WEBVTT - Best Bits: Listener Q&A With Morgan and Abby 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:04.640 The Best Bits of the week with Morgan listener Q daytime. 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:08.000 We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your questions. 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:15.080 Good morning everybody. From me and my allergies and miss 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:16.600 Abbey who's joining me this weekend. 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:17.920 Oh, you have allergies too. 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:19.119 They're kicking my butt. 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:21.400 It's so bad. What is happening. 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:23.360 Whenever the weather is like cold hot cold hot, my 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:25.119 body's like, I don't know what's happening. So I'm just 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:29.920 gonna break down Merrometric pressure I think has something to 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:30.319 do with that. 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:32.800 Yeah, it's bad, like all right, and yours are best, 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.240 uh huh. I never have them, but for some reason, 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:37.120 I'm like dying over here. 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:40.040 Welcome to Tennessee, y'all. Yeah, all right, we got a 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.200 listener Q and I. We're gonna start with some shout outs. 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:44.599 We got a shout out from Leah. She says I 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:46.960 love you both and she's sending some love your way, 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:50.199 oh sweet, and Anna and Virginia said both of you 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:53.440 are so beautiful inside and out. Keep doing you. And 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:56.320 then we've also got Nikki and Charleston who wanted to 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.440 tell me to keep the banks. Okay, we got lots 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:00.480 of shout outs. Happening. 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:02.040 That's so nice. I know. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:03.920 I love starting with compliments. I'm not going to say 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:05.800 there's not other things in there, but I like starting 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:09.160 everything with good energy. Yes, all right, we're diving in. 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:13.240 I mean we are diving in like someone straight for it. 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:17.480 Shila from California wants a boyfriend update. 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:18.880 A boyfriend update? 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.120 Yah, howse life, house romance. 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:26.199 Everything's going well. It really is like, I'm not gonna 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:26.760 put you to share. 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:28.320 You can share whatever you want to share it. 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.039 I know, I don't know why I'm keeping it so 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:35.039 like private or I don't know. I just am and 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.400 like I want to add pictures so bad on Instagram. 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:39.880 And that's what I'm like debating, cause it's like, you know, 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:42.720 I don't want to keep everything off because we've taken 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:45.759 so many pictures. And he's like, I don't care if 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.320 you post, and I'm like, I know, but I'm still just. 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:53.520 Do you know telling or the situation? Yeah, I guess 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:57.440 so okay, So it's going good though, Yes, it is 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.280 anything else you want to give us or is that. 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:07.120 All I'll have an update? No? Things are great, like, yeah. 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:07.400 Your happy life is good? 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:10.679 Okay, all right, I don't have many updates. 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:12.800 Well, Jessica from Arizona wanted to know if you're going 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:14.000 to post a picture of them, So I think the 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:14.880 answers that question. 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:18.200 Yes, I will pretty soon. I think so because I 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:20.560 have a lot and I'm like, what does that hurt? Really? 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:22.440 Do you have a favorite of the two of you 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:24.519 where you're like, oh, this is like totally adorable? 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:27.640 Yes, I have many. They're really cute. I don't know, 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:30.400 because we went to Asheville together and that was super 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:31.800 fun and we have a lot of pictures from that, 0:02:32.040 --> 0:02:35.720 So I will post one soon. Oh, my story on. 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.120 Your story isn't the same as in the feed. 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:38.920 I know it's not. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:41.560 That would be a huge thing posted on your story before. 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:43.560 Yeah, I have, I guess for sure. 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:45.040 I think I've seen him on there. 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:48.119 Oh so she means an actual post, Yeah, I feel 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:49.720 like I barely. I was thinking that the other day. 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:52.480 I was like, I barely post on my actual page. 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.399 You're just like, great, it's low cup. 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:03.320 I postly once a month of that. That's bad trying 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:03.960 to get back in it. 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.120 You know, if you're going to pursue the artist's career, 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:08.720 you definitely gotta bump that up a little bit. 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.560 Hm. The thing with him and I is I try 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:13.400 to not be on my phone, and so does he. 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.920 Like we're never on our phones, which is really I mean, 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:21.919 I guess that's good because at this point since November. 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:24.440 Okay, I mean it was strong on the no phones. 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:26.480 I know, I don't know why we still do that. 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:28.440 I just want to feel like I'm in the moment. 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:30.680 I feel like I'm being rude, like we just were 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:32.919 having fun. I don't need to be on my phone. 