1
00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:12,520
Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome back to another episode of Wide

2
00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:15,560
Speaker 1: Open with Ashland Harris. Today, I'm sitting down with someone

3
00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,560
Speaker 1: who has redefined what it means to take up space,

4
00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:20,400
Speaker 1: Lily saying, welcome to.

5
00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:21,440
Speaker 2: The show.

6
00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:23,759
Speaker 3: To talk to you.

7
00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,560
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean, if you don't know who Lily is,

8
00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:32,040
Speaker 1: let me explain. You started your career you as a

9
00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:36,280
Speaker 1: YouTuber and you blew it out of the water. Let's

10
00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:38,400
Speaker 1: just say you're one of the ogs, is what I

11
00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:39,120
Speaker 1: like to say.

12
00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:44,080
Speaker 2: Not only that you became a late.

13
00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:48,680
Speaker 1: Night TV show host, one of one, you're acting, you're producing,

14
00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:53,360
Speaker 1: you're directing, and you have an upcoming film doing it. Lily,

15
00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:54,480
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show.

16
00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:58,640
Speaker 3: Thank you so much. You wake me up. Let's go.

17
00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:00,480
Speaker 2: You know what, cheers to that.

18
00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:04,320
Speaker 1: Here we are. We are really just cheers to the queers.

19
00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:07,640
Speaker 1: I'm having a beer because I can and I'm of age.

20
00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:09,160
Speaker 3: So and you can do whatever you want.

21
00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:10,960
Speaker 2: Maybe I can do whatever the fuck I want.

22
00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:11,560
Speaker 3: And here we are.

23
00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,480
Speaker 1: Well, thanks for coming on. I am so obsessed with you.

24
00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,400
Speaker 1: We've been I guess what do you call that these days?

25
00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:18,360
Speaker 1: Internet friends?

26
00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:21,039
Speaker 3: Internet always We've met once, we've been Internet friends, but

27
00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,080
Speaker 3: I've been dying to get to know you better because

28
00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:23,759
Speaker 3: I feel like we're.

29
00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:29,440
Speaker 1: Your hype on the sidelines of every sports game, whether

30
00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:33,280
Speaker 1: it's soccer, basketball, or anything in between, is one of one.

31
00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,759
Speaker 2: I mean, the energy is electric.

32
00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,400
Speaker 3: That means a lot to me. I do really ride

33
00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:42,080
Speaker 3: myself in my energy and my book to hype people up.

34
00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:43,480
Speaker 3: I feel like you're a really good cheerleader.

35
00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:49,440
Speaker 1: And hello, you are now in the ownership group of

36
00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:51,920
Speaker 1: the new Toronto w NBA team.

37
00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:54,960
Speaker 3: Yes, Toronto time but which is a dream for me.

38
00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:58,360
Speaker 3: So I, as you know, part owner of Angel City,

39
00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:02,520
Speaker 3: which is the LA women's soccer team. Love, but I'm

40
00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,800
Speaker 3: from Toronto originally Toronto. I'm writer by Toronto and this

41
00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,280
Speaker 3: is Canada's first of your vay team, you know as

42
00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:11,040
Speaker 3: the on We have one NBA team as well. So

43
00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,280
Speaker 3: if I wasn't a part of this, I would be devasting.

44
00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,680
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Yes, I'm a part owner of the

45
00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,760
Speaker 3: Toronto Tempo and my official title is the Chief Hype Officer.

46
00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, where's the sign? Where's the sign in the back

47
00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:24,400
Speaker 2: of your office? I need it?

48
00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:26,959
Speaker 3: No, what I actually do have when it's over there somewhere,

49
00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:33,120
Speaker 3: I will this My new gallery wall has oh right there,

50
00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:35,040
Speaker 3: that's a little she making money moves.

51
00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:38,080
Speaker 1: Honey, No, come on, we love a gallery wall. I

52
00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,440
Speaker 1: mean you're in good company. Serena Williams, Hello.

53
00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:45,520
Speaker 3: I know. I mean those love play sports. Just associate

54
00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:46,480
Speaker 3: with sports. That's what I do.

55
00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,240
Speaker 2: Well, be easy. I see you working out on that Instagram.

56
00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,560
Speaker 3: I see you hitting the way sinking.

57
00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:57,440
Speaker 2: I pay attention. Okay, if you're a hype woman too, No,

58
00:02:57,520 --> 00:02:58,079
Speaker 2: I'm sure I.

59
00:02:58,040 --> 00:02:59,239
Speaker 3: Work out a little something. So I don't want to

60
00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,160
Speaker 3: be able to like lift a girl. You know, That's

61
00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:06,040
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So I literally work out so I

62
00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:06,720
Speaker 3: can lift a girl.

63
00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:10,560
Speaker 2: Can Can you put that on my my grave?

64
00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:11,320
Speaker 1: Please?

65
00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:12,080
Speaker 3: When I'm gone.

66
00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:14,880
Speaker 2: That's all I want. I work out to lift the girl.

67
00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:18,880
Speaker 3: That's it. Hell no physical, but not literally. I just

68
00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:19,519
Speaker 3: want to lift a girl.

69
00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,400
Speaker 2: I love your energy like it's it's so good.

70
00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:23,360
Speaker 3: So tell me Lily.

71
00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:27,200
Speaker 1: For people who don't know you, you grew up, You're from Canada.

72
00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:31,040
Speaker 1: I think that is what nowadays in this political climate,

73
00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:32,240
Speaker 1: we call the golden ticket.

74
00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:33,280
Speaker 2: I'd love one too.

75
00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:36,760
Speaker 3: You should all line up to marry outside my house

76
00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:38,960
Speaker 3: every day. There should be a line of people. You know.

77
00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,320
Speaker 3: When I first moved to la in twenty fifteen, a

78
00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:44,360
Speaker 3: really hard time about being Canadian, made fun of a lot,

79
00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,920
Speaker 3: and now I'm like, you can single file line up

80
00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,200
Speaker 3: outside my house to marry me, to try to become

81
00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:53,480
Speaker 3: a Canadian citizen. Yes. I was born in Toronto, Canada

82
00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:58,280
Speaker 3: to amazing parents are Indian immigrants, and somehow, some way,

83
00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:02,000
Speaker 3: in the end of my university career, I decided to

84
00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:03,840
Speaker 3: upload a YouTube video. You know, growing up I always

85
00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:05,320
Speaker 3: wanted to entertain I was like in the middle of

86
00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:08,600
Speaker 3: the dance circle. I loved watching movies and TV shows.

87
00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:11,960
Speaker 3: I just loved entertainment. Never thought I could actually do

88
00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,640
Speaker 3: because you're going out growing up in a small town.

89
00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:15,960
Speaker 3: You're like, how am I gonna do this? No casting

90
00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,919
Speaker 3: directors here, I don't know anything about this. Discovered YouTube

91
00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:22,880
Speaker 3: in twenty ten, uploaded a YouTube video, thought nothing of it.

92
00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:25,520
Speaker 3: Seventy people watched it, and I was like, I don't

93
00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:28,919
Speaker 3: know seventy people, so clearly this is working and it

94
00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,520
Speaker 3: snowballed into this career that I was not at all

95
00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,080
Speaker 3: prepared for. And how did that shape you? Because you

96
00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:34,800
Speaker 3: were pretty.

97
00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:36,960
Speaker 1: Young, right, So, like you say, you always wanted to

98
00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:40,720
Speaker 1: be in entertainment, Like was that the hot did you

99
00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:42,480
Speaker 1: want to be in like Hollywood, did you want to

100
00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,719
Speaker 1: be on TV or just anything entertainment? You wanted to

101
00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:50,360
Speaker 1: grab people's attention, make them laugh, and slowly you started

102
00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,560
Speaker 1: realizing you can make a career out of this, or

103
00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:53,600
Speaker 1: like where was the shift?

104
00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:56,080
Speaker 3: No, I think I had the dream of being entertainment,

105
00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:57,880
Speaker 3: but I never felt realistic, like I have a degree

106
00:04:57,880 --> 00:04:59,960
Speaker 3: in psychology. I was very ready to live this very

107
00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:02,320
Speaker 3: in your life that everyone had set out for me.

