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Speaker 1: Lisa Lampinelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach.

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Speaker 1: She is a meddling advice giving yana and know it

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Speaker 1: all and her words come from her head, her heart,

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Speaker 1: and often out of her ass. This podcast should not

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Speaker 1: be misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a

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Speaker 1: huge strain of salt for entertainment purposes only.

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Speaker 2: These You need help, You're the problems.

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Speaker 3: Come on, come down.

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Speaker 2: Go lamb take a pill. I think you're insane. Do

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Speaker 2: what I say, dumb ass, listen to me. You Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's Lisa Lambinelli here. We're listening to Shrink This with

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Speaker 2: Lisa Lampinelli the podcast. We have no delusions about right neck,

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Speaker 2: that's right. We know we have four listeners and they're

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Speaker 2: all related to me and you, and we don't dilute

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Speaker 2: ourselves into thinking where big shots are famous.

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Speaker 3: We know Okay, I.

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Speaker 2: Know my level and I get it. Okay, you'll leave

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Speaker 2: this damn business called show and they forget gen they

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Speaker 2: replace you immediately. But I accept it, and that's okay.

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Speaker 2: But if you are listening, thanks for sticking with me.

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Speaker 2: And Who my co host who.

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Speaker 3: Nick on Instagram and tiktoks.

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Speaker 2: And read and Grinder.

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Speaker 4: Right, Celia, and only fans.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, only fans. I'm trying to think. He says he

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Speaker 2: has an enormous long I've never seen you.

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Speaker 3: Did you said you have people are advocated for me,

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Speaker 3: I have references.

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Speaker 2: Well, the thing is you've said it because I remember

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Speaker 2: debating you and our other two straight friends, Bo and Andrew,

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Speaker 2: and I bet. I had bet that Andrew is the

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Speaker 2: most endowed, but you three said you've compared them. So

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Speaker 2: if you did some pandemic texting of your thing, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it does take boredom to do that to other guys.

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Speaker 3: Bo vouched for me. He's my pr person.

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Speaker 2: But Bo's like an Irish donkey with a little.

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Speaker 3: Dick, got the Irish curse.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just saying and Ginsburg. Let's just leave it at

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Speaker 2: that now. But that reason why we bring up your

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Speaker 2: penis today is we're discussing the state of mind that

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Speaker 2: is delusional because I don't know, dude, I've been getting

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Speaker 2: so mad at people lately. First of all, let's just

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Speaker 2: admit Lisa Lampinelli, if you want some advice from her,

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Speaker 2: send us a LETOIR or maybe a carryer pigeon or

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Speaker 2: an email to shrink this show at gmail dot com

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Speaker 2: that shrink this show at gmail dot com, and we'll

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Speaker 2: try to help sort of and make fun of you probably,

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Speaker 2: let's be honest, but it's been I'm gonnap lately. That

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Speaker 2: has been really bothering me how difficult my life is

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Speaker 2: because I'm the smartest person I've ever met. Do you

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Speaker 2: know the burden of knowing more than everyone else in

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Speaker 2: your friend group? Because I can't be friends with my

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Speaker 2: age because they say things like, no, we've got a

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Speaker 2: nice group of cool gowns to get together. No, you're

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Speaker 2: sixty three sixty four like me, you are not. I

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Speaker 2: don't want to meet your cool goals. I want to

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Speaker 2: hang around with the thirty year olds and the forty

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Speaker 2: year olds because I'm mad cool or I'm I delusional,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but I don't care. So the problem

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Speaker 2: but and you definitely have more life experience. So I'm

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Speaker 2: forever confronted with people in my life and just in

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Speaker 2: the media who I feel are delusional and think they're

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Speaker 2: good enough at something that they should pursue it you're not,

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Speaker 2: or that their haircut makes them look better. It doesn't,

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Speaker 2: First of all, that haircut makes your face look even

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Speaker 2: fucking fatter. Second of all, you can't afford the trip,

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Speaker 2: you stupid cunt. You got nothing in the bank, But

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Speaker 2: you can't say this stuff. So every day I am

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Speaker 2: a heaping pile of steaming feelings and emotions. Mother's cut.

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Speaker 4: That's Dancing with the Star. So that's Dancing with the

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Speaker 2: Absolutely well, because that's where we get to my delusion,

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Speaker 2: So you know, we all have our delusions. Mine's harmless

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Speaker 2: real Italian. So, Nick, do you have delusional people in

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Speaker 2: by their delusions because I wasn't allowed to be delusional

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Speaker 2: as a kid. I wasn't allowed to be delusional and

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Speaker 2: think I was too much. Oh, don't get too big

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Speaker 2: for your breeches. Don't think you got anything special, whether

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Speaker 2: a young age that I'm like, no, I know my level.

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Speaker 2: I know like how unfamous or famous I am. I

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Speaker 2: know how what areas I have talent? And so I

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Speaker 2: am so judge you with people who I feel misjudged

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Speaker 3: I don't have anyone really in my life who is

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Speaker 3: that delusional? I think, I really don't. I The only

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Speaker 3: time I do, you know, I say I'm unbothered. The

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Speaker 3: only time I have gotten upset is with comedy. That's

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Speaker 3: it would stand up if it was like someone who's

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Speaker 3: Like that's that's where I get annoyed and get mad

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Speaker 3: and I take it all on, but outside of it,

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Speaker 3: I've almost it's not delusion. I've been the opposite in

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Speaker 3: my whole life of like just talking myself out of

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Speaker 2: Like, oh, I'm so, You're the opposite.

