WEBVTT - Ep24: Top 10 tips for the PERFECT BJ 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:04.760 You're not gonna know this song in my bank account 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:09.360 and you're harrested in you. Well, I mean, I'm glad 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:21.560 you said. Reel that one back three so fast. I 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:23.680 woke up at midnight to listen. It's so funny. Said that. 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:27.200 I used to listen to me Ghosts every morning, and 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:30.120 that's a good album. I listened to seven. I love 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:32.559 the album. I fucking woke up ready for it. Literally, 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:36.199 this is what I enjoyed. Charla Mayne says he's like 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:38.839 one of his favorite rappers, which I love to hear 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:41.320 because people always shade Southern rappers that have that like 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:44.080 round you know what I mean. But I mean, but 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:52.440 I understand him, like I've listened to I understand understanding. Anyways. UM, 0:00:52.560 --> 0:00:58.720 welcome to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. Everybody, UM, 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:05.039 this is your favorite BBC lover, UM, and do not 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:09.400 in this. Don't fetisize. I do. I sure do, and 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:10.880 I don't care. You don't want them to do it 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:12.680 to you. At the end of the day, we all 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:18.919 fetisize over something and that's my fetish actually, amongst other things. 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:22.399 But I do. I can cock is a big black cock, 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:24.960 like bro, when I watch porn the word black or 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:28.559 ebony has to be in my search. I mean, I enjoyed. 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:33.839 What is the problem? I can't so exhausted from today? 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.039 I almost had sex. I don't have time for this. 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:40.400 Lover boy isn't in town. So who did you almost 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:43.240 have sex with? So I went to the chiropractor. Here 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:45.160 we go, here we go with the bullsh bitch. Let 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:47.560 me tell you. So I go to I can't say 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:49.320 it because I'm scared you' are gonna go fun my man. 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:52.160 So anyway, I get this thing. I don't know what 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:55.080 it's called, but they do like the massage, they do 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:57.160 like the acupuncture, and then they do the chiropractice it. 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:00.240 Normally that goes did you get hit by a car? Much? 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:01.640 That's what the funk I was going through When I 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:04.280 want to therapy. I got those three things. Yeah, well, 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.080 I my insurance covers it. Like I'm gonna be like 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:07.720 what a five or ten dollar copay? But I do 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:09.760 a lot of dead lifting, so when I'm pulling down 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:11.400 all that weight on my back and hurt. So plus 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:14.960 you get a massage. So anyway, the fucking chiropractor comes 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:16.639 in and normally I go Tuesdays and Thursdays and this 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:20.000 niggas Monesday, Wednesday and Friday. Bro, he comes in six 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:24.360 for glasses, long hair, and he's like, um, your name, 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:29.800 he's su Why does everyone have a fucking accent? Because 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.920 that's the ship that made me. Now, I got no 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:35.400 panties and no draws on I mean, and no brawl. 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:37.320 And I was like, oh, I'm ready for this niggad 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:39.000 And I was all relaxed anyway, because you know, the 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:42.000 essential oils and ship. So he starts in my lower 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:44.040 black on my lower back, and I think he could 0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:46.720 see that, Like he's starting me on. He says to me, 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.520 do you have pain in your gluts? Now? I know 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:53.200 for a fact you can't crack my ass there's no 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.880 chiropractory ship going on here. But I was like, yeah 0:02:55.919 --> 0:03:00.680 they are, Bro. He was rubbing my ass and let 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:03.200 me tell you what he's doing. So he was pulling 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.240 up the top of his jumpsuit and like pulling it 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:07.359 up my ass so he can see my cheap bitch. 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:10.720 Tell me you I'm moving girl, you'll be sweary you 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:15.320 got as not having asked white man, I do anyway. 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:17.520 So he flips me over and then he has my 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:20.240 head between his legs. Were like he's sitting and he's 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:22.200 like pulling my neck but like touching my titties a 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:26.000 little bit. Bro. I was so fucking turned on. It 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:28.200 sounds like he needs to lose his license. That's what 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:31.840 it sound like. I'm taking my head and he's like, 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.160 let me just can I turn your neck? Is that 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.520 okay for you? Does this hurt you? And I was like, no, 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:39.400 it feels really good. Doctor You're terrible. And I'm looking 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:41.000 at his hand like, oh shoot, he has no ring. 