1 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: Hey, folks, it is Thursday, April second, and the husband 2 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:11,120 Speaker 1: of a South Florida mayor is in jail and charged 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: with premeditated murder after her body was found at their 4 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: home just yesterday. And with that, welcome to this episode 5 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: of Amy and TJ wrohats a shocking story with some 6 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,479 Speaker 1: of the headlines we saw, they're starting to fill in 7 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: some details, but we have a mug shot and I'll 8 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: start there with you. I know this isn't the biggest 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: deal with something about his mug shot even you noticed 10 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:35,559 Speaker 1: at least jumped out headsh. 11 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 2: It sends chills down your spine. 12 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,160 Speaker 3: We're talking about forty year old Stephen Bowen, and yes, 13 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:44,240 Speaker 3: he is charged with premeditated murder of his beloved wife. 14 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 3: And he has a slight smile, maybe even a smirk 15 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 3: on his face in the mugshot. Now, look, he could 16 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 3: have just it could have just been coincidental when they 17 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 3: shot the picture. He didn't realize what the look was 18 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 3: on his face. But there's something about it that makes 19 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 3: you actually feel sick to your stomach when you see it. 20 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 2: I don't know what was your reaction when you saw 21 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 2: the mugshot. 22 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: Well, you know what he looked pleasant. I mean, he 23 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: looked like he was a day at the beach. Was 24 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what I expect somebody 25 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 1: to look like after they've been charged with the premeditated 26 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 1: murder of your own wife. But it was it was 27 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,120 Speaker 1: worth noting. Right, It's not usually the biggest deal, but 28 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: it was worth noting at least. But robe you said 29 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 1: of a beloved mayor. We didn't know anything about her, 30 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,760 Speaker 1: We're not familiar with her name. You've been doing a 31 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: little bit of a deep dive about her. People aren't 32 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: just sending up hopes and prayers, and they are sending 33 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: they are writing long letters essentially talking about just how 34 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: wonderful this woman was. 35 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're talking about thirty eight year old Nancy Mettayer Bowen. 36 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 3: She was the Coral Springs vice mayor. And that's a 37 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 3: town just outside of Fort Lauderdale, South Florida, Broward County. 38 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 3: And Yeah, usually when you see something tragic and someone's 39 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 3: life cut short, you'll see a lot of people pouring 40 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 3: out their thoughts and well wishes and condolences. 41 00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 2: But I noticed it's usually a line or two. 42 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 3: It is remarkable to see how many people have rushed 43 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 3: to say the most glowing, incredibly kind, wonderful things about 44 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 3: this woman, from politicians to family members. And they're not 45 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,959 Speaker 3: just writing a couple of lines, paragraphs upon paragraphs about 46 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 3: how this bright woman. 47 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 2: I mean she has. 48 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 3: Her master's degree in what was in science, right, environmental 49 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 3: health sciences? A master's degree. This is a smart woman 50 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 3: with a bright future. And you said we might not 51 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 3: know her name, but by all accounts, we might have 52 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 3: known her name soon enough. 53 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:36,119 Speaker 2: Thirty eight. 54 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: Okay, this is a woman who had made an impression, yes, 55 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 1: by getting elected to a council, that's one thing by 56 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: the public. But then she ends up vice mayor because 57 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: her own peers voted her into that position. But then rope, 58 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 1: you keep going along. And then Kamala Harris had tapped 59 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 1: her to be a part of her campaign to work 60 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: in that area for her. And this is a woman 61 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: now who had her site set on other things and 62 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: other offices and possibly yes, even Washington, DC at the 63 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:07,079 Speaker 1: age of what again thirty eight? 64 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 2: Thirty eight? 65 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: Week, Yes, this is just such a young young woman 66 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 1: who just from all accounts, bro she was building the 67 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 1: exact type of resume and partnerships that you have in 68 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 1: connections to a community that propel you to hire office. 69 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 1: This didn't know her name, but this is just a shame. 70 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 2: But it is a shame. It is incredibly said. 71 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 3: I told you when we woke up this morning and 72 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 3: I was looking at the story at six am. 73 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 2: She has two different. 