WEBVTT - Dear Banya: Multiple Eggs in Multiple Baskets

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya rap an iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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<v Speaker 3>Scrub Dub Dub and the dubtutu.

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<v Speaker 2>It was absolutely a gift for the eyes and the ears.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>What would you like to talk about? Because you don't

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<v Speaker 2>like to jump straight into the dear Banya stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't. I like to feather in a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>of like how are you feeling, how's your heart? What's new?

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<v Speaker 3>Like what's going on? Give me summer plans? Like, give

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<v Speaker 3>us a little something.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I love We're in spring right now, and I

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<v Speaker 2>love spring, and you're trying to rush me into summer

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<v Speaker 2>and I want to.

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<v Speaker 3>Be mostly in spring. People plan for summer and then

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<v Speaker 3>mostly in summer.

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<v Speaker 2>People don't plan at all. I'm not a planner. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just existing in the time that I'm in. Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>imagine you're eighty years old and you get to come

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<v Speaker 2>back to this day. Are you just gonna be a friend?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm seeing that all over. I'm like, what the hell

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<v Speaker 3>is going on here? Is this person really eighty? Like

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't get it at first. I was like, is

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<v Speaker 3>this person really eighty? And they'd like have good skincare

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<v Speaker 3>or like what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's just like it's like trying to get people

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<v Speaker 2>to just be present and enjoy the day. Don't like

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<v Speaker 2>wish away this time of your life, because when you

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<v Speaker 2>turn eighty, you'll be looking back going like, what what

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<v Speaker 2>I would give to be thirty six again, in a

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<v Speaker 2>healthy body where I can go outside and go on

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<v Speaker 2>a hike and have the energy and look in the

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<v Speaker 2>mirror and not feel you know, old.

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<v Speaker 3>I know it's nice, So.

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<v Speaker 2>Quit trying to get me to think about summer when

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in spring.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, this went into a ted talk that I

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<v Speaker 3>was not anticipating I might do.

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<v Speaker 2>That might be my new career path, just ted talks

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<v Speaker 2>across the nation.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, my new career path might be helping women find

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<v Speaker 3>prenatals that don't make them naw twenty four seven. Oh

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<v Speaker 3>I've heard about that. Oh my god, I've heard.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know what really intimidates me about pregnancy if

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<v Speaker 2>I ever choose to do it, what the nausea of

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<v Speaker 2>the first trimester.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just the thing is, you just never know. Not

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<v Speaker 3>everybody's the same. Some people have no nausea.

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<v Speaker 2>Who do you know that has had none. No, No,

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<v Speaker 2>so many people really yeah, like zero percent nausea.

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<v Speaker 3>Zero percent.

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<v Speaker 2>Name you like ten, I'm listening.

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<v Speaker 1>One or two.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'll get you off the podcast. Okay, Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 3>like not want you to know people to know that

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<v Speaker 3>they didn't. Yeah, exactly exactly, it's top secret information. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like so many people have like such different pregnancies,

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<v Speaker 3>Like you can't compare and then you don't. The thing

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<v Speaker 3>that's weird is that you just don't know until you know,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I just was thinking about how horrible I feel when

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just like even hungover nauseous, and how or just

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<v Speaker 2>sick and nauseous, and how doing that for days on end.

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<v Speaker 3>But no, it's true, sounds so bad. Yeah. There was

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<v Speaker 3>one day where I was like ill all day and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, am I just gonna be ill for

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<v Speaker 3>the next three months while I'm taking these pre needles?

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<v Speaker 2>Ali and I have a prediction that you're gonna have

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<v Speaker 2>an easy pregnancy from your lips to God's ears.

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<v Speaker 3>But I I split up the dose. I like split

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<v Speaker 3>up the dogo yo yo, yeah yo, and yah. I

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<v Speaker 3>split up the dose. It was like I took eight

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<v Speaker 3>pills at once, and then I split it up into

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<v Speaker 3>five and three, and now it's much better.

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<v Speaker 2>Why not four and four?

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<v Speaker 3>Because there's you take there's like three, three and two,

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<v Speaker 3>six eight, So I do three and two. So I

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<v Speaker 3>take five and then I take the other three with lunch,

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<v Speaker 3>A lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Of math involved. I didn't think there would be.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, interesting, it's a lot of pills.

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<v Speaker 3>I got a real potent one potent potent like oh,

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<v Speaker 3>very like, yeah, potent. Got the good stuff, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of the good stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh, you're saying like the one you bought, yeah, prenatal. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought even like just one of the supplements you

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<v Speaker 2>took was real strong.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, I'm just saying. The one that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>taking is podent. Gearing you up, gearing me up? You

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<v Speaker 3>know why not? I'm gonna do it, give it to me, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you ready to jump into deer Vonno?

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<v Speaker 3>I guess I wish you would give me like a

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<v Speaker 3>little more like what would you like to hear? What

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<v Speaker 3>are you doing this weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh? I don't you know. What's so nice is that

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have anything this weekend, and it feels amazing

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<v Speaker 2>because last weekend was Haley's birthday, and Haley's like my

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<v Speaker 2>birthday personally, I I don't need a lot on my

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<v Speaker 2>birth I am happy for people to achnowledge it. That

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<v Speaker 2>feels really nice. But I'm I don't need a lot

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<v Speaker 2>in terms of celebrating my birthday. I like to go

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<v Speaker 2>on a trip with my friends and that is so sufficient.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't need a lot of attention in that way.

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<v Speaker 2>Hailey loves her birthday. It is like the biggest day

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<v Speaker 2>of the year. So as her girlfriend, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of uh pressure, well not pressure, but I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to make it GRAVI toss great for her.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think gravitas works there.

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<v Speaker 2>What is GRAVI toss?

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, yes, a heavy load.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know if it's that. It's more just

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<v Speaker 2>like I want it to be great for her. And

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<v Speaker 2>so on her actual birthday, we did like I woke up, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I got all of her friends to write cards for her,

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<v Speaker 2>because that's her love language. Like one time in twenty twenty,

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<v Speaker 2>since no one could come be a part of the party, yeah, pandemic,

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<v Speaker 2>everyone sent her cards. I had everyone send her cards,

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<v Speaker 2>and she always references that that was like one of

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<v Speaker 2>her favorite birthdays, and so I thought, why not do

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<v Speaker 2>it again? So I had everyone bring her card, Tany

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<v Speaker 2>and Robbie, and I put them on balloons and she goes, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like this, this feels very Tawnya. And then

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<v Speaker 2>everyone was responding to my story about it. They're like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is so Tanya.

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<v Speaker 3>He sent it to me too, He's like, this feels

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<v Speaker 3>very you coded.

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<v Speaker 2>Haley has a lot of Tanya things about her. So

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<v Speaker 2>I I know how to cater to Tanya, you know, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>And so I she thought they were all for me.

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<v Speaker 2>So at first I was like, that is very Tanya.

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<v Speaker 2>But I switched it up a little bit. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 2>so I did that for her and then made breakfast

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<v Speaker 2>and then we just went and got massages and then

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<v Speaker 2>I planned the park party, and so I was I

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<v Speaker 2>was like exhausted from now back.

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<v Speaker 3>Is like I gotta put my feet up this weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, I'm like I need just nothing on the agenda.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what do you have so many things? Oh? You

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<v Speaker 3>have next weekend. I'm going to do no nothing on

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<v Speaker 3>the agenda.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll believe it when I see it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, We're going to San Diego this week and my

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<v Speaker 1>daughter is in the UCSD production of Footloose.