108
00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:05,240
Speaker 3: I didn't actually think I could get into entertainment. And

109
00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:07,320
Speaker 3: then when I started making YouTube douse, the shift came

110
00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:10,920
Speaker 3: in the lack of gatekeepers around YouTube and I could

111
00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:12,520
Speaker 3: talk about whatever I want to talk about. That for

112
00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,120
Speaker 3: the first time, I felt liberated to like make the

113
00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,280
Speaker 3: things I thought were funnier, like have the discussions I

114
00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:19,760
Speaker 3: thought were really important that I wasn't seeing on TV,

115
00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:22,120
Speaker 3: especially from people that looked like me. And so the

116
00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,440
Speaker 3: shift came from like this liberating like I can do

117
00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:26,080
Speaker 3: whatever I want and talk about whatever I want and

118
00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,679
Speaker 3: people are actually gravitating towards it, which is really cool.

119
00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:32,040
Speaker 1: I love that, And like who was Lily as a kid?

120
00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:35,320
Speaker 1: Like like how did you move? How'd you take up space?

121
00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:40,080
Speaker 1: Because you are such a beautiful personality and so well

122
00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:43,440
Speaker 1: rounded because you don't take yourself so serious, like I

123
00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,400
Speaker 1: feel like the entertainment where all people are like and

124
00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:48,320
Speaker 1: you kind of like poke holes at it a little bit,

125
00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:49,280
Speaker 1: which makes me laugh.

126
00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:52,159
Speaker 3: Yeah. I literally posted on my story this morning that

127
00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,520
Speaker 3: I literally got full glammed to do this virtual interview,

128
00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:58,840
Speaker 3: and I was like, zoom, Literally there's probably accult record.

129
00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:01,000
Speaker 3: Use why did I pay and hundreds of dollars? Why

130
00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:04,480
Speaker 3: Because I'm a fool, Because this industry is foolish, because

131
00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:07,400
Speaker 3: it really is. Anyways, all this is thing. Yes, I don't.

132
00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,160
Speaker 3: I try not to take it all too seriously, mostly

133
00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,520
Speaker 3: because you'll go crazy. You'll go insane. If you take

134
00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:14,240
Speaker 3: it too seriously, you'll go insane. Well who was I

135
00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:16,120
Speaker 3: as a kid? Well, I'm gonna answer this question, and

136
00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:17,880
Speaker 3: then as soon as I'm done answering, you're gonna be like,

137
00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:19,360
Speaker 3: and you didn't know you were a gay? Telling you're

138
00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:23,039
Speaker 3: thirty and trust me, I know I was a huge

139
00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:27,800
Speaker 3: comboy growing up, always every opportunity going against the grain,

140
00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:30,480
Speaker 3: Like didn't want to wear the clothes people wanted me

141
00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:33,960
Speaker 3: to wear, didn't want to do the degree people wanted

142
00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:35,680
Speaker 3: me to do, didn't have the career people wanted me

143
00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,800
Speaker 3: to have, don't have the sexuality I've won't expected me

144
00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:42,320
Speaker 3: to have, Just constantly challenging and going against the grain.

145
00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,719
Speaker 3: Like I want to paint my room red. My mom says,

146
00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:46,760
Speaker 3: you can't page your room red. Now it's my mission

147
00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:48,599
Speaker 3: to paint my room red. Like I was just that

148
00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:52,560
Speaker 3: kid through and through, like very opinionated, wanted things to

149
00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,400
Speaker 3: be the way she wanted them to be. And that's

150
00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:57,880
Speaker 3: kind of still how I am, to be honest.

151
00:06:57,720 --> 00:06:58,200
Speaker 2: I love it.

152
00:06:58,200 --> 00:06:59,960
Speaker 1: And you, I mean, I didn't know you as a kid,

153
00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:02,400
Speaker 1: but like it seems like you haven't changed a bit,

154
00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,960
Speaker 1: and I love that about you because you're just real.

155
00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:06,640
Speaker 3: Really yeah, but real and raw.

156
00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:11,080
Speaker 1: But do you think that's the difference between growing up

157
00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:14,640
Speaker 1: through social media and just sharing who you are, no

158
00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,120
Speaker 1: strings attached, kind of like take it or leave it,

159
00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:21,880
Speaker 1: subscribe or unsubscribe, and really growing up in the La

160
00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:25,480
Speaker 1: Hollywood industry. I think that really there is a big

161
00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:29,440
Speaker 1: difference there because that's maybe the reason why you can

162
00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,840
Speaker 1: poke fun a little bit of like the entertainment space

163
00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,880
Speaker 1: and you know the bullshit that kind of comes with it.

164
00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:36,800
Speaker 3: It's a little bit of a.

165
00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:38,760
Speaker 2: Circus if you've ever been a part of it.

166
00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:42,800
Speaker 1: I don't know how I'll do it, but I see

167
00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:44,640
Speaker 1: a little bit of it now and I'm like, Hello,

168
00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:46,560
Speaker 1: I'm fascinated.

169
00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:47,640
Speaker 3: By people that were born and raised now because I

170
00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:49,760
Speaker 3: always think that I'm like, you were really raised in

171
00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:54,280
Speaker 3: this environment where things that I think are so extraordinary

172
00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:56,560
Speaker 3: you think are so normal. I think growing up in

173
00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:59,360
Speaker 3: Toronto really has helped me come at it from a

174
00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:01,840
Speaker 3: point of view that's like, you know, La is a bubble.

175
00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:03,600
Speaker 3: It's I don't get a wrong. I actually love LA.

176
00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:05,320
Speaker 3: I think it's like my second home, and I really

177
00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:07,280
Speaker 3: really love the people here. But it is a bubble

178
00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:08,720
Speaker 3: and it is important to leave every once in a

179
00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:10,840
Speaker 3: while because when you leave LA and I go back

180
00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:12,520
Speaker 3: home to my hometown of Toronto, when I talk to

181
00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:15,280
Speaker 3: my friends and I say things like Roku and Hulu

182
00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:17,400
Speaker 3: and ted Lasso, They're like, I actually don't know what

183
00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:18,200
Speaker 3: you're talking about.

184
00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:18,480
Speaker 1: No.

185
00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:21,080
Speaker 3: I dressed up as Ted Lasso for Halloween three years

186
00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:22,920
Speaker 3: ago and none of my friends in Toronto knew who

187
00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:26,800
Speaker 3: it was. They're like, what are you talking about? They're like, what,

188
00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:29,800
Speaker 3: they don't have Hulu there, they don't. I'm like, you know,

189
00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,920
Speaker 3: the show directed by so and so, and they're like, literally, no, no,

190
00:08:33,160 --> 00:08:35,040
Speaker 3: what are you talking. So you realize that this is

191
00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:37,040
Speaker 3: not this is just a bubble that we live in,

192
00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,000
Speaker 3: and it's a lovely bubble, but it's important to leave

193
00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:40,400
Speaker 3: this bubble every people.

194
00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,200
Speaker 1: I agree and with that, because you know, you did

195
00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:48,320
Speaker 1: bring a very beautiful diversity component to media, because like

196
00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:54,160
Speaker 1: I my first year i played what used to be

197
00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:58,199
Speaker 1: the WPS was in Western New York. So the only

198
00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:00,480
Speaker 1: place for us to go when you live like the

199
00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,080
Speaker 1: Rochester area, Buffalo area.

200
00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:03,480
Speaker 3: Was Toronto.

201
00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:07,000
Speaker 1: But what I knew about Toronto at a very very

202
00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:11,200
Speaker 1: early age is it's beautifully diverse and the food is

203
00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:13,679
Speaker 1: fucking phenomenal, Oh my.

204
00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:15,520
Speaker 2: God, everything.

205
00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:20,880
Speaker 1: And I don't necessarily think probably when you were doing,

206
00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:24,680
Speaker 1: like you know, your roots in YouTube, that media was

207
00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:28,000
Speaker 1: very diverse. You kind of blew that door wide open.

