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Speaker 1: All right, what's up? It is way up for Angela yee.

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Speaker 1: And look who's back again. Divine Franklin's here with us,

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Speaker 1: and my girl Soraya is here. Welcome Sola. I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm gonna see you a lot now because you're

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Speaker 1: kind of like in this area now.

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Speaker 2: So yes, this is true.

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Speaker 1: We have all kinds of plans. So Ruth and Boaz,

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Speaker 1: congratulations on a really amazing movie to watch.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you.

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Speaker 1: It's out right now on Netflix, so anybody that wants

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Speaker 1: to watch and make sure you go and stream it

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Speaker 1: if you haven't already. I already know it's number one,

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Speaker 1: all right, Yeah, that's right because y'all have been doing

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Speaker 1: a great job with this. What is the story of

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Speaker 1: Ruth and Boaz for people who don't know it, because

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Speaker 1: this is a modern twist.

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Speaker 4: Yes, it's a modern twist of the biblical love story

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Speaker 4: told in the Book of Ruth. And basically, you know,

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Speaker 4: it's about a woman who makes a decision to follow

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Speaker 4: what she feels is right, even though it makes no sense.

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Speaker 4: And that journey and decision to follow what she feels

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Speaker 4: and while she's there, she has to find work for

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Speaker 4: her and Naomi, who's kind of like her surrogate mother,

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Speaker 4: ultimately becomes the love her love interest. And so it's

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Speaker 4: a powerful story that is rooted, you know, in the Bible,

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Speaker 4: but to your point, it's a modern take of two

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Speaker 4: people not looking for love but they ultimately find it.

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Speaker 1: Did you know this story already, Sarah?

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Speaker 2: Like roughly? I feel like, you know, growing up in church,

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Speaker 2: it's always like reference like Banya.

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Speaker 1: Boe a good quote right there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so in that aspect, yus. But the actual full story.

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Speaker 1: Now, yeah, you know, I think there's so many lessons

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Speaker 2: This is true, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, were there certain parallels that you were seeing like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like Ruth, like you said, is on

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Speaker 2: And like you said, she wasn't looking for love when

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Speaker 1: And you too, right, because they always say, they do

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Speaker 1: always say that love finds you when you're not looking

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Speaker 4: I have one believe it. In the irony about Ruth

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 4: The interesting thing about this is that I came up

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't know who Boas was gonna find

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Speaker 4: But here's the beautiful thing about love. So often we're

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Speaker 4: But look at this Boas. All he had to do

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Speaker 1: I'm curious about this because there are people and they

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Speaker 4: But it's the mentality that's the difference. Okay, you can absolutely,

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Speaker 5: You pray for to come across and dates, it's okay, wait.

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Speaker 4: Till you wait to the second half of the show. Serious,

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Speaker 4: It's okay. You're gonna see passing Jeffery Deems himself, you know.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, for me one doing that One Man's show.

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Speaker 4: in the One Man's Show the answer to your question

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Speaker 3: You know, it shaped everything.

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Speaker 3: You know, what they did. I'm not lying. I am

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Speaker 1: That's why you've never been scared to do lip service

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Speaker 3: We have a good conversation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the selling point too. When people be nervous.

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Speaker 1: It was great.

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Speaker 5: I had a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we had a good conversation, way different than Joey's conversation.

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Speaker 1: what we don't want, But finding the person that you

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Speaker 1: want will make you throw all those rules out the window.

439
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Speaker 1: You got that right, and do the exact I said

440
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Speaker 1: you thought.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely. You say, oh, I ain't gonna do this. I

442
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:10,480
Speaker 3: ain't gonna do that.

443
00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:12,399
Speaker 4: I don't want this, I don't want that, and then

444
00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:15,800
Speaker 4: the right one shows up and all that gets disregarded.