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:44.600 So anyway, I think he just didn't know how far 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:46.120 I wanted to go. And I was ready. You know 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:50.040 what I'm saying, A bitches in heat. So he said, um, 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:52.640 I want you to come back on Wednesday. Let's do 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:54.480 a follow up bla blah blah, and I'm like fucking 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:56.200 sweat and bit I'm like so turned on. He's like, 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.520 I really want to see you and do some work 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:00.960 on you. So anyway, before I'm falling in love with 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.280 this nigga, I go to the counter and I'm like 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:08.040 googling chiropractice salaries in Manhattan. Someone woman's coming up in 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:11.280 seventy thousand, and then my pussy dried up and I 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:14.440 don't really bro, but there is one thing I found 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:19.360 seventy thousand major pussy dry. Seventy thousand to seventy thousand 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:21.320 major pussy dry. I have something about someone who can 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:24.800 lessen me. Have a complex about it. But anyway, I 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:26.640 looked him up. I looked at the last name origin. 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:29.120 Come to find out it's Israel. So if it doesn't 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:31.320 work out with me and lover boy, me and DR, 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:34.920 you know, we'll have Jewish babies and my father will 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:41.040 die a happy man. Anyway, So I'm still uns and 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:45.320 you want to go to this car part? No, However, Um, 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:50.760 it's Lawyer Bay's birthday this weekend. Um, he's turning thirty, 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:53.440 And I mean, I don't know. We're talking so we're 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:58.240 probably going to do um, either a sex club or 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:00.359 a threesome. He really wants a threesome of me. Finding 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:03.359 a girl right now is becoming impossible. You think he 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:07.279 earned it? Um, probably not, But I want to have 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:10.360 a reason too, so and I'd rather do it with 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:12.760 him like we've I mean, there's a lot that we've 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:14.920 been talking about, so, I mean, it's not like we 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.680 haven't funk before, Like we've been talking's the last time 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:20.159 stuff with him? Oh god, the last time I stopped 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.560 in probably at least two years. So I don't have 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:25.880 a reason one yet you're in your feelings about him, 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:27.279 and then you're gonna end up doing it, and even 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:29.000 though you enjoy women, you're gonna get in your head 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:31.760 about it. I can guarantee it. But see, I don't 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:33.800 think I will. And I mean at this point and 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:37.720 me and my friend, I mean, I just gave him 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:39.520 oral but it's because I'm on my period. I don't 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:41.640 believe in working on my period, so we've had oral 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:44.840 sex recently. But I'm also not gonna suck you on 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:47.880 my period, so that just I mean, I don't know. 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:50.599 We'll have to see. I'm gonna be a little judgy 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:53.080 about this. I think you can be judge, but at 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:54.479 the end of the day, I'm only gonna say I 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:56.120 think that you put up a little bit of a front, 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.080 acting like you don't be getting in your feelings. But 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.159 I think with this one you will. I think that 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:03.720 this is threesome territory. If you haven't sucked him in 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:05.160 two years, I don't think it's worth it. I think 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:06.719 you should enjoy him on his birthday and have a 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:09.479 good time. Whatever. If it happens, it happens. But I 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:11.200 think you're gonna be disappointed if you end up having 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:12.560 a threesome with him, And what if you don't suck 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:15.640 him again for another few weeks. Well, he's actually moving 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:17.800 into his place, which happens to be fifteen minutes away 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:20.960 from Brighton. He's moving in the Bronx. So I mean, 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:23.120 you can sit here and be judgy. I know I've 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:26.599 been in a ton of when the last someone you 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:30.000 really felt that way about? Oh, I've never had a 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:37.600 threesome with someone that I really feel we'll see. I mean, 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:39.280 I don't know who's the girl you have in mind. 