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Speaker 1: This is intergalactic John.

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Speaker 1: On the International Okay Storytime podcast station.

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Speaker 2: And we have some human stories coming up, not alien.

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Speaker 1: But before we make a landing, stick around for this

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Speaker 1: these interstellar stories.

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend wants us to date her best friend. I'm

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Speaker 2: kind of considering it.

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Speaker 1: I mean as a sweet deal.

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Speaker 2: I've been dating my girlfriend Jenna for a little over

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Speaker 2: two years. Things in the relationship have always been great,

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Speaker 2: little hiccup here and there, but just the usual stupid

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Speaker 2: couple fights for dumb stuff that aren't that bad in

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Speaker 2: the band in the grand scheme of things. By the way,

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Speaker 2: So I write it. So. Jenna has a friend Mia

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Speaker 2: that she's been bff's with since they came roommates freshman

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Speaker 2: year of college. They are practically inseparable and everyone thinks

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Speaker 2: they're sisters because they look very simil Aside from hair color,

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Speaker 2: they're really close, ridiculously close. Even apparently when they were

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Speaker 2: in college they did this whole expeerimentation thing with each other.

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Speaker 1: Oh, like they like put like goo in a test

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Speaker 1: tube and then mixed it with like.

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Speaker 2: You know, did like a baking soda volcano.

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Speaker 1: You know, the weird science. Weird science.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, Yeah, Jenna was very upfront with me about this

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Speaker 2: when we first started dating. They are both very attractive,

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Speaker 2: and the idea of them doing what she talked about

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Speaker 1: Oh, they're electrical engineers. That's why I turned on like

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Speaker 1: a light switch.

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Speaker 2: Well, Jenna and I have been sawid in the past

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Speaker 2: two years. Mia hasn't been as lucky. She's dated about

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Speaker 2: six guys since Jenna and I have been together, all

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Speaker 2: varying from generally good guys to dirt pickles. She was

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Speaker 2: one of those girls who just couldn't stay single. Since

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Speaker 2: I've known her. She take a few weeks at most

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Speaker 2: between relationships and then move on to the next one.

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Speaker 2: That was until the most recent breakup about three months ago.

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Speaker 2: Since then, she has been by herself, trying to figure

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Speaker 2: things out on her own. That's good what we like,

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Speaker 2: you know, take time to understand who you want to

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Speaker 2: be with help from my girlfriend and a little bit

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Speaker 2: from me as well. Right before Thanksgiving break, we all

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Speaker 2: went out to a bar to relax. Put I see

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Speaker 2: you in the comments, if you see what's coming.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they're probably just gonna talk about their electrical undertuties. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: anatomy studies.

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Speaker 2: Well. At the bar, I noticed that Mia was a

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Speaker 2: little more handsy with me than usual. Jenna didn't seem

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Speaker 2: wasted than either of us, so I ignored it, not

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Speaker 2: wanting to dampen the mood. I'm sure he didn't want

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Speaker 2: to damp in that mood. We eventually left and went

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Speaker 2: back to MEA's apartment because it was when within walking

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Speaker 1: It sounds like someone's mood's already a little damp.

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Speaker 2: He got there. We stayed up a bit longer and

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Speaker 2: the booze lowered everyone's inhibitions, and the topic of spicy

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Speaker 2: sleep came up. This is when Mia and Jenna started

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Speaker 2: to talk about their early college experiments in front of me.

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Speaker 1: And that was just totally random, lol, random, totally lolxd

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Speaker 2: While Jenna had told me things had happened, it was

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Speaker 2: very matter of fact and straight at the point, no details.

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Speaker 2: This is the first time I got the whole story,

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Speaker 2: and holy crap, was I turned on.

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Speaker 1: Op's building circuitry like like a madman.

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Speaker 2: It was. I mean, hey, that's what they're talking about,

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Speaker 2: the science experiments. You know, little little circuit boards. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, oh yeah, oh put those circuits in parallel

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Speaker 2: or in series.

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Speaker 1: Right ac DC, That's all me.

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Speaker 2: I want. I want that capacitor right there. You mean

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Speaker 2: they got diode transistor. I'm like, I'm pulling all of

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Speaker 2: my electrical engineering knowledge, which is not much. This is

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Speaker 2: what they said. And no, the three of us did

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Speaker 2: not get into anything that night. However, when Jen and

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Speaker 1: Tight pants because of all the electricity.

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Speaker 2: All the food he ate beforehand. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Also, the something you don't know about electricians is their

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Speaker 1: Of course, of course, of course, of course I.

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Speaker 2: I actually went to sleep over the next week. Jenna

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Speaker 2: my interest lamp. While I was still very interested. With

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Speaker 2: I have, or even what Mia and Jenna have. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: on me. She had been talking with Mia lately about

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Speaker 2: all of us dating.

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Speaker 1: See now all of you dating pause, right, very different

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Speaker 2: That is one night, you know, maybe even you know,

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Speaker 2: kind of thing. And uh, that's that's much different than

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Speaker 2: getting adding a third a polycule is different than a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is like having a party versus starting a business. Yes,

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Speaker 1: one is just sort of an event. The other is

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Speaker 1: like a lifestyle, and I don't think Op is ready

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Speaker 1: It seems like she's been so she's been pitching, like

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Speaker 1: a conversation between these I just assuming, like he's a guy,

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Speaker 1: he'll be down, yeah, which is like not true.

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Speaker 2: That's not true. That's not true.

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Speaker 1: I would not I would not be down for that.

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Speaker 2: I feel like that. I think I'm like maybe like

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Speaker 1: A guys are down for use, but like when it's

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Speaker 1: real life, it's like that's a lot of work, Okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: much work to do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Sony flowers to get.

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Speaker 1: That's for me, Like it's just not something i'd probably

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean Wildberry in the chat says how to

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Speaker 2: it's kind of it's changed in the dynamic of your

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Speaker 1: Well the other it's like it feels like y'all two

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Speaker 1: my husband will also join in. Yeah, that's the vibe exactly.

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Speaker 1: So it's like he feels you really want to be right,

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Speaker 1: It's like, who do you really want?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like we got more to this story. Who said

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Speaker 2: I don't want to disappoint two women at the same time.

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Speaker 1: That croll up, scroll up, scroll up, Shamus shamous James says,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to disappoint too with it at this

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Speaker 1: day of day. That's just Pete Davidson secretly in our comments.

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Speaker 1: But funny, that was funny.

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Speaker 2: I was obviously confused. My first reaction was, you're joking right,

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Speaker 2: and then are you testing me? But but she but

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Speaker 1: But she ensured she Now you got to say, but

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Speaker 2: But she assured me that she wasn't. She was a

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Speaker 2: So I believed her. I then asked her if our

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Speaker 2: to date other people, and she again very vehemently denied

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Speaker 2: her and Mia. For reasoning was Jenna absolutely loves and

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Speaker 1: Oh so, our new word for that is spiceuality visuality.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, spicuality attracted.

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Speaker 2: She swore up and down that this was not the case,

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Speaker 2: I feel like a valid concern, you know, like I

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Speaker 1: I can't speak to any certainty of like the mind

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Speaker 1: This is the thing. Do we remember the backstory we

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Speaker 1: You think that her solution is that she's just not

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Speaker 1: Well fundamentally, OPI is like, you're just nowhere near where

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Speaker 2: Talk tonight with Jenna, then Mia and Janet. Tonight. When

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam, your og host.

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Speaker 1: Here.

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Speaker 1: you don't know, like it's either going to be like

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00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:16,560
Speaker 1: I guess you spend the rest of your life with

435
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 1: these two people.

436
00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 2: Well we would. I don't think Jenna's asking to marry

437
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 2: the polycule. She's just asking to date. So it's not

438
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 2: a rest of the life thing. Could well, it could

439
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 2: it could be, could be could be a triples how

440
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 2: those things start. But I I think I think it's

441
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,600
Speaker 2: it's a little less uh less intense. I get asked

442
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:40,199
Speaker 2: if I was not enough for her. It was a

443
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:43,119
Speaker 2: basic insecurity question that I needed to answer for. We

444
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 2: reached the conclusion that there was no less love for

445
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,320
Speaker 2: me or our relationship. She just has a ton of

446
00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:51,200
Speaker 2: love to give out and point blank. I asked her

447
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:55,959
Speaker 2: had they had any at any point fooled around behind

448
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 2: my back? Was there any cheating? Her response was no.

449
00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:01,399
Speaker 2: I believe her awful liar, and I would have been

450
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 2: able to tell the only time they did stuff was

451
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 2: during wasted makeout sessions in front of me while at parties.

452
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 2: I was okay with that.

453
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 1: I can I give that to them.

454
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,480
Speaker 2: I told her how confused I was about the entire thing.

455
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,040
Speaker 2: She understood she was too. I asked her what her

456
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:20,680
Speaker 2: expectations were for this entire thing. She said, ultimately, he

457
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 2: wants everyone to be happy with each other and for

458
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,359
Speaker 2: us all to date one another. I told her it

459
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,439
Speaker 2: was not a reasonable expectation at first because of the

460
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:32,119
Speaker 2: dynamic of me and my friendship at this point in

461
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 2: a relationship, beause they don't really like they just know

462
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 2: each other as like friends.

463
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: They don't love each other like that. Yeah, yeah, they

464
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,439
Speaker 1: love each other like uh, I told you, platonic.

465
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 2: Love, yeah, brotherly potoga Yeah yeah.

466
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,720
Speaker 1: I couldn't think of any examples that wouldn't sound wrong, though.

467
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 2: I told her about the V dynamic, and she said

468
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,760
Speaker 2: it sounded like a good starting point. I guess the

469
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 2: v dynamic. Is Jenna having a relationship with Op and

470
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 2: Mia but that not did Mia and Op.

471
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 1: If you need to build graphs for this, if you

472
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 1: need to make charts and visual aids for this, I'd

473
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 1: be a little more complicated than what you're looking for.

474
00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 2: Buddy, Gladie toastays, I feel like they should go on

475
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 2: individual dates with the third to see if there's even

476
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 2: feels there. I think the girlfriend is romanticizing the old hookup.

