1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,360 Speaker 1: My wife wants to evict my daughter. I want to 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:04,200 Speaker 1: kick her out instead, get her out of here. My 3 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 1: daughter Anna is sixteen years old. She was an accident 4 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: when I was twenty four, and his mother and I 5 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: were never together as a couple cause it was a 6 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: one night stand, but we have maintained a friendly and 7 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: healthy co parenting relationship since she was born and we 8 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,240 Speaker 1: became good friends. By the way, This comes from Tyler 9 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: sixteen twenty on the best of Positive Updates subberdy ooh 10 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: positive positive update. My daughter has been living on another 11 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: continent for a few years with her mother and stepfather, 12 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: but she wants to come back because she doesn't feel 13 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: comfortable there and misses her family and friends. Anna doesn't 14 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:39,479 Speaker 1: know their language well and it's still hard for her 15 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: to learn it fully, so she feels really lonely since 16 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: it is different to speak your native language than make 17 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 1: friends by speaking a foreign language. 18 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 2: From zero, absolute fact, already hard enough. 19 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 3: You're already getting you know, bullied, eating your lunch in 20 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 3: the yeah it'ud bathroom. 21 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. Imagine not being able to say anything back when 22 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: they're like, oh, like is your refrigerator running? And like 23 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: I don't know whatever foreign language. You're just like, well, 24 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: actually that would have that would have worked well if 25 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: it was that's true. Is Germany a little less yes, 26 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: although you know what helps this Actually this is totally 27 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: not a prescription. Drinking alcohol help speak any language very well. 28 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: But this person's sixteen, so I can't really recognize, can't 29 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 1: rec Yeah, yeah, yeah, like a couple of years maybe. 30 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. 31 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: I spoke with my daughter's mother and we thought it 32 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: was a good idea to let Anna live with me. 33 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 1: Her room is now my home office, but I can 34 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: easily put together a room for her. Again, we didn't 35 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: confirm anything, talk to my wife about it first, and 36 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: I was sure that she was going to be okay 37 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 1: with that because we literally talked about that possibility before 38 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: on the agenda. It there, it was in front of 39 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 1: their faces. On problem. Doesn't want that to happen, change mind. 40 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: My wife and Anna daughter have never been close because 41 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: they only meet in person for our wedding when I 42 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: was able to pay a ticket for my daughter to come. 43 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: That was the last time I saw my daughter in 44 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: person too, plane tickets are too expensive. But they do 45 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: tend to talk a little when I make calls with 46 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: Anna every day, but not too much. Anna is the daughter. 47 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: She's sixteen. Yes again, Anna is the sixteen year old 48 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: daughter that is the product of a one night stand. 49 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:09,639 Speaker 1: She's living in another country, but wants to come back 50 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: and live with Ope, which might be a little bit 51 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: easier for her because she speaks Opea's language a little 52 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 1: more easily. 53 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 2: Don't need to eat lunch of the bathroom. 54 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: Don't need to eat lunch in the bathroom. Did you 55 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,399 Speaker 1: ever eat lunch in the bathroom? No, that's good, that's good. 56 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: I'm glad. Yeah, did you Why do you say it 57 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:25,079 Speaker 1: like that? 58 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 3: Because you were like I feel like if you hadn't, 59 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 3: you would have been like, oh, yeah, me too. You 60 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 3: know we were able to make it out without that. 61 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 1: I know. I don't think so I didn't. I think 62 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: I ate lunch with the weirdest kids for sure. 63 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 2: Let's put way better than the bathroom. 64 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: It's way better than the bath friends. Yeah, I had friends. 65 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: I had the weirdest friends. 66 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 2: Let's go. 67 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: I think they were cool. Yeah, it was great. So. 68 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: Anna also talks to her brother and he likes her 69 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: a lot, even if they see each other on video call. 70 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: My wife says, Anna is not going to feel comfortable 71 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 1: in a house with strangers, and Ope's kind of just 72 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:55,799 Speaker 1: saying like, wait, this isn't a house with strangers. She's 73 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: seen them, at least on FaceTime. 74 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 2: She's like, but she's a stranger to me. Sorry, bro. 75 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: And I told her that we are literally her family, 76 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: and she said no, she and our toddler are not 77 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: Anna's family. So Opie's significant other than toddler because they 78 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: barely know her in person. It honestly hurts me that 79 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:12,959 Speaker 1: she thinks that way, but I understand her point of view. 80 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: Although our taller is Anna's brother, and it really annoyed 81 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 1: me that she said that because our little one really 82 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: loves his sister, even if they just see each other online. 83 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 1: So I feel like the biological mother is kind of 84 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: It's like she's okay with this co parenting from a 85 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 1: far relationship, but as soon as her daughter is thinking 86 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: about getting close to Ope, she's like, no, no, no, 87 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 1: can't have that. 88 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 2: App she was pulling a bluff. 89 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, She's like, oh, I'll tell him, Oh, I'm so 90 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 3: about it to you know, get in the door, we'll 91 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 3: have the kid and everything. And now she's like, oh, 92 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 3: well now that I'm here, now I can Yeah. 93 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: Exactly well, she she has all the power. She literally 94 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: was able to bring her daughter to another country and 95 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: raise her. I think, probably, like you said, under the 96 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 1: pretense that they would both have equal say in her life. 97 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: But yeah, I think she's she's kind of knows that 98 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: she has power. She's like like a like a dictator 99 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 1: that gets power and says like I'm going to give 100 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: it back to the people. But then he feels the power. 