1 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: Local Radio Radio Radio Commies a Myth and Bullshit, a 2 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: radiophonic novella Local Radio hosted by malamo Ola La Locamorees. 3 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: Welcome to local Radio, Welcome to this sixty seven. This 4 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 1: is season three of Local Radio por Rosas. Because fem 5 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: revenge has never sounded so sweet. Local Radio is a 6 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: radiophonic novella archiving the brilliance and legacies of women and 7 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: fems of color. I'm Diosa and I'm Mala, and we 8 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: are less mammies of myth and bullshit last local radio 9 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: radio phonic novella, which is just a really extra way 10 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:58,639 Speaker 1: of saying a podcast. Welcome back, Welcome back. 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We love engaging with our listeners. 56 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 1: And as you know, the algorithm is a monster and 57 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: we're constantly trying to fight the algorithm, and online engagement 58 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: goes a long way. The algorithm is another micromanager, the 59 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: patriarchy from phobic. It's the worst. And you know what, 60 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: it's incredible to me that math continues to plague our 61 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 1: lives and ruin our lives. I barely pass college calculus. 62 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: That was like the one thing standing between me and 63 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: my diploma and the fact that there are algorithms continuing 64 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,839 Speaker 1: to terrorize us. I haven't taken a mouth colas since 65 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: my senior year of high school, like I literally didn't 66 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: have to take one in college, and to my own 67 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 1: detrimies to be honest, because I don't know anything, like, 68 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:23,039 Speaker 1: do not ask me how to sum up something. That's 69 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 1: what calculators are for, exactly from tech. Yes, some tech. 70 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 1: So any who love us out loud um and if not, 71 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: if you got a little extra cash, hit the venmo 72 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: at look at Thought a dash radio. Yes. So now 73 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:37,799 Speaker 1: we have some new events that we want to announce 74 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: and share with y'all. We are adding new events to 75 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 1: our slate of podcast offering this summer, and we want 76 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:46,040 Speaker 1: all of our local motives to come out and have 77 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: some fun with us. If you've ever been to one 78 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 1: of our parties, if you've been to look I Thought 79 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 1: a Live a podcast party, then you already know last 80 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,919 Speaker 1: Mommy's a myth, them bullshit know how to throw down, 81 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: and we know how to have a good as time, 82 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: and we want you to come out and how it 83 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: up with us summer. Yes, so our first installment, one 84 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:07,239 Speaker 1: of our first events that we're hosting is called Local 85 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 1: after Dark, a sex and wellness series by Look at 86 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: Our Radio. This weekend is actually the launch of our 87 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: new event series, look at after Dark. The topic for 88 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: this time around is consent, pleasure and play. So we 89 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: um had a lot of fun at our first installment 90 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:26,039 Speaker 1: of Look after Dark. We were joined by Ebony Williams, 91 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,239 Speaker 1: who was a trauma therapist from Piece of Our Violence 92 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 1: to talk about all the sexy things to talk about consent, 93 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 1: pleasure and play. We handed out ho kits, we did 94 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 1: a d I Y demonstration on making your own dental dams, 95 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: and we have a few sponsors that we want to 96 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: thank for helping to make the night really fun and incredible. Yeah, 97 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 1: so special. Thanks to our sponsors that donated products for 98 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: the nights such as Sparkling Wine by Babe, Small Bites 99 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: by Lags, which is a Mexican owned restaurant here in 100 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 1: Los Angeles that specializes in Wahak and cuisine, one of 101 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 1: the best restaurants in l A. Absolutely UM and the 102 00:06:01,839 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: co owners now are actually Budsia and Balina of Super Mamas. 103 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 1: The o g Borras. So we're super excited that they 104 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 1: sponsored our events. Shout out to shout out to them. 105 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: In addition, um the Ho Kid products but donated by 106 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 1: gentle Care Dental and Bruhia Skincare. Absolutely um handing out 107 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 1: how Kids is a lot of fun. I feel like 108 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: this is our like giving back to the community. Yes, 109 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: don't say we have never given back. We give back. 110 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: Here's a ho Kid and you get a home kid, 111 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 1: and you get a home kid. Yeah. When we were 112 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: assembling that, Mama was like, we're like Oprah, We're like Copra, 113 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:41,040 Speaker 1: We're hoprap love it. So, um, look out for future 114 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: lookout after dark event announcements, because this is a series, 115 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: We're gonna be doing more with different topics each time. 116 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 1: Come through. Yes, alrighty, so are the next event series 117 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: called Mommy's and mimosas a radio brunch series. So excited. 118 00:06:57,680 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: You know we love to brunch and you know we 119 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:05,279 Speaker 1: love to overname things. Yes we do, you know. So 120 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:08,599 Speaker 1: so like we we will overname our children, we will 121 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: overname our names. Right all right, So we will be 122 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: launching our very first brunch. It's going to be such 123 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: a cute as time. We love to brunch, we love mimosas, 124 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: and we love to shake our asses good feminists. Hose 125 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: that we are yes is politic. So uh, we haven't 126 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: put out the flyers yet, but we want to give 127 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: you all a jump and a sneak peek to save 128 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: the date, to save the dates. So we're going to 129 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 1: be having the launch of our Mommy's and Mimosas series 130 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:40,679 Speaker 1: July from eleven am to three pm at El SID 131 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: on Sunset, So keep an eye out for flyer and 132 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: ticket information coming soon. Yeah. And you know, ELSID holds 133 00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: a really special place in our hearts because Mama has 134 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: like some familial familiar familial history with ELFID. Yeah. So um, 135 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 1: you know, as we like to share with everyone, we 136 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 1: are Los Angeles Royalty. We have been here, we've been 137 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: here um and contributing to arts and culture and all 138 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: this stuff in this city that we love. So my 139 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: mother Um is a professional dancer and she does all 140 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: different styles of dance um, folklorico, danasta, but her passion 141 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: is flamenco um. So she actually has been performing as 142 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: a professional flamenco dancer UM with Antilita, who is like 143 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: the director of their dance group at El sid and 144 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: my mom has been dancing at El sid for like 145 00:08:33,559 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 1: since before I was borned so for like over thirty years. 