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Speaker 1: The Jubil Show on Demand First Day follow up. Aiden

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Speaker 1: up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Marissa,

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Speaker 1: and he wants to find out why. What's up, Aiden,

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Speaker 1: How are you? I'm doing okay? How are you not

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Speaker 1: too bad? Before we get into your date and try

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Speaker 1: before we try to figure out why you might be

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by Marissa? How long has it been since

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Speaker 1: you last talked to Marissa? Oh, it's been a couple

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Speaker 1: of weeks now, oh weeks? All right? And how many

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Speaker 1: times have you try to get a hold of her

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Speaker 1: in a couple of weeks? Just twice. I'm not you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm not creeper or anything like that. Okay, good for you, Aiden,

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's some serious self control. But why

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Speaker 1: do you think that she's not hitting you back? I

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Speaker 1: have no idea. I thought things went really well on

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Speaker 1: the first date. I mean, we had a few drinks,

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Speaker 1: had a few laughs, talked about you know, what we

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Speaker 1: did for life, what we had did for fun. She

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Speaker 1: was very flirty with me. I thought things were going

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Speaker 1: really well, and then at the end of the night,

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Speaker 1: you know, we were She seemed very happy with how

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Speaker 1: things went, and I waited, and then you know, the

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Speaker 1: next day I sent her a text and was just like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you want to go out again? And nothing. And then

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Speaker 1: a week later I was like, you know, let's you know,

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Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I liked her, let's try again,

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Speaker 1: And I sent her another one and still nothing. Is

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Speaker 1: there anything that happened, like at the end of the

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Speaker 1: date or in the middle of it, that you think

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Speaker 1: may have been a turn off for her. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. I'm pretty good with reading people,

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Speaker 1: and I mean she was very engaged in the conversation,

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Speaker 1: and I mean I tried to make it as much

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Speaker 1: me in the conversation, so that it wasn't completely one sided.

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Speaker 1: Plus I was very interested in her, so I wanted

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Speaker 1: to know more. Yeah, and she seemed like she was

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Speaker 1: having a good time. She did. I mean at any

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Speaker 1: point where, you know, between ordering around to drinks or

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Speaker 1: anything else, she could have easily ended things, and she didn't.

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Speaker 1: It just kind of took its natural course. What I'm

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Speaker 1: hearing from you aiden the fact that she stayed the

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Speaker 1: whole time. You think she had a good time like

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Speaker 1: did she seem like it though? Yeah, Like, I mean,

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Speaker 1: she wasn't on her phone. Like you know, there are

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Speaker 1: times where you're at with someone and they're constantly looking

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Speaker 1: they're not really getting into a conversation. But that wasn't

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Speaker 1: the case. And again any time I offered to order

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Speaker 1: another round, she seemed like that was cool and we

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Speaker 1: ordered another round. That is exactly what I was going

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Speaker 1: to ask though, like was she always like ready to

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Speaker 1: order another round, like right when that drink was done,

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Speaker 1: she was like, yes, let's do this again, or did

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Speaker 1: she like wait for you? No, we were drinking, I'd

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Speaker 1: say it about the same pace because we were also talking,

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Speaker 1: but roughly the same amount, So we were we were

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Speaker 1: going at about the same pace. And there's nothing you

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Speaker 1: can think of that happened that could you know, be

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Speaker 1: a reason that she would ghost you. No, And I

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Speaker 1: mean as far as like the drinks go, she did

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Speaker 1: order maybe one or two more than I did, just

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Speaker 1: because I was driving, So you know, there were the

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Speaker 1: couple times, but I mean even then, it at any

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Speaker 1: have been like, oh, okay, I guess I'm done too.

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Speaker 1: Let's go okay that she didn't she ordered another and okay,

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Speaker 1: and you didn't. Did you judge her about that? Did

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Speaker 1: you say, really, you're ordering another? I'm having water right now?

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Speaker 1: I know that. No, I'm not like that. And again,

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Speaker 1: I was enjoying the company. So someone having a couple

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Speaker 1: more drinks than me is not a deal breaker. But

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Speaker 1: you actually sound quite lovely and I feel like you

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Speaker 1: didn't do anything wrong at this point. Well, thank you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, Well let's see if we can figure it out.

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Speaker 1: Then we'll play a song come back, and then call

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Speaker 1: her and try to find why she's ghosting you and

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Speaker 1: reason why. Okay, all right, sounds good. All right, we'll

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Speaker 1: get your first day follow up next. Just joining us

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Speaker 1: for today's first date follow up. Aiden is on the

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Speaker 1: if Aiden wants another date after he hears why he's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted. Aiden, real quick though, before we call her,

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Speaker 1: refresh everybody's memory and recap your date for us. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so we went out, had some drinks, had some fun,

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Speaker 1: and then the next day I sent her a text,

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Speaker 1: didn't get a reply, waited a few days, sent another

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Speaker 1: one and still no reply. And you have no idea why, none,

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Speaker 1: but I can think of. We just think maybe it's

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Speaker 1: because you let her order two more drinks than you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and she thinks she were judging her, right right, We

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Speaker 1: All right. I'm a dollar phone right now. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak to Marissa. Please. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it is she. Hi, Marissa, how are you? My name

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Speaker 1: is jew Bowl and I'm calling from radio show and

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Speaker 1: it's called the jew Bil Show. He's not by himself either,

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina here too, Hi, And that's Victoria. Yeah, brad

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Speaker 1: To in the backgrounds over here as well. So yeah, Hello,

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Speaker 1: how's it going good? I mean I think did I

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Speaker 1: win something? Or am I getting called out or something?

