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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya rap an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Scrub Dub Dub and the dubtutu.

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Speaker 2: It was absolutely a gift for the eyes and the ears.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 2: What would you like to talk about? Because you don't

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Speaker 2: like to jump straight into the dear Banya stuff.

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Speaker 3: I don't. I like to feather in a little bit

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Speaker 3: of like how are you feeling, how's your heart? What's new?

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Speaker 3: Like what's going on? Give me summer plans? Like, give

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Speaker 3: us a little something.

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Speaker 2: Well, I love We're in spring right now, and I

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Speaker 2: love spring, and you're trying to rush me into summer

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Speaker 2: and I want to.

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Speaker 3: Be mostly in spring. People plan for summer and then

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Speaker 3: mostly in summer.

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Speaker 2: People don't plan at all. I'm not a planner. Oh,

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Speaker 2: I'm just existing in the time that I'm in. Wow,

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Speaker 2: imagine you're eighty years old and you get to come

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Speaker 2: back to this day. Are you just gonna be a friend?

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Speaker 3: I'm seeing that all over. I'm like, what the hell

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Speaker 3: is going on here? Is this person really eighty? Like

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Speaker 3: I didn't get it at first. I was like, is

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Speaker 3: this person really eighty? And they'd like have good skincare

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Speaker 3: or like what's happening.

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Speaker 2: No, it's just like it's like trying to get people

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Speaker 2: to just be present and enjoy the day. Don't like

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Speaker 2: wish away this time of your life, because when you

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Speaker 2: turn eighty, you'll be looking back going like, what what

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Speaker 2: I would give to be thirty six again, in a

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Speaker 2: healthy body where I can go outside and go on

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Speaker 2: a hike and have the energy and look in the

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Speaker 2: mirror and not feel you know, old.

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Speaker 3: I know it's nice, So.

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Speaker 2: Quit trying to get me to think about summer when

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Speaker 2: I'm in spring.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, this went into a ted talk that I

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Speaker 3: was not anticipating I might do.

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Speaker 2: That might be my new career path, just ted talks

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Speaker 2: across the nation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my new career path might be helping women find

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Speaker 3: prenatals that don't make them naw twenty four seven. Oh

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Speaker 3: I've heard about that. Oh my god, I've heard.

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Speaker 2: And you know what really intimidates me about pregnancy if

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Speaker 2: I ever choose to do it, what the nausea of

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Speaker 2: the first trimester.

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Speaker 3: It's just the thing is, you just never know. Not

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Speaker 3: everybody's the same. Some people have no nausea.

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Speaker 2: Who do you know that has had none. No, No,

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Speaker 2: so many people really yeah, like zero percent nausea.

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Speaker 3: Zero percent.

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Speaker 2: Name you like ten, I'm listening.

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Speaker 1: One or two.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll get you off the podcast. Okay, Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: like not want you to know people to know that

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Speaker 3: they didn't. Yeah, exactly exactly, it's top secret information. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: I feel like so many people have like such different pregnancies,

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Speaker 3: Like you can't compare and then you don't. The thing

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Speaker 3: that's weird is that you just don't know until you know,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I just was thinking about how horrible I feel when

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Speaker 2: I'm just like even hungover nauseous, and how or just

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Speaker 2: sick and nauseous, and how doing that for days on end.

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Speaker 3: But no, it's true, sounds so bad. Yeah. There was

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Speaker 3: one day where I was like ill all day and

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Speaker 3: I was like, am I just gonna be ill for

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Speaker 3: the next three months while I'm taking these pre needles?

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Speaker 2: Ali and I have a prediction that you're gonna have

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Speaker 2: an easy pregnancy from your lips to God's ears.

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Speaker 3: But I I split up the dose. I like split

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Speaker 3: up the dogo yo yo, yeah yo, and yah. I

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Speaker 3: split up the dose. It was like I took eight

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Speaker 3: pills at once, and then I split it up into

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Speaker 3: five and three, and now it's much better.

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Speaker 2: Why not four and four?

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Speaker 3: Because there's you take there's like three, three and two,

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Speaker 3: six eight, So I do three and two. So I

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Speaker 3: take five and then I take the other three with lunch,

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Speaker 3: A lot.

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Speaker 1: Of math involved. I didn't think there would be.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, interesting, it's a lot of pills.

