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Speaker 1: that good stuff Arlene and Alex today coming in through
Speaker 1: because today, okay, I want to do something I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I always want to do something different, but I want
Speaker 1: to hit up like real topics. And I always want
Speaker 1: to talk about relationships because I feel like I can't
Speaker 1: gomost this, can't figure it to get it right.
Speaker 2: You can't figure it out, you know what I.
Speaker 1: Just think I'm stressed out because it's just too much
Speaker 1: going on. I'm in the middle of a lawsuit. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to you know, start dating and getting you know,
Speaker 1: get back to the streets. I have a lot of
Speaker 1: pressure from society. I have things going on in my household.
Speaker 1: There's just too much that I'm stressed out. That's why
Speaker 1: I want to vent with you guys. On today's episode,
Speaker 1: we'll be discussing the challenges of dating someone who is
Speaker 1: still well it's not still in a relationship, but has
Speaker 1: unresolved issues with their ex.
Speaker 2: I now, some of y'all can relate. I know that's right.
Speaker 2: What do you do? How do you go around it?
Speaker 1: And I'm going to break it down for you in
Speaker 1: a second as far as for example, have you ever
Speaker 1: started a relationship where somewhat their ex still isn't over them.
Speaker 1: They continuously figure out ways to get involved in your
Speaker 1: new relationship, whether they have comments or even if they
Speaker 1: have children together, and they use their children as a
Speaker 1: weapon between the father and the mother.
Speaker 2: Arlene, have you ever been in a situation like this?
Speaker 2: Who a mata? Where do I start?
Speaker 3: I want to hear it. I start at this point, I.
Speaker 4: Mean, I'm a little older than y'all, so I dated
Speaker 4: a lot. So there's a lot of baggage that I've
Speaker 4: been carried throughout the years. I don't know about if
Speaker 4: XES wanted to be up in my business, but I
Speaker 4: did carry a lot of baggage from past experiences.
Speaker 1: Well, at least you're honest, and we got to be
Speaker 1: thankful for your honesty because a lot of women out
Speaker 1: here aren't honest about the things that they be doing,
Speaker 1: including their fake pages on social media to start commenting
Speaker 1: to the next girl, and you know, trying to put
Speaker 1: all types Yes, I've said it, I've heard it.
Speaker 2: And in my past, I did.
Speaker 1: You know, go through an experience like that where the
Speaker 1: person that I was dating their ex would you have
Speaker 1: like a fake page, and she would talk all types
Speaker 1: of bullsh shit to me and try to send me
Speaker 1: pictures of them together, like old pictures of them together.
Speaker 1: And you know, he even had to show me on
Speaker 1: his phone like the dates of when that picture happened.
Speaker 1: That later on, I was like, why the hell do
Speaker 1: you still have those pictures? And that's another thing too.
Speaker 1: I know that today I'm all over the place, but
Speaker 1: that just brought me up to a good point. When
Speaker 1: you break up with someone, are you supposed to delete
Speaker 1: other pictures and everything that came with them from the past,
Speaker 1: or are you still supposed to save them? Like if
Speaker 1: you guys have romantic pictures from when you were dating,
Speaker 1: or like nudes or like sex videos or whatever, do
Speaker 1: you keep that or you delete it?
Speaker 5: Once a relationships, that's important, that's super important because you
Speaker 5: know what people in today's age tend to say that
Speaker 5: they got rid of it, But listen, personally, I've seen
Speaker 5: people say, like, being these relationships that break up and
Speaker 5: then they have complete access still to everything that was
Speaker 5: sent between each other. They never deleted it. And I've
Speaker 5: seen them put that they've deleted it and have it,
Speaker 5: and something.
Speaker 3: Goes with me.
Speaker 5: I've seen people tell me, oh, yeah, I don't have
Speaker 5: that anymore, and then their friends tell.
Speaker 3: Me, oh, by the way, I'm like, oh really.
Speaker 2: Exactly, So that's my thing. Do you delete it? Do
Speaker 2: you keep it? What do you do with all the memories?
Speaker 1: Let's just say, you know, there's like memories, whether it's pictures, videos,
Speaker 1: or whatever, what about it. There's like material things, you know,
Speaker 1: this sweater, this clothes, these shoes, these things that you
Speaker 1: you know that remind me of you, that you gave me,
Speaker 1: that you bought for me, whatever it is, I just
Speaker 1: want to know.