445
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's a good thing now as you guys

446
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:20,000
Speaker 1: are planning, because I saw your wedding. By the way,

447
00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:24,120
Speaker 1: congratulations again it was absolutely beautiful. I don't and shout

448
00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:29,359
Speaker 1: out to major amazing performer. So listen, let's get some

449
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Speaker 1: like advice for weddings because I know you guys are

450
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Speaker 1: planning yours. What is something during the practice.

451
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Speaker 4: That number one piece of advice is like get religious

452
00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:46,919
Speaker 4: about your budget, like really set like this is the

453
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Speaker 4: amount of money that you want to spend, and then

454
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Speaker 4: do every every moment keep your wedding planner honest about

455
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Speaker 4: the budget.

456
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Speaker 1: So you stayed in your budget because I don't believe no, okay.

457
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Speaker 5: I no, I did not stay at my budget, and I.

458
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Speaker 1: Feel like it's always more extravagant. You think he's more

459
00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:09,160
Speaker 1: extravagant spending than you. If I had to guess area, yeah, yes, okay,

460
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Speaker 1: I can see. I just get.

461
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Speaker 4: In the budget, within the budget, and then also you know,

462
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,239
Speaker 4: get creative. Right at the end of the day, A

463
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Speaker 4: wedding is really about a memory, and so you know

464
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Speaker 4: what's the memory that you want and put look at

465
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Speaker 4: it that way. So when you're ten twenty years down

466
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Speaker 4: the road, what do you want to look back on

467
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Speaker 4: and say, Wow, this is what we had for that day.

468
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Speaker 4: So stay creative, use your imagination, and really focus on

469
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Speaker 4: the memory. And the last thing I would say is

470
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Speaker 4: just make sure you're doing it for you, because the

471
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Speaker 4: parents are going to have a say and friends don't

472
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Speaker 4: want to say this, and this person don't want to

473
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Speaker 4: say that. And at the end of the day, when

474
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Speaker 4: you bring so many voices into the wedding planning process,

475
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Speaker 4: it can actually dilute, you know, what the bride and groom.

476
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Speaker 3: Really really want.

477
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Speaker 4: And so you know, Maria and I really and we

478
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Speaker 4: got input. Don't get me wrong, we got input. You know,

479
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 4: her mom gave us, you know, she's phenomenon and gave

480
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Speaker 4: us some incredible ideas. Yet we still retained the final

481
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Speaker 4: decision on what we did and how we did it,

482
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Speaker 4: and the day came off amazing.

483
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Speaker 1: Yeah, well them pictures look like it was everything. Thank Yeah,

484
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Speaker 1: you couldn't possibly want it. I just think that's good.

485
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Speaker 1: Dan our producer, he got married recently. His wedding was

486
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Speaker 1: super extravagant. By the way. I was like, look, we

487
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Speaker 1: were sitting in there like this must have cost a ton, so.

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Speaker 3: He had a way of wedding. Huh.

489
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Speaker 1: Listen, I was like, I don't know where he got

490
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Speaker 1: all his money from, because.

491
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Speaker 3: It pays the work.

492
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Speaker 5: So listen the.

493
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Speaker 1: Way the movie even starts off, right, it's talking about

494
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Speaker 1: that love stories don't always start off like what is

495
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Speaker 1: the quote in the beginning of.

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Speaker 4: It, love stories. I'm telling you they'd start in the ashes.

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Speaker 4: I mean that's that's I can't remember the first line,

498
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Speaker 4: but it's something like that. Yeah, you know, they don't

499
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Speaker 4: aways start as fairy tales.

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Speaker 1: Right exactly? You know, and that's something. Would you say

501
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Speaker 1: that things started for you kind of as a fairy tale?

502
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think so. We was living like like the

503
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Speaker 2: movie date, it's it's an official, unofficial date. We still

504
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Speaker 2: debate on this today.

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Speaker 1: I want to hear your opinion. Done swayed in the corner, Yeah, right, exactly.

506
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Speaker 2: I can I can't feel it.