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Speaker 3: I got a real potent one potent potent like oh,

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, you're saying like the one you bought, yeah, prenatal. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I thought even like just one of the supplements you

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm just saying. The one that I'm

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Speaker 3: taking is podent. Gearing you up, gearing me up? You

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Speaker 3: know why not? I'm gonna do it, give it to me, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready to jump into deer Vonno?

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Speaker 3: I guess I wish you would give me like a

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Speaker 3: little more like what would you like to hear? What

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Speaker 3: are you doing this weekend?

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Speaker 2: Uh? I don't you know. What's so nice is that

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Speaker 2: I don't have anything this weekend, and it feels amazing

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Speaker 2: because last weekend was Haley's birthday, and Haley's like my

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Speaker 2: birthday personally, I I don't need a lot on my

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Speaker 2: birth I am happy for people to achnowledge it. That

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Speaker 2: feels really nice. But I'm I don't need a lot

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Speaker 2: in terms of celebrating my birthday. I like to go

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Speaker 2: on a trip with my friends and that is so sufficient.

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Speaker 2: I don't need a lot of attention in that way.

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Speaker 2: Hailey loves her birthday. It is like the biggest day

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Speaker 2: of the year. So as her girlfriend, I feel like

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Speaker 2: a lot of uh pressure, well not pressure, but I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I want to make it GRAVI toss great for her.

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Speaker 1: I don't think gravitas works there.

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Speaker 2: What is GRAVI toss?

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Speaker 1: Wait, yes, a heavy load.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know if it's that. It's more just

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Speaker 2: like I want it to be great for her. And

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Speaker 2: so on her actual birthday, we did like I woke up, Oh,

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Speaker 2: I got all of her friends to write cards for her,

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Speaker 2: because that's her love language. Like one time in twenty twenty,

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Speaker 2: since no one could come be a part of the party, yeah, pandemic,

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Speaker 2: everyone sent her cards. I had everyone send her cards,

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Speaker 2: and she always references that that was like one of

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Speaker 2: her favorite birthdays, and so I thought, why not do

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Speaker 2: it again? So I had everyone bring her card, Tany

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Speaker 2: and Robbie, and I put them on balloons and she goes, wow,

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Speaker 2: I feel like this, this feels very Tawnya. And then

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Speaker 2: everyone was responding to my story about it. They're like,

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Speaker 2: this is so Tanya.

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Speaker 3: He sent it to me too, He's like, this feels

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Speaker 2: Haley has a lot of Tanya things about her. So

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Speaker 2: I I know how to cater to Tanya, you know, yes,

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Speaker 2: And so I she thought they were all for me.

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Speaker 2: So at first I was like, that is very Tanya.

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Speaker 2: But I switched it up a little bit. Yeah, And

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Speaker 2: so I did that for her and then made breakfast

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Speaker 2: and then we just went and got massages and then

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Speaker 2: I planned the park party, and so I was I

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Speaker 2: was like exhausted from now back.

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Speaker 3: Is like I gotta put my feet up this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I'm like I need just nothing on the agenda.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you have so many things? Oh? You

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Speaker 3: have next weekend. I'm going to do no nothing on

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Speaker 2: I'll believe it when I see it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, We're going to San Diego this week and my

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Speaker 1: daughter is in the UCSD production of Footloose.

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Speaker 2: So house college life really adjusted.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's adjusted now. It was. It was rocky for

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Speaker 1: a while. The transition was rough, interesting, but now she's

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Speaker 1: in a better place. Her first roommate situation wasn't great.

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Speaker 1: very She's found her people.

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Speaker 2: She in a dorm.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and she has.

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Speaker 3: It happened around October, right, the transition to did No.

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Speaker 1: It was more recent than that. Yeah, it took a while.

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Speaker 2: How are her parents doing?

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Speaker 1: Her parents also had a hard time with transition.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and sister.

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Speaker 1: Sister was okay, it's all about me now. Sister likes

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Speaker 1: having the only focus in the house. Yes she does.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's something about the baby, the baby of the family,

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Speaker 2: which only the baby ever understands. Yeah, because it's either

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Speaker 2: kind of sad that they're the last one and they

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Speaker 3: It's also annoying because then like you're the only focus.

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Speaker 3: So then if you're not home at like eleven oh two,

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Speaker 3: you know what i mean, Like when there's other siblings involved,

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Speaker 3: it's kind of like can't really keep up.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy thinking about you not being home at nine pm,

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Speaker 2: A little rebel. Back in the day, you were like

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Speaker 3: Stacy Nelson's when really I was at Scott Thompson.

