Speaker 2: I will filter, you know. I'm like, oh, that filter

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Speaker 2: this stuff. Girl, you're you barely you still got good

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Speaker 1: You know, yeah, I I really, you know, I am

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Speaker 1: considering going back to Android because I do think that

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Speaker 1: Apple be fucking with our perception. Bitch, I look way

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Speaker 1: better on an Android phone, Like I really, I really

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Speaker 1: feel like Apple be intentionally making you look fucked up

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Speaker 1: this match, bitch, Apple, how your ass looking a fucking mess?

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Speaker 1: Like why is this happening? Like who is that? Like

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Speaker 1: that is not my hand?

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Speaker 2: Wouldn't my hair? Get that point?

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Speaker 1: I feel like they're doing something with the camera. I

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Speaker 1: swear to god, you don't feel like that when the

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Speaker 2: I've never had a I don't know I don't have

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Speaker 1: None of your friends got an Android? Like, damn that

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Speaker 1: camera good as hell, like in a group chat, a

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Speaker 2: No, I don't be fucking with bitches with androids.

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Speaker 1: Girl bye. First of all, I'm joking.

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Speaker 2: I'm joking. I'm joking, joking.

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Speaker 1: with the same all this fucking money. Android technology is

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Speaker 1: they cost well way more than an Apple phone.

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00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:36,159
Speaker 2: Okay, it's just marketing, that's all it is.

433
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,959
Speaker 1: And then like you're tied to this fucking thing, all

434
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 1: your apps, everything like face Time and all that shit tied.

435
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 1: I really only had gotten Apple because like the FaceTime

436
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 1: shit like, and then trying to do business. Most people

437
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 1: have the Apple phone. Apple. Yeah, but I do want

438
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: to disconnect. I've been I've been wanting to get me.

439
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 2: Did you see there's a video going around right now

440
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:01,399
Speaker 2: of this girl and her mom are in the h

441
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:05,959
Speaker 2: some cellular phone store and she's disconnecting her daughter's service.

442
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 2: And this girl had a meltdown and people were like, oh,

443
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 2: my mom would have slapped the shit out of me,

444
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 2: and my mama would have knocked my teeth out and

445
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,120
Speaker 2: that was all Like the black comments were just basically

446
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 2: what their mama would have done. But that was the

447
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,160
Speaker 2: same behavior we had when we were told we could

448
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,160
Speaker 2: not go outside. You know, it's just different. These kids

449
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 2: are so connected to their technology now.

450
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: All are, so it does feel like you're being untethered,

451
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That could be devastating.

452
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I felt bad.

453
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 1: That goes out right now.

454
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 2: If somebody put my phone from me right.

455
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:46,120
Speaker 1: Now, if the internet right now, people gonna be wilding out.

456
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 1: There's gonna be a lot of people like really having

457
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 1: meltdown withdrawn Yeah.

458
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, withdraw like a drug withdrawal. I don't know if

459
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,719
Speaker 2: it would be that bad for me. I think COVID

460
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 2: taught me something about disconnection that was so healthy and

461
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 2: beautiful for me, And now it did not start off

462
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,719
Speaker 2: that way. I was scared. I made the only Fans

463
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 2: page like, I don't know how I'm about to survive.

464
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 2: I might have theo a real nigga on the Internet,

465
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 2: and I was praying that did not happen. You know,

466
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 2: everybody got it did not, But I felt so much.

467
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,119
Speaker 2: I felt free, you know, I felt free for a

468
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 2: little while. I was out riding bikes and doing all

469
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,120
Speaker 2: these things. So this connection was not a bad thing

470
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 2: for me. So if the Internet completely disappeared, I don't

471
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 2: think I would be I mean, well, it would be easy,

472
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:36,360
Speaker 2: it wouldn't be devastating.

473
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,640
Speaker 1: So y'all know how the Simpsons has been predicting shit

474
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 1: since forever, right, So there's a Simpson episode where Lisa

475
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 1: was trying to warn everybody about the sharks eating the

476
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 1: fiber cables and the ocean, and it caused the Internet

477
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: to go out why and the Baltic c two cables

478
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 1: just got clipped. They're trying to say that Russia is

479
00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 1: trying to sabotage Europe, but it literally just happened, So

480
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: I all know, man, it might happen the symptoms. The

481
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 1: Simpsons be right about a lot of shit. I don't

482
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 1: know if it's if it's like no, because these do

483
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: be past episodes, so I can't even say that is it.

484
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 1: Is it art imitating life or vice versa, Like it

485
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 1: looks like the predictions or they're acting it out. They're

486
00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 1: acting out what the Simpsons be doing. Maybe that's the

487
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 1: script for the world stage. I don't know anyway, y'all.

488
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: So Peter is accusing Butterball of producing sexually violated turkeys.

489
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:45,920
Speaker 1: So somebody from Peter went undercover at a Butterball plant

490
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 1: and it said it says. In the video on Instagram,

491
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: the investigator, who remains anonymous, describes his under His little

492
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:57,200
Speaker 1: Blood describes his undercover experience at the facility. He claims

493
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: to have seen workers sexually a salting turkeys before they

494
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 1: were slaughtered. So your turkey might have a little extra

495
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 1: frozen sauce this year, you know, a little bags I got,

496
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: like the kidneys and stuff all at this there might

497
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:19,400
Speaker 1: be some extra shit in it, says. The investigator. Details

498
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:23,880
Speaker 1: instance where work is allegedly humped, shackled turkeys and inserted

499
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:31,919
Speaker 1: fingers into the birds. Clickosa, Yeah, it's basically like the

500
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 1: birds vagina right. While the production line was halted, footage

501
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: from the plant shows one work or roughly handling a

502
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: turkey while another appears to be kicking a bird, saying

503
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 1: I kicked the fuck out that motherfucker. In another shot

504
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 1: is a worker seemingly sitting on a turkey.

505
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: That terrible this is.

506
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: It just shows you how weird humans are, Like, why

507
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 1: do y'all want to abuse something so bad? Even like

508
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,399
Speaker 1: the videos with people like what they're gonna do with

509
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: they robot when they get it? Why do y'all want

510
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:03,640
Speaker 1: something to abuse so bad?

511
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 2: Right? Like what people her? People hurt people, that's what

512
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 2: it is. And you just got to pray. If you're

513
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: not growing your own food, you just don't know what

514
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: happens to it before it gets to your table. You

515
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 2: just gotta pray over it, you know. But yeah, yeah,

516
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 2: people are sick. People are mentally ill. Anybody who's sticking

517
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 2: their finger in the turkey's pussy for enjoyment is sick.

518
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 2: You know, that's a sick individual. All these people are

519
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 2: really sick.

520
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 1: And they said if one person was humping and I'm wondering,

521
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 1: like did he penetrate the turkey?

522
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 2: That's just disgusting.

523
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 1: And y'all know, it's still like illegal in some states

524
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 1: for people, if you're not a married man, to own

525
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 1: sheep because apparently sheep vagina is like real close to

526
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 1: human vagina to a women's vagina, So people be out

527
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 1: here having sex with sheep.

528
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 2: That's so sad. And it's not people, it's men. It's men.

529
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 2: Women ain't fucking sheep.

530
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:05,920
Speaker 1: They fuck horses.

531
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 2: Though, anybody who let a horse put in them needed

532
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 2: to take it out in the bag and put down.

533
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 2: Because have you ever seen a horse?

534
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: Yes? I have, yes, and I've seen the people who've

535
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 1: taken them, and yeah, beige in color. Yeah, don't nobody.

536
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 2: I don't see why you ever want first of all,

537
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 2: an animal to hump you, and then of all animals

538
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 2: a horse. So I don't know. People are just weird.