146 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: Her pictures are on the walls. I grew up at 147 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 1: El sid um in the dressing room, backstage in the restaurant, 148 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: So it's really cool for us to reconnect with that 149 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: venue and to now host our own events there. So 150 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: this is like second generation um at Alcid. So we 151 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:52,559 Speaker 1: hope to see you all there. We're gonna put out 152 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 1: flyers and ticket information soon. Yes, can you save the day? 153 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: Get your outfits red? D oh? Yeah, a brunch look 154 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: is really essential, honestly. Alright, So we have a really 155 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:08,199 Speaker 1: special treat for our locomotives today. We are actually joined 156 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 1: by Priscilla of La Junta l A are one of 157 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: our favorite party collectives, and she is joining us today 158 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 1: along with Melissa and Danny of Alotro Lado, a nonprofit 159 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 1: organization providing direct legal services to migrants, separated families and 160 00:09:23,400 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: asylum seekers. The nonprofit is based in Los Angeles and 161 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:29,320 Speaker 1: t J. And today, um, these lovely ladies are going 162 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:31,440 Speaker 1: to talk to us about a really exciting event that's 163 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: coming up called Those lavos produced by La Junta l A. So, 164 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: my dear friends, can you please tell us a little 165 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 1: bit about the project, who you are, where you're coming from, 166 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: and what we can expect from those lavels. So this 167 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:47,200 Speaker 1: is Priscilla. Hello, Um, I'm part of La Junta. We 168 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 1: are a collective of four friends who produce Afro Latin 169 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: music events throughout Los Angeles and UM, so I'm gonna 170 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: go ahead and let Melissa and Danny introduce themselves and 171 00:09:58,360 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: then we'll talk a little bit a little bit about 172 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: the benefit. The benefit. Hey everyone, this is Danny Lado 173 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 1: and so we're really excited to be here today to 174 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:10,959 Speaker 1: really share about it those lados. Um. It's going to 175 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 1: be a really amazing event and a concert. There's a 176 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: collective of beautiful artists that are coming together as well 177 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 1: for an exhibition as well, and so we're really excited 178 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 1: to share some more about our work, about why this 179 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: moment is so important and what we're here to do 180 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: about it. Hi. Everyone, this is Melissa Um with Altro Lado. 181 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: So really the vision for this event is really what 182 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: can happen when we as a community come together, UM 183 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:45,200 Speaker 1: in a joyful way that includes things that bring us joy, food, drink, music, 184 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: and art and dance and the healing that really comes 185 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,199 Speaker 1: with all of that. And when we come together that 186 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:56,319 Speaker 1: lavos which translates from all sides, we we can really 187 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: create change. And I think we all think now more 188 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: than ever, UM, there's so much healing that's needed, and 189 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: we do forget to celebrate, uh, the power that lies 190 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:11,680 Speaker 1: within us. And this event is really too rise up 191 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 1: in the name of art and culture and dance and 192 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 1: music to to really make a difference. All of the 193 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: proceeds I will be going back to our work. If 194 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:23,160 Speaker 1: you're not familiar with our work, we are as the 195 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:26,320 Speaker 1: also mentioned. We are a nonprofit based in l A. 196 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 1: We have an office in Tijuana and San Diego. UM. 197 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:34,079 Speaker 1: In Tijuana, we work with thousands of asylum seekers UH 198 00:11:34,120 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 1: and refugees and migrants that are you know, being turned 199 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 1: away illegally being turned away at the border from requesting asylum. 200 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 1: We provide them with no your rights clinics, UM, we 201 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: give them free food, We have a play area for 202 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: their children. We also offer consultations based on their asylum 203 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 1: and take are based on their case. And uh, you know, 204 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:56,839 Speaker 1: more than everyone need volunteers like the work there is 205 00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: powered by incredible volunteers, um, you know that put in 206 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: their time. In San Diego, we focus on bonding folks 207 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:08,719 Speaker 1: out immigrants that are being detained. Um. You know, we're 208 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: seeing more and more an assault on do process. Like 209 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,679 Speaker 1: that's just not even going to mince words. There's a 210 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: real obliteration of that, and it's and it's and it's scary. 211 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: But we're you know, we do that in l A 212 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:25,040 Speaker 1: and l A we also work with homeless undocumented migrants 213 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: as well as well as bonding folks out too. Um. 214 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 1: And that's just like a brief as brief as I 215 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:33,680 Speaker 1: could be of the work that we do. So all 216 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: of the ticket sales and drink sales will be going 217 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: towards our work. So that's amazing. You know. I think 218 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 1: folks right now, with the current climate that we're in, 219 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 1: our feeling very helpless and are asking themselves what can 220 00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: I do? And I think that this is a really 221 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: wonderful way for folks that are searching for resources and 222 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 1: where they can actually donate their money too if they 223 00:12:57,400 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 1: can donate time. UM. So this isn't a zing way too. 224 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: If you're based in l A. To be a part 225 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: of it. Now, I'm wondering for folks that are listeners 226 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 1: that aren't based in l A, any resources you can 227 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 1: offer them, how can they contribute in some way? Yeah, 228 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 1: this question has been coming up a lot and so 229 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 1: and we're really grateful for folks really trying to mobilize 230 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: in their community. And so one of the leading things 231 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 1: that I wanted, one of the one of the most 232 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 1: important things right now is to really figure out who's 233 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 1: doing the work in your community. UM Alto is really small, 234 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:30,000 Speaker 1: where a team of like eighteen folks UM and we're 235 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: doing really heavy lifting on the ground as well. So 236 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: I think what's needed in this moment is to really 237 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 1: be creative. So if you're a writer, um, figure out 238 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:40,720 Speaker 1: who's in your network and how you want to organize 239 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:44,680 Speaker 1: around your creativity your music. Because we really need every 240 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 1: single person in this fight. Um there's no one them 241 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: like we need everyone in this and so I think 242 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:52,199 Speaker 1: that's one of the first things that we have kind 243 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 1: of thought about. And so figure out who the nonprofits are. 244 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:57,840 Speaker 1: First thing is like organizing your community. Figure out who 245 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 1: the folks are that you can organize with. Figure out 246 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:02,319 Speaker 1: who's doing the work and how you are going to 247 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: get involved in that work. UM and UM A really 248 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,079 Speaker 1: easy way for folks if they're not in l A 249 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: or A theiquana and if they're not able, if they're 250 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: not like able bodied is like to you know, use 251 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 1: um like media is a really big source of empowerment 252 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 1: for folks. So I think using your media as much 253 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: as you can. Yeah, that's one way. And oh yeah, 254 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead. No, and just some of the 255 00:14:24,720 --> 00:14:32,080 Speaker 1: more obvious ones vote obviously, UM vote uh. If you 256 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: are able donate money or donate time. UM. There's also 257 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: really creative ways that you can do ap peer to 258 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:42,320 Speaker 1: peer fundraising. For for example, Danny mentioned if you're a writer. 