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Speaker 2: Oh, oh, my gosh, Stacy Nelson. But Scott Thompson, that's right,

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Speaker 2: where is he? I think he's married, sneaking around married,

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Speaker 3: No kids. I think everyone grows up. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 3: and my twenty year reunion is coming up?

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Speaker 2: Are you going? I think? So?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I should I should?

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Speaker 3: One of my girlfriends from high school and she's like,

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Speaker 3: I don't know. It seems kind of weird. Why because like,

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Speaker 1: They're never what you want to It's never role me

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Speaker 1: and Michelle, Right, it's not.

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Speaker 2: They're always like so glorified on TV shows. Right.

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Speaker 1: So ours is like in a bar in the middle

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Speaker 1: of nowhere in Wisconsin and people just come. There's no host,

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Speaker 1: there's no pictures on the wall, there's no nothing. And

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Speaker 1: I've never been to one, by the way. Always see

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Speaker 1: It's not like this thing like, oh, I have no

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Speaker 1: use for that. I want to go, But it's always

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Speaker 1: a random summertime in Wisconsin. We're always working. I could

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Speaker 2: Like a celebrity in your home, like people know what

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Speaker 1: So No, I didn't think so. But I had lunch

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Speaker 1: with a guy a few months ago that I went

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Speaker 1: to high school with, and he knew my whole life.

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Speaker 1: He knew that I did Discover Millionaire show, he knew

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Speaker 1: that I did comedy sports, he knew this. He knew

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Speaker 1: that I worked for Rick D's and with see, I

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Speaker 1: was like, wow, that's that's interesting. Yeah, yeah good. I

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Speaker 1: either he just did his homework or maybe people know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: No, I feel like he followed, followed your career.

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Speaker 1: We'll see more. Because also I tend to put stuff

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Speaker 1: on Facebook that's going to make it seem like I'm

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Speaker 1: a bigger deal than I am. Oh, like me and

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Speaker 1: Jimmy Fallon, Like I personally did a picture that made

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Speaker 1: it not look like a post picture, like hey, we're

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Speaker 1: just buddies hanging out. Yeah you're like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: Mark's friends with Jimmy Fallon. I'm not. But I want

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Speaker 1: the people that went to high school to think that,

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Speaker 1: oh wow, that's important to me for some reason. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, mine's like doing like they have like an Instagram page.

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Speaker 3: It's like dedicated to like our reunion class of five reunion,

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Speaker 1: I'm imagining this and Mark's voice and there it was

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what through thirty?

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Speaker 2: Here's my question to anonymous, how do you feel about

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Speaker 2: mom never complained about being mom. My mom never made

439
00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:59,399
Speaker 2: it seem hard or like a burden, and so I

440
00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,880
Speaker 2: didn't know of anything other than just like pure bliss,

441
00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:04,240
Speaker 2: enjoy being a mom.

442
00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:06,800
Speaker 3: Until social media, really.

443
00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,600
Speaker 2: Social media, and like being and also being an adult

444
00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:13,000
Speaker 2: and like having a reality of how much sacrifice and

445
00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:16,560
Speaker 2: like love goes into being a parent, and also hearing

446
00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:19,560
Speaker 2: like it is people say it's like the hardest thing

447
00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,040
Speaker 2: you do, but like you have never experienced the love

448
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:25,520
Speaker 2: like that, And I think that. I think there's so

449
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,080
Speaker 2: much beauty and getting to experience that. And I also

450
00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 2: think we have a little more insight into the potential

451
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 2: of challenges that comes with being a parent more than

452
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:37,200
Speaker 2: ever before. People talk about it, like way more openly

453
00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:41,119
Speaker 2: than ever. And you also, the thing is that you

454
00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:43,920
Speaker 2: don't know what you're gonna get when you become a parent.

455
00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 2: And Mark's only well Toni's a stepparent, but Mark's the

456
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 2: only parent in here who has you know, navigated having kids.

457
00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:54,720
Speaker 3: But I'm interested in when she said, I'm scared of

458
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:59,159
Speaker 3: losing sleep, losing ourselves and losing each other in the process.

459
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:04,840
Speaker 3: This is a wacky idea, but I feel like the

460
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 3: first three years is when it's like really intense. This

461
00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 3: is what Robbie's you know, taught me, is like that's

462
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,119
Speaker 3: when it's like the first few years when it's like

463
00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 3: a baby baby. That's when you're really losing the sleep.

464
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 3: That's when you're really losing like the all of that stuff.

