WEBVTT - Scaling or Selling Out? 0:00:02.040 --> 0:00:05.720 Yeah, Yeah, that's. 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:09.600 What's up. Family. It's your girl to mek A D. 0:00:09.720 --> 0:00:12.760 Mallard and your boy, my son and gentlemen. 0:00:12.400 --> 0:00:15.280 And we are your host of t M I. 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:20.040 Tamika and my song's information, truth, motivation and inspiration. 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:25.639 I'm feeling you get about like a lot of people 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:27.040 like t M I. 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:27.920 What's that? 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:28.560 I like? 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:32.840 Like, I'm not already had anyone say I don't think well, 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:39.960 actually moste mallories like I like street politicians. 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:42.920 I don't understand why I'm what you are, but you know, 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:49.560 sometimes you gotta grow. We always gonna street polists, always always. 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:51.640 But I'm feeling it. I'm feeling it. I'm feeling it. 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:54.800 What's up family out there? Thanks for tuning in for 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:57.080 yet another week of t M I. 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.400 The Week of tm You know, it's been a long week. 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:02.320 It's been along a couple of weeks. A lot of 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:05.319 things been going on. So I'm really just back into 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:08.600 my whole workout thing. You know, probably working out like 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:11.560 three or four days a week, and my body is 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:14.960 just really sore, like really really sore. But I've been 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:16.640 working out with my little brother. I've been taking him 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:18.640 to the gym and you know, a lot of these 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:20.800 young boys think that they can really do it until 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:23.160 they actually get in the gym. You know what I'm saying. 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.040 You get him in the gym and he's talking to yeah, come, 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.760 we're gonna go work out. And after about we jogged 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.399 for about ten fifteen minutes and he's like, yeah, I 0:01:30.400 --> 0:01:33.080 got this. Next, you know, we do two workouts. He's 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:36.240 about to pass out in the gym. He drinking water 0:01:36.319 --> 0:01:39.080 every five seconds. He's sitting out. We've been all hard 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.160 and it's crazy just to watch. And I see this 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.640 happen all the times with younger individuals. They just think 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.319 because you're older, that they got more energy than you. 0:01:47.400 --> 0:01:49.120 And I'll be trying to tell you, I can't just 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:51.440 come to that gym playing around. You know, it's a 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.360 serious thing in that gym. So, you know, that's been 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:57.080 the thing I've been doing, like really getting back into. 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:58.560 Health because health as well. 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:00.400 You know, I used to really you know, I used 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:01.880 to be a personal train I used to do all 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:05.000 those things. In probably the last couple of months, I've 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:07.559 got that love for working out again. 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:10.040 So young boys coming to gym with me, you may 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:10.840 be ready to work out. 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:12.079 I love for work it out. 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:15.560 It's a little it's extreme. Love is a love thing. 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.240 I do it. I like it, but I don't know 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:20.360 about loving it. I don't know about loving it. But 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:25.040 what I am doing that you know, I've really been 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:28.040 focusing on for the last several months, is really trying 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:35.720 to find a balance between craziness at work and your 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:39.400 own personal peace of mind. That has been that, that's 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.480 like the next thing, get the workout together. I got 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:45.280 the scheduling around that together. But now it's more so 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:48.640 like people like, how do you balance to two? Because 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.360 every I used to be and I used to live 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.440 by the idea that there is no balance. And I 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:58.200 still know that the idea of balance sounds really good, 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:05.040 but it's not necessar severally realistic because at times, either 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:08.200 your family life, your personal life, your work life, all 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:10.919 of those things require a little bit more from everybody. 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:15.120 So balance is real difficult, but you have to do. 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:18.120 You do have to have a balance over your peace 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:24.200 of mind, and that through therapy, through going through so 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:29.000 many trials and tribulations, I began to understand that the 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:31.399 balance of peace of mind is not the same thing 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:34.560 like balancing work and play or work home life. I'm 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:39.440 talking about being able to control how much you sit 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:45.760 and obsess over getting things done, responding to everybody, and 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:48.080 how you could just be okay with the fact that 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:51.960 maybe this person is going to be upset. I may 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:58.200 not have I may not have shown up for all 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:02.200 the things the way that people wanted me to, But 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:03.840 when it got to the point that I felt it 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:07.760 was too much, I pulled away. And that for me, 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:12.560 is a very difficult task. It's a very difficult task, 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:14.520 but it's something that I realized I have to work on. 