1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: My Friday feel as a parent is helpless. My daughter 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,920 Speaker 1: is a sophomore in high school. It has been being 3 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:11,880 Speaker 1: bullied and it has been extremely hard on her because 4 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:14,240 Speaker 1: she is one of the most caring people I know 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 1: in the world period. Her new startime is gonna be 6 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: six thirty in the morning. Um, that's just that's that's 7 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 1: I'm not waking up at four in the morning to 8 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: go to school at six. I'm sorry. Okay, a little 9 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: bit of pushback. Apparently my email address situation is all 10 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 1: messed up because I've had to call so far. You're 11 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: my fiftieth call this morning. It seems like nobody showed 12 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: up at six thirty, and can you blame them? Almost 13 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 1: waking up at like three in the morning, think you're 14 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,560 Speaker 1: ready for school? In case you missed it, those clips 15 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:48,599 Speaker 1: are from just a little while ago, one of our 16 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 1: listeners named Liz called up and told us that her 17 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 1: daughter's being bullied. So, you know what, we're gonna help 18 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: her daughter out and anybody who's in the same situation. So, Tatiana, 19 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: from your side of things, are you good? How school 20 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: affecting you right now? I'm fine. I just kind of 21 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: attempting to ignorance, I guess, yeah, what exactly is going on? 22 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: I mean, first of all, you should know this, Okay, 23 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: I don't know how much you know about me in general, 24 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: but in school, I was a bully and I'm not 25 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: proud of it, and I've called people that I've done 26 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: that too and apologize as an adult. I was a 27 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:26,199 Speaker 1: kid that grew up in an abusive household, and that's 28 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: the reason that I acted out right. Those people that 29 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 1: are trying to make themselves feel better, it's because they're 30 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: hurting about something. And I've had a lot of you know, 31 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: I've been in counseling since kindergarten, So this kind of 32 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: stuff I take serious because it can have effects on 33 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: in your mental health. And I just wanted you to 34 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: know that where my advice or wanting to call you 35 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: and stuff came from for me personally. And then Alex 36 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: also is very passionate about ending people being mean to 37 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: each other, bullying each other or whatever. And your mom 38 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: called up and told us your story, which is actually 39 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: a really cool move. Like, I know it might be 40 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: kind of weird at your age if like, I'd be embarrassed, 41 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:11,399 Speaker 1: right if allows you. Yeah, here's the thing though, that's 42 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 1: a really cool move by your mom to reach out 43 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: to be like, Hey, I don't like what's happening to 44 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: my daughter, and I want her to feel like she 45 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: deserves to feel good, like everybody deserves to feel And 46 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 1: she didn't ask us for help. We offered it because 47 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: it's important. Yeah, Ta, Tiana, you're being bullied at school. 48 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: And the first thing that I want to say to 49 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: you is this two shall pass. You're almost an adult, 50 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: and you're gonna be able to make the friends that 51 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: you want and the close friends. Right like you you 52 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: should have like a few close friends, so you know, 53 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: people don't need like a ton of friends, They just 54 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: need like a couple of close friends that are like 55 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: a good support system. They don't break you down, they 56 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:49,799 Speaker 1: build you up. So that's our mission. Yeah, And the 57 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: thing that your mom said about you and that I 58 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: can tell about you right away is one, you're a 59 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: really good student sometimes sometimes well your mom says you are, 60 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: so y'all would think she would be the big critic. 61 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: She also said, you're really selective about who you hang 62 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 1: out with because of that, because you'd like to spend 63 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:06,800 Speaker 1: your time working your brain and not working in your 64 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: mouth with gossip and stuff, which is actually a really 65 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: good thing. The people that might make fun of you 66 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: or might bully you all that stuff, you gotta remember 67 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,239 Speaker 1: there's a reason they're doing that, and it's not because 68 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:20,799 Speaker 1: of you. It's because of them, and it's because something 69 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: about you makes them jealous. They wish they had it. 70 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: I'll tell you right now, the way that you were 71 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: with when you thought I was at the principal when 72 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,119 Speaker 1: I did that phone prank, her new startime is gonna 73 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 1: be six thirty in the morning. Um, that's just that's 74 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: that's I'm not waking up at four in the morning 75 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: to go to school at sixth in. I'm sorry. You're 76 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 1: you're you're fifteen, fifteen, and you you were being assertive, assertive. 77 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: You sounded so confident. Yeah, if the principal cooled me, 78 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: I would have been like, okay, I didn't. I didn't 79 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: learn that assertiveness until my thirties. So I was jealousy 80 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: right there. I was like, damn, that's impressive. I was 81 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: like fist pumping in the air. Yeah, because you weren't 82 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: disrespectful about it either, for sure. I really think it's 83 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 1: important Jewel Free to explain to her how you respond 84 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: to bullies. Yeah, yeah, I wanted to ask you specifically 85 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: what things are going on or what are they saying 86 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 1: to you or doing to you? Oh, like they make 87 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 1: fun of you? Yeah? What do they make fun of you? For? 88 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: Whatever they can find? I don't. I don't do my 89 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: hair like how I usually do the fifth up baby high. 90 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: That sucks. Also, I know we can help you out 91 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: with this for sure, definitely. And I have a surprise 92 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: for you coming up too. We have to play a song. 93 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: We'll play a songs come back, and then we'll give 94 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,160 Speaker 1: you some advice that we think can really help. It's 95 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 1: a jewel show. My Friday Angel as a parent is helpless. 