477
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 1: I just think this is crazy that there was that

478
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 1: comment that's like, don't tell her you were buying the

479
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 1: ring because that's manipulative. It's like, why, I don't think

480
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: you need to tell her that you're buying the ring,

481
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 1: but you are, like genuinely, like in a place where

482
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 1: you were ready to settle and commit to one person,

483
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 1: and she's telling you she wants the exact opposite of that,

484
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 1: so you should let her know. Hey, I'm very far

485
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 1: away from where you're at. I was, I am nowhere

486
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:47,959
Speaker 1: there close to where you're at.

487
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: Naturally, I feel like he kind of got quickly over

488
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 2: he said he is.

489
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 1: I mean, how really? I don't know.

490
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 2: I asked her how she would feel if I were

491
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,119
Speaker 2: on a date with Mia while she was not around,

492
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,480
Speaker 2: so you applied I would be turned on electricians. Then

493
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 2: we went off on a tangent about spicy sleep. I

494
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 2: got a boner and I found out that my girlfriend

495
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 2: has a thing for that stuff, which I'm totally okay with.

496
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 2: But I told her that being horny about it is

497
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 2: all well and good. I just needed her to be

498
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,919
Speaker 2: happy for us if Mia and my relationship blossom. You

499
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 2: looked at me like a goofball and said, with a smile,

500
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 2: of course, I'd be thrilled if that were to happen.

501
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: There's some other stuff that we talked about that I

502
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 2: can't think of off the top of my head. And if

503
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,640
Speaker 2: you want to know, and I asked, I'll tell you.

504
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 2: After we got all that crap out in the open,

505
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,679
Speaker 2: we called me over I had a group session about everything.

506
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 2: So now we're getting to the group it seems like

507
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 2: OP is on board.

508
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm not buying it. I feel like

509
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,639
Speaker 1: Ope's convinced themselves to be on board.

510
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 2: I think it's cool and hot and everything that they're all,

511
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 2: you know, all talking about good old romps in the sack,

512
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:55,160
Speaker 2: But it feels like the conversation is like very centered

513
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 2: around like spicy sleep, yes, and not as much about

514
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 2: you know, a loving relationship, dating dynamic. And I'm like, like,

515
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 2: is the whole is it just? Is it lust? And

516
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 2: then now I'm asked and now I'm wondering, like is

517
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 2: it lester love?

518
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:14,439
Speaker 1: That was my whole question? Is it feels very like,

519
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:16,360
Speaker 1: oh my god, I remember when we did that crazy thing.

520
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, that was so crazy.

521
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 2: It's like I think, maybe, yeah, yeah, are you sure?

522
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: Are you really is it love?

523
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 2: But miss Jaber said, at least they're communicating that is true.

524
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 2: We love that, we love that. When Mia came over,

525
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 2: she was a bit more shy than normal because I

526
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 2: think she was a little shamed and embarrassed about the

527
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 2: possibility of coming between me and Jenna.

528
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: Well, isn't that exactly what you guys want?

529
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 2: I reassured her that we were okay and we're ready

530
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 2: to move forward. She started beaming. I went over a

531
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 2: lot of the same stuff that I did with Jenna,

532
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 2: so I won't repeat it, but we all did some

533
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 2: talk about some aspects of everything we define the boundaries

534
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 2: of if anyone else was allowed in our little group,

535
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 2: Jenna said that she only felt the way she does

536
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,879
Speaker 2: about me and Mia, and I said I wasn't interested

537
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 2: in anyone else, and said she wasn't interested in anyone else.

538
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 2: Do the parameters have been set and the outside interference

539
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:08,120
Speaker 2: was defined as cheating? This is what the polycule is.

540
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,679
Speaker 2: I'm still worried about MIA's past relationship history affecting this relationship,

541
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 2: but it seems like everything's kind of going okay.

542
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,400
Speaker 1: This is not gonna go well.

543
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 2: Cassona says, I think the physical attraction is marring the

544
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 2: romance aspect of the relationship. I do agree, but it's

545
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 2: me not. He says it's a good start. I think

546
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 2: it is.

547
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,360
Speaker 1: I think it is a good start. Here There's still more.

548
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,280
Speaker 1: There's still more, There's a lot more. It is my

549
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 1: quick breakdown. Mia doesn't know what she wants. She just

550
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 1: know what she doesn't want, which is being single. Op

551
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 1: is trying to white knuckle and logic their way into

552
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: being cool with the like multiple the poly situation, yep,

553
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 1: which is you can't do that. And honestly, all of

554
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 1: this started from an actual lie or at least deception

555
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 1: because the partner, Jenna, set all of this up alone,

556
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 1: which you can do.

557
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 2: I so I would give a maybe maybe I'm a

558
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 2: little bit on the other side. I think I would

559
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 2: give a little more grace just because it seemed like

560
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 2: it was a sudden realization of like feelings. But I

561
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 2: do feel like Op and Jenna should have had the

562
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 2: like Jenna should have said, hey, I realize I have

563
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 2: feelings for me. Yea, like when I talk to you

564
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 2: about it, and I think then should have gone to me.

565
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 2: And so, Yeah, I do agree that it is a

566
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: little bit of a It does feel like it hurts

567
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 2: a little bit the integrity of the main relationship.

568
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it forces Op into a corner.

569
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, let me know if you you agree, I would say,

570
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 2: I would say it's it started a little bit rough. Yeah,

571
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 2: but it does feel like they're communicating well now.

572
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the energy is so different when between life

573
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: starts like between like hey, here's this thing I'm feeling now,

574
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 1: like how what do you think about it? And versus

575
00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 1: like hey, here's this thing we've got going on. Are

576
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 1: you gonna let it happen? Or are you gonna shoot

577
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 1: it down? Now? Now you're in a position where it's like, well,

578
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 1: I either have to be yeah, you know, creating. I

579
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 1: have to either rain on everyone's parade or I can, like,

580
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: you know, be the cool cool guy.

581
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: I wish they were co creating this new Facebook relationship,

582
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,880
Speaker 2: and it feels like she's present, presenting and already thought

583
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 2: out of option. We decided that spicy sleep should be

584
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 2: off limits for the time being, and they seemed both

585
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 2: surprised and bummed out about that, but understood when I

586
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 2: explained that we were basically starting a new relationship. It

587
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 2: didn't matter how long we all knew each other. This

588
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 2: is the start of something new, and spicy sleep with

589
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,959
Speaker 2: your partner isn't something you dive into right away until

590
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 2: all parties are one hundred percent comfortable with it. This

591
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 2: included threesomes for the time being. I am weader, blocking

592
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 2: myself and confusing my bon but it's the right thing

593
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 2: to do. I told them about the research I had

594
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 2: done in the books that I had found which were

595
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 2: suggested to be by redditors. What are these books? What

596
00:28:55,960 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 2: are these books? How reading them? What are the.

597
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 1: Book from doctor Boner How to unconfuse your Boner?

598
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 2: Random thing here? Christmas gifts will be a joint effort

599
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 2: by two people for the other one that's around.

600
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 1: They're planning Christmas now, shut up, dude, this is way

601
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 1: too much. I kind of like this. You can't Christmas.

602
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 2: I think it's cute.

603
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: Stop it.

604
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 2: Casey Leaf says, God too, polycules. This will save money

605
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:30,959
Speaker 2: slash allow for better gifts, so instead of getting two presents,

606
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 2: we all get one.

607
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 1: Dumb this is crazy. This is crazy.

608
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 2: I think it's cute.

609
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: This is crazy.

610
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 2: We spoke about how honesty is the number one priority

611
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 2: in a relationship if it is going to work, honesty

612
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 2: with ourselves, each other, jealousy, our emotions, and feelings. Honesty

613
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 2: is the only way or war. Jenna is on a

614
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 2: time share with us at the moment, but not really.

615
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 2: We aren't defining when either of us gets her throughout

616
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 2: the year. She's not a beach house, but we will

617
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 2: be conscious of what is going on on as to

618
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 2: not let anyone feel left out. Okay, so they're like

619
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 2: basically ensuring that everyone gets time with each other so

620
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 2: no one feels out left out because like when you're

621
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 2: like when you're when you're managing relationships with multiple people

622
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 2: like you, you gotta you gotta make sure everyone has

623
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 2: a little time. Sat as a Sam is in his

624
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 2: love face, can't see all the red flags This is just.

625
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:26,240
Speaker 1: Not going to work. It's just not gonna work. It's

626
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: impossible because it didn't start with that.

627
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 2: You look, Oh, dude, I guess. But the best Polly

628
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: book out there is called The Ethical Slut. I at

629
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 2: the I was dating this girl who was reading that

630
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 2: and was telling me about it because she was trying

631
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:44,880
Speaker 2: to be a therapist for Polly relationships.

632
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: And I have nothing funny to say about it. I

633
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: have nothing funny. I have nothing that could maybe be

634
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 1: an off colored remark to say about that. I've only

635
00:30:56,800 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: got squeaky clean. The bald man is in my head

636
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 1: cleaning the floors. That's how clean it is up there.

637
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 2: Right now, it seems like all three of us are

638
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 2: on the same page, and that the idea of the

639
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 2: other person with the other person turns them on and

640
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 2: does not make them jealous. Great, I suppose that's a

641
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 2: good thing. Again, this isn't everything. Just the tip of

642
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 2: the iceberg. I probably talk with Jenna than Jenna and

643
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 2: Mia for like eight hours, and I'm spent. While the

644
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 2: Jename and Jenemia aspects of the relationships are solid, the

645
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 2: me and me aspect needs to be established from the beginning.

646
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 2: I brought up how I only saw her as my

647
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 2: girlfriend's friend, but find her attractive. Jenna suggested me and

648
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 2: I go on a date with each other. I was

649
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 2: hesitant to jump in so quickly, but they both encourage

650
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 2: me to do so. And now I have a date

651
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 2: with my girlfriend's girlfriend tomorrow night, and I'm incredibly nervous.