208
00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:31,680
Speaker 1: You were the first for a lot of things. Did

209
00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:34,640
Speaker 1: you realize when you were doing that at that age

210
00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:39,200
Speaker 1: the significance and the impact you were having on the

211
00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:42,319
Speaker 1: platform in the landscape of media and diversity or No,

212
00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:44,160
Speaker 1: So in.

213
00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,000
Speaker 3: The moment when I was doing it, of course, I

214
00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:47,480
Speaker 3: used to it comments that were like, oh my god,

215
00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,240
Speaker 3: I've never seen someone that looks like you're talking about this.

216
00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:52,240
Speaker 3: I feel so seen and so I think to a degree,

217
00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:56,720
Speaker 3: but not really. I think recently it has become a

218
00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:58,559
Speaker 3: parent to me, you know, not really lovely things happened,

219
00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:00,480
Speaker 3: which is that my fans are kind of grown up

220
00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:02,560
Speaker 3: with me. I started making you twoas in twenty ten

221
00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:06,520
Speaker 3: and for that entire you know, for the five six

222
00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,400
Speaker 3: years following up until like, I don't know, probably even

223
00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:11,439
Speaker 3: just two years ago, when people approach me on the

224
00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:12,520
Speaker 3: streets and be like, oh my god, I love you.

225
00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:14,240
Speaker 3: Can I get a selfie? Can I get a selfie? Like?

226
00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,840
Speaker 3: I want you so lovely? And I love that interaction

227
00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:19,600
Speaker 3: to but the interaction's actually changed over the past two years.

228
00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:23,320
Speaker 3: When people approach me, they're very vocal about I just

229
00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:26,280
Speaker 3: want to let you know that I actually, like completely

230
00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:30,080
Speaker 3: changed my career path because I saw you do entertainment

231
00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:33,200
Speaker 3: or like I came out to my parents and I

232
00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:35,240
Speaker 3: never thought I would do that because you paved the

233
00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:37,520
Speaker 3: path for someone like me coming up. So I think

234
00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:39,600
Speaker 3: I've been really lucky and that people have shared these

235
00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:41,800
Speaker 3: really awesome, vulnerable stories and I can see now the

236
00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:46,240
Speaker 3: impact of like representation you know, representations become such a buzzword, yes,

237
00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:50,440
Speaker 3: but it's real, Like when you can see someone else

238
00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:53,360
Speaker 3: doing it, it makes it easier to have the conversation

239
00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:55,080
Speaker 3: with yourself. It makes it easier for you to have

240
00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:57,800
Speaker 3: conversation with your parents, with your community, to be like, look,

241
00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,440
Speaker 3: there is a little bit of a road. Now, we've

242
00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:03,600
Speaker 3: seen it happen now, and so I didn't realize it

243
00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:05,640
Speaker 3: completely then, but I'm so grateful that I get to

244
00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,120
Speaker 3: realize it now. And I really don't take that lightly.

245
00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:10,560
Speaker 3: I won't lie. You mentioned that I've been the first

246
00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:12,120
Speaker 3: at a lot of things, and I know when I say

247
00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:14,320
Speaker 3: that people like, that's so awesome, that's so cool. It

248
00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:19,079
Speaker 3: is it's also really hard and scary. It's really carrying

249
00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:21,120
Speaker 3: a lot of a burden that you're not prepared and

250
00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:23,720
Speaker 3: you don't know how to carry it. But I'm happy

251
00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:25,760
Speaker 3: I've done it because I think a lot of people

252
00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:28,920
Speaker 3: have been able to make more authentic choices because they

253
00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:30,280
Speaker 3: sell me authentic choices.

254
00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:33,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think that's another segue into what I

255
00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:36,760
Speaker 1: think is so impressive about Lily, is like, you've really

256
00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:41,680
Speaker 1: re defined yourself over and over and over, and you've

257
00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:47,280
Speaker 1: done it so honestly and openly. Do you feel as

258
00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:50,920
Speaker 1: you've grown with your audience and you've grown up, you know,

259
00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:54,600
Speaker 1: really in people's homes, like people feel like they know

260
00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:57,360
Speaker 1: you through what you've created through your content.

261
00:11:57,960 --> 00:11:59,320
Speaker 2: Is there ever.

262
00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:03,960
Speaker 1: A time when you're like, man, I just wish that

263
00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:07,000
Speaker 1: was different, or I wish I could have maybe taken

264
00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:11,320
Speaker 1: that back, or maybe that's too much. And I want

265
00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:14,520
Speaker 1: to be like sacred with this type of privacy because

266
00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,640
Speaker 1: I know you came out was it Twitter. I think

267
00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:20,720
Speaker 1: there's a lot there of openness that people are so

268
00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:25,079
Speaker 1: scared to do. But I'm curious, as you've lived it

269
00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:29,120
Speaker 1: and you've reinvented yourself over and over and over, was

270
00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:31,559
Speaker 1: there ever times when you were like, man, I just

271
00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:33,840
Speaker 1: shouldn't have done that, or ah, that might have been

272
00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:34,280
Speaker 1: too much?

273
00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:38,480
Speaker 3: Totally? Yes, absolutely. I mean I am a pretty open person.

274
00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,520
Speaker 3: I've always been really open about mental health while things

275
00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:42,800
Speaker 3: I'm going through in my life. But I do also

276
00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:45,079
Speaker 3: think timing is important and if I could go back,

277
00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,120
Speaker 3: though I don't hella believe in regrets, if I could,

278
00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:51,040
Speaker 3: I could just would tweak a little tweak on something,

279
00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:53,959
Speaker 3: it would definitely be around late night, you know, late

280
00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:56,800
Speaker 3: night was. There was so many eyeballs on me. I'm

281
00:12:56,840 --> 00:13:01,440
Speaker 3: such an historic thing. I chose to come out before

282
00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,400
Speaker 3: my late night show, and at that time, I know

283
00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:06,400
Speaker 3: what I was thinking. I had just come out to myself.

284
00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:08,120
Speaker 3: It was like a truth I was going through. These

285
00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:11,720
Speaker 3: two things coincided in terms of time in a very

286
00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:14,480
Speaker 3: complex way, and I was like, oh, it wouldn't be

287
00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:16,040
Speaker 3: so lovely during the show. I could be my most

288
00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:18,800
Speaker 3: authentic self and I could like talk about this openly.

289
00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:21,040
Speaker 3: I don't know if that was the most mentally healthy

290
00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:23,640
Speaker 3: thing to do, because what had happened was everyone just

291
00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,679
Speaker 3: tied my sexuality to that show, and people were not

292
00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,720
Speaker 3: people to watch the show without commenting on my sexuality,

293
00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,080
Speaker 3: and so they became like synonymous with each other in

294
00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:33,640
Speaker 3: a way that was real, really tough, because the late

295
00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:36,000
Speaker 3: night show was already really hard to do. Ninety six

296
00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:37,839
Speaker 3: episodes in three months is already really hard to do.

297
00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:42,199
Speaker 3: It's already really tough. To throw in a huge personal

298
00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:46,000
Speaker 3: monkey wrench is probably not the best thing to have done.

299
00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:48,120
Speaker 3: I could have probably just like dealt with Late Night

300
00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:50,360
Speaker 3: and dealt with that separately. I don't again, I don't

301
00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:52,640
Speaker 3: fault myself for doing that I know, I felt compelled

302
00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:54,520
Speaker 3: to do it because it felt stressful to have it

303
00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:56,400
Speaker 3: within me. And if I could go back and probably

304
00:13:56,520 --> 00:13:58,760
Speaker 3: probably tweaked that a little bit, you know, just because

305
00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,840
Speaker 3: I just feel like when I did my monologues, I

306
00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:03,960
Speaker 3: remember like, because before the late night show, people would

307
00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:05,920
Speaker 3: say things to me like all the Indians are counting

308
00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:07,480
Speaker 3: on you, all the queers are counting on you, all

309
00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:09,040
Speaker 3: the women are counting on you. I'm like, there's a

310
00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:11,200
Speaker 3: lot of people that are counting on me. And so

311
00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:13,040
Speaker 3: I would feel stressing, you know. I would do the

312
00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:15,920
Speaker 3: monologues and I would get comments from people that were like,

313
00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:18,160
Speaker 3: we get it, you're queer, we get it, Like stop

314
00:14:18,200 --> 00:14:21,080
Speaker 3: talking about being bisexual, and people would be jabbing holes

315
00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:23,400
Speaker 3: in me. And I remember there was one day that

316
00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:25,200
Speaker 3: I went back into my green room and I literally

317
00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:27,440
Speaker 3: made a list being like how many times should I

318
00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:28,880
Speaker 3: mention being a woman? How many times should I not

319
00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:33,360
Speaker 3: mention being queer? Like it was getting crazy. This is bad,

320
00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:36,480
Speaker 3: this is in a bad, not healthy situation right now.