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:41.920 That's the that's the tough thing. So the girl that 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.080 I want to bring into the threesome is the girl 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:48.760 who I always have sucks with. But she legitimately no, no, no. 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:52.680 The other girl, the thick bitch, but she's like they 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:58.279 are um, but she genuinely doesn't like penetration. She doesn't 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:03.880 like dick like she likes her. No, we've only she's 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:05.520 one of the ones I've eight in the club. So 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:09.920 technically all girl threesome. And we have had a girl 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:13.720 and guy threesome with her, but that two was mostly oral. 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:17.200 She doesn't like penetration. Also, would he be good at 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:21.440 a threes Oh the way his dick is just amazing. 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:25.920 Bro absolutely looks like she's pregnant. No, like he's fucking amazing, 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:31.160 Like it's great sock for one, don't mean for all. Well, 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.560 you won't knowanty, but he would give the past Like 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:38.160 there's niggas who I fuck who I'll be like, Yeah, 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:40.200 there's no way I would enjoy threesome with you because 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.480 you can't even handle me. I'm allowed to handle. So 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:45.520 if Nigga can handle me and keep going and make 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.600 me feel all types of ways, I have confidence in 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:50.200 him doing that with two, And most of the guys 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:53.240 that I've had confidence with I have showed the funk out. 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:56.560 Only my advice, I think you should set the president 0:07:56.560 --> 0:07:58.320 and let that hold that threesome out a little bit. 0:07:59.880 --> 0:08:03.840 U us you've got enough sex game that he don't 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:06.200 have a good fucking birthday anyway. I think you should 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:09.200 hold the ship back a little bit, let him earn 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.360 it just a little bit. Just try it with this one. 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:13.600 I know you like it too, do trust me. I 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.440 love threesomes and I feel like I'm always having them, 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:18.840 like whenever I want, and so you always have them. 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.960 I don't, and he's never had one. Yeah, but you 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:26.400 really like him, so connect with him first, bro. We 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:31.320 I've known him for three years. But what fine like, 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.880 It's not like he's someone new. We've already fucked and 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:36.840 I know him. Do you want him like you would? 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:41.359 You want something serious? We've already been talking about that, absolutely, 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.840 but there's a lot of things you do know, like 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.800 about where his mind is with that, like, so you 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.400 know whatever? Anyway, do you want to go ahead and 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:51.240 get into the keke of the week? I do, and 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:54.199 it's only because I'm gonna get I already said I 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:56.040 would let someone ship on me for fifty g's. I 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.240 already know I'm gonna get super judged. But what is 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:01.400 this man? You guys? She picked the kink this week, 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.360 and I don't know what it is. I picked the Kinks, 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:09.839 I think, yeah, yeah, so UM. I wanted to figure 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:11.960 out what the fetish with this was because after I 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:13.679 saw this woman on the train, I started getting more 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:16.640 and more turned on UM and I looked up what 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:18.360 it would be called, and it's I hope I'm not 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:23.120 saying it wrong macy ophelia and it's a pregnantcy fetish. 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:25.600 It's so funny. I just looked this up. It's seen 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:29.000 by individuals or cultures as erotic phenomenon. It may involve 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.960 a sexual attraction to people lactating or who are pregnant 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:37.520 or pure pregnant. Um. Yeah, listen. I don't know where 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.199 what happened, but I saw this bitch on the train 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.120 and she was fine and ship and her titties were 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:43.880 like super full and her stomach wasn't like crazy big, 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:45.800 and like I would have totally fucked her right then 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:48.560 and there. And then I was like looking at porn 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:50.480 Hub and I didn't look at it, but I almost 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:52.920 typed in p r e G. And I was like, Bro, 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:55.400 you ripen dog, you about to look up pregnant bitches? 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:57.480 And then I just be freaking out. But there's this girl. 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.360 I gotta read her name on Instagram. She's doing like 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:03.400 a lot of like a breastfeeding shoots and like, I'm 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:05.920 just getting really turned down by mom's right now. Bro, 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:07.880 I don't know what the fund is going on with me. 