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:16.760 And I wouldn't say it comes with the privilege since 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.840 we're talking about age. It comes with the privilege of age, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:22.920 because when you're younger and you're trying to find your 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:26.039 way in the world, you just kind of like go 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:30.480 not just young in age, also young in time in 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.640 a space. So you're the new hairstylist, you the new whatever. 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:37.800 You going hard trying to get yourself known. Once you 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:41.480 come to a place where you have already established a brand, 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.240 you do have to find a way to back yourself 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.320 up a little bit to and also to have ability 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:50.279 to get a vision for what life looks like going forward. 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:55.240 I think for me, you know, my experience in my 0:04:55.279 --> 0:05:02.040 life experiences being incarcerated and losing out on a lot 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:04.279 of things, a lot of different opportunities. I think my 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:07.520 mind stay, it's hard for me to do that, right 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:12.600 because when you when you're twenty years old and you're 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:15.040 on the custom of being the next big, biggest hip 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:18.200 hop artist, and then it's taken from you and you 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:22.760 spend seven years in prison, right, you never get that back. 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.480 You don't even know what it looks like. And then 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:28.000 you become content with that reality. You just say, hey, 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.880 that's what happened. That was God's plan. But you don't 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:34.120 ever want to lose any other opportunities, So you don't 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:38.440 want to stop doing anything or stop working. Wow, you're 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.000 creating what you're creating, so you don't even know what 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:43.240 it's like to be able to sell O care. I'm 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:46.160 gonna step back from some because there's no guarantee. I 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:49.280 realized in my life that there's no guarantee. There's no 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:54.720 guarantee to anything and certain there I don't think I'm 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:58.839 in a position where I've created generation of well like, 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:00.680 if I don't work for a few weeks, if I 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:04.799 don't do things or create things, there's a strong possibility 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.120 that I won't be able to survive in real time. 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:09.599 And I think a lot of us that come from 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:12.360 you know where I come from. That's how that's the 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:15.080 way that we operate. So it's hard. So I hear 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:17.359 people say and I see people do it all the time, 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:20.240 and to me, it's kind of like a luxury because 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:22.120 it's a luxury that I would love to be able 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.039 to say, you know what, let me just deal with 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.560 my mentor I don't even know what that looks like, 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.599 you know what I'm saying. Hard, it's a real hard 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:31.360 thing to do because I want to be able to 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:33.719 just but every day I'll be like, Okay, I gotta 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:36.200 figure this out, and I gotta move in this and 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.160 I gotta work, and I gotta figure these things out. 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:39.960 So you know, it's a lot. 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:46.159 Well, I think that it's also a tool of white 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.760 supremacy to make us believe that we have to be 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.720 on a hamster will all the time, because I think 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:58.520 management of our time and management of our money better, 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:02.200 because we as American and probably everybody over in the world, 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:05.919 there's so much waste if we really just look at 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:10.080 like the difference between how often we cook, which by 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:13.760 the way, groceries is ridiculous. But just saying how often 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:18.640 we cook versus how often we eat out, you know, 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:21.000 whether or not. My dad will say in a minute, 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:22.640 y'all need to learn how to do your own hair. 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:25.560 Like why y'all always got to pay people to do 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:28.400 your hair? Whatnot? Right, So I know we're not gonna 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:32.520 do those things. It's not gonna happen. It's our guilty 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:35.080 pleasures and whatever else. But if we just look at 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:38.520 how many times we drink during a week or two, 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:42.760 how much gas we spend without just walking to a 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:46.200 place or whatever. If you if you add it up, 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.040 you will find that there are resources there for us 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.760 to be a little bit more like, Okay, I don't 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:57.200 have to kill myself, but we want to live with 0:07:57.280 --> 0:08:00.160 the luxuries of LFE. It's actually the opposite, and my 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:03.920 opinion of what you're saying. The luxury is that we 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:07.360 want to have these things and go these places because 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:10.600 I'm not going to miss one thing that somebody invites 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.600 me to that I want to go to. So I 0:08:12.640 --> 0:08:18.240 have a schedule from April all the way until July. People, 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:21.280 my cousins, this thing, somebody having this that I want 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.440 to go. So what am I going to do in 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.520 order for me to get there? I gotta spend money, 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:28.000 I gotta be able to pay my credit card. I 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:31.080 gotta be able to do all these things. So it 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:33.160 does make me hustle. But if I took if I 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.640 just said, you know what, I'm just gonna sit at home, 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.280 make sure I do the bare minimum and then I 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:40.800 can focus on my mental health and whatever, I could 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:42.280 actually probably do that. 