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Speaker 1: Subject I am not the one to play with. Dear

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Speaker 1: So I went to visit the guy she was sleeping with.

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Speaker 1: You want me read that line again? Went to visit me?

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Speaker 1: This guy said that he's married and what he and

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Speaker 1: I found his wife and I went to see her too.

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Speaker 1: It was all in my plan to get revenge, but

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Speaker 1: You know, maybe I don't know something a little more

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Speaker 1: Boiling the Hill. First of all, you do not tell

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Speaker 1: And if you're worrying about what your wife gonna do

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