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Speaker 3: Complete opposite. And I have admired people who had the

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Speaker 3: I'll never forget this is when I was in high school.

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Speaker 3: I was like fourteen or fifteen. I met my good friend,

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Speaker 3: my now best friend, Anthony. Right, We're talking about football

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Speaker 3: and playing the sport whatever, and I mentioned a guy.

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Speaker 3: You guys won't know this, ray Lewis, and all the

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Speaker 3: gays and women listening, they won't understand. Okay, ray Lewis

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Speaker 2: Oh sounds hot, very hot, hot black man.

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Speaker 3: And I was talking to Anthony and he was I

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Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, he died though.

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Speaker 3: But he's like, no, I'll knock him out. That's what

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Speaker 3: so much like I'm like nervous about everything. I was like,

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Speaker 3: I admire this guy.

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Speaker 2: I do too, Like I admire it, but also I

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Speaker 2: I would be killed, but I'd still do it right.

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Speaker 2: But people who'll be like I could get like a

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Speaker 2: serve off of it. I could hit Serena's serve. No,

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Speaker 2: for tennis on this tennis scholarship. But there's no way

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Speaker 3: No, not, what was one hundred and twenty miles an hour?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So I was just like, eh, and it's just

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Speaker 2: like I don't. But here's my problem. The reason I

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm flaming inside. I'm just like, I don't

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Speaker 2: make me hate you by your unfounded belief in yourself. Yes,

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Speaker 2: you know, like, and then it bothers me actually makes

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Speaker 2: sign of somebody who has enormous talent but doesn't see it.

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Speaker 2: I get furious at them because I have some students

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Speaker 2: at the conservatory that I teach comedy to and they

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Speaker 2: have imposter syndrome, which, by the way, I can't relate

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Speaker 2: to at all. I always again, because I didn't believe

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Speaker 2: think I'm an imposter in the areas that I was

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Speaker 2: good at, and those areas are very small. They are

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Speaker 2: what do you call that? Parallel parking, stand up and

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Speaker 2: just driving. No, it's terrible. That not good and driving itself.

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Speaker 2: So if you have three Oh, I'm a good typist too.

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Speaker 2: I'm one hundred and two miles per minute whatever it is,

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Speaker 2: those four talents, I would not ever be an impostor.

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Speaker 2: I think I'm an impostor. Oh no, I can't type

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Speaker 2: that fast. Yeah he fucking can, clam I could squeeze

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Speaker 2: know you've witnessed my parking prowess.

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Speaker 3: Take a fuck it, we're doing it.

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Speaker 2: So I get annoyed with the people who have imposter

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Speaker 2: he's getting cast in every play is the lead. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: start believing yourself, you little homo. I don't even know

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Speaker 2: if he's slap your face, but yeah, I think that

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Speaker 2: it bothers me to an extraordinary degree. That's just too much.

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Speaker 2: It shouldn't. It should be like where my shrink is, Like,

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Speaker 2: you know, she's British, so she talks all classy, so

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Speaker 2: she's like, just notice when it's triggering you and look

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Speaker 2: very fluttery hands. So then just let it go. And

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Speaker 2: I just go, yeah, but how like what's the procedure

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Speaker 2: at me in a British voice but it's GLASSYU but like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: they like that word over there. I enjoy it, So

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Speaker 2: I don't know, it shouldn't bother me as much. But like,

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Speaker 2: also is their delusion. First of all, it all comes

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Speaker 2: from judgment, because I'm judging that they first of all,

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Speaker 2: are doing these things that they shouldn't believe in themselves for.

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Speaker 2: So if you're getting the haircut that will make your

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Speaker 2: face look thin, and you think it does, why do

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Speaker 2: I care? So judgment it's always bad. Like if somebody's

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Speaker 2: for like a big fiftieth anniversary and they can't afford it,

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Speaker 2: why do I care? It's because I'm it. I think

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Speaker 2: it all starts because I'm just very judgy, and wee're

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Speaker 2: judgy bitch. You know that's it's funny on stage, But

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Speaker 2: in real life it's not cool to like shake someone,

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Speaker 2: take them by the shoulders and slap them silly and

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Speaker 2: go you delusional twat you don't have a pot to

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Speaker 2: piss in, or stupid bitch, you just wasted two hundred

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Speaker 2: dollars on that haircut and you look like fucking Shaggy

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Speaker 2: from Scooby Doo but fat Like stop, Yeah, Like I

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Speaker 2: wonder why the judgment. It's just I have. That's my

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a god like would be great. I I thought

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Speaker 2: You know, nick, I really can. Girl. Me and Cynthia

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Speaker 2: I hope, I'm glad you think so? They see right through.

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Speaker 2: because I said to her she looks nice today. She

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Speaker 2: Then why are you delusional enough that you're that you

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Speaker 4: No, that's not it. I just can't find any that

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Speaker 2: But then nothing's ever gonna fit anyone perfectly. You've got

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't want to. I don't want to waste

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Speaker 2: They're not good quality. I am so on your side

428
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:26,159
Speaker 2: about that. It does. He's in between yah. Yeah. But

429
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:29,160
Speaker 2: my favorite was when Nick, that fat bastard, he says

430
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 2: to me last week, you want to buy my Bloomingdale's

431
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 2: gift code off of me? None of the clothes fit,

432
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'll buy that ship from you. I'll

433
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 2: go to bloomingdale.

434
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 3: I was trying on clothes and I.

