WEBVTT - DMs to Expect When You’re Expecting 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:07.320 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart radio podcast Okay. 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:11.160 Ariana Grande leaving spotlight after tour amid health scrutiny. A 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:13.840 representative for Ariana Grande has said the singer will pull 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:17.720 back from public appearances once she finishes the Eternal Sunshine Tour. 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:21.440 The announcement follows weeks of renewed online discussion about Grande's 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:24.320 physical appearance after the release of her new Pedal music video. 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:27.960 Fans and commenters debated whether concern over her health was 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:32.159 appropriate or whether it crossed into invasive body commentary. Someone 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:35.600 commented saying, this poor woman is possibly dying right in 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.400 front of us. This outfit is designed to accentuate the 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:39.320 thinness for. 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:42.640 Discourse. 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:45.760 Her team are thoroughly irresponsible for not guiding her away 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:48.960 from this deeply damaging image for her young fans to 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:52.839 see so glamorized. Her comments reignited debate over whether public 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:55.840 concern can ever be appropriate when discussing a celebrity's appearance, 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.560 or whether any speculation about someone's health based on how 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:02.800 they look crosses a line. We have a lot of 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:08.160 thoughts about kind of all of this, Like I understand 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.160 why people are talking about it. But I also just 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:13.160 don't like when people talk about women's bodies. 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:15.720 I know I felt the same. I was actually Auther's may. 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:19.319 I was thinking about this all morning because you know, 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:25.560 on one hand, it really there's Arianna is arguably has 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.840 such a little girl following. I mean, she was Glinda 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:32.639 for Pete's sake, so there's so many little girls looking 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:35.240 up to her and watching what she's doing. She also 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:37.880 is thirty four plus thirty nine or thirty five, so 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.240 we know that, like there's a side of Ariana that 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:42.080 is not age appropriate for some of these young ones. 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:45.880 But when you have so many little girls watching everything 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:49.680 you're doing, there's such an added layer of pressure too 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:53.120 to show up differently. I think I'm not saying that 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:55.600 she should. I'm just saying, you know, like the Taylor 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:58.280 Swifts of the world, like when your fan base is 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:04.080 so predominminently young, I think it is important to have 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:06.680 to keep that at the top of mind. You know, 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:15.519 we know how weight can be for me, Like whenever 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:18.000 I've been at my skinniest is because I'm at my 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:18.680 most dressed. 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:20.360 Yeap for me, That's how I like. 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:26.480 Some people eat more, I eat less, same and I mean, 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:29.520 you know, like in the divorce, like you guys are 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.080 like force feeding me down my food, you know, because 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:35.440 I don't want. And again so I think it's I 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:37.680 look at it and I'm just it makes me sad 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:42.120 because I want because she's obviously going through something. So 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:44.920 that's where I'm like to add more comments and like 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:48.000 again basically what we're doing talking about it, like it 0:02:48.040 --> 0:02:51.600 adds to the noise of things. And that's and I 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.000 understand what you're saying about, like she's got young fans 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:56.960 and all of that, but I just wish there was 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:01.880 love instead of look at her, you know, like she knows. 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.600 I'm she knows. I'm sure she probably knows, you know. 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:06.840 But then I've also and I'm not defending, but like 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.200 I've also seen videos where she looks really strong in 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:11.160 some videos too, like there's a good amount of muscle 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:14.080 in some of the things I saw the most recent 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:17.600 she does look extra extra little and I do. I 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.680 had to remind myself too, like what does her schedule 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:25.200 even look like? Imagine right, like you know, on the road, Yeah, 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:30.320 it's grueling and if you're trying to maintain I mean 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:34.320 there's days listen, I'm no one. I'm just running kids 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:39.120 around the county, and there's days where I forget to eat. Yes, 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:40.800 you know what I'm saying, And I'm not saying that's 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:43.120 what's happening here that she's not eating. I'm just going 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:48.200 when work and life and kids in our situation get 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:49.800 so busy, there's days where I don't eat, and then 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:51.120 I'm like, well, why do I feel like garbage or 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:52.440 why do I feel so low? And then I sit 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.240 and have like two minutes to myself, I'm like, oh, 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:56.760 I can handle the world. So imagine if you're touring. 