Speaker 1: All right, we got some drama for you today.
Speaker 2: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning on the Second
Speaker 2: Date Podcast because it's awkward Tuesday. Yes, I mean, honestly,
Speaker 2: today is a lot this poor girl and the DM
Speaker 2: she received from a complete stranger. So to that in
Speaker 2: just a second. But first we need to rewind. We
Speaker 2: need to go back to yesterday and talk air friers.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we do, because you guys were talking air
Speaker 3: friers in the comments that lit up our comments section yesterday's.
Speaker 1: Second Date update.
Speaker 4: We live in a world.
Speaker 1: Wow, you're on her side? Send yeah, okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: what do you see it?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 1: Honestly, it was funny. It was really like fifty to fifty.
Speaker 3: There was a lot of like, you know, she doesn't
Speaker 3: have emotional maturity, blah blah blah. But then these ones
Speaker 3: were my favorite I got. I don't usually comment, but
Speaker 3: I felt compelled to on this one. Air Friers are
Speaker 3: awesome and as you guys were recording this, I'm making
Speaker 3: myself a four course meal in both of my air Friars.
Speaker 3: And finally, Airfriar's rock. He should be in the hospital
Speaker 3: as m h.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't have one still maybe I
Speaker 1: should get one.
Speaker 4: You're pretty cool.
Speaker 1: They're nice, but they take up so much space on
Speaker 1: your counter.
Speaker 3: It's true, they're not like aesthetically Yeah, okay, all right,
Speaker 3: well maybe talking about air friars for another attend week.
Speaker 1: We really could, but we won't.
Speaker 2: Let's get into the new awkward Tuesday phone call happening
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 6: Don't you hate it when a random thing pops up
Speaker 6: that instantly reminds you of your ex It could be
Speaker 6: like a certain song, or a funny meme, or the
Speaker 6: smell of an old dumpster.
Speaker 4: At least, that's what reminds Brook of all of her exes.
Speaker 6: But one of our listeners says she literally hadn't thought
Speaker 6: about her old boyfriend in years till she got a
Speaker 6: random DM from a complete stranger, and what it said
Speaker 6: left all of us shocked. So she sent us an
Speaker 6: urgent email asking for help. You're gonna hear why and
Speaker 6: your awkward Tuesday phone call next.
Speaker 4: It's awkward.
Speaker 5: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 6: You ever have someone from your past suddenly pop up
Speaker 6: again out of nowhere like a giant ZiT right before
Speaker 6: your wedding day? And now you got a dilemma where
Speaker 6: it's like, do I just ignore this thing and let
Speaker 6: it hopefully go away on its own, or do I
Speaker 6: bust out the tweezers and hydrogen peroxide and attack this
Speaker 6: ZiT head on.
Speaker 3: You're not supposed to, but you probably are going to
Speaker 3: attack it.
Speaker 4: There's something well.
Speaker 6: One of our listeners is dealing with that issue where
Speaker 6: somebody from her past has suddenly resurfaced in her life
Speaker 6: and she's decided she needs help popping that zits.
Speaker 1: Jose is the only one that likes that stuff.
Speaker 6: It's only analogy I could think of, But let's talk
Speaker 6: to Amanda about it. Amanda, welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Hey, thanks so much for having me. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Can't wait to hear who the pus filled person is.
Speaker 4: We're like, yeah, we'll try to help you.
Speaker 6: Tell us who from your past is suddenly back to
Speaker 6: haunt you.
Speaker 5: So I dated this guy a while back, but we've
Speaker 5: broken up.
Speaker 4: It's an X Well.
Speaker 5: I get a d M from a random woman and
Speaker 5: she asked me, how are you dating this guy?
Speaker 4: She's asking if you're dating your ex boyfriend now.
Speaker 5: She said, if I had dated this guy.
Speaker 1: She's asking it past ten okay, so maybe she's doing
Speaker 1: some research or something.
Speaker 5: You know, right, which I mean, it's weird, but I
Speaker 5: had no reason to laugh where I said, yes old.
Speaker 5: She tells me that she's dating him now, which cool, okay, great?
Speaker 2: Is that the one sentence response she said, because that's awkward.
Speaker 6: He's mine now, you should know that.
Speaker 4: But yeah, objectively, that's weird. We agree, well, and.
Speaker 5: That's kind where I thought it would stop. But she
Speaker 5: starts asking me all of these personal questions about myself,
Speaker 5: like what just kind of things, I like, style questions,
Speaker 5: and I'm sort of like.