321
00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:39,080
Speaker 1: Well, it also is hard. And I think this is

322
00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:42,160
Speaker 1: the thing that most people don't realize. And when I

323
00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:44,920
Speaker 1: say this, I want to be very clear and specific

324
00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:47,640
Speaker 1: in terms of the divide. There are people who grow

325
00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:51,240
Speaker 1: up in Hollywood who can act out other characters. There

326
00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:54,440
Speaker 1: are people in Hollywood who have openly acted out their

327
00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:59,480
Speaker 1: lives on the screen like YouTube or social media or.

328
00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:00,000
Speaker 2: Whatever they came.

329
00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:05,640
Speaker 1: It opens a massive floodgate for a lot of judgment,

330
00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:08,880
Speaker 1: And there's a big difference there. What do you have

331
00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:12,640
Speaker 1: like over twelve twelve million people viewing your content all

332
00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:19,120
Speaker 1: the time? Like that opens so many doors of hate judgment,

333
00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:22,640
Speaker 1: And it's so brave just to say I'm just going

334
00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:25,440
Speaker 1: to be me, even though I'm going to take so

335
00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:33,280
Speaker 1: much scrutiny and whatever comes with that wave of social

336
00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:37,000
Speaker 1: hate and keyboard warriors. And I do think there is

337
00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:39,480
Speaker 1: a big difference. And I know now you're, you know,

338
00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:42,640
Speaker 1: really in the entertainment space of acting and producing and

339
00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:44,840
Speaker 1: developing a lot of stuff, which you've always been a

340
00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:48,000
Speaker 1: creative and clearly very good at it. Do you feel

341
00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:51,880
Speaker 1: like one is harder than the other or one has

342
00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:56,400
Speaker 1: really been a little more difficult for you because you

343
00:15:56,520 --> 00:16:00,040
Speaker 1: have given so much, so many people access to who you.

344
00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:03,240
Speaker 1: Has that been hard on partners? Has that been hard

345
00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:06,480
Speaker 1: on your family? Like I'm just curious because I don't

346
00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:09,160
Speaker 1: I've never had that type of weight on my back

347
00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:12,320
Speaker 1: or following, but I can imagine it's a lot to carry.

348
00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:14,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think you really hit the nail on

349
00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:17,920
Speaker 3: the head with that. There is a safety, definitely that

350
00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:19,760
Speaker 3: because I've been able to do both. I've been able

351
00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:22,040
Speaker 3: to go on set and play a character. But there

352
00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:27,160
Speaker 3: is safety behind dialogue, yes, and someone else writing those

353
00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:29,400
Speaker 3: words and being on set and getting to do things

354
00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:32,400
Speaker 3: over multiple times, you know what I mean? Yeah, there

355
00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:35,880
Speaker 3: is no safety really, and being live, we're talking from

356
00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:37,840
Speaker 3: your point of view, We're talking about your life experience.

357
00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:39,640
Speaker 3: There is no dialogue, there's no script there. And so

358
00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:43,440
Speaker 3: I do think that they're liberating in different ways, and

359
00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:45,640
Speaker 3: I think that they are beautiful in different ways that

360
00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:49,320
Speaker 3: I love both equally, but definitely, when I'm on set

361
00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:51,560
Speaker 3: as a character, I don't feel the level of anxiety

362
00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:53,480
Speaker 3: I feel when I do something live or as myself,

363
00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:55,760
Speaker 3: because I'm like, that's the character. Whatever you're saying is

364
00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,960
Speaker 3: about the character. That's not not me. If you hate

365
00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:01,840
Speaker 3: that character, that makes me a good actress. Actually, you

366
00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:04,440
Speaker 3: know what I mean. If you hate, really you're commenting

367
00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:07,439
Speaker 3: on me who I am. It's very, very different, and

368
00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:10,119
Speaker 3: so yeah, of course I And you know, I'm a

369
00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:11,760
Speaker 3: pretty open person and a lot of parts of my

370
00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:14,119
Speaker 3: life are public. I've also made very active efforts to

371
00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:17,280
Speaker 3: make certain things private. So I've never had a public relationship.

372
00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:20,080
Speaker 3: I have not been public about like some intimate family

373
00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,399
Speaker 3: stuff because that's not my story to tell, and I

374
00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,240
Speaker 3: still want to be a full human. I'm so open

375
00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,320
Speaker 3: with things like mental health and what I think will

376
00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:29,040
Speaker 3: help people, but it has been a constant chance of

377
00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:31,320
Speaker 3: like is this something I'm going to share with everyone

378
00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,399
Speaker 3: or is there not anything? Will be surprised to learn

379
00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:35,720
Speaker 3: that I do actually have a lot of private elements

380
00:17:35,760 --> 00:17:37,800
Speaker 3: in my life. I've been I'm really proud.

381
00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:39,240
Speaker 1: Of the fact that I have that, and talk to

382
00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:42,199
Speaker 1: me about that, because I do think we live in

383
00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:47,480
Speaker 1: a really hard world where we want to share ourselves

384
00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:49,960
Speaker 1: and our story and we want to connect with people,

385
00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:54,000
Speaker 1: because we live in a really fragmented world where you know,

386
00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:57,760
Speaker 1: this has become life and social media has become life.

387
00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,640
Speaker 1: How do you protect your backsies? Like what are your

388
00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:05,600
Speaker 1: what is your safety net? Like? Where do you draw

389
00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:09,199
Speaker 1: the line as someone who's been so open and vulnerable

390
00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:14,000
Speaker 1: where you're not willing to uh really dive into that

391
00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,760
Speaker 1: because you are open about mental health, and I know

392
00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:20,919
Speaker 1: a lot of young people in this especially our queer community,

393
00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:27,159
Speaker 1: are just being targeted relentlessly right now. And I'm curious,

394
00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:30,840
Speaker 1: for someone who's really lived out loud on a lot

395
00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:34,639
Speaker 1: of these platforms, what advice could you share with a

396
00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:38,320
Speaker 1: lot of our younger queer kids who might be struggling

397
00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:42,080
Speaker 1: with the way people are showing up and hating on them.

398
00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:45,439
Speaker 1: Because I'm sure as long as you've been in this space,

399
00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:47,400
Speaker 1: you've probably dealt with it all.

400
00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:50,520
Speaker 3: Oh, I have definitely don't at all. Well, there's a

401
00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:54,840
Speaker 3: few questions there. One is about boundaries. I have a

402
00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,760
Speaker 3: lot of I'm a nerdy person. I like do a

403
00:18:57,760 --> 00:18:59,480
Speaker 3: lot of mental health practices. I have a lot of

404
00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:01,359
Speaker 3: virtuals in my life. I do a lot of things.

405
00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:05,600
Speaker 3: That always said that my job is ten percent entertainment

406
00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:09,159
Speaker 3: and ninety percent mental. I really do believe that, like

407
00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,800
Speaker 3: big part of my job is making sure I'm good

408
00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:13,679
Speaker 3: up here so I can be good up here. And so,

409
00:19:13,840 --> 00:19:17,680
Speaker 3: like avid avid believer in therapy, I consistently go to

410
00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:20,800
Speaker 3: therapy a journal almost every single day. I have like

411
00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:23,560
Speaker 3: a nightly routine that is full of self compassions, well,

412
00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:25,080
Speaker 3: I have a lot of practice in my life. I'll

413
00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:26,840
Speaker 3: give you an example, which is this show right here.