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:44.720 But the idea is, but I hear what you're saying, 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:47.199 and I mean cut you off. What is that actually 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:48.679 you doing what you want to do? 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:49.160 Right? 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.680 Because if you're saying that I'm not going to miss 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:53.960 none of these events, right, because that means. 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:54.959 That you want to go to the events. 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:59.480 But it's a sacrifice, you sacrificing what for what you 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.480 second for your men's comfort, for your mental health? 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:06.560 Well yeah, because because because because mental health is a 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:10.320 different type of thing. I'm saying that, yes, your comfort 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:13.680 is a part of the enjoyment that helps you find peace. 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:18.800 But if you are working yourself literally to death where 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:23.000 you are not able to calm down and relax for 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.800 a minute and have days where you just lay still 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:29.200 or you just sit quietly and you're not on the 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.559 time clock. If I gotta answer the phone, do the thing, 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:34.880 get it up. That is a problem. It's an issue, 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:36.760 and it's a lot of us. It's not just the 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:39.120 black thing, it's not just whatever. The reason why I 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:41.400 say it's a toulo white supremacy is because we have 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:44.760 been taught that being an overachiever is what makes us 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:48.960 a great example of you know whatever, and that that 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:51.439 mindset is actually not helpful. It's also a tool of 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:53.640 white white supremacy to make us believe that we have 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:57.839 to be perfect, right, perfection, all of these things, they 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.120 have been tools that make you feel like you're a 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:03.640 failure when you're actually not. You're not a failure because 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:07.880 you're not you. It's okay to be missing sometimes from 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:11.000 the conversation. You don't have to be at the front 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:15.200 every time. It's something that we're driven by because we 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:17.640 believe that if we're not, then we're going to be 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.480 out of what you call it, out of sight, out 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:20.840 of mind. 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:24.520 It's also it's also what we see, right, It's what 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:28.000 we celebrate. It's who we celebrate, right, we don't the 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:30.520 people that we celebrate and we call successful in our 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:34.800 culture are the people who are always present, right or 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:41.800 when they present, or that when they are present, it's. 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:45.199 Damn But that's the thing, and that that what you 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.600 just said is exactly the point, and thank you for 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:52.960 bringing it home. It's that sometimes the more you do, 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:58.000 the less quality that is existing because you don't have 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:01.280 time to prepare. Right, you're moving from one place to that. 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:03.280 I've been in that where I'm moving from this place 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:06.320 to that place. I feel tired. I'm not myself. I 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:09.280 walk in the room, my speech is not finished. I 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:13.000 don't feel as confident. But when I have time to 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:15.360 focus on the big things. And that's why I shout 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:21.160 out to Marvette Brittle, publicists and brand manager forever for 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:23.320 a whole bunch of people, from Ria, Carrey, the you 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:26.720 name it. She's worked with the greats. She will tell 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:30.040 you that it's important, like you can't take everything that 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:32.040 comes your way. And a lot of times we find 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:35.200 ourselves we want the fifteen hundred dollars, the three thousand, 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.720 the five thousand, to twenty thousand and twenty five thousand, 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:41.280 and instead we should really be again sacrificing. It's saying 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.920 no to some things, not the things that's important to you. 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:45.640 Some people don't got money to pay you a lot, 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:49.839 But the things that are important to you you have 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:53.280 to do. But the things that are not you kind 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.280 of say no sometimes so that you could focus on 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.640 being your best self when you do get the ten 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:02.400 thousand to five thousand, two twenty five thousand dollars speaking engagement, 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:05.160 because if you're running yourself ragging, you're not showing up 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:07.600 as your best self. So I'm just trying to figure 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:11.040 out what that looks like. Because what we do with 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:14.360 this work that is constantly trauma and going and going. 