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:36.280 I think that's a good thing, you know, right, I 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:37.160 mean I feel like that. 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:40.240 I think it is. I'm just not used to that. 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:41.960 I'm like, why is it though? When we're together we 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:44.080 don't even look at our phone, so like, is that weird? 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:44.960 I don't know. 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:46.880 Have you guys had your first fight yet? 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:47.840 Yes? 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:50.640 Okay and go, but it went well. We we did 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:51.240 good from it. 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:55.640 Yes, it was all like miscommunication, you know, I mean right, 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:58.280 it was definitely like a learning thing. 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:00.640 Okay. I'm trying to figure out what else I can 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.600 have you talk about without like giving too much that 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:04.400 you don't want to give. 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:08.040 I know, I will, I don't know. 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:11.760 Yeah, you don't have to. You never have to actually, 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:14.160 like you can go your whole life and never bring 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:14.440 it up. 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:16.720 That'd be weird. I think that'd be weird too. There's 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:22.120 like a fine line between like Eddie who never mentions 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:25.240 anything or we have no idea who she is, but 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:29.320 then like you know, Bobby who has no problem talking about. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:32.800 His So yeah, maybe there's in between for you. 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:35.240 I'm in between, all right, Well check out. 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:38.200 Her Instagram stories because that's maybe where things are hiding. 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:40.919 Rachel from Idaho ass if we've ever been on a 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:42.840 double date together or set each other up. 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:47.760 We haven't, And I always think this. I'm like, because 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.400 most of my friends in Nashville are single, and I'm like, 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:53.040 I don't know any guys that I would feel comfortable 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.279 setting you up with. Honestly, you no same, you know? Yeah, 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.080 And I always wonder that too. I'm like, why didn't 0:04:58.120 --> 0:04:59.720 my friends ever set me up? And I think that's 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:00.560 three and why. 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:04.360 Yeah, because we are all single? Like I think setting 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:06.840 up comes from like your married friends or like your 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:10.440 friends who've been in relationships a while because they're there 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:13.800 guys then have friends, But like when all of you 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:17.880 are single, I mean, there's not a lot of guys 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:20.279 in that spectrum. Also, having like guy friends as an 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:23.640 adult is pretty hard, like making them all of the sudden. 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:25.839 Like I have a few that I've made in my 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:29.839 adult life who I'm good friends with, but it's also 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:31.960 they have wives, and I've been friends with their wives, 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:34.279 you know what I mean. Like, yes, it's not like 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.080 when you're in high school and college and you just 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:40.560 randomly make all the friends like adult friends. Like as 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:43.880 a female to making a male friendship is really difficult. 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:46.080 Right because I feel like in my case, they I've 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:48.880 always just wanted something more or they just try to 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:50.240 hook up with you and I'm like, Okay, I just 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:51.599 want to be friends, and they don't like that. They 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:53.960 don't like the friend zone. I'm like, can't we just 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:54.520 be friends? 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.640 Can't we just be friends? Yeah? Those are probably the 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:00.000 words they never wanted to hear. Oh yeah for sure, 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.160 So yeah, I don't. I don't think we've ever even 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:06.280 had the guys to set each other up with. And 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.200 then no, we haven't gone on a double date because 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:11.960 you know, I mean, I'm still technically single over here. 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.359 I'll go on one day, like your second date, we 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:15.520 can make it a double date. 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:18.760 How awkward for you'd be like, this is awesome Morgan's 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:19.840 on our second day with this guy? 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:21.320 Would that be awkward? 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:24.720 I feel like it would like I don't introduce guys 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:27.640 to my friends until like a certain point, you know 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:29.920 what I mean, Because the reality is is they would 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:33.760 they would just meet such a so many random people 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:35.680 that would be like, Morgan, what are you doing? 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:38.119 Yeah, that's true. 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:40.800 Like I feel like it has to at least reach 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.280 like five dates and then I feel like I can 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.880 bring them around my friends and start introducing to people 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:49.839 in double dates and whatever. But like, until it hits 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:55.159 that five date limit, nobody's seeing, nobody's carried about it, whatever. 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:57.760 I know. So we've never been dating somebody at the 0:06:57.800 --> 0:06:59.560 same time where we could go on a double date. 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:03.719 That's true at that point, maybe sometime this year I 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:04.240 feel it. 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:06.360 If I feel the future, let's go. 