465
00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 3: There are so many kids that are out there that

466
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,520
Speaker 3: need to be fostered and adopted. If you guys know

467
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 3: that you want to have kids and you want to

468
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 3: have a family, but maybe you don't want to like

469
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,880
Speaker 3: loose sleep, lose yourselves and lose a thing. What if

470
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Speaker 3: you foster to adopt a child that's like for and up, Well.

471
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Speaker 2: That comes there's a lot of there's a lot that

472
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:40,520
Speaker 2: comes with that too.

473
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Speaker 3: Emotionally, I know, I know, but she's saying she believes

474
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Speaker 3: it in her heart that she wants to be a parent,

475
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Speaker 3: but she's scared of these certain things that I feel

476
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 3: like come with like a baby baby. So maybe fostering

477
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 3: to adopt is the way. Well I think, I know,

478
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 3: there's a lot of idea.

479
00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,920
Speaker 2: It's not nothing. I mean, having a baby, no matter

480
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:02,040
Speaker 2: how you do, it is like the most beautiful I think,

481
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,479
Speaker 2: like one of the most sacrificial, loving things you can do,

482
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:08,159
Speaker 2: whether it's you have the child biologically or adopt or foster,

483
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:12,359
Speaker 2: whatever the reason. But marg I guess the thing is you,

484
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 2: as a parent, you are going to lose sleep, like

485
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 2: that's inevitable.

486
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Speaker 1: I think you're gonna lose all three of those to

487
00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:19,880
Speaker 1: some extent, not completely, but you are gonna lose sleep.

488
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: You are gonna lose yourselves, You're gonna lose each other

489
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 1: a little bit. But you're also bringing in such an

490
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 1: incredible joy into your lives, and that's okay. You're willing

491
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Speaker 1: to sacrifice some of that for the positives. You're only

492
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:34,800
Speaker 1: focusing on the negatives in this email. There's nothing positive

493
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 1: in this email about having babies except that it was

494
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Speaker 1: your calling when you were a kid. But there is

495
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Speaker 1: so much positives. And I've talked on here before and extensively.

496
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 1: There's a Marken Easton show from years ago where we

497
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,640
Speaker 1: talked about this a lot, the issues we had with

498
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,639
Speaker 1: my daughter and her anxiety and how I was completely

499
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 1: ill equipped to deal with that, and how I am

500
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 1: not proud of how I dealt with that, and how

501
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:56,719
Speaker 1: I'll never forgive myself or how I dealt with that.

502
00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 1: But even with that stress and craziness that brought into

503
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:06,440
Speaker 1: our lives, the joy of having her far outweighed any

504
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,920
Speaker 1: of that. Like it's not even close. It's not even

505
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 1: a conversation maybe I wouldn't have to go through that,

506
00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 1: but then she's not in our lives, Like that's not

507
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 1: even a thought. It's the most glorious thing. Being a

508
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 1: parent is incredible, and when you hold your child for

509
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: the first time, that's what you're going You're gonna be

510
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 1: flooded with and you're gonna know that you made the

511
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 1: right decision, and you know that it doesn't matter what

512
00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 1: the future may hold. There might be behavioral issues or

513
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 1: anxiety or who knows what could happen, it's all worth

514
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 1: it in that moment and throughout it will all be

515
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 1: worth it from that moment on, and you'll know when

516
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,199
Speaker 1: you hold her, you'll know this was worth it. And

517
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 1: I wouldn't change a thing, and I would die for

518
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:44,879
Speaker 1: this child.

519
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,720
Speaker 2: That's what I hear consistently. And I also, I know

520
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 2: it's totally different, but I do think it's different when

521
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 2: it's your child, like when it's your choice. But no, fine,

522
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:02,400
Speaker 2: I think it's different when it's it's yours. And you're

523
00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:05,679
Speaker 2: comparing your your brother in law brother.

524
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: Who her brother.

525
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 2: You're comparing your brother's situation, and it sounds like they're

526
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:12,880
Speaker 2: in the trenches, but I'm sure they wouldn't give up

527
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 2: her for anything, like they probably are, like she's crazy

528
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,359
Speaker 2: and we're dealing with a lot of behavioral stuff, but

529
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,239
Speaker 2: I we love her because she is theirs. And I

530
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 2: think that it's the same, like it's it's different, but

531
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,479
Speaker 2: it's like I don't necessarily I love dogs, but like

532
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 2: what I do for Phoebe and how I love Phoebe

533
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 2: is so different than.