652
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 2: I really want it to work because it would make

653
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 2: our lives that much easier. We will have plenty to

654
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 2: talk about. So now, excuse me, what did you just say?

655
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 2: My girlfriend's girlfriend, Lisa Prett says, let him cook. I

656
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 2: really is that they're talking. I really hope it works

657
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 2: out for dummies. O P thinks this is gonna make

658
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 2: their lives easier. Slyly Toe says, sometimes the best throattles

659
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 2: just happen. Three people just click. Everyone is comfortable.

660
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 1: Right. That doesn't sound like this is what's happening. They're

661
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 1: having to plan Christmas, and they're planning Christmas ahead of

662
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: time so that no one gets jealous. Like they're the

663
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 1: chimpanzees in the cage seeing like one chimp get more

664
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: cake than the other. What are we talking about? I

665
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 1: just love that crazy Yeah, man, he's got them all.

666
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 2: Whoa Pauli's cure.

667
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 1: One's just going to be the giving tree.

668
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 3: This is for you to count it. I think this

669
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 3: is yours.

670
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, you gotta get more comfortable with it. You

671
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 2: got to relax. You're so tense. Come over here, you

672
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 2: get sausages. Yeah, Ka will get one shoulder, I'll get

673
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 2: the other. No, you can be our little bread in

674
00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 2: the middle, our little little Salabbie.

675
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't have to. I'll have to really stew

676
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 1: on that. Like how it's me nan, He says. My

677
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 1: brain's breaking on the wrong thing because I keep bringing

678
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: up planning Christmas.

679
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 3: Christmas.

680
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 1: It just feels like a dude, get the gift for

681
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 1: the person that you think they would like. Why are

682
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: we planning?

683
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 2: So now I have a date Monday evening with the

684
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: girl who I never thought i'd date, and it's for

685
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 2: reasons I never thought were possible. And my fantay football

686
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 2: teams are letting me down right now. Like I said earlier,

687
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 2: if you have questions, I'll do my best to answer them.

688
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 2: We got comments and we have more updates. This is

689
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 2: we are not even halfway through. We are going to

690
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 2: see this relationship unfold right now. The only important question

691
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 2: Ohpee is what do you want? What is it?

692
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: What do you want?

693
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 2: I think oh PE's want of this. I think he's down.

694
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: I still don't believe it.

695
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 2: You just didn't know what's possible. It's like it it's

696
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 2: like you know you you don't even like like he is.

697
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 2: He has opened up to the idea that oh wow,

698
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 2: like like like he didn't even realize he didn't. Really,

699
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 2: it's kind of like breaking the formute mile lot.

700
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It's he's logicing it.

701
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 2: Once someone broke the for minute mile, people are like

702
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 2: breaking it left and right because they knew it was possible.

703
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 2: You didn't even know it was possible.

704
00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, but this isn't a four minute mile. That's like

705
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,400
Speaker 1: a that's like a breaking the boundaries of like human

706
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: physical limits, like this is this is one just.

707
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 2: Agrees of what the relationships could be.

708
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 1: But look, my partners, like I'm I love me and

709
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 1: we love each other and we're in love. We want

710
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 1: to love all of us want to be in love together. Yeah,

711
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 1: And you're like, that's just my homie. But you're like,

712
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 1: I guess I.

713
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 2: Could because he didn't even Yeah.

714
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: I guess I could get there it's just you can't

715
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: logic it. You can't be like, hmmm.

716
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,320
Speaker 2: All right, I want I want an update on our poll.

717
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 2: Do you think this is going to have a happy ending?

718
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 2: Yes or no? Before we were at twenty two percent

719
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 2: saying happy ending, seventy seven percent or seventy eight percent

720
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: saying uh uh, it was not gonna have a happy ending.

721
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 2: Let us let's let's have a little vote and to

722
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 2: get into the comments and the update. So comments comment

723
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 2: one one question is what if you don't feel it

724
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 2: with MEA? I mean, sure you're attracted her, but what

725
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: if after a couple of dates you're not interested with her?

726
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 2: How would Jenna take it? Would she still want to

727
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 2: be with you? But I suppose you can cross that

728
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 2: path when slash if you come to it, I'll keep

729
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 2: an eye out for updates. So not my tip situation

730
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 2: I'd run if it were suggested. This is the commenter

731
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 2: saying it, but I'm interested to see how it plays out.

732
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 2: And OPI responds, I think then it would just be

733
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 2: a v type relationship where we'd each date her individually.

734
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 2: So basically Op wouldn't have a relationship with Mia, but

735
00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 2: Mia that Jenna would have a relationship with Mia and

736
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 2: Op okay, So it's like, if Op isn't feeling it,

737
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 2: look then he just has a relationship with Jenna.

738
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:46,800
Speaker 1: And I think, if that's what you're if you're cool

739
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 1: with that arrangement, you should just do that right away.

740
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 2: Don't even and it looks like things haven't changed. People

741
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 2: are still thinking. Twenty four percent are thinking the happy

742
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 2: ending U seventy seven percent sad ending Let's see what happens.

743
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 2: So if you you don't feel it with me, and

744
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 2: this is a concert replying, she will just be dating

745
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 2: your girlfriend. So what do you get out of this

746
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 2: whole thing? Then? I mean, if you're not dating her,

747
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 2: does that mean no threesomes? If you end in a

748
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 2: V relationship, then you will basically have what you had

749
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 2: with your girlfriend, except you'll be seeing someone else as

750
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 2: well as you. In that case, your girlfriend will half

751
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:20,400
Speaker 2: her cake and eat it too, and you'll have what

752
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 2: exactly you could end up the third wheel in your

753
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:26,879
Speaker 2: own relationship. Opie responds, I hope I didn't come off

754
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,280
Speaker 2: as pretentious my other posts. I reread what I wrote,

755
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 2: and I might come off as douchey. I know, I apologize,

756
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 2: but right now I just to put faith into me

757
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 2: and Jenna that they won't screw me figuratively out of

758
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 2: the relationship. Communication is key in any relationship, but even

759
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 2: more so in these it seems. I think it really

760
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 2: just depends on your mindsetting these things. I'm going to

761
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 2: try to be happy with Jenna and MIA's happiness, and

762
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 2: Mia is already happy with mine. In Jenna's there's a

763
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 2: lot of trust being thrown around right now, and I'm

764
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 2: sure to outsiders it's kind of like, what the f bro,

765
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 2: she borderline cheated on you, bro. But I don't have

766
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 2: that same outlook as everyone else. And there's another commenter.

767
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: The weird thing that's getting me is it feels like, oh,

768
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 1: he's talking about like, well, so I haven't drank orange

769
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 1: juice with pulp before, but people tell me it's a

770
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:16,919
Speaker 1: nice alternative. It's like, this is a much bigger thing

771
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 1: than I think.

772
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 2: You're making it for someone who is. I mean, I

773
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:23,760
Speaker 2: think what is happening is like, you're risking, You're risking

774
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 2: the relationship. You are risking the relationship. But maybe if

775
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 2: he didn't allow Jenna to see Mia, that would also

776
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 2: be a risk to the relationship, and so allowing the

777
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 2: relationship to change is like the at least the possibility

778
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 2: to change is what preserves the potential of it continuing continuing.

779
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 2: This was just a but a comment too. There's a

780
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:48,760
Speaker 2: problem here. It looks like she is spicy relatedly turned

781
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 2: on by all this more than emotionally enjoying it. That's

782
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,720
Speaker 2: what we said earlier. That's what we got earlier. Lustre's

783
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 2: is love by that. I think this will fail hard.

784
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:59,280
Speaker 2: It feels like it's more about spicy sleep than anything.

785
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree, everyone's talking about how hot each other,

786
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 2: how hot it is to have this setup, and not

787
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: how lovely it's going to be. Although they did talk

788
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 2: about Christmas presents, which I feel like is more on

789
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 2: the romance side than it is on the icy sleep side.

790
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 2: So I think there is some of it, But I

791
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 2: feel like there's a lot more talk about boners and

792
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 2: threesomes and there is about weddings and Christmas.

793
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 1: And it's like, you know, they have more history, so

794
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 1: maybe they are. Look I'm seeing some comments there that's

795
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: saying like I just disagree with anything that I wouldn't do.

796
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 1: It's like, no, I just don't think Ope really wants

797
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 1: to date both of these women at the same time. Yeah,

798
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:44,279
Speaker 1: I think op is trying to convince themselves that that

799
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: is a cool thing they'd like to do, when in reality,

800
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:51,400
Speaker 1: it's it's something that they're like, I mean, oh whatever,

801
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: I've never thought that that would be a thing, but

802
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:55,720
Speaker 1: I guess I'll give it a try.

803
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:57,879
Speaker 2: It's like, but I think that's how you I mean,

804
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 2: I think that's how you expand your world generally, right,

805
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 2: Like I think you know, I I didn't realize you

806
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 2: could travel the world like cheaply and affordably, but until

807
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 2: like an ex was like, well you can't do this

808
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 2: and you can explore.

809
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: But he was about to marry her. He was he

810
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: was planning a proposal.

811
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, if that.

812
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:21,880
Speaker 1: Wasn't in there, I'd be like, maybe this is what

813
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 1: you want.

814
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 2: But it was like, but I I think I think

815
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 2: it's worth there. But I think that's just because what

816
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 2: that's the image of what he thought the only the

817
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 2: only image of what he thought a future relationship could

818
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 2: look like.

819
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 3: Like.

820
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 2: To belabor another metaphor would be like, you know, like

821
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 2: I studied engineering and thought I would be an engineer

822
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 2: and then realized that, like you could make silly videos

823
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 2: online and that's more fun and like that. I didn't

824
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 2: even realize that was a possibility for a life, which

825
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 2: is why I went to the engineering degree. My my my,

826
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:55,879
Speaker 2: uh I guess the ring of my my corporate life

827
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 2: brain ring. Yeah, my little, my little, my little working ring.

828
00:39:59,560 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 1: Hmm.

