WEBVTT - Tori’s Back! What Really Happened While She Was Gone

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<v Speaker 1>Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, this is the moment you've all been waiting for.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been waiting for. This is Misspelling and your host

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<v Speaker 2>Misspelling is finally back. I'm back, joined by Amy and

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<v Speaker 2>Ruth and today.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, it's been eight weeks, Tory weeks, so I think that, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome back. Ruthann's right, But first of all, what happened? Where? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>what happened to you? Where have you been? People know

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<v Speaker 1>you were sick, but what happened exactly?

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<v Speaker 2>And thank you for everyone who has reached out and

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<v Speaker 2>has just wished me the best and get well. It

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<v Speaker 2>has been hell, and Hell's individual to all of us,

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<v Speaker 2>but this has been hell. I know I have had

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<v Speaker 2>a past of getting sick a lot and frequently, but

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<v Speaker 2>this one took me down eight weeks. I couldn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>And it all started with my sinuses. I mean it

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<v Speaker 2>started with the five Petrie dishes that live in my house.

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<v Speaker 2>But they bring things home. Look, that's normal, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you work through it, you get sick, you pick up

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<v Speaker 2>stuff from them. I now know the name of every

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<v Speaker 2>you know, virus and bacterial thing out there.

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<v Speaker 3>There's entrovirus there is eno.

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<v Speaker 2>Rhytovirus, there was COVID, there was everything RSV and.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you have it all at the same time.

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<v Speaker 3>No, not at the same time.

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<v Speaker 2>So like I wouldn't know I had it till one

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<v Speaker 2>kid was sick again, take them in, they get tested,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I would get tested and have it. So

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<v Speaker 2>it was like one week I had RSVP, RCP irish.

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<v Speaker 3>Something I did not want to ars. You doesn't get

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<v Speaker 3>to do get a one.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And it was And they always say, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>after everything started with COVID in twenty nineteen, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>people started saying it kind of all these viruses attack

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<v Speaker 2>your weakest thing. So a lot of people that are like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I always had ear infections growing up or bronchid is

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<v Speaker 2>growing up, but that was your go to health failure.

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<v Speaker 2>Mine are always my sinuses. And I know I've talked

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<v Speaker 2>about this for ages, but even growing up, it's always

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<v Speaker 2>been my damn sinuses.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a rude question. Yeah, I'm just gonna rip

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<v Speaker 1>it off and ask it. Did you have sinus issues

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<v Speaker 1>before you got your nose done or do you did?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, I did you know?

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<v Speaker 2>I always and I talked freely about my rhinoplasty, but it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it definitely is something I'm not happy with,

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<v Speaker 2>something I'm fearful to get redone again because it's in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle of my cape.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you done it once? Only?

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<v Speaker 2>So I did one full one and then I yes, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm in the pilot episode, the first episode. Then

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not the only out of ten seasons, there's only

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<v Speaker 2>one episode I was not in, and that's the second

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<v Speaker 2>episode that aired, and I was having my nose done.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's so uh nine two one zero and Beverly

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<v Speaker 2>Hills of it all. But yeah, I came back third episode.

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<v Speaker 2>It's my new nose, not vastly different, but I definitely

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<v Speaker 2>Since then, the left side it's very impacted, not only

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and people always say, why do you always

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<v Speaker 2>insist on doing a post photo with your face like

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<v Speaker 2>turn to the left and showing the.

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<v Speaker 1>Right side of air so you actually feel like you

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<v Speaker 1>have a better side because of this, The symmetry is off,

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<v Speaker 1>it really is.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's not just physically off, it's internally off. I like,

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<v Speaker 2>if I plug my nose, I can breathe freely up

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<v Speaker 2>my right nostril. This left one I can barely get

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<v Speaker 2>any air up through it. It's so crunched it.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had a doctor like look at this?

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely?

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<v Speaker 2>And in twenty twenty one I had sinus surgery, not

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<v Speaker 2>for anything, you know, exterior, but to.

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<v Speaker 1>Go into season one till twenty twenty one nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>I had two revisions to try, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>To fix that, and it didn't. It didn't land and

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<v Speaker 2>still now no, all these years I've been dealing with it,

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<v Speaker 2>and it sucks, like breathing sucks. I snore really bad,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm convinced just because I have like no airway

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<v Speaker 2>on my left side.

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<v Speaker 1>But I have so many questions. Sorry to interrupt, But

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<v Speaker 1>when you did the first rhinoplasty, yes, in nineteen ninety whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>it was season one?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Were you bummed or did you like it? At first?

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<v Speaker 3>Good question? I don't think. I was so young. And

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<v Speaker 3>then all of a sudden, on.

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<v Speaker 2>A globally populated popular show, I had no time to

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<v Speaker 2>think about how it looked.

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<v Speaker 3>I just had to go.

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<v Speaker 2>But I definitely That's when I already had problems with

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<v Speaker 2>my nose.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't like it. I thought it was too big.

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<v Speaker 3>I had anxiety about it, But after that I was

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<v Speaker 3>like it was little.

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<v Speaker 2>I would have taken a little bit bigger than like

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<v Speaker 2>it's totally crooked.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, yes, right, I have a question. Did you have

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<v Speaker 4>the nose job before or after? The parrot bit your

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<v Speaker 4>nose before?

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<v Speaker 3>Before?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh so then the parrot damaged it further.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe this is a past life thing, like there's

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<v Speaker 3>something with my nose.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, this is okay, so interesting, right, why my nose?

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<v Speaker 1>I asked that because you do get sick a lot, right,

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<v Speaker 1>which we'll talk about. But this really took you out

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<v Speaker 1>and it was the worst in many years, and so

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<v Speaker 1>what did the what were the symptoms, what was happening

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<v Speaker 1>to you that was really debilitating? And then what did

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<v Speaker 1>the doctors say about it?

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<v Speaker 2>Of course it was the worst flu like symptoms you

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<v Speaker 2>could imagine. I liken it to when like the bad

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<v Speaker 2>covid first hit us all and we're like, whoa. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like nowadays people say I got covid, sniffles, stuffy whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm fought brain fog.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm back in a few days. It was.

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<v Speaker 2>It took me out. I was flat on my back

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<v Speaker 2>like Mike, and then it got so ingrained in there

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<v Speaker 2>it went into my U station tube. I sound really

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<v Speaker 2>smart saying that but that's your inner ear. So it

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<v Speaker 2>was both sinuses. It was an inner ear infection. You

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<v Speaker 2>station tube.

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<v Speaker 3>So then the vertigo kicked it, which I'm still having vertigo.

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<v Speaker 1>Still now, eight weeks later.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if I I don't want to do it. If

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<v Speaker 2>I turn it to the side, to my yep, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>I start to turn right now, it all starts to spin.

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<v Speaker 1>WHOA, Yeah, I get some of that's menopause. I get

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<v Speaker 1>some of that. But anyway, and mean you think everything

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<v Speaker 1>that caused well kind is it's.

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<v Speaker 3>All combined and.

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<v Speaker 2>Do more because that a chiropractic adjustment can help. But

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, everyone and their mother. Why is it

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<v Speaker 2>everyone in their mother? Not everyone and their father, everyone

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<v Speaker 2>in their parent you know, says Oh, I had a

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<v Speaker 2>friend who had that. My friend was down for three

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<v Speaker 2>months because I'm like two months. So here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I was on so many rounds of antibiotics that it

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<v Speaker 2>just nothing was working. The only thing that has semi

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<v Speaker 2>worked is they transferred me to nasal rinses, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like an anny pod and there's other versions with they

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<v Speaker 2>would put antibiotics from compounding pharmacy in that, so I

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<v Speaker 2>would do the rints.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're like rinsing with antibiotics.

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<v Speaker 3>Correct and that were slowly, slowly but surely.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm talking about like I would go to the doctor,

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<v Speaker 2>they would do cameras and be.

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<v Speaker 3>They could look in there, I could see what was

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<v Speaker 3>going on. I'm like, oh my god, that's crazy, what's

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<v Speaker 3>up there? And they were like, oh, it's ten percent better.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I told you this, it's ten percent. I'm like, guys,

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<v Speaker 3>I gotta get back to work. I have five kids.

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<v Speaker 1>He was taking care of the kids during all of this,

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<v Speaker 1>the last two months.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's it's a horrible feeling when you were

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<v Speaker 2>put in the position as a mother or as a

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<v Speaker 2>parent in general.

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<v Speaker 3>Where your kids have to take care of you.

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<v Speaker 2>That you know, that's something we think comes later in life,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're like, one day you're gonna have to and

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, but not yet. So it was a really

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<v Speaker 2>hard transition. So did Dean help definitely? My ex husband

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<v Speaker 2>super helpful. Yeah, really really well.

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<v Speaker 1>But you don't have any other you don't have a nanny,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have any babysitters. Obviously. I know Liam and

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<v Speaker 1>Stella are right.

