Speaker 1: Brooking jewels. Second date date. You know you're getting blown
Speaker 1: off for a date when somebody tells you that they
Speaker 1: have a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night.
Speaker 1: As far as I know, not a lot of doctors
Speaker 1: working that late on a Friday night. That's what happened
Speaker 1: to Matt, who is on the phone right now and
Speaker 1: wants to do a second date update. He wants to
Speaker 1: call a girl named Claire. Apparently Claire is really bad
Speaker 1: at blowing guys off. Yeah, because he asked her out
Speaker 1: after their date, and that was one of her excuses
Speaker 1: that she used. Apparently she's used a bunch of excuses,
Speaker 1: and he's wondering why she just keeps blowing him off.
Speaker 1: What's up, Matt? How are you? I'm doing great, guys,
Speaker 1: how are you good? So she actually sent you a
Speaker 1: text after your date saying that she had a doctor's
Speaker 1: appointment at eight on a Friday night. Yeah twice. Actually
Speaker 1: she did that two different weekends. Because I waited a
Speaker 1: couple of days. I didn't want to come off desperate anything.
Speaker 1: I wanted to play it cool, So I texted her
Speaker 1: and I think you want to grab some drinks tonight?
Speaker 1: Or something. This was earlier in the day, and she's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I have a doctor's appointment tonight. What did you stay back?
Speaker 1: I mean, I wasn't going to try to test her
Speaker 1: because I kind of took a little bit of a hint.
Speaker 1: I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I'm like, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: you know, let me know after we're tipping up and
Speaker 1: maybe we can do party. You wanted to text her
Speaker 1: back and be like, it's Friday night at eight o'clock.
Speaker 1: Do you really have a doctor's appointment? Absolutely? I mean
Speaker 1: I wanted to call her out on it. At the
Speaker 1: same time, I'd feel bad if she did have some
Speaker 1: kind of random doctor's appointment. And then I called her
Speaker 1: a liar and then yeah, it's one of those where
Speaker 1: you just bite your tongue and you're like, oh my god, yeah,
Speaker 1: do you think she said it? And she's like, oh, wait,
Speaker 1: that doesn't make any sense. He's gonna know that I'm
Speaker 1: blowing him. I don't know how lady doctors work. I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe lady doctors are open. You're not getting pap smears
Speaker 1: on a Friday night. It's not what we do. No,
Speaker 1: there's no like happy hour or late night happy hour
Speaker 1: for those things. Yeah, what was the other excuse that
Speaker 1: she used on you? I texted her a second time.
Speaker 1: It wasn't as late. I figured, you know, maybe she
Speaker 1: want to do like a happy hour or something like that.
Speaker 1: And what you say back, Actually, I would surprise because
Speaker 1: that one was a dentist appointment. She needs to get
Speaker 1: more creative. Is the problem? Are you sure you want
Speaker 1: to call this girl and try to get a second date.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think more it's I want closure. I
Speaker 1: want to know what happened, because we hit it off
Speaker 1: really well. She's she's gorgeous. I don't usually do blind dates,
Speaker 1: but the one time that I did it, it it worked
Speaker 1: out really well. I thought we had a lot in common.
Speaker 1: So this was a date that was set up by somebody. Yeah,
Speaker 1: our friends. We have some mutual friends, and they kept
Speaker 1: pestering me over a couple of weeks, and finally they
Speaker 1: showed me a picture of her on Facebook and yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, absolutely. Do you think that she was
Speaker 1: maybe disappointed when she saw you? If she was, she
Speaker 1: didn't act like it. I mean, maybe she's really nice.
Speaker 1: I mean I don't think I'm that much of a disappointment.
Speaker 1: To look at being what she really enjoyed herself. So
Speaker 1: everything on your date seemed cool. What did you guys do?