259 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:46,880 Speaker 1: We have had so many incredible people sort of organize 260 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 1: their own fundraisers, fundraisers like they'll raffle off their services. Um. Uh. 261 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 1: There's a photographer who like, you know, if if you 262 00:14:56,840 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: send me a screenshot of donating twenty dollars, all give 263 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 1: you a five photography sessions. So there's just ways to 264 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: get creative if you don't have the money yourself to 265 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 1: fund raise UM. And if you can't donate money, because 266 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 1: we understand, you know, it's hard to make a living 267 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: out there these days, but you know also one person's 268 00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: five dollars is another person's five hundred um or or 269 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:22,800 Speaker 1: see what organizations are in your community that you can 270 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: volunteer your time for. So um. Also, I just want 271 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: to say like, and we're always very aware of the 272 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 1: fact that not um like folks are incarcerated, for instance, 273 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:35,320 Speaker 1: camp votes. So we just want to mention that nuance 274 00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: that that's not a privilege that a lot of folks 275 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:41,880 Speaker 1: have right. Absolutely, yes, UM, a lot of this is 276 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 1: we understand that a lot of these actions do come 277 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: from a place of privilege. So we do acknowledge that 278 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 1: as well. I also call your congress representatives that that's huge. 279 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: It makes a difference flood their phone lines. Um, you 280 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 1: can easily find out who your Congress rep is a 281 00:15:57,280 --> 00:16:00,720 Speaker 1: quick search online. Will be posting something soon kind of 282 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 1: detailing all of all of those things. Wonderful. So if 283 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: people want to know more about the event that all 284 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:11,200 Speaker 1: those lados uh tickets where, when? How? What do the 285 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:14,840 Speaker 1: folks need to know? We created a website that all 286 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 1: those lados l a dot com. You can get all 287 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: the information from there. You can see who allot lado is. 288 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 1: You can also have there's also links to la Junta 289 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 1: l a UM any three of those UM links or 290 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:33,880 Speaker 1: places the website, UM, Instagram, Facebook, We're everywhere right now. Amazing. 291 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: So before we go, I wanted to ask about the event. 292 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: Who are the headliners, who's going to be there, who 293 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:44,000 Speaker 1: are the vendors? What is what is the event? Tell us? Okay, 294 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 1: So the event is, like UM said Melissa and Danny, 295 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:51,560 Speaker 1: it's a benefit. And one way that you can help 296 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 1: is buy a ticket. This ticket will like I will 297 00:16:56,160 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 1: go to allot Lado and I'm gonna just run off 298 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 1: a few of our headliners. We do have Billy Monthia. 299 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: She's an Emmy Award winning TV host that's going to 300 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:10,640 Speaker 1: host the evening. So we're really excited about having her 301 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: very cool study star study really and actually we're bringing 302 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:27,480 Speaker 1: Norteic Collective the Tijuana. We're bringing Selenamos Yes locals, which 303 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:32,120 Speaker 1: is huge, so they're loved by so many people. All 304 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: these talents are actually loved by a lot of Los 305 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: Angeles Angelino. Yeah. Um, we have Martha Gonzalez that get 306 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 1: oh my god. There You've had some heavyweight and then 307 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:47,240 Speaker 1: we also have some really big DJ collectives out there. 308 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:51,800 Speaker 1: We have some swellow l as gonna be there, Sizzle, 309 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,199 Speaker 1: we have Chulita Mino Club, we have Girls Gone Vinyl. 310 00:17:58,400 --> 00:17:59,720 Speaker 1: A lot of fans out there are going to be 311 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:02,439 Speaker 1: helping this out, which is great, love it. Yeah. Then 312 00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 1: we have some artists. We have over I want to 313 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 1: say teven um artists from all over the world that 314 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:12,360 Speaker 1: are bringing UM a piece or two of their art. 315 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 1: And I will go ahead and let Danny Um kind 316 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: of tell you who those artists are. Sure, So, I'm 317 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:21,280 Speaker 1: really excited about the art exhibition. It is part of 318 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:24,120 Speaker 1: those latos as a concert, but the art exhibition will 319 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:27,639 Speaker 1: actually be be open for a month after UM and 320 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:31,880 Speaker 1: so the artists are artists from our communities but also 321 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:34,920 Speaker 1: from Afar and the art is actually created by one 322 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:37,200 Speaker 1: of my favorite artists, which is a m Rani no 323 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 1: Diega and so UM. Some of the artists that will 324 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 1: be there is uh Alicia Mahone Brooks Um who's actually 325 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: bringing their art from Hawaii UM and is of Hawaii 326 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 1: based organizer activists UM and a mother and so UM. 327 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 1: Alicia is one of my favorite artists by far, and 328 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,640 Speaker 1: we're gonna support Alicia's work getting here from Hawaii. UM. 329 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: We also have actually the Kachevski, so I'm I'm not 330 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: sure if you are familiar with that, but actually has 331 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:06,879 Speaker 1: done a phenomenal work nationally around abortion rate access as well, 332 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:10,360 Speaker 1: and there's a lot of the work for planned parenthood. 333 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:15,919 Speaker 1: So we also have no who is a Yacki artist, 334 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 1: and then we haven't many any more, including including Mary 335 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:22,520 Speaker 1: Young as well, who's one of my personal favorites. So 336 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 1: we're really it's going to be an amazing line. That's amazing, 337 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:28,320 Speaker 1: very nice. So um, just to wrap up, can you 338 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:31,719 Speaker 1: remind our listeners what day is that all those lavels 339 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:35,320 Speaker 1: taking place and where is it going to be going down? Okay, 340 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 1: that's actually the most important part, all right, So this 341 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:43,200 Speaker 1: will be Friday July nine this year, of course, July 342 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,719 Speaker 1: nine nine, from eight pm to one am at Plaza 343 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,880 Speaker 1: de la Rasa here in Lincoln Heights, UM. The address 344 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:53,399 Speaker 1: is three five four zero North Mission Road, and to 345 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 1: find all these details you can easily go to the 346 00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:01,080 Speaker 1: lads l A dot com. Fabulous you so much once again, 347 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 1: Priscilla la Junta La and our new friends from that 348 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: all those lavels, So thank you for so much for 349 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:10,120 Speaker 1: being here. Thank you, thank yeah, and we will see 350 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 1: you on July nine, Team Ye God Party Yeah or Castras, 351 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 1: Belly Ros and and and and and and and and 352 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 1: and and