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<v Speaker 2>So house college life really adjusted.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's adjusted now. It was. It was rocky for

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<v Speaker 1>a while. The transition was rough, interesting, but now she's

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<v Speaker 1>in a better place. Her first roommate situation wasn't great.

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<v Speaker 1>Now she's in a better room made situation and she's

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<v Speaker 1>very She's found her people.

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<v Speaker 2>She in a dorm.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and she has.

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<v Speaker 3>It happened around October, right, the transition to did No.

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<v Speaker 1>It was more recent than that. Yeah, it took a while.

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<v Speaker 2>How are her parents doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Her parents also had a hard time with transition.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, and sister.

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<v Speaker 1>Sister was okay, it's all about me now. Sister likes

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<v Speaker 1>having the only focus in the house. Yes she does.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's something about the baby, the baby of the family,

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<v Speaker 2>which only the baby ever understands. Yeah, because it's either

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<v Speaker 2>kind of sad that they're the last one and they

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<v Speaker 2>don't have everyone around to celebrate everything, or they're like finally, No.

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<v Speaker 3>It's also annoying because then like you're the only focus.

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<v Speaker 3>So then if you're not home at like eleven oh two,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what i mean, Like when there's other siblings involved,

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<v Speaker 3>it's kind of like can't really keep up.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy thinking about you not being home at nine pm,

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<v Speaker 2>A little rebel. Back in the day, you were like

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<v Speaker 2>eating hot cheetos, sneaking.

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<v Speaker 3>Outside my door telling my dad I was sleeping at

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<v Speaker 3>Stacy Nelson's when really I was at Scott Thompson.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, oh, my gosh, Stacy Nelson. But Scott Thompson, that's right,

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<v Speaker 2>where is he? I think he's married, sneaking around married,

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<v Speaker 2>not sneaking around.

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<v Speaker 3>No kids. I think everyone grows up. Yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and my twenty year reunion is coming up?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you going? I think? So?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, I should I should?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>I think I was talking to.

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<v Speaker 3>One of my girlfriends from high school and she's like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. It seems kind of weird. Why because like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>They're never what you want to It's never role me

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<v Speaker 1>and Michelle, Right, it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>They're always like so glorified on TV shows. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So ours is like in a bar in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of nowhere in Wisconsin and people just come. There's no host,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no pictures on the wall, there's no nothing. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've never been to one, by the way. Always see

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<v Speaker 1>him on Facebook and I want to go to them.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not like this thing like, oh, I have no

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<v Speaker 1>use for that. I want to go, But it's always

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<v Speaker 1>a random summertime in Wisconsin. We're always working. I could

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<v Speaker 1>never make it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a celebrity in your home, like people know what

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing.

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<v Speaker 1>So No, I didn't think so. But I had lunch

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<v Speaker 1>with a guy a few months ago that I went

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<v Speaker 1>to high school with, and he knew my whole life.

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<v Speaker 1>He knew that I did Discover Millionaire show, he knew

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<v Speaker 1>that I did comedy sports, he knew this. He knew

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<v Speaker 1>that I worked for Rick D's and with see, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, wow, that's that's interesting. Yeah, yeah good. I

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<v Speaker 1>either he just did his homework or maybe people know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I feel like he followed, followed your career.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see more. Because also I tend to put stuff

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<v Speaker 1>on Facebook that's going to make it seem like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a bigger deal than I am. Oh, like me and

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<v Speaker 1>Jimmy Fallon, Like I personally did a picture that made

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<v Speaker 1>it not look like a post picture, like hey, we're

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<v Speaker 1>just buddies hanging out. Yeah you're like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>Mark's friends with Jimmy Fallon. I'm not. But I want

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<v Speaker 1>the people that went to high school to think that,

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<v Speaker 1>oh wow, that's important to me for some reason. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>No, mine's like doing like they have like an Instagram page.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like dedicated to like our reunion class of five reunion,

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<v Speaker 3>like tagging me in it, and I'm like, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I just had like forty people that I graduated with,

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<v Speaker 2>So I I really don't know how many have come

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<v Speaker 2>back for.

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<v Speaker 3>The reminding the two hundred something my class was like my.

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<v Speaker 2>Graduated That's what I'm saying. You would see people and

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<v Speaker 2>be like, oh my gosh. Like I could just go

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<v Speaker 2>on Facebook and quickly see what everyone's up to that

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<v Speaker 2>I graduated with.

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<v Speaker 1>And the people who are not on Facebook are also

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<v Speaker 1>the ones that don't go to the reunions, so it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be the same people, right.

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't know. Mine's until thing. It's like the

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<v Speaker 3>weekend of Thanksgiving.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, you have time to think about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah, the early bird ticket pricing is now.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, I might hold off.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems like a bigger deal than my.

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<v Speaker 3>Into like one hundred bucks or something. It's not usually

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<v Speaker 3>in the summer, No, it's like Thanksgiving. I think it's

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<v Speaker 3>a Saturday, Saturday or.

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<v Speaker 2>Sunday Homecoming weekend, Homecoming weekend.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's all right.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll stay tuned to see if Tanya goes to a

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<v Speaker 2>reunion and think right now.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was trying to decide if we should host

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<v Speaker 3>Thanksgiving this year. That's on my my.

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<v Speaker 2>She skipped summer and we are into deep fall. Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>she's skip spring, skip summer and where.

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<v Speaker 1>And fall and we've skipped Dear Bondy. That's all the

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<v Speaker 1>time we have.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll be right back with dear Vanya. All right, we

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<v Speaker 2>are back with the content you want.

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<v Speaker 1>Who knows what anybody wants, but this is anonymous. Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>I beca Tanya Mark and Easton. Oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>love you guys so much. I don't know if I'll

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<v Speaker 1>ever stop crying a Tanya and Robbie wedding content. And

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<v Speaker 1>I want about ten more episodes about it with Paulina

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<v Speaker 1>and Robbie, et cetera, et cetera. I have a modern

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<v Speaker 1>woman dating question. I'm twenty eight diving into dating with Hinge.

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<v Speaker 1>The ultimate goal is to find my life partner. I'm Tanya,

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<v Speaker 1>if you couldn't tell already, and I'm trying to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out how to do the casual thing, eggs and multiple

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<v Speaker 1>baskets thing. I'm going on date number three with a

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<v Speaker 1>guy who looks like he has potential and seems pretty

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<v Speaker 1>intentional and locked in to me. But do I and

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<v Speaker 1>how do I keep adding new guys into the mix

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<v Speaker 1>to have comparative reference points. I say this because after

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<v Speaker 1>my first date with this guy, I had another date

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<v Speaker 1>the next day, and it made it super clear to

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<v Speaker 1>me that this guy and I had more of a

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<v Speaker 1>natural dynamics, what made it easy to know who I

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<v Speaker 1>would pursue a second date with. But my concern is

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<v Speaker 1>if I get to date number four, date number five

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<v Speaker 1>with this guy and at some point I might feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it's weird to keep adding more people in. My

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<v Speaker 1>real worry is he lives not too far from me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm stressed that I'll be on another date a

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<v Speaker 1>lah mister Wilsher, and luck would have it, he'll see

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<v Speaker 1>me on another date with a guy when I just

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned I was having dinner with a friend, because side note,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you say it when you're trying to do

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<v Speaker 1>casual dating but you're pretty regularly texting one of the

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<v Speaker 1>people already about your dates. My worst nightmare will be

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<v Speaker 1>holding hands was some random dude and this guys somehow

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<v Speaker 1>seeing and feeling like I was stringing him along. But

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time, because I just dove into dating

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<v Speaker 1>for kind of the first time in my life, it

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<v Speaker 1>feels like going on multiple different dates will help me

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<v Speaker 1>assess just how legitimate I think a guy is or

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<v Speaker 1>if he's right for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Help.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm imagining this and Mark's voice and there it was

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<v Speaker 1>lots of love, a scrubber, and a super proud tanyah.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is funny because when I was going through

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<v Speaker 2>my text when you first met Robbie, there was a

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<v Speaker 2>we had done a whole conversation about you putting eggs

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<v Speaker 2>in multiple baskets, not putting all your eggs in one basket. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and you told me after a certain amount of dates

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<v Speaker 2>with Robbie he had canceled any future dates that he

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<v Speaker 2>had on the apps.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, which was like two months later.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, so but how many dates was that?

