WEBVTT - This Is Why You’re Getting Ghosted

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, gorgeous, it's La La Kent. Welcome to untraditionally, Lala. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I love that that tool. Welcome back to untraditionally Lala.

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<v Speaker 1>The bonus episode, we have Valentine's Day right around the corner,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know that so many of us sit here

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<v Speaker 1>and tweak out if we don't have a partner or

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<v Speaker 1>a person. I don't think men think like that. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they do. I I won't put them on the back

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<v Speaker 1>burner like they don't have feelings. But a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>women are like what do I do on this day?

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<v Speaker 1>Because it is a holiday for lovers, But for me,

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<v Speaker 1>it's always been Easton's birthday, So I've never really about

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<v Speaker 1>it as like that type of holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I've always felt so bad about it. Why

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<v Speaker 2>because like, you know, you just start to feel bad,

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<v Speaker 2>like i'd go over to my buddy's house that there's

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<v Speaker 2>some you know, I'd never tell just to let everybody know,

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<v Speaker 2>now you know, Yeah, I don't tell anybody my birthday,

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<v Speaker 2>don't post about it, don't say anything. I don't care

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<v Speaker 2>about it. It's everybody's got one, you know. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>a butthole moving on, you know. But like when you

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<v Speaker 2>go over to friend's houses and like be hanging out.

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<v Speaker 2>Like there were times where, like, you know, my birthday

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<v Speaker 2>would be coming up and I would go to a

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<v Speaker 2>friend's house and they would be like, oh, what are

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<v Speaker 2>you going to do? Because it came up, and like

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<v Speaker 2>the mom and dad were like, yeah, we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>do this, this and this, and I was like, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>my mom and dad could be doing that, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>taking it.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. Let me just have my depressing thought.

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<v Speaker 1>You bitch, you're still tweaking off the vape icy but no,

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<v Speaker 1>I just somebody who is a mother. Now, if my

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<v Speaker 1>baby were born on Valentine, you're well, you're kind of

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<v Speaker 1>in there.

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<v Speaker 2>You're maybe's birthday is a day after yours.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was really hoping that she came on my

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<v Speaker 1>birthday because I was like, what a wonderful way to

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<v Speaker 1>celebrate my birthday with her is now going to be.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm glad she didn't though, because of my thoughts, because.

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<v Speaker 1>She doesn't want to share it with me.

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<v Speaker 2>Will not share it. But maybe it's not sharing. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care that. I feel like I'm taking away and

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<v Speaker 2>she could grow up and be like I took a

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<v Speaker 2>day away from my mom that she very much deserves.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh do youee know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a very selfless person, and I understand where your

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<v Speaker 1>head's at.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I don't love my birthday because I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I took a lot of love away from Mom.

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<v Speaker 1>And are you gonna cry? Yeah? Oh love you? You

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<v Speaker 1>do think I worked out this morning song? That is right?

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I do feel like that, you know I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well you are You're the person who always says

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<v Speaker 1>that you have to separate your feelings from facts, because

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<v Speaker 1>your feelings are not facts. So now I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>point this out to you true and I'm glad you

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<v Speaker 1>said that. This is how you're feeling. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's beautiful that your mind even goes there. It just

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<v Speaker 1>goes to show, like, what a kind and beautiful heart

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<v Speaker 1>you have is thinking about Mom and Dad celebrating, but

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<v Speaker 1>the fact is that you're their son, and what a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful way to celebrate the holiday of love. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>whole point of it.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I know then, this child that they brought into the

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<v Speaker 1>world out of love and they celebrated like every Wednesday

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<v Speaker 1>Tuesday they go and do something. You just had date night.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you just have that feeling. But now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>crying more because my dad's gone and my mom doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>have a Valentine.

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<v Speaker 1>You're Valentine. You already know that. She tells you that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's kind of happy tears now, No, but that like

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<v Speaker 2>that's why I don't love my birthday and things like that,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm happy it is when it is. Though I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like it's like a lot of around my birthday,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm like, oh, it's always yea, yeah, lots.

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<v Speaker 1>Of yummy candy. And even when dad was around Easton,

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<v Speaker 1>Mom always said like, I I celebrate Valentine's Day with

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<v Speaker 1>my forever Valentine.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>No, and I'm glad that you know. I'm happy, And

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<v Speaker 2>there's just I have those thoughts and those are my

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts that I need to work through of like damn,

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<v Speaker 2>but then again, well on the fifteenth, ye old bags right,

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<v Speaker 2>yeah totally, but no, I just yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want you to think that way at all.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think once you become a parent, you will

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<v Speaker 1>realize how whatever day it is is you you're just

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<v Speaker 1>so like you just love your baby and you're just

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<v Speaker 1>so excited to celebrate that.