and and and rock and rock and and 353 00:20:44,400 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 1: and and um um um um um um um of 354 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:06,399 Speaker 1: it and alrighty. So, as we mentioned, we are in 355 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 1: our multidimensional whole quarter, so we wanted to give you 356 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:12,560 Speaker 1: a little preview of our conversation that we had at 357 00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:14,920 Speaker 1: Look A Thought after Dark. Yeah, for those of you 358 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 1: who couldn't make it, who couldn't be there. The topic 359 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:19,680 Speaker 1: for this first installment of Look I Thought after Dark 360 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 1: was consent, pleasure and play, our favorite things to talk about, 361 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:26,320 Speaker 1: our favorite things to talk about. Yes, you know, I 362 00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,640 Speaker 1: was thinking about this topic, and I was thinking about 363 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:31,760 Speaker 1: how you know, I don't necessarily although like I have 364 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 1: a hoe as politic practice, it's not necessarily I'm out 365 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: and about howen because I'm in a monogamous relationship. But 366 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:45,360 Speaker 1: I've been thinking about what does you know, consent, pleasure 367 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 1: and play look like when you're when you have the 368 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 1: same partner, right, you have the same romantic partner, you know, 369 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 1: And I think it's just as important to talk about 370 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:56,600 Speaker 1: consent even when you are in a relationship because there's 371 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 1: this idea that well, you know, you've been with this 372 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:04,280 Speaker 1: person and so maybe like consent isn't necessarily a topic 373 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:06,679 Speaker 1: that you need to talk about anymore because you've been 374 00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 1: with them. But that is false exactly, you know, because 375 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:15,480 Speaker 1: as we know, like just because something in a sexual 376 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,800 Speaker 1: relationship has happened once doesn't mean it can happen again. 377 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 1: You have every right to say no, I don't want 378 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:24,159 Speaker 1: to do this again. That didn't feel right for me. 379 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:25,639 Speaker 1: I want to do it this way, I want to 380 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: do it that way. Is that okay? How does that 381 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 1: feel for you? You know? So I think you know, 382 00:22:31,280 --> 00:22:34,720 Speaker 1: consent is definitely an ongoing conversation. It doesn't stop just 383 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,640 Speaker 1: because you're in a relationship. So I think about I've 384 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 1: been thinking about that since we've been talking about this 385 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 1: topic of consent, pleasure and play. Yeah, it's really important 386 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 1: because I think what happens sometimes when you get really 387 00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: comfortable with your partner, especially like sexually and romantically, it's 388 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:50,639 Speaker 1: sort of like, oh, well, we have all access to 389 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,200 Speaker 1: each other, you know, to each other's lives and phones 390 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: and social circles, and then bodies get lumped in there 391 00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: when it should kind of be the opposite that as 392 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: you get to know someone better. It's like your practice 393 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 1: and your consent, you know, like you get into a 394 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,800 Speaker 1: rhythm where you remember that the person that you're with 395 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,720 Speaker 1: is an autonomous human being, as opposed to if you're 396 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,640 Speaker 1: just meeting someone or they're a stranger. You know, you're 397 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 1: you're building that rapport. But in a relationship, it's almost like, no, 398 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,240 Speaker 1: we need to be practiced at this. This is something 399 00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 1: we do really well now, yes, and something that we 400 00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,440 Speaker 1: do always right that we it's not just like a 401 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: once in a while, like we're going to continue to 402 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,159 Speaker 1: chick in with each other and our bodies and what 403 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 1: we like and what we don't like. Yeah, absolutely that. 404 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,159 Speaker 1: So the consent piece is just always ongoing. I've been 405 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:43,280 Speaker 1: teaching UM summer school, and I've been teaching like middle schoolers, 406 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 1: boys and girls, and in having conversations about consent, it's 407 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,440 Speaker 1: really interesting because a lot of teachers don't want to 408 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 1: go there, don't want to touch on the subject. And 409 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 1: it's really interesting because especially if you are talking about 410 00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: kids that are enrolled at a public school, there are 411 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: like certain sorts of restrictions on what you can talk 412 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,280 Speaker 1: about in class without like permission slips from parents, which 413 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: is good because that's a type of consent to write, 414 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:13,840 Speaker 1: having the familial and parental consent, to talk talk about 415 00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 1: consent with the kids, to talk about these things with 416 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:19,879 Speaker 1: the kids. Um. However, it gets so frustrating when the 417 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 1: consent topic is always considered an approached and looked at 418 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:27,359 Speaker 1: as being a sexual one when it comes to kids 419 00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:30,119 Speaker 1: and youth, I think we have to talk about consent 420 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: as a fact of life, as a fact of interacting 421 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,280 Speaker 1: with one another, how to be a good friend, how 422 00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,680 Speaker 1: to interact with other people. Like the consent talk should 423 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,399 Speaker 1: start out by well, you know, we don't touch other 424 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 1: people's hair without permission. We don't borrow other people's things 425 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:48,440 Speaker 1: without permission. We don't hug other people unless you know 426 00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:50,399 Speaker 1: they've told us that they would like to be hugged, 427 00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,119 Speaker 1: or we've asked. And I think that I've even me 428 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 1: just reframing how I think about consent as a fact 429 00:24:56,880 --> 00:25:01,920 Speaker 1: of human interaction and almost taking the the like sexual 430 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: burden off of the word in some ways. Right, we 431 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: build up to the sexual stuff, right, but we start 432 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 1: which is very basic, how do we treat each other? 433 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:18,080 Speaker 1: I think that's something that adults need. Yeah, because you're right, Yeah, 434 00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 1: we we do when we think about or when we 435 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:24,119 Speaker 1: take the topic of consent, we very much talk about 436 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 1: it in sexual relationships or as a preventative way, um, 437 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 1: when talking about sexual violence. But it really is a 438 00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:34,440 Speaker 1: part of our everyday life. Um. And even you know 439 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 1: we've talked about this, we can talk about this like 440 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 1: for the rest of the podcast, you know, like for 441 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:41,960 Speaker 1: eternity that like consent isn't taught in our families, right, 442 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,119 Speaker 1: and we see that with our like greetings, you know, 443 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 1: our interactions with our families, where like young kids in 444 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,160 Speaker 1: our Latino families are forced to say hello and give 445 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,400 Speaker 1: hugs and kisses to everyone, right, even though they don't 446 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,399 Speaker 1: necessarily want to write. So you know, we've talked about that, 447 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 1: and like that will continue to be a topic because 448 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: it's important and it's I think it's an example that 449 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:04,200 Speaker 1: we still see, so we will continue to talk about that, 450 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:07,359 Speaker 1: is what I'm getting at. So um, yeah, I mean 451 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:10,800 Speaker 1: I think if we taught consent through this lens right 452 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,640 Speaker 1: at a young age, I think we would see, for example, 453 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:17,679 Speaker 1: a dramatic drop and decrease in street harassment because there 454 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 1: would be an understanding on behalf of men visa VI 455 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:25,440 Speaker 1: education and practice that you can't just shout out like 456 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:29,760 Speaker 1: sexually explicit things and and follow women around because that 457 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:35,000 Speaker 1: is a basic like tenant of a non consensual like interaction. 