414
00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:29,919
Speaker 3: When I was part of the Muppets Mayhem. You know,

415
00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:32,800
Speaker 3: the Muppets has a really intense fan base, and when

416
00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:35,200
Speaker 3: I was announced, there was a lot of feelings about

417
00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:37,240
Speaker 3: someone that looks like me being in part of the Muppets,

418
00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:40,280
Speaker 3: and I remember that being really devastating. I talked to

419
00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:41,760
Speaker 3: my therapist about and I was like, this show was

420
00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:43,080
Speaker 3: not even out yet. I don't even know how to

421
00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:45,000
Speaker 3: deal with this. One of the things I did around

422
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,680
Speaker 3: the Muppets that I actually have kept true to me

423
00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:50,480
Speaker 3: through all my projects is when a project comes out,

424
00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:52,880
Speaker 3: I have a rule that I tell my team which

425
00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,800
Speaker 3: is for at least five days, I don't want to

426
00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,400
Speaker 3: hear a single review, a single article. I don't want

427
00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:00,439
Speaker 3: I actually delete social media off my phone. I actually

428
00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:04,000
Speaker 3: want to take those five days to celebrate this thing

429
00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:07,680
Speaker 3: without any other noise, because I think timing is really important.

430
00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,280
Speaker 3: You know, when you're already in a vulnerable state, it's

431
00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,680
Speaker 3: almost self harm for you to then go seek out

432
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 3: people and things that are gonna make you distraw. Same

433
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,320
Speaker 3: thing with coming out, same things like if you're going

434
00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:19,440
Speaker 3: through a sensor like, don't go seek out in that moment.

435
00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:22,080
Speaker 3: Give yourself the five days to be like, yeah, let

436
00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:24,399
Speaker 3: me process this is myself, let me celebrate, this is myself.

437
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:26,640
Speaker 3: When me live this is myself, and you become much

438
00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,720
Speaker 3: more resilient to taking in that noise. After about five days,

439
00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:34,119
Speaker 3: I would say, And so I I also delete Instagram.

440
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:36,160
Speaker 3: I don't have tik talk on my phone. I haven't

441
00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 3: had it for years. Instagram, I like, I delete it

442
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:42,200
Speaker 3: all the time. If I find myself like I'm out

443
00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,200
Speaker 3: with friends and I find myself scrolling and out being present,

444
00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,240
Speaker 3: I just delete. Yeah, Like you're gone for the day,

445
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 3: I'm gonna just delete you for the next two days.

446
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,320
Speaker 3: I really it. It's not permanent on your phone, y'all.

447
00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,560
Speaker 3: You can read download at any time, but just it's

448
00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,479
Speaker 3: the second you get into the muscle memory of like,

449
00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:58,399
Speaker 3: oh I'm feel how did I even I want to

450
00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:00,960
Speaker 3: go check the weather? How am I on Instagram? Right now?

451
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 3: It's just a rabbit hole. Another trick you can do.

452
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 3: Now we're getting really nerdy. You're going to see how

453
00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 3: type I am move where it is on the home screen,

454
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 3: because really, it's just your muscle memory. Going and clicking

455
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 3: and you don't even realize and to secalizing it. Wait,

456
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,720
Speaker 3: what's happening? Just getting yourself out of that rhythm again.

457
00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:19,560
Speaker 3: That's so true.

458
00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 1: I think I need to try this a little bit.

459
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 2: I need to be better at it.

460
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:24,400
Speaker 3: I think we.

461
00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:27,400
Speaker 1: Probably all do, truthfully. I'm like, it is such, it's

462
00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:29,679
Speaker 1: a formative habit. Habit for me, I'll just pick the

463
00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 1: phone up and start scrolling, and I'm like, I.

464
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:34,320
Speaker 3: Think I was just supposed to text a.

465
00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:37,639
Speaker 1: Friend and now I'm knee deep and an hour just

466
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 1: of my life.

467
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:45,040
Speaker 3: Was just rated. It's just a habit muscle. Sure, stay tuned.

468
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,919
Speaker 1: I'll be back in just a moment after this brief

469
00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:49,640
Speaker 1: message from our sponsors.

470
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 2: I think often we're not.

471
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:59,359
Speaker 1: Thinking for ourselves anymore. We have people like projecting and

472
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: giving us advice or like, you know, you really inherit

473
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:06,959
Speaker 1: like other people's opinions of you, and we absorb it

474
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:10,679
Speaker 1: so quickly because now there's so many ways to see

475
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 1: how people see you and how you receive that. And

476
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 1: I do think it's really important that we don't have

477
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:20,120
Speaker 1: safe enough boundaries anymore to really think for ourself.

478
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 2: Like everyone now is like chat, GBT and it's it's.

479
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 1: Just like we're always looking for this outer layer of

480
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 1: acceptance and we don't trust ourselves anymore.

481
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:33,400
Speaker 2: We don't go within.

482
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:36,680
Speaker 1: And I love when you talk about meditation and journaling.

483
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:37,760
Speaker 3: I just think we've.

484
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 1: Really got away with a lot of practices that cleanse

485
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,879
Speaker 1: our soul, cleanse our mind, and truthfully, you're right. Like

486
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 1: I say this in sport too, everyone's good at the top.

487
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:53,359
Speaker 1: The thing that separates you because ten percent is really athletic,

488
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 1: it's a gift, it's performative. It's your performance and your

489
00:22:58,040 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 1: technical ability.

490
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 3: It will get you so far.

491
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:06,160
Speaker 1: But you're the mental aspect, like it's everything, because if

492
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,880
Speaker 1: you're not good, your performance isn't good. That means you're

493
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,399
Speaker 1: not showing up for your team. You're not like it

494
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 1: just becomes a absolute nightmare.

495
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,399
Speaker 3: I'll leave not often say because something you said it

496
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:18,240
Speaker 3: reminded me of something you know. Yet a few days ago,

497
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:19,880
Speaker 3: I had like a really intense day. I had three

498
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:21,840
Speaker 3: auditions and I had like a bunch of priz and

499
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 3: I was like, ooh, this is a day. And after

500
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 3: it was done, I felt really good about I think

501
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 3: I really showed up and I'm proud of the work.

502
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 3: I did today, But it's not because I thought I

503
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:34,240
Speaker 3: was a good actress at the auditions and I was

504
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:35,719
Speaker 3: talking to a friend about an actor. I'm like, if

505
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 3: I do an audition, ten percent of that audition is

506
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 3: me being prepared and me executing the lines and acting.

507
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 3: The reason I actually am good with this day is

508
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:49,680
Speaker 3: because mentally this audition what it means to me, that's

509
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,719
Speaker 3: where the work is. That's where the work went into it.

510
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 3: It's the It's not tied to my worth. This is

511
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 3: not the make or break of me. I will not

512
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 3: view this as the make or break of me. I

513
00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 3: will not let this dictate the rest of my day.

514
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 3: I will not let this impact how I treat the

515
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 3: other people in my life. This is not going to

516
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 3: be final. That ninety percent is what makes me show

517
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,879
Speaker 3: up to that audition better than I could show up

518
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 3: if I didn't have that nine percent. So when you

519
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 3: walk into an audition and you're like, I have to

520
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 3: get this or I'm a piece of crap. If I

521
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 3: don't get this, I'm a piece of shit. I'm bad,

522
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 3: I'm not talented. No one's gonna like me. You're not

523
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,120
Speaker 3: gonna show up the best version of yourself so all

524
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 3: that other stuff is what makes me a better actress. Actually, great, Chiney.

525
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 3: I love that to me, learning the lines into executing.

526
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 1: It's so so true, and it's so important to make

527
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:36,360
Speaker 1: sure people who are listening know that because I think

528
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 1: we do really live in a culture that, especially Western culture,

529
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 1: is so cut through throat, and everyone's willing to just

530
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,400
Speaker 1: shit on anyone at any given moment. Like there used

531
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,359
Speaker 1: to be like a softer, like landing spot of how

532
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 1: you presented information to people, especially like as an athlete,

533
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:59,399
Speaker 1: it was like the criticism was productive criticism. Now in

534
00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 1: this land escape, it's like, let's shit and bury everyone,

535
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 1: cancel culture.