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:58.680 You just came off of She came off of two movies, 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.480 an album release, a concert tour. 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:02.840 Yeah, it's a lot. 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:06.880 I mean, I think about it with again, in the 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:10.080 social media age of things, if I'm I mean, just 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:12.400 a couple of months ago, people thought I was pregnant. 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.440 Why I hadn't maybe the things that I was wearing, 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:18.440 or maybe I looked like I had a bump in something, 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:21.520 or But also a couple months before that they all 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.360 said I was too skinny and whatever. Now, granted I was, 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:28.680 I actually was going through something that I needed. I 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:32.120 just to kind of to your point, I was stressed 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.640 I wasn't eating well and I did. I lost a 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:38.080 little bit too much weight. I acknowledged it, saw it 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.520 and changed my diet. Yeah, forced myself to kind of 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:43.120 like make my stomach, you know, and now I'm like 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.960 back to my normal weight. But people can look at 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:48.040 and then go, oh, she's not now she's fat or 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:49.760 like I'm not saying that that's what they were saying, 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:55.400 but like just how people just that's their first thing. 0:04:55.480 --> 0:05:00.160 Like I'm sometimes even afraid to post the bikini photo 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:04.159 on the lake because people will make comments or compare 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.080 and it's like that's just that's the world. That it 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:11.039 makes me sad too, the compairing of all of like that, like, yeah, 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:12.640 I might look like I've got a six pack in 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:17.520 that photo, but not always, you know, or I don't know, 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:20.920 and it's it's it doesn't make you any less attractive 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:23.000 because you don't or I'm just like I'm like, I 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:25.080 just don't like when people and I think we grew 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.840 up in the society of you know, the nine O, 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:29.600 two and o days and you know, our friend Shane, 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:32.359 like you know, they're all saying, how annarexic? She was 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:34.800 well again, she was so stressed and it's like growing 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:37.720 up by TV and like yeah, and it's just I mean, 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:41.800 I remember being on One Tree Hill and the creator 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:46.400 I'm in I'm in a bron panty and the Creator going, oh, hey, 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:48.960 can you like suck like your bellies coming out? So 0:05:49.160 --> 0:05:53.200 immediately my brain I'm like, oh, I'm too fat for this, 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.599 you know what I mean? And like he was making 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:59.080 comments about my weight, and I was like, I wasn't 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:03.159 super skinny, but I wasn't at s and a big 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.560 person though, but I'm just saying, like, you know what 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:07.560 I mean. Like it's like even in that, it's like 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:11.479 we have enough. I just we have enough to stress 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:13.880 and worry about that the last thing we need. And 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.880 the sad thing is is that it's ninety nine percent 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:19.599 I think women that come in on the comments I know, 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:21.640 and that makes me wonder, like what's going on in 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.800 your own world? Like I don't see her and feel 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.640 like I have an opinion about her weight. Honestly, she's 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:30.120 just so talented that in our house she kind of 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.400 like just reiins, you know, like Presston's obsessed with her 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:34.520 voice love is you know, So I don't look at 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:37.240 her that way. But then I do remember, like I 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:41.120 remember in college gaining you know weight. Listen, it was 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.159 a diet of like taco bell and beer and ramen 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:46.800 noodles and anything I could get from the serving jobs, 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.680 right because we're broke and we're just trying to survive. 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:51.839 But I remember I gained for me was a pretty 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:55.880 significant amount. And one of the guys that I liked 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:59.520 made a comment, made a couple of comments to friends 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:01.960 of mine, got back to me, and I remember it 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:04.800 sent me into a spiral and then into an eating disorder, 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:06.680 which I'm not proud of. And I also am not 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.600 proud of the fact that one person had that much control. 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:13.320 But for me, even still this is hard to admit. 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:18.040 But even still at forty four, there is an element 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:22.480 of control that I still gain from being in charge 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:27.160 of what I eat. So like my scale control, you know, Yeah, 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:31.400 I stopped really weighing myself. Yeah, and I'm not proud 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:33.880 of that forty four. Like you know, there's even videos 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:35.520 on here, like I don't think it's a time where 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:38.000 we were raised though too oh so inundated. Yeah, I 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.960 mean hydroxy cut and yeah, you know, I mean reading 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:43.360 glamour like how to Slim and whatever. I mean that's 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:46.760 what we're reading me. Yeah, and we didn't even have 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.960 GLP ones to go, you know, like the quick fix 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.800 in a back door of some weird little non doctor 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:58.160 and and the celebrity Like we are so celebrities are 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.880 so accessible to us now that we I mean, I 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:04.679 can get to know what anybody eats on a daily basis, 0:08:04.800 --> 0:08:07.880 which is But also we're so I'm not saying we 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:11.120 like a celebrity, but like celebrities are so accessible that 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:15.200 we as a society can easily reach out to them, 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.640 like we couldn't know as much as I wanted to. 