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Speaker 1: All right, we're starting off your week with a brand

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Speaker 1: new episode today.

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Speaker 2: Yay Second Date.

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Speaker 1: And I gotta say, this girl's hack for figuring out

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Speaker 1: if this guy was trustworthy or not is probably going

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Speaker 1: to be used by other people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. YEA a good one.

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Speaker 1: It's a little on the immortal side, just a tad

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Speaker 1: though not enough, not enough, not at no, okay enough.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but before we get to it.

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Speaker 1: Comments, we love to feature yours.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, heavenly said.

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Speaker 1: My town was out of internet for over twelve hours.

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Speaker 3: Oh and the only thing I wanted to do was

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Speaker 3: listen to y'all's podcast and it did not disappoint. Oh yeah, right,

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Speaker 3: it's just a twelve hour Wait what do you do

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Speaker 3: for twelve hours not internet on Alexis?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Yeah, I time, I guess, I don't

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Speaker 2: know what I do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Your brand new Second Date starts right now.

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Speaker 4: The Second Date update it's broken Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 5: And if you didn't know, you can always hear our

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Speaker 5: Second Date updates on Apple, Spotify, wherever you get your podcasts.

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Speaker 5: Millions of people download him a month.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like this.

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Speaker 1: It's just the Second Date commercial happening.

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Speaker 5: It's right, Brooke says you should download it too, or

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Speaker 5: else I don't want.

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Speaker 2: To know what the or where else is.

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Speaker 1: May enjoy it?

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Speaker 5: Well, thank god, whatever it is, it's in your best

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Speaker 5: interest and not to defy Broke. But we do have

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Speaker 5: a listener on the phone right now who's asked us

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Speaker 5: for a second date. And I didn't even get to

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Speaker 5: read his email ahead of time, so I don't know

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Speaker 5: much about it other than his name is Rick, and

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Speaker 5: hopefully I'm pronouncing that right Rick?

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Speaker 4: Is it Rick? Am I saying that right?

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Speaker 6: Of course?

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Speaker 1: Yep.

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Speaker 6: I think it's the only way to pronounce it.

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Speaker 2: I feel like he's not emphasizing the C enough in

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Speaker 2: your name.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it could be with a silent R. So

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Speaker 4: we don't know.

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Speaker 5: But let's get right into your date. Tell us about

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Speaker 5: the woman you met. What's her name?

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Speaker 6: So I met a girl named Brenda. I was trying

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Speaker 6: to find just find a way to meet people, and

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Speaker 6: my friend told me to join a running club. So

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Speaker 6: I joined this running.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've heard a lot of people doing that, I haven't.

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Speaker 2: It was really popular for summer.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, fun.

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Speaker 5: Now it's not anymore short just saying late to the trend.

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Speaker 1: I think it's fun. It's I mean, it's one a

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Speaker 1: good way to get healthy, so you're gonna get some

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Speaker 1: positive out of it. And then usually people meet up

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Speaker 1: for beers afterwards. Yeah, you meet to start and then

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Speaker 4: Yeah, did that happen on your date?

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Speaker 6: Rick, No, there was no drinking at running club.

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Speaker 4: Oh curious.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I never heard of that, too healthy.

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Speaker 4: So how did you and Brenda hit it off?

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Speaker 6: We met at the back of the line. We were

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Speaker 6: jogging while everyone else was running.

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Speaker 4: That's kind of funny. You were the lazy ones who

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Speaker 2: You can take that slow, Jeff, you don't have to

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Speaker 2: speed shamey. Okay, they showed up. They're not that lazy.

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Speaker 4: I feel like being telling them me slow is more.

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Speaker 2: Shame for people know when they're slow. I'm slow.

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Speaker 4: It's okay, all right.

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Speaker 5: So what did you and Brenda talk about at the

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Speaker 6: Well, we kind of bonded on the fact that we

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Speaker 4: It was like the cool kids at the back of

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Speaker 4: the bus. Why didn't even sign up for this dumb thing?

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Speaker 4: Why are we here?

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Speaker 6: So I ended up getting your number, which was cool.

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Speaker 6: So we started texting and then I worked up the

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Speaker 2: Cute.