Speaker 1: It was just a first date kind of thing where
Speaker 1: we just went out to a bar and had a
Speaker 1: couple of drinks and we ended up just talking for
Speaker 1: you know, at least two or three hours. That's good time. Like,
Speaker 1: I mean, if she didn't like you initially, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: stay around that long. And I'm pretty good at reading people,
Speaker 1: so I I mean, either she's a really good actress
Speaker 1: or if she was having a good time. But I mean,
Speaker 1: it just it felt like things were really clicking. Was
Speaker 1: there anything weird that happened during your date? Not that
Speaker 1: I'm aware of. I mean, there's a couple of times,
Speaker 1: you know, she went to the bathroom, just like once
Speaker 1: or twice. But then after you're having drinks, you know,
Speaker 1: someone goes to the restroom. Yeah, that's right, unless she's
Speaker 1: a cokehead and she's just sounds to me like she's
Speaker 1: doing drugs in the bathroom during your date. Matt, I've
Speaker 1: never actually thought about it. Yeah, well you gotta think
Speaker 1: about it more often whenever I'm out on a date.
Speaker 1: As soon as she goes to the bathroom. I know
Speaker 1: exactly what's going on in there. I'm tired of going
Speaker 1: out with all these druggies. All right, So you still
Speaker 1: want to call this girl even though she's blatantly blowing
Speaker 1: you off. Oh? Absolutely, She's really one of the prettiest
Speaker 1: girls that i've I've ever went on a date with. Like,
Speaker 1: we're just really beautiful. I'm absolutely my type, and we
Speaker 1: just the stuff that you look for in common with someone,
Speaker 1: those things that we had together, it was just something,
Speaker 1: just something that we could build on. Did you give
Speaker 1: her a kiss at the end of the night. No,
Speaker 1: we just hugged and um, you know, went on a
Speaker 1: better way. Okay, well we'll play a song, come back,
Speaker 1: call her and get your second date update. All right, awesome,
Speaker 1: thanks guys, all right, man, hold on looking jubil In
Speaker 1: the morning, Matt is on the phone with us and
Speaker 1: he wants to call a girl named Claire. Today they
Speaker 1: met through friends, went out on a date. He thought
Speaker 1: everything seemed cool, but since then he's tried to text
Speaker 1: her and gotten horrible excuses back as to why she
Speaker 1: can't go out with him. It was a Friday night
Speaker 1: at eight o'clock and she said she had a doctor's appointment,
Speaker 1: and then the next time he said let's hang out earlier,
Speaker 1: like five o'clock on a Saturday, she said she had
Speaker 1: a dentist appointment, obviously blowing him off. Matt, Are you
Speaker 1: ready to make the phone call? Yeah? Man, absolutely, all right,
Speaker 1: Well i'nn have to, unfortunately tell you I'm gonna need
Speaker 1: to reschedule. I've got autometrius appointment here in ten minutes.
Speaker 1: Shouldn't be a surprise to you, though, this is kind
Speaker 1: of what people do to right Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. Have
Speaker 1: you ever been this blatantly blown off before? Never? No,
Speaker 1: that's what's bugging me so much. Yeah, I can see
Speaker 1: your point, because I would be like, I just want
Speaker 1: to know why why do you feel the need to
Speaker 1: pretend with a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a
Speaker 1: Friday night. All right, man, I'm gonna dial the phoneumber
Speaker 1: right now, get her on the phone and get your
Speaker 1: second date update. Okay, cool? Thanks, here we go. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Claire please? Yeah? This is Clay.
Speaker 1: Hey Claire, how are you doing? This is Jewel from
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel in the morning. I'm sorry, I don't understand. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's fine. It's a morning radio show, and one of
Speaker 1: our listeners recently emailed us about you. Who his name
Speaker 1: is Matt. We do a segment on our show called
Speaker 1: the second Date Update. Matt is wondering why you are
Speaker 1: blowing him off. Wait, Matt called you, guys. Yes, huh,
Speaker 1: do you have a few minutes to tell us why
Speaker 1: you don't want to go out with Matt again? I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess there's not much to tell. There's not much
Speaker 1: to tell. Well, let me, can I tell you something? Sure,
Speaker 1: we talked to Matt about your date, when we talked
Speaker 1: to him about everything after the date, and Matt thinks
Speaker 1: that you're a liar. He thinks him a liar. He
Speaker 1: thinks that you're a liar. Okay, why because you told
Speaker 1: him you couldn't go out with him because you had
Speaker 1: a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night.
