1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: It is time now for the Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:11,039 Speaker 1: please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot 4 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: com by clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading 5 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now, and you never know, 7 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:23,960 Speaker 1: it could be yours. It could be yours. Buckle up 8 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:26,279 Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here. 9 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject what does 10 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: she have that I don't? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm married 11 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: to a man that is three years my senior, and 12 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 1: he is causing me so much anxiety. His first wife 13 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: is a big girl, and the woman he dated after 14 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: his divorce was thick too. When we met, he called 15 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: me nicknames like little bit and tiny Todd, So I 16 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: asked him if he had a problem with my size. 17 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: I'm five to three and I have a tiny frame, 18 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: but everything is proportionate. He has been making me feel 19 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: like I'm not thick enough. His ex wife is still 20 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 1: a big part of his life. They grew up together 21 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: and she's very close to his mother too. We can 22 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: be having dinner at his mother's house and the ex 23 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: wife will pop in to say hello. It was fine 24 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: at first, but now it's giving me a lot of 25 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 1: anxiety because I think my husband is secretly having an 26 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: affair with her. I overheard him and his cousin talking 27 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 1: about how his ex wife is controlling and lazy. Then 28 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: my husband said that there was something that always kept 29 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 1: him coming back to her for years. What is it 30 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 1: that kept him going back? What does she have that 31 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:42,559 Speaker 1: I don't. I own a creative dance studio and I'm 32 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: at home. I'm a home health nurse part time. When 33 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: we got married, he told me that he would support 34 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: me leaving nursing altogether so I could focus on my 35 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 1: dance studio. That has not happened. Instead, he paid off 36 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: the car that he bought his ex wife before theirs, 37 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 1: He said he owed her that I take great care 38 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: of my man, and sex used to be great between us, 39 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:11,359 Speaker 1: but now he rations it out to me. He has 40 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: told me I need a little more cushion for the pushing, 41 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 1: and I'm sure that means that my booty is too 42 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: small for him. I blame all of this on his 43 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:29,239 Speaker 1: big boned X. What does this chick have that I don't. Well, 44 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: I guess booty for one. But I think your husband 45 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: needs to stop making you feel some kind of way 46 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 1: because he prefers big boned or curvy women. You're you, 47 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 1: and by the way, you sound like you have a 48 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: you know, a petite, cute, little body, tight dancers type body. 49 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: There are a lot of men who would find you 50 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: super attractive, you know, So please stop comparing yourself to 51 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,520 Speaker 1: his ex wife and do not change or blame yourself 52 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: for who you are. People come in all all different 53 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,079 Speaker 1: shapes and sizes. We know that because that's the way 54 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: God made us. It's not you, it's your husband. If 55 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: he is cheating with his ex like you think he is, 56 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: then that's on him, it's not on you. So again, 57 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: please don't blame yourself. The ex knows exactly what she's doing. 58 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 1: She's being messy. She just happens to drop by when 59 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: you guys are at his mom's for dinner. Oh really, 60 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 1: it's disrespectful to your marriage and it's disrespectful to you. 61 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: Your husband and his mother could make her stop if 62 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: they wanted to, and he should care about how it 63 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: makes you feel, but he doesn't. And the fact that 64 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: he paid her car off and said he owed her that. 65 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: Why does he owe her that? And now he's rationing 66 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: out sex to you? Who does he think he is? 67 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: I think you need to think about if you still 68 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: want to be married to a man you feel is 69 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: cheating on you with his ex. I think it's time 70 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: for you to let him know that you feel you 71 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: know how you feel about sis A big bone, That's 72 00:03:55,560 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: what I think, Steve Wow, Well, well, the subject of 73 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 1: the letters, what does she have that I don't? I 74 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: think we are to just answer that question to get 75 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: on with this letter because it's filled with what she 76 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: got that you don't. I'm gonna read it to you. 77 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: Can you tell me what you think she got that 78 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: you don't have. His first wife is a big girl, 79 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: and the woman he dated after his divorce was thick tooth, 80 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: big girl. Thick tooth. Your name at the end of 81 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: this letter for her was big boned X. Let's start 82 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 1: with that, because you your nickname is a little bit 83 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 1: and tiny tot. Tiny tot is a small hash brown. 