WEBVTT - How to Fight Fair 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:08.240 Wind Down Michael Colin and I'm her radio podcast. Hey guys, 0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:11.639 what's up grass? Uh? So, before we just came on here, 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:14.160 I told Easton, I said I have a new song 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:19.319 coming for you, and he was just like woo, and 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:25.480 that was I mean, I'm losing my mind. Um. And 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:26.800 so I was gonna play a little snippet and I 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:28.520 was like, oh, well, let's press play and then I'll 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:32.720 do a little D D sneak. But this is like 0:00:32.760 --> 0:00:38.040 the old so I have I have about um probably 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:42.600 like a million songs that I haven't cut from the past, 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:45.839 and this this is the one song that I have 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:51.159 always wanted to cut and I never have. UM. But 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:53.239 it's not going to be the slow It's just gonna be. 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:57.360 I mean, this is so. This is before this me singing. 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:00.440 This is before I got a record deal. Get ready 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:01.800 for it. This is how much I love the song. 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:07.959 Would you describe this as a bob It's a slow bop. 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:22.679 It's nothing, yep, little sneak peak, little sneak peak. Can 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:30.040 we no, because they're just gonna have to wait. No, 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:32.800 You're just gonna have to wait. Decent, I'll send it 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:35.560 to you. At least you have it but it's gonna 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:39.120 be It's gonna be a lot in that. But I 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.040 mean that rips as it is like if you go faster, 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:46.200 I might I might explode. But it's a it's a 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:48.480 good little love, a little love song. But no, it's 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:50.920 a song that I wrote my old producer that UM 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:52.360 I used to work with at the label, and I 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:54.360 was like, am I allowed to cut an old song 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:58.480 that you guys passed on? And he was like yeah, 0:01:58.880 --> 0:02:02.200 I was like cool, thanks got the green light. So yeah, 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:04.040 I'm cutting that. So new music is on the way, 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:07.160 east On. Just so when do you think we'll be 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:09.280 able to add that to our playlists and everything? When's 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:12.800 that going to hit shelves? I'm thinking April, maybe March. 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:19.000 Oh wow, that's soon. Yeah, I'm excited for I think 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.840 you're going to play it at the l Ray Theater 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:26.720 show right, Yes, I am, which we're coming to hey 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:29.919 Easton actually, so wind downs going on the road. We're 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:34.080 going to Texas the first UM the first week of March. 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:38.079 We're doing UM San Antonio, Austin, Houston, Dallas and it's 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.120 going to be a lot of fun and you know 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:44.320 it's not recorded, but we just hang out we just 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:46.160 kind of interact with people, and at the end of 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:48.200 the show, I sing. But we're also at the end 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:51.520 of March, coming to Sacramento in Los Angeles and Easton. 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:54.400 Would you like to pay a guest? I would love 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:57.560 to be a dream come true. Thank you. Maybe we 0:02:57.560 --> 0:03:00.600 could even have like an Eastern duet. Oh my god. 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:03.320 I mean I was just wondering if I should buy 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.480 a ticket or not. I was like, can I get 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:06.920 you know, you got me on the list for the 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:08.320 House of Blues and you were so nice to do that, 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.160 But I don't want to assume that I can get 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:13.760 that going forward. Jane, I'm about to buy a ticket, 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:15.840 but I would I would be so honored to be 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.680 part of the show. Thank you so much, Well everybody. 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.040 I should definitely then go to Janna Cramber dot com 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.680 to get their wine down tickets to also see Eastern 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:26.840 at the l Ray Theater. Mark would come, but he, um, 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:32.400 it's past his hest kids, right. Oh yeah, I don't 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:35.360 like going places and doing things. You're like me on 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:40.400 a regular basis, Yeah, exactly. Um, do you have a 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:45.440 new bop coming out? Mike? Uh No, I don't, right, 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.360 you sing all the time? I do sing all the time, 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:51.720 which is funny. Someone actually, someone just asked me recently, 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:55.840 who was it. I don't remember. They're like, does Jane 0:03:55.960 --> 0:04:00.160 just seeing all the time like at home? And uh 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:03.480 I was like, no, Actually, I'm the one that sings 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.440 all the time and I have a terrible voice. That's 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:07.000 not true. You have a really good voice. And it's 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:09.600 just but it's just funny that the people that like 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.640 you that can sing and do professionally don't sing at home. 