435
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:45,160
Speaker 2: Was like, it's just Bloomingdale's is for a slim fit

436
00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:47,920
Speaker 2: and all that for men. But you're You're a guy

437
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 2: who's a trainer in quotes, you have musculature.

438
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:53,880
Speaker 3: I do.

439
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,880
Speaker 2: So that's why it's not gonna you know, the I'm.

440
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 3: Gonna go buy those bar Bell jeans at that hot

441
00:23:58,720 --> 00:23:59,439
Speaker 3: black guy you know.

442
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, they're not in advertisers. I don't mention them.

443
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:04,159
Speaker 2: Not for us me.

444
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:11,239
Speaker 3: They are because I'm famous.

445
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 2: We're talking about being delusional. Nick just said he's famous,

446
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 2: which is a great intro to that. Nick, go ahead,

447
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 2: who do we hear from this week?

448
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 3: All right?

449
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 2: And by the way, if you have a question, email

450
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 2: to shrink this show at gmail dot com.

451
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 3: How should I read this with the voice?

452
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think you should just improvise it

453
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 2: as you go along.

454
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,720
Speaker 3: This guy's name is Mike, so we'll figure it out.

455
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 3: I can't believe, or Lisa, I can't believe I'm actually

456
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 3: writing to you.

457
00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:46,480
Speaker 2: I can't either the audacity. See white straight men, they've

458
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: got the fucking audacity.

459
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,719
Speaker 3: These fuckers. God, I wish you would it were for

460
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 3: something normal, But here we are. My name is Mike,

461
00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 3: I'm thirty seven, and I live in Tampa.

462
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 2: Florida with my wife Tampalm.

463
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 3: Should I say my influencer?

464
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 2: Oh? Eve, is everyone an influencer? Money?

465
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 3: I want to stop reading this letter, but anyway, I

466
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:10,719
Speaker 3: hate her. She's convinced she's going to be an influencer.

467
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, let me post cute outfits on Instagram. Influencer.

468
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 3: More like, I'm quitting my job to be a full

469
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:24,000
Speaker 3: time content creator influencer. She's got three hundred and twelve fars.

470
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 2: Oh that's worse than Nick.

471
00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 3: Put a perfect number, and half of them are pots.

472
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 3: She spends hours all caps taking selfies, filming makeup tutorials

473
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,160
Speaker 3: that nobody watches, and talking about how brands are going

474
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 3: to start reaching out any day now. Meanwhile, I'm the

475
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 3: one paying the rent. I don't want to crush her jeams.

476
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 3: But at what point do I sit her down and

477
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 3: give her reality check or do I just let her

478
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 3: ride this out until reality smacks are in the face,

479
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 3: or you will Mike help.

480
00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 2: Well, here's the deal. I had an idea for a

481
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 2: TV show years ago that I think is still a

482
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 2: great idea. No one ever, I don't even think I

483
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:09,959
Speaker 2: pitched it, but it's such a good idea. It was

484
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 2: called dream Killer, and it was where I would go

485
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:19,880
Speaker 2: and I would listen to comics, singers, watch dancers, actors.

486
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 2: In the first fifteen minutes of the show would be

487
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 2: you kill their dream. You tell them you're awful, You're

488
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 2: not going to make it. But the good news is

489
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,879
Speaker 2: the show is about helping you find what your real

490
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:36,920
Speaker 2: dream is and finding that and so digging deep finding

491
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 2: what They would get the same kind of emotional hit

492
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 2: off what they did were doing, but it was really

493
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 2: something they were good at. So this bitch needs dream Killer.

494
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 2: I think that's a great show idea.

495
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 3: Ye, it's great. I think it's about how you and

496
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 3: I met pretty much pretty much.

497
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 2: So she is delusional, but there are ways he can help,

498
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 2: I think, but not in the codependent pay for her

499
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:05,679
Speaker 2: forever a way, because I don't think that's healthy. I

500
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 2: don't mind if a broad's making money, but it should

501
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:13,159
Speaker 2: be equal, you know. So here's what I feel. He

502
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 2: could kindly say, Look, they're social media experts out there.

503
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 2: Let me buy you for your birthday a seminar for

504
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 2: six months of coaching with a social media person who

505
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 2: will really help you have this thing take off, because

506
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 2: quote brands don't just find you like, that's not a thing.

507
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 2: You're not on TV. They didn't see you hosting the

508
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 2: fucking Critics Choice and go, oh my god, I need

509
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 2: her for my makeup line. The bitch has three hundred

510
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 2: twelve followers who aren't real. So I think there's a

511
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 2: way you can support the dream to an extent that

512
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: you won't resent that person later. But if he keeps

513
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 2: paying for everything, I mean, I don't care how rich

514
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 2: I am. I would not want to support anyone fully

515
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 2: unless they're under eighteen. Yeah what do you think?

516
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 3: Yeah that's true. Children can have dreams.

517
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's kill them after eighteen, not the dreams, the children.

518
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 2: Let's just kill the children.

519
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 3: Yeah on the head.

520
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, all done.

521
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 3: But uh, this is tough because it's your it's your wife,

522
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 3: it's a romantic partner.

523
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 2: See, I forget that part. I'm just like about being

524
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:23,639
Speaker 2: real with everybody.

525
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 3: No, like I get it, but like this is a

526
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 3: guy who asked it, like he's.

527
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 2: You've got to try and get his dick quid every

528
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 2: now and again.

529
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like, but isn't that.

530
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 2: Even more of a reason to be like honey? I mean, okay,

531
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 2: would you Celia, you're delusional? Can I ask you that?