Speaker 2: Are you supposed to keep.
Speaker 1: It, give it away, delete the videos, keep the videos.
Speaker 1: Does it make a difference. Should we be you know,
Speaker 1: grown enough adults enough to not care, or because we
Speaker 1: live in an era where everybody wants to have receipts.
Speaker 2: I got proof, I got the real thing.
Speaker 1: So this girl used to send me old videos that
Speaker 1: in the moment, I was like, oh my god, I
Speaker 1: can't believe we're just with the skank. And then he
Speaker 1: was like, no, that's oh that's not what she said.
Speaker 1: So he want to show me in his phone all
Speaker 1: the way back in his gallery when the picture was say.
Speaker 1: But in the process, I saw a whole bunch of
Speaker 1: stuff that I'm like, why do you still even have this?
Speaker 1: Because I don't have it, Like I be deleting, Like
Speaker 1: once it's done, I don't even want to remember that
Speaker 1: I ever had anything to do with you, Like you
Speaker 1: don't even exist.
Speaker 2: I it's done, is over.
Speaker 1: I don't need any of those memories, especially if they
Speaker 1: were like nude or like you know, sexy videos and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. It is a rap, but you can't
Speaker 1: trust it. There has to be a way of coping
Speaker 1: with that, like just understanding to let it go, you know.
Speaker 2: And I think that also comes with insecurity.
Speaker 1: It comes with maturity, understanding your value, Understanding that you
Speaker 1: don't have to beg anyone to love you, to care
Speaker 1: for you, to want you.
Speaker 2: And if someone tells you that they.
Speaker 1: Don't want you once, don't make them tell you more
Speaker 1: than once that they don't want you. It's like, I
Speaker 1: feel like love now has become so toxic and we
Speaker 1: become so territorial over the people that we're with that
Speaker 1: we've lost the point where we realize are worth I
Speaker 1: think that's the most important part.
Speaker 2: Realize your worth worthy of.
Speaker 1: So much that if you don't want me, there's so
Speaker 1: many other people that would love to be with me.
Speaker 1: If you and I don't work out as much as
Speaker 1: we may try, there's somebody out there that will give
Speaker 1: me everything that you're not.
Speaker 2: And sometimes you have to be okay with being by yourself.
Speaker 2: Like I am right now.
Speaker 1: I enjoy I enjoy my piece, I enjoy my Space,
Speaker 1: I enjoy my liberty, I enjoy going out on dates
Speaker 1: with no serious commitment. Till we figure things out, like
Speaker 1: take things slow, and I just feel like if things
Speaker 1: don't work out, they didn't work out for a reason.
Speaker 1: You don't have to stay in the picture like a stalker, like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm already moving on, but I mun still be like
Speaker 1: looking out to see what.
Speaker 2: My ex is doing.
Speaker 1: See saka well, saka well, That's how I feel. However,
Speaker 1: here comes a very important factor. What do you do
Speaker 1: if you're ex and you have children together, if you
Speaker 1: have children in common?
Speaker 2: How do you deal with that? Alex?
Speaker 1: How do you deal with not being spiteful without you know,
Speaker 1: not using your kids as a weapon between both of y'all?
Speaker 2: How do you deal with that?
Speaker 3: See?
Speaker 5: For me, when my X ray started dating again, For
Speaker 5: me it was different. For me, it was I wanted
Speaker 5: to make sure that the kids were with someone who
Speaker 5: was safe, right. I never was the one to be like, oh,
Speaker 5: who is he questioning?
Speaker 3: What does he do? Where is he coming from? Blah
Speaker 3: blah blah.
Speaker 5: For me, it was always like, huh, when they're you
Speaker 5: know who this person is, how they're going to act
Speaker 5: around my kids?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: And I have two daughters, so I'm even more protective.
Speaker 3: You know, you never know right walking up into the house.
Speaker 1: But the thing about it is that when you are
Speaker 1: a public figure, and I'm not saying I'm just having,
Speaker 1: you know, generic conversation, but when you are a public figure,
Speaker 1: things just become so much bigger and people just zoom
Speaker 1: into your life in a way that they don't do
Speaker 1: with obviously someone who's not in the spotlight. So yes,
Speaker 1: it may make it a little bit more difficult, or
Speaker 1: more obvious, or more whatever. I am very respectful when
Speaker 1: it comes to people that have had children in common.