74 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 3: Social media accounts on Instagram, she had a personal one 75 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 3: and a professional one, and throughout it all you'll see 76 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 3: pictures on a personal one of her and her husband smiling, 77 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 3: looking very much in love. 78 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: They were only in their third year. 79 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 3: Of marriage and it looked to be a happy one 80 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 3: on Instagram. But I noticed she had just posted at 81 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 3: six am it said twenty one hours earlier, she had 82 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 3: posted a beautiful shot of her giving back over the 83 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 3: weekend at an Easter event honoring children in her area. 84 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 3: So I just thought to myself, I know, it's we 85 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 3: do this kind of story sadly all the time. We've 86 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 3: covered so many stories unfortunately similar to this, for the 87 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 3: past three decades. But it's something to see, my God. 88 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 3: Less than twenty four hours ago, she was on social 89 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 3: media posting pictures and talking about an event, and this 90 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:23,839 Speaker 3: morning she's she's not here, And what a huge hole 91 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 3: that's left in her community and in her family. 92 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: And there's something about why you look at Instagram pages. 93 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 1: This is how we get to know people oftentimes that 94 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 1: you don't know. But Rose, it seemed like everything is 95 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: going along just great in life. It did, I know 96 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: it often does on Instagram, but to the point that 97 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 1: she was still posting what was the last post it was? 98 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 3: It was a post about her weekend giving back to 99 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 3: a bunch of kids, an Easter event, a pre Easter 100 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 3: event in her in her district. 101 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: So I mean, there's something poetic and sad about that, 102 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 1: even as we get to learn more and more about 103 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:03,599 Speaker 1: But yeah, Robes knowing and thinking that this is not, 104 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: at least anywhere where she thought her life was or 105 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 1: was going to be. Her life was continuing along her 106 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: work and then all of a sudden it got cut 107 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:15,040 Speaker 1: off Robes while she was in the middle of that. 108 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is shocking. 109 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 3: She had an unbelievable present that she had built her 110 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 3: life towards, and she had an incredible future waiting for her, 111 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 3: but unfortunately it happened. At ten am yesterday morning, police 112 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 3: responded to a welfare check from local reports. A friend 113 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 3: of hers was looking for her and she wasn't responding 114 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 3: to her, so that friend called the husband. That's a 115 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 3: very natural next step, Hey do you know where Nancy is? 116 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 3: And the friend told police that his responses were suspicious 117 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 3: enough that they then hung up the phone after talking 118 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 3: to the husband Stephen Bowen and called police and said, 119 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 3: can you please check on my friend? And that is 120 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 3: when police found her life lifeless body there in her 121 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 3: home and her husband was nowhere to be found initially. 122 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,359 Speaker 1: And we'll get more details about that phone call, but 123 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: that's obviously something happened in that call. You don't just 124 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: send police immediately. That's chilling to think. But we'll get 125 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: those details later. But that I'm very curious to know. 126 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:27,479 Speaker 1: And in Rome, if a friend hurts something out of 127 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: the ordinary enough to call police, was this maybe the 128 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: first time? You would have to say? Probably not. There 129 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: had to be some concern prior. There's no friend of 130 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: yours that anybody you would the first thing you would 131 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 1: think was to call. 132 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 2: Police right after talking to you, the. 133 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: First thing, with no history or anything like that. We 134 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: don't know that. And there's nothing I've seen indicated anything 135 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: right that you say they were picture perfect? 