84 00:04:56,160 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: That's what a tiny tot Tater thought, saying that's where 85 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 1: they got the name from. You are nothing but a 86 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: tator top. He wanted that hash if they bring out 87 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:15,280 Speaker 1: at dinnis the one that covered a quarter of the 88 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:20,359 Speaker 1: plate and it's got extra potatoes mashed down and shred 89 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 1: and his hanging over the side. Really really, he won't 90 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: waffle house hash brown chump covered, diced and sliced. Had that? Yeah, 91 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: that's what he liked. Now, he didn't mess around and 92 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: tried since he didn't have no luck with him, so 93 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: he didn't win it. Got the little tator top. You're 94 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: five three with a tiny frame. Everything is proportioned, buddy, 95 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 1: making you feel like you ain't thinking enough. His ex 96 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: wife is still a big part of his life that 97 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: grew up together. She's very close to his mama too. 98 00:05:57,560 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: We'll be having dinner at his mama's house and ex 99 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: wife just pop up to say hello, really hello. She 100 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:07,160 Speaker 1: said that first it was fine. Wait wait wait wait 101 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: wait wait? How is it that she pops over there 102 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 1: every time y'all at dinner to the point where you 103 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 1: were saying, first it was fine. Either he's saying I'm 104 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: gonna be a mama's house or the mama going here, 105 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 1: go your chance? Yeah, she coming over here with Stanley. 106 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:32,240 Speaker 1: Here's your chance? Where something tight? Girl? Get you back. 107 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:39,039 Speaker 1: You know you was always my favorite. Hold that thought, Steve, Yeah, 108 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:42,480 Speaker 1: hold that thought. We'll have Steve's response coming up in 109 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:47,599 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Part two. Today's Strawberry Letter, 110 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: subject what does she have that I don't? We'll get 111 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show, 112 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve. Let's recap today's Strawberry Letter. The subject 113 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: is what does she have that I don't? Well, the 114 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: question I'm asking the whole letter is what does she 115 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:09,280 Speaker 1: have that you don't? And I'm gonna read it to 116 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: you In the letter, his first wife was a big girl. 117 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 1: The woman he dated after divorce was thick too. You 118 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: are five three with a tiny frame. Your nickname is 119 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: a little bit and tiny tot. Tiny tot is a 120 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: derivative of tater tot. Tater tot is a derivative of 121 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: hash brown potatoes. Now, when you go to tennis, it 122 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: come out it looked like a pancake. Is mashed down 123 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: and shredded potatoes. But to have hens that hang over 124 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: the plate. If you go to waffle house and you 125 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: get the hash browns, you get them chunk, smothered, diced, 126 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: and sliced. Lord you can't do that with a tator tot. 127 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:55,360 Speaker 1: So now what does she have that I don't size? Now? 128 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: What else does she have? His ex wife is still 129 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 1: a part of his life. They grew up together. She's 130 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 1: very close to his mother too. We could be having 131 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 1: dinner at his mother's house and the ex will just 132 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: pop up and say hello. Every time you over there 133 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: having dinner, the ex pop up. Now either he's telling 134 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 1: them he going over mama's house. Oh, mama going. You 135 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: need to get over him? Stand they coming with her? 136 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 1: Something tight? So what else does she have that you 137 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:36,719 Speaker 1: don't a close relationship with the mother? Yeah, but now 138 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: this is calling you the anxiety because you think your 139 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: husband is secretly having a fab with her, because you 140 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:45,200 Speaker 1: overheard his cousin talking about his ex wife controlling and lazy. 141 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 1: Then my husband said that was something that always kept 142 