534
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 3: How I love well, I love.

535
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,640
Speaker 2: Sonny, but like what I tolerate with Phoebe, I would

536
00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 2: never tolerate with you know, she could be on the

537
00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:41,879
Speaker 2: rug And I'm like, can I love you? And if

538
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 2: another dog peace, I'm like, is your dog not pot

539
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 2: potty tray in your dog? But I think it's like

540
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 2: when when it's your child, like there's an innate love

541
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 2: that you have for them that that conquers all the challenges.

542
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,879
Speaker 2: And it doesn't mean that it erases the challenges. I

543
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:02,119
Speaker 2: just think that the love that's there conquers those And

544
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 2: I also think that in terms of your relationship, you

545
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 2: hear people it is hard to navigate those times in

546
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 2: your sleepless and you have this new baby that you're

547
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:16,400
Speaker 2: caring for and you're tired, and your like patience is limited,

548
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,159
Speaker 2: but making time for each other to make sure that

549
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 2: you stay connected and it might be a few hard years,

550
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 2: but you come back to each other, and I'm assume

551
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 2: that it makes you stronger when you come back to

552
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 2: each other.

553
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:30,360
Speaker 3: I also just feel like though I think that I

554
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 3: think that normalizing the conversation of like, it's okay to

555
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 3: not have kids as well, for sure, totally, but I

556
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 3: think I do think there's.

557
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Speaker 2: A lot of negativity around becoming a parent.

558
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 3: No, but there's also a lot of negativity around people

559
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 3: who say they don't want to have kids.

560
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 2: But she said she's always thought she would be.

561
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I really maybe it's changed.

562
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 2: Totally, But I'm just saying I also feel there's a

563
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 2: lot of negativity around becoming a mom, and I don't.

564
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 2: I think that it should be also the positives should

565
00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 2: be praise. And I also think, yeah, if you look

566
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,360
Speaker 2: at all these things and you go, I don't want

567
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:05,640
Speaker 2: it that bad, like being a mom isn't doesn't trump

568
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 2: these things that I'm scared of, then yeah, it's okay

569
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 2: to also not want to have kids. Like I've I've

570
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 2: navigated these feelings back and forth so much, especially the

571
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 2: past few years because Unfortunately, there is a time clock.

572
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 2: You know, the clock is ticking biologically, so annoying. But

573
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 2: I think that there's so much beauty in both decisions.

574
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 2: But I just want to I want to not have

575
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 2: kids based on the negative experiences that others are having.

576
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't.

577
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:36,959
Speaker 2: Yeah.

578
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: And also what I said is from a dad's perspective,

579
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: a mother child bond is that much more powerful. Yes,

580
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 1: So yeah, just you wait, none of these concerns you

581
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 1: have now will exist when you're holding your baby.

582
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 2: Wow, they might. Let mean, I've talked to some people

583
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 2: that you know, it's I think postpartum is gnarly.

584
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 1: Well, that's true. That's a whole other conversation.

585
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 2: There's that's the thing. Like, I think that people are

586
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 2: finally talking about things postpartum, like anxiety and intrusive thoughts

587
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,639
Speaker 2: and things that we never heard anyone talk about. So

588
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 2: I think there's I get the the hesitation around just

589
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 2: jumping into it now because there's it's important to think

590
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 2: about things. But it's also yeah, you.

591
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 3: Are so gnarly.

592
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:26,119
Speaker 2: Yeah.

593
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 3: Like when I think about myself and my luteal phase,

594
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 3: I'm like, that's just my luteal phase.

595
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: Wow, my wife had our oldest alley. Uh, without any drugs,

596
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 1: not intentionally.

597
00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:39,959
Speaker 2: Uh.

598
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 1: They gave her an epidural and it didn't take Uh.

599
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:47,640
Speaker 1: There was a trainee on staff that night. Yeah, and

600
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: then they brought her into the delivery room without any thing,

601
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: so straight raw doctor. Damage was done down below in

602
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 1: the process. She had broken blood vessels all around each eye,

603
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: like she went through it. Sure, here I go. And

604
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 1: when she held Ali, the first thing she said to

605
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: me was it was all worth it. And it's been

606
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: eighteen years and she would say the exact same thing.

607
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's.