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:08.360 I mean, I feel for you already because it's already happening. 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:10.440 So we just got to get it to have it 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:10.720 for me. 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:11.200 I know. 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:13.240 Okay, We're gonna take a quick break and won't be 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:20.400 right back, all right. Miss Wendy from Georgia would like 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:24.320 to know your favorite song to sing besides your original song. 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:29.440 Let's see, like karaoke or something. 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:33.960 It can be like if you cover a song maybe. 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:38.040 I mean my go to is always Kerosene or Gunpowder 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.120 and Lead by Miranda Lambert. I love singing those. 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:43.160 Do you feel like that's like in your range? Yes? 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:44.640 Is that the right way of putting that? 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:47.040 Uh huh? And they're like sassy in fun? 0:07:47.320 --> 0:07:49.160 You know are you sassy in fun? 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:54.560 I would say, I mean yeah, they make me kind 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:56.320 of out of my comfort zone, you know, like it's 0:07:56.320 --> 0:08:00.080 like Gunpowder and Lead, Like, what's another one? Like a 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:01.160 slower song? 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:04.760 I think Unpowder and Letter Carosen are both good songs 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.640 to cover the get the crowd going. Hm, they're good hits, 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:08.640 country hits. 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:11.280 I love singing from this moment on Shania Twain. I 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:12.720 don't know why. It's just so pretty. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.280 Oh yeah, that's a slow ballad. Yes. And that's like 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:18.720 a builder too, where you like hit a really high 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:19.760 point at one. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:22.800 I know you do. Isn't it like a duet too? 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:28.360 From this I think moment? Yeah, um this, I don't 0:08:28.360 --> 0:08:30.080 think it started out as a duet. I think she 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.080 might have released it. 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:33.480 Yeah there's a duet foret who's in there? 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:36.719 But yeah, I love that has the boyfriend's seing you 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:37.680 do like karaoke. 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:40.040 Yeah, he has sang with me and it was the 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:40.880 funniest thing ever. 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:43.920 Wait, because is he good, like is he low key good? 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:47.400 So bad? He is terrible and he knows it. But 0:08:47.480 --> 0:08:50.320 he was so embarrassed and so shy did not want 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:53.200 to get up there, and we did picture by Kid 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:55.079 Rock and Cheryl Cross. 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:56.640 Is there a video of this that lives out there? 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:59.840 Yes, there is. It is the funniest thing. He's like, 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:03.320 I found your picture today and you're. 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:06.080 Over here singing really good and he's just chilling. 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:09.680 Basically, it was the most awesome thing ever. Yeah, my 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:11.520 friend got a video because we did it the first 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:13.520 time and he was like, no videos, and then he 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:15.200 had a little bit more to drink, so we did 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:19.360 it later in the evening again. It's actually it's great. 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:22.000 So is that one of your favorite videos together? 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:25.400 Yes, for sure. But I will say back to house 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:29.480 the relationship, like he is so supportive and just like 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:31.520 in the past, I've always had guys that are just 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.559 kind of like not jealous, but they don't they're never 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:37.680 supportive of like when my first my song came out, 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:40.200 like the guy was dating he really didn't really care, 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:41.760 you know, and. 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:43.240 He even, Yeah, that's not good energy. 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:45.240 It's really not. And you know what he said too, 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:47.200 I'm just gonna say this because it is what it is. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:49.559 But he was like, wichita is such an ugly word 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:51.960 for a song. And I was like, that's what you 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:52.839 took from the song? 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:53.760 Wow? 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:57.480 Wait, okay, the one that's like in the song that's 0:09:57.480 --> 0:09:59.880 what I was gonna have. Yeah, And I was like, oh, 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:02.840 that's not the reaction I wanted from this. And also 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.720 it's my hometown. What do you mean it's ugly? I 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:06.320 can't help it. 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:07.839 Wow. 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.600 Yeah, I know. So there was that that. Yeah, that 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:14.080 was part of the issue. That was part of the like, 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:17.000 I don't know if that's a red flag. Definitely a 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:17.440 red flag. 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:19.120 That's one hundred percent of red flag. 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.160 Yes, But I guess I was used to that, Like 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:23.440 when you're used to just being in back to back 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:28.200 relationships and you ignore the red flags, you you know, 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.199 and then you realize, wait, that was not good. When 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:34.520 you're in a current good one, you look back and 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:37.400 you're like, wow, I ignored things that are that's not okay. 