96 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 1: My daughter is a sophomore in high school. It has 97 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:51,160 Speaker 1: been being bullied and it has been extremely hard on 98 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 1: her because she is one of the most caring people 99 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: I know in the world period. We're actually talking to Liz, 100 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 1: who you've just heard on that phone call. She told 101 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: us that her daughters being bullied, so we called up 102 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: her daughter, Tatiano. We've been talking to her this whole hour, 103 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 1: helping her out with their situation. And in case you 104 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: missed what just happened, she shared with us some of 105 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: the things that people do. She had a hole in 106 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 1: her pants. They were making fun of that, her hair, 107 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: her hair, any fun of anything they can. What do 108 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: you say back to them? I just laugh along. Do 109 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: you laugh along from the point of you're laughing honestly 110 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: joking about it, or you're laughing just to seem like 111 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: it's okay, like it doesn't phase you, but it's okay, Yeah, 112 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 1: that's yeah, laughing like right. Yeah. I was wondering because, 113 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: you know, I moved schools a lot, and I had 114 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:44,359 Speaker 1: to deal with people coming at me because I'm a 115 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,320 Speaker 1: small dude and the name is Jubile. Never easy to 116 00:05:47,360 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: go to a new school, you know. Um yeah, And 117 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: I would laugh the other way because I was just 118 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:53,919 Speaker 1: I always just wanted to be funny, and that's how 119 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: I'm asked stuff. So I would always just make a 120 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: better insult for myself and to be like, you're not 121 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: as good of a bully as I am, right, but 122 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: I'm not expecting you to do that. I just wondered 123 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,479 Speaker 1: if you were laughing like that in a way to 124 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 1: just make it kind of better, because obviously you don't 125 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:10,360 Speaker 1: want to break down and cry. Right, Have you talked 126 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:12,799 Speaker 1: to anybody at the school, like any of the teachers 127 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: about the bullying, No, well you should. You should let 128 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 1: them know. And the reason I asked you about the 129 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: laughing thing was one thing that that does it makes 130 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: it okay. And that's not your fault, right, You're just 131 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: doing what you think will make it easier in the moment, 132 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: for sure, because I've been there, I have done that 133 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 1: in my life, right. But what that tells the people 134 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 1: that are bullying you is that it's okay to keep 135 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 1: saying it right. And I'm not saying you need to 136 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 1: clap back at them or anything, but they need to 137 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: know that it's not okay, not in an aggressive mean way. 138 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:53,919 Speaker 1: But you're assertive, right you are? You are? You stood? You? Just? Yeah, 139 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:57,280 Speaker 1: you showed any of this phone call how assertive you are. Ye. 140 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 1: And that's an impressive trait that a lot of people 141 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: don't have, and a lot of people struggle with throughout 142 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: their entire life. Do you know how many times I've 143 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: tried to figure out if there's some place I can 144 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 1: go for a couple of weeks to teach me to 145 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: be more assertive naturally like you are, because you did that, yeah, 146 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: and with people like that, how to respond is to 147 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: not laugh. You don't have to cry either, because it 148 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: seems like you can stop yourself from crying because you 149 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 1: laugh like that. To do that, just look at them, 150 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: stone face, and then turn your head away, turn your 151 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 1: whole body away. Right, It's like I don't even hear it, 152 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: you know, don't even give them the pleasure of the 153 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: laugh along coming from someone who bullied a lot of 154 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: people growing up, or who was around bullies as friends, right, right, 155 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 1: So if it seems like it doesn't affect you, they'll 156 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: stop because they're not getting what they want want, right. 157 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: So even that little laugh, that a little bit of 158 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: a laugh, still gives them something because it goes, oh, 159 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: it's cool, right, I can still do it. Right if 160 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: you cry, it also goes, oh I made her right 161 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 1: if you if they say it to you and you 162 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: just look at them and don't even move a muscle 163 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: on your face and then just turn around. Now they 164 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: have nothing, don't give them anything to work with at all. 165 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: And you can. I can tell you can just by 166 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: the way you talked to begin to the phone call. 167 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 1: You should tell her the story about Bella. Oh yeah, 168 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: I have a fifteen year old daughter as well. I 169 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: gave the same advice basically to Bella, my fifteen year 170 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:23,559 Speaker 1: old stepdaughter. When she was thirteen, there was a couple 171 00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: of dudes who were bullying her in the hallway. Same thing. 172 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: She would kind of engage with them. She would tell 173 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: him to stop, she would threaten to tell on them 174 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:33,440 Speaker 1: and stuff. And I was like, hey, just same thing. 