507
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Speaker 5: I feel.

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Speaker 2: From that side. No, I would say I considered it

509
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Speaker 2: a date. Uh No. We we met up and we

510
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 2: went to a a Dave what's his name, Dave? This

511
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Speaker 2: Dave concert And it's funny because I'm thinking, like in

512
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Speaker 2: the text he's like Dave, and I'm like, oh my gosh, cool,

513
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 2: I love Dave Chabelle. Right, so wait, so I meet

514
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Speaker 2: him at a restaurant that he's already at. We're sitting

515
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Speaker 2: down and like, for the first ten minutes of us

516
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Speaker 2: conversing in person, we are completely talking about and things,

517
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I love Dave, like he's so intellectual,

518
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 2: but then like super funny and he's all, how long.

519
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 1: Have you known you know Dave?

520
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 2: And I said, I mean, I don't know Dave. I mean,

521
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 2: you know, I met him once or twice whenever. And

522
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 2: so We're having this full conversation completely missing the mark,

523
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Speaker 2: and I'm like, he's like, what Dave, Dave Chappelle, what

524
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 2: are you talking about? Are we seeing Dave Chapelle. He's like, no,

525
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 2: we're seeing Dave the artist. And I said, oh, okay, great, No,

526
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Speaker 2: but it's so funny. That's like a really funny moment

527
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Speaker 2: for us to this day.

528
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Speaker 1: But it was really really date because he asked you

529
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Speaker 1: to go somewhere.

530
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Speaker 2: I don't know, he was already going, I don't know,

531
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

532
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Speaker 1: Was it like a group date? Other people were there?

533
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was kind of like that I was kind

534
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 2: of just linking up, and but it was a date

535
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 2: to me, Hell okay, and you felt it though, No, yeah,

536
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 2: we we both felt. We were like, all right, we

537
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 2: want to do this again.

538
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Speaker 1: So what was the official day, he would say.

539
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Speaker 2: I think the official day, he would say, was, well,

540
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:01,080
Speaker 2: we were already prettym much kind of talking. But we

541
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 2: went to this Italian restaurant. I'm not sure what one

542
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 2: that was here in the city, but that was more

543
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 2: of like a date just to sit down, like, yeah, yeah,

544
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 2: that's cute.

545
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: What about your first date with Maria?

546
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Speaker 3: We went on a hike. We went on a hike.

547
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Speaker 3: We went on like a four hour hike.

548
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Speaker 5: Yeah that's Maria.

549
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Speaker 4: And no, but it was it was four hours because

550
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,359
Speaker 4: once we got to the top of the hike, we

551
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,520
Speaker 4: sat there and talked for hours.

552
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Speaker 5: And what was so cool about that.

553
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Speaker 4: This is so romantic, is we get to the top

554
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Speaker 4: of the mountain and there was a couple that was

555
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 4: trying to take a picture, and so I said to them, Hey,

556
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Speaker 4: do you want me to take your picture?

557
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 3: And they said, yeah, no problem.

558
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Speaker 4: So I go over there take their picture and then

559
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Speaker 4: the guy comes as he as I give him his

560
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 4: phone back, he's like, hey, do you want me to

561
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 4: take you alls? Now, this was me and Maria's first date.

562
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Speaker 4: So I looked at her and I'm like, you want

563
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Speaker 4: to take a picture.

564
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Speaker 3: She's like yeah.

565
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Speaker 4: So so she's sitting on this boulder. I sit right

566
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Speaker 4: next to her, and when I show you the picture,

567
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 4: I put my arm like almost around her and we

568
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 4: take a picture and literally you would have thought we

569
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Speaker 4: have been together for years. And I turned to her

570
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Speaker 4: and I said, do you feel that? And she said,

571
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 4: oh yeah, she said, you're gonna love it.

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Speaker 1: Here, Maria, I love it.

573
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Speaker 3: I love it.