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:11.760 Her name is rack hell Santalia r a q u 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:14.920 E l S A N T O L A y A. 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:17.480 Look at this fucking picture of her, bro, I mean 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:24.640 finest fuck. Oh now, okay, I know you have probably 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:27.840 never heard me quiet for that long since we started 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:32.880 the show. First off. Nope, Like she's trying to show 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:37.400 me these pictures and I'm not even looking. I legitimately 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:40.679 like a bitch would have to have like a ten 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:43.560 year old for me to want to suck her. Once 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:47.480 my friends even get pregnant, I no longer want to 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:51.960 eat their pussy. A friend of mine has a baby recently, Like, 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:55.559 there's girls that I fucked who have recently had kids, 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:59.120 and I probably will never eat your pussy again just 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:03.000 the thought of it. I don't know. I don't want 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.679 a vagina that a baby came out. I get that, 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:07.959 but it's a baby thing. Maybe I just have a thing. 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.720 I really don't even like kids, but to think of 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:13.400 a whole no, Bro, I just it's so weird when 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:16.080 any of my friends have like toddlers or little children, 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:20.760 they their sexy pill goes away from me. Oh my god, 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:22.640 it just does, like to the point where I don't 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:25.040 even want to see them dressed up as holes anymore. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:28.640 It's like you're a Oh my god, stopped going to 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:32.600 moms can be sexy, they can short, but I don't 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:36.080 want to suck them. Sorry, does not mean you can't 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:38.000 fucking dress like like if you want to, you can 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:40.360 own your ship. You would you eat Amber bros pussy? 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:46.400 Just curious, bro? You lying? I don't even that's fine. 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:48.360 You could say here and not believe me. Are you 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:50.480 just sat when we were talking about the bushy would 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:52.800 eat her pussy, not even with a bush. I don't 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:56.439 like bushy put bushy pussies. We've talked about that. Let's 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.240 go back and listen to the episode. I don't like 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:01.080 hair on pussies, like you don't like pussies that just 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:04.680 shot out babies. So to me, the whole a baby, 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:08.560 a girl being pregnant. No, bro, that's not something that 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.320 attracts me and may attract somebody else. And I know 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:14.800 men who talk about pregnant pussy being extra wet. They 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:21.480 love pregnant. But she's Beyonce, so you wouldn't eat Beyonce. No, 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:29.240 and she just had twins? Oh God like right, No, no, bro, no, 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:31.480 that's not for me. They could they could just to 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:35.720 stitch that ship up. I'll be right on Beyonce's that's fine. 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.800 You could see here now to your face Beyonce's asked 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:42.040 after she went to talk about that's how fine Beyonce is. 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:46.680 To well, that's fine to me. I'm just not turned 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:49.839 on my girl baby and saying you wouldn't e Beyonce, 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:54.560 I don't I eat Rihanna's but she might be pregnant 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:56.640 right now, so I gotta hold out on that, like 0:12:57.480 --> 0:12:59.320 hold on, wait, wait, wait, you wouldn't eat rihanna pussy 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.360 if she had a one year old? No, Rianna? What 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:06.680 after seven? I think maybe I can't see the kid 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.320 because then it reminds me you shot a kid out 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:11.240 your vagina, but that you were fucking that. You mentioned 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:13.640 to me which one that just had a kid that 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:16.800 I haven't sucked since she had a kid. Bro, you 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:19.160 I haven't sucked any of my friends that have kids. 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.640 I swear to God, all right, that's why they're all trippers. 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.720 And like Jim, pregnant, you can't pregnant, it's coming. Who 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:31.440 can't pregnant? Works this way? Pregnant? And I told John 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:35.120 pro choice and he got the money and abortion for 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.599 me the fun. This is why, this is why I 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.880 have protected sex because I am about to be should 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.360 be swallowing because this conversation is teering too a banter. 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.160 I'm just saying, okay, well, before we get into the 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:51.640 horrible decision this week, you have a homemail you wanted 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:55.079 to read. Yeah, we have a question from a listener. 