608
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 2: And people keep doing it. So you know that there's

609
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 2: the love erases the pain and the torture, like because

610
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 2: people go, I remember I've had I had a friend

611
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 2: who was like, I'll never do it again. The pregnancy

612
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 2: was horrible, the you know everything about it. Had another baby,

613
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 2: it's like your brain goes yep, Wow, this is the great.

614
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 2: There's something about it that people go back for more.

615
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 2: So there's a testament to that. And it's okay to

616
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 2: choose a different paths. I agree, whatever you choose, We're

617
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: rooting for you. It's beautiful. Life is beautiful.

618
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 3: It is beautiful.

619
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Speaker 2: It's all about how you make it. Yes, we have

620
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 2: an email from Anonymous and her sister in law is

621
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 2: making up lies. But we're going to get to that

622
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 2: when we come back. All right, Mark, this one stressful.

623
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Speaker 1: Anonymous ses Dear Easton, Becca, Tani, and Mark in no

624
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: particular order.

625
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 2: I love that the order has become a sensitive topic.

626
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Speaker 1: Day one Scrubbery here, thank you for bringing me so

627
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: much joy each week. I had the privilege of attending

628
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 1: the Live San Francisco show, and I hope you just

629
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:47,479
Speaker 1: had to do it again. That was a good one.

630
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 1: I need your advice. I recently went on a group

631
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: vacation with several other couples that I don't know very

632
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: well from my husband's brother's birthday. Over the past year,

633
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: I've lost weight through pilates and running. My sister in

634
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: law repeatedly old people on the trip behind my back

635
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 1: that I'm on ozembic. One of the other women told

636
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: me what was being said and even defended me when

637
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 1: I wasn't there. I am not taking ozempic. I have

638
00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 1: nothing against it, but whether or not I'm taking ozempic

639
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 1: is irrelevant. It is rude and appropriate for my sister

640
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 1: in law to spread that narrative. She doesn't know that

641
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 1: I'm aware of what she did, and I don't want

642
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: the person who told me to get dragged into the drama.

643
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: This is also not the first time she's made up

644
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 1: something about me behind my back. My husband is furious

645
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: and wants to address it, possibly by talking to his brother,

646
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 1: but I don't want this to create lasting damage in

647
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: their relationship. How would you handle this? Should I address

648
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 1: it directly with my sister in law? I hate confrontation.

649
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 1: Should I let my husband handle it? Or should I

650
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: just let it go?

651
00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 3: I mean, I know what I would he just let

652
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 3: it go. I'd let it go, let it go, like

653
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 3: like you know what I say?

654
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 2: What I go? Did someone tell you that I was

655
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:56,959
Speaker 2: on a zimpic and then she'd be like what why?

656
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 2: And You'd be like, oh, someone on the party mentioned

657
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 2: that you that you said that I was on no ozempic.

658
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm not taking ozempic. That's what I'd say,

659
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 2: you know.

660
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 3: I just feel like nowadays we have so many tools

661
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 3: at our fingertips. You can go on your Instagram and

662
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 3: post a picture at your pilates class and say I'm

663
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 3: so grateful to pilates and running for helping me shed

664
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 3: the weight, no shade on ozembic or Manjaro. But like

665
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 3: I did this one nd per second. What I'm saying

666
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 3: is like, if there's been passive aggressive no, but like

667
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 3: who people might be not just the sister in law,

668
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 3: other people might be assuming that she's on ozempic. So

669
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 3: it's like, if you're upset about this narrative that's being spread,

670
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 3: it's probably not just coming from your sister in law,

671
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 3: because I think that society nowadays, if people lost, if people,

672
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 3: if someone loses a lot of weight, everyone's first thought

673
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 3: is to Zembic Manjaro, And so it's not you know,

674
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 3: it's set me whatever, trizipitide. And if that's not, then

675
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 3: we go be Manjaro all the things. And if that's

676
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 3: not the narrative that you want out there, then correct

677
00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 3: the narrative yourself and take it into your own hands

678
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,239
Speaker 3: and post a picture and say proud of this. I

679
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 3: did it without any medication, like whatever you want to say.

680
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 3: But you can control the narrative in your own way.

681
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 3: I think go into your sister in law personally. I

682
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 3: just wouldn't. I don't want to have confrontation with my

683
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 3: sister in law there's no point. She might just think

684
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 3: you're on it and like said in passing, I'm just

685
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 3: gonna go on on on her side and say she

686
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 3: probably wasn't doing it ill willed.

687
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 2: She seems like she's done this before though a little.

688
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 3: I don't know. If she is bitchy and she is

689
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 3: like that, then confronting her is not going to help

690
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 3: the situation.