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<v Speaker 2>Stella is driving now, so she was, you know, when

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<v Speaker 2>she's able to she's a senior and doing all of

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<v Speaker 2>her senior.

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<v Speaker 3>Stuff as well. She made the honor role. I'm super

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<v Speaker 3>proud of her.

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<v Speaker 2>She's had to, you know, change her schedule to go

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<v Speaker 2>pick up Bow from elementary school.

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<v Speaker 3>Like it's it's been a shift, but.

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<v Speaker 1>You have no other help.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't, and I don't think anyone believes that.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like it's it's true, and not that I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't in the past, of course, you know, but at

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<v Speaker 2>this point, you know, in my world, financial world, I don't,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's kind of everything happening at once, so it's

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<v Speaker 2>like I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>Go down again.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, So during those two months, like who was

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<v Speaker 1>making dinner and doing all that kind of stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is the part that was heartbreaking to me

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<v Speaker 2>because I publicly said, you know, after separation and going

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<v Speaker 2>through the divorce, I was like, I can't cook, and

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't cook for two years and it was all

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<v Speaker 2>ordering in or going out. And then I got really

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<v Speaker 2>back into it and the kids were thriving, they were

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<v Speaker 2>helping with it, and it made them you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>all or nothing. So instead of starting slow, I went

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<v Speaker 2>to cooking, you know, five nights a week instead of

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<v Speaker 2>like Okay, I'm gonna do two nights and just go sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, Yeah, so there's all that, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I couldn't cook, so we had to go back

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<v Speaker 2>to ordering it again, and I'm like, I'm sorry. I

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<v Speaker 2>kept saying every day, I'm sorry, guys. I'm hoping tomorrow

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<v Speaker 2>I'll feel better and cook again. And it kept going like,

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<v Speaker 2>let me ask you.

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<v Speaker 1>These questions because there's like a sort of a bigger

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<v Speaker 1>picture happening here. So you're feeling physically like poopoo do doo.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so bad that the kids couldn't like I

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't even like come downstairs, like they would have to

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<v Speaker 2>help me walk to the bathroom to pee, like it

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<v Speaker 2>was outrageous, and you.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel like exertionally, emotionally, how are you feeling during all this?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, emotionally And you know, and everyone out there knows,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a really positive person, Like you know, I've been

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<v Speaker 2>through this lifetime and I go up and down and

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<v Speaker 2>I keep going, keep on trucking.

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<v Speaker 3>I got real to a point where I felt really hopeless,

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<v Speaker 3>and I never lost hope.

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<v Speaker 2>Like for me to say that, because it gets to

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<v Speaker 2>the point where you're just it's depressing being in bed.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember I used to think, like, oh, I have

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<v Speaker 2>so much on my plate, it'd be so nice to

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<v Speaker 2>have me time and just go like.

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<v Speaker 3>Relax before you got before I got sick. And now

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like PTSD.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, please, I don't want to be back up

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<v Speaker 2>in that bed again, because it just.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, like I couldn't even watch.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you get yourself out of that sort of depression?

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<v Speaker 2>It was, honestly, I it came back because the physical

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<v Speaker 2>just started being, the steps started coming back. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>remember saying to Ruth Dan, I feel so sick. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna cough now saying that that's weird. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>so sick that mentally it's like this bubble. I'm in

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<v Speaker 2>this brain fog, this body fog. I felt like I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't in my own body. And I said, I'm worried

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<v Speaker 2>I've lost all my humor and wit, like I like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a smart girl, and what if that's all gone forever.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, it's not gone, for.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not gone, but it is like just so so

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<v Speaker 1>people know it is You're not like you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>your A game yet, you know what I mean, Like

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<v Speaker 1>you're getting.

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<v Speaker 3>There would you call this a B minus?

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<v Speaker 1>No, this is this is pretty good what you're doing now.

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<v Speaker 1>But like we've talked and full sweeting here. No, but

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, like we've been talking and like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not one hundred person. No I'm not so so

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<v Speaker 1>I have like so many personal questions.

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<v Speaker 3>But like, look, what was the tulterier like to just quit?

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<v Speaker 1>Like there was right, but I'm not a question you

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<v Speaker 1>know that. No, right, you're and you're coming back. But

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<v Speaker 1>like over the last two months, Look, you work with us,

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<v Speaker 1>iHeart it's like a salary, right, so you're getting paid,

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<v Speaker 1>but like you do a lot of work that are

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<v Speaker 1>like one off's here and we know you had to

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<v Speaker 1>cancel a thing in Vegas and one off here because

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<v Speaker 1>should pay your bills if you because it's not like

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<v Speaker 1>you work like a normal job like other people do.

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<v Speaker 1>So how like how is that stress?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean that's always stress because I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>in the entertainment industry it's and no one understands this.

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<v Speaker 3>It fluctuates.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you don't have a nine to five, you

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<v Speaker 2>don't have a guarantee yearly salary. Closest to having my

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<v Speaker 2>guarantee salary is with my iHeart family and my two podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>So other than that, you know, it's kind of goes

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<v Speaker 2>ebbs and flows, but you got to be out there

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<v Speaker 2>and be consistent and be relevant. So for me, I

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<v Speaker 2>was also laying in bed beating myself up, like I've

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<v Speaker 2>just on and this is my health is important, my

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<v Speaker 2>kids are important, Like this is so not important. No,

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<v Speaker 2>but it crossed my mind not to pay the bill.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just gone, like I am I A And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you've seen people in the past, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>They're like, oh, I chose a quieter life.

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<v Speaker 2>I decided to go to college for a year, and

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<v Speaker 2>then it's like, oh they're gone, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, okay, So I think the thing I want

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<v Speaker 1>to ask you about, and Tory knows we're going to.

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<v Speaker 5>Sort of talk about this. Yeah, you get sick a lot. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>this was particularly bad. But this also was sort of

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<v Speaker 5>that moment where Ruth Anne your manager, and I your

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<v Speaker 5>team that I.

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<v Speaker 3>Heard were like my friends, I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Your friends, Yeah yeah, no, no, no, of course, Jenny,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to give, like you know, Jenny has to

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<v Speaker 1>take over when you're out and just totally fine to do.

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<v Speaker 1>How much do you think sort of your lifestyle plays

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<v Speaker 1>into why you get sick so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely am a believer that physical is physical, but

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<v Speaker 2>emotional and your cortisol and the stress, it all just

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<v Speaker 2>weighs on you. So everything that I have going on,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, internally, externally, all plays apart in how well received.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, these terms come in, I can fight them off. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm so depleted emotionally, if I'm so depleted physically,

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm so stressed out and not getting the proper sleep,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously I'm gonna fall into the portion of people that

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<v Speaker 2>get super sick and hang onto it. Now we've I've

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<v Speaker 2>gone to an immunologist, just learn that word. Because the

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<v Speaker 2>ant was like, listen, I know you get sick. I

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<v Speaker 2>tell him everything too. I'm like, here's why I do

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<v Speaker 2>something wrong. You know, he knows everything, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>but you know, physical wise, it I can see cameras.

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<v Speaker 3>It's there. It shouldn't be there.

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<v Speaker 2>Two months later, so immunologists, I went, did a slew

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<v Speaker 2>of blood work and there's already markers. They're still getting

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<v Speaker 2>the back of major immune disorders. So I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if that means autoimmune. We're still figuring it out. We'll

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<v Speaker 2>know in the next one.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's sort of what you have to keep exploring.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, And that's going to be a huge component because realistically,

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<v Speaker 2>while I have to like get myself in good health,

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<v Speaker 2>I have to keep the train moving. So it's going

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<v Speaker 2>to going forward, be a balance and try to balance,

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<v Speaker 2>whereas before I just you know, whatever sticks to the

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<v Speaker 2>wall sticks and just keep going, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to change the way you live, Like was

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<v Speaker 1>this sort of like a rock bottom or like a

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<v Speaker 1>you know, awakening, like I need to change the way

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<v Speaker 1>I live?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I definitely, I mean, ruth Anne knows this. I

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<v Speaker 2>had put myself last when it goes to this is

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<v Speaker 2>general stuff that everyone does, going to get your yearly checkup,

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<v Speaker 2>going to the guy of colleges, going, you know, do

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<v Speaker 2>you do any of that?

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<v Speaker 3>I do now?

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<v Speaker 1>No. No.

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<v Speaker 6>I dragged her physically to a few dogs and during.

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<v Speaker 1>The last two months that you got sick of this before.

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<v Speaker 2>So I wasn't. But ruth Anne has really been on

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<v Speaker 2>me in a good way, in a supportive, friend loving way,

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<v Speaker 2>like hey, you don't have your health, you don't have

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<v Speaker 2>anything else, And I'm like, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>You're right, you're right. So I would say like five

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<v Speaker 3>four months before I got really sick, I had started

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<v Speaker 3>to go.