539
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 1: It's nuts. And then one more thing, y'all before we

540
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 1: get off of sin. So Thanksgiving this is a lie.

541
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: First of all, This next part is just really some

542
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: stupid Internet news. It says Thanksgiving dinner allegedly historically affordable

543
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. Believe it or not. It says

544
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: we're gonna choose not to believe it, but it says

545
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving dinner will be more affordable in twenty twenty four.

546
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: American Farm Bureau of Federation AFBF said the average cost

547
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: of Thanksgiving dinner this year will be about fifty eight

548
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 1: dollars and eight cents for a ten person meal, or

549
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 1: about five dollars and eighty one cents a person. The

550
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:21,640
Speaker 1: AFBF noted if your dollar had the same overall purchasing

551
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: power as a consumer in nineteen eighty four, this would

552
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 1: be the least expensive Thanksgiving meal in the thirty nine

553
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 1: year history of the AFBF Thanksgiving Survey, other than the

554
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 1: outlier of twenty twenty. Yeah, the forgotten year twenty twenty,

555
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: it says. While many people are still feeling financial stress,

556
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 1: the AFBF says this shows that wage inflation is an

557
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 1: issue that needs to be addressed. So I saw, I mean,

558
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: I was at Costco yesterday.

559
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 2: And of course you.

560
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 1: Twice this week, well one for your ass bitch, and

561
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 1: went there looking for some liquor for this bitch.

562
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 2: I said.

563
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 1: My daddy's birthday today, is said, I definitely would have

564
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: been a birthday gift for him.

565
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 2: Happy birthday?

566
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 1: Been wrong Rome my daddy's seventy four seven? Assing, yeah, man, many.

567
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, Costco pack.

568
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, these people got money. And then you look

569
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: on Instagram and you see how people waste food for

570
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 1: content obviously isn't high enough. It's obviously not high enough

571
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: for people.

572
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 2: It is it is high enough for me. I was

573
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 2: in there on my I definitely go to the store

574
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 2: and I use the scooter and I'll be scooting all

575
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 2: over their place with a little wheelchair and it is high.

576
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 2: I left with three bags of stuff that we needed.

577
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 2: We purchased a lot of our Thanksgiving goods earlier in

578
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 2: the month, but you know, some ship you just got

579
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 2: to wait till the week of or it's gonna go bad,

580
00:31:55,120 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 2: like the perishables. And I spent eight dollars and I

581
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 2: only had three bags of things, you know, So it's

582
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 2: just like, where, how is it fifty eight dollars? I

583
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: spent over two hundred earlier in the month and now

584
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,719
Speaker 2: another eighty. And I'm not making differ by myself.

585
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what they're calculating, Like who, what

586
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: groceries can you buy for fifty You can't even get

587
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: a turkey for that much. The small turkeys they like

588
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 1: ten dollars a pound or some shit.

589
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

590
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: No, Like I did look at turkeys, butter ball turkeys,

591
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 1: just to see like how much this stuff called I

592
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 1: don't eat it.

593
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 2: You know, that's bullshit. And I don't know. Nobody's believing that.

594
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 1: The turkey cost fifty eight dollars by itself, even if

595
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 1: you buy turkey wings. My nigga, you're paying ten dollars

596
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 1: or three of them.

597
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: You don't have to get a boards a turkey sandwich

598
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: in a pack of bread and call it Thanksgiving.

599
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:48,959
Speaker 1: And split it between ten people.

600
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it.

601
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, they they're playing in Americans' faces. Man, they really

602
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: be playing. I feel like we don't know no better,

603
00:32:57,160 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 1: Like we don't actually live and feel the economy for

604
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: this economy right now. Yeah. But anyway, speaking on the

605
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: economy and all the things, y'all, I don't think we've

606
00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 1: practiced gratitude much. We haven't talked about it anyway. So

607
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: you know, Thanksgiving is a great time, right to remind

608
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: people to be grateful and how do you do that?

609
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 2: Though, we're going to get into it after this commercial break,

610
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 2: we'll be back.

611
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: And we're back. So we wanted to talk about gratitude

612
00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 1: and you know some of the things you can do

613
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: to stay grateful through the holidays, And we actually want

614
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: to challenge y'all to a thirty days of gratitude. What

615
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: we talk back period, so every episode to the end

616
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 1: of the year will mention like something we're grateful for

617
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: and then y'all can also I need to make a

618
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 1: post so y'all can leave us some messages and let

619
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 1: us know what y'all grateful for. We could play it

620
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: on the show, Child Girl with the Yes with the People.

621
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, we definitely want to hear what you guys are

622
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 2: grateful for because that will encourage gratitude and others. I think,

623
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 2: you know, to be reminded of all the good things

624
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 2: that you have despite and sometimes knowing the bad shit

625
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 2: will make you grateful for all the good shit going

626
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 2: through it too.

627
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you know they tell you don't want to

628
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: just forget about stuff, because you forget how far you come, right,

629
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 1: you don't remember where the fuck you're at. Like, I'm

630
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:41,439
Speaker 1: definitely this year could have been better, but it could

631
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:45,440
Speaker 1: have definitely been worse. I am looking forward to twenty

632
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: twenty five, Child, the year number nine. Okay, twenty twenty five.

633
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:56,800
Speaker 2: Me too. I'm definitely this year. I'm gonna get a

634
00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,359
Speaker 2: little vulnerable right now with y'all. This year has been

635
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 2: a hard one for me, you know, like just trying

636
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 2: to be fearless, trying to do the things that I've

637
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 2: been scared to do my entire life, you know, just

638
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:18,399
Speaker 2: stepping out on faith. And earlier I was like I'm

639
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 2: gonna pack all my shit. I'm gonna move to LA

640
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 2: despite all the naysayers, despite what anybody thinks for me,

641
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:32,360
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it. But I realized that I was just,

642
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 2: you know, kind of running from something. You know, I

643
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 2: wasn't and I took the something with me, you know,

644
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 2: I took whatever that was I was running from, got

645
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:43,880
Speaker 2: on the plane, sat in the seat right next to me.

646
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: You bought a ticket.

647
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 2: I bought that motherfucker a ticket when I took all

648
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 2: of that with me, And you know, when I was

649
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 2: sitting there with this broken foot and like, just you know,

650
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 2: I can't do nothing. I had to sit with that thing,

651
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 2: you know. I had to sit with that thing. I

652
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 2: had to lay in bed with that thing. I had

653
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 2: to feel that thing. And I had to realize that

654
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:12,920
Speaker 2: I can't run from my own healing, right. I can't

655
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 2: run from my shame. I can't run from my guilt.

656
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,720
Speaker 2: I have to sit in those things, and I actually

657
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 2: have to work on me. I have to work on

658
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 2: how I communicate with people. I have to work on

659
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 2: my tone. I have to work on understanding that my

660
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 2: words hurt. You know, I can't hurt people with my

661
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:37,760
Speaker 2: words and just because I can't feel the hurt doesn't

662
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 2: mean it don't hurt that other person, you know. So

663
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 2: those are the things I have to I have to.

664
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 2: I had to forgive myself for things that I had,

665
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 2: you know, and I had to, you know, really decide

666
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:59,240
Speaker 2: to take care of myself and not ignore things concerning

667
00:36:59,280 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 2: my health.

668
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 1: I have to like.

669
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 2: Not say oh, I just don't want to talk about it.

670
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,839
Speaker 2: I just don't want to focus on that, thinking like saying, oh,

671
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 2: if I don't focus on it, it ain't real. It's

672
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 2: very real. And I need to like be very present

673
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 2: with my health, you know. So God will sit you down, baby,

674
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 2: let in a real way and make you deal with

675
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:29,240
Speaker 2: the ship that. And I'm so and I'm so grateful.

