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Speaker 2: Mark is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Sasha.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and Susho

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Speaker 2: sells why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another day.

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Speaker 2: But first, Mark, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Sasha.

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Speaker 1: It's been about a couple of weeks, now, Okay.

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Speaker 3: Have you been reaching out to her during that time?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I've called a couple of times, I've

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Speaker 1: texted and been no reply, And that's why I'm calling you,

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Speaker 1: guys design and see if we can figure out what's

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Speaker 1: going on.

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Speaker 3: Well, why don't you tell us about how you met

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Speaker 3: her and then the date and stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so we met on Hinge and I just immediately

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Speaker 1: found her to be so beautiful and classy. I mean

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Speaker 1: one of her photos she's even wearing pearls, and I

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Speaker 1: thought that was We started chatting and she told me

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Speaker 1: how she always wanted to go to Paris, so I

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Speaker 1: thought for a date, we could go to this Parisian

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Speaker 1: cafe and get coffee and croissants. Which I thought was perfect.

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Speaker 3: Well that's cool. Did you wear a bret?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's definitely why. I'm just kidding. That's a cute idea, though, Yeah, thoughtful.

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Speaker 1: I thought so too. I thought so too. So we

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Speaker 1: you know, we had our croissants in our coffee and

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Speaker 1: we're talking and laughing, and you know, she shared so

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Speaker 1: much of her life story with me. I just felt

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Speaker 1: like she really wanted me to know her, which you know,

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Speaker 1: was just so sweet. And we were supposed to go

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Speaker 1: on a bike ride, but then her roommate reached out

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Speaker 1: that she needed to be taken care of. So I

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Speaker 1: was okay with that because I love that she's good

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Speaker 1: to her friends. But after that, I never really heard

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Speaker 4: So what did she say to you, or like, what

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Speaker 4: was the interaction like after her roommate called, or like

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Speaker 4: as you guys were going your separate ways.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, we were supposed to go on this

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Speaker 1: bike ride and she kind of had a dodge out,

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Speaker 1: so I gave her a hug, and you know, she's

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Speaker 1: had she had a great time, and that was basically it.

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Speaker 1: I said, you know, I'll I'll call you later. And

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Speaker 1: when I called, I got no answer. I texted a

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Speaker 1: couple of times of the course of the last few days,

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Speaker 3: Is her okay, I hope so not the freak job.

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Speaker 2: But you don't think it was one of those things

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Speaker 2: where someone says, hey, I'll text you on the sly

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Speaker 2: and then you call me and then I'll say I

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Speaker 2: have to go if you're on a day you don't like.

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Speaker 3: Do you think that could have been a thing.

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Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think I didn't get that vibe.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she was opening up so much to me

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Speaker 1: about like her life and her family and her friends.

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Speaker 1: It just felt like she was she was having a

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Speaker 1: really great time. I mean, the only thing I can

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Speaker 1: think of is like, I mean, there's a bunch of

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Speaker 1: people checking me out in the cafe, which you know,

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Speaker 1: sometimes I'm a little awkward, but I do kind of

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Speaker 1: look like overal life Superman at times. So I was

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Speaker 3: But I wanted, okay, you look like a real life Superman.

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Speaker 3: What is that like? Are you like ripped?

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Speaker 1: I got this Clark Kent kind of swirl to my hair,

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Speaker 1: and okay, I've been prepared a lot to it, but

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Speaker 1: my eyes were on her. I don't know I don't

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Speaker 2: But.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think anything was wrong with the findite.

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Speaker 1: I just genuinely thought she had to go help her.

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Speaker 3: Did you tell her that you look like Superman at

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Speaker 1: Have been Yeah, No, no, I did not.

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Speaker 3: She got eyes. Lucky you.

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Speaker 2: You're on a date with Superman, I know, all right,

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Speaker 2: and you didn't get kiss or anything right at the

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Speaker 1: No, I was gonna, you know, I was gonna try

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Speaker 1: just felt like a warm hug was the right move.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, well we'll figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Will play a song, come back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, thank you, I appreciate place.

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Speaker 2: I'll come back and get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: Mark is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Sasha.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that, Mark, why don't

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Speaker 2: you catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I met this beautiful girl named Sasha. We went,

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Speaker 1: I'm hings, went on this great date to Persian cafe,

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Speaker 1: had a great time, and now I haven't heard from her,

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Speaker 1: and I want to know why.

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Speaker 4: Well, and you do think it's because you look like

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Speaker 1: I'm just worried. I'm just worried that she was aware

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Speaker 1: of that people were looking at me. That's all I got.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that that.

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Speaker 4: Can be kind of operat like if you were somebody

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Speaker 4: that's super hot that everybody's staring at you do feel

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Speaker 2: You know, I get that. We're ready for us to

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Speaker 2: call her. Yeah, yes, please, here we go. Hello, Hi,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Sasha. Please Sasha. Hi?

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Speaker 3: How are your?