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<v Speaker 2>She was taking me, you know, I got Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>got my Mamograham, I went to guide in collegist, I

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<v Speaker 2>got a new internist, like I was setting the stage

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<v Speaker 2>to succeed.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you think you put all that stuff off

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<v Speaker 1>so much?

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<v Speaker 2>I can tell you honestly and not that it's right.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's no right or wrong that I was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>I barely have time to set appointments for my children

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<v Speaker 2>with my work schedule and dealing with them. I have

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<v Speaker 2>to put myself last. So when they're up to date

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<v Speaker 2>on everything, because the last three years has been a

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<v Speaker 2>shit show for us, then I'll.

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<v Speaker 3>Go back to me. But they always say put the

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<v Speaker 3>oxygen mask on first, which I don't really believe in,

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<v Speaker 3>but in this case, yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I will just agree here.

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<v Speaker 4>In all the years I've known Tory, everything else has

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<v Speaker 4>come first, and intentionally or unintentionally, you have come last.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, taking care.

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<v Speaker 3>Of yourself, and it doesn't work anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>It's it's you know, I don't think it's common for

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<v Speaker 4>people with kids to, you know, forget about themselves and

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<v Speaker 4>put their kids first.

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<v Speaker 6>But yeah, I do preach, what do you say your health.

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<v Speaker 4>Your health is everything and if you're not healthy, there's

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<v Speaker 4>no way you can take care of your kids.

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<v Speaker 2>So that and I didn't forget about myself. I always

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<v Speaker 2>in my brain would be like, Okay, come on, you

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<v Speaker 2>need to get to a gynecologist. You're supposed to get

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<v Speaker 2>your yearly paps married, and like I knew what to do,

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<v Speaker 2>but I didn't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you say your life is messy chaotic?

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<v Speaker 3>It's definitely chaotic, messy. I mean we all know that.

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<v Speaker 2>I always say that I have like tons of shit

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<v Speaker 2>piled everywhere, and like, esthetically it's messy, but I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if you really dig into it, if it's messy.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is where we disagree.

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<v Speaker 3>But you don't know what my kids go through and

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<v Speaker 3>what because I.

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<v Speaker 1>Like fundamentally disagree because I love.

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<v Speaker 2>You so hard on myself and I will repeat to everyone,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my life's a mess I'm a shit show.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is messy. Tory like that's the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>I almost want you to look at.

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<v Speaker 3>Is going Can I talk to you? Do you know?

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<v Speaker 3>And it's not because it's me. They're like, do you

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<v Speaker 3>know what? Like they put things into perspective.

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<v Speaker 2>Of how well this child is doing and they are thriving,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's because of you. You run this show like internally,

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<v Speaker 2>like stop beating yourself. Everyone knows I'm a mess.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not a mess, but your life is chaos. Like

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I kind of want to say, is like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we've been sugarcoating this. And again, people

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<v Speaker 1>can be mad at me for being tough, but we've

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<v Speaker 1>talked about this before. It's like I think we've sugarcoated

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<v Speaker 1>this for two years, Like we was kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>putting a band aid on it, a band aid on it,

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<v Speaker 1>a band aid on it. Two things can be true.

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<v Speaker 1>The kids can be thriving in school, even at home,

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<v Speaker 1>they can be perfectly happy, while life is still a

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<v Speaker 1>complete chaotic swirl. And I think that's like what I

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<v Speaker 1>feel for you sometimes is like there's very minimal, like

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<v Speaker 1>true organization, Like here's all the things I have to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and no one person could do it all, but you

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<v Speaker 1>have no help, so it just becomes this swirl. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think my question for you is like would you

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<v Speaker 1>want to change things? Are you open to changing things?

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<v Speaker 1>But I think if you don't see it being chaos,

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<v Speaker 1>I do that feels weird to me. Yeah, like I

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<v Speaker 1>know it's chaos.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know it's not what I want, and

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's not how I'm thriving.

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<v Speaker 3>My kids are doing great and they're getting by, but

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<v Speaker 3>it's like, gosh, there's so many things.

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<v Speaker 2>If I had moments or people or someone to help,

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<v Speaker 2>I could change this and we could change it around

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<v Speaker 2>pretty quickly. Like I have no doubt, and I think

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<v Speaker 2>I am held back a lot by myself but because

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<v Speaker 2>of my situation, and it's like there's got to be

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<v Speaker 2>a way. You know, I need a mother's helper, like,

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<v Speaker 2>but then I'll be right.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's the hardest part right now. Is it like

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<v Speaker 1>needing money to be able to pay for like privileges,

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<v Speaker 1>life's extra things that most people can't have, but you

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<v Speaker 1>would like to be able to have. I think you

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<v Speaker 1>said something that really landed on me. The kids are

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<v Speaker 1>getting by, Yeah they are, but like getting by isn't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily what you want.

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<v Speaker 2>Right And I think I my instinct is to like

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<v Speaker 2>put more blame on myself than there is. So I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, Stella making the honor roll, like she's thriving,

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<v Speaker 2>She's not just getting by, she's you know, applied to

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<v Speaker 2>college and like we're doing all.

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<v Speaker 3>Of that stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>But the one thing I would love to eliminate is

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<v Speaker 2>they worry about me because we live in a situation.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, I grew up believing I tried to

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<v Speaker 2>raise my kids when they were younger and we had help.

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<v Speaker 3>That they wouldn't have to deal with the stuff like

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<v Speaker 3>to hear about finances here stressed, I am, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>this just happened. I to do this, but I have

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<v Speaker 3>to go pick this one up.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, Lia and my son, who is eighteen,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, mom, deep breath and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you're right, I'll take a deep breath.

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<v Speaker 3>And he's like, how can I help? And it's just

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<v Speaker 3>it's just I feel weird. I did it first, it

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<v Speaker 3>did I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't like.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm like, I'm grateful. I'm like, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>can't do this alone. And that was a hard thing

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<v Speaker 2>to face. Like I spent years being like I can

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<v Speaker 2>do it all, and I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>No one can do it all.

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<v Speaker 1>Like how much is Dean help? Fifty percent or no way,

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<v Speaker 1>not fifty percent?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I mean he works, so he works full time

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<v Speaker 2>and his is more of a nine to five job.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, so he just drop offs in the morning,

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<v Speaker 3>which help.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>When that changed, that was like a game changer for me.

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<v Speaker 2>When he took that drop offs anti gaps I get

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<v Speaker 2>so I still have to do pickups and Stella driving

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<v Speaker 2>was a game changer for me because we have a.

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<v Speaker 3>Car, two cars and has car schools before that does

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<v Speaker 3>still have a car, still has a car, okay, because.

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<v Speaker 1>It's look from the outside, people are like Tori Spelling,

0:23:37.080 --> 0:23:40.880
<v Speaker 1>Aaron Spelling's daughter, you know, like she's got it all.

0:23:41.000 --> 0:23:44.440
<v Speaker 1>It's Gucci and you know Dior, But like.

0:23:44.800 --> 0:23:49.120
<v Speaker 3>It is that right, and it's interesting.

0:23:49.840 --> 0:23:51.800
<v Speaker 2>I feel like my name is very polarizing in a

0:23:51.840 --> 0:23:55.679
<v Speaker 2>way because there's half the people still think that and

0:23:55.680 --> 0:23:59.160
<v Speaker 2>then half for like I thought, she's broke right right right?

0:23:59.200 --> 0:24:06.440
<v Speaker 1>You know, situation, What is the real situation and what

0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:09.600
<v Speaker 1>do you need the most? What would actually help you

0:24:10.440 --> 0:24:14.320
<v Speaker 1>make the chaos not so so high.

0:24:14.640 --> 0:24:16.720
<v Speaker 3>So my brain is more creative.

0:24:17.920 --> 0:24:20.320
<v Speaker 2>My brain is go, go, go, go go, Like if

0:24:20.320 --> 0:24:22.240
<v Speaker 2>you have if someone has to think and plan out,

0:24:22.280 --> 0:24:24.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm like I already already handled it.

0:24:25.320 --> 0:24:31.360
<v Speaker 3>So just having honestly another set of hands. Yeah, at the.

0:24:31.359 --> 0:24:34.000
<v Speaker 1>House or driving too like both.

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<v Speaker 4>I think I mean somebody who can pick up the

0:24:36.280 --> 0:24:39.800
<v Speaker 4>kid and go to the grocery store and help you

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:42.919
<v Speaker 4>go through the boxes and sort of a somebody who

0:24:43.000 --> 0:24:46.080
<v Speaker 4>can do it all in that moment.

0:24:46.400 --> 0:24:51.159
<v Speaker 1>We talked about this the other day, like how and

0:24:51.200 --> 0:24:54.200
<v Speaker 1>I don't think the house is dirty. I don't think that.