532
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 2: Tell me if this would offend you? Honey? Oh my god,

533
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 2: I see how much you love, you know, growing your

534
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 2: following and taking pictures and posting videos. I think you

535
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 2: have a really knack for it, But I think you

536
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 2: can only get so far by doing it on your own.

537
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 2: I think what would you say if kind of we

538
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 2: got a little help and help, But you need to

539
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 2: have it take off because I don't think brand I've

540
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 2: been doing some reading and doesn't seem like brands just

541
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 2: find you. You have to sort of put yourself out there,

542
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 2: So why don't we get you some tools to do

543
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 2: that most effectively?

544
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 4: I think that's the best way to handle it.

545
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 2: Especially you were supposed to play act as the wife.

546
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: Oh you were supposed to get a cute voice on

547
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:19,959
Speaker 2: and just be like, oh my man, honey, yes, let

548
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 2: me gobble your knob. But you know something like that.

549
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 2: I mean, but no, okay, Nick takeover, you're the life. No,

550
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: but Celia, it is that offensive. I think that's really loving.

551
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 4: I think it would be easy to take anything as

552
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 4: offensive that isn't support or maybe I'm just really sensitive.

553
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 2: No, no, no, you're right, and those bitches have to

554
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 2: be checked. Yeah, because they were brought up in that

555
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 2: world of the you're so delicate and you can't handle anything,

556
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 2: and it's not doing them any favors because life is

557
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: eventually going to hand you something you have to handle.

558
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 4: And something way bigger too.

559
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 2: It's going to be a death, it's going to be

560
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 2: somebody to get sick. It's going to be having to

561
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 2: date a nick. I mean, life is not kind to do.

562
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's I think if someone's that sensitive, that's

563
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 2: the thing to look at. It's like, wow, if you're

564
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 2: taking offense at me offering to help you with this,

565
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 2: then why don't we talk about that?

566
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 4: And also the bar is like in hell for men,

567
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 4: So the fact that he's willing to help like that,

568
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 4: that shows a lot. I think most husbands these days

569
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 4: would probably just like go off on them and then

570
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 4: say good red ends.

571
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I mean I I think also you have

572
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 2: to in your heart believe the person who you're dealing

573
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 2: with has something to offer, you know, Like I remember

574
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 2: when my niece started her podcast, and again like they

575
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 2: weren't spending any money. They had like forty dollars microphones.

576
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 2: They were just doing it for fun. But I think

577
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 2: like she was a graduate from I think she had

578
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 2: masters from BU and TV writing. She already knew how

579
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 2: to do improv and she funny, and so it was like, oh,

580
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 2: no risk, let's see if it takes off. But I

581
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 2: think if her husband had not seen a little of

582
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: the ability, he would have been like, oh, you know,

583
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 2: it's a cute hobby, which I get. I don't mind

584
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 2: people having cute hobbies. I love somebody has a hobby

585
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 2: like knit, Why don't you go knit? Be a knitter?

586
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 2: That's what I think. Maybe we should call her and

587
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 2: say just nit bitch, Yeah what no? So I think

588
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 2: that you're right. The thing that has to be addressed

589
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 2: first is like, WHOA, you're taking offense me trying to

590
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 2: give you a gift of help. That's maybe you got

591
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 2: to look inside at how delicate your nervous system is

592
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 2: that you can't even handle like that. You don't know everything.

593
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 4: Yet, And at that point that could just be like insecurity,

594
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 4: being like I can't do this either, like right, projecting right.

595
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 4: If you get mad at someone for telling like trying

596
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 4: to help you, that just means you don't think.

597
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 2: You can do it yourself, that's true, and honestly, who

598
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 2: can really do all of it by themselves? He gets

599
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 2: to a certain point where you're like, like, even I

600
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: saw this girl I follow as a social media consultant,

601
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 2: like she teach how a girl following. I've never cared

602
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 2: about social media because I'm just not in that world,

603
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 2: but partly was like at my age, I would like

604
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 2: learn that. Yeah, like what would I be like, Oh no,

605
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 2: I know it all. I don't know shit.

606
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

607
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 2: The only I'm never taking advice on is comedy and

608
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 2: parallel parking. Nobody can do that like I can. All right,

609
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 2: so listen, what's his name? Mike?

610
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 3: Mike?

611
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 2: Tell your wife you'll help her, but stop paying all

612
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 2: the bills and if she doesn't kick the clamout. I

613
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 2: think that's what Sylia says to all right, what's the

614
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 2: next letter.

615
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 3: Dear Lisa. My friend just turned fifty, and he told

616
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 3: me that he's going to return to acting, oh boy,

617
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:53,479
Speaker 3: after they're taking fifteen years off. But this time, he

618
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 3: says he's going to become the star he always knew.

619
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, because so many stars blossom at fifty.

620
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 3: He's getting new headshots.

621
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 2: Oh.

622
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:05,239
Speaker 3: He signed up for acting classes and asked me if

623
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 3: I knew any agents. Oh boy, when he was an actor,

624
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 3: he did mostly extra work and there's nothing special about him.

625
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 3: Do I tell him? I think he's wasting his time

626
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 3: and money. Thanks Rob from New York.

627
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 2: Let's just put it this way, Rob, your butt banded buddy. Yeah,

628
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:26,400
Speaker 2: those shots he's getting better be shots of him given

629
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 2: head because that's the only way he's making money. No,

630
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 2: that's a rough one, because the fifty year old actor.