101 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: It's like like I like being a king. 102 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, and again this is a conspiracy theory, but I 103 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 3: do at this point think that she had this kind 104 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 3: of plan all along, that she never really was okay 105 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 3: with it. 106 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:18,719 Speaker 2: She just said it when it wasn't an imminent. 107 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: Threat, exactly exactly. Yeah, she's she's pulling some some Emperor 108 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: Palpatine games. Dude, don't like it, don't like it, don't 109 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: like it. Don't like it one bit. Yeah. I just 110 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: rewatched those those helps, those cinema masterpieces. 111 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:36,039 Speaker 2: I have seen. So there you go. 112 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,279 Speaker 1: So I had an argument with my wife about it, 113 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: and I ended up telling her that my daughter will 114 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: always come first, because it's true for me, my children 115 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: will always come before any other person. And she knew 116 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 1: very well about my daughter when we married. This is 117 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: talking about opiecing ef another his wife. My wife got 118 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: angry and said that bringing Anna home would change how 119 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: we handle ourselves and that she doesn't want to be 120 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 1: a stepmother. She said that Anna I lived with her 121 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:03,160 Speaker 1: mother and other continent and it's not the same as 122 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: having her right here every day. I told her that 123 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: no one is asking her to be a stepmother because 124 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: I will be the one who will take care of 125 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: her always. My daughter used to stay many days and 126 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: even months with me, and I was the one that 127 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: took care of her. I'm not going to give my 128 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: wife all the work because I was a single father 129 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:18,840 Speaker 1: for a long time and I know how to take 130 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: care of my daughter. I work, I clean, I cook. 131 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: I take full care of her son when she works 132 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: and wants to go out and do something, just like 133 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: she does with me. We both support each other in 134 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: raising our son. I don't know why many people are 135 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 1: so shocked by the fact that I take responsibility over 136 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: my own child. 137 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 2: Unbelievable be a dead beat. 138 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: But if she doesn't respect my daughter's presence in the 139 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:37,920 Speaker 1: house and it hates it that much, then she has 140 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,159 Speaker 1: all the freedom to go to a hotel. 141 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 2: Room, get out of here, go check in. 142 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: I was a big because those orbs obviously ended up 143 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: with us having a worse argument. So I guess Opie 144 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: said that directly, which is not the most uh not 145 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: the best. 146 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 3: One of these, Like hey, look, I just want you 147 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 3: to have a five star spat experience, you know what 148 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,280 Speaker 3: I mean? Yeah, you're stress about my daughter moving in. 149 00:05:58,320 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 3: Don't take a load off. 150 00:05:59,400 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 4: Oh. 151 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,600 Speaker 1: Also, so Shanna loss And says, I think birth mom 152 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 1: is okay with it, and it's actually step mom. Yeah, 153 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: the stepmom, it's not gonna be okay with it. 154 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, she's the one that it seemed like pulled a 155 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 3: little bait and switch where she was like, hey, it 156 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 3: was fine at first, but now she's like no, I don't. 157 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 1: Want ah yeah okay, So yeah, the problem is my 158 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:18,279 Speaker 1: wife doesn't want that to happen. Step I was thinking 159 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: that it was oh PE's biological right, the daughter's biological 160 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 1: mom right, So TLDR for myself and everyone here. So 161 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 1: op has a daughter, Anna who lives another continent. The 162 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: biological mom is like, hey, I think she wants to 163 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:36,599 Speaker 1: come over to where you are because she's lonely, can't 164 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: really speak the language as well, the daughter wants to 165 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: come too, and Op's wife is like, nah, we have 166 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: her own setup here, and it's kind of like, I 167 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: don't want your daughter here, okay. So I think we're 168 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: at one hundred percent boom, thank y'all. So my daughter 169 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 1: has every right to live in my house if she 170 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 1: wants to, but my wife doesn't want that. I really 171 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: love my wife, but my biggest focus is to give 172 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 1: the best to my children, and I would love to 173 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: have my princess here after years apart. I mean, who 174 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: wouldn't want to be with their daughter after years apart. 175 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: My wife has not been talking to me at all, 176 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:07,919 Speaker 1: and she's very angry, but she does continue with the 177 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:11,559 Speaker 1: same stance that she doesn't want Anna here at all, 178 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: and I know I will get angry and we'll end 179 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: up arguing again because I'm not going to leave my 180 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: daughter alone either. There's an edit before we get into 181 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: these big updates. So edit, my wife always knew that 182 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: Anna lived with me several days a week when she 183 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: was still in the country, because I talked with her 184 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: about that and the possibility of Anna's family returning to 185 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 1: the country if things went wrong. That would have meant 186 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: that Anna would come back and live with me for 187 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,200 Speaker 1: many days or even months, like she always did. My 188 00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: daughter used to come at my house every day too. 189 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: My wife agreed that years ago when we talked about that, 190 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: but now admits that she thought my daughter was going 191 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: to stay out of the country with her mother because 192 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 1: their business is going really well. Boom called it, called it. 193 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: Called it also throw away because my daughter uses read 194 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: it too. I changed some data as to not make 195 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: it too obvious. There is it edit too. Before we 196 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: get into the updates. So guys, I've been reading the 197 00:07:58,120 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: comments non stop for two hours and I have too 198 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: much they think about. Thank you for so much for 199 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: the advice, whether bad or good. This is helping me 200 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: to reflect on several things that I did not take 201 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: into account. But please don't be harsh, because I'm a 202 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 1: real person. There are relevant comment there is an update. 