458 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, when I was walking to get us 459 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 1: coffee today, I like made it like a little Instagram 460 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,640 Speaker 1: video and I was like, all right, y'all, Like summer 461 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 1: outfits have been activated, which also means the street harassment 462 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 1: is on another level. Absolutely, that's some real ship, you know. 463 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,920 Speaker 1: So that's just yeah, that's I don't know, that's something 464 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,359 Speaker 1: that I think we end up talking about every summer 465 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 1: because buys out guys out essentially essentially like showing a 466 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: little extra skin. It just and then it gets it's hot, 467 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,080 Speaker 1: and the heat makes people wild, I don't know, and 468 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,920 Speaker 1: it's just this perfect storm and that the street harassment 469 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,720 Speaker 1: just is through the roof. People don't have air conditioning 470 00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 1: in their houses. They're outside, and it just also makes 471 00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 1: me extra cranky because you're hot, and then the last 472 00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,400 Speaker 1: thing I want is you shouting at me exactly. I'm 473 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,640 Speaker 1: just like, leave me alone. I'm trying to get cool here, 474 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,000 Speaker 1: Like stop it. I'm trying to get cool. I'm trying 475 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 1: to get to my destination. I'm cranky, my thighs are 476 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:34,719 Speaker 1: rubbing together, the U The chafing is real, the ching 477 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,520 Speaker 1: is real. This is not comfortable, like leave me aloud, 478 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,640 Speaker 1: right exactly. But yeah, so that's so the consent piece, 479 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 1: you know, is something that we always like to talk about. 480 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,920 Speaker 1: And then I think there's also a conversation to be 481 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:50,040 Speaker 1: had about like consensual interactions. Also on the internet and online. 482 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,960 Speaker 1: We spend so much of our time online. Um, we 483 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:57,000 Speaker 1: post our thirst traps, we talk our hole ship, we 484 00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 1: have a good time, and I think that sometime it's 485 00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,639 Speaker 1: almost as if that that behavior is giving folks permission 486 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 1: to engage with you in that way when they don't 487 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,320 Speaker 1: actually know you, do not know you, you know, like 488 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,280 Speaker 1: the d ms that I get sometimes, you know, from 489 00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:15,479 Speaker 1: like men that are followers but I don't know who 490 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,399 Speaker 1: they are and I've never met them, or are married 491 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,719 Speaker 1: or are married. Let's talk about that. The married men 492 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:23,320 Speaker 1: in the d M. That's is some real ship, but 493 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,600 Speaker 1: they stay in the d M. It's weird. I will 494 00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: say that my d since I've been in a relationship, 495 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,879 Speaker 1: my d ms have been dry, which is a good thing, 496 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,000 Speaker 1: you know. I don't need like random men in my 497 00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 1: d ms, cluttering the inbox, fluttering the inbox. Um, but 498 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 1: you know there there are like a few that still 499 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:41,160 Speaker 1: will come through, and I'm just like, what are you doing? 500 00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,760 Speaker 1: Like you don't know me, Like do you think that 501 00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:46,200 Speaker 1: I'm actually going to respond to you? It just doesn't 502 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,280 Speaker 1: make any sense to me. Yeah, it's some weird ship. 503 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,440 Speaker 1: I actually blocked a married man the other day good 504 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,240 Speaker 1: because it was just too much. Good. There's just too much. 505 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: And it's the one where I found her Facebook. Yeah, Okay, 506 00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 1: so this is a person who actually has been following 507 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:04,840 Speaker 1: me line for years and just very like replies to 508 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:08,080 Speaker 1: all the tweets, replies to the I G stories in 509 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: the d ms, blah blah blah blah blah. And these 510 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,760 Speaker 1: people exist, right, and it gets to be too much 511 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 1: after a while. And then I'm like, okay, you have 512 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 1: gotten way too comfortable just constantly reaching out to me 513 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,360 Speaker 1: and like commenting on my body and things like that 514 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 1: and just really going in on like the way that 515 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:28,200 Speaker 1: I look. And then the Aside looked up this person 516 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:31,480 Speaker 1: and found this person's wife their their Facebook, and she's 517 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,240 Speaker 1: super cute and like, you know, has no idea that 518 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,520 Speaker 1: her husband is being affecking dig Yeah, I'm like, MoMA 519 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,640 Speaker 1: should be message her or what. But she's out of state. 520 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:41,320 Speaker 1: So it's like, why are we going to reac havoc 521 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:43,840 Speaker 1: on this woman's life because nothing has happened obviously, but 522 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 1: like still it's mad, disrespectful. I got energy to your wife. Hello, 523 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: So all I can do is block. So I hit 524 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,480 Speaker 1: the block because I'm like, I'm over this. Enough is enough. 525 00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 1: And I've done that multiple times with either married men 526 00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 1: or partnered men. I oh, it's some bullshit. Just know, 527 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,560 Speaker 1: if you're a man listening and you're in Mala's d 528 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,160 Speaker 1: m S, I know about it, and I judge you, 529 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:09,360 Speaker 1: and I know that you have a girlfriend or a 530 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,360 Speaker 1: wife and we've probably found her social media, and just 531 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:16,920 Speaker 1: know that I can contentually contact her. So leave mama alone. 532 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,480 Speaker 1: If you're coupled up, just no, just now. If you're not, 533 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:22,560 Speaker 1: If you're single, if you're single, go ahead, go ahead, 534 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:27,400 Speaker 1: go ahead, but enter respectfully. Come correct, Come correct, Come correct. 535 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: I did post the other day, um mom, Mom can't 536 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 1: get any dates because everyone's afraid of her. Okay, let's 537 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,440 Speaker 1: talk about let's talk about that for consent, all right, 538 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,880 Speaker 1: let's talk about that for consent, So, um, how can 539 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 1: we have pleasure in play if you're afraid of me? Exactly? 