574
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:22,679
Speaker 2: Something about the arm around the shoulder.

575
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

576
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Speaker 2: He did that too.

577
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 3: Oh okay, so that's.

578
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it.

579
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Speaker 1: That's when you know, they always say that is like

580
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: the real attacon is, you know, touched like you know

581
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,239
Speaker 1: you're supposed to laugh and like touch somebody's arm or

582
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Speaker 1: like touch the leg while you do it, and that's

583
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Speaker 1: when you can feel like if the electricity is there

584
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Speaker 1: or not. Socity now listen, I want to also because Serrea,

585
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: as we all know, is an artist first and foremost

586
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Speaker 1: and does music. I know you're working on some new

587
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: is it P D S O. Yes, all right, that's

588
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 1: the song right now, going So, when is the last

589
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: time you had a girl's night out?

590
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know. It's been a little while. It's

591
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 2: been a little while.

592
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: Okay, it's time.

593
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 2: But yeah, it's time. Am I going with you? What

594
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 2: we're doing? Angela?

595
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 5: Girls?

596
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: N feel it?

597
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 2: I feel it?

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00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: Put that is on? Yeah, it's my new d Yeah,

599
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 1: don't don't make me tell you the other acronym.

600
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 2: Right right right?

601
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,439
Speaker 5: Okay, ladies, you're putting on.

602
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:40,640
Speaker 1: Listen after others listen the I D F N. Okay, goodness,

603
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 1: that's another song.

604
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 5: It's going to be like, wow, that's your song too.

605
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 5: So there's two songs with acronyms.

606
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:49,119
Speaker 3: Okay, all right.

607
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 2: It was like a theme at this non intentionally.

608
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 5: I gotta get up, Okay, I gotta get you get

609
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:56,439
Speaker 5: caught up on.

610
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 3: The Seringe track.

611
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Speaker 1: But you know, girls, I think it's time. I'm gonna

612
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 1: take her. I'm gonna take her out in Brooklyn, you know,

613
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,199
Speaker 1: do the thing. That's cool. He's like, please have a

614
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,199
Speaker 1: good time, have fun. That's run outside now. But you know,

615
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: we're on our best behavior always, and I think that

616
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 1: is important because people like for you to know if

617
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 1: he's doing his thing, I'm doing my thing. We you know,

618
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: we trust and love each other enough that doesn't even matter.

619
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Speaker 1: How has it been for Maria handling like the spotlight,

620
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 1: because that's a different type of spotlight.

621
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 3: Yeah it is.

622
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 4: You know, I think she's handled it well. You know

623
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 4: what what I have let me put this way. What's

624
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 4: so interesting to me is, you know I did not

625
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 4: necessarily I wasn't aware of how much a spotlight, you know,

626
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 4: us being together would put on her because I'm just

627
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 4: kind of at this.

628
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 5: Point, like you do it.

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00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

630
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 4: And then what I realized is that, you know, I

631
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 4: have to always create an environment, you know, in our

632
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 4: marriage that's about us, you know, and that's that environment

633
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 4: is where our safe space. And she helps, you know,

634
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 4: create that environment. And so she's dealt with it, you know,

635
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 4: one step at a time, you know. I mean there

636
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 4: was you know when there was one time when we

637
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 4: are posted about the wedding and then she's like, okay,

638
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 4: you know what, I'm just gonna you know, just step

639
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 4: back for a minute. That's been you know, that's enough,

640
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 4: And I'm like, great, you know babe. You know what

641
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 4: you know, if you post when you're ready. So it's

642
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 4: really been a process of just taking it one step

643
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 4: at a.

644
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 3: Time and not.