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:20.000 Back in the day, reach out to JTT Are you kidding? 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:22.120 And even though I wrote him a letter when I 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:28.440 was thirteen, but still like we can you imagine? I 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.440 just A'm like, now people can just go on and 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.760 just comment hate, it's just wild to me. And then 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.160 I know, but I will say, but also love, like 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:39.240 I love so many of my conversations that I have too. Yeah, 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:40.720 and a lot of times I'm always like I always 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:43.199 end it with thank you for being so kind. Yeah. Same, 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:45.920 Especially recently, I had a few that have DMed and 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.560 been like, you know, I had a vulnerability hangover after 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:51.400 my Oprah comment, well, and then I just don't know 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:52.040 what I was thinking. 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:52.880 I said it out loud. 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:56.240 It was like what, yeah, I did, sure, And then 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:58.840 a couple of people wrote to me and I was like, 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:01.199 I'm just so grateful, you know, yeah. 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:01.440 But I do. 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:05.000 I I had a very I will say this, one 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:08.000 of my my very best friend, don't be offended, when 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.800 in high school had a really bad eating disorder like 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:18.920 super innarexic and and there is I remember her idolizing 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:20.000 and we didn't even. 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:22.120 Have the accessibility, so that's what's wild. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:23.880 But like I remember her going down to like she 0:09:23.920 --> 0:09:27.680 had to shop in almost like super junior department, like 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:30.160 it was sick, sick, like she was not well. And 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:34.120 so I don't want to also, I don't want to 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:37.760 also normalize the body figure of that either, because I 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:42.480 just don't think that's good for everybody watching. And I 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:45.320 don't want to misspeak and get myself a bunch of hate. 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:47.959 I just I want everyone really healthy and I want 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.600 them nourished, and if if that is what's happening there, 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.280 then that's great. I just it just is she's just 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:55.320 she's also not a big human. Arianna is not a 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:58.960 big human. Yeah, she's a tiny joncher. Yeah, she's not 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:00.880 like a I mean you I have to think too. 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:04.760 She was on I mean playing in wicket. I mean 0:10:04.800 --> 0:10:07.880 I can't imagine the no. And they got hate then too, Yeah, 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:10.240 her and since a lot. And when you are just 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:15.520 inundated with hate, it's again people like me. When I'm 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.920 inundated with that stuff, I don't have an appetite to eat. No, 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.400 because it feels impossible. Yeah, because that's all you hear. 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:26.000 And I think that's where you know and so and 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:32.160 also the habits we want as moms as well, right, 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:35.200 is something that I don't want Jolie just to see 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.440 me having a bar or you know what I mean. Like, 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.800 I want to like nourish my body with like good things, 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.600 which is I'm you know, I've been forcing myself to 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.600 because a couple of my blood work came back that 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:47.559 I wasn't nourishing enough. Yeah, and I'm like, okay, wake 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.800 up call, Like I need to start eating better. Yeah, love, 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:51.880 And I've been making lunch together. I usually skip lunch 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:55.200 and just snack and then have dinner. And we've been 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:58.000 having lunch together and I'm like, I just want I 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:01.680 do want the healthy habits. Has she made Has Ariana 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.000 made any comments about this, or she just just that 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:06.040 she's pulling back from touring. I think her people just 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:10.960 said that she was pulling back, but no, not that 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:14.400 I know of. But it's just it just makes me 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.959 sad because I just I get why people again will 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:20.200 say things, but I just I wish people could be 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:22.880 more of you don't know what's happening or what someone's 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:26.680 going through, no, and to just offer kindness and support 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:27.360 instead of. 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:29.679 The hate. 