Speaker 1: It's like, no matter how much I may like you
Speaker 1: or whatever, I respect the mother of your children.
Speaker 2: I understand that she was there before me.
Speaker 1: I understand that she takes a very important role because
Speaker 1: she is taking care and raising your children that came
Speaker 1: out of both of y'all that you guys made together,
Speaker 1: and I am new into the picture. I've always been
Speaker 1: that type of person. If I am dating someone that
Speaker 1: has children, I am the type of person that I'm
Speaker 1: always very open minded into having a conversation with your ex.
Speaker 1: Only if you guys have children in common, not if
Speaker 1: this is your extra years ago as ericomigo, but if
Speaker 1: your ex which will remain to be in your life
Speaker 1: for the rest of your life, because you guys have
Speaker 1: children in common.
Speaker 2: And I'm in the picture.
Speaker 1: If you ever want to sit down and have a
Speaker 1: conversation with me, you want to know where I come from,
Speaker 1: who I am, what do I do? So you say,
Speaker 1: you know, if I'm into drugs, if I'm crazy, if
Speaker 1: I'm whatever.
Speaker 2: I want to make you.
Speaker 1: Feel comfortable enough because I understand that your children will
Speaker 1: now be in my space because now I am dating
Speaker 1: the father or whatever. I would ask this more because
Speaker 1: Alex has already been there. When you divorced your ex
Speaker 1: wife and then you got with your new wife, did
Speaker 1: your ex and your new wife ever meet or had
Speaker 1: a conversation or did you put it together?
Speaker 2: Has this ever happened?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, you got you gotta have that. You
Speaker 3: got to have that.
Speaker 5: So, for instance, I never introduced anyone to my daughters
Speaker 5: when I was dating right when me and my ex
Speaker 5: got divorced or whatever. They never met anyone when I
Speaker 5: was dating someone for about a year and a half,
Speaker 5: and that's when I finally introduced them to this person.
Speaker 5: That's the only woman from my exes that they ever met.
Speaker 5: She was kind, she was loving, she took care of
Speaker 5: my children. You know, she didn't have to, she was
Speaker 5: She was there for them, which was something comforting for me.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 5: So I've had the I've had the pleasure of being
Speaker 5: with someone one that completely loves them, has seen them
Speaker 5: grow up, and you know, they're women now, they're nineteen
Speaker 5: and twenty one. Yeah, so they are they're grown ups now.
Speaker 3: You know. I had my.
Speaker 5: Kids very very young. It was difficult for me as
Speaker 5: a single dad to meet women when I was divorced
Speaker 5: and have my kids anywhere near them, especially since I
Speaker 5: was a very very protective of them. And number two,
Speaker 5: I don't know what is going on through someone's mind.
Speaker 5: I know my ex was always very adamant, like like,
Speaker 5: who are these women?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 5: Are you know, because they would my kids would come
Speaker 5: home and be like, oh, daddy was talking someone because
Speaker 5: they might have stopped by and said hello to me,
Speaker 5: And when they did, they would go home, Oh we
Speaker 5: met daddy.
Speaker 2: You know, and that was starting.
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, And it was less It was less about
Speaker 5: the oh, I'm jealous because I still like him because
Speaker 5: she had already moved on.
Speaker 3: It was more like the protective issue.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 5: So that's something I throw to you. I know that
Speaker 5: you're in the limelight. So that's very difficult to navigate.
Speaker 2: It is very difficult.
Speaker 1: I haven't been in a situation at this moment where
Speaker 1: I have to feel like I need to explain to
Speaker 1: anyone or anybody. You know, I am the mother and
Speaker 1: father of my children, so therefore I make the best
Speaker 1: decisions for them. At this moment, they are small and
Speaker 1: they don't really know the difference too much. Once they
Speaker 1: start to clearly understand, I will be very very protective
Speaker 1: and very respectful, and I will treat it accordingly as
Speaker 1: far as who they get to meet and when they
Speaker 1: get to meet, Which brings me back to this question.
Speaker 1: How do you know when it's the right person that
Speaker 1: you can introduce them to your children? Because you could
Speaker 1: be dating and you really like this person and it's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I really think there's going to be
Speaker 1: a thing. How long before you introduce them to your
Speaker 1: children and be like yo, this is because what you
Speaker 1: don't want to do is be dating someone. We're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is the one and they be like oh over.