631
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 2: I have actually met people who after retirement decided to

632
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 2: act and then they get like all these commercials because

633
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 2: they're real people, they look real, they're older, they're playing

634
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 2: parts in plays that like somebody over fifty plays, So

635
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 2: it does happen like you can work. But the thing

636
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 2: that alarms me in this is the become quote the

637
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 2: star that he's meant to be. I can't. I think

638
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 2: that's delusion. Just knowing how many people had their big

639
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 2: break at over fifty, there's like three, and it probably

640
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 2: isn't going to be him if all he'd done was

641
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,279
Speaker 2: his extra work. I think it's great to have it

642
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 2: the beginner's mind of like, hey, I'm going to learn

643
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 2: more acting and like you said, he's going to go

644
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 2: to classes, get headshots. The asking for the agent early

645
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 2: is what tips me off too, because you shouldn't have

646
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 2: an I always said people go like, uh, I need

647
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 2: a manager, and I'd be like, un till you have

648
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:30,360
Speaker 2: a career to manage. You don't need a manager, like

649
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,320
Speaker 2: you need the career first. So that may have changed.

650
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,360
Speaker 2: I don't know a lot of my students already have

651
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 2: at agents. But also they've been dancing and singing since

652
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 2: they're three. Yeah, so I kind of get like seventeen

653
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 2: years okay, whatever, But dude, someone who makes it out

654
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 2: that their goal is to be a star versus learn

655
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 2: acting and be their best, that that worries me.

656
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:58,239
Speaker 3: Yeah. Two questions. One, when do you think I should

657
00:34:58,239 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 3: get a manager?

658
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 2: Ah?

659
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 3: Never? I know a good one. She's cute, shut up.

660
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:09,280
Speaker 3: And two, I want to know what this guy's going

661
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 3: through that at fifty, like, what did this sweat? There's

662
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 3: a divorce? Did something switch? Like what happened? We'll see

663
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 3: our backstory.

664
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 2: Well, as someone who's done late in life changes, I

665
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 2: think there's nothing wrong with that, just because I don't worry.

666
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 2: I didn't. I noticed when you said that Celia dish

667
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 2: her little I'm twenty two. That ridiculous to change it fifty. No,

668
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: I know you did. I don't know.

669
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 4: Mid life crisis.

670
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 2: No, there's no. Mid prices is way earlier than that.

671
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 2: Trust me. These men, that's like a forty that's when

672
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 2: the midlife crisis comes in. Sorry, so are.

673
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 4: You to find like a forty five year old man?

674
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 2: I don't think this is about dating the undateable? Can

675
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 2: we just what time? Idea? All right, turn off the microphone?

676
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 3: Body issues will be next week?

677
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,879
Speaker 2: Yeah? No, But seriously, I think I don't think there's

678
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 2: anything wrong with noticing what comes up and that oh wow,

679
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 2: acting always did appeal to me. That sounds cute. It's

680
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 2: sounding cute, and doing it is nice to me. But

681
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 2: the I'm going to be the star that I always

682
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 2: thought I should be bring Nathan Lane from from Birdcage.

683
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 2: You know vibe. Oh I never made it. You were

684
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 2: always holding me back. I gave you the best. So

685
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 2: I think I don't think his friend has to say

686
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 2: anything to him. And again, this is the advice I

687
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 2: need to always take because what is the end? He said,

688
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:42,240
Speaker 2: Should I tell him should.

689
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,720
Speaker 3: Crush he's wasting his time and money?

690
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 2: No, because I think you those are the ones you

691
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 2: have to let burn. If he was risking his whole

692
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 2: life savings. If he goes, look, I've decided. And by

693
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:56,839
Speaker 2: the way, I was gonna say, apply to the Ale

694
00:36:56,880 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 2: School of Drama and or Juliard. He's not getting in anyway,

695
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 2: but say he was like, I'm applying to Joe Smith.

696
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 2: Is Smithy's Joe Smith. He's acting club and it costs

697
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 2: me five hundred thousand dollars and that's all the money

698
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 2: he has. Then a friend I think would step in

699
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 2: and go, dude, how about we take it slow, stick

700
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 2: the tip in as I always say, and just be like,

701
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 2: am I right so? And just take maybe one acting class.

702
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 2: So I think it's cute to like discover hobbies and

703
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:29,240
Speaker 2: things like later and who knows it could take off

704
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,399
Speaker 2: and maybe he wasn't at twenty when he was getting

705
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,840
Speaker 2: extra work, kind of fully realized as a human, and

706
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 2: now he can actually act, I think his friend. Unless

707
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 2: he's spending a huge amount of money and threatening his

708
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 2: own lifestyle and he's going to lose his house. Let

709
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 2: him tak the class, let him get the dumb shots

710
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 2: of him blowing people. But also when he asks about agents,

711
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 2: that's the that's the point where you can have the

712
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 2: tiny kind voice of reason just go, hey, maybe it's

713
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 2: a little soon for that. I hear people get that

714
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:05,400
Speaker 2: when they're like five years in, So monny, let's just

715
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 2: wait on that. Like that could be I don't think

716
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 2: that's offensive, Like Celia, as an a former actress yourself,

717
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 2: would you take it? Would you take offense if somebody

718
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 2: said maybe it's too soon to think about whatever insert

719
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 2: action step here.

720
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 4: No, because that like that I need someone to tell

721
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 4: me that, Yeah, okay, yeah, that's not offensive to me.