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:17.760 It's not easy to tell some a family or not 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:20.840 to be present in places. But I am finding a 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:23.200 way to be okay with not being there and not 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.600 sitting at home beating myself to death that oh my god, 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:28.600 I should have gone, I should have done it, I 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:30.840 should have wanted it, not because I would make myself 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.040 feel bad. So anyway, it's not something I have an 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:37.360 answer to. But my therapist says that it is very 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:39.960 necessary because if you don't do it, you find yourself 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:43.960 spiraling backwards. And then his other point has been that 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:47.920 when you finally get to a place where you can't 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:50.240 where you're not in demand, or you're not whatever. You 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:52.200 don't even know what to do with yourself at that 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.920 point because you're so used to being out. So you 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:58.760 have to train yourself that it's okay that sometimes y'all 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:03.160 don't hear from me. You know, there are many viral 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:10.000 videos out there that shows bouncers, club, bouncers, security body 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:13.120 slamming people doing whatever. I've had my own, you know, 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:17.800 I have literally gotten into almost physical altercations with a 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:25.640 number of bouncers, and I've had experiences that other people 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:27.880 that I know or places that I've been, they have 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:33.800 been significant, significant issues. And of course, as I said, 0:13:33.840 --> 0:13:35.680 there are viral videos. I think it was a video 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:39.320 just in April with some women was into it with 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:42.800 the bouncer or the bouncer whatever, whatever, and the bouncers 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:45.200 started slamming them, went out into the parking lot to 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:48.320 continue to deal with whatever. Once they get you out 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:52.320 the venue, it should be done from their perspective, and 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.959 now you're in the street, So then at that point 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.360 there should be no reason for a bouncer to even 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:01.680 be behind you or with you at your car, or 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.960 down in the parking lot or any of that. This 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:09.640 last week, a young person that I know in Atlanta 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:15.720 was beaten and followed by the way. Even the uber 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:19.080 driver says, no, no, I was already outside. I watched it. 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:22.520 It didn't just happen right outside the door. Three bounces 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:25.880 followed this young man into the parking lot, which was 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:30.320 disconnected from the bar where he was, and they commenced 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:32.920 to beating him up and whatever, and it all. I 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:35.600 understand that when you are in an environment where people 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:39.720 are intoxicated, if you don't maintain a certain level of 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.840 discipline and control over a space, it could get out 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:46.240 of hand. It's unsafe for everybody, including you as security 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:49.520 as well as other patrons. Things could get completely out 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:52.600 of hand. And people do drink a lot, so when 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.440 it go out, you're not as and I know it's 0:14:55.440 --> 0:15:00.200 happened to me, you're not as aware. Your self awareness 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:03.720 certainly tampered or whatever you call it. It's it's not 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:06.440 at the level that it should be when you have 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:11.560 been drinking alcohol, right, and then some people are doing 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:13.960 other drugs, so it's a lot of things that goes 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:20.840 on right. However, there is an issue with the emotional 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:25.440 intelligence and the level of de escalation skills that bouncers 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:31.000 have across the country, and it is a problem. They 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:35.880 start more ship than they actually do to diffuse and 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:40.000 keep things under in control. Now there are some places 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:44.200 where there are bouncers and and and very very much. 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:50.760 I would say that one of the groups that a 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:59.680 group that has let me, a group that has produced 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:03.000 many of the bounces that we see out here, people 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:06.480 who are supposed to be security or whatever. One of 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:08.840 the groups that has produced lots of them is the FOI, 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:10.280 which is the food of this mom. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:12.000 They have. 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:16.720 And you can tell when you are being approached by 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:21.440 someone that is FOI who is working at a club. 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:25.440 You can tell the way in which they speak to you. 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:25.960 Sister. 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:28.840 You know, I need you to calm down. You guys 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:31.320 have to move out the way. They're not to say 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:34.480 that they're pushovers, because we all know they're firmed, but 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.320 it's a certain way that they deal with you, and 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:41.200 you can tell. But these other people that somehow are 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.600 beget I don't know, and I need to do Oh 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:45.920 by the way, I'm going to do the research because 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.720 I'm going to be the person that is going to 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:52.720 fight for whether it be legislative changes or for there 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:57.600 to be some way that people can hold no. I 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:03.600 want to see venues held responsible for incidents with their 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:07.240 bounces in a stronger way. It's not as much as 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:10.080 it should be. There are a lot of these owners 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.479 that either close the door, don't answer the phone calls, 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:18.280 and their security people are treating people with a level 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:21.359 of disrespect that is not okay. It's not okay. 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:22.919 It's a liability, so they should be. 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.640 They should be liable if you're doing something where you're 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.680 violating people's rights, and. 