676
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 2: Like in August September, y'all, I just was like, I

677
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 2: was so I'm about to cry. I was so sad

678
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,719
Speaker 2: and just trying to laugh through the pain, y'all. I

679
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 2: get on here and I'll be telling jokes and all

680
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 2: that shit, but for real, I was hurt. I was

681
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 2: so hurt, and I just can't believe, like God, why me,

682
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:54,879
Speaker 2: I'm trying to do all the things that I'm trying

683
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: to walk in your life and trying to be the

684
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 2: best version of myself. But I had to realize that

685
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 2: he didn't want to be a better version of myself.

686
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 2: He wanted to renew me and that and I had

687
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,919
Speaker 2: to let go of what was and that that was hard.

688
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 2: Letting go of people, letting go of place, is letting

689
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 2: go of things and attitudes. I had to, really and

690
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 2: I'm not done yet. I'm still working out at me.

691
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 2: I'm still yeah, I'm still letting.

692
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 1: Stallion her album, like with the Snakes shedding, like people

693
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 1: saw it as a negative thing. People see snakes as

694
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: a negative thing, but it's actually a good omen because

695
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 1: it's changed. You know what I'm saying, You shedding that

696
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 1: old skin and to get to the new place you

697
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,360
Speaker 1: got to get rid of to owe you, you gotta

698
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:42,319
Speaker 1: do things that's never done, you know. So I do

699
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,919
Speaker 1: a lot of reflection too, man. And it's.

700
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 2: And I had to humble myself in a significant way.

701
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 2: I had to move back home with my mama. Then

702
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 2: I had to go back home with my mama.

703
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: Been there, girl.

704
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,959
Speaker 2: And the crazy part is it's not that I can't

705
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 2: afford to go get another spot. I can go get

706
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 2: a place right now, But I can't, I couldn't walk.

707
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 2: I needed my support system. I needed I had to

708
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 2: say I need y'all, right now, I need your help.

709
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 2: And my attitude was like prior, I don't need nobody.

710
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 2: I got money, I can do whatever I need for myself.

711
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 2: I don't need nobody. God was like, oh, that's what

712
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 2: you think. I'm gonna make you need people with your money.

713
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make you need them. And I was like, Lord,

714
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 2: because me and my mama will bump heads. But it's

715
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 2: been so smooth, it's been so peaceful. It's been so joyous,

716
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 2: like we just being there, laughing and enjoying each other.

717
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 2: And I'm just so grateful for that space to know

718
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 2: that it's possible, you know, like who would have thought

719
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 2: that me and you could exist in this space like that?

720
00:39:54,800 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 2: And nobody did. So I'm so grateful for that, you know,

721
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 2: I'm grateful for that. I'm sorry, I'm rambling, I'm let

722
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,400
Speaker 2: you go, but I just wanted to share that with y'all,

723
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:12,960
Speaker 2: Like whatever storm that you're experiencing, we all gonna have

724
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 2: them highs and lows. And I never saw this coming.

725
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 2: I went to a wedding, you know, I went to

726
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 2: a wedding, think I'm just gonna drink and be merry.

727
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 2: And that situation, just in the blink of them not

728
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: changed my life significantly. And it just wasn't physically, it

729
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 2: was emotionally and it was something I had to go

730
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 2: through and I'm not through it. I'm still sitting in

731
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:35,799
Speaker 2: here in the boot. I go to the doctor of

732
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 2: December fourth, and I need y'all to pray for my

733
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 2: foot that when I go in that they don't tell

734
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 2: me I need a pin in it. But if I do,

735
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:46,920
Speaker 2: it is what it is. I'm gonna have to, you know,

736
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:51,799
Speaker 2: weather that storm. But I know I can do it.

737
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:56,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, man, all the things you could do, all the things, man, Yeah,

738
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: life will have a way of setting your ass to

739
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: fuck down. I have been sat down, and I feel

740
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:04,359
Speaker 1: like my whole thing began like the age of thirty three,

741
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:08,839
Speaker 1: which is a significant number. Right, So from thirty three

742
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:12,399
Speaker 1: up until now, I have been fighting for me. I've

743
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:18,240
Speaker 1: been fighting for my sanity, for my mental health, and bitch,

744
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 1: I'm about to cry, but I'm grateful. I'm still grateful

745
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 1: for the struggle, right because remembering the struggle, remembering where

746
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: I was, I do see the progress right, And I

747
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:36,440
Speaker 1: have a lot of gratitude for where I was, and

748
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: I have a lot more gratitude for where I'm headed at.

749
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 1: I do a lot of shadow work, which I'd be

750
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: sitting in the bathroom with a candlelight looking at myself

751
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,800
Speaker 1: because that's where it starts at. Is never anything outside

752
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: of you, even the people that you meet that you

753
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: think you have problems with. I had a little relationship

754
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 1: go recently and I had to realize that that person

755
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 1: is an aspect of me, right, or was an aspect

756
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 1: of me that I let go. So now that relationship

757
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 1: no longer can exist, and it's okay. And I still

758
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 1: remember that that person. I still remember who I was

759
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:18,399
Speaker 1: when in the friendship with that person, but I'm not

760
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: there anymore, and that and these people will keep trying

761
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:23,800
Speaker 1: to tug you back there, right.

762
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 2: Absolutely, girl, you preach it to the choir with that one.

763
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: I had a similar situation, and I was saying to

764
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 2: myself last night, like I argue with this woman because

765
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 2: we have that same we can she.

766
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 1: Knows these people know where to come at for that

767
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,840
Speaker 1: thing that they need, that fix, the fixing them that

768
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,839
Speaker 1: wants the confrontation, Like I know bitch. I'll argue your

769
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 1: ass down all day. So you want that smoke, come

770
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:52,240
Speaker 1: come over here. But I don't be wanting to smoke.

771
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the thing. I don't want to don't want

772
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 2: to do it. I argued this bitch down the other

773
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 2: day and then after it was done, I did not

774
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: feel good. My vibration was low. I was like, this

775
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 2: is not who I am anymore. This is everything that

776
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 2: I'm fighting not to be. I can't be what I

777
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 2: want to be in a friendship with you right now,

778
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 2: so I have to exit, you know, I have to

779
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 2: exit so I can be this thing I'm trying to be.

780
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 2: And when you have some people in your life for

781
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 2: so long, you feel like they're supposed to be there

782
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 2: because they've been there so long, But that's not true.

783
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 2: Sometimes you got to let go and love people from

784
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 2: a distance and understand that that chapter was a chapter

785
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 2: and it's closed and that's okay.

786
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know I used to. Really it's some relationships

787
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:45,799
Speaker 1: that I feel like I like grieved from, you know,

788
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,040
Speaker 1: grieved over for years. Right. These are friendships with women,

789
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 1: because I'll always be saying like I don't lose friends,

790
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 1: like I literally be taking other people friends, not taking them,

791
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,319
Speaker 1: but I'll make friends with other people. Friends and all

792
00:43:57,320 --> 00:43:58,799
Speaker 1: the people that I love, I like them to all

793
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:02,879
Speaker 1: be together. But I do have some relationships that ended right,

794
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: and I grieve the loss of this person, but I

795
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 1: can't I can't perceive their experience in the relationship with me.

796
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: You know, I don't know. Maybe I was a horrible

797
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:15,839
Speaker 1: person to.

798
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 2: Them, right. You might be a villain in the story.