722
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, because a lot of the times I think to myself,

723
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:34,720
Speaker 2: you know, I'd make a fucking great mentor of people

724
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 2: going up in this business because I'd be able to

725
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 2: be like, oh, by the way, you know, I think

726
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 2: that would come later it's not judgy. So I just

727
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 2: think like kind of learn from the people's experience who

728
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 2: have had these experiences and be like, okay, so a

729
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 2: couple of years.

730
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why people network, like right out of college,

731
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 4: because you're trying to talk to people who do what

732
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 4: you want to do or have been doing what you

733
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 4: want to do for a really long time time. Because

734
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 4: that's like where you go for advice. There are people

735
00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 4: who have done what you what you want to do before.

736
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 2: Because you can't listen to somebody who hasn't walked in

737
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 2: those shoes already. Like, no one's gonna believe me that

738
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 2: fame is bullshit and solves doesn't solve your problems. Uh

739
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 2: if I'm not famous at some point, you know what

740
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:23,840
Speaker 2: I mean. So it's theoretical advice versus real world advice.

741
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 2: So I think, with this guy I don't know, let

742
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 2: him go, let him not spend his entire savings on

743
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 2: the thing, let him have his little dream. And we

744
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:36,319
Speaker 2: all know in our hearts he's what we call a

745
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 2: loser with a dream. Been there, Yeah, you sure are

746
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 2: all right.

747
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 3: Our next letter, Dear Lisa.

748
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 2: Oh it sounds good.

749
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 3: My friend Ian is fat and ugly, but he has

750
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:54,280
Speaker 3: money and only day women if she's.

751
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 2: A nine or a oh no, no no, wh.

752
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:03,600
Speaker 3: Not surprising. He's been single forever. I think he should

753
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 3: lower his standards. Should I tell him that or let

754
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 3: him figure it on his own? Billy from Milwaukee with.

755
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 2: Canty Okay, First of all, the Home of Phonsie. We

756
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: think we've talked about the story. I will say we

757
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 2: got a lot of They should stop listening to us

758
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 2: in Milwaukee. That's all I have said. I think what

759
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 2: I don't like about this is Ian's not doing this

760
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 2: because he has high standards and looks. He's doing this

761
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 2: to fulfill being uncomfortable with intimacy and wanting to stay alone.

762
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:40,800
Speaker 2: He basically knows that if he shoots after some girl

763
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,280
Speaker 2: who's like a ten and he's like a two point three,

764
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 2: then he's never gonna have to really expose who he

765
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 2: is and be intimate and can just stay safe in

766
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 2: his little fat bubble for the rest of his life.

767
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 2: And from what his best friend sounds like his fat

768
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 2: and ugly bubble. Again, I don't feel the guys dating

769
00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 2: trying to date tens for the right reason.

770
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 3: He's not figuring out anything that's.

771
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 2: The thing he's never figuring out on his own. I

772
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:09,879
Speaker 2: think there's a gentle way to say this, but I'm

773
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 2: not a guy technically, just emotionally. Nick. If there's a

774
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 2: guy friend that's this delusional and this blocked and stuck,

775
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:25,319
Speaker 2: because that's really what it is. Our guys the type

776
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 2: who would just be like, dude, look at you. You're

777
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 2: a fucking oh really so you'd say you're a fucking

778
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 2: friend group.

779
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 3: I mean, everyone's honest as fuck, Dude. I'll say things

780
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 3: and make jokes and vice versa, and I'm like, well,

781
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 3: we'll be like, but really you think that's you think

782
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 3: that's why this is happening. We know why, right? You

783
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 3: know what I mean? Like, yeah, we don't pull Guys

784
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: don't pull punches really.

785
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 2: So maybe he should just use the man card then

786
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 2: and be like, hey, you know what, dude, I get

787
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 2: having high standards. We all want to be attractive and

788
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 2: attracted to someone, but you're a six, Like, be nice.

789
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: We know he's a two point three, you're six, and

790
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 2: you're shooting for tens and that's just not fair to

791
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 2: them or to you. So what are you going to

792
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 2: do about it?

793
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 3: Right?

794
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 4: Like? That?

795
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:11,399
Speaker 2: Would that be well received by a man.

796
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 3: Do you think one percent if it's not well received,

797
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:16,240
Speaker 3: he's clearly he's insecure. But if it's not well received,

798
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:17,720
Speaker 3: then I guess you guys weren't that good of friends

799
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 3: to begin with. That's true, because guys are We're so

800
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 3: direct with each other. I mean, this is this is

801
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 3: a kind of a bad example because we were much younger.

802
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 3: But like, I've gotten into physical altercations with friends in

803
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 3: high school and ten minutes later you're like, hey, man,

804
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, like you just punched each other in the face.

805
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what would happen if this guy went home

806
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 2: and killed himself. No, don't worry. Like, would you be like,

807
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 2: oh my god, it's my fault.

808
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 3: I'd probably for a little bit, But then I'd be like,

809
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 3: if that's what sent him over.

810
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 2: Then it's not just you.

811
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

812
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean the fact is, I think this guy

813
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 2: knows exactly what he's doing and he's getting exactly what

814
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 2: he wants, which is fear of intimacy will never be

815
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:07,240
Speaker 2: shattered for him, and kind of he's just living life

816
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 2: like he thinks he deserves.

817
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've done it on a much smaller, fat or

818
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 3: less uglier skip. Sure, Well, like you you, you are yourself.