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Speaker 1: So how long of a friendship did you have before

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Speaker 6: Maybe two months if I had to guess, somewhere around there.

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Speaker 5: Wow, you're a slow runner and a slow mover romantically.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, your style. I like you.

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Speaker 1: But you were so nervous because you know, you don't

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Speaker 3: You gonna have to pick up the paste of avoiter practice.

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Speaker 4: So what did you do? I mean you went out

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I didn't want to go somewhere too fancy, but

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Speaker 7: So I picked a like the.

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Speaker 6: Middle of the road Italian restaurant that I've been to before,

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Speaker 6: and I knew the food was good.

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Speaker 4: You could say Olive Gardens.

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Speaker 6: I mean we all have, no, it was definitely better

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Speaker 4: Olive Garden is.

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Speaker 6: Like the fast food of Italian restaurant.

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Speaker 1: We love that Alfredo, yeah, but we love fast food,

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Speaker 4: So you went to the Macaroni Bar and Grill and

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Speaker 4: how was it there?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: God, we're just teasing you.

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Speaker 1: We don't care about the actual Italian restaurant you win,

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Speaker 1: like a local time.

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Speaker 6: It's not important, guys.

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Speaker 5: We're more interested in your bond and connection with Brenda.

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Speaker 6: While you were there, I feel like the night was

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Speaker 6: we clicked. And at some point, you know how they

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Speaker 6: serve bread and they have like a little fabric thing underneath.

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Speaker 4: It, napkin. Yeah, we're familiar with napkin.

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Speaker 6: Well, it's like a doily.

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Speaker 7: I think they call it.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I can say that.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, we were still thinking olive gardens.

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Speaker 2: What happened with the doily?

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Speaker 6: So there was underneath it? There was like a half

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Speaker 6: ripped It seemed like a breakup note.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, like a Dear John letter.

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Speaker 6: It was strange. It was like only like half of

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Speaker 6: could tell it was I don't know, it was like

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Speaker 6: a breakup note is the only way I could describe it.

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Speaker 1: So was that like a fun thing to talk about

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Speaker 1: on your date? No?

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Speaker 6: I mean I thought it was kind of funny in

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Speaker 6: It changed the vibe for sure, because I went to

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Speaker 6: I felt like the air had changed. She like didn't

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Speaker 4: No, oh god.

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Speaker 1: I mean, do you think it reminded her of a

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Speaker 6: I don't know if that's what it was. I'm just

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Speaker 6: and she kind of like ended it.

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Speaker 5: Well, clearly she understood that they sat you down at

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Speaker 5: the breakup table inside the restaurant.

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Speaker 2: She was upset you took her to a restaurant where

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Speaker 2: they don't clean the tables very well.

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Speaker 5: Geez yeah, I mean that sounds like it's kind of

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Speaker 5: like a bad omen for your first date.

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Speaker 4: But that's not your fault, Like I think you can

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Speaker 2: It's not like I think it'd be a good open.

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Speaker 2: I'd read it.

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Speaker 1: I try to find out whose couple is and I waiter.

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Speaker 2: With Alexis it be juicy gossip?

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Speaker 6: Talk about it?

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Speaker 4: You could bond over it, like as we're starting, somebody

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Speaker 2: What was the ride home like?

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Speaker 6: In the car, awkward, quiet, like I was trying to

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Speaker 6: make conversation and it was just I don't know, Like

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Speaker 6: I said, the air change, the vibe was okay, interesting.

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Speaker 2: Have you seen her at run club since?

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Speaker 6: No, I've been back there a few times. I called her,

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Speaker 6: I texted her, I messaged her on Facebook.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, okay, yeah she is.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's definitely avoid of communication.

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Speaker 4: Brother. Okay, and now we're gonna call her.

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Speaker 1: He left smudge notes at every table that she was

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Speaker 1: gonna be at for every restaurant she was about to visit.

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Speaker 5: Oh well, I mean, we may not know exactly what

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Speaker 5: it is, but we are committed to helping you figure

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Speaker 5: it out, Rick, because we're gonna call Brenda in just

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Speaker 5: a few minutes here and try and get you your

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Speaker 5: second date update right after this hold on.

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Speaker 4: Second date update.