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.280 Well, hindsight, it's always twenty twenty. Yeah, you know, when 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:43.360 you're in it, everything's a little bit fuzzy, right, especially 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:46.640 when you care about somebody and think they care about you. Yeah, 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:50.640 so I understand. I Sympathetz has been there, done that. 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:55.040 So but at least you're in this situation now where 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:58.280 the relationship is very supportive and he wants you to succeed. 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:01.520 That's awesome. Yeah, and he's even singing karaoke with you. 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:03.720 I know, that's great. That's the way out of his 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:06.520 comfort zone. But like when I was doing the Indie 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:09.480 country showdown, like I hosted it, I co hosted it 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:13.679 with somebody, and then I sang my song there and 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:15.680 like he was. He came to two of the Knights 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:17.160 and was sitting out there, and it was like really 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:19.600 cool to just like look out and see him there. 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:20.640 I don't know, it was really cool. 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:24.280 Oh he was supporting green flags, right, green flags are waving. 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:26.800 I know, I don't know. It was really nice. 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.400 So Okay, well, hey we got we got further of 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.320 have a boyfriend update, just not at the question that 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:32.360 we needed, right. 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:35.560 Yes, I hope you stuck around and heard that part. 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:40.280 What is the hardest part about living a life where 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:43.520 strangers feel like they now know you? Keith from Kansas 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:44.160 wants to know. 0:11:45.440 --> 0:11:49.560 See that's the thing. I feel like they really don't 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.200 know me. And that's I got so self conscious after 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:55.000 the guitar recital that I did. Like that's why I 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:58.040 didn't post for a while because like the comments just 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:02.240 like really got to me, like a comment, yes, Like 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:04.679 there were so many good ones, but the annoying part 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.160 is you focus on the bad ones and I'm like, man, 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:09.839 I wish they knew me. And they're like, oh, she's 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:12.080 trying to get a record deal, like good job, good luck, 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:13.560 like stick to your day job. And I'm like, well, 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.080 I'm actually not trying to get a record deal, Like 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:19.280 I know, I'm not at that level, and you know, 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:19.800 I don't know. 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:22.920 I kind of just feel like you should put yourself 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:27.120 down there. I don't think anybody like you're chasing a dream. 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:30.079 I don't think you ever say never, you know what 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:33.240 I mean, Like, if that opportunity comes along, then you 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.760 would totally take it, right. So I also think it's 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:39.080 great if you want to chase that. I think you 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:41.240 do have talent and you have a beautiful voice if 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:44.880 you wanted to go after that, right, So just remember 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:47.559 that mm hm. As you're sitting here talking about yourself. 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:52.040 I know, I know, yeah, I'm just it is it's 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:54.920 it's hard, like not being able to show who you 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:58.160 truly are. I guess sometimes because I'm on the show 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:02.320 certain times and a lot of it is when Lunchbox 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:05.680 critiques me and when I'm like super nervous or like 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:09.160 put on the spot, and so I feel like that's 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:12.240 really only a side that people see sometimes. 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:15.080 Yeah, and I can totally echo that. I think it's 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:19.640 hard that people believe they know every single thing about 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:22.080 us just because of the few moments they hear from 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:25.200 us or they see us on social media, and they're like, 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:27.959 this is who they are, and they've put that picture 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:32.360 in their head and it's who they believe, and you 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:36.000 can't convince them otherwise, right when in reality, like we're 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:40.240 these full dynamic people who are real humans, you know, 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:44.040 on the other end of the computer screen, and they 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:47.280 don't see it that way. So I do, like I 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:51.440 can echo what you're saying. I think it's really hard 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:54.840 when people just believe. You know, there's one side of 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.520 this where you want them to connect with you and 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.160 you want them to believe they know you. But for 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:05.920 you and I who aren't on the show one hundred 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.439 percent of the time. They get little snippets of who 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:11.520 we are. It's not a whole, complete, rounded person, right, 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.520 It's just like here and there, and we're just talking 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:19.080 about certain things. So you may think Abby is only 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:21.880 pursuing her career and that's who she is as a person, 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:25.920 that's her whole entire identity, right, And then you may 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:28.360 hear me and you're like, oh, she only talks about 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:31.200 her dating life and she's single, when in real life, 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:35.680 as friends, we never talk about those things. No, I 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:38.760 got everything else right, But those almost most of the time, 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:41.240 you know, unless it's catching each other up on what's happening. 