203 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 1: There is there is an update. But what it sounds 204 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: like is it sounds like your wife hates your daughter, 205 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 1: or at least doesn't want She believed that she would 206 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: be living this uncomplicated life where it's just our family 207 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: and we don't have to think about anyone outside of it. 208 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: And now that you've thrown in the daughter element she's 209 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: up in a up in a huff. I don't think 210 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: that's fair to Ope. I don't think that's fair to Anna. 211 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 1: And you know, if you sign up to this relationship 212 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:39,839 Speaker 1: like you knew, you knew what could happen. So I 213 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: don't think I think like I see divorce in the future. 214 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 215 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,080 Speaker 3: It's also doubly crazy because they already have a toddler, 216 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:48,920 Speaker 3: so it's like it would almost make more logical sense 217 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 3: if they had like no kids, and she's like, oh, actually, 218 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 3: I want to stay child free. And I get that 219 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 3: a teenager is different than like a two year old, 220 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 3: but if. 221 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: She said that at the beginning of the relationship, they 222 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 1: probably wouldn't have gotten in to a relationship. But she 223 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: never said like, you know, I want to say child free, 224 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: or like I only want to have children in my 225 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: life that are hours. Yeah, like she did say that something. 226 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it is the worst case scenario here 227 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 3: would be not that she dislikes children. She already has 228 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 3: one with with Op, but I think that she specifically 229 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 3: either like dislikes Anna as a person or dislikes the 230 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 3: fact that she's like the daughter he had with like 231 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 3: another woman, or something along those lines, you know what 232 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 3: I'm saying, which like all of those are bad, and 233 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:32,679 Speaker 3: I think it is one of those because she admitted 234 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 3: that she was like, oh, I just kind of assumed 235 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 3: that she would end up staying there. I gain like, 236 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 3: I think she intentionally reeled them in to be able to, 237 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 3: you know, and just hope that she wouldn't have. 238 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:41,320 Speaker 2: To face this. 239 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:44,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it potentially was a real end. But 240 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: we're even looking at it through the most angel like lens. 241 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: What it could be is she was fine with it, 242 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: but then she has this perfect little life that's like 243 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 1: really great mm hmm, and then all of a sudden, 244 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: this new factor comes in that she was not expecting, 245 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: and she's like, how is this going to change our 246 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: relationship dynamic? Is is our son going to be prioritized 247 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: if this new persons in the house. There's all these 248 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: fears that's swirling up with now in a completely new 249 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: familial dynamic. My I still think she's the a hole, 250 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 1: to be clear, So yeah, cal and I want to 251 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 1: agree with you there. I still think she's the a hole. 252 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: But I think there is a chance that this is 253 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: just like a gut reaction of someone who is scared 254 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 1: by how things might change, and if talked about long 255 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:27,199 Speaker 1: enough and if just introduced to like hey, like you're 256 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 1: gonna have to deal with it, and just introduced it, 257 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: I think she might adapt. But you also don't want 258 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: your sixteen year old daughter to have to endure what 259 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: a stepmother adaptation looks like. Yeah, so yeah, it's you 260 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,840 Speaker 1: want to prioritize your kid. Yes, so whatever is going 261 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 1: to be best for your kid. I guess we'll we'll 262 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: see what OP does. But what would you recommend? Ope, 263 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: you would do. 264 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 3: I think that he basically makes don't phrase it as 265 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 3: an ultimatum, but it kind of is where it's like, hey, 266 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 3: we had this like understanding going into our marriage and 267 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:59,199 Speaker 3: life together that like you know, my kids are you know, 268 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,680 Speaker 3: number on priorities, just like our son is to me 269 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 3: like our son Riley, our son, Riley, our little boy. 270 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 3: So if you can't get like a thousand percent on 271 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 3: board with that, then I don't think this is gonna work. 272 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 2: You have to make it crystal clear. 273 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean, but you know, do you think 274 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 1: she's just gonna stay because of But she might stay 275 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: for the relationship, but like maybe there's a negative effect 276 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: on Yeah. 277 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 3: She'll be I think she'll do the same thing. She'd 278 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 3: be like, oh, yeah, let's do it, like that sounds great. 279 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 3: And then she's like, hey, listen up, your little freaking punk. 280 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 3: You see, I'm the big I'm the big mom around here. 281 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 3: And you you you lock yourself in your in your 282 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 3: little cupboard, you know, under the stairs. Yeah, and and 283 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 3: you just be friends with the spiders. 284 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:42,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, the spiders. You know. I'll give you a little 285 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 1: pan in a broom. You can. You can sweep the chimneys, 286 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:45,560 Speaker 1: you can. 287 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 2: It's gonna be so fun. 288 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:49,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's could be so fun. Yeah, I've always wanted 289 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:49,959 Speaker 1: a butler. 290 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:52,079 Speaker 2: Shut up. I hate you, hate you, mama, get out 291 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 2: of here. That's what I think. 