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Speaker 1: What's up? You guys are listening to a valvets Edge

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Speaker 1: mini SOO. This is Kelly and I'm here by myself today.

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Speaker 1: This is the first mini swed all by my lonesome

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Speaker 1: loan ranger here. Um, but I did. I get a

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Speaker 1: lot of messages on Velvet Edge, my Instagram at Velvet's Edge,

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Speaker 1: and I have been getting this thing one consistently for

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Speaker 1: a quick mini soed just to answer a couple of

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Speaker 1: these questions. And it's mostly about how I got started

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Speaker 1: that I do, so we kind of got into a

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Speaker 1: little bit of how I got into hair and makeup.

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Speaker 1: But another part of the question that I get is,

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Speaker 1: always putting their best self forward, how did I get

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Speaker 1: or not let everyone else's success is really kind of

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Speaker 1: affect how I put myself out there. Um, So here's

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Speaker 1: the message. I'll start that way, says Hey, I love

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Speaker 1: listening to your podcast. You always give great advice, thanks,

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Speaker 1: and make everyone feel like they're not alone. You make

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Speaker 1: my work days go by so much faster, and I

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Speaker 1: was wondering if you could do a podcast on how

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Speaker 1: to become a makeup artist. Especially nowadays with the power

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Speaker 1: it comes to comparing myself to others. I'm also an

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Speaker 1: don't post much, even on my own Instagram. I'm horrible

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Speaker 1: mine or others. I just graduated from college, but makeup

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Speaker 1: I continue to let my shyness get in the way,

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Speaker 1: message really just stuck out to me because I really

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Speaker 1: honestly can relate. I know that might sound a little crazy,

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Speaker 1: um because I'm constantly putting myself out there right now,

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Speaker 1: it comes to being vulnerable, you know, I quickly want

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Speaker 1: to retreat back into my safe little shell and just

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Speaker 1: not put myself out there. But for me, what's really

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Speaker 1: of life where I am having to put myself out there,

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Speaker 1: was on Instagram or social media for Velvet Edge stuff

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Speaker 1: or this podcast, um and now with very Cavaliery. I

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Speaker 1: I do think social media makes this, It makes vulnerability

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Speaker 1: that's even a saying. If it isn't, I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 1: them that. But it's not. People aren't putting their true

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Speaker 1: to think that we have this perfect life. And it's

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Speaker 1: I've failed a bunch of times. I have done things

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Speaker 1: So how did I start in hair and makeup? Like

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Speaker 1: I said, I did do another podcast with Radio Amy

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Speaker 1: I've been saying, hell no, like there was no way

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Speaker 1: the podcast, I've been saying that. But it kind of

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Speaker 1: And that's just that you just have to do it.

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Speaker 1: You have to put yourself out there. You can't judge yourself.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna get better. You'll learn. Every time I've done something,

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Speaker 1: I hope that was a lot of helpful advice. UM.

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Speaker 1: If you do have more questions, you can always message

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Speaker 1: me on my Instagram. It's at velvet Edge. I honestly

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Speaker 1: at info at velvet edge dot com if you are

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