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<v Speaker 2>If anybody else with a birthday on the fourteenth feels

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<v Speaker 2>like this, or even like on Christmas or like something,

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<v Speaker 2>do you feel like, damn, I'm taking away if you.

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<v Speaker 1>Were born on Christmas, Yes, you're fucking taking away.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I know people.

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<v Speaker 1>And I hate now you're messing with Jesus's birthday and

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<v Speaker 1>that I will not s people who.

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<v Speaker 2>Are like and it is my birthday and we will

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<v Speaker 2>do what I want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I don't like that either day. By the way,

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<v Speaker 1>no one is ever if you have a birthday, I

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<v Speaker 1>do feel badly like you dated a girl who had

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<v Speaker 1>a birthday on the twenty fourth of And I get

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<v Speaker 1>that because it's not the funnest day to have that,

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<v Speaker 1>But I just I don't think about things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, okay, well, just one more thing to celebrate.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want to know what I was thinking about?

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<v Speaker 2>And how sad? Tell me my ex I'm not my

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<v Speaker 2>ex's ex. Probably how fucked up? I'm not my ex's X.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, oh, like she's dated so many guys since you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like I'm not like how funny? Like when I

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<v Speaker 2>talk about my ex if you were to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>to her about hers.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not that I'm not her ex.

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<v Speaker 2>You're one of her exes, yes, but like the most

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<v Speaker 2>recent think about how she dated since well, yes.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not even supposed to be dating until a year

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<v Speaker 1>into sobriety. Let's get you grounded on your feet.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't say I wanted to date. I was thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to want to date. Since we're thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about love. There is a girl that you is cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I like, I'm talking to girls. I'm in no position

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<v Speaker 2>to date, and I have told them that, like I, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I do have to go out and talk to women

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<v Speaker 2>and be a part of society. I have to fuck,

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<v Speaker 2>but I do tell them like, hey, I'm not in

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<v Speaker 2>a position to be in a relationship. But that's what

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<v Speaker 2>this is you're wanting. Like, then I have to like,

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<v Speaker 2>you're just wanting to getting this belt with a lot of.

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<v Speaker 1>Notches on it. You're not supposed to be doing any

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<v Speaker 1>of that in your first year of sobriety.

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<v Speaker 2>I am talking to women, I'm not talking to I

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<v Speaker 2>cannot date.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not telling you how to run your program.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying what it says you're supposed to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm not here to judge anybody on how they're

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<v Speaker 1>working their program.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not dating.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't know what you're doing dumping some rocks off.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that's not true because if you were, you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't tell me, So I know you're freaking lying.

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<v Speaker 2>Sticking to sobriety. I'm talking. It's weird though, because I'll

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<v Speaker 2>talk to girls and I'm like, oh god, I how

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<v Speaker 2>I did ghost a lot?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, you need to work on that. Then

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<v Speaker 1>I don't co sign on that at all. I find

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<v Speaker 1>that to be a very toxic trait and very young minded.

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<v Speaker 1>Like yes, you can go down the line.

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<v Speaker 2>Like we have been talking for months or weeks or anything.

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<v Speaker 2>It'll be like, hey, how are you? Oh wow, great,

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<v Speaker 2>what have you been doing? I see you live in LA.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't respond, okay, do you do you? You do you?

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<v Speaker 2>Because that's where I'm like, if I keep talking to

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<v Speaker 2>this person, what comes from it? I have to go

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<v Speaker 2>and grab coffee. I have to do something I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to and for me to go, I loved this conversation,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm sorry if I were to conte it, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think this would be good for my sobriety. And

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<v Speaker 2>at that point, Like, so, like, at what point is

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<v Speaker 2>ghosting and we haven't talked where it's long enough because

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<v Speaker 2>if I did talk to you long enough, you would

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<v Speaker 2>know my situation and I could happily tell you like

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do it, and you would have to respect that.

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<v Speaker 2>But yes, I just don't right back to a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people because I'm like, Okay, you're close, you're in la.

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<v Speaker 2>I could see what is coming of it if I

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<v Speaker 2>keep this conversation right, I have to end it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just don't respond. Okay, I think that's better.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to. It's for everybody. I'm not ghosting because

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<v Speaker 2>that is small minded, is childish. Worked on that, but

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<v Speaker 2>now I'm in that point and it's tough. I'm still

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<v Speaker 2>like rocking a hard spot of like how do I

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<v Speaker 2>do it? Because I don't feel great when I like

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<v Speaker 2>don't respond to somebody. But I'm like my response would

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<v Speaker 2>be shittier.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I totally get that, Like what do I even say?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's but like I want a Valentine date or something,

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<v Speaker 2>not even well it's not even for the birthday, but

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<v Speaker 2>like I would like to go on a date to

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<v Speaker 2>know I know how to still talk to women.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. Okay, so that let's talk about this because

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<v Speaker 1>you have said you want to celebrate your birthday, which

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<v Speaker 1>is Valentine's date in Utah. I'm just along for the

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<v Speaker 1>freaking ride if you If you want to go to

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<v Speaker 1>Utah and have like a friend's trip and you want

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<v Speaker 1>to go, I want to.