292 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: But we got some relevant comments. Oh and we got 293 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:59,200 Speaker 1: an update my my fun, little my little children, my 294 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: little pity. Oh those were pretty ease. Let's get into 295 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:06,320 Speaker 1: these relevant comments. So the discussion with his wife, we 296 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: had it because she knows that my daughter used to 297 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 1: stay in my home before she left. So this is 298 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: relevant comments that Ope is responding to. By the way, 299 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: So so Opie says, we had a discussion because she 300 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 1: knows that my daughter used to stay in my home 301 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:21,079 Speaker 1: before she left the country. My wife says that in 302 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:23,560 Speaker 1: her mind, my daughter was always going to live with 303 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: her mother. To another comment term, she didn't say that 304 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: when we got married, she said it now. When I 305 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:30,320 Speaker 1: told her about that possibility years ago, she said she 306 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 1: thought she was okay with it. Now she admits that 307 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: she thought Anna would stay there. And then another commenter says, 308 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: if she doesn't change her mind, do you see the 309 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: marriage lasting? And I mean, I feel like no, but 310 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,679 Speaker 1: Opie says, to be honest, not at all. Even if 311 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: I left my wife, my daughter no longer feels welcome 312 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 1: in her school or comfortable. I don't want her to 313 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: feel that way here too, in my own home. And 314 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 1: a commenter says, what are you going to do about 315 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 1: the child that you guys share, Ope responds, my son 316 00:12:57,360 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 1: would never be homeless being. 317 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 2: Two years old. That's time to go. 318 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:07,599 Speaker 1: So you've had you've had seven hundred and thirty days. 319 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 2: Millions of seconds. Yeah, how do you figure out millions? 320 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 1: Come on, come on, get get a grip, kid, get 321 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 1: a grip. You know in my back in my day 322 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:17,679 Speaker 1: or up back in John's day. Uh, they were going 323 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: to the coal mines by two. 324 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:20,200 Speaker 2: That was me that was. 325 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 1: That was John, dude. He went straight from the coal 326 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 1: mines the silicon valley. 327 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 328 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: You basically we're doing childly silicon and then you brought 329 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: the chips to the to the people of the bed. 330 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 2: And that's how we and that's how we got here. 331 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:35,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how Qualcomb started. 332 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 2: Built it one hundred years ago. 333 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: Shout out John, where's John is? Three hundred in the chat. 334 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: That's uh, that's our that's our, our naddy right there, 335 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: let's go. So he says, my son would never be homeless. 336 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: Being okay with my wife would be an ideal plan. 337 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 1: But if she continues to reject my daughter's presence, we 338 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 1: break up. I'm going to make sure I pay her 339 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,160 Speaker 1: and her son a good place to stay and go 340 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:58,560 Speaker 1: fifty to fifty custody like I had with Anna, or 341 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:02,199 Speaker 1: make some kind of co habitation agreement. Whenever I hear 342 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 1: the word cohabitation, I always think of like martians and aliens. 343 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 1: It feels very sciencey and it's rocking shippy. But I'm 344 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: going to do the same thing with my son that 345 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 1: I did with my daughter, which was go see her 346 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 1: every day and take care of her. I wouldn't fight 347 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:16,680 Speaker 1: with my wife or stress our son out with the 348 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 1: grown up stuff. And commenter says, not picking sides here, 349 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: but if your wife leaves, so does your son. Everyone 350 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 1: is screaming put your child first. You may have your 351 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: daughter full time and your son fifty to fifty. Doubt 352 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: they would take a tather away from a woman you 353 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: say is a wonderful mother. I think the rock and 354 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: the hard place is a lot harder than you think. 355 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: So I think what this commentary is saying is by 356 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 1: prioritizing your daughter, you are deprioritizing your son. 357 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 2: Get one kid, lose the other. 358 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, right, Well, basically because it's like your wife is like, okay, 359 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:49,760 Speaker 1: I'm only going to be okay with this familial dynamic 360 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:54,720 Speaker 1: if you reject one of yours your children, and if 361 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:57,320 Speaker 1: he rejects one of his children, there is a better 362 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:00,960 Speaker 1: chance that his other child, his boy a better life 363 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: with like maybe a more complete holistic familial dynamic or whatever, 364 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: or at least like more Yeah. The Dutchess Cassanda says, 365 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 1: this commenter kind of sucks. Yes, it sucks, But there's 366 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 1: an element to that. 367 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 2: That is that is a moral dilemma here. 368 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: There is an element to that where it's like you 369 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 1: are there is like you're kind of picking between two things. 370 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 1: I think the thing that makes it easier, and the 371 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: commenter does not point this out, is like, what is 372 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 1: the actual right thing to do? What is in line 373 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: with your morals and like your morality, and it would 374 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 1: be to take care of your daughter, right, because just 375 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: because someone else's actions impact your child doesn't mean you 376 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 1: should sway away from doing the right thing, because usually 377 00:15:40,880 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: doing the right thing will lead to cascading benefits for 378 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 1: everyone around you, including your children. 379 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:48,520 Speaker 3: Plus, it seems like the better of the two options 380 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:51,480 Speaker 3: because one option just kind of like completely abandons the 381 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 3: daughter Anna so to speak, where it's like, okay, she 382 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 3: has to stay in this place that she hates, versus like, okay, 383 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 3: well still, hey, Anna grew up with split cussy her 384 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 3: whole sixteen years, so this sounds great and it sounds great. 385 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 3: So it's like, all right, the baby will kind of 386 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:06,480 Speaker 3: do the same. And op He's like, I'm want to 387 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 3: put everything in place, all split custody. I'll make sure 388 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:10,440 Speaker 3: they have a good place to stay. He's making sure 389 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 3: that the baby has like the best possible life. So 390 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 3: to me, seems like the best option. 391 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree that it is the best option, but 392 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:20,200 Speaker 1: I do think the commenter, although in a bish way, yeah, 393 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 1: points out like this is difficult. This is not an 394 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: easy decision by by any means, because it comes with 395 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: a lot of baggage or emotional baggage, even though intellectually 396 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:31,760 Speaker 1: we might be able to pontificate right here and say like, 397 00:16:31,960 --> 00:16:34,320 Speaker 1: oh uh, this is exactly what I hope you should do, 398 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: but I'll pontiff your case. Yeah, dude, I love when 399 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 1: you do that. I love what you do when you 400 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 1: when you just uh, when I'm double cheeked up on 401 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: a Sunday after a thick milk costume, like please squeeze 402 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:45,880 Speaker 1: those move. 403 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 3: That onesie out of the way, get it out of 404 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 3: here to the utter. 