799
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 1: And I'm okay with that too, because what I do

800
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:27,080
Speaker 1: know that I do in relationships is my best every time,

801
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: no matter what the relationship with my family, the relationships

802
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 1: with my friends, co workers, if I'm workers somewhere like

803
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 1: I an't working nowhere. But you know what I'm saying,

804
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 1: my my romantic relationships, I do my best, so I

805
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 1: could feel okay with however it is and if it

806
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 1: even has to be right, And that's all you could

807
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 1: do is your best, right, that's all you get.

808
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: Sometimes does fall short, and that's okay. We're human and

809
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:58,360
Speaker 2: we're having a human experience and you can just try

810
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 2: to be better the next time, you know, the next

811
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 2: go around. Change behavior is always the best. I'm sorry,

812
00:45:05,239 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 2: you know, So you can't have no rest this man, Yeah,

813
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 2: I mean that's what I'm saying. I been thinking about, like, damn,

814
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 2: if I had made this choice, then I would be

815
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 2: doing this now or you just you can't live there.

816
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: You can change the past by doing better in the future, though,

817
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:27,239
Speaker 1: that's why you change your past, like you can't you

818
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 1: can change the past. You got to do it in

819
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 1: the present. In the future, though, and you look at

820
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 1: it differently. You'll look at the past differently, So you

821
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 1: just got to focus on the present. So we focused

822
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: on I just look at it like.

823
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 2: Even even those mistakes, even those are just in all failures,

824
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:48,800
Speaker 2: all of those are just steps to where you're supposed

825
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 2: to be. You know, these things were meant to happen

826
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 2: for a reason so you could get to your greatness,

827
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:54,480
Speaker 2: whatever that is.

828
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: And I feel like you can't get to your greatness

829
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: without being everything stripped away to owe you. You can't.

830
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: You like, you have to lose everything, hm to even

831
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: get your mind in the space that needs to be

832
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: so you can get to where you want to be.

833
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 1: You do have to lose everything.

834
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

835
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 3: Bitch, that's what I was about to be, like so big,

836
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 3: so huge, because I was stripped the material things friendships,

837
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 3: relations romantic relationships, finances, everything, everything, even walking.

838
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:44,400
Speaker 2: God stripped me down to the bare minimal baby, But

839
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 2: you made it through.

840
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 1: You making it through that you die.

841
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:53,720
Speaker 2: I did not. I did not die. And the woman

842
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 2: who's coming up out of the ashes is so much better.

843
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 2: It is so more, much more grateful, and not for things,

844
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:06,960
Speaker 2: for relationships, for people, for the network that I have.

845
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 2: I have a renewed gratitude for the things that really matter.

846
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: You know, relationships is worth more than gold. It's just

847
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:23,399
Speaker 1: about man. That's my religion, music and relationships. Yeah, that's

848
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 1: what I subscribe to.

849
00:47:25,440 --> 00:47:28,120
Speaker 2: But what are the four a's of gratitude.

850
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 1: So let's see what it says here. Appreciation You just

851
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 1: said we were appreciative for a lot of things. So

852
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: it says recognize and value the positive aspects of your life,

853
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:49,799
Speaker 1: including people, experiences, and blessings. The second A is acknowledgment.

854
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:55,400
Speaker 1: Consciously recognize the good things in your life and feel

855
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 1: thankful for them. I think a lot of times when

856
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 1: people be threatened about like one little small thing that

857
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 1: don't really matter, they're not you're not practicing gratitude. Like

858
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: if you just see the negative about everything.

859
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 2: Right and you can't find no space of nothing to

860
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: be happy about. But baby, I get you know, when

861
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:20,319
Speaker 2: you're in the thick of it, it'd be hard to

862
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:23,440
Speaker 2: find that gratitude sometimes when people be.

863
00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:25,440
Speaker 1: Like, oh, somebody else got it worse, but this is

864
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:28,320
Speaker 1: the bottom for me. I can't comparing my bottom to

865
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: other people. This is my bottom. So yeah, somebody else

866
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: might have it worse, and yes, I can probably think

867
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: about that to make me feel better about my situation,

868
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: but this is still I'm still in it.

869
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 2: I'm still in it right now, and it's hard to

870
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 2: see the light at the end of the tunnel. Yeah,

871
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 2: I get it, But you gotta dig for that gratitude, baby,

872
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 2: You gotta dig somewhere deep to find it, because if

873
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,399
Speaker 2: you sit in that space for too long, you can

874
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 2: turn it to a bitter ass motherfucker. Do you know

875
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 2: people that's just like walking around? Yes, very close to.

876
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 1: Me, absolutely got everything, got everything mad, just mad, just upset,

877
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 1: just angry because you're not practicing gratitude. You mean to

878
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: tell me there's nothing in your life that you're grateful for.

879
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 1: If we just got a name, one thing for thirty days,

880
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 1: I got a million things for each day too, Like

881
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 1: I wake up feeling great. My feet you're hurting a

882
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:24,560
Speaker 1: little bit because I don't get a couple of pounds.

883
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 1: But other than talking about now, I think I got

884
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:35,839
Speaker 1: what is that called flashy itis. Flash I got that,

885
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 1: and you know, I had it some years ago and

886
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 1: and just randomly went away. But it's that, my fucking friend, bitch,

887
00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 1: I might be feeling your pain. I might be feeling

888
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: your pain a little bit. The third A is admiration

889
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 1: compliment people on their traits, skills, or accomplishments. That's one

890
00:49:57,000 --> 00:50:02,440
Speaker 1: way like giving somebody else a Yeah, like, you know,

891
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 1: tell somebody else how what you think of them and

892
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: how wonderful they are, how amazing they are today. Can

893
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 1: we do that?

894
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 2: Yeah? And do it when not looking for a compliment

895
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 2: in return, right, do it just because you know, I

896
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 2: never know what.

897
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 1: To say when somebody says something nice to me. I

898
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 1: just always like.

899
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 2: You are the worst at taking a compliment.

900
00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 1: And that's one of the things I'd be working on.

901
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:30,239
Speaker 1: I'd be working on it, just trying to and I

902
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 1: don't that doesn't come from a place of not feeling

903
00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:33,399
Speaker 1: deserving though.

904
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,160
Speaker 2: It just feels to me you be just trying to

905
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 2: be so humble. Stop. You don't have to be humble,

906
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 2: so humble all the time. But I really I'm.

907
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:45,799
Speaker 1: Really not that humble though, Like I'm humble. I have

908
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 1: a nice I feel like I have a nice level

909
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 1: of all the things. Like it's just like, yeah, if.

910
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 2: I'd be like, that's a pretty dress, this whole thing,

911
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:58,840
Speaker 2: I had it forever, Like you don't have to do that,

912
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:02,320
Speaker 2: just say thank you. You don't have to minimize whatever

913
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 2: it is that's being complimented.

914
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. I still got to work on it

915
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 1: because I still do that, and I feel like that's

916
00:51:07,640 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 1: something that hasn't passed down to me. That's not my thing,

917
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 1: that's not my own thing. A lot of things aren't

918
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 1: our things, but we picked them up somewhere. Yeah, so

919
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 1: recognize them and fix them. And the last a is attention.

920
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 1: Listen to others with patience and attention. I gotta work

921
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 1: on that. I got to work on not responding, smiling

922
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 1: and nodding more often, you know, just you're right, I

923
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:41,320
Speaker 1: hear you, period.