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Speaker 1: On the radio. We do a segment on our show

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Speaker 1: and it's called the first date follow up. That's where

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Speaker 1: if you go out on a date with someone and

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Speaker 1: then you end up ghosting them. That person can email

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Speaker 1: us to get you on the phone and ask what happened.

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Speaker 1: And so we got an email about you from somebody

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Speaker 1: that you're ghosting. All right, yeah, okay, so you say

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Speaker 1: you say that, like you know who you're ghosting. Ghost

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Speaker 1: things are very common thing. It's happened to me. I've

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Speaker 1: done it others before. Like it sucks, but like I

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Speaker 1: don't know what's kind of just how it is now

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Speaker 1: you know? Okay, but then you know you can't help,

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Speaker 1: but wonder why you're getting ghosted? So do you know

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Speaker 1: who the person is that we're talking about? Cash has

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Speaker 1: been weak? What's his name? You know? I know I

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Speaker 1: watch your are listening to your show. Oh no, oh okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: Well then you understand that we're calling because he feels

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Speaker 1: like he's being ghosted and we just want to know why.

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Speaker 1: All right, Um, I already seem like a terrible person,

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Speaker 1: so why not while just be honest, I'm like I

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Speaker 1: saalenting you didn't like the way he dressed? Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like Aidan his like clothing style is just like super

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Speaker 1: pay attention to like fashion friends and stuff like that,

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Speaker 1: which like here to each their own, but like I'm

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Speaker 1: a very fashion forward person, Like I'm that person and

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Speaker 1: he is not that person. And I also just think

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Speaker 1: I mean. It's kind of like they don't really care,

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Speaker 1: I get that, you know impression. However, you didn't see

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Speaker 1: change this all I could upgrade you. I don't think

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Speaker 1: you can teach like a guy to have pride in himself,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like either he thinks he's

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Speaker 1: does by the way he presents himself. Okay, Well, what

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Speaker 1: was so what was so bad about his clothes? His jeans,

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Speaker 1: Like you could tell he's probably worn them like for

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Speaker 1: maybe two weeks straight, Like you know, the butt area

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Speaker 1: didn't look good. It was Staggie. You're like, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I just if you're going to dress up on a

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Speaker 1: need a wash, Like come on, all right, well, thank

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Speaker 1: you for being honest about that. So now I should

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Speaker 1: tell you something that's truthful to Aidan is actually on

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Speaker 1: I mean, I have all the designer suits at home

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Speaker 1: this is a little intimidating that he's wearing a power suit.

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Speaker 1: it's like, you know, like you went like we've been dating,

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Speaker 1: the first date. You gotta go like at least in between, Like,

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Speaker 1: going to show up in my jeans and sneakers. But

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Speaker 1: I guess I would have dressed more that way. That's

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Speaker 1: he showed up? I mean, yeah, Like I definitely probably

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Speaker 1: in the second I found out that, like, the power

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Speaker 1: his personality. Like, it probably wouldn't have gone much, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. You can go off on what

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Speaker 1: I was wearing all you like, but for someone who

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Speaker 1: at least a season ago, if not more. Oh all right,

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Speaker 1: fashion is terrible, you should look it up. I liked

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Speaker 1: our earth a little bit, so like, don't crochet on

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Speaker 1: somebody who's rugal and can still keep things fresh. There's

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Speaker 1: I don't judge on the superficial things like that. I

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Speaker 1: I got to be honest, though, it wasn't working for

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Speaker 1: me either. It was a first date. You know, first

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Speaker 1: dates sometimes go a little sideways, they're a little awkward.

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Speaker 1: you know, if the first feeling is right or it.

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Speaker 1: It was just a matter of first date, Jitters, let's

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Speaker 1: try it, Aiden Merca, would you like to go on

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Speaker 1: another day with Aiden? Won'll pay for it? No, thank you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why. Like Aiden, like you thought like

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Speaker 1: insulting me after like all that would win me over

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Speaker 1: at the end, But no idea can date. I mean

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Speaker 1: I wasn't insulting you, but I mean your fashion was

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Speaker 1: kind of insulting everyone in the room. Oh, all that aside,

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Speaker 1: I would like a second chance. If the big issue

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Speaker 1: was the clothing. All wear what you want me to wear?

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Speaker 1: I mean absolutely not. There is no outfit in the

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Speaker 1: world that would make me want to go on a

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Speaker 1: second date with you. Well, all right, then good to know.

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Speaker 1: I guess I don't need to business my data then

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