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<v Speaker 2>I want family.

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<v Speaker 1>But because we don't get enough time together as it is, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are my friends. I know we have so

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<v Speaker 1>much fun together, all of us.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, I would like, uh, and it's not like

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<v Speaker 2>I want to go on out Valentine's Night and go.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, no, I just like to talk to a

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<v Speaker 2>girl and be like, hey, let's go celebrate a night

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<v Speaker 2>of say Valentine and fucking go and grab some food

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<v Speaker 2>by the beach, tacos or something. But yes, I would like, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the other day. That would be the perfect date

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<v Speaker 2>for me, right, And that's but I want to go

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<v Speaker 2>on a date. And you understand, like, yes, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>see it's a heart, it's a rock and a hard spot, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do it different because where lapse.

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<v Speaker 2>Came off of me having one identity and one identity,

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<v Speaker 2>one identity only, and it was so sober AA meetings

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<v Speaker 2>and obviously it didn't work.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I step in here? Your mindset is very all

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<v Speaker 1>over the place and what I would like you to do,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're doing what I have done a many of time,

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<v Speaker 1>where you go down many different avenues to try and

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<v Speaker 1>talk yourself into dating because that is what you want,

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<v Speaker 1>right but then you try to actively talk yourself out

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<v Speaker 1>of it and all of the roadblocks on why you

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't do those things and my subriety. Okay, so let's

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<v Speaker 1>just make it clear cut. Yes, Easton at some point

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<v Speaker 1>wants to find a person that one day he could

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<v Speaker 1>take out on Valentine's Day he can celebrate his birthday

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<v Speaker 1>with someone he loves. Is the timing a little bit off?

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<v Speaker 1>It could be because of his sobriety, and that's most important.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're not going to close yourself off off to

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<v Speaker 1>going out and meeting someone because you could meet someone

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<v Speaker 1>in the program and maybe you, guys, form like a

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<v Speaker 1>really amazing friendship and start dating later on. I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't want you to get to where I have gotten

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<v Speaker 1>many times, where I know deep down what I want,

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<v Speaker 1>which is somebody, and it may not be like the norm,

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<v Speaker 1>like the cookie cutter relationship. It's a little bit different

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<v Speaker 1>and untraditional, but ultimately I would like to find that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I.

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<v Speaker 1>Would go down all of these routes on why it

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<v Speaker 1>didn't make sense, and those things really made sense to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, they add a lot of stress, they add

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of drama. But I can't do it because

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<v Speaker 1>I have kids. Yes, all play a factor, but let's

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<v Speaker 1>just let it be.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's just let it be.

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<v Speaker 1>What does one do? Let's get out of our own heads.

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<v Speaker 1>For all the people out there who are spending Valentine's Day, solow,

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<v Speaker 1>what does one do to not have stress and pressure

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<v Speaker 1>of Valentine's Day.

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<v Speaker 2>That's easy for me because I usually spend my birthdays

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<v Speaker 2>with just a couple of people or alone. And I

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<v Speaker 2>do that on purpose or with you guys. But I

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<v Speaker 2>love getting like Chinese.

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<v Speaker 1>Food so much fun. You can never go wrong with that.

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<v Speaker 2>Order Chinese food. I love.

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<v Speaker 1>And here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>If you go out on Valentine's Day, it's always too

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<v Speaker 2>busy everybody, you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I find Valentine's Day to be the biggest, like the

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<v Speaker 1>biggest money grab from restaurants. It's fine, it's you're it's

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<v Speaker 1>part of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't like being.

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<v Speaker 1>A part of the thing. Not even that though it's

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<v Speaker 1>like people five hundred dollars a person for it's like

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<v Speaker 1>these amazing restaurants, and I get it, like some people

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<v Speaker 1>are into it. I think if you're really into Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>go all out, because then it's it's not a push

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<v Speaker 1>for you, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even think it's if you love Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 2>if you love somebody enough to go and do that.

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<v Speaker 1>No, great, No, But if you enjoy it, if you

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy being out and about like that and doing the

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day type dingy, but don't do it because you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you have to. Yeah, you should do make

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<v Speaker 1>that pressure on yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Because even that, like when I even when I was

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<v Speaker 2>talking to girls and like they would be like, what

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<v Speaker 2>do you want to do for Valentine like your birthday,

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<v Speaker 2>and be like, let's just sit in Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Best.