0:13:57.760 --> 0:13:59.720 She wrote me a sorry guys, wait real quick, I 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:01.400 guess I'll stay here. I don't want to offend any 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:03.920 of you guys with kids. You just can't sit on 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:08.400 my face A bit farted on her face. Her kid 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:12.720 was like tid she did have a kid, Oh thank you, hod, 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:14.760 but bro, that was in the middle of a foursome 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:16.800 the funk like, you're just saying you could have a fart, 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:18.839 but you can't have clean pussy. That a kid three 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.440 years ago. Three years ago. That's why I said maybe 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:26.720 seven plus um subject is my sexy back. This girl 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:28.680 actually wrote me on Instagram, was like, can y'all please 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:31.000 read my email? I was like a girl, We got you, girl, 0:14:31.520 --> 0:14:34.560 we got you. What's the email? Read it all? Hey, ladies, 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:36.640 love your podcast. You all are my best ties in 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:38.640 my head. I'm twenty six. I was in a relationship 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.680 from Nive. We made the mistake of moving in together 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:44.040 while we were young, and things just got bad relationship 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:46.000 wise and boring. As far as sex, we hardly have 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.160 sex anymore. Before him, I could make booty call, no problem, 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:50.720 tell a guy when I wanted it. I used to 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:52.600 give my ex ham jobs in the front room while 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.040 my parents were in the bedroom. I had no inhibitions, 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:57.200 But now I can't even bring myself to initiate sex. 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.240 Now we live apart and we're slowly getting back to 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:01.840 having sex regular but usually only if he initiates it. 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:04.520 I hate that part because I'm so horny much more now, 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:06.640 and I missed out because I don't vocalize ship. Since 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:08.800 listening to your podcast, I realized I'm much more open 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:10.640 when it comes to sex. I feel like I'm on 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:12.680 the brink of a sexual reawakening or something, But my 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:15.120 mental holding me back question is how do I go 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:17.840 about reclaiming my sexuality? How do I get back to 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:20.000 that free spirited girl I used to be. How can 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:22.720 I get out of my hurt in my head without 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.400 being upfront and get back to being upfront with my 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:27.880 want needs side note. Once we get into sex, I'm 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:30.200 nasty as fun, but I gotta get there first. Help 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.400 horribly yours. I don't know if she wants her name, 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:37.480 said okay, Um, immediately she made me think of I 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:40.520 figured you would probably have some advice for this other 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:44.040 than like immediately, like when she said that she used 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:45.360 to be able to do things and this and this 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.560 and that, and now they barely have sex. You're just 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:49.240 thinking about all the ship he does do you and 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:51.200 you'll never get over it, and you're not gonna want 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:54.000 sex with him, Like it's just subconscious. Dude. I'm telling 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:57.480 you this is something that's super personal, but I'm only 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.760 going to share it with you guys because it'll show 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:04.080 you how much your mental is connected to your sex life. Um. 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:07.680 I was dating someone that was emotionally physically abusive, just 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.840 tearing me down all the time, and I literally felt pain, 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:13.920 like sharp pains during sex. I went and got pelvic 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:15.480 floor therapy. I think I might have mentioned it a 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:18.120 little bit with Dr Kim And they take this like 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:22.400 electro magnetic They make electro magnetic waves, um, and it 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.400 goes through vagina to loosen the muscles like it was 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.320 so tight. The kynecologist was like, I can't even put 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:29.400 my hand inside of you. Months later, we broke up 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:32.720 still doing therapy. During the therapy, it was very hard 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:36.680 to have sex with him. The first nigga I fucked 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:40.560 after him completely, like I couldn't believe I could have sex. 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:42.200 I was crying in the bathroom. I was so happy. 