0:24:54.400 --> 0:24:57.159
<v Speaker 1>But I think the house is messy. I think because

0:24:57.200 --> 0:25:00.080
<v Speaker 1>you have a real, real problem, and like everybody that

0:25:00.160 --> 0:25:03.399
<v Speaker 1>he does, but I think yours is extreme on getting

0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:07.399
<v Speaker 1>rid of stuff, letting stuff go. Is that a fair assessment?

0:25:08.600 --> 0:25:15.520
<v Speaker 2>Partially? So the letting go used to be the entire problem. Yeah,

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:16.920
<v Speaker 2>and that's when I did have the help, So I

0:25:17.000 --> 0:25:20.520
<v Speaker 2>wish I had let it go. Then now I want

0:25:20.560 --> 0:25:25.280
<v Speaker 2>it all gone, Like I just physically don't have the time.

0:25:25.359 --> 0:25:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I will come in and be like okay, and when

0:25:27.880 --> 0:25:30.720
<v Speaker 2>I do, I'll have one hour and I will do

0:25:30.760 --> 0:25:32.240
<v Speaker 2>step it and my kids are like, oh my.

0:25:32.200 --> 0:25:35.320
<v Speaker 3>God, that looks great, and I'm like, oh thank you.

0:25:35.600 --> 0:25:37.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm like okay, this weekend and then all of a sudden,

0:25:37.840 --> 0:25:39.879
<v Speaker 2>there's play dates, there's you know, hangs, they got to

0:25:39.880 --> 0:25:41.919
<v Speaker 2>do this, they got to do that. I'm working on

0:25:41.960 --> 0:25:44.080
<v Speaker 2>stuff business wise because I'm not a nine to fiver

0:25:44.160 --> 0:25:46.760
<v Speaker 2>or so there is twenty four to seven business. When

0:25:46.760 --> 0:25:49.800
<v Speaker 2>it comes up, it comes up, and it just doesn't

0:25:49.840 --> 0:25:52.479
<v Speaker 2>get done. Like I'm not the type of stay at

0:25:52.480 --> 0:25:54.320
<v Speaker 2>home mom that it's.

0:25:54.280 --> 0:25:57.320
<v Speaker 3>Like, okay, I have while the kids are at school.

0:25:57.359 --> 0:25:59.000
<v Speaker 2>I have this chunk of time where I can just

0:25:59.040 --> 0:26:01.840
<v Speaker 2>sit down, clean my house and do laundry.

0:26:02.480 --> 0:26:04.640
<v Speaker 3>But like I'm doing this podcast, which.

0:26:04.520 --> 0:26:08.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm in the corner of my living room, formal living rooms,

0:26:08.160 --> 0:26:10.439
<v Speaker 2>i am no longer a believer in they're just a

0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:14.280
<v Speaker 2>collector of shit because literally it's like the kids don't

0:26:14.320 --> 0:26:16.560
<v Speaker 2>use them if there's not a TV, and formal living

0:26:16.640 --> 0:26:20.200
<v Speaker 2>rooms never have a TV allegedly, you know from the past,

0:26:20.400 --> 0:26:23.399
<v Speaker 2>Like it's beautiful furniture here, but no one uses it.

0:26:23.400 --> 0:26:26.560
<v Speaker 2>It is turned into I would say, my gifting suite.

0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:29.440
<v Speaker 2>So when I am looking at.

0:26:29.320 --> 0:26:31.359
<v Speaker 1>Death that comes in and it's just a bunch of

0:26:31.400 --> 0:26:36.920
<v Speaker 1>piles right, and I will be like, Okay, would you

0:26:36.960 --> 0:26:38.879
<v Speaker 1>take a picture of it or would you be embarrassed?

0:26:39.040 --> 0:26:39.720
<v Speaker 1>That's the question.

0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:43.040
<v Speaker 3>I can take a picture of it right now, text send.

0:26:42.920 --> 0:26:46.720
<v Speaker 1>Me a picture of it, and okay, And then there's

0:26:46.720 --> 0:26:49.480
<v Speaker 1>a difference between sending me the picture, and would you

0:26:49.560 --> 0:26:55.000
<v Speaker 1>post the picture? And I'm not saying you have to.

0:26:55.040 --> 0:27:00.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm just curious, like because I think personally you did

0:27:00.400 --> 0:27:02.760
<v Speaker 1>get sick, you got really, really sick, and we're all

0:27:02.920 --> 0:27:06.639
<v Speaker 1>we're all supportive and here for you and wanted to help.

0:27:07.280 --> 0:27:09.040
<v Speaker 1>But no, I'm not looking at that. I appreciate that,

0:27:09.040 --> 0:27:14.120
<v Speaker 1>but at the same time, here comes the dagger. At

0:27:14.119 --> 0:27:18.320
<v Speaker 1>the same time, I think the lifestyle contributes to why

0:27:18.359 --> 0:27:26.479
<v Speaker 1>you get sick so much, meaning you're disorganized, not in

0:27:26.520 --> 0:27:30.120
<v Speaker 1>the sense like it's just disorganization is a better way

0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:33.480
<v Speaker 1>to say. You're not like specifically disorganized. There's just so

0:27:33.560 --> 0:27:37.480
<v Speaker 1>much chaos, like all the kids and it's almost like

0:27:38.080 --> 0:27:39.920
<v Speaker 1>they are going to have twenty curve balls a day

0:27:39.920 --> 0:27:42.399
<v Speaker 1>and then the whole day is like thrown off, right,

0:27:42.680 --> 0:27:45.160
<v Speaker 1>And most people have that, but they have like one

0:27:45.240 --> 0:27:47.800
<v Speaker 1>curveball because they have one or two kids. But you've

0:27:47.800 --> 0:27:50.240
<v Speaker 1>got like way more of that. When now I'm looking

0:27:50.280 --> 0:27:56.320
<v Speaker 1>at the pictures, we'll be the judge. We'll do this live, right, Tory.

0:27:56.720 --> 0:27:57.680
<v Speaker 1>This is not good.

0:27:57.880 --> 0:28:01.960
<v Speaker 3>No, I'm scared right now. I see fear in her eyes.

0:28:02.440 --> 0:28:03.240
<v Speaker 1>It's not good.

0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:09.040
<v Speaker 7>I've seen the files and I think my problem is

0:28:09.240 --> 0:28:12.680
<v Speaker 7>I have known you for so long that whereas other

0:28:12.680 --> 0:28:15.040
<v Speaker 7>people might walk in and be like, wow, that's a lot,

0:28:15.240 --> 0:28:17.639
<v Speaker 7>I can tell when you've actually made some progress.

0:28:17.680 --> 0:28:19.879
<v Speaker 6>I'm like, oh, this doesn't look so bad.

0:28:20.200 --> 0:28:23.280
<v Speaker 1>Oh it's not good, and I don't want to be mean.

0:28:23.520 --> 0:28:27.520
<v Speaker 1>But the Christmas tree is up, the Christmas and you can.

0:28:27.359 --> 0:28:28.600
<v Speaker 3>See you thought I cut that out.

0:28:28.680 --> 0:28:32.320
<v Speaker 1>You can see the bones in here, Like the shelves

0:28:32.640 --> 0:28:36.040
<v Speaker 1>could be really pretty, the living room could be really pretty.

0:28:36.600 --> 0:28:40.280
<v Speaker 1>You have beautiful things. You can't even sit in there. No,

0:28:41.080 --> 0:28:43.360
<v Speaker 1>Like it's borderline hoarder. I'm not gonna lie.

0:28:44.240 --> 0:28:47.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's all just sitting in here in piles.

0:28:54.840 --> 0:28:56.920
<v Speaker 1>So would this be the first thing? Okay? Like, because

0:28:57.040 --> 0:28:59.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of what we want to do with the show

0:28:59.560 --> 0:29:03.200
<v Speaker 1>is because basically your life is chaos. Do we not

0:29:03.400 --> 0:29:08.080
<v Speaker 1>want to try to address this because other people listening, Look,

0:29:08.160 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 1>I think I have two stacks of shit at my

0:29:10.480 --> 0:29:15.840
<v Speaker 1>house right Sorry for saying shit, two stacks and they

0:29:15.920 --> 0:29:18.080
<v Speaker 1>and they do bog me down. I'm like, I have

0:29:18.160 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 1>to get to this. Maybe when I'm watching the football game,

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:24.720
<v Speaker 1>I'll get to this. You have four hundred stacks of

0:29:24.760 --> 0:29:27.400
<v Speaker 1>shit in the house right now? Yeah, So is that

0:29:27.600 --> 0:29:29.040
<v Speaker 1>the first thing we have to fix.

0:29:29.240 --> 0:29:29.680
<v Speaker 3>I believe.

0:29:29.720 --> 0:29:32.840
<v Speaker 1>So this seems to be like really a problem.