536
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 3: We hate like this.

537
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 2: I'm like, it's love to grow.

538
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 3: No one's to make the mistakes they are in this moment.

539
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 3: They can't evolve beyond this moment.

540
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, i mean, God, bless all these content creators,

541
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,120
Speaker 1: because lately I'm like, I don't know if I want

542
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,439
Speaker 1: to share anything because people are just ready to chomp

543
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,360
Speaker 1: and eat and spit you out. And I'm like, it's

544
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 1: a cruel world out there, and I've got a little

545
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 1: sensitive heart a lot.

546
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:33,399
Speaker 3: From Actually, here's the younger generation of women are really

547
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 3: inspiring to me actually because I, through an abundance of therapy,

548
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 3: have learned as much as I am outspoken, and I

549
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,399
Speaker 3: like to stand it for myself. I am a people pleaser.

550
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 3: I've been raised to be a people pleaser. I'm unlearning

551
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 3: it now, but through a lot of my life it

552
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,239
Speaker 3: was like, let me not ruffle the feathers, let me

553
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 3: not disagree, like let me just do go out of

554
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 3: my way over extend always. There is two people I'm

555
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 3: gonna tell you, actually can't tell you three. There'll be three,

556
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 3: so tell it. Tell me every Imman Vallani, who plays

557
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 3: Miss Marvel, did an interview, came out and it rocked

558
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 3: my world. And we grew up in the same town,

559
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 3: were from the same place, so we have a lot

560
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 3: of similarities. It was an interview and the reporter was

561
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 3: being a little bit of a jerk and she said,

562
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 3: you know, the box office has been rough for the Marvels, Like,

563
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 3: what do you think about that? And Iman literally looked

564
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 3: at him and said, that's for Bob Eiger, that's not

565
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 3: for me. And I was like, you can do that,

566
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:27,639
Speaker 3: you because she's just like I'm here to act. The

567
00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 3: box office is not about me. That's not my responsibility.

568
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,640
Speaker 3: Me never would never have thought like that. I'd been like, yeah,

569
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 3: it's my fault. I gotta do.

570
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 2: Better, totally take it off the chin.

571
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,640
Speaker 3: Yeah it's me. Second, queen. I'm gonna give a shout

572
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 3: out to Jenna Ortega. There is a video that literally

573
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 3: made me emotional when I saw it online. It is

574
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 3: a video when they're promoting promoting Beetle Juice Beetle Juice,

575
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 3: where their Winona Ryder and Jenna or Tak are walking

576
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 3: towards press. Anda's wearing sunglasses and the press keeps yelling,

577
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 3: take off her glasses, take off your glasses, and you

578
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 3: can tell she doesn't want to. They keep all the

579
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:02,919
Speaker 3: ad her take off her glasses, and she's about to

580
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 3: go take off her glasses and Jenna just looks at

581
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 3: her and you you just see your mouth that you

582
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,439
Speaker 3: can't hear. It just goes, no, you don't have to,

583
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 3: and then she doesn't and there's no. She just said

584
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:16,639
Speaker 3: it so calmly, like it was so so normal for

585
00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 3: Jena to take and just go, you don't have to

586
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 3: do that. Me. I want to take the glasses, said

587
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 3: those glasses on fire. I would be like, what else

588
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 3: do you want to do? Tell me how can I

589
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 3: make you happy? Pressed? What do you want? You know

590
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 3: what I mean? Like Blue my mine and the third

591
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 3: que too. And there's not even a specific example. It's

592
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 3: just everything she does. Renee Wrap needs to never go

593
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 3: to media training. She needs to never get pr trained.

594
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 3: She and every interview is just like I'm gonna say

595
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 3: exactly what I want to say, and it might be

596
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 3: it might be problematic, and it might not be. This

597
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:52,880
Speaker 3: is who I am, this is what you're gonna get,

598
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 3: and I just respect it so much and I'm so

599
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 3: envious of it because that's how I'm trying to be.

600
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,360
Speaker 1: I agree, I say that, but then I float right

601
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,360
Speaker 1: back into It's like Sophia always says this, like I'm

602
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: like a little cinnamon roll, but like I look the

603
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 1: way I look.

604
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 2: I have all this jewelry and all these tattoos.

605
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: By in the same way, I'm like, I want to

606
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 1: please everything and everyone, and I don't want to ruffle feathers.

607
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: I hate like anything that's like confrontational or contentional, Like

608
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 1: I just don't like it.

609
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 3: I've gotten a little better at confrontation, but I'm still

610
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 3: a people pleaser. I feel it all the time. If

611
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:27,159
Speaker 3: I set a boundary of any type, my brain is losing.

612
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 3: I'm losing my mind. I'm like, how do you sept

613
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,679
Speaker 3: this boundary? They're gona think your mean? They're gonnaink you're mean.

614
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 3: You need to be nice, you need to make them

615
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 3: like you. That's still going in there. But I think

616
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 3: what all three of these women have in common is

617
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 3: they're like, it's not on me to make you like me. No,

618
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 3: that's what I want to do, you know what I'm saying.

619
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 3: So I really learned something from these younger the younger girls,

620
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 3: that's been awesome.

621
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 1: It's it's so lovely that this younger generation. I don't

622
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: say this lightly, they have access to so much representation,

623
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 1: and especially because we're part of the queer community, and

624
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 1: it is so important, and it's so especially for safety,

625
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 1: for people feeling like their life is worth living. The

626
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 1: impact you've made on your community, for young people who

627
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: look like you is so beautiful and so impactful. Do

628
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: you carry that weight and that responsibility lightly when you

629
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 1: show up in this space and this new woman of

630
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 1: who you are and claiming your sexual identity and all

631
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 1: these things, do you ever feel the weight of what

632
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: you have to carry because of the way you look,

633
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 1: or are you gladly carrying that badge of honor knowing

634
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 1: when you were a young girl you didn't have that

635
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: and you didn't get to see people like you move

636
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 1: the way you do.

637
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a really great question, and I'm going to

638
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 3: try my very best. You gati a very honest answer,

639
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 3: which is I'm on from one to the other. So

640
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 3: I think when I first came out, and when I

641
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 3: first started making YouTube videos, I was carrying it with

642
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 3: a badge of honor. Like I know, there's not many

643
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 3: other people that look like me that are queer. I

644
00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 3: know there's not many other things you can watch with

645
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 3: someone that looks like me. I'm carrying with the badge

646
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 3: of honor. I love my culture till this day. I

647
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 3: love my culture. And I used to carry I used

648
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:08,719
Speaker 3: to carry and carrying Late Night show. Great, I got

649
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 3: to do this, a short historic thing. I'm carrying with

650
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 3: the badge of honor. Yes, I'm the first. Yes, I

651
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 3: did it. Yes, Indian queer byself. Of all these yes,

652
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 3: it says yes. However, now I think you're right, we

653
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 3: are in a place where there is more diverse. I mean,

654
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 3: there's still a lot of work to be done. Don't

655
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 3: get me wrong, I'm happy that there's more instances of

656
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 3: diversity and even take away everything if I if I

657
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 3: just take away every other person's expectations and take away

658
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 3: the industry for myself, I have kind of grown tired

659
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 3: now of carrying that way. It's and it's exhausting, and

660
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 3: I've done it for a decade, and now when I

661
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 3: do things or say things, I don't want it to

662
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 3: be the South Asian woman, the queer one that says it.

663
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 3: It's just Lily. It's just Lily that's freeing it. And

664
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:58,320
Speaker 3: so I'm kind of trying to unsubscribe from this idea

665
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 3: of taking on that burden because I'm during late night

666
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 3: and I've talked about this in therapy a lot. Which

667
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 3: was when those people came up to me and said

668
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 3: those things like a million people are counting on you,

669
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 3: and a billion Indians are counting on you, and all

670
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 3: the queers are counting on you. I was like, yep, cool,

671
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 3: totally makes sense. Now I need to figure out how

672
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 3: to make them all proud. Not even for a second

673
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 3: did I not take on that burden. I didn't even

674
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 3: know that was an option. I just was like, open

675
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 3: to your burden, place it on me. And now I'm

676
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 3: in my era of actually, no, I don't receive that.