136 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 3: I mean, yes, if you can go right now onto 137 00:06:55,160 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 3: Nancy Mettiar Bowen's personal and on her professional Instagram page, 138 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 3: and you will see nothing but joy and service and 139 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 3: love and friendship and what looks to be a very 140 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 3: happy marriage. In fact, I looked at this post from 141 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 3: her two year wedding anniversary. It had a picture of 142 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 3: the two of them with Coral Springs the logo behind them. 143 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 3: I'm guessing it was their wedding day. It looked like 144 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 3: it was right outside of city Hall. And she said 145 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 3: two years with the amazing Stephen Bowen, cheers to love, 146 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 3: growth and building a beautiful life together. That was November 147 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 3: twenty second, twenty twenty four, So a year and a 148 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:34,080 Speaker 3: half later and she's dead and he's charged with her murder. 149 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 1: And like you said, after they did the welfare check 150 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 1: to pick back up and found her body, you said, 151 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: he was nowhere to be found. Now he ends up. 152 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: How far out of town was it, did you catch? 153 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: But I didn't. 154 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 2: They used the plantation Florida. 155 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 3: I don't know where that is in relation to Coral Springs, 156 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 3: but it was out of the city. 157 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: And they use right, we were doing this earlier, doing 158 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 1: this story, and they use the word. 159 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 3: Fled, Yes, fled and Afri handed at a friend's apartment complex. 160 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 2: Was the way police worded it, hanging. 161 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: Out with a friend. I mean that suggests a lot 162 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: or looks bad. Is that what we say? 163 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 2: Yes? 164 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 3: And to that point, police made it very clear that 165 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 3: this They didn't give details as to how she was killed, 166 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 3: but they did make a point to say it was 167 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 3: a domestic violent violence situation and that no other suspects 168 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 3: or threats to the community exist following the arrest of 169 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 3: Stephen Bowen, so they're fairly certain. 170 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 2: They're saying they are certain they got their guy. 171 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, they always have to put that out 172 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 1: and they usually are pretty good or pretty careful about 173 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 1: telling the community there is no further risk. They feel 174 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: like they got the guy. And I didn't understand the 175 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:49,439 Speaker 1: premeditated he's been charged with premeditated murder and the domestic 176 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 1: violence situation. I'm curious to hear when we do get 177 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 1: detailed at some point what that's about. 178 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know, because that's a quick usually to 179 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 3: go to that extreme or to get that specific. A 180 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 3: lot of times a great and jury will have looked 181 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 3: at the evidence and then make it a determination as 182 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 3: to exactly what type of murder charge. 183 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:06,400 Speaker 2: Somebody's facing. 184 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 3: So to immediately face a first degree premeditated murder charge, 185 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 3: there must have been something there that led them to that. 186 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:17,680 Speaker 3: Also tampering with or fabricating physical evidence. So they're saying 187 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 3: through the charges that it looks like he tried to 188 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 3: cover it up in some way. 189 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: Well, again, curious to hear what all that's about. They 190 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: finally got him, and again I just looked up. It's 191 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: only eleven miles half hour drive it posts between those 192 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: two places. So he didn't get far. 193 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 3: He didn't go far, but he distanced himself from the scene. 194 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 3: And look, this was a woman, as we mentioned to 195 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,680 Speaker 3: his love, she had a lot of First, she became 196 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:45,560 Speaker 3: the first black and Haitian American female commissioner in the 197 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 3: city of Correl Springs in twenty twenty, and then she 198 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,080 Speaker 3: was re elected again. And as you pointed out, I 199 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,559 Speaker 3: think it's so interesting that she was appointed to serve 200 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 3: as vice mayor by her fellow commissioners. Everyone spoke so 201 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 3: highly of this woman and her actual care and concern 202 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 3: for the people she served. I mentioned she was an 203 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 3: environmental scientist and she got her master's degree from Johns Hopkins. 204 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 3: I mean this was a smart, accomplished woman who had 205 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 3: her sight set on a bigger political career career, and 206 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 3: it just it makes me so sad to think about. 207 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:20,959 Speaker 3: I mean, obviously the value of a human life is 208 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 3: the same, but to think about what she still had 209 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 3: left to contribute and what good she still had left 210 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:31,440 Speaker 3: to do in this world, it's beyond tragic to have 211 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:32,439 Speaker 3: that cut short. 