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<v Speaker 2>I love a good movie, ice cream and like Chinese food.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my go to for my Valentine's Day.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think that's a good one. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>if you're a female and you maybe have one or

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<v Speaker 1>two or a group of friends who are single, go

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<v Speaker 1>pland something with them, Go do something fun or go like,

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<v Speaker 1>spend a night at your house.

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<v Speaker 2>Cocktails, watch brides mabe if you drink, make some cocktails.

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<v Speaker 1>Heyday, Watch John Tucker Must Die. Oh, yes, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>watch the women. Watch Hot Girl, the Hot Girl, Hot Chick.

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<v Speaker 2>It's me that one.

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<v Speaker 1>That one. I might watch that on my Valentine's Day.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so good.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's I do like Valentine's Day. I don't love

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<v Speaker 2>my birthday. Peek on it established.

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<v Speaker 1>That you've cried about it and you've been very upset.

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<v Speaker 1>I like it. I think it's a great holiday to

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<v Speaker 1>have everythday of.

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas vacation. But they're all chewing them. I like it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's not it's friends. It's Joey eating the trifle

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<v Speaker 1>and the Shepherd's hi, and everyone's like, it's disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>I like me good, damn good. Oh, throw me up. Gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>what do they do on Valentine's Day? What's friends? I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to take a book out of friends, a page

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<v Speaker 2>out of the book of friends.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Have they ever they do?

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<v Speaker 2>They'll do? They do a Valentine I watch.

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<v Speaker 1>Every year, obviously, any of them that celebrate I no Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 1>and then obviously like Christmas time whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>New Year's is always in that mix of.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember one year I had a really fun Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>and this was when I was not sober. Obviously. We

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<v Speaker 1>ordered takeout, I took edibles and watched Scream Queens, Scream Queens,

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<v Speaker 1>Scream Queens. I was very high. I don't remember much

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<v Speaker 1>about it, but it was fun. It was very fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it was with Emma Roberts or something. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I was lit to the sky. It was

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<v Speaker 1>the best Valentine's Day ever. They make a mixtape, Chandler,

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<v Speaker 1>that's right. Oh, I remember the Valentine's Day one. Remember

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<v Speaker 1>they have to make homemade gifts for each other, Chandler

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<v Speaker 1>and Monica. He gives her the sock puppet and you

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<v Speaker 1>got this from Phoebe because I was going to get one.

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<v Speaker 1>And Chandler gives the the mixtape. Yeah so much, Chandler,

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<v Speaker 1>bing ah. That is good. I By the way, how

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<v Speaker 1>great would that be if you had a Valentine who

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<v Speaker 1>loved friends just as much as you and she gave

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<v Speaker 1>you that mixtape or Valentine's dape? What's a good Valentine's Day? Gift.

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<v Speaker 1>What would you give to a girl?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I always gave like gift cards because I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know what but it was and it is.

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<v Speaker 1>So in personal well it's awful.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'd give them flowers and like either ear rings

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<v Speaker 2>or like a ring, and then a gift card.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh well start with that, well, the flowers, the jewelry,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the gift cards.

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<v Speaker 2>The gift card usually is what you're getting for, So

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<v Speaker 2>I would get like a gift card to somewhere like

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<v Speaker 2>that so they could pay, so you know, they could

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<v Speaker 2>pick it out. And then I would also get like

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<v Speaker 2>flowers in a ring, depending on what they like, like

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<v Speaker 2>a little break, yeah, just something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I think I would want just like a

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<v Speaker 1>nice dinner and a card, like I don't need a gift,

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<v Speaker 1>But it would also depend on who the guy is. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel uncomfortable accepting gifts for men that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really know because then it's like I have to pretend

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<v Speaker 1>I'm opening this gift. You guys, I hate getting gifts

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<v Speaker 1>because then I have to fucking pretend like I like it. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>what if I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not getting And also like if I if I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not dating you, and I'm going on like a date

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<v Speaker 2>for Valentine. I'm not getting you a gift just because

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<v Speaker 2>it's Valentine's Day. It's just a date happens to be

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<v Speaker 2>on Valentine's Day. I'm getting you.

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<v Speaker 1>I can never go on a first day yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going on a first date on Valentine on

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<v Speaker 1>a first date on Valentine either way. I would love

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<v Speaker 1>for you guys to write in if any of you

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<v Speaker 1>are going on on a first date on Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about it. You guys, write in right in.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know, because that would give me bubble guts. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I would have a full panic attack.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that and I would need a whole leader of peptoto.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah to calm the bubble guts. Thank you for tuning

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<v Speaker 1>into another bonus episode of Untraditionally, Lala. I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>have a wonderful day, a wonderful v Day coming up,

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<v Speaker 1>and we are going to catch you on Wednesday and

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<v Speaker 1>again next week. Bye bye,