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Speaker 5: Can you get blocked by somebody else's tragic breakup?

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Speaker 2: That's funny?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's what.

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Speaker 5: Our listener Rick is wondering because he took a woman

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Speaker 5: named Brenda out to a mid tier Italian restaurant. His

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Speaker 5: description not ours, but at the bottom of their bread bowl,

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Speaker 5: they found part of a breakup note that a previous

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Speaker 5: couple had apparently left underneath the doily if, which Rick.

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Speaker 4: Found kind of amusing.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but after that, he says, the whole mood suddenly shifted,

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Speaker 5: and Brenda asked if he could take her back home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's been avoiding him at all costs.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so weird and take her home not in the fun.

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Speaker 5: Hey, let's go back to my place and I'll show

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Speaker 5: you my fish tank kind of way that I'm ready

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Speaker 5: for the night to be over right now, kind of where.

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Speaker 2: You know, how to get to a girl. We love

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Speaker 2: seeing fish takes.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, any sort of pet you're all in.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, But, like Brooks said, the real red flag is

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Speaker 5: she stops showing up to Run club, which I guess

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Speaker 5: she wasn't really a huge fan of anyway. But still

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Speaker 5: something's going on, Yeah, to make her totally disappear, and

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Speaker 5: we're trying to figure that out.

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Speaker 2: Rick, that's got to be it.

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Speaker 1: Like I remember going to see do you remember Jennifer

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Speaker 1: Andison's movie Breakup? I don't know if you guys remember it,

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Speaker 1: but I went with a date and we both left

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Speaker 1: being like, Ugh, this isn't gonna work. Oh yeah, I

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Speaker 1: just I don't know it Just like brought up all

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Speaker 1: these feelings of like I'm really settling right now?

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Speaker 5: Does something bad happen in the breakup?

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Speaker 2: That's the whole fighting, the whole movie. Yeah, maybe that's

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Speaker 2: how she felt.

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Speaker 5: The point is, Rick, we don't want any of those

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Speaker 5: bad vibes to happen on this call.

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Speaker 4: We're going to go to bat for you. Are you

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Speaker 4: ready to do this?

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Speaker 6: I'm ready as I'm ever gonna be.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not.

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Speaker 1: The guy from that breakup letter. You're a great guy

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Speaker 1: that deserves a chance.

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Speaker 6: As far as you know.

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Speaker 1: Wait, it's not very reassuring, Rick, I know it's a joke.

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Speaker 2: That's it. Now is the time.

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Speaker 4: We'll find out here we go. Oho, Hey is this Brenda?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? This is who's calling?

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Speaker 5: Who's calling is a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey

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Speaker 5: in the Morning.

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Speaker 7: Hello, good morning, Okay, a normal thing, we get it, Brenda? Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 7: did I win something or what's going on?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: It's always the hopeful response, isn't it.

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Speaker 6: Jeff.

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Speaker 5: It's tough when people ask that because I don't know

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Speaker 5: not really. This is a segment we do called a

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Speaker 7: Okay.

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Speaker 5: We try to help out a listener who's gone out

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Speaker 4: There is a reason.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this guy that reached out about you, his name

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Speaker 5: is Rick.

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Speaker 7: Oh.

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Speaker 5: We're trying to help Rick figure out what's gone on

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Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, I haven't been there.

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Speaker 2: Did you quit because of him?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: All right, so it sounds like this isn't just a coincidence.

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Speaker 5: You're actually trying to avoid him.

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Speaker 7: I am avoiding him, yes, all right, okay.

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Speaker 5: So if you could help explain like why you're trying

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Speaker 7: I mean, we had been talking for quite a while

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Speaker 2: What what do you mean?

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Speaker 1: What what are other guys like?

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Speaker 2: I guess is maybe where we should start.

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Speaker 7: I mean, like just cheating on people.

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Speaker 4: And doing it.

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Speaker 2: You think Rick's a cheater.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't understand this. Rick said, this was your

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Speaker 7: Yeah, so my friends who date a lot more than

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Speaker 7: I do, taught me this trick that like, you don't

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what you.