Speaker 1: Then you come back to dating someone else. Oh look
Speaker 1: meet this person. Oh it's over. Because they can be
Speaker 1: very confusing for the children, it can lead traumas. They
Speaker 1: may not understand what's going on. They may emotionally become
Speaker 1: attached to this person that once you guys break up
Speaker 1: as adults, it affects their well being as well.
Speaker 2: So when do you introduce them? How do you even
Speaker 2: do that?
Speaker 1: Because I thought about it, My girls are small. Eventually
Speaker 1: I will have to solidify my relationship because.
Speaker 2: Right now I'm dating.
Speaker 1: I just got out into being open minded enough to
Speaker 1: even start going out on dates. You guys know that
Speaker 1: I've been very vocal about being celibate and the traumas
Speaker 1: that I've had after childbirth and how I'm not prepared
Speaker 1: to move forward in the physical aspect. Mentally, I am
Speaker 1: opening my mind into understanding that I'm still young and
Speaker 1: I deserve to be loved, and you know, life goes
Speaker 1: on right. Everybody has their own healing process. But eventually,
Speaker 1: my girls are going to have to eat someone and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to date someone. So how do I
Speaker 1: know when to be like and then also understand Mommy
Speaker 1: is dating this person.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that this is your new stepdaddy, you know.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that this is your near father figure
Speaker 1: at this moment, Mommy, the adult.
Speaker 2: This person likes this person, new friend, this new friend.
Speaker 1: Because I've also seen women that have their dog, their kids,
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, as soon as they start dating,
Speaker 1: calling the you know, their boyfriend's daddy and all types
Speaker 1: of like and that's very confusing.
Speaker 2: It's just so much.
Speaker 6: I know that right now you're in a situation, you're dating,
Speaker 6: doing a little dating, You're dabbing your.
Speaker 2: Toes a little bit. How's the dating life going?
Speaker 4: And are you now reluctant to even.
Speaker 2: Get out there?
Speaker 4: Is what's going on in your life right now making
Speaker 4: you feel like, damn, should I get back into Michael Koh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just go ahead and hide again. You know
Speaker 1: what I enjoy going out in dinners. I enjoy life experiences.
Speaker 1: I enjoy the morning text messages and being told that
Speaker 1: you're beautiful and missing someone. You know that process in
Speaker 1: the beginning of like, damn, I can't wait till you
Speaker 1: know you wake up and the first thing you look
Speaker 1: is look at their message to see if they hit
Speaker 1: you up first.
Speaker 2: And you know, all that journey is such a.
Speaker 1: Beautiful experience that I feel that sometimes once you feel
Speaker 1: that you already have somebody solid, you've been with them
Speaker 1: for years, you lose that, you know, And I love
Speaker 1: the dating process. I feel that once you have sex,
Speaker 1: which is normal, is natural. Everybody loves to have sex,
Speaker 1: go for it. But I feel that sometimes sex changes
Speaker 1: the energy of things, It changes the rout of things.
Speaker 1: That's why I feel like people should date, get to
Speaker 1: know each other. Like back in the days, people used
Speaker 1: to go on long dates and you know, the popcasts
Speaker 1: right in front of your door before you go in,
Speaker 1: and like, I love that journey. I'm a little bit
Speaker 1: traditional in old school in that process, and I feel
Speaker 1: that once it happens, it happens, you know. Like I said,
Speaker 1: I know that once I physically give myself to someone,
Speaker 1: things are going to change and it's going to be
Speaker 1: like you know, I don't know, maybe it does, and
Speaker 1: maybe you know, because people do it like a hobby
Speaker 1: these days. It doesn't even have to mean anything. It
Speaker 1: just means you know, I wanted you want it, We
Speaker 1: got it in all right?
Speaker 2: Then bye. I'm not built like that.
Speaker 1: I respect everybody who you know is open minded and
Speaker 1: is down with it.
Speaker 6: I'm just not that girl. Do you think partners are
Speaker 6: more jealous because of everything that they see on social media,
Speaker 6: like if their baby daddy is online with someone new,
Speaker 6: do you think social media is playing a part in that,
Speaker 6: because I would imagine that's hard to see your baby
Speaker 6: daddy with another person, especially if they're attractive and they're
Speaker 6: posting these you know, elaborated pictures together.