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Speaker 2: Name?

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Speaker 3: Is Jubil? I'm calling from a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 3: the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 3: I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 1: Oh Hi.

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Speaker 3: Do you listen to the show ever? Sometimes?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You guys agree, this is so crazy. You you know

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Speaker 3: why we're calling you.

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Speaker 1: I have a suspicion, and I'm it's about it. That's

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Speaker 1: suspicion being true.

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Speaker 3: What do you think it is? What's your suspicion?

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Speaker 5: Is it the second date?

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Speaker 1: Follow up?

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Speaker 3: The first date? Follow up?

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Speaker 2: Yes, you are ghosting somebody you know who knows.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I a sneaking suspicion that it's.

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Speaker 6: Mark, and you're correct answered, yeah, well, because I don't

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Speaker 6: really ghost that often, but this was a unique experience.

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Speaker 2: Really, Okay, would you mind telling us why you're ghossing him?

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Speaker 3: He was just so gross.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, that was like the play in the most

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Speaker 5: easiest way to say it. He just he was burping

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Speaker 5: the throughout the entire date, and like the first time

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Speaker 5: was just kind of because it was loud and he

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Speaker 5: it just kind of just kept happening, and so like

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Speaker 5: I felt like I had to keep talking so that

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Speaker 5: it was just so uncomfortable, thoroughly grossed out.

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Speaker 4: Was it just really loud or was it kind of

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Speaker 3: That's the thing. I get.

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Speaker 5: Burping is natural, but there are ways that you can

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Speaker 5: put it under your breath, you can cover your mouth,

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Speaker 5: you can say excuse me. But like none of that

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Speaker 5: I was so turned.

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Speaker 1: Off and grossed out.

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Speaker 3: Really I mean that, I mean I wouldn't love that either.

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Speaker 2: Like in the place you were at, he was just

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Speaker 5: It was just it was so frequent and so loud,

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Speaker 1: He belches, like it was kind of ripple.

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Speaker 5: Like that's what I felt like. Maybe it wasn't that bad,

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Speaker 2: Like I was just, oh, I can't even okay, Well

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Speaker 2: you didn't tell us that.

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Speaker 3: No, it sounded like a very pleasant day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you forgot, or maybe you haven't heard enough

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Speaker 3: Wants to.

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Speaker 1: Mark whoa, Yeah, Hi, Sasa, I am sorry. I don't

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Speaker 1: I honestly don't know what you're talking about. I mean,

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry to hear that.

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Speaker 3: Then why did we go to coffee?

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Speaker 1: That's not going to help the situation? And you know,

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Speaker 1: well because I wanted to take you to a Parisian cafe.

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Speaker 1: I mean, is the real reason that because I look

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 1: Sorry? Sorry, that's not nice.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, Okay, No, no, that's not the reason. Yes,

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Speaker 5: wondering about that, why people were looking looking at you,

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Speaker 5: it was because you were burping so much that people

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Speaker 1: Are you sure that people weren't just looking at me

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Speaker 1: because of how I look?

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Speaker 5: Oh? No, I'm sorry, I like it was not attractive.

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Speaker 5: They were not looking at you because you were attracted.

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Speaker 5: They were looking at you because they were disgusted.

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 4: I can't even help but ask like, Mark, are you okay?

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Speaker 4: Because to be burping that much, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been on a different medication to try and

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Speaker 1: deal with my reflux. It's it's just been a struggle bus,

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Speaker 1: but I'm doing much better. Thanks.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: You know, like Sasha, you say you want to go

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Speaker 1: to France, but you really probably shouldn't go to France

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Speaker 1: because in other countries it's actually considered polite to burp.

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Speaker 1: Is it that's a compliment of the shame.

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Speaker 5: Well, even if that's true. Here in the stage, I

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Speaker 5: like it when if someone burbs that they at least

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Speaker 5: those lines. Maybe I'm reaching for the stars here, but

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Speaker 5: that is something that I am looking for.

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Speaker 1: Blatant respective you guys excuse me. I usually say excuse me,

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Speaker 1: but I just I was you were telling these beautiful stories.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to interrupt you. I was time to

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Speaker 1: respect you.

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Speaker 3: Sasha, would you like to do one another day with Mark?

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Speaker 3: Will pay for it? You know what?

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that she was still closed minded, So

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Speaker 1: I honestly don't know if this is going to work out.

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Speaker 1: I'm closed minded? What do you mean? I mean, if

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Speaker 1: you can't just be present accept the person for how

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Speaker 1: they are. I mean, burbing happens.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that, it's just how you handle it that.

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Speaker 1: You know, really changes things.

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Speaker 5: And how you handled it was just not and for

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Speaker 5: me that's fine.

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Speaker 1: I mean, somebody's going to accept me, accept me for

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Speaker 1: my burse too.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 2: Well, sorry no second date mark, but it sounds like

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Speaker 2: you're fine with that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's for the best.

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Speaker 3: Juble's first date follow up