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<v Speaker 3>Uh? Uh? I could check my notes, but notes, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I have notes every single date. I think our first

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<v Speaker 3>thirty dates are documented in my phone.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what through thirty?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? Not bad?

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<v Speaker 3>And the only reason I stopped stopped. Was the pandemic hit,

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<v Speaker 3>and our dates were just like sitting at home.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, that combined with your dear future husband journal,

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<v Speaker 1>that is a book.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you literally don't have to do anything. Put it,

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<v Speaker 2>put a little bow on it. True.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think you thank you for that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not kidding. I think there's something.

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<v Speaker 3>There, but I feel like I want to say it

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<v Speaker 3>was probably like six or seven dates in, maybe more

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<v Speaker 3>eight dates in that he stopped put the kebash on

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<v Speaker 3>other people that he was dating. There was really only

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<v Speaker 3>one other girl that he was dating, but he wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>dating her as much as he was dating me.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's my question to anonymous, how do you feel about

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<v Speaker 2>the idea of this guy going on dates with other

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<v Speaker 2>people and having multiple dates at the same time like

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing. That's an excellent question because if you don't care,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe this isn't your guy and maybe you should keep

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<v Speaker 2>dating other people. Because I think Tommy can say that

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<v Speaker 2>as soon as she met Robbie, she did not like

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<v Speaker 2>the idea of him going on any other date.

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<v Speaker 3>My eggs were all in his basket after.

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<v Speaker 2>She tried to take I remember she tried to date

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<v Speaker 2>them out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I tried to take one day right after meeting him,

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<v Speaker 3>and it was horrible and then what happened to her

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<v Speaker 3>and then after that, I uh, and he didn't want

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<v Speaker 3>to be exclusive. So I was like, Okay, fine, I'll

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<v Speaker 3>go date again. And I went out with another guy

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<v Speaker 3>and was like, no, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I'm saying is if anonymously, I think that

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't care about him going on dates, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think you should keep going on dates because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think this is your guy, I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you care and any part of your body

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<v Speaker 1>is tingling when you're with him, there's no rule that

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<v Speaker 1>says you have to go out with other guys.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree. I agree Beca's eggs were all in Haley's

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<v Speaker 3>basket after your first kiss. Yes, yeah, and like there's

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<v Speaker 3>nothing wrong with that.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, And to be honest, I had dated

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<v Speaker 2>and I didn't feel anything with anybody, So I think

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<v Speaker 2>the first time I felt a connection that's strong, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I don't want to go on dates. Here's

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<v Speaker 2>my eggs, and I'll take your eggs thinking very much,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was kind of a mutual decision. But I

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<v Speaker 2>think that if you're feeling like this guy stands out

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<v Speaker 2>and you aren't really needing to go on dates. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't have to. You don't have to put.

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<v Speaker 3>Your eggs in other baskets. No, don't let that be.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't be fooled by that. You don't have to have

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<v Speaker 3>your eggs in multiple assets. Honestly, the way back when

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<v Speaker 3>Haley started their relationship is like the dream to guess, like,

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<v Speaker 3>are my eggs in your basket? Are they in mine?

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<v Speaker 3>Like it was just like on from day one, I

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<v Speaker 3>sent like three months being like are we are we not?

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<v Speaker 2>In the in the lesbian world, they call that you hauling.

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<v Speaker 2>And the thing that really like saved you. But the

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<v Speaker 2>thing that saved our relationship from moving like way too

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<v Speaker 2>fast because it emotionally was so fast, was the fact

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<v Speaker 2>that she left and went on tour and we were

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<v Speaker 2>like physically separate, which I think literally I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>the reason why we were able to like have get

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<v Speaker 2>to a healthy place in our relationship, because I think

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<v Speaker 2>it would have been so much really fast. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I know it feels great, but it's really intense. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>it was already intense and she wasn't even here. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't imagine if she had been here and like we

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<v Speaker 2>would have just like moved in me and my two

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<v Speaker 2>sisters and Haley that's crazy no, But so my advice

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<v Speaker 2>is if if you don't want him going on other dates,

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<v Speaker 2>and you don't necessarily want to be going on dates,

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<v Speaker 2>I think you have a conversation like, hey are you

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<v Speaker 2>dating other people? Where are we at? If you don't

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<v Speaker 2>care about him going on other dates, I think you

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<v Speaker 2>continue dating until you find someone that you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to think about them going on other dates.

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<v Speaker 3>I think so too, unfortunately, and.

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<v Speaker 2>If it's not this guy, it's going to be one

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<v Speaker 2>of the ones where your eggs.

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<v Speaker 3>Just around the river. Bad. I look once more?

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<v Speaker 1>All right from Kayley Hi, I Begatania, Mark and Easton.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a thirty three year old female and so in

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<v Speaker 1>love with my husband. In four years, we're such a

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful and happy stage in our lives. My question is

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<v Speaker 1>about having kids. I wanted to be a mom since

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<v Speaker 1>I was a little girl, and I always felt like

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<v Speaker 1>it was for me and I know my husband would

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<v Speaker 1>be the best dad. However, shortly after our wedding, my

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<v Speaker 1>brother and his wife had their first child, and to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest, watching them go through the experiences, my husband

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<v Speaker 1>and I completely terrified. Their daughter has a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>behavioral issues. Their pediatrician says it's normal. She throws tantrums

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<v Speaker 1>constantly daily, sometimes multiple times a day. She screams, hits, bites,

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<v Speaker 1>cries whenever she doesn't get away. She's not a good sleeper,

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<v Speaker 1>she needs constant attention. She cannot play independently. And originally

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<v Speaker 1>we thought it was the terrible twos and she'd grow

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<v Speaker 1>out of it, but she turned four in January and

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<v Speaker 1>she's still going strong. On top of all that, my

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<v Speaker 1>brother and his wife are getting divorced. The trouble started

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<v Speaker 1>right after they had her, and they've tried to work

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<v Speaker 1>through it in couple's therapy, but they're moving forward with

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<v Speaker 1>the divorce. Watching the whole thing go down has us

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<v Speaker 1>both scared to death. We've also but if your friends

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<v Speaker 1>recently start having kids, and one couple constantly expresses how

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<v Speaker 1>much they hate being parents and even say awful things

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<v Speaker 1>about their baby, Oh my god. When we think about

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<v Speaker 1>our life long term, we know we want to be parents,

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<v Speaker 1>but we're so scared of losing sleep, losing ourselves, losing

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<v Speaker 1>each other in the process. And if it's anything like

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<v Speaker 1>my brother's experience. I'm not sure my mental health can

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<v Speaker 1>survive it. So it's our fear of sign that we

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be having kids. Should we just have faith and

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<v Speaker 1>dive in and hope for the best. I'm so interested

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<v Speaker 1>in all of your perspectives as Tanya has, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>hoping to start her own baby journey soon. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a Becca through and through, so her advice always gheits home.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also counting on you, Mark to bring the positivity

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<v Speaker 1>out of this one. I love you all. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>being that podcast besties.