405 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:53,840 Speaker 1: Oh so so Opie responds, Yes, I've been thinking about 406 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: that too. Co Parenting with an his mother has always 407 00:16:56,720 --> 00:17:00,080 Speaker 1: been really easy because we've always been good friends and 408 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: there was never a fight. But I don't want to 409 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,360 Speaker 1: think that if I divorce my wife where we break 410 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:06,280 Speaker 1: up because of this, I'll have a harder time seeing 411 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 1: my son or how the co parenting would be with her. 412 00:17:09,119 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: So yeah, I guess Op's saying like, yeah, it could 413 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: be harder. But I don't want to think about it. 414 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:15,679 Speaker 1: Let it like co parenting with the mother of my 415 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 1: son and my current wife. 416 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 2: You know, yeah, good to think about it, good to think. Yeah, 417 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 2: literally where you're headed? 418 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, let me just here we go. 419 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: This is gonna be successful. Guys. The whole scoring out 420 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:29,199 Speaker 2: so well. 421 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,880 Speaker 1: Dude, man, man is throwing away the cave. These commenters 422 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 1: are giving this man a can It is like, shut up, dude, guys, don't. 423 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:37,520 Speaker 1: I don't want more information. I want to blindly walk 424 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 1: through life. 425 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 2: Oh this is fantastic. Stop it. 426 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, you're gonna walk yourself off a cliff. 427 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:43,840 Speaker 2: Don't do it, daddy, don't do it. 428 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: Judge Fivadela Burquis says that those cowjokes are utterly ridiculous 429 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: yet very amuzing. 430 00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:53,879 Speaker 2: All right, double pun nice, all right, I'll give it 431 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:55,480 Speaker 2: to you for a double pun. I'll give it you. 432 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:57,160 Speaker 2: There we go. 433 00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: Okay. But and commenter responds, unless they're is something you 434 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 1: aren't disclosing about, Anna, your wife is of questionable character. 435 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 1: I think that's very obvious. For not allowing your daughter 436 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 1: to live with the family. She is part of the family. 437 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:12,399 Speaker 1: Whether your wife wants her to be or not in 438 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:16,160 Speaker 1: Opie responds, I swear there's nothing I hide about my daughter. 439 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 1: She's a good girl and has never had problems with anyone. 440 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 1: Even at the wedding. Anna and my wife got along. 441 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 1: She was a child raised well by me as well 442 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:27,680 Speaker 1: as her mother and stepfather. And there is a down voted. 443 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:29,280 Speaker 2: Colin, Wow, this is gonna be really bad. 444 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 1: Down voted College. And just to be clear, the guy 445 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 1: that was like you're between a rock and a hard 446 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: place that some of chat said was I think they 447 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:42,200 Speaker 1: beautifully worded it, something like a massive oh yeah, beautiful 448 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:45,600 Speaker 1: was not down voted. So this this, uh yeah, this 449 00:18:45,680 --> 00:18:47,240 Speaker 1: is this is gonna be it's gonna be juice. There's 450 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:50,520 Speaker 1: gonna be juice to squeeze. So you've already chosen your 451 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: daughter as more important than your wife and son. Your 452 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: marriage is over and I'm gonna I'm gonna repeat that again. 453 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:58,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, please, please please, You've. 454 00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:03,920 Speaker 1: Already chosen your as more important than your wife and son. 455 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: So basically this commenter is saying, ope, you are disregarding 456 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:10,520 Speaker 1: your son's well being. 457 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:12,239 Speaker 2: Brod clearly didn't read the whole thing. 458 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:14,159 Speaker 3: When he's like, I'm gonna get the best like have 459 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,480 Speaker 3: him a good living situation, fifty to fifty custidy, like 460 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:19,400 Speaker 3: he's already thought through this, dude, this is. 461 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 2: This is ignorant. 462 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:27,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is some ig ish, bro ignorantish. Kimberly find says, 463 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:33,680 Speaker 1: what's the life the commentor, and freud Lane Fleeeder Mouse says, bruh. 464 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,399 Speaker 2: That's honestly Kimberly Fine, Yeah, what was that the wife? 465 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 2: Yeah she found the right account. 466 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: I mean at tracts, things like this have happened. You know, 467 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:41,480 Speaker 1: stranger things. 468 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:42,160 Speaker 2: Could be a crazy update. 469 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 1: We're about to see stranger things. But we do have 470 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:47,480 Speaker 1: Op responding and says, you've commented on this twice and 471 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,040 Speaker 1: not only reflecting your own trauma, you were also taking 472 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 1: things for granted that you have no idea about. You 473 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 1: literally jump on a conclusion that I don't love my 474 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:56,840 Speaker 1: son just because I spoke well of my daughter, and 475 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: we got an updated twelve days later. But you know, 476 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: I was to give one piece of advice to Op is, 477 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: don't comprize I think when you whenever you compromise your 478 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:11,360 Speaker 1: moral integrity for a short term outcome, whether it be 479 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:13,959 Speaker 1: the benefit of one of your children or you know, 480 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:16,480 Speaker 1: money or status or whatever. It might be like even 481 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:19,280 Speaker 1: things like like friendship, things that you you think might 482 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:22,520 Speaker 1: be like a purely good thing, usually it has lagging 483 00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:24,520 Speaker 1: negative effects. So it's like might be good in the 484 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 1: beginning and then terrible later. And I think this is 485 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:30,440 Speaker 1: an example of like if you prioritize your son and 486 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: looked over your wife's moral amb beauty to say it lightly, 487 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:39,439 Speaker 1: you you would probably have lagging indicators or lagging negative 488 00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: effects like years or decades later. And so you don't 489 00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:45,840 Speaker 1: want to stay with someone who like has no scruples. 490 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:47,440 Speaker 1: You want the scruples to be high. 491 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:49,439 Speaker 2: You want, dude, do you want the max scroup all 492 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 2: the way up there? 493 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:52,560 Speaker 1: Do you want scruple? You want like at least one hundred. 