Speaker 2: Oh, like personal stuff, not like questions about you and
Speaker 2: your relationship with your ex.
Speaker 5: Exactly, huh, which I don't know that. I don't know
Speaker 5: this person at all. So I said, why are you
Speaker 5: asking me this? What's going on?
Speaker 2: Maybe she's just a really bad stalker, like too upfront
Speaker 2: about getting all the information.
Speaker 1: Save me the time from scrolling, and.
Speaker 6: Just tell me now, I'm going to find out this
Speaker 6: information one way or the other, so just out with it.
Speaker 4: What does she say to you?
Speaker 5: Well, she tells me that he still had my picture
Speaker 5: up in his place. Oh wow, so she's wondering there's
Speaker 5: something going on between us. Still are we hooking up?
Speaker 7: Texting?
Speaker 5: What's the deal?
Speaker 4: Oh god? He still has your photo? Why did you
Speaker 4: guys break up? Have we asked that?
Speaker 5: It's been a few years, and that's my order. I
Speaker 5: was like, look, I haven't spoken to that guy. I
Speaker 5: thought about him. I'm like one hundred percent moved on.
Speaker 2: Were you like freaked out or what is your reaction
Speaker 2: to him still having your photo up?
Speaker 1: That is so bizarre?
Speaker 4: Freaked out or flattered?
Speaker 5: I was a little shocking. I mean, yeah again, I'm like,
Speaker 5: I'm totally done. I've moved on. It's years, So.
Speaker 2: Why is it still bothering you? Like, shouldn't you just
Speaker 2: be like, oh weird?
Speaker 1: Move on?
Speaker 5: I mean I thought that would be the end of it.
Speaker 5: I told her nothing's going on, and then a few
Speaker 5: weeks later, I get another message from her saying that
Speaker 5: she's at a bar right by my place and wants
Speaker 5: to know if I can meet with her to chat.
Speaker 4: What oh god, what is she doing?
Speaker 5: Wait?
Speaker 4: Like, is this a girl thing?
Speaker 1: Like, it's not your problem, this would be it's weird
Speaker 1: of her. Did you go to drinks with her?
Speaker 5: Well? I was pretty hesitant, but she promised me it
Speaker 5: was going to be quick, and she said she really
Speaker 5: needed to talk to me.
Speaker 8: If it's quick, if you're paying, let's go in and
Speaker 8: out what the heck is going on?
Speaker 1: And you want to see what looks like in real life?
Speaker 4: I mean.
Speaker 5: This when I'm just curious.
Speaker 1: Right, that curiosity?
Speaker 9: So how to go?
Speaker 1: Happened?
Speaker 5: So I went down there. She's already sitting down having
Speaker 5: a drink by herself at the bar. I walk over, Stay, hi,
Speaker 5: you know, I'm a little nervous, and she just jumps
Speaker 5: up and gives me this like weird hug.
Speaker 2: I mean maybe, like sometimes when I feel uncomfortable, I
Speaker 2: will hug people.
Speaker 1: Better than a handshake.
Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure, punch to the chin.
Speaker 5: There.
Speaker 6: Okay, that's obviously a weird start, but not the worst thing,
Speaker 6: I guess.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's sort of like what does she want? Does
Speaker 5: she want to know more about this guy?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 5: Is she? And turns out we just have this incredibly
Speaker 5: awkward conversation where she's asking me about my skincare and
Speaker 5: my hair routine, what kind of music I like?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 1: Is she like trying to be more like?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I said, because I was thinking that it just seemed
Speaker 5: like maybe she doesn't have a ton of friends and
Speaker 5: a girlfriend.
Speaker 4: Because they have a common interest. No, I guess something
Speaker 4: that they share. No, it's funny, but yeah, not exactly healthy.
Speaker 1: I mean, you left that meeting feeling.
Speaker 5: What it was so weird. I mean she was nice,
Speaker 5: but I finally kind of got myself out of there
Speaker 5: by saying I had to leave for work and she's
Speaker 5: messaging me again. Now wow, Now what.
Speaker 4: She's messaging you about?
Speaker 1: What she wants to hang out? It sounds like hang out.
Speaker 6: Yes, So I'm curious what made you email the show
Speaker 6: for help today with your awkward Tuesday phone call?
Speaker 4: What are you looking to do here?