175 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:36,199 Speaker 1: Just don't give him anything. Don't give him I have 176 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,079 Speaker 1: been going on for like quite a bit. It was 177 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: these two boys, and they were being legitimately mean to her. 178 00:08:40,559 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: They were they were being superman. And then after a reason, Yeah, 179 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: after a couple of days of her dis ignoring them, 180 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: she came home and told you goal, Yeah, she was 181 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:48,679 Speaker 1: like all excited. She's like, guess what. They don't they 182 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: don't bully mean anymore. They don't talk to me anymore. 183 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: Haven't been doing they haven't been doing it. Yeah, And 184 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: because there's different you know, there's different ways to engage, right, 185 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: there are certain ways to engage with a bully that 186 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: will shut them down where it's it's active. But I 187 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 1: think for you, since you're strong enough, because you're a strong, 188 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: strong willed person, you're strong enough to ignore it. I 189 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 1: wasn't sometimes in my life because I've also been on 190 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: the other end. Right when I was talking about the 191 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:14,719 Speaker 1: joking thing, that's when I would respond that way and 192 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:16,920 Speaker 1: take their power away basically and go, all right, you 193 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: want to make fun of me, I'll make fun of 194 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:20,560 Speaker 1: myself way worse. I also like sometimes like when you 195 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: respond with like the you know, but yeah, my old 196 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: pants to had like them. Yeah, we're kids making fun 197 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 1: of that. Yeah, like kind of a day. Yeah. And 198 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:36,079 Speaker 1: so did you say anything back to him? No? I 199 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: just laughed. Okay, you laughed. But in that instance, if 200 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 1: it was a guy making fun of your hair because 201 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: it wasn't done the way normally is, or it was 202 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: messy or whatever, you could be like, why I didn't 203 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:49,439 Speaker 1: do it like a normally dude? Do you think I'm cute? Right? 204 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: Because they're gonna be like, oh, I guess I am 205 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: paying a lot of attention and be like I'm not 206 00:09:55,559 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: into you, sorry about that? You know, like um flip great, yeah, 207 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: sorry exactly. You just have to sort of do the opposite, right. 208 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: That's why I asked about what you do in response. 209 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: And the last thing is is totally understandable. That just 210 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:13,560 Speaker 1: keeps it going. And then if you respond in anger. 211 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 1: All you're doing is egging them on giving them what 212 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 1: they want. But if you do the opposite of what 213 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: everybody expects, embrace it with kindness. I'm not saying you 214 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: have to walk up and say hi and be sweet 215 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 1: to them. That also is not a good idea because 216 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: then they're going to think that what they're doing makes 217 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: you want them to like you. But if you made 218 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: up like, oh man, you must be checking me out 219 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: a lot lately. Sorry, I'll do my hear different tomorrow 220 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 1: if you if you want to go out this weekend, 221 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:42,320 Speaker 1: let me know, you know, thank you. Yeah, it really 222 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 1: has to do with their own insecurities. Here's the thing 223 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:48,079 Speaker 1: that is really hard to understand. It took me till 224 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:51,839 Speaker 1: I was like way too old to understand this, But 225 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: nobody can be responsible for your happiness and how you feel. 226 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,719 Speaker 1: And for someone to be as assertive as you are 227 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 1: with out an attitude shows that you have a lot 228 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 1: of inner confidence and that's great, and that also makes 229 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: people very upset. Speaking from someone who has a lot 230 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:10,760 Speaker 1: of innerconfidence who people have been very upset with about 231 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: it and jealous of throughout his entire life, being confident 232 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 1: in yourself uncomfortable in your own skin is weird for people, right. 233 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 1: They don't get it, and they don't like it because 234 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 1: they wish they could. Because everybody's uncomfortable. Everybody's trying hard 235 00:11:23,120 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 1: to like fit in. They're trying hard to be one 236 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:26,840 Speaker 1: way or the other way. And then they see someone 237 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,319 Speaker 1: who is actually walking around life comfortable in who they are, 238 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: and it it makes them want to lash out. So 239 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: you got to remember that it's about their insecurity and 240 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 1: you got to take care of yourself and remember inside 241 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 1: every single time they throw something at you right now 242 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:42,839 Speaker 1: until they stop, because I guarantee you they will stop 243 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: every time they throw something at you. It's basically a compliment. 244 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:48,679 Speaker 1: See it the other way. It's all about seeing things 245 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:51,439 Speaker 1: the other way, right, So they make fun of whatever 246 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: it is, it's because you have something that they are 247 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,320 Speaker 1: jealous of. You have something inside you that makes them upset, 248 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: and so here it is an implement And tell yourself 249 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 1: that you're dope because everybody is and you are too, 250 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 1: and your dirty little secret is coming up. We actually 251 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: have a dirty little secret for you that you're gonna 252 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: like a lot. And I know you've got to get 253 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: to school because you're gonna be late, and as your principal, 254 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 1: you should get to school. But we'll tell you what 255 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:20,079 Speaker 1: the awesome, dirty little secret is right after this. It's 256 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: a jewel show.