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:45.360 I didn't feel any pain. I was super wet, I 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:48.000 was so excited. I was like, it was amazing. And 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.680 it's because it was him. All of that pain and 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:53.560 the cheating and the hurt was associated with him, and 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:56.400 it's like, it fucking happened with my vagina. Yeah, when 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:58.360 you're already having sex or he was like already trying 0:16:58.360 --> 0:16:59.840 to go down on me, Like okay, you're into it, 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:02.680 but it you gotta be physically. I mean, you have 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:04.359 to be mentally attracted to someone too. That's what makes 0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:06.280 you want to suck up. Well also if it if 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:12.520 it's not that um, I feel like being that they 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:16.960 were together from nineteen to that's also a lot of 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.640 times where you have the self exploration of you know, 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:21.719 what we call the whole phase. And I feel like 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:24.439 she possibly hasn't gotten to have that and have the 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:27.040 different partners and know maybe what she wants and just 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.840 like she says she has a problem expressing. Maybe she 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:32.280 said she didn't before. I think it's just him. She 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:34.400 did say like she was able to do this before. Yeah, 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:37.040 but she also said that she's not open sexually and 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:38.720 there's things that she wants to try, and she doesn't 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:40.800 know how to vocalize that other thing too. She said 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:42.840 that they're living apart now they're broken up. I think 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:44.639 she's thinking too much. To me, that's what it is. 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:47.439 I think when you started thinking and you're all in 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:49.600 your head about it, it's very hard to initiate sex 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:51.479 if you're not all the way happy in your personal 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:55.440 relationship with that person. But it's also where you see 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:58.200 yourself going. Because it could just be that because they 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:02.520 were living together, there were so many things that turn 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:05.920 them off about each other living together that it was 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:07.920 so it didn't have to be what he was physically 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:10.520 doing wrong to her. It doesn't have to be like 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:13.080 cheating or anything that you were going through with with 0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:17.639 with you know, but from her thing and maybe from his, 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:20.280 because she she said that he would not have sex. 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.040 They wouldn't have sex unless he initiated it. That's how 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:26.160 it's going right now. So that so to me, it's 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:29.480 probably like maybe those a, the emotions are gone, and 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:32.000 now maybe just is a we're gonna sunk when I 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.080 guess I want to suck. And then it could just 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:36.520 be that the six years of living together, maybe he 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:38.920 saw things that turned them off about her. Well, he's 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:40.960 the one who's initiating it. I wrote a few things 0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:43.080 down that I think will help you. Said, you want 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:44.760 to get your sexy back, And this is just like 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:48.560 with or without him. I think masturbating helps you really 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:51.040 get in your zone a lot. I make an effort 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:53.480 to masturbate. It makes me feel sexy. It makes me 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:56.400 feel good, relaxed, like I could sunk over and over 0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:58.760 again if I'm masturbated even that day. Uh. Actually, my 0:18:58.800 --> 0:19:01.040 coworker made a joke immedied. He's like a guard from 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:04.320 No Chaser podcast. He said, Bro, like I already know 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:05.959 when you masturbate for the day, Like you come in 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.040 so chill. He's like, you fucking clearly haven't had an 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:11.280 orgasm because you're mad on edge today, Like it totally 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:14.240 releases all those endorphins. You fucking feel good. I walked 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:16.320 down the street different when I come you know, I 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:17.600 mean I do it every night to go to bed. 0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:19.480 It puts me to sleep, Yeah, but some people don't. 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:22.960 I think dressing up two helps a lot. I like 0:19:23.040 --> 0:19:24.600 to have sex and initiate sex a lot when I 0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:26.920 know I have nice ass fucking lingerie underneath and I'm 0:19:26.920 --> 0:19:30.480 feeling sexy. Um. Also, if you're not only that just 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:33.440 keeping yourself up. When you when you get your lashes done, 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:36.200 your nails and toads done, your hair fresh, you wanted 0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:38.159 to go to see that ship and it turns you 0:19:38.200 --> 0:19:40.240 on to know that you feel your bed. So if 0:19:40.280 --> 0:19:42.160 y'all are just kicking and you'll come over coming, let's 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:46.359 watch TV. Maybe you are every time put makeup. Also, 0:19:47.520 --> 0:19:49.720 I don't know if you've ever been the aggressor in 0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:51.199 the relationship. I know that you said you used to 0:19:51.280 --> 0:19:53.600