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:19.599 Described Ken, it's I don't know, platinum selling singles. Gay, Okay, okay, anyways, 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:24.800 what's going on? N handle the compliment, okay, Michigan right now. 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:26.520 But I'm just think it's funny that the people that 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:28.200 can't sing are the ones that are singing, and the 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.200 ones that actually can don't at home. You know what 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:33.039 Michael's bop is right now? Mark, since you said Bob 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:36.680 Michaels were all obsessed with the Greatest Showman soundtrack, I 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:40.560 mean him and Jolie. Oh I love it, like so 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:45.279 good the amount of time, so good that they're running 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.719 around the house doing like singing those songs, which what's 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:51.440 your favorite one that you always sing? Come Alive is great? 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:56.360 I mean, the Greatest Showman's um, the one between zac 0:04:56.400 --> 0:05:01.359 Afron and Hugh Jackman enough his Fantastic Sick that's like 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.120 the ballad when Julie hangs on the railing on the stairs, 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:07.400 and like you did this spin where he wiped out 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:10.240 the other night. Doing it was what I would have 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.200 given to have, Like my phone, I wear my socks 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.640 and I'm just like doing power slides and moonwalk and 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:18.719 all over the the kitchen and stuff. And I feel 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:21.160 like I have to ice my knee every time I'm 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.599 done dancing because we just go at it and stuff. 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:27.640 Even Jason's like spinning around walking back where it's trying 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:31.039 to moonwalk. It's so cute. He'll spin and then turn 0:05:31.080 --> 0:05:33.520 around and like walk back where it's like he's been walking. 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.640 It's amazing. My kids went through a Greatest Showman Face two, 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:38.480 but it wasn't nearly as long as the Frozen Face, 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:40.160 and I wanted it to keep going. It shouldn't have 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:42.640 ended because I'm with Mike. I love that entire soundtrack. 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:44.880 The other side is the one you're referring to because 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:47.280 it got to be sad. As a former professional athlete, 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.680 there's not as ice as knee. I've been dancing to 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:52.800 a huge Jackman songs. It's so bad. But you know, 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:55.320 I told Janna too after I saw this movie, and 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:58.400 I'm obsessed with a soundtrack. I know Janna and I 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:00.400 had this discussion before, but I love the bringing up 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:02.680 with all of us right now. And I'll go ahead 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:06.279 and I'll start by by answering my own question because 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.760 I'm that excited about it. So, if there's any kind 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:12.279 of genre movie, what kind of movie would you like 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:16.240 to be? In mind before anyone goes is I would 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:19.960 love to be in any kind of military like Lone 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:25.479 survivor Thirteen Hours, any kind of type of military, you know, 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:28.880 shooting shoot him up, a movie like that. Or my 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:32.200 second we're doing we're doing it like I'm just I 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.279 just have to say this. My second, on the complete 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.440 opposite side of the spectrum, is to be in like 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:42.240 the greatest Showman type musical movie with dance numbers and 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:46.760 all that stuff. I would love it that. I mean, 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:49.280 one of your best friends is one of the biggest 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:52.080 casting in directors in Hollywood, So it's like, just just 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:53.480 tell them that's what you want to do, and I'm 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:56.080 sure I'll put you in one of those movies. This 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:57.800 is true, And if you don't mind having like your 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:02.160 wife like on like where's the hook? I'm here? Um, 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.479 well that's cool. So I think that's pretty neat. Yeah, Eastern, 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:10.520 I want to hear yours next. Oh man, Um, I 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:13.600 too love musicals. I would love to be I would 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:15.440 love to. I would love to say I just want 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.880 to sing a dance, That's all I want. I mean, 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.600 