Speaker 1: And then the next time he asked you out, you
Speaker 1: said you had a dentist's appointment. So like, that's my business.
Speaker 1: And for the record of not lying, okay, you're not
Speaker 1: lying that you went to the doctors at eight o'clock
Speaker 1: on a Friday night. I can explain this that you guys,
Speaker 1: So the doctor's appointment stuff is all true, and you
Speaker 1: haven't been blowing him off. You want to see mad again?
Speaker 1: I mean like, like not necessarily, I don't want like
Speaker 1: I don't actually want to see him again. Why woun't
Speaker 1: you make up lame excuses? Why don't you just tell him, Hey,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's gonna work. I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: need to justify any of this to you, Guys. I
Speaker 1: didn't get that feeling with him, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to see him again. But hey, I don't care if
Speaker 1: you blew him off the way you did. Whatever doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: It's not my life, that's his. But is there a
Speaker 1: specific reason why you don't want to see him again
Speaker 1: so that I can go back to him and tell him, Oh,
Speaker 1: I just I just didn't get the feeling I feel
Speaker 1: like I should get. So there's just no chemistry, like
Speaker 1: you weren't attracted to him. There's just like a feeling
Speaker 1: a girl gets when a guy really likes her and
Speaker 1: he thinks it's weird. I didn't get that from him
Speaker 1: at all. So you didn't think that he liked you,
Speaker 1: But he's asked you out a bunch of times. Since
Speaker 1: your date. I mean it was weirder than that. It
Speaker 1: was like when we went into the bar, I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, here's my ex play friend and he
Speaker 1: was gonna het the bar two and so I told
Speaker 1: Matt that, like I used to date this guy, and
Speaker 1: like he wasn't even face, Like he didn't even like
Speaker 1: he didn't care, he didn't like he just went along
Speaker 1: with the date like nothing happened. And I was like,
Speaker 1: don't you get it, Like we slept together, Like this
Speaker 1: is like weird. You know, so wanted you wanted him
Speaker 1: to be upset that your ex boyfriend was there. It's
Speaker 1: not that he has to like get upset or angry
Speaker 1: about it, but like I went to like show that
Speaker 1: he actually likes me, he probably should seem like he's
Speaker 1: at least faced by a little bit like a little
Speaker 1: bit weird it out. So you wanted to like go
Speaker 1: up to your ex boyfriend and threaten him right there
Speaker 1: or something. No, I'm like fight or anything. I just
Speaker 1: like I want him to be a little bit jealous
Speaker 1: and show me that he carries about me. Like that
Speaker 1: just comes off as a little crazy to me. Did
Speaker 1: you purposely take him to a bar that you knew
Speaker 1: your ex is gonna be at Oh my god, what
Speaker 1: is this? Like, I honestly don't need to explain any
Speaker 1: of this you. I'm being nice by explaining why I'm
Speaker 1: not calling back a guy that obviously was acting weird
Speaker 1: in the date. I talked to all my girlfriend's. They
Speaker 1: agree it's weird if you're just like, don't even care.
Speaker 1: You know that, like this guy I used a date like,
Speaker 1: he didn't want to leave. He just wanted to stay
Speaker 1: there and keep talking about books. Okay, so you would
Speaker 1: have rather that it weirded him out, and maybe he
Speaker 1: was like, I don't want to be here around your ex,
Speaker 1: Let's go somewhere else exactly. Yeah, but it's like a
Speaker 1: first date and he's not even invested in your guys's relationship.