Speaker 5: Well, at this point, I feel like I just need
Speaker 5: to tell her. It's not that I have any ill
Speaker 5: will towards her or towards my ex, but I just
Speaker 5: don't want to be friends. And I feel like I've
Speaker 5: tried to deliver this message and I just want to
Speaker 5: be polite so that she doesn't think that were enemies.
Speaker 5: But right, totally, I don't know what to do at
Speaker 5: this point.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this is so.
Speaker 4: Awkward, extremely awkward.
Speaker 6: Oh, which makes me happy for the segment of the show,
Speaker 6: But like for you, Amanda, I'm not sure how I
Speaker 6: would feel if I was in your shoes right now,
Speaker 6: I'd be extremely nervous to make this call for her.
Speaker 2: She could possibly get her feelings hurt, and you don't
Speaker 2: want that. Like, she's not a bad person, it sounds
Speaker 2: like exactly.
Speaker 5: So that's why I've reached out to you. I don't
Speaker 5: I just don't know what to do.
Speaker 6: Okay, man, Well, We're I going to try and think
Speaker 6: of some advice for you and come back. Let you
Speaker 6: make your awkward Tuesday phone call to your ex boyfriend's
Speaker 6: new girlfriend.
Speaker 4: A premature on that, but tell her I.
Speaker 6: Don't want to be friends with you politely, Yeah, right
Speaker 6: after this.
Speaker 4: Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. It's one thing to have
Speaker 6: to tell your ex boyfriend, hey, stop texting me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's easy.
Speaker 6: It's a whole nother situation to tell your ex boyfriend's
Speaker 6: new lady to leave you alone.
Speaker 4: Everybody likes you.
Speaker 2: Jame's lonely and needs friends like that's the hardest part
Speaker 2: of it.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: That's what brought our listener Amanda to the show today
Speaker 6: because she's been broken up with a dude for years,
Speaker 6: but recently she's been getting text messages from the new
Speaker 6: woman her ex's seeing, and this woman is asking Amanda
Speaker 6: very personal questions.
Speaker 4: She's wanting to grab drinks.
Speaker 1: So they did grab drinks, just did wild.
Speaker 6: She wants to hang out more and get matching Brazilians
Speaker 6: with her together or whatever it is that girls like
Speaker 6: to do. I don't know how the girl hangouts go,
Speaker 6: but it's just getting super awkward. So she needs advice
Speaker 6: on how to deliver the message I don't want to
Speaker 6: hang out with the clingy new girlfriend of my crazy
Speaker 6: ex boyfriend.
Speaker 4: But how does she say that more gently?
Speaker 6: Because, like Brook was saying, there's a chance this woman
Speaker 6: is just super lonely and is looking for a friend
Speaker 6: in her life. So, Jose, what's your advice to Amanda
Speaker 6: before she makes her awkward call here?
Speaker 5: Well, so you.
Speaker 8: Don't sound so harsh like what we think is right,
Speaker 8: she really just needs friends and she's lonely. Just blame
Speaker 8: the situation.
Speaker 1: What do you mean?
Speaker 8: No one should be friends with the person dating their ex,
Speaker 8: just like ever, like anyone. So you don't dislike her,
Speaker 8: It's just the situation you're in.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry you don't make it personal about her. It's
Speaker 6: just any situation involving crossover between xes and the new relationships.
Speaker 4: It's a bad idea.
Speaker 1: It could seem like she's not over the ex.
Speaker 6: Then well he's saying like, don't do with the ex
Speaker 6: either too. Yeah, what do you think, bro?
Speaker 2: I think you need to blame somebody else. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: you need to say that you've got a new man
Speaker 2: who's super jealous and just just doesn't want you to
Speaker 2: have anything to do with the ex or the girlfriend,
Speaker 2: any of it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's really rich, but I mean he totally.
Speaker 1: Sucks what I'm dating on me.
Speaker 4: When do you think of that, Amanda?
Speaker 5: I think you are both great ideas. So I'm hopeful
Speaker 5: she'll be receptive to something.
Speaker 4: Just because you're not trying to crush her with this message.
Speaker 6: You're just trying to politely back away from any interaction
Speaker 6: with her or your ex.
Speaker 2: Me some boundaries, and it seems like it needs to
Speaker 2: be a really specific boundary.
Speaker 6: Boundaries are a good word. Maybe you can throw that
Speaker 6: in there. But I'm going to dial this other woman.
Speaker 6: Her name is Courtney.