i'd like to be in a superhero movie. Yeah, yeah, 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:22.120 I'd like I'd like to put on a super suit 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.360 and fly around and blow up bad guys. And I 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:26.640 could see you being in like a dead Pool. I 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:28.120 would love to. I would love to be a met 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:31.640 a superhero. I'd love to break some fourth walls, you know, Mark, 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.520 I'm real curious to know what yours is. I think 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:36.640 i'd like to be in like a sports movie, like 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:38.520 a baseball player in a sports movie. I think that'd 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:40.440 be pretty neat because that's a fantasy of mine because 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:45.080 I can't do anything athletically, like literally nothing really, and 0:07:45.120 --> 0:07:47.160 growing up I would go out for literally because I 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:49.640 love baseball with such a passion and I was always 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:51.520 the one of the through in right field and bad 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:54.120 and laughs, because I couldn't hit the ball. I was 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:57.400 so bad. But on a movie that I could be amazing, 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:02.160 I would say that interesting. I love it. I mean, 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.400 take a guest, guys, what do you think? I know 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:08.920 the answer Eastern Mark. Well, this is where because you're 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.760 an actual actress in movies. But I've never been in 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.760 a certain type of movie. I've always wanted to be in. 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:22.760 Oh okay, you're a You're a big city girl that 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:27.880 goes home to a small I've done five thousand of Who, 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:31.320 five thousand and one, I got another one coming soon. 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:37.040 It's not that it's not a romantic. If I could 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:41.520 go back, it would be. Well, there's two things since 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:45.000 Mike did too. The first one is pride and prejudice. 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.560 I want to Mr Darcy so bad. Well, that's a 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:55.080 good one. A period like what a dream like Dreamboat? 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:58.240 That movie is just my everything. And honestly, for the 0:08:58.240 --> 0:09:01.240 longest time, I was like, where's my Mr Ducie right here? 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:07.920 And so then and then um, I kind of want 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:12.520 to play like remember that movie with Ben Affleck and 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:14.959 Blake Lively. Oh my gosh, I'm forgetting the movie now 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.440 where she's like a total drug the town. I would 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:21.960 want to be Blake Lively in the town drug addicted, 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:26.320 I do. I think it'd be just like I don't know, 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:32.280 trash and I just want to just I want to 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.199 be I want to be Alex from One Tree Hill 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:41.240 on like steroids it. Yeah, so that's I mean, I'd 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:42.240 love to see that. I think that would be fun 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:46.160 or or or and he it was like times, like 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.920 you know about time that was so good with Rachel mcgadhams. 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:51.520 I just want to I just would like to work. 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:56.200 I told I told Janna this, and this is I 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:59.800 feel like Janna sells herself short when it comes to 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:03.720 her capabilities as an actress. And I was watching this 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:06.920 uh behind the scenes thing on john Wick three and 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:11.719 where Halle Berry was being interviewed and just watching how 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:14.280 Hallie Berry go through the training and everything. I was like, 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:17.920 that's just Janna And I told you after I saw it, 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:20.280 I was like, you need to put yourself out there, 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:22.920 get out of your comfort zone because you're hard working. 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:26.040 Dedication when you are into something or like on a 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:28.680 on a project or on a job is so intense. 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:31.560 Like you would kick ass in that training, you would 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:35.240 kick ass in the physical you know, requirements needed for 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.840 a role like that, and you can be very intimidating. 