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<v Speaker 2>Tonya just eyeing me through on the wide eyed the

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<v Speaker 2>whole time. Kayleie, I think you're going through something that

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<v Speaker 2>so many people go through, Like I think you have

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<v Speaker 2>an idea of what you want in your life, right.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to get married, you want to fall in love,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to find your person, and then you want

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<v Speaker 2>to create babies and have babies and be a mom

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<v Speaker 2>and be a parent. And then the thing is is

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<v Speaker 2>that I think when our parents were parents, like my

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<v Speaker 2>mom never complained about being mom. My mom never made

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<v Speaker 2>it seem hard or like a burden, and so I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know of anything other than just like pure bliss,

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<v Speaker 2>enjoy being a mom.

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<v Speaker 3>Until social media, really.

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<v Speaker 2>Social media, and like being and also being an adult

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<v Speaker 2>and like having a reality of how much sacrifice and

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<v Speaker 2>like love goes into being a parent, and also hearing

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<v Speaker 2>like it is people say it's like the hardest thing

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<v Speaker 2>you do, but like you have never experienced the love

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<v Speaker 2>like that, And I think that. I think there's so

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<v Speaker 2>much beauty and getting to experience that. And I also

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<v Speaker 2>think we have a little more insight into the potential

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<v Speaker 2>of challenges that comes with being a parent more than

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<v Speaker 2>ever before. People talk about it, like way more openly

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<v Speaker 2>than ever. And you also, the thing is that you

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what you're gonna get when you become a parent.

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<v Speaker 2>And Mark's only well Toni's a stepparent, but Mark's the

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<v Speaker 2>only parent in here who has you know, navigated having kids.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm interested in when she said, I'm scared of

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<v Speaker 3>losing sleep, losing ourselves and losing each other in the process.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a wacky idea, but I feel like the

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<v Speaker 3>first three years is when it's like really intense. This

0:21:08.080 --> 0:21:11.320
<v Speaker 3>is what Robbie's you know, taught me, is like that's

0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:13.119
<v Speaker 3>when it's like the first few years when it's like

0:21:13.160 --> 0:21:15.080
<v Speaker 3>a baby baby. That's when you're really losing the sleep.

0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:18.760
<v Speaker 3>That's when you're really losing like the all of that stuff.

0:21:19.760 --> 0:21:21.560
<v Speaker 3>There are so many kids that are out there that

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<v Speaker 3>need to be fostered and adopted. If you guys know

0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:26.159
<v Speaker 3>that you want to have kids and you want to

0:21:26.160 --> 0:21:28.000
<v Speaker 3>have a family, but maybe you don't want to like

0:21:28.080 --> 0:21:30.880
<v Speaker 3>loose sleep, lose yourselves and lose a thing. What if

0:21:30.920 --> 0:21:36.000
<v Speaker 3>you foster to adopt a child that's like for and up, Well.

0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:39.800
<v Speaker 2>That comes there's a lot of there's a lot that

0:21:39.840 --> 0:21:40.520
<v Speaker 2>comes with that too.

0:21:40.600 --> 0:21:44.680
<v Speaker 3>Emotionally, I know, I know, but she's saying she believes

0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:46.440
<v Speaker 3>it in her heart that she wants to be a parent,

0:21:46.720 --> 0:21:48.640
<v Speaker 3>but she's scared of these certain things that I feel

0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:52.200
<v Speaker 3>like come with like a baby baby. So maybe fostering

0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:54.720
<v Speaker 3>to adopt is the way. Well I think, I know,

0:21:54.840 --> 0:21:55.720
<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of idea.

0:21:55.920 --> 0:21:58.920
<v Speaker 2>It's not nothing. I mean, having a baby, no matter

0:21:58.960 --> 0:22:02.040
<v Speaker 2>how you do, it is like the most beautiful I think,

0:22:02.080 --> 0:22:04.479
<v Speaker 2>like one of the most sacrificial, loving things you can do,

0:22:04.520 --> 0:22:08.159
<v Speaker 2>whether it's you have the child biologically or adopt or foster,

0:22:08.400 --> 0:22:12.359
<v Speaker 2>whatever the reason. But marg I guess the thing is you,

0:22:12.760 --> 0:22:14.919
<v Speaker 2>as a parent, you are going to lose sleep, like

0:22:15.000 --> 0:22:15.760
<v Speaker 2>that's inevitable.

0:22:15.800 --> 0:22:17.280
<v Speaker 1>I think you're gonna lose all three of those to

0:22:17.280 --> 0:22:19.880
<v Speaker 1>some extent, not completely, but you are gonna lose sleep.

0:22:19.920 --> 0:22:21.800
<v Speaker 1>You are gonna lose yourselves, You're gonna lose each other

0:22:21.840 --> 0:22:24.600
<v Speaker 1>a little bit. But you're also bringing in such an

0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:27.879
<v Speaker 1>incredible joy into your lives, and that's okay. You're willing

0:22:27.920 --> 0:22:31.879
<v Speaker 1>to sacrifice some of that for the positives. You're only

0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:34.800
<v Speaker 1>focusing on the negatives in this email. There's nothing positive

0:22:34.800 --> 0:22:36.720
<v Speaker 1>in this email about having babies except that it was

0:22:36.720 --> 0:22:39.159
<v Speaker 1>your calling when you were a kid. But there is

0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:43.080
<v Speaker 1>so much positives. And I've talked on here before and extensively.

0:22:43.119 --> 0:22:45.199
<v Speaker 1>There's a Marken Easton show from years ago where we

0:22:45.240 --> 0:22:47.640
<v Speaker 1>talked about this a lot, the issues we had with

0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:50.639
<v Speaker 1>my daughter and her anxiety and how I was completely

0:22:50.680 --> 0:22:53.120
<v Speaker 1>ill equipped to deal with that, and how I am

0:22:53.119 --> 0:22:54.840
<v Speaker 1>not proud of how I dealt with that, and how

0:22:54.880 --> 0:22:56.719
<v Speaker 1>I'll never forgive myself or how I dealt with that.

0:22:57.800 --> 0:23:01.320
<v Speaker 1>But even with that stress and craziness that brought into

0:23:01.320 --> 0:23:06.440
<v Speaker 1>our lives, the joy of having her far outweighed any

0:23:06.560 --> 0:23:08.920
<v Speaker 1>of that. Like it's not even close. It's not even

0:23:08.920 --> 0:23:13.240
<v Speaker 1>a conversation maybe I wouldn't have to go through that,

0:23:13.280 --> 0:23:15.399
<v Speaker 1>but then she's not in our lives, Like that's not

0:23:15.480 --> 0:23:17.760
<v Speaker 1>even a thought. It's the most glorious thing. Being a

0:23:17.840 --> 0:23:20.000
<v Speaker 1>parent is incredible, and when you hold your child for

0:23:20.080 --> 0:23:22.560
<v Speaker 1>the first time, that's what you're going You're gonna be

0:23:22.560 --> 0:23:24.840
<v Speaker 1>flooded with and you're gonna know that you made the

0:23:24.920 --> 0:23:27.240
<v Speaker 1>right decision, and you know that it doesn't matter what

0:23:27.320 --> 0:23:29.800
<v Speaker 1>the future may hold. There might be behavioral issues or

0:23:29.800 --> 0:23:33.680
<v Speaker 1>anxiety or who knows what could happen, it's all worth

0:23:33.720 --> 0:23:37.480
<v Speaker 1>it in that moment and throughout it will all be

0:23:37.560 --> 0:23:39.680
<v Speaker 1>worth it from that moment on, and you'll know when

0:23:39.680 --> 0:23:42.199
<v Speaker 1>you hold her, you'll know this was worth it. And

0:23:42.240 --> 0:23:44.320
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't change a thing, and I would die for

0:23:44.359 --> 0:23:44.879
<v Speaker 1>this child.