494 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 2: Scruples, Like when you when your hands are just like 495 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:55,199 Speaker 2: on the scruples you like. 496 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:57,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, when you have when you have scruple, and then 497 00:20:57,320 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: maybe like you know, your your milk and each grouple. Yeah, 498 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: and then like you're filling your cup with like some 499 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:05,520 Speaker 1: some scrupulous liquid, you drink it, you're full of scruples. 500 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:05,680 Speaker 2: And then it's good. 501 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,879 Speaker 1: Then it's good. That is good. That that's that's some 502 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:11,439 Speaker 1: that's right there. Good marriage juice jelly, but says, honestly, 503 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:17,200 Speaker 1: life has lagging aggravating effects. Can argue, but usually if 504 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,560 Speaker 1: you live yourself, live life in a more way, less 505 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 1: lagging negative effects. 506 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 2: Great. 507 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm talking like a science boy 508 00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:26,360 Speaker 1: today or yeah. 509 00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:27,400 Speaker 2: Like it's her inner. 510 00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:31,439 Speaker 1: Dialog. Yeah, yeah, beautiful way I had. I had my 511 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,160 Speaker 1: June toe not too long ago. 512 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 2: There go is Uh, we're not gonna I don't know 513 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:35,879 Speaker 2: what that is. 514 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:37,560 Speaker 1: I can tell you about that. I do like like 515 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:43,359 Speaker 1: monthly philosophical chatsh okay, yes, yes, philosophy friends, it's all 516 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 1: coming back. Yeah, we actually have a great discussion about like. 517 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:52,399 Speaker 4: A great discussion about this. Next freaking update, WHOA, let's go. 518 00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 4: D Red says, you need big scruple energy. Big scruple 519 00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 4: edit could be put on a shirt. Love it a 520 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:04,880 Speaker 4: big scruple energy. 521 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: So update one twelve days later, originally posted on the 522 00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 1: Ida Hole subbur so. I'm sorry, but I decided to 523 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,480 Speaker 1: delete the post because a weirdo started to just spam 524 00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:18,199 Speaker 1: my private messages with different accounts, and I don't know 525 00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:20,160 Speaker 1: if I can put the account on private or something 526 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: like that. I don't use a site too much, but 527 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,640 Speaker 1: a bot started sending me messages asking if I needed help. 528 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: So I think my account could get banned because of 529 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:29,159 Speaker 1: that person doing this. I'm too old for this anyway, 530 00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 1: Let's get into it. So, first of all, I want 531 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:33,720 Speaker 1: to clarify that I am from a third world country. 532 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,919 Speaker 1: Here it is really expensive to get a plane ticket, 533 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 1: and if I travel, I must do it with my 534 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,640 Speaker 1: wife and our son too, So it was too much 535 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:44,919 Speaker 1: money that we can not pay. So basically, there's too 536 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:46,639 Speaker 1: much money to travel out of his third world country. 537 00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: I think they're called developing nations these days, but you know, 538 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: I'll use the old use the old old term. There 539 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,760 Speaker 1: we go, third world. I let my daughter's mother take 540 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 1: her to another country because, like every father, I wanted 541 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:00,840 Speaker 1: her to have a better life and better opportunities. I 542 00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:02,639 Speaker 1: don't think that makes me a bad father, but I 543 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:06,119 Speaker 1: guess the minds that have always lived in privilege don't understand. 544 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 1: The last time I could afford some tickets was for 545 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 1: my daughter to come to the wedding. Not all of 546 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 1: us have the privilege of paying for a plane flight. 547 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,720 Speaker 1: I've been thinking a lot, and in fact i'm the 548 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 1: a hole because of the way I treated my wife. 549 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: Do tell whoa. I did not see that coming. I 550 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:26,399 Speaker 1: did not see that coming. I was feeling we were going, 551 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 1: you know, we were focusing on the scruples. Yep, we're 552 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: focused on the scruples. I feel like grip. I feel 553 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:33,960 Speaker 1: like the scruples have been thrown out the window with 554 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:34,280 Speaker 1: that then. 555 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 2: Slipped through my fingers. But hey, let's hear them out. 556 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,239 Speaker 1: That's true, that's true, that's true. Okay, maybe we can 557 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,360 Speaker 1: dig the sand, pick up those scruples, read it out. 558 00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 1: You know, even if most of the commenters agreed with me, 559 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:46,760 Speaker 1: I don't think it was ever right to say that 560 00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:49,320 Speaker 1: to the woman I love, even though I was angry. 561 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 1: That's fair, fair, fair, fair, fair, all right, all right. 562 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 2: Bad wording. 563 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:56,680 Speaker 1: Bad wording because he originally said for everyone who's just joining, oh, 564 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: if you don't like this, go to a freaking hotel room. 565 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:02,400 Speaker 1: Wrong way to say it. Maybe he's just like, hey, 566 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,679 Speaker 1: this is where my scruples slip through my fingers, but 567 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: I still got most of them, Like, most of my 568 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 1: scruples are. 569 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 2: There lying in the scruple sand. Yeah, that's that's all 570 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 2: I'm saying. 571 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:13,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a few droplets in the scruple sand, but 572 00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 1: most of it's in my hand. Most of it's there 573 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: in my scruple hand, yep. But your scruple, your scruples 574 00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:19,639 Speaker 1: fell into the scruple sand, and there's none in your 575 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:21,920 Speaker 1: hand now. So I think we're about to talk to 576 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 1: her scruples. There we go in a little bit. So 577 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,960 Speaker 1: I apologize to her for what I said and the 578 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 1: way I said it. But I told her that I 579 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: don't like it when she ignores me and gives me 580 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 1: the cold shoulder when I tried to talk about our issues, 581 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,760 Speaker 1: and the fact that she denied the familiarity between our 582 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,920 Speaker 1: son and daughter was just cruel, all right, speaking of truth, 583 00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,280 Speaker 1: love it. Ope, it's true. She apologized for it and 584 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:45,119 Speaker 1: said she was angry and said things she regretted. I 585 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 1: made it clear to her that Anna is common because 586 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 1: no one can forbid any of my children to live 587 00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: with me, not totally morally but legally. I am totally 588 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:58,399 Speaker 1: obligated to give my daughter and son a house. Go off. 589 00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 2: That's that's dude. All if all I heard was great things. 