924
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,800
Speaker 2: I see my attitude toward that is what I'm doing

925
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 2: now or I'm trying to do more of is listening

926
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 2: to here and not to respond. Listening to actually be

927
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 2: open into a different perspective and not just listening. So

928
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:07,920
Speaker 2: my till it's my turn to talk, you know, especially

929
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:11,279
Speaker 2: when it's something I'm passionate about, I be like, yeah, yeah,

930
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:13,399
Speaker 2: I already know what you're gonna say, but I do

931
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 2: I really no, I don't. You know, Just let this

932
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 2: person express themselves because you might learn something. You might

933
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 2: get a new perspective, you might get a new idea

934
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:27,800
Speaker 2: about something. So I just try to be more open

935
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:32,400
Speaker 2: to being objective to other perspectives and shut up. Just

936
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 2: shut up. I know I talked back, but I can

937
00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 2: shut up too.

938
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:39,880
Speaker 1: So I definitely listen, and I like to know other

939
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 1: people's perspective about stuff, but I also be wanting people

940
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:47,319
Speaker 1: to hear my perspective. Now, my ego isn't big enough

941
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:50,080
Speaker 1: to want to beat some shit into somebody's brain. So

942
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:51,920
Speaker 1: how I might do it? I might follow up with

943
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 1: additional information. If you are more of a visual learner,

944
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 1: if you need to see something and I feel like

945
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:03,399
Speaker 1: wanting to understand somebody else, that comes with like if

946
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:06,840
Speaker 1: you actually love them and respect them, right, if you

947
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 1: just readily just ready to discard somebody because you don't

948
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 1: understand their perspective. You're not trying to hear what they say.

949
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 1: You're not trying to you're not trying to see it.

950
00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 1: They wait because we don't have to see each other

951
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,879
Speaker 1: shit the same way. We don't have to. But there's

952
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 1: a level of understanding that comes with love and respect though, right,

953
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: I want to understand where you're coming from because I

954
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 1: respect you and I respect your perspective. I want to

955
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 1: see you, but I want the same thing back too, though, right. Yeah,

956
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: So that's I feel like that's what i'd be fighting for.

957
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 1: But the thing is, I gotta be okay with them

958
00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:42,879
Speaker 1: not seeing my perspective and not seeing it my way,

959
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,240
Speaker 1: and it's fine, right.

960
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've definitely I feel like I've mastered that now,

961
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:53,879
Speaker 2: Like I would just be quiet real quick, you got,

962
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:57,560
Speaker 2: and let people say what they how they feel. It's okay,

963
00:53:58,040 --> 00:53:58,319
Speaker 2: you know.

964
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 1: Okay, So how do you practice gratitude? And this is

965
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:09,839
Speaker 1: for this is going to be fire. Thirty days of gratitude.

966
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,839
Speaker 1: So from what we want, it's over thirty days, so

967
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:16,359
Speaker 1: from here to the end of the year, basically until

968
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:18,680
Speaker 1: January one, because then we get into goal setting and

969
00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 1: all that year. Bitch, Look, I got the same goals

970
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 1: from last year. You get this motherfucking patron Okay, when

971
00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:27,959
Speaker 1: I tell you I got so many, there are one

972
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:36,280
Speaker 1: two three million dollar houses on my fucking zoo search. Okay, listen,

973
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 1: and I'm getting one of them. That's just it is

974
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:42,720
Speaker 1: what it is because I said so. So this says

975
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 1: practicing daily gratitude. Ten ways to practice daily gratitude. This

976
00:54:46,080 --> 00:54:51,399
Speaker 1: is from mindful dot org. Okay, so the first thing

977
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 1: it says, keep a gratitude journal. We know this. Write

978
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 1: down all your things right down.

979
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:58,040
Speaker 2: I bought you one.

980
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 1: I have it. It's on the side of my bed. Okay,

981
00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: so maybe I'll write in it.

982
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:07,839
Speaker 2: Okay.

983
00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: It says keep a gratitude journal. Establish a daily practice

984
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 1: in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits,

985
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 1: and good things you enjoy. Recalling moments of gratitude associated

986
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:26,080
Speaker 1: with ordinary events, personal attributes, or valued people in your

987
00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 1: life gives you the potential to interweave a sustainable theme

988
00:55:30,680 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 1: of gratefulness into your life. So write it down. Write

989
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 1: that shit down. Like a couple of weeks ago, I

990
00:55:38,520 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 1: attended a friend of ours. She had a zoom thing

991
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:48,280
Speaker 1: what her group of people is called. Write that shit down. Now.

992
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 1: I wrote that shit down now, and I revisited since

993
00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 1: I wrote that shit down, So I gotta do better.

994
00:55:56,719 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 1: I gotta do better with just being consistent with all things.

995
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 1: Take them a fucking vitamins, Okay, eating properly, working out,

996
00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 1: it's being consistent. But I do have gratitude that I

997
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:10,760
Speaker 1: can wake up and choose if I'm doing it today

998
00:56:10,880 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 1: or not. Right, Thank you God, Thank you God.

999
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 2: I think another way a good practice is, you know,

1000
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:24,520
Speaker 2: instead of waking up and saying, I gotta go to work.

1001
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:25,520
Speaker 1: Today, I get to go.

1002
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 2: I get to go. Yeah, you know, change the way

1003
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 2: you even speak about the things in your life. You know,

1004
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:34,919
Speaker 2: some people don't get to go, you know, but you do.

1005
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:35,600
Speaker 2: You know, so.

1006
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 1: Got changing your programming.

1007
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,760
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah.

1008
00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 1: Number two is remember the bad We said that. So

1009
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 1: to be grateful in your current state, it is helpful

1010
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 1: to remember the hard times that you once experienced. When

1011
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:55,000
Speaker 1: you remember how difficult life used to be and how

1012
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: far you have come, you set up an explicit contrast

1013
00:56:58,719 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 1: in your mind. And this contrast is fertile ground for gratefulness.

1014
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:04,960
Speaker 1: So you almost got to trick your mind, Like is

1015
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: your mind be tricking you? Your subconscious mind really be

1016
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:12,400
Speaker 1: holding on to a bunch of little small thoughts about nothing,

1017
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 1: so not even intrusive, because we intrusive me, like you

1018
00:57:18,040 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: want to do some bad ship, but it's just like.

1019
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 2: Just But sometimes intrusive thoughts can be shipped against.

1020
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:27,960
Speaker 1: Your Yeah this negative yeah right right, negative thoughts about yourself,

1021
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 1: So replace it with something positive. The minutes you start

1022
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 1: thinking about some negative ship, replace it with a positive thought.

1023
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,920
Speaker 1: Just keep doing that until all your thoughts are positive. Like,

1024
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:44,400
Speaker 1: of course you're going to have bad things happen, but

1025
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 1: you can't live there. You can't live there forever. I mean,

1026
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: broke got a couple of weeks.

1027
00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 2: Listen, you can live there, but I advise against it. Man,

1028
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:58,400
Speaker 2: you get there, not a good place.

1029
00:57:58,160 --> 00:58:02,920
Speaker 1: To get out of there. Number three says ask yourself

1030
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 1: three questions, meditating your relationships with parents, friends, siblings, work, associates, children,

1031
00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:17,040
Speaker 1: and partners. Using these three questions, what have I received

1032
00:58:17,080 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 1: from blank? What have I given to blank? And what troubles,

1033
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 1: troubles and difficulty have I caused? Are the three questions

1034
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: you want to ask yourself about the people in your life,

1035
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:35,760
Speaker 1: about the relationships.

1036
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:39,440
Speaker 2: Yep, that's good, And then be like.

1037
00:58:42,320 --> 00:58:44,880
Speaker 1: You got to find a way to be okay. Even

1038
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:48,200
Speaker 1: if you cause something, still be okay with it and

1039
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: do bed and moving forward. Share your gratitude with others.

1040
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:59,600
Speaker 1: So research has found that expressing gratitude can strengthen relationships.