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:34.040 She is such a talented, such a profound, sweet, like 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:40.640 just such an incredible person celebrity. I'll say, I don't 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:44.320 know her, but we got to watch. We watched way 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.800 too many behind the scenes of everything that happened with Glinda, 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.040 like that was our life. We were eating, breathing, sleeping it. 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:51.480 So I just hope she is well and I hope 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.880 she's happy. I just don't want her. I don't want 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:55.680 the world to eat her live because she's just such 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:59.240 a talented, wonderful human And I don't think anything. I 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:03.960 don't think. I don't think GLP ones has I mean, 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:06.400 do you think it's pushed us back to the skinny culture? 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:07.960 Mm hmm. You do. Oh, I do. 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.920 Yeah, I definitely do. I don't think it's maybe what 0:12:11.000 --> 0:12:13.840 it was meant for, but I think it is definitely. 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:15.960 I mean even just in I know a lot of 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:18.840 people that were getting it not from doctors and just 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.079 we're sick for forever, and I'm like, well, it's probably 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.400 because your body is like not eating. I do also 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:26.800 think it's been really beneficial, Like we have family that 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:29.640 has gone on it with diabetes and it's changed their lives. 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:30.000 Same. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:33.079 Yeah, So I think it's you know, just like anything right, 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.880 it can be used it as a gift or could 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:52.440 not be. Alex Cooper claps back at internet trolls comment 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:55.959 uh troll's comment about how she's handling her pregnancy. The 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.520 Call Our Daddy podcast shared a post on her Instagram 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:00.520 story in response to an Internet troll who told her 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.080 not to complain about being pregnant. Added that it was 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:06.080 her choice and that pregnancy can be hard. Pregnancy can 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:07.920 be hard. Oh, Chris, tell me about your pregnancy. I 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:10.760 would love to hear bib, she wrote over a screenshot 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:14.559 of the DM. She just wanted to share all the 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:17.520 dms I get like this from men lol. Last week, 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:23.760 Alex was also revealed she was diagnosed with gestational gestational 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.480 diabetes and said, when I got this diagnosis, the first 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:28.440 couple of days, I was really hard on myself and 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:30.480 it felt very isolating. As much as my family and 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.360 husband everyone was there for me, I felt like it's 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:35.439 me on an island. The diagnosis was so upsetting, I 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:38.400 think because during pregnancy there's also there was already so 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:40.680 much emotionally that you're going through. And I even saw 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:42.560 like on her because I follow her, I think she's great. 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:45.640 People were like, it's no big deal. People get all 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:50.240 the time. Yes, yes, and your first pregnancy, like everything 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:54.320 feels so much. Yeah, Like even on the last one, 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:57.079 it was so heightened, you know, because of my age 0:13:57.440 --> 0:14:01.320 and all the things that were going on. Well, and 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:05.719 there's like, you know, you're dealing hormonally emotions, but also 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.440 cravings are crazy, and when you can't go eat what 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.240 you want to eat or you're trying to pay attention 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.400 to all of that, that's just another added layer too. 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:16.280 And you're also in charge of someone else's life, so 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:20.280 it's like you're not just making these choices you're making, 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:22.880 you're trying to make the best choice for your body 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:26.280 and for another body. It's a lot, and I didn't. 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:29.600 I've never had that with all three. I was always 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.960 so that drink, remember the drink woo. Yeah, I'm like, 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:36.160 are we giving women? I mean, I know it's really 0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:39.280 hard for me, but I can't. I'm I mean again, 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.840 the scrutiny, I just can't even imagine. I will say this, though, 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.800 and I'm going to be very careful how I say it. 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:51.080 I and I don't know the complaint complaint that she had. 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:51.640 I do. 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.400 I will say this, Never have I ever complained about 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:56.760 anything that had to do with pregnancy. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:00.320 Never have you ever had to complain? Oh? 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:02.920 Really, I never complained about pregnancy one time. I think 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:07.280 because I worked in the women's space so intimately, and 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.840 I've been in the rooms where babies are born with 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:14.000 no cry, and how women have lost at thirty eight 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:18.920 weeks or thirty weeks. And for me specifically, like I 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:21.000 had one of my best girlfriends couldn't get pregnant. They 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:23.360 did several rounds of IVF and ended up using her 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:27.320 sister as a sarrogate. Like I think, for me specifically, 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:32.480 I and this is not me. I'm not trying to 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:35.280 say I'm better than or any My perspective on pregnancy 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:39.680 was so that if I knew a girl that would 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:41.800 pay a million dollars to feel what it would feel 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:42.600 like to be miserable. 