829
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 2: Anyway, that's probably a bad metaphor. But you got an

830
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 2: update coming right up, Sam. Here, we're gonna get back

831
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:07,880
Speaker 2: to the stories. But here's three of its bads from

832
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:12,320
Speaker 2: our sponsors. The date happened, oh p and MEA's date. Okay,

833
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 2: this is the third that they're introducing into the relationship.

834
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 1: So it's like we're gonna and we talked about the

835
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 1: coupons we got for Trader Joe's.

836
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 2: But before it's gonna be yeah, okay, I spoke with

837
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 2: Jenna about any ground rule slash boundaries that needed to follow.

838
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 2: It basically came down to no spicy sleep, the time

839
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 2: being something we already established a few days ago. I

840
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 2: made sure that Jenna was perfectly content with what was happening,

841
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 2: and I also shook off some last minute insecurities. She

842
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 2: kept reassuring me that she was fine with everything and

843
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,359
Speaker 2: that ultimately my happiness in my relationship with Mia would

844
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 2: make her so happy. So on to the date. I

845
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 2: was planning on using the date as a good way

846
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 2: to open up with some dialogue one on one with Mia,

847
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 2: something I had not done yet. I had spoken with

848
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 2: both her and Jenna together, but not Mia alone. This

849
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 2: was a good opportunity to get complete perspective from her

850
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 2: end and to figure out what's going on inside her head.

851
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 2: We had some time to kill before the movie, so

852
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 2: we hung out at her apartment for a little bit.

853
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:11,800
Speaker 2: It was very awkward, really awkward. I had no idea

854
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 2: how to behave around her anymore. I'd been over at

855
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 2: her place a thousand times before, just her and I

856
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: hanging out, but this time was different, and we both

857
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:22,280
Speaker 2: knew it. She finally made a joke about the elephant

858
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 2: in the room and we both kind of relaxed and

859
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 2: started talking more.

860
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:27,800
Speaker 1: Fluidly, well kind of fluid.

861
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 2: It was then we both opened up and gave each

862
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 2: other a little more outlook into our feelings and whatnot.

863
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 2: Right before it was time to head to the movie.

864
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 2: It was like we were friends again instead of two

865
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 2: people on an awkward date, which is nice. We saw

866
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 2: Interstellar because she hadn't seen it yet great movie, and

867
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 2: we both love movies. I had already seen it once

868
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 2: and needed to see it again because of that whole

869
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 2: ending thing. Halfway through the movie, she leaned her head

870
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,880
Speaker 2: on my shoulder and cuddle up next to me. She

871
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:57,760
Speaker 2: had done this in the past when we were watching

872
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: movies together on Netflix at home, but of course things

873
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: are different.

874
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: Now this is gonna go so freakin' bad.

875
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 2: She eventually grabbed and held my hand, which was sweaty

876
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,440
Speaker 2: from nerves and from the intensity of the movie. For

877
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:11,879
Speaker 2: those of you who have seen the film, possibly spoilerhead,

878
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 2: but not really, but maybe when that one explosion happens

879
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,280
Speaker 2: that you know is about to happen, but still managed

880
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 2: to scare the piss out of you, even if you've

881
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 2: already seen the dang thing. She shrieked and grabbed me

882
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 2: and buried her face in my chest. It was so cute.

883
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 2: Me and I are those people that talk about movies

884
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 2: after we see them. We had plenty to talk about

885
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 2: over dinner, which went, well.

886
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, did you try to imply that that's not

887
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: what people do after they see movies. You think they

888
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: just go, yeah, well, now we're done seeing that movie.

889
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: We should talk, go back to talking about stocks and

890
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: taxes and anything else besides the movie we just saw.

891
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 2: Are you a movie talker? Like in movie talking?

892
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: I will if if people the people with me are

893
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: cool with it, I will.

894
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 2: I love it. I love talking.

895
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 1: It has to be a movie I've already seen them, yeah,

896
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 1: Or it has to be an absolutely trash movie like

897
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 1: I saw. I saw It's a terrible horror movie in

898
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:03,560
Speaker 1: theaters with like a group of like five friends and

899
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:05,239
Speaker 1: there was only one other person in the theater, and

900
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,919
Speaker 1: so we were just eviscerating it the whole time.

901
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 2: But to not go too far off topic. Yeah, let

902
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:12,919
Speaker 2: us know, are you guys movie talkers or not? Put

903
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 2: us put the answers to the chat. After dinner, we

904
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 2: went to the nearby park to walk around, look at

905
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 2: Christmas lights, and talk more. It was really nice. We

906
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:23,880
Speaker 2: really dove in deep about what was going on and

907
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 2: it was a great talk. And here are some highlights.

908
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,839
Speaker 2: We talked about how our relationship started. I met Mia

909
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,760
Speaker 2: and Jenna the same night at a friend's a mutual

910
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 2: friends party. I hit on both of them, not knowing

911
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 2: there were roommates at the time, but Mia was in

912
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:42,320
Speaker 2: a relationship and Jenna wasn't. That's how my relationship with

913
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 2: them began. They apparently always got to laugh about it

914
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 2: and joked that I could have had my pick of

915
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 2: the two had Mia been single. Man. Man, it's a

916
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 2: regular casanova over here. We shared similar interests in movies,

917
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 2: physical activity, sports, etc. We've always talked about going to

918
00:43:56,760 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 2: the gym together. Now I think we might actually do. Dude,

919
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 2: I think this is going well. I think this is

920
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 2: going well.

921
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 1: Where this is? This is where I see this going.

922
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 1: Do you think it's going to the track I see

923
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:10,440
Speaker 1: this going to. Now, you're gonna have two women fighting

924
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 1: over you because Mia is now going to you know,

925
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 1: the person who's iconically unable to be single, Yeah, who

926
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 1: like probably gets a lot of their value and self

927
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 1: worth from their relationships, is now going to split that

928
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:26,359
Speaker 1: with another person. I don't think that's gonna go very

929
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 1: well for that.

930
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

931
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 1: I think they don't realize how much they're going to

932
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: hate that.

933
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 2: And women fighting over you is stressful.

934
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 1: I uh, yeah, I would say that is probably the case.

935
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, But like you're just Telly, You're just a

936
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 2: tough place to be.

937
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 1: You're walking towards the edge of the volcano, brother, you're

938
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 1: just about to jump in.

939
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:50,279
Speaker 2: So we talked about her past relationships. Normally this is

940
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:52,359
Speaker 2: a no no on a first date, I don't think.

941
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:57,439
Speaker 2: So I talked about past relationships, of course with Ali,

942
00:44:57,560 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 2: my girlfriend, and we talked about it, actually mostly on

943
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 2: her relationships, but a little bit on my I think

944
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:02,720
Speaker 2: it's great.

945
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 3: You can't.

946
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 1: You can do that. I don't think there's any problem

947
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:06,319
Speaker 1: about talking about past relationships.

948
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:08,240
Speaker 2: But I've known her for so long and have always

949
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 2: kept my distance from her love life. She did not

950
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 2: seem to mind when she would break up with a guy.

951
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:14,879
Speaker 2: Jenna was the one who would console her. I help

952
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 2: in any way I could, but not much as I

953
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 2: can do when her best friend is taking control of

954
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 2: the situation. So we touched on that. I told her

955
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 2: that I wasn't a fan of the majority of the

956
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 2: guy she had dated, and she nodded and agreed. She

957
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 2: talked to me about the problem she was having at

958
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 2: the time and how she was finally able to seek

959
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 2: out help a few months ago. That's what she had

960
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 2: been doing for the past four plus months. I was

961
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 2: mistaken in my original post, instead of saying three months

962
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 2: three months, he was working on herself. Something about her

963
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 2: was just different this evening. In contrast to how she

964
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 2: was in the past, she seemed more at peace with

965
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,880
Speaker 2: who she was. I don't really know how else to

966
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 2: describe it. Whatever she's doing, it's working. Come on to Cony.

967
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 2: Gotta admit you, gotta admit it's kind of going well.

968
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 1: Being Like, Wow, I rehabbed my Achilles injury. I'm gonna

969
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: run third five miles NonStop now as hard as I can.

970
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put myself in the most stress testing environment. Oh,

971
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 1: I've fixed my Oh, I've realigned my core values, and

972
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:17,920
Speaker 1: I can better approach dating as a whole. Let's jump

973
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: into one of the hardest versions of dating.

974
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a It's like, you know, you've done

975
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: like ten push ups and now you're ready for gladiator.

976
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 1: You're setting yourself up for a failure.

977
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 2: Buddy, I told her I always thought she was worth

978
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 2: more than the way her boyfriends treated her, and she

979
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 2: blushed and appreciated the sentiment. I got her side. And

980
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 2: then later that night the light bulb clicked.

981
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, So this is what happened. So this is

982
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 1: how this started. They Mia and Jenna. We're talking one

983
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 1: night and their previous smooch session.

984
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 2: I got her side of the night the light bulb

985
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 2: clip for both of them, because she tends to be

986
00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 2: better with words than Jenna. This is a bastaurized career

987
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 2: collapse of what she said to me because it's early

988
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 2: and I can't remember every detail, so I apologize if

989
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:08,880
Speaker 2: anything is unclear. Basically, Mia always had a thing for

990
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 2: Jenna in the back of her mind and always repressed it,

991
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 2: and eventually developed feelings for me too, So we all

992
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 2: developed feelings for ope. I don't think me always thought

993
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 2: I was attractive and really appreciated the way I handled

994
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 2: myself around both Jenna and herself. Jude oftentimes compliment me

995
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 2: to Jenna, and Jenna would make fun of her for

996
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 2: having a crush on me. Eventually, Mia brought up the

997
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 2: idea of a threesome with Jenna and me, and she

998
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:35,360
Speaker 2: said Jenna was more enthusiastic than she thought she'd be.