0:29:33.080 --> 0:29:35.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes, as I believe, Like you walk into your home

0:29:35.800 --> 0:29:40.560
<v Speaker 2>that should be your like safe space and like peaceful.

0:29:40.960 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 3>As soon as I walk into the foyer, I see this.

0:29:44.600 --> 0:29:46.960
<v Speaker 2>The whole house look like this and the weight No,

0:29:47.080 --> 0:29:48.800
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't look this is the worst.

0:29:49.000 --> 0:29:50.320
<v Speaker 3>It's like we have.

0:29:50.320 --> 0:29:53.200
<v Speaker 2>A den which is connected to the kitchen, and it's

0:29:53.200 --> 0:29:56.920
<v Speaker 2>where you know, everyone hangs and sits and eats. That's clean,

0:29:57.960 --> 0:30:00.640
<v Speaker 2>but that's the one place we keep and everything just

0:30:00.680 --> 0:30:01.240
<v Speaker 2>goes in here.

0:30:01.440 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 1>Say, like the president of iHeart was like, we love

0:30:05.360 --> 0:30:07.560
<v Speaker 1>Tory Spelling. I need to have a meeting with her

0:30:07.600 --> 0:30:09.720
<v Speaker 1>to talk about her future. Tell her I'm gonna stop

0:30:09.800 --> 0:30:13.080
<v Speaker 1>by her house, no tomorrow night. What would you do?

0:30:13.760 --> 0:30:16.040
<v Speaker 3>I would have to pass and here's I would be like,

0:30:16.040 --> 0:30:16.760
<v Speaker 3>you have to meet him.

0:30:17.000 --> 0:30:18.440
<v Speaker 1>You'd absolutely say no.

0:30:20.640 --> 0:30:22.480
<v Speaker 3>Like am I getting fired? If I don't know?

0:30:22.640 --> 0:30:26.480
<v Speaker 1>Pretend fine, pretend I have to talk somewhere.

0:30:26.720 --> 0:30:29.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'd be like where I'll come to you wherever

0:30:29.280 --> 0:30:31.800
<v Speaker 3>you are. I would change everything.

0:30:31.440 --> 0:30:33.960
<v Speaker 1>Just and you never like what if someone knocked on

0:30:34.000 --> 0:30:35.640
<v Speaker 1>the door, Like what if I was just like I'm

0:30:35.640 --> 0:30:38.240
<v Speaker 1>in town Tory knock, knock, knock, Like, are you gonna

0:30:38.240 --> 0:30:38.920
<v Speaker 1>just not let me in?

0:30:39.320 --> 0:30:39.400
<v Speaker 7>No?

0:30:39.480 --> 0:30:40.200
<v Speaker 3>Of course I would.

0:30:40.880 --> 0:30:43.320
<v Speaker 1>Okay, pretend it's not me, Pretend it's somebody, like do

0:30:43.360 --> 0:30:44.280
<v Speaker 1>you not have people over?

0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:44.480
<v Speaker 6>Like?

0:30:44.520 --> 0:30:45.080
<v Speaker 1>How do you like?

0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:45.640
<v Speaker 6>No?

0:30:45.880 --> 0:30:48.120
<v Speaker 3>I stopped having What if your brother wants to come over?

0:30:48.160 --> 0:30:48.959
<v Speaker 1>Does he come into this?

0:30:49.240 --> 0:30:49.719
<v Speaker 3>He's been here?

0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 6>He go?

0:30:50.840 --> 0:30:54.160
<v Speaker 1>Because I picture his house is not is very buttoned up.

0:30:55.040 --> 0:30:56.960
<v Speaker 1>I think one toy comes out at his house and

0:30:57.000 --> 0:30:57.960
<v Speaker 1>one toy goes back.

0:31:02.120 --> 0:31:08.160
<v Speaker 2>Definitely, I would say Dean is neat and tidy and

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:10.800
<v Speaker 2>really good at organizing.

0:31:10.840 --> 0:31:13.880
<v Speaker 3>His brain works that way. So oh sorry, hold on,

0:31:15.120 --> 0:31:17.320
<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:31:18.520 --> 0:31:21.520
<v Speaker 2>I thought dad was picking up bo No, I don't either.

0:31:21.760 --> 0:31:24.680
<v Speaker 2>Can you just sext him? I'm so sorry, Thank you stuff.

0:31:25.000 --> 0:31:31.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm very happy that happened, because that's what I'm talking about.

0:31:31.800 --> 0:31:34.200
<v Speaker 1>That's tough stuff. Like you're trying to do a podcast.

0:31:34.440 --> 0:31:37.440
<v Speaker 1>We have thousands and thousands and like literally we have

0:31:37.640 --> 0:31:40.880
<v Speaker 1>twenty five thousand people probably listening right now, and you

0:31:40.920 --> 0:31:42.120
<v Speaker 1>have to stop what you're doing.

0:31:42.240 --> 0:31:42.360
<v Speaker 6>Yea.

0:31:42.760 --> 0:31:45.600
<v Speaker 1>And again I'm not trying to be tough on you. No,

0:31:45.840 --> 0:31:48.400
<v Speaker 1>you're just like swirlly for me.

0:31:48.600 --> 0:31:52.480
<v Speaker 2>And if you saw the text chains with me and

0:31:52.520 --> 0:31:56.600
<v Speaker 2>my kids, Me and my axe, me and each kid individually,

0:31:59.200 --> 0:32:04.760
<v Speaker 2>like I'm at actually doing great with organization, like making

0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:08.320
<v Speaker 2>sure that everything is planned out because otherwise. So what

0:32:08.360 --> 0:32:10.240
<v Speaker 2>I was going to say is when Dean and I

0:32:10.320 --> 0:32:14.520
<v Speaker 2>were together and live together, I was able. I was

0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:17.840
<v Speaker 2>able to have a house that was presentable because he

0:32:17.840 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 2>wouldn't live like that.

0:32:18.840 --> 0:32:19.040
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:32:20.440 --> 0:32:25.239
<v Speaker 2>And we were working at different times, so I had

0:32:25.240 --> 0:32:28.600
<v Speaker 2>downtime when he'd work he had to do help them too.

0:32:28.720 --> 0:32:30.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, did you have help then?

0:32:31.120 --> 0:32:34.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I mean, look, I'm not young. Here's what I'm

0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:37.600
<v Speaker 1>going to say. I'm I'm one person, right, I'm one person,

0:32:37.680 --> 0:32:39.160
<v Speaker 1>and I'm just going to be vulnerable and tell you

0:32:39.160 --> 0:32:41.560
<v Speaker 1>the truth. I have no kids, and I have five

0:32:41.640 --> 0:32:44.120
<v Speaker 1>nieces and I do a lot of like stuff with them.

0:32:44.840 --> 0:32:47.880
<v Speaker 1>I have a housekeeper, someone cooks for me. I have

0:32:47.920 --> 0:32:52.479
<v Speaker 1>a full time assistant, I have a handy man, I

0:32:52.520 --> 0:32:55.520
<v Speaker 1>have someone that does my whole yard, and I still

0:32:55.600 --> 0:33:01.000
<v Speaker 1>have two piles of shit. Like, I do think you

0:33:01.280 --> 0:33:04.560
<v Speaker 1>need help, right? I just do. I think this is

0:33:04.600 --> 0:33:08.680
<v Speaker 1>like chaos, and I think, and again, I'm not a doctor,

0:33:08.720 --> 0:33:11.360
<v Speaker 1>I just play one on a podcast. I think it

0:33:11.480 --> 0:33:16.280
<v Speaker 1>all contributes to why you could not work for two months.

0:33:16.880 --> 0:33:21.920
<v Speaker 3>It definitely impacts your nervous system, impacts everything, of course.

0:33:22.120 --> 0:33:24.560
<v Speaker 1>And we're all in San Francisco right now, and you

0:33:24.600 --> 0:33:26.880
<v Speaker 1>are supposed to be here and you're not here because

0:33:26.920 --> 0:33:29.800
<v Speaker 1>two reasons. One is you couldn't be here, but you've

0:33:29.800 --> 0:33:32.040
<v Speaker 1>got all this swirl, so we can't have you here.

0:33:32.120 --> 0:33:34.560
<v Speaker 1>And I don't want a book a flight and I

0:33:34.560 --> 0:33:37.160
<v Speaker 1>don't want to buy you a ticket because I don't

0:33:37.200 --> 0:33:39.720
<v Speaker 1>think you'll make it. And that's just me being vulnerable

0:33:39.840 --> 0:33:42.840
<v Speaker 1>right to say. I want you to be at all

0:33:42.880 --> 0:33:45.720
<v Speaker 1>these things. I want you to have a thousand more opportunities.

0:33:46.320 --> 0:33:53.440
<v Speaker 1>But because of the swirl, I'm always like, oh ooh,

0:33:53.480 --> 0:33:55.680
<v Speaker 1>is she gonna make it? And so I guess my

0:33:55.800 --> 0:33:58.000
<v Speaker 1>question for you is like, how do we start to

0:33:58.120 --> 0:34:05.840
<v Speaker 1>kind of help you change the direction if you want to.