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Speaker 7: Do is you call the guy's phone when he goes away,

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Speaker 4: Popstep saved his phone.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, so when he went to the bathroom, I called

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Speaker 7: for my number, said Matthew.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I don't know what conclusion would you guys

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Speaker 1: Exactly what I would see where you would jump to

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Speaker 5: So that's the reason why you asked him to take

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Speaker 7: Yeah, when he came back, I wasn't in the mid

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Speaker 1: So so wait, but you never accused him. You never said, hey,

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Speaker 7: The heck yeah, because I mean it's only a first

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Speaker 1: I don't believe also, just spent two months with him

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Speaker 1: What is happening.

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Speaker 5: She wants it to happen because we actually already have

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Speaker 5: talk seriously. Yeah, Rick, Hi, yeah, yes, hello, I'd start

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Speaker 5: explaining yourself there, Rick.

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Speaker 6: What is there to explain the thing?

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Speaker 1: That's why would you call a radio show if you're

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Speaker 6: I'm not in a relationship.

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Speaker 7: Okay, why did you name me Matthew and your phone?

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Speaker 6: Because I just thought it was funny. There's just I

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Speaker 4: Reason, but it's not.

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Speaker 2: But you think the reason you don't have an okay

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Speaker 4: Sounds like I can hear him thinking right now.

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Speaker 6: Literally, I don't have anything to have an excuse for.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm dating technically, I don't be a problem.

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Speaker 4: So there are other women that you're going out with.

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Speaker 6: I'm seeing other people, and for their protection, I change

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, who else is texting you?

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Speaker 6: Not only do I have a Matthew, but I have

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Speaker 4: I've got a lot of names. You got all the Apostles.

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Speaker 4: You're just going right down the New Testament.

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Speaker 2: You with Bible references. It's weird.

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Speaker 6: I mean, you guys are laughing. But I'm going on

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Speaker 1: See for me, that would spark a whole new round

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Speaker 4: Why does John keep asking what you're wearing? Times?

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Speaker 7: I don't know. He's spinning it like it's for our protection,

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Speaker 6: Not dishonest or weird. It's just the way that I date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, anything, it's all the women going through his

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Speaker 5: Well let me let me try to clear things up here,

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Speaker 5: because Rick, you say you're seeing a bunch of different

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Speaker 4: That's a good question.

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Speaker 2: He's like, well, I got a couple of clinging ones.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, if you ask them, possibly, why would they say that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Would they think that because you told them that?

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Speaker 6: No, I've never used the term girlfriend in any of

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Speaker 5: Okay, I mean at this point, we are running out

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Speaker 4: But how many run clubs are you in right now? Rick?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 2: To meet all these men?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? I mean whatever, they are just the one all right?

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Speaker 2: But he's in a bowling league.

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Speaker 5: And I know this is all looking pretty bad. But

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Speaker 4: Because we'd pay for it?

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Speaker 7: No, I don't trust an You guys like well, you

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Speaker 4: The text war.

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Speaker 1: When a guy says there's a couple of women who

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, Rick man, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: It looks like you're gonna have to block Matthew in

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Speaker 2: Think Matthew's blocking him.

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Speaker 6: Double ye yeah whatever things anyways, I guess I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Look how heartbroken he is.

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Speaker 2: This one hurts what girlfriend is? He's going to rush

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Speaker 4: The Bible and I'll find out. Gabriel. Oh no, he's

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Speaker 5: I thought it was a good point Alexis brought up

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Speaker 4: Really, my friend matters.

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Speaker 1: It's hard enough to remember people's regular names, let alone

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Speaker 3: Like a guy that's just calculated before he does anything wrong.

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Speaker 1: I don't trust before he does anything wrong.

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Speaker 3: He just said that multiple girls think that they're not

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Speaker 4: Imagine organized.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, before you know, he's gonna end up talking to

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Speaker 4: It'll be super awkward.

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Speaker 5: Hopefully we did him a favor by exposing this early

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I don't really want to do him any favors.

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Speaker 5: Trust he needs some help, Brooke, Come on, if he's

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Speaker 5: doing this, he's desperate. Just remember you could check out

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Speaker 5: our podcast wherever you get yours Apple, Spotify, iHeart, We're.

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Speaker 4: Gonna be there. Just look us up at Brook and

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Speaker 4: Jeffrey