540 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,280 Speaker 1: Doesn't think this? How? So I posted to my story 541 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, you know, I think that maybe 542 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 1: I might be thinking about potentially one day. So let's 543 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:58,400 Speaker 1: say it's a future thoughts. It's a hypothetic goal that 544 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:02,760 Speaker 1: I maybe possibly might be in the future ready open 545 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:05,080 Speaker 1: to thinking about dating. Yes, you know, so that's where 546 00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 1: I'm at. So I kind of posted something like that, like, 547 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 1: you know, serious inquiries only like I might be down 548 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,720 Speaker 1: for a boot, right, I have a prediction that I 549 00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:17,600 Speaker 1: might have a boo. I see it right, nothing really 550 00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 1: seriously in the works right now, but I just have 551 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,480 Speaker 1: an inkling. I ha, I see the prospects. The prospects 552 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:26,440 Speaker 1: are there. I'm ready to go on double dates, planting 553 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: the seeds. Yes, I want to go wine tasting. I 554 00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 1: want to go horseback writing. So I don't know, I'll 555 00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:37,400 Speaker 1: take pictures for you, thank you. So anyways, I posted 556 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:39,959 Speaker 1: this about, you know, ready for a boo, and then 557 00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:42,680 Speaker 1: I got a couple different d m s, again from 558 00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 1: random and that I don't know, but that followed me, 559 00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,959 Speaker 1: and one of them was like, you know, like no, disrespect. 560 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,720 Speaker 1: I think you're great. I really no disrespect, Like I 561 00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:54,120 Speaker 1: think you're awesome, he says, But I imagine that dating 562 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:57,240 Speaker 1: you is something like dating a black widow spider, which yes, 563 00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,120 Speaker 1: which is true, that's accurate. So then I will like, 564 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:04,160 Speaker 1: oh my god, like I need a rebrand. Mala needs 565 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 1: a rebrand. What would Mala, like two point oh rebranded 566 00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:09,840 Speaker 1: be so that the men are not afraid of you? 567 00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:12,959 Speaker 1: You wouldn't be Mala. Then like, that's why, that's why 568 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,840 Speaker 1: your mama. So there was that one, and then there 569 00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:19,760 Speaker 1: was another one, and he said something similar about being like, 570 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:24,480 Speaker 1: you know, afraid to like go there good, you know, 571 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 1: And I'm like, bro, okay, fine then, because only a 572 00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:29,800 Speaker 1: real one is going to step backly. Only a real 573 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,640 Speaker 1: one will not be afraid. Only a real one will 574 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,680 Speaker 1: not be afraid. But can Matt. Many have tried, Many 575 00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:39,960 Speaker 1: have failed, Many have failed, Many have failed honestly, honestly, 576 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,640 Speaker 1: So if you think you're the one, you're probably not. 577 00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:50,120 Speaker 1: You're probably not throwing that out there, thank you. Also, 578 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,400 Speaker 1: let me just say that when you date like, I'm 579 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,840 Speaker 1: going to have a hard time sharing my time share you. 580 00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,400 Speaker 1: It's true. And because once I'm in a relationship. I'm 581 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,640 Speaker 1: real wrapped up in it. Mama is no, but that 582 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:06,080 Speaker 1: was different because that was an unhealthy relationship. Was obsession. Yeah, 583 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:13,720 Speaker 1: that was look at exactly. No, but I'm like, um 584 00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,760 Speaker 1: excited for when that does happen, because you've been through 585 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,840 Speaker 1: a lot and the men are have been awful, and 586 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 1: you know, I know that the right one will come 587 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,960 Speaker 1: along and it'll be amazing, and they just need to 588 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:30,840 Speaker 1: know that. There's also exactly so you can be jealous. 589 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,800 Speaker 1: You will share my heart, yes, and my body quite 590 00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,320 Speaker 1: quite literally. It was so funny. I was telling MoMA, 591 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:38,760 Speaker 1: was like, oh, yeah, we're going here. She was like, 592 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:40,200 Speaker 1: we are, and I was like, no, the other we 593 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,040 Speaker 1: the other way. Yeah, there has to be a distinction, 594 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:45,160 Speaker 1: you know. It's like no, no, me and my bow, 595 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:50,520 Speaker 1: but also my bow over here, Mama, Yes, um, we everything, 596 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,840 Speaker 1: we everything. So yeah, that's cute. That's fun just throwing 597 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:58,080 Speaker 1: that out there. It'll happen. It happen. I'm not pressed. 598 00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 1: No chilling, No, Oh, you're in your Saturn return. Also yes, 599 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,480 Speaker 1: which Gabby Rivere and I were talking about with Mala, 600 00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:09,280 Speaker 1: because Mama didn't know malas like very um knows minimal 601 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:13,200 Speaker 1: about the astrology, zodiac placements and all of that. So 602 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 1: we were talking to her about her Saturn return. Did 603 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,879 Speaker 1: we talk about that sitting down with Gabby? I don't 604 00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,640 Speaker 1: think we did. Gabby was in town, so that's fun fact. 605 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,399 Speaker 1: Gabby Rivera was in town and we linked up. Yes. 606 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:29,919 Speaker 1: She is a graphic novelist, comic writer. Yes, a writer, 607 00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:33,680 Speaker 1: a writer of comics and graphic and graphic novels and novels. 608 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:35,680 Speaker 1: She has a young adult novel that I love. She's 609 00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:40,799 Speaker 1: an incredible writer, Queer Boa. And she was in town 610 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 1: because she's working on a new project and it was 611 00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:46,399 Speaker 1: really cool to like sit down with her. She's Oakland base, 612 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,239 Speaker 1: but we've all been following each other I think for 613 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,960 Speaker 1: a little while now, um, and we were just like 614 00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,719 Speaker 1: catching up and like what's going on, you know in 615 00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:58,120 Speaker 1: Oakland and how's the comic world and how's the writing? Um. 616 00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,160 Speaker 1: And Gabby was explaining to me that I I am 617 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:04,919 Speaker 1: in my entering, entering your sad return my late twenties. Yes, 618 00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,320 Speaker 1: now's the time. Now is the time. This is like 619 00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:11,160 Speaker 1: if you're in a relationship, it's like it's going to 620 00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,560 Speaker 1: stand like a really big test where either you take 621 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:17,640 Speaker 1: it to the next level or it ends right Um. 622 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: And then if you're like you're kind of laying the 623 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,120 Speaker 1: groundwork for your career, so stuff is going to continue 624 00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,320 Speaker 1: to take off or you're gonna go into the career direction. Like, 625 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,200 Speaker 1: all these different things kind of culminate around this time 626 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,239 Speaker 1: of your life, which is I believe like twenty seven 627 00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:36,480 Speaker 1: to thirty um, pivotal times. Yes, so that is the 628 00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:40,359 Speaker 1: current stage that Mala is in, and it makes sense. Yeah, 629 00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,920 Speaker 1: so for folks that are around this age, you know, 630 00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,840 Speaker 1: thinking about what has you know, this time been like 631 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:48,759 Speaker 1: for you, um, and that's most likely have been a 632 00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:51,880 Speaker 1: result of your Sadden return. Yeah, some heavy stuff. So 633 00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:53,840 Speaker 1: I was enlightened to all of that because all I 634 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,239 Speaker 1: know is I'm a Capricorn, I'm a January cap and 635 00:35:56,280 --> 00:36:00,839 Speaker 1: we're insufferable. That's the extent of my knowledge, right right, 636 00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,880 Speaker 1: you know. And also just talking about Gabby, like Gabby 637 00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:07,280 Speaker 1: super dope because she has very much you know, become 638 00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,440 Speaker 1: a mentor to us and whatever space you're in, like 639 00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:13,840 Speaker 1: whether you're an artist, um, whatever job you may have, 640 00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,320 Speaker 1: whatever you're doing in your life, it's always good to 641 00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:20,000 Speaker 1: lean in on those mentors, um for advice and for 642 