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Speaker 1: Hey, folks, it is the evening of Monday, September eighth,

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Speaker 1: as we record this, and what the actual hell? We

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Speaker 1: just watched the number one trending show on Netflix. It's

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Speaker 1: called Unknown Number the High School Catfish. Our mouths dropped

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Speaker 1: open for pretty much the entire hour and a half

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Speaker 1: of this documentary, and Roeboch has been absolutely chomping at

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Speaker 1: the bit to get everything off her chest and off

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Speaker 1: her mind and spirit about what we just saw. And

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Speaker 1: I told her, wait, don't do it until we hit record. Well, folks,

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Speaker 1: we just hit record, and now welcome to this episode

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Speaker 1: of Amy and TJ. First reaction, before we even explain

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Speaker 1: anything about this documentary, you tell me how you feel.

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Speaker 2: Appalled, disgusted, shocked, and just in disbelief. I'm in disbelief

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Speaker 2: of what I saw.

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Speaker 1: Disbelief is a good one. Can't believe what we saw,

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Speaker 1: and now I'm looking I have softened. Shock and disbelief

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Speaker 1: was first. I have a difficult time getting to anger

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Speaker 1: just yet. And so let's get into all of that. Folks.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know what this thing is about, we

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Speaker 1: want to give you a heads up. We're not going

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Speaker 1: to give a spoiler, and if we do. We're going

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Speaker 1: to give your heads up. We're not going to give

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Speaker 1: a spoiler before what the next five minutes, I should say,

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Speaker 1: as we set it up, but we're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: talk about the reveal and what this story is. It's

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Speaker 1: out there and it's public. We just in case you

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Speaker 1: haven't seen it and wanted to, we at least want

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Speaker 1: to give your heads up before we tell you about

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Speaker 1: what went down. Is that fair?

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Speaker 2: I would say, we couldn't do a proper podcast without

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Speaker 2: discussing what the twist is or what the true This

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Speaker 2: isn't even a script, that's the thing. It's not a

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Speaker 2: movie script. This is real life. It's always been said

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Speaker 2: truth is stranger than fiction. This documentary is proof. If

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Speaker 2: you ever didn't believe it, this documentary is proof. And

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Speaker 2: so we're gonna have to give the spoiler. So if

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Speaker 2: you haven't seen it, I would say, put us on pause,

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Speaker 2: go watch the Netflix documentary, and then come back and

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Speaker 2: see if you want to join in on this, because

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Speaker 2: I guarantee you you're gonna have feelings.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And as you listen along here, we promise we

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Speaker 1: will give you a heads up before we give the

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Speaker 1: thing or anything away. But just to set it up

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Speaker 1: here robes is, I mean the teas and the trailer

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Speaker 1: and what this is set up as a group of

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Speaker 1: friends begin getting harassed from an unknown number and it

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Speaker 1: is relentless. And so this goes along and follows the

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Speaker 1: story investigation what happens to these kids until the ultimate

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I have to give Netflix so many kudos

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Speaker 2: because they really did an artful job in telling a story.

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Speaker 2: So you actually are you're actually alone long for the

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Speaker 2: horror of it. Where it builds, you start to see

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Speaker 2: the initial texts and then there's a little bit of

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Speaker 2: a lull and then they come back. And when they

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Speaker 2: come back, they're relentless. They're ferocious, they're unending. Sometimes there's

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Speaker 2: fifty texts a day of just hardcore bullying that actually

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Speaker 2: crescendos into telling the victims, the recipients of these texts

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Speaker 1: You reminded me. I'm still not quite sure the ages

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Speaker 1: they were what grade at.

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Speaker 2: The time, ninth grade, So we're talking fourteen thirteen, fourteen

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Speaker 1: Okay, And this is in Bill City, Michigan, and this

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Speaker 2: Yeah, within the last few years.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is so Yeah, this is all very current.

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Speaker 2: The kids are still in high school.

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Speaker 1: Yes, there you go. The kids are still in high school.

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Speaker 1: And they did talk to all the kids, but it

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Speaker 1: revolved around Owen and Lauren, these two youngins who were

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Speaker 1: Essentially Owen and Lauren started getting these messages essentially trying

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Speaker 2: They were very sexually graphic. Yes, for even someone who

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Speaker 2: I've felt that I was like, WHOA and these kids?

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Speaker 2: age in ninth grade, when you're becoming a woman, and

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Speaker 1: Again, thirteen year old, all of these kids are, and

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Speaker 1: several of them started getting these messages from unknown numbers.

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Speaker 1: To your point about Lauren, this is probably one of

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Speaker 1: the saddest things is that this unknown number had no

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Speaker 2: She dressed and how she felt about herself. She talked

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Speaker 1: Power of words in messages coming through a cell phone,

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Speaker 1: it's it's horrific to see what happened. So the kids

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Speaker 1: then start doing their own investigation trying to figure it out.

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Speaker 1: The police get involved, parents get involved, everybody gets involved,

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Speaker 1: numbers every single time. So it's not that simple until

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Speaker 2: Correct, But before is it, Before the FBI got involved,

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Speaker 2: creating texts that made it seem as though another student

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Speaker 2: down IP numbers basically IP addresses. Excuse me, and.

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Speaker 1: Let's jump on that. But I wanted to your point.

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Speaker 1: I didn't make this point enough about what you just said.

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Speaker 1: How Yes, this caused friendships to break down forever, this

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Speaker 1: caused marriages to end, Families were split, all because somebody

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Speaker 2: Tech constant like fifty texts a day, constantly your full

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Speaker 1: Yes, so, yes, this is where we are to pick

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Speaker 2: Attached for mere so the people who the victims who

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Speaker 2: who then did a full extraction, is that what they

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Speaker 2: what was it, about two thirds maybe three quarters of

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Speaker 2: that is finally cross referenced, because they went through all

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Speaker 1: And they made a very good point. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: the parents said, no, we actually want to figure this out.

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Speaker 1: We want to figure out who this is because clearly

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Speaker 2: This person is in our homes this person is being

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Speaker 1: So they and they build us up Robes very dramatically.

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Speaker 1: This was the biggest possible shocker of anybody that could

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Speaker 2: Yes, because the poor girl Lauren who was being berated

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Speaker 2: even giving the worst of the quotes, those texts were

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Speaker 2: coming from her own mother. So Lauren's mother, Kendra, ultimately

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Speaker 2: her own mother. And then the question becomes why why.

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Speaker 1: So as you say it and you sit here anyone

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Speaker 1: the why. And so again, a very good part of

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Speaker 1: the documentary is that Netflix got the bodycam footage of

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Speaker 1: daughter in as well to see all this breakdown. You see,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure what comes over her when she knew

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Speaker 1: the gig was up. She immediately confessed and there wasn't

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Speaker 1: much of an emotional reaction, babe.

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Speaker 2: That was what freaked me out. The moment she actually

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Amy and TG where we are talking

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Speaker 1: But man, and be mindful of folks. I don't know

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Speaker 1: why I'm I'm usually that guy, but I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: listen and understand before I just completely condemn what I find.

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Speaker 2: To be just indefensible, indefensible. What you did, it is indefensible,

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Speaker 2: But I do like your takeaway and I think it's

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Speaker 2: a good way to end that we all should always

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Speaker 2: remember to be mindful of the power of our words.

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Speaker 2: Let's use them for good. So thank you for listening

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Speaker 2: to us tonight. I made Robock alongside TJ. Hilmes. Have

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Speaker 2: a good night, everybody.