1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: You are worthy, and someone that doesn't make you feel 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: that way they are not your person. Hello hurdlers, Emily 3 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: a body here bringing you another installment of Hurdle Moment 4 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: from Hurdle. I am just so excited and feeling super 5 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: reinvigorated to be back for season two, and like I 6 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 1: said in Monday's episode, I am all about bringing you 7 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: those fresh vibes for the podcast. My mission with Hurdle 8 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: is simple to inspire you to be your best self, 9 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,840 Speaker 1: to move with intention and have some fun along the way. 10 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: And I feel like Hurdle Moment really is my greater opportunity, 11 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: a supplement if you will, to have honest, open conversations 12 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: with this audience. And I mean that seriously. I know 13 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: it's just me on this side of the microp when 14 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: it doesn't get lost on me. But what I want 15 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: from these weekly episodes, these quick hitters, is to spark 16 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: a dialogue for you to interact with me. So please, 17 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 1: what I'm saying here is if what I'm putting down 18 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: resonates with you, hit me up, whether that's on Instagram 19 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: or over email at Emily Abody at Hurdle Podcast and 20 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 1: Emily at Hurdle dot Us I just want to hear 21 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 1: from you now. For today's episode, I am going to 22 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: be talking about something that's really resonating with me this year, 23 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:38,199 Speaker 1: and that's the idea of self worth and owning your value. Now. 24 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: I am not sure if it was on Instagram. It 25 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 1: was probably on Instagram. I read this quote that really 26 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 1: stuck with me, and it's stop begging people to sit 27 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: down at the table with you. I'll say it again, 28 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: stop begging people to sit down at the table with you. 29 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: It's powerful, right, And that's because if you stop for 30 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: just one second and you think about the things you 31 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: were running after, you think about what it is that 32 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: you want. If there's maybe a certain relationship or situation, 33 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 1: or an opportunity at your office or with your friends 34 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 1: or your family that you're running after and you feel 35 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: like you just can't grab hold of it, there's a 36 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: reason why I'm going to let you in on a 37 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,919 Speaker 1: little secret right off the bat. When you only open 38 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: the door for things that serve you, for things that 39 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: are reciprocal your sense of self worth, it's skyrockets. And 40 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: who doesn't want that? Who doesn't deserve that? Before I 41 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: get into the topic, I do want to take a 42 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: second to shout out my sponsor at Beam. Now. 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I myself, I'm super into their tincture, the One, 52 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: and I have a hunch that you will be too. 53 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 1: I'll be talking about Beam over the next few weeks, 54 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: but in the meantime, I encourage you to give it 55 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:24,800 Speaker 1: a try. Head on over to beamtlc dot com and 56 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: use the code Hurdle at checkout for fifteen percent off 57 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 1: your purchase. Again, that is beamtlc dot com. Use the 58 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 1: code Hurdle at checkout for fifteen percent off your purchase today. 59 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: And with that, I say it's about time to reclaim 60 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 1: some power. Let's get to hurdling. You are enough. You 61 00:03:57,240 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: are enough, I swear. I'd probably say that to myself 62 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: at least once a day. It's like a positive affirmation 63 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: right when you say it, and you repeat it over 64 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: and over, and as you do that, the more you 65 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: do that, you believe it, because that's just how affirmations work. 66 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: I want you, right now, right from the get go, 67 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 1: to do a simple exercise. Think about the last time 68 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: you try to make a plan or set up a 69 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:25,720 Speaker 1: meeting and it just felt absolutely impossible. Now ask yourself, 70 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:29,119 Speaker 1: why was that. Was the person on the other side 71 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 1: of the computer or the text message or the phone 72 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 1: call not putting in any effort to make this meeting happen, 73 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: or was there just maybe a breakdown in communication. I 74 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 1: want to stress this from the beginning of this convo. Yes, 75 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: there will be times that there is that breakdown in communication, 76 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:49,480 Speaker 1: but if someone values you, if someone values your time, 77 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: they will work with you to figure something out. What 78 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: I'm talking about today is the person that you keep 79 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: putting in effort with who isn't giving you the time 80 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: that you deserve. I feel like this is definitely prevalent 81 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:05,359 Speaker 1: a lot in dating that goes without saying you can't 82 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: figure out what's going on with this person that you 83 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:13,480 Speaker 1: are so all in on Man. I have been there. 84 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 1: Everything feels great when you're together, but you're just trying 85 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:18,839 Speaker 1: to make plans and it's not happening, and you have 86 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 1: nothing on the calendar, and they're giving you the run around. 87 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 1: And I hate to be the bearer of bad news, 88 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:26,840 Speaker 1: but there's a reason for that. Now. I'm not going 89 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: to dive into what their personal issues might be, but 90 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: plain and simple, when someone doesn't make time for you, 91 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:36,000 Speaker 1: when someone doesn't take the initiative to figure out a 92 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: way to see you, that's because they don't feel like 93 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: they need to. It's that bad news. They are just 94 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: not that into you. Of course, Unfortunately, this can apply 95 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 1: in a few different scenarios. Maybe it's with your friendships, 96 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: maybe it's at the office, it's with your work relationships. 