645
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 4: Either pushing her or either or if she's feeling you know,

646
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 4: sensitive about something, okay, but it was cool. Hey, you know,

647
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 4: don't worry like at the end of the day our relationship,

648
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 4: I am worried about nobody in the public, right, you know,

649
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 4: because we know what we have and I'm so excited

650
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 4: about it, and so I really want to be protective

651
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 4: over it. So she's handled it very well. And it's

652
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 4: one day at a time because when you're not in

653
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 4: this used to being in the spotlight every day and

654
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 4: everything that you post this you know, now it's under

655
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 4: a microscope and people commenting that don't even know you.

656
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 4: I mean, that's a lot for anyone to deal with,

657
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 4: even if you're familiar with it. So I just try

658
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 4: to do my part as a husband to create a

659
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,239
Speaker 4: safe space that she he knows that you know, no

660
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 4: matter what anybody out there, you know, may say, or

661
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 4: any comments, that this is this is home and this

662
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 4: is always going to be a place that you know

663
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 4: will be for her, for us, and uh and I

664
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 4: think knowing that, I think helps you know, navigate whatever

665
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 4: happens in the public, because at the end of the day,

666
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 4: you're like, all right, that's the public because I know what.

667
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 3: I have at home.

668
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 4: So she's been managing it and I've been helping her

669
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 4: as best I can.

670
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 3: And it's it's an adjustment, there's no doubt about it.

671
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 3: You know, it really is.

672
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 1: It's getting thrust into something that you didn't even know

673
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: you were going to sign up for.

674
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 4: And that's the part that it's just it's life, right, Okay,

675
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 4: So you you can't you know, when God brings two

676
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 4: people together, you're like, okay, this is how Then this

677
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 4: must be a part of God's design, meaning the spotlight

678
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 4: that I have and now the spotlight that she has,

679
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 4: this must be a part of the design.

680
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 3: So let us.

681
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 4: Allow God to show us how he wants us to

682
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 4: adjust to this, because it's not it's not a common thing,

683
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, the lives that we live

684
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 4: and the spotlight and the scrutiny that we're under, it's

685
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 4: not common. It's not it's not a thing that everybody

686
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 4: has to deal with. So it does require a tremendous

687
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 4: amount of love, care, patience, toughness, patience, and like acknowledging, yeah,

688
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 4: being open, like, hey, you know, this comment really hurt,

689
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 4: you know, and I don't even I don't even want

690
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 4: it to hurt, but it did. And that's on both sides,

691
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. That's it's not on her side,

692
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 4: it's on anyone in the spotlight. You know, we're real people,

693
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, and real emotions and real

694
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 4: heart and all of those things. So it's very it's

695
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 4: very possible that something can happen where you do feel

696
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 4: the response to that emotionally. But when you have that

697
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 4: safe space and you have that partner, it really helps

698
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 4: you deal with whatever may come from a public standpoint.

699
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: Now, there was one thing that Ruth really annoyed me about.

700
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 5: In the movie Uh oh oh is that you'll have.

701
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: To have watched it to see this. Well, but anyway,

702
00:31:58,080 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: I want to see what your thoughts are on this.

703
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 1: Why did she not tell nobody what was going on?

704
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: Because it could have said, you know what I'm saying,

705
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: like when she moved, when Naomi aysarrogan mother and then

706
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: started dating Boas, I feel like a little heads up,

707
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: like there's some people looking for me, because that alerts everybody, right,

708
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying it could have went totally left,

709
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna lie. I was like, if you

710
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: don't say something like let I just want to know

711
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: what you think about that.

712
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 2: I feel you, I feel I feel like this is

713
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 2: a common thing with Ruth too, Like first of all,

714
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 2: like a lot of women are like, how did you

715
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 2: shoot down boast at the bar? And then this is

716
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: like another common thread that I keep hearing. Honestly, I

717
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 2: think it's just like her wanting to like escape that life.

718
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 2: But then also I think once she started to realize

719
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 2: all right, this is getting real, I think she was

720
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 2: just more so like I'm gonna say bye to everybody

721
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 2: and just leave so I can deal with my problems alone.