590 00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:06,159 Speaker 1: I you know what I heard. I heard, the the 591 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:11,800 Speaker 1: pouring and just absolute mound building of scruples, just so 592 00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,919 Speaker 1: many scring into his hand, his hand is overflowing with scruples. 593 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,040 Speaker 2: It's it's clear as day. 594 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:21,639 Speaker 1: It's clear as day. It's it's uh, it's scruples as 595 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 1: high as the pyramid of Giza. 596 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 2: That's right. 597 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, this scruples legendary, legendary. So he says, how many 598 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,639 Speaker 1: times can Sam say scruples? That's what I'm in the 599 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 1: three minutes. I want a scruple counter in the discord 600 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 1: right now, run it up if you haven't joined the 601 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: discord at discord dot gg slash. Okay, storytime just hit 602 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 1: four k members. Oh, let's go LFG. Let's go boom booms. 603 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: She tried to argue, but I asked her how she 604 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 1: would feel if we divorced and my new girlfriend refuses 605 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,639 Speaker 1: to let our son live with me just because she 606 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 1: did not sign up for it. Doing a little twisty 607 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 1: twisty rue, I asked her if she would appreciate a 608 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,399 Speaker 1: man who abandons his children for a woman more than 609 00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:00,239 Speaker 1: a man who cares about his children. Yeah, that feels good. 610 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,680 Speaker 2: Let's see it what you got to say? 611 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, maybe he has so many scruples that he's 612 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 1: like spitting it into her hand. Dude, just's just speaking scruples. 613 00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:09,480 Speaker 2: We need we need more scruples. 614 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 1: We need more scruplers, need more scruples in this in 615 00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:16,440 Speaker 1: this world. Yeah, and a world full of little scruples. 616 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:17,160 Speaker 2: We need big ones. 617 00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:20,640 Speaker 1: We need big ones. We need big ones, big hawking scruples, 618 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:24,440 Speaker 1: Sam twenty twenty scruples Dragon behind them. You know you're 619 00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,199 Speaker 1: walking in the sand and you just got two large scruples, 620 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:31,960 Speaker 1: Prince making, Yeah, Prince yeah, exactly. It's like it's like, 621 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,399 Speaker 1: oh my god, Like I can't believe there's this snake 622 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 1: that's been slithering behind this very cow what what's it called? 623 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 1: Bow legged man? No, No, that's just two scruples, just 624 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:46,400 Speaker 1: scring between his legs. Also, Peyton says, omg, hi, John, 625 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,280 Speaker 1: I've fissed your face too much. Thanks for the two bucks. 626 00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 1: Appreciate Peyton, We appreciate you. So if she would feel 627 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 1: confident knowing that she is married to a man who 628 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:57,399 Speaker 1: abandons his children, that easy. My wife said, no, that 629 00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,840 Speaker 1: obviously she knows how much I can about our children 630 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,840 Speaker 1: and hates the kind of man who abandons their kids, 631 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:07,439 Speaker 1: and that she knew she wanted to have a child 632 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,000 Speaker 1: with me because she saw how even though my daughter 633 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,239 Speaker 1: was so far away. I made video calls to her 634 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,320 Speaker 1: every day, and we always help each other with things 635 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 1: around the house. So then I ask her why she 636 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:18,560 Speaker 1: rejects the idea of my daughter being here, and she 637 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:24,399 Speaker 1: admitted being jealous of Anna's truthful. Hey, hey, we're all 638 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,159 Speaker 1: right as we are. We are we have we have 639 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,119 Speaker 1: been swimming away from lives in the seat. We're in 640 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:31,480 Speaker 1: a pool of scruples right now. 641 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:33,760 Speaker 3: We we were faced with a bald face line. Now 642 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 3: we're faced with the bald face truth. 643 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:36,720 Speaker 1: Bald bald face truth. 644 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,960 Speaker 3: I will take that. We can now we can talk, 645 00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:40,760 Speaker 3: bald truth. Now we can Now we can talk. 646 00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:42,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is this is called dialogue from you know, 647 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,920 Speaker 1: I think she's learning that she is uh, she's learning 648 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,439 Speaker 1: she abandons her scruples. 649 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,800 Speaker 2: Dude, it's it's it's tragic. 650 00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,359 Speaker 1: You know what what. I don't call it a comeback 651 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,560 Speaker 1: story because I think she's she's going to actually maybe 652 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 1: do call it a comebackstory. I think I think the 653 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,480 Speaker 1: scruples might be SE's back coming her grabbing those. And 654 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,520 Speaker 1: I asked her, it's something that I have noticed in 655 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 1: the past. For example, for one of my daughter's birthdays, 656 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,960 Speaker 1: I sent money to her mother to buy her address 657 00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,240 Speaker 1: that was quite expensive, and my wife just said, I 658 00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,840 Speaker 1: guess you will buy our son something just expensive. It 659 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,679 Speaker 1: was a mistake to let those comments pass, and I 660 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: think they were just a weird joke. She said she 661 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:22,280 Speaker 1: doesn't want my daughter to come and take time away 662 00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:24,919 Speaker 1: from our son. That bothered me, and I told her 663 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,560 Speaker 1: that if we had two children, my time would also 664 00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 1: be divided, and that as a father I can give 665 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:32,240 Speaker 1: the same attention to both. And often, you know, it's 666 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:35,640 Speaker 1: not good to shower a child with that much attention, 667 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,680 Speaker 1: like they don't need they don't need your attention twenty 668 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:38,120 Speaker 1: four to seven. 669 00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 2: They especially a baby. What's a baby going to do 670 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 2: with the exactly dress? 671 00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 1: Exactly? Fun? Yeah, exactly. Babies don't need attention or space. 672 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,520 Speaker 1: As we've talked about on the show the baby cages 673 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,840 Speaker 1: of the nineteen thirties, you know, just put a baby 674 00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:54,960 Speaker 1: in a cage outside a windows place space you haven't 675 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 1: heard about. I heard you giving a john I hate babies. 676 00:28:59,360 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 1: I love the. 677 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 2: Baby is ugly. I never said I didn't like them. 678 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 1: Addie, if you have this ability, can you pull up 679 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:06,160 Speaker 1: the baby cages? You haven't seen this right? 