1041
00:58:59,640 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 1: So the next time your partner, friend, or family member

1042
00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:07,360
Speaker 1: does something you appreciate, be sure to let them know. Yeah,

1043
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:11,120
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, I tell them. So I appreciate them

1044
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 1: all day long, you know what I'm saying. Like, if

1045
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 1: I'm grocery shopping, somebody do, Okay, thank you, I appreciate you,

1046
00:59:15,920 --> 00:59:19,280
Speaker 1: Like I think that does something for their day too.

1047
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, And you can tell people you appreciate things that

1048
00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 2: haven't been done for you. I appreciate the things that

1049
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:32,480
Speaker 2: you're doing for others, you know, Like are our friend

1050
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:33,560
Speaker 2: Ebene from the.

1051
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 1: Oh she's her Turkey drive. Yeah, I appreciate Professional home

1052
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 1: Girl Okay, the Professional Homegirl podcast, y'all check her out.

1053
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:44,840
Speaker 1: She's also on Black Effect yep.

1054
00:59:45,360 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 2: So that's you know, it doesn't have to be something

1055
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 2: directly related to them doing things for you. Just knowledge

1056
00:59:52,840 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 2: people for what they're doing for others as well.

1057
00:59:54,680 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 1: Absolutely, come to your sensesber five says, through our senses

1058
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:08,400
Speaker 1: the ability to touch sea, smell tasting. Here we gain

1059
01:00:08,520 --> 01:00:12,080
Speaker 1: an appreciation of what it means to be human and

1060
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 1: of what an incredible miracle it is to be alive.

1061
01:00:15,440 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 1: I don't think y'all realized man could have been somebody

1062
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 1: else would have made it to that damn egg right,

1063
01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 1: seeing through that the sperm that made it back, you

1064
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:27,400
Speaker 1: made it. Seeing through the lens of gratitude. The human

1065
01:00:27,440 --> 01:00:31,520
Speaker 1: body is not only a miraculous construction, but it also

1066
01:00:31,880 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 1: is a gift. So people, he.

1067
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 2: May so sit with that for just a second. You

1068
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:44,240
Speaker 2: got the gift of life, Like, look, you got lucky,

1069
01:00:44,280 --> 01:00:46,280
Speaker 2: you hit the lottery. How many sperm be shooting out

1070
01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:47,120
Speaker 2: there for a.

1071
01:00:47,080 --> 01:00:49,880
Speaker 1: Lot a lot?

1072
01:00:50,120 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 2: And you know, I know.

1073
01:00:52,880 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 1: I have a lot of gratitude for being alive. And

1074
01:00:55,200 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 1: I do think my mom right, because she has reminded

1075
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 1: me a couple of times how she was sitting an

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01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:04,880
Speaker 1: abortion planet as a married woman with two children, about

1077
01:01:04,880 --> 01:01:06,920
Speaker 1: to abort me. And maybe this is why I feel

1078
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:10,439
Speaker 1: so strongly about Yeah, she just told me that, right,

1079
01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 1: And I said, well, that's why i was breach stepping

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01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 1: out that pussy feet first, because I'm supposed to be here.

1081
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:18,560
Speaker 1: I know, I'm supposed to be here for this time,

1082
01:01:20,040 --> 01:01:22,439
Speaker 1: all the things we experiencing now and the stupid shit

1083
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 1: like I know my purpose on this planet. I think

1084
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:28,680
Speaker 1: you also could feel gain gratitude in that way too,

1085
01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:32,560
Speaker 1: just figuring out what your purpose is, right, you know,

1086
01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 1: And a lot of times it takes you got to

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01:01:36,800 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 1: go from from nothing to even to get to that

1088
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 1: place to understand what is your purpose on this planet?

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01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:46,440
Speaker 1: Why are you here? Are you just going to just

1090
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:51,720
Speaker 1: roam around your whole life like just just not knowing?

1091
01:01:53,720 --> 01:01:54,640
Speaker 2: And that's unfortunate.

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01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:59,240
Speaker 1: So because on this planet, unfortunately, this hell realm, if

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01:01:59,280 --> 01:02:01,479
Speaker 1: you don't figure out what you want for your life,

1094
01:02:01,480 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 1: somebody else will and judicial system to just put your

1095
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 1: ass in jail for the rest of it. So be careful,

1096
01:02:11,160 --> 01:02:18,360
Speaker 1: my man. That's you pay them taxes, bitch.

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01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:21,439
Speaker 2: What else is meant?

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01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:29,640
Speaker 1: Use visual reminders because the two primary obstacles to gratefulness

1099
01:02:29,880 --> 01:02:35,280
Speaker 1: are forgetfulness and a lack of mindful awareness. Visual reminders

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01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:39,400
Speaker 1: can serve as cues to trigger thoughts thoughts of gratitude. Oftentimes,

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01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:43,720
Speaker 1: the best visual reminders are other people. I keep saying,

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01:02:43,720 --> 01:02:46,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get me one like a big whiteboard and

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01:02:46,920 --> 01:02:50,160
Speaker 1: just put it in my fucking living room and right

1104
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:53,000
Speaker 1: ship and remove ship as I knock shit off my

1105
01:02:53,080 --> 01:02:56,560
Speaker 1: little list. It might not be for gratitude, but just

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01:02:58,040 --> 01:02:58,680
Speaker 1: so I can stay.

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01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:01,840
Speaker 2: You can for gratitude and half to do.

1108
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 1: But I do be needing to see it because.

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01:03:06,040 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 2: It is for real.

1110
01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:09,040
Speaker 1: For real is out of sight, out of mind for me.

1111
01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:11,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. It might be my autism kicking in sometimes.

1112
01:03:11,520 --> 01:03:12,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1113
01:03:13,120 --> 01:03:15,200
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, I can believe it that up.

1114
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 1: Make a vow to practice gratitude. Research shows that making

1115
01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:25,560
Speaker 1: an oath to perform a behavior increases the likelihood that

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01:03:25,600 --> 01:03:29,600
Speaker 1: the action will be executed. Therefore, write your own gratitude vowel,

1117
01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:32,919
Speaker 1: which could be as simple as I vow I vow

1118
01:03:33,040 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 1: to count my blessings each day and post it somewhere

1119
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:39,800
Speaker 1: where you will be reminded of it every day. You know,

1120
01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:42,479
Speaker 1: people start putting the post its on the bathroom mirror

1121
01:03:42,520 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 1: and so on. I could just see my cat now

1122
01:03:45,640 --> 01:03:48,880
Speaker 1: snatching that shit down. Bitch, I'm trying to get us,

1123
01:03:48,880 --> 01:03:51,120
Speaker 1: I Mansion, what you're doing doing.

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01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:56,280
Speaker 2: I think another good way to perform some gratitude is

1125
01:03:56,320 --> 01:03:59,320
Speaker 2: to kiss yourself in the mirror every day in the morning.

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01:03:59,360 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 2: You don't really have to kiss the mirror and leave

1127
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:04,120
Speaker 2: all lipproots all over your mirror. I can't even get

1128
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 2: close to my mirror without having to climb on the counter.

1129
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:10,960
Speaker 2: But start making love to yourself, you know, not physically.

1130
01:04:11,040 --> 01:04:12,560
Speaker 2: I mean you could do that too, but I mean

1131
01:04:14,800 --> 01:04:18,960
Speaker 2: being grateful is also showing love to yourself, you know.

1132
01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:23,640
Speaker 2: I think it starts there. Yeah. I always like with

1133
01:04:23,720 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 2: my friends sometimes when you be like talking shit to

1134
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:30,920
Speaker 2: yourself or talking ship, I'd be like, be nice to

1135
01:04:30,960 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 2: my friend, and you be like, who are you talking about?