999
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 2: That made Mia more excited. The night at the bar,

1000
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: after talking about all the things they used to do together,

1001
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 2: everything they've been through together, the light went on and

1002
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,839
Speaker 2: she finally realized her true feelings. She and Jenna soon

1003
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 2: had a very emotional conversation in which they told each

1004
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 2: other how they felt. Tears were shed, feeling shared, all

1005
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 2: that good stuff. Mia admitted to Jenna that she loved

1006
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 2: her but also had a crush on me and was

1007
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:02,359
Speaker 2: really confused. Jenna admitted she loves us both, but said

1008
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 2: she wouldn't break up with me. For Mia to answer

1009
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 2: that question from the last two threats, Mia then said

1010
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:10,839
Speaker 2: there was a pipe dream that we could all date

1011
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 2: each other, but never considered it a real possibility. When

1012
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 2: she found out I was actually okay with it, he

1013
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 2: was shocked and excited. I got to share my feelings,

1014
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:25,720
Speaker 2: mostly about how confused they were. I've always been monogamous,

1015
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 2: as had they, and while it was a new concept,

1016
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,719
Speaker 2: it was exciting. I told her my biggest fear is

1017
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 2: that we'd all end up hating each other. But at

1018
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 2: the same time, nothing good ever happened from not trying.

1019
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:37,440
Speaker 2: But you had to say about that.

1020
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 1: I could come up with some contrarian examples, but I

1021
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 1: won't say them.

1022
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 2: We talked about for this to work out, everyone would

1023
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 2: have to be one hundred percent honest and open. We

1024
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 2: walked around, held hands and talked for a long time.

1025
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 2: It was probably one of the best dates I've ever

1026
00:48:54,760 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 2: been on. Me and I get along greatest friends. There's

1027
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 2: definitely chemistry between us. When I drop her off at

1028
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 2: the apartment, I got a good night kiss, something I

1029
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 2: wasn't planning on, but a pleasant surprise. I got home

1030
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 2: in Texa Jenna and she immediately came over. We live

1031
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:12,720
Speaker 2: in the same apartment complex to see how everything wents.

1032
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:15,359
Speaker 2: Is Jenna gonna be okay with it? Is Jenna gonna

1033
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 2: be okay with it? What do you think?

1034
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:19,160
Speaker 1: I mean? Yeah, I'm sure she's gonna be thrilled about it.

1035
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: But the problem is that what's the problem.

1036
00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:24,320
Speaker 2: I don't see any problems. It seems like everyone's like,

1037
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:25,359
Speaker 2: like getting along right.

1038
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 1: The problem is where this ends up?

1039
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 2: Dude, Kea, do you.

1040
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 3: Have a problem with this? As of right now, it

1041
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:32,960
Speaker 3: seems clear as day, like it looks like it's working.

1042
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 2: I think it's working.

1043
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:36,320
Speaker 3: I think it's working. Like everyone talked about it. Everyone

1044
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:37,799
Speaker 3: seems like they're on the same page.

1045
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 2: As long as there's clear communication.

1046
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 3: I'm waiting for the jealousy aspect to come in, but

1047
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 3: I don't think it's gonna happen.

1048
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:45,320
Speaker 2: I don't think so either. I think I'm I'm.

1049
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 1: I guarantee you Jenna's gonna be like stoked. She's like,

1050
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: oh my god, you guys, you guys are connecting. You

1051
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: guys look so cute.

1052
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:51,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1053
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:56,720
Speaker 1: So, as Mia and Oki begin to build their dynamic,

1054
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 1: because they don't have one yet, as they begin to build,

1055
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 1: it is going to develop these feelings that she had

1056
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 1: not had, and there is going to be this, well

1057
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 1: who is you know? Oh, well, we're all dating each other,

1058
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:14,160
Speaker 1: so everyone's at exactly the same place emotionally with each other.

1059
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: But that's not going to be the case because there's

1060
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 1: always going to be some level of fluctuation. But that

1061
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 1: is going to drive her literally insane, and this is

1062
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 1: all gonna explode, all right there it is. I think

1063
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:27,920
Speaker 1: that's part of being polly or non monogamous. It's just

1064
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: it fluctuates. But like, how do you It's how you

1065
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:34,360
Speaker 1: handle it and how you communicate through it. Hey, I'm buying.

1066
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:37,320
Speaker 1: I have two dogs. I can either get the little

1067
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 1: chihuahua you hate dogs. I can get the one hundred

1068
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:45,320
Speaker 1: and eighty pound rottweiler with glowing red eyes. That's totally

1069
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 1: different with like dark like spells being like, I'm just

1070
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:51,359
Speaker 1: saying it's like the only one of one of those.

1071
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,279
Speaker 1: Both of those options could work, but like one has

1072
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:59,480
Speaker 1: a much higher likelihood of like problems happening. Little chihuahua

1073
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: glowing one of them might be a worse situation.

1074
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 2: Mind no, no, the dog glowing red eyes kind of

1075
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 2: sounds cute.

1076
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:06,200
Speaker 1: Its name is Princess.

1077
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 2: I was completely upfront with her, Jenna. So now he's

1078
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 2: talking to Jenna about their relationship with Mia, and told

1079
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 2: her everything, all the contact, the handholding, the kiss. She

1080
00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 2: just seemed thrilled good. She was happy for me.

1081
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 1: Right of course she was because this was her idea.

1082
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 1: This is Jenna's idea.

1083
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:27,400
Speaker 2: She was happy for mea That's when I kind of

1084
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:31,080
Speaker 2: just got it and understood everything as a whole. There

1085
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:33,800
Speaker 2: was no jealousy from Jenna, there were no hurt feelings.

1086
00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 2: She was proud and happy about me and Mia. It's

1087
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:39,400
Speaker 2: what people over in the Polysop told me should happen.

1088
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 2: I don't know. All the self doubt kind of went away,

1089
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 2: and at this point I was just content. Seeing her

1090
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 2: so happy about the success of the day just put

1091
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 2: it all in perspective, and I, in turn one of

1092
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 2: the same for her and Mia. Her and Mia hung

1093
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,759
Speaker 2: out themselves last night, and Jenna told me they had

1094
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 2: a blast, talked about me and I date and shared

1095
00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 2: a moment themselves when she told me, I wasn't upset

1096
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:00,719
Speaker 2: at all. I was happy and content is where we

1097
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,400
Speaker 2: are now. We're all hanging out tonight just for fun. Also,

1098
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:07,399
Speaker 2: this story has a third left. We still got more. Yeah. Oh,

1099
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 2: we have to see how everything goes. But so far,

1100
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 2: so good. This will probably be my last update. It's

1101
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 2: not unless something crazy happens or it all blows over

1102
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 2: my face again. There is an updates, so wait around.

1103
00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 2: Thanks for reading listening to me. Even when I was

1104
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 2: being a wiener, the entire process running it all seems

1105
00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 2: and seeing things from different angles has been cathartic. There

1106
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 2: are some comments, and I believe another update.

1107
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:31,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I bet you. I well, who knows what's in

1108
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 1: that update? Also, everyone stopped painting on chihuahuas. Two of

1109
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 1: my favorite dogs were Zeus and Loki. Here two little

1110
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: chihuaha's name were perfect.

1111
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 2: So wow was our yappers dude?

1112
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 1: They were perfect adorable little dogs and they did not yep.

1113
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:46,959
Speaker 1: They were well yeah trained, Yeah, they behaved well because

1114
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 1: their owners made sure they did so. Comment One last

1115
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:53,360
Speaker 1: update my butt, update us all when you all bang

1116
00:52:54,080 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 1: comment too. Someone is definitely going to get phased out eventually,

1117
00:52:56,719 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: but I think it will be Ope.

1118
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:00,359
Speaker 2: I don't know. This just seems so well. Weird Op

1119
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 2: was going to propose to Jenna exactly, and now he's

1120
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:04,440
Speaker 2: dating someone in addition to Jenna, and everyone is supposed

1121
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 2: to be hunky dory about it and no one is

1122
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 2: going to feel like a third wheel. It all started

1123
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 2: with Jenna and Mia wanted to f but Jenna was

1124
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,000
Speaker 2: in a serious relationship. This does not seem like a

1125
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,880
Speaker 2: great or realistic solution. But Jenna does get to have

1126
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 2: her cake and eat it too for a while and

1127
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:21,280
Speaker 2: wet which.

1128
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 1: Look care Jenna can eat the cake and have it.

1129
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: I don't care about that. If you are okay with that, Ope,

1130
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:31,440
Speaker 1: that's cool. Letter. If you have no feelings for me,

1131
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:34,840
Speaker 1: but you're like, yes, Gina, you can go date Mia,

1132
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 1: but without me, and I don't care feelings for me? No,

1133
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 1: he doesn't.

1134
00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 2: He had a date.

1135
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 1: He was like, I had a date, but there were

1136
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:43,400
Speaker 1: no the feelings where I feel like this is my

1137
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:44,840
Speaker 1: best sparks best.

1138
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:53,120
Speaker 2: When you you no, there were sparks. They both liked movies,

1139
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:55,560
Speaker 2: I didn't know. They publick movies and they both like

1140
00:53:55,640 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 2: to talk about the stop the ding dong, it's the

1141
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 2: wedding bells. They both like movies people. Oh my god,

1142
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 2: They're made for each other, literally designed in a laboratory.

1143
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:10,440
Speaker 2: I'm glad you think so.

1144
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 1: And to be clear, the only the I think Op

1145
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 1: and Jenna are fine. The thing that's going to mess

1146
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:18,319
Speaker 1: all this up is Mia. Well that's my prediction. Let's

1147
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:22,799
Speaker 1: see update three. All right, I want I want one

1148
00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:25,400
Speaker 1: more pull. Do you think it's gonna have a happy

1149
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 1: or sad ending? Put your answers in the chat right now?

1150
00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 1: What happier sad ending? We have a final update? Okay,

1151
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 1: wow fifty f fifty seven Okay, Tom, It says, Okay,

1152
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:46,040
Speaker 1: I get both Sam's CODA Dakota's POV because I've been

1153
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:50,799
Speaker 1: here too. I dated my bff's husband once and she

1154
00:54:50,960 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 1: was totally psyched out about it.

1155
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:54,439
Speaker 2: But when it ended, it kind of ended the friendship too.