722
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 2: She didn't really want to involve anyone new into like

723
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 2: that life that she was running from.

724
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I want her to say something earlier before

725
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 1: things went up in flames, you know, I.

726
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 2: Was.

727
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, the drama.

728
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 1: But I understand from that point of view is I

729
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 1: can handle this myself. I don't want to endanger anybody.

730
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: But I feel like, you know, spoiler alert when you

731
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 1: go viral. I already was like, yeah, they know you.

732
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, But also I.

733
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 3: Think it mirrors life.

734
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know a lot of times we run from

735
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 4: the things we don't want to face, and those.

736
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: Try to handle it alone or not handle it at all.

737
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 4: In Root's case, she wasn't trying to handle it at all.

738
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:49,239
Speaker 4: She was just like trying to be in denial about it.

739
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 4: And most things in my experience, whatever you're in denial about,

740
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 4: you empowered to destroy you. And so instead of ruthe acknowledging, Hey,

741
00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 4: here's the problem and I need help to deal with it,

742
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 4: she just ignored it. And then what happened when it

743
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 4: showed up. It showed up even.

744
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 5: More destructive than maybe it would have if she had the.

745
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 2: Courage to that power to destroy you. Wow, damn that

746
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: is that's a serious word.

747
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,959
Speaker 4: Oh my god, anything I believe that anything we're running from,

748
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:19,839
Speaker 4: it's gonna it's gonna trip us up.

749
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 1: I feel like y'all need to write something for like

750
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 1: Joey and say to starring together, because for both of

751
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:28,280
Speaker 1: y'all to be like great actors. Yes, can you imagine

752
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: how much fun talked about that, How much fun that

753
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: would be to be in like a project together and

754
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 1: then even be able to do music together.

755
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 3: Do Bonnie and Cloude.

756
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: That's fire.

757
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, listen, I admire him so much, so

758
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: I would love to work with him.

759
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 1: All right, but we're putting it out there now. You

760
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 1: can tell that Perry.

761
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 5: Had his deal and got it done, Joey and is

762
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 5: coming to you.

763
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 1: And next time you come up here to demand we

764
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 1: got to talk about divorced sisters a little. I'm not

765
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:55,760
Speaker 1: gonna do it to you today, okay, but that past

766
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: pastor Jefferson, you are too much on that.

767
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 3: Listen, listen.

768
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: We got to dig into this.

769
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 5: We got to when I come back, I'm happy to

770
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 5: go all the way there with you.

771
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 1: But the show did really well, Like, so congratulations on that.

772
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 1: That's a big deal. I would have hated for you

773
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:11,760
Speaker 1: to put your whole reputation on the line.

774
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 5: Show that didn't do it well, Show that didn't work.

775
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

776
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 4: No, the first eight episodes have dropped, and then the

777
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 4: second eight episodes will drop the top of the year,

778
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 4: and I can't wait for this.

779
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 3: The first eight were really really good. The second eight

780
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 3: or even better.

781
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 1: Okay, so I got to see what my rins up to.

782
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: Oh lord, is it just one season?

783
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 1: Yeah? So I have the seasons eight episodes that you

784
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 1: could watch right now. But yeah, we'll see. Listen, you

785
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: walked in here. I wasn't even sure if I wanted

786
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 1: to speak to you at first. I had to get

787
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 1: back into you know, into mode.

788
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 3: That's okay, I'm working my way back. Let's see when

789
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:44,359
Speaker 3: you watch the show.

790
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but congratulations again. Ruth and Boas is streaming

791
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: on Netflix right now, so make sure you check it out.

792
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 1: Even if you got some spoilersts today, you got to

793
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: watch the whole thing to really understand, but to also

794
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: see the beautiful singing and acting that you did on

795
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 1: the movie. So madulations, I think this was perfect for you.

796
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you so much.

797
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 3: Absolutely all right, thank you, Angel, appreciate you.

798
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 1: It's way up