691
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: I'm I think the opposite because I think if you

692
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 2: if you ask direct a direct question, but you're not

693
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 2: accusatory towards her of just like, hey, did someone tell

694
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 2: you that I was on a zembic, Like I'm not

695
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,719
Speaker 2: like I've done it all naturally, it just makes her

696
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 2: go like, oh I need to stop running my mouth.

697
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 2: And maybe not, but I just think if someone called

698
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 2: me out on that, I'd be.

699
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 3: Like, you would not do that. I think I would

700
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 3: as someone who does not like confrontation, you would not

701
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 3: do that.

702
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: I've been getting better about my conversation.

703
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 1: Sure, did the husband talk with his brother?

704
00:32:57,560 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 2: No, because what are they gonna know?

705
00:32:59,000 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, basic should be.

706
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: She's good. I think she says anything to anyone, Hey, bro,

707
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 2: my wife's not ozimpic. Tell your wife stopped talking about my.

708
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 3: Wife and then he'd be like, okay, and then he'd probably.

709
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 2: Forgets Okay, I'll let her know tonight, bro Yeah.

710
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 3: And then tonight comes and goes and he never says anything. No,

711
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 3: I forgot that.

712
00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 2: Hey, did you know that Sherry's on ozimpic. That's what

713
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 2: I'm saying. I could get twisted. I think if you're

714
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:26,719
Speaker 2: gonna if you want to say something, I think you

715
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 2: do it and and again you go at it and

716
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 2: not accusatory way, just like to let her know that

717
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 2: you know that she's running her mouth. Or you can

718
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 2: go Tanya's approach and just post and say, like your

719
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 2: own narrative, so grateful for all the pilates and running

720
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 2: and no ozimpic or semi glue tide or monjaro.

721
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 3: Yeah no or no science, this is all natural, whatever

722
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 3: you want to say.

723
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: The bottom line is you look great.

724
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 2: The thing is. The thing is people are talking because

725
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 2: you're having results. Yeah, and you know how you're doing it.

726
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 2: And regardless of if they're regardless of how you did

727
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 2: or what you did, if you feel great about yourself,

728
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 2: that's the important thing that you need to focus on.

729
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 2: If your sister in law is someone who runs her

730
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 2: mouth don't let her run her mouth like, if she's

731
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 2: gonna be that way, let her be that way.

732
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:17,760
Speaker 3: Let them, let them.

733
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 2: I love.

734
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 3: Take people as they are, take people as they are.

735
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 1: Having it, not bother you is pretty pretty good defense.

736
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 2: IM just saying yeah, yeah, but also calling someone out

737
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 2: on there is a good Don't let people. Don't let

738
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: people talk about you without having a conversation.

739
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 1: All right, do your favorite Do not look at the

740
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 1: next page because there's a quiz for you guys already.

741
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 3: Hear right, the auzy one. Yeah, yeah, I thought it.

742
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to quiz you on these and you already

743
00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: looked at it.

744
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:49,879
Speaker 2: I didn't look at it, so you can quiz me.

745
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 1: An Australian accent.

746
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I read. I read the prep When Sam said,

747
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:55,879
Speaker 3: do you.

748
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 1: Want to do with this question in your Australian accent?

749
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 3: Uh, I don't think I would do it, all right,

750
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 3: I wouldn't either.

751
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 1: Good day, Becca, missus yadagar Mark and Easton. My name

752
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 1: is Sam and I want to congratulate Tony on a

753
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: recent nuptials. So thrilled for you. Like many others, I

754
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:17,840
Speaker 1: love hearing the origin stories. So here is mine. I

755
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 1: found scrubbing enduring the longest loneliest Lockdown days, where Melbourne,

756
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 1: Australia had one hundred and twelve days straight of lockdown stay

757
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 1: at home orders due to the pandemic between Grayce and

758
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 1: Aatomy and the days of scrubbing in. Somehow I got by.