97 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 1: If you are too willing to give someone something and 98 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: they are not willing to reciprocate it back, then this 99 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: is a relationship that you probably don't need. Now. The 100 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,359 Speaker 1: hard part, and truly I mean this, I get it. 101 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,800 Speaker 1: I struggle with it too, is being okay with not 102 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: running after the people that don't serve you. You have 103 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 1: to accept that these people or these situations they might 104 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 1: not be for you. Trust me. Other things will fall 105 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:26,040 Speaker 1: into place, other people, other scenarios, other opportunities. It's just 106 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: like my stance on failure. You don't work your butt 107 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: off for things not to go your way, but failure happens, 108 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,359 Speaker 1: and when it does, you have the opportunity to learn 109 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:41,599 Speaker 1: and then pivot and make a change. Yeah, it's frustrating 110 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 1: when the person at the desk next to you gets 111 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: invited to the meeting with that person that you want 112 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 1: their time, and of course you want to be in 113 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:51,280 Speaker 1: on the girl's weekend that your so called friends are 114 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: planning without you. That stuff sucks. But I want you 115 00:06:55,520 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: in these instances where your heart hurts to remind yourself 116 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 1: that you are worthy and someone that doesn't make you 117 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 1: feel that way they are not your person. I've got 118 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: another quick exercise for you, whether it's on your cell 119 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: phone or if you're just grabbing a pen and paper 120 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: right now, I want you to write down the heading 121 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 1: this is what I bring to the table now. I 122 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: know it sounds a little bit silly, but sometimes we 123 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: just need these little reminders of how awesome it is 124 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 1: that we are. I'm going to say that to you again. 125 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: You are awesome. It's easy to get down in yourself, 126 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: especially when life feels like it's moving one thousand miles 127 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: an hour. But right now, under this heading, what I 128 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: want you to do is take some time to be 129 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: candid with what it is that makes you great. I'll start. 130 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: You're welcome. I've worked really hard to establish healthy habits 131 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: that make me better for the people that I care 132 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 1: about and the people that I interact with throughout my day, 133 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: which means that when I'm wagging up with the sun, Yeah, 134 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: it takes effort to get out of bed, but I 135 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 1: am up, I'm out, I'm sweating, I feel good after. 136 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 1: And so the line that I write under this heading 137 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: of what I bring to the table is I bring 138 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: authenticity and a clear mind because I give back to 139 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 1: myself every single morning to get to this place. Another highlight, 140 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: I am kind. I truly believe that even in instances 141 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: where I feel like I'm met with harsh words or 142 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: maybe whoever is on the other side of that dm 143 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: isn't having a good day. Regardless of how this person 144 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 1: and I come into contact, I try to treat them 145 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 1: with respect and greet it with an open heart, and 146 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: I'll stick by my conviction that that makes me a 147 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: kind person. Something really special happens when you own your value, 148 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: when you stop begging people treat you how you deserve, 149 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: When you stop saying you can't do something and start 150 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: saying you won't. You stand by your conviction, you stay 151 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: by your foundations, and you stand up for yourself. And 152 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: how awesome is that? Because in this moment, you claim 153 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 1: what's yours, you claim what you deserve. And I have 154 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,200 Speaker 1: big hopes for you, guys, but I know that for me, 155 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: I am willing to fight for that. So now I'll 156 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: encourage you to do one last exercise. Maybe this one's 157 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: a little bit harder. I want you to make a 158 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: list of the situations, or perhaps the people that make 159 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 1: you feel like you're not good enough. You're probably gonna 160 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: have to be a little bit blunt, but here's the deal. 161 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: When you look at this list, ask yourself, what is 162 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:44,319 Speaker 1: it about these people, these situations, these opportunities that keep 163 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 1: me lingering? Why am I not walking away? I have 164 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: a hunch that in most of these relationships you probably can. 165 00:09:55,440 --> 00:09:58,439 Speaker 1: And if you feel as though you cannot, then what 166 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 1: you owe it to yourself is to be honest with 167 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:06,079 Speaker 1: that person. Be honest in that situation. Confront it head 168 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: on again the language. Instead of saying that I can't 169 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:14,680 Speaker 1: do that, say that I won't do that. Don't diminish 170 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: your value to make someone else feel better. You're better 171 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: than that. Keep your chin up, hurdlers, We've got some 172 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: special connections to make and a whole lot of value 173 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: to go around. At Hurdle Podcast at Emily Avadi, another 174 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Go grab your seat at the table.