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:33.800 There should be a way to determine when people's rights 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:37.159 are being violated. I believe that we may even be 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:40.240 at the point where at a lot of these popular 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:43.800 nightclubs or whatever, some of these bounces need to have 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:48.080 body cameras on them because the way, and by the way, 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:52.760 the terminology bouncer, I don't know where it came from, 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:55.280 because this is all the research that I'm seriously gonna do. 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:58.639 My friend's son, he is a young boy who is 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:02.399 not problematic, and what happened to him is dead wrong, 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:06.400 and by all accounts of the people around, the bouncer 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:11.160 was an antagonist. He was basically picking on this young kid. 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:15.920 And I have seen it happen so many times and 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:19.560 and and the way in which you you know people, 0:18:19.640 --> 0:18:22.280 especially when you know people have been drinking, you have 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:26.320 to actually get your tone and the way in which 0:18:26.359 --> 0:18:29.720 you're approaching them, you know, in a manner that allows 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:32.680 them to feel respected while being able to move them. 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:34.800 I don't know who's training them. 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:39.480 I don't know where they're where there, what accreditation they 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:40.040 have or. 0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:43.480 But it must it must change. 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:47.359 Then it is different criterias, right, So they got you 0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:50.320 got the guys are just big, so they just say, hey, 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.919 you can be the security, have any criteria. 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:56.360 Then you got off duty police officers who don't who. 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.919 Have the same mindset as on duty ones that we 0:18:59.040 --> 0:18:59.600 already have. 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:02.800 So you're dealing with You're dealing with those things right there. 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:05.320 And they think they especially when they're in that situe, 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:07.560 they just think they're all way above the law. They 0:19:07.720 --> 0:19:10.080 still got the street element because now on they're outside, 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:12.600 they ain't got they they're not tied to the uniform 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:15.520 as much, but they still know that they got their badge. 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:18.640 So they dealing with you from that aspect. 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:22.800 And then like you said, people are intoxicated and nobody 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:24.520 wants to be told to sit on the line or 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:26.520 way to move so you got to understand that. And 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:28.480 there's no real training. I'm telling you. I know, I 0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:31.439 know people who've been bouncers that's never done anything. They 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:32.600 just the bouncer at the club. 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:36.879 That's not that That to me is unhealthy. It doesn't work, 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:40.800 and there has to be some way that that is changed. 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:44.239 And I am going to investigate and be reporting on 0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:45.879 what it looks like. And I know there are a 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:48.159 lot of people that's like, oh, there you go, like 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:50.720 you now all of a sudden, you know, here you 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:53.080 come into an environment when these people, some of them 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:56.480 just coming home, some of them are coming from different situations, 0:19:56.520 --> 0:19:59.440 can't get this job, need extra pay, And I think 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:02.080 we should do all of that. I think that you 0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:05.240 know that as a space that especially a lot of 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.840 men are in where they could get income. I support 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:09.600 it one hundred percent. But it does not mean that 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:11.600 people need to be abused or that you're going to 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:15.280 you should be able to bring that nastiness that too 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:18.440 many of these people have and the way in which 0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:20.800 they treat people. There has to be and I think 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:26.000 that yes, absolutely the actual security person needs to help 0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:28.920 be held accountable. But the way to actually address it 0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:32.560 is to make the owners of these properties, the owners 0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:37.199 of these clubs, make them responsible when these issues come up, 0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:39.800 and I and going forward, I'm going to make myself 0:20:39.840 --> 0:20:44.200 available to be more involved in cases where people feel 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:47.520 they have been harmed, discriminated against, or whatever, because that's 0:20:47.560 --> 0:20:49.840 a call that in the past, if I get a 0:20:49.880 --> 0:20:54.000 call about, you know, a bouncer beat me up or 0:20:54.160 --> 0:20:57.440 something happened, it's not necessarily something that I would get 0:20:57.480 --> 0:21:00.399 to involve them because I don't have the capacity. But 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:03.880 I am definitely going to make myself available going forward 0:21:03.880 --> 0:21:06.480 because I hear about it too often and when people 0:21:06.480 --> 0:21:10.040 are like, well the patron, they was drunk the while 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:12.560 they was doing a list. That is what happens when 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:15.479 you work somewhere. And it's the same thing that we 0:21:15.520 --> 0:21:19.399 say about police officers. If the police officer and the 0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:23.840 civilian are acting the same way and carrying on the 0:21:23.880 --> 0:21:27.200 same way and have the same attitude, and the civilian 0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:35.200 or the police officers responding to the civilian without the professionalism, 0:21:35.440 --> 0:21:37.440 then what the hell do we need the police officer? 0:21:37.680 --> 0:21:40.720 Officer for the point of having the police officers. You've 0:21:40.720 --> 0:21:43.159 been to the training, you have a weapon, you have 0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:46.879 a responsibility. So when you pull over a civilian who 0:21:47.280 --> 0:21:50.040 is late to work or not in the mood, or 0:21:50.080 --> 0:21:53.000