759
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 1: I stumbled across the pod and then listened to the

760
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 1: back catalog and was hooked listening to every episode from

761
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 1: then until now and have now begun re listening to

762
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 1: fill in between waiting for new episodes to drive. Wow. Sam,

763
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 1: that's great. My favorites are always the chit chat between Becca,

764
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: Tanya and Mark and Easton. You don't know it, but

765
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 1: you've all been there through some challenging days, the lockdown

766
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 1: COVID days, but from the end of a relationship, the

767
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 1: end of a teaching career, through mental burnout, relocating and

768
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 1: moving back in with my parents, and my forties to

769
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 1: start over again, through reinventions and reinvestments. I appreciate you

770
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: all alongside me through this crazy roller coaster life. I

771
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 1: love you all. Keep up the awesome work. Your authenticity, humor, softness,

772
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 1: friendship and laughter is so infectious. Finally, good Anya, You're

773
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 1: all a bunch of rippers, and I hope to hear

774
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: in the future episode that missus Yadegar has a bun

775
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,799
Speaker 1: in the oven aka preggers. I thought we could play

776
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: a fun game called do you know this? Ostragon slang

777
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 1: love you all from Sam all the way from the

778
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: land down Under. So Tanya, you can't play this game?

779
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 3: Yeah? I read them already, all.

780
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 1: Right, Becca? What is a barbie?

781
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 2: No?

782
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 3: Okay, the skewer? What's a bob?

783
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 2: Is that a girl? Yes?

784
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:34,319
Speaker 1: Very good?

785
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 3: What's a motzi?

786
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 1: I think maybe just mazzi, mazzi, m o z z

787
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: i e mazzi, a car drag. It's short for something

788
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 1: something that's annoying. A no, slightly higher pitched.

789
00:36:59,280 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 2: Oh, mosquito?

790
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 3: Yes? What about a Macca's McDonald's.

791
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:05,280
Speaker 2: Yes?

792
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 3: What about a Dunna? Am I doing a good Australian accent?

793
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 2: What was that one?

794
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 1: I doubt it?

795
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 3: Can you do that for Mark Dunna Mark d u.

796
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 1: N n y Dunny or Dunna. I would never have

797
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: guessed this in a million years.

798
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 3: Did you go to the Dunna.

799
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:23,720
Speaker 2: The dentist?

800
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,399
Speaker 1: You should go to then before we go on our trip,

801
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 1: you should go to the Dunny the store shut the

802
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: mall toilet.

803
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 2: It's a long colge toilet.

804
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 3: Oh, he's such a bludger.

805
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 2: Losers, douchebag, cheeter.

806
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 3: A spill it a spit the dummy Scottish.

807
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:54,720
Speaker 2: What's happening?

808
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: Spit the dummy, spit the dummy. Yeah, someone spit the dummy.

809
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: Someone, well, someone fell someone No, drop the ball.

810
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: Robbie left his socks on the floor and Tinya split

811
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:12,720
Speaker 1: the dummy.

812
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 3: Oh she freaked out, got upset. Yeah, let's go to

813
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 3: talk talk.

814
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 1: I've heard this next one fadcom fat income.

815
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:29,800
Speaker 3: Yeah it's okay, fadcum. It's not false, but it's bad. Incum,

816
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 3: it's not false, it's true. Yes, wow, really lead a horse.

817
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 3: But uh, criaky, crikey, crikey.

818
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 2: Shoot like dang, oh oh my, like, oh my god, crazy.

819
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 3: Cricky dogs cheers, no, uh talks. Go you go to

820
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 3: the beach. Make sure you take your dogs.

821
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 2: Your towels, your bag. You're some suit YESU.

822
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: Yeah that's nice, Sam, Thank you for that.

823
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 2: Sam. That was so fun. Great great work Tanya and Mark.

824
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: I've never been able to master us.

825
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 3: Really hard one.

826
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:10,399
Speaker 2: It's a really hard one.

827
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: When I was there, we went there for a honeymoon,

828
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 1: by the way, so oh my gosh, wow, and I

829
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 1: had it down pretty good when we were there, but

830
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: it's gone now sorry.

831
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 2: You should return.

832
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 1: I should.

833
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 2: That's it. That's all. We're leaving, that's it.

834
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 3: We got to go. We're gonna go down and it's

835
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 3: like British now goodbye.

836
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:31,879
Speaker 1: Then.

837
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, Australian almost sounds like a really thick Southern accent,

838
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 2: like there's a drawl or something to it that nar

839
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 2: I love Nor, I always say Nor. Haley always goes like,

840
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 2: I feel like you could have like that, you would

841
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 2: have a good Australian accident. I'm like, all I can

842
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: say is more yeah, And I don't even know if

843
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,719
Speaker 2: I do that well, But that's all for now. We

844
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 2: hope you have a wonderful weekend, enjoy the spring weekend.

845
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 2: Yes mid April. We love you so much.

846
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 3: By love you,