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:43.000 Your little cute self can be very intimidating. I've seen it, 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.920 so I was like, you can do that stuff, and 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:48.360 I really think you should. You should try. I know, 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:51.320 anytime my agents sent me like a cop, I'm like 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:55.440 nol pass because I just feel so silly to be 0:10:55.480 --> 0:11:00.640 like put him up or if you do like that, 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:06.160 Like like I know that if I was on set 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.200 and I was in the costume and I had the gun, 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.600 like I could be badass, but in the audition, I'd 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:12.320 be like put them up, put him up, put them up, 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:17.680 freeze crazy. Every every person should be acting with be 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:19.520 like all right, here's a face mask. It's a picture 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:24.280 of my husband. Wear this. Stop stop. Like we said 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:28.800 in therapy, were not going to make jokes. Now you're 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:32.400 making jokes, so you can that. I can't. No, I'm 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:34.280 not making jokes out here. We go and then we're 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:40.920 taking a turn. No one that everybody. That was a 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:44.920 fun game like that. Um oh, I'm really excited. We 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:48.640 have a really really cool guest on today. UM. Her 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:54.760 name is Susan Stiffleman, and she's a badass. Um for 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.439 over thirty years, Susan has worked with families to create 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:00.640 greater harmony and deeper connection between parents and children, which 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.560 I think is awesome. And then I was on her 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:05.319 website to an Eckhart Toll Lana's Marsett like they've all 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:08.560 get just like saying her praises so um. She's got 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:10.840 a lot of great books out there to parenting without 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:14.440 power struggles raising joyful, resilient kids while staying cool, calm 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:17.959 and connected like hella um. So I'm excited to talk 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.439 to her. Should we take an email before we talked 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:25.200 to Susan? Oh? I love it. Early email, early email. 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:30.280 We'll see Janet has issues in the bedroom. Janet says, 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:32.080 actually said, it's very nice things at the top here 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:34.040 that I'd like to share with you. She says, Hey girl, 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.280 I'm a huge fan. I've loved you since One Tree Hill. 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:39.440 I have fallen in love with your podcast. They're so 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:42.800 informative and funny and make my day. That's sweet. That's 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.640 very sweet. Anyway, thank you, she says. Okay, So when 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:47.520 my husband and I started dating, I wanted sex more 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:49.800 than him, and over the years the roles have reversed. 0:12:49.880 --> 0:12:51.960 Now he wants it way more than me. I have 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:53.760 a sixteen year old and a three year old, and 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:55.640 I work a full time job, and at night I 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:58.079 rock my son to sleep. That's like our mommy and 0:12:58.200 --> 0:12:59.840 sun time, and then I lay him down, and then 0:12:59.840 --> 0:13:01.360 it's time to clean up toys. And then by the 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:03.079 time I get to bed, all I want to do 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:06.400 is sleep. I love, love, love my husband. I just 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:10.800 don't know what to do, so I can relate on 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:16.040 both sides. Having said that, I feel like when you're 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:17.839 that tired, because I get it. At the end of 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:21.040 the day, it's so tiring, but if it's been longer 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:24.600 than a certain period, you just gotta do it. I 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:28.400 think that's just my It's just just like your relationship 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:32.400 is work. That involves work in the bedroom too. Whether 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:35.720 sometimes you want to have the conversations and it's like 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:37.080 you don't want to fight, you don't want to have 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:39.760 the deep, drawn out conversations. But that's kind of like sex. 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:41.120 You don't really want to have sex, but you gotta 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:44.560 do it because it's part of it's part of the relationship, 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:46.520 it's a part of what. But I'm just saying like 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:47.839 it's a part of what the man needs. It's a 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:51.280 part of whether you want to or not. You know, 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:53.720 it's kind of like you just have to give a 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:58.440 little bit. Yeah, but is that I mean, I feel 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.280 like that's a very I mean, husbands are nodding their 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.040 head and they're thrilled with that answer. But is that 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:05.360 the right answer? Is it the right today? Whatever? I've 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:06.960 heard some women say that if you want to keep 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:08.960 your man happy, give it to him whenever he wants. 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:13.040 I'm not saying that, not whenever. I don't think whenever, 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:16.760 because I think that beats a dead horse. Like especially, 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:20.360 you shouldn't be giving something that you don't want whenever 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:23.840 he wants. It's just a hey if whatever they come 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:28.680 up with, maybe how what what is enough for for him? 