1136
01:04:33,880 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 2: Bitch you talk about? You be nice to her. I

1137
01:04:36,720 --> 01:04:37,280
Speaker 2: don't like that.

1138
01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:41,440
Speaker 1: I know I'd be hard on myself. Man, I'd be

1139
01:04:41,520 --> 01:04:43,640
Speaker 1: real hard on myself. So I do have to replace

1140
01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 1: some negative thoughts a lot throughout the day. Throughout the day,

1141
01:04:48,960 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 1: just as long as you're mindful, right, that's where it starts.

1142
01:04:52,800 --> 01:04:55,200
Speaker 1: You got to recognize the problem before you can fucking

1143
01:04:55,200 --> 01:05:00,000
Speaker 1: fix it. So Number A says, watch your language. Grateful

1144
01:05:00,200 --> 01:05:04,400
Speaker 1: people have a particular linguistic style that uses the language

1145
01:05:04,440 --> 01:05:10,680
Speaker 1: of gifts, givers, blessings, blessed, fortunate, fortunate, and abundance and gratitude.

1146
01:05:10,720 --> 01:05:13,520
Speaker 1: You should not focus on how inherently good you are

1147
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:17,160
Speaker 1: but rather on the inherently good things that others have

1148
01:05:17,280 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 1: done on your behalf. M Anyway, I like all those words.

1149
01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:27,400
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like the word blessed though, because

1150
01:05:27,400 --> 01:05:33,400
Speaker 1: it's be less. So I like bliss All other ones

1151
01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:40,720
Speaker 1: are bless Yeah, that's fine. I like the I like blissings,

1152
01:05:41,160 --> 01:05:45,440
Speaker 1: my blessings. Yeah, you got You definitely got to watch

1153
01:05:45,480 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 1: your mouth, man, you definitely got to watch your mouth.

1154
01:05:48,840 --> 01:05:54,920
Speaker 2: And I always tell people over yourself and everybody else.

1155
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:57,800
Speaker 2: I always tell people that your tongue is a magic wine.

1156
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:01,400
Speaker 2: When people are saying stuff like gative, stuff like I can't,

1157
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:02,640
Speaker 2: I won't, I should.

1158
01:06:02,560 --> 01:06:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm dead.

1159
01:06:03,640 --> 01:06:04,160
Speaker 2: I hate that.

1160
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:08,640
Speaker 1: I hate when I see that in the comments I'm dead.

1161
01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:16,520
Speaker 2: Like, don't speak good carry yourself? Yeah are also I

1162
01:06:16,560 --> 01:06:19,520
Speaker 2: don't like demon time don't I don't do nothing? Demon

1163
01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:26,080
Speaker 2: don't slowly? Yeah I've been going out. Yeah, don't do that.

1164
01:06:26,280 --> 01:06:29,680
Speaker 2: I hate that. Yeah. So your tongue is a wind.

1165
01:06:29,800 --> 01:06:33,320
Speaker 2: Remember that. Speak blessings over yourself, for blessings or whatever

1166
01:06:33,360 --> 01:06:37,880
Speaker 2: you have, speak that over yourself and everybody around you.

1167
01:06:38,400 --> 01:06:42,600
Speaker 1: So when people say have a blest day, it's usually

1168
01:06:42,600 --> 01:06:45,200
Speaker 1: them being real condescending and like they don't really mean

1169
01:06:45,240 --> 01:06:46,920
Speaker 1: for you to have a blessed day. That's why I'm like,

1170
01:06:46,960 --> 01:06:49,600
Speaker 1: don't tell me to have a blessed day, because you're

1171
01:06:49,600 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 1: telling me that, you're telling me to be less today.

1172
01:06:53,760 --> 01:06:59,840
Speaker 2: Well that's not how you come before the eat. Huh

1173
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:02,480
Speaker 2: b less is b E l E S S.

1174
01:07:02,560 --> 01:07:04,520
Speaker 1: Well just b you're not putting the E in there,

1175
01:07:04,680 --> 01:07:07,439
Speaker 1: So B L E S S.

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01:07:08,000 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 2: This is all about perspective because.

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01:07:10,040 --> 01:07:12,800
Speaker 1: The English language was a big ass curse in itself.

1178
01:07:12,840 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 1: So a lot of times like people be talking about

1179
01:07:15,040 --> 01:07:18,040
Speaker 1: motherfucker saying grand rising or because people don't want to

1180
01:07:18,040 --> 01:07:22,280
Speaker 1: say good morning anymore because morning means morning, like you're

1181
01:07:22,320 --> 01:07:25,600
Speaker 1: waking up mourning some shit. M Oh you are I

1182
01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 1: ng m Oh you are n I NG mourning. So

1183
01:07:33,640 --> 01:07:34,760
Speaker 1: I mean when I.

1184
01:07:34,720 --> 01:07:38,560
Speaker 2: Tell somebody, uh, be blessed or have a blessed day,

1185
01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:40,600
Speaker 2: I mean it in the most positive. Even when you.

1186
01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:42,920
Speaker 1: Argue with somebody, you ain't ever say have a blessing.

1187
01:07:42,880 --> 01:07:45,320
Speaker 2: I don't say that when I'm arguing a lot of

1188
01:07:45,360 --> 01:07:47,400
Speaker 2: people don't tell them to have a good day. Have

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01:07:47,440 --> 01:07:48,040
Speaker 2: a good day.

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01:07:47,920 --> 01:07:51,120
Speaker 1: Them church, But that means about a blessed day real quick,

1191
01:07:51,560 --> 01:07:59,800
Speaker 1: have a blessed day.

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01:07:56,600 --> 01:07:59,160
Speaker 2: And I'll say have a good day, good day, But

1193
01:07:59,200 --> 01:08:02,680
Speaker 2: do you really mean that? Yeah, because I'm about to go.

1194
01:08:02,760 --> 01:08:03,920
Speaker 2: That means I'm about to exit.

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01:08:04,040 --> 01:08:08,120
Speaker 1: I like to say, how the day you deserve? Yeah,

1196
01:08:08,360 --> 01:08:10,720
Speaker 1: go have the day you deserve to have.

1197
01:08:12,560 --> 01:08:16,240
Speaker 2: But I just even even still, it just I don't anytime.

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01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:18,759
Speaker 2: At this point, I feel like when I wish negative

1199
01:08:18,800 --> 01:08:21,680
Speaker 2: on people, I'm wishing it on myself. You know, when

1200
01:08:21,680 --> 01:08:24,920
Speaker 2: I offer negative people, I'm offering it to myself. So

1201
01:08:25,040 --> 01:08:27,800
Speaker 2: I having the day you deserve, I hope it's good

1202
01:08:28,200 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 2: because I want a good day. You know, be blessed

1203
01:08:31,400 --> 01:08:34,639
Speaker 2: because I want to be blessed. It's a circle everything

1204
01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:37,639
Speaker 2: I'm finding like when I do when I do bad shit,

1205
01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:39,679
Speaker 2: bad shit happened to me. When I do good shit,

1206
01:08:39,760 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 2: good shit happens to me. When I give, I get gotasy.

1207
01:08:42,280 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 1: That is that is so easy, isn't it. Yeah, that's

1208
01:08:46,560 --> 01:08:49,000
Speaker 1: a hard concept for a lot of people to grasp.

1209
01:08:50,560 --> 01:08:51,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1210
01:08:51,880 --> 01:08:56,080
Speaker 1: Number nine is go through the motions. Grateful emotions include smiling,

1211
01:08:56,640 --> 01:09:01,240
Speaker 1: saying thank you, writing letters of gratitude. By going through

1212
01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:10,000
Speaker 1: grateful emotions, you'll trigger the emotion of gratitude more often. Yeah, man, smout, smile.