680 00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:06,440 Speaker 2: No? 681 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 1: No, okay, can you pull the nineteen thirties baby cages 682 00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,360 Speaker 1: of New York while I'm continue reading this story. I 683 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 1: appreciate you. So changing your routine doesn't have to be 684 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,400 Speaker 1: a negative thing. And she knows that Anna is not 685 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 1: a problem teenager, which I think some people in the 686 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,200 Speaker 1: chat were like, Oh, like is Anna you know, you know, 687 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: a problem teenager? A bad kid? You know, like a 688 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,520 Speaker 1: like addicted to a jeweling or you know whatever the 689 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 1: kids are doing these days, because she's gonna be a 690 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 1: fifteen I know, you what, what are the kids? What 691 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,200 Speaker 1: are the kids using? These women boofing flument? Are they 692 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,160 Speaker 1: they're boof They're boofing their nicotine right now? 693 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:37,680 Speaker 2: Could be? 694 00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,760 Speaker 1: Are they boffing? No way there? I don't know, dude. 695 00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it is more or less conspicuous 696 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: right to boof nicotine than to Yeah. I feel like, yeah, 697 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 1: that's what the kids do, Eddie. What do we got? 698 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 1: We got some cage children? There we go, That's what 699 00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: I'm talking about. 700 00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, that seems like terrible parentings. 701 00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: I don't know, fresh air for children afraid. 702 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 3: Of I just let them. Oh so you're in cage 703 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:07,600 Speaker 3: on the outside, Yeah, Eddie, exposed to the elements. 704 00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:08,360 Speaker 1: Do you pull that up? 705 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 2: Just pull the children? 706 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,280 Speaker 1: Give me a little switch to the cage. Children, please 707 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:15,960 Speaker 1: please Eddie, please love God. Can I on the way. 708 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:17,920 Speaker 2: But yeah, you're just exposed the elements. 709 00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,840 Speaker 1: You're just like, yeah, I feel like that's like, you know, 710 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 1: solid air, solid air, live life, be there walking around. 711 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:25,560 Speaker 2: You can't do that. 712 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,600 Speaker 1: Somehow, you know I'm gonna get there, yeah and be yep, 713 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 1: there we go. Those are free babies. But there's some 714 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:32,400 Speaker 1: free looking babies. 715 00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 2: Outside the window. Is crazy? What thing falls? 716 00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:37,840 Speaker 1: I mean, babies are like cats, right, they land on 717 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 1: their feet. 718 00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:40,880 Speaker 2: If you say so. 719 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: Anyway, don't put your children in gages. And that's a 720 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 1: p s A F. Sam there is, says l M 721 00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,040 Speaker 1: A O. Why this is the second stream Sam's asked 722 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: for the baby cage to be looked at. I just 723 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:55,960 Speaker 1: think it's like I love them, I love them. I 724 00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 1: just feel like it was a it was a interesting period. 725 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:01,000 Speaker 2: I may think babies are ugly, but this man wants 726 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:01,440 Speaker 2: some cage. 727 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:05,880 Speaker 1: Do without what I want? Free to look over, free 728 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:08,720 Speaker 1: to feel the air. Kimberly fine, says raw Dog in 729 00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:15,440 Speaker 1: the atmosphere. That's that's what we love. That's exactly what Yeah, yeah, 730 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:20,440 Speaker 1: so free range baby says, falling in flattermouse. So anyway, 731 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,080 Speaker 1: we talked a lot and I explained to her that 732 00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 1: I just want to make everything work for both of us. 733 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 1: I apologize if I made her feel bad with the 734 00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 1: way I treated her, and I told her that I 735 00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 1: want to really hear what things are bothering her so 736 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,560 Speaker 1: we can understand each other better. We agreed to have 737 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,840 Speaker 1: better dialogue and communication about this kind of thing. My 738 00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 1: wife admitted that her jealousy is wrong. Let's go, and 739 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,400 Speaker 1: feels embarrassed about it, but it's how she feels, and 740 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:45,840 Speaker 1: she feels awful for feeling that good feel bad, I 741 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,840 Speaker 1: mean kind of true, got to grow up? Yeah. I 742 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,600 Speaker 1: told her that feeling isn't right. Being jealous of my 743 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:53,360 Speaker 1: daughter isn't right. And I told her that it would 744 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,840 Speaker 1: be okay to start going to a psychologist if we 745 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,200 Speaker 1: want to fix this, because I'm not going to leave 746 00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:59,960 Speaker 1: my daughter to live in a place where he does 747 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:03,240 Speaker 1: it feel loved. My wife accepted after talking about it 748 00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:04,920 Speaker 1: a lot these days, and she wants to work on 749 00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 1: herself about that because she doesn't want to feel like 750 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,640 Speaker 1: that about a little girl and knows it's wrong. Okay, 751 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,240 Speaker 1: that's good. That is I mean, this is this is progress. 752 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,520 Speaker 3: I think the fact that she's you know, everyone's everyone, 753 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,240 Speaker 3: I mean, this is. 754 00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:18,960 Speaker 2: Everyone happened to insanely egregious. 755 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 3: But like, you know, the fact that they're now being 756 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:22,920 Speaker 3: open and talking about it is very good. 757 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,480 Speaker 2: Now they can actually have like all dialog about it. 758 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know, just like everyone has those days. 759 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 1: Everyone makes mistakes, everybody does what I'm talking about? 760 00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:31,880 Speaker 2: What are you talking about? 761 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 1: This next is part of the story, So do it. 762 00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,840 Speaker 1: My wife and daughter always had a nice treatment. When 763 00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,200 Speaker 1: I make video calls with Anna, my wife usually takes 764 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,040 Speaker 1: a little time, but not that much. I think my 765 00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 1: mistake was not offering my wife to make video calls 766 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 1: alone with Anna like Anna does with my tother sometimes, 767 00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,440 Speaker 1: to like create that one on one relationship. My daughter 768 00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 1: really likes my wife and calls her auntie, even if 769 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: they don't know each other too well, so I don't 770 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,200 Speaker 1: want her to know how my wife really feels about her. 771 00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,120 Speaker 1: I offered my wife to teach her how to play 772 00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,320 Speaker 1: the same video game I play with my daughter, so 773 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 1: they can play together and get to know each other 774 00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,520 Speaker 1: more through that. And I know Anna would love that 775 00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,440 Speaker 1: that's a great idea. 776 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 2: Yeah,