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:31.440 Or that's also okay for her, Like hey, I don't 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:34.200 want to do it every week, but I could do 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.520 it every two weeks. You know that way, it's like 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:38.840 they kind of have this agreement. Doesn't make it as 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:42.120 fun and as romantic, but when you get that far 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:45.440 into marriage, it's kind of like all right, but then 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:47.600 also do fun ways to spice it up, like maybe 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:53.720 if he would not do it so um routine, like 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:55.880 maybe if or maybe she'd want to do it too, 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:57.720 like maybe not the end of the day, like maybe hey, 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:03.240 a little like lunch call, fun time. That's what I 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:04.840 was thinking. Has changed up the time a little bit 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.440 because sometimes first thing in the morning, before the kids 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:10.240 wake up, might be a better option because for whatever reason, 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:12.000 or yeah, maybe middle of the day, somehow you can 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.000 make it happen. That's probably a better idea, only because 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.920 I don't like whatever he wants, you know, if he 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:19.400 wants to do it, you know, I don't know. It 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.320 just doesn't feel it's it kind of feels wrong to me. 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:24.040 I agree with that too. I agree with it. It's 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:27.440 not whenever he wants, but there are times get a timeline. 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:31.520 I almost feel like, and then discuss that. What do 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:37.120 you think, Mike, I think, Uh. The way I received 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:41.480 your point was I liked the comparison to just like, 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:43.840 you have to have conversations and talk about problems and 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:47.320 conflict in in marriage, in relationships, that's part of a 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:52.680 necessity that you have to do um and you know, 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:57.120 sex is part of the physical connection intimacy of relationships. 0:15:57.280 --> 0:16:01.360 So it's just like Janna said, that takes work as 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:05.240 well as everything else intellectually and emotionally. So it's just 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:09.640 one of those things you got to consider that. It's 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:12.480 not it's not something where it should just be taking 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.320 off the table like I'm just too tired for a month. 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.440 Why can't you understand I'm tired. But eventually you have 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:22.720 to I don't have to do anything, but you should. 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.320 I mean, you should want to connect with your partner, 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:29.280 you should want to please them and do those things. Yeah, 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:31.000 it's just part of It's just part of it all. 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:33.360 It's part of marriage, is part of work, working on 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:38.960 the relationship. I mean, yeah, it's just funny because when 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:41.520 I was talking to an errand my trainer has been 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:43.920 so open about her sex life and how you know, 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:45.880 she even said it on our podcast that they don't 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:48.600 really have sex a lot to every like six months 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:51.920 or something like that. And in you know, in my mind, 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.720 I'm like, Okay, what is that? What is that lack 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:58.200 of intimacy than due to the relationship or is it okay? 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:00.240 And that's just what works for them, you know, maybe 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:02.800 that is just what works for both of them, which 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:04.719 is far Yeah, which is totally fine, But I think 0:17:04.800 --> 0:17:08.240 just figuring out what works for each other where that 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:11.399 the girl isn't just compromising or the guy isn't just 0:17:11.440 --> 0:17:14.520 compromising like himself? Like kind of too your part point 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:16.639 where you were saying Mark, you know, not having to 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:23.720 compromise like no one's kneeds are put above somebody else's right. Yeah, interesting? 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:27.720 Do you have another one before season clo. Let's see. 