0:23:46.280 --> 0:23:48.720
<v Speaker 2>That's what I hear consistently. And I also, I know

0:23:48.800 --> 0:23:53.240
<v Speaker 2>it's totally different, but I do think it's different when

0:23:53.240 --> 0:23:58.240
<v Speaker 2>it's your child, like when it's your choice. But no, fine,

0:23:58.960 --> 0:24:02.400
<v Speaker 2>I think it's different when it's it's yours. And you're

0:24:02.520 --> 0:24:05.679
<v Speaker 2>comparing your your brother in law brother.

0:24:05.640 --> 0:24:06.800
<v Speaker 1>Who her brother.

0:24:07.040 --> 0:24:10.440
<v Speaker 2>You're comparing your brother's situation, and it sounds like they're

0:24:10.440 --> 0:24:12.880
<v Speaker 2>in the trenches, but I'm sure they wouldn't give up

0:24:13.320 --> 0:24:16.359
<v Speaker 2>her for anything, like they probably are, like she's crazy

0:24:16.400 --> 0:24:18.359
<v Speaker 2>and we're dealing with a lot of behavioral stuff, but

0:24:18.440 --> 0:24:21.239
<v Speaker 2>I we love her because she is theirs. And I

0:24:21.240 --> 0:24:24.080
<v Speaker 2>think that it's the same, like it's it's different, but

0:24:24.160 --> 0:24:27.479
<v Speaker 2>it's like I don't necessarily I love dogs, but like

0:24:27.600 --> 0:24:30.240
<v Speaker 2>what I do for Phoebe and how I love Phoebe

0:24:30.359 --> 0:24:31.960
<v Speaker 2>is so different than.

0:24:31.840 --> 0:24:34.280
<v Speaker 3>How I love well, I love.

0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.640
<v Speaker 2>Sonny, but like what I tolerate with Phoebe, I would

0:24:36.720 --> 0:24:39.359
<v Speaker 2>never tolerate with you know, she could be on the

0:24:39.440 --> 0:24:41.879
<v Speaker 2>rug And I'm like, can I love you? And if

0:24:41.920 --> 0:24:44.120
<v Speaker 2>another dog peace, I'm like, is your dog not pot

0:24:45.840 --> 0:24:48.560
<v Speaker 2>potty tray in your dog? But I think it's like

0:24:48.600 --> 0:24:51.800
<v Speaker 2>when when it's your child, like there's an innate love

0:24:51.880 --> 0:24:55.280
<v Speaker 2>that you have for them that that conquers all the challenges.

0:24:55.320 --> 0:24:57.879
<v Speaker 2>And it doesn't mean that it erases the challenges. I

0:24:57.920 --> 0:25:02.119
<v Speaker 2>just think that the love that's there conquers those And

0:25:02.160 --> 0:25:05.359
<v Speaker 2>I also think that in terms of your relationship, you

0:25:05.400 --> 0:25:08.800
<v Speaker 2>hear people it is hard to navigate those times in

0:25:08.880 --> 0:25:12.520
<v Speaker 2>your sleepless and you have this new baby that you're

0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:16.400
<v Speaker 2>caring for and you're tired, and your like patience is limited,

0:25:16.920 --> 0:25:19.159
<v Speaker 2>but making time for each other to make sure that

0:25:19.200 --> 0:25:21.679
<v Speaker 2>you stay connected and it might be a few hard years,

0:25:21.720 --> 0:25:24.440
<v Speaker 2>but you come back to each other, and I'm assume

0:25:24.520 --> 0:25:26.359
<v Speaker 2>that it makes you stronger when you come back to

0:25:26.400 --> 0:25:26.800
<v Speaker 2>each other.

0:25:26.920 --> 0:25:30.360
<v Speaker 3>I also just feel like though I think that I

0:25:30.400 --> 0:25:34.320
<v Speaker 3>think that normalizing the conversation of like, it's okay to

0:25:34.400 --> 0:25:36.680
<v Speaker 3>not have kids as well, for sure, totally, but I

0:25:36.760 --> 0:25:38.040
<v Speaker 3>think I do think there's.

0:25:37.840 --> 0:25:40.880
<v Speaker 2>A lot of negativity around becoming a parent.

0:25:40.960 --> 0:25:42.880
<v Speaker 3>No, but there's also a lot of negativity around people

0:25:42.880 --> 0:25:44.160
<v Speaker 3>who say they don't want to have kids.

0:25:44.200 --> 0:25:45.920
<v Speaker 2>But she said she's always thought she would be.

0:25:46.000 --> 0:25:48.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I really maybe it's changed.

0:25:48.400 --> 0:25:50.359
<v Speaker 2>Totally, But I'm just saying I also feel there's a

0:25:50.400 --> 0:25:52.840
<v Speaker 2>lot of negativity around becoming a mom, and I don't.

0:25:52.960 --> 0:25:57.200
<v Speaker 2>I think that it should be also the positives should

0:25:57.240 --> 0:25:59.520
<v Speaker 2>be praise. And I also think, yeah, if you look

0:25:59.520 --> 0:26:02.360
<v Speaker 2>at all these things and you go, I don't want

0:26:02.400 --> 0:26:05.640
<v Speaker 2>it that bad, like being a mom isn't doesn't trump

0:26:05.880 --> 0:26:10.399
<v Speaker 2>these things that I'm scared of, then yeah, it's okay

0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:12.400
<v Speaker 2>to also not want to have kids. Like I've I've

0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:15.359
<v Speaker 2>navigated these feelings back and forth so much, especially the

0:26:15.359 --> 0:26:19.680
<v Speaker 2>past few years because Unfortunately, there is a time clock.

0:26:19.880 --> 0:26:23.320
<v Speaker 2>You know, the clock is ticking biologically, so annoying. But

0:26:23.520 --> 0:26:27.520
<v Speaker 2>I think that there's so much beauty in both decisions.

0:26:27.520 --> 0:26:29.480
<v Speaker 2>But I just want to I want to not have

0:26:29.600 --> 0:26:33.359
<v Speaker 2>kids based on the negative experiences that others are having.

0:26:35.280 --> 0:26:36.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you can't.

0:26:36.359 --> 0:26:36.959
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:26:37.520 --> 0:26:39.800
<v Speaker 1>And also what I said is from a dad's perspective,

0:26:40.200 --> 0:26:44.240
<v Speaker 1>a mother child bond is that much more powerful. Yes,

0:26:44.320 --> 0:26:48.560
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, just you wait, none of these concerns you

0:26:48.600 --> 0:26:50.879
<v Speaker 1>have now will exist when you're holding your baby.

0:26:51.000 --> 0:26:56.679
<v Speaker 2>Wow, they might. Let mean, I've talked to some people

0:26:56.720 --> 0:27:00.600
<v Speaker 2>that you know, it's I think postpartum is gnarly.

0:27:00.880 --> 0:27:02.600
<v Speaker 1>Well, that's true. That's a whole other conversation.