1156
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:56,759
Speaker 2: I think that's the that's the con. I think that's

1157
00:54:56,760 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 2: a contract you sign up for. Yeah, I mean it's

1158
00:54:58,719 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 2: like I think, I think you enter into a new

1159
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 2: relationship when you add someone and then if it doesn't

1160
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:06,799
Speaker 2: work between any of those people. I think the whole

1161
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,879
Speaker 2: relationship can end. It looks like people are a little

1162
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 2: push more towards happy. It went from like twenty five

1163
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:15,520
Speaker 2: percent to thirty six percent, but still majority are saying sad,

1164
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:18,839
Speaker 2: ending they're on the Dakota side of things. Let's see

1165
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 2: what happens in update three. So I wasn't planning on

1166
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 2: updating again until we all had spicy sleep with each

1167
00:55:25,560 --> 00:55:28,800
Speaker 2: other and I even had a great play on words

1168
00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:31,880
Speaker 2: ready for the title update threesome.

1169
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:34,960
Speaker 1: Oh wow, hey, nice dude, what are you doing here?

1170
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 1: You should be at the Harvard Comedy College teaching people

1171
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 1: how to write jokes.

1172
00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 2: Amen. But now I can't do that because things got

1173
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:52,600
Speaker 2: e fie, No way, things got a little messed up. Dude,

1174
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:54,360
Speaker 2: now's got a Messye.

1175
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 1: No, you didn't get married to both of them.

1176
00:55:57,200 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 2: All right. I was at them all doing some Christmas

1177
00:55:59,200 --> 00:56:01,439
Speaker 2: shopping today with me. Well, Jenna was at work.

1178
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:03,800
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's the Christmas shopping again.

1179
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:06,959
Speaker 2: Things. I've been progressing nicely and we're getting along great.

1180
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:09,839
Speaker 2: Me is very bubbling and getty, always holding my hand

1181
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 2: and leaning up to kiss me on the cheek every

1182
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 2: once in a while it's cute. In the middle of

1183
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 2: our shopping trip, though, I got a call from my

1184
00:56:16,120 --> 00:56:17,879
Speaker 2: brother twenty seven mail.

1185
00:56:17,880 --> 00:56:19,839
Speaker 3: All right, you guys ready to play parts here because

1186
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 3: it's back and forth?

1187
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 1: All right?

1188
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:23,359
Speaker 2: Okay, so do you want me brother?

1189
00:56:23,440 --> 00:56:24,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll be a brother.

1190
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 2: All right? What are you up to? Getting some getting

1191
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 2: some christallers? Do my regular voice, because that's what.

1192
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 1: Send Christmas shopping down?

1193
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,080
Speaker 2: Getting some Christmas shopping done? At the ball?

1194
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 1: Are you with Jenna?

1195
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 2: Nah, she's at work.

1196
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,880
Speaker 1: Why I just needed to ask her something about what

1197
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:40,520
Speaker 1: to get my wife for Christmas?

1198
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 2: Why don't you text her yourself?

1199
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:45,200
Speaker 1: I didn't. She didn't answer, Well, I mean maybe you

1200
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:47,040
Speaker 1: can help. I want to meet you. Want to meet

1201
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 1: me at mom and Dad's in a little bit. They

1202
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 1: need our help with Is this some Christmas decorations right now? Anyway?

1203
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:54,919
Speaker 2: Yeah? Sure, I can meet you over there at about

1204
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 2: an hour, I tell you. All right. So now our

1205
00:56:57,600 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 2: little little thing has ended. I tell me what's happening.

1206
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:02,839
Speaker 2: We finished shopping and I take her home. I head

1207
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 2: over to my parents, walk into their living room, and

1208
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 2: my mom, dad, and brother are all silent and looking

1209
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:14,520
Speaker 2: at me like I'm unlive the last panda on Earth.

1210
00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 1: Oh, they're not doing an intervention.

1211
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 2: Oh no, I know what's happened. No, I know what's happened.

1212
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 3: Ready you get ready for more conversation.

1213
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I know what's happened. Okay, me? Is

1214
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 2: everything all right?

1215
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 1: Are you cheating on Jenna?

1216
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 2: My heart fell out of my butt. Apparently my brother

1217
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 2: saw me and me at the mall, and then he

1218
00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 2: called me to verify it was that, in fact, that

1219
00:57:35,880 --> 00:57:38,439
Speaker 2: was in fact me he was looking at, And after

1220
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:40,800
Speaker 2: we hung up, he followed us around and took photos

1221
00:57:40,800 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 2: of me and me holding hands and being touchy feely.

1222
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 2: He then immediately went to our parents to tell them

1223
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 2: what he saw me doing and showed them the evidence,

1224
00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:51,640
Speaker 2: and then waited for me to arrive for my intervention.

1225
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 2: Stopping here real quick, how do you tell your parents

1226
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 2: that you're in a polycule?

1227
00:57:56,680 --> 00:58:02,000
Speaker 1: So when a man and a woman love another woman? Ego,

1228
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:05,919
Speaker 1: Hey mom and dad, but you didn't know your son

1229
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 1: was an overachiever? Say what are you talking about? You

1230
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:11,960
Speaker 1: blame it all your parents. You did this, Yeah, this

1231
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 1: is your future for this. You made me such an overachiever.

1232
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 1: I just didn't know how to stop.

1233
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:19,920
Speaker 2: Maybe's so hot? Cool, and collected that I just I

1234
00:58:19,920 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 2: couldn't get enough.

1235
00:58:20,680 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 3: You gave me these jeans. I look like you guys,

1236
00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 3: and I wear them well.

1237
00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 2: My family absolutely loves Jenna, and they treat her like

1238
00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 2: a daughter slash sister they never had. They've been nothing

1239
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 2: but supportive of relationship from the beginning and have been

1240
00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 2: on my butt to propose for the past few months.

1241
00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,360
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Wait, So were you even the one

1242
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: who wanted to propose then, or was it just your

1243
00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 1: family pressuring you?

1244
00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 2: He also wanted to propose, but he was also do

1245
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:48,640
Speaker 2: you know what you want? They saw the look on

1246
00:58:48,720 --> 00:58:53,400
Speaker 2: my face and my mom started crying. My dad yelled, Jesus, cry,

1247
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:57,160
Speaker 2: are you having stupid? I was like a deer caught

1248
00:58:57,480 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 2: in the headlights. I kept staying, no, no, it's it's

1249
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 2: all you think. I could explain the courage of the

1250
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 2: cowardly dog. They didn't want to hear it. At this point,

1251
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:09,000
Speaker 2: I was bright red from embarrassment. My mom was crying,

1252
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:11,280
Speaker 2: talking about how she thought she raised me better. My

1253
00:59:11,400 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 2: dad looked like he was about to unlive me. He

1254
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:16,880
Speaker 2: told me, you need to come clean to that wonderful

1255
00:59:16,920 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: girl and hope she takes your r slur cheating ass back.

1256
00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:27,120
Speaker 2: Here's the abridged version of the conversation that followed me

1257
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 2: Jenna knows na uh na me. I'm not lying, Nona.

1258
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:35,440
Speaker 2: We're all in a relationship together.

1259
00:59:35,720 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 1: No, that's the dad and the brother for all listeners

1260
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 1: and moms.

1261
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:46,000
Speaker 2: Just me, no, for real, I'll call her. I called

1262
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 2: Jenna and put her on speakerphone. Hey, Jenna, I just

1263
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 2: got back from the mall. My brother saw me and

1264
00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 2: me together. My parents now know about everything. Dot dot

1265
00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:56,840
Speaker 2: dot yep, dot dot dot. Are they mad? They think

1266
00:59:56,880 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 2: I'm cheating on you?

1267
00:59:57,800 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 1: Did you explain everything I tried?

1268
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 2: They don't believe me. And you're on speakerphone right now.

1269
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:05,919
Speaker 2: Can you just say that I am not cheating on

1270
01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 2: you so I can leave.

1271
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: Op is not cheating on me. I know he is

1272
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 1: dating me.

1273
01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:14,960
Speaker 2: You have been absolved. Thank you, Jenna. I love you.

1274
01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 1: I love you too.

1275
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:19,240
Speaker 2: Call ends silence. They had a bunch of questions that

1276
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 2: I really didn't have answers to. They asked a lot

1277
01:00:21,480 --> 01:00:23,680
Speaker 2: of details about the logistics of it all, if I

1278
01:00:23,680 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 2: still wanted to get married, kids and all that stuff

1279
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:30,280
Speaker 2: you guys have been asking, even the spicy sleep your family.

1280
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:33,640
Speaker 1: Bro, I need to know the questions they asked you,

1281
01:00:33,640 --> 01:00:35,439
Speaker 1: because I guarantee you. One of them was why did

1282
01:00:35,480 --> 01:00:38,280
Speaker 1: you want this? And ope goes, I don't really know

1283
01:00:38,840 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: why I wanted this.

1284
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:42,040
Speaker 2: It was a lot harder answering the questions face to

1285
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 2: face with my parents, instead of being able to type

1286
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,920
Speaker 2: and delete anything I said to make sure the words

1287
01:00:45,960 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 2: flowed properly. I was ready to pass away from embarrassment.

1288
01:00:51,480 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 2: My brother thought it was the funniest thing he'd ever heard,

1289
01:00:53,440 --> 01:00:56,120
Speaker 2: and laughed periodically throughout the whole conversation. My parents have

1290
01:00:56,200 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 2: reached the conclusion that I am self destructing my relationship

1291
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 2: with Jenna for a piece of body. As my dad

1292
01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:05,800
Speaker 2: so eloquently put it, they could not comprehend to what

1293
01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:08,400
Speaker 2: our dynamic was, But then again, I can't fault them

1294
01:01:08,480 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 2: for that. It is different.

1295
01:01:10,200 --> 01:01:12,840
Speaker 1: I was real. Then again, I can't really fall them

1296
01:01:12,880 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 1: for that because I can't describe it either.