Speaker 2: You said, mm hmm, okay, you're so nervous you okay, okay,
Speaker 2: thank you.
Speaker 6: We're going to be waiting to jump in if we
Speaker 6: feel like you need a little bit of help.
Speaker 4: But this is all you. Good luck. I don't remember
Speaker 4: right now here we go.
Speaker 5: Hello, Hey Courtney, this is Amanda, Amanda Seawan's ex.
Speaker 7: Oh hey, I was gonna text you later. That's so funny.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, what's up? What's going on?
Speaker 7: Yeah? Because I have an extra ticket to the Sean
Speaker 7: Paul concert next weekend, so I want to see if.
Speaker 5: You could go with me. You know, I probably shouldn't,
Speaker 5: but thank you. I appreciate it.
Speaker 3: Oh why not?
Speaker 7: It'll be fun. We can grab drinks before we can
Speaker 7: get our.
Speaker 5: Pre funk on you know by now.
Speaker 9: That does sound fun, but I am gonna have to
Speaker 9: pass ah shuck, And I don't know that we should spend.
Speaker 5: More time together.
Speaker 7: Wait, what do you mean.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna be like completely honest with you. It just
Speaker 5: feels really weird for me that my extoss current girl
Speaker 5: and wants to hang out with me. Oh why, I
Speaker 5: don't know. I mean, it's not weird for you.
Speaker 7: No, I think you're actually like really cool and like
Speaker 7: I kind of want to be like you.
Speaker 5: You want what?
Speaker 7: Yeah? Like Sean stated a lot of girls. You and
Speaker 7: I both know that, and out of all of them,
Speaker 7: he only talks about you, and like he still has
Speaker 7: your photo up in his room and everything so weird.
Speaker 2: I don't think so.
Speaker 7: I mean, you know, like sometimes that night, like will
Speaker 7: stay up and he tells me stories about you. So yeah,
Speaker 7: like he just says that you were like really special
Speaker 7: and like, I don't know, maybe if we hang out enough,
Speaker 7: I could be more like you.
Speaker 5: You know, right, I know, I'm sorry. I don't like.
Speaker 5: I don't like that at all.
Speaker 7: I'm so sorry. Like I did not mean for it
Speaker 7: to sound rude. It is one hundred percent of compliments.
Speaker 5: No, it's it's that, And I don't want to give
Speaker 5: you advice, especially because I know you very well, but
Speaker 5: I didn't know each other well. To me, any guy
Speaker 5: that's keeping old photos up or can't get over an X,
Speaker 5: I mean, isn't that just kind of a red flag?
Speaker 5: Wait a second, why would you say that? Well, because
Speaker 5: it's true. I mean, nobody should want to be around
Speaker 5: someone who can't let go of an X. It's I mean,
Speaker 5: I don't.
Speaker 9: Think that's old.
Speaker 7: On a second, hold, oh my god, are you saying
Speaker 7: that because you're trying to break us up?
Speaker 5: No? No, no, no, no, no no no no, I'm not
Speaker 5: at all. I'm just saying this.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, you are like totally still.
Speaker 5: I knew it. You're still in love with him.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, I knew it. You you want to
Speaker 7: look up with him that you know, like you want
Speaker 7: to keep being you and keep looking.
Speaker 5: Up with him.
Speaker 1: Courtney.
Speaker 7: Hello, Yes, who is it?
Speaker 4: Hey? Courtney? Uh, there's actually a whole.
Speaker 7: Bunch of you.
Speaker 4: Who's this?
Speaker 1: Okay? Hi, Courtney, hold on and let him talk and
Speaker 1: he'll tell you.
Speaker 6: There's a whole radio show that's on this phone call
Speaker 6: right now because you're on Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: What why why boyfriend?
Speaker 2: Nobody wants to date your boyfriend except for you, Courtney.
Speaker 4: We were helping.
Speaker 6: We all support your relationship with Sean. Amanda included this
Speaker 6: is something called an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 7: I don't an awkward What does that even mean?
Speaker 6: Amanda reached out to our show because she was telling
Speaker 6: us about the situation going on with you and her
Speaker 6: and the ex Sean.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, why couldn't we know we're like friends?
Speaker 7: She could have just confronted her.
Speaker 2: Well, I think, Courtney, I think there's some boundaries that
Speaker 2: have been cross that you just want to listen to
Speaker 2: Amanda a little bit.