1213
01:09:10,240 --> 01:09:14,240
Speaker 2: Be nice, be nice to be both they thank you.

1214
01:09:14,240 --> 01:09:16,519
Speaker 1: You know. I go to fast food restaurants and well,

1215
01:09:16,720 --> 01:09:20,800
Speaker 1: not for real, but just Chick fil a is the

1216
01:09:20,800 --> 01:09:24,800
Speaker 1: only place that it is nice. I like apple pies

1217
01:09:24,840 --> 01:09:27,960
Speaker 1: from Popeyes, and the customer service is deplorable. Like why

1218
01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:31,520
Speaker 1: am I saying thank you to you and I appreciate

1219
01:09:31,600 --> 01:09:34,920
Speaker 1: to you, but you slamming my fucking apple pies on

1220
01:09:34,960 --> 01:09:41,240
Speaker 1: the counter. They not practicing gratitude.

1221
01:09:42,080 --> 01:09:44,320
Speaker 2: They're not. They're not, but they might be having a

1222
01:09:44,320 --> 01:09:46,040
Speaker 2: hard day. I always just try to be like they

1223
01:09:46,120 --> 01:09:48,840
Speaker 2: might have Who knows they could have shipped their pasts

1224
01:09:48,840 --> 01:09:52,679
Speaker 2: this morning. Who knows what happened. I don't. I don't

1225
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:54,439
Speaker 2: know what happened to them, So I'm not I don't

1226
01:09:54,439 --> 01:09:56,800
Speaker 2: take it personal. I just give the energy that I

1227
01:09:56,840 --> 01:09:59,400
Speaker 2: want in return and hopefully expread, you know.

1228
01:10:00,240 --> 01:10:03,519
Speaker 1: But I feel like that's a good example of why

1229
01:10:03,640 --> 01:10:07,000
Speaker 1: people aren't having the things they think they're supposed to

1230
01:10:07,080 --> 01:10:10,639
Speaker 1: have and aren't doing the things that they think they're

1231
01:10:10,680 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 1: supposed to be doing. Because your attitude sucks no matter

1232
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:18,679
Speaker 1: what you're doing, like, you gotta do it happily.

1233
01:10:20,360 --> 01:10:22,400
Speaker 2: And I you know what, I talk to everybody like

1234
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:25,720
Speaker 2: I know them, everybody our encounter. I treat them like

1235
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:27,519
Speaker 2: I already met them a long time ago. How are

1236
01:10:27,520 --> 01:10:29,559
Speaker 2: your mama doing? I ain't never met your mama in

1237
01:10:29,560 --> 01:10:31,639
Speaker 2: the day in my life? You doing?

1238
01:10:32,080 --> 01:10:32,320
Speaker 1: You know?

1239
01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:35,800
Speaker 2: So That's how I encountered the world, all right.

1240
01:10:35,800 --> 01:10:38,040
Speaker 1: And so the last one is think outside the box.

1241
01:10:38,080 --> 01:10:40,880
Speaker 1: If you want to make the most out of opportunities

1242
01:10:41,160 --> 01:10:45,960
Speaker 1: to flex your gratitude muscles, you must look creatively. Creativity.

1243
01:10:46,600 --> 01:10:57,360
Speaker 1: Creativity creatively is that what creating? What you're creatively creative? Like?

1244
01:10:57,439 --> 01:11:02,640
Speaker 1: Get you tongue coming in? Uh? Creatively for new situations

1245
01:11:02,760 --> 01:11:07,640
Speaker 1: and circumstances in which to feel grateful. Please share the

1246
01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:11,360
Speaker 1: creative ways you found to help you to help you

1247
01:11:11,400 --> 01:11:15,680
Speaker 1: practice gratitude. Think outside the box. If you want to

1248
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:18,639
Speaker 1: make the most out of opportunities stuff like, you must

1249
01:11:18,640 --> 01:11:20,920
Speaker 1: look at them. I don't know, So how are you

1250
01:11:20,920 --> 01:11:25,360
Speaker 1: gonna think outside the box to? I don't know why

1251
01:11:25,400 --> 01:11:28,439
Speaker 1: they even added that number ten, but it's there. This

1252
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:31,960
Speaker 1: is on mindful dot org Healthy mind, Healthy Life.

1253
01:11:33,320 --> 01:11:33,679
Speaker 2: Amen.

1254
01:11:33,880 --> 01:11:36,920
Speaker 1: Like that I wanted to they got that trademark. Yeah.

1255
01:11:37,040 --> 01:11:39,200
Speaker 2: I hope you all apply some of this to your

1256
01:11:39,240 --> 01:11:43,599
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving if you're listening today, because it is Thanksgiving. When

1257
01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:46,599
Speaker 2: you hear this, and I hope you apply this to

1258
01:11:46,760 --> 01:11:50,160
Speaker 2: your everyday life and at least the next thirty days,

1259
01:11:50,920 --> 01:11:53,320
Speaker 2: you know, while we practice gratitude for the rest of

1260
01:11:53,320 --> 01:11:55,640
Speaker 2: the year. Really, you know, we're gonna practice gratitude and

1261
01:11:55,680 --> 01:11:58,679
Speaker 2: we're gonna come on the show every Thursday and share

1262
01:11:58,760 --> 01:12:01,120
Speaker 2: something that we're grateful for. And we hope that you

1263
01:12:01,160 --> 01:12:04,320
Speaker 2: share your things with us, sliding our dms and tell us.

1264
01:12:04,320 --> 01:12:06,760
Speaker 1: Y'all better be grateful for me. I see a lot

1265
01:12:06,760 --> 01:12:09,600
Speaker 1: of y'all ain't, but you better be.

1266
01:12:08,760 --> 01:12:13,400
Speaker 2: Because I'm gonna say if I if they.

1267
01:12:13,240 --> 01:12:16,120
Speaker 1: Ain't, I'm had to save your life. I ain't the enemy.

1268
01:12:16,760 --> 01:12:20,600
Speaker 1: I'm had to save you, man.

1269
01:12:20,640 --> 01:12:23,599
Speaker 2: And I'm here to love you. You got any last last?

1270
01:12:23,680 --> 01:12:24,679
Speaker 1: That's it. That was it.

1271
01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:30,200
Speaker 2: That's your last last? All right, and be married, guys,

1272
01:12:31,080 --> 01:12:34,360
Speaker 2: enjoy your days, enjoy your week, and we love y'all

1273
01:12:34,360 --> 01:12:37,439
Speaker 2: and we'll see y'all next Thursday, for sure, God willing.

1274
01:12:37,520 --> 01:12:39,760
Speaker 1: So if you enjoy this episode, y'all tune in every

1275
01:12:39,760 --> 01:12:42,280
Speaker 1: Thursday on The Black Effect. iHeartRadio Apple Where but the

1276
01:12:42,280 --> 01:12:46,120
Speaker 1: fuck you get your podcast at? This is your mindful Queen.

1277
01:12:46,640 --> 01:12:53,799
Speaker 1: A J Holiday two point on Instagrams kicking Tam.

1278
01:12:52,240 --> 01:12:56,720
Speaker 2: Y'all is official Tam bam On and Christa Graham on Instagram.

1279
01:12:56,840 --> 01:13:00,559
Speaker 2: I love y'all so much. Speak now and never hold

1280
01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 2: your gratitude, Amen Deuces.

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01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:11,360
Speaker 1: For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

1282
01:13:11,479 --> 01:13:13,600
Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.