Speaker 1: Like what does he have to be jealous of? I mean,
Speaker 1: I slept with the guy that's like five bars fools down,
Speaker 1: I would be jealous. And I'm like, okay, So halfway
Speaker 1: through the night, my ex boyfriend came up and introduced
Speaker 1: himself and like, Matt just like offered to buy him
Speaker 1: a drink. I mean that's over there. So Matt was
Speaker 1: too cool to your ex. You would have rather been like,
Speaker 1: how would okay, in a perfect world, Claire, if you
Speaker 1: were out with a guy and this happened, how would
Speaker 1: you want him to react. I would want him to
Speaker 1: be like cold and like defend me and like not
Speaker 1: to sit there and not cool about it, like he
Speaker 1: doesn't care about me? Like are we friends? Or are
Speaker 1: we like aren't we on the date? I couldn't tell.
Speaker 1: I really couldn't tell, Claire. All right, so you like
Speaker 1: a guy who gets a little jealous, and Matt is
Speaker 1: obviously not that guy. Obviously not that guy. Okay, Hey, Claire,
Speaker 1: I should let you know that Matt is actually on
Speaker 1: the other line listening to this conversation. What. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know what I'm supposed to say to you. Is
Speaker 1: it that I'm too nice? I don't understand what it
Speaker 1: is for your information that like if you're out with
Speaker 1: a girl, they want you to be jealous, like if
Speaker 1: some guys start explorting with me, especially if it's my
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend. Honestly, I was just trying to be a
Speaker 1: nice guy and like just play it cool. I figured
Speaker 1: if if I come off means that that would you know,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't find that attractive. I want to try to
Speaker 1: be polite and nice. No, Like, what's attractive is being
Speaker 1: a man in that situation and like, like, you know,
Speaker 1: playing it cool. I don't want you to play it cool. Like,
Speaker 1: so what I was supposed to like punch him out
Speaker 1: when he walked up or something, Well, you also to
Speaker 1: buy him a beer. I know that you weren't. I mean,
Speaker 1: it wasn't like you had any kind of look on
Speaker 1: your face like you were mad that he was there.
Speaker 1: So I just figured you guys were, you know, still
Speaker 1: at least friends or clause I'm not. I'm not the
Speaker 1: jealous type I've got. I've got friends in my life
Speaker 1: that that I've dated. It a long time ago. So
Speaker 1: sometimes you remain friends, you remain close. I figured you
Speaker 1: guys were still close. I wanted to be nice. Oh
Speaker 1: course I was playing it cool. That's what I'm supposed
Speaker 1: to do in that situation. Your role like stick up
Speaker 1: for me no matter what. Look I have a day.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I just I'm really confused right now.
Speaker 1: I really do not understand women at all. Yeah, obviously
Speaker 1: you don't understand woman obviously, Claire. That is not how
Speaker 1: all women think. It's how I think, and it's how
Speaker 1: most of my girlfriends think. So like, I have no
Speaker 1: idea what you're talking about. You're gonna end up with
Speaker 1: like some control freak, jealous royd rage dude. If that's
Speaker 1: the type of parameters you're putting on your dates, don't
Speaker 1: judge me about who I want to date. You're the
Speaker 1: one who called me, yeah, Brooke, back off, back off.
Speaker 1: I'm sticking up for Claire right now, Claire, Claire, I
Speaker 1: got your back, all right. I'm sticking up for you
Speaker 1: like a good man should do. Wow, finally a real
Speaker 1: man is doing something. There you go, Claren. If you
Speaker 1: and I were out on a date and your ex
Speaker 1: boyfriend was there, he's not getting a beer from me. Good.
Speaker 1: I mean, at least somebody understand. Yeah, I'm glad here, Matt.
Speaker 1: Would you even like to go out on a second
Speaker 1: date with Claire? I mean, knowing what I know now,
Speaker 1: absolutely not. She's obviously got some kind of point of
Speaker 1: view of what the roles of men and women are.
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, okay, it's nobody want some macho guy.
Speaker 1: I just want a guy that has like balls, you know,
Speaker 1: you know, whatever I'm done with you, that actually probably
Speaker 1: will get you another date. With clarific good job, Matt