Speaker 1: And if they're having a good life and a good time.
Speaker 1: Of course, there's a part of you, no matter how
Speaker 1: much you say it doesn't bother you that you feel like, damn, like,
Speaker 1: why didn't you do that with me? You know, why
Speaker 1: are you becoming the better version of you for someone else?
Speaker 1: I got to put up with all your bull you know,
Speaker 1: your bs, and then this other person gets to get
Speaker 1: the best version of you. I polished you, I cleaned
Speaker 1: you up, I I made you mature. I made you,
Speaker 1: you know, go to school or have a better job,
Speaker 1: or you know, physically become more attractive for someone else.
Speaker 2: But you couldn't do that for me.
Speaker 1: And I think it's important that we understand that sometimes
Speaker 1: we're not meant to be in a forever relationship with someone.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we're just there to build from and for each other.
Speaker 1: The way that I handle that is that I avoid
Speaker 1: looking at anything related to any of my exes. I
Speaker 1: avoid any social media content. My friends and family know
Speaker 1: not to send me anything. Don't mention to me, oh
Speaker 1: I saw this first.
Speaker 2: I don't care.
Speaker 1: Just don't because it will bring somewhat of a little something.
Speaker 1: Not in all relationships, because some of the ex relationship
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I don't care, some still linger a
Speaker 1: little bit somewhere in the back of your heart for
Speaker 1: half a second, and it might just be like going, damn,
Speaker 1: that's okay, you know whatever, especially if you haven't found
Speaker 1: somebody else or if you haven't been able to move on.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it can be very difficult, and I think
Speaker 1: it's important for us to understand each other's feelings.
Speaker 2: You know, Let's not be disrespectful.
Speaker 1: Let's not be harsh on someone who once upon a
Speaker 1: time cared for you, loved for you know, had love
Speaker 1: for you, and now that you've moved on, you just
Speaker 1: want to act like their feelings don't count. It doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that that's any of your business because your feelings
Speaker 1: are yours. You got to handle your own feelings batter
Speaker 1: you know, be cordial, like you know, I get it.
Speaker 1: Let's not be extra disrespectful because men will do that too,
Speaker 1: and women will do that too. They'll be all, you know,
Speaker 1: extra sexy, grinding all up.
Speaker 2: On their new you know, partner, and doing all.
Speaker 1: That extra stuff that you weren't doing before, trying to
Speaker 1: be spiteful because you know they're watching. Honestly, you know
Speaker 1: that recently there was a TV interview where they were
Speaker 1: saying that I was fast. Wasn't she just with her
Speaker 1: baby daddy and look at her now moving on to
Speaker 1: someone else. I'm gonna excuse me pause, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: speak generic because I don't want to make it about
Speaker 1: my situation. But in many occasions, while the woman is
Speaker 1: still in the relationship, the man is already having affairs
Speaker 1: with several different women, and you're still there holding onto
Speaker 1: things and being you know, forgiving them, thinking that they
Speaker 1: can change. I'm not saying it's about me, but it
Speaker 1: sounds very familiar. So, you know something, they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, you moved on, Yeah, but this person had
Speaker 1: already moved on while we were together, with several, not one,
Speaker 1: but with several, you know, And at some point you
Speaker 1: have to realize who you are and pick up your
Speaker 1: worth in your in yourself and be like nah, I
Speaker 1: can't continue to forgive. I can't continue to stay here
Speaker 1: because this is never gonna change, and if they know
Speaker 1: that you're willing to put up with it, they will
Speaker 1: continue to do it. So even if you love someone,
Speaker 1: because at one point I left a situation that I
Speaker 1: was in loving this person to the core of me
Speaker 1: being depressed, crying like the love of my life, and
Speaker 1: I had to get away from that situation because of
Speaker 1: me and my self worth, like I can't allow you
Speaker 1: to step on me like I'm not worthy. I think
Speaker 1: that's very important for people to know and do because
Speaker 1: you stay in relationships and you stay in situations that
Speaker 1: you know that you don't belong there, but you still
Speaker 1: stay out of that loyalty thing. So anyways, I don't
Speaker 1: I think that you know, once something is dead, you
Speaker 1: have the right to move forward. You don't have to
Speaker 1: be stick around or like nobody has died. You know
Speaker 1: nobody has died that you like, oh, I have to
Speaker 1: stay here for the next twenty thirty days and just
Speaker 1: you know, cry and be and suffer.