212 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:34,599 Speaker 1: No, you're right, there are a lot of her life is 213 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:37,719 Speaker 1: more valuable than any other. And there's so many of 214 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: these stories we won't hear about today. There will be 215 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,959 Speaker 1: women who will be hit, abused and killed by their 216 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 1: partners today. All those stories, Yes, we always worth pointing 217 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: that all those lives are just as much of value. 218 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 1: But this is the one who was out there whose 219 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 1: story we do know, the story we do connect to 220 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: in a lot of ways. She was an American dream, yeah, 221 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:03,400 Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, and this, unfortunately Rome's becomes 222 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:07,439 Speaker 1: a part of the American nightmare. With when domestic violence 223 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: has talked about and how we talk about it. We've 224 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:13,680 Speaker 1: been talking about it recently, we have it's who knows 225 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,680 Speaker 1: what they'll start talking about signs? Is this really the 226 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: first time? The first time? 227 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 3: It's hard to imagine, but we hopefully will get more 228 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,199 Speaker 3: details because this is something, This is a cautionary tale. 229 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,199 Speaker 3: This is something and could serve as a wake up 230 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 3: call to other women. 231 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 2: But it is tragic, nonetheless. 232 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,319 Speaker 3: And when we come back just speaking about how much 233 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,320 Speaker 3: this woman was loved, we have her family statement, but 234 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 3: some incredible statements from the city of Coral Springs, from 235 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 3: local politicians, from people who knew her and loved her, 236 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 3: so you can remember just how special Nancy truly was. 237 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,200 Speaker 3: Welcome back, everyone to the episode of Amy and TJ, 238 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 3: where we are talking about a tragic situation out of 239 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 3: Coral Springs, Florida, where the mayor there was murdered, police 240 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 3: say by her husband of just three years, thirty eight 241 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 3: year old Nancy Metti R. 242 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:13,320 Speaker 2: Bowen. 243 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 3: She was the vice mayor of Coral Springs, Florida, and 244 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 3: was beloved by so many and is now being remembered 245 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:25,040 Speaker 3: for just what a special person she was by so 246 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 3: many people in the community. Her family released a statement 247 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:31,480 Speaker 3: talking about how yes, her public office was a lot 248 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 3: of how she was known and how she was regarded 249 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 3: through her many years there, but they wanted to just 250 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 3: talk about her as a sister, as a daughter as 251 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 3: just a dedicated woman whose warmth and laughter filled every room. 252 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:45,199 Speaker 2: They said her legacy. 253 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 3: Will live on not only in the policies she helped shape, 254 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 3: but in the countless lives she touched. The condolences are 255 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 3: just remarkable in their length and in what they say 256 00:12:57,320 --> 00:12:57,959 Speaker 3: and by whom. 257 00:12:58,080 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 2: Just so many people love this woman. 258 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: That's really cool. I mean, I mean, who knows what 259 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 1: was she had or sight set on. What would the 260 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: country have come to know her name had she been 261 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:10,960 Speaker 1: allowed to continue her work and on the path she 262 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 1: was on. I hate to know her name this. 263 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:15,319 Speaker 2: Way, Yeah, I do you know, that's the one way 264 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 2: to put it. 265 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:19,320 Speaker 3: I mean, we hear directly from Congressman Jared Moskowitz, who 266 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 3: is the US congressman who represents this district. He said, 267 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 3: I'm in shock. I was just with her on Saturday. 268 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 3: She just buried her brother. She was about to announce 269 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 3: she was running for congress. He said she was one 270 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 3: of the nicest people he's ever worked with, and that 271 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 3: she was always fighting for her community, always pushing to help, 272 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:43,040 Speaker 3: and that reminds us this family, this meta Yar family, 273 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:48,360 Speaker 3: has been through an unthinkable amount of sorrow and tragedy 274 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 3: in the past several months. 275 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 1: I can't believe this story. But frankly, so much of 276 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: what happened at Parkland, didn't it touch so many people 277 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: in so many communities ways, I guess this isn't a 278 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 1: surprise that she would have a connection to that awful tragedy. Yes, 279 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 1: her brother survived, survived that high school shooting, but then 280 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 1: just a few months ago took his own life. 281 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, this is just it's unthinkably difficult. I 282 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 3: just I'm imagining being a member of the Mediar family. 