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:45.000 And so that part's hard, it is, and I think 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:46.600 that's similar to what you're saying. 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:49.520 But then there's the other side of people that I 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.000 feel like they are my friends, like most of people 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.720 that follow me or you know that message me, or 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:57.720 they can relate or they're like, oh, you know, now 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:00.000 I want to pursue something I've been scared to pursue. 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.760 Like that I love And that's like the really good 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:04.880 part of it. Part of it. 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:08.000 There's always there's always more good than bad. Yes, But 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:11.680 to your point, the bad do always shine. Like it's 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.080 really hard to see an entire comment section and they're 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:17.320 all good, and then it's like the one bad one 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:19.880 is just like blinking lights, like look at me, pay 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:20.600 attention to me. 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.080 Yes, And I don't know why it's so annoying. I'm like, 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:27.440 why are you It's like ninety five percent good, focus 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.960 on that. Why are you looking at the five percent? 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:32.080 Yeah, all depends on the day. You know. Some days 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.600 you're like, I got this, no big deal. In other 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:36.920 days it just hits you at the wrong time. It does. 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:38.680 It kind of makes me sad that you and I 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:42.800 both have to feel that way. I do. I love 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.040 what we do, and I love getting to connect with 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:48.400 people and all the amazing people who do see through 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:50.440 all of that. Yes, and they see it on just 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:53.240 a different level and they're normal humans like us. 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:55.520 M hmm. I love it. I mean people that call 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:57.560 in all the time they're like, Abby, don't give up, 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.080 I love your singing, don't listen to lunchbox And I'm like, OK, 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:03.240 thank you. That's what gives me, like that extra you know, 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:05.360 pep in my step. I guess so. 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:07.560 Yeah, And I think it's also not a bad thing. 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:11.280 For like constructive criticism, but nobody's ever constructive, right, It's 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:14.960 just criticism. And I don't know if you saw this 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:17.040 because you haven't been on your phone a lot, because 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:21.600 you're like in a love bubble. But Brenne Brown said this, 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:23.480 and I shared it on my story because my sister 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:26.160 shared it with me, and it really put a lot 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:29.320 of things in perspective for me. She says, if you're 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:31.960 not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.520 I'm not interested in or open to your feedback. There 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:37.720 are a million cheap seats in the world today, filled 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:39.960 with people who will never be brave with their own lives, 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:42.320 but will spend every ounce of energy they have harling 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:45.160 advice and judgment at those of us trying to dare greatly. 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:49.440 Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear mongreen If 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:51.680 you're criticizing from a place where you're not also putting 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:54.080 yourself on the line, I'm not interested in your feedback. 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:58.120 And I think a lot of people need to hear that, right, 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:01.160 I really yeah, I love that. Yeah, Because anytime you're 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:03.960 chasing a dream, chasing a goal, there's always going to 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:06.280 be people that don't agree with you, you know, and 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:09.520 my sister always has to remind me, like, you're not 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:13.879 going to be for everyone, and as a people pleaser 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:16.600 in an impath, I don't love that. 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:18.119 Oh my god, exactly. Yes. 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:19.920 I don't want to disappoint people. I don't want to 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:22.399 let people down. I don't want people to be to 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:26.720 feel sad or whatever because of me, you know. So 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:29.679 I had to learn to accept that I won't be 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:34.000 for everybody. That's a hard like exception, especially when we're 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:40.520 sitting here talking about how they don't really know us entirely. Yes, 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:45.080 that I totally agree. I'm like on my little I 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:48.280 know a moment, but maybe maybe it helps you, maybe 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:49.480 the quote helps you like it helps me. 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:51.440 No, it really does, and I try to think about 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.720 that all the time. I'm like, why if I wouldn't 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:57.159 listen to their I don't know, if there's like a 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:59.040 saying if I wouldn't listen to their advice, why would 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:00.760 I take their critique or something like that. I don't know. 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:03.879 So yeah, I'm all about like constructive criticism, you know, 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:05.600 but if you're just gonna be like you sound so 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:08.960 nasally or terrible, or they're like you know you should 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:12.080 work on being nasally. I'm okay, well what should I 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.760 do? Do you have advice? And like how I can change that? 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:16.280 Because I'm like, I feel like this is my voice 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:18.960