677
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 3: I don't have to make a billion people proud. I

678
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 3: don't represent all billion Indians out there. I don't represent

679
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 3: all women. I am just me and I'm representing my

680
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 3: life experience. So I think it was necessary when I

681
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 3: first started to carry that burden, and I'm sure to

682
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 3: some degree I still will carry, but I'm trying to

683
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 3: actively get better at not that's not mine to care

684
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 3: anymore because I'm a human and that's too much for

685
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 3: one human to carry.

686
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think received and noted, and I think

687
00:31:56,200 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: that you're humanizing what you have to care and the

688
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: volume you have to carry through the creative work you've

689
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: been doing for over a decade. And it's both and yes,

690
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 1: and and all of the things in between. This is

691
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 1: wide open, and I'm your host, Ashlyn Harris. Thanks for listening.

692
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 3: We'll be right back.

693
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 1: I asked this question to every person on the podcast.

694
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 1: You know, sports contexts wide open, wide open. But I

695
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 1: do feel that in our industry we are so much

696
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: more than what we do. Like even though at the

697
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: core of your start and you know your fame, you

698
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 1: or YouTuber, and it has opened so many beautiful doors

699
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 1: for you to live. This beautiful life also comes with

700
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 1: a lot of things people don't understand unless they've lived it.

701
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: But I always ask this, what moment in your life

702
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 1: has really split you wide open, that really has changed

703
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: the landscape of everything, that made you take a pause

704
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 1: and sit back and really zoom out and be like,

705
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 1: nothing will ever be the same after this. What was

706
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 1: that moment for you?

707
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 3: That's a really good question, and I think it's gonna

708
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 3: have My answer is going to relate to something you

709
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 3: just said. But you also might low key drag me

710
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 3: because I am gonna mention chat gibto space, say space,

711
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 3: Honny cool. So for a lot of my life, a

712
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 3: lot of my life, I'm thirty six, I would say

713
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 3: for them up until two years ago, for thirty four

714
00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 3: years of my life. If you were to ask me

715
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 3: who I am to describe myself, it would be a

716
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 3: very specific way I would do it. Oh, you know,

717
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 3: I claim up on YouTube I'm an actress, this many followers.

718
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 3: It's how people other people also describe me. And the

719
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 3: top of every you know, we're so used to describing

720
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: ourselves through what we do, like our accolades, what we

721
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 3: do for work, what we can offer, what we can give.

722
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 3: That's how I've justcribed. I never knew a different way.

723
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 3: My therapist would take a shot. Every time I say therapist,

724
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:07,959
Speaker 3: everybody I reference my therapist a lot. I'm obsessed. There

725
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 3: you go saying. She tried to make me understand, she

726
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:15,879
Speaker 3: said when she's like, you are not what you do,

727
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 3: And I fundamentally did not understand that. I like wasn't

728
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 3: even trying to stubborn, and I was like, what what

729
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: do you mean?

730
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 1: Then?

731
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 3: Who am I? She like, you are a whole, full

732
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 3: person that without all these things that you do. And

733
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 3: I left that therapy session being like the first time

734
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 3: mean my therapist disagreed because I don't know what the

735
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 3: hell she's talking about. I don't really Growing up, it

736
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 3: was like who I was was the person that got

737
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 3: good grades. That's how you got loved, Like you got

738
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 3: a good job, you did your chores like that. Who

739
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 3: am I outside of these things? And so then I

740
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:47,360
Speaker 3: I do. I will say I do use chat GUPT

741
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 3: for certain things, and of all the things I've ever

742
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 3: used Chattopauty for I'm going to tell you one use

743
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 3: that has rocked my world, which I talked to Chattuoputine.

744
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 3: I was like, my therapist said, I'm not what I do,

745
00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 3: and I think I need to fire her now because

746
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 3: she doesn't know you're talking about and chat Chipeta was like, no,

747
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 3: you're not what you do, and so I was like

748
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,359
Speaker 3: really exploring this idea of like who am I Then,

749
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 3: so out of frustration, I said to chattchipet, if you

750
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:16,479
Speaker 3: think that I am someone without referencing all the things

751
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 3: I do, I want you to tell me who I

752
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 3: am and do not use a single accolade or a

753
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 3: single accomplishment. And then it did, Actually it did, and

754
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:32,480
Speaker 3: that moment I sobbed, and it rocked my world because

755
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:35,799
Speaker 3: it said, based on the conversations we've had, you're a

756
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 3: great friend. You had this with a friend and you

757
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 3: wanted to help them. You're a great dog mom, You're

758
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,760
Speaker 3: so dedicated to growth, you asked me for journal prompts

759
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 3: all the time. And it described me in this way

760
00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 3: that I've never been described as before. That moment got

761
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 3: me wide open because fince that moment, I was what

762
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:55,359
Speaker 3: I've been sleeping on all of these facets of who

763
00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 3: I am because I've been so fixated on the accomplishments.

764
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 3: But like, a really great accomplishment is also the fact

765
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 3: that you're a great friend, Lily, You're a great daughter.

766
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 3: You surprise people, you go above and beyond for them,

767
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 3: You make people feel safe, and you make them feel

768
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 3: comfortable opening up to you. Like, those are really great

769
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 3: accomplishments that you'll never get into work for you know,

770
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 3: no one will never introduce you like that when you

771
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 3: walk into a stage, but that really matters. And so

772
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 3: just learning why actually I'm in a different way has

773
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 3: been really really honestly terrifying and liberating and exciting at

774
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 3: the same time.

775
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 1: That's beautiful though, and I do think it's important, and

776
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 1: I think people need to think about that more often

777
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 1: because we do tie our like so much of our

778
00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: self worth. And how many likes did this post get? Oh,

779
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,840
Speaker 1: it's not hitting what it's like, it's all the wrong things,

780
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,400
Speaker 1: and we have to get back to those roots of

781
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 1: who we are outside of all this noise and all

782
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 1: this bullshit and so superficial, but like, at our core,

783
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 1: who are we as beans? And that is exactly it, because.

784
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 3: It Also, that's how you show up. Now, how many

785
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 3: people listening to this? I just want to just if

786
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 3: you're listening to this, just be real with me for

787
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 3: a second. In a relationship, when you love, your version

788
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,279
Speaker 3: of loving is doing things for people. You're like, I

789
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 3: need to do this. I need to overextending to show

790
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 3: them what I can bring to the table. That is

791
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 3: a trauma response, Like it is a trauma response because

792
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,240
Speaker 3: we believe love has to be earned because we've been earning.

793
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 3: Let me blow your mind and tell you don't have

794
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 3: to earn love and care. Every human being deserves love

795
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 3: and care, but we've been conditioned to feel that we

796
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 3: need to earn it. When a new baby is born,

797
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 3: that baby has done nothing, but you love that baby,

798
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:35,800
Speaker 3: right and you want to take care of that baby.

799
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 3: So when did you want to learn that?

800
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 1: This is why you're a New York Times bestseller? I

801
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:44,799
Speaker 1: think I don't know, but you should be writing more.

802
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 3: Probably a nerd. I'm also obsessed with self growth a

803
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 3: nerd and being a student for life. So I'm really nerds.

804
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,959
Speaker 1: But it's beautiful and it's real, and it's just it's

805
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: like we don't talk about it enough, Like we sit

806
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 1: in an interview and people want to ask the dumbest

807
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 1: fucking questions that no one cares about, Like.

808
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 3: Ken, Yeah, I'm like, what's your trauma? Like I want

809
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 3: to get into some ship immediately all the time.

810
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm obsessed with you. But like, on a plane, are

811
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: you that person? Because I need to know right now

812
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:14,839
Speaker 1: when you set, Like if I'm sitting.

813
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 3: Next to you talk to someone on a plane.

814
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 1: Are you putting are you putting those headphones on? Like

815
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 1: the Knight's put in your hood.