00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:24,000 Speaker 1: guidance and then but also have to be reciprocal so 643 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:26,040 Speaker 1: that it's not like, oh, you're just hitting them up 644 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,000 Speaker 1: because you need something, you need some advice, Like how 645 00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:31,680 Speaker 1: are you also you know, being a friend for to them? Um? 646 00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:35,360 Speaker 1: So I just wanted to share that. Yeah. Absolutely. I 647 00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:37,320 Speaker 1: mean I think as we grow and we meet so 648 00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:41,760 Speaker 1: many people through podcasting and just through being like visible 649 00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 1: creative like women of color, we end up linking with 650 00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 1: a lot of different creatives and artists, and um, it's 651 00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:51,880 Speaker 1: really nice not to just network but to form a 652 00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:56,480 Speaker 1: relationship exactly because and I think that that's like we're Lama, 653 00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:58,400 Speaker 1: where it's like you meet people and it's like, oh 654 00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:00,680 Speaker 1: what do you what do they want? Like what are 655 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:03,520 Speaker 1: they trying to get out of me? Um? Which can 656 00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:07,840 Speaker 1: be true. But I think it's also important to not 657 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,040 Speaker 1: just be meeting people with that with an agenda, yeah, 658 00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 1: because that's that's where when it's phony, Um, it's true, 659 00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,759 Speaker 1: and you can tell, you can tell yeah, I don't 660 00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:19,719 Speaker 1: want to definitely persent tell it's just not authentic, it's 661 00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:23,239 Speaker 1: not fun. Um. And then how can you create art 662 00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:28,440 Speaker 1: together if it's to surface level? Yes, you know, I agree, Um, 663 00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:34,799 Speaker 1: so just moving on to the pleasure and play topic. UM, 664 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:38,839 Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you a question, Ask me a question. Okay, 665 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:46,000 Speaker 1: is there something in like your sex life past present, 666 00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 1: future that you want want to try or that you've tried, 667 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 1: or something that you want to get into maybe with 668 00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:57,560 Speaker 1: a future partner. This is actually something that we kind 669 00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: of talked about for a future look at thought after dark, 670 00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,719 Speaker 1: um like offering. Don't talk about it now, but but 671 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,719 Speaker 1: it's something that we've like just kind of thrown out 672 00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:09,680 Speaker 1: there because it's related to like this question for me, right, 673 00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:13,880 Speaker 1: So I appreciate bondage and I do like being like 674 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:17,200 Speaker 1: handcuffed and tied up, but I would like to do 675 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:21,759 Speaker 1: it much more like intentionally because it's in the past, 676 00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,800 Speaker 1: it's been like here, use this bathrobe us like tie 677 00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,600 Speaker 1: from the bathrobe to tie me. Yeah, I've used like 678 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,960 Speaker 1: the handkerchief type like tie me up that way, you know. 679 00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:36,040 Speaker 1: But I want some ropes. I want some actual bondage, 680 00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,040 Speaker 1: like something that needs to be invested in and then 681 00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,800 Speaker 1: also learning how to do it. And I feel like 682 00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:44,400 Speaker 1: it's important to learn it with a partner. It is 683 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:46,880 Speaker 1: that way because there's a technique, there's a way to 684 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:50,480 Speaker 1: do it. Um, and if you're not both on board, 685 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,560 Speaker 1: it's not going to work out. Like, for example, I 686 00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,600 Speaker 1: also like to be choked, but if the person choking 687 00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:59,440 Speaker 1: you doesn't know how to choke you, Yeah, I'm I'm like, 688 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:03,920 Speaker 1: I I'm like, you're crushing my windpipe. That's not how 689 00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:07,080 Speaker 1: that works. It should be the side. It should your 690 00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,520 Speaker 1: palm should never be what's like doing the pressing. It 691 00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:12,880 Speaker 1: needs to be like the sides. So their hands that 692 00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:15,400 Speaker 1: are around your neck is like that's what they're pushing 693 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:18,920 Speaker 1: or pressing down on, pressing up against these like arteries. Yes, 694 00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,080 Speaker 1: and I don't know if they're artery. I don't know 695 00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 1: what they are. But don't kill me. Don't just don't 696 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,200 Speaker 1: kill me. And like also, you can't put your whole 697 00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:31,960 Speaker 1: body weight on a person. That's how you kill them. No, 698 00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,080 Speaker 1: I agree, Um, definitely, those are definitely things that I've 699 00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,440 Speaker 1: you know, played within the past, but not in like 700 00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,759 Speaker 1: a really in depth way. So that's something that's also 701 00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:45,719 Speaker 1: something that I'm interested in and like bringing into the bedroom. 702 00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:50,799 Speaker 1: You know what else. Okay, so I've seen this online right, um, 703 00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:56,359 Speaker 1: And there are like these vibrators that you can wear 704 00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,320 Speaker 1: that come with an app, like you've seen these videos. 705 00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,120 Speaker 1: I totally know what you're talking about, and like, so 706 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,960 Speaker 1: you could be wearing this vibrator. You can have it 707 00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:07,680 Speaker 1: on I don't know how it works. You have or 708 00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:10,839 Speaker 1: it's inserted as I think you can inserted in your 709 00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:16,359 Speaker 1: underwear or the underwear itself is like vibrates, and then 710 00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,000 Speaker 1: your partner, like either on like an app or like 711 00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:22,920 Speaker 1: a remote control type of thing, can like play. We 712 00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:27,080 Speaker 1: can just like control it. And I think that I 713 00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:29,040 Speaker 1: totally get what you're getting at, and I think that 714 00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:34,240 Speaker 1: that would be great for play. I so for play, 715 00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:38,160 Speaker 1: I have always appreciated some like dangerous like public in 716 00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:42,680 Speaker 1: public spaces, you know, experiences, um, And so for me, 717 00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:45,000 Speaker 1: something like that with a partner could be so fun 718 00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,680 Speaker 1: to be like at dinner on a date, or at 719 00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,120 Speaker 1: the beach or just out and about and my partner 720 00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:55,960 Speaker 1: is on the app and it's activating me, activating me. Yes, 721 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:57,960 Speaker 1: that would be great. You know something that I've been 722 00:40:58,000 --> 00:40:59,440 Speaker 1: wanting to do, And I told my partner that we 723 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,200 Speaker 1: should do cause I really enjoy it, like a good 724 00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,640 Speaker 1: role play. So what I was saying is that we 725 00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:08,200 Speaker 1: should kind of meet at like a bar as strangers 726 00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:11,719 Speaker 1: I love and just have this like, you know, little rendezvous, 727 00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:14,160 Speaker 1: like as if we don't know each other love and 728 00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,359 Speaker 1: kind of just have this little you know, this little rendezvous. 