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:33.000 Let's see. Kelsey has some suggestions for us. So, she says, 0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:35.439 she heard you talking to Joe Frost super Nanny, and 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:37.720 one of the you mentioned your issues with night training, 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:39.640 potty training at night, w a pain in the acctive 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:41.800 to change the sheets at three am. Well, she has 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:43.920 a hack for you. She says, all you need a 0:17:44.000 --> 0:17:47.240 two mattress protectors and two fitted sheets. Just make the 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.800 bed twice as it were. Then when an action occurs, 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:53.439 you stumble into your child's room half asleep. You strip 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:55.600 the first layer away and behold, the second layer is 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:58.480 already there, nice and clean and dry. Hope this helps, 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:00.639 and still give me a shout out. Shout out Kelsey 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:02.719 and the other one. She wanted to mention her favorite 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:05.119 Birds and the Bees book. Her daughter is five and 0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:07.440 she is the most educated and informed for her age. 0:18:07.480 --> 0:18:09.880 The book explains where babies come from in an age 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:13.160 appropriate manner. It's called It's Not the Stork, a book 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:17.359 about girls, boys, babies, bodies and friends. Interesting. I like 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:19.560 the double sheet thing. I never really thought about that. 0:18:19.640 --> 0:18:23.840 Usually I just put down those crab protector squares. But 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:28.200 I like the double the double sheet crib or mattress protector. 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:31.080 That's kind of great. And like the princess and the piece, 0:18:31.119 --> 0:18:35.119 she just gets higher and higher and higher. I know 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:40.200 that you do. You know it's your go for it. 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:43.600 That that double sheet thing. I just it's been a 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:45.639 couple of weeks since I've went the bed, but the 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.520 that double sheet thing went viral on the internet a 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:50.960 couple like six months ago. It was like, hey, if 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:53.199 you hate doing laundry, you hate making your bed, just 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:55.600 like put like three or four sheets down, then when 0:18:55.600 --> 0:18:57.840 one gets dirty, you take it off and then you're 0:18:57.920 --> 0:19:00.000 you're good to go. Like you do it in advance. 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:03.560 But my personal opinion is I think bodily fluids can 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:05.200 soak through. I don't think when sheet is going to 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:08.600 do the job, Well, that's the mattress protector. That's I'm 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:12.520 still against it. I'm still against The man is spoken, 0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:15.199 he's against it. So they were saying to do that 0:19:15.240 --> 0:19:17.840 like as adults, like just put on multiple fittage adults. 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:23.080 What about pellow cases. Yeah, this person doesn't seem to care. 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:26.040 I guess that's the worst of it for me. Yeah, 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:30.240 those other sheets are are just as offensive. I think. Hey, Mark, 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:34.159 question for you, Yes, where have you guys gone? And 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:37.879 the family vacation? Um? We The hard thing for us 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:39.800 is that all of my wife's family, and she has 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:41.919 a large family, and they're all in Wisconsin, and so 0:19:41.960 --> 0:19:43.879 whenever we have an opportunity to take time off, we 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:46.879 pretty much go to Wisconsin. We've also visited and visited 0:19:46.880 --> 0:19:49.720 my sister in Seattle. As far as straight up family vacations, 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:51.720 they've been few and far between. But we've done San 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:58.480 Diego a bunch of times. And gosh, is that it? 0:19:58.560 --> 0:20:01.000 That's sad? If that's it, Sorry, I didn't like we 0:20:01.119 --> 0:20:05.159 did Mexico was part of Arta once. Yeah, there's not 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:06.840 been a lot because when we have time off, we 0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:09.600 had to Wisconsin. And it's also tough being down here 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:12.480 in the lower corner of the country. It's like Vegas, 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.000 San Diego, San Francisco. Otherwise you got a long trip 0:20:15.040 --> 0:20:16.960 ahead of you. And now that's what we were kind of. 0:20:17.160 --> 0:20:20.080 So I'm starting to have anxiety just from the amount 0:20:20.119 --> 0:20:24.399 of like stuff that's pilot on this year, and I 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:26.600 hate being away from the kids. Like I I personally 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:28.680 like to travel with the kids. Mike doesn't like to 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:31.600 travel with the kids. Um, and so it's that kind 0:20:31.600 --> 0:20:36.280 of battle but between us both because I I I 0:20:36.400 --> 0:20:38.159 personally would like to bring them on the tour and 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:41.480 I would like to, um, you know, maybe then stay 0:20:42.160 --> 0:20:43.879 when we're in l A for a week or so 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:45.760 and have the kids here, and then I'm like, yeah, 0:20:45.760 --> 0:20:47.280 we can then go to the beach and then you know, 0:20:47.359 --> 0:20:50.679 do some this, and and um, you know, he's just 0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:52.840 more of like, you know, don't get the kids out 0:20:52.840 --> 0:20:56.399 of the routine, which I understand. But then also I 0:20:56.440 --> 0:21:00.640 have the I'm left with the mom guilt of being 0:21:00.680 --> 0:21:03.919 away and being away so much and having to like 0:21:03.960 --> 0:21:06.159 fly to things and not taking them with me. So 0:21:06.200 --> 0:21:09.000 it's just been like really really weighing on me. And 0:21:09.040 --> 0:21:11.440 then so I was like, well, can we at least 0:21:11.440 --> 0:21:14.080 plan a family vacation where it's just us for it's 0:21:14.119 --> 0:21:16.440 not you know, going to Michigan or Virginia and it's 0:21:16.480 --> 0:21:18.600 just I mean, it's just us for as a family 0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:21.879 and we go somewhere and that way I have something 0:21:21.920 --> 0:21:24.119 to almost look forward to in a way, knowing that 0:21:24.200 --> 0:21:26.160