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:45.680 You know, those those days where everything's aching or you 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:46.840 can't go to sleep or like. 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:50.760 That. There's some women that would give anything to know 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:52.720 that feeling. And so that's just always what I kept 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.400 at the top of my brain. So I didn't ever complain. 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:57.480 I also get it, and also some of it is 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.400 just funny, like there are things that you can say 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:03.800 that are I mean, I definitely complained about having hyperemesis 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:06.640 because that miserable. 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:08.880 Yeah it was. Yeah, I didn't. 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:12.840 I didn't. I heard morning sickness as you had. Like 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.880 what I thought morning sickness was was you had it 0:16:15.920 --> 0:16:19.040 in the morning and it ended around twelve weeks. 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:22.520 No, mine never ended. I mean mine did not end. 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:25.000 UPS was with Roman and I think it ended around 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.520 like eighteen but even still I was still kind of nauseous. 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:31.080 Jace was the entire time, Jolie was the entire time. 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:33.720 I was the entire time with Lione. I felt hungover 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:36.200 every day. All I wanted was like a cheese sand 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:37.960 I mean, it was horrendous. Yeah. I mean I remember 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.120 waking up in the middle as I complain about being pregnant, 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:42.880 but I remember just being like, okay, I. 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:43.800 Can't, I can do this. 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:45.800 Yeah, like in the middle of the night. It was 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:49.280 in Los Angeles, and I could not stop dry heating. 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:50.880 I couldn't. I couldn't stop. 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:52.640 So I rolled over and was like, I'm going to 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.440 go to the hospital and he's like, okay, so that's 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:57.840 the only way was to get an iv YEP to 0:16:57.920 --> 0:16:59.400 stop dry heating. 0:16:59.440 --> 0:16:59.800 I couldn't. 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:03.120 I mean, I just I gosh, I and now look 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:04.800 at my sweet little Jace. But I mean, yeah, I 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:07.760 definitely complained about that, and I think it's okay if 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:10.400 you do, it's a complaint. You're just mentioning. Like that's 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.200 where I'm also like, it's not like you're I can't. 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:12.760 I don't want to. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.040 I don't think she was complaining. That's what my that's 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.199 where And I don't think she was complaining. She's just 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:19.440 like this, this is an island. Yeah. I felt like 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.080 I'm an island and this is what this is what 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:24.520 I have, and this bums me out. Yeah, So I 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.920 was so bummed that I had a hemorrhage with Roman 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:30.520 and that I had a big old ass vibroid. Yeah, 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:32.800 it's okay to be bummed and scared and all the 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.359 things like yeah, it's a scary for difference, like just 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.800 to note it is. Yeah, Like if you're miserable every day, 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:40.520 that's yeah, I think again, I do want to say 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:42.560 I was nauseous every day, and there was points where 0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:45.080 I was like, oh, but I'm saying like if someone 0:17:45.160 --> 0:17:48.760 complained all the time, yes, and I met, but like 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:51.680 that's we know she's doing that at all people. She's 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:55.520 just bringing people along on her pregnancy, which is her platform. 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:57.640 By the way, if she didn't, that would be weird. 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:03.159 And I think it's I I always assumed that maybe 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:05.680 that happened if you already had die, like I didn't 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:09.840 know much about it, but like she's showing people that, 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:11.000 like anybody can get it. 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:12.160 Yeah that's right. 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:14.960 Awareness Yeah, yeah, So I think it's great that she's 0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:18.840 sharing all of that stuff. And I'd feel the same way. 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:20.480 I'd be like, WHOA, what did I do wrong? 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:21.080 Yeah? 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:22.919 Well, I also like I couldn't lay down when I 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:24.560 was pregnant with Legend. He was on some sort of 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:26.560 nerve and I have scoliosis and rods in my back, 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:28.479 so it was like a whole thing. And I remember 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:31.639 every single night, oh for hours, I would have to 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:34.119 walk the house until I had exhausted my body to 0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:35.679 the point where like it would lay down and just 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:36.840 crash out to sleep. 0:18:36.920 --> 0:18:40.720 Yeah. But also I was like, Okay, the gift and 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:42.719 pregnancy is that you know that there's an end to 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:45.400 it and you get the biggest grand prize at the end. Yeah, 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:46.600 so do we do what we do? 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:49.200 That's right, Well, we get to end on a good 0:18:49.240 --> 0:18:52.159 news headline. 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