Speaker 2: No, if you want to move on with your life,
Speaker 2: you do that.
Speaker 1: And I think that I've done a good job because
Speaker 1: I've waited many months, almost yeah, practically a year almost.
Speaker 2: Two finally decide to start dating.
Speaker 1: And I focus on myself, my health, my body, my business,
Speaker 1: my career. I've focused on being the best mother I
Speaker 1: can be, and now I want to get back to
Speaker 1: being myself and I don't want to lose myself in
Speaker 1: the process.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think that's natural.
Speaker 3: As well as you should.
Speaker 5: And you know, my last piece of advice for you
Speaker 5: and in this whole situation would be just to take
Speaker 5: your time with it. And really, you know, as a mother,
Speaker 5: be protective of your children. Your children will and you
Speaker 5: know this because you said it a million tens and
Speaker 5: you continue to do it.
Speaker 3: Your children do come first.
Speaker 5: So I think, well, the problem that arises with this
Speaker 5: is that people think that they have access to others
Speaker 5: very easily, that they have a reason to say and
Speaker 5: do and act the way that they do. And they
Speaker 5: should really take a look at themselves in the mirror,
Speaker 5: especially if they themselves are parents or thinking about becoming
Speaker 5: a parent. How would they like that being done to them?
Speaker 5: And that here's the unfortunate part. They don't do that
Speaker 5: until it's too late or they think it's done, and
Speaker 5: then almost everything comes around and it gets done to
Speaker 5: them and then they're karma.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what, this conversation today wasn't just about me.
Speaker 1: This conversation was a general conversation because I know that
Speaker 1: there's been so many relationships that have fallen apart because
Speaker 1: of their axes. I know that there's so many eccees
Speaker 1: that still don't know how to move forward, how to
Speaker 1: move on. I know there's so many parents that co
Speaker 1: parent and don't know how to deal with their emotions
Speaker 1: and end up affecting their children's well being because of that.
Speaker 2: I know that there's just you know, I didn't want
Speaker 2: to make it about me.
Speaker 1: I just want to talk about I wanted to be
Speaker 1: the voice of many women, of many people listening to
Speaker 1: the show that have been there, done that, gone through it,
Speaker 1: and they have their own baggage, and they're learning how
Speaker 1: to deal with their significant others baggage as well. Sometimes
Speaker 1: you have to learn how to let go of certain
Speaker 1: things and some things you just can't let go, and
Speaker 1: you have to build from there on. And if I
Speaker 1: have any final words and just something you could take
Speaker 1: home with you, I would say, if you really love
Speaker 1: someone and you think this person is worthy of you
Speaker 1: fighting for them, stick around, tough it out, figure out
Speaker 1: ways of making this situation work. I would hate for
Speaker 1: a beautiful relationship that you could be building on to
Speaker 1: fall apart because of someone's bitterness, because of someone's exes,
Speaker 1: because someone doesn't want to let them go, because someone
Speaker 1: doesn't want to let you guys be happy.
Speaker 2: Figure out ways to stick together, because.
Speaker 1: The stronger you guys are together, the stronger you guys
Speaker 1: can fight against the world. If you're an ex it
Speaker 1: still can't get over your significant you know your past.
Speaker 2: Let it go. You are worthy of so much better.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: If you let go of your past, you can focus
Speaker 1: on your future. There is someone out there that's going
Speaker 1: to love you and want you as much as you
Speaker 1: seem to.
Speaker 2: Want your ex. You know, let it go. Some things
Speaker 2: are not meant for you, and that's okay.
Speaker 1: And with time and maturity, you realize that life is
Speaker 1: too short to be holding onto baggage. Especially if a
Speaker 1: man or a woman tells you that they don't want
Speaker 1: you anymore. Don't don't make them tell you more than once.
Speaker 1: Figure ship up, pick your stuff up, lift your head
Speaker 1: up high, and keep it moving. I want to thank
Speaker 1: Alex and Arleen for joining me today, for being my
Speaker 1: support system, for for being my friends and giving me
Speaker 1: great advice, and not just to me, but to you
Speaker 1: guys as well.
Speaker 2: Thank you guys so much for joining today. And with
Speaker 2: that being said, thank.
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