819
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:19,759
Speaker 3: It's your self prophecy of like, I'm gonna date this

820
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 3: girl and I know she's not right for me. I

821
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 3: like the way she looks and it feels certain things

822
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:26,239
Speaker 3: for me, but I'm just gonna do it because it

823
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:28,320
Speaker 3: makes me right. Look and I and then I'm like,

824
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 3: see it didn't work out.

825
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so we get to have you. You knew,

826
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 2: I know, I know, all right, So I say, you

827
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 2: know what I think you should do? Just not be

828
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 2: friends with him anymore, because really should he be friends

829
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 2: with this guy? The guy sounds nuts.

830
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 3: Talk to him and that thing. I gets it. He's

831
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 3: a little pussy about it, and move on.

832
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 2: Well, manly advice from someone even more manly than me.

833
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 2: Thank you.

834
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 3: I was a straight guy in me coming out. Shut up.

835
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:53,320
Speaker 2: That was Barry's strength.

836
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 3: Good for you one more so. Heys a big fan

837
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,360
Speaker 3: and professional cringe witness.

838
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I don't even know what that is, but

839
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 2: I like it.

840
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 3: It sounds like a spinoff of long or Restue, Yes,

841
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 3: which I love. Here's the deal. I work in marketing

842
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,959
Speaker 3: and my coworker, Todd, of course his name is Todd,

843
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 3: is delusional about becoming a stand up comedian.

844
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 2: Oh god, why does everybody have a stand up question?

845
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 3: I'm mad. Yesterday, during a serious Zoom meeting about layoffs,

846
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 3: Todd decides it's the perfect time crack a joke. I

847
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 3: kind of respect the guy for this. Guys, I guess

848
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 3: I'll have to start charging for my jokes. Oh boy,

849
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 3: anyone want to venmo me? Lisa is all caps dead

850
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 3: fucking silence. One client straight up left the call, which

851
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:48,960
Speaker 3: is great.

852
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:51,280
Speaker 2: It's her favorite sentence in the world.

853
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 3: Dad later tells me, I think I really likened the movie.

854
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 2: Oh no, no no.

855
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 3: And now he's talking about quitting his job to do

856
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 3: comedy full time. Do I tell him he's a to

857
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 3: ruin his life or just let him crash and burn?

858
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 3: Help Ethan Chicago.

859
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 2: I think he should let him crash and burn, because

860
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 2: watching comic who believes himself believes in himself undeservedly is

861
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 2: hysterical and that he will end up on drugs and

862
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,720
Speaker 2: the alcohol, but then end up in like an AA

863
00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,839
Speaker 2: meeting and become a speaker at the meetings and start

864
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 2: to make people laugh. So either way, it's going to

865
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 2: be like a funny outcome. But like I'd rather he

866
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 2: quit than stay on at the company, and then I

867
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,919
Speaker 2: would have to suffer through him in these Zoom meetings. Dude,

868
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 2: Todd's needs to be put out of his misery.

869
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 3: Shoot him in the street.

870
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 2: I'm like, I just don't like it. I don't Also, like,

871
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 2: how does somebody Have you ever had that too? Where

872
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:48,720
Speaker 2: you observe someone not doing well on stage like Todd

873
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 2: clearly bombed in the Zoom and like they come off

874
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 2: and they think they did well.

875
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 3: Have you ever seen that?

876
00:45:57,920 --> 00:45:58,280
Speaker 2: Awful?

877
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 3: The thing that drives me the most is like everyone

878
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 3: does their thing and you come off stage and whatever,

879
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 3: it's good or it's whatever. No one really cares. Right

880
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:10,799
Speaker 3: amongst comics, at least right, the worst type of guy

881
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,400
Speaker 3: is someone who goes up there, doesn't do well and

882
00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 3: then has to do like a post game breakdown with

883
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 3: you of why things didn't go well, of like he

884
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 3: becomes a sports analyst and he's like, you know that

885
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,399
Speaker 3: other joke, I really used to do this punch, They

886
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:27,320
Speaker 3: explain to you why he did poorly.

887
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, but at least he's admitting he did poorly.

888
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,360
Speaker 3: Right, But even some of the stuff where he's like,

889
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 3: I feel like that did really well and I'd like,

890
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 3: I don't think it did, think it did?

891
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 2: You know what I used to do When people do that,

892
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 2: I'd go, were we were you in the room? Yeah,

893
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 2: because I didn't hear shit, like I didn't hear any

894
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 2: laughter coming out of that audience, So that, to me,

895
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 2: that delusion is rough.

896
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 3: Can I tell you this is this is fun. It's

897
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 3: one of the funnier moments for me. Between we talk

898
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 3: about our friend Bo. We were coming out of the pandemic,

899
00:46:57,000 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 3: no one had done comedy for five months, and Oh

900
00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 3: at the time was beyond delusional about his everything. Right.

901
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:08,240
Speaker 3: He was four hundred pounds and like, dude, chicks, chicks

902
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 3: loved me like. He was like, I don't know these girls.

903
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 3: She's kind of fat. I'm like, you're a Normanus, right

904
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 3: he was, Yeah, yeah, right. He texted me the night

905
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 3: before like one of our first shows coming out of

906
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 3: the pandemic. He goes, I wrote forty five minutes of

907
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,919
Speaker 3: new ship, all girl, all new It's gonna be great.

908
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 3: In my head, I go, how does he know it's

909
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 3: gonna do well? Like an audience he went up and

910
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:35,839
Speaker 3: ate o'cock and I fucking laughed so hard that he

911
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 3: came off stage. He was like, well, I was like, yeah, man, yeah,

912
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:40,880
Speaker 3: how dare you have delusion?