Speaker 7: On the only boundaries being cross is from Amanda trying
Speaker 7: to break up me and Sean.
Speaker 4: Amanda talked to Courtney and explain the situation. Just just
Speaker 4: be honest with her, courtey.
Speaker 5: I just it's been years since Sean and I were together.
Speaker 5: I just don't have any interest in revisiting this part
Speaker 5: of my life. And I just think it's such a situation.
Speaker 2: Whatever you say, are you not listening to her?
Speaker 7: Cortey, He's saying, she's it doesn't matter because it's not real.
Speaker 5: What Look at this point, it's shocking to me that
Speaker 5: you could possibly think that I would want to be
Speaker 5: with Sean. I mean, you're the one that initiated this
Speaker 5: entire friendship.
Speaker 7: Well, I don't want to be friends with you anymore.
Speaker 7: So I'll tell you that right now, because I don't
Speaker 7: like to be friends with homewreckers.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Honestly, Courtney, she's got your best interest in mind. Like
Speaker 2: you're going to bed at night with your boyfriend, having
Speaker 2: him tell stories of his.
Speaker 1: Ex girlfriend to you. If she wanted act, she could
Speaker 1: get them. That is not healthy.
Speaker 7: It's research.
Speaker 1: No, no, do not become Courtney be yourself and whoever
Speaker 1: you're sorry, I got the names mixed up between you two.
Speaker 6: You were saying to her earlier, Courtney that you think
Speaker 6: you want to change stuff about yourself to be more
Speaker 6: like Amanda so that your boyfriend feels the same way.
Speaker 6: But he must like you if he's dating you right now,
Speaker 6: you don't have to change yourself.
Speaker 7: We're talking about all this and what we should be
Speaker 7: talking about is Amanda coming for my man.
Speaker 2: If we're going to go that route, Amanda, you stay
Speaker 2: away from Courtney's manage.
Speaker 1: Talk to her.
Speaker 4: You you terrible woman.
Speaker 5: You know what? That's fine with me?
Speaker 6: Okay, you're willing to break off all communication with Sean
Speaker 6: what you've already done, but you're gonna keep doing that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, Courtney, is.
Speaker 5: That cool with you?
Speaker 7: Stay away from him, but we can still.
Speaker 4: Be friend No, it's party.
Speaker 1: There's no friendship between you and Shawn's X. It's just yep,
Speaker 1: cut the cord here.
Speaker 7: You're not in charge of my friendship with demand. Are
Speaker 7: you trying to break us up?
Speaker 1: Now? Oh my god, just let people live.
Speaker 5: Girl.
Speaker 1: You need to block hers.
Speaker 5: I've tried.
Speaker 4: Itok Jeffrey in the morning, I don't know what it is.
Speaker 6: But there's some people who, if there's just not enough
Speaker 6: drama happening in their lives at the moment, they'll manufacture
Speaker 6: it on their own just so that they have something
Speaker 6: to be angry and upset about.
Speaker 5: Yah.
Speaker 3: Some might call them crazy to say that.
Speaker 1: Some people know. If you say some people it okay.
Speaker 4: I like it for Courtney to go from I want to.
Speaker 6: Be exactly like you to clearly you're trying to break
Speaker 6: me and my boyfriend up. Oh man, I mean, Alexis.
Speaker 6: This is some Love Islands level drama that we're dealing with.
Speaker 6: And I don't even watch that show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it gets.
Speaker 3: Much crazier than this.
Speaker 2: If anything, it sounds like Amanda's X really leveled up. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm not being sarcastic at all.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're probably wild.
Speaker 6: I can't believe it got there, and I'm not trying
Speaker 6: to start any drama right now. But if you're listening
Speaker 6: to this on podcasts and you're not hitting subscribe, what
Speaker 6: are you trying to cancel us?
Speaker 5: You are? Are you? God?
Speaker 6: I knew it's snaky snakes listening to us not subscribing.
Speaker 4: I hate you?
Speaker 1: Whoa go that far?
Speaker 4: Unless you unless you hit subscribe is calling people crazy.
Speaker 8: You're telling people you hate them.
Speaker 4: Can I just say we actually like our listeners.
Speaker 5: It wasn't me.
Speaker 1: I said some people.
Speaker 6: Yeah, some people aren't a fan of our listeners, just
Speaker 6: some of us, just some people.
Speaker 4: Anyway, we do like you. If you can want to subscribe,
Speaker 4: go ahead and do it. It's Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 4: the Morning.