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:52,120 Speaker 1: him coming back to her for years. What is that 143 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 1: that kept him coming back? You asked? She asked in 144 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: the middle, What is that that kept him coming back? 145 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: What does she have that I don't? Whoa little girl? 146 00:09:02,080 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: Little girl? Look, she's she's his wife. She has throwing? Pop? 147 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: Does that mean she has thrown? She has enough stuff 148 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: where she can throw it. See the little girl fire 149 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 1: three tiny friends. You ain't got nothing to throw. She's 150 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: a dancer. She can't throw it though, throw what her hips? 151 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 1: What everything? She can slang it when it landed, Make noise, 152 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: throwing power, all that's happened. What does she have that 153 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 1: I don't the ability to make noise? Yeah, I want 154 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 1: to create a dance studio, and I'm a home health 155 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: nurse part time. Right there, there goes something else. He 156 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,439 Speaker 1: don't want nobody dancing. He don't care nothing about that, 157 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 1: and he don't need no at home health nurse. He 158 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: ain't sick. She got skills. When we got married, he 159 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,720 Speaker 1: told me he could support me leaving nursing altogether so 160 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 1: I can focus on my dancer. That ain't happen. Instead, 161 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: he paid off the car that he bought his ex 162 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: wife for that desert. He said the older that that's right. 163 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: You gotta keep her happy, because she kept him happy. 164 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: She was overpowering and lazy, but she was throwing in. 165 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: I take great care of my man. That sex used 166 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: to be great between us. Now he rashes it out 167 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: to me because he don't want to hurt you. Oh really, 168 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:41,559 Speaker 1: he don't want to hurt you. He has told me 169 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: I need a little more cushion for the pushing. I'm 170 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 1: sure that means that my booty's too small for him, 171 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: and probably is true. Man's just right for somebody, but 172 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: it is too small for him. But what he'd been 173 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 1: used to doing is big and thing. See you kind 174 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 1: of like you you at burg just say see you 175 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 1: at bigger key. He like a double whapple. That what 176 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: he whipper junior is on sale for eight nas double 177 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: whipple and folde dot. Yeah, but he's standing there looking 178 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 1: at that me and that double whopper. He don't give 179 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: a damn with his pholde dot. He don't give a damn. 180 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:28,559 Speaker 1: He's got to pay for his call. It's a double 181 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 1: whopper because the junior whippers on sale, A nah said, 182 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: don't nobody to go to Whapper, Go to nobody, go 183 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: to burg Ken, get the junior whipper. They cain't take 184 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:41,120 Speaker 1: junior whop off from me. All your trips to burg Ken, 185 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: have you ever ordered the junior whipper? Never? Why why Joe? 186 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:58,079 Speaker 1: Nobody go to McDonald's and get the small frapp Even 187 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: though it's the same amount of fry eyes in the bag, 188 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 1: it's the same amount of fries. It's just the corton 189 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: is bigger at the bottom and it pushing the fries 190 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:10,199 Speaker 1: up to the top. It's the same scoop as one 191 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: scoop going to the bag and one scoop going to 192 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: the thing. I'm just busting McDonald's. It's the same amount 193 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 1: of fries. It's the same amount. You can look it 194 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:21,559 Speaker 1: up online. It's the exact same amount. I've seen it 195 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:25,959 Speaker 1: done before I worked it. Brook. I like whoppers, I 196 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 1: don't like junior Wapper. Now where we had in this letter, 197 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 1: you are junior Whapper should stay? Then? Well he was 198 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: having trouble managing the double whap well, so he tried 199 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: the junior wopper so he thought he could handle it better. 200 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 1: But now he ain't happy. I don't feel sorry for him. 201 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: Well three four bites you you threw it the junior whopper. 202 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:51,080 Speaker 1: You're still chewing on that whapp double waper? Okay? On Instagram? 203 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:55,439 Speaker 1: And Steve, what did you have that I don't? She 204 00:12:55,600 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 1: got two padded special soft letters che strubberries that are crazy. 205 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,719 Speaker 1: She's a big bag. You can also check out the 206 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: Strubbery on demand now coming up at forty six minutes 207 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: after the hour we'll have sports talk with Junior State 208 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: and Shake. You're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.