1297
01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 2: They then asked to meet mea which was really weird

1298
01:01:18,160 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 2: because they've met her many many times before and just

1299
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 2: called her a side piece. Regardless, I just started dating

1300
01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:26,680
Speaker 2: Mia and it's a little early to be bringing her

1301
01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:29,560
Speaker 2: around to meet them. I told them no, and then

1302
01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 2: they said it was a phase. Then they said they

1303
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 2: don't know what to tell the rest of the family,

1304
01:01:33,560 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 2: and then they said it was all going to blow

1305
01:01:34,960 --> 01:01:37,919
Speaker 2: up my face. In the last few threads. The entire

1306
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 2: time I was talking to them, my phone was blowing

1307
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:41,800
Speaker 2: up with text messages. When I finally left, I saw

1308
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 2: they were all from my brother, who was sending them

1309
01:01:43,920 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 2: under the table. They were all along the lines of

1310
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:50,000
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you, and my little bro is

1311
01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:53,480
Speaker 2: a spicy sleep god and asking for details about the

1312
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:56,560
Speaker 2: wild threesomes I must be having. Jenn and I just

1313
01:01:56,600 --> 01:01:58,640
Speaker 2: had spicy sleep for the first time since all this

1314
01:01:58,680 --> 01:02:01,800
Speaker 2: started last night of us has had spicy sleep with me.

1315
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 2: Yet Mia knew and was cool with that, so no

1316
01:02:04,360 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 2: where he's there, so obviously I can't won't tell him

1317
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:10,920
Speaker 2: about that stuff yet or ever. I pissed at my

1318
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:13,960
Speaker 2: brother for being a Waianer. By the way, you should

1319
01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 2: never be a wiener and you should go listen to

1320
01:02:15,760 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 2: full episodes with stories just like this. Go to Spotify,

1321
01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 2: Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime,

1322
01:02:21,720 --> 01:02:25,920
Speaker 2: there's another relevant update, but let's discuss Dakoda. Is this

1323
01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 2: ending happily or sadly?

1324
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:32,160
Speaker 1: I swear to God if this ends without any clear resolution,

1325
01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 1: so mad because you know they'll never update this with

1326
01:02:36,560 --> 01:02:40,520
Speaker 1: the hey, so I guess who's single? Like they'll never

1327
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 1: say They'll never say that I at least maybe not.

1328
01:02:43,920 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, Dude, it doesn't feel like they would. Dude.

1329
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:50,760
Speaker 1: All of this is goes back to my same point.

1330
01:02:50,880 --> 01:02:53,040
Speaker 1: I don't think OPI ever knew what they really wanted,

1331
01:02:53,480 --> 01:02:55,680
Speaker 1: because then it even came out that their their family

1332
01:02:55,680 --> 01:02:58,560
Speaker 1: had been hounding them to propose for months. I bet

1333
01:02:58,600 --> 01:03:01,440
Speaker 1: you that's why OP wanted to propose, because he just

1334
01:03:01,480 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 1: felt like, I don't know, everyone's telling me that it

1335
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:04,440
Speaker 1: makes sense, Op.

1336
01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:06,680
Speaker 2: He is way too compliant and it's just being pushed

1337
01:03:06,680 --> 01:03:09,080
Speaker 2: by the whims and ones of all those around him

1338
01:03:09,080 --> 01:03:11,360
Speaker 2: and has a noodle spine. Yeah, I mean you think

1339
01:03:11,360 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 2: a little noodle spine.

1340
01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:15,000
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes you can just like get into a

1341
01:03:15,120 --> 01:03:18,280
Speaker 1: rhythm of not really being in tune with what you want,

1342
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:20,440
Speaker 1: and it'll it can last for a long time. And

1343
01:03:20,560 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 1: this is not something you should just float on into.

1344
01:03:23,160 --> 01:03:26,320
Speaker 1: In my opinion, I agree that it shouldn't be floated into.

1345
01:03:26,360 --> 01:03:28,240
Speaker 1: But it feels like, I don't know, it feels like

1346
01:03:28,320 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 1: they're building good structures for a little polycule to work too.

1347
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: I would love to know what you guys think. Put

1348
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:36,160
Speaker 1: your answers in the comments. Is this going to work?

1349
01:03:36,280 --> 01:03:40,600
Speaker 1: Is this fertile ground for a beautiful polycule to be birthed.

1350
01:03:40,880 --> 01:03:42,120
Speaker 2: There's a little bit more of the story, and I'm

1351
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 2: gonna go right into it.

1352
01:03:43,040 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 1: I would put so much money.

1353
01:03:44,360 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 2: I got back to my apartment complex and went and

1354
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:48,920
Speaker 2: saw Jenna at her place. Mia was there too. We

1355
01:03:48,960 --> 01:03:51,360
Speaker 2: had a nice long talk about it. Jenna was mortified,

1356
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:53,560
Speaker 2: Mia felt like a home wrecker, and I just wanted

1357
01:03:53,600 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 2: the day to end. Both Mia and Jenna's parents live

1358
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 2: out of state, and Jenna always goes there for Christmas.

1359
01:03:58,440 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 2: MIA's parents live further away and she couldn't afford to

1360
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 2: get a plane ticket out there this year. I was

1361
01:04:02,720 --> 01:04:05,400
Speaker 2: entertaining the idea of inviting Mia along with me to

1362
01:04:05,560 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 2: Christmas at my family's place. Not sure if that's a

1363
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:11,640
Speaker 2: good idea anymore. Pretty bumm because things were going pretty

1364
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:14,560
Speaker 2: smoothly with a little resistance slash drama between the three

1365
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:18,160
Speaker 2: of us. Right now things are pretty darn awkward. We're

1366
01:04:18,160 --> 01:04:21,320
Speaker 2: all pretty embarrassed at the moment, and that's how my

1367
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 2: parents found out I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two women.

1368
01:04:25,480 --> 01:04:27,240
Speaker 2: I was blowing off the what will you say to

1369
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:29,720
Speaker 2: your parents' questions from the previous threads because I really

1370
01:04:29,720 --> 01:04:31,360
Speaker 2: did not think i'd have to deal with it for

1371
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:34,120
Speaker 2: a long time. So I was completely caught off guard

1372
01:04:34,120 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 2: and had no idea what to say or do. It

1373
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:38,919
Speaker 2: went about as bad as I hoped it wouldn't. Sorry

1374
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:41,720
Speaker 2: about the lack of bagging in this update. Just thought

1375
01:04:41,720 --> 01:04:44,760
Speaker 2: i'd share. Hopefully, no more updates for a while, unless

1376
01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:48,320
Speaker 2: Spicy Sleep is involved. I'm going to bed and Keon,

1377
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:50,160
Speaker 2: is there an update?

1378
01:04:50,400 --> 01:04:52,600
Speaker 3: I found? I think there's a couple updates, but I

1379
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:55,200
Speaker 3: found the most recent update, the last the latest update.

1380
01:04:55,480 --> 01:05:00,680
Speaker 1: What, yes, there's an update. I would bet out dates.

1381
01:05:00,760 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 1: I would liquidate all of my assets, all of your assets,

1382
01:05:04,400 --> 01:05:06,919
Speaker 1: all of Kean's assets, and I would say that within

1383
01:05:07,080 --> 01:05:11,560
Speaker 1: six months. Mia is like losing her mind because she's

1384
01:05:11,640 --> 01:05:15,080
Speaker 1: completely fallen in love with OPI and can't share him anymore.

1385
01:05:15,520 --> 01:05:20,040
Speaker 1: That I garin because I know MIAs. I know the

1386
01:05:20,120 --> 01:05:23,000
Speaker 1: MIAs in my life, and that is what they would do.

1387
01:05:23,240 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 2: Keana, how long has it been since the first?

1388
01:05:27,480 --> 01:05:30,920
Speaker 3: Uh? First, that's an older story, so it doesn't have

1389
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:31,280
Speaker 3: like a.

1390
01:05:31,640 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, they were talking about Interstellar in this story. Oh,

1391
01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:37,480
Speaker 1: this is like ten years old, which I have the

1392
01:05:37,520 --> 01:05:40,120
Speaker 1: most annoying Interstellar story. I saw that with a group

1393
01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:42,439
Speaker 1: of people and then someone was like, it wasn't that good,

1394
01:05:42,480 --> 01:05:44,320
Speaker 1: and I was like why, and they were like, it's

1395
01:05:44,400 --> 01:05:46,680
Speaker 1: just the same movie as Gravity that came out that

1396
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:49,800
Speaker 1: same year with George Clooney and Central, which are completely

1397
01:05:49,840 --> 01:05:50,439
Speaker 1: different movies.

1398
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:50,800
Speaker 2: I saw.

1399
01:05:51,120 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 1: They just both take place in space.

1400
01:05:52,520 --> 01:05:58,200
Speaker 2: But let's get in to this up date. There are others.

1401
01:05:58,240 --> 01:05:59,840
Speaker 2: Just check my history to see how much of a

1402
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:03,919
Speaker 2: I was. I've been getting private messages for the past

1403
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:07,439
Speaker 2: nine months asking for updates. Oh my god. I wasn't

1404
01:06:07,480 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 2: going to do it because I realized how douche I

1405
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:11,480
Speaker 2: came off the first go round. Kept the private message

1406
01:06:11,520 --> 01:06:15,080
Speaker 2: responses when I would log in. Here's the update. Jenna

1407
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 2: and I broke up. I don't know where I stand

1408
01:06:22,000 --> 01:06:24,320
Speaker 2: with Mia. I'm not going to go into a long

1409
01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 2: drawn out story for attention like last time, but the

1410
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:30,120
Speaker 2: gist of things is they were going great for a while,

1411
01:06:30,560 --> 01:06:34,080
Speaker 2: really great. Everyone was happy. We had tons and tons

1412
01:06:34,160 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 2: of spicy sleep. My parents had accepted everything, as long

1413
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:39,480
Speaker 2: as there was only one of the girls around, and

1414
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:43,479
Speaker 2: they basically just closed their eyes and plugged their ears. Then,

1415
01:06:44,280 --> 01:06:47,640
Speaker 2: about a month ago, I noticed some distance growing between

1416
01:06:47,720 --> 01:06:51,600
Speaker 2: Jenna and myself. Mia noticed two. I tried being romantic

1417
01:06:51,600 --> 01:06:53,960
Speaker 2: with her, or even gave Jenna a bit more attention

1418
01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:56,920
Speaker 2: than Mia, something that Mia was fine with. For the

1419
01:06:56,920 --> 01:06:59,600
Speaker 2: time being, nothing seemed to bring her out of her funk.