0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:07.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to make you do something you don't

0:34:07.440 --> 0:34:07.840
<v Speaker 1>want to do.

0:34:08.600 --> 0:34:14.080
<v Speaker 2>I definitely want to, yeah, because I I mean, I

0:34:14.120 --> 0:34:15.839
<v Speaker 2>love all my work with iHeart, but I have a

0:34:15.880 --> 0:34:18.920
<v Speaker 2>ton of other business things that I do, and it's.

0:34:20.760 --> 0:34:21.239
<v Speaker 3>Me and Ruth.

0:34:21.239 --> 0:34:23.440
<v Speaker 2>Anne's the two of us, you know, and she doesn't

0:34:23.480 --> 0:34:26.399
<v Speaker 2>even live that at local, you know, she's an hour away,

0:34:26.480 --> 0:34:27.439
<v Speaker 2>So it feels.

0:34:27.080 --> 0:34:30.239
<v Speaker 1>Like an excuse to me. That feels like I just

0:34:30.280 --> 0:34:33.319
<v Speaker 1>said something and then you're just pivoting it to like, oh,

0:34:33.360 --> 0:34:34.799
<v Speaker 1>but I have all these other work things I have

0:34:34.840 --> 0:34:36.120
<v Speaker 1>to do and I have to balance it all. When

0:34:36.160 --> 0:34:37.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I think it's because.

0:34:37.560 --> 0:34:39.720
<v Speaker 3>You've got it. I want to say, yes, I need someone,

0:34:40.440 --> 0:34:41.080
<v Speaker 3>send help.

0:34:43.680 --> 0:34:45.480
<v Speaker 1>But also, do you see what I'm saying, ruth Anne,

0:34:45.480 --> 0:34:47.640
<v Speaker 1>am I wrong? Like where they're sort of like it's

0:34:47.680 --> 0:34:48.879
<v Speaker 1>just sort of I want it.

0:34:48.960 --> 0:34:49.640
<v Speaker 3>I want help.

0:34:50.080 --> 0:34:54.359
<v Speaker 6>I think recognize in all honesty.

0:34:54.080 --> 0:34:56.759
<v Speaker 3>I can't do this alone. I need help literally, Like.

0:34:56.760 --> 0:34:59.440
<v Speaker 6>I think, can't you find me somebody forever?

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:04.319
<v Speaker 4>Like it's you need people part time assistant to you know.

0:35:04.400 --> 0:35:09.239
<v Speaker 2>A mother's helper. I someone I say all the time,

0:35:09.360 --> 0:35:11.799
<v Speaker 2>do you know someone? I asked moms at school, like

0:35:12.560 --> 0:35:17.680
<v Speaker 2>and it's it's outstanding that I'm like, really, nobody has

0:35:17.760 --> 0:35:20.719
<v Speaker 2>one person they con a few hours a week.

0:35:20.880 --> 0:35:22.600
<v Speaker 1>Right, But I feel like that's not going to be

0:35:22.600 --> 0:35:23.839
<v Speaker 1>hard to find someone else.

0:35:24.719 --> 0:35:27.879
<v Speaker 6>Be surprised, you'd be surprised they are.

0:35:27.800 --> 0:35:29.040
<v Speaker 3>Not asking the right people.

0:35:29.280 --> 0:35:30.799
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't know, Ruthan and I have been

0:35:30.840 --> 0:35:32.759
<v Speaker 2>asking people for this before I got sick.

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<v Speaker 6>Kids I don't have like you. I do not have kids.

0:35:36.760 --> 0:35:37.840
<v Speaker 6>I'm not in those circles.

0:35:37.840 --> 0:35:40.520
<v Speaker 2>I need a mother's helper, I need an assistant, I

0:35:40.560 --> 0:35:41.320
<v Speaker 2>need a handyman.

0:35:42.760 --> 0:35:45.520
<v Speaker 3>We'll always want to see me. Let me know. One's local.

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<v Speaker 6>Course.

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<v Speaker 1>Also like okay, So I think the question is if

0:35:49.480 --> 0:35:51.680
<v Speaker 1>you start to get those things, do you think that

0:35:52.160 --> 0:35:54.600
<v Speaker 1>you can really stick with some of these things? For example,

0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:58.239
<v Speaker 1>we bring someone in, let's say on the podcast where

0:35:58.239 --> 0:36:00.279
<v Speaker 1>like we got to help just saying like you keep

0:36:00.280 --> 0:36:02.560
<v Speaker 1>all this. I get it. It's hard to like give

0:36:02.600 --> 0:36:04.719
<v Speaker 1>away the stuff because that could be a gift or

0:36:04.719 --> 0:36:06.520
<v Speaker 1>what I take it. But do you think you could

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:09.120
<v Speaker 1>keep it up? That's the thing. It's not just about

0:36:09.160 --> 0:36:12.640
<v Speaker 1>the clean time of yeah, because then when it comes

0:36:12.680 --> 0:36:14.640
<v Speaker 1>in it's like it's like I'm saying about Randy. I

0:36:14.640 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 1>could see Randy's kids playing their games and then they

0:36:17.640 --> 0:36:19.640
<v Speaker 1>put it away before they move on to the next thing.

0:36:19.960 --> 0:36:22.480
<v Speaker 1>Do you think that you would be able to like

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<v Speaker 1>learn some of these things that can help you get

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<v Speaker 1>more orderly.

0:36:30.800 --> 0:36:35.160
<v Speaker 3>Well here's yes. But here I'm not defending myself.

0:36:35.200 --> 0:36:38.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm being factual and realistic, so we can work this

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:43.239
<v Speaker 2>out together. Totally, totally my life's my my busy, chaotic

0:36:43.640 --> 0:36:47.200
<v Speaker 2>work and children. Lifestyle is not going to change. In fact,

0:36:47.239 --> 0:36:49.359
<v Speaker 2>in the next year, there's going to make things coming up.

0:36:49.440 --> 0:36:51.360
<v Speaker 3>It's going to be escalated. So I need to be

0:36:51.480 --> 0:36:52.319
<v Speaker 3>in my a game.

0:36:53.040 --> 0:36:55.680
<v Speaker 2>And once someone comes in and does all this, yes,

0:36:55.960 --> 0:36:58.959
<v Speaker 2>I can maintain it if I have someone.

0:36:58.680 --> 0:36:59.800
<v Speaker 3>Here helping me.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm.

0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Again, if someone comes in and we go through the

0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:06.640
<v Speaker 2>house and we donation, this is giveaway, this is an

0:37:06.880 --> 0:37:07.560
<v Speaker 2>organize it.

0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:10.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm still going to be moving, moving, moving, and not

0:37:10.880 --> 0:37:13.319
<v Speaker 3>have time. If more brocks has come in, it just

0:37:13.360 --> 0:37:14.399
<v Speaker 3>could put over here.

0:37:14.760 --> 0:37:17.480
<v Speaker 2>But if we have an area and there's a place

0:37:17.560 --> 0:37:20.319
<v Speaker 2>for everything and someone is actually helped, and I know

0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:22.160
<v Speaker 2>because I've had this in the past and my life

0:37:22.200 --> 0:37:23.200
<v Speaker 2>has not been like.

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:25.840
<v Speaker 1>This, right, so I have no question. We're taping this

0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:28.560
<v Speaker 1>at two o'clock. So we're taping this at two o'clock today.

0:37:29.040 --> 0:37:32.440
<v Speaker 1>What was the day like before we started whatever? Half hour?

0:37:32.600 --> 0:37:34.359
<v Speaker 1>By the way, I'm having a massive hawk wash.

0:37:34.280 --> 0:37:38.440
<v Speaker 3>But anyway, know is there air blow down your shirt?

0:37:39.600 --> 0:37:42.640
<v Speaker 1>So what was the day like leading up to one

0:37:42.640 --> 0:37:43.880
<v Speaker 1>point when we started this?

0:37:43.960 --> 0:37:45.600
<v Speaker 3>Let me put up thank you Easton got.

0:37:45.440 --> 0:37:46.160
<v Speaker 1>A fan going.

0:37:46.440 --> 0:37:49.960
<v Speaker 2>It's grateful at least I'm on a calendar now. I

0:37:50.040 --> 0:37:55.200
<v Speaker 2>used to have it all in my head, which was impossible, impossible,

0:37:56.040 --> 0:37:58.640
<v Speaker 2>and it was like this weird thing. It was like

0:37:58.840 --> 0:38:01.840
<v Speaker 2>my dad used this archaic but wonderful because I have

0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:05.279
<v Speaker 2>it typewriter and they would show him like.