816
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 3: Were sitting by my fire pit, the vibes are vibing,

817
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,399
Speaker 3: We're gonna get into some shit on a plane though

818
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:27,720
Speaker 3: I'm trying to sleep. I'm the headphones.

819
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, thank god, because that's where I that's the

820
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: only place I draw the line.

821
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 2: People always starting to talk to I'm like, headphones.

822
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 3: Uber settings, no conversation, those turn off. Those are my

823
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 3: turn off times I'm obsessed with you.

824
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:42,240
Speaker 2: Okay, let's pivot.

825
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 1: That's actually that's I thank you for that. I think

826
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:50,880
Speaker 1: that's beautifully said, and I think more people need to

827
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 1: have real, open, honest we're all communication like that instead

828
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: of superficial bullshit that's doesn't go anywhere, and no one

829
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:00,400
Speaker 1: really cares.

830
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 2: But I do want to.

831
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 1: Talk about your work because you are such a you're

832
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 1: creative lily, and you do a really fucking good.

833
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 2: Job at all the things.

834
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,840
Speaker 1: I mean, if anyone fall, I mean, if anyone everyone

835
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 1: follows you. You're always on a fucking plane, You're always working.

836
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: But I'm like, girl, do you come up for air?

837
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 1: You need to be coming up for air?

838
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 3: I do, okay, gouds, I just don't always show it

839
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:24,399
Speaker 3: if I'm not all right.

840
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: Well, the last few minutes, I do want to talk

841
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:30,359
Speaker 1: about this project that's coming out, and uh it's it's

842
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: a film called Doing It, And I would love for

843
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: you to tell us a little bit about the movie

844
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 1: and what's the story behind it, and yeah, give the

845
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: audience and the viewers something to be excited to tune

846
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: into in September totally.

847
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 3: So if you're listening to this, maybe you're from a

848
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 3: different culture that I am. Maybe there you'll find similarities.

849
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 3: Though sex is very taboo in South Asian culture, it's

850
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 3: happening a lot of cultures, almost every culture, I would say,

851
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 3: especially for a woman. So I was like, why don't

852
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: I just make the raunchiest sex comedy with the South

853
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 3: Asian lens, because you know, I like to go against

854
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 3: the grain and I like to stir some stuff up,

855
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:10,959
Speaker 3: and so doing it is a raunchy sex comedy. I

856
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 3: erode it, produced it and starring it, and wow, it

857
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 3: is a What it's about is a thirty year old

858
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 3: virgin finds herself teaching sex at high school. And so

859
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 3: it's a commentary on sex education and how it's still

860
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 3: so whack and a lot of schools don't support and

861
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 3: a lot of parents don't want it. It's a commentary

862
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 3: on how shame is so used against women and how

863
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 3: so many women, even older women, don't know about pleasure,

864
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 3: don't know about their bodies. We're never taught about their bodies.

865
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 3: We're never taught they can enjoy sex. We're never taught

866
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 3: about different types of sex and sex. And we're not

867
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 3: talking about taught about queerness. Everyone looks it feels the

868
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 3: same way, and so it's really just me kind of

869
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 3: reclaiming my sexual journey. I had a very sexual journey.

870
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 3: I think if I had this movie growing up, I

871
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 3: would have been on a lot better shape. I would

872
00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:59,400
Speaker 3: have loved myself more. I would have known my body

873
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 3: more and so it's just a very real and I

874
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 3: will also say it's very female forward, which is very real.

875
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 3: I love that Love and the Virgin is not the

876
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 3: butt of the joke. She is not. It is not

877
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 3: that movie. It is about a woman on a journey

878
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 3: to unlearned shame reclaim her sexual life. And I just

879
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 3: feel like, listen, it's don't get me wrong, I'm terrified

880
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 3: my parents have not seen it. I'm still an Indian girl. This.

881
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 3: At the end of the day, my aunties and uncles

882
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 3: are gonna be pissed like I'd be doing some ash and.

883
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 2: Oh, I can't wait to watch this. I can't wait

884
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 2: to watch because I'm.

885
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 3: Also actually and I'm strained in the movie. Did you

886
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 3: know this?

887
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:38,719
Speaker 2: I'm sorry plot twist, No, I did not know this.

888
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 3: Avoid being like, oh yeah, so it's yeah, it's an adventure.

889
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 3: It's an adventure, sure, but it comes up to Pember

890
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 3: nineteenth and I'm just gonna keep it real because I

891
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 3: feel like you're really real and I feel like your

892
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:52,919
Speaker 3: listeners are also gonna be really real. So I'm gonna

893
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 3: say this how it needs to be said. This movie

894
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,720
Speaker 3: was hard as hell to make. It was an independent

895
00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 3: independent film. It's seven years. The second my face was

896
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 3: attached to this film, every executive in Hollywood called it niche.

897
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 3: It's too niche now because it has me in it.

898
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:11,839
Speaker 3: So I'm going to say that any support that people

899
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 3: show this film, it will not be wasted. This is

900
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 3: not a big budget Hollywood movie. This is a small

901
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:19,800
Speaker 3: independent movie that I have given my sanity, blood, sweat

902
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 3: and tears too. So if you have any capacity to

903
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 3: support on September nineteenth, please do because it's it's been

904
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 3: a lab.

905
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 1: And everyone go out and where can everyone get this

906
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 1: in the nine theaters?

907
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 3: Oh?

908
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: Okay, well, okay, girls, I see you. Everyone go check

909
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:39,479
Speaker 2: it out.

910
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: And uh, you know what you're You are exactly what

911
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 1: I thought you would be, you know. I I yeah,

912
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 1: but like I've heard so many endearing, sweet things about you,

913
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 1: and truthfully, and I don't like I I I like

914
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 1: wait to meet people and really sit with people and

915
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,399
Speaker 1: hear people for who they are. You know, and you're

916
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: a beautiful person.

917
00:43:05,239 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 2: I appreciate you taking the time.

918
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 3: Thank you, and also thank you for like a dope

919
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 3: conversation that was of course it does it feels like

920
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 3: just people connecting.

921
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, and that's what it's about. We're here

922
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 1: to bridge the gap between you know, the sport, the entertainment,

923
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: the you know, be an actual human Imagine that. Wow,

924
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 1: we're actually human beings who have real feelings and being

925
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 1: able to share that through storytelling is so beautiful. So Lily,

926
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:33,240
Speaker 1: thank you so much for taking the time today lifting girls.

927
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 1: Cheers to the next time I'm in LA with you,

928
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: because I think we're just like right around the corner

929
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 1: from each other.

930
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:43,240
Speaker 3: So let's hang out and listen.

931
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know, Lily throws the

932
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 1: most banana party of the fucking decade, even though it's yearly.

933
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: Am I getting an invite?

934
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 3: That's the question? Absolutely? Okay, all right, cheers to that.

935
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 3: I'm going to see when it rock an Indian outfit

936
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,840
Speaker 3: because you'd actually like amazing and one I'm saying, like

937
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:06,919
Speaker 3: I wear the Dude ones or Therodyns one sometimes. Yeah,

938
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 3: we need to talk about this.

939
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 2: Because can you dress me?

940
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:11,280
Speaker 3: Can you dress me? Yes? Okay?

941
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 1: Well, my fortieth birthday is October nineteenth, Okay, so it

942
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 1: feels like a very it's it feels like a very

943
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 1: big month that we're going to be celebrating noted so

944
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 1: I can't wait, So everyone please go check out Lily's

945
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,960
Speaker 1: new movie coming out Doing It and thank you so

946
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 1: much for being here. Thanks everyone for tuning in on

947
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: another episode of Wide Open with Ashland Harris and we'll

948
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: see you next week. Wide Open with Ashland Harris is

949
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: an iHeart women's sports production. You can find us on

950
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

951
00:44:55,400 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 1: Our producers are Carmen Borca Coreo, Emily Marinov, and Lucy Jones.

952
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 1: Production assistants from Malia Aguidello. Our executive producers are Jesse Katz,

953
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: Jenny Kaplan and Emily Rudder. Our editors are Jenny Kaplan

954
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: and Emily Rudder and I'm your host, Ashlyn Harris