283 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 3: I don't know how you bear this much. But in 284 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 3: December of last year of medi Air, Bowen's twenty six 285 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 3: year old brother, Joshua died by suicide. They say that 286 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 3: he basically just couldn't get over the depression. They said 287 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 3: that the trauma of that massacre that happened February fourteenth, 288 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 3: I forgot it was on Valentine's Day of twenty eighteen. 289 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 3: They say that the trauma from that massacre quote lingered 290 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 3: long after graduation and profoundly altered the course of his life. 291 00:14:56,200 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 3: And so finally, they say, depression, guilt, emotion, instability, and 292 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 3: long periods of isolation replaced the vibrant young man we 293 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 3: once knew. We don't think about that. We think about, oh, 294 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 3: you survived the school shooting. Or we think about, of 295 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 3: course the people, the students, the teachers who died in 296 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 3: these school shootings. But the people who survived live with 297 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 3: survivor's guilt and terror and trauma. You wouldn't trust anyone. 298 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 3: How comfortable would you ever feel again in a public space. 299 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 3: I mean, all of those things we don't really think 300 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:31,240 Speaker 3: about what so many people live with each and every 301 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 3: day after experiencing something that has become unfortunately commonplace now 302 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 3: in this country. 303 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 1: I'm going back to look what year that shooting was done? 304 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 1: Eight years ago? 305 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:42,360 Speaker 2: Twenty eighteen? 306 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 1: Were that eight years ago? And to think, yes, a 307 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 1: lot of them in that high school still living with this, 308 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 1: To think that something that did happen that long ago, 309 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: and when they go, oh they're getting help and they 310 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 1: need to get time and Spae, this was now his life. Yeah, 311 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 1: that's how I think about their family right from Houston Haiti, right, Yes, 312 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: family originally, I mean, that's that's awful. They're here. The 313 00:16:08,560 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: dream is being lived, right, the dream is being lived. 314 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:14,320 Speaker 3: The dream is being lived, and they have one son 315 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 3: who survives a school shooting, only to end up dying 316 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 3: by suicide because of the grief and trauma he felt, 317 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 3: and then having another child die at the hands of 318 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 3: her husband, according to police, through domestic violence. 319 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 1: Okay, so what if you're a family member in Haiti, 320 00:16:28,640 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: you're looking over and you've had this violence, like headline making, 321 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: violence has happened to your family, not. 322 00:16:38,240 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 2: Once, but twice. It's unreal. 323 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:45,680 Speaker 3: It really is just one of those moments where you 324 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:47,600 Speaker 3: just have to take a beat and you have to 325 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:51,240 Speaker 3: remember to hug the people you love, to tell the 326 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 3: people you love that that. 327 00:16:55,120 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 2: They matter, that their life matters. 328 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,480 Speaker 3: I think we just go through who our day and 329 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:05,160 Speaker 3: don't recognize how fragile life is and how quickly things 330 00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:10,159 Speaker 3: can change. And unfortunately this family is learning that in 331 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 3: more ways than one. And this is just an incredibly 332 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:15,200 Speaker 3: sad situation. Look, we're hoping to get more information, more 333 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,640 Speaker 3: details about what happened to Nancy, how it happened, why 334 00:17:18,720 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 3: it happened, Not that there's ever a good explanation, but 335 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 3: certainly there are a lot of questions still left in 336 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:27,000 Speaker 3: this case that need to be answered for family members 337 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,280 Speaker 3: and for the community who loved her, for the community 338 00:17:29,480 --> 00:17:31,760 Speaker 3: who she served, but we just wanted to jump on 339 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 3: and let you all know who this incredible woman was. 340 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 3: Nancy Metti or Bowen, A life cut far too short, 341 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 3: and we will certainly continue to follow the development surrounding 342 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 3: the justice that we know her family so desperately hopes 343 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:47,920 Speaker 3: to get in this case. In the meantime, though, thank 344 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:49,919 Speaker 3: you for listening to us, every one. I'm Amy Robach 345 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 3: alongside TJ. Holmes, and we will talk to you soon.