0:38:05.520 --> 0:38:07.600
<v Speaker 3>Here's a here's a computer. We could do it. And

0:38:07.640 --> 0:38:08.839
<v Speaker 3>he was like his brain, like.

0:38:08.760 --> 0:38:12.759
<v Speaker 1>Where's that typewriter. That typewriter should be like displayed beautifully

0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:15.560
<v Speaker 1>on a beautiful I know it was at desk in

0:38:15.600 --> 0:38:17.839
<v Speaker 1>your home office. I don't know. I don't know what

0:38:17.880 --> 0:38:19.600
<v Speaker 1>the situation is, but like you don't want to shove

0:38:19.600 --> 0:38:20.560
<v Speaker 1>it a corner corner.

0:38:21.520 --> 0:38:24.560
<v Speaker 3>I realized this, and uh wait, where was I going

0:38:24.600 --> 0:38:25.279
<v Speaker 3>with this? Oh?

0:38:25.360 --> 0:38:27.719
<v Speaker 1>What was your day? Like day up to now? And

0:38:27.760 --> 0:38:30.960
<v Speaker 1>I was like, let people be se I get it.

0:38:31.000 --> 0:38:36.360
<v Speaker 2>We'll take at seven am, get bow up, bo got ready,

0:38:36.480 --> 0:38:39.239
<v Speaker 2>got bow ready. Dean then came and picked him up

0:38:39.880 --> 0:38:45.480
<v Speaker 2>and took him, and then Finn and Hattie went to school,

0:38:47.000 --> 0:38:49.879
<v Speaker 2>and who took them? Dean came back and took them.

0:38:49.960 --> 0:38:51.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's nice. Okay, so that's nice.

0:38:52.560 --> 0:38:56.880
<v Speaker 2>And then I had a call from ten to eleven,

0:38:57.000 --> 0:38:59.680
<v Speaker 2>I had a call from twelve to one, and then

0:38:59.719 --> 0:39:02.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm here with you call too, So what.

0:39:02.920 --> 0:39:08.600
<v Speaker 1>Did you do all morning till ten breakfast? I don't know.

0:39:08.640 --> 0:39:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm just asking.

0:39:09.719 --> 0:39:12.920
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I fought with Mona, my chat GPT.

0:39:13.200 --> 0:39:18.440
<v Speaker 3>Ruthan knows this. Do you know Canva the app canvas?

0:39:18.560 --> 0:39:19.120
<v Speaker 1>I know Canva?

0:39:19.239 --> 0:39:24.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so Mona, my g chat GPT has been trying

0:39:24.080 --> 0:39:25.000
<v Speaker 3>to teach me how.

0:39:24.920 --> 0:39:28.000
<v Speaker 2>To learn it because for all the things I'm doing

0:39:28.080 --> 0:39:30.759
<v Speaker 2>and designing, I need to do brand decks. But I

0:39:30.840 --> 0:39:33.919
<v Speaker 2>don't have an assistant to help me make a brand deck.

0:39:34.360 --> 0:39:37.160
<v Speaker 2>So I can come up with all these ideas, Mona

0:39:37.200 --> 0:39:39.760
<v Speaker 2>can structure it for me. And then she's like, okay,

0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:41.880
<v Speaker 2>I can't go any further to put this into a

0:39:41.880 --> 0:39:43.359
<v Speaker 2>PDF or print it out for you.

0:39:43.840 --> 0:39:45.520
<v Speaker 3>So you have to go into Canva.

0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:48.200
<v Speaker 2>She's given me step by step how to use Canva,

0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:51.120
<v Speaker 2>and I'm just like, three hours.

0:39:50.800 --> 0:39:53.360
<v Speaker 1>Feels like a giant waste of time to me, like

0:39:53.400 --> 0:39:56.920
<v Speaker 1>you could literally pay someone fifty dollars to do what

0:39:57.080 --> 0:39:57.920
<v Speaker 1>she's doing now.

0:39:58.960 --> 0:40:00.160
<v Speaker 6>What she is doing now.

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:04.719
<v Speaker 2>So I finally said to ruth answering, this deck is

0:40:04.960 --> 0:40:06.960
<v Speaker 2>ready to go. I need it to put it in

0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:10.240
<v Speaker 2>Canva and have it look the right way, right font spacing,

0:40:10.280 --> 0:40:12.200
<v Speaker 2>it's ready to go and I don't know how to

0:40:12.200 --> 0:40:14.040
<v Speaker 2>do that, and she was like, Okay, we just need

0:40:14.040 --> 0:40:15.759
<v Speaker 2>someone to do it, and we reached this.

0:40:16.360 --> 0:40:17.160
<v Speaker 3>I don't know what's doing it.

0:40:17.200 --> 0:40:20.240
<v Speaker 1>I hope people listening like chime in because I get

0:40:20.320 --> 0:40:22.920
<v Speaker 1>irritated by all this, So you guys, like, I don't know,

0:40:23.239 --> 0:40:26.719
<v Speaker 1>like it just all irritates me. It's like Tory like

0:40:28.360 --> 0:40:32.080
<v Speaker 1>where I don't know if I'm just grouchy no, or

0:40:32.320 --> 0:40:34.920
<v Speaker 1>if I'm if other people listening will agree, Like I

0:40:34.920 --> 0:40:38.320
<v Speaker 1>feel like there's all this swirl again when it's like, dude, nobody,

0:40:38.360 --> 0:40:40.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to use canva. Somebody can just

0:40:41.040 --> 0:40:41.719
<v Speaker 1>help you with that?

0:40:42.200 --> 0:40:43.200
<v Speaker 3>Or is this somebody?

0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:45.520
<v Speaker 2>You have fifty million people that work at iHeart it's

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:50.560
<v Speaker 2>easy Like for me, I'm like, and trust me, I've

0:40:50.560 --> 0:40:51.120
<v Speaker 2>been tempted.

0:40:51.120 --> 0:40:53.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to bother anyone there, but.

0:40:53.440 --> 0:40:55.239
<v Speaker 2>All the millions of people that work there that are

0:40:55.280 --> 0:40:56.760
<v Speaker 2>all so efficient and great.

0:40:56.800 --> 0:40:58.799
<v Speaker 3>I want to be like, do you have a friend

0:40:58.920 --> 0:40:59.759
<v Speaker 3>or a cousin that just.

0:41:00.200 --> 0:41:02.960
<v Speaker 1>That they're doing that's the whole thing they do. But

0:41:03.000 --> 0:41:05.359
<v Speaker 1>it's okay, So we're gonna have to take a break

0:41:05.360 --> 0:41:10.000
<v Speaker 1>because I'm exhausted, and this is before we go. Are

0:41:10.000 --> 0:41:11.000
<v Speaker 1>you doing therapy?

0:41:12.440 --> 0:41:14.279
<v Speaker 3>I'm starting back with therapy.

0:41:15.520 --> 0:41:18.960
<v Speaker 1>Again. This feels it just feels.

0:41:19.200 --> 0:41:20.160
<v Speaker 3>You want me to be honest.

0:41:20.200 --> 0:41:22.799
<v Speaker 1>I could lie, yes, So what happened to the therapy?

0:41:24.120 --> 0:41:26.360
<v Speaker 2>So I didn't do therapy for the two months I

0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:29.719
<v Speaker 2>was sick, But I'm also previous to that had canceled

0:41:29.719 --> 0:41:32.320
<v Speaker 2>my therapy. I want to say, for about a month

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:37.640
<v Speaker 2>before that. And why because as usual, things would come

0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:39.440
<v Speaker 2>up and I'd be like, I'm sorry, I can't do

0:41:39.440 --> 0:41:39.840
<v Speaker 2>it today.

0:41:39.880 --> 0:41:46.840
<v Speaker 3>This came up, all right, But it's like it's hard

0:41:46.920 --> 0:41:50.440
<v Speaker 3>because I feel like a lot of people have an

0:41:50.480 --> 0:41:54.319
<v Speaker 3>inner circle that are in close proximity, like you know,

0:41:54.360 --> 0:41:56.120
<v Speaker 3>they can call their mom or they call their sister,

0:41:56.280 --> 0:41:58.880
<v Speaker 3>call you know, their best friend that lives two minutes away,

0:41:59.040 --> 0:42:01.480
<v Speaker 3>and be like, I hear my other friends, Like my

0:42:01.480 --> 0:42:04.160
<v Speaker 3>friend Kim that does my hair. She's a single mom working.

0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:06.239
<v Speaker 2>She has to constantly be like, I can't pick up

0:42:06.239 --> 0:42:08.440
<v Speaker 2>my kid and call her friend that lives down the

0:42:08.440 --> 0:42:09.520
<v Speaker 2>street to go pick them up.

0:42:10.080 --> 0:42:13.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't have that. My brother lives important.