0:27:02.720 --> 0:27:05.240
<v Speaker 2>There's that's the thing. Like, I think that people are

0:27:05.280 --> 0:27:10.480
<v Speaker 2>finally talking about things postpartum, like anxiety and intrusive thoughts

0:27:10.480 --> 0:27:12.639
<v Speaker 2>and things that we never heard anyone talk about. So

0:27:12.680 --> 0:27:19.199
<v Speaker 2>I think there's I get the the hesitation around just

0:27:19.320 --> 0:27:22.520
<v Speaker 2>jumping into it now because there's it's important to think

0:27:22.520 --> 0:27:24.320
<v Speaker 2>about things. But it's also yeah, you.

0:27:24.680 --> 0:27:25.560
<v Speaker 3>Are so gnarly.

0:27:25.840 --> 0:27:26.119
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:27:26.280 --> 0:27:28.359
<v Speaker 3>Like when I think about myself and my luteal phase,

0:27:28.880 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, that's just my luteal phase.

0:27:31.640 --> 0:27:37.760
<v Speaker 1>Wow, my wife had our oldest alley. Uh, without any drugs,

0:27:38.080 --> 0:27:38.800
<v Speaker 1>not intentionally.

0:27:39.840 --> 0:27:39.959
<v Speaker 2>Uh.

0:27:40.160 --> 0:27:43.880
<v Speaker 1>They gave her an epidural and it didn't take Uh.

0:27:43.920 --> 0:27:47.640
<v Speaker 1>There was a trainee on staff that night. Yeah, and

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:51.000
<v Speaker 1>then they brought her into the delivery room without any thing,

0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:59.080
<v Speaker 1>so straight raw doctor. Damage was done down below in

0:27:59.119 --> 0:28:05.119
<v Speaker 1>the process. She had broken blood vessels all around each eye,

0:28:05.840 --> 0:28:10.240
<v Speaker 1>like she went through it. Sure, here I go. And

0:28:10.320 --> 0:28:12.439
<v Speaker 1>when she held Ali, the first thing she said to

0:28:12.480 --> 0:28:15.560
<v Speaker 1>me was it was all worth it. And it's been

0:28:15.600 --> 0:28:18.200
<v Speaker 1>eighteen years and she would say the exact same thing.

0:28:18.800 --> 0:28:22.680
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, that's.

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:25.280
<v Speaker 2>And people keep doing it. So you know that there's

0:28:25.440 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 2>the love erases the pain and the torture, like because

0:28:30.520 --> 0:28:33.480
<v Speaker 2>people go, I remember I've had I had a friend

0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:36.359
<v Speaker 2>who was like, I'll never do it again. The pregnancy

0:28:36.400 --> 0:28:39.880
<v Speaker 2>was horrible, the you know everything about it. Had another baby,

0:28:39.920 --> 0:28:42.880
<v Speaker 2>it's like your brain goes yep, Wow, this is the great.

0:28:43.040 --> 0:28:45.720
<v Speaker 2>There's something about it that people go back for more.

0:28:45.880 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 2>So there's a testament to that. And it's okay to

0:28:49.520 --> 0:28:52.760
<v Speaker 2>choose a different paths. I agree, whatever you choose, We're

0:28:52.840 --> 0:28:55.080
<v Speaker 2>rooting for you. It's beautiful. Life is beautiful.

0:28:55.400 --> 0:28:56.240
<v Speaker 3>It is beautiful.

0:28:56.360 --> 0:29:02.000
<v Speaker 2>It's all about how you make it. Yes, we have

0:29:02.560 --> 0:29:05.240
<v Speaker 2>an email from Anonymous and her sister in law is

0:29:05.280 --> 0:29:07.760
<v Speaker 2>making up lies. But we're going to get to that

0:29:08.040 --> 0:29:32.080
<v Speaker 2>when we come back. All right, Mark, this one stressful.

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<v Speaker 1>Anonymous ses Dear Easton, Becca, Tani, and Mark in no

0:29:35.200 --> 0:29:36.000
<v Speaker 1>particular order.

0:29:36.120 --> 0:29:38.880
<v Speaker 2>I love that the order has become a sensitive topic.

0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:41.880
<v Speaker 1>Day one Scrubbery here, thank you for bringing me so

0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:43.880
<v Speaker 1>much joy each week. I had the privilege of attending

0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:45.800
<v Speaker 1>the Live San Francisco show, and I hope you just

0:29:45.840 --> 0:29:47.479
<v Speaker 1>had to do it again. That was a good one.

0:29:47.880 --> 0:29:49.680
<v Speaker 1>I need your advice. I recently went on a group

0:29:49.760 --> 0:29:52.120
<v Speaker 1>vacation with several other couples that I don't know very

0:29:52.160 --> 0:29:55.600
<v Speaker 1>well from my husband's brother's birthday. Over the past year,

0:29:55.680 --> 0:29:58.920
<v Speaker 1>I've lost weight through pilates and running. My sister in

0:29:58.960 --> 0:30:01.480
<v Speaker 1>law repeatedly old people on the trip behind my back

0:30:01.800 --> 0:30:04.800
<v Speaker 1>that I'm on ozembic. One of the other women told

0:30:04.800 --> 0:30:07.080
<v Speaker 1>me what was being said and even defended me when

0:30:07.120 --> 0:30:09.760
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't there. I am not taking ozempic. I have

0:30:09.800 --> 0:30:12.120
<v Speaker 1>nothing against it, but whether or not I'm taking ozempic

0:30:12.200 --> 0:30:14.400
<v Speaker 1>is irrelevant. It is rude and appropriate for my sister

0:30:14.440 --> 0:30:17.120
<v Speaker 1>in law to spread that narrative. She doesn't know that

0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:19.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm aware of what she did, and I don't want

0:30:19.040 --> 0:30:20.840
<v Speaker 1>the person who told me to get dragged into the drama.

0:30:21.320 --> 0:30:22.920
<v Speaker 1>This is also not the first time she's made up

0:30:22.920 --> 0:30:25.680
<v Speaker 1>something about me behind my back. My husband is furious

0:30:25.720 --> 0:30:28.080
<v Speaker 1>and wants to address it, possibly by talking to his brother,

0:30:28.520 --> 0:30:30.720
<v Speaker 1>but I don't want this to create lasting damage in

0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:33.680
<v Speaker 1>their relationship. How would you handle this? Should I address

0:30:33.680 --> 0:30:36.520
<v Speaker 1>it directly with my sister in law? I hate confrontation.

0:30:36.800 --> 0:30:38.640
<v Speaker 1>Should I let my husband handle it? Or should I

0:30:38.720 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>just let it go?

0:30:41.440 --> 0:30:43.280
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I know what I would he just let

0:30:43.320 --> 0:30:47.400
<v Speaker 3>it go. I'd let it go, let it go, like

0:30:48.720 --> 0:30:49.800
<v Speaker 3>like you know what I say?

0:30:49.960 --> 0:30:52.680
<v Speaker 2>What I go? Did someone tell you that I was

0:30:52.720 --> 0:30:56.959
<v Speaker 2>on a zimpic and then she'd be like what why?

0:30:57.400 --> 0:31:01.040
<v Speaker 2>And You'd be like, oh, someone on the party mentioned

0:31:01.080 --> 0:31:03.320
<v Speaker 2>that you that you said that I was on no ozempic.

0:31:03.320 --> 0:31:06.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm not. I'm not taking ozempic. That's what I'd say,

0:31:07.000 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 2>you know.