729 00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,680 Speaker 1: What would your character be. I don't know. I'd have 730 00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:25,399 Speaker 1: to think about it. Um um, but modern family do that. Yeah, 731 00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:30,200 Speaker 1: and they have their personas their personalities. Yes, I love it. 732 00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:32,719 Speaker 1: That is something that I've been wanting to do. Have 733 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:34,759 Speaker 1: you discussed this with your partner? I have. I told 734 00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:36,960 Speaker 1: him and he said yes. But now we just need 735 00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:40,680 Speaker 1: to like schedule it, Like can I be there? I 736 00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:45,480 Speaker 1: just want to witness. Yes, Well, I just that I 737 00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,719 Speaker 1: want to see the character I'll be into. I'll be 738 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:57,440 Speaker 1: in disguised too, in role. Imagine it's scripted like we 739 00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:04,120 Speaker 1: casted Got All film. Chad and Michela there too. Poor Chava, 740 00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,759 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's hysterical. Chava is a very sweet man. 741 00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:13,800 Speaker 1: Chava's our friend. He's one of our only straight male friends. 742 00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:17,520 Speaker 1: To be honest, it's very true. Yeah. Um so yeah, 743 00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:22,879 Speaker 1: I mean that is something that I've been wanting to do. Um. Yeah. 744 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:27,920 Speaker 1: Anything else about pleasure and play? Mama? I Also when 745 00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:31,080 Speaker 1: I think about pleasure and play, I think that there's 746 00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:35,719 Speaker 1: so many ways to like, like experience pleasure without full 747 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:39,560 Speaker 1: on sex or without penetration or intercourse, And for me, 748 00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:42,840 Speaker 1: that is so much fun, like just enjoying each other's 749 00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,520 Speaker 1: bodies and literally just playing with all the different sensations 750 00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:49,080 Speaker 1: that you can just stimulate on a person's body. Okay, 751 00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,560 Speaker 1: an pleasure. I remember I texted Mama one time and 752 00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:53,480 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, this is really random, but I've 753 00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:56,160 Speaker 1: wondered if have you ever played with wax like hot? 754 00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:57,800 Speaker 1: Wat did ask me about I did? It was like 755 00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,319 Speaker 1: totally random, but I just had this like, I that's 756 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:03,160 Speaker 1: something that also I've been wanting to try. But I 757 00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,160 Speaker 1: just feel like you have to do that very carefully. 758 00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:08,840 Speaker 1: Obviously I don't have I've never done it, so I'm like, 759 00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:11,719 Speaker 1: but it's something that I know that I would like 760 00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:17,080 Speaker 1: because of the sensation, the heat, you know. Um, so 761 00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:19,560 Speaker 1: that is something else that I want to kind of 762 00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:23,719 Speaker 1: try and dabble in. I like it. You know, where 763 00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:27,840 Speaker 1: does the wax go? I think immediately of like nipple pipples. 764 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,400 Speaker 1: I feel like that could be like even if you 765 00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:32,080 Speaker 1: were to like drip it on your shoulder. Well, for me, 766 00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,080 Speaker 1: like my shoulders are very sensitive, so if you were 767 00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,239 Speaker 1: to just even like drip it there, like drip it 768 00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:42,200 Speaker 1: on your navel, like your belly button area, definitely, breast, thighs, everywhere. 769 00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,960 Speaker 1: Cover me in wax. Yes, oh my god, how funny. 770 00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:48,600 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I'm down. And it couldn't be any candle 771 00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:51,040 Speaker 1: or is it a special type? I don't know. We 772 00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:52,640 Speaker 1: need to look it. We should look we need to 773 00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:56,320 Speaker 1: look it up. We could do like a demonstration. Should 774 00:43:56,360 --> 00:44:00,480 Speaker 1: do that. Actually next week, I thought, after pouring wax on, 775 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:04,520 Speaker 1: everyone who attends fire tickets to be there. Okay. So 776 00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:06,759 Speaker 1: Moll and I were prepping for look at that after 777 00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:10,080 Speaker 1: dark and my Buddima was there and we were just like, okay, 778 00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:12,759 Speaker 1: so like how do we like also like how do 779 00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:16,800 Speaker 1: we gain like more interest? Like what could we do? 780 00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:20,040 Speaker 1: You know? And then the ticket sales were kind of 781 00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:21,520 Speaker 1: slow at the beginning, were slow in the beginning, and 782 00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:24,960 Speaker 1: then they just like happened. It was a sold out event. 783 00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:26,719 Speaker 1: It was sold out. So we were like, so what 784 00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:28,879 Speaker 1: do we do? What do we offer? And my cousin 785 00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:32,600 Speaker 1: goes sex, So I was like, so, so are we 786 00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,720 Speaker 1: offering an orgy? Like it is now a play party? 787 00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,400 Speaker 1: Do Moll and I have sex? Like camera on camera? 788 00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:41,400 Speaker 1: Is that what people need to see? Is that what 789 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:42,960 Speaker 1: they want, That's what they want. That's what they want. 790 00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:46,080 Speaker 1: Is what they want. People want to see us having 791 00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:52,319 Speaker 1: sex in front of an audience. That's like the next 792 00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:55,440 Speaker 1: installment of Lookout That Alive a podcast party will be 793 00:44:55,440 --> 00:45:00,279 Speaker 1: a pussy party party. But you know, it was a 794 00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:03,680 Speaker 1: great suggestion. We didn't need to do that this time around. 795 00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:08,359 Speaker 1: Maybe in the future. UM, surprised you, bogy exactly. That's 796 00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,520 Speaker 1: what we were saying. We really should we actually just 797 00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,440 Speaker 1: all have sex together. Is that what we're saying. I 798 00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:15,800 Speaker 1: think that's the move that's what people want, that's what 799 00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,200 Speaker 1: the people are yearning for, right, Give the people what 800 00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:20,319 Speaker 1: they want, to the people what they want. So yeah, 801 00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,840 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, there's so much, so many different 802 00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:26,239 Speaker 1: ways to approach these topics. UM, A lot of fun. 803 00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,080 Speaker 1: It's always a good time to talk about consent, pleasure 804 00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,279 Speaker 1: and play. And we want to know if we want 805 00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:34,279 Speaker 1: to hear from y'all. Yes, if you have anything in 806 00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:37,839 Speaker 1: particular as far as pleasure and play that you're into, 807 00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,480 Speaker 1: that's a lot of fun that you recommend that you've 808 00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:44,279 Speaker 1: wanted to try, leave a comment, let us know, let 809 00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,759 Speaker 1: us know, and this will also allow us, UM, this 810 00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:51,120 Speaker 1: will allow us to plan our next look at after Dark, 811 00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:54,480 Speaker 1: you know, with any suggestions you may have, because we 812 00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:57,440 Speaker 1: already have some ideas in the works, but hearing from 813 00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,600 Speaker 1: y'all will also help us curate an evening lutely, so 814 00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:04,120 Speaker 1: we want to know, find a new comments, Yes, come, 815 00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:07,040 Speaker 1: leave a suggestion in the comments, leave a suggestion on. 816 00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:10,240 Speaker 1: So this first installment of Look after Dark was consent, 817 00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,879 Speaker 1: pleasure and play. Which the next one be? The next 818 00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,759 Speaker 1: installment of Look after Dark? What should the sexy time 819 00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,879 Speaker 1: topic be? Give us hints? And we're not having sex 820 00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,880 Speaker 1: after We're not going to have sex afterwards. Kidding Well, well, 821 00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:24,360 Speaker 1: if you're cute, might we might? We might but we 822 00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,799 Speaker 1: oh yeah, well which we I don't know. I never 823 00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:33,480 Speaker 1: know anymore. Okay, anyway, So closing out, thank you so 824 00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:39,759 Speaker 1: much for tuning in to another radio this has Thank 825 00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,920 Speaker 1: you so much for tuning in. As always, you can 826 00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:44,400 Speaker 1: find us on a bunch of different streaming platforms. 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