1420
01:07:00,040 --> 01:07:02,720
Speaker 2: I finally sat her down two weekends ago. We had

1421
01:07:02,720 --> 01:07:05,240
Speaker 2: a long talk about what the problem was. She had

1422
01:07:05,280 --> 01:07:09,120
Speaker 2: met a guy at work and really liked him and

1423
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:11,520
Speaker 2: wanted to date him too.

1424
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 1: Oh God, I was wrong.

1425
01:07:15,520 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 2: It wasn't me, it was Jenna. I was not cool

1426
01:07:18,000 --> 01:07:20,960
Speaker 2: with this. Mia was not cool with this. We told

1427
01:07:21,000 --> 01:07:24,120
Speaker 2: Jenna how we were not cool with it. Together, Jenna

1428
01:07:24,160 --> 01:07:30,880
Speaker 2: got defensive. Word were said and things came the lights. Apparently,

1429
01:07:31,360 --> 01:07:35,240
Speaker 2: Jenna had hooked up with the guy one night after

1430
01:07:35,320 --> 01:07:38,080
Speaker 2: work and failed to tell either of us until we

1431
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:41,720
Speaker 2: interrogated her about the guy for what seemed like forever.

1432
01:07:42,280 --> 01:07:45,720
Speaker 2: I dumped her on the spot. Mia wasn't so quick

1433
01:07:46,120 --> 01:07:49,440
Speaker 2: as to dump her. So I got pissed at Mia

1434
01:07:49,520 --> 01:07:51,840
Speaker 2: got pissed at me back. I said some things. She

1435
01:07:51,880 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 2: said The things Jenna got involved and said some things

1436
01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:57,280
Speaker 2: and told her to stay out of it. In so

1437
01:07:57,360 --> 01:08:00,440
Speaker 2: many words, this pissed me off more, and I eventually

1438
01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:03,000
Speaker 2: left the apartment in a huff. I didn't speak to

1439
01:08:03,040 --> 01:08:05,479
Speaker 2: Mia for a few days until we finally texted about

1440
01:08:05,480 --> 01:08:08,840
Speaker 2: what the future held. Oh my god, there's more, there's more. Wow.

1441
01:08:09,000 --> 01:08:14,680
Speaker 2: But whoa wild card? Wild card? You've become a very

1442
01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:17,960
Speaker 2: rich man, Dakota, Well tripled all your weak I.

1443
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:20,800
Speaker 1: Think I only get a partial return on that to

1444
01:08:20,840 --> 01:08:23,360
Speaker 1: parlay parla. Yeah, because I mean I really thought it

1445
01:08:23,400 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 1: would be, you know, the tried and true, like someone

1446
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:29,160
Speaker 1: we meet, every relationship is always going sound and it's

1447
01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:30,160
Speaker 1: always something yeah, yea.

1448
01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:30,439
Speaker 2: Yea yeah.

1449
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 1: But it was Jenna. Wo oh my god, oh my god.

1450
01:08:34,120 --> 01:08:36,600
Speaker 1: And it was her idea to start doing this. You

1451
01:08:36,600 --> 01:08:38,599
Speaker 1: know what they say, you give them an inch, they

1452
01:08:38,600 --> 01:08:39,120
Speaker 1: take a mail.

1453
01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:41,520
Speaker 3: Unbelievable.

1454
01:08:41,720 --> 01:08:43,559
Speaker 2: Bravo, bravo, bravo, bravo.

1455
01:08:43,680 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1456
01:08:44,280 --> 01:08:48,320
Speaker 2: She came over and we talked forever. She says she

1457
01:08:48,520 --> 01:08:51,639
Speaker 2: loves me, but she still loves Jenna and doesn't want

1458
01:08:51,640 --> 01:08:55,439
Speaker 2: to throw away her year's long friendship over this. I

1459
01:08:55,520 --> 01:08:57,800
Speaker 2: told her it was a perfectly valid excuse to do

1460
01:08:57,880 --> 01:09:01,639
Speaker 2: so she cried and cried. I asked her where we stood,

1461
01:09:02,040 --> 01:09:03,880
Speaker 2: and she said she wasn't sure. What do you mean,

1462
01:09:03,920 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 2: the person that didn't cheat on you, you're like not sure about,

1463
01:09:07,200 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 2: but you still want to be with Jenna.

1464
01:09:08,520 --> 01:09:10,840
Speaker 1: How hot is Jenna? At this point? I think we

1465
01:09:10,960 --> 01:09:12,160
Speaker 1: have to start asking.

1466
01:09:11,920 --> 01:09:13,080
Speaker 2: Jenna's probably pretty hot.

1467
01:09:13,160 --> 01:09:16,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. For that logic, it's like, well, or maybe it's like,

1468
01:09:16,479 --> 01:09:19,760
Speaker 1: you know, it's what's familiar, probably because it was like

1469
01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:22,519
Speaker 1: it was their whole special thing, maybe like a reluctance

1470
01:09:22,560 --> 01:09:23,320
Speaker 1: to let go of it.

1471
01:09:23,600 --> 01:09:25,479
Speaker 2: I told her I couldn't be with her if she

1472
01:09:25,640 --> 01:09:28,160
Speaker 2: was going to stay with Jenna. I gave her Jenna's

1473
01:09:28,200 --> 01:09:31,120
Speaker 2: things because I was not speaking to Jenna anymore, and

1474
01:09:31,160 --> 01:09:33,080
Speaker 2: Mia has been talking to her still. I don't know

1475
01:09:33,160 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 2: what Mia is going to do, so I am in limbo.

1476
01:09:36,000 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 2: So now I'm waiting on Mia and what she decides.

1477
01:09:39,600 --> 01:09:41,479
Speaker 2: If she doesn't come up with a decision too soon,

1478
01:09:41,600 --> 01:09:44,679
Speaker 2: I'm going to be making one for her. I'm tired.

1479
01:09:45,080 --> 01:09:47,519
Speaker 2: I've been drunk pretty much NonStop the past week, and

1480
01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:49,160
Speaker 2: I almost feel like I deserve this.

1481
01:09:49,320 --> 01:09:52,000
Speaker 1: My god brother, make a decision for yourself.

1482
01:09:52,320 --> 01:09:54,200
Speaker 2: I don't even know if I still want to be

1483
01:09:54,240 --> 01:09:56,760
Speaker 2: with Mia. I went from seeing two people I love

1484
01:09:56,800 --> 01:09:59,080
Speaker 2: on a daily basis to seeing no one and being

1485
01:09:59,080 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 2: a hermit. O my brother the Bear Essentials, and he

1486
01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:05,800
Speaker 2: was surprisingly sympathetic towards me about it, said I didn't

1487
01:10:05,840 --> 01:10:08,400
Speaker 2: deserve to be cheated on, no matter how weird my

1488
01:10:08,479 --> 01:10:12,080
Speaker 2: relationships were. Crap sucks. Any updates will not receive a

1489
01:10:12,120 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 2: new thread. I would just add them here. I'm done

1490
01:10:15,000 --> 01:10:17,200
Speaker 2: being an attention salutes.

1491
01:10:17,640 --> 01:10:19,800
Speaker 1: I just love that the brother who was like, yeah,

1492
01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:22,280
Speaker 1: he's the spicy sleep God is down on his luck.

1493
01:10:22,280 --> 01:10:24,640
Speaker 1: I gotta be there for. I gotta be there for

1494
01:10:24,720 --> 01:10:27,439
Speaker 1: my spicy sleep God. Brother. I think that, buddy, I

1495
01:10:27,439 --> 01:10:29,639
Speaker 1: think you should just walk away from this whole situation

1496
01:10:29,720 --> 01:10:32,080
Speaker 1: right now. I don't think. I think you should be

1497
01:10:32,120 --> 01:10:36,000
Speaker 1: done with Mia and Jenna and that whole situation should

1498
01:10:36,040 --> 01:10:39,800
Speaker 1: be put behind you. Shout out to Courtney Electra in

1499
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:43,720
Speaker 1: the chat for actually predicting this happening.

1500
01:10:44,400 --> 01:10:48,800
Speaker 2: Wow, that is insane. I did not see that killing neither.

1501
01:10:48,880 --> 01:10:49,840
Speaker 2: No see that.

1502
01:10:49,880 --> 01:10:52,240
Speaker 1: I did not see that coming at all. Because people

1503
01:10:52,280 --> 01:10:54,120
Speaker 1: were like, he's gonna take a victory lap. I can't.

1504
01:10:54,120 --> 01:10:56,000
Speaker 1: I was wrong. I was not. I was not right.

1505
01:10:56,120 --> 01:11:00,400
Speaker 1: You were right, you knew the relationship would that away.

1506
01:11:00,479 --> 01:11:02,720
Speaker 1: It's like, I was right, but I you know, it

1507
01:11:02,760 --> 01:11:04,479
Speaker 1: wasn't the way I thought. But that just goes to

1508
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Speaker 1: show you. It's like when you're in a poly.

1509
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Speaker 2: Relationship, it's like, yeah, you just never know.

1510
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Speaker 1: What's gonna it throws a lot of uncertainty into the

1511
01:11:12,400 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 1: mix that's not there.

1512
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Speaker 2: Well, that is where that story ends. So, Polly relationships,

1513
01:11:19,320 --> 01:11:20,479
Speaker 2: can they work? Can they not?

1514
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Speaker 1: Yes? No?

1515
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Speaker 2: Debate it in the comments. That is where that story

1516
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Speaker 2: and this episode ends. So if you'll love us, make

1517
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Speaker 2: sure to subscribe

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