0:31:07.400 --> 0:31:10.040
<v Speaker 3>I just feel like nowadays we have so many tools

0:31:10.080 --> 0:31:12.160
<v Speaker 3>at our fingertips. You can go on your Instagram and

0:31:12.200 --> 0:31:14.200
<v Speaker 3>post a picture at your pilates class and say I'm

0:31:14.240 --> 0:31:17.400
<v Speaker 3>so grateful to pilates and running for helping me shed

0:31:17.440 --> 0:31:21.680
<v Speaker 3>the weight, no shade on ozembic or Manjaro. But like

0:31:21.720 --> 0:31:27.280
<v Speaker 3>I did this one nd per second. What I'm saying

0:31:27.360 --> 0:31:29.720
<v Speaker 3>is like, if there's been passive aggressive no, but like

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:32.600
<v Speaker 3>who people might be not just the sister in law,

0:31:32.640 --> 0:31:34.760
<v Speaker 3>other people might be assuming that she's on ozempic. So

0:31:34.800 --> 0:31:37.120
<v Speaker 3>it's like, if you're upset about this narrative that's being spread,

0:31:37.160 --> 0:31:39.160
<v Speaker 3>it's probably not just coming from your sister in law,

0:31:39.160 --> 0:31:42.880
<v Speaker 3>because I think that society nowadays, if people lost, if people,

0:31:43.120 --> 0:31:45.240
<v Speaker 3>if someone loses a lot of weight, everyone's first thought

0:31:45.360 --> 0:31:48.320
<v Speaker 3>is to Zembic Manjaro, And so it's not you know,

0:31:49.000 --> 0:31:52.280
<v Speaker 3>it's set me whatever, trizipitide. And if that's not, then

0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 3>we go be Manjaro all the things. And if that's

0:31:55.520 --> 0:31:57.480
<v Speaker 3>not the narrative that you want out there, then correct

0:31:57.480 --> 0:31:59.240
<v Speaker 3>the narrative yourself and take it into your own hands

0:31:59.280 --> 0:32:01.239
<v Speaker 3>and post a picture and say proud of this. I

0:32:01.240 --> 0:32:03.920
<v Speaker 3>did it without any medication, like whatever you want to say.

0:32:04.160 --> 0:32:06.240
<v Speaker 3>But you can control the narrative in your own way.

0:32:06.240 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 3>I think go into your sister in law personally. I

0:32:08.880 --> 0:32:10.920
<v Speaker 3>just wouldn't. I don't want to have confrontation with my

0:32:10.920 --> 0:32:13.720
<v Speaker 3>sister in law there's no point. She might just think

0:32:13.720 --> 0:32:16.200
<v Speaker 3>you're on it and like said in passing, I'm just

0:32:16.240 --> 0:32:18.320
<v Speaker 3>gonna go on on on her side and say she

0:32:18.360 --> 0:32:19.880
<v Speaker 3>probably wasn't doing it ill willed.

0:32:19.960 --> 0:32:22.280
<v Speaker 2>She seems like she's done this before though a little.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. If she is bitchy and she is

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<v Speaker 3>like that, then confronting her is not going to help

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<v Speaker 3>the situation.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I think the opposite because I think if you

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<v Speaker 2>if you ask direct a direct question, but you're not

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<v Speaker 2>accusatory towards her of just like, hey, did someone tell

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<v Speaker 2>you that I was on a zembic, Like I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>like I've done it all naturally, it just makes her

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<v Speaker 2>go like, oh I need to stop running my mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>And maybe not, but I just think if someone called

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<v Speaker 2>me out on that, I'd be.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, you would not do that. I think I would

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<v Speaker 3>as someone who does not like confrontation, you would not

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<v Speaker 3>do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been getting better about my conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, did the husband talk with his brother?

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<v Speaker 2>No, because what are they gonna know?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, basic should be.

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<v Speaker 2>She's good. I think she says anything to anyone, Hey, bro,

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<v Speaker 2>my wife's not ozimpic. Tell your wife stopped talking about my.

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<v Speaker 3>Wife and then he'd be like, okay, and then he'd probably.

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<v Speaker 2>Forgets Okay, I'll let her know tonight, bro Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And then tonight comes and goes and he never says anything. No,

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<v Speaker 3>I forgot that.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, did you know that Sherry's on ozimpic. That's what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying. I could get twisted. I think if you're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna if you want to say something, I think you

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<v Speaker 2>do it and and again you go at it and

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<v Speaker 2>not accusatory way, just like to let her know that

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<v Speaker 2>you know that she's running her mouth. Or you can

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<v Speaker 2>go Tanya's approach and just post and say, like your

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<v Speaker 2>own narrative, so grateful for all the pilates and running

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<v Speaker 2>and no ozimpic or semi glue tide or monjaro.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah no or no science, this is all natural, whatever

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<v Speaker 3>you want to say.

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<v Speaker 1>The bottom line is you look great.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing is. The thing is people are talking because

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<v Speaker 2>you're having results. Yeah, and you know how you're doing it.

0:33:59.800 --> 0:34:02.680
<v Speaker 2>And regardless of if they're regardless of how you did

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<v Speaker 2>or what you did, if you feel great about yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the important thing that you need to focus on.

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<v Speaker 2>If your sister in law is someone who runs her

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<v Speaker 2>mouth don't let her run her mouth like, if she's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be that way, let her be that way.

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<v Speaker 3>Let them, let them.

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<v Speaker 2>I love.

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<v Speaker 3>Take people as they are, take people as they are.

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<v Speaker 1>Having it, not bother you is pretty pretty good defense.

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<v Speaker 2>IM just saying yeah, yeah, but also calling someone out

0:34:30.360 --> 0:34:35.200
<v Speaker 2>on there is a good Don't let people. Don't let

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<v Speaker 2>people talk about you without having a conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, do your favorite Do not look at the

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<v Speaker 1>next page because there's a quiz for you guys already.

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<v Speaker 3>Hear right, the auzy one. Yeah, yeah, I thought it.

0:34:46.440 --> 0:34:48.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm supposed to quiz you on these and you already

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<v Speaker 1>looked at it.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't look at it, so you can quiz me.

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<v Speaker 1>An Australian accent.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I read. I read the prep When Sam said,

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<v Speaker 3>do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Want to do with this question in your Australian accent?

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, I don't think I would do it, all right,

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't either.

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<v Speaker 1>Good day, Becca, missus yadagar Mark and Easton. My name

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<v Speaker 1>is Sam and I want to congratulate Tony on a

0:35:12.320 --> 0:35:14.839
<v Speaker 1>recent nuptials. So thrilled for you. Like many others, I

0:35:14.880 --> 0:35:17.840
<v Speaker 1>love hearing the origin stories. So here is mine. I

0:35:17.920 --> 0:35:21.680
<v Speaker 1>found scrubbing enduring the longest loneliest Lockdown days, where Melbourne,

0:35:21.719 --> 0:35:24.520
<v Speaker 1>Australia had one hundred and twelve days straight of lockdown stay

0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:27.360
<v Speaker 1>at home orders due to the pandemic between Grayce and

0:35:27.360 --> 0:35:29.560
<v Speaker 1>Aatomy and the days of scrubbing in. Somehow I got by.