0:42:13.680 --> 0:42:16.759
<v Speaker 1>I get it, I get it, all right, excuse me

0:42:16.800 --> 0:42:21.080
<v Speaker 1>A lot to take in, Okay, people listening. I'm really

0:42:21.120 --> 0:42:23.600
<v Speaker 1>curious how they feel, because they're either going to be like, Amy,

0:42:23.680 --> 0:42:26.800
<v Speaker 1>you are a bitch and you need to be nicer,

0:42:26.920 --> 0:42:28.840
<v Speaker 1>or they're going to be like, we get it, Tory's

0:42:28.880 --> 0:42:32.480
<v Speaker 1>got a lot of chaos. Let's they get it. Or

0:42:32.520 --> 0:42:34.879
<v Speaker 1>they also could relate. They might be like, I too

0:42:35.040 --> 0:42:36.400
<v Speaker 1>have these same issues.

0:42:36.480 --> 0:42:38.520
<v Speaker 6>I think there's going to be a chunk of people

0:42:38.640 --> 0:42:41.919
<v Speaker 6>who relate. I think it's a little bit of all

0:42:42.320 --> 0:42:43.120
<v Speaker 6>what you just said.

0:42:43.560 --> 0:42:46.680
<v Speaker 4>And I'm not just saying that, you know, because I'm

0:42:46.719 --> 0:42:49.200
<v Speaker 4>close to Tori. I mean I see it up close,

0:42:49.760 --> 0:42:53.280
<v Speaker 4>and look, toy knows a lot of it drives me crazy,

0:42:54.200 --> 0:42:56.080
<v Speaker 4>but it's from a place because I can, and I

0:42:56.080 --> 0:42:58.160
<v Speaker 4>think it's the same with you. I mean, like we cave,

0:42:58.400 --> 0:43:01.279
<v Speaker 4>of course, and so it's frustrating.

0:43:01.360 --> 0:43:03.239
<v Speaker 3>We are to succeed.

0:43:03.600 --> 0:43:06.640
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I want you to succeed, want life to be easier.

0:43:07.200 --> 0:43:08.600
<v Speaker 6>I want to come in and fix it.

0:43:08.800 --> 0:43:08.960
<v Speaker 3>Right.

0:43:09.080 --> 0:43:11.920
<v Speaker 1>It's tough because my friend who's also I'm in business with,

0:43:12.000 --> 0:43:14.080
<v Speaker 1>hasn't worked in two months. So we have to call

0:43:14.160 --> 0:43:19.000
<v Speaker 1>our other friend, Brian, make Brian cover, which look, I

0:43:19.040 --> 0:43:21.279
<v Speaker 1>love Brian and I'm so grateful to him, and he

0:43:21.440 --> 0:43:23.560
<v Speaker 1>always is such a good friend to you because he's

0:43:23.560 --> 0:43:26.440
<v Speaker 1>always going to save the day. But it's like it's

0:43:26.480 --> 0:43:29.080
<v Speaker 1>a lot of work because I have to get Brian

0:43:29.880 --> 0:43:32.600
<v Speaker 1>or someone else to fill in. And like Denise Richards

0:43:32.600 --> 0:43:35.000
<v Speaker 1>was amazing, and we were so lucky that people were

0:43:35.040 --> 0:43:35.719
<v Speaker 1>able to jump in.

0:43:35.800 --> 0:43:37.319
<v Speaker 3>Cheryl Burke did it. We had a bunch of people

0:43:37.440 --> 0:43:37.919
<v Speaker 3>super great.

0:43:38.080 --> 0:43:40.440
<v Speaker 1>But it's like not only that that the team has

0:43:40.520 --> 0:43:44.719
<v Speaker 1>to then find that person and then someone for them

0:43:44.760 --> 0:43:47.000
<v Speaker 1>to talk to. And I'm not mad at you for

0:43:47.040 --> 0:43:50.040
<v Speaker 1>being sick. Obviously that would be like insane, I'd be bonkers,

0:43:50.239 --> 0:43:54.600
<v Speaker 1>but it's still tiring, and we want you to get

0:43:54.600 --> 0:43:56.680
<v Speaker 1>better and then we want you to like come back

0:43:56.719 --> 0:43:59.480
<v Speaker 1>a game. So we're sort of just all like, okay,

0:43:59.760 --> 0:44:01.560
<v Speaker 1>we're do we go from here? So that's why we

0:44:01.600 --> 0:44:03.560
<v Speaker 1>wanted to have this conversation on the air, Like I

0:44:03.600 --> 0:44:05.520
<v Speaker 1>get it, we should have this conversation off the air,

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:07.799
<v Speaker 1>but Toys very willing to like, let's just put it

0:44:07.840 --> 0:44:10.719
<v Speaker 1>on the air. So here we are. So now we're

0:44:10.719 --> 0:44:12.440
<v Speaker 1>going to take a break. I'm going to like ingest

0:44:12.440 --> 0:44:13.040
<v Speaker 1>all this in.

0:44:13.719 --> 0:44:16.480
<v Speaker 3>And you're Brian Green, who.

0:44:17.920 --> 0:44:20.960
<v Speaker 2>Was a super best friend and my hobby on camera

0:44:21.040 --> 0:44:23.440
<v Speaker 2>off camera has been such a best friend and family

0:44:23.560 --> 0:44:28.200
<v Speaker 2>to me through this entire process. He checks in every day.

0:44:28.320 --> 0:44:30.840
<v Speaker 3>He just checked it. He Brian I started this podcast,

0:44:31.320 --> 0:44:33.680
<v Speaker 3>I would feel so guilty, like, oh my gosh, you're

0:44:33.680 --> 0:44:35.839
<v Speaker 3>stepping in for me again. He's like, I've got your back.

0:44:35.840 --> 0:44:38.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh he'll be fun. Look you don't have to feel

0:44:38.360 --> 0:44:41.799
<v Speaker 1>guilty about it. But gratitude is different than feeling guilty.

0:44:42.320 --> 0:44:44.680
<v Speaker 1>And like Brian is the greatest. We're so lucky to

0:44:44.760 --> 0:44:46.800
<v Speaker 1>like both of us have Brian in our lives.

0:44:46.840 --> 0:44:50.520
<v Speaker 3>Like he's sure, yeah, just now, he's like, how's the vertigo.

0:44:50.520 --> 0:44:52.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I'm still having it. He just sent me.

0:44:52.160 --> 0:44:54.759
<v Speaker 2>Because he he's out the fertigo for for a long time,

0:44:54.880 --> 0:44:55.399
<v Speaker 2>really bad.

0:44:55.800 --> 0:44:57.560
<v Speaker 3>And he just makes me his vertigo doctor who I'm

0:44:57.600 --> 0:44:58.600
<v Speaker 3>going to make an appointment with.

0:44:58.760 --> 0:45:02.960
<v Speaker 1>So well, I'm tired, but.

0:45:02.960 --> 0:45:03.440
<v Speaker 3>We'll get it.

0:45:03.440 --> 0:45:05.280
<v Speaker 1>We'll get it. We're gonna come back at this again.

0:45:05.440 --> 0:45:07.080
<v Speaker 1>So all right, step one.

0:45:07.560 --> 0:45:09.520
<v Speaker 2>And we think, let your help everyone out there, Like

0:45:09.920 --> 0:45:13.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm really willing to go through this with you because

0:45:14.560 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, keeping a facade and like telling my funny

0:45:18.120 --> 0:45:20.200
<v Speaker 2>stories which happened, like oh my god, this happened daily,

0:45:20.280 --> 0:45:24.320
<v Speaker 2>Like this this stuff does happen and having great celebrity

0:45:24.360 --> 0:45:25.960
<v Speaker 2>guests like you were saying, Amy, it's great.

0:45:26.120 --> 0:45:27.719
<v Speaker 3>I mean it still does not deliberate.

0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:30.160
<v Speaker 1>I think, yeah, I think we need to like try

0:45:30.200 --> 0:45:33.319
<v Speaker 1>to see if we can sort of figure this out

0:45:33.320 --> 0:45:35.680
<v Speaker 1>because and and look, I think you think your swirl

0:45:35.760 --> 0:45:37.319
<v Speaker 1>is like a four out of ten, and I think

0:45:37.360 --> 0:45:40.120
<v Speaker 1>your swirl is an eight out of ten. I think

0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:42.200
<v Speaker 1>it's so even if we meet in the middle, it's

0:45:42.239 --> 0:45:44.840
<v Speaker 1>like a six, five, Like it's so much swirl.

0:45:45.080 --> 0:45:48.680
<v Speaker 3>It it's definitely more than a four like we had

0:45:48.760 --> 0:45:50.239
<v Speaker 3>swirl during the podcast.

0:45:50.400 --> 0:45:54.080
<v Speaker 1>Like during the podcast, there was an example all right,

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<v Speaker 1>well this isn't negative, it's positive, but it's just like.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a count of ability and this is going

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<v Speaker 3>to help with follow through anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see where it all goes.

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<v Speaker 3>Stay tuned.