913
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 2: I know, I know it was one of.

914
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 3: The fuck it's warms my heart thinking about it.

915
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 2: But I mean there's one thing I don't only I

916
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:51,799
Speaker 2: don't mind that as much because he's delusional, but he

917
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 2: learned his lesson. Yeah, at least he tried something.

918
00:47:54,640 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 3: Yeah exactly.

919
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 2: But the ones who freaking come off and think they

920
00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 2: killed and they did, like Todd on the Zoom or

921
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 2: the ones who, by the way, they come off, they bomb,

922
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 2: they bomb, they come off and then they're like that

923
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 2: audience sucked. It's like, no, you sucked. How come they

924
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:15,800
Speaker 2: laughed at everybody else? So, like, I that's a delusion

925
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,839
Speaker 2: to me. It's like not taking ownership that it's your fault.

926
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:20,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've seen I mean we I think we saw.

927
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,440
Speaker 3: We saw some guy eat a dick on stage and

928
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:26,920
Speaker 3: he was waiting after and like handing out his card

929
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 3: like all right, well, I mean.

930
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 2: Balls, that's guts, Like I couldn't face someone. No, no, Well,

931
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,479
Speaker 2: we're more realistic. We get our level, we get what's

932
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 2: going on, we know what's happening. We know we pretty

933
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 2: much tricked Elvis durant, and it's giving us a show,

934
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 2: like basically, we know, we know, So what was what

935
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:50,320
Speaker 2: do you want to know? Should he shatter his dreams?

936
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:51,280
Speaker 3: Should he tell him?

937
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 2: Now he's a coworker. Co workers aren't friends, He's not

938
00:48:56,080 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 2: going to listen. And also again I think unless the

939
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 2: steaks are enormously dangerous of where you're like, oh my god,

940
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 2: like this guy is going to lose the house, I say,

941
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 2: just on him fucking learn because ps they're gonna learn eventually. Anyway,

942
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 2: they have to learn because the audience will tell you

943
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:18,760
Speaker 2: how fucking horrible you are. Todd, no offense, Todd, fuck.

944
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 3: You, Todd. Yeah, unless I'm gonna kill you.

945
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 2: I hate him so much. Oh my god, this has

946
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 2: been good. Nack, what do you think do you think

947
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 2: we've helped at least one of the four people today?

948
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 3: I think we've helped everyone, especially.

949
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 2: Our see how delusional he is. See Celia, do you

950
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 2: feel helped?

951
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 4: No?

952
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 2: She doesn't see this is her problem. This is the problem.

953
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 2: She feeds into our delusion by agreeing with us. So

954
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:59,720
Speaker 2: you're helping no one, Celia. You button push him Todd.

955
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 4: In turn, we are all helping each other.

956
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 3: I mean, I grow up.

957
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:10,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god, we're going too long. I love that

958
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 2: weird delusion enough to think this podcast is always going

959
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:16,719
Speaker 2: to be forty three minutes. I don't care. I don't care.

960
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 2: Everybody's thrilled with it. That drilled. They're gonna be listen

961
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:21,040
Speaker 2: for an.

962
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 3: Hour and so followers because of this podcast.

963
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 2: I have three hundred and twelve top Tampa, Florida. It

964
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 2: used to be called the Lease's Fuck Up Time, but

965
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 2: since I'm inarguably perfect delusional, then we just switched it

966
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 2: till we're just saying goodbye. So seriously, send us a letter.

967
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 2: We'd love to help you. And I think we've killed

968
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:43,839
Speaker 2: it today. What do you think? Nick?

969
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 3: I think pretty good?

970
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 2: Use you you really aren't. That's good you keep me

971
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:54,000
Speaker 2: in check. Swaitey. Yeah, so once again you can find

972
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 2: me on Instagram at least lambinelli. Nick, Where can they

973
00:50:58,360 --> 00:50:58,799
Speaker 2: find you?

974
00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 3: Nick? Gobes like the mouthwash yes.

975
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 2: With an on the end, make sense, just like I

976
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:13,760
Speaker 2: don't say that and Nick scopes on all the applications

977
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 2: and Nick uh tell us what you need to tell us.

978
00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 3: All right, listen, guys, thanks for listening.

979
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 2: Be sure the least sincere. Thank you every single week.

980
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 2: It's like, remember that guy who said he's fifty year

981
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 2: old and he's going to be a star. That's not you.

982
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:36,120
Speaker 2: Just like, hey, thanks for listening. Man, like, put a

983
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:38,880
Speaker 2: little it, put a little gis on it.

984
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:43,799
Speaker 3: Thanks for listening. Guys, be sure.

985
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 2: God it's a commercial. Okay, no, thanks, glad you didn't listen.

986
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 3: Go ahead, thanks for listening.

987
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 2: We hate you. Don't listen anymore.

988
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:02,920
Speaker 3: Your question at Shrink This Show at gmail dot com.

989
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:07,319
Speaker 3: That is shrink this Show at gmail dot com. Make

990
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 3: sure to follow me on socialism. By me, I mean

991
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 3: Lisa Lampinelli. Yeah, we already said that in Nick Scopes

992
00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 3: on Instagram. And make sure to listen to the Shrink

993
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:18,880
Speaker 3: This to Shrink This on your iHeartRadio app or wherever

994
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:20,960
Speaker 3: the hell we get the podcast.

995
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 2: So listen accept the iHeartRadio app. That's the one that

996
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:26,719
Speaker 2: rules is bo