0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:31.560
<v Speaker 1>I stumbled across the pod and then listened to the

0:35:31.560 --> 0:35:33.839
<v Speaker 1>back catalog and was hooked listening to every episode from

0:35:33.840 --> 0:35:36.360
<v Speaker 1>then until now and have now begun re listening to

0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:39.160
<v Speaker 1>fill in between waiting for new episodes to drive. Wow. Sam,

0:35:39.200 --> 0:35:42.680
<v Speaker 1>that's great. My favorites are always the chit chat between Becca,

0:35:42.680 --> 0:35:44.960
<v Speaker 1>Tanya and Mark and Easton. You don't know it, but

0:35:45.080 --> 0:35:47.640
<v Speaker 1>you've all been there through some challenging days, the lockdown

0:35:47.680 --> 0:35:49.759
<v Speaker 1>COVID days, but from the end of a relationship, the

0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:52.400
<v Speaker 1>end of a teaching career, through mental burnout, relocating and

0:35:52.400 --> 0:35:54.320
<v Speaker 1>moving back in with my parents, and my forties to

0:35:54.400 --> 0:35:58.360
<v Speaker 1>start over again, through reinventions and reinvestments. I appreciate you

0:35:58.400 --> 0:36:00.960
<v Speaker 1>all alongside me through this crazy roller coaster life. I

0:36:01.000 --> 0:36:04.800
<v Speaker 1>love you all. Keep up the awesome work. Your authenticity, humor, softness,

0:36:04.800 --> 0:36:07.680
<v Speaker 1>friendship and laughter is so infectious. Finally, good Anya, You're

0:36:07.719 --> 0:36:10.080
<v Speaker 1>all a bunch of rippers, and I hope to hear

0:36:10.080 --> 0:36:12.680
<v Speaker 1>in the future episode that missus Yadegar has a bun

0:36:12.760 --> 0:36:15.799
<v Speaker 1>in the oven aka preggers. I thought we could play

0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:18.520
<v Speaker 1>a fun game called do you know this? Ostragon slang

0:36:18.760 --> 0:36:20.799
<v Speaker 1>love you all from Sam all the way from the

0:36:20.840 --> 0:36:23.600
<v Speaker 1>land down Under. So Tanya, you can't play this game?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I read them already, all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Becca? What is a barbie?

0:36:29.040 --> 0:36:29.120
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:36:29.280 --> 0:36:31.880
<v Speaker 3>Okay, the skewer? What's a bob?

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:33.680
<v Speaker 2>Is that a girl? Yes?

0:36:34.000 --> 0:36:34.319
<v Speaker 1>Very good?

0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:36.160
<v Speaker 3>What's a motzi?

0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:41.400
<v Speaker 1>I think maybe just mazzi, mazzi, m o z z

0:36:41.560 --> 0:36:50.480
<v Speaker 1>i e mazzi, a car drag. It's short for something

0:36:51.440 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 1>something that's annoying. A no, slightly higher pitched.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, mosquito?

0:37:00.160 --> 0:37:04.640
<v Speaker 3>Yes? What about a Macca's McDonald's.

0:37:04.760 --> 0:37:05.280
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>What about a Dunna? Am I doing a good Australian accent?

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<v Speaker 2>What was that one?

0:37:10.360 --> 0:37:10.880
<v Speaker 1>I doubt it?

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<v Speaker 3>Can you do that for Mark Dunna Mark d u.

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<v Speaker 1>N n y Dunny or Dunna. I would never have

0:37:19.239 --> 0:37:20.279
<v Speaker 1>guessed this in a million years.

0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:21.400
<v Speaker 3>Did you go to the Dunna.

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:23.720
<v Speaker 2>The dentist?

0:37:23.920 --> 0:37:26.399
<v Speaker 1>You should go to then before we go on our trip,

0:37:26.440 --> 0:37:29.360
<v Speaker 1>you should go to the Dunny the store shut the

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:30.560
<v Speaker 1>mall toilet.

0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:32.759
<v Speaker 2>It's a long colge toilet.

0:37:32.400 --> 0:37:36.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh, he's such a bludger.

0:37:37.960 --> 0:37:45.279
<v Speaker 2>Losers, douchebag, cheeter.

0:37:49.239 --> 0:37:54.000
<v Speaker 3>A spill it a spit the dummy Scottish.

0:37:54.080 --> 0:37:54.720
<v Speaker 2>What's happening?

0:37:55.080 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 1>Spit the dummy, spit the dummy. Yeah, someone spit the dummy.

0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:08.719
<v Speaker 2>Someone, well, someone fell someone No, drop the ball.

0:38:09.520 --> 0:38:12.239
<v Speaker 1>Robbie left his socks on the floor and Tinya split

0:38:12.320 --> 0:38:12.720
<v Speaker 1>the dummy.

0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:18.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh she freaked out, got upset. Yeah, let's go to

0:38:18.120 --> 0:38:18.680
<v Speaker 3>talk talk.

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard this next one fadcom fat income.

0:38:23.840 --> 0:38:29.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah it's okay, fadcum. It's not false, but it's bad. Incum,

0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:35.440
<v Speaker 3>it's not false, it's true. Yes, wow, really lead a horse.

0:38:35.520 --> 0:38:39.960
<v Speaker 3>But uh, criaky, crikey, crikey.

0:38:40.440 --> 0:38:45.880
<v Speaker 2>Shoot like dang, oh oh my, like, oh my god, crazy.

0:38:45.680 --> 0:38:53.440
<v Speaker 3>Cricky dogs cheers, no, uh talks. Go you go to

0:38:53.440 --> 0:38:54.920
<v Speaker 3>the beach. Make sure you take your dogs.

0:38:55.440 --> 0:38:59.880
<v Speaker 2>Your towels, your bag. You're some suit YESU.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah that's nice, Sam, Thank you for that.

0:39:02.440 --> 0:39:05.799
<v Speaker 2>Sam. That was so fun. Great great work Tanya and Mark.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never been able to master us.

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<v Speaker 3>Really hard one.

0:39:09.400 --> 0:39:10.399
<v Speaker 2>It's a really hard one.

0:39:10.680 --> 0:39:12.600
<v Speaker 1>When I was there, we went there for a honeymoon,

0:39:12.600 --> 0:39:14.759
<v Speaker 1>by the way, so oh my gosh, wow, and I

0:39:14.800 --> 0:39:16.480
<v Speaker 1>had it down pretty good when we were there, but

0:39:16.520 --> 0:39:18.160
<v Speaker 1>it's gone now sorry.

0:39:18.120 --> 0:39:18.840
<v Speaker 2>You should return.

0:39:18.960 --> 0:39:19.360
<v Speaker 1>I should.

0:39:21.000 --> 0:39:23.640
<v Speaker 2>That's it. That's all. We're leaving, that's it.

0:39:23.640 --> 0:39:28.480
<v Speaker 3>We got to go. We're gonna go down and it's

0:39:28.520 --> 0:39:31.600
<v Speaker 3>like British now goodbye.

0:39:31.680 --> 0:39:31.879
<v Speaker 1>Then.

0:39:32.200 --> 0:39:37.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Australian almost sounds like a really thick Southern accent,

0:39:37.920 --> 0:39:41.520
<v Speaker 2>like there's a drawl or something to it that nar

0:39:42.520 --> 0:39:47.400
<v Speaker 2>I love Nor, I always say Nor. Haley always goes like,

0:39:47.640 --> 0:39:50.239
<v Speaker 2>I feel like you could have like that, you would

0:39:50.239 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 2>have a good Australian accident. I'm like, all I can

0:39:52.040 --> 0:39:55.000
<v Speaker 2>say is more yeah, And I don't even know if

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<v Speaker 2>I do that well, But that's all for now. We

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<v Speaker 2>hope you have a wonderful weekend, enjoy the spring weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes mid April. We love you so much.

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<v Speaker 3>By love you,